I was married to my best friend for 35 years before he passed away 3 years ago. I want that to be my life experience. I’m not looking for another relationship.
Thanks Darlene. Your story sounds a lot like mine in a lot of ways. I won't bore you, but I am grateful for where I am today. I believe it was my life's journey to get here. I am 71 and am finally with someone who has made me happy and continues to do so. I am happy for you as well. You are certainly deserving of happiness.
Glad you did a video tonight! I have been following you for about 5 years and can relate to so much of what you have been thru and all that you have accomplished. I was in a toxic marriage that ended in 1993. I focused on my kids, working as a drug and alcohol counselor, and taking care of my mother. Never considered dating, my enjoyment was crafting. Then in 2011, my daughter introduced me to a man she met and became friends with at her restaurant. We met for coffee several times before I agreed to a real date. I learned from him that I was a good person, that I could voice my opinion without fear, that I wasn't useless and stupid. We got married in 2013 and I have never been more comfortable and happy. Sorry for just rambling. I am so happy that you have Joe in your life! Never be afraid to be happy, shout it from the rooftops!
Oh Darlene your chat hit me in the gut! I want what you have. I have been divorced 3 times, have been alone for about 8 years. I’ve done the dating sites and it’s really depressing. I just want companionship and a friend. Thanks for your chats they do help me want to keep going. ❤
I like your chats. I tried to make the January crochet block of the month. It looked horrible. So I have taken it apart so many times. Yet I was able to crochet a popcorn flower. Go figure. But I will keep trying. I’m trying to make a sweater, well actually 4 sweaters. 2 afghans, and slippers , 2 quilts, and a quilted jacket……no pattern for anything. Just what’s in my brain. Drives me crazy at night when my mind just keeps going and I have to get up and draw pictures and write my instructions down. My hubby and I have been together since I was 15 years, he was 16. I am 66 and he is 67. 51 years, 3 sons, 4 grandchildren and many dogs and cats later we still click! We have 4 dogs and 2 cats at the present. I’m so happy for you and Joe and Rocket. Thanks for all the fantastic ideas.
Darlene have you ever made a potato chip quilt? I'm thinking of doing one with Scrappy christmas themes. And one with just regular scraps. I made a rag quilt with your help. Thanks for doing that tutorial. It was fun.
Have you seen on FB maybe you tube… the Temperature crocheted afghan? Pick a color for temps and crochet 1 row a day according to each days temp. So cool.
I didn't learn social skills either because I grew up a hider loner and a people pleaser. My parents had addictions. I thought I didn't but I learned that I have a serious sugar/food addiction.
Darlene I just found your channel and I really like you. You are very relatable and I appreciate your enthusiasm and zest for challenging yourself. Your openness is refreshing. I would be saddened if Al Anon was not accepting of anyone who feels they need or want the group experience. I loved your denim piecing video (I'm still learning). You're like the girlfriend you meet in the club bathroom and share a laugh in the mirror (good old 70's disco for me). I will continue to follow you and will send hope and prayers your way. Keep be happy.
So happy for you, especially after what you went thru with your mother. Thanks for sharing this part of your life Darlene. I truly appreciate you. I have been alone and not dated for over 20 years and can totally relate to what you said about your body. And believe there are no men who would love my entirety without criticism. Thank you~
I noticed a lot of paper & fabric bead videos out now. It must be a new craze. I only saw yours before and now I am seeing a lot from other utubers. Everyone is making beads. I love them.
It has always been a craze even on youtube. Check the dates of some of the videos you are seeing. UA-cam is putting them in front of your eyes because you watched a paper bead video. You'll get hit with lots of them now.
Darlene this was the best one yet! You seem very happy and relaxed. Keep going girl. We share something in common project runway, survivor, Big brother, amazing race. I'm listening to you this morning my husband was just waking up when you were at the park of talking about amazing race and we both had a big chuckle. I thank you so much for teaching me how to crum quilt I put my own spin on it. You taught me the basics and thank you. That's you and Joe!!!
