Men Always Use These 5 Types Of Women In Relationships
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- Опубліковано 29 вер 2024
- If you want to avoid being used by men and taken for granted then do not be like these 5 types of women. Truth be told I made 2 of these 5 mistakes and they are more common than you think.
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5 Types of women are those who:
- have the saviour complex and choose man whom they feel sorry for
- always get upset or sulk about things
- are lonely and need to be in a relationship to be happy
- have good girl syndrome complex and feel guilt
- thinks possessive and jealousy is a sign of love from their men
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Well holy shit, all of these are me.
@@vanessadeleon5386 so sorry girl
@@vanessadeleon5386good thing you recognise the pattern,now it's time to change.
@@vanessadeleon5386me too☠️ the only thing that’s saved me is I’ve never been in a relationship I see all these signs in myself in the talking stage and my pride finds a way to ruin it before I ruin myself loool
First! Thank you so much for being an inspiration ❤ and for another amazing video!
I was 5 for 5 when I got into that last relationship……🤦🏻♀️
No wonder it was such a doozy. 😢
It’s ok, though. I’m a deer now 🦌
Thank you beauty for your great content
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“I can’t leave him, we have a mouse together” 💀😭😭
LMAOOOOO I can’t
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That's wild😂
Wow!!😅😂 Too funny!!! You could leave the mouse in the house , but you don't wanna leave the house?
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Great video, just dealt with an immature grown boy, looking for a mom, took my kindness asweakness, my patience as lack of boundaries. I gave him too many chances. He was doing things that brought up anxious attachment; I was single for years to be more secure but guys do know how to influence your feelings. And the immature can turn a secure person into an insecure person with their poor behavior and manipulation. He was for sure 100% going to use me to step up in life so glad I ended that.
You are so right ❤ I had the same experience unfortunately
Same broke up like a month and half ago we were going to meet in December but I was tired of mothering him
"I can't leave, we have a MOUSE together" I am dying 😂😂😂 that's exactly the cowardly sewer rat 🐁 energy keeping us stuck in icky relationships.
In most cases its sex ( soul ties) that make it so difficult to leave. The Bible says "the two become one" in sex. That's why God says no to casual sex. I just love this lady. I pray she comes to salvation in Christ.
I define myself as a grown, well educated strong woman and I've always been surrounded by lovely people who supported me and celebrated all my goals in life. But then I met someone. Never felt so vulnerable, wrong, jealous and hideous in 30years! Ladies, please, if a man turns you into something you are not... Please run don't walk.
I think it's great how you portrait yourself, you surely have a good self esteem. Maybe this relationship helped you understand who you really are❤
That’s what l lived through last year 😊
This comment. Period 💯💯
Shera said woman number 1 gets the attachment because when you act like a “mom” to these guys then you see them as a child because you’re taking care of them like a child.. you care and get attached to your children right.. you want to care for them, love them etc.. so it’s the same thing.. He is now your “child” and you feel you need to care for them and care for their wellbeing as you would do for your children.
She has a point but overall, I'd avoid her. She's manipulative and I personally think is a witch.
I always thought that saving men, especially financially, it's very off putting... Like I couldn't imagine some women do it. BUT turns out I have a savior complex but for emotional "saving" so I kinda did the same f thing, I just didn't realise it. I didn't think I felt pity for them, more like empathy for their hard life, emotional problems with parents and/or relationships/dating hardships. I discovered this in therapy after my therapist kept mentioning that this is my saviour complex in motion which it's activated in the emotional realm. And also that it exists more than one type of savior complex behaviour: financial, emotional, health wise etc. So a man that has no job and wants me to be their sugar mama it was a big no from me, but a man that wanted me to "rescue" them emotionally in a way.. Come to mama😂 Maybe because it was more covert idk, but for sure I attracted a lot of emotional immature men that look at me to the all the emotional "work" good or bad🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
How do you overcome this tendency? Literally the same as what you described I’ve read. Codependent no more… I’ve tried to do the work and therapy but somehow I keep attracting these types of emotional projects
@@jordansjul I didn't overcome it completely..I am just more aware that I'm doing it now or that I did it in my last relationships. So I try to stop and detach a bit.I think it's mostly about switching the attention on you..also, thinking about your self in the relationship like do I feel comfortable with him, do I really like him as he is right now and not projecting or trying to "save" him in a way...and as Margarita says all the time loose the "Good girl syndrome". But I get that it's hard if you did it all your life..I've analysed my life and I've discovered that I did it all my life with friends and parents and it's not our place to save anyone but ourselves, we were just "modeled" this way in childhood and it became our second skin, it's comfortable, but it's not healthy..It comes from a lack of something in ourselves so we just have to identify it and just keep working on it and choose consciously another way of being. I think in a way we do it in order to be loved forever so maybe fear of abandonment as a core wound. Anihow, it's worth exploring it. Wish you the best of luck with it.
