Dealing with trauma drama and grief

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  • @kellylynch3775
    @kellylynch3775 8 років тому +3

    I pray that you keep your heart pure and unselfish. We can only do what we can do with the peace and comfort from above.
    I look forward to your videos which give me info and encouragement to try new or different things.
    Don't give up. Good people will not judge you. Thanks for sharing. Blessings and Hugs.

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому

      +Martha Michloney Thank you. Sorry it took me a bit of time to reply to the comment on this video. I am go grateful for all you have said to me. Hugs.

  • @Sheila6325
    @Sheila6325 8 років тому +2

    I relate to everything you said. It has taken me to a place where I had to make a lot of decisions about how I will live. One of them was, "Do not cast your pearls before swine" and wanting goodness for everyone, makes that hard to do, however we are not in control of others, and it is for us to see when to stop, and let them learn on their own. My heart is broken for your daughter, I saw the video of the wedding, and it was just wonderful, fun, and a fantastic family affair. I'm sorry it had to be taken down, but please don't let that lessen the event for you, I loved it. The loss of her baby is indeed for a reason, and although we have no idea why, You and I know that, that child is in heaven with our Lord, and no amount of grief is ever enough for a baby. Let the grief have it's way, let it out, so it can be laid to rest, with the innocent child it was, while here. I spent quite a while tube feeding my husband, and it puts you in a place where there is no control, so I know that pain. You will only be able to do what you can, but that is all. Feeling grief over it will not help. Being faced with the truth is impossible to deal with, but it's a message. Your given the understanding before all is lost. Take it, know it, and be ready for when others have to face it too. I can tell you one thing for sure. You were supposed to find homes for your chicken family. Each time I watched them, I got the same message, you would give them away. I had no idea why I thought that, but I did. I do know that it has something to do with a problem, but don't know what. Your doing the right thing. I seldom share these types of thoughts I have, but knew right away that I had to say something when you said that they have homes. I'm thrilled that they have a place to go, and that they are safe. I know you love them, but it is right that they will be gone from you. I only wish I knew why, but I don't ask, once I'm shown that it's the right thing to do. You have been a huge inspiration to me since I lost my husband, and the grief of losing him has almost killed me, he was the love of my life. You helped me get through that, and we are here for you too. Your smile, kept me going, your laugh, your instruction, all of it, was one of the only ways I got through. You will too, and I hope and pray that you cry your heart out, and get back to feeling dirt in your hands, sharing your likes and dislikes, and in that way. bring healing back to your soul. The grief may be very deep, but the healing will change you, in a way that you will see, that there really is a reason for it, and it's a good one. I promise. God's grace, mercy, and love to you, and all of your family. Sheila

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому +2

      +Sheila6325 Sheila, hugs. I love you my friend.

  • @geargriden19
    @geargriden19 8 років тому +2

    Thought and prayers sent your way E. Keep on gardening. Hopefully the guy gets his disability soon and thumbs up to him staying beside her and helping her. Prayers for her also. Have a good'nnn

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому +1

      +geargriden19 Thank you Gear. I hope he does soon too. I am so grateful for your thoughts and prayers. Best wishes to you. and your family.

    • @geargriden19
      @geargriden19 8 років тому +1

      Not a problem E and Thank you E. Have a good'nnn

  • @jeannemiller306
    @jeannemiller306 8 років тому +3

    my thoughts and prayers are with u..keeping busy seems to help me too cope

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому +2

      +jeanne miller Thank you, Jeanne. I will try.

  • @PidasianHippie
    @PidasianHippie 8 років тому +2

    E, My heart goes out to you and your family. I know the days must seem very dark sometimes. You are very right that things, no matter how valuable or old, mean nothing compared to our family and friends.

  • @WORMGITTER
    @WORMGITTER 8 років тому +1

    Hi E. Life is full of troubles. My thoughts and prayers are with you while you struggle through

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому

      +WORM GITTER Thank you, Duke. This one just knocked me off my feet.

  • @ellengage1527
    @ellengage1527 8 років тому +1

    I wish you and your family peace. You all are in my thoughts and prayers

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому

      +Ellen Gage Thank you so much. Ellen. Peace is so welcome here. Your thoughts and prayers are too. And mean allot to me.

  • @kbbacon
    @kbbacon 8 років тому +2

    I'm here! You can call. Take care. I care!!

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому +2

      +kbbacon Thank you, Kevin. I care about you too.

