Another Pregnancy Loss | IVF Update

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  • @shilohivy4590
    @shilohivy4590 Рік тому +1130

    My mom was infertile. This way before ivf. She never spoke about the 15 years she tried before adopting me at birth but I wish she would have. It has to be heartbreaking. She said the moment she saw my face she knew why. She was an incredible mother. I am hoping for the best for you both.

    • @SweetE1403
      @SweetE1403 Рік тому +16

    • @SweetE1403
      @SweetE1403 Рік тому +36

      I feel similar…I’ve had 3 sons and just want a daughter but don’t want to be pregnant again. It’s not a fertility issue but I just want a baby girl. I want to adopt one

    • @laurathomas578
      @laurathomas578 Рік тому +19

      My heart goes out to you both! Godspeed! 🙏🏽❤️

    • @jilw8690
      @jilw8690 Рік тому +33

      Charisma, I had fertility struggles myself. We also went through years of hormone pills, timed pregnancy, folistim injections, a super hormone injection and artificial insemination (not to mention just having fun trying). We stopped at IVF. I personally struggled as it was my medical issue and not my husband's. I cried so much and prayed so much, but it was never meant to be. I also always wanted to be a mom, and wanted nothing more than making my in-laws grandparents. I pray for you and Cole. I pray the God grants you the beautiful gift of a baby and the Mother Mary guides you. Best wishes always!

    • @strawberryworldtv1676
      @strawberryworldtv1676 Рік тому

      ​@@jilw8690have you ever tried dog blood tea? It mixed with vervine bush works wonders..it's what has helped alot persons in jamaica successfully get pregnant..a friend a mine recommended it to her friend who struggled to get pregnant and ever since she tried it she kept having babies to catch up for lost times lol..look it up if you're still open to trying and see if it works..I believe I saw the dog blood bush on Amazon..all the best to those trying

  • @bigmargie
    @bigmargie Рік тому +166

    Hang in there. After years of treatment, I gave up when I turned 40. The minute I stopped stressing, I got pregnant and delivered at 41. You still have many opportunities ahead of you. Good luck.

  • @plaidpaisley5918
    @plaidpaisley5918 Рік тому +508

    I went through 2 IVF procedures. 1st failed. I was 36. 2nd one, a month later was a SUCCESS! A baby girl. Then, when she was 2 and I was 39 I was pregnant naturally (shocker!!). Our son was born abt 3 weeks after I turned 40!! He turned 21 last month and last week my husband took him out of state to sign up for his junior year of college. We feel so very blessed. And you will be, too. Praying for you. 🙏🙏🙏❤️

    • @Tee-kc3pn
      @Tee-kc3pn Рік тому +8

      I had my 3rd 3 days before my 40th birthday

    • @ericlehman6841
      @ericlehman6841 Рік тому +12

      That's a wonderful story! I believe in healthy regular pregnancy during women's 40s maybe even into mid 50s.

    • @vanessafitzpatrick5635
      @vanessafitzpatrick5635 Рік тому +2

      AMEN ❤

    • @JessickaBrown27gmail
      @JessickaBrown27gmail Рік тому +1

      I just wanted to say I'm so sorry for your loss are you able to have someone to carry the baby for you just asking again I am so sorry for your loss 💕🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

    • @tandrasmith1605
      @tandrasmith1605 Рік тому

      Sending love and light to you both. Praying for you 🫶

  • @leslierichardson5187
    @leslierichardson5187 Рік тому +243

    It was challenging for me and my partner for 15 almost 16 years. I had a chemical pregnancy, then a miscarriage. I tried again with my frozen embryos and it didn’t take. So I took some time off from the stress I was putting on myself and from all the medications. Then in March of 2022 I wanted to try one more time. I had three remaining frozen embryos, one didn’t make it through the thawing out process and I was left with two. I had the doctor put the remaining two and prayed. I prayed before my procedure and the days after. I found out I was pregnant. I had my miracle rainbow 9 month old twin boys. I’m writing this to say that it’s ok to take some time off and let your body rest and recover from all the meds and stress that you maybe putting on yourself. God has a plan for the both of you and your miracle baby will be here. I will be praying for you both.

    • @empresscandyross8359
      @empresscandyross8359 Рік тому +4

      God bless

    • @fadrawaller9976
      @fadrawaller9976 Рік тому +3

      God Bless you and your family

    • @TinaMarie
      @TinaMarie Рік тому

      May I ask how yall are able to afford doing so many cycles? In my area they are 15k per cycle

    • @jillasare
      @jillasare Рік тому

      Amen

    • @bridgette57ify
      @bridgette57ify Рік тому

      GOD OF MIRACLE SIGNS AND WONDERS!!! TO GOD BE ALL THE GLORY. THANK YOU FOR SHARING.

  • @msalicat1
    @msalicat1 Рік тому +94

    I’ve been pregnant 7 times, and I have one child. I’ve had a lot of loss, so I understand your pain. Try and stay positive and remember that it only takes 1 good embryo 🥰

  • @lucettejames7310
    @lucettejames7310 Рік тому +233

    I waited and prayed for 21 years and when I stopped the treatments, and stopped trying I finally got pregnant and our beautiful daughter turned 14 last week. Pray to God to give you your hearts’ desires. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

    • @elexis3728
      @elexis3728 Рік тому +14

      I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard of that happening for people. It’s kind of like how they say, when you stop looking for love it finds you. I’m glad it all worked out for you!💞

    • @WILMA_
      @WILMA_ Рік тому +15

      Everything happens in God’s timing. I wish these two the best of luck!

