- expose yourself to what you fear - clean your room - go to bed at the same time and wake up at the same time - don't do drugs/alcohol - be active everyday/work out at least every other day -stop beating yourself for your failures
The problem is my fear is public speaking. My job wants me to start doing presentations regularly and I just can’t. Once maybe… But it can’t be part of my job description. This has caused me so much fear and anxiety.
@EB-gt1pq gather 2 friends and pretend they are the audience you have to face - practice with them sitting on folding chairs in a mostly bare room. You might have to do it in your church common room, or a hallway somewhere. Stay after work and do it alone in a conference room - make some 'paper people' out of brown kraft paper and place them in chairs - make them preposterous looking. Record yourself, look for improvements you can make. The more you try it, it will get easier. Have an outfit just for this that you really like to wear. Wear that outfit only for public speaking, or maybe it's just one item that can be your 'talisman'. I had one pencil I only used for college math exams - it had to be THAT pencil.
My thoughts are my biggest problem. 😮 I run back through past ‘bad’ events and then I’m back in the severe depression. Thought stopping is helping me. I’m trying it for a minimum of 31 days. We’ll see how it goes.
I need a therapist like you. Get to the point and give me actions to take. Endless talking about my problems is so pointless. I broke up with my therapist and decided to just focus on my everyday decisions
Cleaning is difficult to me because I also struggle with perfectionism. When I start cleaning I tend to go really into detail and am never happy. That's why I don't like to even start. One trick I learnt is to give myself a time limit. Set an alarm for 30 minutes and stop after that. My appartment is cleaner even if I don't manage everything and it is actually easier to start cleaning as I know that I am finished in 30 minutes and not when I decide it is clean enough, because this point for me would never come.
Yes, i've had deaths in the family during this year too 🙏🏻 2 people that were very good to me, at critical times in my life - the light of Heaven to them, each went through their own personal hell-on-earth - i so long foe them to be in Heaven, and maybe they can show me around? If i ever get there/ WHEN i get there 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Doc - I'm working on it. Started a new full-time job 4 weeks ago. Focusing on sleep hygiene, eating breakfast, and facing anxiety inducing situations (new job, new people). Never drink. Only use caffeine, but am reducing caffeineated drinks and trying to avoid them near bedtime. It's all I can do for now. It's too hard to do too much all at once. Little victories.
@@FrostingAdventure Thanks! It's been 4 weeks. The other kids are nice and we get along. The boss says I work hard. Every week she lets me come back and play again on Monday. So far so good. Good luck to you too!
This is super important. I consume so much content and now trying to implement key things: good nutrition, workout, sleep, listening to my body, meditation, and good people
My advice is to get a goal app and hold yourself accountable with your progress on those things. Checking off each item also gives you a tiny dopamine hit to feel better as well ;)
I'm glad to see that you have listed good people. It's very important to recognise the people that are enabling the behaviours that you want to be free from and move them to the back burner of your life. It might be uncomfortable to do but it's very effective.
@@rachelheyth3645 yeah very true. I also notice as I build up my self confidence or certain skills I can spot people that are using me or brining me down.
Making and keeping your rooms and streets tidy are good movements, housework has a bad wrap because of your mum and movies. I love being able to find items when I need them and that I have them.
I didn't expect number two, the living space one. Dang, I don't even know how many years it has been since I even liked my living space. Let alone loved it.
Same here. Not only the inside, but the neighborhood that I live in. Also, wherever I go, I go with me. So working on myself as well as my environment is important.
I've worked on stuff a ton this year and environment was absolutely a HUGE part of that. Self talk and environment honestly are the best things you can change to change your behavior and emotional state. That goes for depression or just generally
I get an early "warning" when I'm really unhappy because I start trying to picture my spaces differently and if I think it will be a better arrangement I move things around even the furniture. It's something I've done even as a child. My Mum would be in tears sometimes because of my endeavours. I once toppled a heavy wardrobe and got flattened by it. It didn't stop me though. I just like the feeling of creating a "new" space and I think that I "trick" my brain into believing that I'm happier. .
Love your channel. You help my depression by getting me to do things when I don’t want to. Thank you for the free therapy! You are helping lots of people to live a better life….Especially those of us who cannot afford expensive one on one therapy. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I like this list. Additionally: 1) Drink water 2) Eat healthier food It's horrifying to me how many people I meet who are struggling with their mental health, and are constantly drinking energy drinks and eating fast food.
It’s true, I often forget and start looking for that “magic bullet” once again. The reality is 9 times out of 10 a walk will pull me out of low mood, it’s just hard to want to do it when I feel that way.
Thank you! I’ve been watching your videos for many months now and they help me a lot. I’m in therapy however watching videos of a professional who went through it too since young age, it just makes me feel understood more. And at times I feel alone in all this, I rewatch your content. Thank you so much for making these videos!
When I heard you say “you should be physically active everyday”, I thought “I knew that was coming”. But you are 💯 right! Being physically active has a bigger impact on your mental health than any medication could ever have.
Dr Eilers, your wisdom and expertise has saved my life. I am consistently sharing your information with others. I am now interested in helping others with their mental health journey. I’m considering being a “dream coach”. If you have any advice, please let me know. Namaste, Joni Van Horn
Thank you. ❤ I stopped drinking about a year ago and my biggest regret is not quitting sooner. I have also been burned out and recovering for the past year, and I'm really scared of being houseless, but nothing is as scary as how sad and hopeless I was. All of this advice is so good. It took a long time even after quitting drinking that I was willing to make the changes you mentioned and every single one is necessary for me to feel ok. Thank you. ❤
This is an excellent video with very useful techniques. Four things I want to add that really helped me: 1. Realize that life isn't fair -- You can do everything right and sometimes still fail. It's not your fault. 2. Floss every day and rinse your mouth with hydrogen peroxide because mouth bacteria can do a real number on your thoughts and feelings. 3. Celebrate the fact that the universe is getting a new perspective on itself through everything you see, hear, touch, taste, smell, and even imagine. Even when life sucks, too much is going wrong, and it feels like it hurts to be alive, your life and you personally are of intrinsic value to the whole universe. 4. Life is change. Nothing stays the same, not even you. AND, it is possible to guide some of the changes within ourselves while at the same time struggling to accept that we cannot do much to change other people or the world as a whole. Don't fret about how you feel right now because in the not-too-distant future you will feel differently. Change just happens..