Ouch! This reminds me being the fixer the rescuer the carer of unworthy undesirable and emotionally unavailable men. Hurts to see myself in that position. You think you are being complemented when a man tells you he loves you coz you are caring and helpful with resources? Wrong. He loves the idea of what you do not who you are. Well think again.
Been there…
I needed this video 30 years ago. Somehow, I ended up growing up with a save the world complex. I needed to be needed and thought love was when someone needed my help. It was really bad when lots of grief encapsulated me. I've gotten out of those relationships and am rebuilding my life. I'm in a healthy relationship now because I decided I was going to make sure I started being my best self and serving my own needs.
I wish you could sit on the shoulder of every woman (including mine!) and give her tough love speeches like you did in this video. Thank you as always for your great content.
My previous relationship ended after 3 years 😂 when he came to "apologise" to me so we can get back together instead of apologising he just asked me if I am not going to take his mother to mine place in the future. That's the only thing we was interested 😅 if I will help him to take care of his stuff, he had huge pressure from parents and he was putting it on me. I finished this relationship with mental breakdown and panic attacks. I am happy I found my strength and now I want to take care of myself, not some random people in my life.
That awesome 👏 very proud of you 💪🥳😍🙏🏼
A friend of mine who had a savior complex for many years once told me she felt like she had to be with her man 24/7/365 so that he was always thinking about her, and she worried that if they ever spent any time apart, he would stop thinking about her and wander off. After she told me that, it made sense why she, despite being highly educated and accomplished, went for men who were homeless, drug dealers, criminals, unemployed, etc. She seemed really happy in that mommy role and refused any books or advice to the contrary. To her, that dynamic was pure love because she wasn't "taking" anything from the man and she accepted him fully as is. It's certainly fascinating to learn the exact thought process that leads people to make poor decisions.
let me give you a take on this. the women that take on some random men in their lives basically don't love themselves. they can't find value in themselves. you talk to them like they are people that actually know their worth but they literally do not know their worth. a man comes and tells them I love you or show some empathy and romance and they are sold because no one showed them that before. the core is to know the worth. when a woman knows her worth will know what she deserves. then we start to work on emotions, logic and the whole image of it all. now I learned a lot from you about the attitude women should have towards men to attract them. I would have never been able to absorb this information if I genuinely did not work on then core of knowing that I am WORTH so much more than what others told me before. I think the steps could go like this:
1- find core trauma
2- work on self worth ( literally make a list)
3- understand your type of attachment and how to have a secure one
4- take like a phase to test different techniques on men and find what works
5- work on the things you don't like about yourself ( weightless, long hair, different attitude, skin care, gym, etc etc)
6- conquer.
always be on the top of it all. and see the gaps in that and improve.
ps: if anyone struggles with depression for fucks's sake go to therapy. besides that watch some unfortunate families or search up different areas of the world where people don't have internet, can't eat, die, starve, get r*pped, or whatever the worse thing ever you can imagine and appreciate the fuck out of your life. believe it you will be humbled.
that's that. thank you margarita bless your soul and anyone else reading.
