4:07 You can be yourself around him completely and he would still want to know you more as who you are. 10:17 The wow effect. You are the one who wows him with your feminine energy and he is the one who is stable for you. He should not be hot and cold or make you consistently think or worry about him. You have to love him less than he loves you. 13:15 Actions and habit, if he is sure and invests his feelings in you. 17:10 He makes you a “we”. He includes you as a part of his life. Not only living in his boy’s life and showing up only for a sexy time. He will have some separate time but should not be so many times or a lot until you question when will that be a time with you. 19:27 Do you feel sexually, physiologically, and physically safe with him.
19:27 was the point that I unfortunately couldn't keep. What I would like to tell women is to support the man you love at points where things may not be going well and help him develop into it. My experience is that women end a relationship immediately if even one thing is wrong, and very few women offer support. Things were different 30 years ago. A man moves mountains when he loves a woman and the woman loves him.
I love your videos and get so much value from them. Just wondering how the roles feminine and masculine energies come into play in a gay relationship. As a gay man I feel like I embrace a more feminine role in a relationship but I can’t rely on that. At the end of the day, we’re both men so do we both respond better to masculine energy 🤷🏻♂️
Hello Margarita. I have found your channel this spring after separating with my last partner and digging into attachment theory content. Since then I watch almost every video you publish and I love your content so much! Now despite your channel appears to be feminine-audience-oriented, I still get a lot of insights and value as a young man. I am 25 now and have gone through my first marriage, followed by divorce recently, so I started questioning my values in terms of family and life and future, questioning my traits as of a masculine man and asking how do I want to grow from now aside from career. There are some amount of content on masculinity on UA-cam, but I did not found any person who makes as much empowering content as you do (honestly, sometimes when I'm down and your new video pops up I just watch it and it drives my mood up). Would you like to make some masculine-audience-oriented content? To start with I think you could easily flip the titles of some of your videos to be oriented for men, like this one - in ex. "Is she the one?" and have a conversation on red flags / marriage material / what to avoid and etc. I would love see that. Thanks in advance! 🫶
I'll do you one better. How about a video like "For men: How to BE the one" I imagine it as a video for the guys trying to be the man that you're already talking about in your videos. Idk just food for thought.
Thanks, ive never been in a in- person relationship , only online ones. I recently met a Widower with 4 boys online and we talked for 2 weeks and he felt like a soulmate but he rejected me after seeing my photo so i felt very hurt and walked away cuz he was avoiding and making excuses Thanks ❤
As a straight guy can I just flag up that there are some of us out here who are relatively normal. Some of us have actually been let down badly ourselves. We’re not all ‘players’ and ‘sexual predators’ but guys who are looking for the warm, affectionate comfortable relationship with a girl who shares our values and some of our dreams. Having said that I thoroughly enjoy your content and your unique and refreshing take on the various issues you highlight. I’m learning.
Yall want these things but most men refuse to stop consuming porn and the lust culture of social media and wonder why they aren’t emotionally connected or invested in this real life girl in front of him. And wonder why she’s got walls up because she’s been gaslit over and over to believe you’re either not doing it or that it’s okay or that you’ll stop but you don’t. It’s deeply toxic and rots your brain. It literally alters the way your brain chemistry is. I have faith that one day men and women can get back our roots and be in our healthy energies but right now we are in a relationship warfare with the internet unfortunately. A lot of men and women are waking up though
I used to think the unstability and craziness made the love so ethereal and divine. Like no one could ever spark such turbulent and deep emotions within me. But now I laugh at myself for thinking that way lol. Cos that my dear,.. is insane!😂 😂
I wholeheartedly disagree. Shouldn’t you first know if she’s even financially successful before wanting to take her advice? For all you know her husband is the one making most of the money.
Exactly @beast, that’s how good she is.. she indeed wants her husband to be the provider.. she knows her business will take a while to be “ financial successful” .. especially because its not her priority.. her family is. She is in not in a rush to be financially successful because her man got her.
Why ? I want to know the reason. I don't understand.. I'm 23 years old. Please help me if you can. I have two proposals. I never thought this will happen. One from 35 years old man and other from 20 years old boy .
Even though I’m a woman I’d love to hear more about the man’s point of view on this! A „is she the one“ video would be much appreciated and such an insight I’d say!
I am a man, 1) she is caring. 2) kind. 3) offers support/helps him if he is looking for something. 4) cooking skills. 5) No tattoos (this is a BIG turn on for me). 6) she offers advice and gives it to him instead of turning her back towards him in a very rude way during the conversation. 7)she doesn't belittle me.
This is so helpful for me. I went through a breakup at age 27 after a 5 year relationship. I thought life was over until I met the man of my dreams and this is all so true. I'd love to hear more about money mindsets too! I want children soon and would love to stay home and wonder if it's possible.
Your content is a breath of FRESH AIR! I’m also pregnant (but for the first time) and it’s been triggering old anxious/abandonment wounds. Do you have any advice on how to not project these things on our relationships when we’re in hormonal fluctuations?
The man I'm seeing ticks all thes boxes. :) Yay! I had decided that I was DONE chasing ANY man, and he showed up a few days later... from High School... 20 years ago. It's been so magical and sweet! Enjoying myself through the process. Love your content Margarita, you have helped me see myself in a whole new light. Thank you!
Lovely, lovely said once more.. You keep the balance so well. I wish many more women reach your content soon. These types of conversations women and young girls, must have access to. Thank you for spreading your wisdom!