    • @brendarichardson9001
      @brendarichardson9001 Рік тому +5

      I believe in miracles, and I believe in you❤ " . . .faith is the substance of things hoped for, and the evidence of things that we can't see. Now prayer is the key, and faith unlocks the door. . ."
      Continue to count your blessings and celebrate treasures received last but never , "Don't Stop Believin'"! ❤❤❤

    • @jpojpo1
      @jpojpo1 Рік тому +2

      ❤amén bendiciones!

    • @angelaroberts2431
      @angelaroberts2431 Рік тому +5

      I pray God intervene and bless you with a baby.. Continue to trust God..He can do the impossible

  • @fillybee3153
    @fillybee3153 Рік тому +234

    My Dad prayed for, and with me when two years of treatment failed. I fell pregnant with my daughter soon after, and had twin natural conception two years later. My daughter is now 34, and my son and daughter 31 years old. Nothing is impossible! Sending you love, hugs, and prayers from Perth AU.

  • @heathergains2448
    @heathergains2448 Рік тому +322

    I'm literally hugging my phone to hug y'all ❤ I'm so sorry. I didn't do IVF but we did have 8 losses. We now have a almost 7 month old little boy. Don't lose hope🥰

  • @rebeccabrockway8258
    @rebeccabrockway8258 Рік тому +102

    I underwent six cycles of IVF. One early-term miscarriage. Now, I'm the mother of four children - all were adopted - and four grandchildren.

  • @nancybladsacker5357
    @nancybladsacker5357 Рік тому +167

    My prayer for you both is pregnancy with next IVF. And that it works and you have twins. Y’all deserve to be parents and I believe it will work next time. 🙏🏻🙏🏻

    • @wheatstonebridge
      @wheatstonebridge Рік тому

      Im also hoping she becomes a single mother! Yay!

    • @_BLOVEMY
      @_BLOVEMY Рік тому +1

      @@wheatstonebridgeSMH WHY SO NEGATIVE? Stop it.

    • @imfreetobeme8
      @imfreetobeme8 Рік тому +2

      I wish people would believe in the power of prayer more than they do the power of finger crossing. I will be praying for them also with you.

    • @KaiLucasZachary
      @KaiLucasZachary Рік тому +4

      @@wheatstonebridge WTF? Why would you call her a "single mother" when she's clearly got a loving husband who wants to be a father?

    • @alexandramoyer8785
      @alexandramoyer8785 Рік тому

      @@wheatstonebridge what a awful thing say. Be a better human being than this

  • @setset_.7449
    @setset_.7449 Рік тому +198

    Cried before the video started. I wanted this so bad for you guys. But it’s definitely gonna happen !!! God has a plan for you guys. Don’t give up!!

    • @katjavestergaard489
      @katjavestergaard489 Рік тому +8

      Amen 🙏 Gods timing & plan! I struggled for 13 years before I finaly got pregnant. I am now 26 weeks thru IVF & so thankful. But unfortunately not every pregnancy comes so easy. Feeling & praying for there miracle!

    • @teresaamanfu7408
      @teresaamanfu7408 Рік тому +2

      @@katjavestergaard489I’m wishing you the healthiest pregnancy ❤

    • @katjavestergaard489
      @katjavestergaard489 Рік тому

      @@teresaamanfu7408 thank you!

  • @arlene1525
    @arlene1525 Рік тому +209

    Praying for God’s timing to happen for you guys soon.

  • @micro-uhgresh-uhnn
    @micro-uhgresh-uhnn Рік тому +370

    We’re still cheering from the bleachers for this baby. ❤

    • @jackiejones2483
      @jackiejones2483 Рік тому +11

      Trust God it will happen in God's time, I am praying for the both of you let go and let God. 🙏🏾❤️

    • @ValerieWar8Ward
      @ValerieWar8Ward 6 місяців тому

      Godsend ❤❤😊!

  • @natalieschiller4785
    @natalieschiller4785 Рік тому +59

    I started to cry when you showed the positive pregnancy test knowing the title. I’m praying hard for you & Cole to have as many children God plans to give you no matter how they come to you. ❤

    • @yessumyessum6624
      @yessumyessum6624 Рік тому

      Goodness! Why the heck cry - and why post that you did? 🙄

  • @tamblinnorthcutt4761
    @tamblinnorthcutt4761 Рік тому +14

    My daughter has the same condition that
    Charisma has with blood Clotting. She didn’t know she had it until she lost her baby at 8 months it devastated all of us. Then she went through a series of test and found out that she has that condition. She had to do shots up until she was induced and now she has 6,5,and 4 year old babies. I prayed that you have success with becoming pregnant. Sending love from Texas❤

  • @winonabannon8556
    @winonabannon8556 Рік тому +45

    My daughter lost 3 babies. and was devastated. She started IVF. They took 15 eggs and only two were healthy. She went thru two pregnancies with success! When her youngest was a little over a year old , they got pregnant naturally. So you never know what will happen. Right now, my daughter is totally exhausted, with 3 girls under 4, but very happy. So, you never know what will happen. Sending love and support your way and hoping your dreams come true.

