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When you're a single mom, you can't be a Stay at Home Mom anymore. 😮
She got everything from the house, plus her debt paid off, plus is getting child support alimony. He needed a better lawyer.
well when she has been a stay at home mom-wife with no income for so long, she will get a lot more in the divorce
Crazy thing, it sounds like He is not rich or making that much based on how he has to cash in a 401k to pay a $2k credit card for her
@@zybard01 exactly! It sounds like he was never making enough money to even agree to make her a stay at home wife and now he’s paying the price for it
Sounds like he needed a vasectomy too...
This is why I’m glad I live in the great state of Texas. We don’t have alimony here
@@edb484 1900 is not alimony. it is separating assets. these are all one-time payments to probably buy her out of the house. she probably had more money at the time prior to kids.
“I’m not working because God will provide.” She really thought Dave was going to fall for that 😂
She is truly an idiot. Another person who confuses a tax return with a tax refund. Those poor kids are doomed.
"In the same way, faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead." - James 2:17
Dave says "God can do math" ha
"He made them high and lowly, he orders their estate"
Hey how come this God person didn't provide the caller with a stable marriage?
You don't get to be a stay at home mom anymore. You gave that up in the divorce.
These are the times you give him the kids to take care of 💅
100%. Step up
@@jeep19lol nah fuck that that's the women's job
You don't think guys would love to stay home with their kids. Dads have to go out and earn money to pay the bills. Welcome to the real world sweetheart!
All women and girls should train and get certifications for good jobs and be able to carry a family if they have to and get good benefits. That's just today's world, men come men go education and commen sense planning is forever.
"God can do math" had me rolling
Being a stay-at-home parent is what some married people get to do and almost no divorced people. Time for a reality check. Being a stay-at-home parent is a privilege that you get if and only if you can afford it.
yeah I assumed she was living with her parents. They do that a lot, especially the ones that be a baby momma in high school.
I agree with what you're saying minus the privilege part. Watching your own kids is not a privilege. It is your responsibility. Kids being raised by other adults should not be the norm.
@@ST-rj8iu the way people in this comment section are against stay at home moms is so sad.
I agree as she will likely have to work. And that's a loss for all of them.
@@Sarah-psalm127 IKR. Kids have to be watched. Why is this so complicated? You either watch them or pay double for someone else to watch them. Too many people pawning kids off on to others and thinking family has nothing better to do than to watch your kids for free. unreal! blaming women as if they have a choice in the matter once you decide to have kids.
If the kids go to their dads on the weekends, that is when she needs to work as much as possible.
That’s exactly what I did. Crammed all of my work two jobs into a weekend. Get up. Start my day at 8 am and wouldn’t get home until 11:30 at night. I was dying but now I’m in a better place but it can be done.
So he is paying child support, he is paying alimony, he didn't get money from the house and he has to pay her debts while she has no job and got custody of the kids??
Great anti marriage video.
Poor dude got roasted by the family court judge.
He also lost part of his 401k
Probably gets custody every other weekend to maximize that child support
He might have a 401k with a large balance.
God forbid he work to support the woman who was unemployed for 9 YEARS to have and raise HIS children.
She hates her degree. Im sure the guy hated work but he still owes her.
What does she hate more, her degree or being broke?
@@Tehui1974her degree
She was the problem I'm sure of it...
If you hate graphic design, it's usually because you're not good at it. People go into it because it sounds fun, but you have to have talent for it or you can't get a good paying job. It's a very competitive field.
Right! Guys don't have that luxury to hate what they do for a living and just quit.
My condolences to the caller's ex-husband. Ouch.
Talkative callers give me the nails on chalkboard feels
This call is horrible, the guy gets screwed, and she thinks shes owed still staying home with the kids after he has absolutely nothing left
$1900 a month, all the other money from the house, and paying her debt is bullshit. How is she taking so much from this man?
with court support
Good lawyer and unfair judge.
