The ONLY Way To Stop Procrastinating | Mel Robbins

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  • @ej9100
    @ej9100 2 роки тому +4760

    1. Acknowledge the stress
    2. Count 5-4-3-2-1
    3. Interrupt the procrastination habit
    4. Do 1 thing ( at least for 5 minutes, and once you started, you will keep going)
    GOODLUCK EVERYONE!

  • @jatinmaharao6888
    @jatinmaharao6888 5 років тому +13001

    Do I struggle with procrastination? Nope I am really good at it.

  • @knowhowtodo
    @knowhowtodo Рік тому +1035

    Procrastinating is one of the worst habits and sadly it's not easy to break.
    Everyone who is trying, good luck! 💪🏻

    • @nintensumphyrx4230
      @nintensumphyrx4230 Рік тому +11

      thabk you 😔

    • @marietambinya8878
      @marietambinya8878 Рік тому +1

      Thanks 😢

    • @Phymacss
      @Phymacss Рік тому +1

      Thanks💔

    • @_Ginger_Tea_
      @_Ginger_Tea_ Рік тому +6

      If you want to procrastinate less and concentrate better on studying you can study with me here.
      Instead of watching videos on youtube you can have a video of me studying and keeping you company, so you don't get distracted.
      I study for 1-3 hours with breaks in between while I keep you company
      If you're interested, feel free to study with study videos of mine
      Hopefully it will be useful for you ❤

    • @lostman8990
      @lostman8990 Рік тому

      Thank you, I appreciate your message. 🙏☮️☀️☯️

  • @thomaspound115
    @thomaspound115 6 років тому +21731

    I’m procrastinating by watching a video on how to not procrastinate. ughhh mixed emotions

    • @tysonreesmusic
      @tysonreesmusic 6 років тому +267

      Right there with you bro

    • @thomaspound115
      @thomaspound115 6 років тому +90

      Glad you are mate

    • @tysonreesmusic
      @tysonreesmusic 6 років тому +176

      Yep, been at work 5 hours and haven't done a thing. Feels bad man.

    • @indohhh
      @indohhh 6 років тому +74

      This club has now 3 members

    • @thomaspound115
      @thomaspound115 6 років тому +80

      let’s form a rebellion

  • @birdgirl8390
    @birdgirl8390 4 роки тому +3864

    Understanding that procrastination is a response/self-defence to stress is already a big step, thank you

    • @viharsarok
      @viharsarok 3 роки тому +39

      It's more like an inability to shift focus deliberately.

    • @funmilayofunmilayo5203
      @funmilayofunmilayo5203 3 роки тому

      Pppppppppppppppppppppppp

    • @gocaines
      @gocaines 3 роки тому

      Yessssa

    • @geniezambia2868
      @geniezambia2868 3 роки тому +28

      but how is blinding my self from reality to avoid the current stress going to help me overcome future stress that will with out a doubt show up because of unconfronted emotions all in the name of self defense

    • @amirulkhalid157
      @amirulkhalid157 2 роки тому +3

      so true, massive key point. That thought has been helping me a lot on a daily basis!

  • @D-Man_Jam
    @D-Man_Jam 3 роки тому +814

    _"Procrastination is a form of stress relief"_
    Me who is stressed from procrastinating: *"I'm 4 parallel universes ahead of you."*

    • @selinaylacin1449
      @selinaylacin1449 3 роки тому +109

      my stress affects my procrastination and my procrastination affects my stress. it’s a fucking loop!

    • @Sarahizahhsum
      @Sarahizahhsum 2 роки тому +28

      @@selinaylacin1449 is a cycle! Break the cycle!

    • @pravashi_382
      @pravashi_382 2 роки тому +10

      Yeah it's a cycle of procastination...i saw a video by Ted Ed

    • @mansi3091
      @mansi3091 Рік тому +5

      Have you guys been able to break the cycle yet?

    • @aryanram02
      @aryanram02 Рік тому

      @user-pv3mq7wx9t do u mind sharing how to do that lol thanks :))

  • @akshatshah3961
    @akshatshah3961 4 роки тому +2305

    “An hour is gone by”
    So relatable!

  • @maddyc503
    @maddyc503 5 років тому +8455

    I added it to watch later.
    No one can help me 🙄

  • @rubenjooste4383
    @rubenjooste4383 2 роки тому +144

    Who else is procrastinating by watching this

    • @markangell3017
      @markangell3017 9 місяців тому

      😂yep

    • @TramishaWashington
      @TramishaWashington 6 місяців тому

      Me 😂

    • @voicesoftheunderground6957
      @voicesoftheunderground6957 4 місяці тому

      I stopped in the middle of housework initially to check what I was feeling as I dropped some items that belong in the attic at the bottom of the stairs, but that got uncomfortable fast so I looked up "feelings behind procrastination". Rather than sit with the feeling I deferred to UA-cam to tell me...

    • @politicalscience-768
      @politicalscience-768 Місяць тому

      😅😂

    • @narcisoanasui246
      @narcisoanasui246 14 днів тому

      Stop looking for validation and be better

  • @akaparz4109
    @akaparz4109 4 роки тому +4923

    Stop scrolling down deep, listen to her

  • @exposez
    @exposez 6 років тому +5674

    Procrastination is a habit.
    It's kind of a self defense against stress.
    Be aware of your behavior (the procrastination) and Acknowledge the stress.
    Get yourself to start.
    Think that you will deal with the problem for just five minutes.
    After that 80 % of you will continue.
    Thanks Mel Robbins!

    • @spamaccount4513
      @spamaccount4513 5 років тому +55

      summarized in a great way!

