4:07 You can be yourself around him completely and he would still want to know you more as who you are. 10:17 The wow effect. You are the one who wows him with your feminine energy and he is the one who is stable for you. He should not be hot and cold or make you consistently think or worry about him. You have to love him less than he loves you. 13:15 Actions and habit, if he is sure and invests his feelings in you. 17:10 He makes you a “we”. He includes you as a part of his life. Not only living in his boy’s life and showing up only for a sexy time. He will have some separate time but should not be so many times or a lot until you question when will that be a time with you. 19:27 Do you feel sexually, physiologically, and physically safe with him.
19:27 was the point that I unfortunately couldn't keep. What I would like to tell women is to support the man you love at points where things may not be going well and help him develop into it. My experience is that women end a relationship immediately if even one thing is wrong, and very few women offer support. Things were different 30 years ago. A man moves mountains when he loves a woman and the woman loves him.
Why ? I want to know the reason. I don't understand.. I'm 23 years old. Please help me if you can. I have two proposals. I never thought this will happen. One from 35 years old man and other from 20 years old boy .
I used to think the unstability and craziness made the love so ethereal and divine. Like no one could ever spark such turbulent and deep emotions within me. But now I laugh at myself for thinking that way lol. Cos that my dear,.. is insane!😂 😂
As a straight guy can I just flag up that there are some of us out here who are relatively normal. Some of us have actually been let down badly ourselves. We’re not all ‘players’ and ‘sexual predators’ but guys who are looking for the warm, affectionate comfortable relationship with a girl who shares our values and some of our dreams. Having said that I thoroughly enjoy your content and your unique and refreshing take on the various issues you highlight. I’m learning.
Yall want these things but most men refuse to stop consuming porn and the lust culture of social media and wonder why they aren’t emotionally connected or invested in this real life girl in front of him. And wonder why she’s got walls up because she’s been gaslit over and over to believe you’re either not doing it or that it’s okay or that you’ll stop but you don’t. It’s deeply toxic and rots your brain. It literally alters the way your brain chemistry is. I have faith that one day men and women can get back our roots and be in our healthy energies but right now we are in a relationship warfare with the internet unfortunately. A lot of men and women are waking up though
The man I'm seeing ticks all thes boxes. :) Yay! I had decided that I was DONE chasing ANY man, and he showed up a few days later... from High School... 20 years ago. It's been so magical and sweet! Enjoying myself through the process. Love your content Margarita, you have helped me see myself in a whole new light. Thank you!
This is so helpful for me. I went through a breakup at age 27 after a 5 year relationship. I thought life was over until I met the man of my dreams and this is all so true. I'd love to hear more about money mindsets too! I want children soon and would love to stay home and wonder if it's possible.
I wholeheartedly disagree. Shouldn’t you first know if she’s even financially successful before wanting to take her advice? For all you know her husband is the one making most of the money.
Exactly @beast, that’s how good she is.. she indeed wants her husband to be the provider.. she knows her business will take a while to be “ financial successful” .. especially because its not her priority.. her family is. She is in not in a rush to be financially successful because her man got her.
Even though I’m a woman I’d love to hear more about the man’s point of view on this! A „is she the one“ video would be much appreciated and such an insight I’d say!
I am a man, 1) she is caring. 2) kind. 3) offers support/helps him if he is looking for something. 4) cooking skills. 5) No tattoos (this is a BIG turn on for me). 6) she offers advice and gives it to him instead of turning her back towards him in a very rude way during the conversation. 7)she doesn't belittle me.
Lovely, lovely said once more.. You keep the balance so well. I wish many more women reach your content soon. These types of conversations women and young girls, must have access to. Thank you for spreading your wisdom!
Your content is a breath of FRESH AIR! I’m also pregnant (but for the first time) and it’s been triggering old anxious/abandonment wounds. Do you have any advice on how to not project these things on our relationships when we’re in hormonal fluctuations?
The inverse is true. Relationship is exchange. Take care, you don't want a partner which is obssesed to you. You want a partner with good selfsteem and which recognizes their own value as a person. You want a partner which loves himself too. Obsession leads to possession feelings. You need to find the balance.
This was spot on thank you Margarita. I’ve hit a point in my life where I’m depleted from dating guys, the ones I want don’t choose me and the one that does I’m not physically attracted to, I’ve been going round in circules for the last 10 yrs and do t know why
Hey Julie,as a 40yr old divorcee, was married for 15 yrs.I can tell you this,always go for a man that loves you wayyyy more.In essence it is settling for a lesser attractive man than you would have liked,but he ticks all the other major boxes. I have observed beautiful women will draw in the lesser attractive guys in many cases,if you close your eyes and can picture being intimate with him then give it a shot.Some men clean up real nice,you gotta switch it up.Do the unusual.Maybe the Universe is waiting for you to take that bold step.
