"I've got no reason to, do I?" This hit hard. This is exactly how insecurity and people-pleasing develops. Intimacy and love shouldn't have to be earned, it should be unconditional.
Funny because being emotionally manipulated after being ridiculed in print and told you you’re incapable of intimacy and love doesn’t make you want to be intimate and love someone. Crazy right🙃 Tell you what, you should do a little experiment where you are publicly embarrassed by someone and then have whomever embarrassed you ask for hug in the middle of an argument and see if you feel like holding them.
@LaDivinaLover What are you trying to say like genuinely? If you're say intimate neglect doesnt lead to people searching for it you're just wrong. Its proven to be the case in the majority of cases
Some people just can't show physical affection well, especially if they grew up without it. We're all different. It makes me cringe, fell very out of sorts, and very uncomfortable. I've worked very hard to be able to love on my children in spite of it. Nonetheless, people know I don't like being touched, and I don't like hugs. And that's perfectly okay.
@candibell8051 I get that. Its just the way that some people also tend to put you off. Like saying why is making your feelings seem like it doesnt matter. Its different if its you teaching your kids your boundaries but still showing love.
@@candibell8051 well SURE. No one is entitled to love or affection from you, unless of course those people are your children, they NEED that from you.
there is nothing close to a mothers touch, im truly sorry for you. it’s so sad your mother couldn’t put her selfishness towards intimacy aside to provide it for you.
@@simonquintanilla5380 don’t call it selfish, you don’t know that mothers mind, not every mother has to sacrifice everything as long as they loved and cared for their child
@@Iknowyou1 intimacy is really the bottom line, but you seem to feel that that is “sacrificing everything”, i never said anything of the sort. nice reach
@@Iknowyou1 “you don’t know that mothers mind”, you don’t either, so why do your assumptions matter over mine? do you just ‘feel’ superior? that’s troubling
As someone who doesn't know how to show closeness, this hit me hard. Maybe it's because my own family doesn't know how to show it either, but this hug feels so familiar.
@@Sirenlucky6479 I was gonna say if one of your parents was autistic that would do it. I am autistic many of us don't like hugs. I never liked it when my family members hugged me. Intimacy for me I only feel with women I am in a relationship with. Otherwise I don't like being touched Intimately.
My mother is a "cold hugger". I used to be a little uncomfortable with her hugs but never really knew why. A few years ago, she explained that her mother had never hugged her and then she'd vowed to break that generational curse. I'm so proud because she embraced something unnatural to her just so that it would become natural to me. Thanks to her efforts, I'm always hugging my friends and I deeply enjoy intimacy. It is still stiff with my mom, but I love her all the more for it.
That's honestly so heartwarming and sweet to hear 😢❤️❤️❤️ I'm so proud of her, and it makes it so much easier for you now that you know why ut feels different. Much love to both of you
My mother is the same, she’s 50 now and growing up in a religious rural catholic household left a lot of damage. Especially for a girl who was both adopted and undiagnosed AuADD. So me and my brothers would all have been fairly cold huggers aswell. However she always has made an effort, even if intimacy is something she still struggles with
You're very lucky your mom loves you like that .Many mother's feel their kids are undeserving because they didn't receive that and their kids deserve to be treated even worse .
My mother had the coldest parents. Affection was only ever earned and even then it was cold. Both were Scottish too. Yet, my mother always raised us with endless warmth and many, many hugs. It’s not something everyone can do, but I am grateful that she decided to break the cycle. Edit: Apologies for some poor phrasing. They weren't cold because they were Scottish. My grandparents were raised catholic so I was referencing old-fashioned Catholic parents that just so happened to be Scottish. I should've thought about my choice of words more. It's strange talking about it outside of my family where the context is known. I really appreciate seeing all the different perspectives that people have. Thanks for all the kind comments.
Same here. My grandma was product of Abuse to her mother at the age of 16, by a soldier. Growing up she was expected to be the caretaker of her step siblings. By the time she gave birth to my mom at 40 she was exhausted of raising children, so she had not one drop of affection left. My mother also broke that cycle and is very loving, I always admired that about her ❤️ ❤️
My grandma’s family doesn’t show affection much either. We knew we were loved and we loved her but she didn’t say things like “I love you” or give much physical affection like hugs or kisses. My grandmas brother always makes me laugh cause me make a point to say I love you and he responds with “that’s nice” just as she would. Then we all smile and have a chuckle. If you did too much PDA or have impromptu hugs as adults then they would get rosey in the cheeks and flustered as all heck before telling you to get off and leave them alone with a chuckle and a smile. Don’t get me wrong I hugged them even as an adult. They just grew up differently and that’s okay. I miss her dearly.
I know everyone is mostly talking about Billie’s performance but the actress playing the mom was amazing! She felt so genuine I didn’t even fully realize it was a performance till I spotted the channel name and caption while she was speaking.
anytime i see billie piper i get so nostalgic, i grew up when she was on doctor who and my father and i always watched it together, im so happy to see her again 😭
This is painfully relatable. Especially the defensive, argumentative attitude from the mother. "Well my mom never hugged me" -Said to me by my own mother about 2 years ago. BREAK THE CYCLE. I'm 30 next week, the pain persists.
The fact that our mothers cannot show us compassion and care is because of their personal traumas, it is not their fault. They just can't help it. Our task is to increase the amount of compassion we have for ourselves and this will be enough to heal.
Yerma! It's a modernisation of a classic play. And it's worth watching. Billie Piper really is mind-shatteringly good in it. But the whole production is incredible. Really raw and brutal though!
Took me a hot second to realize that this wasn't like a reality show XD But made me all the more thankfull to my mother now. She won't let go if me when we hug. So, that's really nice.
I can’t hug my mom. I can’t even call her mom. 😂 I call her by her name. Unfortunately that’s how I was used to and I can’t change it. I will be definitely different with my kids hug them, kiss them and spend time with them so they know how much I love them and so they feel comfortable around me.
My mom is finally in therapy. Mom lore taught me she didn't do it because she was forcefully touched in the worst way. She came over to hug me a few days ago. Hit me so hard. I love her so much ❤
Moments like this is why i like theatre. It makes me feel like im watching moments in time from others private lives. If you superimposed a kitchen into the background i would easily believe this to be a home video or something
Emotional intimacy is something a parent teaches through showing that it's okay and makes the child feel safe. Lot of parents don't know how to always give it, show it, or have a very disoriented way about it, because they never were given it or shown it. It's a massive cycle.
You can watch the whole thing! This is a clip from the National Theatre Live filmed production of Yerma. Billie Piper won an Olivier Award (the top UK theatre award) for her performance. It gets so much more visceral and raw than this!
I'm 25 and I still will climb on the couch with my momma. I'm so blessed to have had a mother and my heart goes out to those that didn't have a mother like mine.
