This episode made me realize I am so alike Alisha with feeling “boring” and not opening up to people unless they specifically ask me a question! Loved getting to hear about this side of her💕
The parallel conversation was such a delight to hear. Understanding dreams change and it’s okay not to be good at everything cause peace is more important.
Remi your patience and how you give the space to allow Alisha to share how she feels and validate her is so beautiful. You guys are helping a lot of people with this conversation. I hope you both know that 💛
not zane and heath also uploading an ep today titled “zane gets exposed by this influencer girl” at the same time alisha goes over her dating secrets 😭😭
Alisha! thank you for being open about your relationship with God. I so believe religion and faith are completely different, and religion can be traumatizing. I respect you so much for sharing about it
THIS IS BY FAR THEEE BEST EPISODE YET 👏🏻 I know Remi had her cal episode but I still want an all Remi ep like this!! I am here for the deep conversations!! I relate to Alisha in soo many ways and I find so much comfort in hearing her share her thoughts and experiences.
I love the way that you both communicate with each other. I can tell you both have such a healthy friendship. The way Remi always validates how Alisha feels and reassures her is so sweet.
Nothing like listening to the last half of this and saying "oh my god that's me" after most sentences. No one has ever described how I felt and/or who I am as a person. This was wonderful to listen to. Remi you gave such good advice during the "boring" conversations that I needed to hear, and have never heard. Thank you for that.
Hearing alisha open up more and more makes me relate to her even more especially with how her mental health has gone and her experience with growing up in the church and realizing as a child how hypocritical the adults are Love you alisha!!!!❤❤❤❤
Alisha's fear of fighting reminds me of Chandler from Friends. When he had his first fight with Monica he thought the relationship was over. Maybe Alisha needs to watch that episode 😄 Season 5 episode 15 🤔?
ALISHAAAAA!!! I just want you to know that i appreciate you so much for talking about your faith!! I love when creators are open about Christianity, and it’s really inspiring 🥹
Fellow INFJ here, I just want to say how much I enjoy and appreciate being let into the complexity of Alisha's way of thinking. I have been on a self growth journey this last year and have learned to embrace deeper aspects of myself and personally feel like the most authentic version of myself to date! So fun, we love therapy ❣️
Possibly my favourite episode, i relate to Alisha soo much more on a deeper level. I’m 20 and I’ve watched Alisha for about 9 years now 😅 and I’ve struggled with my mental health horrendously. I’ve been in therapy since I was 10 and have only just last week got diagnosed with autism… and I know ADHD and ASD have a lot in common. Love the pod girlies
This was such a good episode to get to know more about Alisha, her thought process, why she acts the way she does and we definitely got to understand her A LOT!!! loveeed it, and love uuu!!! you should do this more often 🫶🏾 - even seeing the whole "remi pls take this up", helped us to get to know your guys' relationship!!!
This is so refreshing to hear. Taking antidepressants is such a different journey for anyone who is prescribed them. Asking for help and not letting yourself suffer alone is the biggest flex. I love Alisha’s idea to see if she can be involved in helping those who may or may not need medication to feel mentally healthy.
Alisha I use to feel the same way about talking to people and then everyone turning to look at me. I’ve learned that I have to just look at one person at a time when talking. So like when you immediately get nervous when everyone looks at you, immediately look at Remi, get comfortable, then look at heath, then Zane. This way everybody feels like you’re talking to them and you don’t get so nervous telling a story
that's so true for my household too,, my parents made it a point to never show extreme displays of affection nor confrontation in front of me and my sister.. but i think the lack of examples of healthy conflict resolution has made me such a people pleaser in arguments!
I love the “conceited” explanation of being blocked by exes 😂 I’ve always told myself something similar (mainly to cheer myself up bc it is actually super hurtful to get blocked, especially when things end well & you dated for a long time/felt like they were still a good friend).
