Safe space? Here in my country it's not a safe place anywhere, people are killed , robbed and more every single day, the news are full of that ... Imagine worrying about how people address you haha
I think how Angelina Jolie handles her child Shiloh should be applauded. She was vilified before for letting her daughter wear boy clothes before and basically express as a boy. But yeah, some girls just like boy clothes. Jolie did say if Shiloh wanted to change when she's older, there will be support. But note: OLDER. Then she grew up wanted to express more feminine, and Jolie lets her. Like expression doesn't mean you need to change yourself medically. Your a kid, you'll change into various versions.
@@viquiben4919 he's a boy, no matter what he or his mother say about him, and no matter how much they mutilate his body, he will always be a male (with identity issues)
Amala mentioned Buck Angel. He made the best comment on one of those videos. He stated he is a woman living as a man. He admitted he will never be a man because he was born a woman. I can totally respect HIS request to call him him because he is honest about who/what he is.
It's the same. There's no such a thing as transgender and transexual, they're still women and men. If anything, there are people who suffer from dysphoria and people who don't. Buck has (or has experienced) gender dysphoria and get praise because she 'passes' and knows she's a woman but why fueling her delusions?
@4651adri Buck is self aware and doesn't act like a raging psycho which is why I choose to respect his request. I will be civil with all people who are civil with me. Buck acknowledges that biologically she is a woman but chooses to present as a man unlike some of these people who demand you act like they have changed their sex.
In response to the 18 minute mark, my 13 year old son went through a phase where he identified as non-binary. He wanted to wear dresses. I took him to the thrift store, let him pick out what he wanted to wear. Explained to him that he was born a boy and will die a man. If you like dresses, wear dresses at home. He knows I love him no matter what he goes through. Never once did I think this wasn't a phase. I was right. This phase lasted a few months and now he laughs at "what an idiot I was". Parents, be flexible but don't break. You know the truth.
That’s similar to what my parents did, when my brother and I talked about growing up and becoming a mommy or daddy. My mom answered that boys grow up to be daddies and girls grow up to be mommies. Never once were we confused after that even when my brother and I would shove pillows under our shirts and pretend that we were pregnant
i am a 19 year old women who two years ago i thought i was non-binary because i wasn’t super feminine at the time but i’ve came to my senses … and i love being a women!
That's good. My parents let me dress like a boy. They answered criticism with "Hey we never have to worry about her belly button showing. What about your daughter?" But even though I was more comfortable dressing as a boy and doing boy things (to a point it was pretty extreme...) And I do find makeup pretty uncomfortable. Like physically uncomfortable. I like being pretty, but it feels weird. I never showed any real signs of dysphoria. I didn't mind people calling me a girl. There are a number of explanations for my behavior that are likely, though I'm not certain. This includes autism. It could cultural, as I grew up in the sticks with three brothers and everything was hand-me-downs. It could also have been just plain puberty rearing its ugly head. But either way, doing things like gender-affirming therapy for a single symptom (preferring male clothing) that isn't even all that good of an indicator when it comes to people who identify as trans, is ridiculous! What are you doing? Things are diagnosed in clusters after years of research and linking patients with the same symptoms. It's not done because you feel it should be.
This is extremely helpful. I have a toddler and an infant and am terrified that one day this might happen. My family is Lutheran and this wasn’t a thing growing up. The only plan i have is to teach my children to show love and kindness to everyone. This is such a good idea. Parenting with love and logic!
when i was younger (like 7-12) i HATED when my mom would call me a lady or say to sit like a lady in church and I despised wearing dresses and skirts. if i was exposed (I’m homeschooled) to the trans idea and the possibility of switching or identifying as a boy i’m sure i would have wanted to do it. now i’m totally comfortable in my identity as a female and i wouldn’t even call myself a tom boy anymore but if i knew about that and was supported in my feelings back then i shudder to think what would have happened
Absolutely my daughter would have transitioned in a heart beat between the age of 11 to 16 she walked talk dressed like a boy..she HATED being a girl and getting her period, then all of a sudden she changed she will always be tomboyish she is a painter by trade but she is absolutely stunning she has beautiful twin girls and is happy with her male partner..she absolutely cringes when she looks at her photos of he at that age her words are what was l was thinking.....children should never be in charge of what they want at that age...l thank God she is now 29 and extremely happy whom God made her....
I've been saying the same thing I was such a tomboy when I was young I wouldn't even look at dolls and had my own garage and set of cars etc in this day and age I would of been convinced I was in the wrong body when I wasn't I'm totally female.....such a confusing time for kids
I had gender and body dysphoria as a result of trauma at a young age. I’m sooooo glad I didn’t live that today because I love being a woman, a mom, and I love my body that God gave me! It’s perfect and beautiful!
@@feversandmirrors nah. Get absorbed in the right’s propaganda and the left will look like overly emotional angry psychos. Get absorbed in the left’s propaganda and the right look like selfish uncaring morons. It’s all the same. Make up your own mind over each topic regardless of political affiliation. People like Amala are smart and make good points but she’s also narrow minded about the information she chooses to use and is hypocritical in her reasoning often. She is great though and has steered me towards the true middle. Though she and especially the Taylor dude are total conservatives with the slightest hint of liberalism. But they are far more forgiving of the right’s stupidity than the left’s. Thanks for reading. 😊
It's redundant. I don't need to qualify for or justify my gender. This plus "assigned at birth " are flashpoints for me. Assigned? Oh no little darling, chromosomes tattled on you. The expression of that uncooperative, pesky DNA determined that.
Exactly, "Cis" and even worse "Cis-Het", are slurs against normal people. I'm not going to let you assign me a special designation, just to fit within your fantasy world....
Yes, for a group that loses their collective mind over "misgendering" they sure like to label others without their consent. "But it's just a scientific term" etc., yet lose their minds when you refer to them by their sex etc.
