Hey, this is so accurate. No matter how much you try to deal as flawlessly as you possibly can with all the pleasantries, it will inevitably get tiring trying to keep it up everyday.
true i am just finding out almost nobody can tell how i feel most of the time and they do not even ask they just sit there like i am a opossum or something ,they just sort of stand there awkwardly. why do you not ask me how i feel?
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Definitely agree - and it's so tiring when people misunderstand you because of something you're not even aware of, like facial expressions. I just don't get how I can write a well-embellished, descriptive story, coming up with 10 synonyms for a word - then when someone asks how I feel - I can't put my finger on even one word. It's too many feelings, all at once, nearly all the time. "I feel...not good." Wow, so descriptive. 😂
I'm with you here. When someone asks me how I am, and I answer honestly, it seems to spark a long-winded lecture from some people. Nowadays, my response is a half-minute silence.
I agree. One time my director asked me if I was happy with my promotion to supervisor. I didn’t know how to respond. I don’t know what happy means. Then she started to make faces and I was thinking she looked disappointed so I just said I feel content in my new role. Still not sure what happy is to this day.
That’s because many of us have the condition known as alexathymia as part of the autism diagnosis this is where we cannot accurately describe complex emotions and name them like neurotypicals can. Sure we now the basics happy, sad, angry, we also struggle to connect how these emotions feel in our bodies too.
Ya. And at other times they tell you "But I've seen you formulate great, complete thoughts in certain circumstances with other people. Why can't you do that with me? Why are you constantly restarting your sentence with different words?" Then they don't want to talk to you anymore because it's exasperating for them. But if you slow yourself down and take time to think, you eventually lose the train of thought because of ADHD (for many), you never get back to them, and they hate you for that ADDITIONALLY. It's so easy to go doomer over being like this because everything is a fractal catch-22 and heaven forbid you fall off the self-help train over time.
I loved the pixar movie "inside out". It helped me understand my own feelings and I also use it as a tool with my kids to help them describe how they're feeling.
Dan, this problem has been the bane of my existence. It’s comforting to hear you explain these things so more people might understand. I wish TAW was around when I was young, but it’s never too late 🤗
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I have Asperger's but on the contrary am very self-aware and am really in-tune with my emotions. This comes partly due to the fact that I've been through the mental health system in order to get a formal diagnostic assessment and also the job centre and other employment training and benefits systems so I've had to become very adept at explaining every little aspect of my emotions in order to convey to people how my conditions affect me, ultimately to try and find more suitable employment and have a more sustainable income.
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I have problems with having a blank facial expression even though I could be so happy about something. Hate being watched during things like opening a present for example . I feel like people are expecting me to show all this emotion on my face, so I then try and force a smile as that's what I think is expected of me.
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@iridescentCommodore As a non-autistic person, when something I like happens, for example, I find out that a new season of a series I like, has been released - I start to feel happy - I can also kinda physically feel my happyness/hyperness come up, as in - I feel my tiredness fade and feel more energized, and like a chain reaction, I start to smile. It feels like smiling enhances my happiness, deepens it. Would u say that there's no connection between ur facial muscles/expressions and your emotions? And are there any moments where u actually catch urself smiling automatically because of something, or not?
Hi Dan! I'm so happy that i found your channel. On tuesday this week i got my diagnos, i have asperger/autism, finally, i'm 44 yrs. I love your lifehacks, it have helped me many times. Sorry for my bad english, it's not my first language. Love and light from Sweden 🇸🇪
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As someone with Asperger's Syndrome (and yes I still use the term, PC fraidy cats be damned), my emotions were always cranked up to 20. I felt everything in my heart extremely sensitively, and wore it on my sleeve. Most of the time, I still do - its just part of who I am.
I had actually found a cup full of all the different emotions as emojis at Walmart years ago that helped me with my son. Helped him learn about the different types of feelings and how the feeling can go along with what it might “look” like. He was 4 at the time, he’s 9 now and we’re all still learning. But it was SO helpful! Good luck everyone and this is so right on! Thank you for your content and keep doing the amazing work that helps so many. 😁
I’m 41. I was even saying to my mum recently relationships can be so confusing I recognise flirting in other people but don’t recognise it when someone directs it to me. I have also had people think I’m flirting when I’m just being friendly. Hence I have never been involved in a romantic relationship in my life in the NT sense of the word. I tend to connect more on a platonic, spiritual and intellectual level
I am literally in post meltdown recovery because of a meltdown triggered (about an hour ago) by emotional overload so this video couldn't have turned up at a better time, for showing my fiance. He's still new to dealing with autism, so he is always learning. Thanks for this.
@@ThatElfTorunn indeed, fairy must be one of those people that thinks the term Aspergers is offensive, so now we have this jumbled spectrum that no one seems to understand.
@@fairymairah "No offense but the term Meltdown is kind of offensive. it's like Autistics are not seen as people who have Feelings or something." I get what you're expressing there. Perhaps the term could be used to denigrate others, were they so inclined to devalue autistic people. However, If I were to guess, it seems to me that the term "Meltdown" is used in a way that's meant to be helpful for the moment, until a better term is invented. (This thing is happening - Now what do we call it?) Since it's not uncommon for autistic people to readily use the term to describe what they themselves experience, I imagine that they don't find it offensive. So when outsiders notice that an autistic person suffers from a momentary "Meltdown" of overwhelming emotions and trouble controlling it, then everyone has a common frame of reference, so that clearer communication on the subject is possible. Not merely to use it as a word just to fail to take their suffering seriously.
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Thank you. A short, sweet concise talk on the subject. I am 78, and just now finding we are an autistic family, while actually initially focusing on one member of our family. Videos like this help so much. There is so much to learn.
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My husband has Asperger's and I have ADHD. Your channel has been helping me so much. I struggle sometimes with understanding his emotions but after 20 years we've both learned how to decipher one another. My favorite way to communicate is using gifs. Ones that use highly exaggerated certain emotions and he loves it. It makes it easier for me to convey and puts a funny touch to it so it's more playful at times even when I'm angry.
My daughter is 7 we have struggled finding videos she likes to watch that tells her about herself she relates to your channel though and enjoys watching you. She is different than a typical children but so smart.
Dan this problem has been the bane of my existence. It’s comforting to hear you explain these things, I only wish TAW was around when I was young, but it’s never too late 🤗
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When my son was very young, he developed an interest in Thomas the Tank Engine and Friends. That dates dates how long ago this was. I watching the videos and reading the books helped him understand facial expressions that matched basic emotions. The faces were fixed expressions for whatever was happening and learned from the context, so he has a great ability to show empathy in his own unconventional way. So the emoji idea makes so much sense. He does have a hard time expressing his own feelings. He uses his own person metaphors in question form to express basic emotions, but not the in between areas. We will have to encourage him to use emojis. I use them myself when I am at a loss for words for expressing feelings. Kind of makes me wonder about the mind of the person who created emojis in the first place.
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I often am emotionally detached from other people and from situations. I suspect my detachment serves a protective function, because I was traumatized when I was younger. Also, when I become especially emotional, I lose control and go nuts.
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O have a difficulty with recognizing my emotions, expressing them and sometimes I say I feel nothing, I feel numb and my therapist always tells me It's me the one who does not know what I feeling and still I think I can't feel things. Also I have a big issue with controlling my anger. I used to treat it with lithium but nowadays I deal with that naturally and maturely. For those who have a problem controlling anger, I feel you, hold strong.
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I feel like I can read people pretty well but it is a skill I learned over decades. As for my own feelings, I prefer to not express them or really entertain them. I don't care about being happy. I seek contentment and love being left alone.
That is how I feel is best for me but I still seem too serious and once I smile they may talk it the wrong way when it's the opposite sex, even though I don't feel sexually/romantically attracted to anyone easily or at all.
This will probably stress Dan out to think about because it's a suggestion for a bit of a change. I love the shorter versions as they are much more accessible for me. For longer videos(which we love by the way but just need easy chunks to follow) is it possible to put section markers on the timeline and shortcuts in the description so that the video is navigatable. I hope this makes sense but there's a real structure to this approach and I like to see the timings as I watch. Your videos are great so don't take this as criticism Dan and please keep posting!! 🙂
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Great video as usual, thank you! YES to emojis/typing and +5 to -5 scale for me... A million times easier than trying to talk to others (able to edit and arrange my thoughts AND "sugar-coat" stuff for NTs 😂)
I’m kind of the all or nothing person. I have a hard time verbally communicating my emotions, especially when it’s not related to happiness. I also feel as if I’m not even allowed to express that I’m struggling. I have this attitude of, yes. I understand I’m not allowed to have emotions. I get that I’m not allowed to feel this way in this situation. So I try to make it to where I never make mistakes like that again. Not only am I on the autism spectrum, but I also have a physical handicap that prevents me from reading facial expressions, which makes it even more difficult. I have another condition that also plays a roll in this too. My mom is very good with me when stuff like this happens.
