I Was Miserable When My Husband Was Rich - Promise Makunyane | Lerato Kganyago, Cheating,
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- Опубліковано 4 гру 2023
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ENGINEER YOUR LIFE - EPISODE 81 - Promise Makunyane
Promise Makunyane @Ownnarrativepodcast why she would never leave her husband even if he cheats on her, her relationship with her step children and debunking the myths of marriages. She also addressed her online debacle with Lerato Kganyago and other bloggers.
Hosted by: Lungelo KM
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lol as for ‘who is Owamie’ I’m glad the interviewer didn’t entertain that coz she knows exactly who Owamie is🙄hai
For someone who looks so much older than her age, the way she keeps calling others "old" 😂😂😂 aai
😂😂🤣🤣😅
I think Promise is starting to articulate herself better because she is becoming so likeable! Love to see it.
I think so too.
when I grew up, I used to think that married women were safe from getting HIV Aids . Now I know better 😌
Those ones are the biggest victims of HIV.
at first she says things were okay between her and the baby mama and she took care of the child then( before getting married) and all was well.things went south after she got married to the man
then jiki jiki she says its easy to be a mother to child that is not yours when you have a child of your own , its hard to be a parent to a child that is not yours. what is she saying?
in other words she was not a good parent then coz she didnt have kids? and things were okay at that time between the baby mama and her? 😂😂😂😂
when she was now a mother , where she was able to take care of the child things went south
am lost
too much contradictory information
I’m a step mom to my daughter, I’m staying with her and I let her speak with her mother I sent her pictures of her daughter now and then, I’m glad she doesn’t give me headache
fact remains, once a woman gets cheated on, something in her gets shaken and shattered. I feel for women who tolerate disrespect, disregard trying to prove to people that her marriage seems to be lasting longer.
Please elaborate...
When a woman is cheated on... It's not easy to trust your partner or love him anymore. Small things can irritate you But mine is you cheat I'm out. When you grew up in a home where you saw your Mum stressed because of such and still to date can't forget it's really unbearable. A man that cheats finishes you like no other. But when women return the, favour it becomes more worse to men and they can even kill a woman for that
@@noxolomatshaka2257 I think there is an element of truth but also there is too much generalization also forgetting the individual dynamics of marriages! How did our grandparents stayed married until they were 90 yrs old? What about this modern-day pressure that once a partner has cheated, divorce papers from the lawyers next week, pretending as if we have suddenly become perfect, flawless human beings? Why are you not eager to divorce your spouse, if he has cheated on his business & pocketed a million rands, it's a character flaw isn't? Social Media noise and modernity should not cloud one's judgment. Marriage & building a family is a personal journey! There are no absolutes...
Absolutely
But she does state that it's her own disposition. She's not generalizing. I'm pretty sure she won't stay when she feels all the things you've mentioned. It's true that women divorce very quickly because of cheating, hoping to move on to another man that won't cheat. Only to realize that the new man is a worse cheater than the first. I'm one of those who quit a marriage because of cheating while having 2 young children. They have suffered a lot because of it. I've question myself many times whether it was worth them suffering the way they did because as good a mother as I was/ am, I could not be both mother and father in their eyes. So someone else chosing to stay cannot be labelled based on a selfish decision to leave. There are more than the 2 people in marriage. For those who can stay and take it, by all means they need to do what's right by them and their children. Nobody else will step up and play a fatherly role for anyone's children once the parents divorce. Unfortunately when men move on, they move on - even from the fatherly responsibility to a greater extent. Sometimes staying is about protecting the family unit, as messed up as that may sound to an outsider. Not to mention that other times women are responsible for breaking up other women's families.
I love her opening statement, I believe in black marriages so much BUT not at the expense of black women. NOT marriages that are built on black womens pain.
Honestly speaking we women are the reason why men cheat and not respect us... A man who genuinely loves and respect u will never cheat.. Promise is a pickmisha.. I wish women can love themselves, there's nothing wrong being alone... A man will never take back a cheating woman
I agree with you. Most people's biggest fear is being a baby momma & running after baby daddy. It's easier to hold the man accountable while he's still in the household
Thank you for being brave enough to say it. I was sitting reading the comment and confused when did we get to this level of just settling.
