Big thanks to everyone liking, commenting, and of course, subscribing! This series has been a huge labor of love and it's been so great to see your response❤
I have never felt more called out in my entire life. I am actually shook. Even down to the love languages; I've always found it odd that I thrive on doing Acts of Service for others, yet ideally prefer Words of Affirmation for myself. Amazing video, though I certainly need a minute to gather myself after being perceived so acutely LOL.
This was pretty solid (2w1, sexual subtype here). As the “intimacy junkie of the enneagram,” I find that intimacy is scary and so I’m always reserved to a point and deeply afraid to really surrender completely to it. Additionally, I would note that for my love languages, my top 3 are super close and tight with a massive chasm to 4 and 5: 1) Quality time 2) Words of affirmation 3) Physical touch (Vast chasm of space 🤣) 4) Gifts 5) Acts of service. Thanks for making these videos! I definitely like to send others here when seeking to have a different perspective on their personality!
As a type 2, I agree with what you said about our Love Languages. Being given service is not received as, as much of a big deal (either that, or it just makes me feel bad and guilty that I didn't do the things myself) compared to touch and words. I would add, however, that for me, time spent is also up there towards the top. If someone wants to hang out with me, that feels really good too!
I love a 2. I’ve experienced his disintegration to 8 a handful of times. It’s not fun for either of us. This video is helpful for me. It’s encouraging. Thank you.
Im a 2. The ending about love languages is spot on. I love committing acts of service and absolutely love to receive personal touch. Words of affirmation is a close second for sure. You make interesting videos.
Holy hell! Talk about exposing! This is (sadly) too accurate! My hubby sent me this and wants to "talk" now...haha. We are both on a healing journey so this will be very helpful though. Thanks for your videos!
I love this :) I think that "exposing" feeling is always a good sign of healthy self-awareness. Best wishes on the continued healing journey! As well as the impending "talk" haha.
This was interesting. I haven't heard or read some of the things you shared. You mentioned sometimes 2s take credit for things they didn't do but my experience at work has been the opposite. I've done things someone else took credit for frequently at certain jobs. I'm a 2 with 1 wing. I lean a lot more towards 1. I'm more of a self preserving 2 since I started having health issues. I did the love language test and I liked receiving spending time with others. This was interesting. Thank you for sharing!
Well… that’s not fully what I said, and it’s important to reference the context of that comment about feeling connected to their partners work because they support them so strongly - not like they just take credit for things they didn’t do in the workplace. Really gotta lock in on the context and exact wording :) Otherwise those statements would be very misleading and inaccurate. Also I was very intentional about saying “unhealthy 2s” which is a whole different spectrum of behaviors compared to average 2s. That’s my disclaimer 🙌
Type 5 with a type 2 mom... unfortunately, the relationship isn't where either of us would hope for it to be. My desire to not need anyone has definitely clashed with my mom's need to be needed. We've both said things that have hurt each other, but it's difficult to communicate how I've been hurt because it's difficult to get past her need to be good. Either my concerns get dismissed or she takes it _way_ too personal and growth and resolving the issues become impossible. As someone who is weaker in social situations, I've been working hard to improve my communication and to find ways to keep my batteries from being drained in the large social gatherings or sitting down watching her crime and romance shows do. Sometimes, I've dreaded my mom doing anything for me because she would hold it over my head and blackmail me into doing stuff for her despite me not asking for it and the large disparity in effort expended for each favor. I'm working to improve the relationship, but I've got a long way to go.
I'm a Type 2, One to One, Childlike Helper with a 3 wing and My Love Languages are definitely acts of Service, Quality Time, Physical touch and Words of Affirmation 💯
im a sexual two, but my top 2 love languages tat i love to receive is Acts of Service and Quality Time. and i believe i give in the form of Acts of Service and Words of Affirmation. but maybe its because i've started to see how actions speak louder than words. thanks so much for making this tho, helps me to be more aware of the needs i tend to ignore/overlook ❤
Dang. Yeah I like this. Calling me out! I also agree with words of affirmation and physical touch. Really all 5 all the time sounds great…connection. Whatever love Language is connecting me is great.
Tell me why I feel called out by half of the freakin enneagram types?! Hahaha I swear I’ve felt like you’re describing me at times when you’re talking about 2’s, 3’s, 4’s, 5’s, and 9’s. Maybe I’m just not self aware enough yet lol.
