5 signs you're revealing too much about yourself!
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- 5 signs you're revealing too much about yourself!
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Proverbs 25: 17 Don’t visit your neighbors too often, or you will wear out your welcome.
Oouuh the Bible never lie☺️
Wow.... tht was in the Word? I'm amazed!
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Wow I needed to hear this like ten years ago 😥 thanks Darline.I didn't even know it exists in the Bible.I believe it is actually Proverbs 25:17.
@@THEEWORLDOFISB just mixed up the numbers probably-it is Proverbs 25:17
I’ve been mysterious or “hard to read” my whole life, and though I love this advice, from my experience, people do not like mystery. They say they do, but they don’t. I’m kind and friendly. I don’t talk much, I was quiet and have always been a great listener. People did not gravitate to me. I feel like this advice works for the movies, or in a fantasy, but in real life, it won’t make you cool or well liked. You will be liked by few, which is ok.
I felt this deeply! This trait has made me highly misunderstood. Most ppl automatically go to “she thinks she’s better than me.”
It might be that they think mysterious people are intimidating and suspicious. A lot of people won't trust someone who doesn't reveal much about themselves and who likes to observe. Not saying it's right or wrong, just something I noticed.
You said you don't talk much, being quiet and being mysterious are two different things. You can be talkative and not reveal things about your personal life, you can find or pick interesting things/general things to talk about, that don't entail the most personal parts of yourself. I know so many outgoing people who have mastered this. You can be quiet and reveal everything about yourself in your inner circle or to people you are close to/ or someone that puts you at ease, where you feel comfortable to open up. Mystery is not intimidating, but if you are too quiet or too closed off or don't seem approachable enough, that can be intimidating to people, I'm a quiet person myself, but I have to adjust my quietness in certain scenarios, especially at work.
yeah, they actually dont. i live with people who are “hard to read” and mysterious and lets just say.. they get bullied 😀
You have every right to be selective about whom you allow into your life. If someone consequently misjudges you as unlikeable & therefore doesn't want you as a friend, that's THEIR loss, not yours.
1:53 1. Are you predictable ?
4:05 2. Talkative
5:49 3. no secrets about yourself
7:14 4. people copying your ideas
9:56 5. no one respects you
Karine makes so much sense. I observed my friends. One friend posts their new car on social media, then three to four mutual friends then posted their new cars. Karine once shared that she wont post her first car, first house… she’d invite people and they’ll be surprised that she has car, house, and all the stuff people flex. Plus she shared that when you share too much, you may be a magnet of envy. That’s why let us move in silence.
Good observation i dont want to post my first car it's ok to be excited tho to each their own I just can't do it 😂 I'm super private
Just deleted my Facebook and my personal instagram account, my whole life was on there for people to see and view! There’s no need for that, I’m learning so much about being silent, and the more silent I am, the more peaceful I feel, 2023 is the year I become at peace with myself and the world ✌🏽
Yesss! This was one of my reasonings behind deleting everything in 2019. Life is so peaceful now, you’ll love it here 💕💕👏🏾
Same, ❤
Me too deleted my personal Facebook we got this ❤
I love this for you Sasha
Amen
THIS IS DEFINITELY ME.EVEN THE ONES CLOSE TO YOU SHOULDN'T EVER KNOW EVERYTHING ABOUT YOU BECAUSE IF YOU AND THEM EVER FALL OUT THEY WILL TELL ALL OF YOUR BUSINESS.LEARNED THE HARD WAY 💯. DON'T EVER GET TOO COMFORTABLE WITH PEOPLE.
I think in my experience in moving in silence is a learning habit that you need to somewhat be intentional about before it starts to feel more natural. It took some time for me but I eventually just had a lot of internal thoughts of what I don't mind talking about and what I do mind. I had to get into the mindset of realizing that my time is precious and everything about me is so if I am to ever open up about something, it has to be worth my time. Otherwise I mostly like to keep to myself. I think of Malena from one of your other videos when I think of moving in silence. The fact that even though she was going through a lot, she did not feel the need to waste her time to say much either.
This comment is spot on! Be intentional until it becomes natural 👏🏼👏🏼 you are definitely precious!
