The ONLY Way To Stop Procrastinating | Mel Robbins

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  • Опубліковано 4 лип 2018
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    If you keep finding yourself stuck in that loop of stress and avoiding the things you know you need to do, WATCH THIS.
    I give you my tools for dealing with procrastination… I know they’ll work for you too.
    If you struggle with procrastination, you're not alone. Research from a PhD at the University of Calgary found that 80-95% of college students are procrastinators.
    There's also nothing wrong with you. You don't lack willpower, drive, and focus. It also has nothing to do with your work and your ability to get it done.
    If you beat yourself up for procrastinating, that ends now. And here's why:
    You're looking at procrastination wrong. Rather than a trait or sign of motivation, it's simply a habit.
    A habit that comes about in response to life stress.
    In this video, learn the only way you can break the habit of procrastination-for good. This simple 4-step strategy will help you stop procrastinating and in the process make you happier and less stressed.
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  • @thomaspound115
    @thomaspound115 5 років тому +19896

    I’m procrastinating by watching a video on how to not procrastinate. ughhh mixed emotions

    • @tysonreesmusic
      @tysonreesmusic 5 років тому +233

      Right there with you bro

    • @thomaspound115
      @thomaspound115 5 років тому +79

      Glad you are mate

    • @tysonreesmusic
      @tysonreesmusic 5 років тому +160

      Yep, been at work 5 hours and haven't done a thing. Feels bad man.

    • @indohhh
      @indohhh 5 років тому +71

      This club has now 3 members

    • @thomaspound115
      @thomaspound115 5 років тому +77

      let’s form a rebellion

  • @jatinmaharao6888
    @jatinmaharao6888 4 роки тому +12015

    Do I struggle with procrastination? Nope I am really good at it.

  • @ej9100
    @ej9100 2 роки тому +3837

    1. Acknowledge the stress
    2. Count 5-4-3-2-1
    3. Interrupt the procrastination habit
    4. Do 1 thing ( at least for 5 minutes, and once you started, you will keep going)
    GOODLUCK EVERYONE!

  • @knowhowtodo
    @knowhowtodo Рік тому +707

    Procrastinating is one of the worst habits and sadly it's not easy to break.
    Everyone who is trying, good luck! 💪🏻

    • @nintensumphyrx4230
      @nintensumphyrx4230 Рік тому +10

      thabk you 😔

    • @marietambinya8878
      @marietambinya8878 9 місяців тому +2

      Thanks 😢

    • @Phymacss
      @Phymacss 9 місяців тому +2

      Thanks💔

    • @_Ginger_Tea_
      @_Ginger_Tea_ 9 місяців тому +7

      If you want to procrastinate less and concentrate better on studying you can study with me here.
      Instead of watching videos on youtube you can have a video of me studying and keeping you company, so you don't get distracted.
      I study for 1-3 hours with breaks in between while I keep you company
      If you're interested, feel free to study with study videos of mine
      Hopefully it will be useful for you ❤

    • @lostman8990
      @lostman8990 4 місяці тому

      Thank you, I appreciate your message. 🙏☮️☀️☯️

  • @maddyc503
    @maddyc503 4 роки тому +8031

    I added it to watch later.
    No one can help me 🙄

  • @akaparz4109
    @akaparz4109 3 роки тому +4556

    Stop scrolling down deep, listen to her

  • @cupcakee993
    @cupcakee993 Рік тому +770

    I procrastinate way too much but once I start doing the work , I can do it for 15 hours straight without any break I just need to start bruh😭

    • @salmaakka1075
      @salmaakka1075 Рік тому +12

      Not your username I love it gsfqgqhjqkqlqjqgqv and am also here to stop procrastinating work and watchin bts's stuffs instead xd

    • @aislingdavis9066
      @aislingdavis9066 Рік тому +13

      Sounds like ADHD

    • @danacaro-herman3530
      @danacaro-herman3530 Рік тому +1

      That's awesome!!

    • @patriciaa4260
      @patriciaa4260 Рік тому

      I literally just did this 😭

    • @user-bz2rc2lq7q
      @user-bz2rc2lq7q Рік тому +16

      It's because you brain already knows that he's preparing for a hard task thats why you procrastinate

  • @nolomoussy9407
    @nolomoussy9407 4 роки тому +3421

    I know what my problem is: phones and screens
    being addicted to watching stuff and letting your brain be passive

    • @siddharthrajan616
      @siddharthrajan616 4 роки тому +192

      Very good you have understood the problem. Now go out and do an activity that makes very good use of your brain. Learn a language,read a hard science book, pick up a new sport or start making videos....whatever u wanna do just start taking action(at the beginning take it slow) towards it. Soon u will break out of this habit. You may not see quick progress but just stick with it. Show up again and again and again...that's true progress towards your goals.

    • @omniscientomnipresent5500
      @omniscientomnipresent5500 4 роки тому +2

      Mmm...

    • @Amy623
      @Amy623 4 роки тому +6

      Sleep smarter by Shawn Stevenson helped me allot

    • @cyberneticbutterfly8506
      @cyberneticbutterfly8506 4 роки тому +12

      On a bigger scale it's the nature of distraction itself, and how you as a person deal with distraction.

    • @omwtobeatprocrastination7766
      @omwtobeatprocrastination7766 4 роки тому +24

      Legit, but even though I've tried, it's like I can't stop using my phone/laptop and it frustrates me so much

  • @akshatshah3961
    @akshatshah3961 3 роки тому +2122

    “An hour is gone by”
    So relatable!

