when your life feels out of control, do this.

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  • @eliciagoguen
    @eliciagoguen  Рік тому +32

    I missssedd you guys!! What videos would you like to see from me next ?! Let me know 🥺🥰🫶

    • @bentali7313
      @bentali7313 Рік тому +3

      Talk about how to deal with feeling lost sometimes please

    • @eliciagoguen
      @eliciagoguen  Рік тому +2

      @@bentali7313 yes 🤍

    • @asmasalim6323
      @asmasalim6323 Рік тому

      I have been feeling super stuck, if you could do a video about that, i would appreciate it

    • @Omniria
      @Omniria Рік тому +1

      Maybe something about work and life balance? How not to let work affect self care and healthy habits? Please 🥺🥺🥺

    • @itssmallwonders
      @itssmallwonders Рік тому

      More on planning? I feel I know what to do but the structure is out the window when overwhelm kicks in

  • @juliadastra
    @juliadastra Рік тому +96

    "If I have the power to create this mental chaos, I have the power to change that" is something I needed to hear🧡

  • @chungrqin4457
    @chungrqin4457 Рік тому +19

    1. Self talk 7:15
    2. Start re-writing your story 7:45
    3. Self care needs to be a priority 9:48
    4. Creating new boundaries 11:28
    5. Redirect and refocus your energy (plan in what you’re going to spend your energy and time everyday) 17:45

  • @Billy33753
    @Billy33753 Рік тому +61

    Love the part when mentioned dwelling on the past and not moving forward

  • @larryshipper8070
    @larryshipper8070 Рік тому +19

    Not waiting to feel ready/motivated to reset is KEY. I'm going through a rut rn and I SO needed this video and that reminder.
    As always thanks so much for your content, love you lotsss ❤

  • @azariafowler4399
    @azariafowler4399 Рік тому +16

    ugh we are so in sync! I’ll be having these thoughts but feel unsure… and then you upload a video and say them in such a more constructive, actionable, loving way! You’re like my life coach ❤

    • @eliciagoguen
      @eliciagoguen  Рік тому

      Aww I love you! We are in this together for sure 🥹🫶🏼

  • @itsmxria
    @itsmxria Рік тому +1

    i was feeling a lil lost these days, this video made me think about some things! thank you girl ♡

  • @Sofia-ig3tv
    @Sofia-ig3tv Рік тому +1

    god bless you elicia you such an angel

    • @eliciagoguen
      @eliciagoguen  Рік тому

      Aww you’re so sweet thank you ☺️

  • @mrslovelyeyez1
    @mrslovelyeyez1 Рік тому +9

    OMG!! I really really needed this. Over the last few days I have been feeling like life is kicking my butt and I was going downhill fast. Thank you for this. I feel like you made this specifically for me. Thank you so much for your beautiful words and encouragement. You make things so applicable to real life. Your awesome. Thank you!!

    • @eliciagoguen
      @eliciagoguen  Рік тому

      You are so welcome my love 🥹🤍🤍

  • @maryfotinaki5204
    @maryfotinaki5204 Рік тому +8

    This is LITERALLY my life last week. You’re so insightful! Thank you SO much for this video 🙏🏼✨

  • @Chaninie
    @Chaninie Рік тому +15

    Thank you so much for everything💗 You’re the first one that introduced me to the other parts of healing and self improvement and I’m really thankful. You always help us and since I came across your first video I knew you were gonna be a ‘must’ UA-camr to watch🌷💗

    • @eliciagoguen
      @eliciagoguen  Рік тому +3

      Awww you are so sweet! 🥹 I love you so much 🥰 thank you for watching!!

  • @paolacamerini1089
    @paolacamerini1089 Рік тому +1

    I’ve been spiralling since my last exam went poorly and this video DEFINITIVELY STOPPED IT THANK U

  • @AuntieAprie
    @AuntieAprie 19 днів тому

    Giiiiirl. The whole first 4 minutes I’m like 😮 it me. You know exactly how I feel 🥹🩷 thank you

  • @cinnamary.
    @cinnamary. Рік тому +2

    hi, i just wanted to thank you for your video. it turned out to be really healing for me. i felt so devastated past few weeks because i turned all my focus and spirits on other people, while neglecting myself. and i was mindlessly scrolling my social media, needing something to cheer me up, and came across this video. it is really helping if something sad happens in life♥️✨

    • @katherine.n.martinez
      @katherine.n.martinez 11 місяців тому

      I also have a UA-cam channel on self improvement with more helpful resources and tips! Let’s become our best selves ✨

  • @emmabhictoriadroll3390
    @emmabhictoriadroll3390 Рік тому

    your timing is sooooo crazy. i have struggled with this FOR years. i genuinely love to party, am a very social person but also productive & self determined & have found a hard time finding a balance between both.

