THE WORST THING ABOUT DATING NIGERIAN MEN
Вставка
- Опубліковано 18 вер 2024
- SHOP ZOGIE'S HAIR COLLECTION!
15% OFF AND FREE SHIPPING ON ALL ORDERS!!
zogieshaircoll...
Invest in ZHC raw Vietnamese bundles/wigs, we provide hair that will last you up to a decade and change your hair game!
Don't forget to:
SUBSCRIBE
VOTE
COMMENT
Social Media
Instagram: / zogiedegemini
Tiktok: www.tiktok.com...
For business inquiries please get in touch with me at: ehizogieomo@hotmail.com
I want peace= I want to cheat and treat my partner badly without being held accountable.😂
Yup🤣🤣👏🏾
This exactlyyyyyyy
😂😂😂😂😂. Why do people go in relationships or marriage if they are more likely to cheat. Please stop this behaviour
Exactly. They have seriously tainted the meaning of peace.
They are often agents of chaos 🤣🤣
Not to take away the seriousness of this video, but Zogie, I have to say you look phenomenal. The makeup and the braids suit you so much!
Thank you my lovely 😂❤
I am a black American woman and thought I had the perfect life when I met and married my Igbo man. Tall provider loyal and accomplished…bihhhhh. WE COULDNT RESOLVE NOT ONE ARGUMENT 😂😂😂😂. He could not express himself just silence and being dismissive. I had everything but felt so alone in my marriage. He had me pick out the house he bought it and just 3 years after we married I had to file for divorce and leave. My God it was painful and traumatic
Aww sorry to hear that love and that’s the thing in everything else they excel but emotional availability is something they struggle so much
@@ZogieDeGemini thank you gorgeous I am glad to be free…now tell us who you are dating and about Ghanian men 😅🫣😂
@@ZogieDeGeminiPretty much all men struggle with emotional availability, I envy lesbians.
@@UA-camUzernamebecause nobody is/was emotionally available for us, so we get used to that, adjust and go on about our lives
You cannot give what you've never gotten
I was literally taken in and raised by emotionally unavailable parents. They cannot handle conflict and see everything as an affront or attack. It has definitely stunted my relationship with them because it was a bit like being raised by children and its even hard to this day. I'm glad you brought this up. Not enough people place enough weight on how important it is to be emotionally available in relationships. Noone ever takes it seriously. Thanks for highlighting ❤
Sorry to hear that, I could only imagine how hard that would have been xx and your welcome love it’s so important and not spoken about enough
Jesus is the way the truth and the life. No one can go to the Father except through him.❤️
Knowing Jesus is knowing peace, protection and provision ❤️
Jesus saves, Jesus heals and Jesus grants peace
@@ZogieDeGemini girl you are getting skinny legend status. congrats
As a British Nigerian woman, I feel like Nigerian men born and raised in Nigeria are more overtly misogynistic than British Nigerian men, even though they can be covertly. Some of the demands and expectations could seem like they were taken from the 1800s. And personally, I think the culture that we are raised with in Britain only makes me aligned to those who were also raised in the same culture. To be honest, I don’t have a lot of experience as I’m only 19, but I do think I will be with someone born and raised in Britain’s due to my preferences and my outspokenness.
Yes 100% and it’s like they don’t realise how bad it is!
So glad you're opening up your options. Dating Nigerian men in Nigeria is pure suffering. 😂
Looool yes o
Globally.
lol stop generalizing please.
Zogieeeeee omg you look phenomenal and your hair is GIVING ❤
Thank you so much lovely
As someone who moved to Nigeria and recently left , I totally agree with everything you stated in the video . Nigerians born in Nigeria and Nigerians born in the west are totally different . Generally speaking , I don’t think a Nigerian woman born and raised the west would not be compatible with a Nigerian man born and raised Nigeria.
Very different, we view the world differently but we could still be compatible but just takes a lot of work
Okay!! Makeup is makeuping 😍
Thank you my lovely
This is worldwide for black men.
I agree but it’s a bit more complex with Nigerian men because there’s one thing for black men but the Nigerian culture makes it more insufferable
@@ZogieDeGeminino, BM are just as misogynistic as Nigerian men. The difference is American women are far ahead of their games.