Spot on Margarita! I can’t wait to share your videos with my teen daughters when they are seriously dating. Your videos are eternal and stands the test of time. Dating from our feminine energy and not from a masculine check list! yeeeees! This is how I chose my now finance / soon to be second husband. He loves me for me. He says HE feels lucky. He never wowed me. And actually I chose a “wow” guy a few years ago, OVER my now fiancé and sent him away. Lucky he came back after wow guy disappeared. Now I’m engaged and could not be happier!!!!!🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
You are wonderful 💕💕💕At some point we have to focus on what’s important. This year I am being open minded about my choices and vey intentional. If we go for the same Guys and it’s doesn’t work maybe it’s time for change. I am starting to talk to people I typically won’t go for.
You're soo wonderful!! I'm writing all of your tips in my private diary so the moment i get to know someone i would have all the rules written down to follow so that i don't forget that I'm the prize and he has to win me lol
I'm a Mom to 9 kids, there were 11 of us on one meager paycheck. Now, that I'm leaving its super challenging to provide financially for myself. But, yes, it is a lifestyle adjustment to live the way we have. I sew, thrift shop, buy food in bulk, etc
Wow ! I think you are so brave. I wish you and your beautiful family all the best on this journey. Not an easy one... But you've given birth to 9 souls on this earth, and that in itself is an amazing achievement. As long as you stay true to your heart, honest, authentic and brave, as long as you manage to stick together as one unit, as a strong family, then hardship can sometimes become a blessing in disguise, teaching invaluable lessons. The values learned during times of struggle can create children that will be unstoppable in adult life. Some of the most successful people on earth had a very rough start... But no matter how little they had materially, they always had someone who believed in them. And it made all the difference. Sending much love your way.
I don’t believe in finding the one. I was just looking for a kind man who is on the same page as me in life. And I got a well over 6ft tall, intelligent, empathetic, funny and caring guy who is exactly my type and who loves me to pieces. He tells me every day for 5 years now how beautiful he thinks I am, no matter how well put together I am that day. He told me he is falling in love with me on the second date and that I am the last woman he is ever attempting to date, if this does not work out, he will stay single forever. I would say you found the one when you are truly at peace with your decision and when you are at peace in the relationship. Like, everything is easy. And it shouldn’t be hard. Even if he doesn’t make 6 figures, I got everything else I could wish for, ok? We don’t want to strain the universe too much, lol. I don’t believe in that either btw.
Hi dear ♥ I'm just discovering you, and I'm hooked by your energy, your wisdom, your humour, your presence, your confidence, your wit, your beauty in and out ! It's the fifth video that I'm watching in a row, and I'm just getting started ! I'm definitely here for the long run ! So many gems ! So, first, I want to thank you for your amazing content and for being so inspiring ! I have a question regarding this subject of finding "the one"... How about the overall attraction ? The connexion ? I haven't been able to find any of this stability and security in attractive men my age or a bit older. And lately, a man nearly 20 years older than me shows me this respect and attention. It touched me, I decided to give it a chance, but I've realized that I'm absolutely not attracted to him physically, to me the age gap is really problematic... I also feel a bit bored... But overall, I finally find this feeling of stability in him that I crave so much, and he has remained very respectful with me physically, never imposing himself on me, everything has been platonic since he's religious. But a part of me is kind of angry that a man who could technically be my father even courts me. And a part of me secretly despises him for that... So, I feel really torn between the urge that I feel to finally be and build a life with someone safe, and this total absence of physical chemistry towards him. I just don't want him to touch me. I've also heard that attraction and love could come later for a woman, and that as you also say, the most important is that he's relentlessly pursuing me in a present and respectful way. He wrote me letters saying he would be a great husband and father, etc... So, my question is : what place should chemistry and connexion hold in my choice of a life partner (he feels huge chemistry and connexion but I don't) ? Should I dismiss/deny my boredom and lack of attraction ? Should I settle for less than the true love I'm longing for ? Should I doubt this deep longing in me, because maybe the kind of love I'm looking for doesn't exist ? The truth is that, in the past, everytime I've really felt a connexion and attraction with a man, it never worked long term, he always left and I ended up feeling used and drained... While in every long-term relationships I ever had, it was always the men who chose me more than I chose them. It worked for a time, but eventually, I never felt fully fulfilled and in love, so I always ended up leaving the relationship. Yet don't think I'm looking for the "hot and cold" kind of guy who gives me the thrills. I've never been into bad guys who are not investing in me or the relationship, and I love peace ! I crave genuine connexion, enjoying spending time together... I'm really looking for my soulmate to live an epic love and start a family... But I'm truly lost here ! I feel there's really something that I don't get... Please, help ! PS : of course, I'm definitely going to get both of your programs... But in the meantime, if my issue inspires you a video or a specific advice, I'd be so grateful !