''Still''? Honey, 25 is still very young, you didn't have to emphasize your age. Most people of many ages hug their Mothers/Fathers, it's NORMAL at any age.
My own mother wasn’t very affectionate so when I had my kids I smother them in cuddles and kisses. I could never understand how people don’t want to cuddle their kids? Being older I thought maybe a remnant of being children of the war generation., maybe that was it?
I'm still struggling to wrap my head around it not being real, other than the people laughing, the acting is phenomenal. I felt so much pain watching this... and my mum did hug me sometimes. All my best memories are of the few moments that she did.
I didn't at first either. I always rember being 13 years old, one of my friends had died and i had just found out. My mom came into my room and held me and though it was what i had wanted for so long, i just wanted her to stop. It felt so foreign to me that i felt uncomfortable, it felt like a random stranger had just grabbed me in a bear hug unexpectedly, instead of my mom trying to hold me. All my tears stopped as to many times i had been told to stop expressing my emotions and the clasic 'I'll give you something to cry about'. It pains me that the one time she genuinely tried to hold me in my greif all i wanted was for her to leave as i couldn't express my emotions around her or feel comfortable in her arms as they were a completely foriegn place to me.
@@abbyredrose128Same here lol I remember once in school the topic of a mother’s hug came up. I said I’ve never hugged my mom or remember her hugging me. The whole class just stared at me like an alien. But I was so confused, her hug would have been so uncomfortable and foreign lol 😢
I literally thought this was so real until I read the comments and was like why is this comment section not more emotional about how the mother is treating her lol
My mom’s intimacy is nonexistent lol. Just like the time I told her I’m struggling really hard mentally and I’m depressed and would rather be dead and her answer was “go take a shower, you’ll feel better”. 🤦🏻♀️😂
@@Girl-vx2ej Yea I know girl. I’m so use to it that what are you gunna do ya know. Rather laugh about it than sit with it and sulk. My mom’s a trip. That’s not even the worst of it. The ones that really stick out are her telling me it’s my fault I got r*p3d and me gaining 15 pounds that “I’m a lazy fatass that likes to sit on my a** and scarf down crates of cookies” lol. Her exact words. 😂🍪 The crates part is what gets me.
Me and my mom started saying it to each other when I was 28. I can't remember who said it first. It becomes easier every time and it's never too late to take the first step.
I'm sorry. As someone who's mother will say it but it feels like a knife being lodged into the deepest corners of my heart, I hope she ays it to you one day with all the love that the world has to offer.
I am 20 years old and saying I love you is so terrifyingly vulnerable for me that I hardly do it. Your mother might be saying I love you through another gesture. Look out for it! ( If you find it, try saying "I love you too!" when she does it- she may feel safer knowing you accept and reciprocate and that it's ok to be open about love.) This may also help you feel the love she is giving you, now that you are old enough to read it.
I struggle with intimacy. Never really getting held or hugged or feeling loved. Now I can go without hugging or holding. And always felt forced when I have to do it for others. But as I’m aging and having friends around me who give me hugs and hold me. It’s gotten easier. Still learning what it means and hard to accept love to this day.
Afaik, it takes thirty seconds for the oxytocin to release. Which is way longer than you'd think. So I always aim for thirty seconds, minimum. And it was rough at first, but now I'm comfortable with it.
My nanny was a foster kid and she loved me more than almost anybody. She wasn’t loved the way she deserved but she loved others harder than anyone I’ve known.
So thankful I had a mother who gave the best hugs, I lost her when I was 19 but even when she was sick in the hospital towards the end, I knew I could climb in bed with her and be held and feel so safe. I miss you, Momma. Love you always.
My mom wouldn’t hug back. She would just stand there while I hugged her. I got pissed at her doing this so I said I wasn’t letting go until she hugged back. She did it for a second and I said longer! She wasn’t allowed to stop until i released her. Now she hugs back with feeling. I was in my 20s when this occurred otherwise we were not told she loved us and we never received hugs. My son…HUGE hugger and he says he loves me first sometimes.
They act so well though. The fact that so many people bring up their personal life shows how much their talented. And don't forget that not every parent had themselves expressive parents who expressed their love to them. And culture has also an impact on that. I also have parents who never shown intimacy at all. And because of that i always been uncomfortable with anything that expresses love/affection/appreciation, even words. But it doesn't mean that your parents don't love you. They are just not comfortable with that kind of interaction. So be understanding with them too.
This hits me right in the heart as a mom with intimacy issues from past trauma I always try push past it because I don’t want my kids to ever think I didn’t love them even if that just means letting them decide when the hug ends at bedtime😭 it’s a daily thing where I catch myself avoiding being touched and I have to breath and remind myself but mama is working on it
This makes me miss my momma 🥺 she would come up and give me a big hug and play with my hair and tell me how beautiful I am. She lacked that kind of intimate love from her mother and didn't want us to go through the same. She'd send me a huge message detailing everything she loved about me and how proud she was of me at least once a month. It's still so hard almost a year later, not being able to walk into her loving embrace or wake up to her messages. I hope that one day I have children and can make them feel as loved and appreciated as she did for me
My favourite thing about my mum is her hugs, I’m 26 and never turn down mums cuddles. She still gives me big kisses and squeezes me. It heals my inner child everytime.
@@yourkingliness2133british and ustonians are always, ironically because their egocentrism is based on being powerful empires of past and present, making their worlds so... small; always saying national or nationwide as if the internet, as if the world, was only them. It's mind boggling to experience it weekly for decades now.
My mother was never much of a hugger because of generational trauma. She was never hugged by her mother, and now she doesn't like to be touched in general, she hates hugging people unless she's having an emotional crisis. I've always been very desperate for physical affection, but between my mother seldomly hugging me, and my father thinking it was funny to force me to hug him by strongarming me into it until I got upset, I grew up both touch starved and feeling unsafe and scared when most people touched me. I still really love to be held and touched, but it has to be with somebody I feel safe with. One of the most comforting hugs I ever received was from a complete stranger who I could tell was a safe person because of how kind and compassionate they were when they approached me. Stumbling across this short brought all this to mind. I'm craving a hug right now, honestly.
As an asian I feel this to my core. When the mama asked “I’ve got no reason to” my instinct was “You’ve got no reason not to” and “it’s just a hug it’s easy to do but it is so beneficial”
💛💛💛💛🔐This is the KEYYY to solve all evil in the world imo. Spread awareness about the importance of TOUCH, physical closeness will bring empathy and strength within. Start speaking about it and then hug the ones you’ve spoken to. 💛💛💛💛💛
My heart breaks for people like this 😢 I have never had to beg for a hug from my mom ever. Even now , at 28, I always hug her. Find me guys and I’ll give you hugs!!! I am such a hugger!!!
It's actually a clip from a filmed production of the play Yerma! National Theatre Live do professional films of big UK productions which then air in cinemas worldwide (and are available online too). Billie Piper is incredible in it. She won an Olivier Award for her performance (the top theatre acting award in the UK) and the play pretty much got straight 5 star reviews.