We live in a society of information overload. We should all be going back to basics. It's what Olympic athletes do - being masters of the basics❤ Great video, Dr. Scott!
I have stopped looking for answers on UA-cam, apart from this channel ( and a guy called Struthless, because he's a cool guy, an artist, and from New Zealand ). Now, I "just" need to do these 6 things regularly 😇, and I know I will improve. . . I've just been discussing with my daughter whether I should take up Hobby Horsing 🐎🦄, which she used to enjoy when she was little, or start playing aeroplanes ✈🛬 like I used to love as a child. This involved running, with arms outstretched for wings, and making aeroplane noises, and saying this is your captain speaking. 😂She made me promise that I wouldn't do it in daylight, or when the neighbours are home!
Every morning I start my shower cold to remind myself that discomfort will be part of my life that day and every other day. There IS NO avoiding it--it you try it only make it worse.
@@DakotaFord592 Removing my responses, eh champ lol. No worries, feel free, I suppose. They who hit often hurt worse than those who are hit. I hope you find inner peace and the tools to stop your negative thinking and behavior.
Incredible! In this short podcast, I feel you exposed all my weaknesses (and those of most of our society!). Painful as it is, I am determined to use your advice to move forward. I hope all your listeners do the same!!
It is vital to adopt these, and more skills, in such a way that they can interact. I once had a very neat and comfortable apartment - always ready for company. I had little else. Each subsequent living space was, to say the least, cluttered, chaotic, and I never had anyone visit. Then, as the other things came onboard, my living space regained its relevance.
This is probably the best mental health video that I’ve ever seen. We tend to overlook everything that you mentioned in this video and they are the foundation of good mental health and wellbeing. Thank you
Truly a great video (!) and it reflects a lot of what I've read and experienced. Good mental health requires work, especially in the beginning if you do have poor mental health. Getting out of a bad rut is hard! The goal is to create good ruts 😊 and to stay out of the bad ones. The one thing I would add is meditation.
Nr. 6 is my number one! After hitting myself on the head for most of my life ( I am 54), telling myself what a stupid, lazy, ugly person I am, I am now doing my best to be selfcompassionate. ❤PATIENCE AND GENTLENESS. ❤ Thank you for reminding me of those two words, working on it! 😊
Thank you so much for your channel. Reinforcing not beating ourselves up is huge. Thanks for being there. You are so helpful. God bless you for all of your time making these videos!
These foundational tips have truly transformed how I approach my mental health. Incorporating them into my daily routine has helped me feel more balanced and in control. I highly recommend watching this video if you're looking to make positive changes to support your mental well-being.
I use cannabis and I will continue to use cannabis, yes it's just a Band-Aid but the medications that I take for my mental health are also just a Band-Aid. Cannabis helps me to continue living and that's all I care about.
I’ve been using cannabis for 2 + years stright I lived for it In the Bible it says when the end times come there will be a strong delusion A trick if you will By Satan And I thought canabis is my strong delusion The anti christ if it doesn’t bring you closer to God it’s not from God. it’s a trick to keep you from Jesus. The only one I go to for healing is Jesus my savior and healer
I used to be in that place last year. Not being in mental pain thanks to smoking was all I could do for myself. Then I started implementing some changes - at work, with my diet, more physiacal activity, personal relationships - and after some time I started feeling ready to reduce weed. It's a slow, long and sometimes difficult process, and not always successful. I focused on changes that I could reasonably implement and took it from there, one step at the time. From my experience holidays is the best time to try to implement changes. Not too much too quickly. Celebrate each improvement and be proud of yourself for every little step. I used to tell myself "every little helps" all the time to keep at it. For example, at some point I discovered that I like carrot sticks, and I started eating less chips (I eat to reduce stress). It didn't solve all of my problems, but it was one of the dozens of small steps I took on my journey to feeling better.
OMG! Hobby horsing looks hilarious! I recently had to give up my 2 miniature horses. This might be odd enough to help with the devastating grief. Thank you.
Good point about home and work environment. I spend a good amount of time and energy to improve my home environment this summer. I had to push myself a bit to make it happen but in the back of my head I understood that it was important for me. Now when you explain way it’s important it make total sense. Thanks!
Thanks. I've begun making small changes both physically and in my habits. It's gratifying to look back and see how these changes have had an effect. I stay mindful of the deficits and I think I've put them into context in my life. A good deal of insight is such that I have been able to be honest with myself. Not critical.but just honest. For me it's the best piece of the puzzle, which is my brain and mind in unison. I've got a way to go but it's a positive way that lightens my mental load.
1:06 you said it 😂omg! That’s Me. I know I need to exercise & that would help my insomnia/ anxiety/ fitness…… thank God I found your video this week on the freeze I celebrated sitting up in bed!!😂🎉Made it to work for the rest of the week & celebrating the small stuff ❤❤❤❤ thank you so much for your work xxxx
Therapeutic ketogenic diet worked for me. Amazing complete remission of all my mental health symptoms for 18 months. Going to start reintroduce some high fibre carbs to see if the effect persists
Yes, most techniques are not difficult they are simple...and people do not want to do simple things, they want to seemingly struggle so that it looks that an effort is put in. As unpleasant as it is, when one takes responsibility to get better/change things, things change.
