a narcissist's worst nightmare is an educated empath. the gig is up at that point. and they'll discard you quickly. but you'll know the truth. and they'll hate you for it.
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone thanks for the feedback andrew. excellent video, i will def be watching more of your other videos. cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
Exactly, i think she knows i know, since then she looks like a frightened animal and remains silent. It's good to see my childhood abuser completely defeated, my inner power regained 👏😊
The Ex was a Covert narcissist and I’m a super empath. It took me down HARD! When I confronted him and the family was on Christmas Eve. The holidays are a huge trigger for me. I’m living my best life now even though I lost all my family in the process. I’m glad I found this channel!
I was devalued and in process being discarded when I hit her with a divorce lawsuit before she vanished . I'm currently engaged in the divorce process and o 8:10 ptimist of better days ahead. Hell and out! The mental fog was heavy took me to long to figure it out and came across this and other informative channels.Thanks
They’re so vicious and toxic. Yes, they know. It’s a sad mental condition but you can’t feel sorry for them because their behavior is so insidious. Thank you Andrew.
@@fsr1391 I thought it too was a mental condition until I started to get educated with all of these videos. Mental Illness does not behave this way. This is a demonic disorder. These demons are calculating. They know who work on and who not to work on. That is evil demonic influence. Ephesians 6:12.
Breaking free from the narc is so hard because they literally drain every ounce of energy from you in order to keep you stuck. And then there's the fear of the reaction and the rage. When I was in my deepest despair I almost lost my house on purpose in order to get rid of "it". These people are demons, literal demons. I escaped only with the power of The Holy Spirit.
@@AsToldByUfa Not religious, but believe in God and I'm sending prayers to you. The key is to STOP THINKING ABOUT WHAT WE DON'T WANT AND THINK ABOUT WHAT WE DO WHAT. Not them, only for us. Think only about what you want that doesn't include them. I was in so much despair and I began doing this, and it seems a whole new world is opening up. Not fast, but it's happening.
My mother, aunties, uncles. deceased husband, my deceased husband family, and my adult kids all are overt narc. I have been hurt for years and have been rebuilding myself up since 2016. I can write a tragic novel my deceased husband was a malignant psychopath. These people are satanic and their flying monkeys. My mother's covert husband is a pedophile that is another story. My sister said as long as our mother is alive we will never be sisters and brothers. I live in another town and met 3 other violent narcs and have been single since 2016. They are child like, even my mother. I wasn't discarded. But I had been hovered a few times and none of these things worked to make me go back to these demons. I don't even think about a man nor my family. I love my kids but they told me they are narcs and I was the weakest link between me and their deceased father which they all took after him and they give me the silent treatment for months or a year like I stay away from my mother and her husband, and my sister and brothers. I have healed now. Thank God!
I agree 🙏only Jesus can heal us. I m healed for 3 years now and these people are not human but devils. Glory and Praise our Lord JC and father God 🙏 Back then I did not know NPD and got stuck for 13 years. Thank you Andrew for sharing and wish you all the best!
@@jannlewandowski5540 I knew something was wrong for years, but narcissism wasn't in my vocabulary until 2021. I've removed myself from all the narcs ... Previously, I had been brainwashed into accepting blame...that I was the 'crazy' one. No, I was reacting to unending abuse. Came close to death many times. GOD has other plans! They couldn't kill me and now I'm a new and healing person. Still love them, but from afar, and Yes I love me more!!!!! Hope you are healing and loving yourself first.💪🌞🤗👍
The person you were when you met the NRC / Borderline person is not the same person you are today. We will never be fooled again by another one of these petulant adult children. I don’t feel sorry for her anymore for her constant complaints and victim-mentality. It was all a ruse, a sham, and I accept that. I forgive myself for being tricked by this personality type. I’m enjoying being alone and working on myself. Thank you Andrew!!!!!!! Namaste and May God almighty bless you!!!!
The narcissist discarded me but still wanted to keep in the loop as a "friend," that's when I knew they were crazy. They promised to call me back but guess what I did....BLOCK AND DELETE!!!!!!
Honestly, I do not know which is more excruciating; to be discarded or to be forced into a reverse discard. After years of pouring out your heart and your love, while contending with with heartless devaluation and unimportance, then to finally stand up and say "no more", no matter what loss I have to suffer, no matter what scorn will come from the monkeys, no matter how sick I will feel for how long, alone....NO MORE! Fifteen years later, I am so grateful to GOD for seeing me through a living nightmare. I am well, happy and have many things to look forward to; he is dying a miserable, slow, death.
Happy holidays everyone! Even if you’ve lost your family due to a narcissist, we are all healing family together here. We are your family and that’s okay. Love always ❤
It’s that guilt they hold inside. They know what they did. Seen my ex father in law driving by. He looked, noticed me, looked away fast. Guilt does that to people.
Merry Christmas to everyone who has had this emotional abuse. You are stronger than you think you are. Keep strong. You know your reality, feel your feelings, stay in love with yourself. You don’t need emotional abusers. You are a wonderful person. Give yourself that love. Have faith. Learn the lesson and detach. You can do this. You are loved ❤️❤️❤️ Thank you Andrew ❤️❤️❤️
If it weren't for you Andrew, and a couple other channels, and the community, I would be stuck in my emotions today. Thank you for all you do to help push us through. I wish everyone here all the blessings and hope that this day holds and the very best in 2024.
Your story sounds like mine. I left him. He didn't know my car was packed and he broke up with me over text while I was driving away. Pathetic and perfect, because now he can't play victim. That text message is now exhibit A in my affidavit for court. His following abusive texts became more exhibits for the court. One thing about them, is they are stupid.I have experienced homelessness. Isolation, crying in my car, a ruptured disk, my retina detached. I am on the other end of that now.. stronger than ever!!! It took getting angry to finally make it easy to say no!
Hooray! One step ahead of his game. Read somewhere, "It's OK to be angry ... for the right reason, at the right person, right place and time and to the right degree."👍
My Narcissist appears to be getting extremely desperate. It has been 2 years since I was discarded. I blocked them everywhere and went no contact. Suddenly in the past two weeks they are manifesting with emails from new/different email account. Hovering telling me what a great thing we had and how much they miss me. I couldn't give a shit less about the Narcissist, I mean it I feel Nothing for that monster. I keep tagging them as spam. I can't imagine how stupid they think I am??? No way not if they were the last human on this planet would I let them back in. I am over it.
Hearing this “the Narc didn’t think I could put myself together “is the best gift I have received today !🎄 your channel has guided me all year and I’m feeling thankful for close friends and family ! Discarded Dec 23rd 2022 after a 27 year marriage. 💪😊
Cindy, I was the same, 'dumped' 24th Dec 2021 after 28 yrs, 5 kids. 2 yrs on, a full time job I love, ( was a stay home mum) my own home, 8 hrs from him. Thriving. Grieving the relationship, but not him!
My ex narc despises the fact that I am still on this planet and putting my life back together. Knowing this makes me smile. The last time we communicated I wished him light and love always. He has not made me a bitter, angry person and that enrages him. Thank you for your videos. God bless.
I accepted Hoover today in honor of Christmas today! Well what a mistake!! It didn’t end well! So I blocked him today; cant take another day of him& abuse! Today I got a blessed gift from God- I got the strength to block him and rid him! It’s lonely today but I’m not alone- God is with me, I’m being set free from the (sick) narc! Time to heal; just like you say Andrew!❤️💚🥰💚🙏🙏
I stood up to myself as soon as he said he wants to do some woman "exploring" while on a relationship. As for me that didn't go down too well as l realised what a fool l was in believing he loved me and wanted a monogamous r'ship, it wasn't true. He lied. So l cut him off completely that was months ago. I'm still on healing journey feeling better each day. Thank you Andrew, you have been my inspiration. 😊
Today, i felt triggered, fooled, and ashamed that my ex narcissist... also, the father of my child loved me. He never did. Because narc can't love. I'm not alone. Power to you leaving the narc and your healing journey
@@nleativa Its lie lesson for all of us involved and watching Andrew in his own journey of post narcissist recovery means we can chat about it and recognise the signs in the future.
You describing that zombie state gave me goosebumps.. I was in that state for years. Started with self harm, suicidal ideation and crying to people.. but then I learned to “function” with it, everything I was doing was achieving nothing. I just needed to leave and learn about narcissism.