My grandma was a very cold and distant woman caring more about fur coats and diamonds than her children. She made sure all their needs were met but I could tell that it was as far as it went. I think my mom stopped hugging me when I was about 7ish . She tried her best to be tender but it wasn't in her nature. I now as a mom am working on being more touchy. I can definitely see where a lack of tenderness can affect generations. In general I feel people need a lot more hugs in their day-to-day lives. Go out hug your kids, hug your friends, hug everyone!
My mother & father never really hugged or kissed us, but gave us love through food, shelter, experiences, gifts and taught us resilience . They are now gone but they were well cared for by their childern, through the 20 years of demenita. My brothers and sisters don't hug or kiss but we are very close even in our 60s and 70s catching up every week. We laugh lots and lots. Love can be shown in many ways.
I love holding my little baby and i love holding her more as she grows and i truly believe that her hugs will always bring me joy. Anytime she lifts her arms, wanting me to hold her, i just feel so much love and joy
Everyone deserves to be hugged with genuine love and care by a loved one. It relieves stress and puts your troubled mind at ease. Even hugging your dearest pets can make you feel loved and at peace too. ❤️ Genuine intimate hugs are the best!
I LOVE my boys. I LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE THEM. I worked so hard and went through literal hell to get them into this world, but i literally have to force myself to hold them. I wasn't always like this, i honestly don't know what happened, but even hugging my own mother bothers me. I would just give my dad a kiss on the head before leaving or a quick hug, but I don't like to be held. I used to be so affectionate, too affectionate. I was like a puppy always in ppl's lap, or holding on to friends or boyfriends, but every once in awhile i can handle a hug from my husband. I try to carry my boys, hold them, kiss their heads, but i can't do it for long and i always pray I'm giving enough to fill whatever need they have. It's easier when they were babies, or with other babies. I can put a baby in a wrap or carrier, and wear my babies for hours, its honestly soothing, but when they got big enough to be rough and rolling around, say 9 ir 10 months, holding them become too difficult.
It could be something "simple" as your hormone levels: I took some to surpress my period for two years and in that time I had absolutely no need for intimacy and bodily contact was not welcome. Now I'm off those hormones and casual contacts/touching feels, well, casual. Not at all uncomfortable or unwelcome. And I'm becoming more affectionate again. I can imagine this could hapen with natural hormones, too.
Could be that you are over stimulated by touch. Momas with little kids can get this sometimes,especially when it is many kids. So it's actually good opportunity to teach kids boundaries and consent in term sof touch from a young age but them alps have cuddling times and sessions. There needs to be a balance.
Mothers who experienced severe post partum depression have long-term problems actually feeling a connection or that fluffy motherly type of love for thier children. We're always quick to accept when an animal rejects the offspring but refuse to accept that humans are animals and experience the same feelings.
My mom had untreated postpartum and for my whole life it feels like she’s blamed me for everything. Im an only child. Not by choice but because the pregnancy was high risk and the doctors warned her against another. She said she would’ve had more children because my dad is really responsible and can afford more children. I don’t think that’s a reason to have kids but whatever 🤷🏽♀️she stopped working after I turned 3 because her and my dad were fighting constantly (she’s a cardiovascular surgeon and her hours were long and sometimes she couldn’t come home. Dad thought a mother should stay home with the kids. Something they should’ve talked about before but again whatever 🤷🏽♀️) as long as I can remember she’s called me selfish inconsiderate only thinking about myself how stupid I was how I had to pick an easy job in the future because I was lazy at school and stupid and god bless the man who marries me because she can’t stand the sight of me (why have more kids when you mother like that🤷🏽♀️) we’ve never had a good relationship or one where she wasn’t making me feel terrible about myself. Now that I’m an adult (29) she complains about why we’re not friends and how heartless I am to not want to be friends with her. We don’t talk to each other much even though we live in the same house. I’m afraid to tell her any news about me because she’ll find someway to ruin it or make it about herself. We have no relationship. We’re just two people who are related living in the same house. She blames me for that too saying it’s my responsibility to be friends with her.
Postpartum depression is not an ''animal feeling'', animals don't have postpartum depression, and also don't spread the myth that mothers with postpartum can't connect with their children once they get better. It's not necessarily so, in fact in most cases it isn't. Don't add more fear and stigma to this issue.
@@schoo9256 It IS treated, at least in most of Europe and US. Every type of depression needs to be treated, especially clinical that is still overlooked in many countries and not considered a legitimate disease. I know, I suffer from it.
I love how she’s more concerned of what people would think of her instead of just holding her fucking daughter. This is why they made the “It’s 10pm. Do you know where your children are?” Because they were out finding someone who would love them.
Our parents aren’t just parents, they’re humans with complex feelings, emotions, and trauma too. Understanding this and allowing my parents their humanhood broadened my compassion for them immensely, but as a little girl, I still just wanted to be held.
My parents weren’t affectionate but they loved me in their way, so now, I smother my kids with love. Sometimes my kids just come lay on me while I comb my finger through their hair. Not talking, just laying there. And my heart feels warm for them. That they feel comfortable enough to do that. If I go to them with all the hugs and kisses, they turn into teenagers and say “Eew. Stop mom”. 😂😂😂
My mum to the core.. only gives love to when we are children.. her grandbabies but if i hug her i feel her counting the seconds and sometimes will actually say ok get off.. touch is mostly my love language, and it's hard not to feel rejected or like that part has expired despite my age. i suffer from bad depression and chronic pain that leaves me mostly disabled and sometimes that's all i want to feel better.. to feel not so alone 😢 I think far to much about people i love dying because we have had alot already and it makes me think what if i were to die and her last memory was pushing me away..
i also have chronic pain and i have to say, ur comment really resonated with me. i know my mom cares for me, but i wish i could just ask for a hug when im in pain. it sucks to be touch-starved but too ashamed to ask for intimacy. cant remember the last time i hugged anyone
As a childhood abuse/neglect survivor, this hits close to home. About twelve years ago, a boss at work hugged me and it felt good. And then it suddenly hit me, and I felt scared. I realized that was basically the first time in my life a hug had ever felt good.
My mother has not hugged me once in her life. She worked all her life to be able to send us to private schools, then push us to study harder and send us overseas for a masters degree. She is in her 60's and still pushes me and motivates me to be my best self. Love just doesn't come in one form. Maybe it was something in her childhood that made her afraid of being physically intimate but all her life is a composition of what sacrifices she made on her part to be able to give her children a better future. I can't thank her enough and I used to be sensitive about it when I was a teenager that she is physically distant but I can't imagine myself caring about it one bit today. I would do anything for her. She has given her life for us.