@@ZogieDeGeminilol I thought my expectations were too much or I had issue but until I dated outside of Nigerian and Africans generally I realized the way emotional trauma and suffering by testing you is encouraged in our society is so bad for women. I don hands up and go only where I’m loved,cared and respected for. I don’t want someone blowing HOT & COLD ,just ain’t sure of themselves (making me hella masculine to carry on or lead romantically
Wow, this is more a comment of intent rather than truth. Intent fashioning the justification for betrayal.
The pain …. 😂 The Torrential Torment
Loool not the torrential torment 😂
@@ZogieDeGemini❤
As a Haitian woman I had a brief encounter with a Yoruba Nigerian guy. I don’t think I’m over the PTSD. It was a time he was masculine , that mouth was sweeeeettttttttttt, he was a leader and he had the emotional intelligence. However was not honest and lack integrity . Proceed with caution ⛔️ I would not try again .
As a Ghanaian born living in the US, I’ve dated mostly Nigerian men (Nigerian born living in US Yorubas)my experiences I’ve been amazing. My current man is Igbo and I have never been loved like this but he’s also a God fearing man. I’ve heard stories about Nigerian men but it has not been my experience. I’m grateful to God. I hope things get better for you. Xoxo
Nice to know :)
😂😂😂
How long have you been with him? Keep living.
Great comment.
as an american-born nigerian woman, I dated a nigerian man for the first time in 2023. I slowly learned he was trying to get me to fall in love with him to get a visa. I had seen enough at that point tbh.
Ugh I hate that! My Ugandan ex did the same
I love this content Zogie thank you for being so transparent and being very honest I really love the positive things that you had to say and your perspective is much needed. Thank you. Please speak on these topics more often. I’m here for all of your content, but I thoroughly enjoy when you sit down and share your thoughts with us it makes me feel like I’m talking to a friend and I definitely talk back to you and be like girllllllll
Thanks for watching and supporting sis, I definitely plan to speak about my experiences more!
Btw you are Gorgeous as always ❤
Thank you sis, you too!
These men will stress you 😂
Literallyyyy
Totally agree with you. It too me 15 years of living in the West to change my ways. I can’t even recognize who am I anymore.
Thanks for watching :), glad you were able to make the change!
You are 💯 correct. I dated a 🇳🇬born man, and while we were on vacation, he expressed the hurt and demands his older sister was causing him. He was practically crying. I knew this was the 1st time he had been that vulnerable with anyone. He just needed a listening ear 👂 and someone to talk to about his feelings 😔 and I was that for him.
I’ve never dated one and i’ll never date one😂😂😂 and this is coming from a Spanish born by Edo parents.
Like, they take everything so personal, naaa man, I’m good.
I completely understand sis, any small thing they’ll be offended
@@ZogieDeGemini Nigerian men and respect is like 5&6😂
@@tessy28I swearrrr
this message is right on time. thank you for sharing
You are so welcome
Gaslighters , I love them, but I’m tired some of them are too toxic for me .. the lack of emotions is too weird for me , or not apologizing when wrong get on my last nerve
My Benin sister, I didn't know we were both princesses of the same tribe 🎉
On the subject of the video, you spoke nothing but facts 💯. Its so sad to me, I love every part of me and would have loved to connect with someone of my culture but its just possible for me. The compatibility just isnt there for me, the emotional availability and need to be true friends as well as lovers just hasnt been there in my experience sadly.
Thanks so much my Benin sister ❤ yes the lack of emotional availability is just difficult
I think if Nigerian women want to date Nigerian men they should consider the ones in the diaspora but even those ones are somehow soooo I don't know ........😂😂
Yeah potentially but then visa becomes a big problem however each to their own I guess
Liked the video off the title alone 😂 🙌🏽
Loool
Controversial here! As someone who is not with a Nigerian man in my next lifetime I will be with a Nigerian man. Not because my man is not a good man, cause he is, but those cultural differences come back to bite you. And most importantly a Nigerian man who is committed to visiting Nigeria often is a bonus. Although I also agree with many of the stereotypes and I understand some of what you’re saying. But my Nigerian self should have been patient and intentional dating our men.
Awww same reason I prefer naija men. Have beem considering dating out cos my aesthetics attracts more non-naija men, but honestly i love our culture n want to raise my kids in it - as well as I see a bright african future. But i ll see how it goes. Where is your man from?
@@aeiou0123 He’s not black and he’s the best father in the world. And has strong values and some of them fit Nigerian men as he’s quite alpha. But at the end of the day he’s not Naija, or even West African and there are some things even after years together that are pretty obvious that set us apart, I was fine with these before but as you get older some things stand out.
