6 Things You Should Never Say To An INTJ
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- Опубліковано 26 лип 2024
- The INTJ Myers-Brigg personality type is the third rarest personality type in the population, making up only 1 to 4 percent of all people. Known for being analytical, logical, and independent, they are often pioneers of original ideas and thoughts.
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"I don't think you can do it" and i take that as a personal challenge
Yeah, it is like Oh yeah bitch watch this haha isn't it
"Rules are there for a reason."
"Great. What's the reason?"
"Uh...'
"Exactly."
Yeah, when the rules are made by people who don't know how to make coherent rules they should be ignored if you can get away with it.
How dare you jump scare me with that "Surprise!" in the beginning.
Hahaha
A true Intj will not be suprised
No true Scotsman would be…
1) I'd say the introversion and the planning aren't the real problems. Heck, at this point in my life, I'd love a surprise. It would give my problem solving something to do. The issue is the Fi. If you throw a surprise birthday party, for example, 1) I'm probably not going to react very much visually because I'm being confronted with all this new information, so you're not going to have much fun, and 2) the emotional processing as I figure out what I feel about the whole experience could take quite a while, and since I can't go be alone to process because now I'm in the middle of a party, it can throw off my reactions to everything else in terms of emotions.
Just basically image a computer screen with the little windows circle where your cursor used to be, and you can't do anything with your cursor until it's done. That's your INTJ processing emotions related to a surprise. And all the people involved in the surprise are downloads that keep interrupting the processing.
2) Yeah, we're not real impressed by lying. We can get involved in grand manipulative bluffs with certain people and consider that fun. But that's special. Average garden variety lying ... well, I can do more by telling the truth than you can with a lie.
3) Yep. If the rule is there for a good reason, we will follow it, and instruct other people in the rule and why it exists so that they follow it. If there's no good reason for the rule, we'll ignore it.
4) Really, the accusation of lacking knowledge is insulting because the person speaking doesn't know what I know. If you think an INTJ has made an error of fact, you're better off just asking "How does XYZ fit in to what you just said" or similar. The INTJ will then either tell you, or will ask questions and adapt thinking to include XYZ.
5) Oh, yay! Someone admitted we can be playful when we want to be. Especially as we don't care about societal expectations.
As to being serious I think other types maybe don't understand appreciating things on multiple levels at once. Sometimes people will tell me a joke, and it's an okay joke, nothing special, so I don't have any particularly humor reaction. Instead I start taking the premise of the joke as a "what if X joke were true." and will extrapolate a world where X joke is true, and then tell people about it. And they tell me it was a joke. And all I can say is I know it was, now back to the world where X joke is true.
6) Small talk is bad. But you also have to break the ice somehow. Weather is a pretty good one. Weather impacts plans (either yours or mine), and so information about the weather may be important.
Basically, just because I like deep conversation doesn't mean I want to start out my interactions by talking about deep topics like my dad dying last month. I do understand that people need to verbally sidle up to each other. Personally, i prefer meeting people at a hobby club so that then we can talk about the hobby. Barring that, though, try the weather. I live on this planet, so I've got at least a passing interest in that.
i was about to say the same as an INTJ but shorter: I do not relate to number one and im INTJ cause i have everything so planned I kind start missing what a surprise is. The thing is when there is a surprise event that pretty much ruins everything i have planned, then it is super annoying. But surprises in the long term i kind of find them cute and exciting!
@@blueneom7561 "when there is a surprise event that pretty much ruins everything i have planned"
That relates to any sort of curveball you are being thrown.
If I have planned to do something on Sunday, and then suddenly someone tells me on a Saturday that I have to do something else, at least I can stop, think about whether I can reorganize my day and fit both things into the schedule, and if I can't, I at least have time to rearrange the schedule to fit that original thing some place else. Or send a message to other people who were involved in that original thing. It's annoying, but manageable. The worst thing you can do is to come to me and tell me "We're doing this and that in 5 minutes, get ready" - So, not only does that show a complete disrespect for my autonomy, but now you are not even giving me time to prepare myself mentally for that thing, instead insisting on stringing me along. Best case scenario, I will just disable my internal processor completely and assume "OK, you've got the authority over this thing, so don't expect me to actively take part in it". Worst case scenario... I might actually feel compelled to sabotage you out of pure spite.