Cant drink under 21 cant smoke under 21. So that means you arent able to comprehend consequences of your actions which should in turn be illegal to transition prior to 21 or join the military or vote before 21. There needs to be 1 single age where we accept that a minor becomes legally and morally an adult.
I agree. I went through many phases I can find on the internet as a teen (though I never acted upon it like wearing boy clothes etc), and then I remember suddenly gaining sentience when I reached 20. It's like waking up after watching your comatosed self get swept away by whatever wave existed at the time. "Wow, I'm so glad I turned out NORMAL" is what I would always say.
i don’t think there should be one specific age but yes there should be an age which determines when people who grow out of their phase most often do so
@@mistuyy unfortunately that specific number is required so that laws aren't vague. The number is probably decided on the average age a person will develop into a mature adult. Not everyone gets matured at the age of 21, but the majority does.
Let me repeat myself: when kids are adolescent they are also insecure, and they seek love. If they are not chosen as the first, they might be willing to accept second best. Especially girls who wants to be desired and popular at any cost.
When I was 25 I asked to have my womb taken because I didn't want more children and had bad issues with my monthlies and was told I was still young and may change my mind so I couldn't do it ...... and yet now if I wanted my bits chopped off and changed to male bits it would be fine ...to me that's crazy I was too young to make a decision on kids but not too young to change my gender!! Crazy how much things have changed in such a short amount of time
Of all there is so much more that goes into that than what you think first of all most people can't even get gender affirming surgery until they're over 18 cuz the most insurance companies won't pay for it until they're 18 too you need to go under a mental evaluation to make sure you are mentally saying to do this 3 you needed to be identifying with this for more than 5 years in order to get a gender affirming surgery for you need to watch a video and take a test to ensure that you understand what you were doing and you need to see several several doctors before this and you need to go to therapy so it is not as easy as you think it is
Actually I know 2 girls that want to change gender one is getting the hormones so I know it's not mater of just saying you want it done and it happens its a fairly lengthy process my point was at 25 I was told I was too young to decide if I wanted more children or not but a person is considered old enough to make a much bigger decision
@@kiedemouchette7133 lol you’re so wrong in this too. There were hospitals being called out because on their website they were saying they would perform mastectomies on 12 and up and hysterectomies on girls 16-17 and up as apart of their “gender affirming treatment”. They have since removed this from their websites. Again. Do some freaking research.
The point is they were wrong to tell you that you could not get a Hysterectomy when it Your body and You had a right to Your decision just like trans people have a right to decided to change Their body.
@@kiedemouchette7133 most teens who are LGBT are brainwashed, they think being in the community is quirky and people should praise them for coming out (Wich they do) and they make it their whole personality... I think I'm a bisexual teen , but even i recognize i can't really choose if I'm bisexual or not until I'm an adult-
@@kiedemouchette7133 imagine thinking that people who are straight and "cis" suck , just because that's their sexual preference. That's pretty hypocritical-
@@huh5715 I'm not saying there's anything wrong with being straight straight people have no right to comment on the LG BT community cuz it doesn't affect you
@@huh5715 First of all you don't choose to be anything you're born the Way you are second of all even if kids are doing it to be quirky there's nothing wrong with that just supporting and loving your kids is all you need to do and think about the kids who actually are who are actually struggling so why are we throwing everyone in One community into one box it's like saying all black people are Hood you can't throw everyone into one small box
I''m oppressed because I'm left-handed. I'm oppressed because I have a rare personality (INFJ) and I'm therefore always misunderstood. I'm oppressed because I'm a highly sensitive person. I'm oppressed because I have had multiple health problems and diseases since I was very young that have caused me immense physical and emotional pain. Yada...yada...yada. We all have pain, problems, and ways we are more 'oppressed' than others. Focusing on our 'oppression' and continually victimizing ourselves does nothing but sink ourselves further and further into mental pain and confusion. It also makes us self-obsessed. I feel sorry for today's youth. They've been coddled, confused, and left adrift. To the point where every slight obstacle, perceived offense, or difficulty becomes insurmountable without huge amounts of external validation or support.
@@kiedemouchette7133 after seeing your replies in every single comment that disagrees with your opinion. I think you're just a mad and sad person who only thinks about yourself. This is a conservative channel, idk why you're even here , to pick fights ? Bruh
👏 I relate to a lot of what you said at the start and also I agree with you we have to continue to move forward. Even if we were held back by our issues we just have to keep moving forward.
There are so many things that go wrong in cosmetic plastic surgery that cause people deformities and even cost their lives, and these gender surgeries are more extreme, less tested, and have minimal concrete results. It's sad that they're sweeping the dark side of this under the rug, almost like they want the next generation to be in turmoil
They do. The WEF has been yelling about over population. They are concerned because abortion has been cut back and they needed to find a new way... sterilize the children. Not straight out like eugenics... they are using mass psychosis and convincing all these children they are not what they were born as. So they go and get the "gender affirming" surgery which sterilizes them. Then, when they realize that they effed up there is nothing they can do to "take it back".
What pisses me off is that these people seem to think that they are the only people who look in the mirror and don’t feel comfortable in their body. I’ve gained tons of weight in the past years and have had a baby, so I long for the body I used to have and feel incredibly uncomfortable looking at myself in the mirror……but that’s invalidated because these idiots think their story and feelings trump everyone else.
