SEXUAL URGES IN LONG DISTANCE MARRIAGE || HOW TO SATISFY / HANDLE YOUR URGES
Вставка
- Опубліковано 14 жов 2024
- SEXUAL URGES IN LONG DISTANCE MARRIAGE || HOW TO SATISFY / HANDLE YOUR URGES
Download LemFi with the referral link: referral.lemon...
For 10% Cashback, Use Referral code: FASHFAM
*********************************************
Want to have a one-on-one session with? click here - selar.co/iwgg
*********************************************
For SPONSORSHIPS & BUSINESS ENQUIRIES: victoriafashcoach@gmail.com
Follow me on Instagram: @victoria.a.fash
Support my other UA-cam Channel: @TruthandTalesPodcast
*****************************************
About Me
I am a Christian content creator based in the United Kingdom. I am married to the love of my life, Wole. I love to talk about relationships and $3x in marriage. I hope you enjoy your time here.
*********************************************************
FAQs
1. What Camera do you film with?
Ans: Canon M50 Mark II
2. What Lighting do you use?
Ans: Daylight
3. What Microphone(s) do you use?
Ans: amzn.to/3DjQCAI
4. What Software do you use to edit?
Ans: Filmora
The first Nigerian I’ve seen approaching this topic logically. I was in an LDR and LDM for years and this sustained us during those years.
Love how you are encouraging people to listen and learn about the sex communication which has always been hush-hush
Rubbing your stomach when you are hungry will in no way quench your hunger for food. Advising couples to masturbate and stimulate themselves is not the way out. Is like rubbing their stomach and expect satisfaction from hunger to eat food.
The way out is to set your mind off it . Engage yourself with spiritual activities at your free time , feed your mind with meditation from God's word and His grace with abide with you. When you communicate with your partner have time to discuss or study God's word together. And the grace will enable you beyond your imagination.
Rest kwanu
Tell that to couples who have been apart for over a year. It's easy to dish out advice until you walk their shoes. This is why many fall into temptations
@@VictoriaFashyou are promoting sin. Period!!
It is not easy
@@VictoriaFash I have been away from my wife for two years now... I leave in Dublin Ireland.. my advise is based on my personal experience together with what the manual the word of God says. Don't advise people to start something they can't finish... The best to overcome certain appetite is to starve them ... Feeding the appetite by stimulation or masturbation will do the couples NO good. It is like watching porn and hope to overcome masturbating or sex. My advise is based on my experience through relying on divine strength ( grace).
This is true and I longed to the end of this and it's all 💯. I am in a long distance relationship too and due to the way I was brought up, sex is not really my thing even after marriage due to the distance but consideration is important too ... God's kind of love sustains a long didn't have relationship! But... 😂😂 God helps us to do better... Cos izzz not easy... I won't recommend a long distance relationship but when it happens, discuss it well and make out time for each other.... Communication is key! Me that I'm shy like this... Heaven is the goal 😂😂😂. Thanks Victoria! It's deeper than you're saying it, I can feel it. I understand! --- keep your mind occupied -- beware of opposite sex bestie -- places you go to and friends you keep -- utilize that time well -- and don't feel less in as much you guys are planing to being together🎉🎉🎉. We are helped!
Well summerized... Thank you so much!!
The message you are passing is good but I advice that you always go straight to the point.
In all honesty, I don't think she wasted time or was beating around the bush.
You need to lay the foundation of a concept before diving deep into that concept.
Also, this is a VERY sensitive matter and understanding the basics of her thought pattern in relation to giving light to the subject is very pivotal.
Great work, Victoria Fash.
What she has just described is called mutual masturbation. Whether you use your imagination, fingers or sex toys, it’s never a replacement for physical intimacy. No finger or toy can kiss or hug a wife like the husband will do during actual physical intimacy.
I am one of those who are strongly against long distance marriages,especially for young sexually active couples. If a couple should for any reason have to be apart for more than three months, they had better try to travel together or forget it. Longer periods apart will simply invite temptations that may not be easily overcome.