@@karinealourdementalgems in England we call it being over-familiar, it's creepy
trying to emotionally bond with people when they don't want that intimacy or to match it
This is why I decided to fall back and not speak as much anymore 🖤🖤.
Shine ya light 💡 beloved
@YounglandooPeople are always going to say something about you regardless if you are talkative or quiet!!!! Especially when they are curious about you they would purposely try to bully you into speaking more or talking out your business.
I agree I started doing this more!!!
@Mitistouchyamama this what people dont realize. DO NOT GO QUIET you will be we viewed as suspicious, untrusworthy, or a weirdo. You dont want that. Ever notice people talk and are saying nothing. Thats the way to go. You can talk, but you dont need to reveal anything. Keep the talk light and avoid gossip.
The key is to have limitations !! I am a very outgoing social person,but even my friends no very little about me or my personal life . I’m an open book,but I have a list of what I will and will not share . The key is not to stop being social or making connections with others,but having that limit where you stop telling too much about yourself !! Trust me I know . I’m a very social outgoing person……and I have learned what I will and WILL NOT tell/share !! Hope this helps ❤️☺️!
I’m the same exact way!*👌🏾
It’s ironic how I’m seeing this video because I was just talking to my grandma about how I feel I reveal too much about myself online and I feel I want people to like me. I have been searching for acceptance from people and even at my job I feel like an outsider and like people are annoyed by me when I’m simply asking them questions about my job since I’m new to the job. It’s like people had a problem when I was quiet but now I speak up and it’s still a problem.
This used to be me. It just means a few little adjustments need to be made. I hope this video helps. It was a journey for me but I mastered saying just enough but not too much. I’m gonna do more videos on this topic ♥️
This used to be me too. But with time I learned how to not care about what others say. Be you! Just be cautious because people want something to make you feel less than because they do.
Omg I can relate so much!! I was told that I was too quiet in grad school but then I was told that I was too aggressive and asked a lot of questions at my job. Wtf?!!
I realized I spoke out of wanting people to know that I was doing something in life. Always telling people what I wanted to do, or what I was gonna do. I would even notice my therapist slightly zoning out during sessions. I then realized that I was talking too much and people weren’t that interested in what the heck I was talking about.
I’m learning to master mystery. There’s some things I’m doing that no one knows about and I want to share when the time is right.
Related to this,I’m not a open book but with close friends and ppl that I like sometimes I have tendency to want to speak about what I’m doing or what I want to do and it made me feel a delayed sense of the ICK🥴 had to realize some things are better left unsaid or shared mostly within your family unit (assuming it’s toxic free)
I'm listening every day. I talk too much for real. Then I get mad and nervous thinking the person might take my ideas. ❤❤
I never talk about myself but in my case, that means people makeup shit I never said and craft their own narrative (my family is especially guilty of this). So it doesnt matter either way when people are prejudice and makeup stuff about you.
Men come up and talk to me. Women don't. No one knows anything about me. But nobody ever asks either. Don't ask, then I don't tell.
Same here!
On point!
It’s definitely a balance! I am the queen of moving in Silence but I also learned the hard way you can’t be silent in every situation. There are times when you have to speak up especially when it comes to defending yourself and your reputation.
In my experience, when I was used to talking a lot about my personal projects and thoughts, the people around me were much more judgemental about my intentions. I have been less talkative and more mysterious these past years, such as I don't text and call friends and family members very often; when I do it, instead listen more and talk less about my personal projects and opinions. As a result, people around me seem more enthusiastic about spending quality time with me. I don't talk so much about my private life and work, so when I do it, they are genuinely interested. It takes time to get into this mindset, but once you understand it, you will feel much less dependent to people's opinions and you will live better: there's no need to give explanations for everything every time.
@Mitistouchyamama this broke me for some reason
I have definitely struggled with over sharing and still kind of do but I am getting better. I’m just gonna tell God and my journal all the tea.
yesss omg tell the journal the tea. love it i do the same ahhaha
Especially God!Except I have a hard time opening up to Him because I don’t open up to people 😢
@@angeltopaz God is the only being you won't regret opening up to. If you be honest and vulnerable with him I promise you'll see things shift in a positive way.
Facts cause I always open up to God about any and everything.*@@kaylawilsonphoto
Facts! Sometimes we do too much because we're trying to get validation from others. It's so important to recognize that if it's that's the case and journal♥️.