  • @akaciavoorhies5352
    @akaciavoorhies5352 Рік тому +442

    May the Lord open your womb and bless Cole’s seed to fill your lives with beautiful children ❤️

  • @saraoviyach4839
    @saraoviyach4839 Рік тому +254

    Sending so much love. We just had a failed IVF transfer of our only two embryos and made the choice to not use medical intervention anymore to give my body a break. You are such a warrior and so strong. Thank you for being so vulnerable and helping to bring awareness to infertility

    • @wunmikeji
      @wunmikeji Рік тому +17

      Sending you much love and prayers too

    • @deel.9149
      @deel.9149 Рік тому +12

      ❤❤❤❤❤

    • @hinaimtiaz7861
      @hinaimtiaz7861 Рік тому +11

      Praying for you

    • @erickanew
      @erickanew Рік тому +12

      I remember trying everything to get pregnant 20 years ago. Implanting sperm, fertility drugs, etc, after trying 6 years got pregnant once and that ended in miscarriage. My husband had a kid so I assumed it was me. My marriage didn't work out so I remarried years later. With my new husband I got pregnant immediately naturally had a healthy baby. My ex husband also had kids with someone else. Having babies can be tricky.

    • @carolyneauma5410
      @carolyneauma5410 Рік тому +7

      Sending you much love and praying that God give you the desire of your hearts. ❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @OsbornIOW
    @OsbornIOW Рік тому +123

    It's a cruel world when folk who shouldn't be together get pregnant yet folk who are married and truly in love are having to battle for a child. Love to you both always. ❤❤❤❤❤

    • @sheenascott3591
      @sheenascott3591 Рік тому +6

      Omg I felt this exact same way, after 1 loss, then second loss of twins, BUT…… now my rainbow baby boy will be two October 13th, Iam 36. Congrats guys❤.

    • @Me-ty8dd
      @Me-ty8dd Рік тому +2

      I so agree.

    • @Bubzietown
      @Bubzietown Рік тому +3

      Exactly I’ll never understand why this happens

    • @cleommaletsoenyo9685
      @cleommaletsoenyo9685 6 місяців тому

      So true!
      Sorry guys, don't give up. Something will happen soon. Just be positive or I suggest you give it a try by adopting maybe the universe will open doors...
      It's just a harmless suggestion 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
      Or do it the African way...
      Drink herbs that will help with fertility 🤷🏼🤗🤗
      🤫🤫🤫🤫

  • @agnes9867
    @agnes9867 Рік тому +30

    "I just want to be mum," says Chrisma. It will surely happen for you both by God's grace 🙏

  • @shawandabarnes614
    @shawandabarnes614 Рік тому +106

    Hang in there. Don't give up EVER... My rainbow baby turned 23 this past July... 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💜💜💜

    • @LanguagesofLights
      @LanguagesofLights Рік тому

      😮😮

    • @LanguagesofLights
      @LanguagesofLights Рік тому

      😮😮😮😮

    • @joselynmiller5589
      @joselynmiller5589 Рік тому +1

      Mine just turned 30. ❤❤ Good luck guys. I had a fully developed 38 week beautiful baby girl that was stillborn. One year later, I had another healthy beautiful healthy baby girl. Good Luck you two.

  • @oliviadreisinger
    @oliviadreisinger Рік тому +96

    I had a chemical pregnancy in June and now I'm 10 weeks pregnant. After that first loss, I definitely did a lot less dreaming and talking to this current baby in case something happens. Pregnancy is a lot. I hope you guys get to the other side with children.

  • @DAnna639
    @DAnna639 Рік тому +20

    A friend of mine only had 5% of one fallopian tube available at age 40, and she still got pregnant. You got this!! 👍👍👍

  • @vaneenusa1776
    @vaneenusa1776 Рік тому +47

    The love, understanding, and kindness you two have for each other is so beautiful and admirable. Wish you the best!

  • @Thechaoticlifeofmomo
    @Thechaoticlifeofmomo Рік тому +18

    Prayers up I lost my first child in October after giving birth at 27 weeks and holding her in my arms for hours before she passed away. My husband and I are getting ready to work with a reproductive lab and we are open and praying for the best. Keep praying and keep pushing your blessing will come.

  • @SpiritAnimal1212
    @SpiritAnimal1212 Рік тому +74

    I am so sorry to hear that it did not work out for both you and Cole this time. But, KNOW it WILL absolutely work out for you both in the near future! Please do not give up hope! It’s hard to keep the faith but it WILL happen for you🙏🏾!! You two will make such AMAZING parents!! There are little baby souls out there in the ether waiting to come in at the right time🙏🏾

  • @sishanavarro2813
    @sishanavarro2813 Рік тому +105

    I’m so sorry for your loss. When Cole got emotional when he said how quickly you get attached to your baby I truly teared up because it’s very true. My husband and I have been on our fertility journey for over 10 years. We have tried naturally several times and done IVF. We have our son from our first transfer but all attempts since we have failed naturally and 2 more transfers. It’s been heartbreaking. There is just no other way to say it. I just highly recommend communicating and facing the trauma head on. There is no hiding from it. It will rear its head in other areas of your relationship if you don’t not to mention that dealing with it is so important as you walk into future ways of trying. Stay positive. Keep trying. As my husband says this process will either break you or make you bonded like steel. Just two days ago we found out our final embryo transfer worked. We are guarded as me know we have a long road ahead but it’s the first positive we have had in many years. We are hopeful. Sending lots of hope your way too ❤

    • @a.i.s.8
      @a.i.s.8 Рік тому +4

      ❤🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

    • @LongIslandNY-op8su
      @LongIslandNY-op8su Рік тому +1

      🤲🏼❤️❤️

    • @andreaflint2742
      @andreaflint2742 Рік тому +1

      You will be a mom..continue your journey….mom of two popsicles 17 and 19 now…hang in there!

