Things I learned: - totally normal to relatch multiple times to not settle for a shallow latch - feed on demand not a schedule. Wake baby if they haven’t eaten for a while, but otherwise feed whenever baby desires - too much milk can lead to engorgement - ideally wait 6wks to start pumping. Can use Hakka passively - more skin to skin time with parents/family, helps comfort and diversify their microbiome/strengthen immune system
About your last point, I'm worried about baby catching something from people around us (because they don't have the whipping cough vaccine, apparently it's going around where we live, according to my doctor). I'm very worried about people coming to see my newly born baby (once he's born) and I asked my husband to tell people to NOT kiss the baby.
@@LLLadySSSI understand you so much, when my daughter was born, I said to everyone not to kiss her and even hold her before she gets her own vaccines. Even to the grand-parents. Only my husband and I can kiss and hold her as we are vaccinated. Other people will wait a bit, that's all right, they still love her and are impatient to hold her. They will later 😉 Trust your instinct and yourself Mama !
@@LLLadySSSi got vaccinated for whooping cough in third trimester and it should protect my baby until he gets his own at 3 months 😊 maybe that’s something to consider? I did it by recommendation of my father in law who is a paediatrician and we also have lots of whooping cough going around lately…
First-time mom here with a one-month old baby. I've been exclusively pumping since she's 4 days old as she had jaundice and would not latch properly to eat well, the latter of which caused cracked nipples, which in turn caused mastitis and then thrush in the breasts. It's been extremely hard for me mentally to be unable to nurse my baby directly, but I'm still healing and I'd have to call it a win with being able to still give her breastmilk for now. I hope I can revisit this video again in the near future when my baby is older and more coordinated, and when I've recovered both physically and mentally. I only wish that I was prepared for how hard breastfeeding could be before I was thrown into the deep end of it.
I did so much research and still struggled so much!! Had to heal my nipples and painfully pump until we got her lip tie released and taught her to latch properly. Don't give up!!! You're doing amazing! It will get better.
You are a super hero. I had to pump for my daughter for a few months and it was so difficult!! When we were finally able to breastfeed it was so much easier. Pumping is a full time job ❤
Seriously, I'm with you there. Especially if you don't have any experienced women around to help. The whole thing caused so much stress to me and my son that I decided to pump, just to preserve the ability to have a nice bonding time while feeding him. I tried so hard, but eventually I realized it wasn't worth all the stress, those early days are stressful enough as it is. Wishing you a speedy recovery, and good luck when you revisit breastfeeding, but go easy on the both of you ok? :) ❤
Just had a baby five days ago who is Coombs positive. Battling the jaundice levels is so scary. I have inverted nipples so getting my baby to latch was a nightmare. But one of the nurses at the hospital gave me a clear nipple cover and it's literally saved me and my baby. Makes it so much easier to nurse and has protected my skin from getting champed and damaged
Thank you so much for making these videos and the latch video. I had trouble latching with my son. He was a real fighter 😂 he literally would make his little fists fly when I would try to breastfeed him lol. The main mistakes I made was listening to people who weren't lactation consultants. I had a problem with my left breast it wasn't producing any colostrum. I was able ro get it working after 3days. However everyone kept saying your supply is low! You need to drink these herbs do this and that! I listened and was constantly engorged 🤦🏼♀️ One lady said cluster feeding wasn't normal and it was because baby wasn't getting enough milk. People also constantly complained to me about timing feeds. Saying he needs to eat every 30 mins , 1 hr, 2hrs, 15mins, 45 mins. So I was waking the poor boy up to try and feed him 🤦🏼♀️.I finally told hubby enough is enough no more advice I will wake at 2hrs if he doesn't wake up by himself otherwise he sleeps. I made a commitment and a plan and it worked. Was easier to BF and after 4wks my son was EBF without issues. Because of those mistakes though I got a lot of sores and Mastisis 😅 My boobs are good now but I hope every First time mama can learn from my mistake which is listen to your gut, baby, pediatrician and lactation consultant only. Will save you a lot of pain.
My babies were always satiated with one breast and I would just feed on the other side at the next feed. If they fall asleep and unlatch and then wake then I would switch sides. They tend to eat less on the second breast so I start on that breast at the next feed. Fully breastfeed both my babies beyond one year 💕
You're so blessed! After about 3-4 months my kids want more than one breast, and even that's not enough to satisfy most of the time so I have to try to feed them again after a little bit. I don't have a large capacity and my boys are hungry!
I would always forget what side I started with which led to engorgement since one side was always being emptied and the other wasn’t. Now I use a hair tie on my wrist and switch it based on which side I started on. I highly recommend this because I was tired of tracking feeds on my phone and wanted to be more present during nursing.
Pumping too early on is a hard one. With my first, I ended up needing to pump because of a hospital stay my little guy needed from 3-5 days old (VERY bad jaundice). So he had to be fed in the light bed for most feedings. I was SO scared of him developing nipple confusion so had no intention of bottle feeding for a long time, but it ended up being very nice. I pumped enough for my husband to do one feeding a night via bottle so I could get a stretch of sleep in the first two months, which was amazing for my mental health. Luckily my little man still preferred the breast and we nursed until over two years old. But I did develop a bit of an over supply. I really hope to get my one bottle feeding a night this time around from Hakka collection instead of using the pump. But we will see. 2 more months until my next breastfeeding journey begins! Thanks for the video!
I LOVED the haaka the second time around! I know a bottle feed in the middle of the night works wonders for some parents- glad it worked for you guys! And that your LO still preferred breastfeeding!
I just wanted to leave a quick thank you for your postpartum guided meditations! I had my first baby last year, and was not successful in breastfeeding, and I can not express how devastating that felt. I still tear up thinking about it. Plus I was starting to lose my mind from lack of sleep. You guided meditaions really got me through those rough times, especially the pumping affirmations, and for a short while, your videos were the only way I could fall asleep! My sincerest thank you!!!
Something I regret as a first time mom is not pumping earlier. I waited for a month to pump and couldn’t get much (1/2 ounce). The only time I would get 2 ounces was if she hadn’t feed for several hours. I make enough to feed my baby but not enough to make a sufficient stash. I could only leave her for one day before I had to rush back so she would have milk. (My husband and I went on an overnight trip without the baby after 6 months.) This time around I’ll definitely be pumping as soon as we get back from the hospital.
Omg the shallow latch almost made me rethink breastfeeding my baby. It for sure caused so much pain in the beginning. These were all good tips. Breastfeeding is so overwhelming for sure. Wish I educated myself on this topic before my first. Pumping is a whole different game. I never used mine bc I am SAHM. But for sure when I have my next few, I would like to learn on how to use mine.
As a newborn I had to feed on a schedule. She would sleep for 5 to 6 hours straight and at her first weigh lost too much weight. I fed her every 2 hours for the first 4 weeks and then switched to on demand but still keep the 2 hours in mind. It was the only way to get her back to a good weight.
Too many moms are discouraged by poor latching early on. Its OK and developmentally normal for your newborn to need LOTS of practice. Just like eventually when they learn to walk - they need tons of practice and they fall down a lot but they don’t quit!
@@visenyaackerman9485 A few questions for you: 1) Is he gaining weight? 2) Is he happy/content when he finishes nursing? 3) Is he having at least 4 pee diapers in a 24 hour period?
@@haley2542 He had low birth weight due to prematurity but now seems to be steadily gaining weight. Usually he comes off of breast on his own. Its only during the night hours when he demands to be fed more often. I did assume i was having a low milk supply because of that and started supplementing with formula As far as wet diapers are concerned yes he does wet 5 to 6 diapers per day.
@@visenyaackerman9485 Newborns that young absolutely do need to wake at night to nurse, that’s not a problem. And if he’s gaining weight, having 4+ pee diapers a day, and not unhappy then he’s getting enough milk. Doesn’t sound like a latch problem from what you’ve said. I would warn you that supplementing with formula will NOT help increase your milk supply. By supplementing with formula you are telling your body not to make that amount of milk. It can take 2-5 days to increase milk supply, and to do that baby needs to nurse longer and/or more frequently. How frequently does he nurse?
Yes i tried that but when i pump in between feeding sessions i only manage to get about half an ounce from both breasts which led me to believe that my baby is not being satisfied. He keeps on falling asleep during breastfeeding sessions and at night he demands to be fed more frequently. I was worried maybe the milk i am producing is not enough for him so incorporated formula in. What should i do?
Pumping too early was mine. The lactation consultant at the hospital told me that I was going to have supply issues since I had PCOS. So she told me to pump 3x daily for 20 minutes on top of feeding baby… and I did because I was terrified of my supply drying up. Well, as it turns out, I was not an underproducer and ended up with a MASSSSIVE oversupply.
Great video 🤗! I’m a doula and momma of 4 and I exclusively nursed all my children at least a year. Feeding on demand is definitely the way to go. Baby is best at establishing and regulating that breast milk supply. I see so many moms pumping straight out of the hospital and it really is unnecessary unless mom plans on being away from baby for an extended period of time. I only pumped with my first while she was in NICU. Also remember breast feeding IS a form of skin to skin ❤! I wish all mommas the best on their breastfeeding journey 🙏🏿!