Love your content! Thank you so much for it. As a therapist, I enjoy watching your videos to get more perspective on autism spectrum disorder and, more importantly, the human behind it. I think the latter part is, unfortunately, overlooked sometimes.
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This is one thing I don’t have much of a problem with. I think of everything as grey but I think I had to teach myself that. I remember I was a black and white thinker as a kid.
I literally learned to think along a gray scale the way a computer creates shades of gray. To others it appears smooth, but I know there are millions of shades and as I learn more, I create more shades.
@@deanadean5046 Exactly, the older I get, the more shades of grey there are. I think it has to do with gaining life experience and seeing things through different perspectives. And if we’ve learning anything from being autistic, it’s that different doesn’t equal bad!
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I'm glad you said this. I have also realised in my later years that everything is neither right nor wrong or here nor there and all relative haha there is only grey haha
My boyfriend who has adhd (I think he may be misdiagnosed and has Asperger but I’m researching it more) I’m NT with anxiety and depression. I am 9 months pregnant and overdue by a week and yesterday was Mother’s Day and myself and my best friend told him a few days ago I wanted a card and flowers. He didn’t get them and I came home with dinner on Mother’s Day and to a pile of dishes to which he left for me to do as he “has work” so he doesn’t do much on those days house hold wise, he also said to me “I know you aren’t technically a mother yet but happy Mother’s Day “ through text that day which was extremely hurtful to me and I expressed that. I also expressed why even after giving direction for what would make me feel special on Mother’s Day how his blatant disregard for it not showing he cares made me feel completely unloved or cared for. I’m wondering why he has such a hard time with doing things to make me feel special and if it can be linked to Asperger’s or if it’s even linked to adhd as I know those are two different diagnosis’.
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Sheesh, I wanna comment, though I can't. So, completely agree, and because of that my parents always say:"why are u sad?" or "why are u pathetic all the time?", however I can be happy about smth or smbd. When Sayori (me) found some friends, then I could not express my feeling to them and understand their, it was so bad, because most of them had abuse from parents and classmates and they needed support. My favourite phrase was: waaiw, how incredible (idk, why u should know it.).
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For me, the "difficulty" is that emotions are about feeling, and don't have anything directly to do with communication. I was diagnosed in middle age, and obsessed about people's fixation on emotional states and communication for my entire life. The real miscommunication is the implicit baggage that one *_should be_* feeling a certain way, and trying to naively influence the emotional states of people who we don't even know. What kills me is that I am naturally more open about how I feel than most who I meet, but that I find it imposing and disruptive when people try to use this information to influence me. Rather than me trying and failing to explicitly negotiate affective boundaries with literally every person I meet, it's more practical to offer the barest possible minimum for them to (mis)interpret. Ironically, I still get accused of lacking empathy and emotional intelligence _even when I am the only party willing or able to actually discuss and unpack what our respective emotions are._ At the risk of sounding judgmental, NTs seem to demand communication with the minimum possible effort, even when it's easy to illustrate how that isn't working well for anyone concerned.
I’m autistic. I think I have more emotional intelligence than most people. Of course, my opinion is biased and my special interests include psychology and personal development. I’m also kind of hyper sensitive to peoples tones and facial expressions.
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For years I’ve seen my now 9yo grandson prefer cartoon/anime to live actors on TV, and I’ve wondered if it’s because the faces freeze and an emotion is very clearly expressed. He definitely prefers graphic novels to non-picture novels. Thanks for all your insight and honesty.
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I'm autustic yet can pick up on other people's emotions. It's not fron facial expressions tho it's the energy they give off but sometimes I still get confused. In also often confused when it comes to figuring out how I like a person. Sometimes I can't tell if I want then to be a close friend or a lover.
Does anyone else have troubles with disassociations with portraying emotion? I was helping a friend of mine who also has asbergers by doing a photo shoot for her class work and I realized that moments when I felt sad I looked like I was being goofy. Or I felt happy and I looked angry. Like my face doesn't show how I actually felt
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@@gracechristopher3133 yah that’s good that it’s not I’m glad! I don’t really like medicine (even herbs like that) because it’s so hard to figure out what works for your body and it messes you up while you’re trying to test each thing out.. I’m a little picky what I put into my body 😅 maybe it’s rational maybe it’s not idk but thank you so much!
The worst situation that I had. Was with a former girlfriend, in this case now an ex. Every time I would try and explain my emotions, she would take my explanation, twist it around and use it against me by saying that I was attacking her. It was all about her, and I am quite happy to have gotten rid of her. It was a long time ago. Years before I actually started to realise that I am on the spectrum. If I had the language to express how I am functioning, then people would have helped me getting help. Back then, I was faking my self, even to my self. And boy was I a good actor at being someone I am not. But yeah. It ended when I called her out and told her exactly how she was. She had this persona, in were she would take note and comment on everyones habbits and what was bad about others. While at the same time making sure that everyone saw her in a positive way. She was a snake, trashtalking everyone behind her back. Even my brothers. At some point I just blew up, and told her that if she did not stop trashtalking everyone, then I would buy her one of those mirrors that old people used to have in the windows to look at people outside on the street. And that was about all it took, to make her leave. What a fragile person she was. She had no remorse cheating on me, and then come back and tell me in details what she had done in the bedroom with him. Like WTF???!!
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I don’t have aspergers or at least I’m not diagnosed but I felt like this video really resonated with me as I often feel like I don’t know how to communicate my feelings or what emotion I even feel but this has honestly helped me feel less weird and now I have a method to actually express how I am feeling and hopefully it can help me with my communication to other people :)
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My girlfriend has helped me by introducing the feelings wheel to me and now I’m able to communicate actual feelings. It doesn’t happen overnight but it works!
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During my teens I could control my emotions, basically suppressing them but in my late 20s / 30s this became more of a challenge because I would so drained from my work life, as well having the responsibilities of being a husband and father, these intense emotions would a-raise which would cause me to withdraw from people because it’s incredibly overwhelming. I find myself tiring easily, so I lack the energy to keep these emotions suppressed. The reason I keep my emotions suppressed because it conflicts with my logical thinking.
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Thank you, I’ve been busy finding a way to feel otherwise than how I feel and I had a misconception that how I feel, is something that I need to solve.
Yea, I have problems understanding, processing how I feel. I don’t understand all of my emotions nor do I know know how to tell someone that will listen. May it get better.
facts man I have been having the same issues with my parents with relationship status been not getting along my whole life as an 18-year-old I'm on the autistic spectrum and been having a lot of these issues.
Brilliant, thanks. I'm 54 years old and only just realising I'm probably on the spectrum. This video describes me perfectly and helped to explain a lot of things that I am currently trying to work on with CBT. The problem is that CBT asks you to describe your feelings and emotions, but I'm finding that I can't. I think this has something to do with stimming which helps me skip over the feelings that I don't understand.
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This helps me a lot with my Asperger's girlfriend. She has little to no facial expressions and it's hard to understand or know what she's thinking the majority of the time. Videos like this are helping me better understand her. Thanks
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Words help me. They're the way I communicate emotions. I guess it’s different for everyone. My facial expressions and body language can be very misleading and I struggle to keep up with the body language of other people when it’s fast or in a group situation. I can only look at one person at a time and not follow multiple people's reactions to each other. Because of that it’s easier to communicate in a quiet environment or give attention to one individual in order to read their emotions and meet their needs.
Whenever someone ask me how I feel if someone or animal passes away. I basically would have no words for it which makes me emotionless. I would say I feel sad but when I have difficulty with showing tears then do I really feel sad? 🤔👀 The good news is that I did get evaluated to have intellectual disability, autism and ocd. I'm also thinking I could have selective mutism as I do have difficulties if I were to try to make a video or live stream and I just feel I need a 2nd person to help with that. Even when I'm at a family gathering, I have difficulties starting the conversation but I can usually respond. I have many thoughts with my interests, but bringing them out of the mouth is a little challenging. But I still have to ask the professional about selective mutism as I'm still video chatting with her. It has been some time since we started video chatting for evaluation. We are currently video chatting once every 2 weeks until we finish. 😎
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Your videos are so helpful I suffer with this all the time. I have been awaiting an autism diagnosis for a few months now and it’s so annoying having to wait. Being 18 and finally knowing what could be wrong with me could help me so much
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Hi you probably won’t read this because it’s a oldish video but I’ve come to the conclusion that my emotions are very unexplainable and I struggle to find out why they are I’ve always had problems with emotions in the past and i think it’s now coming out in the wrong ways so this helped me understand it a bit more so thanks I appreciate the video
I've been having an issue, I hope someone can offer me advice or maybe a video can be made on it. I have Aspergers, ADHD, and OCD. I communicate well in person (I've had years of speech pathology and therapy) but when it comes to communicating on different social media platforms, I sometimes miss the individual nuances and do's/don'ts, and also that comm with people online only goes so far (I.E. you don't truly know these people but it's nice to have someone to converse with sometimes.) The mistakes make me feel discouraged, but I continue to try and hope I will learn better over time. Also, thank you for the videos!