So cool that you're also going to Alanon!! Yes, I really like those meetings too! If you go to a clubhouse Darlene, they may also have ACOA meetings. Those are Great because they deal with inner child and shame issues. Abandonment or emotional neglect qualify same as alcoholic parents. So happy to hear that you and Joe are so compatible!! Lovely Darlene! ❤
AA and Al-anon were a lifesaver for me--so much love and support (mixed in with a few whackadoos!). It's great seeing you have some happiness for yourself, Darlene.
I met my husband 36 years ago and we knew right away we were meant to be together. We both had been in bad marriages and had years dating other people and when we met. We ended up living together 9 years before we got married. Not that we didn’t know we wanted to be together but we enjoyed each other so much. And we still do. So you are exactly right about you just know. And I am so happy for you and Joe and Rocket.
I had a jigsaw puzzle once that was actually called “impossible puzzle”. It was really challenging because it had NO outside pieces, the pictures within were repetitive and it deliberately had five extra pieces. I think it was 1000 pieces. A lot of fun but definitely challenging.
The free therapy of Al-Anon changed my life, and far more than any conventional mental health therapy. It seems like it unravels the underlying reasons people fell into drinking habits or chose to feel normal in unhealthy relationships, or just learning to have healthy relationships with others and themselves. Genuinely happy for your growth and how you share your experience, entertaining and teaching your followers.
Loved this chat Darlene. Your hair is looking gorgeous. Really like the length and it frames your face so beautifully. I appreciate you sharing about your weight loss and the skin thing. I have that too, and my guy also doesn;t care. I think as women we are so conditioned to think that we are not going to be accepted by men. The truth is actually the opposite, but it's so hard to be vulnerable and put yourself out there. Catch you soon! Kim in New Zealand
Great chat, some good common sense for people dating later in life. I like how you can take things in stride and be honest. So happy for you to have found a good love.
I LOVE HEARING ABOUT YOUR LIFE. I HAVE BEEN ALONE FOR ABOUT 5 YEARS NOW AND I REALLY LIKE IT. I DO HAVE MY CAT AND 2 SISTERS A BROTHER AND EXTENDED FAMILY . I HEAR FROM ONE OF MY SONS ALMOST DAILY AND THAT'S GREAT . I HAVE A MALE FRIEND WHO USED TO BE MY BOYFRIEND BUT I FOUND OUT HE WASN'T TRUSTWORTHY SO I MOVED OUT AND WE ARE JUST GOOD FRIENDS NOW . I AM SO GLAD THAT YOU AND JOE ARE HAPPY . LISTENING TO YOU HELPS ME MORALLY AND PSYCHOLOGICALLY . I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN BY BEING REALISTIC ( AND NOT NECESSARILY NEGATIVE ). WE THINK ALOT ALIKE AND THAT'S WHY I ENJOY LISTENING TO YOUR CHATS . YOU ARE A GOOD PERSON DARLENE AND YOU DESERVE THE HAPPINESS THAT YOU ARE HAVING . DON'T EVER FORGET THAT !
Hey Darlene I’m happy you are doing good with Joe that is great.I started on carnivore and I’m having some issues been on it like 5 weeks . Did you ever have nausea or emotional times on it just trying to adjust.
I had zero issues. Some people do have issues but it all depends on what they are doing. Here are the rules: when you are hungry, eat meat until you are full. When you are thirsty, drink water. Do this every time you are hungry or thirsty. If you are on high fat carnivore, then eat your fat as you wish. Remember DO NOT LIMIT your meat. This is not a restriction way of eating. And make sure you are not eating anything else for a bit. Try just meat (beef is best) and water for a bit. Even a tiny bit of something else can make you sick. It's like they say, 99% carnivore is torture, 100% is pure bliss. Good luck!