You are wonderful 💕💕💕At some point we have to focus on what’s important. This year I am being open minded about my choices and vey intentional. If we go for the same Guys and it’s doesn’t work maybe it’s time for change. I am starting to talk to people I typically won’t go for.
I don’t believe in finding the one. I was just looking for a kind man who is on the same page as me in life. And I got a well over 6ft tall, intelligent, empathetic, funny and caring guy who is exactly my type and who loves me to pieces. He tells me every day for 5 years now how beautiful he thinks I am, no matter how well put together I am that day. He told me he is falling in love with me on the second date and that I am the last woman he is ever attempting to date, if this does not work out, he will stay single forever. I would say you found the one when you are truly at peace with your decision and when you are at peace in the relationship. Like, everything is easy. And it shouldn’t be hard. Even if he doesn’t make 6 figures, I got everything else I could wish for, ok? We don’t want to strain the universe too much, lol. I don’t believe in that either btw.
This was spot on thank you Margarita. I’ve hit a point in my life where I’m depleted from dating guys, the ones I want don’t choose me and the one that does I’m not physically attracted to, I’ve been going round in circules for the last 10 yrs and do t know why
Hey Julie,as a 40yr old divorcee, was married for 15 yrs.I can tell you this,always go for a man that loves you wayyyy more.In essence it is settling for a lesser attractive man than you would have liked,but he ticks all the other major boxes. I have observed beautiful women will draw in the lesser attractive guys in many cases,if you close your eyes and can picture being intimate with him then give it a shot.Some men clean up real nice,you gotta switch it up.Do the unusual.Maybe the Universe is waiting for you to take that bold step.
Disagree with the Wow effect. I think neither the woman nor the man should experience that. Coming from a man. I always had a crush and intense feelings except for my recent relationship. She on the other hand kind of love bombed me and experienced the "wow" effect intensly. Talking about kids, marriage and wanting to buy a house together after not even two months of being together. This and my avoidant tendencies made me distance myself. She and her anxious style then couldn't handle the distance anymore and dumped me. No, from my point of view both partners should be "whole and complete" on their own. They should see eachother as they are and grow together. "WoW"-effect or intense feelings of limerance just hinder a mature relationship and growing together from both parties.
The inverse is true. Relationship is exchange. Take care, you don't want a partner which is obssesed to you. You want a partner with good selfsteem and which recognizes their own value as a person. You want a partner which loves himself too. Obsession leads to possession feelings. You need to find the balance.
You're soo wonderful!! I'm writing all of your tips in my private diary so the moment i get to know someone i would have all the rules written down to follow so that i don't forget that I'm the prize and he has to win me lol
I was looking for content like this to teach my daughters class and femininity, but the cleavage showing is not very classy. Your videos could inspire many more of you elevated your outfits just a tad: thank you for content anyhow.
Hi dear ♥ I'm just discovering you, and I'm hooked by your energy, your wisdom, your humour, your presence, your confidence, your wit, your beauty in and out ! It's the fifth video that I'm watching in a row, and I'm just getting started ! I'm definitely here for the long run ! So many gems ! So, first, I want to thank you for your amazing content and for being so inspiring ! I have a question regarding this subject of finding "the one"... How about the overall attraction ? The connexion ? I haven't been able to find any of this stability and security in attractive men my age or a bit older. And lately, a man nearly 20 years older than me shows me this respect and attention. It touched me, I decided to give it a chance, but I've realized that I'm absolutely not attracted to him physically, to me the age gap is really problematic... I also feel a bit bored... But overall, I finally find this feeling of stability in him that I crave so much, and he has remained very respectful with me physically, never imposing himself on me, everything has been platonic since he's religious. But a part of me is kind of angry that a man who could technically be my father even courts me. And a part of me secretly despises him for that... So, I feel really torn between the urge that I feel to finally be and build a life with someone safe, and this total absence of physical chemistry towards him. I just don't want him to touch me. I've also heard that attraction and love could come later for a woman, and that as you also say, the most important is that he's relentlessly pursuing me in a present and respectful way. He wrote me letters saying he would be a great husband and father, etc... So, my question is : what place should chemistry and connexion hold in my choice of a life partner (he feels huge chemistry and connexion but I don't) ? Should I dismiss/deny my boredom and lack of attraction ? Should I settle for less than the true love I'm longing for ? Should I doubt this deep longing in me, because maybe the kind of love I'm looking for doesn't exist ? The truth is that, in the past, everytime I've really felt a connexion and attraction with a man, it never worked long term, he always left and I ended up feeling used and drained... While in every long-term relationships I ever had, it was always the men who chose me more than I chose them. It worked for a time, but eventually, I never felt fully fulfilled and in love, so I always ended up leaving the relationship. Yet don't think I'm looking for the "hot and cold" kind of guy who gives me the thrills. I've never been into bad guys who are not investing in me or the relationship, and I love peace ! I crave genuine connexion, enjoying spending time together... I'm really looking for my soulmate to live an epic love and start a family... But I'm truly lost here ! I feel there's really something that I don't get... Please, help ! PS : of course, I'm definitely going to get both of your programs... But in the meantime, if my issue inspires you a video or a specific advice, I'd be so grateful !
