Palliative Care Doctor Reveals What Most People Say Before They Die
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- Опубліковано 3 сер 2024
- Death might be inevitable, but it doesn't always need to be tragic. Hospice doctors can offer a unique insight into what it's like right before you die. Here's what most people say right before they pass away.
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Meet Dr. Simran Malhotra | 0:00
Common regrets in the end | 1:25
Contemplating lifestyle choices | 3:20
Common emotions expressed before passing | 3:54
Shifting relationships with material objects | 5:46
Taking pride in life's accomplishments | 6:44
Final words before dying | 7:39
Talking to a dying loved one | 8:51
Learning life lessons from death | 9:44
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Thank you to all of the Hospice care workers out there.
You are one beautiful doctor and really good looking too
LOL
Yes thank you to them . I will say the lesson I heard here was forgiveness those with a faith-based outlook do better ie Put your faith in Jesus
@@iluvucuzjesus5347 For me to live is Christ, and to die is gain. (Philippians 1:21).
Amen
I do Hospice in Ohio… I’ve been an aide for over 14 years but only been doing Hospice for 3 years … it’s so sad but so rewarding!! I treat my families and the patients the way I want my own to be treated! I know I’m making a difference in the world.
I’m 58 years old and I have stage 4 terminal lung cancer. The doctors give me 2 years tops. What this lady is saying is so true. My kids, who are 34 and 31,,, I have talked to them and apologized for the things I did wrong. I did a whole lot right, but I also did some wrong things that I regret. They’re both so grateful,,, and forgiving. I couldn’t ask for better children and just hate leaving them so much. I’m grateful to my sister who has and always will be there for them. That means so much to me.
Prayers to you and your loved ones ❤️🙏
God bless you and stay strong.
Pray for GOD'S FORGIVENESS 🙏
Whatever you did wrong, you are forgiven. Shows what a great parent you are. God Bless You.
Take Brazil nuts. It has selenium. Also apricot seeds
My mother, 79, was in a coma for days prior to passing. The doctor didn't know how long she'd stay that way. On the 3rd day, I stood with my siblings at her bed and said out loud, " Messiah, can you please come take her home." She opened her eyes a few minutes later, wide awake, looked above my brothers shoulder, and said with a smile, "Yes, I'm ready!" Closed her eyes and took her last breath.
My brother looked at me and said, "God heard you." Yes, He did.
Amen 🙏🏽
I asked God to please take my X but he didn’t hear me.
@@caroledevlin4436 well, God is not an answering machine. He knows better than any of us. The fact that He didnt always answer our prayer in the way we plan shows that He knows something that we, mere human, do not. Trust in Him. He will do the rest.
Until the “ Resource Based Economy “ by Jacque Fresco is implemented all these dying peoples last words will all be the same
God is GREAT
My mother was basically in a coma for month She suddenly woke and said her sisters(both dead) were in the room waiting for her. In my mind I said, it's OK you can go with them. I'll be fine. Instantly, she exhaled and was gone. A few moments later I was standing by her bedside talking to a nurse when I felt something entering my body on my left side and I was filled with a feeling of utter euphoria then it exited on my right side. I am sure it was my mother letting me know what it was like to pass over.
My mother was in the room after her death. Her best friend and I both felt her presence.
That just gave me chills and euphoria! God bless you.🙏🏻
Also she wants you to remember the feelings there when passing over, so that you don't forget that there is a life after this one and that you can look forward to that if you live a good life.
It was your mum , letting you know not to fear death of the physical body 💞💐💐
Namaste 🙏💜🙏💐
@@donnavaughn9409 there is none good, no, not one. But if you call on Christ, He will help you.
Jesus did speak of hell more than any other prophet. To warn u from it.
My niece is a hospice nurse and amazes me with her compassion and skills for comforting patients and families. God bless all hospice workers.
# ❤ Hospice
"I love you" is what my family says to each other when we part. One never knows if we'll ever see each other again.
My daughter is a Hospice Nurse and we couldn't be more proud of her!!
I sure couldn't handle it. My idea of hospice is putting them on an ice flow and pushing them off to be eaten by polar bears. That's how I want to go.
@@mwbright Nobody is stopping you…
My mom passed away in June..she was in hospice care.. at home for 6 months.. the day before she passed away she kept on looking at one corner of the living room like she was looking at someone..she couldn't speak.. she reached out with her hand like she was reaching for someone. I truly believe she saw something that we couldn't see. I love you mom.
@Laura McGinty my mom was 94 as well.. I failed to put that in my comment.
The pain med causes hallucinations.
@Laura McGinty - you were so fortunate to have had your mother for so long. Sorry for your loss.
I wasn't dying but unbeknownst to me, my friend was. Together in his house, I kept seeing this black salamander in the corners behind the furniture. When I pulled out the furniture, there was nothing there.
@@cacola_3373 my mom was not on any pain meds. She was seeing something that the rest of us could not see.
My mom died a couple of days ago at 93. She called to her mother and her sister, actually, physically reached up and out to them. She hadn’t mentioned her sister in years. Aunt Marjorie passed back in the early ‘90s. Hospice was so excellent in keeping her comfortable and pain-free. Mama suffered from dementia, and I had been her primary caregiver for the past two years. She passed right here in her home.
MY wife (who passed last Feb from COVID) and I had pretty much the same experience with my mom in-law who we cared for due to her dementia until her last day on Jan 7th 2020. I mean, from the little you described, our experience is pretty much identical. 💙🙏🏼
bless you both for your positive care.
Same with my mother. She basically slept for a month before she died. She suddenly woke and said her older sisters (both dead) were standing in a corner of the room waiting for her. Moments later she took her last breath.
My condolences for the loss of your mom. I'm certain that she appreciated you being there for her.
I’m sorry for your loss. I don’t believe it’s the end when we die. It’s our energy that transforms into another state . There’s definitely something . Take care ❤️🙏🏻☮️
In my dad's last days he was under so much medication to make him comfortable but myself, mom and siblings would talk to him
and express our appreciation for him and what a great dad and husband he was.. he cried tears! I will never forget wiping those tears from his precious eyes. He was only 58! RIP Dad we love and miss you so much!!
what would he die off at age 58 ??????????????
@@seanodwyer4322 what kind of question is this?!
A beautiful family 🥀R.I.P
@@robertsettle2590 He was so young I don't find the question unacceptable.
He had several health problems but ended up passing from a heart attack. Thanks for the thoughtful comments
I am a nurse and was my Mom’s home hospice nurse. After she hadn’t eaten for a few days she looked up to the corner of the room and said “Oh look. They’re all waiting for me.” When I asked who she said she saw my late brother and a neighbor who had passed away. I told her that Jesus was waiting for her too and that she could go whenever she felt was right. Soon after she passed away.
This story brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for the comforting message
My Mom looked up in her bed and had a big smile . We asked what do you see she said Bobby's big ol smile. My dad had passed 17 yrs earlier he was there for her to meet God and Jesus . Thank You Lord.
@@cashonlyj3469 isn’t it reassuring that what we have read in the Bible about the afterlife is true!?
My mom died in 1993 at 70. Breast cancer. She died 18 days after being diagnosed. When you mentioned that your mom saw her loved ones right before she left, my mom had a similar visit. She had a hospice nurse. I was standing by ready to help with anything and all of a sudden the nurse told me that my mom was talking to someone and if I knew who it was. We found out she was talking to her grandmother who had died decades before !
A year before, I died ( briefly, obviously) during surgery and had a near death experience and saw my own grandfather and grandmother , so I know our loved ones are waiting for us and we will be safe. I am no longer afraid of death. Thank you for sharing your experience with your mom. That was so special and heartfelt.
@@Bravosmom1 ❤️
My grandpa passed when I was in 2nd grade. Afterwards, (not sure how long after) his presence woke me up in the middle of the night and I saw him smiling at me and waving bye 🥹. I’ve always cherished this moment and remember it like it just happened today and This was over 40yrs ago.