I had to pump with my first because he was in NICU too, for a month. When we got home he still needed some formula due to sugar issues but by month 2 he was great and cleared. So I exclusively bf and just pumped for extra bottles on occasion like if we were out or grandma watched him. All was good until two weeks ago he started teething and refusing bf here and there and as of three days ago he is on a full nursing strike 😢 I Dnt want to pump and bottle feed 😭
I actually disagree with mistake number 4. Only because I waited 4 weeks to pump with my first and then I thought to the nail to try to bring up my supply even though I was around My Baby 24 seven or he never went anywhere without her at all for years. And I ended up breast-feeding her for 2 1/2 years. I struggled so bad with my supply. I was Very fortunate that I did not have to go back to work so soon with her otherwise I would’ve had to supplement with formula because there’s no way I would’ve ever pumped enough to make it through going to work even for a couple of hours and I tried everything and I saw multiple lactation consultant to try to help fix it, and it was not working. however, then with my second, I would pump whenever my daughter would be done eating and I would offer both breasts multiple times to make sure that she would eat because she ate quickly, but I would just continuously offer him anyway, but I would pump after she was done eating but I felt like my boobs were still full of milk and they were. Because in the early stages for some reason, she would never empty the breast completely, and not only would that lead to engorgement on my part but also, it would really diminish my supply later on as she is growing. I didn’t do too crazy of pumping sessions are usually only did it once or twice a day and I would get maybe one or 2 ounces. Sometimes not even that, but that really made a huge difference in my supply. So I feel like it’s not a bad thing to pump earlier on just because sometimes you don’t know if you’re going to have an under supply or not and then when you get to the point that you realize that you are in over supplier then maybe cut out the pumping sessions and work from there. But also, you never know what life is going to throw you and you never know if somethings gonna happen and you need that freezer stash. Maybe something happens to you and you have to go back to the hospital or God forbid anything else happens and it’s in the middle of the night and you have nothing in the freezer to feed your baby and you don’t have any formula and can’t buy it because it’s late. Because that almost happened to me, but I was fortunate enough that I had pumped just barely enough because I didn’t pump a lot. To get her through the couple of hours I ended up having to be gone. And then, eventually when I started going back to work soon at around four months, I was able to actually pump enough to be able to go to work since I had already been pumping that whole time and building my stash. And again I didn’t pump all crazy like or anything. It was always after my daughter had eaten.
Hi luv, in this video you say not to pump before 6 weeks, but in another video of yours (from 5 years ago) - Pumping Basics 101 | When to Start Pumping… you mention that you should start pumping before baby hits that 6 week mark to train your body into how much to produce. I’m an EBF Mum, but want to build my freezer stash for date nights and also so my older children can feed baby. I only plan to pump once a day (twice at absolute most). Should I start pumping before 6 weeks or wait until after baby is 6 weeks? Thank you in advance!! You are amazing and I’m so grateful I found your channel!
I feel like this came at the right time. My baby is about to turn 6 months and I just thought about giving up. Hopefully these tips really help me with this or my next baby. Thank you. ❤️
Thank you for making these types of videos. I wish I had known this information when I had my first baby, but I am glad I know now. My second baby is close to three months old and he is thriving on breast milk!
Totally! Most likely not if you need to be back to work, unless if you can work out a way to have baby brought to you or go to baby for a feed. I exclusively breastfed my baby until 2 years. Tried pumping to see if I could have my husband give a bottle, but never could get more than an oz. I was slightly concerned about supply but knew the best this was to just keep on nursing on demand! Baby was happy and energetic, so I knew they were getting enough despite not leaking, having engorgement etc.
I exclusively breast fed all my three children, no pumps, no bottles. As breastfeeding works by supply and demand, the more the baby takes the more the breasts full up, so pumping can cause engorged and painful breasts.
@steph13h498 Have to admit I was very lucky and had no problems at all, only used a pump briefly with my 3rd , when I worked nights. Do think over pumping can cause issues, as breast milk is all about supply and demand, obviously the more you pump , the more the breasts fill up, and if baby's not ready for a feed, breasts can become engorged and painful.
I was planning on pumping just a bottle or two's worth from the beginning. I saw a tip about letting someone else bottle feed the baby once a day so that they get used to it, and so that I'm not the only one capable of feeding him. I'm hoping he'll have a good latch so we can do that! But I'll also be mindful about pumping causing overproducing. Thanks for the video!💖
Thank you so much for all the information and work you are doing. As a first time mom, i felt really blindfolded. Your videos helped me so much during pregnancy and breastfeeding period, not only did they provide valuable and really helpful information, but i also felt a lot of encouragement that i can do it. Now as my baby turns one, i am looking for your guidance again on how to wean her off breastfeeding as i return to work. You've been such a rock. Thank you.
My baby is 4 weeks old and takes 1 hour to eat each feeding! He eats every 3 hours or so. Is this normal?? I feel like all I do is breastfeed ALL day! Will he get faster at nursing as he is older? Baby is gaining well and healthy. But I can barely get anything done.
Yes, breastfeeding is a real workout for a newborn. As his or her jaw and body strengthen, feeding times will shorten over the coming weeks. You may wish for the long times back later though, like I do :)
Totally normal for newborns! Relax and enjoy just watching him! You’ll have time later to get things done, right now your baby needs your focus, patience, and attention to feel safe and secure! And you need to watch him closely to learn his cues - too many mamas rush this and try to get back to “normal” life postpartum.
I had a pretty good breastfeeding journey the first 6 weeks (with the usual beginning struggles I would say). After that I had a little accident and with the immense stress and panic in my body for that accident my milk supply went down to zero. Now I am trying so hard to get back to where we were before, when she is done with the breasts and is still hungry, she gets a bottle and I pump to bring the supply up again. I would have never thought breastfeeding would be such a science… I have so much LOVE and respect for mammas doing the job. ❤
This is pretty good advice… my journey ended at two months because of the extreme engorgement pain caused by oversupply when my doctor recommended I pump even tho I was exclusively nursing. I tried to slowly stretch the time to help regulate but ended up with clogged ducts and mastitis… the pain was unbearable and I just wanted to stop because I didn’t know how I would take care of my children alone with no help when I was in that much pain. Drying up my supply wasn’t exactly easier either 😢 super painful but once my breasts were flat I’ve never felt more relieved
So glad I never made any of these mistakes the first time around, and it shows. My son was breast fed until just after his 2nd birthday, and the only reason we stopped is because I’m pregnant with baby number 2 and developed feeding aversion.
I’m not sure if you’ve already covered this topic or not, but have you ever thought about making a video about high/overactive lipase milk? I thought you mentioned having that as well a long time ago and I feel like it’s a topic that isn’t really covered out there. It was something I had NEVER heard about from anyone or seen online until I experienced it for myself and did a deep dive of why my baby wasn’t liking my thawed milk. It was stressful to find out, right before going back to work, that all the milk I had already saved up was “bad” (although it was still technically safe and nutritionally the same) and that my baby wasn’t going to take it at all. Something I tell all my friends now is to TEST THEIR MILK FOR HIGH LIPASE 👏🏼 well before they go back to work so they don’t panic like I did 🙈 Through lots of timed taste tests that my baby, husband, and I did, we figured out that the taste and smell of my milk changed after 24hrs in the fridge but that my baby would still drink it up to 3 days in the fridge and, fortunately for me, I was able to produce so much milk that I could give my baby fridge milk for over 2 years while I worked and then donated a total of 3000+ ounces of my frozen milk to local families whose babies didn’t mind the flavor/taste. I thought about donating to the milk bank as well but never ended up doing that since my milk would get “claimed” so quickly after posting about it on the FB page “Human Milk 4 Human Babies.” I used a lot for milk baths as well and also had a back up stash of scalded milk just in case but never had to use (and didn’t really want to since I know it can lose some of the nutritional goodness/living antibodies/etc. during the scalding process). I know you can also try mixing fresh with high lipase or even try adding alcohol-free vanilla extract but I never bothered with those options. And ALSO fortunately for me, my second baby doesn’t mind the taste so I don’t have to pump as much this time around (bc yes, I was sOoOo lucky to have it again with my second 🫠😒)!! 😆🎉😅 All that to say, not testing my milk for it was one “mistake” I made when I was a new mom (but also had NO IDEA about 🤷🏻♀️😭). So extremely sorry for the lengthy comment. I’ll stop there even though I have so much more to say about my experience. I just feel like it would be super helpful and informative to others who might not have heard about it before either!! 🥴
I also have high lipase I think because after 2 days it smells funky. I’m trying to freeze my pumped milk asap, would this help with the taste or no? I’m hoping I can still freeze milk within 12 hours of pumping (ideally asap tho). Anything else I should know? Thanks!
I did not produce enough last time so doctor recommended I rent the hospital grade pump for first two weeks to build supply then switch to a more consumer type. I suspect I have IGT but nobody is interested in actually diagnosing that for some reason.
As someone who has been through difficulties latching and feeling depressed and exclusively pumping, all I want to say is fed is best. The world of lactation consultants and breast pump companies should not own your mind space. Struggling with breast feeding doesn’t make you any less of a mother. Don’t lose those precious moments of bonding with your baby in getting frustrated - know that you are doing the best you can after your body went through childbirth. It takes up to 3 days for your milk to properly come in naturally after childbirth. Give yourself grace and it will be alright.