Thank you for the help. I’m not exactly moving the scales yet but just desperately need to feel better.My sugar is coming down and that is definitely a plus. I’m type 2 and going to reverse it
If you are type 2 then it might take some time to adjust. But it can be reversed! The scales can go up at the beginning. The woman I follow, Kelly Willams Hogan, gained something like 40 pounds when she started. Now she's a skinny mini. Here's her channel: www.youtube.com/@myzerocarblife
When I divorced my first husband I made a list of all the things I wanted in a future partner and I had people try to tell me I couldn't be so picky because I was older, fat, poor and had two kids from my first marriage. I told them I could do shitty on my own and if I never found the man that met all my criteria I would rather stay alone. I did find a man that met all my criteria and we married in 2008. I joke now that I should have made my list longer and more specific but he really has been a wonderful husband to me and a great dad to my two kids from my first marriage and to our child together and now we are grandparents together.
I was the same way when I met my husband he was too good to be true, I was used to assholes. I was just waiting for the let down. I never could believe every thing was as good as it was and was going to last. It hurt his feelings that I was scared, so I just willed myself to let go and just go for the ride, whatever happens. We've been married 33 wonderful years and he is still the same man I married. So turn loose and let go, and go on in. I know your fear.
Best relationship when your partner can also be your best "girlfriend" My grand daughter recently married .That describes their relationship perfectly.
I don't comment On here much ,LOL have I ever ? Anyway This was nice 😊 ,I'm so happy for you and Joe .It's nice when things are nice ,Right ! I'm the same age as you , And I've been through some shit too . Some times I ran to it ,some times it chased me and ,now I'm in a relationship that is nice ,and we love and more importantly LIKE each other . SO who cares what other people "think",WEare grown assed women ! LOL love love
Looking so much thinner these days! I am looking forward to a carnivore update weigh in. I am inspired by your determination. Thanks for posting all your different interests.
At age 94, I am not looking for someone. I don’t like being alone. I was widowed two years ago after a 73 year marriage but I don’t want anyone.
You are blessed! We are now at 55 years and I hope it keeps going. Take good care of yourself!!!💕
I was married to my best friend for 35 years before he passed away 3 years ago. I want that to be my life experience. I’m not looking for another relationship.
That’s perfectly ok. You do what you need for you. It’s no one’s business. I isolate too much. It’s. Ok.
Darlene thx for sharing. I'm happy for you and Joe. Rocket is probably happy he has a good mom too 🐕
Thanks Darlene. Your story sounds a lot like mine in a lot of ways. I won't bore you, but I am grateful for where I am today. I believe it was my life's journey to get here. I am 71 and am finally with someone who has made me happy and continues to do so. I am happy for you as well. You are certainly deserving of happiness.
Even though you weren’t in your car, it was a GREAT chat! Thanks for the heartfelt update. I’m so happy to see you SO happy❤️
Glad you did a video tonight! I have been following you for about 5 years and can relate to so much of what you have been thru and all that you have accomplished. I was in a toxic marriage that ended in 1993. I focused on my kids, working as a drug and alcohol counselor, and taking care of my mother. Never considered dating, my enjoyment was crafting. Then in 2011, my daughter introduced me to a man she met and became friends with at her restaurant. We met for coffee several times before I agreed to a real date. I learned from him that I was a good person, that I could voice my opinion without fear, that I wasn't useless and stupid. We got married in 2013 and I have never been more comfortable and happy. Sorry for just rambling. I am so happy that you have Joe in your life! Never be afraid to be happy, shout it from the rooftops!
Oh Darlene your chat hit me in the gut! I want what you have. I have been divorced 3 times, have been alone for about 8 years. I’ve done the dating sites and it’s really depressing.
I just want companionship and a friend.
Thanks for your chats they do help me want to keep going. ❤
Darlene, I am truly happy that you and Joe are getting along so well and hanging out watching TV. Sounds lovely and peaceful.