    • @theresahood-phillips
      @theresahood-phillips Рік тому +2

      I pray God will heal you’re emotionally and mentally. I pray God will bless you’re with a beautiful bless baby. Prayer worker 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽every time.
      Maybe twins next time.🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽❤️

    • @robynw8223
      @robynw8223 Рік тому

      Congrats!

  • @boricuaful1
    @boricuaful1 Рік тому +71

    You guys will make amazing parents one day. That time will come. 🙏🏽

  • @junemcelhaney3374
    @junemcelhaney3374 Рік тому +30

    I’ve been in your shoes - don’t give up! My IVF baby turns 29 in December - he is my miracle that no one thought was possible - but God (and me!). Love you guys and praying for your miracle!!!💙💖💙

  • @LauraMalvoyante
    @LauraMalvoyante Рік тому +36

    I had 6 chemical pregnancies before being diagnosed with a blood clotting disorder (factor 5). I had a blood thinner throughout my pregnancy soon as I got pregnant and had a perfectly healthy boy. You guys will have your bundle of joy, stay strong ❤

  • @grakno172
    @grakno172 Рік тому +49

    STAY POSITIVE! It will happen in God's timing.🙌

  • @jaylene.turner6524
    @jaylene.turner6524 Рік тому +105

    Cole and Charisma,
    I’m very sorry to hear that
    you both have suffered another
    major loss.
    Just know that it’s definitely not the end.
    God is taking his time to prepare the
    baby just right.
    When the little angel gets here,
    he or she will be very blessed to
    have such amazing parents in you
    both.
    In the meantime,
    stay focused and keep the faith.
    We all love and support you!

  • @jakithomas9558
    @jakithomas9558 Рік тому +57

    Cole and Charisma, you both are incredible! The babies will come! 🙏 💕

  • @loria7946
    @loria7946 Рік тому +49

    Hang in there Cole, Charisma, and Sophie.
    Its gonna happen, it will🙏

  • @kellywaller8829
    @kellywaller8829 Рік тому +30

    I know there is no substitute for your own biological child, half of each of you. Knowing that part of you will always exist, but you can exist in your lessons and love too. Please, keep your hearts open to foster or adoption. I was adopted in the late 70s and I am so thankful for my parents. You have so much love to share. God will provide when the time is right. Always keep hope and faith.

  • @jeneinstein
    @jeneinstein Рік тому +56

    Fellow IVFer here. Our daughter is the result of 9.... NINE ivfs. With all due respect to your doctor, I cannot recommend genetic testing enough. So, so beneficial and sometimes cuts out a lot of heartache.

    • @rachelpiscitell9993
      @rachelpiscitell9993 Рік тому +2

      Yes I agree.

    • @jacquelinebradley9372
      @jacquelinebradley9372 Рік тому +2

      My miracle son was born through IVF.. he’s 21 .

    • @kimmcnatt6301
      @kimmcnatt6301 Рік тому +1

      I agree! My daughter just went thru ivf as well, and they did icsi and were successful. The embryos that “appeared” the best, actually had abnormalities. It’s worth the extra cost.

    • @jeneinstein
      @jeneinstein Рік тому +2

      @kimmcnatt6301 that exactly how it was for us. We had gorgeous looking embryos and then they weren't normal.

  • @wangarimugweru7473
    @wangarimugweru7473 Рік тому +22

    Today seeing Cole shed tears has really saddened me. Charisma you are strong lady. Hope you get pregnant soon.

  • @erikavaleries
    @erikavaleries Рік тому +138

    Huge hugs from a Virginia viewer. I’m so sorry this is such a long road. Take time to grieve & feel better. Sending love.

    • @ironfist458
      @ironfist458 Рік тому +5

      You VA women are pretty! ❤😍

  • @chelle315
    @chelle315 Рік тому +31

    Don't give up!! 💪🏾.... You 2 are destined to be parents. ❤️❤️❤️

  • @suescherdel6278
    @suescherdel6278 Рік тому +23

    You two have been through so much. I lost my first pregnancy. It was hard. I had a feeling that something wasn’t right. And I was right. I still think about it, and that was 26 years ago.
    There was a happy ending though. Two months later, I was pregnant again, and that baby is now a beautiful, young 25 year old woman!
    I consider this all a miracle. I was 42 years old when I gave birth…… 👶🏻

  • @joycebuxton5995
    @joycebuxton5995 Рік тому +46

    I've lost 3 babies. It's heartbreaking....you both are in my prayers and thoughts ...love u guys bunches

    • @marie.c.c
      @marie.c.c Рік тому +2

      Does the grief get better? Is it different for every pregnancy? I'm still early in my grief and I am just wondering how it is for other people to walk in those shoes and how subsequent losses feel like. I feel for you, and I am sorry that it's been your journey. I lost my son and it was my first pregnancy... and it feels like I lost a piece of my heart.