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This is why everyone always thinks I'm nosey or dumb because I ask a lot questions due to just like trying to understand to make up for my life. my disability.
I'm not diagnosed or anything, but have a terrible time understanding and expressing my emotions, something that was helpful for me was printing out an emotion chart with simple emotions in the center that broaden out into more confusing/complicated emotions with the same root
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I feel like a horrible person. Everyone around me is doing compassionate things, helping others, and giving gifts but i rarely think about those things unless it’s obligated like birthdays. I don’t know how to help people, I dont ever consider volunteering, and when I do think of ways to help others or give gifts I have immense anxiety that I’ll just mess up. I feel like people will think I’m selfish when really I just have a hard time connecting with others emotions. I don’t know what to do 😣
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I just gotta say I find it soo hard to express my emotions. Like today at work. I wasn’t overwhelmed I was frustrated because I asked my manager for so much clarification on a task and he didn’t clarify right. And to express my frustration I just ended up crying, I couldn’t tell him why, it’s just so shit. He asked what was wrong but I couldn’t answer because I couldn’t express my emotions effectively
UA-cam has been a valueable research tool for me since its conception, to learn about body language and how to assimilate more into society as a whole, even though I live as a hermit the majority of the time 🤭🦊
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I absolutely hate it when people say these phrases: “Just because” “By the way” oh you know blah blah blah so and so is “unique”, “ Don’t take it personality”bull. It is obvious that these people have issues with me, well guess what, I don’t have issues with them. I have issues that they have issues with me. I have this go to phrase “ If you got something to say, than say it to my face”.
I use emojis alot to make sure people don't misunderstand what emotion I'm trying to communicate. Also learning sign language to practice facial expression (who play a huge rôle in sign language) but that black and white thing is so hard to manage when it come to emotions. For me (with other) it's I don't care about you OR I love/hate you with passion, no middle emotions the neurotypical usely used 99% of the time.
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2:56 the entire problem is i have no idea where i would be on that scale other than good or bad. its like the pain scale at the doctor, i have no clue every time im asked. great help it didnt help at all. 4:42 and yes i know i have difficulty with all that. so why is not being told what to do or how to help going to help anything?? it isnt.
There are some emoji’s that I’m not 100% sure what emotion it’s meant to be. There seem to be lots that are different types of smiling, some where the mouth is open in different ways. Some where the face just seems blank and I’m not sure what it’s meant to be. Some of them are straight forward though. If I just had a list of useful emotions I could pick from that might be useful. I feel like there are lots of emotional words I just don’t use enough so they don’t immediately spring to mind. It’s hard because I’m almost never one emotion. Usually I could assign percentages to a few, but I’m assuming people don’t want that much detail.
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For some reason, my reaction to emotion is crying. No matter what it is. And it’s caused me a lot of grief when dealing with others. They often think I’m sad when I’m confused or frustrated. They think I’m trying to guilt. My direct language in between the crying is so disorienting for people. It’s incredibly challenging to manage.
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I find that not only do my Autistic family members struggle to understand the facial expressions of others, they are quite deadpan themselves and rarely show emotions - let alone being able to talk through or share any emotions they're feeling. This can make them seem like they're coping well while they might actually be struggling.
After using Dr Oyalo herbal remedy whom I met his recommendation about healing autism on UA-cam channel, I can testify that my son is now completely ok in speaking, behavior and social skills. He read, played with friends and followed instructions by himself. After everything I've been through, I'm happy for him and my family.
I love all your videos! Thank you for putting so much thought and research into them. I only wish there was a female version of you, so I could ask some female particular questions. I was wondering if you know anything about Autistic people being more prone to falling prey to Narcissist in relationships. Also, what happens to the brain of an Autistic person when they’re getting sober. I recently hit my rock bottom, got a second DUI, and now that I’ve been sober for 5 months, my brain has completely turned everything up. It’s like the alcohol had me partly sedated and now everything is louder and smellier and more distracting and irritating. I guess I’ve been self medicating this whole time. I’ve been diagnosed with depression since the age of 12, and I’ve been doing drugs and drinking since that age as well. I also bounced around from grand parents to mom’s house or to dad’s house when I was young, so no one spent enough time with me to notice the traits or to think there were patterns showing up. I’m now 38 and trying to get diagnosed. It’s starting to affect my 10 year relationship. I just feel like I need support and he doesn’t seem to take this seriously. I’m realizing I’ve been a serial monogamist to sub consciously use my partner as my interpreter of the world around me. But my mental health has hit an all time low this past year (not solely because of him) but, I think I might be dating a Narcissist on top of everything else. Any suggestions? I could be wrong, I’m just not sure.
There are females who make autism-related content like paige layle, Olivia Hops, Yo Samdy Sam, Purple Ella, and Stephanie Bethany, you might want to check them out.
@@archiecook55 Yes, thank you! I do watch the videos made by some of those girls, and I think they’re great. I just think sometimes the age difference is a factor there. The ones closer to my age are not quite as informative in like a real scientific way. But I do enjoy them, thank you!
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Idk if anyone will see this but, I had a conversation with my recent ex and he expressed that he felt I didn’t care about what he’s passionate about (music) and never felt I cared about it and what he’d do with it. My thing is two things 1-I genuinely don’t understand music and what things I could comment or talk about when I do listen to his music and 2-I do care because I know he’s passionate about music BUT i don’t know how to show him I care about it when I don’t understand music and don’t know what to say and knowing I can come off cold when I don’t know what to say. I’m struggling how to navigate this situation and issues in romantic relationships, and I’m curious to know if other autistic people face similar situations.
Sometimes, when Big things happen, too many BIG emotions come up all at once, and it can take days just to sort out which ones I'm even having. Oddly enough, I always immediately know the emotions of others, and feel them. I grew up in a dysfunctional family, so that was a survival need, to learn facial/verbiage cues. I just have to be by myself to sort mine, so others' feelings aren't mingled in. I guess if I saw my face whilst feeling the feels, I'd understand better ?? 🤷🏻♀️
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This is the one thing about being on the spectrum that I do not identify with. I'm actually quite the opposite. For me, I'm hyper aware of emotions, so much so that I can express how I'm feeling better than any other kind of subject, even those that I'm typically very interested in, like music for example. I don't think this excludes me from being on the spectrum. (Although I have yet to get my formal diagnosis) but it certainly creates an issue, I think. Because typically, those on the spectrum do in fact have a very hard time expressing and understanding their emotions. It's just very strange for me, considering I show every other symptom- and quite strongly too. Like sound and light sensitivity/executive dysfunction/social anxiety/hyper focusing. Now, I will admit I have anger issues, and hold in frustrations a lot, most of the time resulting in outbursts. But I hold these things in because I feel like if I were to show them, no one would care; making the problem even worse. Perhaps this all stems from the fact that I grew up in an emotionally abusive AND emotionally absent household, where I was not diagnosed, and never given the tools to grow at the pace I needed. Maybe, raising myself in many ways, feeling very alone and unheard, this taught me to "overcompensate" for the lack of everyone else's emotions around me. Does that mean these emotions I feel so strongly (particularly sadness and anger) made me hyper appreciative of *good feelings* too? Like happiness and excitement? Anyway, the spectrum being what it is- a spectrum; wouldn't it suggest that even though I am highly emotional and can communicate it particularly well as opposed to most with ASD, be well... Just a rare thing, and I'm hitting it right on the nose? Or is there something else at play here? Whew. That was alot. Sorry.
After using Dr Oyalo herbal remedy whom I met his recommendation about healing autism on UA-cam channel, I can testify that my son is now completely ok in speaking, behavior and social skills. He read, played with friends and followed instructions by himself. After everything I've been through, I'm happy for him and my family.
Thank you Dan, always for this content. I wish people would just ask "How are you feeling". Seems like most of the time people are just freaked out or upset that i didnt communicate what im feeling but how do you know when you are supposed to do that? what are the context clues that say "now would be a great time to communicate how you feel". i just dont know.
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I was just thinking about this yesterday, even though I have before many other times. I started a new job and don't really know how the diversity works. What is it about me that I may seem to have the same traits as someone else but when I see them they tend to look away or something to distract themselves to keep me from saying anything or so they won't say anything to me. I've even been around other that would just wave even it we walk by a million times. Some people must just don't take my attitude well. I'm not one to joke, calling each other "bitch" and play being mean to each other but that can't be with every one they like.