I gave up on the shallow latch issue. I have very large breasts and my baby was only 6 lbs 4 oz and I couldn't get her to latch more deeply. Idk if I shouldn't have given up but it just looked like the size issues weren't going to work. Luckily I don't think I made other mistakes. My one tip to have enough supply is to eat beef and electrolytes every day. I swear that on the days I didn't have beef my baby would not seem to get enough and I'd send her on a walk with my husband to get a break for an hour and refill. Looks like we evolved on ruminant meat and our bodies expect us to eat it. My baby is nearly a year old and still going strong on exclusive breastfeeding.
My issue was listening to others. I wish I'd started pumping before I gave birth. It ended up with me struggling to keep up with babys demand. Only managed to get to 3 months before I couldn't produce enough for him, he started teething and wasnt latching like he used to, plus i was so exhausted having to feed him for hours at a time and through the night. He's 6 months now and on Kendamil Organic Goat formula. I'm pregnant again and I'm going to be pumping as much as I want this time instead of relying on just breast feeding.
Pumping can be a good way to encourage the length of the breastfeeding journey but sometimes, if baby prefers bottle over breast, it actually can make breastmilk production more challenging to keep up with. I will say though, that pumping on top of breastfeeding at the beginning will generally increase milk supply over the long run because it builds more prolactin receptors which is why, in some women, creates the issue of oversupply. You know your body best, mama. Do what works for you and your babe!
I know you started with you intend to do it your own way, but just wanted any one to be aware that sees this that your placenta detaching is what makes milk happen and pumping while you're pregnant can cause premature labor
Same thing happened to me, I had to supplement with my first baby. But it is different now with my second one. He is close to three months old and is exclusively breastfed! Hope you can have a similar situation with your next baby!!
@bridget, what about for c section mamas-how soon can you pump to help milk come in? With my first, it took me 5+ days for it to come in. How early can I pump (but also trying to avoid engorgement/oversupply)? Thanks!
If you and baby can be together, breastfeeding on demand (at least every 2-3 hours) and hand expression after birth can help with milk coming in. Hand expression is actually more effective at the beginning to extract milk than pumping with an electric pump. If you have to be separated from baby, then using an electric pump every 2-3 hours and hand expressing before or after is what I'd recommend!
Does bath time count for skin on skin? Also, two things to consider: not all moms are overproducers and therefore half of this video doesn’t apply. Second and most importantly, breastfeeding can hurt. As a person with super sensitive nipples I tell you moms who also suffer out there, it’s not something we’re doing wrong, it’s just how we’re built. My baby is 6 months old and it still hurts, when I pump it hurts. There’s no latching problem. I had the help of an amazing midwife and even with her help it hurt. An extra thing that I learned and I wished I knew earlier: use gravity to your advantage. My biggest mistake was believing the people telling me that the position had no impact and IT TOTALLY DID. Lean forward just a little bit and your baby will get more milk. I could confirm this while pumping as well. When I’m lounging or slightly reclined, I het significantly less milk during my pump. When I lean a bit forward, there’s a lot more coming.
Wow I have heard the opposite like start pumping and stimulating your breasts as soon as possible to keep your milk production going. I’m confused now.
I was feeding my first on demand but it was sooooo long everytime. She spend a week at the hospital and I was in the nursery from 7AM to 2PM, no food allowed in the room. I was dying of hunger. And I had to pump for the night feed the nurse were giving her. I had a 30 min lunch and back to nursing for the rest of the day. It went like this after the hospital as well for like 6 weeks. I hope baby #2 will let me pee or shower in daddy's arms without crying. I'm glad that I had no "real" issue, but it was hard!
wow! thanks for the info. i'm a first time mom and a friend referred your videos to me. i was asked to pump immediately from hospital to mix med powder in my milk to help increase the weight of my baby as she is small for her gestational age. i dunno if this was necessary. thanks for the info. now i realize that it's because of pumping that my milk supply rushed to so great amount, making baby fussy every breastfeeding time. she refuses to latch on properly even if hungry. is it because of the sudden volume of milk?
Big lessons I learned: - your pumping session does not equal your supply. There is a lot of fine tuning to do with flange sizes and suction to maximize output at a pump-even then baby is more efficient (exceptional being premature babies and oral ties) - do not “endure the pain” if the pain lasts beyond those first thirty seconds. It doesn’t make you toughen up, it just makes it harder to recover from damage. - get in touch with a lactation specialist asap. Most hospitals and birth centers will have one on site or give you information as a starting point. - not every feeding position will work for you. Depending on your anatomy, you may need to recline or you may need to sit up straight. I had to sit straight to get good flow and it was rough because I couldn’t feed in bed very well. - get tongue tie addressed right away.
I started pumping about 5 days after my daughter was born(16 days ago) Should I continue to pump or just let her feed on demand with each side until the 6 weeks ? If I don’t have to pump I definitely don’t want to😅
If you produce just enough milk for your baby, then you shouldn’t pump. Feed your baby on demand and you will always have that amount of milk your baby needs.
Super helpful. You really reading my mind on all the things you said. From the shallow latch and not wanting to have to unlatch n redo to the pumping early on cuz I’m afraid I won’t have enough or she won’t get enough at the breast and then I have to resort to formula. If I have to then I will but trying to breast feed and then pump in the first weeks like I’m in right now is driving me cra.
My baby is 1 week old . I started pumping as well as breastfeeding bc it hurts so bad . I have an oversupply and I have blisters (blebs) . I’m not even sure if I’m balancing both right or not .
Its my dream to have a natural birth at a birthing center. I have epilepsy though... my siezures are controled with medication, but my neurologist says I can not. However, i found a birthing center that said they would. I dont know who to trust.
My baby has a lip and tongue tie, and seems to have a good latch but once my very strong let down happens, he tends to click, appears like he is struggling to keep up, and can sometimes choke on it. I feel so bad for him but I am happy he is getting plenty of milk. Your videos helped out a lot with my breastfeeding journey. 3 months strong 💪
My baby is similar. Lactation consultant instructed me to hand express initial, powerful part of letdown into cloth and then attach baby. Has worked well for us and now don’t need to do that anymore.
@abbys.9233 I halfway tried that. I should give it another go, but I get nervous that so much milk is coming out, idk how much will be left 😅 it sprays for a good minute or 2. Thank you for letting me know what worked for you! I will try anything to help 🥰
Yikes that’s hard! Oral restrictions can really interfere with BF! Maybe you already did but the best thing I did for my babies was get their ties lasered by a pediatric dentist who specialized in these issues. That didnt immediately help with the issues like clicking, spitting up, leaking, gassiness, but with the proper mouth stretches, body work, PT (for muscle tensions) it hopefully will.
Could you do a video on sleep training in the near future? I have a 14 month old and have been putting sleep training off… but now it’s led to some frustrating issues… I recently have been able to rock her to sleep, but as soon as I set her down… she wakes right up and won’t go to sleep again… 😢 … I’ll take any advise! I enjoy watching your videos!! Sending all the blessing!! ❤️
My baby is just over a week old. In the hospital, he wasn't getting a good latch so the lactation consultant gave me a nipple sheild. Turns out it was too small and made breastfeeding painful and unproductive. My baby was also more interested in sleep than food, all of which led him to loosing weight a bit too fast and developing jaundice. I resorted to pumping just to get him nourishment. Now I'm so sad and stressed because I'd like to breastfeed but I'm worried he won't be able to do it. He's not interested in my breast and even his latch on the bottle is not very good, tho I'm trying to help him.fix it. I really want to get him nursing from the breast, but I don't know how to get there, and it makes me so sad
Question about timed feedings, with my first I had a reoccurring timer every two hours (for the first month) to make sure she was eating, of course if she wanted to in between those times I fed her, are you suggesting to only feed on demand? What are your thoughts on waking a baby to feed? Prepping for number two here 😅
Hi can I breastfeed with implants ? I would love your feedback on this question, have not found a video on this yet but it’s my biggest doubt and have lots of questions on this specific topic. Thanks 😊
I hope someone can attest or confirm if what I'm doing is not fine. To breastfeed on demand means to feed my baby whenever she's hungry, correct? So if she sleeps.more than 3 hours and doesn't want to wake up, is that ok? My baby's just weeks old as of writing.
My baby is having acid reflux. Can i give her Gaviscon sachet on regular bases? Some people say babies become habitual of that and can't then digest without Gaviscon afterwards. Kindly guide me
It is hard. My baby was really weak after brith and unlatch him and have a fight with him again to latch just make him sleep and was a serious impact on his weight. I really didnt want to feed him formula, so i let him latch whatever, only that he can eat for this short awake time.
I do have a question about pumping. My babies are really large and in particular, one seemed so hungry, so eager for my milk to come in that pumping a few times in the hospital seemed to help it come in sooner. And then I didn’t pump anymore and my milk could regulate. I’m pregnant with my 4th and think I’ll still probably pump some the first 36 hours. Thoughts?
@@laurenswift9368 I tend to think nature’s design of milk coming in on day 3 isn’t by accident, so I personally wouldn’t want to mess with that. Seems normal/natural to just let baby stay close to the breast and latch as much as they want and practice that latch instead of using a machine pump.
