It goes deeper than that. In japan people wont make friends with other people when they are adults. Thats why you hear so many japanese people say "this is my friend from highschool" and things like that. Being a foreigner makes it easier to befriend someone who is japanese, because they are curious and have so many questions, besides foreigners will easily call someone else friend after meeting once 😅
@@leredditcommander8208must be one reason why the suicide rate is so high... If you didnt make friends in school, chances are you won't ever have any friends how you put it, huh?
Friends in America aren't the same anymore back in the last as i grew up. Friends are hard to find now and sometimes its best to stay on your own and take care of the people who live in your circle of life.
@@Danny-yv8bqAwe. I just think they're fewer and far between. But. There are definitely some great great people out there! When you meet a great friend it's all the better. It's like hitting the jackpot!
Southern heat and hospitality, Chicago winters and midwestern values, CA optimism. Grandpa saw it all and makes a very cogent point. He has inciteful Japanese wisdom.
@@thepatriarchy819 not if you’re a businessman like this man clearly was. This man was in the heart of big money in America and clearly played his role well.
So true. Go to a Japanese party of any kind: barbecue, picnic, ordinary party, whatever. People who are ALREADY friends will cluster together and absolutely SHUN any attempt by an "outsider" to make contact with them. This completely negates the whole point of the party, of course. But they don't see it. So you end up with a bunch of little clots of people who have nothing to do with the other clots but they are all partying in the same small area. It's downright weird.
@@Alyssaa3461 The definition of a friend varies from person to person and culture to culture. For me, it's people that I share 15+ years of past with, whose family I know and who always have time for me even if we don't talk for months. Everyone else is maybe a good acquaintance, even if I spend more time with those than my true friends. I would definitely not call any person I only meet at parties a "friend". I guess Japanese coincidentally have made their friends in school/college or later in their work life just like everyone else.
@@Dickstickinteresting. I have found it to be similar with my good friends and loose friends. Gosh the 6 years in the states were so tough. So many acquaintances but no one to actually talk to. I still have 1 friend from that time and I am very happy about that. But most other people I met where just kinda pretending… not in a bad way that’s just the culture. You say yes to everything but it’s understood that you probably don’t mean it. Very non confrontational…
I peep them at raves just always huddled up amongst themselves, I tend to talk to everyone but they're particularly hard to get to open up at functions like that fs
We are in India but my friends like making friends 😂😂😂 although this video is about America and Japan but personalities defines people better than countries 😂
I had a French girl I met confused as to why I talked to people randomly in shops and stuff if I didn’t know them. She found me being so chatty with strangers weird. I said it’s normal in America to just chat with whoever just being friendly. If Europeans think I’m weird for being outwardly friendly I can only imagine how the Japanese would react. Lol
I used to know this French international student when I was in college. He said the same thing. In France, people would find it rude to converse without having some type of pre established connection. You had to both share an acquaintance in order to make a friend. His time here in the US was spent actively making friends, partying, doing clubs, and going on trips with people. He eventually went back home but seriously considered staying. He had a career waiting back home, but didn't know how he was going to handle losing the social aspect he grew to love.
@@Tiotsa fair. I’m American but a first generation one. My family is Italian, so I’m sure my outwardly friendly/talkative demeanor is largely influenced by that.
@@yeahtbh.161Not so much when it comes to strangers, at least with central and Northern Europeans. They aren’t mean per say, just less open to strangers
@@abdullahal-shimri3091move out of downtown. it's expensive and not safe. i live in lake view right by the lake. way less crime and we only pay 1200 for a two bedroom.
They often do, yes. I live there. Old people, actually, not quite so much. He’s an exception. Most of them dress in a rather shabby fashion. They become, understandably, obsessed with trying not to spend anything at all. Even on food. You can see elderly people in spades, here, who look quite literally malnourished. Bags of shuffling bones.