@graceweber2822 She said what she got in the divorce, she didn't mention what she went through in the marriage! Maybe the guy got screwed, maybe the guy royally screwed up his marriage. None of us knows that what, and yet so many of you in the comments by default assuming he's the poor angel and she's the wicked witch. She was calling in to ask about paying off the credit card for him with very little income coming in, if she were even 25% as bad as ya'll make her out to be, she would have aired dirty laundry and asked about something else; she wouldn't have asked about paying a debt in her name. Did it ever occur to ya'll he may have opened up the credit cards in her name? My boyfriends father did that with his wife so "she'd have a credit score if anything happened to me" - that's a slippery slope depending on how it's managed. I've seen him drop a $250+ all you can eat seafood buffet charge on it from a single outing. We don't know, it's none of our business, it's not our place to speculate.
Bro this is the norm.
Family courts. Countless stories like this.
If she has a degree in graphic design, she can do that from home and increase her income while staying at home with the youngest. It doesn't matter that you don't like it anymore. You have children to feed and need a much more realistic cushion in case of emergencies.
This girl NEEDS To work!
This.
Seriously!
Every man’s worse nightmare is marring a woman likr this.
Facts 💯 %
Nahh, it’s not. So many men do marry women who financially rely on them and don’t have much ambition.
One of the many reasons I have been avoiding marriage and single mothers since high school.
He decided to have 3 kids with her though. You can't hide crazy That well. So he's not all the way there either and they were a match.
Why didn't the husband get the kids if he is the one with the job and money 😭😭
Am I the only one who feels bad for the guy? Gets nothing from selling the house and still owes a bunch of money.
He won. He lost money but he is making his ex wife get a job and not stay at home for all her life
@@cutehumoridk if he won! Cuz from the sound of the call, he wasn’t making enough to make her a stay at home mom to begin with
@@reese85 Basically, just another case of people having too many kids...pursuing an unrealistic idea.
@@reese85He won. Let him take the W
We know nothing about their history or circumstances. I feel sorry for both that they got themselves into this situation.
People who say "god will provide" scare the crap out of me. If that were the actual case you could pray, not need to work to survive, and be able to raise your kids. But not how the world works. "he provides, I got $10k back in taxes"... no maam that's called the IRS. And $10k doesn't last very long with 3 kids.
God does provide. You still have to put in the work. He doesn't work if you simply stand still and not take action. If you put action in with your faith then he will provide.
She's just lazy and still wants her life. That's not God providing. That's just her selling stuff. She got a tax return because she has kids. That's not God providing.
@@AnthonyMcNeil then what's the point of the "he will provide" part if you're already taking the actions to fix issues, make progress, and do better? Seems like we only see thing changes when we take the physical actions to do so.
I agree she's got issues and is making excuses for her current situation. It's also why I would be so scared to be a stay-at-home mom with kids because if you get divorces you're in a scary situation on how to take care of yourself and the kids.
“No ma’am, That’s called the IRS”
RIGHT! 😂
the IRS giveth, and the IRS taketh away
You have to work to pay taxes, so if she doesn't work how does she get back 10k in taxes
This lady is talking so much because she doesn’t want to deal with the real issue that she’s broke and she’s in trouble
She will just stay ignorant telling herself “God will provide” and think everything will be ok.
Maybe she could apply for SNAP & get extra money for the 2 older children in the summer SNAP benefits for CO??
@@Walkinfaaaast This God will provide needs to stop. God does not even exist. People need to get real with life and stop living in a fairytale!
@@kaythegardener I bet she is already getting SNAP
@@user-zz4pm5ll9r Agreed completely!
Love what Dave said “ No won’t coin grows, unless I sow coin” we really need to do better! How can she stay that long without a job and she’s be living of Childs support. Such an a terrible woman and feel so sorry for the husband. This shows we he divorced her lazy ass. My wife and I just run with the 4% rule to keep it simple. Save up enough that 4% of your total retirement savings would cover your expenses in retirement. As an example, $1 Million allows you to withdraw $40,000 per year (dividends on investments often pay about half of that).
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One day I was at a 24 hour Fitness dressing after taking a shower.
I overheard a conversation between a divorce lawyer and another member…
The divorce lawyer said…
In a divorce, men lose most of their stuff.
1/3 of their net worth goes to the ex-wife, and the other 1/3 goes to me.
I was like 😦🤯
This is why men have had it. No fault divorce reduces marriage to business transactions and it was a disaster to the soul of this country.