Yes money mindest! I feel a it naive because you're hitting the nail on the head...Love this video. You sound like the sister i never had. I have a good guy but struggling to relate because he's a good guy lol Bless you
Brilliant, you articulated these points so well. Totally agree with everything you said and this advice is so practical for relationships. My question is, how do you handle the situation, when you are already in a long term relationship with someone and you see some of these red flags. It's easy to say just leave, but I'm referring to navigating the actual situation, how to handle it in a practical, realistic way. I don't find any advice on this topic, yet I see so many people struggling with this issue. They stay stuck in relationships for several different, but important and serious reasons. I'd love to hear your advice on this, because you have alot of wisdom on relationships and recognize the human dynamics entailed. Thankyou so much❤
I’ve been listening to your content for the past two weeks. Could you give some thought on dynamics for when you and your partner live together, both working and having a baby before the marriage.
Just make sure he doesn’t promise he’ll get two jobs even, once you have children and even if you get part time work later as the children grow, he expects YOU to pull in the same income after being out of the workforce for over 16 years AND your youngest with autism is just starting full time school in grade one. A complete character change. Unsatisfied with your attempts to bring in income. They CAN change over time. It’s quite shocking.
What if you’re settling? Dating someone currently who fits everything here but I find myself annoyed and I don’t genuinely enjoy the time with him. Maybe I should ignore that feeling though and stay with him because he checks these boxes :/
Thank you for this!!! It was on time :) I'm wondering... What if actually I see all these things but still I feel that something is missing? What is missing? Is it important? Are these things enough for somebody to be "the one"?
Spot on Margarita! I can’t wait to share your videos with my teen daughters when they are seriously dating. Your videos are eternal and stands the test of time. Dating from our feminine energy and not from a masculine check list! yeeeees! This is how I chose my now finance / soon to be second husband. He loves me for me. He says HE feels lucky. He never wowed me. And actually I chose a “wow” guy a few years ago, OVER my now fiancé and sent him away. Lucky he came back after wow guy disappeared. Now I’m engaged and could not be happier!!!!!🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
I'm a Mom to 9 kids, there were 11 of us on one meager paycheck. Now, that I'm leaving its super challenging to provide financially for myself. But, yes, it is a lifestyle adjustment to live the way we have. I sew, thrift shop, buy food in bulk, etc
Wow ! I think you are so brave. I wish you and your beautiful family all the best on this journey. Not an easy one... But you've given birth to 9 souls on this earth, and that in itself is an amazing achievement. As long as you stay true to your heart, honest, authentic and brave, as long as you manage to stick together as one unit, as a strong family, then hardship can sometimes become a blessing in disguise, teaching invaluable lessons. The values learned during times of struggle can create children that will be unstoppable in adult life. Some of the most successful people on earth had a very rough start... But no matter how little they had materially, they always had someone who believed in them. And it made all the difference. Sending much love your way.
No.2 is just so crazy, tell me how does an anxious attachment women who always panic and overthinking for something that doesn't even going to happen, and just blame the guys can't control how they stop panic and overthinking?
I would like to have you as a friend. It is crazy how similar we are, just that my story is with Poland/ Germany and growing up with a single parent. I think and behave so much like you do. It stunns me how much the background and upbringing shapes us.❤-Greetings from Berlin
You are freaking amazing! I really admire you so very much and I am SO happy that you are bringing humans into this world, because the world needs humans raised by amazing women like you!!!! You are very intelligent and very, very beautiful too!
I’m a lesbian and i’ve never been in a serious relationship before at 28 but there’s a girl i might date in the future and so I’m watching a lot of videos about relationships. A lot of this isn’t very applicable to me but I like your energy, thank you for these videos
Enjoyed your video. My only point of contention is when you say you(the woman) have to love him less than he loves you. As an older man(63) I preached the same thing for most of my life because I felt that if the man loved the woman more, he would stay faithful as I thought/felt that there were only (2) things that kept a man faithful, fear of God and fear of loss. That being said, I have been convinced by the many content creaters on youtube that the woman needs to love the man more because she has more options and she may be tempted to leave if she does not love the man enough. She may think that she can do better. You have me thinking. I would like to hear opinions on this from other women.
I'm not a woman but am also a man in my early sixties so I'll answer your question. UA-cam content creators are by and large selling a product that 9 times out of 10 is just regurgitated content from the other 8 to get clicks. If you fear God then you know how to love sacrificially as a man and to trust Him with the outcome. He created the content creators so I'm going to go with His ideas not theirs. And hers sound quite a lot like His, so there's your answer.
Do you have any content on herpes and relationships I know this is a common sexually transmitted disease which is severely understood in the wrong way but I have found this been lots of rejection and am looking to see if this is something you are able to coach woman on also from the empowered space and actual proper education
I asked my partner to really tell me the truth if getting married (which he brought up first and have met my parents) was something he truly desires, he said it's getting in the way of his plans (which is starting another business based on what he told me, although he has a business that's is really booming right now) I don't know what to do or tell him from here on.
If youre together for more than 2yrs he needs to make up his mind. Women have a clock especially if you want kids. And what excuse is that? Getting married stops his business....hum
You are wrong about the wow effect. He doesn‘t need to be perfect, but he has to have qualities which makes you admire him. A woman needs to look up to her man. If she doesn‘t, she is definitely settling for less. Its okay to do that too, if as a woman you couldn‘t manage to do better… But it is not optimal and as a woman you won‘t be fulfilled.
You misunderstood her point. Also nothing is wrong, it’s her video and mindset that she is sharing. If you feel differently that doesn’t make either of you wrong.
As a man I've been in situations where the woman would say "not yet" let's take our time " than after six months.. she says "oh you're a friend, " from experience sadly, I've met women whom if you accept waiting than the attraction bombs down.