    • @bongobliss5795
      @bongobliss5795 5 років тому +84

      Can u plz help the other 20% that include me

    • @mrbennett
      @mrbennett 5 років тому +81

      @@bongobliss5795 Get yourself to start again with the 5-second rule for another 5 minutes. Repeat the cycle till you can go longer than 5 minutes.
      If you find you can't go longer than 5 minutes ever, then maybe you need to reevaluate and decide if you really want the goal you have set for yourself and if that action you cannot stay on for longer than 5 minutes is a necessary step for achieving that goal. You also need to be sure you actually have the skills to execute on that task.
      If your goal is the problem, change it.
      If you find that step is not necessary for your goal, eliminate it.
      If you don't have the skill and you are not enthusiastic about learning it, get assistance from someone who does while you focus on the things you have the ability to execute on.

    • @jenster29
      @jenster29 5 років тому +6

      No! Thank You!
      Coz now I don't have to watch the video.. Even though its been on my watch later list for some time

    • @SB-fo7em
      @SB-fo7em 5 років тому

      Very well said

  • @nolomoussy9407
    @nolomoussy9407 5 років тому +3604

    I know what my problem is: phones and screens
    being addicted to watching stuff and letting your brain be passive

    • @siddharthrajan616
      @siddharthrajan616 5 років тому +204

      Very good you have understood the problem. Now go out and do an activity that makes very good use of your brain. Learn a language,read a hard science book, pick up a new sport or start making videos....whatever u wanna do just start taking action(at the beginning take it slow) towards it. Soon u will break out of this habit. You may not see quick progress but just stick with it. Show up again and again and again...that's true progress towards your goals.

    • @omniscientomnipresent5500
      @omniscientomnipresent5500 5 років тому +3

      Mmm...

    • @Amy623
      @Amy623 5 років тому +9

      Sleep smarter by Shawn Stevenson helped me allot

    • @cyberneticbutterfly8506
      @cyberneticbutterfly8506 5 років тому +13

      On a bigger scale it's the nature of distraction itself, and how you as a person deal with distraction.

    • @omwtobeatprocrastination7766
      @omwtobeatprocrastination7766 5 років тому +26

      Legit, but even though I've tried, it's like I can't stop using my phone/laptop and it frustrates me so much

  • @franticzenster8140
    @franticzenster8140 5 років тому +3388

    Procrastination stems from a fear of life. Discipline helps, but ultimately the fear must be addressed to truly be free.

    • @aammssaamm
      @aammssaamm 5 років тому +52

      Do what you like doing and have no fear.

    • @KingKong-mp6gj
      @KingKong-mp6gj 5 років тому +11

      True words.

    • @shuepsx652
      @shuepsx652 5 років тому +155

      @@aammssaamm What you like doing might not pay the bills...

    • @aammssaamm
      @aammssaamm 5 років тому +15

      @@shuepsx652 If you like working for free who can stop you? LOL

    • @antereaw6178
      @antereaw6178 5 років тому +41

      Anne Smith bills...bills can stop you lol

  • @allinone478-z8r
    @allinone478-z8r 4 місяці тому +1737

    Theres a book called Hidden Time Wealth, and it talks about how using some secret techniques, you can overcome procrastination and accomplish anything in life. Its not just a bunch of empty promises; its the real deal.

    • @IcaroL3ITE
      @IcaroL3ITE 4 місяці тому

      Who's the author?

    • @JyotiradityaDwivedi-j6e
      @JyotiradityaDwivedi-j6e 4 місяці тому

      author name ?

    • @CookiePlaysOfficial
      @CookiePlaysOfficial 4 місяці тому

      I need that

    • @Victoria-wp3sd
      @Victoria-wp3sd 2 місяці тому

      I googled Hidden time wealth and couldn’t find the book anywhere.

    • @mr.B247
      @mr.B247 2 місяці тому +3

      Because there's none. It'll just guide to a scam website to rip you off.
      The website has a clock as background & offers e book for 29€.

  • @9squares
    @9squares 5 років тому +2549

    Procrastination is a crime, it only leads to sorrow. I can stop it anytime… I think I will tomorrow!

    • @plumberdash9729
      @plumberdash9729 5 років тому +65

      3 weeks later.....
      Did you actually do it

    • @9squares
      @9squares 5 років тому +92

      @@plumberdash9729 I will, I will, I have been so busy you know... You make it sound like I have a habit of this.

    • @plumberdash9729
      @plumberdash9729 5 років тому +38

      @@9squares no no its ok i procrastinated yesterday when i had a physics exam today.....i went with only studying one chapter.....and i procrastinated to review that chapter so i forgot it before i intered the exam.....you can guess the rest 🙂

    • @KatarinaS.
      @KatarinaS. 5 років тому +50

      When we put off til the next day
      By choosing to play
      And repeatedly delay
      What we can do today
      Our own self we disobey
      And our nerves we fray
      While slowly wasting our life away

    • @christina4012
      @christina4012 5 років тому +1

      Mmm same

  • @robinhood_stock_trader2183
    @robinhood_stock_trader2183 5 років тому +727

    "The worst form of procrastination is reading a procrastination quote, feeling the guilt and not doing anything about it."

    • @Martin.Wilson
      @Martin.Wilson 3 роки тому +28

      I have a plaque on the wall of my man cave that says "If I said I'd do it, I will.....you don't need to keep reminding me every six months".

    • @asthaaggarwal.7270
      @asthaaggarwal.7270 3 роки тому +8

      That’s me…. I WILL GET THROUGH THIS HECK YEAAAAA

    • @rangelrenteria1038
      @rangelrenteria1038 3 роки тому +2

      Na you just dgaf

    • @blitz-rs7xp
      @blitz-rs7xp Рік тому +2

      This is a procrastination quote.