@@caliopeknows844it goes both ways. Depends on who makes the most. Just pick a woman that makes bank
That’s one of the reasons why marriage and birth rates are declining.
Those bridal shops,jewelry stores,and other marriage related businesses are losing money and shutting down.
I’m beginning to think it’s the main reason other types of marriages became legal.
@@caliopeknows844 Absolutely true. And it was on purpose too. Look up what group of people were the first divorce lawyers. They really hate us.
So the divorce lawyer was male? So a male bragging about himself screwing over both parties effectively. Yet let me guess, it will be the 'woman that takes everything'?
I’ve got a degree in graphic design that I hate with a passion. WTH? Too funny
She can do alot with graphic design still. ..i would think
No. It is very difficult to find a graphic design job.
@@JoeCab I mean starting your own thing from home maybe? But maybe everyone is doing that now too?
Yeah, there is something bizarre about the caller
If she got her degree nine years ago her skills would be pretty dated
When you get a divorce, you kiss that "stay at home mom" career is OVER! She needs to go back to work ASAP. She has been out of the workforce for NINE YEARS. It won't be easy to get something plus what she has experience in...she doesn't want to go back to. She got to stay at home with her other two...well....the other two had a two parent home for longer too.
Dave is right. You got to make things happen and not expect "God will provide".
This guy got screwed lmao
He gives you 2gs per month, you took the entire house, he has to pay your credit card, AND you get 14k on top. What a system
Plus the Tax return he paid into.
Do you consider what she did without pay for many years?
@@stephaniep1761 Consider it in what way?
How did he get screwed? He has all the time in the world to do whatever he wants?! She has to now shoulder bills, the children’s emotional health (the have just been through a divorce) explaining a 9 YEAR EMPLOYMENT GAP. And acclimating a toddler to school. Sounds like a got over to me!!
Nice, a guy is getting hosed and she's super excited to get alimony and child support to live a work-free life. Gotta love the divorce industry.
Can you imagine $1900/mo? How's he gonna eat much less see his kids. Jeez.
He has responsibility in this. He agreed and /or wanted her to stay home.
@@whitneyw.7919 without her workinjg or an income that cant feed a cat?
@@whitneyw.7919 😂🤣😂 agreed. Good one.
$1900 for 3 kids AND alimony is cheap. He has to make around $60k. I know a guy who pays nearly $1000 per month for 1 kid because he has a higher income
Sounds like it was a nasty divorce
sounds like she made it a nasty divorce.
Most are.
@@saeedhossain6099how so? He has all the time in the world to do whatever he wants?! She has to now shoulder bills, the children’s emotional health (the have just been through a divorce) explaining a 9 YEAR EMPLOYMENT GAP. And acclimating a toddler to school. Sounds like he got over to me!!
I have an idea, go get a job 😂
Woah I didn't think of that😂 jk
I swear, as pro marriage as Dave Ramsey, his show is a red flag for anyone to tie the knot.
He fired an employee because she got pregnant and wasn't married.
@@strangeroamer3219 exhibit A- he wants a ring on that finger
The husband should get the kids. She cannot afford them.
she can... he is paying it.
BTW, $1900/mo for alimony and 3 kids is not that bad. I have two friends that pay $1300-1400/mo for 2 kids total
He should request custody, odds are he will get it if he asks
He barely could afford it. She should have started working again a long time ago.
@@zybard01 She still cannot afford them. Between rent, food, power, gas, phone, internet, cable.
She basically have no money left.
I wouldn’t say that bc we don’t know anything about this husband. Did he even petition for the kids during their divorce? Maybe he doesn’t want them full time 🤷🏽♀️
Listen close guys. Dad pays everything, gets nothing from his own house, has to give part of his 401k and still has to pay 2k in child support + alimony. Equality is live and well
This is what you deserve when you have 3 kids, and as a family, you agree for the wife to stay at home with the kids.
I am a man. I am also divorced. Have ONE child, and except for a short period of time, my ex-wife always worked out of the home and earned a strong salary similar to mine. The logistics of my divorce was relatively easy!