Euh... I'm a transguy (I'm not gonna debate on that), but... of course we're not the only people inconfortable with their body. Duh... Yeah before transition, I did feel pretty inconfortable in my body because of gender dysphoria... but mostly because, I can't really explain it, but I always kind of forgot that I had a female body. Like when people adressed me in female, I was surprised even shocked because the moment I'm alone (and not naked) I just forget. And I've done that, like naturally assuming I'm a boy, since I'm a kid, I already did that when I was 2 years old.. maybe younger, my parents don't remember exacly when it started. Important note though: my parents totally wanted a girl, especially my dad, they even refused to think about a boyname... and where totally trilled when I ended up being a "girl"... and no my mum totally isn't into girly stuff, she herself was quite a tomboy, my sister is quite girly, the other more a sort of mix between tomboy/girly depending on the day... so she never pressured anything on me and just kind of tried to learn me that of course you can be a "tomboy" and be a woman... and definately didn't let me transition or even talked about that topic.... just I kept forgetting that a was supposed to be a woman. Yeah it's weird, and nobody can actually explain it to me, myself included. But since I medically transitionned, I did start feeling okay in my body. Doesn't mean I totally feel confortable in my body, I'm short, and that's annoying, I'm thin and I would have liked being a big stronger build... I would have liked different hair... but yeah, can't have everything can I? And that hasn't anything to do with my gender anyways... just believing the grass if always greener at the other side. And it sucks being inconfortable in your body, whatever the reason is. And I hope you'll feel better about your body at some point, it's not your apparence that makes you beautifull, just who you are (and frankly being a bit strongly build can be quite attractive too ;) as long as you're kind of healthy ^^
@@samaelletaincell6382 before you get any hate comments for you being trans I just want to say do whatever that you feel comfortable with and ignore the haters. People think that trans people are like the crazy ones on tiktok or the ones who strip for kids but there’s plenty of ones that are just living there life like everybody else. I wish a lot of the conservatives would see that instead of hating trans people in general bc of the few that make them seem bad and pedophiles.
Crazy fact; in my country kids at the age of 16 (7 with permission from parents) can go through a sex change (with surgery from 18) But if you are a woman wanting a sterilisation, you have to be 25 because it’s such an important decision…
Where I live (Victoria, Australia) it is illegal to "say ANYTHING which may discourage a trans person from transitioning" (classed as "domestic violence" for some bizarre reason). This insanely-vague law definitely INCLUDES "mis-gendering" (since that's what it was INTENDED to address), but it's so badly-worded, it could qualify just about ANYTHING as illegal. Like, say your 12yo daughter says, out of the blue "I've discovered that I'm a man. And I've found a surgeon who'll cut off both my perfectly healthy breasts!! Isn't that just AWESOME?!?" (And it's not the norm, but they DO dual mastectomies for 12yo """trans-boys""", in SOME cases...) If you respond by saying "Are you sure you want to do that?" that COULD get you charged and imprisoned under "domestic violence" charges, here. It's ridiculous.
@@baconsarny-geddon8298 Oh my goodness! So far here they have almost (can’t believe it only almost) removed the license of a surgeon that performed mastectomy on children (that turned out to be schizophrenic) and removed it on a trans doctor prescribing hormones he was not authorised to prescribe. But I fear we will see what you describe if the wrong people continue to promote things.
A dear friend once told me "reality always wins" no matter how much you want that apple to be an orange, you may be able to convince yourself of that, but in reality it's still an apple! "And that's who friends are; the people who'll help you discern apples from oranges. "
The stuff y'all said about swagger vs insecurity is spot on. I'm ftm trans and don't talk about it. I just live without shoving it in people's faces. Even when they find out, they don't care. They only seem to care before I blow them away with a simple reassurance that I'm not a far left crazy that needs to be constantly affirmed while they walk on eggshells. You can literally see their jaws drop/their shoulders relax, it's insanity. Like "omg, you're not gonna rip my head off if we live in reality and acknowledge you're a biological female?!?!" Truly looney, the state of our society right now. Also, the thing about kids transitioning is iffy. If the proper diagnostic and treatment processes were reinstated, i would say yes cause it would then require a professional diagnosis and exhaustion of all other avenues of treatment. That way has been proven in censored studies to be the best option across the board. It also takes a long time and a lot of kids would age out of that process. Also, no SRS before 18. And kids should not receive HRT before puberty. Nowadays it's "I think therefore I am" and a clinic will just hand out controlled substances like candy and now we're seeing more and more detransitioners. I just hope the pendulum swings back and these ideologically possessed professionals are sued to hell.
I don’t constantly talk about it I do talk about it if you’re gonna be my friends and or partner as I feel like knowing I’m trans would be a thing some people might like to know even though I literally pass so I wouldn’t have to tell them if I didn’t want I just don’t like that people deliberately go out of their way after I tell them I’m trans to call me a man like you’re not doing it cause it’s what you believe you’re doing it purely to rip me apart and tear me down which you’re not doing it’s just childish.
Thank you. The sad part is many of these people are seeking love and affirmation from outside which is one factor that increases the depression and sadness many feel
These poor children. It's most likely a phase, like being goth or being into a certain type of music. But unlike us who were allowed to grow up without every little transient choice of ours being stuck to us as an identity, and then displayed publicly, these teens are being confined to their childish ideas such that it will be much harder, and much more painful, to grow out of this phase. And that's without taking into account hormones, puberty blockers and surgery. Truly monstrous.
No it's not most likely a phase.. At all. The risks are suicide and puberty fucking your body up and need to spend 80k to remove male puberty and also trauma for all your life.
@@Aurora146 Look up statistics before spouting nonsense. More than 80% of children and teens DIAGNOSED with gender dysphoria, not even talking about all those who self-identify as trans or because of "gender-euphoria", grow out of it. What happens then if they have been pushed or enabled to transition, get healthy parts loped off, get put on puberty blockers which cause huge detrimental health effects such as lowered bone density, etc ? You can get your breasts or penis chopped off as an adult, you can't create new functional body parts, or cure the infertility which the drugs and procedures cause. Btw, puberty doesn't "fuck your body up". On the contrary, it's the process of the body naturally finishing to grow, as all humans are birthed premature (compared to other animals) and have a much longer maturing process. All the changes that happen during puberty are necessary to becoming a healthy adult. Look up John Money, the sick fuck who basically created gender ideology, and what happened to the twins he experimented on. It's not pretty. Puberty blockers and transition before adulthood is child abuse. Consent matters, for goodness sake.