    • @jaimealexander2505
      @jaimealexander2505 Рік тому +1

      @@Martin.Wilson😂

  • @84071639
    @84071639 2 роки тому +37

    When I'm anxious and stressed it seems more difficult to carry out the simplest activity. Sometimes I get addicted to scrolling down my youtube feed or any other social media (especially when I don't sleep well at night) and my attention span decreases substantially, so when it happens procrastinating is almost inevitable because my brain only wants little effort and lots of dopamine.

    • @RaraRemi_312
      @RaraRemi_312 4 місяці тому

      It goes in a vicious cycle because anxiety and depression are big stress culprits. ... Anxious/stressed/depressed = procrastinate; procrastinate = stressed/depressed/anxious

  • @procrastinatingnow9451
    @procrastinatingnow9451 6 років тому +1499

    "Things may come to those who wait, but only the things left by those who hustle."
    ~ Abraham Lincon

    • @redrock1963
      @redrock1963 5 років тому +30

      Despite many references on the Internet to Lincoln saying this quote, there is no evidence to support it. Within The Collected Works of Abraham Lincoln, he says the phrase “things may” only three times, and never says “things may come,” “things left,” or the word “hustle.”

    • @ghassankhan7728
      @ghassankhan7728 5 років тому +26

      I think it’s supposed to be taken as a joke haha, I doubt people are that dumb

    • @redrock1963
      @redrock1963 5 років тому +20

      @@ghassankhan7728 - ......." I doubt people are that dumb". Now I assume THAT is meant as a joke......right?

    • @admiralampere5513
      @admiralampere5513 5 років тому +7

      @@redrock1963 damn, a double r/wooosh, that's rare

    • @redrock1963
      @redrock1963 5 років тому +3

      @@admiralampere5513 - LOL so rare you can tell your grandkids about it.

  • @AdrianaGirdler
    @AdrianaGirdler 6 років тому +491

    Looking at procrastination as a habit makes it seem that much easier to overcome. This was an excellent explanation. Thanks, Mel!

    • @melrobbins
      @melrobbins  6 років тому +57

      Yes - the habit can be broken!

    • @pastoradeboyeadeboye566
      @pastoradeboyeadeboye566 4 роки тому

      Beloved, I don't know you in person but God know you. God ministered to me in a revelation when I was on your profile to see things around you,I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them,in prayers,i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, and with motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, Render hand of favour with Anything you can afford or give to these motherless foundation (Godstime MOTHERLESS FOUNDATION) in kebbi state Nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help them call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on (WhatsApp or call them now on +2349047398089) tell him I sent an you. For it is not by might nor by in power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah 4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you in Jesus name........

    • @papichilo9437
      @papichilo9437 4 роки тому +5

      @@pastoradeboyeadeboye566 wtf.

  • @sarshak8420
    @sarshak8420 Рік тому +13

    Yes, I procrastinate on calling people that I really need to call. It's my anxiety and having to talk to the person and sound professional or sound like I know what I am talking about.

    • @tinal316
      @tinal316 8 місяців тому +1

      I feel that.

  • @pankajkela4406
    @pankajkela4406 4 роки тому +73

    1. Procrastination is a mechanism stress relief
    2. It is a habit
    3. Every habit has trigger, pattern, reward
    4. The only way to break a habit is to never deal with trigger, but break the pattern
    5. Next time you procrastinate, remind yourself you are stressed, count down 5 4 3 2 1 and work just for 5 minutes.
    6. If you work just for 5 minutes, for 80% of people they will continue working.
    7. Breaker of chains, YOU

  • @mauriciogerhardt3209
    @mauriciogerhardt3209 5 років тому +1954

    Skip to 3 minutes:
    1) acknowledge the stress that you feel when you think of doing the think you're avoiding.
    2) count 5 4 3 2 1 so you'll activate your prefrontal cortex.
    3) interrupt the procrastination habit by starting the stuff you are avoiding. If you just start, 80% of people will continue it doing it.

    • @mauriciogerhardt3209
      @mauriciogerhardt3209 5 років тому +34

      @@simonelastname5182 I dunno, I was just summing up the video so people wouldn't have to watch the whole thing.

    • @cautarepvp2079
      @cautarepvp2079 5 років тому +9

      how to acknowledge the stress? How to know?

    • @harukaf.n.1994
      @harukaf.n.1994 5 років тому +57

      It's just 3 minutes omg I'm sure all procrastinators here can watch more than 3 mins of advice

    • @365MRYOLO
      @365MRYOLO 5 років тому +4

      Simone LastName at that point, look for a video on “how do I know how to do things”

    • @KH-ks7si
      @KH-ks7si 4 роки тому +12

      @@simonelastname5182 you just have to think about your future. Just think about (more effective the younger you are) how if you dont do what you have to you will never become what you could possibly be. And imagine being old and thinking back on all of your regrets and realizing you could have been so much more. When i think about that its a lot scarier than some work.

  • @arsenigold9470
    @arsenigold9470 11 місяців тому +9

    This video has been sitting in my "Watch later" for over 3 years now, finally uncorked it, and it is great!

  • @methmemelab8819
    @methmemelab8819 5 років тому +460

    I am a major procrastinator but I've never watched a single video on how to stop procrastinating still UA-cam recommended me this video. Interesting!

  • @lexayyubhfdshvfjwndg
    @lexayyubhfdshvfjwndg Рік тому +320

    I have attempted to meditate many times in my life and prior to this CD the only success I've experienced is with live guided meditation. ua-cam.com/users/postUgkxzpa8CIfZcihW4Z0F_ja0QF3W9KIatrsq This is the first CD I've used that cuts through my unmedicated ADHD and enables me to truly relax and experience a quiet and energizing interval. The instructors voice is very soothing and pleasant to listen to. I am easily able to sit successfully through the entire CD, and for quite some time after. I cannot adequately express how tremendously helpful this CD has been on my spiritual journey!! Two thumbs up and 10 stars!