@Rustic75 - Just check some of the data and research from Ian Stevenson or somebody like Dr Peter Fenwick (his interviews are quite interesting). All academic researchers. Quite amazing in some cases. And your experience is not that unusuall at the end. Definitely there is more to what we see and know.
Apparently - according to my parents (back in the 50's) when I was still very much a baby of approx fifteen months to two years - (sleeping in the same room as my parents) - they woke to hear me laughing - they came across to look at me and I apparently said “ grand dad makes me laugh “ ( my granddad was in hospital )not long after them being awoken by my laughter, they received a phone call from the hospital to advise that my grand dad had passed away.
Beautiful xxxxxxx
My 58 year old son died in May from heart condition. He was found on floor. I had plan to spend Mothers Day with him. I hope he called out to his mom. He was a wonderful son who as always working. He complained of always being tired. I never dreamed it was his heart. My lesson to others, pay close attention to your love one, never assume. He was my rock.
As long as you told him you loved him and was proud he went happy.
Stay strong…I don’t know you or your son but I’m sure he would want you to be strong…. God bless🙏🏽
Sorry for your loss Patty
I’m so sorry for your loss😔🙏🏻
Lord bless and comfort you Patty
I was my mom's caregiver when she was dying of cancer. A few days before she passed she woke up from her nap and her eyes were bright and she said guess who was here? She said Daddy and Jesus were standing right over there by the dresser, and Daddy had a tuxedo on ❤️
That was so , so sweet !
❤️❤️❤️
So beautiful!
So true and so beautiful x
Lovely. Aum Shanti
When my father died, he had been unconscious for at least 24 hours, I was holding his hand when he suddenly woke, looked at all of us gathered and said he was going to miss us and that he loved us. When I returned home several weeks later my peace Lilly finally bloomed, it had been without bloom for 3 years. I know this was my fathers doing, letting me know he was at peace
My mom did that too with a rose bush that had not flowered in 7 years.
No where in the Bible where dead people can do things for people on earth or sending messages to the.... Give me the verse in the Bible... Read the story of Abraham Lazarus and the rich man.... There is NO INTERACTION BETWEEN THE DEAD AND THE PEOPLE ON EARTH
The dead don't speak
That's sweet. I think it was God, letting you know that your Dad was with Him. ❤️
@@estievorster2065 he wasn’t dead yet, you’re vile. Not to mention mean and biiter
My daughter is a palliative care doctor, I'm so proud of her work and compassion, just hope that it won't wear her out emotionally.
When my husband was dying I told him it was all right to go and I felt him relax and a peacefulness on him. Hospice helped me to see him through this passage without pain.
I had a cousin who died a year ago from cancer. She wanted to die at home and when she died, the only person in the room with her was her brother. All of a sudden she asked him who are all of these people in the room and she took her last breath.
Was she old?
Scary
@@caroledevlin4436 She was close to 80, but very young looking and active.
@@imanjones3807 Yes, it's scary, but comforting at the same time. Since then, I've heard of many people having similar experiences : )
@@imanjones3807 LOL--What's scary about that? I swear, you materialists seem more comfortable with the prospect of total annihilation!!! 😳
One common thing that gets left out is to make sure to speak with your loved one. When my grandmother was in her last days of hospice I made sure to write down all the things I ever wanted to say and ask. It helped me and her greatly to understand that this was the end. Nothing was left unsaid, which helped the grieving process tremendously. As the most positive influence of my life I'm glad to remember that discussion as one of the final moments I had with her.
Beautiful
My grandma died of ALS about 10 years ago. It took her pretty quickly and that is a tough one because your mind is still able to think normally but you're trapped in your own body. She first noticed it when she started stumbling a bit with her feet around the house. Then she lost the ability to walk, then to talk and eat. She was able to write for a while on a ipad for a while after she lost her voice but for a while before the end she could only move her eyes. We had to use a board with letters in the 6 different spots and she would choose letters to spell out what she wanted to say. She would look top left, top middle, top right, bottom left, bottom middle or bottom right corner of the board to pick a group of letters then she would look to one of those spots again to choose the letter out of that group, then repeat for the next letter. Most of the communication at the end was broken sentences due to that so she would mostly say things like "love family" "thank you" etc. not really able to have long conversations.
She became non responsive so family went to say their goodbyes. My brother and I left work and drove the 900+ km to say goodbye. The day that she died most of her 7 children and 17 surviving grandchildren were there to say goodbye, we would tell her who we were and what we wanted to say and she started to respond to us talking to her that morning when everyone was there (not actually talking but small movement that she wasn't doing for days before) About 15 minutes after we left to drive home my parents called and said she passed away, like she had hung on long enough for everyone to have a chance to say goodbye.
I had never given my grandma a footrub before but I gave her one the time I went to visit her a couple months before she passed and she couldn't move or talk so I wasn't sure if she could feel it but I asked her if she could and she nodded (very subtly) and I just remember the look of joy, calm and peace that she had in her eyes after spending a lifetime serving other people. That grandma was also my #1 role model and positive influence, grief is hard but I think that gives the good times and memories more meaning.
I agree before my mom pass I just told her thank you for the love and for believing in me..even tho it’s still tough 6 yrs later, I smile more than cry😀good memories 😇
@@IhaveaDoghouse Yes , I always tell my children Mom friends too I love them xx you can't take a day for granted , when my Dad passed in Hospice , he couldn't talk back that last day , I kept talking to him , never left him , he passed Peacefully I was telling him it's ok Dad ❤️ be with our Lord bout hour later he passed holding my hand , it's been 7 yrs now still think of him every day does get easier , today is hard though it's my Dad birthday God bless you 🙏 Cathy Nashville Tennessee
@@cwilson6990 God Bless you too Cathy. Praying that you feel God's love and peace every day but especially now while you are missing your Dad. One day you will be reunited again.
My Father died at age 97. Before passing on, he saw many friends and relatives that had long since passed on. He told me he saw his Buddys that were killed during WWII, in battle. Often medical people will say it is brain changes during death's journey. I believe these people have come by to guide him home. I took care of him the last 7 1/2 yrs of his life. He began having dreams well before he died. Some things just cannot be answered by science alone. Having an open mind is best.
I wish my dad had lived that long.
Until the “ Resource Based Economy “ by Jacque Fresco is implemented all these dying peoples last words will all be the same
Having faith is best
The Spiritual World is real just like the physical. Yes , there is a God . I have No Doubt . I want to enter Heaven more then anything
Brain hallucinations
My mother’s hospice was wonderful and she did NOT suffer. Thank You to ALL of the hospice care that you do for the patients and their loved ones. Rest Easy Mommy 💔
If she never woke up to talk to you we cannot be sure of what she was feeling. Not trying to be mean or funny, okay.
@@a.m.thomas9366 i dont understand ur replay to my comment
@@badgurl5758 Yes you do, now if indeed you accept it or not is another thing.
@@toniesedrick691 But that wasnt my mothers case. She was awake so why would I speak about something that didnt happen to her before her death. You people on the internet are weirdos
@@a.m.thomas9366 there are ways to see if someone is suffering e.i; furrowed brow, grimacing, elevated pulse, and agitation.
My father died in Hospice Care 18 years ago. They were so good to him, and me. I am grateful to them for helping turn an awful experience into something positive, healing and meaningful.
Until the “ Resource Based Economy “ by Jacque Fresco is implemented all these dying peoples last words will all be the same
Love this video! I have done palliative care with several people including my Mom who was three weeks away from 95 when she passed away. For two weeks previous to her death she had visits with the Lord, her Mom and her brothers and sisters who had passed away before her. She talked of the beautiful music and singing and said she was ready to go join them. She didn’t understand why the Lord was waiting so long to take her with Him. It was a beautiful insight shared for two weeks of what I know is waiting for us. I had prayed that my eyes could be opened so I could see what she was experiencing. I have been so blessed to be able to share and care with loved ones in their passing.