One being him having no rush to visit Nigeria with our son. He came before we solidified our relationship. He’s not saying no, just not prioritising it at all.
See this is the problem I have, I really always want to have that connection to Nigeria being British born and raised my roots are diluted already so I always felt with a Nigerian born guy he still has that strong connection but I guess at the end of the day it’s weighing pros and cons
@@ZogieDeGemini wat i find is as we get older, our roots n history become more important. You just start getting this strong urge to experience n explore your family n cultural history more. This is one of the reasons; i find it hard connecting to non-naija men. But this can be worked out if u end up with non naij man. To each, his own.
@@ZogieDeGemini I hear you completely and you will definitely get there cause you're intentional. I was born in Nigeria but having lived in UK since a child I am heavily diluted. But it's the going back now and again and I lived in Lagos for a small while and these things keep reminding me of the values we as Nigerians hold and these things go a long way. So as long as your man was raised with Nigerian parents he will keep the values and hopefully pick up the abroad way of being more open and talking through feelings.
This makeup is bussing😍
Exactly I’d love to see a makeup tutorial on this! And wondering what type/shade of foundations she wears.. because I have to mix a few together to get the right shade
The hair is giving 😍😍😍😍 love it
The amount of nails you hit on the head in this video, is uncountable.. it’s like you were narrating my experience!! Great video
Glad you enjoyed it! Sorry you even had to go through this sis because it can be difficult
I’m telling you ladies now, west African men from French speaking countries have given me my best dating experiences! I rejoice every day that God has delivered me from the chokehold of Nigerian men.
Hello Zogie,
I was expecting the usual:
-Black Men aint shi**
-I don't need no man / Independent
-I (females) AM the table
-White men treat us better
blah blah
But actually, you had some balance and the issues of men expressing their emotions is an important one. It is clear your culture has some importance to you unlike many Western blacks
Good stuff.
Yeah for sure! Thanks for watching and commenting!
Dr. Maya Angelou said when people tell and show you who they are BELIEVE THEM 👍 when you deserve the best, don't accept anything or anybody less than you want
Exactly this!
My husband always says he doesnt like trouble because he likes peace. But his behaviour and actions says he doesnt want peace, he likes problems, always😂
I only date Nigerian men...but my only problem with them is the lack of emotional availability, and can come across very cold at times because of it....swear this video was sent by God to help me with my relationship. I might play this video to him.
Exactly this sis, hope everything gets better !
More hauls pleaseeee
coming up next week lovely.
This is 💯💯💯💯and u will also notice Nigerian women based on Nigeria also r not as emotional as West raised women. They hv learned to shut down their emotions too. That is why they see AA women as too emotional. Like why do they over analyze every movement, word and action?
This is y culturally, Naija men do better with naija women, they both dont go deep on emotions
You’re so right actually they genuinely are not as emotional because they think practically as opposed based on emotions. I never really thought about it like that!
Thanks for watching and commenting lovely
The worst thing you can tell one of them is to go to therapy.. ahhh... dats a death sentence ooo.. its unfortunate reallly. I just hope things get better
Lmaoo they don't believe in therapy despite many of them being mentally ill due to archaic upbringing. Therapy is what they need the most.
Me I couldn’t because the wahala would be too much
I have been there as a South African woman. I used to think i was losing my mind until I decided to say enough is enough
Nope definitely not losing your mind, completely understand your decision sis
@ZogieDeGemini it wasn't easy to to end it but I'm in a better place now
Lol sis they will have you think you delusional
🍵 👀 now I’ll be side eyeing this Nigerian man who is pursuing me heavily!!!
You look so pretty ❤. Dont let these men stress you
Thanks love and I won’t!
Babe you are spot on lol...thanks for this video
Your welcome lovely
White chocolate will that be your guilty pleasure Zogie ...... 😂❤❤❤
Sissss I have a video coming up about my experience dating white men… chileee
Oi Oi 🤩😘🥰
@@ZogieDeGemini can’t wait for that one sis 😂
@@ZogieDeGemini ohhhh am exciteddddd
Ayyy Zogie you look splendid!! Yea, the Nigerian guy I dated briefly was born in Nigeria, that's probably why I found him to be too intense for me. I love how you tell your stories. I look forward to the rest of the tea!!!
God bless.
I completely understand in terms of the intensity! Thanks for watching and supporting sis, more coming up!