  • @julia-vb1hh
    @julia-vb1hh Рік тому

    you’re so real for this. love the vid ❤️

  • @divine2381
    @divine2381 Рік тому +1

    ugh I am so so glad I discovered your channel. we have the same growth mindset and views on life that it's reassuring in my low moments to hear the things i say to myself being spoken back to me 🥰

    • @eliciagoguen
      @eliciagoguen  Рік тому

      I’m so glad you feel the same 🥰🤍

    • @katherine.n.martinez
      @katherine.n.martinez 11 місяців тому

      I also have a UA-cam channel on self improvement with more helpful resources and tips! Let’s become our best selves ✨

  • @binkyandgunther
    @binkyandgunther Рік тому +3

    this is exactly how i feel after traveling and being out of my routine!! its weird because you feel like you need to doing the exact same routine when you’re somewhere else and it’s unrealistic! thanks for the tips girly 💕

  • @nicolewilliams3686
    @nicolewilliams3686 Рік тому +3

    Hello. You don’t know me, but thank you for posting this today.
    Out of control is right. I was fired from my job yesterday under wrongful termination and I’m trying desperately to not fall apart. This is the 2nd job I’ve lost since moving out in 2021. I feel my entire worth and self value has completely fallen to shambles. Every time I’ve gone through a setback all my loved ones tell me “you’re so resilient, you’ll be okay.” I’m tired of being resilient. I’m tired of picking up my broken heart and the pieces and pushing through. I was fired for actual bullshit and because I was so scared of making a scene/acting my “color”, I just smiled, opened my locker and emptied it and handed them my keys and thanked them as I walked away. When I got home and broke down to my little dog it was only then that I realized I’m tired of being the bigger person and making it easier on everyone to mistreat and abuse me. I don’t want that job back but I feel totally out of control. Told my mom what happened and my insecurity of feeling incompetent came up and she goes “go work for goodwill if that’s how you feel-they hire dummies.” It was her way of a joke but it broke my heart. She didn’t like where I worked anyway but I have bills and my birthday is next month. Also, I was let go from my last job this time last year too. Everything is just falling apart.

    • @eliciagoguen
      @eliciagoguen  Рік тому +4

      Sending you so much love and support. Truly. You got this 🥺🤍 so sorry that things are touch right now, but please keep your head up 🤍

    • @ylime5544
      @ylime5544 Рік тому

      ❤❤❤ big hugs

  • @maposq2967
    @maposq2967 Рік тому +2

    I also felt that I was in a slump too, thank you for this reminder to take back control❤❤

  • @rain_reverb
    @rain_reverb Рік тому

    Mental health issues with ovarian cyst has drained my all energy and I'm always on screen and now I need to prioritize myself after watching all the glow up things and not being able to follow up them it's depressing happy I landed here

  • @sofia_granger3370
    @sofia_granger3370 Рік тому

    Thankssss...recently I am feeling very lazy but your video motiveted me so much. Love it!❤

  • @shaniyadunchie
    @shaniyadunchie Рік тому +1

    I was just thinking ik my period was about to start when you were in your other video and how are you going on this trip at this time but it's refreshing to see how you delt with it ♥️

    • @eliciagoguen
      @eliciagoguen  Рік тому +2

      Definitely harder to deal with as I’m travelling my godddd, but I give myself grace and I remind myself that not ever period (or trip) will be perfect and that’s okay 🥰🤍

  • @JanayRNoble
    @JanayRNoble Рік тому

    Thank You so much Love. I needed this ❤❤❤.