So, so sorry, Tom. But what you came to realize is true. Nobody really understands what you went through or were going through unless they went through it themselves. That fact leaves one very alone, lost, desperate. But you're HERE! It's a great, loving, understanding, caring and helpful place to visit every day. We're family! You have a strong future ahead. It just takes one baby step after another to get there. ❤
@@donnahalsted7718 Thank you ❤ I'll be going to a psych soon, definitely baby steps. I still don't know how to feel honestly, feels like I've been living in an alternate reality. It's very surreal.
I felt like I was slowly dying of heartbreak, loneliness and neglect. I knew I would die if I stayed - that my spirit would be extinguished. He was fine with what I was experiencing and told me I was imagining things; nothing was wrong; it was all in my head. After I left, he told my daughter that he was concerned that I might kill myself. My attorney set me straight and told me to be hyper vigilant that my ex might be planning to hurt me. And, he went on a field trip to visit all our joint friends and his family to tell them that he thought I was nuts (he even attempted it with my wonderful parents)and that's when I slowly began to understand that I had been walking on quicksand for 28 years.
Andrew really needed this message today 😊just received a hoover from my ex after 3 years saying how much he loves me..😅 what a load of rubbish I lost everything house,family, friends but I came back,now new home,new friends and new family....now he has nothing
Ever since the moment you really get...ive never thought of the narctriss without the thought of premeditated, sadistic, emotional abusing sociopath. Since that moment...zero trauma bond.
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAloneSounds like you were there in my case. To this day, of I hadn’t found out about narcissism I wouldn’t have known anything. It’s as if I never existed! Thank you, Andrew.
I’ve been free for 11 months and 3 days, it’s been the hardest thing I’ve ever done. I’m alone for Christmas well I have my wonderful support animal and I’m finally feeling awesome. Such a year of dealing with everything Andrew speaks about. I’ve stayed off social media but curiosity got me last night and I saw his Facebook, oooh he looks horrible and I admit I laughed my ass off. I still have life changes ahead, but I know I’m smart, strong and wonderful. I can do it! Thanks Andrew ,happy holiday to all, you’re all wonderful great things are coming.
The narcissists underestimated us 🫢🤷♀️ we even surprised ourselves! ❤❤❤ Thank you for taking time out of your Christmas day to record this message Andrew! You are INCREDIBLY loved and appreciated!!! Merry Christmas!!! 🎄🎁🎅🤶❤️💖🌹😘😘
My Health went 3 months after marriage, our relationship started 1 yr and 3 months before marriage! I had never heard of narcissism. My daughter educated me of this.
Thank you for this! 🙌🏼❤️ yeah he didn’t think I could put my life back together. I am daily doing this. And I can breathe again. No more punishment. No more fog.
To all of you who are still in the cycle, what I see is that every exwife of my ex-narcs (husband and longtime partner) are living a far more better life in freedom after a couple of years have went by. They all are sucessful women who look healthy and beautiful. Myself seven years after the divorce I have a great job, a house, no debts , wonderful warmhearted friends an 2 grownup children which I have a close relationship to. Now looking for a dog to share my happy life with😊 My exhusband has crashed our company and is living now in a small apartment, looks old and thin. So please, never give up hope. Sorry for my english. I hope you understand what I want to say. Merry christmas from Germany❤
Bless you, Andrew, and the message today. Admit..Im a bit emotional. Reflecting this time last year, on Christmas, I thought me and the ex narcissist were in a good place. Nothing could be further from the truth. It was just the beginning of a horrific ride of abuse, gas lighting, and abandonment while pregnant. I was gradually breadcrumbed and discarded for the next supply. The reminder I'm the beautiful bright shining light of abundance, and I'm on the healing path.... was needed. I love you, Andrew, and this community. Once again, thank you for the time and message❤ Today I get to enjoy my sons first Christmas 🎄
When first entering into a narcissistic relationship, I would’ve never thought that person was a narcissist had I not been educated on narcissism. I always thought I was the one in the wrong and tried to figure out what I could do to make things better. Now learning about all this, I can be able to spot the red flags and what to avoid to protect myself.
My Brother is the narcissist I've been dealing with. It's Christmas day and ....as I totally expected.... a text came with an apology and words of familial love. The last I heard from him was a 6 paragraph e-mail naming all my sins and flaws. Because of this channel I know that my brother feels neither love nor remorse.... so my silence will continue. I was the last sibling of 8 who would deal with him.
I received a text from my brother the day before my birthday, reminding me that the next day was my birthday. I never received a happy birthday text on my birthday . That is ridiculous. I was no contact for three years, so I am going no contact again. I think he is more covert narc. My dad was a malignant narcissist.
You were the brave one! So was I. Bro left nothing but ashes behind and purloined what he didn't ruin. But because of him I've discovered the huge problem in my life: a good one and a bad one. I'm too empathetic! The bad: every narc recognizes it and comes to peck my carcass! The good: I'm learning to spot them and build not just sturdy boundaries around myself, but solid walls with some of these vultures. I've also discovered many numbers of narc "friends", relatives and relationships besides Bro in my past. At 77 YO, I think Bro was the worst! Keep healing! You're amazing!
I feel like sending my narc sister a "Thank you" card. Thanking her for opening my eyes to narcissism and thanking her because I'll now have a much better life because of her because I know what to look out for going forward. And thank you andrew for more wisdom today! Merry christmas!
I could've shared your same comment. Both of my sisters have taught me who a Narcissist is. I have blocked and praying I don't have to have any kind of relationship with them again. They contribute NOTHING but drama. They are takers. They want all of the attention and control all of the time, so I decided to give them what they want. I've dropped the mic, I'm out. 😊
@@odeltor8703 I hear what you said. The sister and the brother never once in their entire lives ever apologized, in 68, and 67 years. That has registered in my mind. Thanks.
I've been around narcissists all my life. My father my three husbands. And lastly this last friend who finally opened my eyes by treating me badly right after we got together. Thanks to you I opened my eyes and shut him down before he could take me down. I'm still in the process of getting away. Using grey rocking and learning to love myself and protecting my heart. So again thank you so much for your smarts. I couldn't do this without you ❤
The crazy thing about this grey rocking thing is I did it naturally because I was so beaten down. I had done so much work on myself before I met this person that I always knew something was off. It took close to 3 years for me to be discarded enough to finally shut down and stop reacting how they wanted. I just became a non caring non emotional non giving person Working on becoming myself again, but it has been rough.
Thats EXACTLY what happened to me! Wow! Every word is truth even down to having no one checking in on me, calling me stupid, and even taking his side. It was like they all planned it together 😮 I'm still crawling my way back but I'm making it with the help Jesus Christ. They can all kiss my ass! I'd rather be alone for the rest of my life than to spend another minute with a narcissist!!! I was suicidal for about two years but God still has plans for me I guess. I don't know that I'll ever heal but I'm gonna stick it out until the end for Jesus! I still have love in me so I'm not a total lost cause. I love helping folks down and out on the streets. Even in my despair I still have a few bucks, a hug, or maybe even a ride I can offer because I know what it feels like to be discarded. Thanks for letting me share ❤❤❤
Wow Andrew it’s like you are describing me here! My narc of seven years who I had this on and off relationship with, never thought I would give him the silent treatment that I’m giving him now, and I feel very empowered! Every time he ghosted me (and eventually discarded me, something that I didn’t understand), I was always the one to break the silence and then he would hoover and love bomb me back into the relationship. In November this year I came across your channel, Dr Ramani and many others, and my eyes opened and I learned about his behaviour. I immediately went no contact after he love bombed me. The shenanigans took me seven years to figure out, this year 2023 being the seventh! Guess what, today on Christmas Day he emails me and sends me Christmas wishes, even though I haven’t been responding to his last emails and I have blocked him on my phone! He has a surprise waiting for him because I will never EVER respond to him or have anything to do with him! I almost lost my mind, and I have learned a lesson! I ain’t going back!!! Thanks Andrew you’re a star, keep them coming 👏🏻
It took me five years of going through the same exact thing and an additional two years of trying to avoid any and all of his love bombs of sending flowers, leaving birthday cards on my car with money in it and a written letter which BTW he would never do any of these things for me when we were supposedly together in a relationship but I did all of those beautiful things for him and more because that's just who I am. I even made weekend reservations at the Poconos after he discarded me one time because I wanted us to have some alone time to be able to come to an understanding of what the problem was with all of the break-ups and make-ups that kept going on between us but unbeknownst to me, he was discarding me everytime I wouldn't let him take full advantage of me . It took for me to get back into a relationship with an ex from 16 yrs. prior to the 2 yrs. since I had been with the last ex who is a narcissist, for me to find out that the current one was a narcissist as well who BTW I almost did some things to because of his narcissistic nonsense. There was someone that said to me that their mate called them a narcissist and from then on, any and all videos started popping up on my phone about narcissism so I kept getting deeper with the research and OMG! I could do nothing but clutch my invisible pearls, become more angrier, and more distant from a lot of people, including family that have these same traits and I now pay more attention than the usual to each individual and everything about them. Stay away from these people. SMH
One full week no contact and she hasn’t tried to reach out except for her two accidental contact attempts. The urges to reach out have diminished and with Andrew’s video I’m starting to get back on my feet. It’s due to my support group that I was able to see her for what she is and they pulled me away. I owe it to them. Andrew thank you for all that you’ve done for me.