I'm 41 years old. I loved playing "boy games" outside with my brother and his friends. I loved playing with baby dolls. Skateboarding, ballet, building tree forts, helping my dad in his woodshop. What would I have been labeled? I got "misgendered" frequently until I finally got boobs. What did any of that matter? I was a kid and understood that I lived in my own little bubble and the world owed me nothing. I can't deal with all these kids that think that the rest of society must PAY ATTENTION to them and change their own thoughts and words to protect their feelings.
12:02 I have a trans client that I’ve been able to ask these questions. Last time that they came in to do their hair, I expressed the confusion. And their response was “even being in the community, it can be confusing because pronouns and everything changes all the time. Slips ups are to be expected because of the rapid change”
This quote from Amala on the experience of being transgender is refreshing to hear. A lot of the time conservatives seem to ignore or minimize the suffering of gender dysphoria. Props to her. "I just could not imagine. Like, I've tried to sit and like put myself in the head of of somebody who has gone through this whole process, and then it hasn't worked for them and I just I can't do it. That's something true to this conversation, you know, people who say like, "Cisgender people will never truly understand the inner turmoil that we are going through with our gender." You know what? I 100% agree. Because I sit and try to fathom what you must be going through to make a decision like that, and I can't. I literally cannot. And to get to the end of that road and find out that the surgeries didn't help must be devastating. Like it's no wonder to me why the suicide rates and the rates of mental illness are so high. Ah, that that would be devastating."
Medically transition does actually help a lot... just as a transperson you have to realise two things: transitionning will only help you with gender-dysphoria, nothing else. If you're depressive you have to work on that, you won't just miracly have no mental issues anymore. And many people once they realise they're trans think that transitionning will solve all their other problems too, and are then dissappointed. The other thing is, whatever you do, you can't ever become a biological woman/man... no matter how much that hurts, but you'll still be a transman/woman. It doesn't make you less valid, but just as a deaf person with hearing adds is still a deaf person, the same counts for a trans person, you still are a transperson. And if you forget to make peace with that, you'll definately become depressed. Then it's also quite impressive how much hate you can get. A friend of mine was actually chased out of the house by his own dad with a gun when he came out as a transguy. And I know like quite a few people that are the greatest people I know (a character literally of gold, generous, kind, brave and loyal and always ready to help out whoever needs help) and also happen to be trans and who just can't even talk with their family or former friends anymore... and that's quite challeging to handle mentally. And some people just snap after a while.
we have the left who allows non dysphoric people to speak over dysphoric trans people and push an agenda then we have the right who will make attack helicopter jokes at the expense of lives!
They can Never understand so why force their lack of understanding and opinions about a topic that does not concern you on to trans people? People with gender dysphoria you have committed or attempted suicide because they DId NOT get the re gender surgery. They are already suffering from depression from their condition so add a society of bigotry they can give up on life.
We're expecting rational, justifiable, cogent thought from children who are delusional! At the best this is entertainment. At the worst, a cry for help.
Yes, when they were listing all of the sexualities and identities they “came out” with as they were getting older told me everything I needed to know. This is 100% and a social contagion. Only differences this is between this and trends like Goth, Emo, Punk, etc. is the fact that adults are perpetuating and encouraging it.
@@foximoxi8533 Couldn't have said it better myself! The sad part is these adults who indulge in their children's delusions are living vicariously through their children in some form or another. So much that they believe children can make life altering decisions as they state in the same breathe that they've changed sexuality and genders multiple times in a year. I keep saying that the times were in is filled with so many dangerous, life changing,and deadly fads that'll give us a future filled with COUNTLESS, unprecedented individuals who have serious mental health and physical health issues.
I met a lesbian once in a D&D campaign my roommate was running who staked her entire identity on her sexuality. Her character was a lesbian and in case you had trouble remembering it, she would make my GM let her roll to seduce ever female character in his campaign because she was a lesbian, in case you weren't aware of it.
If it would've been a male character, seducing every female because his character is a "womanizer" or whatever - would you think it's just as obnoxious/stupid?
She (he, idc) thinks that's the best decision for her now, but 10 years from now, she's prone to regret it. Even if she personally doesn't, thousands will. 20 years down the line, humanity is going to be spiritually bankrupt. And it's not just because of this gender confusion.
@@cutcookie4490 Agreed, though honestly, I've seen certain third world countries influenced by the West just through the use of social media on cell phones. Influenced by music for example, like W.A.P 🤢🤮 We're all more connected than a lot of us realize.
One of the things that confuses me is the identity "non-binary lesbian". Like, how can you be a lesbian if you dont indenitify as a girl (even if you are one)??
This is just further proof to me that these are manifestations of poor mental health. People who are ill are expecting everyone else to react like a therapist, and they can't. Even though I've had different struggles, I understand the outbursts that can happen when you're triggered, and it was my responsibility to manage it, not others.
Honestly as a 28 year old women. I have changed careers so many times, changed my mind on a lot of things so many times. Use to say I never want kids but now at my age I’m starting to think I want kids. Like how are people so sure they want to make such a commitment?
@@DoWhatsRight214 or.. they just haven’t realized that people change over time.. and haven’t been on this planet long enough to go through those changes. This lady said career meaning she started going through changes after college.. around 24. All these people you say are “solid in their decisions” are 20 or less
Because they're teens. When we go into puberty they're literally chemical reactions in our brains because the brain connects new or reconnect you can say (not very academic I know, this is the best i can explain, pls don't scream at me) its totally normal to think as a teen i am rational when i am really not. And think we already know who we are and who exactly who we are wanna be.