  • @smokeysnowboard1809
    @smokeysnowboard1809 Місяць тому

    Yay! I hope you enjoyed Calgary and the Stampede ❤

  • @MirjaRinia
    @MirjaRinia Рік тому

    Thankyou for this video🫶🏻

  • @a.c.n.b.6353
    @a.c.n.b.6353 Рік тому

    GIRL SAME I’m struggling and I spiraled last week!!!

  • @GetElevatedWithMe
    @GetElevatedWithMe Рік тому

    I’m telling you when I woke up this morning it was different. I went to sleep last night around 11 and woke up at 7. Didn’t snooze the alarm clock. Made myself get up 2 hours before I saw my first patient. (I’m sharing to cheer myself on and I bet someone else is gonna need to hear this haha) I made the calls I didn’t want to BUT I got answers for my schedule that I didn’t know I needed answered. Ummm I was driving home and pulled to the side of the road after finishing this video (I started it this morning like 4 hours ago) and I’m telling you Elicia I’m healed already from some pretty tragic shit ❤❤ your video helped me quantum leap into my next version of my life fully and I’m ready to accept all of my manifestations. I took a short video of me saying some of them to put into the universe. I just want to thank you because today is a new day. Listen to True To Myself by Ziggy Marley it’s my summer anthem.
    Manifesting my online business of coaching, giving live psychic readings and whatever the hell else I want to do! I pulled over after your video and said we need to film a video right now without stopping and no editing. It’s uploading after I finish typing this out. Give yourself some time in the morning. I swear I’m so much nicer today and more grateful.
    Manifesting our homes on the ocean in Maine and in California. So much more the universe already knows what I want ❤❤❤❤

    • @GetElevatedWithMe
      @GetElevatedWithMe Рік тому

      I can’t wait to listen to more of your videos when I leave for work in 2 hours ❤

  • @YogawithSapna848
    @YogawithSapna848 Рік тому

    Thank you so very much Elicia. Something happened in the past, I was still suffering. I have been waiting for me to feel 100% motivated and then work on myself and guess what your video came up. You changed my mindset. I will start to work on myself from today in this moment only. Lots of love and hugggsss.

  • @Imlidixx._
    @Imlidixx._ Рік тому +3

    Thank you for your tips and I love your videos ❤🥰

  • @shaniyadunchie
    @shaniyadunchie Рік тому

    I never thought this trip would bring negativity but I can see why it does and that's why it's amazing to be self-aware

  • @Maggietheebaddie1948
    @Maggietheebaddie1948 Рік тому

    I been working on intermittent fasting for 16/8 and going sleep earlier and stop scrolling and when bed time get ready for bed and stop self sabotaging and I have control of eating and sabotaging myself but I choose to not see my power and start a new habit. Thank you for this video.

  • @olivia-Mweneni
    @olivia-Mweneni Рік тому

    I am 36, and your videos make me feel so much at peace. Every time you post a video, I become so excited because it's always relevant to my current situation❤❤.

    • @eliciagoguen
      @eliciagoguen  Рік тому

      Aww this makes me so incredibly 🥹🤍

  • @starring.sydney
    @starring.sydney Рік тому

    Thank u so much for these videos 🙏

  • @shaunalouie
    @shaunalouie Рік тому

    this video came to me at the time when i really needed to hear this, thank you for sharing your structure and hope you're feeling better!💕

  • @RachelCumberbatch
    @RachelCumberbatch Рік тому

    I just adore you! 🥰 you really are a blessing especially to the younger girls/ women 🙏 I watch your videos all the time on repeat to get me into the right headspace as I do overthink and worry (unnecessarily). And I love that you show you still have to practice what you preach too ❤❤

    • @eliciagoguen
      @eliciagoguen  Рік тому +1

      Awww thank you so much Rachel, I appreciate all of the love and support you consistently give me 🥹 glad we’re in this together 🥰🤍

    • @RachelCumberbatch
      @RachelCumberbatch Рік тому

      @@eliciagoguen you’re welcome we definitely in this together ☺️

  • @Tearzugh
    @Tearzugh Рік тому

    Your skin is glowing girlie!

  • @mariaborden7
    @mariaborden7 Рік тому

    Love this video has been beneficial. Thank you for sharing this.