My issue with the man I’m currently in a relationship with is that I’m avoidant and he’s anxious. Can this ever be resolved? His anxiousness makes me want to run the other way. Also we’re long distance (international) so I often doubt whether he is the one, solely based on the fact that we can’t spend face to face time with each other. I met him once for like 5 days and that’s it. I’m not convinced and it’s almost been a year.
I tried living out of State with the man I love and left behind everything. Family kids age 21 and 23 I have a house they love in also my grandmother. I tried it for 1 year and made the hardest decision to go back because my heart and life is in my hometown. I miss him dearly and by the way I’m 44yrs old. He can’t move out here because he has 2 younger children and other reasons. I’m heartbroken and don’t know what to do. I don’t see my future without him. We both love each other very much but he didn’t want to be selfish and told me if I’m not happy I need to go where I am. He didn’t want me to leave but he loves me that much. I believe I needed to do this to really see how I feel?
I see that you were willing to sacrifice and compromise a lot for him. What is HE willing to sacrifice or compromise in his life to have you? Everything can be managed or solved if both parties are willing to look for a solution. What is his part in wanting to find solutions for staying together?
Can you bring the topic of divorced men? How do we handle being with someone who was married for many years (no kids). How do we handle dating someone who has “baggage” “history” with another relationship?
PLEASE tell me more and more, again and again why i shouldn't be sleeping with random men who are not my potential partners. I was in a sexual relationship with someone for 9 months hoping it would work. The best sex of my life and the most painful relationship. And now I'm once again seeing someone who lives in another country and wants to just hang out, talk and have sex with me. It's like I'm great, but not as a girlfriend.. not as their girlfriend.. and I feel.. not chosen. They were both nice guys, I really liked them, they both were honest and told me what they want and don't want, and I just couldn't resist, I couldn't say no. I thought I'm just gonna have some fun, but I feel that it might not be healthy.. I love how you, big sister, told me to keep my sacred energy to myself and only share it with my partner.. who chooses me entirely! I wrote myself a promise that I would keep my sacred sexual energy to myself and to my creative projects and not give it away for fun. THANK YOU, Margarita.
Almighty God is the creator of all things, and we can see His signs everywhere around us. It may be difficult for us to comprehend as we are small in comparison, similar to a house not knowing who built it. I ask that we all see God's presence in everything. God bless you ❣️
yes, I would love a podcast on money mindset! And Margarita, I just love the way you explain things. Funny and straightforward aka no mercy! I totally resonate with everything. Thank you for everything, gorgeous lady!! =]
4:07 You can be yourself around him completely and he would still want to know you more as who you are.
10:17 The wow effect. You are the one who wows him with your feminine energy and he is the one who is stable for you. He should not be hot and cold or make you consistently think or worry about him. You have to love him less than he loves you.
13:15 Actions and habit, if he is sure and invests his feelings in you.
17:10 He makes you a “we”. He includes you as a part of his life. Not only living in his boy’s life and showing up only for a sexy time. He will have some separate time but should not be so many times or a lot until you question when will that be a time with you.
19:27 Do you feel sexually, physiologically, and physically safe with him.
Thank you so much!
Thank you❤
Thank you for the summary ❤
19:27
was the point that I unfortunately couldn't keep.
What I would like to tell women is to support the man you love at points where things may not be going well and help him develop into it.
My experience is that women end a relationship immediately if even one thing is wrong, and very few women offer support. Things were different 30 years ago.
A man moves mountains when he loves a woman and the woman loves him.
Yes
I love your videos and get so much value from them. Just wondering how the roles feminine and masculine energies come into play in a gay relationship. As a gay man I feel like I embrace a more feminine role in a relationship but I can’t rely on that. At the end of the day, we’re both men so do we both respond better to masculine energy 🤷🏻♂️
Hello Margarita. I have found your channel this spring after separating with my last partner and digging into attachment theory content. Since then I watch almost every video you publish and I love your content so much!
Now despite your channel appears to be feminine-audience-oriented, I still get a lot of insights and value as a young man. I am 25 now and have gone through my first marriage, followed by divorce recently, so I started questioning my values in terms of family and life and future, questioning my traits as of a masculine man and asking how do I want to grow from now aside from career. There are some amount of content on masculinity on UA-cam, but I did not found any person who makes as much empowering content as you do (honestly, sometimes when I'm down and your new video pops up I just watch it and it drives my mood up).
Would you like to make some masculine-audience-oriented content? To start with I think you could easily flip the titles of some of your videos to be oriented for men, like this one - in ex. "Is she the one?" and have a conversation on red flags / marriage material / what to avoid and etc. I would love see that. Thanks in advance! 🫶
I'll do you one better. How about a video like "For men: How to BE the one"
I imagine it as a video for the guys trying to be the man that you're already talking about in your videos. Idk just food for thought.
Hi Margarita, i love ur content❤❤ can you please make video about toxic inlaws and how to react to toxic things they do and say? Thank u!
22:00 maybe preciousness - purity ? Thank you ❤
Thanks, ive never been in a in- person relationship , only online ones. I recently met a Widower with 4 boys online and we talked for 2 weeks and he felt like a soulmate but he rejected me after seeing my photo so i felt very hurt and walked away cuz he was avoiding and making excuses Thanks ❤
did you have new baby ?
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As a straight guy can I just flag up that there are some of us out here who are relatively normal. Some of us have actually been let down badly ourselves. We’re not all ‘players’ and ‘sexual predators’ but guys who are looking for the warm, affectionate comfortable relationship with a girl who shares our values and some of our dreams. Having said that I thoroughly enjoy your content and your unique and refreshing take on the various issues you highlight. I’m learning.