    • @harveyisma109
      @harveyisma109 Рік тому +1

      You need to prier Jesus his going to give you baby

  • @deborahgoodwin9187
    @deborahgoodwin9187 Рік тому +27

    I’ve shared my story and it’s various pieces before, but I’m here again to say this: I’m 72 years old and had my babies back in 1990 when IVF was brand new. One of the worst things you can say to a couple struggling with this is, “If you guys will just quit stressing and trying so hard, it will happen.” God, I hated that, because, frankly, no, it never would have happened for us! For us, they invented a new process right as we were about to give up. And THAT ONE was exactly what we needed. I will say you guys are doing some things already like pros: staying positive, speaking the positive, being patient with one another, trying to put yourself in the other one’s place, being transparent with family and support system, pursuing all avenues. More than anything else, expressing your faith and hopes and thankfulness for those things you do have. I still feel every one of your feelings…because once you’ve gone through infertility, you will always be that couple and you will always understand other couples’ struggles. Be good to each other. DON’T GIVE UP. LET GOD WORK! You are in my prayers.

  • @cocoa_luv
    @cocoa_luv Рік тому +169

    Guys make sure you read and watch the entire video!!
    Sending you guys love! You both will make amazing parents one day!❤❤❤❤

    • @joy...7689
      @joy...7689 Рік тому +10

      Hi, you cautioned to watch entire video like you got it at the end they say they're pregnant, yes pregnancy revealed but not them, so, all there followers are still saying the same thing " stay strong don't give up, it will happen" God's timing matters.

    • @kathycherry1996
      @kathycherry1996 Рік тому +4

      thank you!🙂

    • @cocoa_luv
      @cocoa_luv Рік тому +2

      ​@@joy...7689now they are saying the right thing. When the video was first posted people were saying congratulations, and using celebratory emojis.

    • @tenubekele5553
      @tenubekele5553 Рік тому +7

      I am so sorry I thought that finally you became pregnant that's why I congrats you but I deleted after I heard the end news. But you are young and healthy it will be working next time don't give up stay strong

    • @cocoa_luv
      @cocoa_luv Рік тому +4

      @@tenubekele5553 it happens, I instantly got excited as well. In due time, they will be blessed with a child. I am sure if it.
      I was just trying to stop a trend in comments because I knew people stopped watching after the first few seconds.

  • @September7bride
    @September7bride Рік тому +17

    Please know that so many people who have navigated similar waters are praying for you and even those who have not. Love you guys and when your extra blessings arrive you will understand this journey.

  • @simoneb4707
    @simoneb4707 Рік тому +40

    I pray God open your womb and you have plenty babies. I love you guys. Y’all videos always brighten up my day
    You guys are so stronger❤️

    • @phumud4644
      @phumud4644 Рік тому +1

      Amen,Standing in agreement

  • @michelleb9008
    @michelleb9008 Рік тому +94

    Im so sorry guys, Thanks for the update. I know how hard this is and i also know how frustrating and disheartening it is. I love how you dont give up. I still havent had the courage to go through with my IVF as im scared of another pregnancy loss after going through 3. One days i pray we will all get our rainbow baby.. sending love ❤ xxx

    • @coriannm318
      @coriannm318 Рік тому +1

      🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🤗🤗🤗 Heart wishes and blessings out to you

  • @ritabarnes2440
    @ritabarnes2440 Рік тому +59

    So sorry. I totally understand. Had fertility issues for years, took meds, did so many tests. After 2 years of trying I decided to stop everything and just pray (I always pray) The next month I conceived and my daughter is 36!
    Praying for you guys as I truly believe things work out as the Lord intends. I just know it is going to happen for you guys!

    • @theresahood-phillips
      @theresahood-phillips Рік тому +1

      Amen prayer works every time 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

    • @Bluericas
      @Bluericas Рік тому

      Sending love to you both ❤❤
      You will be parents in the future 🙏

    • @Hallelujah.-
      @Hallelujah.- Рік тому +1

      Amen I received this

  • @utakatjivena66
    @utakatjivena66 Рік тому +12

    From my mouth to the lord's ears...IT GOING TO HAPPEN WITH THE LAST TWO....love you guys...

  • @msislandgirl00
    @msislandgirl00 Рік тому +27

    This was such a roller coaster, I cannot imagine the emotions you’ve been going through. But when you mentioned both your mothers flew out the next day an involuntary sob escaped from me. I can’t explain it but I think it was because that was the greatest indicator of how hard it was for you.
    Thank you for sharing this vulnerable time with us. I hope you feel the support of all your followers

    • @beverlyt.5526
      @beverlyt.5526 Рік тому +2

      That Was Beautiful Hearing That Both Mothers Came Right To Them!!! That's What We Do, A Love That Can't Be Put Into Words. One Cole And Charisma Will Be Blessed To Understand One Day.

    • @karinasinclair
      @karinasinclair Рік тому

      Oh God Bless you both. I lost three babies and we will never know why 😢that happens when we want it so much. We will keep praying for you both. Sending you all my love to 😘

    • @marinaalmeida8664
      @marinaalmeida8664 10 місяців тому

      ​@@karinasinclair0lk

  • @maddygvanlifer435
    @maddygvanlifer435 Рік тому +8

    Ok, just added a baby for you two, to my prayer list every morning
    God's got this. Thank you for sharing

  • @foxfire1894
    @foxfire1894 Рік тому +28

    We are sorry for your lost. We are here for you❤

  • @BriaDeanna127
    @BriaDeanna127 Рік тому +48

    Could a cool seat cushion help Cole? I also want to say how inspired I am to watch your story. It takes so much courage to go through it and an unthinkable amount of courage to also share it. Thank you for sharing your courage. It's contagious!