This was more insightful than I thought it would be! Yes, I learned the hard way that it's not worth it running after men, only the ones that are wowed by you are worth it 😊
Hello Margarita. I have found your channel this spring after separating with my last partner and digging into attachment theory content. Since then I watch almost every video you publish and I love your content so much! Now despite your channel appears to be feminine-audience-oriented, I still get a lot of insights and value as a young man. I am 25 now and have gone through my first marriage, followed by divorce recently, so I started questioning my values in terms of family and life and future, questioning my traits as of a masculine man and asking how do I want to grow from now aside from career. There are some amount of content on masculinity on UA-cam, but I did not found any person who makes as much empowering content as you do (honestly, sometimes when I'm down and your new video pops up I just watch it and it drives my mood up). Would you like to make some masculine-audience-oriented content? To start with I think you could easily flip the titles of some of your videos to be oriented for men, like this one - in ex. "Is she the one?" and have a conversation on red flags / marriage material / what to avoid and etc. I would love see that. Thanks in advance! 🫶
I'll do you one better. How about a video like "For men: How to BE the one" I imagine it as a video for the guys trying to be the man that you're already talking about in your videos. Idk just food for thought.
I’m a lesbian and i’ve never been in a serious relationship before at 28 but there’s a girl i might date in the future and so I’m watching a lot of videos about relationships. A lot of this isn’t very applicable to me but I like your energy, thank you for these videos
Enjoyed your video. My only point of contention is when you say you(the woman) have to love him less than he loves you. As an older man(63) I preached the same thing for most of my life because I felt that if the man loved the woman more, he would stay faithful as I thought/felt that there were only (2) things that kept a man faithful, fear of God and fear of loss. That being said, I have been convinced by the many content creaters on youtube that the woman needs to love the man more because she has more options and she may be tempted to leave if she does not love the man enough. She may think that she can do better. You have me thinking. I would like to hear opinions on this from other women.
I'm not a woman but am also a man in my early sixties so I'll answer your question. UA-cam content creators are by and large selling a product that 9 times out of 10 is just regurgitated content from the other 8 to get clicks. If you fear God then you know how to love sacrificially as a man and to trust Him with the outcome. He created the content creators so I'm going to go with His ideas not theirs. And hers sound quite a lot like His, so there's your answer.
You are freaking amazing! I really admire you so very much and I am SO happy that you are bringing humans into this world, because the world needs humans raised by amazing women like you!!!! You are very intelligent and very, very beautiful too!
Brilliant, you articulated these points so well. Totally agree with everything you said and this advice is so practical for relationships. My question is, how do you handle the situation, when you are already in a long term relationship with someone and you see some of these red flags. It's easy to say just leave, but I'm referring to navigating the actual situation, how to handle it in a practical, realistic way. I don't find any advice on this topic, yet I see so many people struggling with this issue. They stay stuck in relationships for several different, but important and serious reasons. I'd love to hear your advice on this, because you have alot of wisdom on relationships and recognize the human dynamics entailed. Thankyou so much❤
Thank you for this!!! It was on time :) I'm wondering... What if actually I see all these things but still I feel that something is missing? What is missing? Is it important? Are these things enough for somebody to be "the one"?
Yes money mindest! I feel a it naive because you're hitting the nail on the head...Love this video. You sound like the sister i never had. I have a good guy but struggling to relate because he's a good guy lol Bless you
No.2 is just so crazy, tell me how does an anxious attachment women who always panic and overthinking for something that doesn't even going to happen, and just blame the guys can't control how they stop panic and overthinking?