I told my narcissist this past December one last time I was going to the police to report him if he come around again. Now I put my foot down on that monster...I haven't heard nothing from him all us silent..so far..
I’m still happy that I don’t have someone lying , ghosting, cheating, canceling on holiday events. I’m free to celebrate my way, gratefully! ( 4 yrs out)
My narc is frightened i do not react anymore, I respond. I can see what she's doing. I love Andrew and his channel amongst others. You have given me the tools to build a defensive strategy that has been a revealing situation for the narc. I'm saving an innocent soul.
After two decades of being a empath to the level of martyrdom, escaped twenty plus years ago. Now the narc goes after our children; threatening to disown them because they have also set boundaries. We are never rid of these demons.
It was a year ago today that i told myself, "i can't do this anymore". 5 months now on my own property. Divorce in progress. Close to being legally free from his insanity. My 22 yrs with this narc is well explained throughout Andrew's videos. Thank you Andrew.
Spot on again. My ex once said to me 'you will never work me out' but with your UA-cam channel I 😮 DID work him out. Keep up the good work and thank u.
The holidays can be a huge trigger for all of us who have suffered the narcissistic abusive relationship. You need to grieve the loss of what you believed to be true. It takes a long time and a strong resolve. I would suggest that as you heal, on these holidays you celebrate your freedom from such a toxic relationship. Begin new ways of being and leave the pain behind. Have faith that you will heal and be happier than you can imagine! Namaste and may all blessings come your way!!!
She disappeared for 5 days. I left the 3rd day. AND when she came back i was gone. She called me freaking out AND she expected me to be there waiting. Purely EVIL. It felt so low in my house. Had to get out ❤🙏💪
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone THANK you Andrew. You were the first person I reached out to. Made a few mistakes. Block unblock block unblock. IT'S OVER.. i reached that point. And shut her out. What a life experience...🙏
Thank you for being my needle in the haystack. I'm alive and well today fighting a battle like no other. Yet there's so much power in being aware. Thank you so much Andrew and Merry Christmas brother. Stay blessed.
You are amazing Andrew, and yes ive had to tell the toxic person in my life to leave me alone so many times that i had to get a restraining order placed on her, it seams they dont want the toxic roller-coaster from hell to end, merry Christmas Andrew, god bless you and im glad you got yourself a chair to use,
...lowest place possible no contact after 3 yrs w my son. My achievements if he knew would be laughable to him. I'm happier than my lowest moments because of ppl like Andrew...keep shining brighter!
Marry Christmas to all people here! It's not easy to be discarded but now I see it as a favour. It's possibility to live much better, once when you realise how unfair and cruel we were treated.
It was a year ago I first saw my first video in your collection. It could not have been so timely! I did exactly that. I researched. learnt and had the strength to walk away. Watching this today has helped me reflect and see how well I have healed. The narc was a clever covert but as the fog lifted and reality was plain to see, I emerged the victor. Thank you Andrew
Thank You Andrew! Ok got hit twice (I am an empath) first time ex husband 20 yrs and left for dead. Took me 10 years to climb back up.3.5 years ago round two came in this time a different strategy was used. I cut him off 3 times! Well I am happy to report that today was the day - Full Cut! Blocked all the way around! True Freedom! Sending you love love love!
I was thrown into a wall. He said afterward that he did it to protect himself from ME! In that moment, like a light bulb, I was done. Four days later I was gone 2,000 km away while he was at work. Zero contact since that day in august. Took 3 months to walk without pain, then I found a job and haven’t looked back. In a way I needed to hit that wall, and he needed to say that lie, otherwise I might still be there. I’m so thankful for my eyes being opened. It never had anything to do with me, but it took 25 years to see that.
As I was discarded,I thought that must it feel if you die. So hurtful,I never felt like this before,my health made me to see a hospital. Two weeks,after checking in,the Narcisst stand outside and I said to him: Please don't forget me,I'll be back home in two weeks. He turns around and said: I'm sorry,you couldn't. There is another woman since two weeks and he smiled into my face. Go to his car and drove away. The next thing I know is,I'm falling down to earth. A nurse take me in,asking for a doctor. Crying Dr. maybe a nervous breakdown. The Dr. placed me in his room,speaking to me and giving me medication to calm me down,I can't stop crying. The medical team saw what happened and who he treated me. If they hear what's been spoken,I don't know. Now they have to deal with this before the operation could be done. The thing that shocks and hurts me the most are,how can a person who said he loves,I gave all that I have,do whatever he wants and he could see me falling and say such things and drove away,as I was a complete stranger. I couldn't to that,I never had and no friend,no colleque or my sister believe me,that he did what he did. Calling me a lier,I must have done something horrable that he treat me like this. No I don't,since the last minute. Why I share this here,because I hope someone believed me. As I wrote this,it triggers me. He was never seen since then,it was like he had never existed,I know now his love never existed. But I'm alone,he is the victim. After leaving hospital after 19 weeks,because they didn't want me to leave and I had to find a new place for living. Being alone,wrote my sister because I couldn't call her,because she move. I have no address or telephon number. Only an Mail adress. I wrote: I need your help,she answered: First I go on vaccation for two weeks. After that,I never ask again. Never heard from her,never speak with her or any other people I had introduced him to. Last november he tried to hoover me,but failed. Should I not be happy,I escapt. The truth is,if he don't discard I had never leave. Why because he said in Church in good times and in worth,like I did. But for him,this promise are only a few words.
Narcissism can be viewed as the epitome of sin, as individuals choose to be their own gods, seeking self-worship and control. The book of Proverbs addresses this concept by referring to narcissistic behaviors as foolishness. The fool makes his own rules, scoffs at rebuke, and disregards the harm his actions may cause.
Andrew, another great talk, thank you. I thought I knew what a narcissist was during my life, then in my mid 40s I met one and turned out I had no idea what a narcissist was and wish I never knew. Only two years and the damage she caused is gona take years to get over. I can handle the fact of giving up my house. Having to now rebuild relationships with my family and friends, the most damage done is my self worth and confidence. She broke me down to a point I was loosing my own identity. I am so greatful for a few of my friends and family members who helped me see her for what she is. A year on and I'm still not myself. But I'm on the road to recovery and doing alot better.
Our marriage counselor told me the ex was a sociopath, and that info helped me head the right direction in healing, but still had multitude of questions and I desperately needed resolve. When I clicked on a narcissist site, it answered ALL the questions I had. He NEVER thought I would stand up for myself in the divorce. I didn't want to. I wanted to just die! But I knew I HAD TO! KNOWING he is empty, vacuous, without any feeling, care or love....for anyone or anything.....truly cut the last string. (That is the most difficult hurdle as well.....believing a person can be so void of humanity) Then, realizing the parental units and siblings, and friends, all were a problem, and meant more healing. I walked away from the marriage at age 50, so I have had LOTS of education and healing to do, but every day gets better! Please, don't give up and don't stay...GET OUT!
A nite mares,,mind destroying,,and physical as well,,damaged for life ,,,loss financial,also,,,what a journey,,total broken,,,but alive ,,,thank god,,,,,,
You're right they're not the brightest light in the Barn,,he overplayed his hand I was observing him all the time,,,so glad I left him,,😂😂,,,I putting my Best foot forward now,,Courage Strengthens @ a Wound,,(my family Motto)¡T.Y.Andrew you have Helped me So Much,,with your Teachings,,🎄❤️😇🙏🏻✝️👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
When they overplay their hand, again and again, the words, really stupid, sure seem to fit. Stupid is not a word I usually use. But sometimes is just fits.