MASTURBATION = SIN = HELL
When you say forget it, what do you mean. Do u mean divorce? I look for clarity because my husband recently traveled and we’re still processing my papers to join him which may take a while. So by “forget it” do u imply I divorce him????
I think he means forget the travel. There are sacrifices to be made to keep on the straight path just like avoiding certain friends so you don't fall into certain kinds of sin. So if you have to forgo the travel, or postpone till you both can go together then i believe he's saying, don't go! Yep
I love the message you are passing out, you are on point but there is too much repetition. The video is just too long, even at 18 minutes you have not fully communicated to us what you are trying to say. The video should not be more than 10 minutes if repetitions are removed. In all thank you
I I saw your comments before I had watched the video halfway and very much agreed. As I watched further though I realised why she had that issue - she was wanting to make some deeper points but somehow always pulled back only to go back to ‘gisting’ again, almost distracting herself. She was trying hard so viewers don’t start viewing her as ‘this lady is spoilt’.
Unfortunately, the balancing act she was trying to do ended up making the video long in length and full of talk but very low on the key message she was trying to deliver. She ended up saying so much but not communicating much in terms of what to do and how to do it.
Still yet, I commend her for making an effort. These are tough topics to navigate because of our cultural and religious backgrounds even though sex is more important to most people than they let out publicly.
Q😊😊@@cgreat1304
Exactly! I thought I was the one that noticed it became so annoying at some point
This is a delicate topic to talk about but you did real justice to it. Weldone Sis.
Wow!!!! No matter what happens on this earth, I'll never, never resort to masturbation!!!! I think distance in a relationship is more of an opportunity to test the efficacy of your friendship. The sexual "use" of one's partner mostly tends to dominate the purpose of marriage. That's why most marriages crumble when the fire of sex cools out.
Like I said, it's not for everyone. Pray you never find yourself in a long distance marriage. It's easy to say these things
It's easier said than done darling.
I'll quote Vicky again "PRAY YOU DON'T FIND YOURSELF IN THAT SITUATION"
Traditional marriage is the real marriage and the rest are secondary. However, you just won a fan from the UK. You are correct with your analysis of this sensitive topic. Stay blessed.
I going to patronize your sis in law as I loved shoes.
thank you so much
I enjoy your English even more
Awww... thank you so much ❤️
Your communication is very decent. I hesitated at first to watch the video thinking it was one of those sodomic conversations but this is good. Thumbs up
Wow, thank you!
Ms Victoria, you have explain virtually everything, Jah bliss for sharing this information ℹ️ to Christian brethren.
Thank you so much. Am in my 3rd year of long distance marriage and will be 15yrs in marriage next month.
It has been crazy cos my hubby does not want to have any sexual or intimate connection. He said it will awaken urges in him and he wants to remove it from his mind till he comes back. The coming back is not certain.
God will help us.
Hmm... Amen
3 years. Ah
What you husband said is true... Rubbing your stomach when you are hungry will not quench your hunger.
Is better to set your mind off it ... Follow your husband directions.
Rubbing your stomach when you are hungry will in no way quench your hunger for food. Advising couples to masturbate and stimulate themselves is not the way out. Is like rubbing their stomach and expect satisfaction from hunger to eat food.
The way out is to set your mind off it . Engage yourself with spiritual activities at your free time , feed your mind with meditation from God's word and His grace with abide with you. When you communicate with your partner have time to discuss or study God's word together. And the grace will enable you beyond your imagination.
This is the truth and nothing but the truth. The spirit of a prophet is under the control of the prophet . We sre in control of our urge and feelings @@johnmaryokeke9082
You nailed this Victoria. The last 5 minutes was the bomb....May God continue to increase your wisdom and bless you beyond measure.
Amen... Thank you so much!