Yes, woman think every man is like a superman.
U,
Glad to hear this. My son, a very handsome & hardworking man is not a f boy or player. He loves the Lord & wants a family.
Yall want these things but most men refuse to stop consuming porn and the lust culture of social media and wonder why they aren’t emotionally connected or invested in this real life girl in front of him. And wonder why she’s got walls up because she’s been gaslit over and over to believe you’re either not doing it or that it’s okay or that you’ll stop but you don’t.
It’s deeply toxic and rots your brain. It literally alters the way your brain chemistry is. I have faith that one day men and women can get back our roots and be in our healthy energies but right now we are in a relationship warfare with the internet unfortunately. A lot of men and women are waking up though
The vast majority, actually. Media does men real bad these days.
I used to think the unstability and craziness made the love so ethereal and divine. Like no one could ever spark such turbulent and deep emotions within me.
But now I laugh at myself for thinking that way lol.
Cos that my dear,.. is insane!😂 😂
I know what you mean. But it gets tiring doesnt it? I want a man that doesnt disrupt my peace or i prefer to be alone as i am now.
Just got engaged yesterday and was like let’s see if he passes the test 😂 and he does! Love your content and practical view on life.
Just discovered your videos and your message is TRUTH! Please make a video on money mindsets! Thanks for the great content!
I concur so real ❤
I wholeheartedly disagree. Shouldn’t you first know if she’s even financially successful before wanting to take her advice? For all you know her husband is the one making most of the money.
Exactly @beast, that’s how good she is.. she indeed wants her husband to be the provider.. she knows her business will take a while to be “ financial successful” .. especially because its not her priority.. her family is. She is in not in a rush to be financially successful because her man got her.
Smart x
@@Margarita.Nazarenkox smart
Yes!!! A man who is NOT on social media ❤
Are you on social media? I am not
@@Herculiz22 Besides UA-cam, no.
@@shaynalee 💌❤
I am not on social media other than UA-cam.
Why ? I want to know the reason. I don't understand.. I'm 23 years old. Please help me if you can. I have two proposals. I never thought this will happen. One from 35 years old man and other from 20 years old boy .
Even though I’m a woman I’d love to hear more about the man’s point of view on this!
A „is she the one“ video would be much appreciated and such an insight I’d say!
Me too ! 🤩🙌🙏
I am a man, 1) she is caring. 2) kind. 3) offers support/helps him if he is looking for something. 4) cooking skills. 5) No tattoos (this is a BIG turn on for me). 6) she offers advice and gives it to him instead of turning her back towards him in a very rude way during the conversation. 7)she doesn't belittle me.
This is so helpful for me. I went through a breakup at age 27 after a 5 year relationship. I thought life was over until I met the man of my dreams and this is all so true. I'd love to hear more about money mindsets too! I want children soon and would love to stay home and wonder if it's possible.
When did you meet the guy of your dreams?? I also left at 27! Now trying to figure out if it’s my time
I feel like from what I’m seeing this happens astrologically.
@@nadiaalbayrak731 if it has to happen astrologically, then you will see some stars in the sky which will be special.
Literally my life right now! Good for you ❤
Your content is a breath of FRESH AIR! I’m also pregnant (but for the first time) and it’s been triggering old anxious/abandonment wounds. Do you have any advice on how to not project these things on our relationships when we’re in hormonal fluctuations?
The man I'm seeing ticks all thes boxes. :) Yay! I had decided that I was DONE chasing ANY man, and he showed up a few days later... from High School... 20 years ago. It's been so magical and sweet! Enjoying myself through the process. Love your content Margarita, you have helped me see myself in a whole new light. Thank you!
Hi margarita, can you please make a video about money mindset as you were mentioning during the third point? thank you!
Lovely, lovely said once more.. You keep the balance so well. I wish many more women reach your content soon. These types of conversations women and young girls, must have access to. Thank you for spreading your wisdom!
Wish I had known this all before getting kids with the wrong man.
But now I'm glad with moving on with my life...
You are wonderful 💕💕💕At some point we have to focus on what’s important. This year I am being open minded about my choices and vey intentional. If we go for the same Guys and it’s doesn’t work maybe it’s time for change. I am starting to talk to people I typically won’t go for.
My god! Would love to hear you speak on the topic of getting old as a woman, it is something that is on my mind a lot lately...
I 100% get it and will talk about it
I would love that too @@Margarita.Nazarenko
I don’t believe in finding the one. I was just looking for a kind man who is on the same page as me in life. And I got a well over 6ft tall, intelligent, empathetic, funny and caring guy who is exactly my type and who loves me to pieces. He tells me every day for 5 years now how beautiful he thinks I am, no matter how well put together I am that day. He told me he is falling in love with me on the second date and that I am the last woman he is ever attempting to date, if this does not work out, he will stay single forever. I would say you found the one when you are truly at peace with your decision and when you are at peace in the relationship. Like, everything is easy. And it shouldn’t be hard. Even if he doesn’t make 6 figures, I got everything else I could wish for, ok? We don’t want to strain the universe too much, lol. I don’t believe in that either btw.