  • @Swan-vf3lp
    @Swan-vf3lp Рік тому

    much needed vid, thank you! Bless 💜

  • @EmilyBrixey
    @EmilyBrixey Рік тому

    You're so real, even on the internet! I hope I can learn how to be like that with my own content. Thank you for inspiring me :)

    • @eliciagoguen
      @eliciagoguen  Рік тому +1

      Thank you so much my love!! It definitely takes time, but you can do it 🤍

    • @EmilyBrixey
      @EmilyBrixey Рік тому

      @@eliciagoguen Thank you for always emphasizing sustainable success and not quick fixes!

  • @CharriseBrianna
    @CharriseBrianna Рік тому +2

    Thanks so much I have been going through a lot I just lost two jobs back to back and now is currently looking for a new job! I just like I am not meant to be working for anyone I’m meant to work for myself so I really needed this ❤

    • @nicolewilliams3686
      @nicolewilliams3686 Рік тому +1

      I’m going through this exact situation. I’m so sorry to hear this for you. How’re you doing?

    • @CharriseBrianna
      @CharriseBrianna Рік тому

      @@nicolewilliams3686 hay girl, I’m doing alright just been looking around for jobs! I just always tell myself when one door closes another door opens so I hope that helps you 🫶🏾

    • @eliciagoguen
      @eliciagoguen  Рік тому

      I’m so proud of you!! Things are working out for you behind the scenes.. have faith. You got this 🤍

    • @nicolewilliams3686
      @nicolewilliams3686 Рік тому

      @@CharriseBrianna yes ma’am I agree with you completely. I’m just at a loss and spiral since I’ve decided to not continue in the career field I was fired from since it’s happened three times now, all with like 3 year differences in between but it’s enough for me to take the sign that this isn’t for me. The funny thing is that I only kept coming back to this career field when nothing else was an option (Covid took my long term job in 2020 and then I was laid off in 2022 from my previous job I loved). Problem is, I don’t have experience in anything else worthwhile. I just feel totally lost and unsure how to move forward. Thank you for sharing your experience though, I hope new doors open for you and you take the next best opportunity ✨

  • @survivalsilk2101
    @survivalsilk2101 Рік тому +1

    oh girlll

  • @sof1422
    @sof1422 Рік тому

    holy crap this is exactly what i needed but i didnt know what to look for to help, great video!!!!

  • @niyah1229
    @niyah1229 Рік тому +1

    Girl ever since I've started summer classes, my mental health has been severely depreciating

    • @eliciagoguen
      @eliciagoguen  Рік тому +1

      You gotta create a routine for yourself as you’re moving through this period of life babe! This is where it counts. You can do it 🤍

  • @sailajapbs12
    @sailajapbs12 Рік тому +4

    Why do you post the exact videos, at the exact times I will be needing them. Like how queen ??????????????????

    • @eliciagoguen
      @eliciagoguen  Рік тому +2

      Alignment my love 🥹🥰 love you 🤍🤍

  • @xavieranne3248
    @xavieranne3248 Рік тому +2

    Hiii Elicia!!! Yaaay you posted 😁😁😁 I can’t wait to watch this video. I’ll be watching after my workout so that’s my evening sorted 😂 hope you had a wonderful time at Calgary. Keep up the amazing work. Sending you love and hugs as always 💜💜💜

    • @eliciagoguen
      @eliciagoguen  Рік тому +1

      You are so sweet 🥹 I hope you have the best workout!! Sending you so much love 🤍🤍

  • @Alli_1111
    @Alli_1111 Рік тому

    I almost had a breakdown today and pretty much had an argument with my mother over something I well know she won’t understand.
    I really needed to hear all of this. It helped me recentre and refocus on what really matters. So thank you for the video.

  • @Angeee119
    @Angeee119 Рік тому

    Girl you are such a savior you read my mind. Ive been in such a rut i stopped watching for a couple weeks and stopped doing the good shit keeping me on track throughout this depression caused by some MAJOR and shitty life changes. Right when i needed THESE topics addressed you come out with this video and im about to click your newest one now. (Gotta watch in order 😅)
    But oh my you singing to my greek heart with them greek salads! Haha 🤣
    If there is anywhere to send you "fan mail" a P.O. box or something please let me know, Id love to send you some olive oil! Thats what my family's business is and has been for the last 31yrs. 😊 (my father is born and raised in Greece.)