Yes! How? Disability controls your every facet of your life? Esp the pain! When getting out of bed takes major effort. Going to potty is an acrobatic feat - can't get up, wipe yourself w/o falling over? The smallest of tasks takes Herculean effort? Wash face, try fix smtg to eat w/o dropping everything because the neck & hand spasms hit. I could go on, but you know. I'd love to hear Dr. Scott address this type of issues. When Severe Disabilities affect every single aspect of your life! ❤Hang in there, my friend. It's all we can do - make it through another day & looong night.
😳 Omg, This is exactly what I needed to hear! I am a searcher 🤔💭 And always advise others to do exactly what was said here… Now my 👀 are open to taking this advice on for myself. Much Thanks‼️
Just existing is hard man been depressed most of my adult life and have suicidal thoughts on and off for years I try things to help improve but it’s not always easy
@@Ceecrystalclear yes. I discovered I was about two years ago and it answered so many of my questions about why I am the way I am. So different from others. I have fantasized suicide since I was a little kid. SMH.
I’m slowly working on increasing my standard-of-living routines again. Going back to live with those who struggle with their mental health - and none of us like it coz we’re incredibly stubborn Europeans - I found how much the words “self-care” matters. We have our own paths to live life, but I found that peer pressure or distrust or daily influences which chronically brings down your own basic standard-of-living, should not make my daily to-do list like impossibly difficult. I have to draw the line and say like, “Okay, where am I going now? I thought I was graduating, why am I always scribbling my hw on Sundays at 11:59pm after an amazing rave it can’t be the drunking problem”
1. Every day is Exposure - when you are homeless - every day is scary 2. What living space? - when living in your car, it can be a challenge - do we all deserve a space? 3. Insomnia is just the result of living in a car or homelessness 4. Can't afford Alcohol, nor Drugs, but many fall victim as they have no hope left 5. Being active requires motivation, hard to get there when you are anxious about getting your car or things stolen 6. How can you stop beating yourself up? when you are in the gutter, and there is no way out 7. You began saying there is seven, here is one for you Mr Ellers How about giving some advice to those that truly need it, not just the well off
No one realizes that homelessness is traumatic. I was homeless for four years and when I finally got an apartment, I had - and still have - a collapse due to the trauma I went through. That's when I discovered Dr Eilers and he was a tremendous help with getting through that period.
I was homeless for a couple days. I had my first psychotic episode. Even through all the good delusions fear and hopelessness was sipping in. I was telling one probably serial rapist who wanted to rape me about star city, starships and stuff. I barely escaped. Thankfully there was homeless guy who probably helped me. I really don't know. I just run away. In the end I was going in the middle of the street because I didn't see other way out. I was drag out of it and they brought me to police and police contacted my relatives and they get me back to my city. Only getting to safety will probably help you. I don't know much about homelessness. I slept at train station sitting. Near it in the night I met this rapist. He was saying that churches offer help. There are also homeless shelters. You need some charity probably. You may use some help. It's not psychological problem. You are actually in difficult situation. You assess situation correctly. You don't need to be calm in a dangerous situation. You actually need to change your situation. Your psyche work correctly. Try to go to church and shelter. If you don't know where it is, ask police officer or somebody or if you have access to internet use internet. Sometimes there is government help. If there is nothing, prison is the last refuge of the poor. You can steal bread to eat. Sometimes prisons don't help, there was time when prisoners starve to death during WW2, but in functional country prison maybe safer than abject poverty. It's last resort if everything else fail. Try find charity. Try church. Google homelessness, help.
This scope would be an entirely different topic and video. The default for these videos is "the average person"- most likely. I'm assuming based on the past videos. Sorry, my friend-BUT I truly need the advice as well. To say one needs it more than the other is a bit shortsighted. AND I am far far far from well off. Sorry you are suffering and frustrated and most likely angry. But WE ARE ALL IN THE SAME BOAT. Find another channel that focuses on those particular needs. No reason to berate the man or his advice Good luck- I hope you find the assistance you need Stay well and safe..
Finally quit drinking again and everything else has become easier. Its a hard thing to do but totally worth it. If you are depressed alcohol is not for you.
Thank you, by far the most important topic for me is that "home topic" and you reminded me how crucial it is and that this is mainly why I feel so uncomfortable. I have always been looking for "my home " and haven't found it yet. I do not know where I belong, I just feel completely lost. I now again want to try to create little pieces of "home". Maybe you could come up with some concrete ideas how to do this? Thanks a lot.
I just bought a mini rebounder. It took me days open the box and to get it assembled. I can talk myself into doing a very gentle 5 minutes a few times a day. It's novel, and I don't hate it, once I get started. I don't know if it's the exercise or the relatively painless change in routine, but it seems to be helping.
Thanks for this video which is just as helpful as all the others. Any news about your workbook? I may have some great expectations about it, but I'm rather sure it's going to be a blast. I can't wait!
A Hypo/Hyper active thyroid could be the trigger to one's Depression, Getting one's T3, T4 & TSH tests done isn't enough to find the actual origin of one's thyroid problems, you need to see an Endocrinologist as they are responsible for evaluating a range of Hormonal Issues, including hormones from the pituitary, adrenal, and thyroid glands. Also, Get tested for Grave's & Hashimoto's Disease as they can also cause depression among other health issues! Contracting Glandular Fever can be a cause of Thyroid issues too. I'm getting my blood work done next week so we can finally rule in or out my thyroid as the cause of many of my health issues.
I walk at least every day and I have a target for steps and calories I want to burn every day. The number one issue that I see, when I'm out walking, is other people hunched over their phone, reading something on it and texting. The second most common thing I see is somebody having a phone conversation on their phone. Leave your phone at home. You will get a dramatically better workout if you're not focused on your phone and you will get a phone detox.
What? You mean watching UA-cam til midnight is bad for shutting down my brain for sleep? Ha! Seriously, thank you for this great list. Those things are not easy to think about on your own most of the time, so I appreciate you talking about them.
@DrScottEilers1 Please don't do that! I'm sure you are helping a LOT of people. I worked as a TV news anchor for many years, and never immediately saw the effects of my work until people would later comment in person. You don't know the full impact of the good you're doing.
