Person xy: "You don't get it!" after 10 whole seconds of a silent eternity INFP * sigh * (inbetween the 10 seconds inside the INFPs head) "- No matter, how I answer, he/she ... a) might get hurt (if the person spoke out of sadness) / ... b) might get aggressive/harmful (if the person acts in defence out of anger driven by the ego). - Considering the situation, the environment (in public for example) "a" will draw everyone's attention towards me, because it's just the other one, whom they will aknowledge to be the hurt one. "b" on the other hand might end up with a rather heated dispute, forcing someone third to interact. Being the numb/silent one, it's easy they will trust in the expressive, loud one. Even if not, if I'm forced, a point will get reached where I become rather impulsive and see red. ... Picturing a scene of violence followed by hateful judgements. In the end, I shouln't give a f***. ... again and again swallowing it for the sake of peace. Btw.: What about the several times, he/she ignored my feelings, even though I don't throw them into someone's face, yet, merely indicated by the context surrounding the given content of the conversation, every human being more or less capable of feeling should conclude?!" So, the usual answer: I just give a slight nod without a word.
Sometimes when I read the comments I wonder if I’m an INFP at all. Nobody ever says to me “oh, you just don’t get me”. Because I “get” everyone. Everyone is bowled over by my friendliness, my empathy, my interest in them. Total strangers tell me their life story in the supermarket aisle. My friends come to me saying “I’m going to ask you because I know you’ll tell me the truth”. And I do, kindly. Then I never phone them.
@@iluvcandylikeya I also have tomoko on my profile on a UA-cam account. I love this girl. I feel completely close to myself. A girl with a social anxiety And not many people watch this an animate, so it's nice to meet someone who likes this an animate. So I'm so happy right now.😍🤩😁🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸
@@nandenayo3_catsandraw haha yes, sometimes the things she does or says is so cringy, but you feel her pain because you know what it's like 😭 I've rewatched the anime like 3 times, it just doesnt grow old
I don’t mind when people insult me directly but when someone insults a song/film/painting etc. that I hold close to my heart, it’s like they are ripping out my heart and stomping on it
I just HATE when I listen to everyone and when I want to talk, nobody even cares about listening to me, most people just cut me off in mid-speaking, almost all the time actually. So I guess I got used to this. And this also applies for venting. I don't usually vent cuz I dont like to open up to people, maybe because it's hard for me to simplify my feelings, so it's hard for people to understand deeply what I am really feeling and help me with that. Edit: just some gramatical corrections, I’m not a native speaker
I used to really try to help people out and be nice and then realized how little people care and how some don't even want it. Now, I just do me and will help out if people ask but not bend over backwards because I know they won't do the same. At first, I thought this wasn't right but what led me to that conclusion is that a relationship of any kind needs to be mutually beneficial to be good. In that sense, bending over backwards for someone who doesn't care really isn't great for either party
As an ENTP who lives with my brother who is INFP. I can see your struggles. It Is sad, when he tryes So hard to be likeable, but people dont like him, because others have more interesting personality. As i am Quite popular even tho i am obnoxious, small, little, cheeky selfish, egoistical man. Even tho i am in a sense worse friend than He Is. People just prefer guys that are cooler maybe, but they do not know, what they are missing as INFPs are amazing they are Smart, And loyal also really great friends And, if you stay loyal to them. They will love you And help you, whenever they can. It is shame that people just do not give a shit about, who you really Are.
Sameee my god. Usually with my friends I'll rarely ever give my input, just listen and smile, but I'm glad I've got another infp and an infj friend I can vent with through messages
IKR i listen so nicely and then get interrupted but it’s okay it’s fine I’m everybody’s ray of sunshine and I don’t feel violent emotions or need anyone to listen to me it’s ok :)
Stabbing with the word Ok is so accurate xD Us INFPs get hurt so easily lol, we expected a great appreciation for what we did because we feel like we did good and want to hear that from others to confirm and be heppy
Yeeaahh I'm super into art, as INFPs generally are, and I just finished a realistic art piece, and sent it to my friends, and one said "It's pretty good!" I swear I was in a bad mood for the rest of the hour. I was like "Oh.. That's it...?" As someone who showers my friends in praise I was just a bit underwhelmed, but I feel guilty for expecting more so- H a h a
@@mumsiewhachacallit6497 i mean "pretty good" sounds pretty good to me 😂 Its just when they like shrug it off and kinda say it in a neutral way, but if there is praise in general i try to be happy abt it •v•
@@yowgert_9424 Yeah, that's what I meant TwT She was kinda just like "Oh, that's pretty good" And then kinda shrugged it off and I was just like *intense disappointment* Cuz it was almost like she didn't actually care? Not that I should really expect her to, I send her art all the time, but I'm just very sensitive T^T It's like it almost feels artificial though, you know? It's very stupid, I know, and I feel bad about it, but that's just how my mind works I suppose...
@@mumsiewhachacallit6497 I understand this so much! It hurts cause you want more but then you just feel like your being dramatic cause you had expectations and its not like they have to but you still wanted more anyways. So it's like a back in forth between being selfish and still feeling disappointed T^T
Infp here, been convinced to do sales, Its hell, lasted one week before I quit, Felt miserable and guilty all the time, also got physically sick, so stressful
I'm an x-ray tech, and doctors are always ordering pointless exams. And as soon as the patient has any kind of objection, I have to rebound and either think up a stupid reason that the exam could be worthwhile, or go and ask the doctor why they need it. Often times, the doctor will have to talk the patient into the exam while I'm there with them..and it's just freaking awkward, man. The whole healthcare system is built on milking patients while covering your butt as much as possible. I do not recommend it to INFPs.
Me too, infp, I got my first job as a cashier, work at a small shop... Somehow managed the shop alone... It's was so stressful... I lasted 6 months before I quit, not gonna lie, I felt guilty too...
One of my least favorite things said to me is, "You've grown quiet." It fills me with an indescribable rage for some reason. It might be a simple observation for some, but it's a confrontation to my existence by stating my hand, expecting me to apologize and or 'correct' the silence is agony. If you want to get an infp to talk, ask them anything else besides telling them they are suddenly silent as if pointing it out makes them want to suddenly talk, after the already rare occasion they've talked before.
I AGREE THAT THIS IS THE WORST THING TO SAY TO QUIET PEOPLE IN GENERAL. It’s actually very rude 🙅🏽♀️ just like it’s rude to tell someone how loud and obnoxious they are
@@Mly_aaa if it was the other way around it would go like, " Hi Mary, why are you so noisy again today? Ain't you been like that since we were in grade school? We are college students now so you should learn how to shut up." Telling quiet people to talk is rude. We're enjoying our peace so leave us ALONE. Except friends, cause they just sit beside you without talking.
#1. as an INFP myself, I can confirm that these points are all 100% true. #2. Holy CRAP, you have a great sense of humor and I haven't laughed like that in SO long!
@@EarthenCavy those were all different boyfriends...their last words to me for good reason, lol...but I did end up marrying a huge dick...he had no personality to dissect...narcissist a personality type? Lol
I'm an infp, and it's very true I can never settle on hobbies. I'm constantly looking at self improvement and can go off at people on various subjects surrounding my latest interest whatever that is.. and it's usually an obscure life improvement practice, or some idea about the direction of society. But contrary to the vid, I love clubbing (or should say 'loved' because i'm now 40 with kids). The best years of my life were spent in dance music clubs, festivals and gigs because I love the music and I love to people watch, even though i'm useless at social interaction in group scenarios. Although, I hate mainstream clubs that plays chart pop as those places are completely different. It's very true we are easily impressionable and I wished i'd realised sooner so I would have known to follow my own intuition. Better late than never though, so focusing on creative endeavors from here on out. I've got nowhere trying to fit in to society. wasted years due to thinking my own interests had no value. To any young INFP - Don't put your creativity on the backburner. Don't try and fit in. Follow you intuition and make your own decisions about your life, regardless of what others think about those decisions. Don't doubt yourself. Follow your intuition.
With MBTI and personality types in general it's not about things not being applicable to multiple types. It's about multiple things being applicable for the same type. We are all made up of the same or similar things, but not in the same exact way. People don't realize this tho so that's why all the MBTI stuff gets so discredited by random sites who just found out it exsisted.
5 is true. There's no point making something if it's just okay. Because the whole world is full of things that are just okay. Going for a walk, having a snack, taking a dump etc... So if it's okay then it obviously hasn't been uplifting so my work is a failure.
Ikr, I remember getting so upset with my lecturer last month because she's telling me my thesis proposal is "so-so" when I put my blood, sweat and tear in it.