Also, Vitamin D and weight training for depression helps TONS
Before you judge about depression, humble first yourself, many are severly abused,or raped and traumatised. For many reasons. Either in childhood or date rape etc.Therapist = the rapist.. you need to grow up and start opening your eyes, look at the world, this pandemic was an intelligent test, every doctor therapist etc is a legal drugs dealer and big business. Ask yourself, why everyone needs to heal constantly..You forgot the most important tip. Source/God, the original source not from their bible... if you are an original heart based human. You comment sounds like you aren't. A person who doesn't know, who he or she truly is, can't love another. Human love is never unconditional, fear based unhealthy attachments that need a contract. That's not love but evol. Furthermore divine femines don't sleep around and become cheap, by giving themselves away in every relationship. Many young women are already low value, because of high body count. Divine feminines are a target for narcissists, and will never have valuable long relationship. Why?! because the system is set up like this.. many don't even know why we are here on earth, believe that everything is love and light and become rich, marry, buy a home and manifest a lot of materialistic bs. Learn to know where we are, without cognitive dissonance kicking in.Life is not a party and everyone will find this out very soon. And the reason why everyo ignorant passive "sheep :needed to be vxd... like cattle.. learn what life is all about. And prepare yourself for a deep shock and depression yourself, and why the world is in such a mess. Or do you think that wars, poverty, famines, child pedo networks, human trafficking, forced prostitution, slavery, forced jab programs, corrupt governments, and fake health systems, billions of traumatised ,depressed humans, addicted to legal and illegal drugs on this planet is a coincidence? And we go to a new world order is a party of love and light? Instead of focusing on dating and judging depression, start educating yourself.. believe me, we add humans have bigger problems, who are coming to eu and usa very soon. Total flaps of the economy poverty, homelessnes and lost of many jobs.. food shortage all over the world. Why? Because it is planned this way... and you seem to have no idea..I think that 90 % have no clue about the fact that we live in a duality based h*ll. And the only thing that we need to do is find out how to get out, spirituality and religion are a trap.. the last thing you should worry about is a relation-ship and bringing more children into hell system. Or judge about depression. No therapist will be able to help anymore when the sh*t really hits the fan...Don't believe it, wait a year and you will start seeing evidence. When you start seeing the fake alien ufo's on the air, it is starting.. expectation is within a few months.. are you ready? Collapse of economy, wars, poverty all over the world, transhumanism, rapture, lost / death of many loved ones, all planned and scripted..Trump will be presented as Jesus to give humanity more jabs. Genetic engineering, Become deeper mindcontrolled. Yep. One big party.. Enslaved into a complete brainwashed world...directly controlled through what is injected in many humans and is now in the brain of humanity. Grapheenoxide, nano technology and AI will make remote controllable soulless avatars of the rest. Elon musk showed us this already. Only they are further than you think. Because you focused on dating and getting a partner. Because v you lack something inside you need someone in your life. All ending up to death anyway. So prepare to pain suffering, many deaths etc. And let me know if you still will feel the same about depression of others. No teasy to escape this reincarnation circus of h*ll, with disgusting entertainment to enjoy the (m)asses. Who only want sex drugs, alcohol and have fun... Depression, diseases insanity and suicidal ideation will kick in world wide very soon.But hey for f *sake, you know exactly how to handle that. Take care of that . Are you already death inside? Or will you finally come out of your coma bubble?
I have become more secure in my attachment style but I still have disorganized tendencies that are more anxious leaning. I also figured out that after reading a book called "Women who love too much." I had a lot of Codependency, which I learned and got programmed with as a child from my mother. That's why I'm having a hard time moving away from being a savior. I joined a twelve step program for codependents. Sometimes, you need a community of other people who understand you at a deep level. To have more healing and progress.
I’m just learning this in therapy! 😮
I needed to hear this SO BADLY. I feel like this can apply to how you show up in any relationship but especially romantic ones.
The unintentional cut right after “If we’re going to go down the route of adoption..” was priceless 😂
Hello from Canada ♡ I love your channel. I've been going through a period of "finding my place " in the world at 40 yrs old and single after abuse. You've provided a refreshing outlook and you've helped me to think differently on more than one occasion. I've been binge watching your videos daily!. Thank you for existing
Apropos lacking boundaries…. your bedroom looks wonderful and super cozy - but may I suggest you not to film there? When people watch your content, it‘s always an energy exchange. And it‘s not always high vibration watching. Rest and sleep is so important… protect your space, your safe haven. Just saying 💚
Why can't we ladies use these men too, I mean it's us they can't leave with out.. They put so much validation on us... I don't get it.. Why women are left for dead
#2 is so good. ACTING, not REacting
For the last point though. Men have boundaries where they don’t want their women hanging around other men or going out to certain places e.g clubs/parties. Thats not jealousy.
*1st one: my older sister; she actually married a non- working needing help and money support kind of guy. She's got a superiority complex since forever lol. Warned her but wouldn't listen.
