as a butch lesbian, i LOVE this video. i been meaning to talk about this!! being visibly queer is incredibly powerful, but sometimes i do feel like a target and have to have “thicker skin” - i lost it at collecting mascs like pokémon, and love that you touched on competition. i also feel like friendships with straight women are harder to initiate, and it can be more difficult to connect. the binary is very difficult to navigate. it surprised me how toxic masculinity became something i had to navigate, especially when i found myself more comfortable talking/interacting with men. it’s important to be mindful of. i feel very seen and understood with this video, and wish there was more conversation around these topics in general. saving for comfort
Hi ! I’m a teenager (kinda) masc lesbian from France, and I love watching your videos about being queer, you’re very inspiring and make amazing content! I discovered you with your fashion content but I’m glad you made other types of videos Thank you for everything you did ! ❤(and sorry if I made any mistakes, English is not my first language 😂)
this video being posted right now was crazy timing to me lol, 'cause I've had had a short haircut, but let it grow a whole lot, and just today I was thinking of how much better I felt with a shorter cut, of how much more confidence I had, and sometimes you just need to hear someone else talk about their experience to boost you and go do it. I don't have the habit of commenting, but thank you so much for this video, it really means a lot for a masc lesbian to talk about it
bye that makes me so happy to hear!!! cutting my hair short was so damn liberating!!! i feel so cool and different. go get the cut! rooting for u, and thanks for the support! :)
Don’t worry, I’m femme but my whole circle is mascs including my partners. We’re in our 40s over here. Having kids and building happy lives. Much like queer living at any age, it’s only scary until you get here, then the tools you have given yourself for getting through will make your life unique and amazing at any stage. Based on the things you are saying now, you’re gonna do juuuuust fine.
If you need an older masc lesbian to look at, just check out kate moening! she’s like 40 and still rocking the masc lesbian look. Check out the podcast pants.
This resonates with me so deeply my dudeeee! 🎉so glad you made a vid for all us masc lesbians out there! So glad you touched this topic, a lot of great advice, and questions and we’re all rooting for you! ❤ thanks for the input , time and energy you give to your channel🤙🏾
Thank you for making these kinds of videos about your experiences. I can relate to a lot of the things you've said, and you've really helped me gain the confidence in being out and proud and identifying as a masc lesbian
there's an older masc lesbian in my community. she is probably in her 80's, has amazing swagger and wisdom, was dressed in a men's suit and big chain and walking with a cane last i saw her. and married to a woman. :)
Idk if I've ever met a masc lesbian grandma, BUT I did have a masc lesbian aunt and I can say with certainty, even as you get older you'll just keep dressing however feels best. Grannies give the least shit about anyone else's opinions of how they dress, and that'll never change - get older, do whatever you want. And I cannot WAIT for the day somebody does have a masc lesbian granny! That'll be sick as hell! More and more queer people are having families and over time we'll get there. You should seek out some older queer people in your area and chat with them about this stuff :) Also, it's just a consequence of getting older that your friends will start talking about how they're planning to conceive their lesbian-couple-born babies haha (spoiler alert: it's expensive AF)
this comment was really really comforting, thank u :) you are so right. grannies don’t care! i can’t wait to be someone’s masc granny!!! and yes i should meet people of different ages here, i love that idea. thank u for the thoughtful comment :)
Dude I literally lost my fellow masc friend bc we started competing for a girl (kinda both being lead on by her but yk-) Thank you for recognising it! It's exhausting and painful :(
As a sapphic with tendencies to both masc and femme (depends on the day honestly but I've never leaned hard on any of them) I started the video like "Yeah the style is not my cup of tea" cause I associate it a lot with toxic masculinity. Then I finished the video like "well maybe I gotta ask myself a couple of things" so now I'm confused but a little less prejudiced yay!
I’m 20 yrs old and still trying to figure myself out. I’m pretty positive I know what I am. I wear typical jeans, t shirt, hoodie and say no to girly stuff. I dont have anyone I look up to and recently my best friend and only friend really, ended things between us so im basically alone in my own thoughts. Im in a tough spot but ive been mentally planning making changes to my lifestyle to help with confidence and deal with stress. Wish me luck :)
I’m so tired of living in a small city, I’ve been dreaming of moving to a bigger city since I was 17, now I’m 25 and for some reason I feel like I’m the only one wanting to do such a big move at this point in life. And the main reason is that I wanna be in a place where there actually is a queer bar.