I love your videos and get so much value from them. Just wondering how the roles feminine and masculine energies come into play in a gay relationship. As a gay man I feel like I embrace a more feminine role in a relationship but I can’t rely on that. At the end of the day, we’re both men so do we both respond better to masculine energy 🤷🏻♂️
I would like to have you as a friend. It is crazy how similar we are, just that my story is with Poland/ Germany and growing up with a single parent. I think and behave so much like you do. It stunns me how much the background and upbringing shapes us.❤-Greetings from Berlin
Hi Margarita, thank you very much for your content… so inspiring ❤ just an opinion .. just being dating this man for 2 weeks and we have great chemistry and good conversation .. but he just said that I am not his usual type of a women physically I mean. I know should not put this comment here as just listening now 😊
Can you bring the topic of divorced men? How do we handle being with someone who was married for many years (no kids). How do we handle dating someone who has “baggage” “history” with another relationship?
yes, I would love a podcast on money mindset! And Margarita, I just love the way you explain things. Funny and straightforward aka no mercy! I totally resonate with everything. Thank you for everything, gorgeous lady!! =]
This is a great video, deep thoughtful and grounded. I also think though that it’s important to be with someone you love very much , wow factor aside, perhaps that’s more infatuation. The right kinda love I guess flows both ways - from both ends.
I’ve been listening to your content for the past two weeks. Could you give some thought on dynamics for when you and your partner live together, both working and having a baby before the marriage.
I would love a video about finances in a couple- what you think about how much a man should pay vs how much a woman should. How much should he support you financially etc
As a man I've been in situations where the woman would say "not yet" let's take our time " than after six months.. she says "oh you're a friend, " from experience sadly, I've met women whom if you accept waiting than the attraction bombs down.
My boyfriend treats me like a princess and is obsessed with me . I could send a selfie looking sleepy and tired and he goes nuts. He spoils me sm reassures me
4:07 You can be yourself around him completely and he would still want to know you more as who you are.
10:17 The wow effect. You are the one who wows him with your feminine energy and he is the one who is stable for you. He should not be hot and cold or make you consistently think or worry about him. You have to love him less than he loves you.
13:15 Actions and habit, if he is sure and invests his feelings in you.
17:10 He makes you a “we”. He includes you as a part of his life. Not only living in his boy’s life and showing up only for a sexy time. He will have some separate time but should not be so many times or a lot until you question when will that be a time with you.
19:27 Do you feel sexually, physiologically, and physically safe with him.
Thank you so much!
Thank you❤
Thank you for the summary ❤
19:27
was the point that I unfortunately couldn't keep.
What I would like to tell women is to support the man you love at points where things may not be going well and help him develop into it.
My experience is that women end a relationship immediately if even one thing is wrong, and very few women offer support. Things were different 30 years ago.
A man moves mountains when he loves a woman and the woman loves him.
Yes
Yes!!! A man who is NOT on social media ❤
Are you on social media? I am not
@@Herculiz22 Besides UA-cam, no.
@@shaynalee 💌❤
I am not on social media other than UA-cam.
Why ? I want to know the reason. I don't understand.. I'm 23 years old. Please help me if you can. I have two proposals. I never thought this will happen. One from 35 years old man and other from 20 years old boy .
I used to think the unstability and craziness made the love so ethereal and divine. Like no one could ever spark such turbulent and deep emotions within me.
But now I laugh at myself for thinking that way lol.
Cos that my dear,.. is insane!😂 😂
I know what you mean. But it gets tiring doesnt it? I want a man that doesnt disrupt my peace or i prefer to be alone as i am now.
Just got engaged yesterday and was like let’s see if he passes the test 😂 and he does! Love your content and practical view on life.
As a straight guy can I just flag up that there are some of us out here who are relatively normal. Some of us have actually been let down badly ourselves. We’re not all ‘players’ and ‘sexual predators’ but guys who are looking for the warm, affectionate comfortable relationship with a girl who shares our values and some of our dreams. Having said that I thoroughly enjoy your content and your unique and refreshing take on the various issues you highlight. I’m learning.
Yes, woman think every man is like a superman.
U,
Glad to hear this. My son, a very handsome & hardworking man is not a f boy or player. He loves the Lord & wants a family.
Yall want these things but most men refuse to stop consuming porn and the lust culture of social media and wonder why they aren’t emotionally connected or invested in this real life girl in front of him. And wonder why she’s got walls up because she’s been gaslit over and over to believe you’re either not doing it or that it’s okay or that you’ll stop but you don’t.
It’s deeply toxic and rots your brain. It literally alters the way your brain chemistry is. I have faith that one day men and women can get back our roots and be in our healthy energies but right now we are in a relationship warfare with the internet unfortunately. A lot of men and women are waking up though
The vast majority, actually. Media does men real bad these days.
Coming from a toxic and abusive relationship into a healthy one, this video is so validating. Thank you
The man I'm seeing ticks all thes boxes. :) Yay! I had decided that I was DONE chasing ANY man, and he showed up a few days later... from High School... 20 years ago. It's been so magical and sweet! Enjoying myself through the process. Love your content Margarita, you have helped me see myself in a whole new light. Thank you!