Well those are completely opposite types, but also, most tests online are garbage. I always say, go with the type description that makes you the most uncomfortable/called out. If all else fails, I do typing sessions you can purchase at youvegotatype.com/contact@@carmensiordia7097
I am an enneagram 2w1 and I think that this is geared towards 2w3 with a strong emphasis on the unhealthy 3. Also, I would’ve liked to hear about a healthy two in a relationship a little more. I still like your videos so don’t take it that way. I felt like this video was far too harsh. This is not to say that you have a vendetta against twos and I like a lot of your descriptions of the types. I did not find this particular one to be accurate.
I'm not surprised it feels this way as a 2. This leans into a lot of the difficult truths that 2s (as positive outlook types) are naturally opposed to embracing. If you think this video is inaccurate when it starts with "the need to be needed" then you might not be a 2, because that is indeed their primary ego motivation.
Big thanks to everyone liking, commenting, and of course, subscribing! This series has been a huge labor of love and it's been so great to see your response❤
I have never felt more called out in my entire life. I am actually shook. Even down to the love languages; I've always found it odd that I thrive on doing Acts of Service for others, yet ideally prefer Words of Affirmation for myself. Amazing video, though I certainly need a minute to gather myself after being perceived so acutely LOL.
I appreciate this comment so much haha glad it resonated! Albeit eerily so ;)
This was pretty solid (2w1, sexual subtype here). As the “intimacy junkie of the enneagram,” I find that intimacy is scary and so I’m always reserved to a point and deeply afraid to really surrender completely to it.
Additionally, I would note that for my love languages, my top 3 are super close and tight with a massive chasm to 4 and 5:
1) Quality time
2) Words of affirmation
3) Physical touch
(Vast chasm of space 🤣)
4) Gifts
5) Acts of service.
Thanks for making these videos! I definitely like to send others here when seeking to have a different perspective on their personality!
Thanks for sharing your LLs - and glad the video resonated!
As a type 2, I agree with what you said about our Love Languages. Being given service is not received as, as much of a big deal (either that, or it just makes me feel bad and guilty that I didn't do the things myself) compared to touch and words. I would add, however, that for me, time spent is also up there towards the top. If someone wants to hang out with me, that feels really good too!
I love a 2. I’ve experienced his disintegration to 8 a handful of times. It’s not fun for either of us. This video is helpful for me. It’s encouraging. Thank you.
Glad it was helpful & encouraging!
Can’t wait for type 5!! :)
Just a few weeks away!
Im a 2. The ending about love languages is spot on. I love committing acts of service and absolutely love to receive personal touch. Words of affirmation is a close second for sure.
You make interesting videos.
Thanks! Glad it resonated.
Holy hell! Talk about exposing! This is (sadly) too accurate! My hubby sent me this and wants to "talk" now...haha. We are both on a healing journey so this will be very helpful though. Thanks for your videos!
I love this :) I think that "exposing" feeling is always a good sign of healthy self-awareness. Best wishes on the continued healing journey! As well as the impending "talk" haha.
My mom is the two-est two I've ever met.
Absolutely spot on! I am a full on 2! 🤣 This was insightful!
Thanks so much! Glad to hear it 🙌
This was interesting. I haven't heard or read some of the things you shared. You mentioned sometimes 2s take credit for things they didn't do but my experience at work has been the opposite. I've done things someone else took credit for frequently at certain jobs. I'm a 2 with 1 wing. I lean a lot more towards 1. I'm more of a self preserving 2 since I started having health issues. I did the love language test and I liked receiving spending time with others. This was interesting. Thank you for sharing!
Well… that’s not fully what I said, and it’s important to reference the context of that comment about feeling connected to their partners work because they support them so strongly - not like they just take credit for things they didn’t do in the workplace. Really gotta lock in on the context and exact wording :) Otherwise those statements would be very misleading and inaccurate. Also I was very intentional about saying “unhealthy 2s” which is a whole different spectrum of behaviors compared to average 2s. That’s my disclaimer 🙌
😂 One moment
This is spot on for me!
Glad to hear it!