Margarita please please talk about money mindsets!! We’d love to hear you talk about them 🙏
Yes, can you please do a video on money mindset? 🙏
Loved this video too! Thank you ❤
Coming from a toxic and abusive relationship into a healthy one, this video is so validating. Thank you
This was spot on thank you Margarita. I’ve hit a point in my life where I’m depleted from dating guys, the ones I want don’t choose me and the one that does I’m not physically attracted to, I’ve been going round in circules for the last 10 yrs and do t know why
Same issue.. sigh why can't I just bevattracted to the ones who are into me
Hey Julie,as a 40yr old divorcee, was married for 15 yrs.I can tell you this,always go for a man that loves you wayyyy more.In essence it is settling for a lesser attractive man than you would have liked,but he ticks all the other major boxes. I have observed beautiful women will draw in the lesser attractive guys in many cases,if you close your eyes and can picture being intimate with him then give it a shot.Some men clean up real nice,you gotta switch it up.Do the unusual.Maybe the Universe is waiting for you to take that bold step.
Disagree with the Wow effect. I think neither the woman nor the man should experience that. Coming from a man. I always had a crush and intense feelings except for my recent relationship. She on the other hand kind of love bombed me and experienced the "wow" effect intensly. Talking about kids, marriage and wanting to buy a house together after not even two months of being together. This and my avoidant tendencies made me distance myself. She and her anxious style then couldn't handle the distance anymore and dumped me.
No, from my point of view both partners should be "whole and complete" on their own. They should see eachother as they are and grow together. "WoW"-effect or intense feelings of limerance just hinder a mature relationship and growing together from both parties.
The inverse is true. Relationship is exchange. Take care, you don't want a partner which is obssesed to you. You want a partner with good selfsteem and which recognizes their own value as a person. You want a partner which loves himself too.
Obsession leads to possession feelings. You need to find the balance.
You nailed this one Margarita. 💯 ❤
You're soo wonderful!! I'm writing all of your tips in my private diary so the moment i get to know someone i would have all the rules written down to follow so that i don't forget that I'm the prize and he has to win me lol
Thank you for this content of great quality Margarita ! Very interested on the money mindset aspect too !
I was looking for content like this to teach my daughters class and femininity, but the cleavage showing is not very classy. Your videos could inspire many more of you elevated your outfits just a tad: thank you for content anyhow.
Hi dear ♥ I'm just discovering you, and I'm hooked by your energy, your wisdom, your humour, your presence, your confidence, your wit, your beauty in and out ! It's the fifth video that I'm watching in a row, and I'm just getting started ! I'm definitely here for the long run ! So many gems ! So, first, I want to thank you for your amazing content and for being so inspiring ! I have a question regarding this subject of finding "the one"... How about the overall attraction ? The connexion ? I haven't been able to find any of this stability and security in attractive men my age or a bit older. And lately, a man nearly 20 years older than me shows me this respect and attention. It touched me, I decided to give it a chance, but I've realized that I'm absolutely not attracted to him physically, to me the age gap is really problematic... I also feel a bit bored... But overall, I finally find this feeling of stability in him that I crave so much, and he has remained very respectful with me physically, never imposing himself on me, everything has been platonic since he's religious. But a part of me is kind of angry that a man who could technically be my father even courts me. And a part of me secretly despises him for that... So, I feel really torn between the urge that I feel to finally be and build a life with someone safe, and this total absence of physical chemistry towards him. I just don't want him to touch me. I've also heard that attraction and love could come later for a woman, and that as you also say, the most important is that he's relentlessly pursuing me in a present and respectful way. He wrote me letters saying he would be a great husband and father, etc... So, my question is : what place should chemistry and connexion hold in my choice of a life partner (he feels huge chemistry and connexion but I don't) ? Should I dismiss/deny my boredom and lack of attraction ? Should I settle for less than the true love I'm longing for ? Should I doubt this deep longing in me, because maybe the kind of love I'm looking for doesn't exist ? The truth is that, in the past, everytime I've really felt a connexion and attraction with a man, it never worked long term, he always left and I ended up feeling used and drained... While in every long-term relationships I ever had, it was always the men who chose me more than I chose them. It worked for a time, but eventually, I never felt fully fulfilled and in love, so I always ended up leaving the relationship. Yet don't think I'm looking for the "hot and cold" kind of guy who gives me the thrills. I've never been into bad guys who are not investing in me or the relationship, and I love peace ! I crave genuine connexion, enjoying spending time together... I'm really looking for my soulmate to live an epic love and start a family... But I'm truly lost here ! I feel there's really something that I don't get... Please, help ! PS : of course, I'm definitely going to get both of your programs... But in the meantime, if my issue inspires you a video or a specific advice, I'd be so grateful !
Leave him. You are not happy with him
Yes money mindest! I feel a it naive because you're hitting the nail on the head...Love this video. You sound like the sister i never had. I have a good guy but struggling to relate because he's a good guy lol Bless you
I love your advice but a lot of your videos are really drawn out and long winded and I’m like get to the point. Maybe I’m just impatient 😢
Brilliant, you articulated these points so well. Totally agree with everything you said and this advice is so practical for relationships.
My question is, how do you handle the situation, when you are already in a long term relationship with someone and you see some of these red flags. It's easy to say just leave, but I'm referring to navigating the actual situation, how to handle it in a practical, realistic way. I don't find any advice on this topic, yet I see so many people struggling with this issue. They stay stuck in relationships for several different, but important and serious reasons. I'd love to hear your advice on this, because you have alot of wisdom on relationships and recognize the human dynamics entailed. Thankyou so much❤
I’ve been listening to your content for the past two weeks.
Could you give some thought on dynamics for when you and your partner live together, both working and having a baby before the marriage.
You keep me sane
Just make sure he doesn’t promise he’ll get two jobs even, once you have children and even if you get part time work later as the children grow, he expects YOU to pull in the same income after being out of the workforce for over 16 years AND your youngest with autism is just starting full time school in grade one. A complete character change. Unsatisfied with your attempts to bring in income. They CAN change over time. It’s quite shocking.