  • @fyradur
    @fyradur 3 роки тому +191

    Finally a productivity video that actually will make a difference in the world.
    This actually uses a solid method backed up by science with clear instructions, instead of those "motivational, reach for your goal" videos. From studies we know that setting a goal and watching motivational videos does nothing.

    • @brooksfaucette296
      @brooksfaucette296 3 роки тому +9

      yeah most motivational speakers are quacks, even though they may think they are doing something. this is good stuff

    • @kenzo6994
      @kenzo6994 3 роки тому +3

      yeah fax, anyways i’m a huge drug dealer and I need some advice. You guys are good at hiding during useful moments. Where do I keep my narcotics

  • @cupcakee993
    @cupcakee993 2 роки тому +894

    I procrastinate way too much but once I start doing the work , I can do it for 15 hours straight without any break I just need to start bruh😭

    • @salmaakka1075
      @salmaakka1075 2 роки тому +13

      Not your username I love it gsfqgqhjqkqlqjqgqv and am also here to stop procrastinating work and watchin bts's stuffs instead xd

    • @aislingdavis9066
      @aislingdavis9066 2 роки тому +14

      Sounds like ADHD

    • @danacaro-herman3530
      @danacaro-herman3530 2 роки тому +2

      That's awesome!!

    • @patriciaa4260
      @patriciaa4260 Рік тому +1

      I literally just did this 😭

    • @عالمالزهراء-ذ2و
      @عالمالزهراء-ذ2و Рік тому +20

      It's because you brain already knows that he's preparing for a hard task thats why you procrastinate

  • @Delulu6537
    @Delulu6537 5 років тому +240

    Love from India 💗💗
    This really works ...I count 54321 and i make up my mind to study for 5mins or just 1 page ...By this way I started to completing my syllabus more and more day by day ... I came here again to thank you ..

    • @En_theo
      @En_theo 5 років тому +27

      54321... that's a big number

    • @Ankit-zu2kp
      @Ankit-zu2kp 5 років тому +5

      You would've done it anyway. Real procrastinators can't be helped.

    • @ralsei7170
      @ralsei7170 5 років тому +3

      @@En_theo lol

    • @hemangipujare1090
      @hemangipujare1090 5 років тому +2

      I am from India too !Namaste!

    • @NairaKa
      @NairaKa 2 роки тому

      Thank you 🙏 I m gonna try too

  • @allrez4157
    @allrez4157 4 роки тому +199

    "You're not a procrastinator, you have a HABIT of procrastinating." I couldn't agree more. Right after I joined the army's, I struggled in the beginning because of this terrible habit. But in two weeks, as I kept going through the days, I was broken and I've never felt so good about myself.

    • @rangelrenteria1038
      @rangelrenteria1038 3 роки тому +1

      Broken how?

    • @paulperez6167
      @paulperez6167 3 роки тому +1

      @@rangelrenteria1038 it's a bit like breaking an unrideable horse.

    • @mo1976ney
      @mo1976ney 3 роки тому +4

      @@rangelrenteria1038 I think he means his habit was broken

  • @jasonsullivan7852
    @jasonsullivan7852 Рік тому +3

    You've heard people say, "just do it." It sounds motivational and punchy but oftentimes isn't effective. (If I could *just do it*, I would just do it!) A better slogan for procrastinators is "just start." Of all the things I've read and watched about procrastination, that seems to be the best advice. Any action is better than none at all.

  • @ayosinsights
    @ayosinsights 4 роки тому +168

    Love the distinction between identity and behavior. It's truly the core of personal growth altogether.

  • @michaelciancetta6397
    @michaelciancetta6397 5 років тому +83

    This video changed completely my view on procrastination... will start following her advice in a couple of months maybe three..

    • @pastoradeboyeadeboye566
      @pastoradeboyeadeboye566 4 роки тому

      Beloved, I don't know you in person but God know you. God ministered to me in a revelation when I was on your profile to see things around you,I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them,in prayers,i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, and with motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, Render hand of favour with Anything you can afford or give to these motherless foundation (Godstime MOTHERLESS FOUNDATION) in kebbi state Nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help them call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on (WhatsApp or call them now on +2349047398089) tell him I sent an you. For it is not by might nor by in power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah 4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you in Jesus name........

  • @Light-cy1gp
    @Light-cy1gp 4 роки тому +18

    Mel Robbins, whats different in your approach to motivating others is that u empathise with us all, u didnt shout, u didn't even say 1 single bad thing about people who procastinate, u uplift people and then your advice is short and to the point, i think u would be someone who would motivate all the billions of people if they heard your speech, your speech comes from a place of decisiveness and very easy practical advice , plus u don't go into long details about your life but u gave us a solution to a problem so many people go through everyday, im a medical student and i needed to study but wasn't motivated, but then i listened to your advice in here and i am actually reading right now and all the negative self beliefs i had are literally gone by just watching your video, may Allaah make u enter heaven ,thank u so much i appreciate the hard work u do for us all thank u , its people like u who lift up the world.

  • @filipthedev4159
    @filipthedev4159 5 років тому +757

    "How to stop procrastinating"
    - I'll watch it later

    • @aishwaryar1290
      @aishwaryar1290 4 роки тому +3

      That's me

    • @Meadowwing
      @Meadowwing 4 роки тому +4

      Ha ha... well one thing I have learned today is that we all have a sense of humor about it that's pretty nice I think good luck to everybody

    • @Midalias25
      @Midalias25 4 роки тому +1

      😂

    • @3bed999
      @3bed999 3 роки тому

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    • @leeroy14r60
      @leeroy14r60 3 роки тому +1

      Guess what was in my watch later since 2018?😂

  • @cristian-bull
    @cristian-bull 3 роки тому +167

    I work on pomodoro periods of 25 minutes.
    Sometimes I find it very hard to start, so I split the first pomodoro in 10min work, 5min rest, 15min work.
    After that it's a lot easier to keep going with the 25min intervals. The idea of just getting started even for a short period really helps.