@@vousmavez I was thinking of the funny comic strip I drew up. It contains a joke where where a guy hungrily eats a bunch of strawberry sherbert lollies and feels very satisfied with himself for doing so. But then it is revealed that they weren't strawberry sherbert lollies at all. He just ate a bunch of blood-soaked tampons. I gave that joke to someone at university to read. She didn't even change facial expression. She just told me it was okay and handed it back. I felt sick. I would have preferred it if she'd felt disgusted and hated it.
@@sammartina8574 oOOOOF for what it's worth, that's really creative lol how do u even think of that??? disgusting but gooood HAHA do u have a self published comic book or like a collection of all your strips or something?
@@sammartina8574 To be honest you can't really get upset with her, she tried to be kind when the joke didn't make her laugh. We all have different kinds of humor and it wouldn't have been good for her to laugh when she didn't feel like it or call it disgusting when she didn't want to hurt your feelings
@@shadowoftheday5736 Yeh, I also have difficulty knowing how to react to a joke I don't find funny. Thank you for the reminder that we all have different kinds of humor. I will keep that in mind when people read my work in the future.
My ex husband venomously asked me "why does everything have to be new for you?" The 20+ year marriage was instantly over as at that moment I realised he hated the thing that is fundamentally the core of my being!!
Wow. Just wow. I appreciate my interest with many things, I think it is the little kid in all of us, just looking with wide eyes at the world, trying to figure everything out.
My husband would laugh and thought it was cute the way I get excited over things. When he passed, the first thing to make me truly happy was discovering a Sour Patch Kids gingerbread house kit. The pure joy from that moment was a welcome respite from the spiral I was in. It was exactly the kind of thing he would have laughed about.
Ok I'm glad you included "if it's bad, just say it's bad." I don't mind criticism, but I do mind a soulless answer like "it's okay" or "it's good". I spent a lot of time and effort on making something, at least spend a few moments of your day to really take a look at what I made. If you say you don't like it, at least you're acknowledging my effort, even if it amounted to something stupid, because you took a moment to look at it and form an opinion of it. "It's okay" and nothing more is something you only say if you don't care but you don't want to hurt my feelings by dismissing it without a word. Well guess what, sport? THAT HURTS MY FEELINGS ANYWAY.
I agree. The worst thing you could say to me about something I poured my heart and soul into is "it's okay." I would rather have honest criticism so I can know how to IMPROVE rather than something dismissive that doesn't challenge me to do better and create that masterpiece I feel I have been put on this planet to produce.
I wrote a short story once, and dedicated it to two people who were very influential in my life. They didn't have the reaction I was hoping for. It crushed me. But at least my Uncle thought it was really good. I got so mad with the rest of them, though, I wrote a whole 7+ page rant about how angry and hurt I was.
I feel u 😢😭😤. Wrote a personal poem or rap ( in my eyes) gave it my friends. Replied with its okay. No it’s just not okay it’s something special and very personal for me and I had the confidence to show it to u
i’ve def been there before. but i feel like the disappointment for their reactions comes from our high expectations of others. i know i need to stop doing but it’s just really hard cause of the idealistic tendencies. or they’re just a-holes that don’t really care enough lol
@@seabag96 Oh my gosh, with the high expectations, though. I find it really hard to not have high expectations of others, just because I expect so much from myself. It's a never-ending cycle of disappointment.
i did the same thing kind of, im terrible at writing so ill just go off it with the story ive developed for years and the characters would include all the people who has made a better impact in my life, ,and then ill explain it to them because they seem interested because they asked for it and then say oh its ok... ok? OK? but this took me like 5 years of development with the addition of all the logic and common sense i tried to put in to make it make sense for you, thats another 2 to 3 years and more story line. xD overall theyre still great friends anyway
Me and my other INFP friends love clubbing, it's a very INFP experience. - getting drunk (or other alternative..) and losing yourself in the music. With friends though of course, not with randos.
Agreed. Electronic and Dance music are some of my main loves. Nothing better than being on a dancefloor losing myself to a really good house or trance set
my sister and I did the mbti test a few months ago and we found out we were both infp. no wonder both of us clicked so well. mind you our age gap is 7 years. i have an older sister who's 3 yrs older than me and i thought she would understand me better but nooo.. my 13 yr old sister understand me much better. fun thing is we would always do this mistake by having conversation before bedtime and it would last till morning. so we made this unspoken rule to never go into deep topics before bedtime
I think it should be hidden, if someone evil knows you're and INFP and watch this video they will know exactly how to hurt and manipulate you.... That's why I don't let no one see my true personality, I'm always in a tiresome ESFP mask around people and i usually pretend I got hurt for something I dont care (and i got rid of many pepople who tried to hurt me intentionally but they couldn't lol, heres a tip for you.)
OMG! This was comedy gold! You managed to nail the INFP personality and you made me laugh out loud in the process (yes, I'm an INFP). Thanks for the compassion AND the smiles : 0 )
I am an infp. I use to love clubbing. (Married now). I met a few really nice ladies that way. I had to get over my shyness and realise that the worst thing they can do is tell me to get lost. To my surprise when that happened occasionally, I didn't actually die. Well maybe a little on the inside. But I'm still physically alive to tell the story. Lol. I hate sales, and love crazy socks.
"That's for them, that's not for you to look at". This is so accurate. I do have unusual sock, but for me this statement not limited to socks only. Sometimes I even wear pretty clothes at home, just for myself. But when I go out, I wear plain outfit.
As an INFP, I feel loved. Thank you.❤ EDIT: Going back to this video whenever I feel like I have a long day. How can someone makes a video like this with so much sincerity? I feel like showering Benjamin kisses on his face and hug him until I got out of breath.😻
I went clubbing, when I was young: staying at the same spot for 3 hours dancing - just me and the music and the danceflore - no talking or looking at someone ... my friends always knew where to find me ... but I am social - gets me a bit off, that people say, we are scared of new people, we are only scared of rejection ... this can be with friends as well, if we wonder, wether they have time for us
Same for me! i love clubbing, even if the room is full of people, in my head is only me and the music, I don’t have to speak to anyone because they can’t hear it anyways, so it’s my favourite way of socializing with my friends :)
Literally, I went my friends 18th party on Friday right and I had exams that following week and I was more nervous for the party coz of meeting new people than the exams which will go to my uni 😂😂😂. I am sociable but sometimes I just need to be and I was talking to new people but overall I wasn’t in the mood. Sometimes I just wondered around look for my friends but they were with new people talking so I just sat by myself for a bit. Us INFP, we need to be in the mood in order for ourselves to be comfortable
@@CaveyMoth I love it! Us INFP's usually have one piece (what I tend to do) of accessory or clothing that we would wear everyday, just so we could have something materialistic and visual to set us apart from the mundane, follow the crowd, robotic frady cats to be authentic to themselves feelings of society. Rock that hat! I know we would have been good friends.☺
These are so freaking accurate but especially that ‘it’s ok’ thing. I remember drawing a mermaid when I was a kid and showing it to my older sister whose art I admired and who loved drawing mermaids. I was so proud and excited. And when I showed it to her she said ‘why are you so excited? It’s nothing special’. Broke my fuckihg heart. Didn’t show anything I did to anyone for literally years I was so afraid of their reactions. Happy to say we have an amazing relationship now and she’s so encouraging and supportive of all my endeavors. But it took a lot to build back up to being able to share my art.
Something that you could add onto the "it's ok" art thing is that INFP people also hate it when someone nitpicks something when they show it to others as well. I'm personally an INFP-T myself and I hate it so much when I finally show something to people and the first thing they notice is something they dislike about it. It hurts a lot h h hh h hh h -
Literally though. I remember ages ago I got really into this knock off Pokemon game, and I really liked it and wanted to tell my friends about it. So I went to the group chat and told them. I told them that I thought this game was pretty cool, and that I really enjoyed it. Most of them agreed, or at least said something along the lines of "Yeah I've played stuff like that, they're fun" or "Hey that looks interesting" but this one douchebag didn't. Like the first thing he said was just "Oh I don't like the artstyle" like fuck you man, way to make me feel shitty about sharing something I like with you.
I am an INFP and I've been working in retail for years and its easy. I'm able to do it because I know I'm doing it as part of my job and I know I've to only temporarily communicate like that. As soon as I'm not at work and I can be myself again I rarely take the initiative to talk to strangers 😂
#3 LOL Couldn't agree more with this. I don't do clubbing to party and meet strangers but I might go if asked by close friends. #8 That pisses me off to be told what not to wear like did my fashion style hurt anyone? If none then STFU. 😂
One day I told to my toxic aunt that I want to be a mangaka or something related to drawing when I grow up and she laughed and started yelling at me saying that I have to think of a "real" job instead of that "bullsh*t ". As an INFP (and a sensible person in general) it hurt me a lot and after that we barely talk to eachother
As an INFP, when someone tells me to do something then I won't do it because you told me to. Hahaha like when I was in highschool, my classmates told me to make a facebook account so I did otherwise. I didn't make an account until I was on my senior year because that's when they stopped convincing me🤣
You kicked ass with this video Benjamin! So true and you are absolutely hysterical! Good on you! I am an I NFJ… But my mother is an INFP… I can’t wait to show her, so I have to go wake her up and get her out of her “blanket burrito” so she can watch this!