    • @beatrizrojas1476
      @beatrizrojas1476 Рік тому

      was going to ask the same if he could sit in ice bag would that help?

  • @ericas810
    @ericas810 Рік тому +12

    Praying it happens naturally ❤ STAY POSITIVE!

  • @jrbland18
    @jrbland18 Рік тому +3

    Sorry for your loss. Make sure your Not over LIFTING anything. Trying to relax more.

  • @lineegiles815
    @lineegiles815 Рік тому +11

    Keeping you both in prayer. Be encouraged!

  • @dianefoster4472
    @dianefoster4472 Рік тому +33

    You guys are seriously so mature and handling all of this so well.

  • @amyhatcher1981
    @amyhatcher1981 Рік тому +16

    This is by far, the most emotional video for me! Cole crying is breaking my heart! It will happen in time. Don't give up and don't lose hope! Praying for you two!

  • @elinakeranen4499
    @elinakeranen4499 Рік тому +27

    I so started crying with Cole 😭 I'm sorry for you and I wish so much you'll succeed, you'd be amazing parents ❤

  • @godneverfails8698
    @godneverfails8698 Рік тому +7

    Y’all in my prayers!! The Most High will bless you just like Hannah! In 1st chapter Samuel! Y’all in my prayers! Keep the faith ❤️❤️

  • @hyphylifein7028
    @hyphylifein7028 Рік тому +5

    Hey Cole and Charisma I just saw your ad on TV and went to your site.I gravitated to this story because I'm a T6 para and me and my partner went through 3 rounds of IVF before it worked it's incredible being a dad and it will happen for you 2,KEEP strong and KEEP going!

  • @marialauraavila2050
    @marialauraavila2050 Рік тому +32

    Guys, totally understand you!! We’re going through the same journey, with its ups and downs! Hang in there!! We’ll get there ❤️

  • @mariondiemert430
    @mariondiemert430 Рік тому +16

    Dear Charisma and Cole, many years ago, in the late 1970's, a good friend of mine and her husband had been trying for years to become pregnant. Nothing seemed to work and then they adopted a beautiful little boy. Five months later, she was pregnant. My mom said at the time, that constantly thinking about a pregnancy can make your body play mind games with you. God bless and all the best to you both.

    • @plaidpaisley5918
      @plaidpaisley5918 Рік тому

      I had friends, same thing they had 2 little boy babies, a few mos apart. ❤️❤️

  • @gpsquared1
    @gpsquared1 Рік тому +8

    I have followed your love story since before the engagement and your unconditional love is so inspiring to me. I have NO doubt that you will be pregnant before this year ends and I feel it will be a natural conception.

  • @keshajohnson8817
    @keshajohnson8817 Рік тому +9

    Stay encouraged. The process, via IVF, can be emotionally challenging and financially draining. Keep God first and keep each other close. I’m very happy you all are doing therapy, that’s extremely important. Many blessings to you both!!💜🦋

  • @jessicanylander7842
    @jessicanylander7842 Рік тому +5

    Thank you guys for being so honest. Me and my husband are just starting our pregnancy journey and I am understanding how emotional and hard this journey is. All the love and good vibes for you both

  • @brendamichel7486
    @brendamichel7486 Рік тому +16

    The infertility journey is such an emotional roller coaster! I went through this many years ago, but I started out much older than you. I was not successful with getting pregnant, so we chose the adoption option, and my daughter was adopted from China in 2003!! Best thing ever! (She just graduated college - yikes!) In the adoption community, we say "Adoption may not have been our first option, but not second best". I wish you both success with pregnancy and who knows, maybe you can have bio children AND adopt! That way you could have the best of both worlds! Blessings to you both 💗

  • @MyIncredibleRecipes
    @MyIncredibleRecipes Рік тому +31

    It will happen ❤ i had three consecutive miscarriages, one was via IUI, a failed ivf and two natural pregnancies (all miscarriages ) before i had my daughter! 4 pregnancies all within a year, my daughter was my 4th pregnancy and she went full term no issues! I had ALL the tests making sure my body wasnt the issue (i was 100%) i did a biopsy, the test where they shoot dye into my fallopian tubes, all were great. The beta tests with the first three did double but never tripled, with my daughter it quadrupled, so i knew she'd make it.. They told me that sometimes the baby attaches and you get positive tests, then something happens because theres something wrong and your body knows it, so it lets the baby go😢 it will happen for you guys! What helped me is knowing I could get pregnant, even if they didn't stay, you just need to get the RIGHT one that's healthy enough to keep growing ❤

  • @JD-zv3nz
    @JD-zv3nz Рік тому +14

    I can relate with you 100% Charisma. I've suffered 4 miscarriages so my husband and I decided to get tons of bloodwork done only to also find out I have a blood clotting issue. My doctor put me on progesterone and now I'm finally pregnant (25 weeks) with our rainbow baby. l take lovenox injections everyday (blood thinners) and will switch to heparin 2x/day when I get to 36 weeks! Praying for you both as you're on this journey to parenthood. You will be an amazing mother and father.