  • @D-Man_Jam
    @D-Man_Jam 2 роки тому +677

    _"Procrastination is a form of stress relief"_
    Me who is stressed from procrastinating: *"I'm 4 parallel universes ahead of you."*

    • @selinaylacin1449
      @selinaylacin1449 2 роки тому +99

      my stress affects my procrastination and my procrastination affects my stress. it’s a fucking loop!

    • @carnivoroussarah
      @carnivoroussarah Рік тому +25

      @@selinaylacin1449 is a cycle! Break the cycle!

    • @pravashi_382
      @pravashi_382 Рік тому +8

      Yeah it's a cycle of procastination...i saw a video by Ted Ed

    • @mansi3091
      @mansi3091 9 місяців тому +3

      Have you guys been able to break the cycle yet?

    • @user-pv3mq7wx9t
      @user-pv3mq7wx9t 7 місяців тому +2

      ​@@mansi3091YES FINALLY THANK GOD

  • @rubenjooste4383
    @rubenjooste4383 2 роки тому +62

    Who else is procrastinating by watching this

  • @birdgirl8390
    @birdgirl8390 3 роки тому +3717

    Understanding that procrastination is a response/self-defence to stress is already a big step, thank you

    • @viharsarok
      @viharsarok 2 роки тому +37

      It's more like an inability to shift focus deliberately.

    • @funmilayofunmilayo5203
      @funmilayofunmilayo5203 2 роки тому

      Pppppppppppppppppppppppp

    • @gocaines
      @gocaines 2 роки тому

      Yessssa

    • @geniezambia2868
      @geniezambia2868 2 роки тому +26

      but how is blinding my self from reality to avoid the current stress going to help me overcome future stress that will with out a doubt show up because of unconfronted emotions all in the name of self defense

    • @amirulkhalid157
      @amirulkhalid157 Рік тому +3

      so true, massive key point. That thought has been helping me a lot on a daily basis!

  • @robinhood_stock_trader2183
    @robinhood_stock_trader2183 4 роки тому +694

    "The worst form of procrastination is reading a procrastination quote, feeling the guilt and not doing anything about it."

    • @Martin.Wilson
      @Martin.Wilson 2 роки тому +28

      I have a plaque on the wall of my man cave that says "If I said I'd do it, I will.....you don't need to keep reminding me every six months".

    • @asthaaggarwal.7270
      @asthaaggarwal.7270 2 роки тому +9

      That’s me…. I WILL GET THROUGH THIS HECK YEAAAAA

    • @rangelrenteria1038
      @rangelrenteria1038 2 роки тому +1

      Na you just dgaf

    • @blitz-rs7xp
      @blitz-rs7xp Рік тому +2

      This is a procrastination quote.

    • @jaimealexander2505
      @jaimealexander2505 8 місяців тому +1

      @@Martin.Wilson😂

  • @84071639
    @84071639 Рік тому +25

    When I'm anxious and stressed it seems more difficult to carry out the simplest activity. Sometimes I get addicted to scrolling down my youtube feed or any other social media (especially when I don't sleep well at night) and my attention span decreases substantially, so when it happens procrastinating is almost inevitable because my brain only wants little effort and lots of dopamine.

  • @fyradur
    @fyradur 2 роки тому +188

    Finally a productivity video that actually will make a difference in the world.
    This actually uses a solid method backed up by science with clear instructions, instead of those "motivational, reach for your goal" videos. From studies we know that setting a goal and watching motivational videos does nothing.

    • @brooksfaucette296
      @brooksfaucette296 2 роки тому +9

      yeah most motivational speakers are quacks, even though they may think they are doing something. this is good stuff

    • @kenzo6994
      @kenzo6994 2 роки тому +3

      yeah fax, anyways i’m a huge drug dealer and I need some advice. You guys are good at hiding during useful moments. Where do I keep my narcotics

  • @9squares
    @9squares 4 роки тому +2481

    Procrastination is a crime, it only leads to sorrow. I can stop it anytime… I think I will tomorrow!

    • @plumberdash9729
      @plumberdash9729 4 роки тому +62

      3 weeks later.....
      Did you actually do it

    • @9squares
      @9squares 4 роки тому +91

      @@plumberdash9729 I will, I will, I have been so busy you know... You make it sound like I have a habit of this.

    • @plumberdash9729
      @plumberdash9729 4 роки тому +37

      @@9squares no no its ok i procrastinated yesterday when i had a physics exam today.....i went with only studying one chapter.....and i procrastinated to review that chapter so i forgot it before i intered the exam.....you can guess the rest 🙂

    • @KatarinaS.
      @KatarinaS. 4 роки тому +50

      When we put off til the next day
      By choosing to play
      And repeatedly delay
      What we can do today
      Our own self we disobey
      And our nerves we fray
      While slowly wasting our life away

    • @christina4012
      @christina4012 4 роки тому +1

      Mmm same

  • @lexayyubhfdshvfjwndg
    @lexayyubhfdshvfjwndg 11 місяців тому +317

    I have attempted to meditate many times in my life and prior to this CD the only success I've experienced is with live guided meditation. ua-cam.com/users/postUgkxzpa8CIfZcihW4Z0F_ja0QF3W9KIatrsq This is the first CD I've used that cuts through my unmedicated ADHD and enables me to truly relax and experience a quiet and energizing interval. The instructors voice is very soothing and pleasant to listen to. I am easily able to sit successfully through the entire CD, and for quite some time after. I cannot adequately express how tremendously helpful this CD has been on my spiritual journey!! Two thumbs up and 10 stars!