I have autism and I freeze and my skin crawls when somebody touches me, let alone hugs me. I do hug people but like either it's a coworker who wants to show friendliness or I'm actually super grateful for something or touchstarved. I feel very bad every time I have to say no to my family when they try to hug me, but I love when I finally can hug them
😂 this is why certain people don’t need to be parents. Some kids are like you, but most need intimacy and connection. It ok if you can’t give that, the problem is when people don’t consider the effects it could have on a potential kid.
I recognize myself in the freezing and skin crawling . Am not sure if autism or just super touch adverse but I’ve found that I could train myself to give good hugs to my children. Sometimes it comes back, like when you hold a spider for too long, but I’ve made sure to have a talk with both my kids to explain my « crawly skin » and how I can still love even when I can’t touch. And then we do head hugs, which is when you touch the side of your temple to the shoulder of the person, it conveys the feeling without so much touch. My youngest invented it when she was 1, I think she’s more like me.
@@Las645you sound like you got no education. Completely devoid of cultural background and experiential concepts. Just understand that anyone can have these things at any point in life. Mothers who were fine before can experience PPD, hormonal imbalances due to genetics or otherwise result in emotional dysfunction, and people can likely come out the womb like this.
Weird thing is that physical intimacy never bothered me. Perhaps it's a cultural thing in my case. What I was more concerned with is the fact that my parents never were there for emotional support. Could possibly be because they were emotionally constipated themselves.
I’m glad I read some of the comments and heard the small bit of laughter to realize this was acting before going off on this woman in here 😂 They’re good!
The acting here is so amazing, I almost skipped the short bc I thought it was real and didn’t want to listen to people fight Then I saw that it was posted by a theatre company and watched it all the way through
Trauma, autism, sensory issues, etc. My father doesn't hug or like to be touched because it feels like he's being tickled. It's not nice for him. It goes from uncomfortable and prickly, to unbearable.
@@JWildberry then you should not have kids in the first place?🤷🏻♀️ Physical contact is vital for children and they should not suffer cos of parents issues
@@risingrat5491So you're saying disabled people shouldn't have kids if they can't do everything "normal" people can do? That is incredibly ignorant and ableist thinking, and if you have kids now or in the future, I hope you don't pass on your prejudice.
@@JWildberry no, that’s not ignorant. If your disability prevents you from simply hugging your own child, then you should not have children. What is soooo hard to understand about that?
@@risingrat5491 Your prejudice is not "soooo hard to understand!" A lot of people are prejudiced against those who are different from them, or consider lesser than themselves. I get that. I'm saying you're ignorant about disabilities that involve sensory issues. And you're ableist for judging large groups of disabled people without knowing anything about their capabilities.
Great performance and a very relatable experience. I had a similar conversation and hug with my dad about a year ago and we've been slowly making progress since then.
Watch Yerma on National Theatre at Home ntathome.com
And Billy Piper!! Didn't realise Billy was such a good actress!! 😊👏
@@Sovereignsister555 Don't forget Maureen Beattie. Also president of Equity..
“There you go, intimacy” 😂😂
It's sad really, but the way she says intimacy still makes me laugh😆🤦🏻♀️
Meh
Innnnntimacy
@@TheSchuchternCook Like "tadaaaaaaa... Intimacy 😐."
@@TheSchuchternCookIt's an act. You are free to feel any emotion, nobody's judging you if you found that funny, and if they are, they've got issues.
"I've got no reason to, do I?" This hit hard.
This is exactly how insecurity and people-pleasing develops. Intimacy and love shouldn't have to be earned, it should be unconditional.
Funny because being emotionally manipulated after being ridiculed in print and told you you’re incapable of intimacy and love doesn’t make you want to be intimate and love someone. Crazy right🙃
Tell you what, you should do a little experiment where you are publicly embarrassed by someone and then have whomever embarrassed you ask for hug in the middle of an argument and see if you feel like holding them.
@LaDivinaLover What are you trying to say like genuinely? If you're say intimate neglect doesnt lead to people searching for it you're just wrong. Its proven to be the case in the majority of cases
Some people just can't show physical affection well, especially if they grew up without it. We're all different. It makes me cringe, fell very out of sorts, and very uncomfortable. I've worked very hard to be able to love on my children in spite of it. Nonetheless, people know I don't like being touched, and I don't like hugs. And that's perfectly okay.
@candibell8051 I get that. Its just the way that some people also tend to put you off. Like saying why is making your feelings seem like it doesnt matter. Its different if its you teaching your kids your boundaries but still showing love.
@@candibell8051 well SURE. No one is entitled to love or affection from you, unless of course those people are your children, they NEED that from you.
As someone with a mother that didn’t have a mother, I felt this to my core. She loved me, but she didn’t know how to show intimacy.
Me too!
there is nothing close to a mothers touch, im truly sorry for you. it’s so sad your mother couldn’t put her selfishness towards intimacy aside to provide it for you.
@@simonquintanilla5380 don’t call it selfish, you don’t know that mothers mind, not every mother has to sacrifice everything as long as they loved and cared for their child
@@Iknowyou1 intimacy is really the bottom line, but you seem to feel that that is “sacrificing everything”, i never said anything of the sort. nice reach
@@Iknowyou1 “you don’t know that mothers mind”, you don’t either, so why do your assumptions matter over mine? do you just ‘feel’ superior? that’s troubling
Realistic writing helps but they also executed the delivery perfectly. Amazing
Literally... Phenomenal
As someone who doesn't know how to show closeness, this hit me hard. Maybe it's because my own family doesn't know how to show it either, but this hug feels so familiar.
Big hugg coming towards you, Stay~
@@Jantraverse ohhh thank you,i miss hım
@@Sirenlucky6479 I was gonna say if one of your parents was autistic that would do it. I am autistic many of us don't like hugs. I never liked it when my family members hugged me. Intimacy for me I only feel with women I am in a relationship with. Otherwise I don't like being touched Intimately.
@@bronsonleach3573 i dont think they are.But Thank you
My parents too find it difficult to hug me closely and it has even affected my relationship too. I can't hug people
My mother is a "cold hugger". I used to be a little uncomfortable with her hugs but never really knew why. A few years ago, she explained that her mother had never hugged her and then she'd vowed to break that generational curse. I'm so proud because she embraced something unnatural to her just so that it would become natural to me. Thanks to her efforts, I'm always hugging my friends and I deeply enjoy intimacy. It is still stiff with my mom, but I love her all the more for it.
That's honestly so heartwarming and sweet to hear 😢❤️❤️❤️ I'm so proud of her, and it makes it so much easier for you now that you know why ut feels different. Much love to both of you
My mother is the same, she’s 50 now and growing up in a religious rural catholic household left a lot of damage. Especially for a girl who was both adopted and undiagnosed AuADD. So me and my brothers would all have been fairly cold huggers aswell. However she always has made an effort, even if intimacy is something she still struggles with
You're very lucky your mom loves you like that .Many mother's feel their kids are undeserving because they didn't receive that and their kids deserve to be treated even worse .