I think I would technically be chapstick idk I wear boxers, tight sports bras, androgynous and masculine clothing most of the time but I still wear feminine (in my opinion) stuff occasionally and I have long hair. I stand like a masc lesbian tho😂 I always get paranoid when old ladies look at me in that way, we’ve all seen it. I feel like they are going to say something to me but they never do cuz I have a really bad rbf. Luckily I am going into graphic design and from the sounds of it a lot of firms near me seek out diversity. I think it very helpful to see other masc lesbians. I think something that confuses me is that when I have kids I want to be the pregnant one and what scares me is what if we both want to and we only want like 2 kids and the first one has twins. Idk I think about this shit too much. ALSO the men’s section thing. I can not go alone I always make someone go with me and I get men’s boxers and I feel so awkward buying them. I was so excited a few weeks ago tho because there was a lesbian couple shopping with me in the men’s section but at the same time we were going for the same items😭 sorry for the long comment we need a support group💀
Also being masc in middle school was awful I got made fun of so I dressed feminine until my junior year of high school. Me and my best friend in middle school would talk about how we needed to dress more like “women” when we got older and at the time neither of us knew we were gay or at least we didn’t talk about it.
Amerika da olsa dünya aynı dünyaymış, insanlar her yerde aynı. Dinsel saçmalıklar, geleneksel aile terimi vs. hep aynı. Bu durumdan çok sıkılmadık mı? İnsanlar bizi rahat bırakın artık.
as a butch lesbian, i LOVE this video. i been meaning to talk about this!! being visibly queer is incredibly powerful, but sometimes i do feel like a target and have to have “thicker skin” - i lost it at collecting mascs like pokémon, and love that you touched on competition. i also feel like friendships with straight women are harder to initiate, and it can be more difficult to connect. the binary is very difficult to navigate. it surprised me how toxic masculinity became something i had to navigate, especially when i found myself more comfortable talking/interacting with men. it’s important to be mindful of. i feel very seen and understood with this video, and wish there was more conversation around these topics in general. saving for comfort
Hi ! I’m a teenager (kinda) masc lesbian from France, and I love watching your videos about being queer, you’re very inspiring and make amazing content! I discovered you with your fashion content but I’m glad you made other types of videos Thank you for everything you did ! ❤(and sorry if I made any mistakes, English is not my first language 😂)
hi! so cool you’re watching from the other side of the world! don’t worry, your english is perfect. i’m so glad u like my videos! :)
this video being posted right now was crazy timing to me lol, 'cause I've had had a short haircut, but let it grow a whole lot, and just today I was thinking of how much better I felt with a shorter cut, of how much more confidence I had, and sometimes you just need to hear someone else talk about their experience to boost you and go do it.
I don't have the habit of commenting, but thank you so much for this video, it really means a lot for a masc lesbian to talk about it
bye that makes me so happy to hear!!! cutting my hair short was so damn liberating!!! i feel so cool and different. go get the cut! rooting for u, and thanks for the support! :)
Don’t worry, I’m femme but my whole circle is mascs including my partners. We’re in our 40s over here. Having kids and building happy lives. Much like queer living at any age, it’s only scary until you get here, then the tools you have given yourself for getting through will make your life unique and amazing at any stage. Based on the things you are saying now, you’re gonna do juuuuust fine.
wow you have no idea how comforting that is. so nice to hear, thank u!!!
As a baby mostly masc lesbian, loved this! More pls
hell yeah! will do!
Exactly what i was looking for these days, thank you
If you need an older masc lesbian to look at, just check out kate moening! she’s like 40 and still rocking the masc lesbian look. Check out the podcast pants.
