Overcome the Shame and Guilt of Addiction
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- Опубліковано 6 вер 2024
- In this video, Special guest Arlina Allen (from the Podcast: One Day At A Time) will help you overcome the shame and guilt of addiction. Addiction is a serious and chronic problem, but it's not impossible to overcome.
If you're struggling with addiction and feeling ashamed and guilty, don't let that hold you back. In this video, I'll share some strategies for overcoming addiction and rebuilding your self-esteem. You can do this!
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I forwarded this to my AW and asked her to watch it when she felt like she was ready to. We seem to be taking 2 steps forward and 4 steps back at times. She will go about 2 weeks sober before she binges for 3, 4 days. Then she gets down on herself. An emotional perpetual motion machine, of sorts.
Good stuff. She shared alot of symptoms that describes my late wife.her behavior when she was drinking . Unfortunately she drank to the bitter end in hospital bed. My god it's so baffling. Rest in peace my Love. Thank you for all your videos!
Ever since I became sober I've been doing Yoga, reading books, watching Netflix and doinf other things which I had done when I was drinking but e.g. when I was playing the piano then it was real cacaphony sometimes and now I really feel I'm playing well. I found all the little things that give me joy.
This video was unbelievably helpful to me. I will be rewatching it many times I can predict. It’s in my saved videos from here on. 💪🏼
Hi Marisa! I'm so glad this was helpful to you. Thank you for taking the time to leave this kind feedback! 😁
This girl and i have such a similar story. Even about the religious background. WOW. Im sober 2 yrs and being able to identify that it was the shame i internalized BEFORE becoming an addict helped me get to root cause healing. AA and restoring my relationship with God has allowed me to feel safe again and to explore my areas of buried hurt amd shame. Shame was the elephant on my back, not the alcohol. Now that i have healed that, i do not have cravings. I still attend AA as it is my spiritual program choicem thank you for this interview.
And one more thing to add to Addicts out there... we are poisoning ourselves and i now have cancer as of 5 mos ago i got diagnosed even tho i am sober 25 months. The damage we do with emotional unresolved pain, plus the actual poison is real. Please tale care.
Amber DOES get it better than anyone I have ever known!
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Thank you so much for all you do! These videos bring be so much knowledge and peace. ❤
❤❤❤ this was a fantastic video. Thank you for having her on and share her story. Its helping me help someone dear to me thats young. Mainly by helping us hahaha.
Thanks!
OMG, WOW!!!! Thank you sooo much. That's very generous of you 😁😁😁😁
This has been soo helpful and I almost fell over when your speaker mentioned my home town. Made it even better. Feelings are the same even if circumstances are different. Love it . Thank you
That's awesome, Janell. So glad this was helpful 💜
Minute 48 is great for evenings
Wow! This story sounds so familiar! Thank you for sharing your experience!
Thanks for watching!
This was fantastic. THANK YOU!
Glad you enjoyed it!
Beautiful video. Thank you Amber and Arlina. Loved everything about this video and your ending on boundaries. I had to set a firm boundary with a woman who has 10 years of sobriety but still needed to be seen and heard at my expense. I felt better for doing it, but I choose not to be around this person for my own well being and peace of mind. Keep these wonderful videos coming....
This is a beautiful video.
Thank you, Beverly!
Love this video, it sums up my daughter
Sums up my wife that passed away. She drank to the bitter end. So baffling that alcohol.
She been in article addiction over 30yrs, it's been a way of life, and I just don't know if there's anything I can do or not do, to make any difference
And we also trade one addiction for another during the process of healing.
Tried to share videos with my partner, she asked me not send anymore
Do you have any advise or suggestions how to deal with estranged children.
My step kids have cut my husband and I off due to dysfunction while growing up.
I really want you make amends but not sure how
Thank you
I'm an adult child in low contact with my mum (I'd cut all contact if I didn't feel so responsible for her emotionally, because she hurts me on the regular). All I'd want from her would be for her to seek therapy about her own trauma. And for her to stop taking out her emotional pain on me and overstepping. She doesn't realize she's doing it. I'd also love for her to acknowledge what she's done and sincerely apologize to me (in a way that didn't lead to me having to comfort or otherwise emotionally carry her), but that's not something I expect to ever get.
You could seek therapy for your own sake. They could help you reach out to your children through a short letter or text for example. The kindest thing you can do for them is work on yourself, apologize, let them know you are there but also that you respect their need for space (and mean it). Tell them you love them.
But also understand that this is all traumatic and heavy for them (an apology, healing as it is to receive, if it is sincere, is also very heavy and brings up grief, relief and resentment), and they may not be ready or willing to be in contact with you.
If you write to them, you should do it for its own sake (for you and for them), not as a tactic to get them back.
When adult children cut their parents off it's usually not about what happened in our childhoods but about how we're being treated still today.
I wish you all the best. I can recommend Fabulous Fifties on TikTok. She's a mother of adult children and has a lot of wisdom about this topic from a mother's perspective.
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