How is it possible that you were watching my life for three decades.? I will save this message and read it often to help keep my barriers up against toxic people in this is so challenging time we are in. Thank you Andrew from the bottom of my heart. Spread this message and take good care of yourself. Namaste.
Awful day like no doubt many others- coldness and passive contempt and zero value shown in me today - couldn’t even send me a Christmas card but got her thoughtful things and a nice card. Breadcrumbed but perpetually made to feel worthless- I need to exit this I cannot go through another year of this - Nathan
Get away & be FREE. Yes, it is hard, but get off the hamster wheel!!! Get out! Rise again better & more aware. You CAN live without them. You are NOT ALONE!
I have been simply existing for 23 years. By the grace of God, I have discovered a newfound confidence and remembering who I was before him. Only problem is, I can't shake this dude. He will not freaking budge!!! I WISH he'd discard me. I have to be careful and watch how I get out. He's dangerous...
Andrew, once again, you and everyone here that responds are saving my soul. My ex tried to kill me, literally. I did not see the pure hatred he harbored for me but now I know his end game was me...dead, saying I love you all along the way. His whole life is a lie.He actually believes his own lies, but underneath I would imagine that is the reason he smoked pot all day all and got extremely high every night. He most likely could not handle his reality sober. His new supplies, all the money he took from me, will be gone at some point. Yes, my rebuild seems like a huge task, however at least my foundation is truth. No do harm. My dogs saved my life, too. They sensed his evil and acted differently. Now, they are eating well, extra cuddly, and seem content in my new humble life and tiny home. I have been brought to my knees, humiliated, and terribly abused. Now I just enjoy breathing lol!
Good observation. Reason for the lack of any sincere apologies in their lifetimes. I step back and see the deep seated insecurity, hidden by such a well crafted mask.
Happy Christmas Andrew and everyone here. Thank you for taking the time to do another video and especially today, with it being Christmas day.....started off feeling very low this morning.....I no longer have a family to come to dinner.....not feeling too bad now thank God. The lessons you share with us everyday are reinforcing the message home....and it makes us stronger....looking back we are picking ourselves up every day and our characters are being made more resilient....there is a purpose to our pain...it's called "growth".
After all the pain, it was glorious to see them underestimate me. I am a very sensitive person, and that makes me vulnerabe (but the other side of that coin is beautiful). They mistook that for weakness. When they tried to torpedo me, I was supposed to break down. But I turned the tables. Life is better now. Sometimes people ask or talk about them to me, and I stop it, and say I live in oblivion. Ask someone else. Thus I know they are not well. But I keep them out of _my_ life. Mine. Sensitive means my pain and mourning is intense. But it means beauty and love is too.
Thank you for your kindness to everyone, even on a holiday, and other days of the year. Some people make the world a better place. Let us all make the most of what you voice to us.
The former narc friend said to me one day after about 1 year into this one-sided facade of a friendship "Thank you for putting up with my bulls*it" --- I knew that day something wasn't quite right. And today, here is Andrew casting megawatts of lights -- "They knew what they were doing to you." I walked away, have celebrated 7 months no contact and never looked back. I received 1 email -- "happy birthday" - I never responded. Not sure how this blocked email got through the filters I set. So weird. Now she can put up with my silence. This is my peace on earth.
Exactly they know who they are, 💯 I just read the messages between me and the unscrupulous that was a year ago after the divorce, and I swear they know exactly that they are projecting themselves ( Shape shift ) I was astonishing that I couldn’t even see it that time. OOOh lord. This is a life lesson, Will change you deep from your core
You are speaking the truth. This time last year, I was making my escape from the narcissistic devil. In the cold of December and deciding what my next move will be. So different now. Been away year. ❤God has been good to and met all my needs. I've had time to reflect on what I've gone through for 20 years. Still healing. Thank you Jesus.
One key aspect to these relationships is that we must work on our unconscious perceived feelings of 'lack' that we may project to these persons. These feelings of lack may be part of our social programming and limiting beliefs . There is a broader false identity that we detach from as we detach from these people.
Your description is perfect to the t. And she must have been confused. She was looking down and me and tried to put me down all the time. Yet she knew I had more knowledge, more skills and more possibilities. She also knew I see patterns with minimal information. She should've known I'd figure her out and still she didn't take that into account. For all of you still in the claws of the narcissist: They can be beaten and you are the strong one.
" ... see patterns with minimal information."- Some like you, have this talent. I was too slow to see it. Will speed it up. Life is too short to keep sludging through mud with toxic people. Basically, this channel opened my eyes to 'those patterns."
@@jhavajoe3792 We all have different talents. Sometimes they're a blessing, sometimes a curse. Good to hear that the community have been helpful. No one should be treated the way narcissists their victims.
May your 2024 be NARCISSIST FREE!
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Amen! 🙏🙏🙏🙏
ABSOLUTELY! 2024 ..WE ARE THE CHAMPIONS! WE WON!
Amen Amen
Thank You.
a narcissist's worst nightmare is an educated empath. the gig is up at that point. and they'll discard you quickly. but you'll know the truth. and they'll hate you for it.
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone thanks for the feedback andrew. excellent video, i will def be watching more of your other videos.
cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
Yeah. When he knew I knew, it was over.. His “face” changed before my eyes.
Smartest statement I've read in quite awhile 🤓👍
Exactly, i think she knows i know, since then she looks like a frightened animal and remains silent. It's good to see my childhood abuser completely defeated, my inner power regained 👏😊
I divorced a narcissist...if you have NOT lived through this experience...you cannot imagine this hurdle
Agreed, it's mind boggling how we deteriorate right in front of everyone and can't or won't admit why..
The Ex was a Covert narcissist and I’m a super empath. It took me down HARD! When I confronted him and the family was on Christmas Eve. The holidays are a huge trigger for me. I’m living my best life now even though I lost all my family in the process. I’m glad I found this channel!
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Coverts are THE WORST OF THE WORST of cluster B types! Double faced lying demons!!!
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My heart goes out to you. You are very strong and i am happy for you that you are living your best life now. Happy holidays ❤🙌🙏
@@mariefrancebourget1749 It was and is the hardest and scariest thing I’ve ever done. Merry Christmas and I hope you’re doing well.❤️
I was discarded. I am angry with myself for allowing this to happen. I am back on my two feet and standing tall.
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I hope that will be me too. I’ve been rag dolled for 2 years and only realized he is narcissistic. I’ve endured the entire cycle.
That makes two of us my friend 🙏🏻
I was devalued and in process being discarded when I hit her with a divorce lawsuit before she vanished . I'm currently engaged in the divorce process and o 8:10 ptimist of better days ahead. Hell and out! The mental fog was heavy
took me to long to figure it out and came across this and other informative channels.Thanks
They’re so vicious and toxic.
Yes, they know. It’s a sad mental condition but you can’t feel sorry for them because their behavior is so insidious.
Thank you Andrew.
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Every time I feel sorry and forgive, and try to forget, it bites me in the ass.
@@fsr1391 I thought it too was a mental condition until I started to get educated with all of these videos. Mental Illness does not behave this way. This is a demonic disorder. These demons are calculating. They know who work on and who not to work on. That is evil demonic influence. Ephesians 6:12.
The narcissist has many loyal worshipers. These people cannot think for themselves and follow the narcissist blindly sometimes to their own demise.
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Called enablers
Breaking free from the narc is so hard because they literally drain every ounce of energy from you in order to keep you stuck. And then there's the fear of the reaction and the rage. When I was in my deepest despair I almost lost my house on purpose in order to get rid of "it". These people are demons, literal demons. I escaped only with the power of The Holy Spirit.
Amen. I’m going through this currently
@@AsToldByUfa Not religious, but believe in God and I'm sending prayers to you. The key is to STOP THINKING ABOUT WHAT WE DON'T WANT AND THINK ABOUT WHAT WE DO WHAT. Not them, only for us. Think only about what you want that doesn't include them. I was in so much despair and I began doing this, and it seems a whole new world is opening up. Not fast, but it's happening.