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Im dating someone with aspd an I can always be there for him during everything trust me it gets wild sometimes he cant do the same for me because he knows I love him an he loves me he cant understand how i would feel unloved when im emotional because life can be exhausting and I need him to support my emotions but since he knows we arent leaving each other then he thinks there cant be anything wrong I just want him to be as supportive as I am when hes having a meltdown I handle meltdowns calm down irrational thoughts let him know things are ok multiple times but when im emotional an like uuggghh show me you love me hes like you know im not going anywhere so why do you feel like that and thats the literal entire conversation then its the entire history of Led Zeppelin lol I love him but he just dosent get it or support me like I do him an thats so hard sometimes its like I have to be emotionless an figure out the bad days on my own cuz I should know since we're together what do I do for that support
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Thank you Dr Oyalo for healing my son from autism. And I want to share about him to every one His herbs has made my son verbal and Improve in social skills
You've found a good source of info on this youtube channel. It certainly helped me when it was suggested my son was autistic when he was diagnosed with ADHD. It made me realise autism wasn't what I thought it was (I've known lots of autistic people but they have all had other issues which made their autistic traits more obvious). One thing that helped me was realising that my kids were a chip off the old block and that I was probably autistic, I've not been diagnosed but I show a lot of the same traits my kids do. Since then I've noticed a lot of autistic people's partners seem to have ADHD traits. I've also found the idea of monotropic thinking very useful. Essential it describes autism as an attention regulation difference at heart, autistic focus on a narrower range of sensory information around the things they are paying attention to as compared to neurotypical people. It helps me to think of it as a graph of sensory info vs attention an autistic person would have a v shaped valley curve around the sensory information they are paying attention to, ie they use a lot of their conscious processing power directly on the point of interest and a lot less on "adjacent" sensory information. In contrast a neurotypical persons curve would be a shallower, broader U shaped valley, less conscious processing power directly on the point of interest and more on adjacent information. Sensory information can include thoughts and feelings. If your not directly paying attention to your feeling your not putting much conscious processing power into them and so you won't understand them as well, paying direct attention to them can be overwhelming as the. They may be all you can see and much more intense than a neurotypical person would ussually experience. It is basically the idea of hyper and hyposensitive. This difference in how the brain works can also be at the root of why autistic people find it difficult to interact with neurotypical people, I know generally find it easier to relate to other neurodiverse people than neurotypical people. Finding out what my kids are ussually hyper and hyposensitive to has been a big help, also being aware that this can vary, a lot of training may give you the impression that people are always hyposensitive or hypersensitive to a given sensory input. I've also seen training that gave the impression that an autistic person was either hypo or hyper to everything. My kids all struggle with school, and helping the school understand their sensory needs and putting accommodations for them in place has helped. Unfortunately our school was slow on this but hopefully if your school will be on it if they have picked up on autism in 5.5year old girl, autistic girls often go undiagnosed as they learn quickly to mask their behaviour to fit in. Masking has been an issue with my eldest, he'd seem fine at school and explode when he got out of the school gates, when he felt safe to not mask. Its also been helpful to my family to acknowledge social occasions are often difficult for us so having some time to reset after school or church is important. We all enjoy going to church but immediately doing something else social after it may not always be wise. Apologies for the long winded response, hopefully there is something useful in there for you.
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I remember as a young teen telling a guy that I know he hates me but there's no need to stare and give me dirty looks,he replied that he actually really liked me and wanted to ask me out 😳 of course I panicked and said no 😬 then felt bad and played that over and over in my mind,how could I get it so wrong 🤔 I couldn't read his face although I rarely made eye contact so that may have helped lol
After using Dr Oyalo herbal remedy whom I met his recommendation about healing autism on UA-cam channel, I can testify that my son is now completely ok in speaking, behavior and social skills. He read, played with friends and followed instructions by himself. After everything I've been through, I'm happy for him and my family.
Thank you Dr Oyalo for healing my son from autism. And I want to share about him to every one His herbs has made my son verbal and Improve in social skills
I used this doc herbs for my son and now my son is completely free, his speaking and behavior is ok. His herbs is 100% working on ASD. I met Dr Oyalo on channel and I’m happy to share my experience about it
After using Dr Oyalo herbal remedy whom I met his recommendation about healing autism on UA-cam channel, I can testify that my son is now completely ok in speaking, behavior and social skills. He read, played with friends and followed instructions by himself. After everything I've been through, I'm happy for him and my family.
After using Dr Oyalo herbal remedy whom I met his recommendation about healing autism on UA-cam channel, I can testify that my son is now completely ok in speaking, behavior and social skills. He read, played with friends and followed instructions by himself. After everything I've been through, I'm happy for him and my family.
@@gracechristopher3133 "healing"? You're American aren't you? It's not an illness with a cure 🤦The only "cure" is for neurotypicals to stop trying to make is conform with their way of life.
This was really interesting to watch. As a person with Aspergers myself I had a hard time in the past. I came a long way though. I used to not come up to people because I didn’t know what to do or say. Also, is it possible to sense how others are feeling through the sound of the persons voice?
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Hi 👋🏻 thank you so much for all the information you have shared with us, I had a boyfriend for 3 yrs and I Believe he has autism there is just so many things that you have shared that he does, although he is 63 years old now and after a year that I met him we tried to get him seen by a doctor to be referred for testing but the doctor declined saying that he did not have autism and that what good would it do him now to find out, but it might of saved our relationship if he would have gotten tested. because I would have understood him a lot better, unfortunately there was no help and our relationship ended because he couldn’t share or Tell me that he loved me but only when I would bring up the subject, other than that, time and time again he would not share those words even when I was hinting to him, but he wouldn’t get it, he also did fast motions with his hands and wrist at times looked uncontrolled just for a few seconds maybe one or two, what would you recommend for a man who is 63 years old and might not even be able to keep a relationship because of this? Thank you so much for taking the time to read my message hope to hear from you soon thank you again
As long as we are breathing and have a heartbeat, it's never too late to get diagnosed and see a specialist. I worked in the medical field all my life, and to have a doctor blow you off like that is almost medical malpractice. Get another specialist!
After using Dr Oyalo herbal remedy whom I met his recommendation about healing autism on UA-cam channel, I can testify that my son is now completely ok in speaking, behavior and social skills. He read, played with friends and followed instructions by himself. After everything I've been through, I'm happy for him and my family.
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i love feeling like family also almost everyone in my life seems to put my feelings toward something else other than i feel feelings too and i have a very awkward and upsetting time talking about my feelings especially when they say "what trying" to get me to talk in more detail about but i do not get the context of that at the time and i was and am very afraid of emotional rejection that might be abandonment issues i do not know but there is my spiel!
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The trouble is finding someone who cares enough to find out how you’re feeling.
Yeah, and as "Hey, how are you?" or the like has become a throwaway rhetorical greeting, it's even harder to find genuine concern and sincerity.
Hey, this is so accurate. No matter how much you try to deal as flawlessly as you possibly can with all the pleasantries, it will inevitably get tiring trying to keep it up everyday.
true i am just finding out almost nobody can tell how i feel most of the time and they do not even ask they just sit there like i am a opossum or something ,they just sort of stand there awkwardly. why do you not ask me how i feel?
After using Dr Oyalo herbal remedy whom I met his recommendation about healing autism on UA-cam channel, I can testify that my son is now completely ok in speaking, behavior and social skills. He read, played with friends and followed instructions by himself. After everything I've been through, I'm happy for him and my family.
Yes. Compassion can vary for sure
Definitely agree - and it's so tiring when people misunderstand you because of something you're not even aware of, like facial expressions. I just don't get how I can write a well-embellished, descriptive story, coming up with 10 synonyms for a word - then when someone asks how I feel - I can't put my finger on even one word. It's too many feelings, all at once, nearly all the time. "I feel...not good." Wow, so descriptive. 😂
I completely relate
I'm with you here. When someone asks me how I am, and I answer honestly, it seems to spark a long-winded lecture from some people. Nowadays, my response is a half-minute silence.
I agree. One time my director asked me if I was happy with my promotion to supervisor. I didn’t know how to respond. I don’t know what happy means. Then she started to make faces and I was thinking she looked disappointed so I just said I feel content in my new role. Still not sure what happy is to this day.
That’s because many of us have the condition known as alexathymia as part of the autism diagnosis this is where we cannot accurately describe complex emotions and name them like neurotypicals can. Sure we now the basics happy, sad, angry, we also struggle to connect how these emotions feel in our bodies too.
Ya. And at other times they tell you "But I've seen you formulate great, complete thoughts in certain circumstances with other people. Why can't you do that with me? Why are you constantly restarting your sentence with different words?"
Then they don't want to talk to you anymore because it's exasperating for them. But if you slow yourself down and take time to think, you eventually lose the train of thought because of ADHD (for many), you never get back to them, and they hate you for that ADDITIONALLY.
It's so easy to go doomer over being like this because everything is a fractal catch-22 and heaven forbid you fall off the self-help train over time.
I loved the pixar movie "inside out". It helped me understand my own feelings and I also use it as a tool with my kids to help them describe how they're feeling.
YES!!!! Awesome film and tool, as you say!
It works probably because most of us autistics are mostly visual learners. 😎
I also like that movie and most any other Pixar or Disney movies.😎💯
Same!!