@theblueclinicbydrthabile The shame of not being married... remember some women being married it's a goal for them.
You need to watch her interview with her father. It'll all make sense.
@verasixishe4393 I did hey... noo the foundation was wrong
I come from a family of two parents and siblings, including cousins and uncles, etc. who enriched our lives. There had never been a divorce in our family until I got divorced! I had tolerated cheating for more than 20 years in my marriage and I had lost count of the women he slept with, some from the church and some from the businesses he interacted with. I had gotten used to the cheating and no longer asked him about it, until he started practicing witchcraft and wanted to sacrifice me for the power to make money! I left him and never looked back. I’m at a stage in my life where I don’t care anymore what people say, especially the church. I love God and chose Him and my children above my marriage and continue to do so because my life depends on Him and not people. Secondly, I am the one who was burning in there, any other person is an armchair critic! I therefore suggest that if you are not the person in that marriage, keep your criticism to yourself because you are speaking on someone’s lived experience and you will fall short and hurt others. Mind your own marriage and ensure that you don’t copy and paste because marriage is an experience between you and your partner and God!
I’m really sorry you went through this. I hope God grants you the grace to heal and forgive. And an opportunity to rebuild a great life for yourself.
Wherever I see promise in these streets of UA-cam, I watch. I love the way she speaks about marriage. I can listen to you, baby girl, the whole day.
Promise will apologise to Lerato because lerato is “up there”, where she wishes to be oneday.
Laba abanye she is clearly undermining them, Hence they don’t deserve an apology let alone speaking about them . Yoooooo ay which level of Pride is this??🙃
The conversation about South Africa pastors and international pastors is true, promise stated facts hey🎉🎉❤
God will drop her down yazi for undermining people
Why should she apologize to people who still shade and bash her till today?😂 bathong lona mara
I got so confused when she said "A man can cheat but he is not a cheat-er" . . . And it's sad how shes' so okay with cheating but if she'd do the same to her man, that man would leave her because kaloku men know their worth! Kwanzima!
It's giving Thando's yangishaya kodwa akangi abuse
I think she said there's a difference between a man who cheated once, and a serial cheater.
@Yassmiinn. How would you know...the fact that he cheated it means he can potentially do it again
Promise is a classist period, the Lerato Kgangago apology does not land..uphakeme u Promise yazi.
Exactly the vibes I got. She may say whatever she has practiced but the truth came out😂😂😂😂
Heyyyyyyy I did not understand what she said she will apologize for. So she will only apologize to LKG because of her influence in the industry, of who she is but not because she offended her. Otherwise she doesn't regret saying what she said about LKG.
I'm really not following.
Now I get it when u say u can't divorce ur husband bcoz of cheating... U went through a lot, may God help u to know ur worth
Promise is definitely an ideal wife for a typical African man who wants a wife who will never go anywhere, however this woman is here for her own kids only, she's not here for anyone else's child in her marriage, she kept on referring to her stepkids as "it" and "thing"
I picked it up and ha a man it's wrong.
It's every woman for herself. The other children have their own mothers who are still alive. Her responsibility is to her children too.
@@sweetpotato6728 i was not talking about responsibilities, i was talking about mere humanity for innocent kids, referring to anyone's child as "it" and/or "thing" as though they are objects and not human beings is vile. Especially as a mother herself.
Thank you for having me my darling. i loved the interview, my husband loved it too❤️
Love you big time wena. Also, I love how much you've grown as an individual and as a content creator. You are teachable❤
On that Lerato situation, I hope she doesn’t accept your apology.. you apologise when you wrong , not because the person has status and the rest don’t .