Everything about this speaks to me
🙏
Type 5 with a type 2 mom... unfortunately, the relationship isn't where either of us would hope for it to be. My desire to not need anyone has definitely clashed with my mom's need to be needed. We've both said things that have hurt each other, but it's difficult to communicate how I've been hurt because it's difficult to get past her need to be good. Either my concerns get dismissed or she takes it _way_ too personal and growth and resolving the issues become impossible. As someone who is weaker in social situations, I've been working hard to improve my communication and to find ways to keep my batteries from being drained in the large social gatherings or sitting down watching her crime and romance shows do. Sometimes, I've dreaded my mom doing anything for me because she would hold it over my head and blackmail me into doing stuff for her despite me not asking for it and the large disparity in effort expended for each favor. I'm working to improve the relationship, but I've got a long way to go.
Hahahah You’re hilarious. This is great. My therapist and best friend are both 2s. Sure do love them 🥰🥰
Glad it was a fun watch 🙌 Gotta love them 2s
I'm a Type 2, One to One, Childlike Helper with a 3 wing and My Love Languages are definitely acts of Service, Quality Time, Physical touch and Words of Affirmation 💯
Thanks for sharing 🙏
My Pleasure!!!!@@YouveGotaType
im a sexual two, but my top 2 love languages tat i love to receive is Acts of Service and Quality Time. and i believe i give in the form of Acts of Service and Words of Affirmation. but maybe its because i've started to see how actions speak louder than words. thanks so much for making this tho, helps me to be more aware of the needs i tend to ignore/overlook ❤
This was pretty spot on
Love hearing that 🙌
I'm a 2w3 and words of affirmation is #1
Thanks for sharing 🙏
Awesome insight - thank you 😊 🙏
My pleasure!
Dang. Yeah I like this. Calling me out! I also agree with words of affirmation and physical touch. Really all 5 all the time sounds great…connection. Whatever love
Language is connecting me is great.
Thanks for sharing, and glad it resonated!
I am a social 2 and my love language is quality time.
Thanks for sharing :)
I am a 2 and words of affirmation. My bff is a 2 and quality time, it’s a good blend most of the time 😂
Thanks for sharing! I think 2s and love languages are always more of a option "All of the Above" ;)
Tell me why I feel called out by half of the freakin enneagram types?!
Hahaha I swear I’ve felt like you’re describing me at times when you’re talking about 2’s, 3’s, 4’s, 5’s, and 9’s.
Maybe I’m just not self aware enough yet lol.
I mean... mostly 6s & 9s say that kinda thing 😬
Ouch! I’m a 2.😂
But I have to say my love language is quality time.
Thanks for sharing! Hopefully it helps more than it hurts 🙌
@@YouveGotaType I took another test and I showed up as a type 5. Now I’m confused!🤷🏻♀️
Well those are completely opposite types, but also, most tests online are garbage. I always say, go with the type description that makes you the most uncomfortable/called out. If all else fails, I do typing sessions you can purchase at youvegotatype.com/contact@@carmensiordia7097
You're good!!
Thanks!
I am an enneagram 2w1 and I think that this is geared towards 2w3 with a strong emphasis on the unhealthy 3. Also, I would’ve liked to hear about a healthy two in a relationship a little more. I still like your videos so don’t take it that way. I felt like this video was far too harsh. This is not to say that you have a vendetta against twos and I like a lot of your descriptions of the types. I did not find this particular one to be accurate.
I'm not surprised it feels this way as a 2. This leans into a lot of the difficult truths that 2s (as positive outlook types) are naturally opposed to embracing. If you think this video is inaccurate when it starts with "the need to be needed" then you might not be a 2, because that is indeed their primary ego motivation.
Earn love by meeting people’s needs
Reject help, reject love
Petty drama to enliven emotion
Status in partner to overcome shame
Repressed negative emotion, lean into pain, embrace darkness to set boundaries
Traumatic loss to break illusion. Let others walk with them
I feel like as an SP 2w1, a lot of normal 2ness isn’t quite accurate.
Sp 2w1 definitely is more restrained and less prone to the emotional histrionics of classic 2 ness. But the core motivations are still there.
Omg 😂 I also see my 2 tendencies as a 4 (just commented on the 1 relationships video) 🥹🥲
Those movements of integration/disintegration! :)