My mother, aunties, uncles. deceased husband, my deceased husband family, and my adult kids all are overt narc. I have been hurt for years and have been rebuilding myself up since 2016. I can write a tragic novel my deceased husband was a malignant psychopath. These people are satanic and their flying monkeys. My mother's covert husband is a pedophile that is another story. My sister said as long as our mother is alive we will never be sisters and brothers. I live in another town and met 3 other violent narcs and have been single since 2016. They are child like, even my mother. I wasn't discarded. But I had been hovered a few times and none of these things worked to make me go back to these demons. I don't even think about a man nor my family. I love my kids but they told me they are narcs and I was the weakest link between me and their deceased father which they all took after him and they give me the silent treatment for months or a year like I stay away from my mother and her husband, and my sister and brothers. I have healed now. Thank God!
I agree 🙏only Jesus can heal us. I m healed for 3 years now and these people are not human but devils. Glory and Praise our Lord JC and father God 🙏
Back then I did not know NPD and got stuck for 13 years. Thank you Andrew for sharing and wish you all the best!
The narcissist never thought I would cut them out of my life....
Once that happened, I was able to heal ☺️
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carolprivate418, i left my narc sitting in his car. I never knew he was a narcissist. I found out later. 👍🎄🎄
@@jannlewandowski5540 I knew something was wrong for years, but narcissism wasn't in my vocabulary until 2021. I've removed myself from all the narcs ...
Previously, I had been brainwashed into accepting blame...that I was the 'crazy' one.
No, I was reacting to unending abuse.
Came close to death many times.
GOD has other plans!
They couldn't kill me and now I'm a new and healing person.
Still love them, but from afar, and Yes I love me more!!!!!
Hope you are healing and loving yourself first.💪🌞🤗👍
The person you were when you met the NRC / Borderline person is not the same person you are today. We will never be fooled again by another one of these petulant adult children. I don’t feel sorry for her anymore for her constant complaints and victim-mentality. It was all a ruse, a sham, and I accept that. I forgive myself for being tricked by this personality type. I’m enjoying being alone and working on myself. Thank you Andrew!!!!!!! Namaste and May God almighty bless you!!!!
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Amen brother. Same here!
They can have intellectual intelligence, but never emotional. They are forever angry, bitter, poorly behaved children. Toddlers even.
Silence is not a weapon. It is a Survival mechanism.
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Silence is victory for the empath. Amen. Amen.
Amen 🙏🏻
He never thought I would catch on and walk away 😳better off with out him - finding myself again 🙌
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God bless you sis 🙏🏼🕊️🤍
Now i choose to give my kindness, empathy and love only to people who really are worthy of it. Have a lovely afternoon Andrew. ❤❤
Beautifully said
Thank you. Merry Christmas ❤🙌🙏@@rosameijering5161
Agree 💯 Marie! Same here. Empowering. Best wishes to you ❤️
@@aprilmurch1054 yes indeed. Happy holidays 💞🙌🙏
@@donnamarrie3272 Happy holidays to you too 😊❤️🙌🙏
The narcissist discarded me but still wanted to keep in the loop as a "friend," that's when I knew they were crazy. They promised to call me back but guess what I did....BLOCK AND DELETE!!!!!!
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Honeypepper, good for you! 💕👍👍🖐
Good for you!
Honestly, I do not know which is more excruciating; to be discarded or to be forced into a reverse discard. After years of pouring out your heart and your love, while contending with with heartless devaluation and unimportance, then to finally stand up and say "no more", no matter what loss I have to suffer, no matter what scorn will come from the monkeys, no matter how sick I will feel for how long, alone....NO MORE! Fifteen years later, I am so grateful to GOD for seeing me through a living nightmare. I am well, happy and have many things to look forward to; he is dying a miserable, slow, death.
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Happy holidays everyone! Even if you’ve lost your family due to a narcissist, we are all healing family together here. We are your family and that’s okay. Love always ❤
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The narcissist' took my kindness for weakness and can't believe I will no longer tolerate the lies, cheating,s stinginess, and manipulation.
Can we stop saying they can't introspect or can't hold themselves accountable? They CHOOSE not to!
Absolutely, they must be held accountable or it will continue
It’s that guilt they hold inside. They know what they did. Seen my ex father in law driving by. He looked, noticed me, looked away fast. Guilt does that to people.
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Merry Christmas to everyone who has had this emotional abuse. You are stronger than you think you are. Keep strong. You know your reality, feel your feelings, stay in love with yourself. You don’t need emotional abusers. You are a wonderful person. Give yourself that love. Have faith. Learn the lesson and detach. You can do this. You are loved ❤️❤️❤️ Thank you Andrew ❤️❤️❤️
This comment is so strengthening. Thank you!
Beautiful ❤️💪🙏
Thank you❣️ Your reminders and support are priceless to me ❤️
Great comment 🥰🥰🙏🙏❤❤
If it weren't for you Andrew, and a couple other channels, and the community, I would be stuck in my emotions today. Thank you for all you do to help push us through.
I wish everyone here all the blessings and hope that this day holds and the very best in 2024.
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Ditto this!! 💪🙏🏼🫶
I agree!! I need these messages on a daily. Didn't realize this day would be a trigger
Thank you! Same to you 💕
me too
Your story sounds like mine. I left him. He didn't know my car was packed and he broke up with me over text while I was driving away. Pathetic and perfect, because now he can't play victim. That text message is now exhibit A in my affidavit for court. His following abusive texts became more exhibits for the court. One thing about them, is they are stupid.I have experienced homelessness. Isolation, crying in my car, a ruptured disk, my retina detached. I am on the other end of that now.. stronger than ever!!! It took getting angry to finally make it easy to say no!
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Hooray! One step ahead of his game. Read somewhere, "It's OK to be angry ... for the right reason, at the right person, right place and time and to the right degree."👍
My Narcissist appears to be getting extremely desperate. It has been 2 years since I was discarded. I blocked them everywhere and went no contact. Suddenly in the past two weeks they are manifesting with emails from new/different email account. Hovering telling me what a great thing we had and how much they miss me. I couldn't give a shit less about the Narcissist, I mean it I feel Nothing for that monster. I keep tagging them as spam. I can't imagine how stupid they think I am??? No way not if they were the last human on this planet would I let them back in. I am over it.
Hearing this “the Narc didn’t think I could put myself together “is the best gift I have received today !🎄 your channel has guided me all year and I’m feeling thankful for close friends and family ! Discarded Dec 23rd 2022 after a 27 year marriage. 💪😊
Absolutely 💯
Thanks
Some days are harder then others but Andrew is always there to guide ! 👍💪
Cindy, I was the same, 'dumped' 24th Dec 2021 after 28 yrs, 5 kids.
2 yrs on, a full time job I love, ( was a stay home mum) my own home, 8 hrs from him.
Thriving.
Grieving the relationship, but not him!
Not only that , but stronger 💪 than ever. 👊💪✌️😎💯
The narc tried to bring me to heel but ending up bringing me to heal. So thanks to them for that, at least.
My ex narc despises the fact that I am still on this planet and putting my life back together. Knowing this makes me smile. The last time we communicated I wished him light and love always. He has not made me a bitter, angry person and that enrages him. Thank you for your videos. God bless.
Welcome..😌😌🙏
I accepted Hoover today in honor of Christmas today!
Well what a mistake!! It didn’t end well!
So I blocked him today; cant take another day of him& abuse!
Today I got a blessed gift from God- I got the strength to block him and rid him!
It’s lonely today but I’m not alone- God is with me, I’m being set free from the (sick) narc!
Time to heal; just like you say Andrew!❤️💚🥰💚🙏🙏
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I stood up to myself as soon as he said he wants to do some woman "exploring" while on a relationship. As for me that didn't go down too well as l realised what a fool l was in believing he loved me and wanted a monogamous r'ship, it wasn't true. He lied. So l cut him off completely that was months ago. I'm still on healing journey feeling better each day. Thank you Andrew, you have been my inspiration. 😊
Welcome 🙏🙌😌
Today, i felt triggered, fooled, and ashamed that my ex narcissist... also, the father of my child loved me. He never did. Because narc can't love. I'm not alone. Power to you leaving the narc and your healing journey
@@nleativa Its lie lesson for all of us involved and watching Andrew in his own journey of post narcissist recovery means we can chat about it and recognise the signs in the future.
You describing that zombie state gave me goosebumps.. I was in that state for years. Started with self harm, suicidal ideation and crying to people.. but then I learned to “function” with it, everything I was doing was achieving nothing. I just needed to leave and learn about narcissism.
So, so sorry, Tom. But what you came to realize is true. Nobody really understands what you went through or were going through unless they went through it themselves. That fact leaves one very alone, lost, desperate. But you're HERE! It's a great, loving, understanding, caring and helpful place to visit every day. We're family!