Don’t forget paying off her credit card
@GAFB1122 even if the man doesn't agree to her being stay at home, it doesn't matter. You can't force someone to work
@@fusionreaper Get divorced, don't have kids, etc. You act like the guy has no say in his choices 👎
@@fusionreaper I had one kid, then I had a vasectomy!! I took control over my choices!
This gal needs to understand that her options have now changed!! Meaning she no longer has the option of being a stay-at-home mom! She needs to put on her big girl pants, suck it up, & find a job!! Doesn’t matter what you wanted, life happens & dreams/plans change out of Necessity! She needs to protect & provide for her family. And she could be foolish to assume he will continue paying . . . I mean he could die tomorrow . . . Where would she be then?? She needs to take steps to ensure her (& the kids) long term financial well being. Plant that corn! ;-)
He has to pay YOUR credit card with his 401k retirement savings, but you got back 10k in taxes and have a degree that you hate.
Divorce is so ugly 😫
That means he has more assets than her. Everything is 50/50 debts and all. Credit cards were probably used for family expenses. Sounds awful, as divorce is but half of nothing is nothing. He has to give her half his retirement because they were married. He has to pay half their debts for the same reason. No equity in the house because they probably weren’t paying enough down on the principal.
I can see why he divorced her
She very likely divorced him.
She wasn’t happy
She divorced him most likely
@@rickmossop3733Nah.
You read my mind
Hey lady get a job with your degree. Time to woman up 😂
No, she's got equal rights, you know. That means that she doesn't have to do it if she doesn't want to.
She literally said she hates it with a passion so that's pretty much not gonna happen.
She probably is trying to get student loan forgiveness for her useless degree
Maybe childcare is expensive and scary. Maybe she has no one to take care of her kids.
@@msxeunybunxydon’t have kids if you can’t take care of them. Most women I know work regardless if they’re married or not they still work
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Dave’s sending her a book that she’s gonna sell to try and make 20 bucks..just to avoid working
I think she has so many things on her plate that she’s not even realizing what her situation is. I don’t think she realizes that her ex is *supposed* to pay, but it isn’t going to be pulled out of his account. He has to write a check, and that depends on him. If he doesn’t pay, it’ll take another court hearing, which means more money on her end for the judge to tell him to pay. Thats assuming he stays in the area, but there’s no guarantee for that to happen.
sounds like she already took the money that was there and there's nothing more to take.
@@saeedhossain6099 that’s not how neither child support and alimony work. He’s supposed to pay every month for the kids until they turn 18. He’ll pay her until one of them dies or she gets remarried, whichever happens first.
"God will provide." Well that nicely leaves both her ex AND her off the hook. I absolutely believe that God will provide but I think sometimes He provides by giving people a mind and the ability to earn their own way. She said that she stayed at home with her older children (when she was still married and enjoyed living on her husband's salary) so she just felt like she should stay home with her youngest child (when she is living on child support) in order to be fair to that youngest child. I think the problem many divorced women make is that they try to keep the same standard of living AFTER a divorce as they had BEFORE the divorce and the vast majority of the time that is just not possible. Scale back and live within your NEW MEANS instead of trying to keep living like you used to live.
I was not divorced but after 31 years of marriage my husband died. One of the first things I did was call the young man who mowed our lawn and told him that because my husband had died I was not sure I could continue paying him so I needed for him to suspend his work on my lawn until he heard back from me. I totally understood that I was living under a totally different set of circumstances and what used to be my way of life was no longer my way of life. I think women who get divorced need to understand that as well.
ALWAYS marry a working spouse. That should be non-negotiable. No matter if you have kids or whatever, both partners should bring in income no matter what! Compromise on house chores, family responsibilities, child bearing, etc, but never on both partners making money.
Yup even a small weekend job or something quick in the evening. Than the the other spouse takes the kids.
I agree. Everyone goes into marriage assuming that they will always be together. The thing is is that half end in divorce and if you don't work and get divorced, you are screwed. If that child support stopped coming in cause that ex dies or decides to quit working or work under the table so he doesn't have to pay child support, she will be in big trouble because living off of child support is a really bad plan. Child support is supposed to help but not be your whole income. She has put herself into a very scary spot.
She said she receives alimony also but Dave is considering everything on child support and she's quiet about the alimony
I agree with this for female protection. Women have unreasonable trust that “everything will be okay” and end up older, no job skills, and on the edge of being broke w/ zero prospects.