@@Albert-Arthur-Wison225old Japanese have classic, clean and nostalgia in their fashion like uniform style or retro. But nowadays they're catching up the western trends and outlaw fashion
The rest of the interview was really interesting The best thing that can happen to Japan is not foreigners immigrating, but rather japanese naturals living abroad for a while and bringing different experiences and ideas back to Japan. I think only then will society as a whole start to adapt, modernize and change things for the better where it makes sense, as well as honoring traditions where those are of possitive value for everyone
Just curious, "best thing that can happen to Japan is not foreigners immigrating" why do you think that? Why just having Japanese coming back to japan after living abroad is better? Why are foreigners not so good in your opinion? Is no immigration the idea?
@@kendobc because of nationalism and resistance to "foreign" branding. You'd be surprised how much influence your appearance has over people's likelyhood of listening to you, especially in a relatively secluded, homogenous society like Japan It's not that foreigners are not so good in my opinion, but rather some consertvative people have this negative reaction to people from outside their group bringing in change or criticism. It's like when americans tell you "this is how murica works, if you don't like it then leave" but they'd be more open to listen to the same idea coming from a white dude with a thick southern accent and a shotgun
@@kokorochacarero8003 In my experience the most vocal of these negative reactions from conservative people in Japan are actually foreigners who came to live in Japan and they don't like "foreigner" thinking invading "their" Japan. I have found most Japanese are interested in learning about other cultures. It's the foreigners living in Japan that don't want things to change (and the kusojiji in charge but that is really a problem everywhere).
Someone I knew from Kyoto said something like less people, more trust. Something like quality over quantity type of meaning. I’ve applied that mostly myself as well, because when you are super busy all the time, a small group is easier to manage than a bunch of ‘friends’ that are not really that close with you.
Here in Indonesia there are two lose tiers of friends, first is “teman”, it translates to friend in dictionary, but it really is more accurate as good acquaintances. Then there’s “sahabat” (adapted from arabic word), those are the ones that you feel you can talk about anything and really be yourself without fear of being judged
We really need this distinction in English. At least in America, some people act like the close friends have the same impact as acquaintances when it could not be further than the truth. It creates a culture where you are not sure who your true friends are and as such loneliness is that much more of a problem.
I personally think that both can be good in different contexts. I'm very happy to know a lot of people, and I think it's especially useful for business (or if you need something - like the joke that everybody needs to know a mechanic). Since this gentleman was in the US for his career, it makes sense that he particularly felt this difference. BUT let me tell you, NO ONE is there for you like your inner circle of Japanese friends. Although I have a few true friends from the other countries where I've lived, the majority of them are from my 7 years in Japan - even 2 years after moving away. It's hard to find that type of deep bond with a lot of people. And my experience across Europe and in Canada has been more that most people are superficially friendly but don't really want closer relationships. Of course this is just my experience, but I feel so lucky to have my close circle of Japanese friends.
@@johnsonjohn4407 I've actually never been to Denmark, let alone lived there, but I do know that my father loved Denmark very much. (It felt wordy to list out that I've lived in France, Germany, Switzerland, and Finland, but might be good for clarity's sake...) And of course it's down to any individual experience. I know that many people find it hard to get really close with Japanese people, but I think it's more of a language barrier issue usually. And if you're *from* a place it can change entirely. My husband is French, and his group of close friends have all known each other since middle or high school! Regardless of where one finds it, those close bonds are truly special, I think.
Really interesting and poignant. Western culture express more outwardly where in east Asia expression is more guarded. My mom visited me in Korea, tryed to talk to people who were clearly not comfortable with chit chat. Very nice person here.
I was hoping to get some nuance about the differences in those places because they’re drastically dissimilar. Either way it’s all good, and I’m just happy to hear my city (Atl) in the convo
If you're a foreigner plenty of Japanese people want a token foreign friend as an accessory so that's an easy route, but to be fair those people aren't really friends with you they only value your demographic. Making actual friends with Japanese people is also possible, but difficult unless you're part of a social group already.
“Friends” in Japan is only temporary. You’ll have a blast for one night but try again and they’ll outright ignore you. It’s cruel but it’s common here. Try Taiwan
That's what I observed too on Japanese people that I highly respect, they keep people tight as a group and emphasize respect. I'm a Filipino American. Filipinos like to group but sad to say someone tries to be a leader breaking and recreate group for their own. In gatherings, you'll hear Filipinos gossiping and talking crap about fellow Filipinos causing distrust and ended breaking up the group. This is why you don't see much Filipinos on leadership position here in the US.
