Narcissists. They cheat at every game in life to get more, but they can’t cheat their way to victory with an empath who has finally had enough. They lose!!! More people are aware of their cruelty, this they lose!!!
I'm so sorry!!! The best part; YOU NOW KNOW the signs of a "narci" and you can steer clear of them in the future! I did and I'm happily controlling my own life with a NEW partner who "lets me be me"!
I feel u..mine was 8 months and it was horrible. At one point i just collapsed mentally and physically. Totally drained of my energy but lately ive noticed im coming back go life. I even see the glow coming back that i had before meeting her
Life is so much better without social media… its a great way to remove all the minions/monkeys, prevents hoover and most of all it saves a lot of time… life is way better without the mindless scrolling of memes 🤩 I don’t miss it at all
Social media and instant messaging apps has made us so easily available and accessible to narcs and their tactics. It also makes life and relationships more complicated and messy with what we post. It can also magnify your insecurities and cause comparison.
Narcicissts don't love, they use. So they are only attached to the service, and not the provider. Which is why they find it easy to move on. But in the long run they've done you a favour. Because whilst they are busy creating a new toxic relationship, you're finally free. My Narc husband married already one year after the divorce. The new supply was already in the pipeline. Thank you so much Andrew, I hope you are fine! ❤😊
40 years of experiencing total paralysis, like a statue, totally detached from reality, devoid of emotions, awaiting my next order holding my breath so I don’t experience a rage fit. That was my life. Been divorced for 21 days now after a bitter contentious two year divorce process. I am 65 and starting to thaw. This is going to take time and I am FREE and so GRATEFUL! Thank you Andrew ❤
You are inspiring! Makes me believe in the core and immutable strength of the self, withstanding decades of storms, but still standing. May you look back when you're at 110 years and be so glad you did it!👍💪👏
They move on because they never cared in the first place. Shock horror for us but now that we know better, we'll never go back there again. Nothing genuine about them.
Took decades for me to accept and understand that my empathy and understanding is for myself.Narc mother turned her relatives and any friends against me! One of the narcs games/tricks/m.o. is to get in between relationships and friendships to destroy them. They work hard to keep their targets isolated.Narc father organized a family reunion for mothers side of the family - I was not invited , was not told about it. Golden Child sister reported that when aunts, uncles & cousins asked where I was narc parents said I was traveling. At the time I lived a few blocks away from where they had this reunion. Took a long time but I finally understood that the little bits from Golden Child sister was nonsense and her role was to bring information about me to narc mother. Very painful that Golden Child sister had been groomed against me.
Andrew you have helped me with your videos and the private therapy sessions to realize that my husband of 25 years was an abusive Narcissist. I feel free and nothing feels as good as freedom does. Thank you so much!!
I finally reached my feeling of indifference. Met someone new. And help others who ask for help with narcissists. I went through a period where I was so sad and angry. I wanted to tell my ex wife so much of why I was now better off, healthier, and more happy with someone much better for me. What I realized is that I no longer cared to or wanted to because I had moved her on from her in my mind. I have to co parent and talk here and there but outside the kids I don't let anything she does rattle or effect me where I feel truly healed. You can get there but it's a daily grind and I'll still have rough days here and there.
I was wondering the impact of a new relationship, but too afraid to try. The what if’s get in the way. Happy for you, and I do want someone in my life still. I’d prefer a God fearing woman though. I know who I am, cuz it’s who I’ve always been. A good man. I hope it still counts for something.
I never knew any of this at time and I thought I was going crazy. He ignored me the day of our wedding. This marriage literally destroyed me in every way. I’m still learning so much from you. For a long time I thought I wasn’t good enough. After we married there was only a feeling of loneliness and confusion. I became very fearful and insecure. I worked so hard I gave him my all I loved his children like my own. I worked so hard until I could no longer pretend any of this was normal. Thank God for my therapist and a women’s domestic abuse program. The pain lasts a long time. Everything you say is the truth. ❤Thank you again with all my heart for daily hope
@dawnkikong637 it was awful and he was so. Rude to my family . I knew then that I made a big mistake but I always had hope. My biggest weakness an abundance of hope. ❤️
Lysa, I related to a comment you made on a video that came out today from Andrew, and was just watching this video that I missed. God sure works in mysterious ways to let us know we are not alone. On my honeymoon, which was the first time out of the country for me, he got mad at me, left the hotel, and I didn't see him till the next day. You would think I'd remember what the fight was about, but I probably never knew anyway. Endured the silent treatment until probably the day before our return home, and it was never to be spoken of again. I'm in the process of divorce after 39 years, 47 total, of this Hell, but I've never felt better or more at peace about anything in my life. I'm in my 60's, and know for sure that my latter years will be better than my former. I'm so proud of you, and all who have worked tirelessly to get through this insidious abuse. We did it! Yay! God Bless You.
Great message Andrew. Yes they always treat you like you never existed, even in the love bomb phases. The ex rarely even said my name. I remember once, he was struggling financially and I recommended a supermarket that's much cheaper than the one he was using. He told me he'd never tried that one. A few weeks later he told me what great value the supermarket was and that "somebody told me about it" with this fake expression like he was trying to remember who they were on his face. I didn't even bother to degrade myself by reminding him it was me that recommended it, because I instictively knew he was pretending not to remember to belittle me. So pathetic, so infantile. Why i stayed with him for 2 years I'll never know. Now I treat him as if he doesn't exist by maintaining no contact. The person I thought he was really doesn't exist. He is a negative, hollow, ungrateful, souless zombie who hates people and his life.
My ex was 100% a Narcissist. There are different degrees of Narcissism and my ex was 100%. I know this as fact, now, because my ex told me that they feel NO love, hate, or anything, at all. I ask: ''What do you mean?'' They told me: ''NO FEELINGS, AT ALL!'' NO CONTACT is the only way with 'people' like that.
My ex would always speak in third person when referring to himself (complete weirdo). Every women in his life.. he referred to as baby, this included his family members. Took a peek into his phone, and he repeated the same tired lines to me and other women he was pursuing. They're just demonic bobble-headed robots. Never going back.
They always devalue you and everything you say! Same happened to me, I would tell narc something, next thing you knew he presented this idea like it was his!!! We are way better off without these nasty creatures! I still can't beleive I allowed and tolerated this mental abuse for two years!!!
11 years. Childhood sweethearts. Married. Owned our own home. Trying for kids. Then we had a series of bad things happen and I started struggling with depression. Withn a year she had started an affair, kicked me out of our house and accused me of domestic abuse. Within a year of that, before the divorce was even through, she had moved her boyfriend in, got engaged and was pregnant. Her family, who I thought of as family, just went along with it all like nothing had happened. I felt like absolutely nothing.
That's a tough one Bro. I feel for you. Definitely not someone to have kids with. The minute she becomes "unhappy" she'll make up a narrative blow up the relationship or marriage and take off with your kid. Just terrible.
@@tymitch3207 I do regret that I never had kids, but she would have made life hell if we had! She married the guy she left me for and had 2 kids, was back trying to talk to me within 2 months of the wedding saying she still loved me. I let her get into my head and she dropped me again as soon as I said what she wanted to hear. Tried to take the kids and leave her husband to come back to me just over 2 years later. I said no. She crawled back to him and they're still together 14 years later, he doesn't even know she asked me to take her back, she acts like it's the world's greatest romance on social media but from what I've heard she treats him like dirt in public... and I'll always know why she's still stuck there :)
No matter that mine wasn't a romantic relationship, I was still made to feel really important, then devalued through nasty comments and long silences and the discard began. I never imagined a close friend could turn so callously cold for no reason. Now I've gone no contact the phone calls are coming thick and fast but I've blocked them. The voicemail doesn't even kick in. I refuse to be treated badly. I mean, how dare they?