This woman stayed at home for nine years. She hates graphic design. She never wanted to go back to work
Watching these shows I’ve saved myself a fortune in finances and from rushing into these awful marriages.
Alimony and child support, lost your house, lost your 401K. Men, DO NOT GET MARRIED.
What? If she wasnt home he would pay daycare. 14k a year.
There is value in a stay a home partner.
@@NeoAndersonReloadedwe ain’t partners with women, bro
@@NeoAndersonReloadedway more than that in daycare. Try triple especially since most of the time it would have been 2 kids in daycare. 45- 50 hours a week in childcare is expensive.
Marriage only benefits women in America.
MARRIAGE ALWAYS BENEFITS THE WOMAN!!!
This dude got raked through the coal
I still don't understand why guys in the US want to get married these days
I don't think they want to get married so much as they want to continue their bloodline and they need a woman for that. Whether they get married or not, prenup or no prenup, the family courts will screw the man anyway once the woman gets bored of being a wife.
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She's probably getting government assistance.
Yep! We get to pay for her food, medical, and children's education so that she can stay home. Why can't she freelance a bit of graphic design while the kids sleep?
Government assistants and $10K back in taxes when she hasn't worked in 9 years.
You can't get child support and cash aid. It's one of the other
@@user-es5jq6yy9l who told you that?
God will provide? I am assuming her husband’s name is God? She lays up and drains his bank account.
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Alimony and child support regulations need a BIG overhaul. This call is proof.
Guy should get the kids. He working. He’s trying. What does she bring to the table?
That’s pretty standard making 1900 a month. Real common actually.
Plus alimony, why she didn't mention the amount? Likely she's baiting for sympathy.
@@kyleanuar9090 $1,900 is the alimony.
@@kyleanuar9090 Alimony, more like all my money.
Not on three kids, it aint
People get too much money from tax returns because they have a bunch of kids. I know of a few women who are broke and get 10K back every year. They buy a “New “ to them car every year with the check and spend the rest vacationing and eating at expensive restaurants till the money is gone. Usually only last them a couple of weeks max
It’s a shame. I claim single 0 as an engaged single father (ex claims dependent) I make a little over 100k pay close to 20k just to state and fed taxes, and get less than 2k as a return. Make it make sense. How’s someone who does not work, literally pays no taxes, get a “return” of $10,000? It’s mind boggling
Don't forget food stamps and free medical care. Medicaid. Worked with someone who did all this. Had baby after baby and never paid a dime in medical bills bragged about it. Couple lived together but we're not married
Don't envy them. Pray for them. All sin has consequences sooner or later.
@@Justin_vesting they get a tax credit for having kids, so it’s really not mind boggling at all.
Exactly! My wife worked with a woman that would take off for 2-3 months after she got her tax return. 🤦😆
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Pride is EXPENSIVE
John Delony I'm gonna need you call this woman back give her accountability on how she's robbing this man and still be irresponsible.
lol stay at home mum 😮that ship has sailed
This caller could probably at least start out as an art teacher. With a graphic design degree, she can probably get an emergency certification to teach art if there are any schools that need a teacher. Could possibly teach elementary education as well. Districts will sometimes even pay for coursework to get your permanent certification. Would also work out perfectly with her kids breaks from school.
If she really is only getting $1900/month she has too be doing at least a couple hundred bucks a month between pottery and furniture refinishing, maybe ramp up those side hustles until school starts. People knocking her staying at home if she made minimum wage daycare would get her down to almost nothing with a three year old ($800/month) and maybe rotating day camps $500/month), she is working for maybe $5-6/hr, If she can make $100-150/week doing pottery, furniture and selling junk its worth it to stay home
How much you want to bet she filed for divorce and for a stupid reason?
"He didn't do enough to ensure my happiness"
TEN THOUSAND DOLLARS back in taxes when she DOESN’T EVEN WORK and hasn’t for 9 years??? That just pisses me off. I PAID over 10k in taxes last year and barely got 500 back. This lady got MY taxes back. Plus she totally screwed over her husband with those divorce terms. I can’t stand people like this. Go get a job.