Until the “ Resource Based Economy “ by Jacque Fresco is implemented all these dying peoples last words will all be the same
The last time I saw my dad he kept looking over his shoulder when I was talking to him, he said he thought I was standing behind him even though he could see me in front of him. He also kept touching the wall at the side of his bed saying that it was like glass and he could see people on the other side looking at him. He died the next morning after getting up and having breakfast. His last words, according to the nurse, were ' I'm going, I'm going.'
That's so interesting- when my dad passed- I saw people at his head and described it as a glass - some I recognized and others were kinda dim... I said "daddy- we are right here but they are waiting for you - he took his last breath and passed- later I was telling my aunt about it and she was asking me about all these people and I said well- I saw grandpa and his brother and sisters bit the others I didn't recognized... she just laughed and said well that was probably because you didn't know them.. true!
Since then I've had dreams of my dad - younger and happy- dancing with his sister in Heaven.
@@tinaruiz8510 do you have the gift of seeing the spiritual World? Wow . That was beautiful . Do you see angels , Spirits, demons or sense evil ?
I was a hospice nurse for almost 15 years. It was truly a privilege and a humbling blessing to work with my patients and their families. I had many incredible experiences. It truly was a privilege I will never forget.
Thank you for your gentle work! ♥️
I have often thought what a mix of resilience and empathy must be needed to do that work. I have had personal experience of just how wonderful hospice staff can be, every day experiencing people being at the most extreme days of their life and helping them cope with it all.
For me, I was there with my wife, who was losing her fight with cancer; I had fought alongside her and taken care of her as best I could and, at the end, when it became clear this was her last day, I just ran out of strength. I would have given or done anything to keep my wife in this world and facing the fact that this was something I could not save her from just broke me. I shall never forget how the poor hospice nurse and her colleagues dealt with me just melting down on top of all the other things she had to be doing. As I noted, compassion and resilience in equal measure.
Thank you angel.
Well said from another hospice RN.
So many blessings I received from patients and families.
My mom talked to her family that already passed..conversing and laughing and smiling and shaking her head yes..
All I can say about Hospice is I had to have them twice ( mom and my late husband ) there's no words the care these people give , the love they show to your family is like hospice has become yours family too .Thank you is never enough gradatude to give them . THANK YOU TO ALL HOSPICE EMPLOYEES.
I believe with all my heart....that my hospice nurse was LITERALLY and Angel sent to me By GOD..I pray the GOD. BLESSES HER.
My father died in 2014 from Lymphoma. He was basically in a coma the last week of his life. Me and him were massive Eagles fans, so I had their greatest hits playing beside his bed during this. He woke at one stage and said, clear as day "I like The Eagles". He then went asleep again. Those were his last words.
Aw sucks they lost the superbowl
I’m really sorry 😞 for your loss
The people at hospice were incredible where my mother passed. I was so focused on her that I truly regret not thanking each and every one of them. Heroes all.
They are "THE LOVE OF GOD " HERE ON EARTH.
THANK YOU GOD FOR THE ANGELS OF DIVINE MERCY.
My mother passed away 2 weeks ago at the age of 99. She was great until she was 97. She was able to live in her own home with my sister who cared for her. We loved the hospice people. They were so kind, caring, and good.
🙏🏽
99 is nice. I want to live 140 years old 😌
Until the “ Resource Based Economy “ by Jacque Fresco is implemented all these dying peoples last words will all be the same
I was with my mother right before she passed away
and she spoke of seeing people dancing in heaven.
That's beautiful! Sorry for your loss.
Everyone must sit in the judgment seat, and Everyone must work out their salvation with fear and trembling. May GOD BLESS HIS IN CHRIST. ❤
@Carl Morgan fear and trembling? I do not fear the God of my understanding.
@@AliciaM5555 there is a kind of fear in coming before God face to face. He knows your every action. He knows your every thought. He knows your every motivation. He knows your heart in ways you don’t even know. If that doesn’t strike you with trepidation and awe then you don’t know yourself very well. The more you know God and the power of His love, the more you know yourself and how undeserving you are of that love [we all are undeserving]. Don’t think Jesus, meek and mild, means He’s a pushover. He’s not and neither is His Father. We will all answer for our lives but His love surpasses even our fear.
@@colleenobrien8212 I do not fear the humanity that the God of my understanding gave me. As you say, he knows me intimately. I am quite anxious to meet him. Without fear.
My father who I took care of with hospice for 1 week, me 10 years. Said to me he wished that his children would get along. That will never happened but I listened. I talk to him everyday and had many conversations with him. He was scared about dying but was at peace in the end. I am sad he is gone but I try every day to still talk to him. Also he wished to see his sister who I told but couldn’t get there. He regretted he was a little rude to her and her daughter that he was tired. He was at home and many times I cried and he said please help yourself and thank you for all you do if you weren’t here I would’ve died already. I am glad I told him I loved him.
My dad passed away in my presence about 4 1/2 years ago. I was so impressed with and grateful to the nurses and Dr's in hospice. They are angels on earth.
Just before my aunt died she said that her mother and her two sisters, who were deceased, were in the room and had come to get her. She was very happy and excited to see them and said she wanted to visit with them and then she passed over. My bother died last year and my sister-in-law, his wife, told me that he came to her after his death, he told her that he was happy and he embraced her and held her hand tightly. She said a beautiful light radiated from his eyes and he exuded pure joy and told her he was free from all the worries of life that to him now seem so silly. She said that he brought, one after the other, of her beloved kitties whom had also died over the passing years and put them in bed with her. I accept these psychic events as real. I think that scientists who are locked in a completely materialistic-mechanistic world view are gravely mistaken and even a bit arrogant when they discount such profound events as just the delusions of a dying brain or the wish fulfillment of the grieved loved one. I am not done with this world yet but when my time comes I am looking forward to being reunited with all those dearly departed I have so loved, been loved by, and have so painfully missed.
Heaven is real I promise you x
Good on you Chris - God Bless
Exactly, Bible clearly speaks of eternal life after this one, yet it is perceived as a non reality. Why? Whole point of that book was this message about us going to next eternal life.
Why would that all be lies?
Science has no answer what happens to our souls after death, so I don’t respect anything they suggest. They have no clue and clearly those who pay them want us to focus on money here. We are merely business to the often dark-spirited rich people, who own the world.
Meanwhile the Same scientists are trying to move soul into a new body 🙄
What a hypocrites
Beautifully said. Thank you.
It is surely real...and no scientist can tell me otherwise!
I felt nothing but gratitude and Love for my dad as he passed with us all around him. Dad was a Baptist Preacher and knowing all he worked for since he got saved at 24 was happening and I was with him as he left this earth. I looked up just knowing he was now in the presence of God and rejoicing.
My dad ordered everybody out of the room including his attorney he wanted to pass by himself!
Not one person in the Bible was a Baptist. Baptist doctrine stands contrary to the Bible. Obey God (read Acts 2:36-41; 22:16).
@@jameshaynes6992 seriously James? This person was sharing that they had confidence peace about knowing their father was in a better place and died peacefully, and you want to argue doctrine? You are truly unbelievable.
@@jameshaynes6992, you just had to throw in that jab at Baptists. Your condescending attitude is repulsive to the lost. Don't be on we of those.
@@jameshaynes6992 John was a babtist as he babtized Jesus Christ the son of God
I am in awe of anyone who goes into the palliative care medical field. I went through hospice twice in one year; first with my 86-year-old mother and then one year, two months and thirteen days later with my only sibling, my older sister. I don't know how I would have managed if it hadn't been for the nurses, social workers and clergy associated with the Hospice that cared for my family members. They let me talk, they let me cry, and they really listened to me while giving the best care my mom and sister could ask for in their final days. I had prayed so very hard for both of them-I knew they were dying and asked that God take them quickly, without pain or suffering in their sleep. Both of them passed quietly while sleeping. It's all I could ever hope for as far as the two of them passing. God listened and stood by my side in the aftermath.