Please I am one week postpartum and they told me to pump when baby doesn’t get the opposite breast because my baby falls asleep on one side and I have trouble waking him. I don’t know what to do
Im a fs mom my son is almost 4 months now and ive been having issues with latching. Or so i believe. Because breasfeedijg hurts alot of the times. Not mostly it hurts when he latches on but after a couple seconds it dosent hurt anymore. My baby gets milk out of my boobs because my boobs usually get soft after its been rock hard with milk. But latching on hurts still to this day. Also i realized that when you have clogged duct in your boobs it makes breasfeeding hurt soooo much so i usually would unblock it then bf and it would be alot better. But right now i cant let baby feed for long because my nipples hurt when he feeds for long so i usually break it up to let my boobs get some time to stop hurting
This was me. I pumped right away cause I was scared about not making enough and it made me oversupply and fast let down = drinking too fast, bad latch, gas, bloating, fussiness, too much lactose cause too much foremilk and more hunger hormone meaning baby would always think he’s hungry even when he’s throwing up milk cause he drank too much😒 it’s a domino effect
I’m going trough the exact same thing at the moment! Would you mind sharing what helped? I am currently dealing with mastitis and because my oversupply led to frequent engorgement and clogged ducts! 😢 Thank you so much 🙏
Doctors keep telling me I have skim milk and my baby is growing slow. I went to a lactation specialist, I just need help he is 4 months and idk what to do. He will not take formula so breast feeding is the only option or the hospital.
I had no supply issues and yet my lactation consultant told me to pump every 3 hours in addition to feeding my baby from the beginning. She had me pumping in the hospital. All it did was make me tired, make my boobs hurt, and fill my freezer full of milk. There was no reason for this.
Omg this. My journey ended way too soon on my second month postpartum because of the oversupply and extreme pain I was in. I tried regulating it after the bad pumping advice but I ended up with clogged ducts and mastitis and I wanted to just die. In the end I couldn’t get it to regulate soon enough and panicked about future clogged ducts so I decided to just dry my supply up and stop completely. It was extremely painful drying it up, I would have rather given birth again than to go through that
So my issue is that I can supply fine for him on demand but when I pump at work (I work 3x 14 hour days) I can only pump a fraction of what he needs and eats. I had to start supplementing with formula which is totally fine, I’m just broke right now 😂
Before pumping apply heat to the breast, and massage - look up videos for how to do breast massage before pumping, as there are different techniques to try and no one technique is going to work for everyone. While pumping try your best to relax, and look at photos of your baby - or any photos that will give you the warm fuzzies - to get the hormones on board. Newborn photos, wedding photos, etc. You can also do breast compressions while pumping as well. (google techniques!) Hope this helps!
My baby only eats 5-10min. I know she is not emptying the breast. So what do I do ? I don’t pump because she doesn’t like to drink from bottles. I feel that I am often suffering low milk supply
can i still breastfeed? my baby stayed in the NICU and they used bottle to feed. I tried making my baby do breastfeed atleast once a day, but only 5 mins. I feel like im a failure already :/
😭my son is 1month Old we just can't get a good latch! Not sure if it's cuz my nipples are too big or his mouth is to small? Or maybe he just don't like it, I've been pumping and supplementing with formula! I really want to just breasts feed but it's not happening for us! 😢
i suspect it is the way you try to latch. Cross cradle position works for most but maybe the side lying position is better for your baby. Don't bring the nipple in but bring your baby;s mouth towards your areola and put a drop of milk on his lips.
Mine girl's a month old. Anytime she feeds, milk trickles down the sides of her mouth. I'm talking neckline soaked with milk. Her mouth is small but my areolas are big . What I've noticed is her swallowing while pushing the nipples out . What do I do?
Question: my little guy is 3 months old and I think he just loves loves pacifying at my breast. Like… I have had him latched on for 30 minutes plus per side, totaling hour long “feedings”. But I’m pretty sure he finished feeding forever ago cause I have a fast let down. I feel like I have to unlatch him or he would suckle all day long! He never naturally comes off. Have you had any experience with that? I feel bad unlatching him, but I am 99% sure he’s done feeding and just wanting to suckle, which I love, but I also have to work. Haha.
It's a scource of comfort, and obviously closeness with skin to skin contact, so many babies once full, like the closeness. There is no harm in unlatching baby when they've obviously finished feeding,
Google search for an IBCLC near you!! I would also reach out to the hospital you delivered at to see if there's a lactation consultant there you can see. Good luck, momma!!
My baby is 16 days old.i am breastfeeding him.he is passing stools,peeing and gaining weight.but he is asking feed whole day and night.i am not getting proper rest.please anyone suggest me how to stop him feeding all time and should ask only in two hours gap.i have another doubt that am i getting sufficient milk or not?
Okay maybe I already made a mistake hahah but could you possibly make a video on transitioning from nursing to sleep to somehow not using the boob to help baby fall asleep….baby is 12 months…okay thank you!! :)
My FIL and MIL made me doubt myself about whether my baby was getting enough milk because he was crying after being fed and then i decided to pump 😐😑 3 days after giving birth and i was miserable it hurt like a bitch getting slapped initially, so i spoke to my midwife and asked how much milk is he suppose to drink and she said 30ml and eventually 60ml and then 120ml and then 150ml the older they get the morse it increases and these in laws still wasnt happy and still didnt want to listen but its my baby and i told them he has had enough milk just stop over reacting. Till today because they only have one child and my baby is their first grandchild they still try to tell me how i must raise my child and look after my child 😑😑 so annoying
Mistake #6: breast-feeding a baby when they have teeth. Not only does the child have teeth but they no longer have the enzymes necessary to digest momma’s milk and so cannot get the nutrients necessary for their age. Also there is high risk baby can bite your nipples. Signs a baby is ready to be weaned off? The disappearance of the suction reflex and apparition of teeth. If one to follow and respect the natural growth patterns of a baby one must be mindful of these milestones and respond them appropriately
I continued to breastfeed even when mine had teeth, as they had teeth by six months old. Never once been bitten, and they still needed all the goodness from breast milk.
Things I learned:
- totally normal to relatch multiple times to not settle for a shallow latch
- feed on demand not a schedule. Wake baby if they haven’t eaten for a while, but otherwise feed whenever baby desires
- too much milk can lead to engorgement
- ideally wait 6wks to start pumping. Can use Hakka passively
- more skin to skin time with parents/family, helps comfort and diversify their microbiome/strengthen immune system
About your last point, I'm worried about baby catching something from people around us (because they don't have the whipping cough vaccine, apparently it's going around where we live, according to my doctor). I'm very worried about people coming to see my newly born baby (once he's born) and I asked my husband to tell people to NOT kiss the baby.
@@LLLadySSS*exercise your protective instinct as a parent and tell people to stay the f__k away.*
@@LLLadySSSI understand you so much, when my daughter was born, I said to everyone not to kiss her and even hold her before she gets her own vaccines. Even to the grand-parents. Only my husband and I can kiss and hold her as we are vaccinated. Other people will wait a bit, that's all right, they still love her and are impatient to hold her. They will later 😉 Trust your instinct and yourself Mama !
@@LLLadySSSi got vaccinated for whooping cough in third trimester and it should protect my baby until he gets his own at 3 months 😊 maybe that’s something to consider? I did it by recommendation of my father in law who is a paediatrician and we also have lots of whooping cough going around lately…
Interesting why 6 weeks? I'm having my baby so new to breast feeding.
First-time mom here with a one-month old baby. I've been exclusively pumping since she's 4 days old as she had jaundice and would not latch properly to eat well, the latter of which caused cracked nipples, which in turn caused mastitis and then thrush in the breasts.
It's been extremely hard for me mentally to be unable to nurse my baby directly, but I'm still healing and I'd have to call it a win with being able to still give her breastmilk for now.
I hope I can revisit this video again in the near future when my baby is older and more coordinated, and when I've recovered both physically and mentally. I only wish that I was prepared for how hard breastfeeding could be before I was thrown into the deep end of it.
I did so much research and still struggled so much!! Had to heal my nipples and painfully pump until we got her lip tie released and taught her to latch properly. Don't give up!!! You're doing amazing! It will get better.