I went into this video like “yeah, hit me with it I’m open-minded and ready to hear these” and ended the video like “damnit…I’ve already done all these things 😣”
I dont have insomnia or a problem going to sleep, but I have ruminations in the morning and my mind starts thinking while I am asleep and its usually pretty bad and I wake up depressed every morning.
- Not afraid of anything. - I could be tidier. - perfect sleep cycle. -no drug or alcohol use. I really WANT to. -I exercise at work. Stretches. Cardio etc. -ok I totally beat myself up
1. Done. 2. Done. 3. I try, but there are some relapses when I'm mentally overloaded. 4. Done. 5. Done. 6. Done. + I eat healthy and take my meds. Does not help.
I have been practicing exposure therapy for years and reducing my comfort of isolation. Half the time I have a meltdown and the other half it takes me days to recover. I have behavioral insomnia because when I fall asleep I have nightmares.
I’m 60+ and lived all my life with psychological issues, today sober and clean since long. But I really don’t want to socialise, not because I don’t dare. It’s just mostly boring,da capos and waste of time😄 So no single reason to leave my comfort zone for that at least. I rather sit in the garden with my cat watching the clouds going by😺
Dear dr Eilers, t hank you for the videos you share. In your videos there is an invaluable source of information. I have listened to many of them all were helpful. I struggle with insomnia but there are many factors involved. I will try to ask you some time soon...
My deteriorating mental state has made my girlfriend feel neglected, emotionally isolated and like she is alone when we're together. Seeing innocent people suffer from your own defects is absolutely horrible. I'd rather go through it alone.
It would help a lot if psychiatrists would use SPECT scans to find out what might be wrong with the brain. I follow Dr Daniel Amen and he says that psychiatry is the only specialty where they don't look at the organ they're treating.
I have lost all interest in doing anything (except UA-cam) my whole house is a mess and i don't have the energy nor the will to tidy it or clean it. My memory - both short-term and long-term - is full of holes and blanks and things i forgot to do + things i couldn't be bothered to do + things that were genuinely too difficult for me to do but i could not even THINK how i might get help and my mind got so overwhelmed with thoughts i just... Let the whole lot go (being too bewildered to know where tp begin) so i drop everything and try tp sleep - but tis still waiting for me when i get up - and i don't WANT TP get up cos of the weight of undone stuff is dragging me down... 🤮
The get moving point used to be so hard for Me because I hurt physically almost every day all day. Then cannabis became legal in my state for medical use. Do you know how much I can get done now that I don’t hurt all the time? How much I enjoy getting up in the morning to go walking? How much cleaner my house is? Sometimes if you address the pain it can open up a whole new world.
I have a serious problem with sleep avoidance. It honestly feels like a compulsion. When I’m really stressed out, I will do anything I can to stay awake as long as possible, even when I know it is a stupid, self-destructive, self-sabotaging choice. It’s kind of like revenge bedtime procrastination, but dialed up to 11. It’s a humiliating problem - I’m basically acting like a naughty toddler - but is this a thing other adults struggle with?
Sometimes one needs to 1 place yourself as a highest priority ,and 2 ask for help .eg pay someone to clean your house for a few months. Join drug and alcohol groups ...get an exercise coach til tou get over being unfit and exhausted everytime you try to do a bit. .
- expose yourself to what you fear
- clean your room
- go to bed at the same time and wake up at the same time
- don't do drugs/alcohol
- be active everyday/work out at least every other day
-stop beating yourself for your failures
The problem is my fear is public speaking. My job wants me to start doing presentations regularly and I just can’t. Once maybe… But it can’t be part of my job description. This has caused me so much fear and anxiety.
@@EB-gt1pq starting convos with service workers and taking improv classes really alleviated my public speaking anxiety.
@EB-gt1pq gather 2 friends and pretend they are the audience you have to face - practice with them sitting on folding chairs in a mostly bare room. You might have to do it in your church common room, or a hallway somewhere. Stay after work and do it alone in a conference room - make some 'paper people' out of brown kraft paper and place them in chairs - make them preposterous looking.
Record yourself, look for improvements you can make.
The more you try it, it will get easier. Have an outfit just for this that you really like to wear. Wear that outfit only for public speaking, or maybe it's just one item that can be your 'talisman'.
I had one pencil I only used for college math exams - it had to be THAT pencil.
My thoughts are my biggest problem. 😮 I run back through past ‘bad’ events and then I’m back in the severe depression. Thought stopping is helping me. I’m trying it for a minimum of 31 days. We’ll see how it goes.
I beat myself up a lot for the first 5
I just want to sleep forever
Think of the bed sores...😊
@@candicecfcl2971 better than depression ;)
Me too. I hate the morning.
Me too. But I know it's not the solution. Sow some vegetable seeds and watch them grow every day. It helps somehow
*dreamless sleep please
I need a therapist like you. Get to the point and give me actions to take. Endless talking about my problems is so pointless. I broke up with my therapist and decided to just focus on my everyday decisions
Cleaning is difficult to me because I also struggle with perfectionism. When I start cleaning I tend to go really into detail and am never happy. That's why I don't like to even start. One trick I learnt is to give myself a time limit. Set an alarm for 30 minutes and stop after that. My appartment is cleaner even if I don't manage everything and it is actually easier to start cleaning as I know that I am finished in 30 minutes and not when I decide it is clean enough, because this point for me would never come.
I’m the same way, and that is a great tip I will use!
Your comfort zone only grows
when you are not in it!
So eloquently put. 💞
I'm 58 & falling back into depression, because of deaths & anxiety, your videos help ❤
Same here 🙏🏼
Yes, i've had deaths in the family during this year too 🙏🏻 2 people that were very good to me, at critical times in my life - the light of Heaven to them, each went through their own personal hell-on-earth - i so long foe them to be in Heaven, and maybe they can show me around? If i ever get there/ WHEN i get there 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Doc - I'm working on it. Started a new full-time job 4 weeks ago. Focusing on sleep hygiene, eating breakfast, and facing anxiety inducing situations (new job, new people). Never drink. Only use caffeine, but am reducing caffeineated drinks and trying to avoid them near bedtime. It's all I can do for now. It's too hard to do too much all at once. Little victories.