He's so true! I love Japan so much and always admire them. From last few months I tried to approach many Japanese natives via insta,FB because I want to learn more about them purely, but they are just untouchable untouchable! 😅 I wish they get more Frank & friendly, although I respect everybody's privacy. Love from India❤🇮🇳
Yes it’s definitely not a good thing. How will you get further in life if you continue closing yourself off to others? I’m an introvert and even i know this.
@@AshishSharma-yk7qr I feel like as someone who as gotten to that point as well, it is incredibly hard to make friends after getting used to being alone for so long
I had a Army roommate who was army brat that grew up in Japan. He loved everything about it. I remember him talking about how different watching the news was - he said it was a lot less depressing.
Please do a one hour and a half format for him. Like sit and have tea. PLEASE try to think about. His experience id long, he has lots of interesting things to share. It's important for humanity and to make Japan and East-Asia more understood and even loved.
I noticed that about Japanese international students too. When they go to western university, they would have these tendencies like only look up to and socializing with white local students, only interact with their own Japanese group. Then they will look down on other Asian looking students with a cocky elite mindset, as if only elite students in other Asian countries are qualified to be international students. And their attitude, tone, will be very friendly and relatively submissive to white looking students, but it's not the case for other color of local students, even Asian Americans. I do enjoy their culture and everything, but I find it hard to interact with them when you're not white. It's very rare to meet a Japanese international student that doesn't apply to what I just described, and when I do, I usually find them to be the ones that doesn't stay in their Japanese group much.
interesting well, their culture is somewhat more racist. so as long as they learn to give basic dignity (even in disdain), that is a good step away from abuse.
@@noskalborg723 I wouldn't say it's racist, it's more like classism and social hierarchy where everyone will be strictly treated, and you have to earn it. My grandpa and his father were "born Japanese" when Japan colonized Korea and Taiwan, they remember how they were treated and told me the story. I think that's also the same thing in Korea and Taiwan, where you have to earn it, especially Korea, they're pretty much just like Japan, Taiwan is actually very open minded, they don't really have it which is surprising, since they're the one got colonized the longest(50 years) Now I have Japanese family member, but they're not like that, I'd say if you know their language and culture, you'll understand them, many non-Asian foreigner would feel it's hard to take it, or just call them racist with the western standard, which it looks like that but it's still different. Every Japanese is different, some carries a lot of pride, some are very open and want to know the world outside of Japan, yet they all try to fit in their own standard, if you don't, you're most likely going to be excluded, even when you're 100% Japanese. I think that's why they're able to be where they're now, because they're highly competitive within themselves.
@@yaya5tim again, like i said: "somewhat more racist". I am a fan of anime and manga, I know that they aren't actually racist in their hearts, but it comes off functionally racist. Am i making sense?
@@noskalborg723 Perhaps, I don't what level you at on understanding Japanese culture, especially when you learn them from anime and manga..... I don't think you really understand.....
@@yaya5tim that's fair. But i know that they have some behavior in both media and IRL that can be interpreted as racial discrimination, even if that is not the intent. Taking everything i knew of before this video, and putting it with what that nice old man said. I reached the conclusion that Japanese culture only seems racist, but it isn't really.
That’s so true in my other country🥲 I like to make so much friends because people in my country is very social as well and whenever I make so many friends in Japan they literally don’t talk to me, they only talk to THEIR group of friends☹️
I like his response! It’s a unique and thought out answer that came to the forefront of his mind. Most are quick to critique one or the other out of preference when asked this question, but his answer is a more of a social commentary
Its wild because when i first saw his face, he reminded me of an older American man. Then he brought up where he lived and Chicago made sense. I am from chi town and I can feel it for whatever reason.
I liked this interview. He’s well traveled and has a good perspective of the world. Reminds me of my grandfather. I’d like to see more interviews with the older Japanese crowd. I’m curious of their opinions. Tell them don’t be polite “be honest”. I suspect it’s similar to the seniors here in the US but you never know.