Thank you for sharing. That's such a beautiful blessing.
Latest prayer from Jesus/ has Imprimatur/ - MOST PRECIOUS BLOOD OF JESUS CHRIST
SAVE US AND THE WHOLE WORLD. We say this short prayer for ourselves or someone 500x daily.
My favorite song; "regrets, I have a few, but then again, too few to mention. I did, what I had to do, and through it all, without contention. I've lived a life that's full, I've traveled each and every highway. But more, much more than this...I did it my way."! Thanks Frank.
How to have a self-centered life.
@@haroldcampbell3337 Actually, one of the main regrets mentioned here was not doing what they really loved. So many people sacrifice for others needlessly. There was nothing in those lyrics that suggested self-absorption. Being your authentic self is to not live your life to please others in the hopes being accepted and loved. People fear being their true self because it may not be what others want. Eckhart Tolle says many people are only real on their death bed when there is longer any point in being inauthentic.
Lost my aunt in 2002 to lung cancer and for her wishes she wanted to pass at home so we made sure to respect her wishes , first cpl months our family was there for her around the clock towards the end we asked for help fr hospice care , they were absolutely amazing and compassionate with her and us , explained a lot to us , and it’s true always talk to your loved ones they can still hear you 💜
One of the most humbling,awe moments was working in my 20's as a CNA specializing in end of life care. Required extra training.
My job was to sit with and care for those that were moments from leaving. Sometimes the person passing thought I was a family member. I would not correct them but let them have that if it brought them comfort. One thing I noticed if the person was in some discomfort, right at passing there would be a peaceful painfree moment. I think this job was a huge contributor to my having a deep sense of compassion and empathy. For that experience and to those patients I sat with, I am greatful.
I do hospice aide work as well. I have sat and held their hand, played some nice hymns on UA-cam and just be a comforting presence… I am treating my families and patients the way I want my family to be treated. Hugs!!!!
Your an angel
CNA’s are the Angels of hospice.
B
"Every day you're given the opportunity that someone else wishes they had right now"
Wow, I love that.
As a doctor, I have not seen a more valuable or heartfelt video by a healthcare professional than this one.
My husband passed 2 years ago....he fell on the floor, rolled on his back and calmly said "I'm so sorry Karen, I'm so sorry" he turned in the other direction, lifted his hand then it dropped and he was gone. I have no idea how he even spoke. His heart literally blew up......
Because you were so important to him surely. Miracle of love ❤️
I have seen things too. I am so sorry for your loss. ♥️
@@ZeldaRosenthal thank you
because we are more than just a body.
That moment everything seems to stop . Can we be friends?
Thank you, Doctor. I have worked in healthcare for 25 years and I still struggle daily with the emotional toll that each individual needs. This video was extremely helpful. You are an Angel with a Caduceus on both collars. Huge hugs to you and all who share your calling. It is brutal yet, rewarding
My sister and I was my mother’s primary caretakers. Our mother was in a assisted living home because she had dementia and congestive heart failure. I went and checked on her 2-3times a week and spend time with her. I remember seeing her on a Monday. One of the last things she told me before I left was that she wanted to go home. I was in Gary Indiana on a Friday morning visiting family and got a phone call from my sister at 9:00. She passed. She was 91. It happened fast and no one was able to get there to see her. If I would have known Monday was the last day I would have seen her I would have said my final goodbye. You never know! Spend time with your family & friends and tell them you love them! Because it might be the last chance you see them.
I'm sorry for your loss. Alot of people say our loved ones that are dieing wait til there is no one there I find ya that can be true cause I've stepped out of the room with my mom n dad both n they left us. Also u said u never got to say goodbye well try writing a letter to your mom saying what u would of said to her then pick a good time n read the letter out loud to her. Trust me I'm sure she will hear it. 🙏🙏🙏 For you n your mom.
@@robinmclain7948 Thank you for your words of encouragement my friend.I go to cemetery often to visit.My father passed from cancer when I was 7. My mom was the only one I had around. I really miss her. I never thought about writing a letter and reading it to her. Thank you for your advice. I greatly appreciate it!
Sometimes all opportunities are lost once the dying process has begun. When a dying person's body is being ravaged by cancer and they have extreme anxiety and they can't stop retching, there is no other choice than to medicate them to the point of sedation. Don't assume that you'll be able to say anything once they're on the deathbed. Say it now. Go see them now. It may surprise you how little time they have left.
Saved by faith through grace 🙏
Absolutely, when I lost my only parent, my Grandmother who raised me suddenly in my early 20’s was gone. I regretted not saying so many things to her.
My Grandmother grew up during the depression so her philosophy was that actions spoke louder than words. But I wish I had told her what she meant to me, how much she had done for me and how much I love her.
It’s been 22 years in December that she has been gone. Everything I have done and everything I ever accomplish is because of her. I think about her every day. I wish I had been able to fully tell her what she meant to me while she was alive.
@@robpolaris7272 and perhaps you do not fully know how much you meant to her. A little child brings so much joy and laughter. What a blessing you must have been!
@@robpolaris7272 Rob...believe me when I say...she KNOWS. She knows just how much you love her.
Have no regrets for not saying all the words you thought you should have said while she was here. She doesn't need the words. She has something better, far beyond just words. Now more than ever--she knows the fullness of the love in your heart for her--better than she ever did while here on Earth.
I KNOW...that SHE knows. One day, you are going to have a beautiful reunion. She will be the one who comes for you, when it's your time.
my partner is on the verge of renal failure from prostate cancer. I don't know how long we have. He's in pain all the time and hardly speaks. He's so angry and afraid. He's always fought this and he's losing the battle. He was active until June and now it's deteriorated. Chemo makes him so weak but it was his only option. I hate to see him suffer so much. It's happening so fast, I can't believe the time is here.
This is a great vid. I held my father's hand as he died, and it was an experience that l live with every single day. So much respect for Dr. Malhotra here. Her words ring true. TALK to those you love. Do it now.
My mom almost died a few months ago and it made me really think about taking better control of my health. I made a video " Is Food The Number 1 Killer?" so people can think twice about what they are putting inside their bodies. Great video!!
I worked as an RN for 20 years in nursing homes and another 10 in hospitals. Most honorable thing I did in my nursing career was the hospice work.
Thank you!
Thank you! Angels here on earth!
Same here, worked for a few years doing hospice private nursing in the home. A privilege and an honor to accompany the dying and their loved ones on the final journey. Sometimes got to see a window to the other side.
Every single young person needs to see this video. Get your REAL priorities straight while you still can!
I had a near death exp April 7, 2006 when I was found dead after a tornado. I laid on top of my sons who were 3 & 6. We were in our basement during an F4 Tennessee tornado. All that was left was a partial basement walls, SUV, & a pile of bricks that we were under. I remember leaving my body and floating in the clouds. I was on my way to Heaven. I had the thought “what about my boys” when a loud voice told me that they would be ok.
I was in a drug induced coma for a week but I was communicating with my hands even writing things down. I have a T12 Spinal Cord Injury (w/ my T12 being crushed whichnever healed properly. It’s bone on bone) traumatic head & brain injuries, both lungs were collapsed & 5 broken ribs. I am paralyzed below the waist. I am grateful to be alive w/ my boys.
I knew my Dad & Grandmother were in my hospital room with me bc I sensed them. (From the time my boys were born my Grandmother would visit me the night b4 they would get sick. I would wake up smelling coffee when there was no coffee around. We had a house so there was no way to smell something if it wasn’t there. I started writing down every time this would happened and within 24hrs my kids would be sick.) my Dad passed in 1983 just b4 I turned 12 & Grandma passed in 1996, 4yrs b4 my eldest son was born.