You can do this… ❤
You are a super hero. I had to pump for my daughter for a few months and it was so difficult!! When we were finally able to breastfeed it was so much easier. Pumping is a full time job ❤
Seriously, I'm with you there. Especially if you don't have any experienced women around to help. The whole thing caused so much stress to me and my son that I decided to pump, just to preserve the ability to have a nice bonding time while feeding him. I tried so hard, but eventually I realized it wasn't worth all the stress, those early days are stressful enough as it is. Wishing you a speedy recovery, and good luck when you revisit breastfeeding, but go easy on the both of you ok? :) ❤
Just had a baby five days ago who is Coombs positive. Battling the jaundice levels is so scary. I have inverted nipples so getting my baby to latch was a nightmare. But one of the nurses at the hospital gave me a clear nipple cover and it's literally saved me and my baby. Makes it so much easier to nurse and has protected my skin from getting champed and damaged
Thank you so much for making these videos and the latch video. I had trouble latching with my son. He was a real fighter 😂 he literally would make his little fists fly when I would try to breastfeed him lol. The main mistakes I made was listening to people who weren't lactation consultants. I had a problem with my left breast it wasn't producing any colostrum. I was able ro get it working after 3days. However everyone kept saying your supply is low! You need to drink these herbs do this and that! I listened and was constantly engorged 🤦🏼♀️ One lady said cluster feeding wasn't normal and it was because baby wasn't getting enough milk. People also constantly complained to me about timing feeds. Saying he needs to eat every 30 mins , 1 hr, 2hrs, 15mins, 45 mins. So I was waking the poor boy up to try and feed him 🤦🏼♀️.I finally told hubby enough is enough no more advice I will wake at 2hrs if he doesn't wake up by himself otherwise he sleeps. I made a commitment and a plan and it worked. Was easier to BF and after 4wks my son was EBF without issues. Because of those mistakes though I got a lot of sores and Mastisis 😅 My boobs are good now but I hope every First time mama can learn from my mistake which is listen to your gut, baby, pediatrician and lactation consultant only. Will save you a lot of pain.
My babies were always satiated with one breast and I would just feed on the other side at the next feed. If they fall asleep and unlatch and then wake then I would switch sides. They tend to eat less on the second breast so I start on that breast at the next feed. Fully breastfeed both my babies beyond one year 💕
The key is remembering which breast baby fed off last *cue the boob feel up 😂
Yea I did exactly this and I ended up exclusively breastfeeding for 2 years.
@@BridgetTeyler so true. I usually just go by which breast feels heavier 😂
@@BridgetTeyler Every time lol!
You're so blessed! After about 3-4 months my kids want more than one breast, and even that's not enough to satisfy most of the time so I have to try to feed them again after a little bit. I don't have a large capacity and my boys are hungry!
I would always forget what side I started with which led to engorgement since one side was always being emptied and the other wasn’t. Now I use a hair tie on my wrist and switch it based on which side I started on. I highly recommend this because I was tired of tracking feeds on my phone and wanted to be more present during nursing.
I use an app now. I tried the hairties, but was too tired to remember if I switched it or not.
Same. I notice which side the pillow was on when I last fed, so then I’d do the opposite side
Pumping too early on is a hard one. With my first, I ended up needing to pump because of a hospital stay my little guy needed from 3-5 days old (VERY bad jaundice). So he had to be fed in the light bed for most feedings. I was SO scared of him developing nipple confusion so had no intention of bottle feeding for a long time, but it ended up being very nice. I pumped enough for my husband to do one feeding a night via bottle so I could get a stretch of sleep in the first two months, which was amazing for my mental health. Luckily my little man still preferred the breast and we nursed until over two years old. But I did develop a bit of an over supply. I really hope to get my one bottle feeding a night this time around from Hakka collection instead of using the pump. But we will see. 2 more months until my next breastfeeding journey begins! Thanks for the video!
I LOVED the haaka the second time around! I know a bottle feed in the middle of the night works wonders for some parents- glad it worked for you guys! And that your LO still preferred breastfeeding!
Congrats mama! Also thanks for the insight I’m 30 wks with my first pregnancy 🎉
Apart from pumping, I made all these mistakes, and it's great to hear I'm not the only one. Thank you!
I just wanted to leave a quick thank you for your postpartum guided meditations! I had my first baby last year, and was not successful in breastfeeding, and I can not express how devastating that felt. I still tear up thinking about it. Plus I was starting to lose my mind from lack of sleep. You guided meditaions really got me through those rough times, especially the pumping affirmations, and for a short while, your videos were the only way I could fall asleep! My sincerest thank you!!!
Something I regret as a first time mom is not pumping earlier. I waited for a month to pump and couldn’t get much (1/2 ounce). The only time I would get 2 ounces was if she hadn’t feed for several hours. I make enough to feed my baby but not enough to make a sufficient stash. I could only leave her for one day before I had to rush back so she would have milk. (My husband and I went on an overnight trip without the baby after 6 months.) This time around I’ll definitely be pumping as soon as we get back from the hospital.
Omg the shallow latch almost made me rethink breastfeeding my baby. It for sure caused so much pain in the beginning. These were all good tips. Breastfeeding is so overwhelming for sure. Wish I educated myself on this topic before my first. Pumping is a whole different game. I never used mine bc I am SAHM. But for sure when I have my next few, I would like to learn on how to use mine.
As a newborn I had to feed on a schedule. She would sleep for 5 to 6 hours straight and at her first weigh lost too much weight. I fed her every 2 hours for the first 4 weeks and then switched to on demand but still keep the 2 hours in mind. It was the only way to get her back to a good weight.
Your breathing methods during labour helped me with both births❤️ my midwifes were suprised
Too many moms are discouraged by poor latching early on. Its OK and developmentally normal for your newborn to need LOTS of practice. Just like eventually when they learn to walk - they need tons of practice and they fall down a lot but they don’t quit!
Hey how long does it take the baby to latch properly? My 3 weeks old still goes for shallow latches unless i help him out
@@visenyaackerman9485 A few questions for you: 1) Is he gaining weight? 2) Is he happy/content when he finishes nursing? 3) Is he having at least 4 pee diapers in a 24 hour period?
@@haley2542 He had low birth weight due to prematurity but now seems to be steadily gaining weight.
Usually he comes off of breast on his own. Its only during the night hours when he demands to be fed more often. I did assume i was having a low milk supply because of that and started supplementing with formula
As far as wet diapers are concerned yes he does wet 5 to 6 diapers per day.
@@visenyaackerman9485 Newborns that young absolutely do need to wake at night to nurse, that’s not a problem. And if he’s gaining weight, having 4+ pee diapers a day, and not unhappy then he’s getting enough milk. Doesn’t sound like a latch problem from what you’ve said. I would warn you that supplementing with formula will NOT help increase your milk supply. By supplementing with formula you are telling your body not to make that amount of milk. It can take 2-5 days to increase milk supply, and to do that baby needs to nurse longer and/or more frequently. How frequently does he nurse?
Yes i tried that but when i pump in between feeding sessions i only manage to get about half an ounce from both breasts which led me to believe that my baby is not being satisfied. He keeps on falling asleep during breastfeeding sessions and at night he demands to be fed more frequently. I was worried maybe the milk i am producing is not enough for him so incorporated formula in. What should i do?
Pumping too early was mine. The lactation consultant at the hospital told me that I was going to have supply issues since I had PCOS. So she told me to pump 3x daily for 20 minutes on top of feeding baby… and I did because I was terrified of my supply drying up. Well, as it turns out, I was not an underproducer and ended up with a MASSSSIVE oversupply.
You can always give your milk to a milk bank to help NICU babies 🍼
Great video 🤗! I’m a doula and momma of 4 and I exclusively nursed all my children at least a year. Feeding on demand is definitely the way to go. Baby is best at establishing and regulating that breast milk supply. I see so many moms pumping straight out of the hospital and it really is unnecessary unless mom plans on being away from baby for an extended period of time. I only pumped with my first while she was in NICU. Also remember breast feeding IS a form of skin to skin ❤! I wish all mommas the best on their breastfeeding journey 🙏🏿!
Yes, I love this!
@@BridgetTeyler Aww 🥰! Thank you so much momma ❤️🙏🏿!
I had to pump with my first because he was in NICU too, for a month. When we got home he still needed some formula due to sugar issues but by month 2 he was great and cleared. So I exclusively bf and just pumped for extra bottles on occasion like if we were out or grandma watched him. All was good until two weeks ago he started teething and refusing bf here and there and as of three days ago he is on a full nursing strike 😢 I Dnt want to pump and bottle feed 😭
What if baby isn’t emptying the breast, is it okay to pump then? I’m still learning to properly latch with a two week old and so hard 😢
Do you have any tips on breast feeding together with formula feeding ?
I actually disagree with mistake number 4. Only because I waited 4 weeks to pump with my first and then I thought to the nail to try to bring up my supply even though I was around My Baby 24 seven or he never went anywhere without her at all for years. And I ended up breast-feeding her for 2 1/2 years. I struggled so bad with my supply. I was Very fortunate that I did not have to go back to work so soon with her otherwise I would’ve had to supplement with formula because there’s no way I would’ve ever pumped enough to make it through going to work even for a couple of hours and I tried everything and I saw multiple lactation consultant to try to help fix it, and it was not working. however, then with my second, I would pump whenever my daughter would be done eating and I would offer both breasts multiple times to make sure that she would eat because she ate quickly, but I would just continuously offer him anyway, but I would pump after she was done eating but I felt like my boobs were still full of milk and they were. Because in the early stages for some reason, she would never empty the breast completely, and not only would that lead to engorgement on my part but also, it would really diminish my supply later on as she is growing. I didn’t do too crazy of pumping sessions are usually only did it once or twice a day and I would get maybe one or 2 ounces. Sometimes not even that, but that really made a huge difference in my supply. So I feel like it’s not a bad thing to pump earlier on just because sometimes you don’t know if you’re going to have an under supply or not and then when you get to the point that you realize that you are in over supplier then maybe cut out the pumping sessions and work from there. But also, you never know what life is going to throw you and you never know if somethings gonna happen and you need that freezer stash. Maybe something happens to you and you have to go back to the hospital or God forbid anything else happens and it’s in the middle of the night and you have nothing in the freezer to feed your baby and you don’t have any formula and can’t buy it because it’s late. Because that almost happened to me, but I was fortunate enough that I had pumped just barely enough because I didn’t pump a lot. To get her through the couple of hours I ended up having to be gone. And then, eventually when I started going back to work soon at around four months, I was able to actually pump enough to be able to go to work since I had already been pumping that whole time and building my stash. And again I didn’t pump all crazy like or anything. It was always after my daughter had eaten.