I’ve always moved in silence. That’s what Scorpio’s do best!
Yep, I learnt the hard way to stop sharing so much about my life. When I entered adulthood in 2004 I talked about everything under the sun because I wanted people to notice me. As I got older it had gotten me into some situations that could have been avoided. Living my best life now that I’m about to be 37 woot woot! 🤫 🙌
Lol I ask so many questions, what I’ve learned is people will drawn towards you, when you’re interested in them, don’t try to be interesting. Be interested.
So what happens, is that I’m told a whole life story, (when i don’t really know them) and they don’t know so much about mexx. I only will give info to those I trust.!
Not sharing one's everyday life on Instagram is the first step to moving in silence. Pictures are a thousand words, they don't need lengthy personal revealing captions
As an extrovert this is really hard for me, as I’m lonely and have no friends these days so I seek attention from people online
I’ve never had that issue honestly and I’m an open book 😂😂. I’m usually described as unpredictable spontaneous and adventurous. Usually can’t get ppl to stop talking to me, however I’ve always been called a socialite, social butterfly, and always told I have great interpersonal communication skills. Idk I think it really depends on your aurora and energy you bring. I use to hate being told I influence others or take over a room because idk growing up it just didn’t sit right with me, now I own my protagonist social butterfly personality and I’m unapologetic about it. I pray my queens who struggle with this realize just be yourself and find the people who appreciate you not everyone will have that personality that can just get along with everyone or make everyone like them and trust it’s a weird living experience. Be happy with who you are because it’s beautiful 💕
I've learned my first lesson in my teens, stop running over someone's house be it relatives or associates you will be tried & tested becoming to farimiar. Nacarcissitic people will study you, love bomb, test you, disrespectful on to discarding.
Yes, be social however having the spirit of decernment will serve you well of a person,room of people, environment.
Let your words be few I had to learn at certain times. Sometime people rejection is God protection. Amen!
Saw it in one of the comments on your video and kept repeating it since then "What people don't know, they can't ruin" I was constantly the one revealing too much and talking all the time in different friend groups but it really bit me, no air of mystery, my ideas got copied with no credibility that it was my idea which it really sucked, my plans where out to people where they went approaching it before me and it was a competition. Never again. 🙏🏽❌
I feel like someone can be predicatable and people will still crowd around them if they find them entertaining. Especially if you know that someone is going to go off and have something hilarious to say even if it is predictable. I see a lot of quiet and mysterious people completely left alone by the crowds
As the saying goes… when someone sees you too often, things just get weird. People are fickle.. one minute they are on.. next they are off.
Like my mom says: “You never wanna overstay your welcome & you never want someone to tell you when you have to leave… know when it’s time to go.”
Well said
Yes but at work it’s impossible
@@crissymiller4951 thank you.
@@Butterfly1798 LOL I agree! 😆
I can definitely agree with this. One thing my person used to tell me all the time was, he could literally see me everyday, like I would be at his apartment just about everyday or around him everyday, However he never knew my next move or what was going to come out my mouth next or who I was. For him it was like the minute he thought he knew me, I did something totally different 🤣. Gotta keep em off track at all times..
Sometimes being quiet is the best weapon you have🤐
These are all so true but #4 & #5 hit the hardest bec I'm ALWAYS ready to help and giving any advice/assistance to ppl and its not reciprocated when I need it. The eye opener was I actually called those friends out and chile the unanimous reply was u can't expect anything from ppl, that was a huge slap in the face bec these were not just random ppl I knew for a short time, I've known them for YEARS! And also I lost my job, a friend of mine is in position to help me land a spot at the company she works for she even said the role is perfect for me. I kept following up with her mind u she was also going to review and tweak my resume for me, did she end up doing either??...NO!! And a few of ny so call friends are very much giving clone! Point is I'm learning to keep my damn mouth closed🤣 its hard because by nature I want to share and very kind but I also understand how that works against me, gotta be very careful!
I can share so so so much and yet still have so many secrets...omg....so many more plans and ideas and ventures and omg....many more layers depths and so much low-key super-drama in my life that is so mysterious, I'm a spectacle...stay out my business... I share so that I don't get exposed...people are so nosy...I could never overshare.
I hear you.