    • @eliciagoguen
      @eliciagoguen  Рік тому +1

      Omg I’m over the moon right now 🥹🫶🏼 I would loveeee to try your family’s oil OMG! I don’t have a P.O. Box yet but I’ve actually been looking into getting one for other business matters so this would be perfect! I will definitely keep you updated in videos and let you know!! This is so sweet of you, thank you 🥹

    • @Angeee119
      @Angeee119 Рік тому

      @@eliciagoguen Oh yay! I hoped so! 💙 I'd love to be able to give something back to you, youre so helpful and thats a great form kindness, going out of your way to help others better themselves! And its helping girl! I had to leave a lot of people in my past and having healthy ' conversation ' or words provoking positive instead of negative thoughts, without surgar coating reality is so so sooooo helpful!
      You let us all know, and expect a package soon after! 😊

  • @only1dwill
    @only1dwill Рік тому +1

    Perfect timing and information❤🎉 I definitely have been slacking with working out! Also, I definitely set a hard boundary literally this weekend for work! I usually, schedule myself to work 6 days per week for 10+ hours a day. I consistently missed every mark! 😂 Recently realizing that it does not take such long hours and days to reach my darn goals🤨 I’m back to 5 days per week, this was the first week and my body kept trying to make me feel bad for it! But nope, I had a very productive SCHEDULED day off! And I’m not ever scheduling myself for more than 8 hours per day 😂 🙌🏾 So far, so great!

  • @BB-wc6np
    @BB-wc6np Рік тому +2

    I noticed as I started getting older that traveling has started to send me into a post-travel slump/depression every time I come back. I think because routine gets thrown out of whack and also riding the high of being on vacation and then coming home and being like ok… now what lol

    • @eliciagoguen
      @eliciagoguen  Рік тому +2

      lol yes!! I've had to learn how to balance out the post travel depression many times so that it doesn't hit so hard.. I'll definitely be doing a video once I'm home on this

  • @strangestlove
    @strangestlove Рік тому +1

    Ilysm Elicia 🫶🏻 this is EXACTLY what I’ve been going through and ofc you come through, ty you deserve the best 🩷

  • @therealcaramelbbyy
    @therealcaramelbbyy Рік тому

    I needed to hear this at the right time cuz I was definitely spiraling this morning 😩🥰

    • @eliciagoguen
      @eliciagoguen  Рік тому

      Aww I hope you’re feeling better 🥺🤍

  • @edwardleecaliforniausa
    @edwardleecaliforniausa Рік тому +1

    Morning happy Thursday morning and I loved your vlogs and you are amazing Supporter and I'm proud of you

  • @sarachoo509
    @sarachoo509 Рік тому

    Not sure if you’ll see this comment, but words cannot explain how much of a positive impact you have made on my life. Ive watched a lot self-help content on UA-cam, but you are srsly by far the most articulate, outspoken, knowledgeable, and reflective speaker out there. The way you’re able to address deeper issues from different perspectives with such compassion and honesty is trait that I have yet seen in many of self-proclaimed gurus out there.
    It’s a shame that this “self-love” trend has become such a buzzword and marketable tool that it seems like it has lost its true essence. But in amidst of the toxicity, i really appreciate your effort on educating others with the most realistic approaches, it’s so refreshing to see someone as authentic as you in this field. Will never stop learning from you❤️ Thank u so much Elicia, will support u forever!!!

    • @eliciagoguen
      @eliciagoguen  Рік тому

      This is the most beautiful loving message that I’ve received.. you have no idea how much this means to me. Truly 🥺🤍 Thank you SO much for such kind words.. I appreciate you so much and I’m so happy that you are a part of my community here on UA-cam 🥰🤍🫶🏼

  • @aenealittle5278
    @aenealittle5278 Рік тому

    thanks sis!

  • @mariaborden7
    @mariaborden7 Рік тому

    Emotion regulation is something that I have been working on for the last past year or so. I am not in a place where I can manage it better.

  • @flowatress
    @flowatress Рік тому

    Great video, loving your channel!

    • @eliciagoguen
      @eliciagoguen  Рік тому +1

      Thank you so much!!