Hi luv, in this video you say not to pump before 6 weeks, but in another video of yours (from 5 years ago) - Pumping Basics 101 | When to Start Pumping… you mention that you should start pumping before baby hits that 6 week mark to train your body into how much to produce.
I’m an EBF Mum, but want to build my freezer stash for date nights and also so my older children can feed baby. I only plan to pump once a day (twice at absolute most).
Should I start pumping before 6 weeks or wait until after baby is 6 weeks? Thank you in advance!! You are amazing and I’m so grateful I found your channel!
I feel like this came at the right time. My baby is about to turn 6 months and I just thought about giving up. Hopefully these tips really help me with this or my next baby. Thank you. ❤️
You got this mama!
Check out Ina May's Guide to Breastfeeding, she's got a bunch of great pointers and information :)
Your videos are so helpful Bridget! I have a 7 week old and I was able to get him to latch Thanks to your videos. You are a life saver! ❤
Thank you for making these types of videos. I wish I had known this information when I had my first baby, but I am glad I know now. My second baby is close to three months old and he is thriving on breast milk!
Is it possible to just exclusively breastfeed? I don’t want to pump/use bottles and just want to know how to prepare if it is possible! Thank you!
Totally! Most likely not if you need to be back to work, unless if you can work out a way to have baby brought to you or go to baby for a feed.
I exclusively breastfed my baby until 2 years. Tried pumping to see if I could have my husband give a bottle, but never could get more than an oz. I was slightly concerned about supply but knew the best this was to just keep on nursing on demand! Baby was happy and energetic, so I knew they were getting enough despite not leaking, having engorgement etc.
I exclusively breast fed all my three children, no pumps, no bottles. As breastfeeding works by supply and demand, the more the baby takes the more the breasts full up, so pumping can cause engorged and painful breasts.
Yes it is 100 percent possible!
@steph13h498 Have to admit I was very lucky and had no problems at all, only used a pump briefly with my 3rd , when I worked nights. Do think over pumping can cause issues, as breast milk is all about supply and demand, obviously the more you pump , the more the breasts fill up, and if baby's not ready for a feed, breasts can become engorged and painful.
I was planning on pumping just a bottle or two's worth from the beginning. I saw a tip about letting someone else bottle feed the baby once a day so that they get used to it, and so that I'm not the only one capable of feeding him. I'm hoping he'll have a good latch so we can do that! But I'll also be mindful about pumping causing overproducing. Thanks for the video!💖
Thank you so much for all the information and work you are doing. As a first time mom, i felt really blindfolded. Your videos helped me so much during pregnancy and breastfeeding period, not only did they provide valuable and really helpful information, but i also felt a lot of encouragement that i can do it. Now as my baby turns one, i am looking for your guidance again on how to wean her off breastfeeding as i return to work. You've been such a rock. Thank you.
My baby is 4 weeks old and takes 1 hour to eat each feeding! He eats every 3 hours or so. Is this normal?? I feel like all I do is breastfeed ALL day! Will he get faster at nursing as he is older? Baby is gaining well and healthy. But I can barely get anything done.
Yes, breastfeeding is a real workout for a newborn. As his or her jaw and body strengthen, feeding times will shorten over the coming weeks. You may wish for the long times back later though, like I do :)
Totally normal for newborns! Relax and enjoy just watching him! You’ll have time later to get things done, right now your baby needs your focus, patience, and attention to feel safe and secure! And you need to watch him closely to learn his cues - too many mamas rush this and try to get back to “normal” life postpartum.
I am the exact same!!
I had a pretty good breastfeeding journey the first 6 weeks (with the usual beginning struggles I would say). After that I had a little accident and with the immense stress and panic in my body for that accident my milk supply went down to zero. Now I am trying so hard to get back to where we were before, when she is done with the breasts and is still hungry, she gets a bottle and I pump to bring the supply up again. I would have never thought breastfeeding would be such a science… I have so much LOVE and respect for mammas doing the job. ❤
Thanks mom! I thought only i m the suffering with latching. I never know it can exist to many moms. I was depressed and frustrated
This is pretty good advice… my journey ended at two months because of the extreme engorgement pain caused by oversupply when my doctor recommended I pump even tho I was exclusively nursing. I tried to slowly stretch the time to help regulate but ended up with clogged ducts and mastitis… the pain was unbearable and I just wanted to stop because I didn’t know how I would take care of my children alone with no help when I was in that much pain. Drying up my supply wasn’t exactly easier either 😢 super painful but once my breasts were flat I’ve never felt more relieved
So glad I never made any of these mistakes the first time around, and it shows. My son was breast fed until just after his 2nd birthday, and the only reason we stopped is because I’m pregnant with baby number 2 and developed feeding aversion.
THIS IS ALL AMAZING ADVICE!!! Yes thank you!!! ❤❤❤
I’m not sure if you’ve already covered this topic or not, but have you ever thought about making a video about high/overactive lipase milk? I thought you mentioned having that as well a long time ago and I feel like it’s a topic that isn’t really covered out there. It was something I had NEVER heard about from anyone or seen online until I experienced it for myself and did a deep dive of why my baby wasn’t liking my thawed milk. It was stressful to find out, right before going back to work, that all the milk I had already saved up was “bad” (although it was still technically safe and nutritionally the same) and that my baby wasn’t going to take it at all. Something I tell all my friends now is to TEST THEIR MILK FOR HIGH LIPASE 👏🏼 well before they go back to work so they don’t panic like I did 🙈 Through lots of timed taste tests that my baby, husband, and I did, we figured out that the taste and smell of my milk changed after 24hrs in the fridge but that my baby would still drink it up to 3 days in the fridge and, fortunately for me, I was able to produce so much milk that I could give my baby fridge milk for over 2 years while I worked and then donated a total of 3000+ ounces of my frozen milk to local families whose babies didn’t mind the flavor/taste. I thought about donating to the milk bank as well but never ended up doing that since my milk would get “claimed” so quickly after posting about it on the FB page “Human Milk 4 Human Babies.” I used a lot for milk baths as well and also had a back up stash of scalded milk just in case but never had to use (and didn’t really want to since I know it can lose some of the nutritional goodness/living antibodies/etc. during the scalding process). I know you can also try mixing fresh with high lipase or even try adding alcohol-free vanilla extract but I never bothered with those options. And ALSO fortunately for me, my second baby doesn’t mind the taste so I don’t have to pump as much this time around (bc yes, I was sOoOo lucky to have it again with my second 🫠😒)!! 😆🎉😅 All that to say, not testing my milk for it was one “mistake” I made when I was a new mom (but also had NO IDEA about 🤷🏻♀️😭). So extremely sorry for the lengthy comment. I’ll stop there even though I have so much more to say about my experience. I just feel like it would be super helpful and informative to others who might not have heard about it before either!! 🥴
I also have high lipase I think because after 2 days it smells funky. I’m trying to freeze my pumped milk asap, would this help with the taste or no? I’m hoping I can still freeze milk within 12 hours of pumping (ideally asap tho). Anything else I should know? Thanks!
I did not produce enough last time so doctor recommended I rent the hospital grade pump for first two weeks to build supply then switch to a more consumer type. I suspect I have IGT but nobody is interested in actually diagnosing that for some reason.
As someone who has been through difficulties latching and feeling depressed and exclusively pumping, all I want to say is fed is best. The world of lactation consultants and breast pump companies should not own your mind space. Struggling with breast feeding doesn’t make you any less of a mother. Don’t lose those precious moments of bonding with your baby in getting frustrated - know that you are doing the best you can after your body went through childbirth. It takes up to 3 days for your milk to properly come in naturally after childbirth. Give yourself grace and it will be alright.
I gave up on the shallow latch issue. I have very large breasts and my baby was only 6 lbs 4 oz and I couldn't get her to latch more deeply. Idk if I shouldn't have given up but it just looked like the size issues weren't going to work. Luckily I don't think I made other mistakes. My one tip to have enough supply is to eat beef and electrolytes every day. I swear that on the days I didn't have beef my baby would not seem to get enough and I'd send her on a walk with my husband to get a break for an hour and refill. Looks like we evolved on ruminant meat and our bodies expect us to eat it. My baby is nearly a year old and still going strong on exclusive breastfeeding.
Yes beef is for sure the thing for me too!!
My issue was listening to others. I wish I'd started pumping before I gave birth. It ended up with me struggling to keep up with babys demand. Only managed to get to 3 months before I couldn't produce enough for him, he started teething and wasnt latching like he used to, plus i was so exhausted having to feed him for hours at a time and through the night. He's 6 months now and on Kendamil Organic Goat formula. I'm pregnant again and I'm going to be pumping as much as I want this time instead of relying on just breast feeding.