What you said Andrew was my life for the last 10 years. I had no idea what was wrong until I was tired of being devalued and started searching. Wow. I was clueless about narcissism and am so grateful for this knowledge and truth. Even though we will be sharing the same house for the next month, I’ve had no contact for 3 weeks. I’m slowly rediscovering myself. I was lost but now I am being found. I’m grateful from my soul for this community. Thanks for being there for us everyday Andrew. We are not alone. Namaste. 🍟
Todd I understand how you feel. I was married to someone for 25 years. You will feel so much better when you are no longer in the same home. Narcissists lie and manipulate their victims and then because you are so much better than they are - they start to treat you like crap. They can’t stand people who are better than they are. Keep going , stay strong and you will feel amazing as time goes by. Just watch the videos. They are so helpful.
I have been watching Andrew for over a year and a half. I tell anyone who is at the start of the journey- watch as many videos as you can starting from the most recent and go backwards.
PROOF THAT THEY NEVER CARED about you/me. It was made believe and "WE BELIEVED" in spite of all evidence. Why is that? That is what "we" must discover and understand. Blessings to all! And have a wonderful weekend! Namaste♥
Bad news: She dipped out like I never existed. Good news: She dipped out like I never existed. That means she isn't going to waste either my time or hers trying to come back. Winning!
The truth is that the immediate pursuit of a replacement means that narcs are not emotionally healthy! She would rather pretend to replace you than to have the humility to admit her errors and change.
My Narcissist Transgender Love, also, dipped out, within a few months of our break-up. He/She married a stranger, in order to move out of state, FAR AWAY! I am sooooo HAPPY, now and all my dreams have been happy dreams! I am so happy that 16 yrs with that Narcissist, is over and done with!!!!!! They are all Fakers/Money and Love Takers!
With covert narcissists, the love bombing phase lasts extremely short. A narcissist I met punished me by ghosting after less than a month. They usually do this when they don't feel comfortable in a relationship. I think he sensed that I wanted to end the relationship. He got ahead of me.
With mine, she love bombed me for a year or a little better. I have to think that was due to our relationship being long distance. But even towards the end of the second year, I was wondering if I should dump her. I wish I had listened to that intuition.
P. S I find this the best channel on YT about narcissism. Andrew makes it easy to understand because he’s gone through it. He knows the pain we have all gone through.
My narc did not move on easily bc I was a physician and made a good income and I took total care of him. It took me three and a half years to get him out of my life. Funny thing in life. I realized as a child that I would have more than myself to offer people, so I worked hard to make myself worthy and desirable. But, in the end, I still was not wanted, it was just the trappings that was wanted. That was a hard pill to swallow, but lesson learned, I can not trust anyone in this world. But, my desperate need to be loved forced me to reach out to the other world and that has been the greatest blessing in this life time.
He moved on the very next day if not that evening. And he took her on the vacation that we planned together the next weekend. I noticed the energy shift, the lack of eye contact, the lack of pet names suddenly. I didn't realize it was the devalue phase. I went through this cycle with him twice. He had a scoreboard in his head and accused me of what he did, making drama out of normal relationship occurrences.
Love it when you don’t sugarcoat the truth! Energy Vampires, dirty fangs, creatures. You are also correct that money is the most vital supply from the victims. Thank you!
Yes indeed! (Misappropriated my entire life savings I was supposed to create my business with!) Yet, worse than the money is the all- consuming of the loyal, devoted, committed Love ENERGY & inner JOY ! Now we LOVE & ADVOCATE for Ourselves to return OUR JOY & we get to choose how we shower it !!! I choose the other vulnerable children animals❤️🔥🙏🏼🎶😇🌟🌠🕊️💫
I didn’t stop caring until the discard, there was just so much going on, and so much circumstantial excuses she could use. But then the guillotine came down on my neck, and even though it made sense, I’m still without closure. I hate that it’s a breakup under abnormal circumstances, and that’s there is no chance for her to come back for either reason. I won’t take her, or that she would even try.
@@christopherbrubaker2070 I can imagine how tough it would be after discard if you didn't necessarily want the relationship to end, you have to find your own closure. I guess I was lucky in that I was done already, just not expecting a planned discard that involved many people.
Hi Andrew & everyone here . Thank you Andrew for you being here for all your videos and everyone here with all y'all's comments . When September the 22 of 2023 it would be 2 years & 4 months of completely no contact . I hoped Andrew & everyone here to have a wonderful beautiful blessed 🙏 evening 🙏 . My Beautiful Snowy says hi Woof woof !!
@@lela888 You got that right ,so completely true indeed !! I say good riddance !! My Beautiful Snowy and I wish you have a beautiful wonderful blessed 🙏 evening 🙏
Yes, they do then they call you about how they're having so much fun with the new supply. No French fries no music no TV oh know that's not fun. ❤Hanna
@@jannlewandowski5540Yes they are..."miserable" is their middle name. They are it and they cause others to feel that way too. Our misery post relationship is only temporary and it takes time to heal after what they did to us but theirs will last a lifetime!
@@jennifernewton4637 hi there glad to see you back good to take a break it resets the mind yes Saturday morning almost 7am sun’s shining a beautiful day ahead spring is here nice to start peeling off the layers not a fan of the cold 🥶 enjoy your weekend 🌺🌸🦋
Great video Andrew. We empaths are Thanks Giving dinners for the narcs 😉🥧🍗 i like the image. But so true. You are very imaginative Andrew. Beautiful afternoon to you and all the people here today. ❤❤❤🙌🙏
There was a red flag when I met my wife. She had quite a few male friends, all of which had a purpose or something she needed or something she could use.
Yes, he has been on dating sites for weeks and hasn't even moved out yet. Living separated under one roof is the worst. Two more weeks, freedom is coming. I will not go on any dating sites, instead will give myself time to process and mourn the loss of a 20yr relationship. It's still a loss, even though it brought so much unhappiness.
The being treated like you don’t matter (or like you’re an inconvenience) is just total abuse. No tolerance for it any longer. Someone already commented this as an “EPIC” video. I second that ❤🙌 you look great. Happy Friday evening Andrew and all! We are so blessed to have you Andrew and this community 🙏🙏🙏
I always felt like an inconvenience. This is a hard weight to carry when one is unsuspective!! We are free now, but it is easy to get the blood up at times when tuning into the Education. But I can not do without the education!! ❤❤❤❤
I suspected fairly early on that he didn't think I even existed. We were pushed into a situation where we ended up living together. Then it was like a count down was started on a detonator, and I knew it because I have enough experience with narcissists. Maybe I really was delusional and just dissociating. I dissociate so much from SO MUCH trauma that it's hard to distinguish what is real. That's the most terrifying part to me.
My narc had 2 dates within the first week after our breakup back in August!!! We were together almost 2 years and supposedly he was planning to propose this month!!! I'm grateful for my therapist, friends/family, lucrative job, good health, and pursuit of my life purpose. Without all this, it would be more difficult than it has already been.