This is so helpful for me. I went through a breakup at age 27 after a 5 year relationship. I thought life was over until I met the man of my dreams and this is all so true. I'd love to hear more about money mindsets too! I want children soon and would love to stay home and wonder if it's possible.
When did you meet the guy of your dreams?? I also left at 27! Now trying to figure out if it’s my time
I feel like from what I’m seeing this happens astrologically.
@@nadiaalbayrak731 if it has to happen astrologically, then you will see some stars in the sky which will be special.
Literally my life right now! Good for you ❤
Just discovered your videos and your message is TRUTH! Please make a video on money mindsets! Thanks for the great content!
I concur so real ❤
I wholeheartedly disagree. Shouldn’t you first know if she’s even financially successful before wanting to take her advice? For all you know her husband is the one making most of the money.
Exactly @beast, that’s how good she is.. she indeed wants her husband to be the provider.. she knows her business will take a while to be “ financial successful” .. especially because its not her priority.. her family is. She is in not in a rush to be financially successful because her man got her.
Smart x
@@Margarita.Nazarenkox smart
Even though I’m a woman I’d love to hear more about the man’s point of view on this!
A „is she the one“ video would be much appreciated and such an insight I’d say!
Me too ! 🤩🙌🙏
I am a man, 1) she is caring. 2) kind. 3) offers support/helps him if he is looking for something. 4) cooking skills. 5) No tattoos (this is a BIG turn on for me). 6) she offers advice and gives it to him instead of turning her back towards him in a very rude way during the conversation. 7)she doesn't belittle me.
@@Trancymindas a high value man this is 100% correct. Don’t believe the BS of internet content creators. Just be kind.
Lovely, lovely said once more.. You keep the balance so well. I wish many more women reach your content soon. These types of conversations women and young girls, must have access to. Thank you for spreading your wisdom!
Your content is a breath of FRESH AIR! I’m also pregnant (but for the first time) and it’s been triggering old anxious/abandonment wounds. Do you have any advice on how to not project these things on our relationships when we’re in hormonal fluctuations?
The inverse is true. Relationship is exchange. Take care, you don't want a partner which is obssesed to you. You want a partner with good selfsteem and which recognizes their own value as a person. You want a partner which loves himself too.
Obsession leads to possession feelings. You need to find the balance.
Margarita please please talk about money mindsets!! We’d love to hear you talk about them 🙏
These are exactly what I need to hear this morning. Can't thank you enough.
Best thing I added to my morning when possible ❤
You nailed this one Margarita. 💯 ❤
You keep me sane
This was spot on thank you Margarita. I’ve hit a point in my life where I’m depleted from dating guys, the ones I want don’t choose me and the one that does I’m not physically attracted to, I’ve been going round in circules for the last 10 yrs and do t know why
Same issue.. sigh why can't I just bevattracted to the ones who are into me
Hey Julie,as a 40yr old divorcee, was married for 15 yrs.I can tell you this,always go for a man that loves you wayyyy more.In essence it is settling for a lesser attractive man than you would have liked,but he ticks all the other major boxes. I have observed beautiful women will draw in the lesser attractive guys in many cases,if you close your eyes and can picture being intimate with him then give it a shot.Some men clean up real nice,you gotta switch it up.Do the unusual.Maybe the Universe is waiting for you to take that bold step.
Because women always want the men they can’t have.
@@richardmatthews7489Are they gay?
Spot on Margarita! I can’t wait to share your videos with my teen daughters when they are seriously dating. Your videos are eternal and stands the test of time. Dating from our feminine energy and not from a masculine check list! yeeeees! This is how I chose my now finance / soon to be second husband. He loves me for me. He says HE feels lucky. He never wowed me. And actually I chose a “wow” guy a few years ago, OVER my now fiancé and sent him away. Lucky he came back after wow guy disappeared. Now I’m engaged and could not be happier!!!!!🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
she really is amazing. great advice!
I really hope you don’t show this channel to your daughters.. God I have lost hope in humanity….. 🙄
Yes, can you please do a video on money mindset? 🙏
Loved this video too! Thank you ❤
My god! Would love to hear you speak on the topic of getting old as a woman, it is something that is on my mind a lot lately...
I 100% get it and will talk about it
I would love that too @@Margarita.Nazarenko
Dear Margarita! Your words are so precious. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.
Hi Margarita! Yes please make a video about 'Money mindset'
You are wonderful 💕💕💕At some point we have to focus on what’s important. This year I am being open minded about my choices and vey intentional. If we go for the same Guys and it’s doesn’t work maybe it’s time for change. I am starting to talk to people I typically won’t go for.