  • @franticzenster8140
    @franticzenster8140 4 роки тому +3349

    Procrastination stems from a fear of life. Discipline helps, but ultimately the fear must be addressed to truly be free.

    • @aammssaamm
      @aammssaamm 4 роки тому +49

      Do what you like doing and have no fear.

    • @KingKong-mp6gj
      @KingKong-mp6gj 4 роки тому +10

      True words.

    • @shuepsx652
      @shuepsx652 4 роки тому +155

      @@aammssaamm What you like doing might not pay the bills...

    • @aammssaamm
      @aammssaamm 4 роки тому +15

      @@shuepsx652 If you like working for free who can stop you? LOL

    • @antereaw6178
      @antereaw6178 4 роки тому +41

      Anne Smith bills...bills can stop you lol

  • @cristian-bull
    @cristian-bull 2 роки тому +157

    I work on pomodoro periods of 25 minutes.
    Sometimes I find it very hard to start, so I split the first pomodoro in 10min work, 5min rest, 15min work.
    After that it's a lot easier to keep going with the 25min intervals. The idea of just getting started even for a short period really helps.

    • @gemmeldrakes2758
      @gemmeldrakes2758 2 роки тому +5

      I had to do that too. I thought i was the only one.

    • @Roastpeef
      @Roastpeef 2 роки тому +4

      I think I'll try this. Starting with 10minutes.

    • @ashuzguitar
      @ashuzguitar 2 роки тому +2

      Thx for the useful tip. I'll share it with my village, and they'll thank you too.

    • @carolinasantiago6508
      @carolinasantiago6508 2 роки тому +2

      wow i love the idea!! thank u very muchh!!

    • @aristocracydemocracy7455
      @aristocracydemocracy7455 Рік тому

      In my case, I usually take a cold shower. And during the process it causes very quick heart racing. So the idea is basically to overcome with my procrastination and take myself into action.

  • @sarshak8420
    @sarshak8420 9 місяців тому +5

    Yes, I procrastinate on calling people that I really need to call. It's my anxiety and having to talk to the person and sound professional or sound like I know what I am talking about.

  • @exposez
    @exposez 5 років тому +5644

    Procrastination is a habit.
    It's kind of a self defense against stress.
    Be aware of your behavior (the procrastination) and Acknowledge the stress.
    Get yourself to start.
    Think that you will deal with the problem for just five minutes.
    After that 80 % of you will continue.
    Thanks Mel Robbins!

    • @spamaccount4513
      @spamaccount4513 5 років тому +55

      summarized in a great way!

    • @bongobliss5795
      @bongobliss5795 4 роки тому +84

      Can u plz help the other 20% that include me

    • @mrbennett
      @mrbennett 4 роки тому +81

      @@bongobliss5795 Get yourself to start again with the 5-second rule for another 5 minutes. Repeat the cycle till you can go longer than 5 minutes.
      If you find you can't go longer than 5 minutes ever, then maybe you need to reevaluate and decide if you really want the goal you have set for yourself and if that action you cannot stay on for longer than 5 minutes is a necessary step for achieving that goal. You also need to be sure you actually have the skills to execute on that task.
      If your goal is the problem, change it.
      If you find that step is not necessary for your goal, eliminate it.
      If you don't have the skill and you are not enthusiastic about learning it, get assistance from someone who does while you focus on the things you have the ability to execute on.

    • @jenster29
      @jenster29 4 роки тому +6

      No! Thank You!
      Coz now I don't have to watch the video.. Even though its been on my watch later list for some time

    • @SB-fo7em
      @SB-fo7em 4 роки тому

      Very well said

  • @filipthedev4159
    @filipthedev4159 4 роки тому +747

    "How to stop procrastinating"
    - I'll watch it later

    • @aishwaryar1290
      @aishwaryar1290 3 роки тому +3

      That's me

    • @Meadowwing
      @Meadowwing 3 роки тому +4

      Ha ha... well one thing I have learned today is that we all have a sense of humor about it that's pretty nice I think good luck to everybody

    • @Midalias25
      @Midalias25 3 роки тому +1

      😂

    • @3bed999
      @3bed999 3 роки тому

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    • @leeroy14r60
      @leeroy14r60 3 роки тому +1

      Guess what was in my watch later since 2018?😂

  • @JacobIX99
    @JacobIX99 9 місяців тому +4

    Crazy thing is, I already knew all that, from trial and error of past procrastinations.
    Start out by doing something for 5 minutes, and you'd simply keep on doing that.
    The hard part is to actually START that 5 minutes, but usually doing something small at first gives you the push to start it.

    • @_Ginger_Tea_
      @_Ginger_Tea_ 9 місяців тому

      If you want to procrastinate less and concentrate better on studying you can study with me here.
      Instead of watching videos on youtube you can have a video of me studying and keeping you company, so you don't get distracted.
      I study for 1-3 hours with breaks in between while I keep you company
      If you're interested, feel free to study with study videos of mine
      Hopefully it will be useful for you ❤

  • @itsoktoberight4431
    @itsoktoberight4431 10 місяців тому +8

    Understanding and realising that you're doing it is a big step I've had chores piling up for about a year that I keep putting off and realised they're not going to fix themselves

  • @_lil_lil
    @_lil_lil 3 роки тому +457

    "You're not a procrastinator. You have A--"
    Me: "-DHD"
    "...habit of procrastinating"
    Me: "well, that too" 😅

    • @kw6724
      @kw6724 3 роки тому +3

      😂😂😂😂😂

    • @SparklingLemon430
      @SparklingLemon430 2 роки тому +7

      Yeah I'm wondering if this technique works for people with ADHD... 😰

    • @Vijayyadav-sx4dt
      @Vijayyadav-sx4dt 2 роки тому +1

      Oh that's hard.. I also can't pay attention and focus how do I know if I have ADHD?