Being so called out as an infp is quite hilarious, because it’s all these small things that bother me that much and someone finally found the words for it TwT
You nailed us. I particularly like the one about sales. Nobody has ever convinced me to do sales because I know how impossible it is. Just the thought of it stresses the heck out of me.
The part with clubbing isn't necessarily 100% accurate for everyone i think. The tension that arises from beeing in a room full of strangers can be like a drug if you manage to dance it out. Dancing can also be like a nonverbal form of communication and getting into contact with others, while still beeing in the comfort of your own little headspace and expressing things beyond words. I surely get why most infps are likely not into that scenario i guess.
This is so outrageously accurate it is scary. The point about sales is a first for me, but so true. Not a good buyer, not a good seller. Whatever feels right is right.😂
Oh my goodness lol..all of these are soo good. #7 was my favorite. My whole adult life people are always saying how perfect I would be in sales. No. 🙃 I gave into selling Mary Kay and I spent more money than I earned giving away my inventory and treating my friends &family to lunch . 😄 I loved the experience but could not make a dime, literally. I baked pies for a sale barn cafe in hopes of supporting my love of giving facials and treating others. I was too shy to meet anyone new, all my "clients" were long time friends&family. True story.
Why are we so good at making things and have no capacity for sales?!? It's twisted. He's right, if I even feel like I'm putting the least bit of pressure on someone to make a purchase, sign up to volunteer, etc, I feel heavy, sleazy, a little nauseous, and... just WRONG. Mostly because I hate a hard sell myself. I won't buy something I would have bought otherwise from someone who is pushy, on principle. I pretty much refused to sing solos as a teen until people stopped pressuring me to do so.
You nailed it! Got me to my soul about animals and Art. I paint pet portraits to honor both. The people that understand are my people. ❤️ Thank you for this brilliant video!!!
4-5…it does hurt… a lot. I’d take 10 minutes of genuine understanding instead of puzzled looks, distraction, and interjecting practicality at every turn for the things that I’m passionate about which have been years in the making. I was convinced to do sales, and I became physically sick from the stress. I shut down when I’m asked to be competitive. I spent more time acting like a life coach to the people I called. Animals have souls and no one owns them. You are lucky to have their presence and unconditional love. Spot on.
Being direct with feelings is something I agreed on with my boyfriend, because it anoys the hell out of him when I just go silent.. And I agreed with it, because I thought my poor communication skills were damaging for the relationship.. Even so, is it healthy for me to compromise my silente just for him to be calm?
It's good if you can communicate openly. I lost my ex because of something like this. I felt he didn't give me and my problems the attention I needed, not that he didn't, he just didn't express it or it didn't make me feel supported. So I started shutting and since he didn't say anything like ask about it (he did once but I couldn't understand my feelings then so I barely expressed it) I started resenting him and not liking when he touched me. So one day he called me to call it off. I tried talking and mailing him but got no response, he said he was aware of what he was doing. We dated for almost 2 years. I still don't know how to deal with what I feel, since as an Infp I feel things intensely, specially negative emotions, so I feel like why didn't he try to talk it thought or why couldn't he forgive my stupid behavior? Maybe it wouldn't work out in the end but I felt worthless and after all these months it still troubles me
@@natachaalmeida9479 That is normal.. What I found to help me and my boyfriend is to discuss our issues by text messages xD it seems weird, but I am much more capable of going through my thoughts and feelings if I am writing them.. They all atart to make sense and he understands me as well better . And I understand him better
OH Gosh!!!! Number 9 hit HARD 😭😭 Dogs, cats, and animals in general are more than that to me. They’re like my brothers and sisters!! I hate it when people say things like that.
Yeah, it's really a mess with social balance to us, I at least know from experience as an INFP myself. I don't feel like walking up to people to bring up things, but when I do, I always expect more out of their reaction to it. But it always ends up as something way too simple and bland, which makes me want to do it even less. It's a devastating loop. And because of this, I try myself to be better at receiving things from others, but I feel like others don't really seem to think about it. And I think the reason to why we, or at least I, feel underwhelmed by social feedback is because whenever people bring up things to me, I always think so much about every detail, I love to analyze things very closely, almost regardless of what it is. So when I bring up things, and others don't seem to look into it at all, I find it incredibly irritating. I get the impression that I'm not worth their time. Sorry if I got a bit venty here, just felt like explaining a bit about my own experiences with these things.
1 art is. Subjective and transcended I'd get lost 2 I love all my hobbies and I'll go back and forth 3 no one wants to go clubbing 4 I cut out my now ex-sister-in-law for telling me she didn't need my life story. When I've was explaining something she attacked me on 5 I'll take it, bit most of my family like the thing I make 6 I have been listening yes. I listen because I want to understand them 7 I work retail yes anxiety. Also I'll help some one find something they want but if you ask me between two things I'm not helping it depends on your wants. 8 use to be toe socks now it's knee/thigh highs now 9to any one who says this are you a monster. They are family if you don't like animals I don't want to be around you. You can tell a lot about a person by how they treat people things they see as less than. Dog and cats are pure small beans. Dose god look on his word non Devine children and say why you care so much about humans their just humans.( I'm also allergic to cats but still love them) 10 I don't know how I feel
These are so accurate 😂😂 Even the SOCKS one is accurate - I don't usually go out of my way to dress differently than others (I just wear whatever as long as it's modest) but I have been questioned a couple of times about my socks
I'm an INFP that talks to strangers all day at work. I'm good at it but that's why I enjoy my alone time so much. It took a lot to get out of my shell. I did a lot of bad choices in my late teens and early 20s that masked my introversion. Now I'm 25 not making all those bad choices anymore and I'm done hiding my true self. It takes a lot less energy to be me. I struggle daily but I'm learning about myself through the journey. I feel more connected to myself that I recently learned deeper about my personality type INFP. Thanks for sharing this was an awesome video. I have an impression that you're an INFP too!?:)
Yo I love you. You are a true INFP friend! Subscribe. This man not only talk about traits like other channel. He actually backing you up for the way you are!
Omg should I quit my job now? Actually I am doing an intern in insurance company but my heart feel unhappy with this cause my supervisor want to stay but i don't like doing sales🤦♀️
Ha ha ha - I ADORE YOUR PRESENTATIONS! ps-I think this is the first day I've had an actual matching pair of socks on my feet since November. It's actually a great test for a future mother-in-law's OCD issues. And how, or even if... her son defends you or her. He defended her. Bye-bye, Bye-bye... sings Violent Femmes
This is so accurate, there was one time where I made a birthday surprise for my friend and I have been hiding it for two weeks. And when I finally show him the surprise and asked if he likes it, he just plainly says its okay. =_= Especially when you talked about art my mom was like art is pointless. It hits so hard in my gut. >_< Also the last one, my friend will always tell me if you want people to know how you feel just tell me. But I wouldn't and I would just end up playing a sad song. By the way, thank you so much for your videos. Everytime I watch it, it always feels like I am in a safe place. Have a good day.
I have an INFP ladyfriend that listens to literally everything I say. And actually seems to like hearing it. I have to make a conscious effort to not dominate conversations and ask her stuff.
Oh my god. I clicked on the video with like zero expectation that it would be that accurate. The first point hit me right in face, and the whole video is so relatable to me. The way you say them is also very funny. Thanks for the great video!
your made me better as a person, cause recently, my sister told me to listening more to her, when I have for years, but still she says I need to listen more, right after I try to say what I like about art, hoping she will listen, but she didn't... I felt really bad about it, but your video made me feel better, so thank you, so much, I hope you know your not boring to watch or to listen too and your voice is very calming, witch is nice, thank you, again
whenever my friends show me their art i always put a lot of expression and capitals to show how much they mean to me whether i like the art or not (i usually do) but when i show them my art they just say "nice" or "cool" :/
I- This video is so accurate. I can literally feel those interactions in my bones. Like 100% just memories of someone saying that and my brain just going :( I have anxiety but I think on some level that wanting to talk but always being talked over hurts probably the worst Like the person I’m talking too doesn’t match my energy just feels like I’m sliding down the circles of hell It is just pure pain if like I’m so excited about something and the person just doesn’t care and are obviously not listening Plus if it’s venting and I’m not being listened to or the response is just dull and people are just not listening it makes me feel worse I guess that’s why I like hearing about how excited someone is about something they care about I love people infodumping about their favorite thing Also the one about clothes That that do be me tho Showed up to college in a pirate outfit I looked and felt swag but if someone said anything negative I would’ve immediately started to get anxious about my outfits because they’re always kinda flashy and elaborate for no reason
Lmao, the "Don´t tell INFP something they created is just OK." is so accurate. 😂 When someone asks me to share my drawing or something, and then they just say something simple like it´s OK or it´s good, or just give it a like without saying anything, I feel so irritated. Like tell me if it´s bad, if it´s great, what could I fix, or ask questions. Simple "It´s Ok" or "It´s good" will just make me unshare the thing.
