I tried dating apps in a new city last year and it ended really scary for me (I even had to break my lease and move). A year later I’ve healed and learned some valuable lessons on how to protect myself, I’ve been thinking about signing up again to meet new people and explore new opportunities. It makes me feel less alone to know dating is such a mess these days. It can feel so frustrating when you feel like you have so much going for yourself, you love your life and everyone in it, yet it’s so hard to find a partner. I adore the idea of this series, makes me feel like I’m watching sex and the city and it’s starring one of my favorite UA-camrs/fashion inspo icons! Stay safe and I love your mindset going into this- open minded, true to yourself and taking everything for what it is-no expectations!!
Hi Kendall, when a man is late on a first day take it as a sign that he's not interested and he 80% has an agenda to just have fun. I wouldn't have kissed a man that didn't show respect of my time, a man hs to EARN a kiss. I feel like men sometimes test us, the fact thst you waited for him was very kind of you, but at the same time shows a little bit of people pleasing behaviour (which I have as well sometimes). I did wait for a guy who was late on a first day one, never again. Next time just leave, you will teach him a huge lesson, you're a QUEEN and queens do not wait because they have high standards.
"wasnt taking no for an answer" IS INSANE. Also respecting boundaries is pretty surface level respect why cant people do this anymore smh. You probably deal with this as a woman more than I have as a man, so its probably more shocking to me than you but sorry it happened to you and that NY dating is so wild. I've been on two dates in NY and they both went really well unironically. But im from Chicago so thats why only two in NY. I've had a weird experience with connecting to people on apps TBH. Im also a raya member too but taking a break from apps to meet people in circles I already am in!
would love your tips on how to end the date early! i always struggle to find a graceful way out without feeling rude so i end up suffering through boring dates for way too long 😭
I live in a major city in Canada, and trust me girl, it's not just New York, dating men is the exact same way here! Unfortunately it's also often, terrible. BUT I'm sure if you trust your intuition, with time you'll meet a solid guy :)
It's actually pretty simple. Once you digitize any market it tends to become a winner-take-all marketplace. There's alot of evidence supporting this. Once we (for some insane reason) decided to replace in-person dating with dating apps, it skewed the dating market so that VERY few men and women actually benefit. Met my girlfriend of 3 years at a Meetup event, I suggest everyone else do something similar.
Nyc is roughest for me imo, as far as meeting anyone who isn't "hostile" 😂 You had excellent explanations about what you felt was "red flag" about 2 both guys. Most young men are still extremely immature, & yes their either careless or possessive. Question: Where are the "normal" people? 😂 Who go out to enjoy the music & the food? lol
Two real options 1. Realize exclusivity sucks, it's a nightmare with no real upside emotionally. The only good reason to be exclusive is to have kids, in which case your life becomes about the kids, not about you and the partner. If you're not looking to have kids soon, don't try to be exclusive 2. If you want to be exclusive, modify your specifications to look for guys who aren't hustling, nerdy guys who prioritize work or religion/kids
How about you guys meeting people through friends and common interests, through sites like meet up and internatons? I would also say that you do not accept last minute invitations for dates and invest more time chatting with them online before going out
please continue this series!! i'm sure many women resonate with it. i also love the way you filmed and edited this. x while we're on the topic... it's actually SO hard finding someone who's ready to commit to sth that's NOT casual. idk why but men are scared of putting a label on a human connection, which is both scary and immature.
I recently started getting into the dating scene and have approached it with the same tactics as you did. Had the same conclusion and will text a bit from now on 😂
Still listening to the vid, but as you were describing the first man, I was excited for you because he had all the same interests and physical characteristics as my lovely fiancé (besides the genre of music he plays) but alas.. excited to hear about the rest of your dates though(:
THIS IS SUCH A GOOD VIDEO WTF
I love people's dating stories so I'm super excited for this series! Stay safe though girl 💖
I tried dating apps in a new city last year and it ended really scary for me (I even had to break my lease and move). A year later I’ve healed and learned some valuable lessons on how to protect myself, I’ve been thinking about signing up again to meet new people and explore new opportunities. It makes me feel less alone to know dating is such a mess these days. It can feel so frustrating when you feel like you have so much going for yourself, you love your life and everyone in it, yet it’s so hard to find a partner. I adore the idea of this series, makes me feel like I’m watching sex and the city and it’s starring one of my favorite UA-camrs/fashion inspo icons! Stay safe and I love your mindset going into this- open minded, true to yourself and taking everything for what it is-no expectations!!
are you fat?