@@VictoriaFash
YOU ARE VERY PRETTY BEAUTIFUL GORGEOUS LADY OF AFRICA
You went out on a limb in this one, good effort thank you
True Addiction can set in and once it s agry face is in the midst bringing it to an end can be a big problem so its important to be mindful if what you think can be helpful in a long distance relationship. Things arr easier said thsn done. Until you come face to face with the reality of addiction then you will understand the gravity
Yes, and I did emphasis this
Sex can be addictive as well; virtually anything can be addictive.
Great great job from U. I am in a distance relationship and your lecture is by far most useful. Thank you auntie Vicky.
An intending couple mentioned your page as a go - to for marriage counsel. I'll check through
Aww... thank you
This is more or less mastubation sis. You just didn't use word. Am glad you mentioned some of the dangers of getting used it.
MASTURBATION = SIN = HELL
This is a timely message. Thank you very much Vicky❤
Hey lady fash
Happy new year and thank you for this video
Pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee the video you promised on the role of a spouse in helping overcome porn/masturbation
You have said it all dear
😂😂 The part you said be mindful that your imagination should be only about your partner cracked me up .... But it's actually the truth tho.... Great job on the video and keep being you ...
Exactly!! 😁😁
You are such an amazing person. You have done well. Thumb up for you.
Love this hairstyle on you
Thank you 😊
I think asides from the points Victoria made, couples need to have a timeline to abort LDM when the initial plan that led to it is not forthcoming. This may sound harsh but I think it is very important.
I absolutely agree! Also mentioned this
Sister thats sexual arousal,not satisfaction and it's a very dangerous precedence and set up for sexual immorality.Besides it can be addictive in the long run and weaken libido or negatively affect real sexual activity.I support the part you finished with,of focusing on God and being occupied with constructive activities.Otherwise the Holy spirit will give us the self control we need in such circumstances if we surrender and depend on Him
Communication is highly crucial 🤝
Facts...the idle mind is the devil's workshop. More busines. Positively. I engaged in more business to keep me busy. The kids also helped. They will stretch you abd youll forget mpo. Bkess you dear. Youve been missed
Aww... thanks sweetie
Hmmm! Best talking on this topic ever! Well done 👍
❤❤❤❤❤ I can relate oh seriously is no easy but God as been our strength.
Thank you Victoria for this. God bless you for sharing. My question now to you and any other person who is reading this comment is, how can a Christian satisfy his/her sexual urges when his/her spouse is battling with health issues, completely helpless and bed ridden for more than a year?
I know communication cannot work at this moment because V & P should be the last thing on somebody's mind who's health is in a deplorable state. Now, what can the other healthy partner do to satisfy his/her urges?
This is a huge trial. No one sees this coming.
This can be a vulnerable period because looking after them who wear you out emotionally and physically and you'd naturally want a shoulder to lean on. Infact your spouse may even not mind you helping yourself outside.
The most important thing would be doing what your conscience wont judge you for and doing what you won't regret 10-20 years from now.
Anyone who dates you in a such a situation may never trust you starting a relationship on a shaky foundation.
My suggestion
1. No temptation is uncommon , find similar valued persons and draw strength from each other
2. Spend time on your interests. What were those childhood dreams you had , this may be a good time to explore as they would fully engage your mind and emotions and help you fall asleep quickly.
3. As much as people dont want to hear this, getting closer to God helps .
My sister, from God's dealing with us, God does not permit the use of every part of our bodies in sex. For instance, He does not approve of oral, anal, or self arousal or imagination (which is the same as masturbation). Even styles: I argued with that for a long time until God dealt with me in a way that I will never forget in a hurry. One day as usual, my spouse wanted to do oral but Rom. 1 v. 27 loudly came to me so I had to stop her.
Well, based on those dealings, I came to realize that God does not permit indiscriminate use of our bodies but organs meant for sex. I don't know if His dealings vary from person to person, anyway.
I always feel sorry about married people. For us we don't awaken love.
This is a difficult topic people shy away from especiallyin christiandom , your points are concise and in alignment.
Good one sis
Much appreciated
The best is to avoid any form of sexual arausal not even from the wife if possible. When a wife sends her nude pics to her distant husband and arouses him sexually, there are chances his sexual energy goes out of course to a woman than can be felt physically and not virtually. Moreso when your face is not in the picture.