Wow! Prayers for you, Katja. ♥️
I'm glad you survived for you boys. Plus you got to learn firsthand that we are not our bodies. We wear them like a spacesuit so we can be here and drop them on the floor when we leave like yesterday's pants. We are an eternal soul that has many lives, many masters. ♥️
Wow, what a horrific story. You are a very strong woman. God bless you.
@@lorimiller4301 Good viewpoint! I'm very ready to drop this tired, creased
and faded body on the floor and go Home to my Savior forever! I'm just
waiting for the day ~ with my invitation in hand (the Bible's Gospel!) My
one true Master is my God and Savior, Jesus Christ, who shed His blood and died to pay for my sins.
Wow, thank you so much.
Both my parents kept saying thank you for everything during their last few days. I thanked them too❤❤❤
Thank you for sharing your beautiful experiences with us. My mom passed 3 years ago in hospice in my home. It was what she wanted and I am grateful for having had her in my life. She was my best friend. Now my daughter and I are as close to each other as my mom and I were.
My dad saw my brother. He was sitting on the riverbanks waving for daddy to “come on, it’ll be ok, I have waiting for you.” My dad also saw a someone else in the room we didn’t see. Daddy was so at peace.
That moment can only be explained by them . Can we be friends?
Since he was 'so at peace' = perhaps he was indeed a believer and forgiven AND perhaps the One he 'saw' was an angel sent to accompany him Home, or Jesus Himself.
@@charlesmorg5677 you can go get a life and stay out of mine
When my dad was dying he was talking to his old childhood neighbors. I'm certain they were there to bring him home.
How did your brother die ?
I wrote this song that I sung at my mom's funeral because she had requested for me to sing it. Title: " Don't cry for me" We gathered around her bed tears filled our eyes. Told her that we loved her said our final goodbyes. She will soon be gone as her eyes close in death. She'll wake up in heaven with eternal rest.
Chorus:
She said I'm going on a journey leaving this world behind. I'm going to that city where the sun(son) always shines. I'll see my friends and loved ones I've been longing to see. I'll be with Jesus don't cry for me.
2nd verse:
We are gonna miss her and she'll miss us too. She said to live for Jesus he'll see us through. Then we will meet again on that heavenly shore. Where we will be together forever more.
Repeat Chorus
Hope these words are a comfort to you who have lost loved ones.
Wonderful!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My Granny, one week before she died (she didn't PASS anywhere) she told us that her four decreased children were at the foot of her bed each night,. Saying they missed her and were waiting. Then the final night before her Death, she said that my Grandfather came with them and told her it was 'time to leave' Granny Beatrice died in peace, looking forward to seeing them all.
What does it mean : "she didn't PASS anywhere" ?
@@myotherusername9224 🤣 it means when somebody dies, they DIE.... They do not "pass" anywhere, they don't pass over, pass out, pass by, pass under.... They DIE🤣
@@jegsthewegs sorry, still don't understand. are you saying the person completely ceases to exist, no consciousness carried forward to another plane of existence , no 'life after death' - like, complete annihilation ?
@@myotherusername9224 their physical body DOES NOT PASS ANYWHERE. 🤦🏼 That's one of the major problems in this world-intolerance of other people's beliefs. That's why the Nazis annihilated millions of Jews.
Such a beautiful video. My father's last words were "Hurry up!" He could not see as his eyes had crusted over but he clearly saw into the spiritual realm. He was shaking hands and smiling. It was hugely comforting. I miss my Pa so much but knowing he is with Jesus and other loved ones is just wonderful ❤.
As a physician....this really touched me. Thank you.
I lost my mum at 34 due to cancer , I'd moved her into my home the year before she passed away because she had been bed ridden for many years and it was hard for me because I had 4 children it was too much for me to look after 2 households , when she had to go in hospital because she was so sick I was with her all day every day I made sure that her family who she hadn't seen for year's due to fallouts and just stupid arguments came to see her , that day she was so happy she looked better than ever so I left them together the next morning when I arrived my mum was in a comma , I stayed with her day and night for 3 days untill I had to leave to go home and my last words to her was " please mum don't worry about me , you know I will be ok , go to sleep I love you an I will see you soon , I left to go home an get a shower an clean clothes about an hour later I got the call...she had died , I really think she didn't want me to be there when she passed, she knew me well , I'd have broken in mind and body we were that close she didn't want me to witness her passing I know she's in a better place , she's with family and I know one day I'll see her again 🥰💓💓💓💓
So Beautiful... Thank you
My mom's hospice nurse was mean. She was rough with her and would yell at me if I called her with a question.
The CNA that visited to help me was the exact opposite. Gentle, patient, kind. She'd talk to me about how I felt and her own experience with a family member. She made an extremely hard time a little calmer.
Meow Saysthepuppydog, I sure hope you didnt put up with that! Im Italian and very loud when I see wrong going on! That nurse would have been fired from her job, not just by me. I would have shamed her mercelessly! She is in the wrong profession. Ever have a bad a server in a restaurant? Well shes a bad nurse and doesnt like people. Shame on her for causing more problems for your family.
I am sorry that you had an unpleasant experience with the hospice nurse. God bless you.
I hope you reported her
I'm so sorry you went through such a painful time with your mother's illness and death compounded by inexcusable behavior from her nurse. Please report her to her immediate supervisor and let them know you're contacting your state's nurse's licensing board , and if her immediate supervisor does not show genuine concern and take appropriate action, then continue up the chain of command until someone listens. Follow through with the state board also please. Your mother suffered needlessly from the unconscionable behavior of an unprofessional, unethical, supposed caregiver but you can prevent other patients and their families from this criminal behavior. I'm grateful your CNA was compassionate and helped your mother when she needed care the most.
The last thing someone needs in their biggest time of need is a POS nurse treating them bad. Being a nurse definitely was not her calling if she acted like that. I hope she is not a nurse anymore.
My dad had so much pain medication that we didn’t get a response from him. I wanted to get a glimpse of Heaven through him! He died May 10 at 72. I miss him so much!!!
My mom was just a little girl when her grandmother had a stroke and could not speak or move. This went on for months. One day grandma called my mom's sister by name and scared her to death because grandma was unable to speak. My aunt pushed my mom into grandma's bedroom, too scared to go in herself. Although she called my aunt by name, she recognized my mom and said to her, 'Margaret, look at all the beautiful flowers" and died with a smile. The one and only time she spoke post stroke. Mom always hung on to that because years later she lost my dad at 41 years old. She always said it helped her with her grief. Know that there is a beautiful place for us in Heaven. Thank you for letting me share this story. It proved to my mom, who is gone now, and me that there is really an afterlife. Heaven is for real!
Doctors don’t spend much time with patients at all. Nurses Do. If you’re interested in what really goes on at that critical highly emotional spiritual moment, ask a Nurse
So true yet this physician was very interested in her patients and asked questions. Answers were important to her.
100 percent agree with you ..I am a Nurse also and we are the ones with the patients and know exactly what is going on...do not get me wrong there are some wonderful caring Doctors as well some...
Until the “ Resource Based Economy “ by Jacque Fresco is implemented all these dying peoples last words will all be the same
This weekend I was on a plane from Warsaw. After 15 minutes of being in the air, the captain announced that we have a technical problem and we have to land. I'm only 25, but encountering the possibility of dying, not existing, was very emotional for me. My mind immediately went to all the people in my life and how I dont tell them enough how valuable they are and how much I love them. This experience has definitely made me much more grateful. Being alive is a miracle. Let's appreciate it while we can ♡
alive not live
@@Landis_Grant When she dies I'm 100% sure she isn't going to be looking back at this UA-cam comment wishing she spelled alive instead of live
I been with people dying - many people - you never talk about people when they are in comma - they understand and hear everything you say !!!!
Also if possible ask them to squeeze you hand obese for yes and two times for no. If they can do it ask them yess or no questions. I communicated with my brother that way.