all of these are SOOO accurate. im turning 30 in october and i love my pikachu songs XD i sucked in sales, the only time it would work is when my genuine authentic desire to help them get the correct product for the right price, but that only was like 1 in 20 calls.
as an infp, i think what i hate the most is when people tell me i'm SELFISH or make me feel like it. because i'm ALWAYS trying to do my best to be helpful, to be of use, i'm always thinking about other people's feelings, it's literally the thing i spend the most time thinking about every single day. like even if sometimes i don't have the courage to act on it and help i still get anxious when i feel someone is having even the most little, tiny, meaningless trouble with something. i sometimes feel guilt for not being enough, i sometimes think to myself "maybe i am selfish" and other things that don't make any sense just because i'm insecure of my actions and of myself in general. so yeah
like i go thinking "what if i am thinking about other peoples feelings just because i want them to like me so i feel validated ? what if im just helping them so i feel useful ? was it all for myself ? am i really a kind person ? i do care about others, but is the real reason pure ?" then i have to tell myself to stop thinking weird things and to not believe some things i think about myself
YOU ARE HILARIOUS!!!!!! Ive watched the video like 10x and I lol every time Thank you for getting who we are, makes me hopeful I can actually meet someone in "real life" that does as well
As an INFP working in retail, yeah it’s the worst. Like I’m not directly a “salesperson” but just being a cashier and working in customer service is the worst. It’s too many people. I work in a store that sells mostly apparel and after I saw a documentary about how fast fashion is killing the earth and the workers that make our clothes get treated poorly and make no money, I want to yell at all of these people to make better choices and to care and to not be terrible customers that just throw things everywhere. It’s a bad job. Don’t do it, gang. Save yourself 😭
I always test as INFP. And I work in a store. So technically, I do work in sales. Fortunately, I do not have to do any convincing to get people to buy the products. I absolutely hate that. I would never want to get anyone to buy anything that they don't really want or need. What you said in the video is completely true. If a customer were to say they don't like this or that about a product then yes, I do agree with them and tell them not to buy it. 😂At the counter we are, supposed to ask customers if they have our loyalty card and I never do that because I don't want to annoy anyone. 😅 Also, during shifts I am actually in a leading role. I hate telling other people what to do. It is really difficult for me to express when I am not satisfied with the job a colleague is doing, for example. I have often avoided confronting them. I just want to be nice to everyone. But I am trying to learn to express these things in a way that still corresponds with my inner values. Working in sales is really not the best fit for me. But it is what it is. Some aspects of it are good. I get to meet many people and they treat me normally and that helps me feel normal and more accepted, for example. Anyway, thank you for the video. That was funny. 😂
I like this video so much! Thank you for speaking in our favour. Please make more such videos and include how we hate going out to shop. Or is it just me? Anyway, I appreciate all the efforts you put to make these awesome videos. You're basically doing God's work.
@@BenjaminSpicy I hate that, too. The optimal shopping tour (if you could call it that way) is: Go to the store, go in, get what you need to, then check out and leave. No extended strolling around... 🤮
I loved this so much! Your style is hilarious and all of your points were, um, on point. yeah! I also hate it when ppl tell me I’m too sensitive 😭 or use emotes too much 😭😭🤬😭😭 but it’s okay, I still love everyone 👍💗
The listening part is so true 🥲 like i was with some ppl at a group and we were hanging out and i thought i was going alone but they invited me so i went bc i didn't wanna look dumb by myself and when i tried to make some type of convo they would almost never pay attention to me and just left me out so i left somewhere else for a while (btw we were at the fair)
I love you. This is so so nice. It gives me hope, that there are people out there, who understand me! ME!! This is so amazing. That thought, that feeling, that hope. You are so good. All of the points are pure points. but my favourite is #4. First time in my hole life, that I am allowed to think, that there is nothing wrong with me. Its on point.
So when they play sad song, or song that reminds about something about us together, is that invitation for me to talk to them or I should just listen to song and understand how they feel and that's all. I do second option because I am scared to talk in wrong moment or wrong way. I just fear being pushed away again. What is your opinion about it?
How about listen to the song first till it ends, and talk about how it makes them feel or what do they imagine when hearing this song? You wanna see their mind so might as well ask a question that helps you peep in it.
As for me, listen to the song and try to feel their way of feeling it. Then you can talk about song and how you perceive it, they will answer. Just don’t corner them into speaking about their feelings. Try to invite, so they always know they are free to decide whether or not and how deep they want to go
Never say to an INFP: "You just don't get me." Oh, I get you. I just don't like you.
Yesss
Person xy: "You don't get it!"
after 10 whole seconds of a silent eternity
INFP * sigh *
(inbetween the 10 seconds inside the INFPs head)
"- No matter, how I answer, he/she ... a) might get hurt (if the person spoke out of sadness) / ... b) might get aggressive/harmful (if the person acts in defence out of anger driven by the ego).
- Considering the situation, the environment (in public for example) "a" will draw everyone's attention towards me, because it's just the other one, whom they will aknowledge to be the hurt one. "b" on the other hand might end up with a rather heated dispute, forcing someone third to interact. Being the numb/silent one, it's easy they will trust in the expressive, loud one. Even if not, if I'm forced, a point will get reached where I become rather impulsive and see red. ... Picturing a scene of violence followed by hateful judgements. In the end, I shouln't give a f***. ... again and again swallowing it for the sake of peace. Btw.: What about the several times, he/she ignored my feelings, even though I don't throw them into someone's face, yet, merely indicated by the context surrounding the given content of the conversation, every human being more or less capable of feeling should conclude?!"
So, the usual answer: I just give a slight nod without a word.
Well said.
Sometimes when I read the comments I wonder if I’m an INFP at all. Nobody ever says to me “oh, you just don’t get me”. Because I “get” everyone. Everyone is bowled over by my friendliness, my empathy, my interest in them. Total strangers tell me their life story in the supermarket aisle. My friends come to me saying “I’m going to ask you because I know you’ll tell me the truth”. And I do, kindly. Then I never phone them.
🤣🤣
"You just stabbed them.. you're a murderer. You are literally stabbing them with words"
As a male infp, I am offended if someone said those things to me.
I can't believe it! The tomoko in your profile? 🤩🤩🤩
@@nandenayo3_catsandraw I've kept it as my profile pic for years 😂 because I've felt like I've always related to her lol
I'm glad you recognized!
@@iluvcandylikeya I also have tomoko on my profile on a UA-cam account. I love this girl. I feel completely close to myself. A girl with a social anxiety And not many people watch this an animate, so it's nice to meet someone who likes this an animate. So I'm so happy right now.😍🤩😁🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸
@@nandenayo3_catsandraw haha yes, sometimes the things she does or says is so cringy, but you feel her pain because you know what it's like 😭 I've rewatched the anime like 3 times, it just doesnt grow old
I don’t mind when people insult me directly but when someone insults a song/film/painting etc. that I hold close to my heart, it’s like they are ripping out my heart and stomping on it
no but seriously though, it hurts ಥ‿ಥ
My friends insult my music taste and my love for video games on a regular basis, they do it as a joke but it still hurts
ikr at this point i just blast my music at my brother in spite >:(
saaaaameeee ;-;
a couple times this happened to me and I tried to not be upset about it, but it's just impossible. it makes me feel terrible :[
Every time that happens I feel like starting a war lol.
I just HATE when I listen to everyone and when I want to talk, nobody even cares about listening to me, most people just cut me off in mid-speaking, almost all the time actually. So I guess I got used to this.
And this also applies for venting. I don't usually vent cuz I dont like to open up to people, maybe because it's hard for me to simplify my feelings, so it's hard for people to understand deeply what I am really feeling and help me with that.
Edit: just some gramatical corrections, I’m not a native speaker
I used to really try to help people out and be nice and then realized how little people care and how some don't even want it. Now, I just do me and will help out if people ask but not bend over backwards because I know they won't do the same. At first, I thought this wasn't right but what led me to that conclusion is that a relationship of any kind needs to be mutually beneficial to be good. In that sense, bending over backwards for someone who doesn't care really isn't great for either party
As an ENTP who lives with my brother who is INFP. I can see your struggles. It Is sad, when he tryes So hard to be likeable, but people dont like him, because others have more interesting personality. As i am Quite popular even tho i am obnoxious, small, little, cheeky selfish, egoistical man. Even tho i am in a sense worse friend than He Is. People just prefer guys that are cooler maybe, but they do not know, what they are missing as INFPs are amazing they are Smart, And loyal also really great friends And, if you stay loyal to them. They will love you And help you, whenever they can. It is shame that people just do not give a shit about, who you really Are.