I like your chats. I tried to make the January crochet block of the month. It looked horrible. So I have taken it apart so many times. Yet I was able to crochet a popcorn flower. Go figure. But I will keep trying. I’m trying to make a sweater, well actually 4 sweaters. 2 afghans, and slippers , 2 quilts, and a quilted jacket……no pattern for anything. Just what’s in my brain. Drives me crazy at night when my mind just keeps going and I have to get up and draw pictures and write my instructions down. My hubby and I have been together since I was 15 years, he was 16. I am 66 and he is 67. 51 years, 3 sons, 4 grandchildren and many dogs and cats later we still click! We have 4 dogs and 2 cats at the present. I’m so happy for you and Joe and Rocket. Thanks for all the fantastic ideas.
Thank you for being so honest and real. You're a hoot to watch and listen to. You just keep doing you😊
So happy for you Darlene. and Joe
Been watching you for a long time and you have really come full circle. I'm so happy to see you embracing life like this. And you look great too.
Darlene, you are not worrying it all. Have a very soothing Voice.
Darlene have you ever made a potato chip quilt? I'm thinking of doing one with Scrappy christmas themes. And one with just regular scraps. I made a rag quilt with your help. Thanks for doing that tutorial. It was fun.
I had 23 years with a selfish, emotionally abusive, cheater. When he left I decided I was "one and done" in the relationship department!
I'm glad you and Joe are happy and doing good. ❤
I’m so happy 4you both. It’s very lonely being on your own and you have really opened my eyes to different things in life
Have you seen on FB maybe you tube… the Temperature crocheted afghan? Pick a color for temps and crochet 1 row a day according to each days temp. So cool.
I enjoyed your talk.. It was full of grace and love. Thank you.
I didn't learn social skills either because I grew up a hider loner and a people pleaser. My parents had addictions. I thought I didn't but I learned that I have a serious sugar/food addiction.
Darlene I just found your channel and I really like you. You are very relatable and I appreciate your enthusiasm and zest for challenging yourself. Your openness is refreshing. I would be saddened if Al Anon was not accepting of anyone who feels they need or want the group experience. I loved your denim piecing video (I'm still learning). You're like the girlfriend you meet in the club bathroom and share a laugh in the mirror (good old 70's disco for me). I will continue to follow you and will send hope and prayers your way. Keep be happy.
Thanks for sharing. Happy for you and Joe. You deserve a good life and have fun.
So happy for you, especially after what you went thru with your mother. Thanks for sharing this part of your life Darlene. I truly appreciate you. I have been alone and not dated for over 20 years and can totally relate to what you said about your body. And believe there are no men who would love my entirety without criticism. Thank you~
I noticed a lot of paper & fabric bead videos out now. It must be a new craze. I only saw yours before and now I am seeing a lot from other utubers. Everyone is making beads. I love them.
It has always been a craze even on youtube. Check the dates of some of the videos you are seeing. UA-cam is putting them in front of your eyes because you watched a paper bead video. You'll get hit with lots of them now.
I see. Well I like seeing them
I love seeing you so happy! I have watched you grow so much. Keep on keeping on!
Darlene this was the best one yet! You seem very happy and relaxed. Keep going girl. We share something in common project runway, survivor, Big brother, amazing race. I'm listening to you this morning my husband was just waking up when you were at the park of talking about amazing race and we both had a big chuckle. I thank you so much for teaching me how to crum quilt
I put my own spin on it. You taught me the basics and thank you. That's you and Joe!!!
I very heart felt convo- thank you 😊
So cool that you're also going to Alanon!! Yes, I really like those meetings too! If you go to a clubhouse Darlene, they may also have ACOA meetings. Those are Great because they deal with inner child and shame issues. Abandonment or emotional neglect qualify same as alcoholic parents.
So happy to hear that you and Joe are so compatible!! Lovely Darlene! ❤
AA and Al-anon were a lifesaver for me--so much love and support (mixed in with a few whackadoos!). It's great seeing you have some happiness for yourself, Darlene.