@@DoWhatsRight214 it’s not being decisive to make rash decisions when young, it’s immature to not have the foresight to see that opinions change as we grow and we shouldn’t put permanent boundaries on things which may one day become very important to us… especially when those decisions affect an inherent driving part of human nature.
My mom didn't affirm my sexuality when I " came out." I came out as bi-sexual when I was 15. I was hell-bent that I liked girls and boys. My mom said, " I'm not going to believe you right now because you're still a kid. When you're 20 and still think the way you do, I'll believe you. She was 100% right. I'm now 20 and don't know the way I did at 15. I now think back, and I laugh because if she had affirmed my sexuality I'd be dating girls. In reality, I didn't like girls. I just felt like girls might like me since no guys liked me at the time. I don't want to imagine what would happen to these kids injecting irreversible hormones into their body.
The emphasis on gender identity with teens is just so bizarre. I dont think I ever even thought about it because it was never a suggestion. I had friends who had emotional issues and I know that if all this were suggested to them they would have latched onto it and saw it as a solution. But as adults theyre either gay or straight or bi...not trans or non binary or whatever.
@@DoWhatsRight214 not really, the blurry lines between homosexuality, being transgender from a neurological misalignment (which hasn't been proven yet) or having a paraphilia throughout history has made that thing horribly difficult to be seen before in time, due to how heavy gender is sociologically, the distress of ones gender is hard to pinpoint at exact things like our modern understanding of gender and thereby 'transgender'
The fact society gives a damn what a teenage child thinks is mind numbing. The narcissism that drips from these ppl is insanity. The only thing u ever them talk about is themselves.
Yeah… as a teenager I got into the “fruitarian vegan” movement *cough cough* I had an eating disorder *cough cough* and I can confirm I was at my most insufferable when that was my “thing”😂😂😂
I’m so glad u shared the story about “coming out” because the EXACT SITUATION HAPPENED TO ME. I went to an art school for a bit and everyone around me had some sort of label. I didn’t understand any of it but when ur constantly seeing and hearing about it you can get influenced. I was Bi for a bout 3 days cause it was cool and trendy. This shit is influenced in kids on god
Also side note: I feel like a lot of these kids might just be gay/bi or tomboyish/tomgirlish 🤷🏽♀️ I think that’s fine, girls can dress like guys and vice versa or be gay
i’m the biggest tom boy i’ve ever met even now, all my friends are guys, all i do is lift weights/game/dirt bike but it comes down to so much more that kids just don’t understand yet! like i just an genuinely not attracted to the female anatomy.. why do we expect kids to know what that are sexually attracted to?! It’s sad because lots of kids just want to fit in and i would’ve done the same thing if i was in your shoes.. looking back at it.. i remember being in 7th grade and coming out as bi to my friend because she said that tomboys are bi.. gosh i was naive and wanted to fit in lol
I went through many phases I can find on the internet as a teen (though I never acted upon it like wearing boy clothes etc), and then I remember suddenly gaining sentience and common sense when I reached 20. It's like waking up after watching your comatosed self get swept away by whatever wave existed at the time. "Wow, I'm so glad I turned out NORMAL" is what I would always say.
100%. If she really was dysphoric she would make an effort to pass as a man. She just doesn’t want to be called a lesbian because she’ll be more of a victim if she’s trans
"I wanna have my own lil moment and meet my prince charming" GIRL 😭 not even US women find honourable, normal, sane men so you're gonna be looking forever if you're tryna find that!
Amala, thank you for using your platform to speak for women. It is not my business what people label themselves, but I resent being labeled cis. I am a woman. Period.
I wonder if Jubilee did that line of questioning ironically or coincidentally, where they asked the participants whether "children should be allowed to confirm their own transition of gender or not. An be put on hormones or puberty blockers etc." An right after that they asked them how many times they've "came out" of the closet or whatever. An each of them basically admitted that they've came out several times with different identities and genders because they didn't know whether they were pansexual, bisexual, transgender, or something else. Completely contradicting their stance and answer on the previous question, in children being informed and certain of transitioning. Aside from all the other issues that inhibit an "informed decision," when dude effects are still unknown and they basically hide negative side effects that ARE known. An negative experiences of surgeries and detransitioners. People steady contradicting themselves though, just further proves how ridiculous it is allowing kids under 18 to undergo these procedures and medications.
It just shows how young and naive they are because any trans adult that I’ve met who isn’t following the “trend”, who genuinely struggled their entire young life, waited until they were an adult, made the educated choice to transition, including my sister’s husband, says they would never encourage a teen to be able to transition and don’t think it should be legal because you’re just not prepared for a life altering decision like that yet. I respect them telling the truth about that not just to push an agenda.
Sex and gender are not the same. These words are not interchangeable. Sex refers to one's biology. There are 2 sexes; male and female. Gender refers to the characteristics typically associated with each sex. There are two genders; masculine and feminine. In the sixties, we decided that the concept of gender was too arbitrary and restrictive, given all human beings display, to varying degrees, both masculine and feminine characteristics. Hence, the freedom of self-expression movement was born. Today men and women are free to express their gender in such manner as they see fit, and not in accordance with a prescribed set of characteristics. This does not mean there is an infinite number of genders, but that there are infinite ways to express one's gender. The decision to conflate sex and gender was/is both deliberate and political. Language is key.
I had an 8 year old wanted to be batman. Wore a mask almost everywhere. He's no longer trying to be batman. His older brother, who is 23 now, said he's a girl last year. Moved across the country to seats his spring. IMHO, I still don't think at 23 he's mature enough to make this decision. He has disowned me because I will not call him by anything but the name I gave him at his birth. I'm tolerant for his journey on becoming an adult and finding himself, but my line in the sand is I refuse to call him a fake name. I see it as he's been so brainwashed. So much that he is intolerant of my choice to call him the name he has had for all of his life. I've ever treated him any different and that includes, in my eyes, calling him by another name. I've never shown him anything but love. Thats my firstborn. It's just so sad to me the intolerance that has been beaten into their minds.