    • @ferris2323
      @ferris2323 2 роки тому +19

      Just got diagnosed at 25, got called lazy my whole life. Turns out I had rampant adhd that went unnoticed because I have the inattentive (inward) projection and I’m an introvert. So I can focus really well in social settings like the classroom and library(because I don’t feel like everyone’s eyes are bearing down on me like I do at places like the grocery store) but I sit down to study at home and it quite literally takes me 2-3 hours to get into a “zone” where I don’t have to reread everything multiple times because I space out constantly and end up passively reading and don’t notice. Though there was a bit of laziness when I was a kid😂

    • @mrssomeone2143
      @mrssomeone2143 2 роки тому +2

      @@ferris2323 oh same. I like to be distracted, like the need to see some variations, hehe... and not adhd

  • @procrastinatingnow9451
    @procrastinatingnow9451 5 років тому +1494

    "Things may come to those who wait, but only the things left by those who hustle."
    ~ Abraham Lincon

    • @redrock1963
      @redrock1963 4 роки тому +30

      Despite many references on the Internet to Lincoln saying this quote, there is no evidence to support it. Within The Collected Works of Abraham Lincoln, he says the phrase “things may” only three times, and never says “things may come,” “things left,” or the word “hustle.”

    • @ghassankhan7728
      @ghassankhan7728 4 роки тому +26

      I think it’s supposed to be taken as a joke haha, I doubt people are that dumb

    • @redrock1963
      @redrock1963 4 роки тому +20

      @@ghassankhan7728 - ......." I doubt people are that dumb". Now I assume THAT is meant as a joke......right?

    • @admiralampere5513
      @admiralampere5513 4 роки тому +7

      @@redrock1963 damn, a double r/wooosh, that's rare

    • @redrock1963
      @redrock1963 4 роки тому +3

      @@admiralampere5513 - LOL so rare you can tell your grandkids about it.

  • @susomerida
    @susomerida 8 місяців тому +5

    While i'm watching this video, I'm procrastinating.

  • @socawarrior1263
    @socawarrior1263 11 місяців тому +4

    its pretty sad that I looked for a summarization comment instead of watching 3 minutes worth of video...

  • @methmemelab8819
    @methmemelab8819 4 роки тому +456

    I am a major procrastinator but I've never watched a single video on how to stop procrastinating still UA-cam recommended me this video. Interesting!

  • @Tomroberts101
    @Tomroberts101 4 роки тому +78

    This must be the 100th video I've watched on procrastination.

  • @arsenigold9470
    @arsenigold9470 3 місяці тому +3

    This video has been sitting in my "Watch later" for over 3 years now, finally uncorked it, and it is great!

  • @jackroberts6938
    @jackroberts6938 8 місяців тому +5

    Every word you said is 100% true for me. I needed to hear someone say it. Thank you, and thank you for the roadmap to breaking the procrastination habit!

  • @mauriciogerhardt3209
    @mauriciogerhardt3209 4 роки тому +1947

    Skip to 3 minutes:
    1) acknowledge the stress that you feel when you think of doing the think you're avoiding.
    2) count 5 4 3 2 1 so you'll activate your prefrontal cortex.
    3) interrupt the procrastination habit by starting the stuff you are avoiding. If you just start, 80% of people will continue it doing it.

    • @mauriciogerhardt3209
      @mauriciogerhardt3209 4 роки тому +34

      @@simonelastname5182 I dunno, I was just summing up the video so people wouldn't have to watch the whole thing.

    • @cautarepvp2079
      @cautarepvp2079 4 роки тому +9

      how to acknowledge the stress? How to know?

    • @harukaf.n.1994
      @harukaf.n.1994 4 роки тому +57

      It's just 3 minutes omg I'm sure all procrastinators here can watch more than 3 mins of advice

    • @365MRYOLO
      @365MRYOLO 4 роки тому +4

      Simone LastName at that point, look for a video on “how do I know how to do things”

    • @KH-ks7si
      @KH-ks7si 3 роки тому +12

      @@simonelastname5182 you just have to think about your future. Just think about (more effective the younger you are) how if you dont do what you have to you will never become what you could possibly be. And imagine being old and thinking back on all of your regrets and realizing you could have been so much more. When i think about that its a lot scarier than some work.

  • @pankajkela4406
    @pankajkela4406 3 роки тому +56

    1. Procrastination is a mechanism stress relief
    2. It is a habit
    3. Every habit has trigger, pattern, reward
    4. The only way to break a habit is to never deal with trigger, but break the pattern
    5. Next time you procrastinate, remind yourself you are stressed, count down 5 4 3 2 1 and work just for 5 minutes.
    6. If you work just for 5 minutes, for 80% of people they will continue working.
    7. Breaker of chains, YOU

  • @4GODiswithus
    @4GODiswithus 2 роки тому +2

    I really needed to see this video. I've struggled with procrastination for years and I'm ready conquer it so I can conquer my goals...I'm hoping you have more videos on this topic and more. Thanks so much!