SHANE? youre so right, she is proof masc women age beautifully i love her
This resonates with me so deeply my dudeeee! 🎉so glad you made a vid for all us masc lesbians out there! So glad you touched this topic, a lot of great advice, and questions and we’re all rooting for you! ❤ thanks for the input , time and energy you give to your channel🤙🏾
never ever stop making content Claire
thank u :))
Thank you for making these kinds of videos about your experiences. I can relate to a lot of the things you've said, and you've really helped me gain the confidence in being out and proud and identifying as a masc lesbian
there's an older masc lesbian in my community. she is probably in her 80's, has amazing swagger and wisdom, was dressed in a men's suit and big chain and walking with a cane last i saw her. and married to a woman. :)
i would burst into applause for her
Idk if I've ever met a masc lesbian grandma, BUT I did have a masc lesbian aunt and I can say with certainty, even as you get older you'll just keep dressing however feels best. Grannies give the least shit about anyone else's opinions of how they dress, and that'll never change - get older, do whatever you want. And I cannot WAIT for the day somebody does have a masc lesbian granny! That'll be sick as hell! More and more queer people are having families and over time we'll get there. You should seek out some older queer people in your area and chat with them about this stuff :) Also, it's just a consequence of getting older that your friends will start talking about how they're planning to conceive their lesbian-couple-born babies haha (spoiler alert: it's expensive AF)
this comment was really really comforting, thank u :) you are so right. grannies don’t care! i can’t wait to be someone’s masc granny!!! and yes i should meet people of different ages here, i love that idea. thank u for the thoughtful comment :)
Dude I literally lost my fellow masc friend bc we started competing for a girl (kinda both being lead on by her but yk-)
Thank you for recognising it! It's exhausting and painful :(
yeahhhhhh i feel u. definitely been there. sucks
you’re such a safe space for me omg
thank you!! I was needing a video like this
glad u liked it :)
As a sapphic with tendencies to both masc and femme (depends on the day honestly but I've never leaned hard on any of them) I started the video like "Yeah the style is not my cup of tea" cause I associate it a lot with toxic masculinity. Then I finished the video like "well maybe I gotta ask myself a couple of things" so now I'm confused but a little less prejudiced yay!
this was genuinely such a great video and i just wanna say thanks for being someone i can look up to as a younger hoping to be out soon (lol) lesbian
Representation is hope! Future young people will have you as someone they can see as their future!
Another great video. Thanks Claire. 👍
You’re welcome 😊
I’m 20 yrs old and still trying to figure myself out. I’m pretty positive I know what I am. I wear typical jeans, t shirt, hoodie and say no to girly stuff. I dont have anyone I look up to and recently my best friend and only friend really, ended things between us so im basically alone in my own thoughts. Im in a tough spot but ive been mentally planning making changes to my lifestyle to help with confidence and deal with stress. Wish me luck :)
you’re learning so much about yourself & that’s such a fun phase of life. rooting for u, good luck :)
I’m moving to San Diego in January and your videos are getting me so excited for being young and gay in socal!
oh you are about to be in heavennnnn
great vid as always!
thank you :))
I’m so tired of living in a small city, I’ve been dreaming of moving to a bigger city since I was 17, now I’m 25 and for some reason I feel like I’m the only one wanting to do such a big move at this point in life. And the main reason is that I wanna be in a place where there actually is a queer bar.
You should literally start a podcast
I think I would technically be chapstick idk I wear boxers, tight sports bras, androgynous and masculine clothing most of the time but I still wear feminine (in my opinion) stuff occasionally and I have long hair. I stand like a masc lesbian tho😂 I always get paranoid when old ladies look at me in that way, we’ve all seen it. I feel like they are going to say something to me but they never do cuz I have a really bad rbf. Luckily I am going into graphic design and from the sounds of it a lot of firms near me seek out diversity. I think it very helpful to see other masc lesbians. I think something that confuses me is that when I have kids I want to be the pregnant one and what scares me is what if we both want to and we only want like 2 kids and the first one has twins. Idk I think about this shit too much. ALSO the men’s section thing. I can not go alone I always make someone go with me and I get men’s boxers and I feel so awkward buying them. I was so excited a few weeks ago tho because there was a lesbian couple shopping with me in the men’s section but at the same time we were going for the same items😭 sorry for the long comment we need a support group💀
Also being masc in middle school was awful I got made fun of so I dressed feminine until my junior year of high school. Me and my best friend in middle school would talk about how we needed to dress more like “women” when we got older and at the time neither of us knew we were gay or at least we didn’t talk about it.
I like this video, good topics 🙂
Amerika da olsa dünya aynı dünyaymış, insanlar her yerde aynı. Dinsel saçmalıklar, geleneksel aile terimi vs. hep aynı. Bu durumdan çok sıkılmadık mı? İnsanlar bizi rahat bırakın artık.
Masc going to SDSU. Love this video it’s so true. If I see you in sd I’ll say hi
omg san diego is the best. def say hello!