I am American 🇺🇸 and I Love to make new friends and meet new people ❤❤❤ my father was in the US Navy and his favorite country was Japan. He told me so many stories about his time there
Full interview
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Takashi for some reason the UA-cam link is not working as a link
Interesting observation! And he wasn't making a criticism just highlighting the difference!
@@Ser3456 youtube changed it to discourage scammers posting links.
@@NotKimiRaikkonenThough the annoying part is even links in the description tend to not work (on phone at least)
Where is the interview? Super invested in this channel
This is a very interesting point made by him, very well thought out
It goes deeper than that. In japan people wont make friends with other people when they are adults. Thats why you hear so many japanese people say "this is my friend from highschool" and things like that. Being a foreigner makes it easier to befriend someone who is japanese, because they are curious and have so many questions, besides foreigners will easily call someone else friend after meeting once 😅
@@leredditcommander8208must be one reason why the suicide rate is so high... If you didnt make friends in school, chances are you won't ever have any friends how you put it, huh?
Friends in America aren't the same anymore back in the last as i grew up. Friends are hard to find now and sometimes its best to stay on your own and take care of the people who live in your circle of life.
@@Danny-yv8bqAwe. I just think they're fewer and far between. But. There are definitely some great great people out there! When you meet a great friend it's all the better. It's like hitting the jackpot!
I agree.
Grandpa brought back the American gun range glasses lol
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Oii.... You shall be brought to judgement 😅😅😅
Bro gonna bring some freedom to Japan 🦅🦅🦅🦅🦅🦅🦅🦅🦅🦅🦅🛢️🛢️🛢️🛢️🛢️🛢️🔫🔫🔫🔫🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🦅🦅🦅🦅
Japan is lucky that they do not have oil..USA would have takeover Japan after ww2 if they had oil
@@soothingmoments2139 Japan loves USA more than whatever you are lol
He lived in three distinctively different cities in the US. A good cross section of America.
Southern heat and hospitality, Chicago winters and midwestern values, CA optimism. Grandpa saw it all and makes a very cogent point.
He has inciteful Japanese wisdom.
They're all the same shitholes 😂
The only significant differences are the weather
Talk about the 3 worst cities in America. Only Detroit, Houston, and Baltimore could make a worse trio.
@@thepatriarchy819 not if you’re a businessman like this man clearly was. This man was in the heart of big money in America and clearly played his role well.
Atl and Chicago are the same. Both shit
He has awesome glasses
He’s ready to play any sport
Anyone know what they are?
He's ready to start some CrazyJapaneseHacker youtube channel
😂
@@youreal6i wanna know what they are also lol
A full hour long interview with this guy would be amazing.
I second that.
I 459th this....
@@dickenscider9178 well done 👏🏾
Frfr
please ?
This guy oozes class.
So true. Go to a Japanese party of any kind: barbecue, picnic, ordinary party, whatever.
People who are ALREADY friends will cluster together and absolutely SHUN any attempt by an "outsider" to make contact with them.
This completely negates the whole point of the party, of course.
But they don't see it.
So you end up with a bunch of little clots of people who have nothing to do with the other clots but they are all partying in the same small area.
It's downright weird.
Makes you wonder how they got friends in the first place 😂
@@Alyssaa3461 The definition of a friend varies from person to person and culture to culture.
For me, it's people that I share 15+ years of past with, whose family I know and who always have time for me even if we don't talk for months. Everyone else is maybe a good acquaintance, even if I spend more time with those than my true friends.
I would definitely not call any person I only meet at parties a "friend".
I guess Japanese coincidentally have made their friends in school/college or later in their work life just like everyone else.
@@Dickstickinteresting. I have found it to be similar with my good friends and loose friends. Gosh the 6 years in the states were so tough. So many acquaintances but no one to actually talk to. I still have 1 friend from that time and I am very happy about that. But most other people I met where just kinda pretending… not in a bad way that’s just the culture. You say yes to everything but it’s understood that you probably don’t mean it. Very non confrontational…
I peep them at raves just always huddled up amongst themselves, I tend to talk to everyone but they're particularly hard to get to open up at functions like that fs
Not "weird", just different 😊❤
Very wise man… there needs to be a balance between preserving one’s culture and learning from others
I am glad he says Americans are so friendly 😊 I love making friends ❤
Great God bless America
We are in India but my friends like making friends 😂😂😂 although this video is about America and Japan but personalities defines people better than countries 😂
Cute comment
I don't know why, but the way he says Atlanta Georgia is so badass. May God continue to bless that man 🙏🙏
Atlanta Georgia.