Pumping can be a good way to encourage the length of the breastfeeding journey but sometimes, if baby prefers bottle over breast, it actually can make breastmilk production more challenging to keep up with. I will say though, that pumping on top of breastfeeding at the beginning will generally increase milk supply over the long run because it builds more prolactin receptors which is why, in some women, creates the issue of oversupply. You know your body best, mama. Do what works for you and your babe!
I know you started with you intend to do it your own way, but just wanted any one to be aware that sees this that your placenta detaching is what makes milk happen and pumping while you're pregnant can cause premature labor
Pumping and nipple stimulation can cause a premature birth!!!!!!
I wanted to breastfeed so badly, but unfortunately my milk never came in to matter what I tried. Hopefully I can with our next baby!
Same thing happened to me, I had to supplement with my first baby. But it is different now with my second one. He is close to three months old and is exclusively breastfed! Hope you can have a similar situation with your next baby!!
Did you ever get diagnosed? That’s so rare. So sad. Sorry.
@bridget, what about for c section mamas-how soon can you pump to help milk come in? With my first, it took me 5+ days for it to come in. How early can I pump (but also trying to avoid engorgement/oversupply)? Thanks!
If you and baby can be together, breastfeeding on demand (at least every 2-3 hours) and hand expression after birth can help with milk coming in. Hand expression is actually more effective at the beginning to extract milk than pumping with an electric pump. If you have to be separated from baby, then using an electric pump every 2-3 hours and hand expressing before or after is what I'd recommend!
@@BridgetTeyler ah great advice! Didn’t know the bit about the hand expression. Thank you! :)
I dont use the electric pump but I do hand express into the haaka just a little bit before a feed so my newborn can get a deeper latch. Is this okay?
Thank you! This was helpful for a first time mama 🤗 especially the part about waiting 6 weeks to pump. I had no idea!
Does bath time count for skin on skin? Also, two things to consider: not all moms are overproducers and therefore half of this video doesn’t apply. Second and most importantly, breastfeeding can hurt. As a person with super sensitive nipples I tell you moms who also suffer out there, it’s not something we’re doing wrong, it’s just how we’re built. My baby is 6 months old and it still hurts, when I pump it hurts. There’s no latching problem. I had the help of an amazing midwife and even with her help it hurt.
An extra thing that I learned and I wished I knew earlier: use gravity to your advantage. My biggest mistake was believing the people telling me that the position had no impact and IT TOTALLY DID. Lean forward just a little bit and your baby will get more milk. I could confirm this while pumping as well. When I’m lounging or slightly reclined, I het significantly less milk during my pump. When I lean a bit forward, there’s a lot more coming.
Second time mom due in a few months and this is such good info I wish I would have known with my first I made all the same mistakes!
Wow I have heard the opposite like start pumping and stimulating your breasts as soon as possible to keep your milk production going. I’m confused now.
That's what the baby does by suckling
I was feeding my first on demand but it was sooooo long everytime. She spend a week at the hospital and I was in the nursery from 7AM to 2PM, no food allowed in the room. I was dying of hunger. And I had to pump for the night feed the nurse were giving her. I had a 30 min lunch and back to nursing for the rest of the day. It went like this after the hospital as well for like 6 weeks. I hope baby #2 will let me pee or shower in daddy's arms without crying. I'm glad that I had no "real" issue, but it was hard!
Until what age would you recommend to have skin to skin time with baby?
What are the pro's and cons or preferences of a Haaka compared to a pump?
wow! thanks for the info. i'm a first time mom and a friend referred your videos to me. i was asked to pump immediately from hospital to mix med powder in my milk to help increase the weight of my baby as she is small for her gestational age. i dunno if this was necessary. thanks for the info. now i realize that it's because of pumping that my milk supply rushed to so great amount, making baby fussy every breastfeeding time. she refuses to latch on properly even if hungry. is it because of the sudden volume of milk?
Big lessons I learned:
- your pumping session does not equal your supply. There is a lot of fine tuning to do with flange sizes and suction to maximize output at a pump-even then baby is more efficient (exceptional being premature babies and oral ties)
- do not “endure the pain” if the pain lasts beyond those first thirty seconds. It doesn’t make you toughen up, it just makes it harder to recover from damage.
- get in touch with a lactation specialist asap. Most hospitals and birth centers will have one on site or give you information as a starting point.
- not every feeding position will work for you. Depending on your anatomy, you may need to recline or you may need to sit up straight. I had to sit straight to get good flow and it was rough because I couldn’t feed in bed very well.
- get tongue tie addressed right away.
I started pumping about 5 days after my daughter was born(16 days ago)
Should I continue to pump or just let her feed on demand with each side until the 6 weeks ?
If I don’t have to pump I definitely don’t want to😅
I am not overproducing so should pump?
If you produce just enough milk for your baby, then you shouldn’t pump. Feed your baby on demand and you will always have that amount of milk your baby needs.
No, just feed baby on demand, your supply will match your baby's needs.
The paranoia of wondering if you're providing enough
If baby is peeing & pooping you don’t need to be paranoid.
@@haley2542 I know just when you can't see visually you always wonder lol but thank you for your kind reassuring comment 🤗
Is there a way to still feed baby colostrum without latching?
Great info !! Your cup looks neat 😍
Curios what’s in it?
Whelp, I am 2 weeks postpartum and have made every one of these mistakes...
What can I do if I already started pumping 5 days after birth because my breasts were too full and painful while the baby demanded less
Super helpful. You really reading my mind on all the things you said. From the shallow latch and not wanting to have to unlatch n redo to the pumping early on cuz I’m afraid I won’t have enough or she won’t get enough at the breast and then I have to resort to formula. If I have to then I will but trying to breast feed and then pump in the first weeks like I’m in right now is driving me cra.
Listening to you is like listening to me 😂 my second baby has been WAY easier for these exact reasons! Wish I had you with my first q
Great tips. Thanks.
My baby is 1 week old . I started pumping as well as breastfeeding bc it hurts so bad . I have an oversupply and I have blisters (blebs) . I’m not even sure if I’m balancing both right or not .
hey, is your hoodie in the description? thank you for this very valuable info! you're a doll!!
It's a thrift store find! haha! Wish I could link it for you!
Its my dream to have a natural birth at a birthing center. I have epilepsy though... my siezures are controled with medication, but my neurologist says I can not. However, i found a birthing center that said they would. I dont know who to trust.
My baby has a lip and tongue tie, and seems to have a good latch but once my very strong let down happens, he tends to click, appears like he is struggling to keep up, and can sometimes choke on it. I feel so bad for him but I am happy he is getting plenty of milk. Your videos helped out a lot with my breastfeeding journey. 3 months strong 💪
My baby is similar. Lactation consultant instructed me to hand express initial, powerful part of letdown into cloth and then attach baby. Has worked well for us and now don’t need to do that anymore.
@abbys.9233 I halfway tried that. I should give it another go, but I get nervous that so much milk is coming out, idk how much will be left 😅 it sprays for a good minute or 2. Thank you for letting me know what worked for you! I will try anything to help 🥰
I had this try leaning back during the let down part- works well for us 😊
@Thismumcan I do that as well, it helps a little for him. I've tried side laying too but I can't seem to manage getting that position right 😅
Yikes that’s hard! Oral restrictions can really interfere with BF! Maybe you already did but the best thing I did for my babies was get their ties lasered by a pediatric dentist who specialized in these issues. That didnt immediately help with the issues like clicking, spitting up, leaking, gassiness, but with the proper mouth stretches, body work, PT (for muscle tensions) it hopefully will.
Could you do a video on sleep training in the near future? I have a 14 month old and have been putting sleep training off… but now it’s led to some frustrating issues… I recently have been able to rock her to sleep, but as soon as I set her down… she wakes right up and won’t go to sleep again… 😢 … I’ll take any advise!
I enjoy watching your videos!! Sending all the blessing!! ❤️
My baby is just over a week old. In the hospital, he wasn't getting a good latch so the lactation consultant gave me a nipple sheild. Turns out it was too small and made breastfeeding painful and unproductive. My baby was also more interested in sleep than food, all of which led him to loosing weight a bit too fast and developing jaundice. I resorted to pumping just to get him nourishment. Now I'm so sad and stressed because I'd like to breastfeed but I'm worried he won't be able to do it. He's not interested in my breast and even his latch on the bottle is not very good, tho I'm trying to help him.fix it. I really want to get him nursing from the breast, but I don't know how to get there, and it makes me so sad
Question about timed feedings, with my first I had a reoccurring timer every two hours (for the first month) to make sure she was eating, of course if she wanted to in between those times I fed her, are you suggesting to only feed on demand? What are your thoughts on waking a baby to feed? Prepping for number two here 😅
If my baby has a shallow latch at 3 weeks can I retrain him somehow?
Do you recommend pumping a month before the baby arrives to help stimulate the breast milk?