What if you’re settling? Dating someone currently who fits everything here but I find myself annoyed and I don’t genuinely enjoy the time with him. Maybe I should ignore that feeling though and stay with him because he checks these boxes :/
Are you my fbi agent bc how do you always make videos on topics im thinking about?? 😂😂 love you and your content!!!!
lol
the birds in the background sure have a lot to say. love your vids
Yes they do
I would love to see the reverse for men. Curious how "love her more than she loves you" works out
Wearing Rose tinted glasses, Red flags look pink. Ha ha thats funny but true. Thanks for the video
1. you are yourself around him
2. you don't have hormonal flood of emotions , you stil are in stable mindset to eat , breathe , sleep .
Thank you for this!!! It was on time :) I'm wondering... What if actually I see all these things but still I feel that something is missing? What is missing? Is it important? Are these things enough for somebody to be "the one"?
These are exactly what I need to hear this morning. Can't thank you enough.
Best thing I added to my morning when possible ❤
Spot on Margarita! I can’t wait to share your videos with my teen daughters when they are seriously dating. Your videos are eternal and stands the test of time. Dating from our feminine energy and not from a masculine check list! yeeeees! This is how I chose my now finance / soon to be second husband. He loves me for me. He says HE feels lucky. He never wowed me. And actually I chose a “wow” guy a few years ago, OVER my now fiancé and sent him away. Lucky he came back after wow guy disappeared. Now I’m engaged and could not be happier!!!!!🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
she really is amazing. great advice!
I really hope you don’t show this channel to your daughters.. God I have lost hope in humanity….. 🙄
I'm a Mom to 9 kids, there were 11 of us on one meager paycheck. Now, that I'm leaving its super challenging to provide financially for myself. But, yes, it is a lifestyle adjustment to live the way we have.
I sew, thrift shop, buy food in bulk, etc
9 children!? Even with a career providing for one can be a stress.
I hope your doing well and everyone is healthy
You chose this for yourself. Now buckle up cause its gonna be one hellova ride🎢
@@daniiewtf-what an unnecessary and uninsightful remark
@@daniiewtf-you’re a guy huh?
Wow ! I think you are so brave. I wish you and your beautiful family all the best on this journey. Not an easy one... But you've given birth to 9 souls on this earth, and that in itself is an amazing achievement. As long as you stay true to your heart, honest, authentic and brave, as long as you manage to stick together as one unit, as a strong family, then hardship can sometimes become a blessing in disguise, teaching invaluable lessons. The values learned during times of struggle can create children that will be unstoppable in adult life. Some of the most successful people on earth had a very rough start... But no matter how little they had materially, they always had someone who believed in them. And it made all the difference. Sending much love your way.
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Dear Margarita! Your words are so precious. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.
Can you do a video on how to know when to end the relationship please ? ❤️
Thanks Margarita ❤
I've just discovered this channel, I agree with what you said in this video will be tuning in regularly now.... Lots of love ❤
No.2 is just so crazy, tell me how does an anxious attachment women who always panic and overthinking for something that doesn't even going to happen, and just blame the guys can't control how they stop panic and overthinking?
I would like to have you as a friend.
It is crazy how similar we are, just that my story is with Poland/ Germany and growing up with a single parent. I think and behave so much like you do. It stunns me how much the background and upbringing shapes us.❤-Greetings from Berlin
He's the one if says your farts smell nice and fetches your slippers
You are freaking amazing! I really admire you so very much and I am SO happy that you are bringing humans into this world, because the world needs humans raised by amazing women like you!!!! You are very intelligent and very, very beautiful too!
I’m a lesbian and i’ve never been in a serious relationship before at 28 but there’s a girl i might date in the future and so I’m watching a lot of videos about relationships. A lot of this isn’t very applicable to me but I like your energy, thank you for these videos
Enjoyed your video. My only point of contention is when you say you(the woman) have to love him less than he loves you. As an older man(63) I preached the same thing for most of my life because I felt that if the man loved the woman more, he would stay faithful as I thought/felt that there were only (2) things that kept a man faithful, fear of God and fear of loss. That being said, I have been convinced by the many content creaters on youtube that the woman needs to love the man more because she has more options and she may be tempted to leave if she does not love the man enough. She may think that she can do better. You have me thinking. I would like to hear opinions on this from other women.
I'm not a woman but am also a man in my early sixties so I'll answer your question. UA-cam content creators are by and large selling a product that 9 times out of 10 is just regurgitated content from the other 8 to get clicks.
If you fear God then you know how to love sacrificially as a man and to trust Him with the outcome.
He created the content creators so I'm going to go with His ideas not theirs.
And hers sound quite a lot like His, so there's your answer.
@@Mudpuppyjunior Thanks, point taken.
"When you cooked him a meal and washed his underwaer" - I love you , but what the hell are you talking about?!
Do you have any content on herpes and relationships I know this is a common sexually transmitted disease which is severely understood in the wrong way but I have found this been lots of rejection and am looking to see if this is something you are able to coach woman on also from the empowered space and actual proper education
Hi Margarita! Yes please make a video about 'Money mindset'
Thank you for this video!! As a woman, I’d like to see a video for the reverse for men! Very interesting 😊
I asked my partner to really tell me the truth if getting married (which he brought up first and have met my parents) was something he truly desires, he said it's getting in the way of his plans (which is starting another business based on what he told me, although he has a business that's is really booming right now)
I don't know what to do or tell him from here on.