But I feel whatever is for you, is for you. Whether you share it or not
You’re right about not sharing your secrets like your relationship, sex life, finances, business ventures, or purchases lmao that should be common sense! Share your emotions and funny thoughts ppl lmao
when people treat me like I talk to much or like what I say doesn’t matter, I stop talking to them. Never settle for anything less than your worth
Damn...this explains a lot and it's true, I DID overshare about myself too much as a child.
Yesss, exactely, Karine, what you said with you and your friend and how everything changed after you started sleeping to each others house! I noticed that same thing with a friend of mine. The minute we started to spend a little too much time together, we became way to familiar with each other and obviousely we felt like we could afford to talk to each other more..idk, not disrespectful but maybe too familiar if you know what I’m saying etc. So I kind of initiated a fight, then after we calmed down I told her what was bothering me about her and in our friendship and now things are decent because I now learned how to keep a certain distance and not allow certain things to happen anymore. So God may help me🙏✨
Fuck allat shine your light! Some people are just boring they have no choice but to move in silence. That’s why the richest landmark is the graveyard! Live out your desires til they all burnt out n that goes for attention & validation. End of the day my business model don’t depend on likes shares & subscription i gets to the moneyyy 💰 regardless 😎
You don't win in poker by showing all your cards. -Elana
Karine, can you make a video about networking? I was inspired by your video on Cindy Crawford in how she still network even though she's a homebody & introvert. I tried to network but when I'm out in the field, it doesn't feel natural to me.
Great suggestion! I definitely will!
perfect timing love listening to you when im cleaning.
So glad! Hope you enjoy ❤
Never let your left hand know what your right hand is doing
Needed this reminder; thank you! ❤
You're so welcome! ❤
I am told that I say too little about myself and that I am too private and mysterious that people can not bond with me. How can we have a balance?
I’m working on a video on that next ♥️ but for now, it’s better to be a mystery than for people to be annoyed by knowing too much.
I’m told the same but be able to discern if it’s because they want to be in ur business or it’s genuine. For me people just only want in my business 😂
@@Datb2 yep they wanna kno so they have information they can gossip about. That's what ur business turns into only gossip.
The lesson I refuse to learn 😭🤦🏾♀️
Privacy is power
YESSS ❣️❣️❣️😻
Such a good video. Loved all the advising about how oversharing is going to turn against the person. The reminder I needed nc I used to overshare and still slip sometimes. Love this channel ❤
Everything you touched on is spot on. I have been in each of these situations and gained so much wisdom from these experiences. Thank you for sharing because I thought I was the only one. People will steal ideas ppl will envy you ppl will begin to compete and not wish you well. Learn to Gatekeep what’s close to your heart. Pop out when necessary give a little but never a lot. Stand up for yourself when necessary And know who to trust!!
I needed this!
I think that being a good listener especially when you first get to know someone is better because than you can gauge if this person will be trustworthy enough to know more about you.
Thank you for this video! I didn’t even realize some of this stuff but my eyes are wide open now!
Sadly, I've experienced all of these and I've still stuck around thinking they would support me (and they don't). I'm going to stop speaking about things before I've even done them or started.
And lol at maybe this is a Hatian thing I’m Jamaican and it stands true. Ppl definitely treat you different when they get too close to you. Admiration turns to envy !! Watch who you let get close
Thank you for this brilliant message. It's what I wanted to hear. Bless you
THIS THE VIDEO KOURINE!!! THIS ONE RIGHT HERE!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
This is on point, I don’t overshare but some say I have RBF. I’m kind, and friendly though , kinda sucks when you get pre judged before even opening your mouth .😔
Blessings to you , I need to hear this.
Thank you for sharing. Great video.
Great message! Everything you said is true!!!
So true especially the ideas and clothes. People have done that to me
Oh Karine, I love it when you get real
Perfectly Said!!!💯
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS!
Thank you so much for this!
This is such a great message 👏 so timely
Okay, you hit a lot of thoughts I have process but never really had confirmed. You basically described my life. And I felt a little hurt but I wanna fix this and my feelings on this will pass. I just hate that I am that person and maybe a lot of it is my own fault. Never easy to grasp that a lot of the poor treatment ive received has been on my own behalf. Socializing is hard because you can't make blind mistakes. Usually people will never help you and if you can't help yourself you're screwed. So I'm grateful I found this.