How do I know if my baby is getting enough if they are a super sleepy newborn
Hi can I breastfeed with implants ? I would love your feedback on this question, have not found a video on this yet but it’s my biggest doubt and have lots of questions on this specific topic. Thanks 😊
If I stopped pumping for a couple
Months can I get my supply back? 8 months pp… milk droplets if I hand express
I hope someone can attest or confirm if what I'm doing is not fine. To breastfeed on demand means to feed my baby whenever she's hungry, correct? So if she sleeps.more than 3 hours and doesn't want to wake up, is that ok? My baby's just weeks old as of writing.
I have forcefull.let down, any tips?
Nothing about my labor went like I wanted. But I have to say my only complaint is the lactation consultants.
very helpful! Thanks Bridget :)
My baby is having acid reflux. Can i give her Gaviscon sachet on regular bases? Some people say babies become habitual of that and can't then digest without Gaviscon afterwards.
Kindly guide me
@Birdget Tylor
Please see a doctor or nurse before using . Need to ensure there are no other reasons.
Thanks a looot, may Allah Bless you
It is hard. My baby was really weak after brith and unlatch him and have a fight with him again to latch just make him sleep and was a serious impact on his weight. I really didnt want to feed him formula, so i let him latch whatever, only that he can eat for this short awake time.
I do have a question about pumping. My babies are really large and in particular, one seemed so hungry, so eager for my milk to come in that pumping a few times in the hospital seemed to help it come in sooner.
And then I didn’t pump anymore and my milk could regulate.
I’m pregnant with my 4th and think I’ll still probably pump some the first 36 hours. Thoughts?
When you say “pumping seemed to help it come in sooner” - what do you mean exactly? Did your milk come in on day 3 like is typical?
@@haley2542 when I pump a few times, my milk comes in at about the 36-48 hour mark post birth instead of closer to 3 days after birth
But maybe it’s just coincidence! And my milk would come in that soon anyways
@@laurenswift9368 I tend to think nature’s design of milk coming in on day 3 isn’t by accident, so I personally wouldn’t want to mess with that. Seems normal/natural to just let baby stay close to the breast and latch as much as they want and practice that latch instead of using a machine pump.
Please I am one week postpartum and they told me to pump when baby doesn’t get the opposite breast because my baby falls asleep on one side and I have trouble waking him. I don’t know what to do
What if I started pumping 1x a day before the 6 weeks? Can I stop and pick up again at 6wks?
I always nursed on demand. It was the easiest and my babies would naturally start sleeping through the night.
Im a fs mom my son is almost 4 months now and ive been having issues with latching. Or so i believe. Because breasfeedijg hurts alot of the times. Not mostly it hurts when he latches on but after a couple seconds it dosent hurt anymore. My baby gets milk out of my boobs because my boobs usually get soft after its been rock hard with milk. But latching on hurts still to this day. Also i realized that when you have clogged duct in your boobs it makes breasfeeding hurt soooo much so i usually would unblock it then bf and it would be alot better.
But right now i cant let baby feed for long because my nipples hurt when he feeds for long so i usually break it up to let my boobs get some time to stop hurting
This was me. I pumped right away cause I was scared about not making enough and it made me oversupply and fast let down = drinking too fast, bad latch, gas, bloating, fussiness, too much lactose cause too much foremilk and more hunger hormone meaning baby would always think he’s hungry even when he’s throwing up milk cause he drank too much😒 it’s a domino effect
I’m going trough the exact same thing at the moment!
Would you mind sharing what helped?
I am currently dealing with mastitis and because my oversupply led to frequent engorgement and clogged ducts! 😢
Thank you so much 🙏
Doctors keep telling me I have skim milk and my baby is growing slow. I went to a lactation specialist, I just need help he is 4 months and idk what to do. He will not take formula so breast feeding is the only option or the hospital.
I had no supply issues and yet my lactation consultant told me to pump every 3 hours in addition to feeding my baby from the beginning. She had me pumping in the hospital. All it did was make me tired, make my boobs hurt, and fill my freezer full of milk. There was no reason for this.
Omg this. My journey ended way too soon on my second month postpartum because of the oversupply and extreme pain I was in. I tried regulating it after the bad pumping advice but I ended up with clogged ducts and mastitis and I wanted to just die. In the end I couldn’t get it to regulate soon enough and panicked about future clogged ducts so I decided to just dry my supply up and stop completely. It was extremely painful drying it up, I would have rather given birth again than to go through that
Does anyone have information for moms who are trying to breastfeed with inplants OVER the muscle?
I had breast implants at the time and breast fed both of my babies without issues. I think they were behind the small amount of breast tissue I had.
So my issue is that I can supply fine for him on demand but when I pump at work (I work 3x 14 hour days) I can only pump a fraction of what he needs and eats. I had to start supplementing with formula which is totally fine, I’m just broke right now 😂
That's so common w/ pumping. Pumping mamas are seriously rockstars! Any amount of breastmilk for your baby is soooo good for them :)
Maybe try power pumping to push your body into oversupply to compensate for the days there is less milk? 😊
Before pumping apply heat to the breast, and massage - look up videos for how to do breast massage before pumping, as there are different techniques to try and no one technique is going to work for everyone. While pumping try your best to relax, and look at photos of your baby - or any photos that will give you the warm fuzzies - to get the hormones on board. Newborn photos, wedding photos, etc. You can also do breast compressions while pumping as well. (google techniques!) Hope this helps!
My baby only eats 5-10min. I know she is not emptying the breast. So what do I do ? I don’t pump because she doesn’t like to drink from bottles. I feel that I am often suffering low milk supply
can i still breastfeed? my baby stayed in the NICU and they used bottle to feed. I tried making my baby do breastfeed atleast once a day, but only 5 mins. I feel like im a failure already :/
😭my son is 1month Old we just can't get a good latch! Not sure if it's cuz my nipples are too big or his mouth is to small? Or maybe he just don't like it, I've been pumping and supplementing with formula! I really want to just breasts feed but it's not happening for us! 😢
i suspect it is the way you try to latch. Cross cradle position works for most but maybe the side lying position is better for your baby. Don't bring the nipple in but bring your baby;s mouth towards your areola and put a drop of milk on his lips.
Mine girl's a month old. Anytime she feeds, milk trickles down the sides of her mouth. I'm talking neckline soaked with milk. Her mouth is small but my areolas are big . What I've noticed is her swallowing while pushing the nipples out . What do I do?
Thankyou soo much
Question: my little guy is 3 months old and I think he just loves loves pacifying at my breast. Like… I have had him latched on for 30 minutes plus per side, totaling hour long “feedings”. But I’m pretty sure he finished feeding forever ago cause I have a fast let down. I feel like I have to unlatch him or he would suckle all day long! He never naturally comes off. Have you had any experience with that? I feel bad unlatching him, but I am 99% sure he’s done feeding and just wanting to suckle, which I love, but I also have to work. Haha.
It's a scource of comfort, and obviously closeness with skin to skin contact, so many babies once full, like the closeness. There is no harm in unlatching baby when they've obviously finished feeding,
Ok,but the doctors say baby shouldn’t eat more often than 2h,so how could I feed him on demand then ? 😕
Things I learned:
-fix baby’s tongue tie immediately
Every one of my problems stemmed from that one thing, but that is just my experience!! 😅
can't achieve a good latch for 5 weeks now(((
Google search for an IBCLC near you!! I would also reach out to the hospital you delivered at to see if there's a lactation consultant there you can see. Good luck, momma!!
My baby is 16 days old.i am breastfeeding him.he is passing stools,peeing and gaining weight.but he is asking feed whole day and night.i am not getting proper rest.please anyone suggest me how to stop him feeding all time and should ask only in two hours gap.i have another doubt that am i getting sufficient milk or not?
i am in doubt if your milk is nutricious enough, please consult a lactation specialist and maybe also bottlefeed your baby
Could you please talk about breastfeeding with implants and lollipop lift?
Okay maybe I already made a mistake hahah but could you possibly make a video on transitioning from nursing to sleep to somehow not using the boob to help baby fall asleep….baby is 12 months…okay thank you!! :)
Anyone knows why I'd feel nauseous every time I breastfeed my baby?
For the first few weeks I was the same way! Sorry I can’t help with the “why”, probably the way our bodies interact with the hormones?
My FIL and MIL made me doubt myself about whether my baby was getting enough milk because he was crying after being fed and then i decided to pump 😐😑 3 days after giving birth and i was miserable it hurt like a bitch getting slapped initially, so i spoke to my midwife and asked how much milk is he suppose to drink and she said 30ml and eventually 60ml and then 120ml and then 150ml the older they get the morse it increases and these in laws still wasnt happy and still didnt want to listen but its my baby and i told them he has had enough milk just stop over reacting. Till today because they only have one child and my baby is their first grandchild they still try to tell me how i must raise my child and look after my child 😑😑 so annoying
Mistake #6: breast-feeding a baby when they have teeth. Not only does the child have teeth but they no longer have the enzymes necessary to digest momma’s milk and so cannot get the nutrients necessary for their age. Also there is high risk baby can bite your nipples.
Signs a baby is ready to be weaned off? The disappearance of the suction reflex and apparition of teeth. If one to follow and respect the natural growth patterns of a baby one must be mindful of these milestones and respond them appropriately
I continued to breastfeed even when mine had teeth, as they had teeth by six months old. Never once been bitten, and they still needed all the goodness from breast milk.
None of what you wrote here is true