Agreed! Amazing movie to teach everyone about emotions. ❤️
😄 have you seen the short "Riley first date"? Hilarious better than actual movie
Dan, this problem has been the bane of my existence. It’s comforting to hear you explain these things so more people might understand. I wish TAW was around when I was young, but it’s never too late 🤗
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I have Asperger's but on the contrary am very self-aware and am really in-tune with my emotions. This comes partly due to the fact that I've been through the mental health system in order to get a formal diagnostic assessment and also the job centre and other employment training and benefits systems so I've had to become very adept at explaining every little aspect of my emotions in order to convey to people how my conditions affect me, ultimately to try and find more suitable employment and have a more sustainable income.
After using Dr Oyalo herbal remedy whom I met his recommendation about healing autism on UA-cam channel, I can testify that my son is now completely ok in speaking, behavior and social skills. He read, played with friends and followed instructions by himself. After everything I've been through, I'm happy for him and my family.
I have problems with having a blank facial expression even though I could be so happy about something.
Hate being watched during things like opening a present for example . I feel like people are expecting me to show all this emotion on my face, so I then try and force a smile as that's what I think is expected of me.
Same!!
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@iridescentCommodore As a non-autistic person, when something I like happens, for example, I find out that a new season of a series I like, has been released - I start to feel happy - I can also kinda physically feel my happyness/hyperness come up, as in - I feel my tiredness fade and feel more energized, and like a chain reaction, I start to smile. It feels like smiling enhances my happiness, deepens it.
Would u say that there's no connection between ur facial muscles/expressions and your emotions? And are there any moments where u actually catch urself smiling automatically because of something, or not?
Hi Dan! I'm so happy that i found your channel. On tuesday this week i got my diagnos, i have asperger/autism, finally, i'm 44 yrs. I love your lifehacks, it have helped me many times. Sorry for my bad english, it's not my first language. Love and light from Sweden 🇸🇪
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As someone with Asperger's Syndrome (and yes I still use the term, PC fraidy cats be damned), my emotions were always cranked up to 20. I felt everything in my heart extremely sensitively, and wore it on my sleeve. Most of the time, I still do - its just part of who I am.
I had actually found a cup full of all the different emotions as emojis at Walmart years ago that helped me with my son. Helped him learn about the different types of feelings and how the feeling can go along with what it might “look” like. He was 4 at the time, he’s 9 now and we’re all still learning. But it was SO helpful! Good luck everyone and this is so right on! Thank you for your content and keep doing the amazing work that helps so many. 😁
Ooh are you able to digitally upload them for the rest of us even with imogis I still struggle with some of the more complex ones
I’m 41. I was even saying to my mum recently relationships can be so confusing I recognise flirting in other people but don’t recognise it when someone directs it to me. I have also had people think I’m flirting when I’m just being friendly. Hence I have never been involved in a romantic relationship in my life in the NT sense of the word. I tend to connect more on a platonic, spiritual and intellectual level
I am literally in post meltdown recovery because of a meltdown triggered (about an hour ago) by emotional overload so this video couldn't have turned up at a better time, for showing my fiance. He's still new to dealing with autism, so he is always learning. Thanks for this.
I can relate I have autism as well
No offense but the term Meltdown is kind of offensive. it's like Autistics are not seen as people who have Feelings or something.
@@fairymairah what utter nonsense.
@@ThatElfTorunn indeed, fairy must be one of those people that thinks the term Aspergers is offensive, so now we have this jumbled spectrum that no one seems to understand.
@@fairymairah
"No offense but the term Meltdown is kind of offensive. it's like Autistics are not seen as people who have Feelings or something."
I get what you're expressing there.
Perhaps the term could be used to denigrate others, were they so inclined to devalue autistic people.
However,
If I were to guess, it seems to me that the term "Meltdown" is used in a way that's meant to be helpful
for the moment, until a better term is invented.
(This thing is happening - Now what do we call it?)
Since it's not uncommon for autistic people to readily use the term
to describe what they themselves experience,
I imagine that they don't find it offensive.
So when outsiders notice that an autistic person suffers from a momentary "Meltdown"
of overwhelming emotions and trouble controlling it,
then everyone has a common frame of reference,
so that clearer communication on the subject is possible.
Not merely to use it as a word just to fail to take their suffering seriously.
I like the idea of using emoji or scales to indicate how you're feeling!
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Thank you. A short, sweet concise talk on the subject. I am 78, and just now finding we are an autistic family, while actually initially focusing on one member of our family. Videos like this help so much. There is so much to learn.
So nice to hear from another 78, now 79 year old…. It’s important to learn however old we are.
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My husband has Asperger's and I have ADHD. Your channel has been helping me so much. I struggle sometimes with understanding his emotions but after 20 years we've both learned how to decipher one another. My favorite way to communicate is using gifs. Ones that use highly exaggerated certain emotions and he loves it. It makes it easier for me to convey and puts a funny touch to it so it's more playful at times even when I'm angry.
My daughter is 7 we have struggled finding videos she likes to watch that tells her about herself she relates to your channel though and enjoys watching you. She is different than a typical children but so smart.
Dan this problem has been the bane of my existence. It’s comforting to hear you explain these things, I only wish TAW was around when I was young, but it’s never too late 🤗
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When my son was very young, he developed an interest in Thomas the Tank Engine and Friends. That dates dates how long ago this was. I watching the videos and reading the books helped him understand facial expressions that matched basic emotions. The faces were fixed expressions for whatever was happening and learned from the context, so he has a great ability to show empathy in his own unconventional way. So the emoji idea makes so much sense. He does have a hard time expressing his own feelings. He uses his own person metaphors in question form to express basic emotions, but not the in between areas. We will have to encourage him to use emojis. I use them myself when I am at a loss for words for expressing feelings. Kind of makes me wonder about the mind of the person who created emojis in the first place.
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I often am emotionally detached from other people and from situations. I suspect my detachment serves a protective function, because I was traumatized when I was younger. Also, when I become especially emotional, I lose control and go nuts.
After using Dr Oyalo herbal remedy whom I met his recommendation about healing autism on UA-cam channel, I can testify that my son is now completely ok in speaking, behavior and social skills. He read, played with friends and followed instructions by himself. After everything I've been through, I'm happy for him and my family.
O have a difficulty with recognizing my emotions, expressing them and sometimes I say I feel nothing, I feel numb and my therapist always tells me It's me the one who does not know what I feeling and still I think I can't feel things. Also I have a big issue with controlling my anger. I used to treat it with lithium but nowadays I deal with that naturally and maturely. For those who have a problem controlling anger, I feel you, hold strong.
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I feel like I can read people pretty well but it is a skill I learned over decades.
As for my own feelings, I prefer to not express them or really entertain them. I don't care about being happy. I seek contentment and love being left alone.
That is how I feel is best for me but I still seem too serious and once I smile they may talk it the wrong way when it's the opposite sex, even though I don't feel sexually/romantically attracted to anyone easily or at all.
@@WaterFor3st It is hard to find that balance, isn't it?
I took acting/Improv classes and found myself 🥰
Thank you for keeping your podcasts short and to the point. Much appreciated 👍
This will probably stress Dan out to think about because it's a suggestion for a bit of a change. I love the shorter versions as they are much more accessible for me. For longer videos(which we love by the way but just need easy chunks to follow) is it possible to put section markers on the timeline and shortcuts in the description so that the video is navigatable. I hope this makes sense but there's a real structure to this approach and I like to see the timings as I watch. Your videos are great so don't take this as criticism Dan and please keep posting!! 🙂
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Great video as usual, thank you!
YES to emojis/typing and +5 to -5 scale for me... A million times easier than trying to talk to others (able to edit and arrange my thoughts AND "sugar-coat" stuff for NTs 😂)
I’m kind of the all or nothing person. I have a hard time verbally communicating my emotions, especially when it’s not related to happiness. I also feel as if I’m not even allowed to express that I’m struggling. I have this attitude of, yes. I understand I’m not allowed to have emotions. I get that I’m not allowed to feel this way in this situation. So I try to make it to where I never make mistakes like that again. Not only am I on the autism spectrum, but I also have a physical handicap that prevents me from reading facial expressions, which makes it even more difficult. I have another condition that also plays a roll in this too. My mom is very good with me when stuff like this happens.
Love your content! Thank you so much for it. As a therapist, I enjoy watching your videos to get more perspective on autism spectrum disorder and, more importantly, the human behind it. I think the latter part is, unfortunately, overlooked sometimes.
After using Dr Oyalo herbal remedy whom I met his recommendation about healing autism on UA-cam channel, I can testify that my son is now completely ok in speaking, behavior and social skills. He read, played with friends and followed instructions by himself. After everything I've been through, I'm happy for him and my family.
This is one thing I don’t have much of a problem with. I think of everything as grey but I think I had to teach myself that. I remember I was a black and white thinker as a kid.
I literally learned to think along a gray scale the way a computer creates shades of gray. To others it appears smooth, but I know there are millions of shades and as I learn more, I create more shades.