@@nonozi4147thank you
@@thatogix8259glad you have zero control over what she does or does not❤
I'm so glad! You made it so easy to have an unfiltered conversation with ❤️
You know sometimes we are so quick to judge people before we even know the person the way people hate the lady is just evident that it’s the people who are triggered by her truth now I hate to admit that I love the woman she’s becoming
Can we just take a moment to appreciate the interviewer 💐🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾. Lungelo, Your interviewing skills are truly impressive! 💯Your ability to conduct an engaging and insightful interview was genuinely refreshing ✨Even though I’m not a fan of Promise, your approach brought a new perspective that captivated my interest. Your interviewing style and the way you navigated the conversation were top-notch. I was so impressed that I've become a subscriber. Keep up the excellent work!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Welcome and thank you! ❤️❤️❤️ Enjoy watching all our previous episodes 🙏🏿
Its my 1st time here, i wasnt watching but just listening..and i paused for a minute.."im like who is this guy that is so good in this.."hai mahn im sold..guy knows what he is doing..
Lungelo is amazing, so mature, intelligent and tactful. His interviewing style is exceptional, I think a lot of these podcasters can learn a lot from him. Keep up the good work Lungelo 🙌🙌🙌
He is very good🎉❤
Promise wants motivation and miracles not the word of God.
The interviewer is good❤. I must admit, at first I really didn't understand Promise, however now I'm starting to understand her. And I love how she is not moved, she stands her ground and what she believes in.
Me and you both ❤️
Thank you kindly Sis Nomsa. Be blessed
I love her,❤
I love her mindset , very strong !❤
Some woman were born to be married, she's one of them ❤
I just want to say Promise o bohlale thobela. i don't even want to mention her confidence. What a force.
Hello fam. ❤ Thank you for being here and using your resources to learn on our content. Hope you have an amazing week further & remember to spread kindness ❤
Seek first the Kingdom of God sana
".. and youre the common factor,, they cant all be toxic". YOU ATE THAT! why are you the common factor?
The answer to that question though🌝👩🏿🦯👩🏿🦯👩🏿🦯 lol
That question was very important hey!!😤
"If you dont stay full time with the thing". Yho, Promise genuinely feels that her stepchildren are "things".
It was a mistake which she corrected.
Are we just gonna ignore the fact that she apologised and did not mean it yoh!!!
@@mrsspringbok
Thank u haibo she apologized for goodness sake
This woman hates her step kids with passion because of the baby mamas,poor kids
I love Promise❤
The other ones I don't even see them.....Who is this woman...
This guy's interviewing skills 👌
Thank you Shenge. Much appreciated :)
Outstanding 🎉
This lady has such a teachable spirit and honest with her truth 👌🏽
I'm yet to see that.
I thoroughly enjoyed this episode. Well done Promise and the host. 👏🏿❤️
Female entrepreneur here, I know the after math of covid all too well.
So Promise blocked me on TikTok for asking questions.
1, most women don't simply leave after the man has lost money. How the husband treats the wife after he has lost everything, pushed them to leave. Most women want to work it out, but the emotion abuse is just too much.
2. Women make cheating a deal breaker, because they fair deseases. So has she never thought that her health might be compromised.
3. What does she think the second child from the second babymama feel when they see what she said about them
4. Is the second baby or the children outside the marriage not being allowed full access to their siblings. How will all she is airing affect the siblingship.
Promise can block anyone she wants to block. And she doesn't owe you any answers. Her life is going on with or without your questions. Le wena move on. Otla I potsa Wai karaba 🤣
@@marciamohale6720 bathong wena. O na le bothata shame.....
Please rest, it's good for your heart. And stop drinking energy drinks it goods straight to the heart.
True step parenting without a child is difficult
“We broke up not bcz of the girl “ x3 jiki jiki “ we broke up bcz i was a third wheel in the relationship bcz he has to be with her inorder for him to see the child “
Listen to her again
@@melmel7011 i did, n then what?
@@malekamamoketepearl9535 go listen to her again, and again until you hear what she is saying.
"I FELT LIKE"......
@@orearabilekgotle8690 felt like, but like, we like, me like, he like, still. Y mention it has nothing to do with the girl but still feel like a 3rd wheel. Kanti hu is d third person?