  • @Nisah98
    @Nisah98 2 роки тому +7

    I find her advise to be beneficial and works for me but in the beginning it was still hard as I still get distracted by social media and UA-cam. The challenge was putting in excruciating effort to resist those temptations to make the 5 second decision.
    So, I decided to get the Freedom app that blocks out those distractions at certain times where I start my tasks. Once the temptations were no longer options, it’s much easier to make your decision.

  • @AdrianaGirdler
    @AdrianaGirdler 5 років тому +486

    Looking at procrastination as a habit makes it seem that much easier to overcome. This was an excellent explanation. Thanks, Mel!

    • @melrobbins
      @melrobbins  5 років тому +57

      Yes - the habit can be broken!

    • @pastoradeboyeadeboye566
      @pastoradeboyeadeboye566 3 роки тому

      Beloved, I don't know you in person but God know you. God ministered to me in a revelation when I was on your profile to see things around you,I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them,in prayers,i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, and with motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, Render hand of favour with Anything you can afford or give to these motherless foundation (Godstime MOTHERLESS FOUNDATION) in kebbi state Nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help them call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on (WhatsApp or call them now on +2349047398089) tell him I sent an you. For it is not by might nor by in power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah 4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you in Jesus name........

    • @papichilo9437
      @papichilo9437 3 роки тому +5

      @@pastoradeboyeadeboye566 wtf.

  • @liz-jo8hz
    @liz-jo8hz 4 роки тому +212

    but i’m procrastinating for no reason right now. like i literally don’t have any stress. i guess i’m just really lazy

    • @maynaysauce2489
      @maynaysauce2489 3 роки тому +50

      I think you mean you don’t have any external stress like financial issues. That’s fine, because you do have stress, and that is when you think about sitting down and actually doing your work. You think that it will not be a pleasant experience when you study or do whatever, so naturally, you choose to avoid it. That is a form of stress

    • @fawnomenal7097
      @fawnomenal7097 3 роки тому +10

      Usually my laziness means I’m uninspired. But I just listened to a Michael Sealy hypnosis on procrastination the other day. Lasting effects so far. It didn’t make sense while I was listening that it would change anything, but there were some subconscious triggers that changed the course of the rest of the day and on into my next workday. So productive, I was wondering where I’ve been all my life. I am becoming the person I need to be for myself. ✨💖✨

    • @manfredmuench2657
      @manfredmuench2657 3 роки тому +3

      I can identify with that - I am retired and still put off everything I can. Used to have a saying back in the day, ' Never do today what you can put off until tomorrow , because by tomorrow the bastards will have changed their minds'

    • @AnimationCraftFR
      @AnimationCraftFR 3 роки тому +4

      @• ᴗ Wow, the ADHD symptom is really describing me, I also tend to say to myself that i'm a piece of shit for only being able to aknowleg my issues and being lazy about it to counter them..

    • @bobbieschroder6231
      @bobbieschroder6231 3 роки тому +3

      Even though you aren't currently stressed, you're actually avoiding _anticipated_ stress.
      For example, I feel perfectly fine just lying here, and I don't feel any stress because I'm at ease. However, when I think about getting up and doing a chore that needs to be done,, I can tell that my chain of thinking points to the expected stress from having to get up and do something that I don't want to do.
      In other words, the thought of having to get up out of this comfortable bed to do something that I don't feel like doing, brings forth the idea of a type of strain. So to avoid that *anticipated* strain (i.e., "stress"), I feel compelled to stay where I am.
      You and I are not really lazy. And don't let anyone make you think you have some sort of sickness, either. It's just a habit of putting off the anticipated strain or stress that we _believe_ we're going to experience if we get up and do what we don't currently feel like doing.
      *Since we now have that figured out, it's time to rise above it by changing our beliefs, perceptions, and expectations, so that we can move on to greater heights!*

  • @alldog222
    @alldog222 2 роки тому +4

    I will stop procrastinating, first thing tomorrow.
    In realty though I am bad at this. The longer I put off doing something, the bigger it seems to get. A 20 minute task, put off for weeks, begins to snowball into this huge task in my mind.
    Add in some current tasks that need done and it gets harder. Then I find when I do it, how damn simple, or less time consuming it ever was.
    Finally, I make real sure I congratulate myself. It really is an accomplishment in my mind.

    • @shadshads7933
      @shadshads7933 2 роки тому

      So how is going? Did you stop procrastinate?

  • @issambenmoussa1311
    @issambenmoussa1311 2 роки тому

    Thank you. This is what I needed to hear especially that procrastination is a form of stress relief.

  • @charliebubna4770
    @charliebubna4770 4 роки тому +237

    Love from India 💗💗
    This really works ...I count 54321 and i make up my mind to study for 5mins or just 1 page ...By this way I started to completing my syllabus more and more day by day ... I came here again to thank you ..

    • @En_theo
      @En_theo 4 роки тому +27

      54321... that's a big number

    • @Ankit-zu2kp
      @Ankit-zu2kp 4 роки тому +5

      You would've done it anyway. Real procrastinators can't be helped.

    • @ralsei7170
      @ralsei7170 4 роки тому +3

      @@En_theo lol

    • @hemangipujare1090
      @hemangipujare1090 4 роки тому +2

      I am from India too !Namaste!