Hi margarita, can you please make a video about money mindset as you were mentioning during the third point? thank you!
I hope you’re still posting videos in like 12 years time so I can pass these on to my toddler who will be a teen then🤣💞💞
Thank you for this content of great quality Margarita ! Very interested on the money mindset aspect too !
Wish I had known this all before getting kids with the wrong man.
But now I'm glad with moving on with my life...
You're soo wonderful!! I'm writing all of your tips in my private diary so the moment i get to know someone i would have all the rules written down to follow so that i don't forget that I'm the prize and he has to win me lol
Love the Aussie birds in the background!!!
PERFECT TIMING. THANK YOU!
Everytime I see you posted a new video I click immediately without even looking at the title
Thank you!
I'm a Mom to 9 kids, there were 11 of us on one meager paycheck. Now, that I'm leaving its super challenging to provide financially for myself. But, yes, it is a lifestyle adjustment to live the way we have.
I sew, thrift shop, buy food in bulk, etc
9 children!? Even with a career providing for one can be a stress.
I hope your doing well and everyone is healthy
You chose this for yourself. Now buckle up cause its gonna be one hellova ride🎢
@@daniiewtf-what an unnecessary and uninsightful remark
@@daniiewtf-you’re a guy huh?
Wow ! I think you are so brave. I wish you and your beautiful family all the best on this journey. Not an easy one... But you've given birth to 9 souls on this earth, and that in itself is an amazing achievement. As long as you stay true to your heart, honest, authentic and brave, as long as you manage to stick together as one unit, as a strong family, then hardship can sometimes become a blessing in disguise, teaching invaluable lessons. The values learned during times of struggle can create children that will be unstoppable in adult life. Some of the most successful people on earth had a very rough start... But no matter how little they had materially, they always had someone who believed in them. And it made all the difference. Sending much love your way.
the birds in the background sure have a lot to say. love your vids
Yes they do
I love you Margarita. You are truly a blessing. ❤
I've just discovered this channel, I agree with what you said in this video will be tuning in regularly now.... Lots of love ❤
This right here is Bible!! Made me subscribe!! You did this in an amazing way that spoke to me. When I needed!!
Thank you for sharing these wise thoughts! They are really helpful!
I don’t believe in finding the one. I was just looking for a kind man who is on the same page as me in life. And I got a well over 6ft tall, intelligent, empathetic, funny and caring guy who is exactly my type and who loves me to pieces. He tells me every day for 5 years now how beautiful he thinks I am, no matter how well put together I am that day. He told me he is falling in love with me on the second date and that I am the last woman he is ever attempting to date, if this does not work out, he will stay single forever. I would say you found the one when you are truly at peace with your decision and when you are at peace in the relationship. Like, everything is easy. And it shouldn’t be hard. Even if he doesn’t make 6 figures, I got everything else I could wish for, ok? We don’t want to strain the universe too much, lol. I don’t believe in that either btw.
I love your wisdom, it is so supportive to me as a woman in my early sixties, thank you so much 🙏🫶
Money mindset video please, Margarita.
Love your videos, I'm watching your videos from Colombia. Thank you for this knowledge.
Hi dear ♥ I'm just discovering you, and I'm hooked by your energy, your wisdom, your humour, your presence, your confidence, your wit, your beauty in and out ! It's the fifth video that I'm watching in a row, and I'm just getting started ! I'm definitely here for the long run ! So many gems ! So, first, I want to thank you for your amazing content and for being so inspiring ! I have a question regarding this subject of finding "the one"... How about the overall attraction ? The connexion ? I haven't been able to find any of this stability and security in attractive men my age or a bit older. And lately, a man nearly 20 years older than me shows me this respect and attention. It touched me, I decided to give it a chance, but I've realized that I'm absolutely not attracted to him physically, to me the age gap is really problematic... I also feel a bit bored... But overall, I finally find this feeling of stability in him that I crave so much, and he has remained very respectful with me physically, never imposing himself on me, everything has been platonic since he's religious. But a part of me is kind of angry that a man who could technically be my father even courts me. And a part of me secretly despises him for that... So, I feel really torn between the urge that I feel to finally be and build a life with someone safe, and this total absence of physical chemistry towards him. I just don't want him to touch me. I've also heard that attraction and love could come later for a woman, and that as you also say, the most important is that he's relentlessly pursuing me in a present and respectful way. He wrote me letters saying he would be a great husband and father, etc... So, my question is : what place should chemistry and connexion hold in my choice of a life partner (he feels huge chemistry and connexion but I don't) ? Should I dismiss/deny my boredom and lack of attraction ? Should I settle for less than the true love I'm longing for ? Should I doubt this deep longing in me, because maybe the kind of love I'm looking for doesn't exist ? The truth is that, in the past, everytime I've really felt a connexion and attraction with a man, it never worked long term, he always left and I ended up feeling used and drained... While in every long-term relationships I ever had, it was always the men who chose me more than I chose them. It worked for a time, but eventually, I never felt fully fulfilled and in love, so I always ended up leaving the relationship. Yet don't think I'm looking for the "hot and cold" kind of guy who gives me the thrills. I've never been into bad guys who are not investing in me or the relationship, and I love peace ! I crave genuine connexion, enjoying spending time together... I'm really looking for my soulmate to live an epic love and start a family... But I'm truly lost here ! I feel there's really something that I don't get... Please, help ! PS : of course, I'm definitely going to get both of your programs... But in the meantime, if my issue inspires you a video or a specific advice, I'd be so grateful !