Beautiful comment ❤️
Thats so so sweet, im happy for you❤
Acting so good I forgot it wasn't real every few seconds lol. Been a while since I watched Billie act and she improved tremendously ❤
RIGHT?! It just randomly popped up on my feed and I genuinely thought this was an actual interview with her mother ☠️👏❤️❤️❤️
Right?! I'm just scrolling through UA-cam and suddenly Billie is on my screen
Idk I always thought she was extremely gifted.
Billie has always been a phenomenal actor
I thought the same thing! I had to rewatch it because I kept thinking this might be real somehow? Billie is INCREDIBLE
I swear Billie can make you *feel* any scene she's in. Wonderful control over her own voice.
i love how she said "hold me now" that was so powerful
My mother had the coldest parents. Affection was only ever earned and even then it was cold. Both were Scottish too. Yet, my mother always raised us with endless warmth and many, many hugs. It’s not something everyone can do, but I am grateful that she decided to break the cycle.
Edit: Apologies for some poor phrasing. They weren't cold because they were Scottish. My grandparents were raised catholic so I was referencing old-fashioned Catholic parents that just so happened to be Scottish. I should've thought about my choice of words more. It's strange talking about it outside of my family where the context is known.
I really appreciate seeing all the different perspectives that people have. Thanks for all the kind comments.
Proud nice
I'm so happy for you, my mother never broke that cycle but at least I had my dad (although it still damaged me a lot that I didn't have her)
Same here. My grandma was product of Abuse to her mother at the age of 16, by a soldier. Growing up she was expected to be the caretaker of her step siblings. By the time she gave birth to my mom at 40 she was exhausted of raising children, so she had not one drop of affection left. My mother also broke that cycle and is very loving, I always admired that about her ❤️ ❤️
Probably more to do with rough protestant upbringing than being Scottish tbh.
My grandma’s family doesn’t show affection much either. We knew we were loved and we loved her but she didn’t say things like “I love you” or give much physical affection like hugs or kisses. My grandmas brother always makes me laugh cause me make a point to say I love you and he responds with “that’s nice” just as she would. Then we all smile and have a chuckle. If you did too much PDA or have impromptu hugs as adults then they would get rosey in the cheeks and flustered as all heck before telling you to get off and leave them alone with a chuckle and a smile. Don’t get me wrong I hugged them even as an adult. They just grew up differently and that’s okay. I miss her dearly.
I know everyone is mostly talking about Billie’s performance but the actress playing the mom was amazing! She felt so genuine I didn’t even fully realize it was a performance till I spotted the channel name and caption while she was speaking.
Maureen Beattie. Her father was a Scottish comedian, Johnnie Beattie.
I was doubting if it was her. She looks so young.
I just remember billie starting as the poster for smash hits ads
anytime i see billie piper i get so nostalgic, i grew up when she was on doctor who and my father and i always watched it together, im so happy to see her again 😭
Same! Such good memories.
Ouch, I remember when she was a singer. Now I feel old
Yesssss!!!!!
She looks the exact same as she did in doctor who. I love her
Samee
Billie Piper should be cast in a million more things, she’s SUCH a talented actress.
I agree!!
she could easily take on any acting role. she’s truly fantastic
I love this acting. Such a joy to see, from both of them!
Billie is a really brilliant actor. Respect.
This is painfully relatable. Especially the defensive, argumentative attitude from the mother.
"Well my mom never hugged me" -Said to me by my own mother about 2 years ago. BREAK THE CYCLE. I'm 30 next week, the pain persists.
The fact that our mothers cannot show us compassion and care is because of their personal traumas, it is not their fault. They just can't help it. Our task is to increase the amount of compassion we have for ourselves and this will be enough to heal.
@@mustafakemalpasha983 yea, and try to not repeat the cycle
Billy was absolutely incredible in this production.
What the name of the production?
@@kool-aid_man160yerma
Yerma! It's a modernisation of a classic play. And it's worth watching. Billie Piper really is mind-shatteringly good in it. But the whole production is incredible. Really raw and brutal though!
Took me a hot second to realize that this wasn't like a reality show XD
But made me all the more thankfull to my mother now. She won't let go if me when we hug. So, that's really nice.
Absolutely
Lmaooo tell me your age without telling me your age
@@elmondo-s1e now I'm curious. How old am I?
My mom never hugs me
I can’t hug my mom. I can’t even call her mom. 😂 I call her by her name. Unfortunately that’s how I was used to and I can’t change it. I will be definitely different with my kids hug them, kiss them and spend time with them so they know how much I love them and so they feel comfortable around me.
My mom is finally in therapy. Mom lore taught me she didn't do it because she was forcefully touched in the worst way. She came over to hug me a few days ago. Hit me so hard. I love her so much ❤
Peace and love to her
@@lisa.222 thank you sm❤.
Proud of your mum for her growth and happy for you getting more of her ❤
I love that your so patient and understanding. She’s so blessed to have you. Sending you guys love and peace!🤍
I don’t hug people because i smell bad
Moments like this is why i like theatre. It makes me feel like im watching moments in time from others private lives. If you superimposed a kitchen into the background i would easily believe this to be a home video or something
Emotional intimacy is something a parent teaches through showing that it's okay and makes the child feel safe. Lot of parents don't know how to always give it, show it, or have a very disoriented way about it, because they never were given it or shown it. It's a massive cycle.
Yh true.
Wow... Genuinely amazing acting. And the silence while she stood with her arms wide open - stunning.
You can watch the whole thing! This is a clip from the National Theatre Live filmed production of Yerma. Billie Piper won an Olivier Award (the top UK theatre award) for her performance. It gets so much more visceral and raw than this!
I'm 25 and I still will climb on the couch with my momma. I'm so blessed to have had a mother and my heart goes out to those that didn't have a mother like mine.
I'm 34 and same. Mama time is special time ❤
Same. These comments are making me so sad. Couldn’t imagine having to brave the world without knowing I could get one of those hugs or “I love you’s”
''Still''? Honey, 25 is still very young, you didn't have to emphasize your age. Most people of many ages hug their Mothers/Fathers, it's NORMAL at any age.
I didn’t have this. I only wish to provide this for my future daughter
My relationship with my mother made be think this was real for the first watch. Acting!
My own mother wasn’t very affectionate so when I had my kids I smother them in cuddles and kisses. I could never understand how people don’t want to cuddle their kids?
Being older I thought maybe a remnant of being children of the war generation., maybe that was it?
I'm still struggling to wrap my head around it not being real, other than the people laughing, the acting is phenomenal. I felt so much pain watching this... and my mum did hug me sometimes. All my best memories are of the few moments that she did.