If youre together for more than 2yrs he needs to make up his mind. Women have a clock especially if you want kids. And what excuse is that? Getting married stops his business....hum
I hope you’re still posting videos in like 12 years time so I can pass these on to my toddler who will be a teen then🤣💞💞
I love you Margarita. You are truly a blessing. ❤
love your insights as aways margarita
I appreciate that!
Thank you sm! I would love a Talk about your Money Mindset
You are wrong about the wow effect. He doesn‘t need to be perfect, but he has to have qualities which makes you admire him. A woman needs to look up to her man. If she doesn‘t, she is definitely settling for less. Its okay to do that too, if as a woman you couldn‘t manage to do better… But it is not optimal and as a woman you won‘t be fulfilled.
You misunderstood her point. Also nothing is wrong, it’s her video and mindset that she is sharing. If you feel differently that doesn’t make either of you wrong.
@@violet6839 I don‘t see how I didn‘t understand her point. Also, there is right and wrong which cause consequences.
As a man I've been in situations where the woman would say "not yet" let's take our time " than after six months.. she says "oh you're a friend, " from experience sadly, I've met women whom if you accept waiting than the attraction bombs down.
As a man, I hate having female friends. I am not a pillow comforter.
I love your wisdom, it is so supportive to me as a woman in my early sixties, thank you so much 🙏🫶
Thank youuu for the great content ♥️ please make a video on money mindset
My issue with the man I’m currently in a relationship with is that I’m avoidant and he’s anxious. Can this ever be resolved? His anxiousness makes me want to run the other way. Also we’re long distance (international) so I often doubt whether he is the one, solely based on the fact that we can’t spend face to face time with each other. I met him once for like 5 days and that’s it. I’m not convinced and it’s almost been a year.
Any relationship that's giving you anxiety rather than feeling loved is a big no no.
I would like to hear about that financial part you was talking about ❤
The red flags look pink😂 got me
I guess he IS the one 😭❤️
The money mindset podcast from you is a need ❤
Love your videos Margarita!keep up the good work. Also can you please talk about emotional support in relationships, how that should look like ?
I tried living out of State with the man I love and left behind everything. Family kids age 21 and 23 I have a house they love in also my grandmother. I tried it for 1 year and made the hardest decision to go back because my heart and life is in my hometown. I miss him dearly and by the way I’m 44yrs old. He can’t move out here because he has 2 younger children and other reasons. I’m heartbroken and don’t know what to do. I don’t see my future without him. We both love each other very much but he didn’t want to be selfish and told me if I’m not happy I need to go where I am. He didn’t want me to leave but he loves me that much. I believe I needed to do this to really see how I feel?
I see that you were willing to sacrifice and compromise a lot for him. What is HE willing to sacrifice or compromise in his life to have you? Everything can be managed or solved if both parties are willing to look for a solution. What is his part in wanting to find solutions for staying together?
Is SHE the one..
How does a woman redeem herself when she fumbled the bag 😢 asking for myself
Learn & pick yourself up don’t be hard just wiser blessings 🙏🏼
Just saw your comment today , I'm pushing through and doing my best, thank you for your kind words 🙏🏾.@@edwardbrito4010
Happy birthday Margarita!! ❤
PERFECT TIMING. THANK YOU!
What does the timeline on these things look like
Love the Aussie birds in the background!!!
Would love to hear you on the 5 signs that she is the one!
Money mindset video please, Margarita.
Love your videos, I'm watching your videos from Colombia. Thank you for this knowledge.
Omg, you are so right, thank you! 🙏
Pure wisdom❤
Everytime I see you posted a new video I click immediately without even looking at the title
Thank you!
Wow,,yasss,,thank u margo,,,that was awesome,,so interesting,,,so usefulll,,nd very helpful,, 🙌♥️👌💯💯💯epic
Can you bring the topic of divorced men? How do we handle being with someone who was married for many years (no kids). How do we handle dating someone who has “baggage” “history” with another relationship?
Thank you for sharing these wise thoughts! They are really helpful!
PLEASE tell me more and more, again and again why i shouldn't be sleeping with random men who are not my potential partners.
I was in a sexual relationship with someone for 9 months hoping it would work. The best sex of my life and the most painful relationship.
And now I'm once again seeing someone who lives in another country and wants to just hang out, talk and have sex with me.
It's like I'm great, but not as a girlfriend.. not as their girlfriend.. and I feel.. not chosen.
They were both nice guys, I really liked them, they both were honest and told me what they want and don't want, and I just couldn't resist, I couldn't say no. I thought I'm just gonna have some fun, but I feel that it might not be healthy..
I love how you, big sister, told me to keep my sacred energy to myself and only share it with my partner.. who chooses me entirely!
I wrote myself a promise that I would keep my sacred sexual energy to myself and to my creative projects and not give it away for fun.
THANK YOU, Margarita.
I'll pray 4 you, Margarita. That you come to know Christ. The Savior.
Almighty God is the creator of all things, and we can see His signs everywhere around us. It may be difficult for us to comprehend as we are small in comparison, similar to a house not knowing who built it. I ask that we all see God's presence in everything. God bless you ❣️
yes, I would love a podcast on money mindset! And Margarita, I just love the way you explain things. Funny and straightforward aka no mercy! I totally resonate with everything. Thank you for everything, gorgeous lady!! =]
Woman? The only real thing is a man being useful in my life and flying me to higher places than I already am at. Emotional connection is USELESS!