Although well inteneded, your idea is completely a personal opinion that perhaps worked for you, but could destroy couple's sexual life.
If both partners masturbate on virtual contact, this has potential to promote masturbation as a habit even when together.
Remember these are habits and addictions. It is like given a patient opioid pain killer after surgery and then the patient cant do without it even when there is bo pain and no need for it. Addiction!!!.
I am in a distance marrital relationship now, and what works for me is keeping busy with outdoors. Be intentional and purposeful about keeping the body and making conscious effort to keep that promise you made to yourself, not to anyone else.
God bless you real good
I get what you're saying. But the question is, what if what works for you doesn't work for your spouse. Outdoors distraction has worked for you, but has it worked for your spouse? To ignore your spouse's need, because you've found a solution for yourself, can not be the kind or loving thing to do, I don't think.
Chai, Victoria no gree for anybody this 2024 oooo.
Thank you for this bcos I am in a long distance marriage and it is difficult.
You're welcome 😂
Same here since 10 months now
Sister you’re giving sincere advice but try to hit the nail on the head,be precise to the point
Talk about it but “don’t be talking about it too frequently “ that is what will spark inordinate passions dat could lead to defiling d bed…u need to check out dis factor pls …great inputs u have shared…
I love your uniqueness victoria❤❤❤
Thank you 😊
In all, ensure there is a time frame (Not too long time) distance relationship. Time frame also in way strengthens the waiting and less number of virtual sxxual engagement.
Absolutely
And if your partner at the other end isn't faithful?
That's between the two of you
Not me looking at your glowing face 😅 looking gorgeous auntie Victoria ❤❤❤
Your early erotic counseling is wrong ! The aftermath consequences will break that marriage. Imaginative sex makes the person vulnerable to predators. The best way out is keeping yourself with a productive activities especially of physical nature, outdoor activities that can exhaust your energy and suppress urges. Don’t spend unnecessary time on bed. Have a mindset of ‘ why am I craving for it when surely I can’t have it now ‘ ?
Okk
@@VictoriaFash😂😂❤
😂😂😂 she is very right. Sex is natural and in a healthy relationship, it is desired. I’m a healthy relationship, you can express your desire freely with each other and fulfil each others needs together or apart.
Dem don come again! This our spiricoco brethren that wouldn't just let logic and reality be within the space of healthy spiritual configuration of the mind.
Victoria, I've said I won't make a comment yet on this video till I'm less busy, but this my spiricoco brother or sister is drawing me out "prematurely"
Doesn't God know what he was talking about when He said man must cleave to his wife?
I've been in long distance marriage and to God's glory I've remained faithful to my wife in thoughts and acts. It isn't easy the way you this spiricoco brethren portray things without being practical. Didn't you hear her saying you should be mindful of what you think and watch?
There will be times when you will need to ease the pressure your sexual hormones heaps on you, and I can tell you that there is nothing wrong in all she has said.
Let's be intentionally spiritual and be practical at the same time within the confine of pleasing our Lord and saviour
❤❤
The problem is that marriages mostly increase the man's sexual urges/expectations. It's like trying a drug, you want more and more than you can get even when not in long distance. Actually long distance can reduce the urges themselves
True!
The thing entering the thing 😂😂love you from Nigeria
Thank you so much!
Thanks 👍
Song of Solomon, Chapter 5.
Vs 2.
I slept, but my heart was awake.
Listen! my beloved is knocking.
Vs 5.
I arose to open to my beloved,
and my hands dripped with myrrh,
my fingers with liquid myrrh,
upon the handles of the bolt.
(It is about him in between those verses.)
Something else you need to know about this girl in chapter 5.
Who is she?
Chap 1:8 “fairest among women,”
Chap 4:7 ‘You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you.’
Chap 5:2 “flawless”
Chap 5:9 “O fairest among women”
Chap 6:9 "... perfect,... pure,... blessed..."