    • @flowatress
      @flowatress Рік тому

      @@eliciagoguen oh no, thank YOU!! Being older I first thought that maybe your channel wouldn’t be appropriate for me but as it turned out, it’s definitely in alignment with where I’m at!!!

  • @ashmitasarkar1704
    @ashmitasarkar1704 Рік тому +2

    Ahh damn .... Best big sis advice ❤

  • @sandysedits5526
    @sandysedits5526 Рік тому

    Thank you so much for this video, Elicia. I have been anxious lately and applying for university abroad, which has been really stressful.

    • @eliciagoguen
      @eliciagoguen  Рік тому

      aww I know how stressful that can be! I hope my tips have been able to help and just remember that one day soon things will change. You will have the answers you need, the plan in place and everything working out exactly the way it should. Love you

  • @annabelledumbi
    @annabelledumbi Рік тому

    This is totally inspiring Elicia

  • @bentali7313
    @bentali7313 Рік тому

    Just in time baby i love youuuu

  • @highflyersinternational8860

    I would love hear from you why we, women, are divine, why our existance is precious, why we are worthy, why we deserve just the best.
    The very basics but from you.
    I would appreciate if you share some biography, too.
    Thanks 🥰

  • @TaylorSwiftGleek
    @TaylorSwiftGleek Рік тому

    Your videos hit different 🥰

  • @caitlinmason8918
    @caitlinmason8918 Рік тому

    Literally me! Including the period omg

    • @eliciagoguen
      @eliciagoguen  Рік тому +1

      Ugh 😭

    • @caitlinmason8918
      @caitlinmason8918 Рік тому

      @@eliciagoguen i know it got me into a slump 😫 but i got this with help of you thank you!

  • @olgaglushchuk2112
    @olgaglushchuk2112 Рік тому

    God, I feel like I'm destroying myself. I literally don't feel comfortable with my head, body, life, people around. Nothing feels right.

  • @pinarisildak8416
    @pinarisildak8416 Рік тому +1

    İt's was great stoic speech girl thank you but sorry your problem is not even a problem

  • @stahiya
    @stahiya Рік тому

    in the thumbnail, where’s your grey and red hoodie from love ?!

  • @Bellirina278
    @Bellirina278 Рік тому

    So nice ❤

  • @amandaw4945
    @amandaw4945 Рік тому

    I’m spiraling since the last weekend I had a bad experience at work well many of them happened at work then I got my period too and with the moon energy I feel like there’s no way out of the situation. Where’s the light at the end of tunnel I ask myself. Im tired, I just want to a week maybe a month to just take care of me.

    • @eliciagoguen
      @eliciagoguen  Рік тому

      Take as much time as you need. Life is not to be rushed! You are not to be rushed. 🤍

  • @danimm7836
    @danimm7836 Рік тому

    Love it

  • @evehuang2100
    @evehuang2100 Рік тому

    I guess Elicia’s MBTI is ENTJ?

  • @tugcediler7297
    @tugcediler7297 Рік тому

    Why isn't it translated into Turkish? all yours videos

  • @itsstevekeys
    @itsstevekeys Рік тому

    I didn't know you drink🤔

  • @alexw6168
    @alexw6168 Рік тому

    I’m sorry but it makes me laugh a little every time you say coastal when referring to anything about Calgary. No hate or anything ❤

    • @eliciagoguen
      @eliciagoguen  Рік тому

      No it is kinda comical now that I’ve visited there 🤣🤍🤍 love Calgary still though!!!

  • @lexiigutierrez9584
    @lexiigutierrez9584 Рік тому

    I so needed this video today love all your videos but this one resonated w me differently today on a more spiritual way 🫶🏼

  • @theleylachykulina
    @theleylachykulina Рік тому

    Your videos are so helpful and I am so Proud of you!!!🥹

    • @eliciagoguen
      @eliciagoguen  Рік тому

      aww thank you my love!!! this makes me so happy 🥰

  • @hxney.b33
    @hxney.b33 Рік тому +1

    You are for sure how i got my life back together. i was not going to have a hot girl summer and you helped me to have that 🩷

  • @ybell10
    @ybell10 Рік тому

    love it