Hello Andrew and everyone. He definitely moved on immediately and got married in 2 weeks. Haven't heard anything about him in 12.6 years. God only knows WHO he's with today. INTERESTING TOPIC ANDREW..❤
Hi Jann, he got married after only two weeks...OMG that's horrible 🤮 it's unbelievable what these toxic individuals do to hurt other people. My heart goes out to you my friend. 🤗 have a great afternoon ❤🙌🌺
He also saw how I survived without him plus my house value is going up and wanted a piece of that too… saw it coming because he’s discovered it’s hard to start again and it’s easier to come back and this time offered marriage!!!! Oh my lord …. Now that was a huge hoover… nope didn’t take the bait…I will carry in supporting myself and carry on healing . Life’s tough absolutely but when I come home …. It’s home , peace ✌️
"That's what I love about you, you always see the rose as something beautiful." Paraphrased version of what my ex said to me near the beginning of the relationship, because I can't remember the exact words used. I think this is very telling of just how broken & negative this person was. They hooked me in & then used me as a pawn. No longer will I be used as a pawn, thanks to them.
Wow… Andrew… you’re on fire! A wonderful, amazingly insightful video on Narcissism. I profoundly agree with every single word you’ve said. Thank you so much for helping mankind, hence the planet, to cleanse itself and restore the balance of peace. Namaste 🙏🏽🤍🦋
I've looked through old childhood and young adult photos of me with my two siblings. My brother's hands were always limp when around my shoulders. My sister always had a grimace and was leaning away. I've replayed the times I hugged my sister, and said, I love you. She always stood stiff, and never said anything back. I've replayed when I said, I love you, to my brother early last year, and there was total silence on the phone. It is as if there are really walking dead. We don't need to watch a movie.
Thank you Andrew for doing The Lords work and sharing light and knowledge on narcissism. I had heard about it and had dealt with it as a child but never really fully experienced and understood it until I started dating my boyfriend and got triangulated between them and then unfortunately my family ended up trying to hide it all I think. Point is, I don’t know if I would have made it if it weren’t for God and for people like you that he sends to help victims of this evil. Love you brother ❤
Andrew you have helped me so much . I know I'm healing and on my way to reclaim the real me. I saw something funny on u tube and heard laughing. Wow, it was me. I haven't laughed in years because he always kept me in a role of joy was for him and his numerous affairs. I fight daily to get back and found no contact works because I have days I don't think about him, it's a great feeling
PAR FOR THE COURSE & TO BE EXPECTED from the slimy narcs to move on as if we didn't exist. Makes it easier to proceed forward from such heartless creatures! Bye narc...keep sewing into your own karma! 🎀😘
If you ever feel like you are going back into the relationship mindset wise, or you start wondering or self-doubting yourself. I would recommend buying a diary so you can provide therapeutic relief for yourself, it will help you accept the situation more easily and it will make you realize a lot about yourself. I no longer miss my ex and I want better, I recently let go of a friend that acted exactly like my ex but instead all eyes were on me. It was one-sided and it brought back negative feelings from that previous relationship. When you find yourself in negative situations EVALUATE your situation and find ways you can grow and find the positive in it. It hurts to know this happened in a way again but I’m happy because I stopped it and saw the signs. TRUST your gut and ACCEPT your feelings. Thank you Andrew for accepting me and my story. 🙏🏽💛💛💛
Definitely. She went hard to erase me post relationship. All the check ins at the places we went, the pics she had of when she came down here a few times, all gone. She’s more or less hiding the new guy too (recycled ex bf from 15 years ago who she kept in contact all throughout her marriage as well as our relationship), but she seems to be getting a little bolder, according to sources. Not to mention she didn’t really care about what was going on in my neighborhood, or at my job, etc. There were never really any pics of us on her social media (I don’t want to cause drama with my husband’s family etc, even though she never got divorced despite promising me the opposite). She does care about money and status. I’ve seen that now, as opposed to her claims of not being materialistic. Her ex apparently has plenty of money.
Wonderful video They try to keep you trapped ,your mind is so focused on what is happening here. That's that snapshot they love 💯 if you stay like Confused look💀 ! They know they can take your body 💯
My narc ex became very controlling and would accuse me of messing around on him all the time. I found out after I left him, it was him that was doing the messing around all that time. The woman he was messing around with screamed that at me. It hurt at first, and I felt really dirty. But then I thought, well no wonder I left him. Thanks for telling me.😂 When someone is accusing you really hard of something it usually because they are. Projection.🎉
I believe in God, and believe that he will feel the wrath for his egotistical mindset and cruelty. What else would we hope for. My ex, I want the same. Disgusting people. I guess my delusion is over too.
@christopherbrubaker2070 Trust me he did. I feel really bad for him but I could not fix him. He tried his hardest to break me I went got help he refused
When they are blaming you they were always doing it themselves I believe now it was going on for along with multiple supply's she had moved on well before the relationship ended
My husband is so jealous he found my prom pictures and tore them up and text me the pictures of the torn prom pictures while I was at work. And he is 45 years old
In 2018 I had a sigmoid resection and nearly died. Hospitalized on my own, alone. No emails no phone calls except for a stranger that was visiting from a hostel I was staying at. It was a close call and I was nearly taken out ( literally ). Those people have tried many many times it was not the first time this happened. They come in family packs too ! That's the worst.
Thank you so much. I love it being reminded of those things. It’s like second nature to them after doing it for so long. It’s like when there were times when we could be together and share a moment for a few hours, she would disappear. I would then go looking for her to find her doing things she could’ve picked any other time to do. They subconsciously hurt us. I was recently thinking a lot about trust in a new relationship. It just dawned on me that I loved normally, I reached out, I cared about her feelings, I loved in a sensible normal ways, and I couldn’t figure out why she just couldn’t. Then I realized she just refused to, but I thought it was an insecurity problem not to tear down her walls for me, and trust that after 25 years I had proven she could. I gave so much, and I’m glad to be free, but I don’t have friends or family like she does. So hint, hint, that’s what I need to acquire now I guess. I deserve normal, and someone deserves to have me in their life as well. Hard to value yourself in a self absorbed narcissistic world. I do value myself though, and if I gotta do it alone, then so be it.
Great video Andrew. Yes after being discarded he walked away from me like I wasn't there not even bye nothing. I know the whole relationship was a lie and it was my hope that kept me with the narcissist for so long. I have learned that everything he did and said was just to get as much from me as he could and when I couldn't give anymore I was out like garbage alone and hurt and broken. Now I'm thankful that it happened I am now free of that monster and doing much better. Thank you everyone for your kind words and thank you Andrew for your wisdom and great video. Stay strong everyone.
I was discarded after 24 years and being engaged. Worst feeling that I ever went through. Everything in this video is so very true. There is no one on this channel better then Andrew. He is the BEST!!! He is informative and unbelievably knowledgeable. He has helped me learn about narcissism. THANKS so very much Andrew
I understand 💯 it's over when I loose interest or just don't want to work for the Narcissistic anymore,Im learning to discard first ,because I have more wisdom 🙏 but I not a cold Dead person ,& there's a certain amount of grief 😔 and relief at the loss of a person !!
For me, this is one of the top videos- if not the best that I can relate too! I’m just thrown under the bus like I never existed to him! Well now I see it as a blessing in disguise! Time to move forward! Find people who DO appreciate me and my light and love! I appreciate this video very much!
Andrew, another epic video! All points well taken and experienced. It's hard to admit that I was just a stange hand in the grand play that my X had prepared for himself! In any event, we are all here in the safe community that you created. We continue to live and learn. I thank you. 👍❤😊🥔
I always was on his phone screensaver on a photo of us together, and was a bit upset when he changed the photo to that of his dog, not of the two of us . I know now why sadly
I am now afraid of them. No way I am going to take a chance to start a relationship with someone. Getting education here I now know that I am empathic. I also have CPTSD. I had therapy for it and have no anxiety anymore but think meeting another narcissist will trigger me. But I am happy that I can see through people and have now confidence and no fear to stand up to them. But I don't need the hassle. I love my peace and comfort. I disconnected my cellphone in 2017 and am happy without it.