  • @cultivatingorganicbyjomig1719
    @cultivatingorganicbyjomig1719 8 років тому +1

    Dearest E. there are so much I can relate to. We all have our ups and downs. No one is immune from what life throws at us. When things seems like they're less than ideal, I just look up and know that He who promised that, He will never leave me nor forsake me, is watching. I just call upon him and know in my heart that he is listening. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому

      +Cultivating Organic by Jo & Mig Thank you my friend. I do not know if my other reply reached you. It did not post. But I am thankful for your friendship. And healing thoughts. Hugs. E :)

    • @cultivatingorganicbyjomig1719
      @cultivatingorganicbyjomig1719 8 років тому

      TheEmptynester It doesn't matter. This one did.

  • @free2bemebarbie345
    @free2bemebarbie345 8 років тому +2

    My Prayers Have Continued for You and yours 🙏

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому +1

      +Free2be MeBarbie Thank you my friend. Still thinking about you too. Hugs.

  • @Emevol37
    @Emevol37 8 років тому

    You are a wonderful woman, with a beautiful soul. Don't let people ruin who you truly are: an Angel. You are not alone, I myself deal with depression and I can sincerely say that I care for you. Try not to let someone who hate and uses judgment against you bring you down. Please continue to do your videos. I enjoy every one of them. Xo's from California ♡

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому

      +Emevol37 Thank you so much for caring about me. I read you comment a few times. Sorry it took so long for me to reply to all the comments here. I just needed some time. But your words of understating mean allot to me. And touched my heart.

  • @RafsKitchenGardenChannel
    @RafsKitchenGardenChannel 8 років тому +1

    Hi, Sorry to hear about all that happen recently I hope that as time goes by all of these will become just bad memory. I fully agree that there is no point to put value on anything but people.

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому

      +Raf's Kitchen Garden Thank you, Raf. I do not know if you got my first reply. It did not post here. But I am grateful for your kind words.

  • @LindaPenney
    @LindaPenney 8 років тому +1

    thanking for sharing thinking of you all at this time prayers and blessing to you all

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому

      +Linda Penney Thank you, Linda. I am grateful for that.

  • @sandhollowhomestead6972
    @sandhollowhomestead6972 8 років тому

    My prayers are with you and your family through it all. When I had my hard experience a friend said, drive a stake in the ground and whenever you feel like you are slipping back just remember how far you've come from that stake. We really care about you and appreciate you very much so please be of good cheer. Keep looking up and remember you are not alone. What a friend we have in Jesus.

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому

      +Sand Hollow Homestead Thank you my friend. I miss you on FB. And will take your advice. hugs to you and your family.

  • @sandysledge6860
    @sandysledge6860 8 років тому

    hang in there, E. Kinda relate right now, to what is happening to you. We all at some point have a mountain to climb, you will make it. I keep busy gardening, yard work, and best of all, talking to and hugging my lil dog. Animals are such a grat comfort, and it saddens me to think you are giving up your chickens, but you do what you got to do.You just keep sharing, and we will see you thru this. God Bless you and yours.

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому

      +Sandy Sledge Thank you my friend. I made sue they all had better homes that I could give them. They will all be pets still too. I am still climbing that mountain. And hoping for and end to the issues. It is just hard to have more than I disclosed here. I thank you for your encouragement.

    • @sandysledge6860
      @sandysledge6860 8 років тому

      You are so welcome. Take care.

  • @mumbaibalconygardenerhobbies
    @mumbaibalconygardenerhobbies 8 років тому

    Hello E. You are so so right that it is only people that matter. Yes everyone needs money to live and eat and have basic amenities but the materialism that the world is caught in is very sad. And considering the exposure the younger generations have to media and the "things" money can buy, it is really tough to set the right value systems in place. In the midst of the storm , things seem impossible but we need to have faith that tomorrow is another day. Depression is so consuming, luckily you have your garden and I am sure you will come out of it. Until then, hang in there my friend. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому

      +Mumbai Balcony Gardener | Avid Life Observer Thank you my friend. You are so right.