The way I gasped when Alisha said she’s an INFJ because me too! Watched you both for years and there are too many times to count where I said to myself wow Alisha and I are the same person and now I know why. Love the way you described it here because that’s exactly me and how I have felt in my life. ❤
This has to be one of my favorite episodes. For years, I've watched both of yours' content and always thought Alisha was an INFJ (as an INFJ myself) because I see myself a lot in Alisha. The whole time Alisha spoke made me feel so seen, it's like the voice in my head was talking. I love you both and the PB Team, I wish all the love and light towards your way! 🫶🏻💕✨
well first, both of you are GLOWING and second, can't wait for Alisha to take the mic and give us all the updates on her life ❤ i just know this is going to be a good one! ❤
Airwrap tip to keep curls longer: use the skinny barrel when it’s still damp, hold the hair for a couple of seconds then make sure to turn it off before pulling it away and repeat, hairspray before putting fingers/brush through it. Mine usually lasts about 3-4 days until I need to wash my hair again. I have fine hair and found that this has worked for me. Love my Airwrap!!!!
Was brilliant to have the tea spilt on Alisha's dating life experiences that she has overcome. Acceptance of body shape and skin type. To mental health, I hope she copes with that. This was the open and honest conversation needed on a Wednesday afternoon! 💜☕️🎤🎧
This was super comforting when you were talking about your struggles with trusting people and expressing your feelings. It truly is a process. Thank you, loves!
Its so crazy to hear that Alisha thinks she’s boring and not good at articulating. I never comment on videoes but I just had to comment cus I’m so passionate about how much I love and appreciate alisha😭 I love your life advice and your so good at articulating how it actually is to be a shy person. I can relate to you so much and I also feel like perceiving yourself as boring comes from being painfully self aware, like you analyze and overthink every single thing which makes you boring cus your always scared of being perceived by others, atleast thats how i feel. I love how you’re shy and awkward on the basically unfiltered pod, but what I also love is how you become so much more confident and funny with every single episode. And its such a relatable thing and I love you for showing it and putting yourself out there.
Alisha, your personal relationship with God is something you already are telling people about. I got the privilege of meeting you both at the last meet up and the people you guys ARE is the biggest sign of the peace and love you both carry in your hearts!
thank you for this so much!! I'm also an advocate, who almost all her life thinks is boring. Like I know a little about many things and can "support" conversations, but sometimes it's hard to start them. I'm good listener, but not talking too much if I wasn't asked. And tbh I think that we just need certain people who will really appreciate the listening skills, mostly the ones who really likes to talk and to be listened (not in a bad way!!!) I'm always amazed with how you both have such a good conversations, so you 100% NOT BORING, just sprecial elite advocate class, not like other girls ✨
I’m so glad that this episode was dedicated to Alisha. I relate so much to her church trauma. I never felt welcomed or accepted and that i wasn’t Godly enough to be there. I just started talking about how i felt in the past year and it was so relieving to hear her say that💜 Love you Losh!
That’s definitely one thing I truly admire about Alisha is the fact that you do not let men run your world. I love the fact that you are not boy crazy. If you can do a video on your own channel on advice on that, I would definitely tune in.
Alisha please please look into attachment styles!! This helped me SO MUCH in figuring out why I used to leave whenever conflict comes up vs. facing it head on. I used to think that conflict = we are going to break up as well, but now understanding my own reactions to conflict, it helped me unlearn my unhealthy patterns, learn how to communicate clearly, and learn that conflict is something I can get through (with the hopes that my partner can meet me halfway as well). Once you learn your AS, there’s info online and books that help you form a more secure AS (I recommend “Attached” by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller). And of course, this would be something worth discussing with your therapist as well :) hope this helps!
As a therapist/substance abused counselor it’s normally when there’s a good chemical balance that people feel they are automatically better. It does sound like you tapering down very slowly and maturely. If you notice symptoms reoccurring once off, listen to your body and don’t suffer in silence. It takes up to a year for your brain and body to begin producing serotonin naturally again.
As a fellow girly with raging late-diagnosed adhd (who also grew up deeeep in the church) - the way I’m FEELING every single word. I see you Alisha. I know the roughest and most debilitating aspects of it surface and eat you alive when you’re at home alone and not being perceived. Big big big hugs 💛 proud of you for sharing 🥹
never felt more closer and connected to Alisha, like I feel like im the same way with being outgoing or more myself w close friends vs more reserved in the group!