@@deanadean5046 Exactly, the older I get, the more shades of grey there are. I think it has to do with gaining life experience and seeing things through different perspectives. And if we’ve learning anything from being autistic, it’s that different doesn’t equal bad!
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I'm glad you said this. I have also realised in my later years that everything is neither right nor wrong or here nor there and all relative haha there is only grey haha
My boyfriend who has adhd (I think he may be misdiagnosed and has Asperger but I’m researching it more) I’m NT with anxiety and depression. I am 9 months pregnant and overdue by a week and yesterday was Mother’s Day and myself and my best friend told him a few days ago I wanted a card and flowers. He didn’t get them and I came home with dinner on Mother’s Day and to a pile of dishes to which he left for me to do as he “has work” so he doesn’t do much on those days house hold wise, he also said to me “I know you aren’t technically a mother yet but happy Mother’s Day “ through text that day which was extremely hurtful to me and I expressed that. I also expressed why even after giving direction for what would make me feel special on Mother’s Day how his blatant disregard for it not showing he cares made me feel completely unloved or cared for. I’m wondering why he has such a hard time with doing things to make me feel special and if it can be linked to Asperger’s or if it’s even linked to adhd as I know those are two different diagnosis’.
Arts, music, drama and theatre, dance are all ways we can communicate
Yes Dancestar !!
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Sheesh, I wanna comment, though I can't. So, completely agree, and because of that my parents always say:"why are u sad?" or "why are u pathetic all the time?", however I can be happy about smth or smbd.
When Sayori (me) found some friends, then I could not express my feeling to them and understand their, it was so bad, because most of them had abuse from parents and classmates and they needed support. My favourite phrase was: waaiw, how incredible (idk, why u should know it.).
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For me, the "difficulty" is that emotions are about feeling, and don't have anything directly to do with communication. I was diagnosed in middle age, and obsessed about people's fixation on emotional states and communication for my entire life. The real miscommunication is the implicit baggage that one *_should be_* feeling a certain way, and trying to naively influence the emotional states of people who we don't even know. What kills me is that I am naturally more open about how I feel than most who I meet, but that I find it imposing and disruptive when people try to use this information to influence me. Rather than me trying and failing to explicitly negotiate affective boundaries with literally every person I meet, it's more practical to offer the barest possible minimum for them to (mis)interpret.
Ironically, I still get accused of lacking empathy and emotional intelligence _even when I am the only party willing or able to actually discuss and unpack what our respective emotions are._ At the risk of sounding judgmental, NTs seem to demand communication with the minimum possible effort, even when it's easy to illustrate how that isn't working well for anyone concerned.
Yeah, my co-workers ask how I am all the time. I just describe it by the foods I hate and like.
I’m autistic. I think I have more emotional intelligence than most people. Of course, my opinion is biased and my special interests include psychology and personal development. I’m also kind of hyper sensitive to peoples tones and facial expressions.
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Espcially when they act sad or upset but then laugh at me. Pretending to be upset, pretending to cry, I get anxiety.
For years I’ve seen my now 9yo grandson prefer cartoon/anime to live actors on TV, and I’ve wondered if it’s because the faces freeze and an emotion is very clearly expressed. He definitely prefers graphic novels to non-picture novels. Thanks for all your insight and honesty.
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I'm autustic yet can pick up on other people's emotions. It's not fron facial expressions tho it's the energy they give off but sometimes I still get confused. In also often confused when it comes to figuring out how I like a person. Sometimes I can't tell if I want then to be a close friend or a lover.
Does anyone else have troubles with disassociations with portraying emotion? I was helping a friend of mine who also has asbergers by doing a photo shoot for her class work and I realized that moments when I felt sad I looked like I was being goofy. Or I felt happy and I looked angry. Like my face doesn't show how I actually felt
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@@gracechristopher3133 are the herbs cannabis in nature?
@@hillowl4977 no not cannabis
Cannabis is not good for kids
@@gracechristopher3133 yah that’s good that it’s not I’m glad! I don’t really like medicine (even herbs like that) because it’s so hard to figure out what works for your body and it messes you up while you’re trying to test each thing out.. I’m a little picky what I put into my body 😅 maybe it’s rational maybe it’s not idk but thank you so much!
The worst situation that I had. Was with a former girlfriend, in this case now an ex. Every time I would try and explain my emotions, she would take my explanation, twist it around and use it against me by saying that I was attacking her. It was all about her, and I am quite happy to have gotten rid of her. It was a long time ago. Years before I actually started to realise that I am on the spectrum. If I had the language to express how I am functioning, then people would have helped me getting help. Back then, I was faking my self, even to my self. And boy was I a good actor at being someone I am not. But yeah. It ended when I called her out and told her exactly how she was. She had this persona, in were she would take note and comment on everyones habbits and what was bad about others. While at the same time making sure that everyone saw her in a positive way. She was a snake, trashtalking everyone behind her back. Even my brothers. At some point I just blew up, and told her that if she did not stop trashtalking everyone, then I would buy her one of those mirrors that old people used to have in the windows to look at people outside on the street. And that was about all it took, to make her leave. What a fragile person she was. She had no remorse cheating on me, and then come back and tell me in details what she had done in the bedroom with him. Like WTF???!!
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I don’t have aspergers or at least I’m not diagnosed but I felt like this video really resonated with me as I often feel like I don’t know how to communicate my feelings or what emotion I even feel but this has honestly helped me feel less weird and now I have a method to actually express how I am feeling and hopefully it can help me with my communication to other people :)
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My girlfriend has helped me by introducing the feelings wheel to me and now I’m able to communicate actual feelings. It doesn’t happen overnight but it works!
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I hate emotions. I don’t know how to deal with it. But I try everyday! 👍
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This actually helps me a lot with some ideas in how to manage my working life a little bit better ❤ Thank you.
During my teens I could control my emotions, basically suppressing them but in my late 20s / 30s this became more of a challenge because I would so drained from my work life, as well having the responsibilities of being a husband and father, these intense emotions would a-raise which would cause me to withdraw from people because it’s incredibly overwhelming. I find myself tiring easily, so I lack the energy to keep these emotions suppressed. The reason I keep my emotions suppressed because it conflicts with my logical thinking.
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@@gracechristopher3133 have you even responded to the right person.. your response literally has no relation to what I said.
Thank you, I’ve been busy finding a way to feel otherwise than how I feel and I had a misconception that how I feel, is something that I need to solve.
Yea, I have problems understanding, processing how I feel. I don’t understand all of my emotions nor do I know know how to tell someone that will listen. May it get better.
facts man I have been having the same issues with my parents with relationship status been not getting along my whole life as an 18-year-old I'm on the autistic spectrum and been having a lot of these issues.
Brilliant, thanks. I'm 54 years old and only just realising I'm probably on the spectrum. This video describes me perfectly and helped to explain a lot of things that I am currently trying to work on with CBT. The problem is that CBT asks you to describe your feelings and emotions, but I'm finding that I can't. I think this has something to do with stimming which helps me skip over the feelings that I don't understand.
Try Meditation and Journaling. Truth everything off and go within.
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This helps me a lot with my Asperger's girlfriend. She has little to no facial expressions and it's hard to understand or know what she's thinking the majority of the time. Videos like this are helping me better understand her. Thanks
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Watching this again. Black and white. Wish, still, I could separate a think and a feel and a say. Lord knows, it HURTS when people ask how I feel!
I have ASD and ADHD and omg I really can't deal with emotions. I was talking about this at work recently.
I have both too
I have both too
Words help me. They're the way I communicate emotions. I guess it’s different for everyone. My facial expressions and body language can be very misleading and I struggle to keep up with the body language of other people when it’s fast or in a group situation. I can only look at one person at a time and not follow multiple people's reactions to each other. Because of that it’s easier to communicate in a quiet environment or give attention to one individual in order to read their emotions and meet their needs.
Whenever someone ask me how I feel if someone or animal passes away. I basically would have no words for it which makes me emotionless. I would say I feel sad but when I have difficulty with showing tears then do I really feel sad? 🤔👀
The good news is that I did get evaluated to have intellectual disability, autism and ocd. I'm also thinking I could have selective mutism as I do have difficulties if I were to try to make a video or live stream and I just feel I need a 2nd person to help with that. Even when I'm at a family gathering, I have difficulties starting the conversation but I can usually respond. I have many thoughts with my interests, but bringing them out of the mouth is a little challenging. But I still have to ask the professional about selective mutism as I'm still video chatting with her. It has been some time since we started video chatting for evaluation. We are currently video chatting once every 2 weeks until we finish. 😎
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Your videos are so helpful I suffer with this all the time. I have been awaiting an autism diagnosis for a few months now and it’s so annoying having to wait. Being 18 and finally knowing what could be wrong with me could help me so much
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An excellent topic! I wish I had seen this two days ago while sobbing in my new bosses office not able to talk lol..