  • @NoraHepburn
    @NoraHepburn 8 років тому

    Hello my friend, I don't usually comment on certain subjects, but I felt compelled to speak to you. In my 64 years of life on this planet of ours, I think I have been through most of what life has to throw at you, so I do feel confident that I understand what you are going through. Bad thing hitting you in a single fashion most people can cope, but when multiple things hit you all at once, its very hard to cope, emotionally, with it. Life can be very cruel at times, it seems that all its about is loving and loosing! You sometimes feel that you will never recover from the heartaches that all trauma, and grief bestows upon you! There IS light at the end of the tunnel, always, and as you say, you just need TIME! You will find your way ahead, it will take time, and you will retain some bad memories of the things that has happened to you, probably forever. However, it will become easier for you in time. I'm glad that you said that you will continue with the Y.T. videos, that will surely help you cope. But know this, that we are all here for you, always, for however long it takes. Stay strong, my friend! xxx

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому

      +Nora Hepburn Thank you for your response. It means allot to me. And I am working on getting stronger. And pulling some of the pieces back together. This was a tough one. xxx

  • @garyfox2815
    @garyfox2815 8 років тому

    You said a lot of good things "E" and I hear you. Like many people, I have suffered with depression most my life. I don't have many friends because I choose not to. I tend to put value in pets or hobbies or just watching the grass grow. I'll tell a little story.....I just lost my best friend ( my first wife ) We have been friends for over 50 years. You know what I miss most? I could call her and tell her what I was doing or discuss a TV program or find out what our two daughters were doing.She even helped me through my other two failed marriages. People my age are now leaving this world for a better place. I have found new friendships on youtube and I'm genuinely concerned about their welfare. As James Taylor would sing.......You got a friend......

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому

      +Gary Fox Awe, Gary. hugs. Wish you lived closer. You are a true friend. I am so sorry. I did not know that she was the one you spoke of. Please feel free to pm me anytime. I am here for you too.

  • @Herfortz
    @Herfortz 8 років тому

    I'm so very sorry for all of this E .... I share your pain ... Everything smoothed out for me as far as the worst of the worst but now I'm just at this desolate era that will pretty much remain to be the rest of my existence .... It take's a lot of soul searching and finding a new way to view it all in order to say "Yeah .... Things are just fine."

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому

      +Herfortz Hi, Steve. Sorry for the delay. Took me a while to be able to reply. I am glad your are doing better and understand. Thank you for your friendship.

  • @PjDanita
    @PjDanita 8 років тому

    Last week was filled with one crisis after another. I had to indeed change my thoughts to get through this week. Tfs!

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому

      +Pj Danita I am so glad that worked for you. I am trying really hard to do that too.

  • @Pamslife
    @Pamslife 8 років тому

    Your family will be in my prayers, I am so sorry for all tragedy in your life right now 🌹 many prayers .

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому

      +Pam's Life Thank you, Pam. I am grateful for your thoughts and prayers.

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому

      +Pam's Life Thank you, Pam. I am grateful for your thoughts and prayers.

  • @oldguy
    @oldguy 8 років тому +1

    Very good talk. These are the very deep questions of life. Not sure what it all means, but I thank you for doing this vid. Good thoughts and well wished from Michigan.

  • @jonesbluesandjam
    @jonesbluesandjam 8 років тому

    Your video was needed I thank for sharing I loss my Best friend/Hubbies this Sunday. I went to share on my channel but I could stop crying. I send Positive Vibe to you and hope to see you soon.

  • @grod0051
    @grod0051 8 років тому +1

    Eve,I will try to be there. That's not too far I into St. Louis for me. I'm having surgery on 13th so I will try my hardest to get there. Can't get sick myself with surgery right around the corner.

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому +1

      +Christine Davis Sorry,I did not get notice you wrote this. How are you doing? Hug. My thoughts are with you. E

  • @BenjasUberHobby
    @BenjasUberHobby 8 років тому +1

    Sorry to hear all that E. I will be praying for you and your family :) I really hope it all works out. I will be here for you in any way i can :) God bless you and your family :)

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому +2

      +Benja's Uber 1337 Hobby Thank you. Ben. That means a lot to me.

  • @kd5inm
    @kd5inm 8 років тому

    Prayers for you and your family, Hugs.May God bless you my friend

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому

      +Off Grid Texas Homestead Thank you, my friend.

  • @hikewithmike4673
    @hikewithmike4673 8 років тому

    wise words you are saying....I wish you the best.....hold on.....listen to the birds singing in the background of your video...they are singing songs of hope and every spring they arrive and do the same!

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому

      +Hike with Mike Thank you Mike. You are so right.