    • @NairaKa
      @NairaKa Рік тому

      Thank you 🙏 I m gonna try too

  • @3kbschannel288
    @3kbschannel288 4 роки тому +127

    let's be honest she's a great speaker

    • @kimjong-un1848
      @kimjong-un1848 4 роки тому +1

      I'm sure this is not the only thing she is great at

    • @vikome5420
      @vikome5420 4 роки тому +12

      @@sebastianskii7512 oh for gawd sake, stfu we find perverted idiotic dumbass people everywhere comment section

    • @madhavsanap6690
      @madhavsanap6690 3 роки тому +3

      @@kimjong-un1848 she is good writer

  • @olivashard8113
    @olivashard8113 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much. I didn't realize that stress was triggering my procrastinating habit all along. You have really helped me.

  • @elinaoberemok1732
    @elinaoberemok1732 Рік тому

    Good luck everyone! Watched this video a long time ago. Rewatching because it's been tougher recently to keep up with tasks that are so tempting to save for later. God bless!

  • @allrez4157
    @allrez4157 4 роки тому +194

    "You're not a procrastinator, you have a HABIT of procrastinating." I couldn't agree more. Right after I joined the army's, I struggled in the beginning because of this terrible habit. But in two weeks, as I kept going through the days, I was broken and I've never felt so good about myself.

    • @rangelrenteria1038
      @rangelrenteria1038 2 роки тому +1

      Broken how?

    • @paulperez6167
      @paulperez6167 2 роки тому +1

      @@rangelrenteria1038 it's a bit like breaking an unrideable horse.

    • @mo1976ney
      @mo1976ney 2 роки тому +4

      @@rangelrenteria1038 I think he means his habit was broken

  • @michaelciancetta6397
    @michaelciancetta6397 4 роки тому +83

    This video changed completely my view on procrastination... will start following her advice in a couple of months maybe three..

    • @pastoradeboyeadeboye566
      @pastoradeboyeadeboye566 3 роки тому

      Beloved, I don't know you in person but God know you. God ministered to me in a revelation when I was on your profile to see things around you,I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them,in prayers,i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, and with motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, Render hand of favour with Anything you can afford or give to these motherless foundation (Godstime MOTHERLESS FOUNDATION) in kebbi state Nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help them call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on (WhatsApp or call them now on +2349047398089) tell him I sent an you. For it is not by might nor by in power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah 4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you in Jesus name........

  • @oana1111
    @oana1111 Рік тому +3

    I have been trying for years to break my procrastination habit but until now I didn’t have a job I felt so strong about that I’d move mountains looking for a solution. I have one now and am feeling like it’s slipping through my fingers, really don’t want to screw this chance up too. So here it goes, starting exactly now (not tomorrow morning) I’m applying it. If it works I may tatoo the bloody steps on my arm 😂 Wish me perseverance.
    Edit: It worked! for a day... then I couldn't remember the magic formula anymore :)) should have tattooed it indeed. Back to this video, let's try again. If I never edit it again it probably means I'm not procrastinating by looking for anti-procrastinations videos anymore.

  • @hoolimooliyt
    @hoolimooliyt Рік тому +2

    This video has resonated with me so much, I have tried so many different things to stop procrastinating and nothing seems to work because everything stems from the huge amounts of stress I feel in my life most of the time so I´m actually gonna try her plan and I hope to God it works.

  • @AyodejiAwosikaCreates
    @AyodejiAwosikaCreates 4 роки тому +166

    Love the distinction between identity and behavior. It's truly the core of personal growth altogether.

  • @setton4943
    @setton4943 3 роки тому +123

    I'm sitting here at nearly 6am in front of my laptop when I first sat down at 11pm and haven't even wrote a sentence yet all the while browsing UA-cam and staring at the screen 😥

    • @Hey_Its_Mikki
      @Hey_Its_Mikki 3 роки тому +7

      Lol. That sounds like something I'd do. I feel so normal now knowing this 😅

    • @playingcasual2024
      @playingcasual2024 3 роки тому +2

      Cut off distractions.

    • @milesowens3273
      @milesowens3273 3 роки тому

      Its 4am rn lol

    • @NightMiner24
      @NightMiner24 3 роки тому +1

      bro we must have the same exact brain then

    • @adiver_
      @adiver_ 2 роки тому

      Not the only one ....5:50 AM

  • @lenakan8990
    @lenakan8990 8 місяців тому +1

    This helps... SO so much! Great talk, it actually helps me a lot with procrastination on homework and other things, still working but it IS working.

  • @TheBipin819
    @TheBipin819 9 місяців тому

    Excellent as always 🙏

  • @annieblogger489
    @annieblogger489 5 років тому +227

    Huge respect for Mel... your last video on procrastination was also excellent. I also continue having amazing results with the Procrastination Elimination Method by John Isaac. Worth trying.

  • @jimwilliams4088
    @jimwilliams4088 3 роки тому +37

    1) Acknowledge the stress.
    2) Count: 54321
    3) Interrupt the Procrastination Habit
    4) Just do 1 thing
    5) Work for 5 minutes

  • @devadityabhattacharya
    @devadityabhattacharya 9 місяців тому

    Thanks Mel 😊

  • @shettydhanu9211
    @shettydhanu9211 9 місяців тому

    Thank You for this information.

  • @Light-cy1gp
    @Light-cy1gp 3 роки тому +18

    Mel Robbins, whats different in your approach to motivating others is that u empathise with us all, u didnt shout, u didn't even say 1 single bad thing about people who procastinate, u uplift people and then your advice is short and to the point, i think u would be someone who would motivate all the billions of people if they heard your speech, your speech comes from a place of decisiveness and very easy practical advice , plus u don't go into long details about your life but u gave us a solution to a problem so many people go through everyday, im a medical student and i needed to study but wasn't motivated, but then i listened to your advice in here and i am actually reading right now and all the negative self beliefs i had are literally gone by just watching your video, may Allaah make u enter heaven ,thank u so much i appreciate the hard work u do for us all thank u , its people like u who lift up the world.