@@wineasy9002did this man just try to write with an affectation
Atlanta jojo
I was saying the same thing!! I love it!
I felt the same cadence ❤
I had a French girl I met confused as to why I talked to people randomly in shops and stuff if I didn’t know them. She found me being so chatty with strangers weird. I said it’s normal in America to just chat with whoever just being friendly. If Europeans think I’m weird for being outwardly friendly I can only imagine how the Japanese would react. Lol
I used to know this French international student when I was in college. He said the same thing. In France, people would find it rude to converse without having some type of pre established connection. You had to both share an acquaintance in order to make a friend. His time here in the US was spent actively making friends, partying, doing clubs, and going on trips with people. He eventually went back home but seriously considered staying. He had a career waiting back home, but didn't know how he was going to handle losing the social aspect he grew to love.
Europeans are more friendly than Americans what are you talking about lol
Just a note, northern or central Europeans may be like this! The southerners are a different story!
@@Tiotsa fair. I’m American but a first generation one. My family is Italian, so I’m sure my outwardly friendly/talkative demeanor is largely influenced by that.
@@yeahtbh.161Not so much when it comes to strangers, at least with central and Northern Europeans. They aren’t mean per say, just less open to strangers
I hope you would do more interviews like this. Old people have a very well tought opinions filled with years of life experiences.
This guy is so cool. I wish I had known him when he was living in Chicago.
I live in downtown Chicago right now and the crime is insane here. A bartender was shot and killed two blocks away from me.
@@abdullahal-shimri3091move out of downtown. it's expensive and not safe. i live in lake view right by the lake. way less crime and we only pay 1200 for a two bedroom.
Japanese people are always so neatly dressed no matter where they are going
Koreans also dress nicely.
They often do, yes. I live there. Old people, actually, not quite so much. He’s an exception. Most of them dress in a rather shabby fashion. They become, understandably, obsessed with trying not to spend anything at all. Even on food. You can see elderly people in spades, here, who look quite literally malnourished. Bags of shuffling bones.
@@Albert-Arthur-Wison225 Didn’t know that but it sounds about right. You can tell this guy did very well financially in America
@@Albert-Arthur-Wison225old Japanese have classic, clean and nostalgia in their fashion like uniform style or retro. But nowadays they're catching up the western trends and outlaw fashion
Americans super friendly, smiley and loud, is what i hear from my work acquaintances from abroad 😅😂😅. I love people and hearing their stories!
The rest of the interview was really interesting
The best thing that can happen to Japan is not foreigners immigrating, but rather japanese naturals living abroad for a while and bringing different experiences and ideas back to Japan. I think only then will society as a whole start to adapt, modernize and change things for the better where it makes sense, as well as honoring traditions where those are of possitive value for everyone
Just curious, "best thing that can happen to Japan is not foreigners immigrating" why do you think that? Why just having Japanese coming back to japan after living abroad is better? Why are foreigners not so good in your opinion? Is no immigration the idea?
@@kendobc because of nationalism and resistance to "foreign" branding. You'd be surprised how much influence your appearance has over people's likelyhood of listening to you, especially in a relatively secluded, homogenous society like Japan
It's not that foreigners are not so good in my opinion, but rather some consertvative people have this negative reaction to people from outside their group bringing in change or criticism. It's like when americans tell you "this is how murica works, if you don't like it then leave" but they'd be more open to listen to the same idea coming from a white dude with a thick southern accent and a shotgun
@@kokorochacarero8003 In my experience the most vocal of these negative reactions from conservative people in Japan are actually foreigners who came to live in Japan and they don't like "foreigner" thinking invading "their" Japan. I have found most Japanese are interested in learning about other cultures. It's the foreigners living in Japan that don't want things to change (and the kusojiji in charge but that is really a problem everywhere).