    • @Mrs.Mann1777
      @Mrs.Mann1777 Рік тому

      Do you have Antiphospholipid Syndrome?

    • @Cajun.Cravings_
      @Cajun.Cravings_ Рік тому

      Did you take progesterone prior to the procedure?

  • @latanyaharris7160
    @latanyaharris7160 Рік тому +6

    Thanks for sharing this video. I have been through this- every emotion, every disappointment... you are not alone. I'm praying for y'all. Don't give up. I know it's hard but stay encouraged. Yes, therapy is great. You two are going to make great parents.

    • @coleandcharisma
      @coleandcharisma  Рік тому +1

      Sending you love. Thank you for your support! 💙

  • @lisaurban6888
    @lisaurban6888 11 місяців тому +3

    I will mention one thing to possibly ask your OB/GYN about. How is your progesterone level? You are far younger than I was when I conceived my last son, but I had 4 chemical pregnancies in 6 months, conceiving naturally. I lost each pregnancy at about 5 1/2-6 weeks because my HCG levels wouldn't rise quick enough. My body at 40 didn't produce enough progesterone to sustain the implantation. My doctor put me on progesterone suppositories for a month prior to trying to conceive and continued them until the end of the first trimester upon getting pregnant. We have our very energetic and loving Brandon because my doctor listened to me and thought outside the medical textbook. I wish you both the best on this frustrating as well worthwhile journey to become parents.

  • @julianscarlett618
    @julianscarlett618 Рік тому +13

    It was very kind of you to be so vulnerable with us. I'm sure it has helped some couples. I wish for you the ability to conceive. Stay positive❤

  • @mimiology1
    @mimiology1 Рік тому +26

    Awww I’m so sorry for your loss. I can tell she kept laughing so she can uplift Cole from crying. God will bless you both with your miracle baby and your story will become a testimony to others.❤ love y’all

  • @wunmikeji
    @wunmikeji Рік тому +27

    I don't know what to tell you guys as I'm crying while watching this. All I'll say as someone that has gone through this disappointment many times is that it will come. Don't know what to tell you, believe me. I'm very sorry for your loss

  • @aidagonzalezortiz-wj8fc
    @aidagonzalezortiz-wj8fc Рік тому +2

    Cole and charisma, I, am deeply sorry for your loss and I, send prayers your way.
    I, love your channel.

  • @gwengreene8522
    @gwengreene8522 Рік тому +55

    Keep us informed guys. We can be praying for you two. 😢

  • @rachelmm05
    @rachelmm05 Рік тому +10

    Praying for you all during this very difficult time. All the best to you all for every future endeavor 🙏🙏

  •  Рік тому +16

    I turn 40 in October. I suffer from stage 4 endometriosis. My husband and I have done 4 rounds of IVF, using loans (that hurts) and cash because our insurance then wouldn't cover it. I'm now recovering from my 6th surgery from endometriosis. It's tiring. I'm about giving up. I really pray you two get your wish! No one deserves that heartache.
    Edit: to say I did 4 rounds and lost 3 embryos. It's heartbreaking.

    • @naanaa3440
      @naanaa3440 Рік тому +1

      Hugs

    • @areviryyr
      @areviryyr Рік тому +1

      Don't give up give it to God and trust his timing. I was told I couldn't have a bb.Dr said maybe with treatment I could but I didn't have the $$ or nor I wanted to spend so much $$ in something that wasn't guaranteed. So I told Dr it will be when ever God wants it to be I always prayed for I remember at age 38 he taught I had endometrosis and told me if I did had it they had to take everything out and then I really could not have a baby. I remember the day of the laparoscopy I told my grandma that had Alzheimer's to 🙏 for me she didn't even know who I was ok but I was her caregiver she said I will pray so that you can atleast have onechild I hope it's a girl too beacuse I love girls. I said yes me too I also asked the church for prayers and thank the Lord I didn't have endometriosis but I did have ovarian cyst small fibroid. I did a home remedy to get rid of the cyst and fibroid and at age 39 I was blessed and my prayers were answered it took like 10 yrs of praying for my child but his timing is perfect. Prepare for your child and thank God before beacuse you know one day he will answer your prayer stay in faith dear trust our creator.💖🙌

  • @joro241
    @joro241 Рік тому +7

    I love how you both validate each others feelings, I am so sorry for this loss, My sincerest condolences guys.I will continue to pray for this to happen. I know in my heart being a parent is in your future ❤. Love you guys!

  • @JustCallMeAnything229
    @JustCallMeAnything229 Рік тому +2

    Oh I’m so sorry, I know exactly how you feel. I tried for 10 years and 3 cycles of IVF. No luck with any of our loved embryos. It’s heartbreaking, hope you’re both doing ok. It’s a bit of a taboo subject isn’t it and I could’ve slapped anyone who told me to “relax”, “it will happen” or “my aunt’s friend’s cousin’s best friend’s aunt tried for 6 months and she finally got pregnant” 🤦‍♀️ My last IVF cycle was 5 years ago so no one ever asks when I’m going to have a baby any more, it seems like a lifetime ago but watching you go through it just brings back all those raw feelings you mentioned of hope, despair... I wish you all the best x

  • @MoonBeamsChild
    @MoonBeamsChild Рік тому +7

    A lot of y'all CLEARLY didn't watch the whole video. Smh.....