So happy for y’all ! Thank You
nice chat. Looking forward to the puzzle.
I met my husband 36 years ago and we knew right away we were meant to be together. We both had been in bad marriages and had years dating other people and when we met. We ended up living together 9 years before we got married. Not that we didn’t know we wanted to be together but we enjoyed each other so much. And we still do. So you are exactly right about you just know. And I am so happy for you and Joe and Rocket.
I'm so happy you are going to AL Anon, it opened my eyes to so much, best counseling I ever got, best friends I ever had. Thanks for the memories.
I think it’s so wonderful u have found your person! Great to see you happy!
You so deserve to be happy. I'm so happy for you,Joe and Rocket. ❤
I had a jigsaw puzzle once that was actually called “impossible puzzle”. It was really challenging because it had NO outside pieces, the pictures within were repetitive and it deliberately had five extra pieces. I think it was 1000 pieces. A lot of fun but definitely challenging.
Happy for you Darlene!!!❤
Love the chat! Thanks!!
I love your chats. You’re a very interesting person! ❤ we’ve all been through this and we all have our insecurities. Keep up the good work.
Thx for sharing I enjoyed listening!!😊😊
So glad you are happy now with Joe.
My oh my, you have evolved so much. You absolutely deserve the right to be happy, there is no recipe to love and happiness ❤
I love your honesty 💕 Your videos give me so much hope, encouragement and insight into my own human self. You help me accept me❤❤❤
I have been watching for a while, I am happy for you....and for Joe.
The free therapy of Al-Anon changed my life, and far more than any conventional mental health therapy. It seems like it unravels the underlying reasons people fell into drinking habits or chose to feel normal in unhealthy relationships, or just learning to have healthy relationships with others and themselves. Genuinely happy for your growth and how you share your experience, entertaining and teaching your followers.
Loved this chat Darlene. Your hair is looking gorgeous. Really like the length and it frames your face so beautifully. I appreciate you sharing about your weight loss and the skin thing. I have that too, and my guy also doesn;t care. I think as women we are so conditioned to think that we are not going to be accepted by men. The truth is actually the opposite, but it's so hard to be vulnerable and put yourself out there. Catch you soon! Kim in New Zealand
So glad you are happy greetings to both of you from Malta 😊
I'm glad you and Joe and Rocket got together. You seem to be a good match. Enjoy life! 💯❣️
Great chat, some good common sense for people dating later in life. I like how you can take things in stride and be honest. So happy for you to have found a good love.
I LOVE HEARING ABOUT YOUR LIFE. I HAVE BEEN ALONE FOR ABOUT 5 YEARS NOW AND I REALLY LIKE IT. I DO HAVE MY CAT AND 2 SISTERS A BROTHER AND EXTENDED FAMILY . I HEAR FROM ONE OF MY SONS ALMOST DAILY AND THAT'S GREAT . I HAVE A MALE FRIEND WHO USED TO BE MY BOYFRIEND BUT I FOUND OUT HE WASN'T TRUSTWORTHY SO I MOVED OUT AND WE ARE JUST GOOD FRIENDS NOW . I AM SO GLAD THAT YOU AND JOE ARE HAPPY . LISTENING TO YOU HELPS ME MORALLY AND PSYCHOLOGICALLY . I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN BY BEING REALISTIC ( AND NOT NECESSARILY NEGATIVE ). WE THINK ALOT ALIKE AND THAT'S WHY I ENJOY LISTENING TO YOUR CHATS . YOU ARE A GOOD PERSON DARLENE AND YOU DESERVE THE HAPPINESS THAT YOU ARE HAVING . DON'T EVER FORGET THAT !
I met my hubs 37 years ago on St Patty’s day. Married him 6 weeks later. We are alike but also stand alone. Takes work but so worth it.
What an amazing video - thank you Darlene, I truly appreciate you sharing this today 😊
Happy 4 you, way 2 go!!!