In law school I was on depression medication for a short period and I quit cold turkey and the way I was a completely different person for WEEKS when I did that. It was crazy.
IK this is late but I am SO glad Alisha got to open up more in this podcast! I relate so much to the topic of church. I was raised in a very strict and sadly toxic church community and honestly a lot of my trauma stems from it. It's great that others have found great things from church but idk...for me...I was more or less scarred. People keep trying to bring me back to church saying that I'm "missing" out on a important factor of life, and that I'm not being faithful. I think as long as you are living life in a positive and healthy manner, your opinion on religion should be respected. I respect ppl who go to church, and I am genuinely happy that church has had a positive impact on their life. In a similar notion, I just wish people would respect my preference to not associate with the church, and be happy to hear that I'm doing better now that I am out of it. It just feels like people who want to convert me don't whole heartedly respect and wish the best for me as I do for them.
the healthy communication skills is so hard. when I met my husband he was the first person who taught me it's not always an argument it's just a conversation.. and girl, grass is not greener on the other side.. it's greener where you water it babe. 🎉
Alisha!! I’m an INFJ too and you explained how I feel/am so well. It’s definitely hard sometimes but this made me feel not so alone. Love you and Remi so much!!
I'm an INFJ too! NO WONDER I related to Alisha so much even though I'm 10 years older 😂 having to change our personality around different people and having a hard time showing our true self...it DOES get better with age
They won’t ever see this since I’m late but thank you guys so much for this episode. Just hearing Alisha open up made me feel very validated with her religion and being more private even with friends!❤️
Thank god you said that because especially on BU on the first episodes you were so on it and amazing and then all of a sudden remi just took the reigns and you were soooo silent, and we were alla like alishaaa please talk moreee and the same with pb the last few episodes were sooooo remi focused , so glad youre back 6:06
I understand we are our worst critics and we cant control our brain sometimes but it makes me sad how Alisha talks down on herself when she is so amazing!! I hope you continue to stride for self love bc you are not boring!!
Wow I knew I related to Alisha a lot but i feel like I really understood her this episode especially when it came to talking about her personality I’m also an INFJ and I feel like I struggle with overthinking and being to hard on myself and it’s just nice to feel seen and know it’s not just me. Loved the vulnerability in the episodes lately ❤
IM INFJ TOOO!!!! Its rough out here sometimes but as a clinical social worker it helps for us to be the advocate ❤ You perceive the world differently and we’re here to support you
I'm can totally relate to the trust thing... I don't trust anyone unless i know them very well..I'm also someone who can't deal with confrontation so the second i face a situation with confrontation i freak out and assume that's the end of the relationship.
Being EXTREMELY observant about surroundings is a very common ADHD trait! Back in the day perceiving a small movement in our peripheral vision was the difference between life and death. Now a days our brains use this super power to read social cues and other types of things! Thats why people with ADHD are the best at reading the vibe of the room or reading people’s true intentions. There are social cues that you might not be realizing are there, but our brains do
1:03:10 lida!! *literally* when you said quick witted, immediately my braincells played “so quick witted..” if you see this comment, pls reply where that’s from!😂i know you know! i know *ofc* but i want to see if you acc remember.😂😂😂
Me not growing up seeing a healthy example of conflict and resolving it so feeling the need to hold in all my feelings to avoid the conflict is SOOOOO REAL!! I had to 100% figure it out on my own as an adult and I still struggle with it a lot 😭
Just a side note - Zoloft doesn't include serotonin. It is an SSRI and they treat depression by increasing levels of serotonin in the brain through blocking the reabsorption (reuptake) of serotonin into neurons. So your brain is still making the same amount of serotonin, the meds just allow more of that serotonin to make its way to the brain :)
As someone who also had adhd, ocd, and grew up with family super in the church I understand Alisha too well (also bday on April 6🤭). I think I understand where she’s coming from about talking more about God and how He’s helped her. You guys are includencers, your job is to influence people. How many times do you tell people you NEED this item (when in reality it’s not a necessity). So when it comes to something that truly helped save her life, the relationship she has with God, I get why she wants to share it. I think the fear comes from the negative condemnation around Christians and how hateful we are perceived. But she could really be a bright light of Jesus’s love and kindness that He shows to us daily. 🖤
I also took Zoloft for a couple years up to 100mg. Going down 25 was great for me til I got to the last 25. We went from 25 to cold turkey and I felt like I was d*ying. I would recommend maybe cutting to like 10 and then zero! But obviously listen to your doctors advice lol. just spreading awareness to be cautious ❤ sending healing and love to anyone who needs it.