Leave him. You are not happy with him
definitely interested on the money topic on your pod.
This was more insightful than I thought it would be! Yes, I learned the hard way that it's not worth it running after men, only the ones that are wowed by you are worth it 😊
I believe that I am the one, and I choose one from many possibilities 😊❤
Hello Margarita. I have found your channel this spring after separating with my last partner and digging into attachment theory content. Since then I watch almost every video you publish and I love your content so much!
Now despite your channel appears to be feminine-audience-oriented, I still get a lot of insights and value as a young man. I am 25 now and have gone through my first marriage, followed by divorce recently, so I started questioning my values in terms of family and life and future, questioning my traits as of a masculine man and asking how do I want to grow from now aside from career. There are some amount of content on masculinity on UA-cam, but I did not found any person who makes as much empowering content as you do (honestly, sometimes when I'm down and your new video pops up I just watch it and it drives my mood up).
Would you like to make some masculine-audience-oriented content? To start with I think you could easily flip the titles of some of your videos to be oriented for men, like this one - in ex. "Is she the one?" and have a conversation on red flags / marriage material / what to avoid and etc. I would love see that. Thanks in advance! 🫶
I'll do you one better. How about a video like "For men: How to BE the one"
I imagine it as a video for the guys trying to be the man that you're already talking about in your videos. Idk just food for thought.
I’m a lesbian and i’ve never been in a serious relationship before at 28 but there’s a girl i might date in the future and so I’m watching a lot of videos about relationships. A lot of this isn’t very applicable to me but I like your energy, thank you for these videos
Thanks Margarita ❤
Thank you so much for your personality, your knowledge, your wisdom!!!❤ I wish I would find your channel earlier
I would like to hear about that financial part you was talking about ❤
love your insights as aways margarita
I appreciate that!
Happy birthday Margarita!! ❤
I love the info thank you .. also, was that a guinea pig in the background?? 😊
Omg, you are so right, thank you! 🙏
Girl we need the makeup tutorial
Thank youuu for the great content ♥️ please make a video on money mindset
Thank you sm! I would love a Talk about your Money Mindset
Enjoyed your video. My only point of contention is when you say you(the woman) have to love him less than he loves you. As an older man(63) I preached the same thing for most of my life because I felt that if the man loved the woman more, he would stay faithful as I thought/felt that there were only (2) things that kept a man faithful, fear of God and fear of loss. That being said, I have been convinced by the many content creaters on youtube that the woman needs to love the man more because she has more options and she may be tempted to leave if she does not love the man enough. She may think that she can do better. You have me thinking. I would like to hear opinions on this from other women.
I'm not a woman but am also a man in my early sixties so I'll answer your question. UA-cam content creators are by and large selling a product that 9 times out of 10 is just regurgitated content from the other 8 to get clicks.
If you fear God then you know how to love sacrificially as a man and to trust Him with the outcome.
He created the content creators so I'm going to go with His ideas not theirs.
And hers sound quite a lot like His, so there's your answer.
@@Mudpuppyjunior Thanks, point taken.
You are freaking amazing! I really admire you so very much and I am SO happy that you are bringing humans into this world, because the world needs humans raised by amazing women like you!!!! You are very intelligent and very, very beautiful too!
Brilliant, you articulated these points so well. Totally agree with everything you said and this advice is so practical for relationships.
My question is, how do you handle the situation, when you are already in a long term relationship with someone and you see some of these red flags. It's easy to say just leave, but I'm referring to navigating the actual situation, how to handle it in a practical, realistic way. I don't find any advice on this topic, yet I see so many people struggling with this issue. They stay stuck in relationships for several different, but important and serious reasons. I'd love to hear your advice on this, because you have alot of wisdom on relationships and recognize the human dynamics entailed. Thankyou so much❤
Thank you Margarita. You always define it perfectly. You help me a lot in many ways. I want you to know.