And even if I don't have anything planned, if you want me to do something, I still want to do it to the best of my abilities, so I need to stop, reassess all the information, create an overview of the situation, figure out what is needed, what is the best method to obtain/do it, whether I am capable of using that method, whether I am capable of _learning_ that method in time, and if not - I need to find an alternative method, then prepare myself for what I will need. That takes time and requires me to pull back into my internal processor to calmly analyse the situation. If you want to throw a surprise event, that does not necessarily need to be bad, but keep in mind that, if I have something else planned, there's a chance I will be grumpy and my thoughts will be in that other place, rather than with you in the current moment. Also, don't expect me to do anything requiring focus if you do.
I don't know how it is with others, but I at least tend to have a pretty on-rails way of thinking, and changing tracks takes time and effort. Throwing a curveball at me is basically the same as telling a driver he needs to turn left for the first time when he's already in the middle of a crossroad.
Mine is "how are you?" I just want to say "do you really care, or is this a formality?"
I'm INTJ-T supposedly and I actually like surprises, but only good ones. Lol. I get bored with routine every now and then. These things are nuanced. Also, humor is something I value quite a bit. We're just sort of quiet and reserved, but not necessarily buzzkills. Just a data point.
#4 is a HUGE trigger for me. People know that I’m quiet (sometimes to a fault). So why don’t they understand that I only speak on what I know?
There are some things that are so obvious I point them out immediately, yet no one ever seems to see it. I make the "prediction" and then everyone is bewildered when it actually happens. I hate that.
It's all true.
Well you're definitely an intj then
I'm an INTJ, someone called me stupid, I'm no longer happy.
most intj is stupid in the eyes of a mainstream-human.
as a intj you can be very proud being stupid/different.
@@degreesdegrees-jr4eg as an INTJ intelligence is the only thing that truly matters alongside being different.
@@dillonpercy1058 well there you go. Intelligence is to be different in the eyes of the "mainstream-human".
next time he call you stupid. just reply. can you please explain to me why i am stupid.
when he dods. just point out some of his logical inconsistensies.
and end the discussion with. "it seams to me that we are bouth pretty stupid, but hey. you have a nice day okay." and walk away. INTJ dorslam style :)
@@degreesdegrees-jr4eg I do love to point out logical inconsistencies. But then again they just pass it over with the 'nerd' emoji. In the eyes of humanity I do not believe I am stupid, in the eyes of the universe it would be idiotic to say that I am anything more than supremely ignorant.
Who cares what they think, they're probably insecure
As an INTJ who had a surprise party thrown for them and several other times someone admitted trying to throw a surprise party for them but dropped the idea, let me tell you why you shouldn't try to throw a surprise party:
It won't be a surprise. People act differently when they throw a surprise party. We'll pick up on these breaks in "the pattern of life" and know something is coming. Save yourself a lot of effort and just don't do it.
The other reason, and the reason for the abandoned plans for a surprise party: the people wanting to throw the party realized they had no idea who they should contact to join in on the party.
As an INTJ id have a heart-attack.
Yes. I do find myself agreeing with a lot of these.
To be exact, we only hate surprise from human.
True that is completely true about me
I'd like to add a point:
NEVER tell an INTJ that they are Autistic, having Asperger and/or having any other diagnosis.
Not only do you not have the knowledge and insight to establish this as a fact, it is also EXTREMELY rude and inappropriate.
Well, sometimes people though that I used some drugs just because I talked about the life and it's reasons and asked questions about the idea behind our existence. And for me it was weird that people didn't think about it and just lived their lives.
@@nekotoru Can relate
I strongly agree. It would be the same as an INTJ pointing out to someone who is not a IN TJ that they are stupid. They may be, but not being an INTJ, does not necessarily make an individual stupid. And not all INTJs are all that intelligent either.
infjs also dont like to be told "that's how we always do things" AND "you dont know what you are talking about."
Actually I'm okay with small talks if I have nothing to do. I know that some topics are popular among most people so to communicate with these people and keep connection when I have nothing to say I can speak about a weather or something that interesting to my mates (and not me). Sometimes it turns to an interesting conversations. In my 37 I don't expect my fellow janitor would talk about quantum physics with me. But I can talk about politics and life around and have a nice time in the process.
I strongly disagree that INTJs do not engage in light conversations. While we may prefer to have intense complex investigations of some aspect of science or literature or history, there is a time and a place for both conversations. When shopping at a grocery store, Target or checking out books at the library, acknowledging that the clerk is a human being by mentioning the weather is typically appreciated by most individuals who are tired of being treated as if they are no different than the cash register or the computer system that records which books you checked out.
I hate bad surprises. By all means, if you can surprise me with a birthday party do so!!!! Lol
Elon Musk, Elon Musk, Elon Musk!!! Enough already!!!!
Money receives attention ma boi..