    • @gemmeldrakes2758
      @gemmeldrakes2758 3 роки тому +5

      I had to do that too. I thought i was the only one.

    • @Roastpeef
      @Roastpeef 2 роки тому +4

      I think I'll try this. Starting with 10minutes.

    • @ashuzguitar
      @ashuzguitar 2 роки тому +2

      Thx for the useful tip. I'll share it with my village, and they'll thank you too.

    • @carolinasantiago6508
      @carolinasantiago6508 2 роки тому +2

      wow i love the idea!! thank u very muchh!!

    • @aristocracydemocracy7455
      @aristocracydemocracy7455 2 роки тому

      In my case, I usually take a cold shower. And during the process it causes very quick heart racing. So the idea is basically to overcome with my procrastination and take myself into action.

  • @Tomroberts101
    @Tomroberts101 5 років тому +83

    This must be the 100th video I've watched on procrastination.

  • @_lil_lil
    @_lil_lil 3 роки тому +464

    "You're not a procrastinator. You have A--"
    Me: "-DHD"
    "...habit of procrastinating"
    Me: "well, that too" 😅

    • @kw6724
      @kw6724 3 роки тому +3

      😂😂😂😂😂

    • @Sherriselee
      @Sherriselee 3 роки тому +9

      Yeah I'm wondering if this technique works for people with ADHD... 😰

    • @Vijayyadav-sx4dt
      @Vijayyadav-sx4dt 3 роки тому +1

      Oh that's hard.. I also can't pay attention and focus how do I know if I have ADHD?

    • @ferris2323
      @ferris2323 3 роки тому +19

      Just got diagnosed at 25, got called lazy my whole life. Turns out I had rampant adhd that went unnoticed because I have the inattentive (inward) projection and I’m an introvert. So I can focus really well in social settings like the classroom and library(because I don’t feel like everyone’s eyes are bearing down on me like I do at places like the grocery store) but I sit down to study at home and it quite literally takes me 2-3 hours to get into a “zone” where I don’t have to reread everything multiple times because I space out constantly and end up passively reading and don’t notice. Though there was a bit of laziness when I was a kid😂

    • @mrssomeone2143
      @mrssomeone2143 3 роки тому +2

      @@ferris2323 oh same. I like to be distracted, like the need to see some variations, hehe... and not adhd

  • @itsoktoberight4431
    @itsoktoberight4431 Рік тому +9

    Understanding and realising that you're doing it is a big step I've had chores piling up for about a year that I keep putting off and realised they're not going to fix themselves

  • @annieblogger489
    @annieblogger489 6 років тому +227

    Huge respect for Mel... your last video on procrastination was also excellent. I also continue having amazing results with the Procrastination Elimination Method by John Isaac. Worth trying.

  • @kaushikkantak8271
    @kaushikkantak8271 4 роки тому +9

    I am totally agreed... I am wasting my time since last year more than 15-16 months, but today I found out the true reason of procrastination. I hope from today I will be more conscious about this reason and strive hard to stop procrastinate. I am saving this screen shot for my future. When I can prove that you are 100% right.

  • @lilyrose141
    @lilyrose141 3 роки тому +4

    i love the fact that this video is so short and precise! i actually watched it and took the information in, unlike the procrastination videos in my watch later list that are like 20 minutes long

    • @ensoasmrmusichouse9861
      @ensoasmrmusichouse9861 3 роки тому

      You may want to give this video (ua-cam.com/video/xbPy5afSMJU/v-deo.html ) a go. It’s structured around the pomodoro technique consisting 4 sets of ‘25min work + 5mins break’.
      Supposed to be particularly helpful when you are finding it hard to concentrate or have just done a procrastination binge.
      No harm trying I guess. All the best for your goals! 😉

  • @MinecraftBoy-bj5bn
    @MinecraftBoy-bj5bn 5 років тому +8

    Thanksgiving break started and we’re off for a week and I have a lot of homework. Instead of procrastinating and doing it for 5 hours straight on Sunday night like usual I’ve been splitting it up daily. I feel so much more relaxed and stress free knowing that I won’t have to eventually deal with a pile of work at the end of break.

  • @jimwilliams4088
    @jimwilliams4088 4 роки тому +37

    1) Acknowledge the stress.
    2) Count: 54321
    3) Interrupt the Procrastination Habit
    4) Just do 1 thing
    5) Work for 5 minutes

  • @mathew6062
    @mathew6062 Рік тому +1

    Thanks

  • @dannyrandolph1033
    @dannyrandolph1033 6 років тому +180

    Thank you. Wow! So simple.
    Thank you also for removing the shame associated with procrastinating.
    I have a habit of procrastinating.
    Habits can be changed!

    • @melrobbins
      @melrobbins  6 років тому +14

      Yes, Dan!! Habits can be changed - you go this!!!

  • @Weissklangi
    @Weissklangi 6 років тому +28

    Perfect timing as always! Here I was sitting and not starting to learn for my next exam in a few days, always reading or watching sth. else than learning, because I'm so stressed about it and want sth. relaxing.