@@foximoxi8533 he was born with brittle bones, so never did gym, never felt like he fit in. He's barely over 5'. There was never gender dysphoria, but he never did well with the ladies. My guess is some of his outcast friends didn't either. OK. No problem. You're young. Figure yourself out. He took it to an extreme because that's the cool thing to do. That outcast community that has developed around being outsiders centered around nonconforming genders seems all inclusive from the outside so i kind of get it. Kind of. He never felt had a community. He thinks he is now part of a community that is accepting of everyone. Our community was accepting of everyone. Not good enough. He didn't see it. He had not reached an age yet where he saw reality. In my eyes, any community centered around gender and/or sexuality is doomed to fail. That is the one he chose. It's been a few months. He has not yet crawled back. Door is open. We'll see.
Is the door really open if you don't let him/her find her own path and if you don't respect and accept your child with the decisions they make themself? why should your child return to a "home" in which they are not taken seriously and are not respected?
@@joemayo1589 Sex is biological your either male or female, and the doctor tells your parents what you are. Gender identity is when you feel that you should been born the opposite sex. I am a trans man telling you this.
*This is also something else that the trans community will not touch on:* A lot of it has to do with whether or not you feel attractive as the biological sex you were born with. I know for me, when I was younger, I felt as though I was not pretty, and therefore the better alternative was being a man vs an unattractive female. Although I identify as a woman in 2022, those thoughts use to run through my head, as to how much easier it would be, to just be a man in an ugly girl's world.
What was my phase? Well, at 14 I was a preppy cheerleader and at 15 I was emo asf. At 16 I was just myself and at 17 I was a jock. At 18 I became a model and at 19 I fell into the anorexia social contagion. After my organs started failing I took all of the actions necessary to become healthy and happy. Now I’m just me.
I went dorky weirdo, emo, super preppy, hippy drug abuser alcoholic procrastinating loser…. Then I got sober 5 months ago and I’m 26 and though I’m picking up the pieces left over and starting fresh, yup…. Never been better! It really is just a social/spiritual/materialistic/hyper divisive/information bombardment (and lie and propoganda campaigns) and food and medicine poisoning campaigns and financial ruining campaigns of the middle and poor class DISCONNECT! It’s called living life on earth. We all go through it and growing up we latch on to all sorts of different things until we find ourselves back at square one with the values and ways of life that have stood the test of time…
Keep in mind that you can’t ever actually decide your gender, anymore than a flower can decide what kind of flower it is. You just are what God made you. It’s not something you need to, or even can, decide. People can tell at a glance what you are unless you’ve altered yourself drastically. This generation is seriously overthinking things. What’s next… decide how tall I identify as?
It really just is watching delusional thought play out in real time and it’s kinda sad. I have some trans friends, one female to male. They had no clue why I got pat down at a club and they didn’t by the security guard… it’s because women don’t get touched by security but men do. A beanie and a jacket doesn’t make a man.
growing up i thought that i "thought like a boy". i had a boys name. i preferred hanging out with boys. and actually hated feminine things! i hated how i was linked to "girlhood" just because i was female. i genuinely didnt like people assuming i was feminine or liked barbie. i literally thought i was trans because of this. big surprise, those are actually totally normal and natural ranges of human personality and not evidence that i was born in the wrong body. these who ideas are so sexist tbh, and no. kids do not know whats best for themselves. i literally would have transitioned as a child because i thought not liking girl stuff or not liking being called a girl bc it assumed things about me meant i was a boy. this is what it all boils down to and also gender stereotypes.
One more thing! Haha! “Mental health” doesn’t mean getting what you want or think you need. So much of it is just talking through things, taking the time to understand what they are feeling and also know that feelings are fleeting! Maybe it’s just anxiety.
I remember “really really” wanting to be a boy in the early 2000’s, when I was around 10. I was around my brother and boy cousins every single day and I loved doing the things they loved and being with them. I’m so glad this wasn’t even an option when I was a child. I love being a woman and I wouldn’t change that for anything.
I questioned my sexuality multiple times through childhood and into early adulthood, then my GENDER in my early twenties. My mental health was so rocky and I look back now on my younger self with a lot of sadness. But I’m very grateful and pleased to say that I’m now 28 and very happy with my body and sexuality as given or assigned to me by God/life itself!
I’m a gay man who used to actually believe 100% that a child should transition. At 22 now I do not believe that at all anymore. I think that a decision like that should not be made by someone under the age of 18. I think that a child does at times feel very incorrect in their body. I stand by that I truly cannot tell someone how they feel in their own body. But to put a child through that when they truly don’t understand the world as we see it. Knowledge is power and a child doesn’t know what this will entail and understand that these effects are permanent and comes with different side effects. Rather than shouting at the government to make it okay for your child to change their GENDER in their adolescence, why don’t the parents parent their children and make it a comfortable experience for their child to live as they are until they get of age. Let them know that you are on their side and affirm what they are claiming and help them navigate through their turmoil. One day they may change their kind as children often do or they may double down and truly mean the world of a difference to transition, but no matter what be there for them rather than trying to FORCE everyone to be okay with messing with children’s bodies. Yo but like frfr, if you don’t want grown men and women to mess with your child’s body in a sexual nature, why would transitioning your child be okay. 🤷🏿♂️
Don't make assumptions but if you don't assume I'm non-binary, male, female, or whatever then I'm going to be upset. Sorry, but it's extremely confusing with this whole identity thing. We have trans people getting upset when we "misgender" them and don't go by the fact they're dressed girly or manly and then we have non-binary upset that we assumed they are female or male. Trans-woman is mad because he wore a skirt and we should've realized he's a girl even though he has a beard (this is based off a video I saw of a tiktoker saying he's a girl because he wears pink and a skirt and eye makeup but still has a beard and looks like a man). Non-binary girl is upset when she's in a relationship with a girl because she's labelled a lesbian.