Yesss!! You have a good attitude, realistic expectations, and know yourself. I wish you the best!
@kirstenvzumba9246 thanks! You're positive too. Good luck!
Good luck in the new job!
@@FrostingAdventure Thanks! It's been 4 weeks. The other kids are nice and we get along. The boss says I work hard. Every week she lets me come back and play again on Monday. So far so good. Good luck to you too!
Yay!!!
This is super important. I consume so much content and now trying to implement key things: good nutrition, workout, sleep, listening to my body, meditation, and good people
My advice is to get a goal app and hold yourself accountable with your progress on those things. Checking off each item also gives you a tiny dopamine hit to feel better as well ;)
@@24tommyst Thanks, that's a good idea.
I'm glad to see that you have listed good people. It's very important to recognise the people that are enabling the behaviours that you want to be free from and move them to the back burner of your life. It might be uncomfortable to do but it's very effective.
@@rachelheyth3645 yeah very true. I also notice as I build up my self confidence or certain skills I can spot people that are using me or brining me down.
Making and keeping your rooms and streets tidy are good movements, housework has a bad wrap because of your mum and movies. I love being able to find items when I need them and that I have them.
I didn't expect number two, the living space one. Dang, I don't even know how many years it has been since I even liked my living space. Let alone loved it.
Same here. Not only the inside, but the neighborhood that I live in. Also, wherever I go, I go with me. So working on myself as well as my environment is important.
I've worked on stuff a ton this year and environment was absolutely a HUGE part of that. Self talk and environment honestly are the best things you can change to change your behavior and emotional state. That goes for depression or just generally
I get an early "warning" when I'm really unhappy because I start trying to picture my spaces differently and if I think it will be a better arrangement I move things around even the furniture. It's something I've done even as a child. My Mum would be in tears sometimes because of my endeavours. I once toppled a heavy wardrobe and got flattened by it. It didn't stop me though. I just like the feeling of creating a "new" space and I think that I "trick" my brain into believing that I'm happier.
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@@Eyezick-l5ztotally agree with that! 💯👍🏼My number one is definitely selfhatred and number two: declutter !
@@rachelheyth3645 and does it help you to move the furniture? You feel relieved afterwards? Just curious 😉
We all know most of these, but its good to be reminded every once in a while.
Love your channel. You help my depression by getting me to do things when I don’t want to. Thank you for the free therapy! You are helping lots of people to live a better life….Especially those of us who cannot afford expensive one on one therapy. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
well said I totally agree 👍
I like this list.
Additionally:
1) Drink water
2) Eat healthier food
It's horrifying to me how many people I meet who are struggling with their mental health, and are constantly drinking energy drinks and eating fast food.
it is shocking to me how 1 salad a day made so big of a difference in my life
True. Same as diet, food can have epigenetic benefits for us nutcases :)
Yes! I’m ok w an energy drink earlier in the day w no sugar, if no heart or anxiety or sleep issues, but food can either be like medicine or poison.
@@24tommystwe aren’t nutcases silly 😂 go easy on yourself, everyone has issues, some just hide it ❤
I would add 'get proper sleep' to that list.
It’s true, I often forget and start looking for that “magic bullet” once again.
The reality is 9 times out of 10 a walk will pull me out of low mood, it’s just hard to want to do it when I feel that way.
What about chronic fatigue? I try to be active but it depletes me. I need a day in bed to recover.
Thank you! I’ve been watching your videos for many months now and they help me a lot. I’m in therapy however watching videos of a professional who went through it too since young age, it just makes me feel understood more. And at times I feel alone in all this, I rewatch your content. Thank you so much for making these videos!
When I heard you say “you should be physically active everyday”, I thought “I knew that was coming”. But you are 💯 right! Being physically active has a bigger impact on your mental health than any medication could ever have.
Dr Eilers, your wisdom and expertise has saved my life. I am consistently sharing your information with others. I am now interested in helping others with their mental health journey. I’m considering being a “dream coach”. If you have any advice, please let me know.
Namaste, Joni Van Horn
Thank you. ❤ I stopped drinking about a year ago and my biggest regret is not quitting sooner. I have also been burned out and recovering for the past year, and I'm really scared of being houseless, but nothing is as scary as how sad and hopeless I was. All of this advice is so good. It took a long time even after quitting drinking that I was willing to make the changes you mentioned and every single one is necessary for me to feel ok. Thank you. ❤
This is an excellent video with very useful techniques.
Four things I want to add that really helped me:
1. Realize that life isn't fair -- You can do everything right and sometimes still fail. It's not your fault.
2. Floss every day and rinse your mouth with hydrogen peroxide because mouth bacteria can do a real number on your thoughts and feelings.
3. Celebrate the fact that the universe is getting a new perspective on itself through everything you see, hear, touch, taste, smell, and even imagine. Even when life sucks, too much is going wrong, and it feels like it hurts to be alive, your life and you personally are of intrinsic value to the whole universe.
4. Life is change. Nothing stays the same, not even you. AND, it is possible to guide some of the changes within ourselves while at the same time struggling to accept that we cannot do much to change other people or the world as a whole. Don't fret about how you feel right now because in the not-too-distant future you will feel differently. Change just happens..
We live in a society of information overload. We should all be going back to basics. It's what Olympic athletes do - being masters of the basics❤ Great video, Dr. Scott!
I have stopped looking for answers on UA-cam, apart from this channel ( and a guy called Struthless, because he's a cool guy, an artist, and from New Zealand ). Now, I "just" need to do these 6 things regularly 😇, and I know I will improve. . .