*Third one: my mother; oh god she guilted me and my sisters for being both the reason of her marriage problems AND the excuse to stay with my father in a miserable unhealthy marriage.
Conclusion: with a messed up family I ended up super scared of being in a relationship..period.
Thank you! I was always #2 but more work I did on myself the better that got. I have a great relationship now and I love it. It’s totally different from what I’m used to. It can be done ladies. Don’t run away from self improvement ever!
Guys that will do whatever just because they figured they can are not the best guys. Sorry. So many men out here have no integrity. I don’t want to have to be on guard 24/7 with someone that’s supposed to be so close with. How can you be vulnerable to someone like that? We all have bad days where our self esteem takes a dive, health takes a dump, and we need assurance and stability and consistency. This should not be the time that he thinks he can take her for a ride.
I LOVE YOU ❤ I am 24 and your videos feel like an elder sister talking to me💕 I realised a lot of things that need attention!! Can’t wait to see more videos ❤️❤️
I recommend your channel and videos to every woman i know !! ❤ I love you, you’re a gift and a blessing
A secure stand up man actually likes a woman who rebuffs him.
Therefore someone willing to put up with anything holds no value and is not worth having”
Putting up” is “NOT good”
•Being useful and “convenient is NOT good”
“The worst thing you can be is “being convenient” because this type will get nowhere”
Opening UA-cam app and seeing your new video is like a blessing.
I am all the above 😢
Omg I also thought that's how I put boundaries. That was mind-blowing for me to know that being upset and taking my attention away is not how I deal with it. How would I do that differently though?? I still don't get it
Week after week, Margarita, you sprinkle us with gold nuggets. Love your content and your delivery style, thank you. ❤
I'm definitely the nice girl. It's exhausting and I need to stop that.
are you an Aquarius? I get strong Aqua energy from you
I put up with drug addicted, cheating, lying, abusive ex-husband. He tried to kill me! For REAL.
Im going through this process and listening to o you just feels true. Definitely have to catch myself and change the pattern.
I needed to hear this because I’m helping a new friend who isn’t a bad person, but I’m doing everything for her and although she’s 42 and I’m 53 I’m nursing her feeding her driving her counseling her doing her laundry and now that she’s feeling better I’m demanding more from her but it’s been about 10 days and I’m exhausted… There’s no financial benefit and I’m just getting over being unwell for a while so this is not what I want. I’m conscious that I could be easily used and I almost kicked her out yesterday but she has almost no place to go so I will give it one more week and see if she improves but I will not be used … I’m hoping I can show her some self-reliance, and a sort of boot camp therapy to take care of herself, but I am conscious that I need to have it be a time limit…
Thank you for this video I adore you
I’m seeing myself being so week these days .thank you for sharing this , it’s very helpful . I need it to hear this ❤️
I had a boyfriend like this I will never allow that in my Life again
I think your channel is sound on the whole but some of this is a stretch imo. A man fakes jealous and controlling behaviour to convince a particular type of woman that he loves her, really? Apart from a twisted approach to life would this not require next level emotional intelligence - something that men lack, along with actual emotions apparently?
Not the angry rat in the corner 💀 😂
Just wow❤
Not cheat with her GRANDMA 😂🤣💀💀💀
6:36 Yes, but if he’s not going to be respectful or mindful of his date, then you don’t need him. He’s a cad in sheeps clothing.
you know what my husband told me when I was very upset with him? "Go make yourself happy". So I did. Without him. lol
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Yikes!!!
Shouldn’t women know for themselves not to wear mini skirts and cheat?
My son when he was only 12 said that men treat women poorly because she allows it. Genuis!
He can cheat with everybody cat, dog, mouse and her grandma 💀💀
I think I am might struggle with guilt
Upset maybe not sure
Thank you so much for this knowledge. It really works day by day 😌 ❤❤❤
“Cant leave him bc we have a MOUSE together” 😃😆 … girl I love your humor .. thank you for lifting me .. {hugs} 😊
THE BEST VERSION OF YOU IS THE ONE THAT LOOKS AFTER YOURSELF
New video
Sucha blessing
Thank you margarita❤
Grateful for self check
No they dont more nonsense being dished out here
When she said I need an AA meeting I screamed
A lot of men will also seek out single moms because of that same saviour complex
I thought you were Lady Gaga.