Hi you probably won’t read this because it’s a oldish video but I’ve come to the conclusion that my emotions are very unexplainable and I struggle to find out why they are I’ve always had problems with emotions in the past and i think it’s now coming out in the wrong ways so this helped me understand it a bit more so thanks I appreciate the video
Grateful for the information. Really helps out
I've been having an issue, I hope someone can offer me advice or maybe a video can be made on it. I have Aspergers, ADHD, and OCD. I communicate well in person (I've had years of speech pathology and therapy) but when it comes to communicating on different social media platforms, I sometimes miss the individual nuances and do's/don'ts, and also that comm with people online only goes so far (I.E. you don't truly know these people but it's nice to have someone to converse with sometimes.) The mistakes make me feel discouraged, but I continue to try and hope I will learn better over time. Also, thank you for the videos!
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I have PTSD, OCD, Anxiety and ADD. It’s crazy how these things tend to be comorbid.
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This is why everyone always thinks I'm nosey or dumb because I ask a lot questions due to just like trying to understand to make up for my life. my disability.
Thank you, Dan. This explains a lot.
I'm not diagnosed or anything, but have a terrible time understanding and expressing my emotions, something that was helpful for me was printing out an emotion chart with simple emotions in the center that broaden out into more confusing/complicated emotions with the same root
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I feel like a horrible person. Everyone around me is doing compassionate things, helping others, and giving gifts but i rarely think about those things unless it’s obligated like birthdays. I don’t know how to help people, I dont ever consider volunteering, and when I do think of ways to help others or give gifts I have immense anxiety that I’ll just mess up. I feel like people will think I’m selfish when really I just have a hard time connecting with others emotions. I don’t know what to do 😣
I think I only have: depressed, anxious, pissed off, slightly content.
You are doing a great job, keep them coming please, so helpfull
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I just gotta say I find it soo hard to express my emotions. Like today at work. I wasn’t overwhelmed I was frustrated because I asked my manager for so much clarification on a task and he didn’t clarify right. And to express my frustration I just ended up crying, I couldn’t tell him why, it’s just so shit. He asked what was wrong but I couldn’t answer because I couldn’t express my emotions effectively
UA-cam has been a valueable research tool for me since its conception, to learn about body language and how to assimilate more into society as a whole, even though I live as a hermit the majority of the time 🤭🦊
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Awesome idea...thank you so much!
I had my first assessment yesterday and was so nervous that I forgot to mention tons of stuff that I should have ☹️
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That’s true I don’t always show emotions on my face sometimes I have a blank expression on my face
I absolutely hate it when people say these phrases: “Just because” “By the way” oh you know blah blah blah so and so is “unique”, “ Don’t take it personality”bull. It is obvious that these people have issues with me, well guess what, I don’t have issues with them. I have issues that they have issues with me. I have this go to phrase “ If you got something to say, than say it to my face”.
I use emojis alot to make sure people don't misunderstand what emotion I'm trying to communicate. Also learning sign language to practice facial expression (who play a huge rôle in sign language) but that black and white thing is so hard to manage when it come to emotions. For me (with other) it's I don't care about you OR I love/hate you with passion, no middle emotions the neurotypical usely used 99% of the time.
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2:56 the entire problem is i have no idea where i would be on that scale other than good or bad. its like the pain scale at the doctor, i have no clue every time im asked. great help it didnt help at all. 4:42 and yes i know i have difficulty with all that. so why is not being told what to do or how to help going to help anything?? it isnt.
I don't recognise my emotions sometimes until it's too late .
There are some emoji’s that I’m not 100% sure what emotion it’s meant to be. There seem to be lots that are different types of smiling, some where the mouth is open in different ways. Some where the face just seems blank and I’m not sure what it’s meant to be. Some of them are straight forward though. If I just had a list of useful emotions I could pick from that might be useful. I feel like there are lots of emotional words I just don’t use enough so they don’t immediately spring to mind. It’s hard because I’m almost never one emotion. Usually I could assign percentages to a few, but I’m assuming people don’t want that much detail.
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For some reason, my reaction to emotion is crying. No matter what it is. And it’s caused me a lot of grief when dealing with others. They often think I’m sad when I’m confused or frustrated. They think I’m trying to guilt. My direct language in between the crying is so disorienting for people. It’s incredibly challenging to manage.
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I find that not only do my Autistic family members struggle to understand the facial expressions of others, they are quite deadpan themselves and rarely show emotions - let alone being able to talk through or share any emotions they're feeling. This can make them seem like they're coping well while they might actually be struggling.
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I love all your videos! Thank you for putting so much thought and research into them. I only wish there was a female version of you, so I could ask some female particular questions. I was wondering if you know anything about Autistic people being more prone to falling prey to Narcissist in relationships. Also, what happens to the brain of an Autistic person when they’re getting sober. I recently hit my rock bottom, got a second DUI, and now that I’ve been sober for 5 months, my brain has completely turned everything up. It’s like the alcohol had me partly sedated and now everything is louder and smellier and more distracting and irritating. I guess I’ve been self medicating this whole time. I’ve been diagnosed with depression since the age of 12, and I’ve been doing drugs and drinking since that age as well. I also bounced around from grand parents to mom’s house or to dad’s house when I was young, so no one spent enough time with me to notice the traits or to think there were patterns showing up. I’m now 38 and trying to get diagnosed. It’s starting to affect my 10 year relationship. I just feel like I need support and he doesn’t seem to take this seriously. I’m realizing I’ve been a serial monogamist to sub consciously use my partner as my interpreter of the world around me. But my mental health has hit an all time low this past year (not solely because of him) but, I think I might be dating a Narcissist on top of everything else. Any suggestions? I could be wrong, I’m just not sure.
There are females who make autism-related content like paige layle, Olivia Hops, Yo Samdy Sam, Purple Ella, and Stephanie Bethany, you might want to check them out.
It happened with my sister too she is autistic too and now she is happy with her fiance but has issues every now and then 😂
@@archiecook55 Yes, thank you! I do watch the videos made by some of those girls, and I think they’re great. I just think sometimes the age difference is a factor there. The ones closer to my age are not quite as informative in like a real scientific way. But I do enjoy them, thank you!
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Idk if anyone will see this but, I had a conversation with my recent ex and he expressed that he felt I didn’t care about what he’s passionate about (music) and never felt I cared about it and what he’d do with it. My thing is two things 1-I genuinely don’t understand music and what things I could comment or talk about when I do listen to his music and 2-I do care because I know he’s passionate about music BUT i don’t know how to show him I care about it when I don’t understand music and don’t know what to say and knowing I can come off cold when I don’t know what to say. I’m struggling how to navigate this situation and issues in romantic relationships, and I’m curious to know if other autistic people face similar situations.
Sometimes, when Big things happen, too many BIG emotions come up all at once, and it can take days just to sort out which ones I'm even having.
Oddly enough, I always immediately know the emotions of others, and feel them. I grew up in a dysfunctional family, so that was a survival need, to learn facial/verbiage cues.
I just have to be by myself to sort mine, so others' feelings aren't mingled in.
I guess if I saw my face whilst feeling the feels, I'd understand better ?? 🤷🏻♀️
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This is the one thing about being on the spectrum that I do not identify with. I'm actually quite the opposite. For me, I'm hyper aware of emotions, so much so that I can express how I'm feeling better than any other kind of subject, even those that I'm typically very interested in, like music for example. I don't think this excludes me from being on the spectrum. (Although I have yet to get my formal diagnosis) but it certainly creates an issue, I think. Because typically, those on the spectrum do in fact have a very hard time expressing and understanding their emotions. It's just very strange for me, considering I show every other symptom- and quite strongly too. Like sound and light sensitivity/executive dysfunction/social anxiety/hyper focusing. Now, I will admit I have anger issues, and hold in frustrations a lot, most of the time resulting in outbursts. But I hold these things in because I feel like if I were to show them, no one would care; making the problem even worse. Perhaps this all stems from the fact that I grew up in an emotionally abusive AND emotionally absent household, where I was not diagnosed, and never given the tools to grow at the pace I needed. Maybe, raising myself in many ways, feeling very alone and unheard, this taught me to "overcompensate" for the lack of everyone else's emotions around me. Does that mean these emotions I feel so strongly (particularly sadness and anger) made me hyper appreciative of *good feelings* too? Like happiness and excitement? Anyway, the spectrum being what it is- a spectrum; wouldn't it suggest that even though I am highly emotional and can communicate it particularly well as opposed to most with ASD, be well... Just a rare thing, and I'm hitting it right on the nose? Or is there something else at play here? Whew. That was alot. Sorry.
Big same. I’m very in touch with my emotions and have no trouble expressing them in detail. My emotions are very intense all around. Good and bad.
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YES. Oh thank you 🙌🏼 God for emojis!
Thank you Dan, always for this content. I wish people would just ask "How are you feeling". Seems like most of the time people are just freaked out or upset that i didnt communicate what im feeling but how do you know when you are supposed to do that? what are the context clues that say "now would be a great time to communicate how you feel". i just dont know.