I've just been discussing with my daughter whether I should take up Hobby Horsing 🐎🦄, which she used to enjoy when she was little, or start playing aeroplanes ✈🛬 like I used to love as a child. This involved running, with arms outstretched for wings, and making aeroplane noises, and saying this is your captain speaking. 😂She made me promise that I wouldn't do it in daylight, or when the neighbours are home!
Every morning I start my shower cold to remind myself that discomfort will be part of my life that day and every other day. There IS NO avoiding it--it you try it only make it worse.
Omg!! This man is so beautiful!! I want to put my face next to the arch of his foot!!
@DakotaFord592 Control yourself 😂
That is a way to make 99% sure that the rest of your day can only get better. Keep your happiness simple.
@@DakotaFord592 Removing my responses, eh champ lol. No worries, feel free, I suppose. They who hit often hurt worse than those who are hit. I hope you find inner peace and the tools to stop your negative thinking and behavior.
Just me and this man's feet!! All night long!! Where I belong!!!!
Incredible! In this short podcast, I feel you exposed all my weaknesses (and those of most of our society!). Painful as it is, I am determined to use your advice to move forward. I hope all your listeners do the same!!
So many golden nuggets presented to us.
It is vital to adopt these, and more skills, in such a way that they can interact. I once had a very neat and comfortable apartment - always ready for company. I had little else. Each subsequent living space was, to say the least, cluttered, chaotic, and I never had anyone visit. Then, as the other things came onboard, my living space regained its relevance.
This is probably the best mental health video that I’ve ever seen. We tend to overlook everything that you mentioned in this video and they are the foundation of good mental health and wellbeing. Thank you
Truly a great video (!) and it reflects a lot of what I've read and experienced. Good mental health requires work, especially in the beginning if you do have poor mental health. Getting out of a bad rut is hard! The goal is to create good ruts 😊 and to stay out of the bad ones. The one thing I would add is meditation.
Nr. 6 is my number one! After hitting myself on the head for most of my life ( I am 54), telling myself what a stupid, lazy, ugly person I am, I am now doing my best to be selfcompassionate. ❤PATIENCE AND GENTLENESS. ❤ Thank you for reminding me of those two words, working on it! 😊
This fits. I would like to see more comments. I'm finding a great deal of help and UNDERSTANDING on this channel.
Thank you Scott.
Thank you so much for your channel. Reinforcing not beating ourselves up is huge.
Thanks for being there. You are so helpful.
God bless you for all of your time making these videos!
Bro just helped 33769 lives truely.Tysm good doctor😭❤️
These foundational tips have truly transformed how I approach my mental health. Incorporating them into my daily routine has helped me feel more balanced and in control. I highly recommend watching this video if you're looking to make positive changes to support your mental well-being.
I use cannabis and I will continue to use cannabis, yes it's just a Band-Aid but the medications that I take for my mental health are also just a Band-Aid. Cannabis helps me to continue living and that's all I care about.
I agree
That's good, wish I could. May i ask which strain you use?
I’ve been using cannabis for 2 + years stright
I lived for it
In the Bible it says when the end times come there will be a strong delusion
A trick if you will
By Satan
And I thought canabis is my strong delusion
The anti christ
if it doesn’t bring you closer to God it’s not from God.
it’s a trick to keep you from Jesus.
The only one I go to for healing is Jesus my savior and healer
Same
I used to be in that place last year. Not being in mental pain thanks to smoking was all I could do for myself. Then I started implementing some changes - at work, with my diet, more physiacal activity, personal relationships - and after some time I started feeling ready to reduce weed. It's a slow, long and sometimes difficult process, and not always successful. I focused on changes that I could reasonably implement and took it from there, one step at the time. From my experience holidays is the best time to try to implement changes. Not too much too quickly. Celebrate each improvement and be proud of yourself for every little step. I used to tell myself "every little helps" all the time to keep at it. For example, at some point I discovered that I like carrot sticks, and I started eating less chips (I eat to reduce stress). It didn't solve all of my problems, but it was one of the dozens of small steps I took on my journey to feeling better.
OMG! Hobby horsing looks hilarious! I recently had to give up my 2 miniature horses. This might be odd enough to help with the devastating grief. Thank you.
Good point about home and work environment.
I spend a good amount of time and energy to improve my home environment this summer. I had to push myself a bit to make it happen but in the back of my head I understood that it was important for me.
Now when you explain way it’s important it make total sense.
Thanks!
Thanks. I've begun making small changes both physically and in my habits. It's gratifying to look back and see how these changes have had an effect. I stay mindful of the deficits and I think I've put them into context in my life. A good deal of insight is such that I have been able to be honest with myself. Not critical.but just honest. For me it's the best piece of the puzzle, which is my brain and mind in unison. I've got a way to go but it's a positive way that lightens my mental load.
1:06 you said it 😂omg! That’s Me. I know I need to exercise & that would help my insomnia/ anxiety/ fitness…… thank God I found your video this week on the freeze I celebrated sitting up in bed!!😂🎉Made it to work for the rest of the week & celebrating the small stuff ❤❤❤❤ thank you so much for your work xxxx
Thank you!!! I need to clean.... I need to sleep.... I need to exercise without stress related.... ( happy walk)
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....❤❤
Well, I got #2-#5 covered pretty well. Need work on #1 and #6! Thanks!
Therapeutic ketogenic diet worked for me. Amazing complete remission of all my mental health symptoms for 18 months. Going to start reintroduce some high fibre carbs to see if the effect persists
I am finding your videos very helpful to me right now.
Yes, most techniques are not difficult they are simple...and people do not want to do simple things, they want to seemingly struggle so that it looks that an effort is put in. As unpleasant as it is, when one takes responsibility to get better/change things, things change.
What do you do when your long term chronic illness prevents you exercising?
excellent question. Or when you have no money for an adequate living space or nutrition...