I'm going for my masters in nursing and the only people that know is my parents and niece other then that . Nope. Some friends or family really don't be rooting for you
I love this message ❤️ thank you
I needed to watch this. I’m so happy this pop up on my timeline ❤. A new subscriber
❤❤ so powerful. Thank you girl. ❤❤
Wonderful video! Make a part 2 😩
just be you;the right people won't mind what you say
Great video !! Awesome advice 😊❤ Keep it up
Awww thank you for showing hijab 🧕 (covered) women in your images 💛🤗🌹 great video as usual friend! 💫
Wow this really helped me!
Excellent video ❤
This was helpful about myself thank you so much for sharing I deleted social media bc I was over sharing
Shit you sound like a solid as friend!
Thank you 🙏 ❤
Ngl sometimes I over share drunk at a bar bc I know I will never see these ppl again 😂
I needed this, so thank you. ❤ new subbie.
Some people ghost or don’t include you simply because they have shared too much. And now that everyone is together, they talk over you, as they don’t want what they said one on one discussed openly, and fear of being exposed. But again, there are gems in this post and will consider them in future interactions.
People love to know about other lifes, there are nothing good in oversharing your plans to people u just know…. Not everyone is your friend, those you think are your friends are maybe just your clasmates or mates.
Very helpful!!! I have become a solo act, in 2023....
This!!!!!!!! And I’ve been mysterious
I was thinking 💭
I can make anyone mysterious I just don’t listen or pay attention to them 😹
Thank you
I definitely had a problem with over sharing. I had to find a balance. For me it was a form of depressing my busy mind but to onlookers I look extra attention seeking and obnoxious and yes ppl will be both intrigued and resentful especially if you are intelligent. They’ll steal your ideas or cadence and discard you
I was going to share your video to my friend but I have remembered that people should not know what I am doing even what I am listening to 😂. I have to move silently.
It's about keeping some mystery about you! I know exactly what you're saying. It's the chic mystique.
“Oversharing is overcaring.”
I have a "friend" that does this and im sick of it!! Shes very manipulative the way she gets information from me and I trusted her because ive known her for yearsssss and she is one of my oldest friend but im so tired of her doing this and i feel like shes never really liked me.
Example we both like to travel so i mentioned to her that i was going to a specific place with my sister at the end of 2024 and now all of a sudden she invited me to go to that same place around my bday and this is only one example. Thank you for this video it was a huge eye opener ❤
The one good friend I trust everything with is my uncle.
When people ask me what I do for a living I say NOTHING lol
I WFH has been a good one lately 😂
I love this! Where do you get this B roll??!
This some mental gem we getting from you tonight Karine 💎 ready to call some of us out 👀🙈 lol jk
Thank you for the video Karine, looking forward to it. I hope that you are doing well love 💗
Thank you love! And I call myself out too lol it’s all about us growing ♥️
@@karinealourdementalgems what are Friends for 💗 it's good, we're all growing together😘✌
I am working on that I talk too much so I better make money from it on UA-cam talking on UA-cam I just started my journey of moving in silence I have learnt not to share my bad news people are judgemental
its so nice to see poc and hijabis being represented
Yet I do hear you
As I get older, now 60, hey ask me something, I'll tell ya if I wanna or I won't in a polite kind way 😂😂.. Feel free to share or not..be you.. That's how I roll most days. I was told by one of my husband's preacher friends.. "Duena seemed aloof years ago"... Nawh Rev. I was/am very friendly however I do not force relationships nor play games, period. Genuine.
I noticed years ago I was revealing too much so I try to avoid conversations starting with “ I “ knowing that “I “ am revealing something about myself.
So what do you replace with or is it the listening to someone else and curving the convo into something else was lol🙈🤷🏾♀️
@@707tich verry good question and advice, I too would like to know what you replace it with @glamdoll
I guess I'm the odd duck I'm not a chatty Cathy especially with co-workers, neighbors or new found friends. If you haven't passed the 7yr friendship I'm keeping it pebble skipping surface
I’m an introverted life path 7 with Virgo moon and Pisces sun you’ll never know everything about me literally and I don’t talk in groups a lot what so ever but naturally and people be like what about you lol