I took care of my mom literally around the clock for almost 5 years. The real work was the last 3 years when I needed a sit to stand lift and hospital bed. All medication through out the day was documented still have all the notebooks. I slept on the floor next to my mom when she was in her hospital bed. It's 3 years ago last March that she passed away. Nothing under the sun I would not do for my mom and would do it again as she took care of anyone else. Siblings are trash.
Be grateful that you didn't have to leave her due to MONEY everybody is not as lucky. Count yourself bkessed
@@babajohnson9276 thank you I'm very blessed to have taken care of my mom. I have all the medication all lined up in the cabinet have all cleaning items, pads, barrier cream, sit to stand lift ,hospital bed, wheelchair, everything is just frozen in time I guess. I drive truck and when I get back home occasionally I still sleep on the floor next to her hospital bed. Nothing ever takes the place of a mom
I was caregiver for my mom and my husband. It was exhausting.The Home HC Nurse told me that it was usually the case that only one person does it all. Yes I understand, but I would do it again.
@@timray7066 I pray you can give those things to someone who needs it and enjoy what's left of your life. That's what your mom wants. Life is short, you have all eternity to be with your mom. Enjoy what's left of your earthly life. Grow, prosper, make your mom proud. Wallowing and sleeping on the floor isn't what she wants for you.
Yes they are.
Total respect for her & her patients, I hope no one lets a toxic relative back in over fear of regret, though. Not all disagreements become trivial or small when death approaches.
So true. Noone needs to lay guilt on someone when its none of their business. Do what's best for you not what someone in a youtube video tells you what to do.
Exactly what stood out to me as missing from this fluff piece video. I'm sure she has had to care for dying narcissists but she isn't going to mention it. I don't think I'd want some stranger asking me all these questions when I'm dying lol.
Absolutely. If the relative is abusive, they won't be any less abusive when they're on their death bed. Many people have gone to see abusive parents who were dying in the hope of a peaceful goodbye, only to have the relative engage in a final round of abuse to be remembered by.
I had a very toxic person throughout my entire life. She is very old now and the only thing that healed me of it was to forgive her completely. I do have a relationship with her now but I cannot be hurt by her anymore. When we stop letting others actions decide our actions and feelings, we grow as people. There’s reasons behind everyone’s hateful or abusive ways and when we look at them, we can forgive. That doesn’t mean you forget but I don’t let anyone put me in a bad mood any more. I decided my mood and my feelings and through my faith in Jesus! If He can forgive me, then I can forgive. It’s healed me of all resentment and pain. After accepting Him, it all went away. I live in peace today! 🙏✝️
@@nothingbutthetruth3227 I'm glad that worked for you. I am all for forgiveness. Religion is an issue so you can keep that, and kindly don't proselytize to anyone, as that's toxic behavior.
My dad died from terminal lung and bone cancer. He had a comfortable and lucid death, he just faded away. No fear or struggle. He did see people on the other side and spoke with them.
I worked in a Long Term Acute Care hospital (LTAC) and frequently we had patients that were close to dying. I would tell family members to talk to their loved ones because even though they couldn’t respond they could probably hear them. I would also share this with our Patient Care Techs (CNA’s) that whatever they did for the patients they needed to let them know before they did it. Bath, mouth care, change gown. Whatever!
If we learned anything from Covid, I hope it to find a way to never have people pass alone. ESPECIALLY, with loved ones able and wanting to be with them.
I also hoped we learned that the hospital was more dangerous than the virus.
Sorry to hear that. Losing a mother is the hardest thing I’ve experienced. I lost my mother last April. It was all so confusing to me. I feel so horrible.
I still miss my mother too, and she died in 1984. In my case, although I still miss her, a feeling of gratitude for having her in my life has been added, and the pain has subsided. I wish you peace.
@P M Sorry for your loss. Losing your mother is deep.
I lost my mother 17 years ago. Still miss her. Talk to her sometimes and sometimes she answers by giving me a "Knowing". There is no closer earthly bond than mother and child.
My late wife asked her dying father that if he could, to let her know IF there was something after death. As we were going down the stairs of our apartment to do some grocery shopping, she stopped for a second and said: 'My Dad passed away, he just went through me and I could smell his aftershave". We went back upstairs and she called her mother who, indeed, confirmed he literally just passed away and asked: "How did you know?" and she told her mother of what just occurred.
I'm 78 years old and have just watched one of the most wonderful insights into the inevitable path I'll eventually be following somewhere down the road. Dr. Malhotra, I can't thank you enough for giving us an inside look at what you've seen first hand in that you've seen it all time and time again and let us know what seems to work best in facing the very latter phase of our existence. We now realize that is the norm (expressing/discussing those uncomfortable 'scary' feelings), rather than the exception.
Again, my sincere gratitude for sharing your insight, wisdom and warmth -
She sure did make me feel peaceful about when that time comes.... Thank you Dr. Malhorta.
I was in the Healthcare field but Hospice Care is what took me out of it. It became too emotional for me.
Thank you to all hospice medical workers and volunteers. Thank you 🙏🏼
My Father said "I'd rather be a movie star" and mother-in-law said "I'm out of here". Bless hospice workers !
Hospice workers are amazing. My mom was in hospice for a day. On her last day, the nurse would come in.... of course we all would become silent. But before she checked her, she just stood and listened with her eyes closed. They are some of the most compassionate group of people I have her known.
My father was in hospice for 10 hours and the people were like family, I asked the one girl if she could shave my father's face because he was always clean shaven and did it without question. Such wonderful people
My late Dad ❤️ died in Hospice Center , he had the Best Care , Nurses were amazing kind caring Made sure my Dad was not in Pain , Yes I talked to my Dad every day when Dad was there , I would talk to him bout my childhood & more , Dad would smile 🙂 hold your Loved Ones Hand always , Dad passed Peacefully ❤️ I was with him Mom & our other family left , said Thier goodbyes , I Couldn't Leave Dad , Still talking to him , Saying Daddy it's ok to go now be at Peace with God 🙏 then he passed Peacefully an hour later 🙏
It's so very important to tell your loved one that it will break your heart to not have them in your life but it's time to do what's best for them. Working palliative and in my own life so found often our loved ones needed to hear this to be at peace before passing. It's the hardest thing in the world to say but Ive seen what a difference it makes to the person who is dying bringing peace and letting those they love devote themselves ensuring those last moments are spent together in love.
@@kathrynbell880 Yes it is God bless you 🙏 Cathy ❤️
Powerful, "everyday we are given the opportunity that someone else wishes they had right now. " wow
Our friend's mother had Alzheimer's disease. As she lay dying with all her grandchildren and children around her and in the house she suddenly became aware and talked to everyone around her like her old self. She knew people's names again. She slowly faded and was gone soon after. That always amazed me but then when my husband's father was passing with Sundowner's dementia he was in the ER and not responding. The next day we went to the hospital to see him and he was awake and hungry. He had a meal, knew everyone, laughed and we thought he was going to be ok. The next day we got a call that the end was near. He died that day. How does that happen? How do they wake from their age or disease and have a last moment of clarity? I wish that I could have been with my mother when she passed. Covid kept us from her. The hospital got full and they pushed into a nursing home that didn't give her her Lasik (sp) treatment and she drowned in the middle of the night only 8 hours later.
Nancy--they return to clarity right before passing--because their true self is beginning to disconnect from their physical body. The illness is in the physical body and brain only, and as they begin to separate--their mind--consciousness--is freeing itself from the sick body.
So sorry you missed the last time with her. Blame that scoundrel Fauci. 👎
@@Sydroo1969 How is Fauci responsible? All he did was to report the information as they discovered it and it was the media who demonized him.
But thank you for the sympathies for my mother. She would have called you an angel.
I am so sorry about your precious momma. I truly hope you can find peace and know God will not forget-that nursing home needs to be held responsible!