I totally feel you of the fear of being boring. I feel boring to people I don’t know. I also feel boring compared to other versions of myself. But with friends or in certain situations I don’t feel boring. I would agree I wouldn’t be surprised if some of the reserved behavior is connected with a certain version of being neurospicy (I relate as well)
Words of advice about not wanting to fight with a partner: the strength of a relationship isn’t determined by how often fight but by how productive the fights are! If you are arguing and listening and changing and growing, then those are productive!!!
miss alisha, i've watched you and remi for yearrrrrsssss & i feel like it's so obvious you're plagued by overthinking. please free yourself from caring about the judgement of others. i feel like you're always trying to fit yourself into a box... when you should be limitless babe! maybe try exposure therapy and do random activities alone to really find yourself mama 💗 all love
OKAY! How do I get a Remi in my life... Not me sitting here listening to Alisha say yes thats me and Remi just pours all this stuff out. I need me a REMI!
remi use moose or some type of texture spray to make your hair last longer! it’ll be crunchy but use a little bit of oil to get rid of that stiff layer
This episode made me realize I am so alike Alisha with feeling “boring” and not opening up to people unless they specifically ask me a question! Loved getting to hear about this side of her💕
The parallel conversation was such a delight to hear.
Understanding dreams change and it’s okay not to be good at everything cause peace is more important.
Remi your patience and how you give the space to allow Alisha to share how she feels and validate her is so beautiful. You guys are helping a lot of people with this conversation. I hope you both know that 💛
pink and brown are now my new fav colors together. alisha looks stunning.
no cause i’ve been saying FOR YEARSSSS pink and brown eatssssss
Same I always thought it was cute because of chocolate strawberry ice cream
not zane and heath also uploading an ep today titled “zane gets exposed by this influencer girl” at the same time alisha goes over her dating secrets 😭😭
Reading all the comments and LOVE YALL SM 😭🫶🏻🎀
Hey alisha try humming when u overthink. It slows ur thoughts down. Iiterally impossible to hum and think alot at once! 😁
Alisha! thank you for being open about your relationship with God. I so believe religion and faith are completely different, and religion can be traumatizing. I respect you so much for sharing about it
THIS IS BY FAR THEEE BEST EPISODE YET 👏🏻 I know Remi had her cal episode but I still want an all Remi ep like this!! I am here for the deep conversations!! I relate to Alisha in soo many ways and I find so much comfort in hearing her share her thoughts and experiences.
Sooo happy to hear you enjoyed it!! 🥹
I love the way that you both communicate with each other. I can tell you both have such a healthy friendship. The way Remi always validates how Alisha feels and reassures her is so sweet.
This episode gave Lizzie McGuire vibes. I would have had an animated Alisha on the thumbnail
IMAGINE all thumbnails animated 🤩😮💨🌟👏🏻💞💞💞💞💞
Nothing like listening to the last half of this and saying "oh my god that's me" after most sentences. No one has ever described how I felt and/or who I am as a person. This was wonderful to listen to. Remi you gave such good advice during the "boring" conversations that I needed to hear, and have never heard. Thank you for that.
Hearing alisha open up more and more makes me relate to her even more especially with how her mental health has gone and her experience with growing up in the church and realizing as a child how hypocritical the adults are
Love you alisha!!!!❤❤❤❤
Alisha’s honesty about Parallel is everything ❤
Alisha's fear of fighting reminds me of Chandler from Friends. When he had his first fight with Monica he thought the relationship was over. Maybe Alisha needs to watch that episode 😄
Season 5 episode 15 🤔?