Sameee my god. Usually with my friends I'll rarely ever give my input, just listen and smile, but I'm glad I've got another infp and an infj friend I can vent with through messages
IKR i listen so nicely and then get interrupted but it’s okay it’s fine I’m everybody’s ray of sunshine and I don’t feel violent emotions or need anyone to listen to me it’s ok :)
Im an infj and honestly same
I feel like Benjamin Spicy is the dad of all INFP's and hes like "No bad, stop hurting my children >:("
right, I feel so seen 😭
"They barely even want to talk to YOU!" I felt this in my heart! 🤣😂🤣
I sometimes don't even want to talk to my best friend
I laughed out loud at this 😂
I know right? This reasonated with me and made me realise, with even a harsher critical voice, that we are very paradoxical creatures.
I kept thinking about this statement and chuckling 😂
Stabbing with the word Ok is so accurate xD
Us INFPs get hurt so easily lol, we expected a great appreciation for what we did because we feel like we did good and want to hear that from others to confirm and be heppy
Yeeaahh
I'm super into art, as INFPs generally are, and I just finished a realistic art piece, and sent it to my friends, and one said
"It's pretty good!"
I swear I was in a bad mood for the rest of the hour. I was like
"Oh.. That's it...?"
As someone who showers my friends in praise I was just a bit underwhelmed, but I feel guilty for expecting more so-
H a h a
@@mumsiewhachacallit6497 i mean "pretty good" sounds pretty good to me 😂
Its just when they like shrug it off and kinda say it in a neutral way, but if there is praise in general i try to be happy abt it •v•
@@yowgert_9424 Yeah, that's what I meant TwT
She was kinda just like
"Oh, that's pretty good"
And then kinda shrugged it off and I was just like
*intense disappointment*
Cuz it was almost like she didn't actually care? Not that I should really expect her to, I send her art all the time, but I'm just very sensitive T^T
It's like it almost feels artificial though, you know?
It's very stupid, I know, and I feel bad about it, but that's just how my mind works I suppose...
@@mumsiewhachacallit6497 It's human to feel that way. You are not stupid and you don't have to feel bad for feeling a certain way. 🌻❤
@@mumsiewhachacallit6497 I understand this so much! It hurts cause you want more but then you just feel like your being dramatic cause you had expectations and its not like they have to but you still wanted more anyways. So it's like a back in forth between being selfish and still feeling disappointed T^T
Infp here, been convinced to do sales, Its hell, lasted one week before I quit, Felt miserable and guilty all the time, also got physically sick, so stressful
I hope you are doing okay bud.
I try once. Didn't stay at the job longer than 3 month.
I'm an x-ray tech, and doctors are always ordering pointless exams. And as soon as the patient has any kind of objection, I have to rebound and either think up a stupid reason that the exam could be worthwhile, or go and ask the doctor why they need it. Often times, the doctor will have to talk the patient into the exam while I'm there with them..and it's just freaking awkward, man. The whole healthcare system is built on milking patients while covering your butt as much as possible. I do not recommend it to INFPs.
I want to try and experience it though 😂 until I give it up too 😂
Me too, infp, I got my first job as a cashier, work at a small shop... Somehow managed the shop alone... It's was so stressful... I lasted 6 months before I quit, not gonna lie, I felt guilty too...
One of my least favorite things said to me is, "You've grown quiet."
It fills me with an indescribable rage for some reason. It might be a simple observation for some, but it's a confrontation to my existence by stating my hand, expecting me to apologize and or 'correct' the silence is agony. If you want to get an infp to talk, ask them anything else besides telling them they are suddenly silent as if pointing it out makes them want to suddenly talk, after the already rare occasion they've talked before.
I AGREE THAT THIS IS THE WORST THING TO SAY TO QUIET PEOPLE IN GENERAL. It’s actually very rude 🙅🏽♀️ just like it’s rude to tell someone how loud and obnoxious they are
@@Mly_aaa if it was the other way around it would go like, " Hi Mary, why are you so noisy again today? Ain't you been like that since we were in grade school? We are college students now so you should learn how to shut up."
Telling quiet people to talk is rude. We're enjoying our peace so leave us ALONE. Except friends, cause they just sit beside you without talking.
@@rinkazuto6159 exxxxactlyyyy🎶🎵
True like thank you for letting me know you dislike how i am, that is making me want to make a big effort to be liked by you yea exactly
Amen
#1. as an INFP myself, I can confirm that these points are all 100% true.
#2. Holy CRAP, you have a great sense of humor and I haven't laughed like that in SO long!
Hysterical
I agree as INFP as well.
So do I
Ex boyfirends' last words "it's just art" "it's just music" "it's just God" "it's just family" etc etc....
Good god, was he an ENTJ?? 😵💫
@@EarthenCavy those were all different boyfriends...their last words to me for good reason, lol...but I did end up marrying a huge dick...he had no personality to dissect...narcissist a personality type? Lol
I would have gone with "It's just a break up, don't get too mad"
@@SarahJacksonLV Hope you got out of this toxic relationship or at least sorted things out with him
Smh
I(INTP) have an INFP girlfriend and this is spot on, happy I'm not guilty of doing none of them, maybe just the last one.
Gotta be careful 😂
@@BenjaminSpicy The Warning though xD
I'm aslo an INTP and wanted to see if I'm an INFP, but... Ehhm no. It does fit my INFP friend though
I'm an infp, and it's very true I can never settle on hobbies. I'm constantly looking at self improvement and can go off at people on various subjects surrounding my latest interest whatever that is.. and it's usually an obscure life improvement practice, or some idea about the direction of society. But contrary to the vid, I love clubbing (or should say 'loved' because i'm now 40 with kids). The best years of my life were spent in dance music clubs, festivals and gigs because I love the music and I love to people watch, even though i'm useless at social interaction in group scenarios. Although, I hate mainstream clubs that plays chart pop as those places are completely different. It's very true we are easily impressionable and I wished i'd realised sooner so I would have known to follow my own intuition. Better late than never though, so focusing on creative endeavors from here on out. I've got nowhere trying to fit in to society. wasted years due to thinking my own interests had no value. To any young INFP - Don't put your creativity on the backburner. Don't try and fit in. Follow you intuition and make your own decisions about your life, regardless of what others think about those decisions. Don't doubt yourself. Follow your intuition.
Yeah I made some silly career changes because I got influenced , gotta be careful 😃
Thank you so much for saying that... I'm an Inpf too and I'll definitely follow your advice... 😊😊😊
Thanks. This made me cry lol. I want to be myself but I'm scared I might disappoint a lot of people. I'm tired of forcing myself to like things
THANK YOU
I also loved clubbing!! You can get lost in the music and don't necessarily have to socialize.
Hey INFPs, we ENFJs love you a lot. Keep doing what you are doing right now and we will be always there to support you 😊✌️.
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God bless my friend 🙏 ❤
As an INFP with an ENFJ best friend, this hits home! ❤
I have enfj gf and I'm infp it's so good mix
I'm an INFJ with an INFP best friend
It is not only about INFP. These things shouldn't be said to anyone. It is called ,,respect".
With MBTI and personality types in general it's not about things not being applicable to multiple types. It's about multiple things being applicable for the same type. We are all made up of the same or similar things, but not in the same exact way. People don't realize this tho so that's why all the MBTI stuff gets so discredited by random sites who just found out it exsisted.
5 is true. There's no point making something if it's just okay. Because the whole world is full of things that are just okay. Going for a walk, having a snack, taking a dump etc... So if it's okay then it obviously hasn't been uplifting so my work is a failure.
Ikr, I remember getting so upset with my lecturer last month because she's telling me my thesis proposal is "so-so" when I put my blood, sweat and tear in it.
@@vousmavez I was thinking of the funny comic strip I drew up. It contains a joke where where a guy hungrily eats a bunch of strawberry sherbert lollies and feels very satisfied with himself for doing so. But then it is revealed that they weren't strawberry sherbert lollies at all. He just ate a bunch of blood-soaked tampons.
I gave that joke to someone at university to read. She didn't even change facial expression. She just told me it was okay and handed it back. I felt sick. I would have preferred it if she'd felt disgusted and hated it.
@@sammartina8574 oOOOOF for what it's worth, that's really creative lol how do u even think of that??? disgusting but gooood HAHA do u have a self published comic book or like a collection of all your strips or something?