Act don’t react, downloaded
I combine at least three lol
So eye-opening! Thank you for doing these videos! I don't know how to explain it but to me the way you look and describe male and female behaviour is just different from everything else I've watched on UA-cam so far. I can relate to some things you say so well and now I understand much better where all of this came from! In german we have a phrase for it, I hope I will translate it correctly: You hit home!
THANK YOU
from the bottom of my heart
for this video Margarita!! Every woman should watch this ❤
Hey, love from India. I really liked this type of video. I really want you talk about how to set boundaries with men. well. I am going through your first point saviour complex and sulking and getting upset and loneliness stuff.
Always love your energy, content and everything but I have to add, your lipsticks and lipglosses have never failed to amaze me how beautiful they are.
Thank you for your impuls, now i figured out what i need the most in my life... a new Mommy!! 🥰😇😘
You shouldn’t feel sorry for someone, but you HAVE TO have compassion and understanding instead! Don’t save them. Give them choices. Maybe support in some cases if they’re trying new things for you.
I wish I knew this in Highschool, but so happy to learn this now and hopefully young girls out there can learn from your wisdom ❤
This video & specific topic was exactly what I needed. Reminders, reminders. We struggle in the same areas. Sulking & guilt. I am transforming mentally as we speak. Thank you 😘
OMG, I love this so much!! This should be primary school eduction.
Men like to be rebuffed?!? 😯I absolutely hate being rebuffed and my dreams are full of it and I don't know how to heal this part of me that expects rejection. I think that being "convenient" sounds like the worst though. I've worked really hard to be okay with being alone and it's not like I "need to" be in a relationship but I sure would like to find the right guy.
The women's moral compass is true. It's hard to know when the compss is getting out of handle.. struggling with this worse
Hi Margarita, It's a pleasure to have come across your video about a very prickly subject. From my point of view School should educate from the early stages of life upon emotional intelligence that can apply apply to any person no matter the social hierarchy he or she belongs can be affected by the scarcity of the five kinds of mistakes you dealt with. Your exposure about them was great and stuck to the point. A pity for older women that have never been trained in knowing themselves first and so avoiding relationships that in the long run become toxic, disruptive and full of abuse.The best of luck. A huge hug from Argentina.
Phew you know me! This is all exactly why I have been single for 5 years. The last many men I dated and the one I married were all like this!
Another amazing video! I opened UA-cam to watch something else and when I saw your video I had this strong feeling I needed to watch it and boy was I right. I so needed this at this specific time of what I'm dealing with. I am woman #2 and #3 but working on changing that! Your videos help me immensely, thank you!!
I'm 2-3-4 😭
Wow! You bring englighment. I love the lipstick by the way.
And liked and subscribed
Very beautiful video
It talks about me 😅
Sovereign
Thank you Margarita
The psychology in this is so interesting. Your videos are always so informative and motivational
Thank you for the video... am the upset girl, how do i stop being her?
Thanks so much Margarita. This was a deep well of wisdom ❤❤❤❤
Well that's why I just hook up. I live in the moment and that's it. We use each other but is fun then done 😂
Thank you, it’s a very helpful video! Could you please put timestamps?
I can’t leave him because we have a mouse together 😂😂killed me
Exmormon
So much wisdom❤ Can you go into more detail on not being ‘convenient’ and what that entails?
Shaming & Blaming does not work on adults 🙄
Every single woman on earth is at least one of this !!!!!!!
Thank you so much for the meaningful videos!
Damn I've been all of these archetypes😢❤
LOL not the angry rat in the corner loooool 🎉 new subby sister x
LOL not the angry rat in the corner loooool 🎉 new subby sister x
Woman you are good! I love your sense of humor and how you address the issues ❤
you want to be the deer 🦌 and not the cow 🐮 !!! love it !!!
You are genuinely better than therapy for me. ❤❤❤
We have a mouse together LMAOOOOO I am DEADDDD
I can't leave him because we have a mouse together 😂
Hi Margarita. I just wanna say that this channel is super enlightening, and your beautiful positive energy adds a light to it that really makes a man reconsider his life choices. You're such an amazing and gorgeous woman!
Anyway, can I borrow some money?
Sorry I'll stop trolling your channel lol. I'm just bored