OMG girl as a fellow INFJ with ADHD this is crazy. It's like you're inside my brain, loved hearing more and being able to relate
I think they are tired of our Alisha And Zane comments 🤣 love you guys🫶🏻
ALISHAAAAA!!! I just want you to know that i appreciate you so much for talking about your faith!! I love when creators are open about Christianity, and it’s really inspiring 🥹
Same 🥹 I understand it can be a very personal journey, but I do appreciate it when people share their thoughts ❤
Fellow INFJ here, I just want to say how much I enjoy and appreciate being let into the complexity of Alisha's way of thinking. I have been on a self growth journey this last year and have learned to embrace deeper aspects of myself and personally feel like the most authentic version of myself to date! So fun, we love therapy ❣️
Possibly my favourite episode, i relate to Alisha soo much more on a deeper level. I’m 20 and I’ve watched Alisha for about 9 years now 😅 and I’ve struggled with my mental health horrendously. I’ve been in therapy since I was 10 and have only just last week got diagnosed with autism… and I know ADHD and ASD have a lot in common. Love the pod girlies
THIS WAS AMAZING. I have been waiting for the day we get to hear more about alishas life and updates. Y’all made my day
This was such a good episode to get to know more about Alisha, her thought process, why she acts the way she does and we definitely got to understand her A LOT!!! loveeed it, and love uuu!!! you should do this more often 🫶🏾 - even seeing the whole "remi pls take this up", helped us to get to know your guys' relationship!!!
This is so refreshing to hear. Taking antidepressants is such a different journey for anyone who is prescribed them. Asking for help and not letting yourself suffer alone is the biggest flex. I love Alisha’s idea to see if she can be involved in helping those who may or may not need medication to feel mentally healthy.
Alisha I use to feel the same way about talking to people and then everyone turning to look at me.
I’ve learned that I have to just look at one person at a time when talking.
So like when you immediately get nervous when everyone looks at you, immediately look at Remi, get comfortable, then look at heath, then Zane. This way everybody feels like you’re talking to them and you don’t get so nervous telling a story
this is actually such good advice I’m gonna do this now!!
@@IconVlog. this is such a great tip thank you!!
that's so true for my household too,, my parents made it a point to never show extreme displays of affection nor confrontation in front of me and my sister.. but i think the lack of examples of healthy conflict resolution has made me such a people pleaser in arguments!
I love the “conceited” explanation of being blocked by exes 😂 I’ve always told myself something similar (mainly to cheer myself up bc it is actually super hurtful to get blocked, especially when things end well & you dated for a long time/felt like they were still a good friend).
So nice to get to know Alisha on a deeper level, I feel it’s very private with her usually but it’s motivating me to open up more to people.
The way I gasped when Alisha said she’s an INFJ because me too! Watched you both for years and there are too many times to count where I said to myself wow Alisha and I are the same person and now I know why. Love the way you described it here because that’s exactly me and how I have felt in my life. ❤
I have ALWAYS related to Alisha at so many levels. The Fact that she is also an INFJ is crazy!!!
Alisha: it’s not my fault I look drastically different with makeup
Remi: …. Ok
😂😂😂
This has to be one of my favorite episodes. For years, I've watched both of yours' content and always thought Alisha was an INFJ (as an INFJ myself) because I see myself a lot in Alisha. The whole time Alisha spoke made me feel so seen, it's like the voice in my head was talking. I love you both and the PB Team, I wish all the love and light towards your way! 🫶🏻💕✨
Remi, you are such an authentic bestie. I need a Remi in my life. I love how you validated Alisha and loved on her with your words. ❤
well first, both of you are GLOWING and second, can't wait for Alisha to take the mic and give us all the updates on her life ❤ i just know this is going to be a good one! ❤
Airwrap tip to keep curls longer: use the skinny barrel when it’s still damp, hold the hair for a couple of seconds then make sure to turn it off before pulling it away and repeat, hairspray before putting fingers/brush through it. Mine usually lasts about 3-4 days until I need to wash my hair again. I have fine hair and found that this has worked for me. Love my Airwrap!!!!
Gotta try this! Thank you!