Chapter 6:11 identifies her as a Shulammite. The meaning of the name is “From the verb שלם (shalem), to be or make whole or complete” - getting out of bed with her hand dripping with 'myrrh' - she was masturbating herself.
It means sexual purity includes being about to masturbate oneself.
I know this verses very well. This was describing love making between two people.Marries people. Not a justification for self gratification.
@@VictoriaFash , how do you explain her 'hands dripped with myrrh'?
@@VictoriaFash Really?
2.
I slept but my heart was awake.
Listen! My beloved is knocking:
“Open to me, my sister, my darling,
my dove, my flawless one.
My head is drenched with dew,
my hair with the dampness of the night.”
3.
I have taken off my robe-
must I put it on again?
I have washed my feet-
must I soil them again?
4
My beloved thrust his hand through the latch-opening;
my heart began to pound for him.
5
I arose to open for my beloved,
and my hands dripped with myrrh,
my fingers with flowing myrrh,
on the handles of the bolt.
6
I opened for my beloved,
but my beloved had left; he was gone.
Nope. No couple sex in this part. She opened the door and he was gone.
Very Educative
If only I had a boyfriend, Olivier could thank me later😂
God will do it
I think the reason why most couple in long distance relationship watch pornographic movies is because they don't engage in virtual romances. Honestly distance relationship is a very frustrating thing I won't advice anybody into it especially if you are a Christian unless you engage in virtual romance you will cheat I. Mean in majority of cases.
Yeehhhh! Victoria no gree for anybody this year ooo🤣🤣🔥🔥 I loved every bit of this video. Welldone.
We are ready for this year because it’s like we are going to be collecting Hot Hot 😅 O ti ya oooo😂😂 We your loyal viewers and supporters are ever ready to consume the contents.
2024 is gonna be a great year by Gods grace 🙏🏻
Good lecture
For me my valentine is celebrated everyday.,as christian guy idont need that of fourteenth feb at all
Nice talk but I have to be listening for a long period before I could pick exactly the point you are trying to make. Some people may not have that patience
Duly noted
thank you fash
You're welcome 😊
Avoid long distance relationship period
I agree that pornography is a sin but please show me scriptures that say masturbation is a sin. Thanks for sharing.
I have lots of videos on this... please watch them
@@VictoriaFash Oh really? Kindly recommend one pls. I am curious. Or better still kindly quote the scriptures. I’d be blessed. Thanks for sharing.
Are you saying fantasising masturbation is the answer to LDM?
Is that what you hot from this video? If so, rewatch with a less judgemental mind
I am still trying to process how what goes on in the mind constitutes a third party. Some people can only orgasm when they fantasize about a certain ideal, even when they are with their spouses in bed. How does that constitute a sin pls?
As long as its not another person
Good Job You ma
I like the way she emphasized you are licensed to do this thing.😂
Good morning oooooooooooooo beautiful sister. Please, there's one yellow popular big pastor in Nigeria, that said masturbation is not a SIN ooooòoooooòoo. Please and please. People will really want to know the TRUTH about this matter. And I've told people to READ THEIR BIBLE, AND NOT TO FOLLOW PASTOR. please dear, I'm waiting for your reply, thanks so much 🙏
Masturbation is the sin of Lust and Covetousness
Thank you so much for the ad. God bless you....#oliviacollectionz
🧡🧡
When you say"Biblical marriage" what exactly are you trying to tell me. Are you trying to say those that got married traditionally or the court are not qualified or recognized as husband and wife? Please, Victoria I need you to expansiate on that statement you made. Thank you.
Biblical marriage is a marital union that's based or built upon the principles of the Scriptures.
Exactly... it has nothing to do with church. But two believers doing marriage God's way
@@VictoriaFash Ok, you're spot on. Thanks 👍
Please come back to God in order to save your soul
Angel Micheal please rest
But then the sexting and pics will lead to what??
Masturbation?? Is masturbation a sin in marriage??