I didn't at first either. I always rember being 13 years old, one of my friends had died and i had just found out. My mom came into my room and held me and though it was what i had wanted for so long, i just wanted her to stop. It felt so foreign to me that i felt uncomfortable, it felt like a random stranger had just grabbed me in a bear hug unexpectedly, instead of my mom trying to hold me. All my tears stopped as to many times i had been told to stop expressing my emotions and the clasic 'I'll give you something to cry about'. It pains me that the one time she genuinely tried to hold me in my greif all i wanted was for her to leave as i couldn't express my emotions around her or feel comfortable in her arms as they were a completely foriegn place to me.
@@abbyredrose128Same here lol I remember once in school the topic of a mother’s hug came up. I said I’ve never hugged my mom or remember her hugging me. The whole class just stared at me like an alien. But I was so confused, her hug would have been so uncomfortable and foreign lol 😢
I literally thought this was so real until I read the comments and was like why is this comment section not more emotional about how the mother is treating her lol
My mom’s intimacy is nonexistent lol. Just like the time I told her I’m struggling really hard mentally and I’m depressed and would rather be dead and her answer was “go take a shower, you’ll feel better”. 🤦🏻♀️😂
Did the shower work?
@@janco333 Lol no it didn’t. 😂
Thats not funny, rather concerning.
@@Girl-vx2ej Yea I know girl. I’m so use to it that what are you gunna do ya know. Rather laugh about it than sit with it and sulk. My mom’s a trip. That’s not even the worst of it. The ones that really stick out are her telling me it’s my fault I got r*p3d and me gaining 15 pounds that “I’m a lazy fatass that likes to sit on my a** and scarf down crates of cookies” lol. Her exact words. 😂🍪 The crates part is what gets me.
My mom's the same way.
The raw emotion of "you want to let go don't you", hits hard.
This is so real. Especially the defensiveness.
This hits home 😔 my mom cannot, for the life of me, say the words “I love you”. I’m 27 and I’ve never heard her say them to me.
Same here
Me and my mom started saying it to each other when I was 28. I can't remember who said it first. It becomes easier every time and it's never too late to take the first step.
I had the same experience with my mother. It changed when I was 47. I'm 57. It's never too late, and it has a huge impact no matter how old we get.
I'm sorry. As someone who's mother will say it but it feels like a knife being lodged into the deepest corners of my heart, I hope she ays it to you one day with all the love that the world has to offer.
I am 20 years old and saying I love you is so terrifyingly vulnerable for me that I hardly do it. Your mother might be saying I love you through another gesture. Look out for it! ( If you find it, try saying "I love you too!" when she does it- she may feel safer knowing you accept and reciprocate and that it's ok to be open about love.) This may also help you feel the love she is giving you, now that you are old enough to read it.
I struggle with intimacy. Never really getting held or hugged or feeling loved. Now I can go without hugging or holding. And always felt forced when I have to do it for others. But as I’m aging and having friends around me who give me hugs and hold me. It’s gotten easier. Still learning what it means and hard to accept love to this day.
Afaik, it takes thirty seconds for the oxytocin to release. Which is way longer than you'd think. So I always aim for thirty seconds, minimum. And it was rough at first, but now I'm comfortable with it.
Go at your pace 🎉
Billie Piper is bloomin' gorgeous.
My nanny was a foster kid and she loved me more than almost anybody. She wasn’t loved the way she deserved but she loved others harder than anyone I’ve known.
this was so good it registered as a real encounter
So thankful I had a mother who gave the best hugs, I lost her when I was 19 but even when she was sick in the hospital towards the end, I knew I could climb in bed with her and be held and feel so safe. I miss you, Momma. Love you always.
My mom wouldn’t hug back. She would just stand there while I hugged her. I got pissed at her doing this so I said I wasn’t letting go until she hugged back. She did it for a second and I said longer! She wasn’t allowed to stop until i released her. Now she hugs back with feeling. I was in my 20s when this occurred otherwise we were not told she loved us and we never received hugs. My son…HUGE hugger and he says he loves me first sometimes.
😂😂
Dr. Leonard Hoftstadter be shedding a tear or two watching this 😂.
They act so well though. The fact that so many people bring up their personal life shows how much their talented.
And don't forget that not every parent had themselves expressive parents who expressed their love to them. And culture has also an impact on that. I also have parents who never shown intimacy at all. And because of that i always been uncomfortable with anything that expresses love/affection/appreciation, even words.
But it doesn't mean that your parents don't love you. They are just not comfortable with that kind of interaction. So be understanding with them too.
This hits me right in the heart as a mom with intimacy issues from past trauma I always try push past it because I don’t want my kids to ever think I didn’t love them even if that just means letting them decide when the hug ends at bedtime😭 it’s a daily thing where I catch myself avoiding being touched and I have to breath and remind myself but mama is working on it
You're awesome. ❤
It'll be worth it when your kids aren't all wonky from starving for affection.
@@toshaville it’s definitely worth it its jus rough right now hopefully I can look bk in the future and say “oh I remember when hugs were hard”❤️
@@celseybrown3779 They were once difficult for me too. Immersion therapy worked for me. You got this. ❤️
I don’t hug people because i think i smell bad
@@bdancestarsthat may be a symptom of ocd. If treated it could get easier
This makes me miss my momma 🥺 she would come up and give me a big hug and play with my hair and tell me how beautiful I am. She lacked that kind of intimate love from her mother and didn't want us to go through the same. She'd send me a huge message detailing everything she loved about me and how proud she was of me at least once a month. It's still so hard almost a year later, not being able to walk into her loving embrace or wake up to her messages. I hope that one day I have children and can make them feel as loved and appreciated as she did for me
Wow your mother sounds like a really lovely woman! My mother has never hugged me, or told me I’m beautiful
@r19888 she was a wonderful woman! I'm sorry thay your mother wasn't loving towards you as you wanted 🙏❤️ I hope you have someone now who loves you
Such a beautiful story 🥺
That’s the coldest hug I ever seen lol
My favourite thing about my mum is her hugs, I’m 26 and never turn down mums cuddles. She still gives me big kisses and squeezes me. It heals my inner child everytime.
Y’all they’re acting is insane and amazing!! All of this was beautifully done
Billie Piper is a national treasure
she’s an international treasure
@@yourkingliness2133british and ustonians are always, ironically because their egocentrism is based on being powerful empires of past and present, making their worlds so... small; always saying national or nationwide as if the internet, as if the world, was only them. It's mind boggling to experience it weekly for decades now.
Oh, she means so much to me. beautiful to see her again.
My mother was never much of a hugger because of generational trauma. She was never hugged by her mother, and now she doesn't like to be touched in general, she hates hugging people unless she's having an emotional crisis. I've always been very desperate for physical affection, but between my mother seldomly hugging me, and my father thinking it was funny to force me to hug him by strongarming me into it until I got upset, I grew up both touch starved and feeling unsafe and scared when most people touched me. I still really love to be held and touched, but it has to be with somebody I feel safe with. One of the most comforting hugs I ever received was from a complete stranger who I could tell was a safe person because of how kind and compassionate they were when they approached me.