Was brilliant to have the tea spilt on Alisha's dating life experiences that she has overcome. Acceptance of body shape and skin type. To mental health, I hope she copes with that. This was the open and honest conversation needed on a Wednesday afternoon! 💜☕️🎤🎧
Thanks for watching Rebecca. If you ever have any other topics that we should talk about let us know!! :)
This was super comforting when you were talking about your struggles with trusting people and expressing your feelings. It truly is a process. Thank you, loves!
Its so crazy to hear that Alisha thinks she’s boring and not good at articulating. I never comment on videoes but I just had to comment cus I’m so passionate about how much I love and appreciate alisha😭 I love your life advice and your so good at articulating how it actually is to be a shy person. I can relate to you so much and I also feel like perceiving yourself as boring comes from being painfully self aware, like you analyze and overthink every single thing which makes you boring cus your always scared of being perceived by others, atleast thats how i feel. I love how you’re shy and awkward on the basically unfiltered pod, but what I also love is how you become so much more confident and funny with every single episode. And its such a relatable thing and I love you for showing it and putting yourself out there.
Alisha, your personal relationship with God is something you already are telling people about. I got the privilege of meeting you both at the last meet up and the people you guys ARE is the biggest sign of the peace and love you both carry in your hearts!
This was honestly one of my favs PLS DO A PART 2 PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE
alisha is not boring she's just around people that prioritize a certain kind of personality!
thank you for this so much!! I'm also an advocate, who almost all her life thinks is boring. Like I know a little about many things and can "support" conversations, but sometimes it's hard to start them. I'm good listener, but not talking too much if I wasn't asked. And tbh I think that we just need certain people who will really appreciate the listening skills, mostly the ones who really likes to talk and to be listened (not in a bad way!!!) I'm always amazed with how you both have such a good conversations, so you 100% NOT BORING, just sprecial elite advocate class, not like other girls ✨
I’m so glad that this episode was dedicated to Alisha. I relate so much to her church trauma. I never felt welcomed or accepted and that i wasn’t Godly enough to be there. I just started talking about how i felt in the past year and it was so relieving to hear her say that💜 Love you Losh!
Love love LOVED this episode!!!! So refreshing to hear Alisha speak so candidly, and Remi's commentary was so supportive ❤ I love yalls friendship
Love that you post in the morning 😩 my favorite thing to watch while getting ready for work.
Alisha is so down to earth and grounded . She is such a boss woman but also so humble and caring. Love you both ❤️
That’s definitely one thing I truly admire about Alisha is the fact that you do not let men run your world. I love the fact that you are not boy crazy. If you can do a video on your own channel on advice on that, I would definitely tune in.
Same same
i’ve never felt so similar to someone but alisha is literally my twin. always connected and related to you guys but i loved this episode so much 🫶🏽
Alisha please please look into attachment styles!! This helped me SO MUCH in figuring out why I used to leave whenever conflict comes up vs. facing it head on. I used to think that conflict = we are going to break up as well, but now understanding my own reactions to conflict, it helped me unlearn my unhealthy patterns, learn how to communicate clearly, and learn that conflict is something I can get through (with the hopes that my partner can meet me halfway as well). Once you learn your AS, there’s info online and books that help you form a more secure AS (I recommend “Attached” by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller). And of course, this would be something worth discussing with your therapist as well :) hope this helps!
As a therapist/substance abused counselor it’s normally when there’s a good chemical balance that people feel they are automatically better. It does sound like you tapering down very slowly and maturely. If you notice symptoms reoccurring once off, listen to your body and don’t suffer in silence. It takes up to a year for your brain and body to begin producing serotonin naturally again.
Thanks for talking about homeless people or those that can’t afford medication! Such an important issue. Love you both💗
As a fellow girly with raging late-diagnosed adhd (who also grew up deeeep in the church) - the way I’m FEELING every single word. I see you Alisha. I know the roughest and most debilitating aspects of it surface and eat you alive when you’re at home alone and not being perceived. Big big big hugs 💛 proud of you for sharing 🥹
the colour you guys were wearing (hehe watched both of your color analysis' videos) they made you both look gorgggg
never felt more closer and connected to Alisha, like I feel like im the same way with being outgoing or more myself w close friends vs more reserved in the group!