  • @mritam123
    @mritam123 3 роки тому +12

    This makes sense.
    Note to self : Don’t chicken out.
    Stress is the trigger. Don’t avoid doing something. You are never going to be stress relief in life.

  • @sameerthakur720
    @sameerthakur720 9 місяців тому

    I definitely need to watch this. I will watch it tomorrow.

  • @ashwatson7097
    @ashwatson7097 2 роки тому

    You are so so Correct Mel. First time I understood why I was procastinating. I was so stressful about everything that was going on and i just wanted to relax and forget and relax and time passed by and boom it was too late. .

  • @lemonyapples
    @lemonyapples 5 років тому +11

    I'm one of the 20 percent. I don't go on after 5 min, heck sometimes I don't even finish the 5 min of work. Then, when I'm procrastinating I don't stop cause I know I won't even do it for 5 min even if I try to break the habit.

  • @grace5447
    @grace5447 3 роки тому +94

    I see all these jokes about them procrastinating, but here I am beating myself up for still not starting work due tomorrow morning. I seriously need to change.

    • @aiaimizu
      @aiaimizu 2 роки тому

      did you do the work?

    • @grace5447
      @grace5447 2 роки тому +5

      @@aiaimizu I did. But I can say the result was not my best because I was just trying to get over it.

    • @unknownhero4816
      @unknownhero4816 2 роки тому +7

      We make fun of it, but it's actually a serious issue... Jokes are just a coping mechanism. Hope it got better for you, hang in there.

    • @grace5447
      @grace5447 2 роки тому +1

      @@unknownhero4816 Thank you. I hope we all overcome this soon.

    • @sofiahuerta6029
      @sofiahuerta6029 2 роки тому

      Same

  • @rahilarora5553
    @rahilarora5553 Рік тому +7

    Amazing I tried many things but this 10-9-8 counting helped me alot❤️

  • @tedboatsman9307
    @tedboatsman9307 9 місяців тому +1

    This is outstanding knowledge! Thank you.

  • @Weissklangi
    @Weissklangi 5 років тому +28

    Perfect timing as always! Here I was sitting and not starting to learn for my next exam in a few days, always reading or watching sth. else than learning, because I'm so stressed about it and want sth. relaxing.

  • @rayofcreation3996
    @rayofcreation3996 3 роки тому +13

    “Procrastination is attitude's natural assassin. There's nothing so fatiguing as an uncompleted task.”
    William James

  • @bahasadri3636
    @bahasadri3636 8 місяців тому

    Thnx so very much for opening my eyes on why I always procastinate !

  • @linuxsurfer2002
    @linuxsurfer2002 9 місяців тому +1

    I have found that just forcing yourself to start, and just work for 5 or 10 minutes, like she says, does absolute wonders. I'll be dreading a task (folding laundry), but if I just fold for 10 minutes, knowing I can quit in 10 minutes, I will usually just finish it. Or say I do quit after 10 minutes, I feel like I've accomplished something and am more likely to come back later and do another 10 minutes, until it's finished.

  • @Anthroid9
    @Anthroid9 4 роки тому +15

    This was a hidden gem. Thank you!

  • @MinecraftBoy-bj5bn
    @MinecraftBoy-bj5bn 4 роки тому +7

    Thanksgiving break started and we’re off for a week and I have a lot of homework. Instead of procrastinating and doing it for 5 hours straight on Sunday night like usual I’ve been splitting it up daily. I feel so much more relaxed and stress free knowing that I won’t have to eventually deal with a pile of work at the end of break.

  • @aarushisb
    @aarushisb 2 роки тому +5

    Me procrastinating rn and watching this video instead of working: 👀
    Seriously though if you see this comment it is a sign that you can do it! You watched the video to help you break this habit so that is a step in the right direction. Go do something you have to do but have been avoiding.

  • @lmcnultyn
    @lmcnultyn 4 місяці тому

    I've always suffered from procrastination and it has always been a major habit that is very hard to break for me. For me, it mostly stems from not having the desire and not being in the zone to do any work as the thought of doing what I need to do would be exhausting and off-putting. Thanks so much for this valuable information. I will work hard to apply the steps to breaking this habit and all other habits that I have.

  • @rosewaterlily2886
    @rosewaterlily2886 4 роки тому +10

    I already suspected that my procrastination tendencies have something to do with my stress levels, it's just nice to have it confirmed by someone who knows what they're talking about : P

  • @dannyrandolph1033
    @dannyrandolph1033 5 років тому +178

    Thank you. Wow! So simple.
    Thank you also for removing the shame associated with procrastinating.
    I have a habit of procrastinating.
    Habits can be changed!

    • @melrobbins
      @melrobbins  5 років тому +14

      Yes, Dan!! Habits can be changed - you go this!!!

  • @sangam6112
    @sangam6112 8 місяців тому

    Very very thanks,it will be blessing for me if it will work.