Stumbling across this short brought all this to mind. I'm craving a hug right now, honestly.
Im sensing you my hugs! I need some myself ;)
As an asian I feel this to my core. When the mama asked “I’ve got no reason to” my instinct was “You’ve got no reason not to” and “it’s just a hug it’s easy to do but it is so beneficial”
💛💛💛💛🔐This is the KEYYY to solve all evil in the world imo. Spread awareness about the importance of TOUCH, physical closeness will bring empathy and strength within.
Start speaking about it and then hug the ones you’ve spoken to. 💛💛💛💛💛
My heart breaks for people like this 😢 I have never had to beg for a hug from my mom ever. Even now , at 28, I always hug her. Find me guys and I’ll give you hugs!!! I am such a hugger!!!
The acting was so good I didn't realize it was a skit
It's actually a clip from a filmed production of the play Yerma! National Theatre Live do professional films of big UK productions which then air in cinemas worldwide (and are available online too). Billie Piper is incredible in it. She won an Olivier Award for her performance (the top theatre acting award in the UK) and the play pretty much got straight 5 star reviews.
Not a skit, a play.
My grandma was a very cold and distant woman caring more about fur coats and diamonds than her children. She made sure all their needs were met but I could tell that it was as far as it went. I think my mom stopped hugging me when I was about 7ish . She tried her best to be tender but it wasn't in her nature. I now as a mom am working on being more touchy. I can definitely see where a lack of tenderness can affect generations. In general I feel people need a lot more hugs in their day-to-day lives. Go out hug your kids, hug your friends, hug everyone!
my upbringing was similar to yours. i gave abundant hugs to my kid. but its not so easy now that the kid has grown to maturity
My mother & father never really hugged or kissed us, but gave us love through food, shelter, experiences, gifts and taught us resilience . They are now gone but they were well cared for by their childern, through the 20 years of demenita. My brothers and sisters don't hug or kiss but we are very close even in our 60s and 70s catching up every week. We laugh lots and lots. Love can be shown in many ways.
Damn this was so good!
Im in my 20's and my mother still hugs and holds me.
I love holding my little baby and i love holding her more as she grows and i truly believe that her hugs will always bring me joy. Anytime she lifts her arms, wanting me to hold her, i just feel so much love and joy
She’s so fuckin amazing and I love her
Everyone deserves to be hugged with genuine love and care by a loved one. It relieves stress and puts your troubled mind at ease. Even hugging your dearest pets can make you feel loved and at peace too. ❤️ Genuine intimate hugs are the best!
This is such a good clip- I can’t stop watching it and it makes me want to watch the whole show so much
I LOVE my boys. I LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE THEM. I worked so hard and went through literal hell to get them into this world, but i literally have to force myself to hold them. I wasn't always like this, i honestly don't know what happened, but even hugging my own mother bothers me. I would just give my dad a kiss on the head before leaving or a quick hug, but I don't like to be held. I used to be so affectionate, too affectionate. I was like a puppy always in ppl's lap, or holding on to friends or boyfriends, but every once in awhile i can handle a hug from my husband. I try to carry my boys, hold them, kiss their heads, but i can't do it for long and i always pray I'm giving enough to fill whatever need they have. It's easier when they were babies, or with other babies. I can put a baby in a wrap or carrier, and wear my babies for hours, its honestly soothing, but when they got big enough to be rough and rolling around, say 9 ir 10 months, holding them become too difficult.
It could be something "simple" as your hormone levels: I took some to surpress my period for two years and in that time I had absolutely no need for intimacy and bodily contact was not welcome. Now I'm off those hormones and casual contacts/touching feels, well, casual. Not at all uncomfortable or unwelcome. And I'm becoming more affectionate again.
I can imagine this could hapen with natural hormones, too.
Could be that you are over stimulated by touch. Momas with little kids can get this sometimes,especially when it is many kids. So it's actually good opportunity to teach kids boundaries and consent in term sof touch from a young age but them alps have cuddling times and sessions. There needs to be a balance.
Mothers who experienced severe post partum depression have long-term problems actually feeling a connection or that fluffy motherly type of love for thier children. We're always quick to accept when an animal rejects the offspring but refuse to accept that humans are animals and experience the same feelings.
Yep. Post partum depression is devastating for mother and child and it needs to be treated
My mom had untreated postpartum and for my whole life it feels like she’s blamed me for everything. Im an only child. Not by choice but because the pregnancy was high risk and the doctors warned her against another. She said she would’ve had more children because my dad is really responsible and can afford more children. I don’t think that’s a reason to have kids but whatever 🤷🏽♀️she stopped working after I turned 3 because her and my dad were fighting constantly (she’s a cardiovascular surgeon and her hours were long and sometimes she couldn’t come home. Dad thought a mother should stay home with the kids. Something they should’ve talked about before but again whatever 🤷🏽♀️) as long as I can remember she’s called me selfish inconsiderate only thinking about myself how stupid I was how I had to pick an easy job in the future because I was lazy at school and stupid and god bless the man who marries me because she can’t stand the sight of me (why have more kids when you mother like that🤷🏽♀️) we’ve never had a good relationship or one where she wasn’t making me feel terrible about myself. Now that I’m an adult (29) she complains about why we’re not friends and how heartless I am to not want to be friends with her. We don’t talk to each other much even though we live in the same house. I’m afraid to tell her any news about me because she’ll find someway to ruin it or make it about herself. We have no relationship. We’re just two people who are related living in the same house. She blames me for that too saying it’s my responsibility to be friends with her.
Postpartum depression is not an ''animal feeling'', animals don't have postpartum depression, and also don't spread the myth that mothers with postpartum can't connect with their children once they get better. It's not necessarily so, in fact in most cases it isn't. Don't add more fear and stigma to this issue.
@@schoo9256 It IS treated, at least in most of Europe and US. Every type of depression needs to be treated, especially clinical that is still overlooked in many countries and not considered a legitimate disease. I know, I suffer from it.
@@yevgeniyaleshchenko849 other mammals actually do suffer from postpartum depression, it's not exclusive to humans.
I love how she’s more concerned of what people would think of her instead of just holding her fucking daughter. This is why they made the “It’s 10pm. Do you know where your children are?” Because they were out finding someone who would love them.
That hit like a truck
Jesus
This makes me want to hug every last one of you. We all deserve a nice mom hug.
I could do with a hug an maybe a kiss💋🤗
I just appreciate the performances that were made specifically for stage 👌🏽 Great job guys.
I am a complete stranger to this and this was really really good acting.
The lady in gray was so good, I couldn’t tell she was acting until the other lady started talking and an audience started laughing lol
Our parents aren’t just parents, they’re humans with complex feelings, emotions, and trauma too. Understanding this and allowing my parents their humanhood broadened my compassion for them immensely, but as a little girl, I still just wanted to be held.