resonated so much with alisha, thank you for sharing! we love to see the authenticity
Omg Alisha summed up everything I’ve been feeling about church, religion and God as someone who also grew up in the church 😭🥹
In law school I was on depression medication for a short period and I quit cold turkey and the way I was a completely different person for WEEKS when I did that. It was crazy.
love waking up to some pretty basic 🎀💞💓
IK this is late but I am SO glad Alisha got to open up more in this podcast! I relate so much to the topic of church. I was raised in a very strict and sadly toxic church community and honestly a lot of my trauma stems from it. It's great that others have found great things from church but idk...for me...I was more or less scarred. People keep trying to bring me back to church saying that I'm "missing" out on a important factor of life, and that I'm not being faithful. I think as long as you are living life in a positive and healthy manner, your opinion on religion should be respected. I respect ppl who go to church, and I am genuinely happy that church has had a positive impact on their life. In a similar notion, I just wish people would respect my preference to not associate with the church, and be happy to hear that I'm doing better now that I am out of it. It just feels like people who want to convert me don't whole heartedly respect and wish the best for me as I do for them.
the healthy communication skills is so hard. when I met my husband he was the first person who taught me it's not always an argument it's just a conversation.. and girl, grass is not greener on the other side.. it's greener where you water it babe. 🎉
Alisha!! I’m an INFJ too and you explained how I feel/am so well. It’s definitely hard sometimes but this made me feel not so alone.
Love you and Remi so much!!
Listening to Alisha's inner battles made me realize how much I struggle with some of them myself. I am also an infj!
Alisha is my INFJ mirror 😮
@@Belle_Faye I swear I'm also an Aries like her too lol
Also an INFJ ❤ Makes sense why I love Alisha and Remi so much! I relate to both in so many different ways and why Pretty Basic is my favorite podcast!
I'm an INFJ too! NO WONDER I related to Alisha so much even though I'm 10 years older 😂 having to change our personality around different people and having a hard time showing our true self...it DOES get better with age
They won’t ever see this since I’m late but thank you guys so much for this episode. Just hearing Alisha open up made me feel very validated with her religion and being more private even with friends!❤️
Thank you for watching!!
Thank god you said that because especially on BU on the first episodes you were so on it and amazing and then all of a sudden remi just took the reigns and you were soooo silent, and we were alla like alishaaa please talk moreee and the same with pb the last few episodes were sooooo remi focused , so glad youre back 6:06
I understand we are our worst critics and we cant control our brain sometimes but it makes me sad how Alisha talks down on herself when she is so amazing!! I hope you continue to stride for self love bc you are not boring!!
We hype others so much, let's do that to ourselves!
Love Remi’s response regards to Alisha’s religious beliefs . ❤️❤️❤️
Wow I knew I related to Alisha a lot but i feel like I really understood her this episode especially when it came to talking about her personality I’m also an INFJ and I feel like I struggle with overthinking and being to hard on myself and it’s just nice to feel seen and know it’s not just me.
Loved the vulnerability in the episodes lately ❤
this episode made me realize how much alisha and i are alike. and it feels so relieving im not alone in feeling/being the way i am
This is one of my fave episodes! You truly are soul sisters 🥺
IM INFJ TOOO!!!! Its rough out here sometimes but as a clinical social worker it helps for us to be the advocate ❤ You perceive the world differently and we’re here to support you
I'm can totally relate to the trust thing... I don't trust anyone unless i know them very well..I'm also someone who can't deal with confrontation so the second i face a situation with confrontation i freak out and assume that's the end of the relationship.