  • @NaetionOfBeauty
    @NaetionOfBeauty Рік тому +39

    Man… I was hoping so bad to see Charisma stand up to show us the bump but you know what.. IT OKAY, Gods timing ❤don’t give up my loves. It’s going to happen for you both. There’s a reason for not right now! THANK YOU soooo much for being so vulnerable with us . Your prayer warriors are behind you ! I spoke your name to God just know. ❤

  • @zenobiabrown7383
    @zenobiabrown7383 Рік тому +53

    We were told that our chances of having kids was "slim to non". Everywhere I turned was baby this and baby that. My emotions ran the gamut from being happy for other's pregnancy announcements, to almost dreading to hear @ anything baby related. After 15 years, we were blessed with "Slim", followed 20 months later with "Non". I'm not saying that it will take that long for you guys, but DON'T GIVE UP. Work through the feelings; love each other; support each other; encourage each other; enjoy each other; and live your lives. We don't always understand why, but when God decides to bless you guys, nothing will be able to stop it, and it will be a true testimony. Love you both.

  • @cutiefasho06
    @cutiefasho06 Рік тому +4

    I believe it will happen for you all in due time. Thank you for being so open and transparent and willing to bring us on this journey with you. ❤

  • @kimb.8553
    @kimb.8553 Рік тому +4

    Praying for you both. Your bundle of joy is coming!!❤

  • @christinaewing2425
    @christinaewing2425 Рік тому +19

    Sorry for your loss my heart breaks for you both ,I hope you keep trying best to you big hugs from Glenburnie maryland ❤

  • @barbaralockett2956
    @barbaralockett2956 Рік тому +46

    I’m sorry that you guys didn’t get the results you wanted at this time but know this, it’s going to happen ❤

  • @NitaScruggs
    @NitaScruggs Рік тому +15

    Ttc journeys can be such a rollercoaster. I had to remind myself that you only get 12 times in a whole year to try to make a WHOLE HUMAN and to try and enjoy most of the days in between.
    You all supporting each other and extending grace is only creating the dynamic you all will need as healthy parents. Sending my love.

  • @sarahfarrell8214
    @sarahfarrell8214 Рік тому +3

    Cole and Charisma, my heart breaks for your struggle. Sending prayers for a a healthy pregnancy. God will take care.

  • @StephanieHooks-q9x
    @StephanieHooks-q9x 6 місяців тому +1

    Congratulations 🎉

  • @kirajamison4664
    @kirajamison4664 Рік тому +37

    I was praying that Charisma was going to stand up & reveal her baby bump 😢💔 Stay positive guys it’ll all be worth it soon 😊💕

  • @tndee
    @tndee Рік тому +6

    Listening to your story reminds me so much of my own. My husband also had a low sperm count, I only had one tube and we tried and failed with the fertility medicines, IUI's, and the initial IVF....but, we were finally blessed 13 years ago with our only child. We were able to conceive through a Frozen Embryo Transfer which was never in our plan and almost didn't happen. I believe it will happen for you two. Continue to keep your faith and know that you're supported during this journey.

  • @sheilabyrd2289
    @sheilabyrd2289 Рік тому +14

    I thank you for sharing this very sad update with us. I had moist eyes listening to you talk about this last IVF episode. My heart goes out to you. I’m glad you’re getting counseling to help you deal with this. I believe that parenthood is going to happen for you all. Your child is going to be blessed to have the most amazing, loving parents. I am praying that for you🙏🏿. Take good care & I’ll see you in the next video. God Bless.

  • @Serendipity11118
    @Serendipity11118 11 місяців тому +1

    This was hard to watch. I absolutely adore the both of you. I’m sending prayers your way for many blessings & miracles in your lives! May God bless you❤ Oh and better health is a blessing! I used them when my father was m*rdered. Anyone seeking help I highly recommend better health as well.

  • @gems3604
    @gems3604 Рік тому +4

    Thank you for sharing your journey. This is tough. I know. You two are incredibly resilient. No matter what the future holds for you, you guys will be okay. Sending prayers your way. God has a plan. Trust HIM.

  • @ashleyjones1415
    @ashleyjones1415 Рік тому +14

    5 years, 2 egg retrievals, and 4 frozen transfers later, I am FINALLY pregnant. After I had almost given up it happened! Keep trying, you guys deserve a baby

  • @miecyturner
    @miecyturner Рік тому +4

    Praying for you guys! ❤❤🙏🏿🙏🏿God's got you.

  • @meekyw.4010
    @meekyw.4010 Рік тому +14

    21:39 - 21:42 I was trying to keep it together, but this just got me😢 My heart breaks for y'all going through this process💔 and the pain of loss after loss. I know that feeling all too well. I'm so glad to hear that y'all are allowing your family in more with this journey because it's a lot, and that support is important. I love how Cole has educated himself with the medical process and the terminology and how he supports his Wife. Charisma it's okay to feel your feels sweetheart don't hold it in. Hang in there honey God's going to make you a Mommy!🤗🙏🏽

  • @dawnlyons7770
    @dawnlyons7770 Рік тому +2

    Babies are coming back two fold!! God bless the both of you!

  • @samorahpigot8030
    @samorahpigot8030 Рік тому +2

    I'll keep praying for you. Don't lose hope ❤

  • @Jazzy.girl.Sarah2023
    @Jazzy.girl.Sarah2023 Рік тому +8

    I'm sorry it didnt work out this time😢 huge hugs to you both.