I love how promise speaks her truth. N many woman shouts what they don't practice anyway.. Others say they would leave but in actual fact stay
So Promise is apologizing because Lerato is up there? Yooh says a lot about her,shes an opportunist and i am starting to wonder if the apology is GENUINE
Not at all
What a woman!!!!.....I havent always liked or agreed with Promise....but I clearly misjudged her...keep shining❤❤❤
I believe in both couple putting the hard work,if only one partner does the work,the marriage sound one-sided(married to just the idea of marriage)
Promise i wish God can bless me with wife your like minded ....i believe your husband is blesse to the sky to find a wife who understand the chillanges we come a cross as man from our childhoods to adulthood..i believe that you understand your role as a wife to ur home and to your family and i pray i get that for my self as well.
So this marriage is hard work for one party? so the other party doesn't have to work hard? Because from what I heard and learned in this interview, there is only one person who endured a lot and make excuses for the victimizer.
In a marriage you have to be the best thing you would like to have. You have to be the dream partner than just want to have one. It is sad, when we condone the nonsense our better half commits. This is how we open door for sicknesses and witchcraft.
Eix
Marriage is hard work and needs you to be intentional
Promise
Not her forget who Owami is😂😂😂Haybo Promise
She knows that Owamie will drag her to the streets.
@@victorioussisters3307😂😂😂
Can't blv these two agree that boBushiri and the likes have gifts of the spirit😢
Makes sense now how evil Ma'ams heart can be, its the Bushiri spirit.......
Great interview nontheless.
Can't blv she said she is in the same industry as Kganyago😅😂😂😂
I missed that part, please tell me where is that in terms of minutes into the interview.
Discovered Lungelo through Naledis interview. Geez he's such an amazing interviewer, loved how he allowed us to understand Promise deeper as well. ❤
Joh Lungelo this guy is great, but thank you for pointing out the fact that Precious is tge problem to all the female she fight with, tgank you for telling her to go and do self introspection.
The words that slip out of Promise's mouth sometimes 😅🫢 like- I'd be so pissed being consistently referred to as a baby momma bandla. Did she just call her step kid a thing? Kuningi-
😫
I thought I was the only one who heard that, she has disdain, hatred for that "thing"aka her stepchild 😏😒
Promise sounds so much matured in this interview.
I don't always agree with Promise but she's very likeable..always enjoy watching her content.
Pastor Nhlapo,Pastor Gumbi Assembly of God visit those churches madam.
I like her for honesty.
Great interview 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
I love that she is being honest about her marriage.
❤beautiful interview 👌...I love Promise
I love promise❤
Solid advice from the father.. love it
“I know the bible 100%” wow mogirl naa
I loved Promise from day one❤
An interesting conversation.
Love you soo much promise for your honesty ❤
A person can cheat but he is not a cheater 😅😅😅 ungavumi ngami Nkosi yezulu, yala Jesu
You mean it doesn’t make sense? 🤣
❤❤❤ promise i love her
Yooh i lov this guy lemme subscribe
Promise you are brilliant girl.
Wow this was a beautiful interview. Promise does speak her truth and unfiltered indeed.
I like yu promise
I love the way you conduct your interviews 👌👌. Gained a subscriber.
Awesome, thank you! Appreciate you so much ❤️
With immediate effect.
I love Lerato Kganyago....thank you Promise for wanting to make the peace❤
Yey.. I understand wat promise is saying axactly....👌
Promise doesn't fake her life
For those that grew up in happy families with mummy and daddy, they understand the beauty it is for children to be raised by both parents. The problem is something went wrong with today's marriages. Something went seriously wrong. Marriage is now very hard. Very hard but if it thrives its beautiful for the children and the parents as well
very true. there are too many new dynamics that have been introduced that hurt marriages.
@@EngineerYLShow I'm sorry, I disagree here. Marriage has ALWAYS been hard, that's why elders would tell women that marriage is hard and they need to be long suffering.
In my view, the main dynamics affecting today's marriages are:
- Social media: Giving people an unrealistic view of the lifestyles people are supposed to aspire to.