We didn't exist, in their eyes. Merely a source of supply to them. So thankful for you, Andrew, for these past several months during my healing. Don't know what I would have done without you and your channel. For anyone currently going through a discard, it truly does get better. You will reach the Pinnacle of indifference. We can't let these energy vampires take anymore of our lives away! Thanks for the lesson, narc, and thanks for showing me my real value❤
Yep this was what led to the forced discard because I noticed the changes in his social media. What’s interesting is I did take one peak at his social media since then and I noticed he’s doing the same thing to the new supply. These people never change. Wash rinse repeat
He picked the wrong one because I wouldn't give up. I don't think I could care about anyone again. I don't look for red flags anymore. I have no need to.
Andrew, you are a funny guy! You shouldn’t eat French Fries. Life isn’t all puppy bones. A little dark humor really helps. Your videos are now part of my daily therapy. And it’s the first thing I look at to start my day.
Hi Andrew 😊thank you for another perfectly apt video!! I've finally learned .from you , that I've suffered these 'creatures' in most of my personal relationships . I NEVER questioned anything, but knew how unhappy I was, but asumed I was just unlucky to have found another control freak. My boyfriend is the one who woke me up to actually noticing the 'pattern' of the narcissistic abuse which lead me to your channel. Thank you ,as your wisdom is helping me understand so much, and how to deal with things much better. I now know I'm an empath and that these 'creatures' want to feed from me ( and so many of us) ...but NO MORE!! xx
Yeah, that was the one major thing I couldn't get! 8.5 years of marriage down the drain!!!! All the I Love You's, The Intamacy, The Birthday Cards, Valentines Day Cards, Anniversary Cards, Christmas Cards, Dinners we had going out as a married couple, holding hands, kisses, ect. And like a light Switch,,,,, COMPLETELY OFF!
Sometimes, I feel like one of many long distance runners and you're handing everyone a bottle of water that shares a healing, refreshing education ... born by a hard look at your own experience.Thanks Andrew!🏃🏃♀🙏👍
He waited 1 day shy of a full month before he offered that my key still fits in the door...I could come home if I was tired, or just wanted a break from WHATEVER I WAS DOING, BUT!! He was not TRYING or WANTING to control me...ahahahahahahaha!! Good thing...that effort would wear ya out!!! He is likely spinning in circles...good. Theres enough energy in those gaslights, and lies to keep him spinning a long while! Damn that feels good!!! 😂😂❤❤
Yes Andrew. I'll repeat what I have said before, even when they are dying they will invalidate you, your life, your beliefs. On their death bed they will say what will say the unforgettable to hurt you.
Yep your so right about the taking pictures topic. My ex narc never took pictures with me out of 13 years together I remember her talking one picture with me and in that one she still didn't look happy. I've talked to her saying let's go take some pictures of us and she would say no! Even Christmas 2021 the last Christmas together before I was discarded in January 2022 I tried to take a selfie of me by the Christmas tree and she was in the background on the couch she saw that I was going to take the picture and she said no!!! And got out of the way as fast as she could. Big red flag! But it's funny too me that she loves to take pictures of herself with a lot of makeup on by herself I saw her UA-cam profile picture and I got mad at her she was wearing a shirt showing off her cleavage she doesn't dress that way around the house or when she was out with me pretending to the world to be something's she's not! Trying to look single but in her mind I believe she thought she was. To her I was just a glorified caregiver.
We must move on like they never existed.
Amen
Yes absolutely,they betrayed us,,,we now know their M.O.,🌻🌳🦋✨❤️
I said the same thing who want to keep going through that hurt and pain
Yes absolutely. They are soulless creatures so it as they they don’t exist.
Bingo
Narcissists. They cheat at every game in life to get more, but they can’t cheat their way to victory with an empath who has finally had enough. They lose!!! More people are aware of their cruelty, this they lose!!!
These narcs have a LOT of nerve. KARMA is waiting for them.
I agree! It sure is!!! ❤❤❤
Karma knows their address. It's on the way. 🎉
I still have trauma from the narc and it was a 'short' relationship of 17 months. Pure evil is the only way I can describe it as.
I'm so sorry!!! The best part; YOU NOW KNOW the signs of a "narci" and you can steer clear of them in the future! I did and I'm happily controlling my own life with a NEW partner who "lets me be me"!
I hear you loud and clear. My lasted 18 months and it was by far the most traumatic experience of my life.
I feel u..mine was 8 months and it was horrible. At one point i just collapsed mentally and physically. Totally drained of my energy but lately ive noticed im coming back go life. I even see the glow coming back that i had before meeting her
@@rl3656I had two narcs in my life one male one female. Truly vile evil putrid creatures
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Life is so much better without social media… its a great way to remove all the minions/monkeys, prevents hoover and most of all it saves a lot of time… life is way better without the mindless scrolling of memes 🤩 I don’t miss it at all
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Amen!
Yes! I deleted my socials as soon as I left 8 months ago. 😊
Social media and instant messaging apps has made us so easily available and accessible to narcs and their tactics. It also makes life and relationships more complicated and messy with what we post. It can also magnify your insecurities and cause comparison.
Narcicissts don't love, they use. So they are only attached to the service, and not the provider. Which is why they find it easy to move on. But in the long run they've done you a favour. Because whilst they are busy creating a new toxic relationship, you're finally free.
My Narc husband married already one year after the divorce. The new supply was already in the pipeline.
Thank you so much Andrew, I hope you are fine! ❤😊
lios583 my ex narc married 2 weeks after I left him! DESPERATE! 🫢🫨
Welcome 💯😌🙌
they talk to you like you aren't relevant!
40 years of experiencing total paralysis, like a statue, totally detached from reality, devoid of emotions, awaiting my next order holding my breath so I don’t experience a rage fit. That was my life. Been divorced for 21 days now after a bitter contentious two year divorce process. I am 65 and starting to thaw. This is going to take time and I am FREE and so GRATEFUL! Thank you Andrew ❤
Love peace and blessings sent,🙏🙏❤️🧘✨💖💖💖
You are inspiring! Makes me believe in the core and immutable strength of the self, withstanding decades of storms, but still standing. May you look back when you're at 110 years and be so glad you did it!👍💪👏
@@jhavajoe3792 beautiful ❤️ fills my heart with love. Thank you so much 🤗
It will take time xxx but you are free now x
You did it! Congratulations! I did too and life is peaceful now.
They move on because they never cared in the first place. Shock horror for us but now that we know better, we'll never go back there again. Nothing genuine about them.
You are so correct.
I have learned to not apply my empathy on the Narcissist. It has been a huge step towards freedom from the abuser.
Your empathy is for "those" who deserve it. Otherwise, you should spend it on "yourself"!
Took decades for me to accept and understand that my empathy and understanding is for myself.Narc mother turned her relatives and any friends against me! One of the narcs games/tricks/m.o. is to get in between relationships and friendships to destroy them. They work hard to keep their targets isolated.Narc father organized a family reunion for mothers side of the family - I was not invited , was not told about it. Golden Child sister reported that when aunts, uncles & cousins asked where I was narc parents said I was traveling. At the time I lived a few blocks away from where they had this reunion. Took a long time but I finally understood that the little bits from Golden Child sister was nonsense and her role was to bring information about me to narc mother. Very painful that Golden Child sister had been groomed against me.