I'm pretty sure he's an ENTJ.
1:15 hurra for LiJo the INTJ FEMALE UA-camr
Except that she's not an INTJ.
1) Surprise.
Is it?
I probably already knew about it. Because I have Intuition as my dominant trait. INTJs and INFJs are known for accurately predicting the future, soooo ... there's not really any surprises. No, really.
I can't say I've ever felt "cornered" when something does manage to happen that I didn't expect though. I can't say I love surprises, but I don't hate them either. I'm more neutral on the whole topic.
I'm not going to enjoy a surprise party though. I can be social, but I like to be able to choose my time by evaluating how my personal battery feels. But not all surprises are surprise parties.
2) Lying never hurt anyone.
Okay, this is true. INTJs will hat that idea. And I can totally tell you're lying 99 percent of the time. Also, I rarely lie. It's not worth it.
3) Rules are there for a reason.
I don't have a problem with that.
"INTJs hate being told they should do something just because it's always been done this way."
Okay, now, that part is true. THAT should have been the title for the section. Because if you have a rule and it's there for a perfectly understandable reason, then we're going to be fine with the rule. The problem is when you tell us to follow the rule and don't explain why it exists and what its purpose is.
4) You don't know what you're talking about.
Hahaha. You keep telling yourself that, buddy.
5) Lighten up.
Um ... I 'm sorry I didn't think your joke was as funny as you did. I was having fun over here by myself.
6) Beautiful weather.
Um... no. That's fine. Like, you need to start a conversation somehow. Weather is at least a topic relevant to both of us that we could start with. Just don't expect the conversation to stay at that level. But yeah, if we're waiting for a train together, talk about the weather is very natural. Or as new neighbors. It's better than saying nothing. Or randomly quizzing a total stranger about their feelings on current politics because that could end very, very poorly and maybe you want to feel them out without directly asking that.
I don't know or care what others said about me. May I not the smartest person on earth, but I never doubt my intelligence.
I maybe wrong and I don't mind to admit my mistake and learn from it, but I knew stupid is never be a word to describe me. 😊
Whoaa the small talk part 😂 A long time ago, when I was in HS many guys would come up and do that small talk like "How are you doing rn?" "Have you eaten or not?" Those kinds of stuff and I hate it.
I was so arrogant that I looked down on those guys. I wanted nothing to do with them. Then one of my friends told me that a specific guy from another class tried to flirt with me, but I genuinely don't know nor care 😂. I always preferred deep conversation which is not everyone's cup of tea.
Now being an adult, I guess I did quite a bitch 😅 But that young girl needs to make some mistakes and learn from them to grow mature. 😊
Now I tried to be more polite. I don't mind small talk, but when it became more personal, I would definitely try to politely run away 😂
So you prefer a teenage boy to ask you about what you think about the wave-particle duality of photons as a introduction line? You are asking a lot, but this would winnow out the not-very-academically inclined males.
LOL. #1 was just mean.
Take offense is an understatement. I'm likely to get seriously pissed off.
Mmm, you might get me to like you if you say, "Beautiful weather we're having," if there was a tornado or hurricane blowing. Then I might appreciate the sarcasm.
Hmmm... Don't call me stupid. You're cruising for a bruising with that one.
Intj...same as autism...I have both
#intjtruthbomb
You show Elon Musk and Greta Thunberg. Well, I am an INTJ and dont want to be identified with thouse 2 persons. They are brilliant, true - but both have Asperger syndrom, which is NOT synonymous with being INTJ!
That's actually not true. There are many relationships to the INTJ and autism. Maybe you're not an INTJ because ego doesn't get in the way of facts for us INTJ
@@millenials_best Traits sure, but they really aren't synonymous.
No personality type is a community. Certainly not the intj if any of them were a community. I don’t care if the whole world actually is/wants to be/is mistyped as an intj. Their personality status has no bearing on how I use this information or how I value myself.
But hey, _you’re_ the intj…
If I cared, I would make a comment here.............
Nice try with the woke imagery. And Susan B. Anthony was a dude! Pass.
never we have freedom of speech in the usa!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! we have the right to say bad things if were not satiifised with lfie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Oh yes, the world's most free country, Not!!! grow up and look around you. Freedom to shoot and be shot, freedom to die because you can't afford medical care, freedom to cross a road where you want???, freedom to be poisoned by god knowns how any additives and chemicals in your food and water, freedom to have a crap education the list goes . I don't think I want that freedom. You are definity not an INTJ but have the average US IQ of 85. It's called freedom of speech!!!!!!! like it?