- 3rd wave feminism: Women being selfish instead of selfless. Women valuing careers/ businesses over family and the next generation. Men's access to opportunities being greatly reduced, meaning that they are unable to provide for their families or do not earn enough to be considered by women who earn more than them.
I always revert to StatsSA data. This is a Black community problem.
Don't get me wrong .... there's nothing wrong with women choosing to focus on careers/ business and being providers, they just need to understand that it comes at a cost. We should be ok with the consequences and not complain about failing marriages then. You can't have it all
@@keabua I have seen you under many other comments and our opinions seem to differ. So far it seems you believe that women are the main causes of marriages being broken even though we have (some) men cheating, creating outside babies, choosing not to parent at all. And so many other factors. You can’t expect one party to constantly compromise and be long suffering, like you said in your own words. Women are not robots, we have emotions and sooner or later you will get tired of putting up with disrespect. I believe in healthy marriages so much and I don’t believe that marriage should be a constant battle.
I'm so in love with this woman nje...
I just followed you because you're a good interviewer. I really enjoyed the conversation
I liked the question about “common factor” Nice interview
Lungelo is so well spoken.🥹
You’re too kind ❤️🙏🏿
Promise Promise I love you beautiful interview my darling
I’m not a huge Promise fan but I thoroughly enjoyed this interview.
I loved this interview ey. Lungelo you're very smart. Promise you spoke so well❤
I love this woman's sense of humor ❤❤I've learned a lot from her
Great questions and follow up.. been saying I want to watch this podcast and always get distracted.. I subscribed while watching... homework done, not biased, well articulated, accommodating.. this was done amazingly well
I love this Promise. She's relatable and not cocky. I'd previously unfollowed her but I'm going back to follow her after this.
Don’t forget to subscribe here too ❤️🙏🏿
Mrs Duu Luu Luu
Definitely saw a different side ❤
cheating is cheating whether once or many times. There is no difference mama
Saw her with Panuel, really like her, I should listen to her more often.
I cannot i watched the whole episode.I loved it so much and i love Promise for speaking her truth :)
Promise she's a wise woman,if you know you know ❤
Promise is quite a wise woman much more wiser than our age mates
wonderful conversation Lungelo! Maybe we need behavioural experts to tackle the consequences of access and how to manage them. We are raising children in a very twisted world. It helps to enlighten parents on these complexities. Thank you Promise! Always wonderful to hear your perspectives.
On this I'm with ma'am Promise the lady has a calling for saving marriages mama lots of love from Kenya ❤
Damn not her calling her step child is a thing 🥹 🚮🚮🚮🚮🚮
I’d really like a man’s perspective on being cheated on , did they stay, did they forgive,if they stayed was their marriage the same after the incident(s), do men also have consideration of the fact that women don’t have a blue print either of how to be a wife 🤔.
My take is that marriage is ordained by God and it holds both parties equally accountable especially on faithfulness.
Okay, after so long, I hear you Promise❤️❤️❤️I really hear you mommy❤️
Hiccups do overpowers and such is true love ❤️ keep going strong and rise beyond all else… marriage is an epitome of God🙌 Gods love personified 🙏
The fact that she act like she doesn't know owamie shocked me🤣🤣🤣 ,anyway I like promise 4 speaking truth regarding her marriage🎉🎉
New follower! Great interview
Thank you Dr Thabile. Utshele nabanye ❤❤❤
Lungelo you are an amazing host👌✨
Thank you, glad you enjoyed our honest and open conversation :)
First time seeing this channel, opened it because I love promise there I am falling inlove with the interviewer yeses he is talented
Thank you kindly Mntungwa ❤️🥺
Me too, same here. I subscribed right away 😃😃
from what she has said here so far and in her other interviews her husband is a serial cheater, she is just in denial, but anyway as long as she is happy with her man then all is well
Good interview. I enjoyed, thank you.
Thank you kindly for engaging. Please spread the word with others :)
Great interview skills ❤
Thank you Bongiwe ❤️🙏🏿