  • @nadiiaperekuta8330
    @nadiiaperekuta8330 2 дні тому +1

    The masterpiece of 'just begin doing it' is the solution :) but just to begin - is the hardest part

  • @ashleyj2526
    @ashleyj2526 6 років тому +31

    Thank you so much Mel! Every one of your videos is such a powerful concept. Your videos are like talking to that one best friend you have that no matter what tells you the absolute truth and so refreshing. I am so glad that I found your Channel

    • @melrobbins
      @melrobbins  6 років тому +2

      Happy to hear this - thank you!!! xo

  • @3kbschannel288
    @3kbschannel288 5 років тому +132

    let's be honest she's a great speaker

    • @kimjong-un1848
      @kimjong-un1848 5 років тому +1

      I'm sure this is not the only thing she is great at

    • @vikome5420
      @vikome5420 5 років тому +12

      @@sebastianskii7512 oh for gawd sake, stfu we find perverted idiotic dumbass people everywhere comment section

    • @madhavsanap6690
      @madhavsanap6690 3 роки тому +4

      @@kimjong-un1848 she is good writer

  • @jackroberts6938
    @jackroberts6938 Рік тому +5

    Every word you said is 100% true for me. I needed to hear someone say it. Thank you, and thank you for the roadmap to breaking the procrastination habit!

  • @mritam123
    @mritam123 4 роки тому +12

    This makes sense.
    Note to self : Don’t chicken out.
    Stress is the trigger. Don’t avoid doing something. You are never going to be stress relief in life.

  • @n3b266
    @n3b266 4 роки тому +8

    I was a really bad procrastinator because I loved the stress I work my best under pressure and I always got my work done some how. But I came up with a really simple plan that works every time; I would get a piece of paper(not connected to notebooks) I would write 5-10 tasks I wanted to do in a day. Once I completed a task I scribbled it out(very satisfying) once I got those tasks done I would throw the paper away. It is always satisfying to cross out finished work and once it is done throwing it away is that weight being lifted off your shoulders.constantly crossing off your tasks gives you that motivation to move on to the next and next until the paper is gone! If you ca only do 2 tasks in a day you write 2 tasks down and do them. All of these people over complicate it, the simpler the method the more likely you do it.

    • @NairaKa
      @NairaKa 2 роки тому +1

      Seems like a good habit 👍🏼

  • @hoolimooliyt
    @hoolimooliyt Рік тому +2

    This video has resonated with me so much, I have tried so many different things to stop procrastinating and nothing seems to work because everything stems from the huge amounts of stress I feel in my life most of the time so I´m actually gonna try her plan and I hope to God it works.

  • @Lysana7
    @Lysana7 6 років тому +6

    thank you, Mel! you are the only one that actually talks about procrastination being a coping mechanism for stress relief... it makes such a big difference in my opinion to know this and it is just so true!!! XX

  • @alldog222
    @alldog222 3 роки тому +6

    I will stop procrastinating, first thing tomorrow.
    In realty though I am bad at this. The longer I put off doing something, the bigger it seems to get. A 20 minute task, put off for weeks, begins to snowball into this huge task in my mind.
    Add in some current tasks that need done and it gets harder. Then I find when I do it, how damn simple, or less time consuming it ever was.
    Finally, I make real sure I congratulate myself. It really is an accomplishment in my mind.

    • @shadshads7933
      @shadshads7933 3 роки тому

      So how is going? Did you stop procrastinate?

  • @EasternWisdomwithMrAQ
    @EasternWisdomwithMrAQ Місяць тому +1

    I love how this video go straight on the problem ;) Thank you Mel for sharing such useful and simple steps

  • @souvikguha
    @souvikguha 5 років тому +4

    This is probably the best video about breaking 'the habit of procrastination'. Will try. Thank you so much.

  • @JacobIX99
    @JacobIX99 Рік тому +4

    Crazy thing is, I already knew all that, from trial and error of past procrastinations.
    Start out by doing something for 5 minutes, and you'd simply keep on doing that.
    The hard part is to actually START that 5 minutes, but usually doing something small at first gives you the push to start it.

    • @_Ginger_Tea_
      @_Ginger_Tea_ Рік тому

      If you want to procrastinate less and concentrate better on studying you can study with me here.
      Instead of watching videos on youtube you can have a video of me studying and keeping you company, so you don't get distracted.
      I study for 1-3 hours with breaks in between while I keep you company
      If you're interested, feel free to study with study videos of mine
      Hopefully it will be useful for you ❤

  • @olaczyk
    @olaczyk Рік тому +2

    School stresses me so much, after I come back home I do stress relieving things (watching videos, playing games etc.) And then at 10pm I remember I have homework from 4 subjects, 2 tests and a presentation the next day. Then I procrastinate even more and cry myself to sleep. Then the cycle repeats and I cry even more and want to die lol. Love school sm

  • @HolyManta
    @HolyManta 5 років тому +7

    First speaker that actually helped me with procrastination

  • @a.p.tiwari4795
    @a.p.tiwari4795 6 років тому +33

    Wonderful Mel, you have helped me concentrate on my studies. I have acknowledged my stress-pattern and I can undo the Procrastinating trigger now.

    • @melrobbins
      @melrobbins  6 років тому +6

      Love this!!! YOU are changing your life!

  • @MaximBordyug.
    @MaximBordyug. 23 години тому +2

    I'm procrastinating by watching this video, rationalizing that it will prevent future procrastination.

  • @rosewaterlily2886
    @rosewaterlily2886 5 років тому +10

    I already suspected that my procrastination tendencies have something to do with my stress levels, it's just nice to have it confirmed by someone who knows what they're talking about : P

  • @lemonyapples
    @lemonyapples 6 років тому +11

    I'm one of the 20 percent. I don't go on after 5 min, heck sometimes I don't even finish the 5 min of work. Then, when I'm procrastinating I don't stop cause I know I won't even do it for 5 min even if I try to break the habit.

  • @waelbeji
    @waelbeji 7 місяців тому +1

    thank u! was procrastinating like CRAZY the whole day now imma be back to work! whenever i feel like lazign around ill count from 10 to 1 and just WORK!

  • @Anthroid9
    @Anthroid9 5 років тому +15

    This was a hidden gem. Thank you!