Be kind to yourself you deserve it. 💖💖💖
Donna. You got that right! 🫠💕👍
Andrew you have helped me with your videos and the private therapy sessions to realize that my husband of 25 years was an abusive Narcissist. I feel free and nothing feels as good as freedom does.
Thank you so much!!
Every single video is dead on. Thank you. Your videos really help me stay on the path to no contact which is the only possible way for me to heal.
Keep coming back! 💕👍
I finally reached my feeling of indifference. Met someone new. And help others who ask for help with narcissists. I went through a period where I was so sad and angry. I wanted to tell my ex wife so much of why I was now better off, healthier, and more happy with someone much better for me. What I realized is that I no longer cared to or wanted to because I had moved her on from her in my mind. I have to co parent and talk here and there but outside the kids I don't let anything she does rattle or effect me where I feel truly healed. You can get there but it's a daily grind and I'll still have rough days here and there.
I'm so glad that you found someone new. I'm so sorry that you were with a narcissist and co-parent. 🙏
It sucks but my boys are amazing so i make the best of it
Thank you for sharing your wisdom with newbies like me. Gives me hope for a better future.
I was wondering the impact of a new relationship, but too afraid to try. The what if’s get in the way. Happy for you, and I do want someone in my life still. I’d prefer a God fearing woman though. I know who I am, cuz it’s who I’ve always been. A good man. I hope it still counts for something.
The invisible treatment was so confusing, but now it's so clear. I will never tolerate that abuse again either.😊
With friends like them. Who needs enemies? 😊❤️💯
I never knew any of this at time and I thought I was going crazy. He ignored me the day of our wedding. This marriage literally destroyed me in every way. I’m still learning so much from you. For a long time I thought I wasn’t good enough. After we married there was only a feeling of loneliness and confusion. I became very fearful and insecure. I worked so hard I gave him my all I loved his children like my own. I worked so hard until I could no longer pretend any of this was normal. Thank God for my therapist and a women’s domestic abuse program. The pain lasts a long time. Everything you say is the truth. ❤Thank you again with all my heart for daily hope
We will heal because we face the truth.
They will never heal😮
@dawnkikong637 it was awful and he was so. Rude to my family . I knew then that I made a big mistake but I always had hope. My biggest weakness an abundance of hope. ❤️
Lysa,
I related to a comment you made on a video that came out today from Andrew, and was just watching this video that I missed. God sure works in mysterious ways to let us know we are not alone.
On my honeymoon, which was the first time out of the country for me, he got mad at me, left the hotel, and I didn't see him till the next day. You would think I'd remember what the fight was about, but I probably never knew anyway. Endured the silent treatment until probably the day before our return home, and it was never to be spoken of again. I'm in the process of divorce after 39 years, 47 total, of this Hell, but I've never felt better or more at peace about anything in my life. I'm in my 60's, and know for sure that my latter years will be better than my former.
I'm so proud of you, and all who have worked tirelessly to get through this insidious abuse.
We did it! Yay!
God Bless You.
Great message Andrew. Yes they always treat you like you never existed, even in the love bomb phases. The ex rarely even said my name. I remember once, he was struggling financially and I recommended a supermarket that's much cheaper than the one he was using. He told me he'd never tried that one. A few weeks later he told me what great value the supermarket was and that "somebody told me about it" with this fake expression like he was trying to remember who they were on his face. I didn't even bother to degrade myself by reminding him it was me that recommended it, because I instictively knew he was pretending not to remember to belittle me. So pathetic, so infantile. Why i stayed with him for 2 years I'll never know. Now I treat him as if he doesn't exist by maintaining no contact. The person I thought he was really doesn't exist. He is a negative, hollow, ungrateful, souless zombie who hates people and his life.
My ex was 100% a Narcissist. There are different degrees of Narcissism and my ex was 100%. I know this as fact, now, because my ex told me that they feel NO love, hate, or anything, at all. I ask: ''What do you mean?'' They told me: ''NO FEELINGS, AT ALL!'' NO CONTACT is the only way with 'people' like that.
Ya mine never said my name either, they like pet names. Saying your actual name would mean seeing you as an individual.
My ex would always speak in third person when referring to himself (complete weirdo). Every women in his life.. he referred to as baby, this included his family members. Took a peek into his phone, and he repeated the same tired lines to me and other women he was pursuing. They're just demonic bobble-headed robots. Never going back.
They always devalue you and everything you say! Same happened to me, I would tell narc something, next thing you knew he presented this idea like it was his!!!
We are way better off without these nasty creatures! I still can't beleive I allowed and tolerated this mental abuse for two years!!!
Yes yes! My x never ever called me by my name!
Yes MONEY & SEX is what they want...But MONEY 1st and foremost....He stole my entire savings...
So true she got my money I got no sex
I'm so grateful he did move on !!
God blessed us by removing them. Thank God for the blessing
11 years. Childhood sweethearts. Married. Owned our own home. Trying for kids. Then we had a series of bad things happen and I started struggling with depression. Withn a year she had started an affair, kicked me out of our house and accused me of domestic abuse. Within a year of that, before the divorce was even through, she had moved her boyfriend in, got engaged and was pregnant. Her family, who I thought of as family, just went along with it all like nothing had happened.
I felt like absolutely nothing.
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That's a tough one Bro. I feel for you. Definitely not someone to have kids with. The minute she becomes "unhappy" she'll make up a narrative blow up the relationship or marriage and take off with your kid. Just terrible.
@@tymitch3207 I do regret that I never had kids, but she would have made life hell if we had! She married the guy she left me for and had 2 kids, was back trying to talk to me within 2 months of the wedding saying she still loved me. I let her get into my head and she dropped me again as soon as I said what she wanted to hear. Tried to take the kids and leave her husband to come back to me just over 2 years later. I said no. She crawled back to him and they're still together 14 years later, he doesn't even know she asked me to take her back, she acts like it's the world's greatest romance on social media but from what I've heard she treats him like dirt in public... and I'll always know why she's still stuck there :)
No matter that mine wasn't a romantic relationship, I was still made to feel really important, then devalued through nasty comments and long silences and the discard began. I never imagined a close friend could turn so callously cold for no reason.
Now I've gone no contact the phone calls are coming thick and fast but I've blocked them. The voicemail doesn't even kick in. I refuse to be treated badly. I mean, how dare they?
What you said Andrew was my life for the last 10 years. I had no idea what was wrong until I was tired of being devalued and started searching. Wow. I was clueless about narcissism and am so grateful for this knowledge and truth. Even though we will be sharing the same house for the next month, I’ve had no contact for 3 weeks. I’m slowly rediscovering myself. I was lost but now I am being found. I’m grateful from my soul for this community. Thanks for being there for us everyday Andrew. We are not alone. Namaste. 🍟
Todd I understand how you feel. I was married to someone for 25 years.
You will feel so much better when you are no longer in the same home.
Narcissists lie and manipulate their victims and then because you are so much better than they are - they start to treat you like crap. They can’t stand people who are better than they are.
Keep going , stay strong and you will feel amazing as time goes by. Just watch the videos. They are so helpful.
Is that french fries I see? Lol! I love them too, but I refrain from eating them.
I have been watching Andrew for over a year and a half. I tell anyone who is at the start of the journey- watch as many videos as you can starting from the most recent and go backwards.
Excellent and good for you! You're not going to believe how much better you feel.
Mine was 5 years too long!
PROOF THAT THEY NEVER CARED about you/me. It was made believe and "WE BELIEVED" in spite of all evidence. Why is that? That is what "we" must discover and understand. Blessings to all! And have a wonderful weekend! Namaste♥
Because they put us under a spell, and we don't love ourselves enough to put our welfare first!