Unfortunately people like that dude with the beard wearing a skirt, just tend to pick out the feminine stereotypes and assume that a skirt and makeup is what makes a woman a woman.
@kaitlynnb8334 That’s what a lot of trans women think. If you hear the majority of them explain “why” they are female. They say it’s because they liked makeup, dressing up and playing with Barbies as kids. I’m just sitting here like “How does that make you a woman?”. As a woman myself, I hate all those things.
I'm beginning to be against the idea of "coming out". Instead of announcing and proclaiming our identities, we can just simply exist as ourselves, and then people will simply interact with us the way they will, and that's that. Some might be confused and ask about your sex or gender or whatever, and then you can decide to tell them. Most people won't give a damn. I think people who come out nowadays actually think people care. Maybe their grandma does, but society does not care. I think the bigger issues here are: 1. The West is obsessed with the myth of the individual, and therefore is fixated on identity, and 2. Narcissism has been normalized and encouraged by social media. Firstly, you cannot exist as an individual without the whole of humanity. Watch the show Alone to see that even people who train their whole lives to survive in the wild cannot do so by themselves, and the "winner" is simply the person who starves the slowest and/or who loses their mind the slowest. The individual literally cannot stand on it's own, which should logically mean "the individual" should not dictate the rules of society. We always have to think bigger picture- which is humanity as a whole, over time. Secondly, the hyper focus on the self, and what the self is or can be, is complete bollocks. We are constantly-changing, evolving beings. We are neither the same physical material we were when we were born, nor have we maintained the exact personality, temperament and points of view as we did when we were younger. Saying you are definitively something is only relevant the instant you say it. With the exception of things we can see in our DNA (like biological sex and ancestral lineage), identity really is more a current feeling than something solid that lasts your entire life. So it shouldn't be given too much power. Having a strict identity can also potentially stagnate healthy and necessary growth as you will trap yourself in an echo chamber of people who are also unwilling to grow.
I had a non binary person work for me whose BIGGEST concern about their work place was respecting they/them pronouns. Really can’t comprehend something like pronouns being why I apply for a job
I’ve struggled with my identity for the past couple years and I started using she/her pronouns to see how it felt. I want to go through a good amount of therapy and figuring out if this is something caused by something else or if iam actually trans. I don’t want to start any form of medical transition until I can understand myself to a better extent.
As an expecting mom, I'm trying to arm myself with as much knowledge about these issues and trying to decide on the best way to handle a scenario that hasn't even happened yet. It's sad that situations like this have to be prepared for because just dealing with it if it happens isn't enough anymore
Alot is happening in the west. Never knew a day would come when I would be super extra extremely glad to be born in Nigeria because I can't even imagine living amidst all these discussions on a daily basis. Praying for America
Had heart surgery at around 10. I couldn’t and didn’t understand the side effects of the procedure and why it was necessary. If I had a say I would have voted against the surgery because I just didn’t want it. But it was necessary for my health. No 10 year old is able to understand let alone make life altering decisions.
When I was 23 I had 2 children and had been married for 5 years. I did not want to risk pregnancy again due to medical issues so I asked my doctor for a tubal ligation ("tubes tied") and was told outright that I was too young to make the decision to be sterilised. In my country you can marry, work, make medical decisions and live independently etc at 16 so I had been an "adult" for 7 years as per the medical practices in my country. This is a really common practice in the west to refuse women tubal ligation before age 35. How in the heck are these kids able to make such a huge decision when I was apparently incapable of making that same decision as a fully grown adult who had already procreated TWICE?! Insanity.
I honestly find these types of discussions difficult to keep up with & it gives me a headache. I'm NOT anti-anything. I believe we are all unique individuals. That being said, I strongly agree with what Amala is saying & I very strongly do not want to be called "cis". I am simply a woman. The idea Amala & Taylor discuss near the end about progress & going about your life then the conversations will die out, you continuing to talk about your sexuality keeps it in the foreground & keeps you from recognizing what you can contribute/accomplish with your life. Such a valid point!
So THE PERCEPTION OTHERS HAVE of them is more important than the experience they are actually having. They want others to SEE them in order to judge/classify/view them a certain way. Victims is the best view
As an actual bisexual it’s really annoying how trendy bisexually became in high school and afterwards I tried to hide it for such a long time and then when it was “safe” to come out all these girls led me on and then said they couldn’t date me
I love how at the same time that a child is throwing themselves off a staircase with a cape on because they believe they can fly, a child who still needs all the child proof locks on the doors, just learning how to multiply single maybe double digit numbers are supposed to understand the true outcome of cutting off their genitals
these kids hate themselves and openly talk about it to others but not look in the mirror and speak to themselves with love and thankfulness for who they are born as and that they are perfectly imperfect as human and now it’s too late if you choose to switch up, why limit yourself so much? Why let others ruin your life❤️
That reminded me of a quote from the movie Hair (1979) where Woof said "Well, I wouldn't kick Mick Jagger out of my bed, but uh, I'm not a homosexual, no."
Cisgender is a redundant word when the label trans exists. There’s women and there’s trans women, there’s men and there’s trans men, ig you could call women and men, bio women and men. But at the end of the day it’s unnecessary when the label trans exists
You know, what I think of in relation to this discussion and what they are essentially saying about what they want and expect in in another person ….is very similar to any relationship and what we do even in a cis gendered man and woman relationship, we say “I wish they would see me as…” or “I wish they wouldn’t” or “I want someone to just get me”. Man and woman don’t even understand each other most of the time. I couldn’t Imagine Introducing this other layer and totally discontinue a person because they don’t precede with the same view you have in life. I hope that made sense to everyone lol Edit: my full point is that at their age it’s really normal to only think of oneself and one’s wants. When, in a healthy relationship, it takes desiring to understand each other and not changing bc someone wants that of you, but because you’re willing to understand THEM as well. It’s a TWO way street.