@@sammartina8574 To be honest you can't really get upset with her, she tried to be kind when the joke didn't make her laugh. We all have different kinds of humor and it wouldn't have been good for her to laugh when she didn't feel like it or call it disgusting when she didn't want to hurt your feelings
@@shadowoftheday5736 Yeh, I also have difficulty knowing how to react to a joke I don't find funny. Thank you for the reminder that we all have different kinds of humor. I will keep that in mind when people read my work in the future.
My ex husband venomously asked me "why does everything have to be new for you?" The 20+ year marriage was instantly over as at that moment I realised he hated the thing that is fundamentally the core of my being!!
Wow. Just wow. I appreciate my interest with many things, I think it is the little kid in all of us, just looking with wide eyes at the world, trying to figure everything out.
wow im sorry i hope u r doing better now 😔🥺
My husband would laugh and thought it was cute the way I get excited over things. When he passed, the first thing to make me truly happy was discovering a Sour Patch Kids gingerbread house kit. The pure joy from that moment was a welcome respite from the spiral I was in. It was exactly the kind of thing he would have laughed about.
Ok I'm glad you included "if it's bad, just say it's bad."
I don't mind criticism, but I do mind a soulless answer like "it's okay" or "it's good". I spent a lot of time and effort on making something, at least spend a few moments of your day to really take a look at what I made. If you say you don't like it, at least you're acknowledging my effort, even if it amounted to something stupid, because you took a moment to look at it and form an opinion of it. "It's okay" and nothing more is something you only say if you don't care but you don't want to hurt my feelings by dismissing it without a word. Well guess what, sport? THAT HURTS MY FEELINGS ANYWAY.
I agree. The worst thing you could say to me about something I poured my heart and soul into is "it's okay." I would rather have honest criticism so I can know how to IMPROVE rather than something dismissive that doesn't challenge me to do better and create that masterpiece I feel I have been put on this planet to produce.
I wrote a short story once, and dedicated it to two people who were very influential in my life. They didn't have the reaction I was hoping for. It crushed me. But at least my Uncle thought it was really good. I got so mad with the rest of them, though, I wrote a whole 7+ page rant about how angry and hurt I was.
I feel u 😢😭😤. Wrote a personal poem or rap ( in my eyes) gave it my friends. Replied with its okay. No it’s just not okay it’s something special and very personal for me and I had the confidence to show it to u
i’ve def been there before. but i feel like the disappointment for their reactions comes from our high expectations of others. i know i need to stop doing but it’s just really hard cause of the idealistic tendencies. or they’re just a-holes that don’t really care enough lol
@@seabag96
Oh my gosh, with the high expectations, though. I find it really hard to not have high expectations of others, just because I expect so much from myself. It's a never-ending cycle of disappointment.
i did the same thing kind of, im terrible at writing so ill just go off it with the story ive developed for years and the characters would include all the people who has made a better impact in my life, ,and then ill explain it to them because they seem interested because they asked for it and then say oh its ok... ok? OK? but this took me like 5 years of development with the addition of all the logic and common sense i tried to put in to make it make sense for you, thats another 2 to 3 years and more story line. xD overall theyre still great friends anyway
@@x-zen105s.5
That is so sad!!! I'm sorry.
Me and my other INFP friends love clubbing, it's a very INFP experience. - getting drunk (or other alternative..) and losing yourself in the music. With friends though of course, not with randos.
Agreed. Electronic and Dance music are some of my main loves. Nothing better than being on a dancefloor losing myself to a really good house or trance set
I was about to say that. I love clubbing with the right people
Yup ..no randos
my sister and I did the mbti test a few months ago and we found out we were both infp. no wonder both of us clicked so well. mind you our age gap is 7 years. i have an older sister who's 3 yrs older than me and i thought she would understand me better but nooo.. my 13 yr old sister understand me much better. fun thing is we would always do this mistake by having conversation before bedtime and it would last till morning. so we made this unspoken rule to never go into deep topics before bedtime
Wow, it's great that you've got a siblings of your own personality type💖💖💖. I wish I had one too, because to the ones I got it's hard to understand me
I just found myself laughing and agreeing to everything, i wish people would know these things..
I think it should be hidden, if someone evil knows you're and INFP and watch this video they will know exactly how to hurt and manipulate you.... That's why I don't let no one see my true personality, I'm always in a tiresome ESFP mask around people and i usually pretend I got hurt for something I dont care (and i got rid of many pepople who tried to hurt me intentionally but they couldn't lol, heres a tip for you.)
OMG! This was comedy gold! You managed to nail the INFP personality and you made me laugh out loud in the process (yes, I'm an INFP). Thanks for the compassion AND the smiles : 0 )
Everything about this is so accurate 😭 People around me has been telling me that I'm weird or "think too much". Now, I realize I'm just INFP 🥲
Bro I feel so loved whenever I watch your videos i-
Your videos make my day 😭💖💕💕
Comments like this make my day! 😊😊
This feels like a shelter
I am an infp. I use to love clubbing. (Married now). I met a few really nice ladies that way. I had to get over my shyness and realise that the worst thing they can do is tell me to get lost. To my surprise when that happened occasionally, I didn't actually die. Well maybe a little on the inside. But I'm still physically alive to tell the story. Lol. I hate sales, and love crazy socks.
"That's for them, that's not for you to look at". This is so accurate. I do have unusual sock, but for me this statement not limited to socks only. Sometimes I even wear pretty clothes at home, just for myself. But when I go out, I wear plain outfit.
As an INFP, I feel loved. Thank you.❤
EDIT: Going back to this video whenever I feel like I have a long day. How can someone makes a video like this with so much sincerity? I feel like showering Benjamin kisses on his face and hug him until I got out of breath.😻
I have an INFP friend who has depression, and I am trying to understand them better.
Thank you for this video!
I went clubbing, when I was young: staying at the same spot for 3 hours dancing - just me and the music and the danceflore - no talking or looking at someone ... my friends always knew where to find me ... but I am social - gets me a bit off, that people say, we are scared of new people, we are only scared of rejection ... this can be with friends as well, if we wonder, wether they have time for us
Same for me! i love clubbing, even if the room is full of people, in my head is only me and the music, I don’t have to speak to anyone because they can’t hear it anyways, so it’s my favourite way of socializing with my friends :)
yes yes finally someone likeminded
Same, I would be the first one in the dance floor even it’s empty
yeaaa i dont “hate” clubbing or socialising i actually enjoy socialising tbh but i just get afraid and sometimes intimidated by people
Literally, I went my friends 18th party on Friday right and I had exams that following week and I was more nervous for the party coz of meeting new people than the exams which will go to my uni 😂😂😂. I am sociable but sometimes I just need to be and I was talking to new people but overall I wasn’t in the mood. Sometimes I just wondered around look for my friends but they were with new people talking so I just sat by myself for a bit. Us INFP, we need to be in the mood in order for ourselves to be comfortable
INFP here..spot on for the socks..I have a ton of eccentric socks.
I haven't really had any crazy socks. But I did wear a Davey Crockett hat in public from time to time...
@@CaveyMoth I love it! Us INFP's usually have one piece (what I tend to do) of accessory or clothing that we would wear everyday, just so we could have something materialistic and visual to set us apart from the mundane, follow the crowd, robotic frady cats to be authentic to themselves feelings of society. Rock that hat! I know we would have been good friends.☺
I would like to see some
I love socks most
These are so freaking accurate but especially that ‘it’s ok’ thing. I remember drawing a mermaid when I was a kid and showing it to my older sister whose art I admired and who loved drawing mermaids. I was so proud and excited. And when I showed it to her she said ‘why are you so excited? It’s nothing special’. Broke my fuckihg heart. Didn’t show anything I did to anyone for literally years I was so afraid of their reactions. Happy to say we have an amazing relationship now and she’s so encouraging and supportive of all my endeavors. But it took a lot to build back up to being able to share my art.
Something that you could add onto the "it's ok" art thing is that INFP people also hate it when someone nitpicks something when they show it to others as well. I'm personally an INFP-T myself and I hate it so much when I finally show something to people and the first thing they notice is something they dislike about it. It hurts a lot h h hh h hh h -
Literally though.
I remember ages ago I got really into this knock off Pokemon game, and I really liked it and wanted to tell my friends about it.
So I went to the group chat and told them. I told them that I thought this game was pretty cool, and that I really enjoyed it.
Most of them agreed, or at least said something along the lines of "Yeah I've played stuff like that, they're fun" or "Hey that looks interesting" but this one douchebag didn't.
Like the first thing he said was just "Oh I don't like the artstyle" like fuck you man, way to make me feel shitty about sharing something I like with you.