@@kendobc and the kusojiji in charge catter to the will of the kusojiji at home
As always, young people remain the only hope for positive change
No I was in Japan for a while and experienced this mindset many times from Japanese people. They can be very xenophobic
Someone I knew from Kyoto said something like less people, more trust. Something like quality over quantity type of meaning. I’ve applied that mostly myself as well, because when you are super busy all the time, a small group is easier to manage than a bunch of ‘friends’ that are not really that close with you.
He got such a good sampling of America, too! I bet he has a ton of great stories!
Here in Indonesia there are two lose tiers of friends, first is “teman”, it translates to friend in dictionary, but it really is more accurate as good acquaintances. Then there’s “sahabat” (adapted from arabic word), those are the ones that you feel you can talk about anything and really be yourself without fear of being judged
We really need this distinction in English. At least in America, some people act like the close friends have the same impact as acquaintances when it could not be further than the truth. It creates a culture where you are not sure who your true friends are and as such loneliness is that much more of a problem.
I think Japanese people use the logic as the less friends you have, more important they are.
Americans use the logic of: the more people we can influence, the more money we can make.
What an idiotic thing to say
@@TC1Z2L3you are japnese
@@TC1Z2L3What a capitalistic way of thinking
agreed
I personally think that both can be good in different contexts. I'm very happy to know a lot of people, and I think it's especially useful for business (or if you need something - like the joke that everybody needs to know a mechanic). Since this gentleman was in the US for his career, it makes sense that he particularly felt this difference.
BUT let me tell you, NO ONE is there for you like your inner circle of Japanese friends. Although I have a few true friends from the other countries where I've lived, the majority of them are from my 7 years in Japan - even 2 years after moving away.
It's hard to find that type of deep bond with a lot of people. And my experience across Europe and in Canada has been more that most people are superficially friendly but don't really want closer relationships.
Of course this is just my experience, but I feel so lucky to have my close circle of Japanese friends.
I mean if you’re a foreigner in Japan, you’re usually shunned by society
I think it depends on where in Europe you are. Danes are for example quite tight knit and reserved
@@johnsonjohn4407 I've actually never been to Denmark, let alone lived there, but I do know that my father loved Denmark very much.
(It felt wordy to list out that I've lived in France, Germany, Switzerland, and Finland, but might be good for clarity's sake...)
And of course it's down to any individual experience. I know that many people find it hard to get really close with Japanese people, but I think it's more of a language barrier issue usually.
And if you're *from* a place it can change entirely. My husband is French, and his group of close friends have all known each other since middle or high school!
Regardless of where one finds it, those close bonds are truly special, I think.
Okay american 😂
@@bobbywalsh5538 ??? why are you hating on them? They're just giving further info what
Sounds like a very wise man. Great points
He seems like the super cool
Dude you can talk to for hours.
Really interesting and poignant. Western culture express more outwardly where in east Asia expression is more guarded. My mom visited me in Korea, tryed to talk to people who were clearly not comfortable with chit chat. Very nice person here.
I was hoping to get some nuance about the differences in those places because they’re drastically dissimilar. Either way it’s all good, and I’m just happy to hear my city (Atl) in the convo
This man just made me scared to try to make friends to anyone in Japan in under 60 seconds
I don’t think it means they don’t wanna make new friends. They do meet new people but in the end, only become close friends with certain people.
you just gotta have stuff in common - art friends are easy to make. the artist's spirit is the same all over the world 😌
If you're a foreigner plenty of Japanese people want a token foreign friend as an accessory so that's an easy route, but to be fair those people aren't really friends with you they only value your demographic. Making actual friends with Japanese people is also possible, but difficult unless you're part of a social group already.
“Friends” in Japan is only temporary. You’ll have a blast for one night but try again and they’ll outright ignore you. It’s cruel but it’s common here. Try Taiwan
@@mikloridden8276 is Japan Southern California?
Best interview of the channel.
ABSOLUTELY ❤
What immediately came to my mind was discipline.
Great insight. What an intelligent answer!