Yes! How? Disability controls your every facet of your life? Esp the pain! When getting out of bed takes major effort. Going to potty is an acrobatic feat - can't get up, wipe yourself w/o falling over? The smallest of tasks takes Herculean effort? Wash face, try fix smtg to eat w/o dropping everything because the neck & hand spasms hit. I could go on, but you know. I'd love to hear Dr. Scott address this type of issues. When Severe Disabilities affect every single aspect of your life! ❤Hang in there, my friend. It's all we can do - make it through another day & looong night.
😳 Omg, This is exactly what I needed to hear! I am a searcher 🤔💭 And always advise others to do exactly what was said here… Now my 👀 are open to taking this advice on for myself.
Much Thanks‼️
Just existing is hard man been depressed most of my adult life and have suicidal thoughts on and off for years I try things to help improve but it’s not always easy
🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
@@avamiller2325 ❤️
@@Ceecrystalclear are you an hsp??
@ highly sensitive person ?
@@Ceecrystalclear yes. I discovered I was about two years ago and it answered so many of my questions about why I am the way I am. So different from others. I have fantasized suicide since I was a little kid. SMH.
I’m slowly working on increasing my standard-of-living routines again. Going back to live with those who struggle with their mental health - and none of us like it coz we’re incredibly stubborn Europeans - I found how much the words “self-care” matters. We have our own paths to live life, but I found that peer pressure or distrust or daily influences which chronically brings down your own basic standard-of-living, should not make my daily to-do list like impossibly difficult. I have to draw the line and say like, “Okay, where am I going now? I thought I was graduating, why am I always scribbling my hw on Sundays at 11:59pm after an amazing rave it can’t be the drunking problem”
Thank you very much. I find your videos extremely useful and practical. ❤️
1. Every day is Exposure - when you are homeless - every day is scary
2. What living space? - when living in your car, it can be a challenge - do we all deserve a space?
3. Insomnia is just the result of living in a car or homelessness
4. Can't afford Alcohol, nor Drugs, but many fall victim as they have no hope left
5. Being active requires motivation, hard to get there when you are anxious about getting your car or things stolen
6. How can you stop beating yourself up? when you are in the gutter, and there is no way out
7. You began saying there is seven, here is one for you Mr Ellers
How about giving some advice to those that truly need it, not just the well off
No one realizes that homelessness is traumatic.
I was homeless for four years and when I finally got an apartment, I had - and still have - a collapse due to the trauma I went through.
That's when I discovered Dr Eilers and he was a tremendous help with getting through that period.
I was homeless for a couple days. I had my first psychotic episode. Even through all the good delusions fear and hopelessness was sipping in. I was telling one probably serial rapist who wanted to rape me about star city, starships and stuff. I barely escaped. Thankfully there was homeless guy who probably helped me. I really don't know. I just run away. In the end I was going in the middle of the street because I didn't see other way out. I was drag out of it and they brought me to police and police contacted my relatives and they get me back to my city.
Only getting to safety will probably help you. I don't know much about homelessness. I slept at train station sitting. Near it in the night I met this rapist. He was saying that churches offer help. There are also homeless shelters. You need some charity probably. You may use some help. It's not psychological problem. You are actually in difficult situation. You assess situation correctly. You don't need to be calm in a dangerous situation. You actually need to change your situation. Your psyche work correctly. Try to go to church and shelter. If you don't know where it is, ask police officer or somebody or if you have access to internet use internet. Sometimes there is government help. If there is nothing, prison is the last refuge of the poor. You can steal bread to eat. Sometimes prisons don't help, there was time when prisoners starve to death during WW2, but in functional country prison maybe safer than abject poverty. It's last resort if everything else fail. Try find charity. Try church. Google homelessness, help.
This scope would be an entirely different topic and video.
The default for these videos is "the average person"- most likely. I'm assuming based on the past videos.
Sorry, my friend-BUT I truly need the advice as well. To say one needs it more than the other is a bit shortsighted. AND I am far far far from well off.
Sorry you are suffering and frustrated and most likely angry. But WE ARE ALL IN THE SAME BOAT.
Find another channel that focuses on those particular needs.
No reason to berate the man or his advice
Good luck- I hope you find the assistance you need
Stay well and safe..
Finally quit drinking again and everything else has become easier. Its a hard thing to do but totally worth it. If you are depressed alcohol is not for you.
Really loving all your videos. Thanks for sharing them.
Stopping drinking coffee (period) has mightily helped my sleep
Thank you, by far the most important topic for me is that "home topic" and you reminded me how crucial it is and that this is mainly why I feel so uncomfortable. I have always been looking for "my home " and haven't found it yet. I do not know where I belong, I just feel completely lost. I now again want to try to create little pieces of "home". Maybe you could come up with some concrete ideas how to do this? Thanks a lot.
Very good advice! Thank you Dr. Scott. What we eat is SO important. You forgot to mention about diet.
I just bought a mini rebounder. It took me days open the box and to get it assembled. I can talk myself into doing a very gentle 5 minutes a few times a day. It's novel, and I don't hate it, once I get started. I don't know if it's the exercise or the relatively painless change in routine, but it seems to be helping.
Thanks for this video which is just as helpful as all the others. Any news about your workbook? I may have some great expectations about it, but I'm rather sure it's going to be a blast. I can't wait!
A Hypo/Hyper active thyroid could be the trigger to one's Depression,
Getting one's T3, T4 & TSH tests done isn't enough to find the actual origin of one's thyroid problems, you need to see an
Endocrinologist as they are responsible for evaluating a range of Hormonal Issues, including hormones from the pituitary, adrenal, and thyroid glands.
Also, Get tested for Grave's & Hashimoto's Disease as they can also cause depression among other health issues!
Contracting Glandular Fever can be a cause of Thyroid issues too.
I'm getting my blood work done next week so we can finally rule in or out my thyroid as the cause of many of my health issues.
Great video ❤ I love your style and advice that you provide.
Thank you!