This video was so validating. It almost cured years of my familys harsh attitude about my "quirkyness"
I am an INFP and I've been working in retail for years and its easy. I'm able to do it because I know I'm doing it as part of my job and I know I've to only temporarily communicate like that. As soon as I'm not at work and I can be myself again I rarely take the initiative to talk to strangers 😂
“They barely even want to talk to you” good glory that resonated with me
Was literally a blanket burrito watching this
Thank you for always assuring infp people are amazing, it really makes me happy
#3 LOL Couldn't agree more with this. I don't do clubbing to party and meet strangers but I might go if asked by close friends. #8 That pisses me off to be told what not to wear like did my fashion style hurt anyone? If none then STFU. 😂
I 100% agree with the first statement. I remember talking to my sister one night saying, "You know, I don't trust people who don't appreciate art."
I like your speech! You should read audio books. I'd listen to them!
Agreed
One day I told to my toxic aunt that I want to be a mangaka or something related to drawing when I grow up and she laughed and started yelling at me saying that I have to think of a "real" job instead of that "bullsh*t ". As an INFP (and a sensible person in general) it hurt me a lot and after that we barely talk to eachother
As an INFP, when someone tells me to do something then I won't do it because you told me to. Hahaha like when I was in highschool, my classmates told me to make a facebook account so I did otherwise. I didn't make an account until I was on my senior year because that's when they stopped convincing me🤣
You kicked ass with this video Benjamin! So true and you are absolutely hysterical! Good on you! I am an I NFJ… But my mother is an INFP… I can’t wait to show her, so I have to go wake her up and get her out of her “blanket burrito” so she can watch this!
😂😂😂😂 dude why do I like the whole presentation of this... YES YEEESSSSS
Being so called out as an infp is quite hilarious, because it’s all these small things that bother me that much and someone finally found the words for it TwT
You nailed us. I particularly like the one about sales. Nobody has ever convinced me to do sales because I know how impossible it is. Just the thought of it stresses the heck out of me.
The part with clubbing isn't necessarily 100% accurate for everyone i think.
The tension that arises from beeing in a room full of strangers can be like a drug if you manage to dance it out.
Dancing can also be like a nonverbal form of communication and getting into contact with others, while still beeing in the comfort of your own little headspace and expressing things beyond words.
I surely get why most infps are likely not into that scenario i guess.
This is so outrageously accurate it is scary.
The point about sales is a first for me, but so true. Not a good buyer, not a good seller. Whatever feels right is right.😂
Oh my goodness lol..all of these are soo good. #7 was my favorite. My whole adult life people are always saying how perfect I would be in sales. No. 🙃 I gave into selling Mary Kay and I spent more money than I earned giving away my inventory and treating my friends &family to lunch . 😄 I loved the experience but could not make a dime, literally. I baked pies for a sale barn cafe in hopes of supporting my love of giving facials and treating others. I was too shy to meet anyone new, all my "clients" were long time friends&family. True story.
Why are we so good at making things and have no capacity for sales?!? It's twisted.
He's right, if I even feel like I'm putting the least bit of pressure on someone to make a purchase, sign up to volunteer, etc, I feel heavy, sleazy, a little nauseous, and... just WRONG. Mostly because I hate a hard sell myself. I won't buy something I would have bought otherwise from someone who is pushy, on principle. I pretty much refused to sing solos as a teen until people stopped pressuring me to do so.
thank you for making me, an infp, smile!!
Thanks for watching! 😊😊
You nailed it! Got me to my soul about animals and Art. I paint pet portraits to honor both. The people that understand are my people. ❤️ Thank you for this brilliant video!!!
"YOURR A MURRRDERERER..." very true
4-5…it does hurt… a lot. I’d take 10 minutes of genuine understanding instead of puzzled looks, distraction, and interjecting practicality at every turn for the things that I’m passionate about which have been years in the making. I was convinced to do sales, and I became physically sick from the stress. I shut down when I’m asked to be competitive. I spent more time acting like a life coach to the people I called. Animals have souls and no one owns them. You are lucky to have their presence and unconditional love. Spot on.
Benjamin, you're a gem! XD Thanks for the hilarious vids!
Thanks! I'll keep making them 😊
Being direct with feelings is something I agreed on with my boyfriend, because it anoys the hell out of him when I just go silent.. And I agreed with it, because I thought my poor communication skills were damaging for the relationship.. Even so, is it healthy for me to compromise my silente just for him to be calm?
I think it's always good to be open with your feelings , we might be afraid to do so but open communication seems to be a way to go 😊
Think from his POV as well, he's expressing his feelings and you aren't reciprocating or ignoring it, if he did that to you, you'd feel hurt
It's good if you can communicate openly. I lost my ex because of something like this. I felt he didn't give me and my problems the attention I needed, not that he didn't, he just didn't express it or it didn't make me feel supported. So I started shutting and since he didn't say anything like ask about it (he did once but I couldn't understand my feelings then so I barely expressed it) I started resenting him and not liking when he touched me. So one day he called me to call it off. I tried talking and mailing him but got no response, he said he was aware of what he was doing. We dated for almost 2 years. I still don't know how to deal with what I feel, since as an Infp I feel things intensely, specially negative emotions, so I feel like why didn't he try to talk it thought or why couldn't he forgive my stupid behavior? Maybe it wouldn't work out in the end but I felt worthless and after all these months it still troubles me
@@natachaalmeida9479 That is normal..
What I found to help me and my boyfriend is to discuss our issues by text messages xD it seems weird, but I am much more capable of going through my thoughts and feelings if I am writing them.. They all atart to make sense and he understands me as well better . And I understand him better
@@dianadias3 yeah I totally get you, I can express much more through text than talking
I hate it when people call me annoying just because I have my passions or when people say that in too “sensitive” or “weak”.
I feel each stab! The sock one is so accurate!! I was using today my favorite purple with print lemons ✨
The fact my favourite color is purple and I love lemons is funny
OH Gosh!!!! Number 9 hit HARD 😭😭 Dogs, cats, and animals in general are more than that to me. They’re like my brothers and sisters!! I hate it when people say things like that.
Yeah, it's really a mess with social balance to us, I at least know from experience as an INFP myself. I don't feel like walking up to people to bring up things, but when I do, I always expect more out of their reaction to it. But it always ends up as something way too simple and bland, which makes me want to do it even less. It's a devastating loop. And because of this, I try myself to be better at receiving things from others, but I feel like others don't really seem to think about it. And I think the reason to why we, or at least I, feel underwhelmed by social feedback is because whenever people bring up things to me, I always think so much about every detail, I love to analyze things very closely, almost regardless of what it is. So when I bring up things, and others don't seem to look into it at all, I find it incredibly irritating. I get the impression that I'm not worth their time.
Sorry if I got a bit venty here, just felt like explaining a bit about my own experiences with these things.
1 art is. Subjective and transcended I'd get lost
2 I love all my hobbies and I'll go back and forth
3 no one wants to go clubbing
4 I cut out my now ex-sister-in-law for telling me she didn't need my life story. When I've was explaining something she attacked me on
5 I'll take it, bit most of my family like the thing I make
6 I have been listening yes. I listen because I want to understand them
7 I work retail yes anxiety. Also I'll help some one find something they want but if you ask me between two things I'm not helping it depends on your wants.
8 use to be toe socks now it's knee/thigh highs now
9to any one who says this are you a monster. They are family if you don't like animals I don't want to be around you. You can tell a lot about a person by how they treat people things they see as less than. Dog and cats are pure small beans. Dose god look on his word non Devine children and say why you care so much about humans their just humans.( I'm also allergic to cats but still love them)
10 I don't know how I feel
These are so accurate 😂😂
Even the SOCKS one is accurate - I don't usually go out of my way to dress differently than others (I just wear whatever as long as it's modest) but I have been questioned a couple of times about my socks
I'm an INFP that talks to strangers all day at work. I'm good at it but that's why I enjoy my alone time so much. It took a lot to get out of my shell. I did a lot of bad choices in my late teens and early 20s that masked my introversion. Now I'm 25 not making all those bad choices anymore and I'm done hiding my true self. It takes a lot less energy to be me. I struggle daily but I'm learning about myself through the journey. I feel more connected to myself that I recently learned deeper about my personality type INFP. Thanks for sharing this was an awesome video. I have an impression that you're an INFP too!?:)
Yo I love you. You are a true INFP friend! Subscribe. This man not only talk about traits like other channel. He actually backing you up for the way you are!