"False Narrative of the 😷 Mask. " Good description. 👍
Bad news: She dipped out like I never existed.
Good news: She dipped out like I never existed. That means she isn't going to waste either my time or hers trying to come back.
Winning!
The truth is that the immediate pursuit of a replacement means that narcs are not emotionally healthy! She would rather pretend to replace you than to have the humility to admit her errors and change.
My Narcissist Transgender Love, also, dipped out, within a few months of our break-up. He/She married a stranger, in order to move out of state, FAR AWAY! I am sooooo HAPPY, now and all my dreams have been happy dreams! I am so happy that 16 yrs with that Narcissist, is over and done with!!!!!! They are all Fakers/Money and Love Takers!
With covert narcissists, the love bombing phase lasts extremely short. A narcissist I met punished me by ghosting after less than a month. They usually do this when they don't feel comfortable in a relationship. I think he sensed that I wanted to end the relationship. He got ahead of me.
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You dodged a bullet, sister
Hey Ruby!!!🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗
Yeah he couldn't quite sink his fangs into you😊
With mine, she love bombed me for a year or a little better. I have to think that was due to our relationship being long distance. But even towards the end of the second year, I was wondering if I should dump her. I wish I had listened to that intuition.
P. S I find this the best channel on YT about narcissism. Andrew makes it easy to understand because he’s gone through it. He knows the pain we have all gone through.
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My narc did not move on easily bc I was a physician and made a good income and I took total care of him. It took me three and a half years to get him out of my life. Funny thing in life. I realized as a child that I would have more than myself to offer people, so I worked hard to make myself worthy and desirable. But, in the end, I still was not wanted, it was just the trappings that was wanted. That was a hard pill to swallow, but lesson learned, I can not trust anyone in this world. But, my desperate need to be loved forced me to reach out to the other world and that has been the greatest blessing in this life time.
It feels great to be positive again! I get down but not like I did when he was here. It's been rough, but I'm healing.
He moved on the very next day if not that evening. And he took her on the vacation that we planned together the next weekend. I noticed the energy shift, the lack of eye contact, the lack of pet names suddenly. I didn't realize it was the devalue phase. I went through this cycle with him twice. He had a scoreboard in his head and accused me of what he did, making drama out of normal relationship occurrences.
Even though they are blocked I still jump when the phone rings. I'll be glad when I get over that.
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Love it when you don’t sugarcoat the truth! Energy Vampires, dirty fangs, creatures. You are also correct that money is the most vital supply from the victims. Thank you!
AGREE!
Yes indeed! (Misappropriated my entire life savings I was supposed to create my business with!)
Yet, worse than the money is the all- consuming of the loyal, devoted, committed Love ENERGY & inner JOY !
Now we LOVE & ADVOCATE for Ourselves to return OUR JOY & we get to choose how we shower it !!!
I choose the other vulnerable children animals❤️🔥🙏🏼🎶😇🌟🌠🕊️💫
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Very easy for them to move on after executing the discard which has been planned for months or years behind your back.
Believe me, it gets MUCH better. One day at a time! 💕👍
Definitely I stopped caring even before the discard 🙂
I didn’t stop caring until the discard, there was just so much going on, and so much circumstantial excuses she could use. But then the guillotine came down on my neck, and even though it made sense, I’m still without closure. I hate that it’s a breakup under abnormal circumstances, and that’s there is no chance for her to come back for either reason. I won’t take her, or that she would even try.
@@christopherbrubaker2070 I can imagine how tough it would be after discard if you didn't necessarily want the relationship to end, you have to find your own closure. I guess I was lucky in that I was done already, just not expecting a planned discard that involved many people.
Hi Andrew & everyone here . Thank you Andrew for you being here for all your videos and everyone here with all y'all's comments . When September the 22 of 2023 it would be 2 years & 4 months of completely no contact . I hoped Andrew & everyone here to have a wonderful beautiful blessed 🙏 evening 🙏 . My Beautiful Snowy says hi Woof woof !!
Nice, it’s been 2 years and 20 days of no contact for me ! 🎉 so thankful to be out of it away from the narc and doing well
@@lela888 You got that right ,so completely true indeed !! I say good riddance !! My Beautiful Snowy and I wish you have a beautiful wonderful blessed 🙏 evening 🙏
Congratulations 🎉🙂
Awesome testimony!!! I love to read comments like this! 😎🎉💪🏾
Yes, they do then they call you about how they're having so much fun with the new supply.
No French fries no music no TV oh know that's not fun.
❤Hanna
They're not having fun. They think they are, but they're miserable..👍
@@jannlewandowski5540Yes they are..."miserable" is their middle name. They are it and they cause others to feel that way too. Our misery post relationship is only temporary and it takes time to heal after what they did to us but theirs will last a lifetime!
@@jannlewandowski5540 I hope so lol
💯 they move on quickly great video 🙏💕
Hi Coral...I think mine set a record for getting married.🙏
@@jannlewandowski5540 hi yeah more than likely he was with her while you were married like mine
Hey Coral! Hope you’re doing well down there in Australia! Is it Saturday already there? Enjoy your weekend!!! 🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗
@@jennifernewton4637 hi there glad to see you back good to take a break it resets the mind yes Saturday morning almost 7am sun’s shining a beautiful day ahead spring is here nice to start peeling off the layers not a fan of the cold 🥶 enjoy your weekend 🌺🌸🦋
@jennifernewton4637 Jennifer, how are you? We rarely speak, but it's good to see you, and hope you're feeling fine. 🌷💕👍🌞
Great video Andrew. We empaths are Thanks Giving dinners for the narcs 😉🥧🍗 i like the image. But so true. You are very imaginative Andrew. Beautiful afternoon to you and all the people here today. ❤❤❤🙌🙏
I forgot to say Top of the afternoon to you my friend..🌷💕👍
@@jannlewandowski5540you are so kind my friend. Love you 💞
Exactly, Marie!!! ☝️❤☝️❤☝️
@@jennifernewton4637 🙌😊
Will look at that 🦃 differently from now on 😉 😬 ❤️🙏
Every lesson NARCDAILY teaches is a dead ringer in dealing with narcissists.
That social media stuff, the pictures, such truth
There was a red flag when I met my wife. She had quite a few male friends, all of which had a purpose or something she needed or something she could use.
Yes, he has been on dating sites for weeks and hasn't even moved out yet. Living separated under one roof is the worst. Two more weeks, freedom is coming. I will not go on any dating sites, instead will give myself time to process and mourn the loss of a 20yr relationship. It's still a loss, even though it brought so much unhappiness.
He will eventually find someone! 👍
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The being treated like you don’t matter (or like you’re an inconvenience) is just total abuse. No tolerance for it any longer. Someone already commented this as an “EPIC” video. I second that ❤🙌 you look great. Happy Friday evening Andrew and all! We are so blessed to have you Andrew and this community 🙏🙏🙏
Chelsea. Heeyy!🌷🌞💕👍
@@jannlewandowski5540 hi Jann 💖🌸😊
Hi Chelsea,have a great weekend lots love Sent ❤️🙏❤️❤️🧘✨
@@flowerpower4944 🥰 right back at you Flower 🌸 ❤️🙏
I always felt like an inconvenience.
This is a hard weight to carry when one is unsuspective!!
We are free now, but it is easy to get the blood up at times when tuning into the
Education.
But I can not do without the education!!
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Homie coming for my 🍟, y'all.