I'm a Mental Health Nurse with a lot of experience working with older adults and my experience time and time again has been that people are remarkably lucid and capable a couple of days before death. It seems to be a pattern, maybe an opportunity for people to say goodbye in the best way. I'm not religious but this seems like something spiritual in nature.
As a Christian, I KNOW where I'm going when I die. I am a pilgrim and sojourner here in this world, and I'm just passing through this life. This place isn't my home and I really don't have much stock here in this world. I won't have any regrets or sorrows, except maybe for the ones that will miss me when I'm gone. But that's for their sake. If the doctor told me that I only had a month left to live, I would be excited and looking forward to it. I'm going to a place that is better than the best fairy tale that you could ever imagine, and it is eternal. That is the end point of this existence for the believer, because God is love. God said that in His presence is fullness of joy, and at His right hand are pleasures forevermore. I'm just waiting to receive my inheritance that I have in Christ and to begin my bliss in God's eternal rest that He has waiting for me. This existence here is short and is just a preamble to life itself. No one will ever enter into God's rest if they don't know Jesus Christ.There is both the goodness of God and the severity of God.
Beautifullyl stated. God bless you!
i believe that we are in end times everyone around me is freaking out but i actually get excited -jesus is my lord and savior
I cannot tell you how your words touched my heart!❤ I'm only 53 years old, but I too am ready to go home 2 heaven anytime The Lord is ready to take me. I long to go sooner than later.
I really love your opinion! However, I don't like where you try and strip hope from others who may not believe the way you do by saying NO ONE will enter into God's rest if they don't know Jesus! That brings nothing but division and confusion to others, especially if they were born into a different culture. God created everything seen and unseen and He loves ALL His creation. We are humans! PERIOD! NO human is perfect in another human's eyes, BUT in God's eyes we are ALL unique and loved! Not so much the flesh, BUT the spirit that resides in us all. The flesh dies and goes to the ground and that beautiful spark of energy that resides in us all will have the opportunity to carry on. To live, to do as it pleases! Don't think for ONE second that God will condemn someone to some eternal torment just because they failed to believe a certain way. That is absurd! Why? Because God is a fair and just God and He would never ever ever ever ever condemn someone to some eternal torment for simply being born in Pakistan for example while another one born in America has a greater odds of knowing Jesus or should I say believing that Jesus is your free ticket! People born in Pakistan are raised hard core believing the Quran. What are the odds of them converting to Christianity? Some do, but my point is what are the odds? Next to 0! So does that mean that God condemns those people from birth? Of course not! God created us ALL and if you want to unite people, you surely don't tell them God loves me, BUT He doesn't love you unless you know Jesus. Again, that creates division! Religion doesn't get you into the presence of God! Why? Because the Kingdom of Heaven ALREADY resides in us ALL! PERIOD! It's not based on YOUR beliefs! People are so quick to hate and judge and cause division if people don't believe the way they do. I was in that same boat for countless years until God showed up in my dreams to show me truth. What is truth? BE HAPPY and DO what makes YOU happy without hurting others in the process! Love all and enjoy life and just be the best version of YOU based on the cards you were dealt! You are NOT to FORCE YOUR beliefs on anyone else as this brings division. We as humans are to be a light and spread the message of love by being and showing love. That simple! Love is the truth, the way, and the life, and NO ONE comes to the Father except by love! We ALL have love in us, but our EGO mind blocks that love. However, upon death, that EGO mind goes to the grave and that spirit of LOVE that's been hiding in you goes back to God who created it! Blessings to you!
Well said. Thank you
On the day of my sister's funeral, my mother, daughter and myself were sitting at the dining room table. My brother had fallen asleep on the couch and the tv was on. I noticed that the tv volume was going up and down. I asked my daughter if she heard it and she acknowledged that she did. As I looked toward the hallway I saw a small circle of light. I was shocked and my mouth was wide open. I lost sight of it and tried to find it again. After a few seconds I saw it again. The light was going toward my daughter. When the light hit my daughter she jumped up and said: Okay Auntie, I won't sit in your chair. At the time my mother said, please stop this. And that was that.
When my mother had a life threatening operation in 2000 for cancer . I was with my son and daughter at mums bedside in the hospital, when mum said dad was sitting on the bed opposite her . Dad died in 1988
I am retired, single, childless with only one nephew that I am not close to. When it’s my time, I’d be alone. If I could afford hospice, hopefully there are kind ppl there to make the last days peaceful. If I was at home, hopefully neighbors would find out soon before the remain mummified.
Ur not alone, I have no one either
Get connected and involved in a church. Invest in friendships. Most of us will die alone because we won't want our loved ones to see us let go.
Me also, and I don’t know the neighbours wonder how long before I’m discovered ?
@@MsLotusBlooms really great advice!
Hospices do not charge anything. They are free to all. I also have a fear of being alone at the end
I'm a retired nurse and i worked Hospice both in home and in the facility For over 20 years . People say all kinds of things and some don't, some are so heavily medicated they don't say a word . All I can say I would tell myself Kath your helping them get ready to go to heaven .
You helped them get ready for heaven or hell ; there are 2 places, it's not everyone who gets to heaven.
When my dad was dying his last two words were Mary, and Grandpa. I was his baby daughter and my name is Mary. We were best friends. I will cherish that is he said my name before he died. I will miss my dad forever. R.I .P. Daddy I will love you forever.❤️🌻❤️🌻
My beloved 98 yr old mom died this April and though unable to speak and move, she was, however, able to make a fist with her index pointing upwards. I believe it was a way, telling me that all was well and her ready to meet Jesus. It's been Four months since her passing and still difficulty accepting the loss of my mom and best friend.
I retired a year ago after 25 years as a hospice nurse. It is such amazing work and I felt truly privileged to walk the patients home and support their families. Hospice nurses, doctors, chaplains, social workers and hospice aides are truly remarkable in the jobs that they do. Blessings to all of them and those they care for. ☮️💟
YOU ARE A SAINT.
THANK GOD FOR YOU.
Thank you.
It's true, your family from your passed are watching and waiting... For you are a LOVED ONE🙏💪🤔🗣️😇
My MIL was hanging on. The nurse told me some people need permission from their loved ones to leave. So I whispered in her ear that I would take such good care of her son, and it was ok for her to go and join her husband. She squeezed my hand and was gone within 24 hours.
My Mom died jun 6 which was ironic since my Dad was at Normandy. I moved in with her after Dad died in 2013. She had Hospice at home but eventually came down with Alzheimer's about 3 years ago. In 2021 Hospice told me I couldn't do this anymore and we put her in a special facility. She asked about her mom once in a while and when we had her 100th birthday party she asked if my dad was coming. So very sad. After she died I ended up in the hospital twice in two weeks with infections.y body just broke down. I'm 75 I miss her so much.
Sorry for your great loss praying for you and your family always remember in Jesus Christ there is no death only cross over.
I am so sorry, Karen. Prayers. ♥️
I get it, the grief doesn’t end, but we will see them again if you believe in Jesus. No matter what our age, they are still our mom and dads.
The last thing I remember hearing my Mom say; "I'm going to see Jesus!"
I’m a hospice and dementia healthcare worker I’ve seen amazing things all I can say there is a GOD and Heaven is Real ! I’ve had clients tell me the colors of Heaven is beyond what we know and our loved ones are there waiting and the Love GOD has for us is is beyond our comprehension 😇
True Story: My oldest daughter had a B'day party when she was about 6 at our club pool. It started at 5. My wife said multiple times "don't be late". About 3PM the day of the party the Fortune 50 company I worked for had an IT issue that kept me until 6 or so. When I got to the party everyone was mad at me. My wife, my daughter, my mother the other children's mothers. After about 30 minutes my father, a retired trauma physician came up to me and said "I have seen a lot of people die and never once did someone say that they wish they would have spent more time in the office". If I would have left at 3 I would have had to look for another job. I feel like I made the right call.