Pls throw more light
ua-cam.com/video/ARZhnU49-Gg/v-deo.htmlsi=r6OmX8pH7vxgNCMC
Too much wisdom at work here
You are talking about masturbation. Just be frank with the people. So you know it could be addictive and destructive and you are encouraging people to do it. The bible talks about self - control, why won't you preach that?
I believe I mentioned the down side to this and caution against making it a habit, or you just chose yo ignore that part? I also mentioned control ma'am
Agreed! Any sex outside of God's design is a sin. Sex is never meant to be a solo act, whether virtual or in reality, whether married or unmarried. There is always a married man and his wife. I think that should be emphasised on more. And not promoting phone sex and saying it can be addictive so the couple should be careful etc. It will get to a point that phone sex will just not be enough and they will want more. What do they do then??
Ah!! 😮
Your peripheral talk went on for about 5 minutes. Hmmmmm.
Welldone, my dear, but try always to go straight to the Point in your videos. The repetition is always too much.
Hmmmmmmm
1❤
Who taught you guys that marriage is biblical?, the Bible was explaining to you about a cultural marriage of a particular people that wrote the bible. Marriage is cultural not biblical
Ok sis. It is easy to say very not Godly.
Talks lots without focus. Go to the issues. Remember it's adults you're talking to and they want the core message.
She should buy fibrator to enjoy her self
Do u know, your opinion on distance relationship could reactivated Ex boy or Ex girlfriend relationship. Truely since its all imagination, the devil brought this idea, even in the church using you my sister. May God open your eyes and mind. This is all End time ideology. To lead us to be in constant sins.
Hmmm ... Technology is what you call it 😂😅
In summary........in long distance relationship, you can have virtual masturbation with your spouse.
Thanks for sharing...... please cut down the semantics...
Smiles.
Self gratification!
Trying to justify our actions while disobeying God!
God is not lawless!
His words are steady and stand by!
Masturbation is a sin!!
Ma'am, I'm not attacking your teaching,but,its contrary to God word and standards!
I rest my case!❤
🫡
@@VictoriaFash I'm not against ur teachings ma'am.
I have listened to almost all your videos.
It's inspiring.
Moreover,I just got my visa to study medicine in UK 👌.
My visa was issued on Friday.
I'm coming for September intake ✅💕.
Too much repetitions and beating about the bush! Good content but maybe you should consider reading from a script
U r talking about sex so what is the thing enter the thing
Since you know it's about sex, what's the essence of your question?
Taken too long to get to the point. Stop beating about the bush
Unnecessary repetitions. Madame go straight to the point biko and atop wasting data
Be kind.
You talk too much..just go straight to the point
Summarise your points. 😂
Your video would have been more honourable if you didn't add your understanding of scripture and the Holy Spirit on content discussed. bkz Holy Spirit is not an author of confusion
You are making japa an excuse for distance in marriage. Distance in marriage is against God design.... two will become one is still valid
You don't need quote scriptures to pass ur message. extingency of time looking for greener pasture is not in Gods design to create distance, but if you believe it's the right thing to do, so be it....
Using everything you have as you speak so anal sex is also the norm in ur calendar
From the beginning masturbation is not a sin, but addiction can be hard to fight
My candid advice to couples is to do what work best for them so someone won't come on UA-cam in the name making content n be feeding you personal ideology cunning it to be scripture based
Too much talk
YOU SHOULD STOP THIS NONSENSE TOPICS
Did someone force you to watch?? 😄
You dey call ur husband brother 😏😏😒😒
Ask yourself why of all the things in this video, this is what stood out for you.... honestly, it's not ordinary
@@VictoriaFash I enjoyed the video but was like you call ur husband Brother 😳😳🤪 who does that....
@@gamesfootball28199none of your business. Her marriage, her way.
Please learn to summarize your content
This is too boring..the vedio is unnecessarily lengthy
a 10 minutes vedio is just okay...1 minute introduction the rest real content
Please improve on that
Thank you for the feedback
Not me looking at your glowing face 😅 looking gorgeous auntie Victoria ❤❤❤
😊 thank you