  • @ytthieme
    @ytthieme 8 років тому

    thank you for sharing :)Keep on gardening and doing the things that bring you some joy and contentment

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому

      +Mark Thieme Thank you, Mark. I will keep trying.

  • @lisabarnes4394
    @lisabarnes4394 8 років тому

    I'm so sorry. It's sad to see nice people in pain. Hang in there. Try to put your thoughts on positives things. The beautiful scenic areas that I always see in your videos and things like that. There's so much beauty in nature. I know you'll be okay. You know to get fresh air and move (like walk). Don't let yourself get sick. Stay up on your eating healthy and drinking water. I hope you feel better soon. XO. Lisa

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому

      +Lisa Barnes Thank you for the advice. I will keep trying. It is too late on the health issues. But I will recover. XO

  • @Jubes26
    @Jubes26 8 років тому

    Eve, I'm sorry to hear about your struggles. This was a beautiful well thought out video. I'll prAy the lord sends some peace your way🙏. I'll also, pray for your family.

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому

      +Jubes26 Thank you, Jubes. That means allot to me.

  • @NoHippieBBQCooking
    @NoHippieBBQCooking 8 років тому

    you are dealing with a lot. I hope the best for you and your family

  • @Pastlifepioneerwomancentury
    @Pastlifepioneerwomancentury 8 років тому

    Sending you Prayers and hugs!!

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому +1

      +Lori cook Thank you, Lori. hugs back.

  • @cricket516
    @cricket516 8 років тому

    I am so sorry. I will be sending up prayers for you and your family. Just know I am here if you need to talk. Love ya!

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому +1

      +Cooking with Cricket (cricket516) Thank you, Cricket. hugs. Love you too.

  • @gardeningwithaloha5573
    @gardeningwithaloha5573 8 років тому

    Take care! 🌻🌈❤️u know when i was in high school i thought that something was wrong with just me i had panic attacks & depression & i was like something is really wrong with me i stayed hm never wanted to go anywhere because the fear of having another panic attack was so frightful to me! Anyway i got the help that i needed & i just take it one day at a time! Mahalo for sharing!🌻

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому

      +Cheryl cummings I know exactly what that is like. i ended up with a cardiac cath over a panic attack and it turned out to be a sinus issue not my heart. hugs. I am glad you are doing well now.

    • @gardeningwithaloha5573
      @gardeningwithaloha5573 8 років тому

      Take care!🌻❤️

  • @johnparkerthegimpygardener
    @johnparkerthegimpygardener 8 років тому

    My friend you are not alone !! and a lot of people understand way more than you would ever realize . I know i do . take care

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому

      +john parker (the gimpy gardener) Thank you, John. It was not easy to do this. But I needed to do something to stop my decline.

    • @johnparkerthegimpygardener
      @johnparkerthegimpygardener 8 років тому

      I know I was there so years ago also after a divorce .

  • @LolaK
    @LolaK 8 років тому

    I understand not everything but we will take care.. I am greeting successes

  • @TexanInTheUK1
    @TexanInTheUK1 8 років тому

    My dearest friend, E.
    I am so very sorry for everything going on around you and the burdens you are carrying.
    You always lift me up, so know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
    I'm late (trying to catch up on vids) and see that you have been putting out more videos, so I can only hope the heaviness is lifting.
    My house and gardens were only my house and gardens :)
    I love you! {{{Hugzzz}}}

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому +1

      +Across The Pond Thank you my friend. It has been hard to stop the river of tears. I have a hemorrhage in my right eye from the stress and maybe blood pressure rising. I have not show a current face.My health is suffering. But, I am trying hard to let go. Regain myself. I thought I would regret this video. But it is starting to pull me back to I am not alone. It means allot to me to hear from you. I think about you allot. I was so happy to see you make a new video. So I know you are. ok. I am so thankful for our friendship across the big pond.
      I love you too! ((Hug)))

    • @TexanInTheUK1
      @TexanInTheUK1 8 років тому

      +TheEmptynester
      We'll both get through our situations, somehow.
      {{{hugz}}}

  • @BobMelsimpleliving.
    @BobMelsimpleliving. 8 років тому

    Best wishes my friend.

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому

      +Bob Lt (BobMel's Gardening) Thank you, Bob.

  • @trollforge
    @trollforge 8 років тому

    I understand, actually, I understand depression all too well (unfortunately)... I wish you lived closer, sweetie, so I could pop by and give you a hug...