You have a strong future ahead. It just takes one baby step after another to get there. ❤
It's crazy how deep disturbing it gets. I am glad you are out...
@@donnahalsted7718 Thank you ❤ I'll be going to a psych soon, definitely baby steps. I still don't know how to feel honestly, feels like I've been living in an alternate reality. It's very surreal.
I felt like I was slowly dying of heartbreak, loneliness and neglect. I knew I would die if I stayed - that my spirit would be extinguished. He was fine with what I was experiencing and told me I was imagining things; nothing was wrong; it was all in my head. After I left, he told my daughter that he was concerned that I might kill myself. My attorney set me straight and told me to be hyper vigilant that my ex might be planning to hurt me. And, he went on a field trip to visit all our joint friends and his family to tell them that he thought I was nuts (he even attempted it with my wonderful parents)and that's when I slowly began to understand that I had been walking on quicksand for 28 years.
My prayers envelope you, dear one. May you be protected, and deeply feel the love you receive from your family here.❤
Andrew really needed this message today 😊just received a hoover from my ex after 3 years saying how much he loves me..😅 what a load of rubbish I lost everything house,family, friends but I came back,now new home,new friends and new family....now he has nothing
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Ever since the moment you really get...ive never thought of the narctriss without the thought of premeditated, sadistic, emotional abusing sociopath. Since that moment...zero trauma bond.
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All the years of walking on eggshells and wondering what I was doing wrong. I found out what narcissism was after I was devalued and discarded.
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That makes sense Andrew, once I found out there were others… I was released, and told life was better without me.
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAloneSounds like you were there in my case. To this day, of I hadn’t found out about narcissism I wouldn’t have known anything. It’s as if I never existed! Thank you, Andrew.
Thank you, have a wonderful Holiday 🌟
Im first just ended my narc relationship. A gift to myself
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Hang tough, kiddo, & Merry narc free Christmas
I’ve been free for 11 months and 3 days, it’s been the hardest thing I’ve ever done. I’m alone for Christmas well I have my wonderful support animal and I’m finally feeling awesome. Such a year of dealing with everything Andrew speaks about. I’ve stayed off social media but curiosity got me last night and I saw his Facebook, oooh he looks horrible and I admit I laughed my ass off. I still have life changes ahead, but I know I’m smart, strong and wonderful. I can do it! Thanks Andrew ,happy holiday to all, you’re all wonderful great things are coming.
Welcome 😌💯🙌
Laughter is the best medicine. Enjoy it.
That's great, Elizabeth! 🎄🕊️🌎
🎄 Merry Christmas 🎅
I'm also free and alone I escaped this year now I just need to build money
The narcissists underestimated us 🫢🤷♀️ we even surprised ourselves! ❤❤❤ Thank you for taking time out of your Christmas day to record this message Andrew! You are INCREDIBLY loved and appreciated!!! Merry Christmas!!! 🎄🎁🎅🤶❤️💖🌹😘😘
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Yes we did ay!!
Merry Christmas, Jennifer!🎄🕊️🌟☃️🩷
Yes 🙌 ❤️🙏💪
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My Health went 3 months after marriage, our relationship started 1 yr and 3 months before marriage! I had never heard of narcissism. My daughter educated me of this.
Thank you for this! 🙌🏼❤️ yeah he didn’t think I could put my life back together. I am daily doing this. And I can breathe again. No more punishment. No more fog.
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To all of you who are still in the cycle, what I see is that every exwife of my ex-narcs (husband and longtime partner) are living a far more better life in freedom after a couple of years have went by. They all are sucessful women who look healthy and beautiful. Myself seven years after the divorce I have a great job, a house, no debts , wonderful warmhearted friends an 2 grownup children which I have a close relationship to. Now looking for a dog to share my happy life with😊
My exhusband has crashed our company and is living now in a small apartment, looks old and thin.
So please, never give up hope.
Sorry for my english. I hope you understand what I want to say.
Merry christmas from Germany❤
Bless you, Andrew, and the message today. Admit..Im a bit emotional. Reflecting this time last year, on Christmas, I thought me and the ex narcissist were in a good place. Nothing could be further from the truth. It was just the beginning of a horrific ride of abuse, gas lighting, and abandonment while pregnant. I was gradually breadcrumbed and discarded for the next supply. The reminder I'm the beautiful bright shining light of abundance, and I'm on the healing path.... was needed. I love you, Andrew, and this community. Once again, thank you for the time and message❤ Today I get to enjoy my sons first Christmas 🎄
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Christmas time still is difficult to me, but im fine and foing better n better each day.
The baby brings new beginnings!
Best wishes to you and your baby. God be with you.
You stay strong my friend. And love on that baby 🙂. God bless
When first entering into a narcissistic relationship, I would’ve never thought that person was a narcissist had I not been educated on narcissism. I always thought I was the one in the wrong and tried to figure out what I could do to make things better. Now learning about all this, I can be able to spot the red flags and what to avoid to protect myself.
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JL...Merry Christmas 🌺🎄🎄🎄🎊👍
@@jannlewandowski5540 You too Jann! Merry Christmas and have a healthy and happy holiday to you and your family 🙏☀️
Even now, The mask they wear makes it hard to spot. Then bam outta nowhere there it is.
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My Brother is the narcissist I've been dealing with. It's Christmas day and ....as I totally expected.... a text came with an apology and words of familial love. The last I heard from him was a 6 paragraph e-mail naming all my sins and flaws. Because of this channel I know that my brother feels neither love nor remorse.... so my silence will continue. I was the last sibling of 8 who would deal with him.
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I received a text from my brother the day before my birthday, reminding me that the next day was my birthday. I never received a happy birthday text on my birthday . That is ridiculous. I was no contact for three years, so I am going no contact again. I think he is more covert narc. My dad was a malignant narcissist.
You were the brave one! So was I. Bro left nothing but ashes behind and purloined what he didn't ruin. But because of him I've discovered the huge problem in my life: a good one and a bad one. I'm too empathetic!
The bad: every narc recognizes it and comes to peck my carcass!
The good: I'm learning to spot them and build not just sturdy boundaries around myself, but solid walls with some of these vultures.
I've also discovered many numbers of narc "friends", relatives and relationships besides Bro in my past.
At 77 YO, I think Bro was the worst!
Keep healing! You're amazing!
Stay strong! Praise God we figured them out and went no contact. Also can see the red flags in future relationships.
I feel like sending my narc sister a "Thank you" card. Thanking her for opening my eyes to narcissism and thanking her because I'll now have a much better life because of her because I know what to look out for going forward. And thank you andrew for more wisdom today! Merry christmas!
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I could've shared your same comment. Both of my sisters have taught me who a Narcissist is. I have blocked and praying I don't have to have any kind of relationship with them again. They contribute NOTHING but drama. They are takers. They want all of the attention and control all of the time, so I decided to give them what they want. I've dropped the mic, I'm out. 😊
I totally get what you are saying. The new wisdom and perspective are definitely amazing. Thanks.
@@odeltor8703 I hear what you said. The sister and the brother never once in their entire lives ever apologized, in 68, and 67 years. That has registered in my mind. Thanks.
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I've been around narcissists all my life. My father my three husbands. And lastly this last friend who finally opened my eyes by treating me badly right after we got together. Thanks to you I opened my eyes and shut him down before he could take me down. I'm still in the process of getting away. Using grey rocking and learning to love myself and protecting my heart. So again thank you so much for your smarts. I couldn't do this without you ❤
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Now that you know their traits, try to keep off such characters
The crazy thing about this grey rocking thing is I did it naturally because I was so beaten down. I had done so much work on myself before I met this person that I always knew something was off. It took close to 3 years for me to be discarded enough to finally shut down and stop reacting how they wanted. I just became a non caring non emotional non giving person Working on becoming myself again, but it has been rough.
My ex narc didn't believe I would leave. I surprised him with divorce papers 2 years ago. Now I'm living my happily ever after!
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They think they are so smart
Moved from Oregon to Tennessee a year ago. Boundaries!!! STAY AWAY FROM ME!!!!!
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Thats EXACTLY what happened to me! Wow! Every word is truth even down to having no one checking in on me, calling me stupid, and even taking his side. It was like they all planned it together 😮
I'm still crawling my way back but I'm making it with the help Jesus Christ.
They can all kiss my ass! I'd rather be alone for the rest of my life than to spend another minute with a narcissist!!! I was suicidal for about two years but God still has plans for me I guess.