And it may have been a better job 😊
Sometimes people need all the info before they make their judgments on you! But they are just arse holes so f**kem’
It’s easy for others to say “just get another job.” Changing jobs is a major life event. I think when the job is ALWAYS coming first, then yes it’s time to make a change.
@@michellebowers8652 from the wisdom of my 71 years, I suggest you change your priorities. I sacrificed a lot as a young wife and mother to do right by my job as a college professor. You could have argued that I earned "good money" if you didn't divide the salary by all the hours I worked -- including the ones I generously gifted the college. Now that my beloved husband is dead and my boys have families of their own, I wish I had used those gifted hours to squeeze a little more time with them. I truly wish you would think about it. Much love 💖
@@anamariaguadayol2335 Half of me agrees with you. I am 70 myself and that job as an IT director paid for both children to attend private collegs and graduate debt free. I am happy that I was a good provider for them.
At 69, I've started to find myself reflecting. I've surprised myself. At age 35, circumstances a divorce, alienation from two adult daughters sort of left me in free fall. Being not a martyr by nature, having spent a few years being determined to heal the co-dependency my children inherited from their alcoholic father, I decided to live my life. It has occured to me at this age, how happy I am to have made that decision. Have traveled all over America, had a lot of adventures, and realized this was actually what has made me most true to what I wanted in my life. There is nothing I wish I could have lived. I couldn't save those I loved from their decisions; this I understood from the therapy I sought. I have no regrets for what I chose, however much I wished for healing for the others in my situation, that was never my decision to make.
Being at peace with your life- one of the best ways to move through this time of life, I think.
Amen! Wishing you peace and light on your journey💜
My brother, my wife and I would make sure we would go and visit our father, who lived just across the road, ( we all lived in the country ). He lived in the house that he and my mother built, and we would stop in after work nearly every day to visit with them. And weekends too. In the late summer of 1980 our mother had a stroke and went into a coma. Both my parents were in their mid 80s. We made sure we visit and looked in on our father a lot more to see if he needed anything. My wife would cook and take supper up to him, just about every night. Just about three and a half years after our mother went into the coma, my father came to terms that our mother was not coming out of the coma. Then one night, when my wife and I went up to see my father ( we took supper up to him ) we sat and talked with him for quite a while. As we were getting ready to leave he asked us to do him a favor. We said sure, what did he want us to do ? He said some “ friends “ dropped in last night, after my wife and I left, and wanted him to go with them on a trip. I asked where were they going and how long ? He told me they wanted to show him something and he didn’t know how long he would be. But the favor was that he wanted my wife and I to take care of his dog ( Curly ) for him while he was gone. I asked him when he was leaving ? He told us within the next day or so. ( I didn’t like his dog and he knew it. ). I asked him why he didn’t ask my brother or one of my sisters to take care of him? His reply was that he knew that we would take better care of him. My wife said “ No problem, we love to do it”. My father said he would feel a lot better knowing Curly was with us. (That Should Have Been The First Clue ). THEN he said to come over and give him a hug and kiss. My wife did just that. I waved and said I would see you in the morning before you leave. He said he wanted me to give him a hug and kiss right now. So I went over to where he was sitting and hugged him and kissed him. He said he loved us and thanked us for helping him. ( That Should Have Been The Second Clue ). That was a Saturday night. The next morning, I was in bed, when the phone rang and my wife answered it. She yelled to wake me up and it was my brother. He was yelling for me to come up to Dad’s and help him, because he couldn’t wake Dad up. I rushed up and gave him CPR and did every thing I knew to bring him around, but I couldn’t. I called 911, to get an ambulance. Then my brother and I looked around and we saw that Curly had been fed. My brother said that the kitchen door was unlocked when he came him and he found Dad on his office couch. My father had got up, made and ate breakfast. Let the dog out, and put food and water down for the dog. ( not knowing when one of us would come up ). We found a note on his desk telling us who his lawyer was for his will. We all believe that our father knew that he was leaving us because his “friends “ came to take him, but gave him a day or so to make arrangements for Curly and to hug,kiss and say goodby to us.
Stop being afraid of living. Love, share, express, and always be kind . . .
My grandmother died at age 63 from an operation gone wrong. Her last words were, “ Yes, Lord, I’m ready “. ❤
I’m really sorry 😢 for your loss
My sister died suddenly. The week before we where getting ready for Thanksgiving then September 11,2021 she was gone the grief was painful. I feel that she is in a better place the first 3 months my lights would flicker I talk to her every day. The hardest where the holidays. For me I want no regrets when I die
Hospice and especially palliative care? Bless you. You are taking care of what family used to do. ♥️
My sister has worked at hospice for 25 years.
Pursuing one’s passions and desires often (or usually) involves spending less time with loved ones. One of life’s bitter ironies…
Unfortunately for my mother, when she was dying in the hospital, her favorite daughter said "I wish she would hurry up and die". I shamed my sister and she said "She knows she's dying ". I know my mother heard that and it still breaks my heart that her favorite daughter said this while she was dying. Sometimes people will hang on for fear of the unknown. My mom was scared and she had to hear that. She died in 2016 and I have not spoken to the cold hearted sister since.
Forgiveness is one of God's requirements, wish the best, and pray for mercy.
I am so sorry for your loss, and I am sorry that you and your sister are estranged. I totally understand how you feel. Your sister's behavior was very selfish and unforgivable. But I tell you what, pray and ask God to remove the anger you have for your sister out of you. Begin to pray for your sister in Jesus Christ name and ask God to *"create in you a clean heart and restore the right spirit within you"* Then release your sister into Jesus Christ hands. You can forgive her, and not be around her .
If you are a child of Jesus Christ please forgive your sister
Do it for you and out o
f love for our creator
Forgiveness does not mean that you have to
be your sister closer confident or talk to her
But let your anger go and forgive her from your heart it will heal yours
I know exactly how you feel Shelly it was the same for me when my mum died. My uncle (her brother) and my cousin said some horrendous things about her literally hours after she died. I never forgave them and I never will. Some things just do not deserve our forgiveness. Never forgive your sister and her disgusting words, she doesn't deserve it!
@@staceykeeley4219 I bet her mother would forgive her, because she loves her. Love forgives. Because iniquity shall abound the love of many shall wax cold. Then Satan gets a compound victory. There's an old saying, " Love one another was the dieing mother's prayer".
we are all dying so spend time with family as much as you can.
i told my dad on his death bed that i could not wish for a better dad. he repied: thanks son, that means a lot.
i told my mum on her death bed that i loved her. she replied: you won't forget me, will you? - no. i never will.
i was one of the few souls to be blessed with a great mum and dad.
my dad was an athiest
my mum was a believer
...and never the twain shall meet
Oh my. I have tears in my eyes reading that.
My mom had cancer. I held my moms face in my hands. She was minutes away from dying. Furrowed her brow. I stroked her forehead and said, “Oh I know mommy. It’s ok. Youve fought hard for a long time and I want you to rest now. It’s ok.” Then I said, “Daddy is waiting. Jesus is waiting.” Then she died with me holding her face in my hands.
Nurse came in. Took her pulse. She still had a pulse so I got in the bed with her and stroked her face for those last seconds.
She wanted me beside her when she died. She wanted her family around her. She got that. ❤️
@@silversadie9342 beautiful
@@silversadie9342 that is so beautiful and sad at the same time. i believe that the most important thing that you can do is be with your nearest and dearest at their passing. both my parents passed at home with me present. i lay on the floor next to their bed so that they knew i was there with them. You were so privaliged to spend a moment with your mum on her passing. God bless you.
Your believing Mom's passing was a sure transit into blessed rest in Jesus. Revelation 14:13. Your atheist dad? An eternal tragedy notwithstanding your loving expressions to him. Blessed are the dead who die on the Lord