  • @pursuingvirtue
    @pursuingvirtue Рік тому +13

    You may have just shifted my life in 3 minutes. Thank you for the knowledge/insight/wisdom God has given you on this topic.

  • @peanut8770
    @peanut8770 Рік тому +1

    God has brought me to this video I'm thankful for him without him i wouldn't be here I'm 18 years old know and i exactly can't believe it is a thing "procrastinating" i always thought i was the problem and I'm still, but i would often hitting myself in face and on head with my fist asking ,why? am i not doing what I'm supposed to do why am i like this and crying and looking myself in the mirror and i often stay up late at night working because of this situation of "procrastinating" and it's still hurts but watching this video has brought me relief and i feel alright

  • @sarahmagin7914
    @sarahmagin7914 6 років тому +8

    Thank you so much for sharing this. When I read about this in the 5 Second Rule, it was eye opening. It helped me so much to overcome my habit of procrastination, because I finally figured out the actual problem. Now I get so much more done. Really, thank you.

  • @rayofcreation3996
    @rayofcreation3996 4 роки тому +14

    “Procrastination is attitude's natural assassin. There's nothing so fatiguing as an uncompleted task.”
    William James

  • @chesscrater6331
    @chesscrater6331 8 місяців тому

    No wonder I don't feel stressed out about anything. Thank you. I have been playing that video game instead of doing work to do what I really need to improve in something else. I literally feel so much better after watching this video. I feel incredibly empowered. Thanks.

  • @Nisah98
    @Nisah98 3 роки тому +7

    I find her advise to be beneficial and works for me but in the beginning it was still hard as I still get distracted by social media and UA-cam. The challenge was putting in excruciating effort to resist those temptations to make the 5 second decision.
    So, I decided to get the Freedom app that blocks out those distractions at certain times where I start my tasks. Once the temptations were no longer options, it’s much easier to make your decision.

  • @eshsundar8476
    @eshsundar8476 3 роки тому +4

    It worked. I acknowledged the stress, interrupted the habit, and did one first thing.. And.. boy I completed the project! Thank you :)

  • @timsmith2525
    @timsmith2525 Рік тому +2

    Procrastination is one of the most useful skills I have. When I do things prematurely, I usually get punished for it. If I delay starting things, I'm rewarded. I'm a computer programmer. People don't know what they want, but they ask for things, anyway, and they often change their minds. By procrastinating, I avoid spending time working on things that people don't really want. Procrastination often opens up opportunities that I would not have had if I hadn't procrastinated. Procrastination makes my life better.

    • @Bas_48140
      @Bas_48140 Рік тому

      😂😂 you are in the wrong comment section... everyone here sees it as an issue

  • @liz-jo8hz
    @liz-jo8hz 5 років тому +215

    but i’m procrastinating for no reason right now. like i literally don’t have any stress. i guess i’m just really lazy

    • @maynaysauce2489
      @maynaysauce2489 4 роки тому +52

      I think you mean you don’t have any external stress like financial issues. That’s fine, because you do have stress, and that is when you think about sitting down and actually doing your work. You think that it will not be a pleasant experience when you study or do whatever, so naturally, you choose to avoid it. That is a form of stress

    • @fawnomenal7097
      @fawnomenal7097 4 роки тому +11

      Usually my laziness means I’m uninspired. But I just listened to a Michael Sealy hypnosis on procrastination the other day. Lasting effects so far. It didn’t make sense while I was listening that it would change anything, but there were some subconscious triggers that changed the course of the rest of the day and on into my next workday. So productive, I was wondering where I’ve been all my life. I am becoming the person I need to be for myself. ✨💖✨

    • @manfredmuench2657
      @manfredmuench2657 4 роки тому +4

      I can identify with that - I am retired and still put off everything I can. Used to have a saying back in the day, ' Never do today what you can put off until tomorrow , because by tomorrow the bastards will have changed their minds'

    • @AnimationCraftFR
      @AnimationCraftFR 3 роки тому +5

      @• ᴗ Wow, the ADHD symptom is really describing me, I also tend to say to myself that i'm a piece of shit for only being able to aknowleg my issues and being lazy about it to counter them..

    • @bobbieschroder6231
      @bobbieschroder6231 3 роки тому +5

      Even though you aren't currently stressed, you're actually avoiding _anticipated_ stress.
      For example, I feel perfectly fine just lying here, and I don't feel any stress because I'm at ease. However, when I think about getting up and doing a chore that needs to be done,, I can tell that my chain of thinking points to the expected stress from having to get up and do something that I don't want to do.
      In other words, the thought of having to get up out of this comfortable bed to do something that I don't feel like doing, brings forth the idea of a type of strain. So to avoid that *anticipated* strain (i.e., "stress"), I feel compelled to stay where I am.
      You and I are not really lazy. And don't let anyone make you think you have some sort of sickness, either. It's just a habit of putting off the anticipated strain or stress that we _believe_ we're going to experience if we get up and do what we don't currently feel like doing.
      *Since we now have that figured out, it's time to rise above it by changing our beliefs, perceptions, and expectations, so that we can move on to greater heights!*

  • @AryanKumar-jo1pz
    @AryanKumar-jo1pz 5 років тому +4

    I was smiling so much when she told me the trick to do it. IDK why I did it but maybe it was because she said she will use the word SCIENCE which I totally believe in (and who does not) and I started to believe that I am gonna make my self better. So, what I am gonna do now is stop writing this and do the trich which she shared with me. And you should do the same ok

  • @lmcnultyn
    @lmcnultyn Рік тому

    I've always suffered from procrastination and it has always been a major habit that is very hard to break for me. For me, it mostly stems from not having the desire and not being in the zone to do any work as the thought of doing what I need to do would be exhausting and off-putting. Thanks so much for this valuable information. I will work hard to apply the steps to breaking this habit and all other habits that I have.