Being EXTREMELY observant about surroundings is a very common ADHD trait! Back in the day perceiving a small movement in our peripheral vision was the difference between life and death. Now a days our brains use this super power to read social cues and other types of things! Thats why people with ADHD are the best at reading the vibe of the room or reading people’s true intentions. There are social cues that you might not be realizing are there, but our brains do
1:03:10 lida!! *literally* when you said quick witted, immediately my braincells played “so quick witted..” if you see this comment, pls reply where that’s from!😂i know you know! i know *ofc* but i want to see if you acc remember.😂😂😂
Me not growing up seeing a healthy example of conflict and resolving it so feeling the need to hold in all my feelings to avoid the conflict is SOOOOO REAL!! I had to 100% figure it out on my own as an adult and I still struggle with it a lot 😭
This episode is what I needed now! Loved it❤ alisha saying 'I'm an enigma " hahahaha laughing remembering the basically unfiltered episode 😂
Remi and I being the main characters gives iconic !! Love a fellow ENFJ🤍
Just a side note - Zoloft doesn't include serotonin. It is an SSRI and they treat depression by increasing levels of serotonin in the brain through blocking the reabsorption (reuptake) of serotonin into neurons. So your brain is still making the same amount of serotonin, the meds just allow more of that serotonin to make its way to the brain :)
Thank you for opening up so much alisha! We are all just very traumatized humans 😭
As someone who also had adhd, ocd, and grew up with family super in the church I understand Alisha too well (also bday on April 6🤭). I think I understand where she’s coming from about talking more about God and how He’s helped her. You guys are includencers, your job is to influence people. How many times do you tell people you NEED this item (when in reality it’s not a necessity). So when it comes to something that truly helped save her life, the relationship she has with God, I get why she wants to share it. I think the fear comes from the negative condemnation around Christians and how hateful we are perceived. But she could really be a bright light of Jesus’s love and kindness that He shows to us daily. 🖤
I never realized how much Alisha and I are alike! Loved this episode, guys :)
You know it’s gonna be a good day when they post🙌🏻💕😭
I loved this episode! I haven’t watched the pod in a long time and it was such a good episode to draw me back in ❤❤❤
This episode made me realize that I am literally Alisha. I related to every single thing she said
Needed this. Alisha, your words spoke volumes to the way I feel. ❤ loved the episode!
I also took Zoloft for a couple years up to 100mg. Going down 25 was great for me til I got to the last 25. We went from 25 to cold turkey and I felt like I was d*ying. I would recommend maybe cutting to like 10 and then zero! But obviously listen to your doctors advice lol. just spreading awareness to be cautious ❤ sending healing and love to anyone who needs it.
I love this episode!! this is my favorite podcast! y’all are amazing🩷🩷
Thank you!! Let us know what we should talk about next!!
everything that you explained I can relate SO much Alisha. You were able to explain it in a way that I could never do
Wow i have never felt so heard and validated. THANK YOU for this ep omg!! Feeling like Alisha's twin at this point
Both of you guys are fun to watch and make really enjoyable things and I’m happy you put it out into the world 🤗
first time WATCHING this pod and im obsessed love you guys
So excited to have you here!!!
I totally feel you of the fear of being boring. I feel boring to people I don’t know. I also feel boring compared to other versions of myself. But with friends or in certain situations I don’t feel boring. I would agree I wouldn’t be surprised if some of the reserved behavior is connected with a certain version of being neurospicy (I relate as well)
Words of advice about not wanting to fight with a partner: the strength of a relationship isn’t determined by how often fight but by how productive the fights are! If you are arguing and listening and changing and growing, then those are productive!!!
MANIFESTING ALISHA'S DATE WITH GLEN POWELL
me too girl lol
miss alisha, i've watched you and remi for yearrrrrsssss & i feel like it's so obvious you're plagued by overthinking. please free yourself from caring about the judgement of others. i feel like you're always trying to fit yourself into a box... when you should be limitless babe! maybe try exposure therapy and do random activities alone to really find yourself mama 💗 all love
Alisha, Remi, you don’t even have to say anything, just use the pink sparkle heart emoji if Alisha is dating Zane 😂💖👀
Alisha girl you’re perfect. You’re amazing. You’re girl boss. I love who you are.
I don’t know why but I think Joe Santagato from the basement yard and Alisha would hit it off. Or at least, non stop laughter
OKAY! How do I get a Remi in my life... Not me sitting here listening to Alisha say yes thats me and Remi just pours all this stuff out. I need me a REMI!
remi use moose or some type of texture spray to make your hair last longer! it’ll be crunchy but use a little bit of oil to get rid of that stiff layer
comfort podcast. I love yall💌💌
Omg I'm an infj too and related to alisha sooooo much in this episode