That's what I observed too on Japanese people that I highly respect, they keep people tight as a group and emphasize respect. I'm a Filipino American. Filipinos like to group but sad to say someone tries to be a leader breaking and recreate group for their own. In gatherings, you'll hear Filipinos gossiping and talking crap about fellow Filipinos causing distrust and ended breaking up the group. This is why you don't see much Filipinos on leadership position here in the US.
He's so true! I love Japan so much and always admire them.
From last few months I tried to approach many Japanese natives via insta,FB because I want to learn more about them purely, but they are just untouchable untouchable! 😅
I wish they get more Frank & friendly, although I respect everybody's privacy.
Love from India❤🇮🇳
Offer to teach English - tutor, language exchange, etc. It is one of the easiest ways to make connections as they need your fluency.
You can't make friends with them that way thru online. You have to go to Japan
Yes it’s definitely not a good thing. How will you get further in life if you continue closing yourself off to others? I’m an introvert and even i know this.
Fellow introvert here and yeah, I ended up with no friends because of this
@@sinimeg and is there something you are doing to change that?
@@AshishSharma-yk7qr I feel like as someone who as gotten to that point as well, it is incredibly hard to make friends after getting used to being alone for so long
@@AshishSharma-yk7qr It is not that easy, changes come with time + effort + opportunities
I'm introvert and I'm ok with that, having a tight group is more than ok to some people.
That was a very profound thought to share
His voice is so distinguished. It's the type of voice where one stops and listens.
This man is the very embodiment of the voice of experience.
Love hearing perspectives from people who have lived both places, helps expand my own 🤙
Wow awesome perspective . Thank you❤️
I could listen to this guy for hours
He sounds like my principallity who is also japanese and speaks english
Principal
@@evelyn7881 thanks
Great content! Very wise and grounded by the gentleman
His observations can be seen through history of both nations.
Both ways can have it's pros and cons.
Amazing perspective for an amazing question… ❤ I will visit Japan after my USMC career, but I don’t know where should I go there…
Def Tokyo and Osaka for a first trip! You can do both in a week
Tokyo was the most exciting city I’ve ever visited, I recommend it
I had a Army roommate who was army brat that grew up in Japan. He loved everything about it. I remember him talking about how different watching the news was - he said it was a lot less depressing.
Okinawa 👍🏻
❤️ so sweet the Analogy .
I like all the various POVs you come across!!❤❤❤❤😮😊
Thank you for sharing a good gentlemen.😊
Please do a one hour and a half format for him. Like sit and have tea. PLEASE try to think about. His experience id long, he has lots of interesting things to share. It's important for humanity and to make Japan and East-Asia more understood and even loved.
This man looks very interesting maybe an interview about what he did in each state and how he experienced the usa would be a good one
He is just so sweet and adorable.
i am homebound and was feeling down about having few friends. i feel better now👍🏼
I love this channel ... always fascinating !
That is such an insightful answer! Very interesting!
He makes one of the best points I’ve seen on the channel.
I love how deliberate he is
He's adorable
love from Atlanta, GA
I noticed that about Japanese international students too. When they go to western university, they would have these tendencies like only look up to and socializing with white local students, only interact with their own Japanese group.
Then they will look down on other Asian looking students with a cocky elite mindset, as if only elite students in other Asian countries are qualified to be international students.
And their attitude, tone, will be very friendly and relatively submissive to white looking students, but it's not the case for other color of local students, even Asian Americans.
I do enjoy their culture and everything, but I find it hard to interact with them when you're not white.
It's very rare to meet a Japanese international student that doesn't apply to what I just described, and when I do, I usually find them to be the ones that doesn't stay in their Japanese group much.
interesting
well, their culture is somewhat more racist. so as long as they learn to give basic dignity (even in disdain), that is a good step away from abuse.
@@noskalborg723 I wouldn't say it's racist, it's more like classism and social hierarchy where everyone will be strictly treated, and you have to earn it. My grandpa and his father were "born Japanese" when Japan colonized Korea and Taiwan, they remember how they were treated and told me the story. I think that's also the same thing in Korea and Taiwan, where you have to earn it, especially Korea, they're pretty much just like Japan, Taiwan is actually very open minded, they don't really have it which is surprising, since they're the one got colonized the longest(50 years)
Now I have Japanese family member, but they're not like that, I'd say if you know their language and culture, you'll understand them, many non-Asian foreigner would feel it's hard to take it, or just call them racist with the western standard, which it looks like that but it's still different.