  • @shubhanshubisht1667
    @shubhanshubisht1667 6 років тому +7

    It makes so much sense... Thanks for breaking it down

  • @rahilarora5553
    @rahilarora5553 2 роки тому +7

    Amazing I tried many things but this 10-9-8 counting helped me alot❤️

  • @linuxsurfer2002
    @linuxsurfer2002 Рік тому +1

    I have found that just forcing yourself to start, and just work for 5 or 10 minutes, like she says, does absolute wonders. I'll be dreading a task (folding laundry), but if I just fold for 10 minutes, knowing I can quit in 10 minutes, I will usually just finish it. Or say I do quit after 10 minutes, I feel like I've accomplished something and am more likely to come back later and do another 10 minutes, until it's finished.

  • @oana1111
    @oana1111 Рік тому +3

    I have been trying for years to break my procrastination habit but until now I didn’t have a job I felt so strong about that I’d move mountains looking for a solution. I have one now and am feeling like it’s slipping through my fingers, really don’t want to screw this chance up too. So here it goes, starting exactly now (not tomorrow morning) I’m applying it. If it works I may tatoo the bloody steps on my arm 😂 Wish me perseverance.
    Edit: It worked! for a day... then I couldn't remember the magic formula anymore :)) should have tattooed it indeed. Back to this video, let's try again. If I never edit it again it probably means I'm not procrastinating by looking for anti-procrastinations videos anymore.

  • @Sam-jf8hj
    @Sam-jf8hj Рік тому +3

    I added this video in Watch later.

  • @rohiniagawane6349
    @rohiniagawane6349 Рік тому

    thank you so much I almost wasted my 4 years because of procrastination loop, and then beating myself for wasting time, I am still recovering from this habit but things getting better because of will power

  • @ПАУК-о2я
    @ПАУК-о2я 3 роки тому +8

    How cool it is: I can procrastinating watching videos like that, because it helps me to learn English, and allow me to relax at the same moment )))

  • @yasminpanasjuk682
    @yasminpanasjuk682 2 роки тому +5

    I heard one quote that drives me to get me started: "Everything that can be done, is worth doing it bad than not doing it at all."
    That gets me going. I know if I don't do it bad, I won't do it at all. But if you allow it to be bad and you just start, then eventually you'll do it actually really good because you happen to be a perfectionist.

  • @Scott-nj9gq
    @Scott-nj9gq 4 місяці тому

    Thanks Mel. Your 5,4,3,2,1 technique works 90% of the time.

  • @dee.s.4513
    @dee.s.4513 4 роки тому +7

    Beautifully stated, Mel Robbins. It's always stress that freezes--waiting for stress to go away is foolish. It's so true that once you bring yourself to get going, you don't want to stop.

  • @rajat_singla
    @rajat_singla 5 років тому +25

    Now that I have seen this. I am gonna change my life, tomorrow.

  • @olivashard8113
    @olivashard8113 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you so much. I didn't realize that stress was triggering my procrastinating habit all along. You have really helped me.

  • @perhagman6112
    @perhagman6112 Місяць тому +3

    It's challenging when you also deal with indecisiveness.

  • @Great_Olaf5
    @Great_Olaf5 3 роки тому +15

    I knew it was a habit, that seemed pretty obvious from my patterns, but I never connected it with stress relief/avoidance. That's a very helpful way to look at it.

    • @ensoasmrmusichouse9861
      @ensoasmrmusichouse9861 3 роки тому

      You may want to give this video (ua-cam.com/video/xbPy5afSMJU/v-deo.html ) a go to help form new habits. It’s structured around the pomodoro technique consisting 4 sets of ‘25min work + 5mins break’.
      Supposed to be particularly helpful when you are finding it hard to concentrate or have just done a procrastination binge.
      No harm trying I guess. All the best for your goals! 😉

  • @selinaylacin1449
    @selinaylacin1449 3 роки тому +2

    i think procrastination is a form of stress.we don’t wanna start to the things because we think if we jump out from our comfort zone bad things will happen and we will be stressed more. but you have to remember that there’s no 1 human being who doesn’t have stress in her/his life. and don’t forget, good things take effort, tears and time. ~beauty is pain~
    JUST LEAVE YOUR COMFORT ZONE AND BE PROUD OF YOURSELF AFTER THAT!!

  • @hoorainayoub
    @hoorainayoub 4 роки тому +7

    this was so refreshing and different

  • @yumorules
    @yumorules 6 років тому +4

    What a superb speaker.....easy on the eye too😃

  • @youarelife3437
    @youarelife3437 9 місяців тому

    As a person who has used consciousness and meditation a lot over the years, I have given this same advice to recently to people with depression, laziness or sadness. Just for 15 seconds you gotta pretend that you are alright, snap out of it and do something happy or productive. 15 seconds is not much. Afterwards you can do back to being unhappy. But once you do it, there's a pattern break and you will be surprised at what you are capable of and what's possible.

  • @HARSHTRIPPIN
    @HARSHTRIPPIN Рік тому +3

    Adding this video to Watch Later

  • @pubgzombie5029
    @pubgzombie5029 5 років тому +4

    For all wondering where can we get an extended version. Listen to her Podcast.

  • @ashwatson7097
    @ashwatson7097 3 роки тому

    You are so so Correct Mel. First time I understood why I was procastinating. I was so stressful about everything that was going on and i just wanted to relax and forget and relax and time passed by and boom it was too late. .

  • @JustHerRandomStuff
    @JustHerRandomStuff 4 роки тому +5

    Heyy I've read your book, “The 5 second rule” and it's so helpful,thank you🤗

  • @CassieWinter
    @CassieWinter 4 роки тому +14

    I like how you explain that procrastination is a form of stress relief.