I suspected fairly early on that he didn't think I even existed. We were pushed into a situation where we ended up living together. Then it was like a count down was started on a detonator, and I knew it because I have enough experience with narcissists. Maybe I really was delusional and just dissociating. I dissociate so much from SO MUCH trauma that it's hard to distinguish what is real. That's the most terrifying part to me.
My narc had 2 dates within the first week after our breakup back in August!!! We were together almost 2 years and supposedly he was planning to propose this month!!! I'm grateful for my therapist, friends/family, lucrative job, good health, and pursuit of my life purpose. Without all this, it would be more difficult than it has already been.
Hello Andrew and everyone. He definitely moved on immediately and got married in 2 weeks. Haven't heard anything about him in 12.6 years. God only knows WHO he's with today.
INTERESTING TOPIC ANDREW..❤
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In 12.6 years?? And you still care?? 😮
Hi Jann, he got married after only two weeks...OMG that's horrible 🤮 it's unbelievable what these toxic individuals do to hurt other people. My heart goes out to you my friend. 🤗 have a great afternoon ❤🙌🌺
@@Meii652NO! lol....
@@mariefrancebourget1749Yes MarieFrance. He met her in a bar...
He also saw how I survived without him plus my house value is going up and wanted a piece of that too… saw it coming because he’s discovered it’s hard to start again and it’s easier to come back and this time offered marriage!!!! Oh my lord …. Now that was a huge hoover… nope didn’t take the bait…I will carry in supporting myself and carry on healing . Life’s tough absolutely but when I come home …. It’s home , peace ✌️
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"That's what I love about you, you always see the rose as something beautiful." Paraphrased version of what my ex said to me near the beginning of the relationship, because I can't remember the exact words used. I think this is very telling of just how broken & negative this person was. They hooked me in & then used me as a pawn. No longer will I be used as a pawn, thanks to them.
Wow… Andrew… you’re on fire!
A wonderful, amazingly insightful video on Narcissism.
I profoundly agree with every single word you’ve said.
Thank you so much for helping mankind, hence the planet, to cleanse itself and restore the balance of peace.
Namaste 🙏🏽🤍🦋
I've looked through old childhood and young adult photos of me with my two siblings. My brother's hands were always limp when around my shoulders. My sister always had a grimace and was leaning away. I've replayed the times I hugged my sister, and said, I love you. She always stood stiff, and never said anything back. I've replayed when I said, I love you, to my brother early last year, and there was total silence on the phone. It is as if there are really walking dead. We don't need to watch a movie.
Just remember their actions say everything about them,.... And have absolutely nothing to do with you❤❤❤
@@astrialindah2773 That is a helpful comment. Thanks.
I think mine is more related to yours than we are to them ,!! Sounds exactly the same
Once he got my kids, he treated me as dead.
Even regarding our kids. Nothing.
Evil 😈
It is always a pleasure to see you and get knowledge every video you share. You are worth your weight in gold.
Thank you Andrew for doing The Lords work and sharing light and knowledge on narcissism. I had heard about it and had dealt with it as a child but never really fully experienced and understood it until I started dating my boyfriend and got triangulated between them and then unfortunately my family ended up trying to hide it all I think. Point is, I don’t know if I would have made it if it weren’t for God and for people like you that he sends to help victims of this evil. Love you brother ❤
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I was an immediate better life-however in time they forgot-when they left- they left the same way they came😴
Andrew you have helped me so much
. I know I'm healing and on my way to reclaim the real me. I saw something funny on u tube and heard laughing. Wow, it was me. I haven't laughed in years because he always kept me in a role of joy was for him and his numerous affairs. I fight daily to get back and found no contact works because I have days I don't think about him, it's a great feeling
As time goes on, you'll laugh more and more! Believe me! ❤👍
Wonderful. You know you’re on the healing path when you start smiling and laughing again.
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Laughter coming back again is great. I've noticed that too.
My ex used to say I had bright shiny eyes.. That shine isn't there anymore at the moment.... But I'm working on it
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Lisa, my ex also loved my eyes...that is, until he didn't.👍
Education is key. That shine will return and it will shine brighter.
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@@jannlewandowski5540 🤗🥰
He stole your sparkle but you'll get it back 💎
PAR FOR THE COURSE & TO BE EXPECTED from the slimy narcs to move on as if we didn't exist. Makes it easier to proceed forward from such heartless creatures!
Bye narc...keep sewing into your own karma! 🎀😘
If you ever feel like you are going back into the relationship mindset wise, or you start wondering or self-doubting yourself. I would recommend buying a diary so you can provide therapeutic relief for yourself, it will help you accept the situation more easily and it will make you realize a lot about yourself. I no longer miss my ex and I want better, I recently let go of a friend that acted exactly like my ex but instead all eyes were on me. It was one-sided and it brought back negative feelings from that previous relationship. When you find yourself in negative situations EVALUATE your situation and find ways you can grow and find the positive in it. It hurts to know this happened in a way again but I’m happy because I stopped it and saw the signs. TRUST your gut and ACCEPT your feelings. Thank you Andrew for accepting me and my story. 🙏🏽💛💛💛
Welcome 😇📝🙏💯
Mine got married 2 weeks after our breakup..😳
Definitely. She went hard to erase me post relationship. All the check ins at the places we went, the pics she had of when she came down here a few times, all gone. She’s more or less hiding the new guy too (recycled ex bf from 15 years ago who she kept in contact all throughout her marriage as well as our relationship), but she seems to be getting a little bolder, according to sources.
Not to mention she didn’t really care about what was going on in my neighborhood, or at my job, etc. There were never really any pics of us on her social media (I don’t want to cause drama with my husband’s family etc, even though she never got divorced despite promising me the opposite).
She does care about money and status. I’ve seen that now, as opposed to her claims of not being materialistic. Her ex apparently has plenty of money.
I always hoped they would get someone and leave me the ___ alone. Watch out they can come back thinking we are in denial.
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As much as I wish it wasn't real but since I'm here it's real believe this man and close the past and break the trauma bond upgrade yourself
So true. I feel bad for the next supplier
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Wonderful video They try to keep you trapped ,your mind is so focused on what is happening here. That's that snapshot they love 💯 if you stay like Confused look💀 ! They know they can take your body 💯
My narc ex became very controlling and would accuse me of messing around on him all the time. I found out after I left him, it was him that was doing the messing around all that time. The woman he was messing around with screamed that at me. It hurt at first, and I felt really dirty. But then I thought, well no wonder I left him. Thanks for telling me.😂
When someone is accusing you really hard of something it usually because they are. Projection.🎉
I believe in God, and believe that he will feel the wrath for his egotistical mindset and cruelty. What else would we hope for. My ex, I want the same. Disgusting people. I guess my delusion is over too.
@christopherbrubaker2070 Trust me he did. I feel really bad for him but I could not fix him. He tried his hardest to break me I went got help he refused
When they are blaming you they were always doing it themselves I believe now it was going on for along with multiple supply's she had moved on well before the relationship ended
My husband is so jealous he found my prom pictures and tore them up and text me the pictures of the torn prom pictures while I was at work. And he is 45 years old
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Great video thank you Andrew 🙏 And agree about their main priority being money.
In 2018 I had a sigmoid resection and nearly died. Hospitalized on my own, alone. No emails no phone calls except for a stranger that was visiting from a hostel I was staying at. It was a close call and I was nearly taken out ( literally ). Those people have tried many many times it was not the first time this happened.
They come in family packs too ! That's the worst.
God bless all of you ❤
My ears fall off 😮 i cant belive people live like this. So happy i now learn so my healing can begin ❤ they are so sick !!