YOU'RE SO FUNNY I CAN'T
Nice Video :)
Love your humor 😂
Glad you enjoyed it! 😄
@@BenjaminSpicy 'they barely want Talk to you' is very true for me hahah 😅
as an INFP, this so accurate
Spot on about sales 😬
Omg should I quit my job now? Actually I am doing an intern in insurance company but my heart feel unhappy with this cause my supervisor want to stay but i don't like doing sales🤦♀️
Ha ha ha - I ADORE YOUR PRESENTATIONS!
ps-I think this is the first day I've had an actual matching pair of socks on my feet since November. It's actually a great test for a future mother-in-law's OCD issues. And how, or even if... her son defends you or her. He defended her. Bye-bye, Bye-bye... sings Violent Femmes
This is so accurate, there was one time where I made a birthday surprise for my friend and I have been hiding it for two weeks. And when I finally show him the surprise and asked if he likes it, he just plainly says its okay. =_=
Especially when you talked about art my mom was like art is pointless. It hits so hard in my gut. >_<
Also the last one, my friend will always tell me if you want people to know how you feel just tell me. But I wouldn't and I would just end up playing a sad song. By the way, thank you so much for your videos. Everytime I watch it, it always feels like I am in a safe place. Have a good day.
I have an INFP ladyfriend that listens to literally everything I say. And actually seems to like hearing it. I have to make a conscious effort to not dominate conversations and ask her stuff.
My response to someone saying dogs and cats are just animals is "so are people"
Oh my god. I clicked on the video with like zero expectation that it would be that accurate. The first point hit me right in face, and the whole video is so relatable to me. The way you say them is also very funny. Thanks for the great video!
your made me better as a person, cause recently, my sister told me to listening more to her, when I have for years, but still she says I need to listen more, right after I try to say what I like about art, hoping she will listen, but she didn't... I felt really bad about it, but your video made me feel better, so thank you, so much,
I hope you know your not boring to watch or to listen too and your voice is very calming, witch is nice, thank you, again
Thanks 😊😊
These are soo true..as an INFP..it is encouraging to know that we can be understood:).
whenever my friends show me their art i always put a lot of expression and capitals to show how much they mean to me whether i like the art or not (i usually do) but when i show them my art they just say "nice" or "cool" :/
My best friend is an infp and these are so accurate. i try my best not to make her sad and this video will help me alot. Thanks;)
Oh my gosh….as an INFP, I was surprised by how accurate this was! Especially the first two
I-
This video is so accurate. I can literally feel those interactions in my bones. Like 100% just memories of someone saying that and my brain just going :(
I have anxiety but I think on some level that wanting to talk but always being talked over hurts probably the worst
Like the person I’m talking too doesn’t match my energy just feels like I’m sliding down the circles of hell
It is just pure pain if like I’m so excited about something and the person just doesn’t care and are obviously not listening
Plus if it’s venting and I’m not being listened to or the response is just dull and people are just not listening it makes me feel worse
I guess that’s why I like hearing about how excited someone is about something they care about I love people infodumping about their favorite thing
Also the one about clothes
That that do be me tho
Showed up to college in a pirate outfit I looked and felt swag but if someone said anything negative I would’ve immediately started to get anxious about my outfits because they’re always kinda flashy and elaborate for no reason
The thing is, i would be really good at social interaction if I could just have the skills to word my thoughts out loud
Lmao, the "Don´t tell INFP something they created is just OK." is so accurate. 😂 When someone asks me to share my drawing or something, and then they just say something simple like it´s OK or it´s good, or just give it a like without saying anything, I feel so irritated. Like tell me if it´s bad, if it´s great, what could I fix, or ask questions. Simple "It´s Ok" or "It´s good" will just make me unshare the thing.
omg, well I guess it's official after this video. It was so awful!😢😭😭 but also funny. 😆😁 You're funny. Great account! -infp
Glad you liked it😊
I love this commentary so much, I'm laughing with the editing too xd
Good job
You had me laughing at #8 yes!! I can pick my own socks damnit 😂😂😂
This is so funny…. I am INFP to a T. This is so true and your commentary is so funny- I love it. It’s perfect 🤣😂😂
all of these are SOOO accurate.
im turning 30 in october and i love my pikachu songs XD
i sucked in sales, the only time it would work is when my genuine authentic desire to help them get the correct product for the right price, but that only was like 1 in 20 calls.
as an infp, i think what i hate the most is when people tell me i'm SELFISH or make me feel like it.
because i'm ALWAYS trying to do my best to be helpful, to be of use, i'm always thinking about other people's feelings, it's literally the thing i spend the most time thinking about every single day. like even if sometimes i don't have the courage to act on it and help i still get anxious when i feel someone is having even the most little, tiny, meaningless trouble with something. i sometimes feel guilt for not being enough, i sometimes think to myself "maybe i am selfish" and other things that don't make any sense just because i'm insecure of my actions and of myself in general.
so yeah
like i go thinking "what if i am thinking about other peoples feelings just because i want them to like me so i feel validated ? what if im just helping them so i feel useful ? was it all for myself ? am i really a kind person ? i do care about others, but is the real reason pure ?" then i have to tell myself to stop thinking weird things and to not believe some things i think about myself
YOU ARE HILARIOUS!!!!!! Ive watched the video like 10x and I lol every time
Thank you for getting who we are, makes me hopeful I can actually meet someone in "real life" that does as well
This is so true. Sometimes I just want to get in a hammock and read a book. Love this!
and I'll take kitties and puppies over any human any day pretty much. (or any animal!)
I want to go clubbing!
Should we go
@@kimboleeekimkim hmmm yes... we can get free humiliations there!
As an INFP working in retail, yeah it’s the worst. Like I’m not directly a “salesperson” but just being a cashier and working in customer service is the worst. It’s too many people. I work in a store that sells mostly apparel and after I saw a documentary about how fast fashion is killing the earth and the workers that make our clothes get treated poorly and make no money, I want to yell at all of these people to make better choices and to care and to not be terrible customers that just throw things everywhere. It’s a bad job. Don’t do it, gang. Save yourself 😭
"They dont want to go clubbing.. they barely want to talk to you.." LOL.. Im dying..
Brilliant.
I always test as INFP. And I work in a store. So technically, I do work in sales. Fortunately, I do not have to do any convincing to get people to buy the products. I absolutely hate that. I would never want to get anyone to buy anything that they don't really want or need.
What you said in the video is completely true. If a customer were to say they don't like this or that about a product then yes, I do agree with them and tell them not to buy it. 😂At the counter we are, supposed to ask customers if they have our loyalty card and I never do that because I don't want to annoy anyone. 😅
Also, during shifts I am actually in a leading role. I hate telling other people what to do. It is really difficult for me to express when I am not satisfied with the job a colleague is doing, for example. I have often avoided confronting them. I just want to be nice to everyone. But I am trying to learn to express these things in a way that still corresponds with my inner values.
Working in sales is really not the best fit for me. But it is what it is. Some aspects of it are good. I get to meet many people and they treat me normally and that helps me feel normal and more accepted, for example.
Anyway, thank you for the video. That was funny. 😂
Thanks for the tips, gonna go piss off some infps
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How can someone being funny with such a calming voice! Talent indeed! Imma laughing so hard cuz these points are so relateable 🤣
I like this video so much! Thank you for speaking in our favour. Please make more such videos and include how we hate going out to shop. Or is it just me? Anyway, I appreciate all the efforts you put to make these awesome videos. You're basically doing God's work.
That's so nice of you thank you😊 it's definitely not just you hating trips to shop 😂
@@BenjaminSpicy I hate that, too. The optimal shopping tour (if you could call it that way) is: Go to the store, go in, get what you need to, then check out and leave. No extended strolling around... 🤮
I loved this so much! Your style is hilarious and all of your points were, um, on point. yeah! I also hate it when ppl tell me I’m too sensitive 😭 or use emotes too much
😭😭🤬😭😭 but it’s okay, I still love everyone 👍💗
The listening part is so true 🥲 like i was with some ppl at a group and we were hanging out and i thought i was going alone but they invited me so i went bc i didn't wanna look dumb by myself and when i tried to make some type of convo they would almost never pay attention to me and just left me out so i left somewhere else for a while (btw we were at the fair)
I love you. This is so so nice. It gives me hope, that there are people out there, who understand me! ME!! This is so amazing. That thought, that feeling, that hope. You are so good. All of the points are pure points. but my favourite is #4. First time in my hole life, that I am allowed to think, that there is nothing wrong with me. Its on point.
So when they play sad song, or song that reminds about something about us together, is that invitation for me to talk to them or I should just listen to song and understand how they feel and that's all. I do second option because I am scared to talk in wrong moment or wrong way. I just fear being pushed away again.
What is your opinion about it?
I think it's always worth to ask how they are doing , even just to show them that you think about them
How about listen to the song first till it ends, and talk about how it makes them feel or what do they imagine when hearing this song? You wanna see their mind so might as well ask a question that helps you peep in it.
@@AbigaleKirsten but dont force them to talk
Just check in. Ignoring me will make me more sad. As if you could care less lol. Avoid bigger problem and check in. Hope that helps 😊
As for me, listen to the song and try to feel their way of feeling it. Then you can talk about song and how you perceive it, they will answer. Just don’t corner them into speaking about their feelings. Try to invite, so they always know they are free to decide whether or not and how deep they want to go