1. you are yourself around him
2. you don't have hormonal flood of emotions , you stil are in stable mindset to eat , breathe , sleep .
Thank you for this!!! It was on time :) I'm wondering... What if actually I see all these things but still I feel that something is missing? What is missing? Is it important? Are these things enough for somebody to be "the one"?
Agreed with all of this. Thanks for the reassurance!
Can you do a video on how to know when to end the relationship please ? ❤️
Yes money mindest! I feel a it naive because you're hitting the nail on the head...Love this video. You sound like the sister i never had. I have a good guy but struggling to relate because he's a good guy lol Bless you
Make a video on what you were talking about with ageing being a beautiful woman. More content needed on this topic 🥰
Thank you so much for your being 🫶🏼 and yes please a video about money mindset ✨
Hi Margarita, i enjoy listening to your POV about things. Please do a few videos on money mindsets as well
Wow,,yasss,,thank u margo,,,that was awesome,,so interesting,,,so usefulll,,nd very helpful,, 🙌♥️👌💯💯💯epic
Thank you for this video!! As a woman, I’d like to see a video for the reverse for men! Very interesting 😊
Love your videos!! they super resonate!! Wondering if you could make a video on intimacy in long term relationships?
Love your videos Margarita!keep up the good work. Also can you please talk about emotional support in relationships, how that should look like ?
This video of yours strongly helped me thank you so muchh❤❤
No.2 is just so crazy, tell me how does an anxious attachment women who always panic and overthinking for something that doesn't even going to happen, and just blame the guys can't control how they stop panic and overthinking?
I love your videos and get so much value from them. Just wondering how the roles feminine and masculine energies come into play in a gay relationship. As a gay man I feel like I embrace a more feminine role in a relationship but I can’t rely on that. At the end of the day, we’re both men so do we both respond better to masculine energy 🤷🏻♂️
This is what I needed to hear. Thank you!
I would love to see a whole video on how to wow him ☺️
I would like to have you as a friend.
It is crazy how similar we are, just that my story is with Poland/ Germany and growing up with a single parent. I think and behave so much like you do. It stunns me how much the background and upbringing shapes us.❤-Greetings from Berlin
Yes please to a conversation about money mindsets! 🎉
thank you, Margarita!really enjoyed it.
Will love to listen to a podcast about the moneyset! ❤
Course I want to know more about your money mindset queen ♥️ thx for your content 🦋
Loved hearing your insights on this. Curious as to know what your take is on when she is the one as well.
Thank you beautiful Margarita 🩶
Would love to hear you on the 5 signs that she is the one!
Hi Margarita, thank you very much for your content… so inspiring ❤ just an opinion .. just being dating this man for 2 weeks and we have great chemistry and good conversation .. but he just said that I am not his usual type of a women physically I mean. I know should not put this comment here as just listening now 😊
I guess he IS the one 😭❤️
Can you bring the topic of divorced men? How do we handle being with someone who was married for many years (no kids). How do we handle dating someone who has “baggage” “history” with another relationship?
yes, I would love a podcast on money mindset! And Margarita, I just love the way you explain things. Funny and straightforward aka no mercy! I totally resonate with everything. Thank you for everything, gorgeous lady!! =]
I am a big fan of your content. Can you talk a little bit about blended families? And stepmother’s role?
This is a great video, deep thoughtful and grounded. I also think though that it’s important to be with someone you love very much , wow factor aside, perhaps that’s more infatuation. The right kinda love I guess flows both ways - from both ends.
Wearing Rose tinted glasses, Red flags look pink. Ha ha thats funny but true. Thanks for the video
I would love to see the video you mentioned about transitioning from young womanhood into older womanhood!
I’ve been listening to your content for the past two weeks.
Could you give some thought on dynamics for when you and your partner live together, both working and having a baby before the marriage.
I hope you know you change peoples lives for the better
I would love a video about finances in a couple- what you think about how much a man should pay vs how much a woman should. How much should he support you financially etc
That’s a good idea x
As a man I've been in situations where the woman would say "not yet" let's take our time " than after six months.. she says "oh you're a friend, " from experience sadly, I've met women whom if you accept waiting than the attraction bombs down.
As a man, I hate having female friends. I am not a pillow comforter.
The red flags look pink😂 got me
My boyfriend treats me like a princess and is obsessed with me . I could send a selfie looking sleepy and tired and he goes nuts. He spoils me sm reassures me