Thank you so much. I love it being reminded of those things. It’s like second nature to them after doing it for so long. It’s like when there were times when we could be together and share a moment for a few hours, she would disappear. I would then go looking for her to find her doing things she could’ve picked any other time to do. They subconsciously hurt us.
I was recently thinking a lot about trust in a new relationship. It just dawned on me that I loved normally, I reached out, I cared about her feelings, I loved in a sensible normal ways, and I couldn’t figure out why she just couldn’t. Then I realized she just refused to, but I thought it was an insecurity problem not to tear down her walls for me, and trust that after 25 years I had proven she could.
I gave so much, and I’m glad to be free, but I don’t have friends or family like she does. So hint, hint, that’s what I need to acquire now I guess. I deserve normal, and someone deserves to have me in their life as well. Hard to value yourself in a self absorbed narcissistic world. I do value myself though, and if I gotta do it alone, then so be it.
Great video Andrew. Yes after being discarded he walked away from me like I wasn't there not even bye nothing. I know the whole relationship was a lie and it was my hope that kept me with the narcissist for so long. I have learned that everything he did and said was just to get as much from me as he could and when I couldn't give anymore I was out like garbage alone and hurt and broken. Now I'm thankful that it happened I am now free of that monster and doing much better. Thank you everyone for your kind words and thank you Andrew for your wisdom and great video. Stay strong everyone.
I was discarded after 24 years and being engaged. Worst feeling that I ever went through. Everything in this video is so very true. There is no one on this channel better then Andrew. He is the BEST!!! He is informative and unbelievably knowledgeable. He has helped me learn about narcissism. THANKS so very much Andrew
All true! Love theses videos
❤️🤘✝️ Everything happens for a reason, everyone keep healing one day at a time
Giggling oh that was good!💗out of the blue that was so good the French fry thing love it LMBO had me laughing out loud seriously! 😂
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I understand 💯 it's over when I loose interest or just don't want to work for the Narcissistic anymore,Im learning to discard first ,because I have more wisdom 🙏 but I not a cold
Dead person ,& there's a certain amount of grief 😔 and relief at the loss of a person !!
For me, this is one of the top videos- if not the best that I can relate too! I’m just thrown under the bus like I never existed to him! Well now I see it as a blessing in disguise! Time to move forward! Find people who DO appreciate me and my light and love! I appreciate this video very much!
Andrew, another epic video! All points well taken and experienced. It's hard to admit that I was just a stange hand in the grand play that my X had prepared for himself! In any event, we are all here in the safe community that you created. We continue to live and learn. I thank you.
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Existing at bare bones minimum; that's exactly how I feel, dragging my bones through the motions of daily life in a foggy battle field
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I have been warned by utube and had my comment deleted tonight because it violated community guidelines. so loving kindness and by love to all.
I always was on his phone screensaver on a photo of us together, and was a bit upset when he changed the photo to that of his dog, not of the two of us . I know now why sadly
Sound understanding, you must’ve been through a real F-5 🌪️ ………..✔️🤦🏼♂️
I’m watching this one over again!
You said it "to my detriment and there betterment"... exactly
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I am now afraid of them. No way I am going to take a chance to start a relationship with someone. Getting education here I now know that I am empathic. I also have CPTSD. I had therapy for it and have no anxiety anymore but think meeting another narcissist will trigger me. But I am happy that I can see through people and have now confidence and no fear to stand up to them. But I don't need the hassle. I love my peace and comfort. I disconnected my cellphone in 2017 and am happy without it.
We didn't exist, in their eyes. Merely a source of supply to them. So thankful for you, Andrew, for these past several months during my healing. Don't know what I would have done without you and your channel. For anyone currently going through a discard, it truly does get better. You will reach the Pinnacle of indifference. We can't let these energy vampires take anymore of our lives away! Thanks for the lesson, narc, and thanks for showing me my real value❤
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Yep this was what led to the forced discard because I noticed the changes in his social media. What’s interesting is I did take one peak at his social media since then and I noticed he’s doing the same thing to the new supply. These people never change. Wash rinse repeat
Lucky escape for you, alliemarie. Some women are unfortunate enough to spend decades married to these kind of people.
He picked the wrong one because I wouldn't give up. I don't think I could care about anyone again. I don't look for red flags anymore. I have no need to.
last thing ... my thought is that Andrew teaches guided meditation for those who don't know how
the key to freedom. Love you all and always be well. ❤
I like that they moved on. THANK God it's OVER!!!
Andrew, you are a funny guy! You shouldn’t eat French Fries. Life isn’t all puppy bones. A little dark humor really helps. Your videos are now part of my daily therapy. And it’s the first thing I look at to start my day.
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Hi Andrew 😊thank you for another perfectly apt video!!
I've finally learned .from you , that I've suffered these 'creatures' in most of my personal relationships .
I NEVER questioned anything, but knew how unhappy I was, but asumed I was just unlucky to have found another control freak.
My boyfriend is the one who woke me up to actually noticing the 'pattern' of the narcissistic abuse which lead me to your channel.
Thank you ,as your wisdom is helping me understand so much, and how to deal with things much better.
I now know I'm an empath and that these 'creatures' want to feed from me ( and so many of us) ...but NO MORE!! xx
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There were many signs from the very beginning of the relationship which unfortunately I overlooked to my detriment.
Yeah, that was the one major thing I couldn't get! 8.5 years of marriage down the drain!!!!
All the I Love You's, The Intamacy, The Birthday Cards, Valentines Day Cards, Anniversary Cards, Christmas Cards, Dinners we had going out as a married couple, holding hands, kisses, ect. And like a light Switch,,,,, COMPLETELY OFF!
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Sometimes, I feel like one of many long distance runners and you're handing everyone a bottle of water that shares a healing, refreshing education ... born by a hard look at your own experience.Thanks Andrew!🏃🏃♀🙏👍
Awesome comment! 💎
Great post!
Another great video, Andrew. 😊
He waited 1 day shy of a full month before he offered that my key still fits in the door...I could come home if I was tired, or just wanted a break from WHATEVER I WAS DOING, BUT!! He was not TRYING or WANTING to control me...ahahahahahahaha!! Good thing...that effort would wear ya out!!! He is likely spinning in circles...good. Theres enough energy in those gaslights, and lies to keep him spinning a long while! Damn that feels good!!! 😂😂❤❤
Yes Andrew. I'll repeat what I have said before, even when they are dying they will invalidate you, your life, your beliefs. On their death bed they will say what will say the unforgettable to hurt you.
Like Thanks giving to these creatures 😂 . You nailed it
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Oh man, you so made my night lol! Love you my friend. You send it so hard and real and are opening so many eyes.
These “creatures” is a perfect definition of them Andrew. Jekyll and Hyde exactly 💯👌🏼
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Yep your so right about the taking pictures topic. My ex narc never took pictures with me out of 13 years together I remember her talking one picture with me and in that one she still didn't look happy. I've talked to her saying let's go take some pictures of us and she would say no! Even Christmas 2021 the last Christmas together before I was discarded in January 2022 I tried to take a selfie of me by the Christmas tree and she was in the background on the couch she saw that I was going to take the picture and she said no!!! And got out of the way as fast as she could. Big red flag! But it's funny too me that she loves to take pictures of herself with a lot of makeup on by herself I saw her UA-cam profile picture and I got mad at her she was wearing a shirt showing off her cleavage she doesn't dress that way around the house or when she was out with me pretending to the world to be something's she's not! Trying to look single but in her mind I believe she thought she was. To her I was just a glorified caregiver.
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