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому +1

      +trollforge Thank you my friend. I send a virtual hug back. I needed one.

  • @thefaeryman
    @thefaeryman 8 років тому

    sending prayers

  • @neelieevans3337
    @neelieevans3337 8 років тому

    So many understand how you feeling. You have us whacky friends. Don't have normal friends, they are not fun. (giggle) Romeo say he loves you.

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому

      +Neelie Evans Give him a hug for me. And I am grateful to know you too. hugs.

  • @Silvermoonhomestead
    @Silvermoonhomestead 8 років тому

    *hug*

  • @Seeds2freedom
    @Seeds2freedom 8 років тому +2

    Pushes hot cup of soup towards ya...Smiles and says nothing at all........

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому +1

      +Seeds2freedom Awe, thanks. sip sip , yum. :)

  • @10yearvet
    @10yearvet 8 років тому

    Sadly, I am well acquainted with trauma, drama, grief and depression. Hope you have many people around you that care. Yes, we care, but nothing beats physical presence and unfortunately I am not there. Pm me if you feel like it.

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому

      +The Self Sufficient Life Thank you. I know you understand too. I am so grateful for your friendship. This continues to snowball. But I am going to try to regain my health. Wish you all the best too.

  • @grod0051
    @grod0051 8 років тому

    I'm 30minutes from St. Louis if you need me to help, just let me know. Why are you getting rid of the chickens which mean a lot to you? I'm not far from you either. I know personally about what your saying. Get ahold of me thru fb if you want to. Just hold on. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. Know that we love you and would miss your videos.

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому

      +Christine Davis I can not explain the chickens with out crying more.I am to the point I can not function well. But I am slowly, recovering. I went into a mental meltdown. But I thank you for your offer.
      They are going to have a fundraiser at the Charlack pub. Saturday the 9th. noon to 5 or 6. It is near Overland. MO. Lackland and St. Charles Rock road. If you would like to help her. She is still on the feeding tube, so I do not know if she will be there. But her boyfriend will be. I can not make the trip right now. But have been telling friends to pass on the event. It will take a miracle to save her and her home.

  • @darlingstuff1560
    @darlingstuff1560 8 років тому

    NO Mortgage is actual money. When you sign for a mortgage, loan, credit card....your signature creates a money bond. Banks have no money ONLY small cash i the draw and the rest is empty bank balances...they type in a sum on their accounts plus or minus. They then sell your signed form on a bond market for three times the value.....and you, having created the money FOR the bank...have to struggle and pay that sum AGAIN plus massive interest, and if n x year time you are sick and cannot pay for a period of time they claim the property too. THIS IS FRAUD RIGHT ACROSS THE WORLD. Write and ask them for a sight of the original signed form. THEY NO LONGER HAVE IT..THEY SOLD IT ON FOR 3 X THE VALUE.......100,000 make 300,000 within 10 days....plus repayment over x decades PLUS at least as much again in interest PLUS potential to grab the property...... ALSO research on youtube...there is NO LAW WHICH MANDATES THE PAYMNET OF INCOME TAX.....USA and all nations are run on corporationn and business tax ONLY. 100% of your income tax goes to pay the jew owners of the federal reserve, Bank of England....etc etc STOP worrying start living

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  8 років тому +1

      +Darling Stuff Thank you. I know how it works too. I have no mortgage. I paid cash for my home. But that does not stop the grief of people you love dying. And knowing my niece is in turmoil from the fact if she lives, she is then homeless. And her kids will be too. I can not fathom the pain she is in. Dying with all that stress.

    • @darlingstuff1560
      @darlingstuff1560 8 років тому +1

      Yes, and best wishes to you all

    • @Christine-777
      @Christine-777 7 років тому

      TheEmptynester Thank you ever so for sharing your heart, these events, and this vlog. •warm embrace• I am so moved and personally understand deeply.
      Miss Eve, how are your precious daughter, neice and her love? This may be well after these events, but be assured I am praying for you and your family at this time.
      •much love from Texas• ♡
      May God abundantly bless you all.

    • @TheEmptynester
      @TheEmptynester  7 років тому

      Thank you, M'Lady's Simple Elegance. That means a lot to me. My Nice passed May 11, 06. 2 months after this video. And I miss her dearly. But, my daughter was bless with a baby boy on March 22, of this year. So her loss last year has a new love in it this year. Thank you for your kind words.
      Much love returned. E :)