I don't know that I'll ever heal but I'm gonna stick it out until the end for Jesus! I still have love in me so I'm not a total lost cause. I love helping folks down and out on the streets. Even in my despair I still have a few bucks, a hug, or maybe even a ride I can offer because I know what it feels like to be discarded.
Thanks for letting me share ❤❤❤
Welcome 😌😌❤️🙌
Wow Andrew it’s like you are describing me here! My narc of seven years who I had this on and off relationship with, never thought I would give him the silent treatment that I’m giving him now, and I feel very empowered! Every time he ghosted me (and eventually discarded me, something that I didn’t understand), I was always the one to break the silence and then he would hoover and love bomb me back into the relationship. In November this year I came across your channel, Dr Ramani and many others, and my eyes opened and I learned about his behaviour. I immediately went no contact after he love bombed me. The shenanigans took me seven years to figure out, this year 2023 being the seventh! Guess what, today on Christmas Day he emails me and sends me Christmas wishes, even though I haven’t been responding to his last emails and I have blocked him on my phone! He has a surprise waiting for him because I will never EVER respond to him or have anything to do with him! I almost lost my mind, and I have learned a lesson! I ain’t going back!!! Thanks Andrew you’re a star, keep them coming 👏🏻
Welcome 😊🎄❤️☀️
It took me five years of going through the same exact thing and an additional two years of trying to avoid any and all of his love bombs of sending flowers, leaving birthday cards on my car with money in it and a written letter which BTW he would never do any of these things for me when we were supposedly together in a relationship but I did all of those beautiful things for him and more because that's just who I am.
I even made weekend reservations at the Poconos after he discarded me one time because I wanted us to have some alone time to be able to come to an understanding of what the problem was with all of the break-ups and make-ups that kept going on between us but unbeknownst to me, he was discarding me everytime I wouldn't let him take full advantage of me .
It took for me to get back into a relationship with an ex from 16 yrs. prior to the 2 yrs. since I had been with the last ex who is a narcissist, for me to find out that the current one was a narcissist as well who BTW I almost did some things to because of his narcissistic nonsense.
There was someone that said to me that their mate called them a narcissist and from then on, any and all videos started popping up on my phone about narcissism so I kept getting deeper with the research and OMG!
I could do nothing but clutch my invisible pearls, become more angrier, and more distant from a lot of people, including family that have these same traits and I now pay more attention than the usual to each individual and everything about them.
Stay away from these people.
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Recover and survive like the Phoenix from the ashes!
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One full week no contact and she hasn’t tried to reach out except for her two accidental contact attempts. The urges to reach out have diminished and with Andrew’s video I’m starting to get back on my feet. It’s due to my support group that I was able to see her for what she is and they pulled me away. I owe it to them. Andrew thank you for all that you’ve done for me.
I told my narcissist this past December one last time I was going to the police to report him if he come around again. Now I put my foot down on that monster...I haven't heard nothing from him all us silent..so far..
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I’m still happy that I don’t have someone lying , ghosting, cheating, canceling on holiday events. I’m free to celebrate my way, gratefully! ( 4 yrs out)
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My narc is frightened i do not react anymore, I respond. I can see what she's doing. I love Andrew and his channel amongst others. You have given me the tools to build a defensive strategy that has been a revealing situation for the narc. I'm saving an innocent soul.
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After two decades of being a empath to the level of martyrdom, escaped twenty plus years ago. Now the narc goes after our children; threatening to disown them because they have also set boundaries. We are never rid of these demons.
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It was a year ago today that i told myself, "i can't do this anymore". 5 months now on my own property. Divorce in progress. Close to being legally free from his insanity. My 22 yrs with this narc is well explained throughout Andrew's videos. Thank you Andrew.
Spot on again. My ex once said to me 'you will never work me out' but with your UA-cam channel I 😮 DID work him out. Keep up the good work and thank u.
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The holidays can be a huge trigger for all of us who have suffered the narcissistic abusive relationship. You need to grieve the loss of what you believed to be true. It takes a long time and a strong resolve. I would suggest that as you heal, on these holidays you celebrate your freedom from such a toxic relationship. Begin new ways of being and leave the pain behind. Have faith that you will heal and be happier than you can imagine! Namaste and may all blessings come your way!!!
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I'm greatful with you speaking 🔊 about this very important subject!!! It gives us a leg up, on these mean, sick, and evil😈beings😢😢😢MB🌹
I left the narcissist hub Christmas eve 14 years ago. He was purposely ruining the holiday and I had had enough.
I'm so grateful for you being here with us. Thank you ❤🌞
Watching comments it seems creppy how many narcissts exist over globe! Dear empaths, take care ❤
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She disappeared for 5 days. I left the 3rd day. AND when she came back i was gone. She called me freaking out AND she expected me to be there waiting. Purely EVIL. It felt so low in my house. Had to get out ❤🙏💪
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone THANK you Andrew. You were the first person I reached out to. Made a few mistakes. Block unblock block unblock. IT'S OVER.. i reached that point. And shut her out. What a life experience...🙏
Since I left, I've never felt so free. I'm back to being me!
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Thank you for being my needle in the haystack. I'm alive and well today fighting a battle like no other. Yet there's so much power in being aware. Thank you so much Andrew and Merry Christmas brother. Stay blessed.
You are amazing Andrew, and yes ive had to tell the toxic person in my life to leave me alone so many times that i had to get a restraining order placed on her, it seams they dont want the toxic roller-coaster from hell to end, merry Christmas Andrew, god bless you and im glad you got yourself a chair to use,
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It hurts, and it's hard, but let the demon go. They will never meet your needs.
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...lowest place possible no contact after 3 yrs w my son. My achievements if he knew would be laughable to him. I'm happier than my lowest moments because of ppl like Andrew...keep shining brighter!
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Marry Christmas to all people here! It's not easy to be discarded but now I see it as a favour. It's possibility to live much better, once when you realise how unfair and cruel we were treated.
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Hope you are well, Tatjana! ❤
@@emilywilson7308 Yes, I'm fine, thank you dear Emily. ❤️
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It was a year ago I first saw my first video in your collection. It could not have been so timely! I did exactly that. I researched. learnt and had the strength to walk away. Watching this today has helped me reflect and see how well I have healed. The narc was a clever covert but as the fog lifted and reality was plain to see, I emerged the victor. Thank you Andrew
Thank You Andrew! Ok got hit twice (I am an empath) first time ex husband 20 yrs and left for dead. Took me 10 years to climb back up.3.5 years ago round two came in this time a different strategy was used. I cut him off 3 times! Well I am happy to report that today was the day - Full Cut! Blocked all the way around! True Freedom! Sending you love love love!
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I was thrown into a wall. He said afterward that he did it to protect himself from ME! In that moment, like a light bulb, I was done. Four days later I was gone 2,000 km away while he was at work. Zero contact since that day in august. Took 3 months to walk without pain, then I found a job and haven’t looked back. In a way I needed to hit that wall, and he needed to say that lie, otherwise I might still be there. I’m so thankful for my eyes being opened. It never had anything to do with me, but it took 25 years to see that.
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As I was discarded,I thought that must it feel if you die. So hurtful,I never felt like this before,my health made me to see a hospital. Two weeks,after checking in,the Narcisst stand outside and I said to him: Please don't forget me,I'll be back home in two weeks. He turns around and said: I'm sorry,you couldn't. There is another woman since two weeks and he smiled into my face. Go to his car and drove away. The next thing I know is,I'm falling down to earth. A nurse take me in,asking for a doctor. Crying Dr. maybe a nervous breakdown. The Dr. placed me in his room,speaking to me and giving me medication to calm me down,I can't stop crying. The medical team saw what happened and who he treated me. If they hear what's been spoken,I don't know. Now they have to deal with this before the operation could be done. The thing that shocks and hurts me the most are,how can a person who said he loves,I gave all that I have,do whatever he wants and he could see me falling and say such things and drove away,as I was a complete stranger. I couldn't to that,I never had and no friend,no colleque or my sister believe me,that he did what he did. Calling me a lier,I must have done something horrable that he treat me like this. No I don't,since the last minute. Why I share this here,because I hope someone believed me. As I wrote this,it triggers me. He was never seen since then,it was like he had never existed,I know now his love never existed. But I'm alone,he is the victim. After leaving hospital after 19 weeks,because they didn't want me to leave and I had to find a new place for living. Being alone,wrote my sister because I couldn't call her,because she move. I have no address or telephon number. Only an Mail adress. I wrote: I need your help,she answered: First I go on vaccation for two weeks. After that,I never ask again. Never heard from her,never speak with her or any other people I had introduced him to. Last november he tried to hoover me,but failed. Should I not be happy,I escapt. The truth is,if he don't discard I had never leave. Why because he said in Church in good times and in worth,like I did. But for him,this promise are only a few words.