  • @sghantous
    @sghantous 9 місяців тому

    I keep meaning to watch this

  • @n3b266
    @n3b266 3 роки тому +8

    I was a really bad procrastinator because I loved the stress I work my best under pressure and I always got my work done some how. But I came up with a really simple plan that works every time; I would get a piece of paper(not connected to notebooks) I would write 5-10 tasks I wanted to do in a day. Once I completed a task I scribbled it out(very satisfying) once I got those tasks done I would throw the paper away. It is always satisfying to cross out finished work and once it is done throwing it away is that weight being lifted off your shoulders.constantly crossing off your tasks gives you that motivation to move on to the next and next until the paper is gone! If you ca only do 2 tasks in a day you write 2 tasks down and do them. All of these people over complicate it, the simpler the method the more likely you do it.

    • @NairaKa
      @NairaKa Рік тому +1

      Seems like a good habit 👍🏼

  • @antwuntrademark
    @antwuntrademark 4 роки тому +6

    Watching and learning this helped me to fully commit to filming, editing and posting videos again. 🙌🏽✨ Thank you 🖤

  • @selinaylacin1449
    @selinaylacin1449 2 роки тому +2

    i think procrastination is a form of stress.we don’t wanna start to the things because we think if we jump out from our comfort zone bad things will happen and we will be stressed more. but you have to remember that there’s no 1 human being who doesn’t have stress in her/his life. and don’t forget, good things take effort, tears and time. ~beauty is pain~
    JUST LEAVE YOUR COMFORT ZONE AND BE PROUD OF YOURSELF AFTER THAT!!

  • @southeast_9072
    @southeast_9072 2 роки тому +1

    Sweet and right to the point, love it! ❤️

  • @rajat_singla
    @rajat_singla 4 роки тому +25

    Now that I have seen this. I am gonna change my life, tomorrow.

  • @sarahmagin7914
    @sarahmagin7914 5 років тому +8

    Thank you so much for sharing this. When I read about this in the 5 Second Rule, it was eye opening. It helped me so much to overcome my habit of procrastination, because I finally figured out the actual problem. Now I get so much more done. Really, thank you.

  • @lilyrose141
    @lilyrose141 2 роки тому +3

    i love the fact that this video is so short and precise! i actually watched it and took the information in, unlike the procrastination videos in my watch later list that are like 20 minutes long

    • @ensoasmrmusichouse9861
      @ensoasmrmusichouse9861 2 роки тому

      You may want to give this video (ua-cam.com/video/xbPy5afSMJU/v-deo.html ) a go. It’s structured around the pomodoro technique consisting 4 sets of ‘25min work + 5mins break’.
      Supposed to be particularly helpful when you are finding it hard to concentrate or have just done a procrastination binge.
      No harm trying I guess. All the best for your goals! 😉

  • @paulinaluc
    @paulinaluc 9 місяців тому

    You're being very helpful. 💕 I'm grateful to have encountered your channel. All the best - Paulina 🙂

  • @shubhanshubisht1667
    @shubhanshubisht1667 5 років тому +7

    It makes so much sense... Thanks for breaking it down

  • @souvikguha
    @souvikguha 5 років тому +4

    This is probably the best video about breaking 'the habit of procrastination'. Will try. Thank you so much.

  • @llllllllllllllllll663
    @llllllllllllllllll663 2 роки тому +1

    I love the idea of procrastination being a habit and not a character trait 🙂It encourages people to actually make a change in their life.

  • @Lysana7
    @Lysana7 5 років тому +6

    thank you, Mel! you are the only one that actually talks about procrastination being a coping mechanism for stress relief... it makes such a big difference in my opinion to know this and it is just so true!!! XX

  • @kaushikkantak8271
    @kaushikkantak8271 3 роки тому +9

    I am totally agreed... I am wasting my time since last year more than 15-16 months, but today I found out the true reason of procrastination. I hope from today I will be more conscious about this reason and strive hard to stop procrastinate. I am saving this screen shot for my future. When I can prove that you are 100% right.

  • @indee9800
    @indee9800 2 роки тому

    I find myself working efficiently when doing things one at a time, then having a very long break after. Thank you for insightful video 🙏

  • @worldofsoumya
    @worldofsoumya 2 роки тому

    Thank you so much! 🙏🙏🙏

  • @HolyManta
    @HolyManta 4 роки тому +7

    First speaker that actually helped me with procrastination

  • @efrenarevalo2025
    @efrenarevalo2025 4 роки тому +259

    Procrastination will go away naturally, just give it some time.

  • @shababaltaf7875
    @shababaltaf7875 2 роки тому

    This is really true, I have seen direct correlation with my work situation affecting my ability to deliver on personal goals.

  • @donutguy804
    @donutguy804 9 місяців тому

    Added to watch later!

  • @yassernadeem
    @yassernadeem 5 років тому +3

    The single most VALUABLE video I have seen so far in helping me working

  • @yumorules
    @yumorules 5 років тому +4

    What a superb speaker.....easy on the eye too😃

  • @geneg3776
    @geneg3776 Рік тому +1

    Yes when I procrastinate it's mostly emotional not laziness for me. Great video.

  • @pursuingvirtue
    @pursuingvirtue Рік тому +13

    You may have just shifted my life in 3 minutes. Thank you for the knowledge/insight/wisdom God has given you on this topic.

  • @ashleyj2526
    @ashleyj2526 5 років тому +31

    Thank you so much Mel! Every one of your videos is such a powerful concept. Your videos are like talking to that one best friend you have that no matter what tells you the absolute truth and so refreshing. I am so glad that I found your Channel

    • @melrobbins
      @melrobbins  5 років тому +2

      Happy to hear this - thank you!!! xo