I NEED to see this!..The mother's reaction & especially that hug is so devastatingly familiar..
I could write a dissertation on that extra layer of depth that Billie's voice has gotten over the years. So cool
My parents weren’t affectionate but they loved me in their way, so now, I smother my kids with love. Sometimes my kids just come lay on me while I comb my finger through their hair. Not talking, just laying there. And my heart feels warm for them. That they feel comfortable enough to do that. If I go to them with all the hugs and kisses, they turn into teenagers and say “Eew. Stop mom”. 😂😂😂
My mum to the core.. only gives love to when we are children.. her grandbabies but if i hug her i feel her counting the seconds and sometimes will actually say ok get off.. touch is mostly my love language, and it's hard not to feel rejected or like that part has expired despite my age. i suffer from bad depression and chronic pain that leaves me mostly disabled and sometimes that's all i want to feel better.. to feel not so alone 😢
I think far to much about people i love dying because we have had alot already and it makes me think what if i were to die and her last memory was pushing me away..
i also have chronic pain and i have to say, ur comment really resonated with me. i know my mom cares for me, but i wish i could just ask for a hug when im in pain.
it sucks to be touch-starved but too ashamed to ask for intimacy. cant remember the last time i hugged anyone
@blehsomeguy stay strong.. I know it's not easy but you're not alone.. sending you a virtual hug 🫂 we got this..
As a childhood abuse/neglect survivor, this hits close to home. About twelve years ago, a boss at work hugged me and it felt good. And then it suddenly hit me, and I felt scared. I realized that was basically the first time in my life a hug had ever felt good.
My mother has not hugged me once in her life. She worked all her life to be able to send us to private schools, then push us to study harder and send us overseas for a masters degree. She is in her 60's and still pushes me and motivates me to be my best self. Love just doesn't come in one form. Maybe it was something in her childhood that made her afraid of being physically intimate but all her life is a composition of what sacrifices she made on her part to be able to give her children a better future. I can't thank her enough and I used to be sensitive about it when I was a teenager that she is physically distant but I can't imagine myself caring about it one bit today. I would do anything for her. She has given her life for us.
I legit thought this was some kind of interview with a neglectful mother XD
I have autism and I freeze and my skin crawls when somebody touches me, let alone hugs me. I do hug people but like either it's a coworker who wants to show friendliness or I'm actually super grateful for something or touchstarved.
I feel very bad every time I have to say no to my family when they try to hug me, but I love when I finally can hug them
😂 this is why certain people don’t need to be parents. Some kids are like you, but most need intimacy and connection. It ok if you can’t give that, the problem is when people don’t consider the effects it could have on a potential kid.
I recognize myself in the freezing and skin crawling . Am not sure if autism or just super touch adverse but I’ve found that I could train myself to give good hugs to my children. Sometimes it comes back, like when you hold a spider for too long, but I’ve made sure to have a talk with both my kids to explain my « crawly skin » and how I can still love even when I can’t touch. And then we do head hugs, which is when you touch the side of your temple to the shoulder of the person, it conveys the feeling without so much touch. My youngest invented it when she was 1, I think she’s more like me.
@@Las645you sound like you got no education. Completely devoid of cultural background and experiential concepts. Just understand that anyone can have these things at any point in life. Mothers who were fine before can experience PPD, hormonal imbalances due to genetics or otherwise result in emotional dysfunction, and people can likely come out the womb like this.
@@Las645I’m trying to say you sound religious or homeschooled because there’s no way you can be this willfully ignorant
My mother hugged me once and that was when I was 43 years old... and people wonder why I am dysfunctional! 😂
Weird thing is that physical intimacy never bothered me. Perhaps it's a cultural thing in my case. What I was more concerned with is the fact that my parents never were there for emotional support.
Could possibly be because they were emotionally constipated themselves.
That’s good you got to experience it atleast once
The acting is unbelievable!!! Wonderful 👏👏👏
Woah, this acting is phenomenal! Well done!! 👏👏
I’m glad I read some of the comments and heard the small bit of laughter to realize this was acting before going off on this woman in here 😂
They’re good!
How did they write my mom so well?!
Wow.. I’ve never understood how much that actually wounded me as a child. Both of my parents were not affectionate.
Have always loved Billy Piper! Singer, actress, theatre! Here for it alllllllll
Love Billie!
The acting here is so amazing, I almost skipped the short bc I thought it was real and didn’t want to listen to people fight
Then I saw that it was posted by a theatre company and watched it all the way through
How do you not hug your kids? They are like an infinite source of free hugs and hugs are nice. Especially when they are squishy lil bebes
Trauma, autism, sensory issues, etc. My father doesn't hug or like to be touched because it feels like he's being tickled. It's not nice for him. It goes from uncomfortable and prickly, to unbearable.
@@JWildberry then you should not have kids in the first place?🤷🏻♀️ Physical contact is vital for children and they should not suffer cos of parents issues
@@risingrat5491So you're saying disabled people shouldn't have kids if they can't do everything "normal" people can do? That is incredibly ignorant and ableist thinking, and if you have kids now or in the future, I hope you don't pass on your prejudice.
@@JWildberry no, that’s not ignorant. If your disability prevents you from simply hugging your own child, then you should not have children. What is soooo hard to understand about that?
@@risingrat5491 Your prejudice is not "soooo hard to understand!" A lot of people are prejudiced against those who are different from them, or consider lesser than themselves. I get that.
I'm saying you're ignorant about disabilities that involve sensory issues.
And you're ableist for judging large groups of disabled people without knowing anything about their capabilities.
This is top-notch acting! 👏👏👏🪞
I hope they release a whole recording of this. I don't think I can actually see it in person, but it looks really good.
Thought this was a Ted talk at the beginning
Rose has gone so far ❤
Billie 🗣️ Piper 🗣️🗣️
Great performance and a very relatable experience. I had a similar conversation and hug with my dad about a year ago and we've been slowly making progress since then.
im over 30 and my fostermom still give hugs to me 😊im so happy and glad i met her in life
Name of the play?
Yerma
You don't work enough Billie.
Growing up with a mother who was not a very intimate person, it is like a kindred spirit is connecting all of us together!
Billie Piper is SO amazing at portraying just... People. She is wonderful ❤
Two unbelievable actresses 👏👏👏
💕 Billie! Very talented and great range
Bro the acting is amazing 💫💫💫
I’m happy to have a family that loves to embrace! I can’t wait for June when I can see my mom, brother and step father and give them HUGE HUGS!! 😊
"Iiiintamacyyy," spoken like someone for whom it's a foreign word. Pretty good acting, I was invested right away.
BILLIE!!! she’s amazing omg
Wow! I haven’t seen Billie acting in a while and she’s still just as great or even more than ever ❤