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People just dont get it. “I dont know the words” doesn’t satisfy them. 🤷♂️
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I was just thinking about this yesterday, even though I have before many other times. I started a new job and don't really know how the diversity works. What is it about me that I may seem to have the same traits as someone else but when I see them they tend to look away or something to distract themselves to keep me from saying anything or so they won't say anything to me. I've even been around other that would just wave even it we walk by a million times. Some people must just don't take my attitude well. I'm not one to joke, calling each other "bitch" and play being mean to each other but that can't be with every one they like.
I have an emotion wheel, but even with that, it is still hard to know what I feel.
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Im dating someone with aspd an I can always be there for him during everything trust me it gets wild sometimes he cant do the same for me because he knows I love him an he loves me he cant understand how i would feel unloved when im emotional because life can be exhausting and I need him to support my emotions but since he knows we arent leaving each other then he thinks there cant be anything wrong I just want him to be as supportive as I am when hes having a meltdown
I handle meltdowns calm down irrational thoughts let him know things are ok multiple times but when im emotional an like uuggghh show me you love me hes like you know im not going anywhere so why do you feel like that and thats the literal entire conversation then its the entire history of Led Zeppelin lol I love him but he just dosent get it or support me like I do him an thats so hard sometimes its like I have to be emotionless an figure out the bad days on my own cuz I should know since we're together what do I do for that support
Like be as interested in me as you are in Led Zeppelin
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What about instead of asking how the neurodivergent person feels, asking them what they think? Would that help them to communicate?
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I understand we have a hard time recognizing our emotions but how do we get to a place where we can figure it out? Or does that just.... never happen?
Dan my daughters school think she could be an Aspie girl.. she’s 5.5yrs. Any advice with raising Aspie girls is much appreciated xx
You've found a good source of info on this youtube channel. It certainly helped me when it was suggested my son was autistic when he was diagnosed with ADHD. It made me realise autism wasn't what I thought it was (I've known lots of autistic people but they have all had other issues which made their autistic traits more obvious). One thing that helped me was realising that my kids were a chip off the old block and that I was probably autistic, I've not been diagnosed but I show a lot of the same traits my kids do. Since then I've noticed a lot of autistic people's partners seem to have ADHD traits. I've also found the idea of monotropic thinking very useful. Essential it describes autism as an attention regulation difference at heart, autistic focus on a narrower range of sensory information around the things they are paying attention to as compared to neurotypical people. It helps me to think of it as a graph of sensory info vs attention an autistic person would have a v shaped valley curve around the sensory information they are paying attention to, ie they use a lot of their conscious processing power directly on the point of interest and a lot less on "adjacent" sensory information. In contrast a neurotypical persons curve would be a shallower, broader U shaped valley, less conscious processing power directly on the point of interest and more on adjacent information. Sensory information can include thoughts and feelings. If your not directly paying attention to your feeling your not putting much conscious processing power into them and so you won't understand them as well, paying direct attention to them can be overwhelming as the. They may be all you can see and much more intense than a neurotypical person would ussually experience. It is basically the idea of hyper and hyposensitive. This difference in how the brain works can also be at the root of why autistic people find it difficult to interact with neurotypical people, I know generally find it easier to relate to other neurodiverse people than neurotypical people.
Finding out what my kids are ussually hyper and hyposensitive to has been a big help, also being aware that this can vary, a lot of training may give you the impression that people are always hyposensitive or hypersensitive to a given sensory input. I've also seen training that gave the impression that an autistic person was either hypo or hyper to everything.
My kids all struggle with school, and helping the school understand their sensory needs and putting accommodations for them in place has helped. Unfortunately our school was slow on this but hopefully if your school will be on it if they have picked up on autism in 5.5year old girl, autistic girls often go undiagnosed as they learn quickly to mask their behaviour to fit in. Masking has been an issue with my eldest, he'd seem fine at school and explode when he got out of the school gates, when he felt safe to not mask.
Its also been helpful to my family to acknowledge social occasions are often difficult for us so having some time to reset after school or church is important. We all enjoy going to church but immediately doing something else social after it may not always be wise.
Apologies for the long winded response, hopefully there is something useful in there for you.
I used this doc herbs for my son and now my son is completely free, his speaking and behavior is ok. His herbs is 100% working on ASD. I met Dr Oyalo on channel and I’m happy to share my experience about it
I remember as a young teen telling a guy that I know he hates me but there's no need to stare and give me dirty looks,he replied that he actually really liked me and wanted to ask me out 😳 of course I panicked and said no 😬 then felt bad and played that over and over in my mind,how could I get it so wrong 🤔 I couldn't read his face although I rarely made eye contact so that may have helped lol
After using Dr Oyalo herbal remedy whom I met his recommendation about healing autism on UA-cam channel, I can testify that my son is now completely ok in speaking, behavior and social skills. He read, played with friends and followed instructions by himself. After everything I've been through, I'm happy for him and my family.
I have to write my emotions
.I just can't explain myself verbally.
Thank you Dr Oyalo for healing my son from autism. And I want to share about him to every one
His herbs has made my son verbal and Improve in social skills
I can’t do that either
Wait, there's other emotions than the happy/sad/angry Trinity? Where can I buy the DLC?
I used this doc herbs for my son and now my son is completely free, his speaking and behavior is ok. His herbs is 100% working on ASD. I met Dr Oyalo on channel and I’m happy to share my experience about it
I really don’t like the scales, because I am usually feeling more than one thing at once and I don’t know how to make that fit
After using Dr Oyalo herbal remedy whom I met his recommendation about healing autism on UA-cam channel, I can testify that my son is now completely ok in speaking, behavior and social skills. He read, played with friends and followed instructions by himself. After everything I've been through, I'm happy for him and my family.
Guess I'm the odd one out then, being able to very eloquently convey my feelings?
After using Dr Oyalo herbal remedy whom I met his recommendation about healing autism on UA-cam channel, I can testify that my son is now completely ok in speaking, behavior and social skills. He read, played with friends and followed instructions by himself. After everything I've been through, I'm happy for him and my family.
@@gracechristopher3133 "healing"? You're American aren't you? It's not an illness with a cure 🤦The only "cure" is for neurotypicals to stop trying to make is conform with their way of life.
This was really interesting to watch. As a person with Aspergers myself I had a hard time in the past. I came a long way though. I used to not come up to people because I didn’t know what to do or say. Also, is it possible to sense how others are feeling through the sound of the persons voice?
Thank you Dr Oyalo for healing my son from autism. And I want to share about him to every one
His herbs has made my son verbal and Improve in social skills
Hi 👋🏻 thank you so much for all the information you have shared with us, I had a boyfriend for 3 yrs and I Believe he has autism there is just so many things that you have shared that he does, although he is 63 years old now and after a year that I met him we tried to get him seen by a doctor to be referred for testing but the doctor declined saying that he did not have autism and that what good would it do him now to find out, but it might of saved our relationship if he would have gotten tested. because I would have understood him a lot better, unfortunately there was no help and our relationship ended because he couldn’t share or
Tell me that he loved me but only when I would bring up the subject, other than that, time and time again he would not share those words even when I was hinting to him, but he wouldn’t get it, he also did fast motions with his hands and wrist at times looked uncontrolled just for a few seconds maybe one or two, what would you recommend for a man who is 63 years old and might not even be able to keep a relationship because of this?
Thank you so much for taking the time to read my message hope to hear from you soon thank you again
As long as we are breathing and have a heartbeat, it's never too late to get diagnosed and see a specialist. I worked in the medical field all my life, and to have a doctor blow you off like that is almost medical malpractice. Get another specialist!
I meant to reply to your remarks, but it didn't work that way. The "flapping" alone is diagnosis. Get another opinion.
After using Dr Oyalo herbal remedy whom I met his recommendation about healing autism on UA-cam channel, I can testify that my son is now completely ok in speaking, behavior and social skills. He read, played with friends and followed instructions by himself. After everything I've been through, I'm happy for him and my family.
Supplements have been super helpful. Inositol, taurine, pharmaceutical grade omega-3, magnesium l Threonate, and citicholine. Lions mane also
Thank you Dr Oyalo for healing my son from autism. And I want to share about him to every one
His herbs has made my son verbal and Improve in social skills
My ASD partner lies and lies and gaslights and cheats. I thought that was atypical? Can u discuss that?
Whether neurotypical or ASD, abusers will be abusers.
i love feeling like family also almost everyone in my life seems to put my feelings toward something else other than i feel feelings too and i have a very awkward and upsetting time talking about my feelings especially when they say "what trying" to get me to talk in more detail about but i do not get the context of that at the time and i was and am very afraid of emotional rejection that might be abandonment issues i do not know but there is my spiel!
Thank you Dr Oyalo for healing my son from autism. And I want to share about him to every one
His herbs has made my son verbal and Improve in social skills
Level 2 or 3 ASD here can't remember I also have ADHD and short term memory and long term memory loss 🤣
Great stuff man 🙂🙂🙂🙂
Thank you.