I love me a 9ja man!!! But it ain’t for the weak lol I’m team Togo now😮💨😮💨🤣🤣😭🤣🤣🤣
At all! And how’s Togolese men?
@@ZogieDeGemini he’s the sweetest man!! But I do miss my 9ja men😩
Ladies expand your options,there are more options than Nigerian men as a Nigerian born lady now living in Ireland I have expanded my options
lol. Since when una dey limit option? Dey play, that one no be new thing nau
@@themarathoncontinues4211 most have been limiting their selves to only Nigerian men
Honest question. Why is it so hard for Nigerian women to date outside of Nigerian men?
Yes, I want to know this too
I love this video so much😆
I'm a Nigerian born woman and based in Nigeria, this is exactly the reason Ive never been in a relationship. They are even getting worse now; all of them want to become "bad boys" because they see it as a way to protect their feelings, not get hurt, and become cold hearted. I can't wait to leave this country!
The man you dealt with doesn’t love you sis end of discussion
You’re right my gee
A Nigerian man that loves will do anything to make you happy
It's our culture, it's who we are, it's how we're raised deal with it or go elsewhere, it's our way of life.
Zogie, you look so pretty 😍😍
Thanks my darling 😊
I dated 2 Nigerian men I’m black American never again worst experiences of my life.
It's culture. This is the reality for most people who migrate to the west but try to keep one foot in their original culture
Love you scatter Zogie
Oh shoot zogie lost weight she actually look good
Thanks so much for this video Zogie . Nobody has ever spoken about these issues and I honestly thought it’s only me ! And the fault is with me ! Now I finally start realizing it’s not me it’s him . I’m not Nigerian I’m white and I’ve been 16 years in a relationship with a real Igbo man . Born and raised in Nigeria Igbo man . Now even I’m living in Lagos for a little more than a year . Omg Zogie thank you I finally see I’m not alone in this struggle . To love them is not easy . Lots of hurt and tears . Culture clash . He does realize it to some extend , but still continues his ways that often hurt me . We are married and have 2 boys .
Wow, this makes me sad😅
@@okene but you laugh lol . Most of them also beat the wife ( not the ones they fake love for papers ), but the rest . They don’t think twice .
@@user-ox7vb6sy1d I'm a Nigerian man, Ikwerre(related to Igbo). My parents have been together 30 years and although they fight, there's no violence and my mom is no pushover.
Please don't allow domestic violence and consider your and your children's safety. Desperate situations call for desperate solutions🙏
Where are you from?
@@user-ox7vb6sy1d just curious, how do you know they beat their wives? Is that something is you’re husband’s family that you see?
@@britneyt9253 many women have told me many stories in almost 16 years . Anycase I’m definitely not saying they are all bad or all beat wives . But as a Zogie says …. It’s a whole different ball game . So be also prepared for a whole different set of rules to play the game well with these men so you can win lol . There are also different types of men of course . There are the educated successful ones who have made it in life and and doing very well . Who have travelled outside of Nigeria and are exposed . Then those who are still in the village , never even have met a foreigner. Big difference between those two.
Alot of Africans were raised in toxicity, so you need to know if you can keep up with it before accepting it.
This one hmmmm.... said I no want Nigerian men because hmmmm...... I am tired but God knows best
IM EARLYYYY
first comment 😊😊😊😊
Heya love
A Nigerian is probably not for you find a different man maybe your husband is from a different culture from you trust me I'm west Indian and my husband is African and I'm happy
Date a white man it’s greener on the other side… MUCH MYCH GREENER
I married an amazing Nigerian man. I’m an American from Latino immigrant parents, I had a tough upbringing. I guess I got lucky with an amazing Nigerian man, I was tired by pathetic baby, victim mentality of black Americans, both men and women. You just need to know how to be a woman to have a real man… Nigerian man. 🤷🏽♀️
My wife is also a Latino and she appreciates me and loves me a lot
I’m a Yoruba guy
You need to be a Wiffy material to be with a Nigerian man
Some ladies are yet to discover themselves
The fakeup b faking
Content like this is toxic and damaging. Generalizing a group of people, whether race or gender or sex is really ignorant.
She seems to have given positives and negatives so I at least appreciate that compared to the normal slander.
Cry
@@grace3485 lol
Can we all agree that black Kangs globally are the same Kangs?
Bye go find a suitcase Brad to take care of you