Every Japanese is different, some carries a lot of pride, some are very open and want to know the world outside of Japan, yet they all try to fit in their own standard, if you don't, you're most likely going to be excluded, even when you're 100% Japanese. I think that's why they're able to be where they're now, because they're highly competitive within themselves.
@@yaya5tim again, like i said: "somewhat more racist". I am a fan of anime and manga, I know that they aren't actually racist in their hearts, but it comes off functionally racist. Am i making sense?
@@noskalborg723 Perhaps, I don't what level you at on understanding Japanese culture, especially when you learn them from anime and manga..... I don't think you really understand.....
@@yaya5tim that's fair. But i know that they have some behavior in both media and IRL that can be interpreted as racial discrimination, even if that is not the intent. Taking everything i knew of before this video, and putting it with what that nice old man said. I reached the conclusion that Japanese culture only seems racist, but it isn't really.
What a handsome, dignified man. ❤
honestly a VERY good point.
I really enjoyed the amazing content you bring to the us 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿 thank you.🙏🏿
That’s so true in my other country🥲 I like to make so much friends because people in my country is very social as well and whenever I make so many friends in Japan they literally don’t talk to me, they only talk to THEIR group of friends☹️
I'm in love with this man!!❤❤
This is a fantastic explanation
a wise elderly gentleman talking sense ;-)
Very insightful point
Freaking love your videos. Its so refreshing to feel like im getting honest, unbiased interviews from the host.
I like his response! It’s a unique and thought out answer that came to the forefront of his mind. Most are quick to critique one or the other out of preference when asked this question, but his answer is a more of a social commentary
Very interesting question and answer!
A lovely well spoken man.much respect to him.
That's something I never thought about but it's absolutely true.
Thank you so much❤
Man lived on the west coast, mid west, and east coast. I respect what he has to say
Great insight!
Nice point of view
Very interesting. Thank you very much for your beautiful 😍 interviews.
ものすごく分かりやすい英語。
同時通訳者の英語と言える。
I love this guy. Love this channel.
I've learned this in my visits to Tokyo. Very good point sir.
This guy is the best interview you've done. He talks about in-group preferences and certain cultures.
Takashi always finds most interesting people for his interviews.
Very interesting insights. Thanks
very professional interview
This is why going out in Japan at night can often be a frustrating experience, unless you are with a group yourself.
Its wild because when i first saw his face, he reminded me of an older American man. Then he brought up where he lived and Chicago made sense. I am from chi town and I can feel it for whatever reason.
Most stunning pronunciation of the word *group* I've ever heard
The peer pressure is entirely relative.
I liked this interview. He’s well traveled and has a good perspective of the world. Reminds me of my grandfather. I’d like to see more interviews with the older Japanese crowd. I’m curious of their opinions. Tell them don’t be polite “be honest”. I suspect it’s similar to the seniors here in the US but you never know.
Smart man, you can tell he has thought about this before. I like his articulate manner in which he speaks.
Happy birthdayyyy
A friend to many is a friend to none.
You don’t have to be friends. Americans are just friendly. Meanwhile people in Japan will just ignore you. They don’t even hold the door for people.
What a clever observation he made! Very intelligent man 😊
I appreciate his honesty.
That's a good insight, I've heard that before
I agree with him, the more corners of your "circle" can hide something dark and nothing good starts with the darkness 🤔
Very truly said by this gentleman..
I am American 🇺🇸 and I Love to make new friends and meet new people ❤❤❤ my father was in the US Navy and his favorite country was Japan. He told me so many stories about his time there
Did he also tell you about unit 731, r@pe of Nanking, comfort women & atrocities of Japan on POW?
This is so interesting. I love to have lots of friends but I have a small selective group of friends too. Less than ten
なんかの広告動画と思うけど叔父さんの答えがホントいえてるよね！その通りだよ
Very astute observation
honest person, kudo 🎉🎉🎉