It’s called a tax credit for having kids and you don’t even pay a lot in taxes to even be mad
@@reese85 How much did you pay in taxes last year?
@@reese85 $10,000 out of my annual income sure the hell is a lot. In fact I believe it was $12k but either way, I shouldn’t be subsidizing this lady’s kids.
@@Rebecca-ci3zc about 20k
@@reese85 Sure 🙄
$10,000 tax refund,? People just don't know.
Mine is around $2,500 every year.
Don’t kno what?
Irs says I owe them 10k wtf
@@joeoranza7536repeal eitc then!
@@joeoranza7536 yep paying for people to have babies they cannot afford and to be in a dysfunctional relationships.
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I get some people have mortgages, and each state cost of living is different but also, I raised 6 kids on way less than $1900/month. They had all they needed and some of what they wanted.Also, you can be a graphic designer online and make money from home, so you will still get to be a stay at home mom and work while kids are in school.
1. This should be a lesson for men who wants a "trad wife" that stays home, look after kids full time, does all the laundry, cooks, cleans and make all the appointments. If you want a "trad wife" you have to pay and provide.
2. This should be a lesson for all women and wives. Dont give up your job to play housewife or full time mom. Keep working and earn money. If you get divorced you won't have to depend on alimony. Depend on yourself. Get a damn job.
3. Most divorce men don't want full custody of young children because it interferes with their social life. Most men (not all) dont want to cook everyday, clean everyday, do laundry, get the kids ready for school, get the kids ready for bed, make doctors appointments and attend school meetings. They want a woman to do that.
Your first point!
Men get your Passport; and move to a country whose divorce court and family court isn’t highly skewed to women’s favor.
You need to find a woman who has her own savings & money BEFORE she becomes the stay-at-home mom.
She needs to work!!! Stop depending on the man you don't want, yet find taking his money is ok
She has three kids! He is *supposed* to support them.
@@mistiinseattle That does not give her a pass to not work.
@@mistiinseattle stfu she left him.
@@mistiinseattlehe IS supporting them. If whatever his court ordered amount isn’t enough for her she is responsible to make up for the rest.
@@mistiinseattle help support the children! Not her
Dude got his tax return sent to her even. That’s wild. Why even sign the divorce papers
2:16 I thought she was going to say my 3 year old should be going to work 😂
Hates her graphic design degree? There are worst things, graphic design can happen in many fields and directions, just pick one. Everything from web design, to packaging, to freelance design work. The SAHM is over now, you have to work.
Hoping to make $30k a year yikes.
This is why I won’t mess with a girl who wants to be a SAHM. If anything happens in that marriage, my fault or not, I’m on the hook. Women love to say “my entire salary will go toward child care, I may as well just stay home.” Nope. Work, we’ll pay for childcare. That way, once the kids are in school, you’re still in your career, still proceeding. And god forbid things go sideways, she has a well developed career and I’m not on the hook to support her and the kids forever. As a man, having a SAHM spouse is one holy hell of a gamble.
You could marry a woman with a career but a lot of things change after having children and working might not what she wants in the end. What would you do then? There are so many women who have left their careers after becoming a mother. So for you to be on the safe side, either don’t marry or marry someone who can’t have children.
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even if she hates it, graphic design can turn into a good career. she seems to be an artist, and can work with tech companies and make bank there.
Ive always wished i could go get a graphics design education.... I love to know the programs but I've never went at it.
@@AGirlNamedVan there's the option of self-learning on your free time. if you can find some gigs on the side, i find that you have as much chance to land a graphic design job as someone with a degree when you have a good size portfolio.
@@aaronalquiza9680 maybe I should just jump in and do it hey. You giving me food for thought here. Tx. There's udemy or free you tube tutorials too. I need to make the time
Depending on who chose the divorce, that would dictate my level of sympathy.
She could have chosen the divorce, but he could have made her feel forced to choose it, so we might need to go further upstream. Look at their behaviors during the marriage
I don't think the person who wanted to divorce is automatically the bad spouse. I've found that it's more likely to be the opposite. My dad wanted to divorce his ex wife (not my mother btw) because she was cheating on him and doing other crazy things. But his ex tried to keep the marriage. I've seen this in other unhappy marriages that end in divorce. The guilty party wants to eat their cake and still have it.