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Very Heartbreaking story, Dagmar. You now know at this site, thousands understand and support you in spirit ...
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Narcissism can be viewed as the epitome of sin, as individuals choose to be their own gods, seeking self-worship and control. The book of Proverbs addresses this concept by referring to narcissistic behaviors as foolishness. The fool makes his own rules, scoffs at rebuke, and disregards the harm his actions may cause.
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Good vibes only for 2024 and beyond!
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Andrew, another great talk, thank you. I thought I knew what a narcissist was during my life, then in my mid 40s I met one and turned out I had no idea what a narcissist was and wish I never knew. Only two years and the damage she caused is gona take years to get over. I can handle the fact of giving up my house. Having to now rebuild relationships with my family and friends, the most damage done is my self worth and confidence. She broke me down to a point I was loosing my own identity. I am so greatful for a few of my friends and family members who helped me see her for what she is. A year on and I'm still not myself. But I'm on the road to recovery and doing alot better.
Our marriage counselor told me the ex was a sociopath, and that info helped me head the right direction in healing, but still had multitude of questions and I desperately needed resolve. When I clicked on a narcissist site, it answered ALL the questions I had.
He NEVER thought I would stand up for myself in the divorce. I didn't want to. I wanted to just die! But I knew I HAD TO!
KNOWING he is empty, vacuous, without any feeling, care or love....for anyone or anything.....truly cut the last string. (That is the most difficult hurdle as well.....believing a person can be so void of humanity)
Then, realizing the parental units and siblings, and friends, all were a problem, and meant more healing. I walked away from the marriage at age 50, so I have had LOTS of education and healing to do, but every day gets better!
Please, don't give up and don't stay...GET OUT!
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That was so heartfelt, I had to read it twice.👍
A nite mares,,mind destroying,,and physical as well,,damaged for life ,,,loss financial,also,,,what a journey,,total broken,,,but alive ,,,thank god,,,,,,
You're right they're not the brightest light in the Barn,,he overplayed his hand I was observing him all the time,,,so glad I left him,,😂😂,,,I putting my Best foot forward now,,Courage Strengthens @ a Wound,,(my family Motto)¡T.Y.Andrew you have Helped me So Much,,with your Teachings,,🎄❤️😇🙏🏻✝️👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
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When they overplay their hand, again and again, the words, really stupid, sure seem to fit. Stupid is not a word I usually use. But sometimes is just fits.
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How is it possible that you were watching my life for three decades.? I will save this message and read it often to help keep my barriers up against toxic people in this is so challenging time we are in. Thank you Andrew from the bottom of my heart. Spread this message and take good care of yourself. Namaste.
Awful day like no doubt many others- coldness and passive contempt and zero value shown in me today - couldn’t even send me a Christmas card but got her thoughtful things and a nice card. Breadcrumbed but perpetually made to feel worthless- I need to exit this I cannot go through another year of this - Nathan
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Get away & be FREE. Yes, it is hard, but get off the hamster wheel!!! Get out! Rise again better & more aware. You CAN live without them. You are NOT ALONE!
I have been simply existing for 23 years. By the grace of God, I have discovered a newfound confidence and remembering who I was before him. Only problem is, I can't shake this dude. He will not freaking budge!!! I WISH he'd discard me. I have to be careful and watch how I get out. He's dangerous...
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@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone ANY thoughts on why they tell you how.much they hate you yet won't just let you be? ,,
I am just getting out of the feeling of being able to walk alone. 24yrs of it
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Healing!!! 100%%% God has been so good to me , blessings in the midst of everything I went through.
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Andrew, once again, you and everyone here that responds are saving my soul. My ex tried to kill me, literally. I did not see the pure hatred he harbored for me but now I know his end game was me...dead, saying I love you all along the way. His whole life is a lie.He actually believes his own lies, but underneath I would imagine that is the reason he smoked pot all day all and got extremely high every night. He most likely could not handle his reality sober. His new supplies, all the money he took from me, will be gone at some point. Yes, my rebuild seems like a huge task, however at least my foundation is truth. No do harm. My dogs saved my life, too. They sensed his evil and acted differently. Now, they are eating well, extra cuddly, and seem content in my new humble life and tiny home. I have been brought to my knees, humiliated, and terribly abused. Now I just enjoy breathing lol!
It's very odd to observe but , narcs are terrified to admit that they are not perfect or that they make mistakes .
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Good observation. Reason for the lack of any sincere apologies in their lifetimes. I step back and see the deep seated insecurity, hidden by such a well crafted mask.
I m 50, but honestly, this is the most important content Ive ever seen across this kind of platforms. You speak my hidden words. Thank you so much
Happy Christmas Andrew and everyone here. Thank you for taking the time to do another video and especially today, with it being Christmas day.....started off feeling very low this morning.....I no longer have a family to come to dinner.....not feeling too bad now thank God. The lessons you share with us everyday are reinforcing the message home....and it makes us stronger....looking back we are picking ourselves up every day and our characters are being made more resilient....there is a purpose to our pain...it's called "growth".
Yes, yes and yes! Blessings this Christmas evening!
After all the pain, it was glorious to see them underestimate me. I am a very sensitive person, and that makes me vulnerabe (but the other side of that coin is beautiful). They mistook that for weakness. When they tried to torpedo me, I was supposed to break down. But I turned the tables.
Life is better now. Sometimes people ask or talk about them to me, and I stop it, and say I live in oblivion. Ask someone else. Thus I know they are not well. But I keep them out of _my_ life. Mine.
Sensitive means my pain and mourning is intense. But it means beauty and love is too.
Thank you for your kindness to everyone, even on a holiday, and other days of the year. Some people make the world a better place. Let us all make the most of what you voice to us.
Inspiring message, Kathleen!❤
@@emilywilson7308 Thanks, Emily. I hope 2024 brings you lots of goodness. We've got to do fun stuff that makes us happy.
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The former narc friend said to me one day after about 1 year into this one-sided facade of a friendship "Thank you for putting up with my bulls*it" --- I knew that day something wasn't quite right. And today, here is Andrew casting megawatts of lights -- "They knew what they were doing to you." I walked away, have celebrated 7 months no contact and never looked back. I received 1 email -- "happy birthday" - I never responded. Not sure how this blocked email got through the filters I set. So weird. Now she can put up with my silence. This is my peace on earth.
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I just read the messages between me and the unscrupulous that was a year ago after the divorce, and I swear they know exactly that they are projecting themselves ( Shape shift )
I was astonishing that I couldn’t even see it that time.
OOOh lord. This is a life lesson, Will change you deep from your core
You are speaking the truth. This time last year, I was making my escape from the narcissistic devil. In the cold of December and deciding what my next move will be. So different now. Been away year. ❤God has been good to and met all my needs. I've had time to reflect on what I've gone through for 20 years. Still healing. Thank you Jesus.
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took 2 decades before I saw the youtube video. Everything said here is CORRECT...time for HEALING...
Thanks! The narcissist requires so much effort and then there is minimal to zero reciprocation.
I hope you are having a lovely holiday.
One key aspect to these relationships is that we must work on our unconscious perceived feelings of 'lack' that we may project to these persons. These feelings of lack may be part of our social programming and limiting beliefs . There is a broader false identity that we detach from as we detach from these people.
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Your description is perfect to the t. And she must have been confused. She was looking down and me and tried to put me down all the time. Yet she knew I had more knowledge, more skills and more possibilities. She also knew I see patterns with minimal information. She should've known I'd figure her out and still she didn't take that into account.
For all of you still in the claws of the narcissist: They can be beaten and you are the strong one.
" ... see patterns with minimal information."- Some like you, have this talent. I was too slow to see it. Will speed it up.
Life is too short to keep sludging through mud with toxic people. Basically, this channel opened my eyes to 'those patterns."
@@jhavajoe3792 We all have different talents. Sometimes they're a blessing, sometimes a curse. Good to hear that the community have been helpful. No one should be treated the way narcissists their victims.