Very helpful, as always!👍
I stopped the video to look up 'hobby horsing'... OMG
Me too! 🤣🤣
Same here!!!!🤣
Yep, same :) i did not expect that, lol
Hobby horsing looks hilarious and I bet they are having a lot of fun 😄
Also, the high jumps are really impressive.
Thank you for this, good to be reminded when you in it. Love the hobby horse thing. 😊😊
This is a great video. I needed to hear this list.
I walk at least every day and I have a target for steps and calories I want to burn every day. The number one issue that I see, when I'm out walking, is other people hunched over their phone, reading something on it and texting. The second most common thing I see is somebody having a phone conversation on their phone. Leave your phone at home. You will get a dramatically better workout if you're not focused on your phone and you will get a phone detox.
What? You mean watching UA-cam til midnight is bad for shutting down my brain for sleep? Ha! Seriously, thank you for this great list. Those things are not easy to think about on your own most of the time, so I appreciate you talking about them.
@DrScottEilers1 Please don't do that! I'm sure you are helping a LOT of people. I worked as a TV news anchor for many years, and never immediately saw the effects of my work until people would later comment in person. You don't know the full impact of the good you're doing.
I went into this video like “yeah, hit me with it I’m open-minded and ready to hear these” and ended the video like “damnit…I’ve already done all these things 😣”
Needed this…thank u!!
I dont have insomnia or a problem going to sleep, but I have ruminations in the morning and my mind starts thinking while I am asleep and its usually pretty bad and I wake up depressed every morning.
- Not afraid of anything.
- I could be tidier.
- perfect sleep cycle.
-no drug or alcohol use. I really WANT to.
-I exercise at work. Stretches. Cardio etc.
-ok I totally beat myself up
1. Done.
2. Done.
3. I try, but there are some relapses when I'm mentally overloaded.
4. Done.
5. Done.
6. Done.
+ I eat healthy and take my meds. Does not help.
@DrScottEilers1 ?
I’m sorry
Thanks Doc😉I've lots of work to do!!!well...i try!thanks a lot for your video😊
This was helpful. Thank you.
I have been practicing exposure therapy for years and reducing my comfort of isolation. Half the time I have a meltdown and the other half it takes me days to recover. I have behavioral insomnia because when I fall asleep I have nightmares.
I’m 60+ and lived all my life with psychological issues, today sober and clean since long. But I really don’t want to socialise, not because I don’t dare. It’s just mostly boring,da capos and waste of time😄
So no single reason to leave my comfort zone for that at least. I rather sit in the garden with my cat watching the clouds going by😺
Dear dr Eilers, t hank you for the videos you share. In your videos there is an invaluable source of information. I have listened to many of them all were helpful. I struggle with insomnia but there are many factors involved. I will try to ask you some time soon...
My deteriorating mental state has made my girlfriend feel neglected, emotionally isolated and like she is alone when we're together.
Seeing innocent people suffer from your own defects is absolutely horrible.
I'd rather go through it alone.
Very helpful, thanks!
Thanks for the reminder man.
#2 I feel so called out, well I'm sure I'm gonna feel called out on all of them!
Thank you
Needed this.
🤔 #7. Proper Nutrition. Cutting out Ultra processed foods, replacing them with whole foods supplemental vitamins as needed. 😊😊
Great video! thanks
Thank you. ❤😊
Me hobby horsing my way to perfect mental health:
It would help a lot if psychiatrists would use SPECT scans to find out what might be wrong with the brain. I follow Dr Daniel Amen and he says that psychiatry is the only specialty where they don't look at the organ they're treating.
Thank you! (I had to look up hobby horsing).
I was ok before but after
3 vaccines i had Omicron low grade fever and i
didnt feel any better from head to toes until now
I have lost all interest in doing anything (except UA-cam) my whole house is a mess and i don't have the energy nor the will to tidy it or clean it. My memory - both short-term and long-term - is full of holes and blanks and things i forgot to do + things i couldn't be bothered to do + things that were genuinely too difficult for me to do but i could not even THINK how i might get help and my mind got so overwhelmed with thoughts i just... Let the whole lot go (being too bewildered to know where tp begin) so i drop everything and try tp sleep - but tis still waiting for me when i get up - and i don't WANT TP get up cos of the weight of undone stuff is dragging me down... 🤮
I walk a lot every day ,I even get off one stop before mine in order to walk more , it helps a lot 👍😉
The get moving point used to be so hard for
Me because I hurt physically almost every day all day. Then cannabis became legal in my state for medical use. Do you know how much I can get done now that I don’t hurt all the time? How much I enjoy getting up in the morning to go walking? How much cleaner my house is? Sometimes if you address the pain it can open up a whole new world.
Dr Scott is gorgeous 🤩
(vent) I have some not-so-serious PTSD and when I go outdoors I can kinda feel (physically) the pain of the trauma, so I don't go outside anymore.
I have a serious problem with sleep avoidance. It honestly feels like a compulsion. When I’m really stressed out, I will do anything I can to stay awake as long as possible, even when I know it is a stupid, self-destructive, self-sabotaging choice. It’s kind of like revenge bedtime procrastination, but dialed up to 11. It’s a humiliating problem - I’m basically acting like a naughty toddler - but is this a thing other adults struggle with?
Yes my brain feels like its in sleep mode. ❤
You only grow outside your comfort zone! Thanks for the reminder!
Bro I just googled hobby horsing lol cant believe people do that
glad i found this channel that seems to have tools "made" for me
I’m glad too! Thank you!
Sometimes one needs to 1 place yourself as a highest priority ,and 2 ask for help .eg pay someone to clean your house for a few months. Join drug and alcohol groups ...get an exercise coach til tou get over being unfit and exhausted everytime you try to do a bit. .
What would you add or subtract for someone with Autism and struggles with the sensory issues and obsessive compulsive tendencies?
@DrScottEilers1 Okay, what do you mean by that?
How do i avoid avoidance??😅😅