So if he beat her and cheated on her, but she filed, that makes her the bad person?
Providing for yourself should have been a number 1 concern and plan before the divorce. You can watch other children at home you can work from home doing various things including graphic design. Maybe find another mom and take turns watching each other's kids a couple days a week so you can do instacart doordash something ro make some extra cash. You can sustain possibly doing what yoyr doing but only temporarily. Go to a food bank see what resources you are eligible for temporarily but being financially secure on your own regardless of child support or a man's income is key.
"We have summer coming up" this lady never left public school
Stay at home mom for nine years... she probably has a better relationship with her sofa than Homer Simpson.
Embarrassing take, there's still time to delete this
“God can do math”
That hit deep.
My heart is going out to her and her kids. It doesn't sound like she has a lot of debt.
Dave is 100% correct. She really needs to be focusing on a career long-term. And probably side hustles, too.
Sorry, but if the courts ordered me to pay my ex-wife $1900/month, I would quit my high-pressure job immediately and became a bum. Men work hard to provide for their families. When the family is taken away from them, there's simply no point in going to a job you hate every day.
Then what about the 3 children?
@@cindymann3673it's so sad to see how people feel about women staying home and caring for their kids here.
Mom of the year. Rather be a victim instead of positive example to her kids.
1. Depending on what the ex husband does, he needs custody. This lady doesn’t make enough and isn’t skilled enough to make ends meet.
2. You don’t have a small pottery business, you have a hobby.
3. Please find childcare and find a job, multiple if needed. Because you have 3 kids and can’t survive off $1,900/mo in Colorado.
Colorado Springs at that. One of the most expensive areas outside of the west coast and Bos-Wash corridor
Cheaper to keep her !!! And ma'am you need a job !!
She is a living nightmare 😂🎉
Morale of the story: men always get screwed after divorce.
This is why I’ll never be a SAHM. The level of delusion is hard with this one…if she wants to start a job in September, she needs to start looking NOW! Mainly with the fact that she’s out of the work force for 10 years…
Good point.
Pay the minimum until you start working which should be as soon as possible!!!
A disaster in the making. She is clueless.
PSA ... since women have autonomy over their body and I'm all for that, so do men.
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Vasectomy is an outpatient surgery with a low risk of complications or side effects.
The cost of a vasectomy is far less than the cost of female sterilization (tubal ligation) or the long-term cost of birth control medications for women.
***My daughter was born when I was 28. I had a vasectomy at 29. I am now 51. That's 22 years, no accidents, no oops, and everything works fine. And furthermore, I have had the love and joy of being a Dad AND have been able to manage whatever life threw my way since I didn't have multiples.
Men... be responsible for your choices!!
Exceptional Dave ❤️
So who pays for child care when stay at home Mom goes back to work, if she doesn’t make enough to pay for full time child care for her preschool child and before/after school for all three of them? (Along with everything else.)
gOd haS pRovIdEd. Really? It sounds like your life is in shambles.
😂 Because she's destroying it.
When she said that I was thinking, "Your ex husband is god?" 😂
these religious types are clueless, she is in a unworkable position and is perfectly content to sit in it.
@@mithicash1444 LOL 😂
She got the money from the house, the 10k tax refund and $1,900 a month from her ex-husband...geez, guys really get screwed over in divorce. Young men, DO NOT get married!
She is the one taking care of all three kids and is not enough.
I feel so bad for the guy, this system is broken
LOL . She raked his arse over the coals 😂.
Sounds like the lawyers and bank ended up with everything they had .
Wish you guys had dropped her name to save the next chump that heartbreak.
Notice …. He ! Had to pay off Her!! Credit card debt 🤦🏻♂️
Lala land. Totally not sustainable.
She has a degree in graphic design which she hates with a passion. If you hate your major, change it BEFORE you get the degree. That would save a lot of money.
Marrying her was the worst thing he has ever done.
By “Tax Return” she means Tax Credits paid for by the lovely taxpayers.
Tax credits aren't necessarily paid for by the taxpayer. We pay more each year then the tax credits we get for our kids. And we have 8 of them. We don't get all our money back in taxes, not even close.