Enjoy your life girl! Happy for you.
Love your chat videos
I'm happy for your happiness!
“…he’s like a boyfriend, that’s also my girlfriend.” Most profound statement and may be the secret to happiness!
Hey Darlene I’m happy you are doing good with Joe that is great.I started on carnivore and I’m having some issues been on it like 5 weeks . Did you ever have nausea or emotional times on it just trying to adjust.
I had zero issues. Some people do have issues but it all depends on what they are doing. Here are the rules: when you are hungry, eat meat until you are full. When you are thirsty, drink water. Do this every time you are hungry or thirsty. If you are on high fat carnivore, then eat your fat as you wish. Remember DO NOT LIMIT your meat. This is not a restriction way of eating. And make sure you are not eating anything else for a bit. Try just meat (beef is best) and water for a bit. Even a tiny bit of something else can make you sick. It's like they say, 99% carnivore is torture, 100% is pure bliss. Good luck!
Thank you for the help. I’m not exactly moving the scales yet but just desperately need to feel better.My sugar is coming down and that is definitely a plus. I’m type 2 and going to reverse it
If you are type 2 then it might take some time to adjust. But it can be reversed! The scales can go up at the beginning. The woman I follow, Kelly Willams Hogan, gained something like 40 pounds when she started. Now she's a skinny mini. Here's her channel: www.youtube.com/@myzerocarblife
You can also try this fb group. I searched for type 2. I'm sure there's lots of info there. facebook.com/groups/105005229541718/search/?q=type%202
I went to AlAnon for years and it really helped me.
Really relatable chat today.
So happy for you!
When I divorced my first husband I made a list of all the things I wanted in a future partner and I had people try to tell me I couldn't be so picky because I was older, fat, poor and had two kids from my first marriage. I told them I could do shitty on my own and if I never found the man that met all my criteria I would rather stay alone. I did find a man that met all my criteria and we married in 2008. I joke now that I should have made my list longer and more specific but he really has been a wonderful husband to me and a great dad to my two kids from my first marriage and to our child together and now we are grandparents together.
I love this story.
I was the same way when I met my husband he was too good to be true, I was used to assholes. I was just waiting for the let down. I never could believe every thing was as good as it was and was going to last. It hurt his feelings that I was scared, so I just willed myself to let go and just go for the ride, whatever happens. We've been married 33 wonderful years and he is still the same man I married. So turn loose and let go, and go on in. I know your fear.
Best relationship when your partner can also be your best "girlfriend" My grand daughter recently married .That describes their relationship perfectly.
I would be interested in hearing Joe's stories. Maybe someday he'll join you on the channel!
You are rocking it, Darlene. Happiness is the greatest of all. :)
You have good advice , based on experience. My husband passed away and I am free.
❤stay positive and just be happy 😊
Good talk, thanks
Amazing ❤Way to go ❤
Happy for you!
Would u ever consider making a tunic video or a quilt block jacket video? Ive never sewed clothes except in 7th grade home ec and it turned out wonky.
I don't comment On here much ,LOL have I ever ? Anyway This was nice 😊 ,I'm so happy for you and Joe .It's nice when things are nice ,Right ! I'm the same age as you , And I've been through some shit too . Some times I ran to it ,some times it chased me and ,now I'm in a relationship that is nice ,and we love and more importantly LIKE each other . SO who cares what other people "think",WEare grown assed women ! LOL love love
Looking so much thinner these days! I am looking forward to a carnivore update weigh in. I am inspired by your determination. Thanks for posting all your different interests.
I feel the same way. That I don’t have enough time in each day to do all I’d like to get done 🤦🏻♀️
Is it age ❓🤷🏻♀️
hello ! from CT i was wondering if you block your blocks?
Oh my was you talking to me? Lol I might be in something you was discussing 😮❤❤
Stay true to yourself ❤️
Awesome !
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😂😂😂 I love ya!
Yay ❤❤❤
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