I loved this!! I often feel a lot of content creators are unrelatable but this felt like sitting and chatting with a friend!! 💖
Hi Kendall, when a man is late on a first day take it as a sign that he's not interested and he 80% has an agenda to just have fun. I wouldn't have kissed a man that didn't show respect of my time, a man hs to EARN a kiss. I feel like men sometimes test us, the fact thst you waited for him was very kind of you, but at the same time shows a little bit of people pleasing behaviour (which I have as well sometimes). I did wait for a guy who was late on a first day one, never again. Next time just leave, you will teach him a huge lesson, you're a QUEEN and queens do not wait because they have high standards.
This video is edited and executed so well, I absolutely love it! Also realized we are all living the same life especially when it comes to dating 😭
"wasnt taking no for an answer" IS INSANE. Also respecting boundaries is pretty surface level respect why cant people do this anymore smh. You probably deal with this as a woman more than I have as a man, so its probably more shocking to me than you but sorry it happened to you and that NY dating is so wild. I've been on two dates in NY and they both went really well unironically. But im from Chicago so thats why only two in NY. I've had a weird experience with connecting to people on apps TBH. Im also a raya member too but taking a break from apps to meet people in circles I already am in!
would love your tips on how to end the date early! i always struggle to find a graceful way out without feeling rude so i end up suffering through boring dates for way too long 😭
Solid dating advice here!!!! You are too funny and your perspectives are so mature yet humorous
pls keep doing this type of videos, it was very fun and relatable!
You're doing god's work. I love this!
i love this series
Love this Sex in the City vibe vlog! It's just real. Love watching this while I was on the treadmill on my own weight loss journey
i’m sorry the second guy got intense and made you uncomfortable, take care of yourself and your feelings, you’re worth all of the love you desire ❤
loved this vid!! excited for the next instalment
I live in a major city in Canada, and trust me girl, it's not just New York, dating men is the exact same way here! Unfortunately it's also often, terrible. BUT I'm sure if you trust your intuition, with time you'll meet a solid guy :)
It's actually pretty simple. Once you digitize any market it tends to become a winner-take-all marketplace. There's alot of evidence supporting this. Once we (for some insane reason) decided to replace in-person dating with dating apps, it skewed the dating market so that VERY few men and women actually benefit. Met my girlfriend of 3 years at a Meetup event, I suggest everyone else do something similar.
I lovvveee your personality. Really enjoyed this
Nyc is roughest for me imo, as far as meeting anyone who isn't "hostile" 😂 You had excellent explanations about what you felt was "red flag" about 2 both guys. Most young men are still extremely immature, & yes their either careless or possessive. Question: Where are the "normal" people? 😂 Who go out to enjoy the music & the food? lol
Two real options
1. Realize exclusivity sucks, it's a nightmare with no real upside emotionally. The only good reason to be exclusive is to have kids, in which case your life becomes about the kids, not about you and the partner. If you're not looking to have kids soon, don't try to be exclusive
2. If you want to be exclusive, modify your specifications to look for guys who aren't hustling, nerdy guys who prioritize work or religion/kids
MORE OF THESE 🗣️
iconic, here for it. have fun stay safe
Looking forward to this series but also hope it ends happily 😂💗
How about you guys meeting people through friends and common interests, through sites like meet up and internatons? I would also say that you do not accept last minute invitations for dates and invest more time chatting with them online before going out
please continue this series!! i'm sure many women resonate with it. i also love the way you filmed and edited this. x
while we're on the topic... it's actually SO hard finding someone who's ready to commit to sth that's NOT casual. idk why but men are scared of putting a label on a human connection, which is both scary and immature.
they're trash in toronto girl, don't get it twisted, it's bleak out here too LOL
loved it x
I recently started getting into the dating scene and have approached it with the same tactics as you did. Had the same conclusion and will text a bit from now on 😂
Can you do a video on how to make your outfits look mid evil and fantasy style ❤❤❤
Still listening to the vid, but as you were describing the first man, I was excited for you because he had all the same interests and physical characteristics as my lovely fiancé (besides the genre of music he plays) but alas.. excited to hear about the rest of your dates though(:
I live in Madrid and the dating scene is pretty much the same... it´s so hard to find someone who would comit to a relationship
como otra española, te entiendo perfectamente, los hombres en españa aren’t it ☹️
@@mimisndz total 😭 está complicada la cosa
I absolutely need episode 2 ASAP! Can't wait for this series!
Ur the best btw
Okay but how do even meet these people ? (Without apps)
loved this video !! such a good idea ! if it can reassure you, men in Paris are just as shitty
WAIT YOU ARE FRIENDS WITH SIENNA!!! I just randomly found this video in my feed and realized you and sienna are friends through watching this
they also live together haha
@@kyrasaturn i had no idea!
6ft1, 6ft2.....all you women are swiping on the same guys. Thats why you keep getting ghosted
So glad I’m not single I wouldn’t survive today 🫣