22:15 I was literally 18 and thought I didn’t want kids. I had my first absolutely intentional baby at 23 years old. I obviously changed my mind AND was an adult. These hormones and surgeries are NOT the answer and should be the very last thing tried.
31:11 it is mentally exhausting to everyone else to constantly have to be on edge about other people pronouns. I went to the most liberal college in the US (voted on by the Princeton review) and it was so tiring to feel like at any second I would mess up and be socially punished. Why not just take language for what it is: semantics. They’re just words, they can only hurt you if you let them.
I`m so happy to have found your chanel. I thought that the world is going mad. Most of my friend identify as queer or bi or gay or I don't know what. I have absolutly no problem with that, I saw some in theyr transition, how they relised it how they felt about it. Sometimes even I wonder where and who may I be on this scale. ( I love to be a woman, a grown woman enjoying her imperfect/perfect body, that also admires and loves the pure figuere of feminity. I see beauty in woman and I love illustrting and exploring the womans body. This all dosen't make me a bi or whatever they might call it. I feel like a woman, I am one don't think you can take that identety from me just because you see it different) But the sad part of all this is, that some of them are turning into radicals, I cant see theyr Instagram accounts anymore, because of that. I wonder if they still would see me as a friend if I question it. And not only with this transgender stuff, also with all the veganism topic or any hot topic at all, some of them are getting so radical about it, there is no room for a dicusion anymore! They are just drifting away and I felt like I'm the one not going with the rythm of society. But listening to such coherent argumentaion, from you and other people seeking an open conversation, I feel so relieved.
These people think the world revolves around them, we aren’t here to appease you, live your life, leave children who can’t make life altering decisions alone, and don’t tell people how to think.
My sister had a phase where she identified as non-binary, I didn’t take her seriously cus she was 10. She wanted to be called “mxy” as a name. She tried to get us to call her “Arson” I shut that down and laughed and told her that was stupid and Arson was not a name. She got everyone in the house to call her Mxy. She grew out of it thankfully and laughs at herself with us.
bro my sister is the same way. i said ok to everything but i called her sissy growing up and she understood it’s a habit(she was 12 now she is 14) she still goes by another name.. but doesn’t correct us if we don’t call her it. She also never brought up pronouns again but she told her therapist she doesn’t know her gender😬
Or maybe, just MAYBE, these kids need to worry about whether they are able to graduate, get a job, what they want to work as when they grow up, instead of worrying about all these identity insecurities. I just did not have the time and luxury to "come out" when I was in high school because we were focused on our what we have to become in order to survive when we grow up. I only came out after I finished college lmao.
Yup! DING DING DING. The Malthusian plutocratic globalist elite ideology and agenda is the main cause of it too. It’s all pushed and encouraged to break and control the populace to usher in the new corporate technocratic depopulated (birthing and relationship restriction) new world order. Don’t believe it yet? Maybe looking into the World Economic Forum will finally change peoples minds…. Add on top of it the regular daily struggles of society and survival… I didn’t seek out transgenderism. Know what I went to seek out to find peace and comfort and belonging? First it was being the weirdo stunt dare devil, then it was being the emo, then the intelligent English writing preppy kid and athletics, then I came to the age where I had to grow up. Instead of stepping into the world fearful and building and succeeding, I procrastinated and escaped through following the ideology of leftism and the Hippies of the 60’s. Soon enough I’m a decade into full blown drug and alcohol abuse horrible 5 year toxic relationship with a mentally underdeveloped bipolar little girl… drugs and alcohol and leftism were my identity. And then around 2016 the world fell apart and once again I was faced with realizing I am still completely lost and took a hard turn down the wrong road for a DECADE. Still smoking pot and nicotine but besides that I am finally sober, confident and I’m doing it! I have ups and downs like everyone. I’m FAR behind where I should be…. Transgenders who make a mistake will be WAY worse off than my decade of drug abuse. Mark my words. It usually comes with drug abuse and suicide too. And pre-post op surgery suicides in the trans community are pretty much similar. Meaning surgeries and hormones do not help the suicide or drug abuse rates in the community. Actually there is a slight increase of suicide risk POST op. That says everything I need to know without knowing everything else I know about the LGBTQ+ community (well the fake part of the community I mean, the political indoctrinated mislead population of the community which is now the MAJOR majority) 5 years ago people under 30 in America were about 5% LGBTQ spectrum. The whole spectrum. The year before covid, covid and this year 2023 now claims that 25-30% of people in America under 30 are part of the rainbow community…. Really? NOPE. It’s probably the same. Maybe higher. 5-10% in reality. Meaning a good 20-25% are about to have unforeseen drastic problems. Meaning a hood 20-25% are infact being indoctrinated and physically/mentally destroyed. Look into the WEF and the Malthusian ideology. Most plutocratic elites follow Thomas Malthus openly…. Among others like Marx and the fascists of Italy and Germany…. Not to mention america copying China with every censorship and freedom/rights restriction possible. Shit is dark out there people. Stay yourselves and look inwards not outwards. The only thing we can do is build healthy happy communities and regret the coming western financial, social and political system that is about to emerge from the Ashes of imperialist American empire. Fall of rome anyone? Watch as the eastern world shoots past the west in advancement. The east will be the beacon of civilization until they are solid in world control like the USA has benn and eventually will most likely fall too. And collapse upon themselves like us. Absolute power corrupts absolutley. It may be worthwhile to move to the east, but how long will the east continue their “glow up” before they become their own enemies too?
44:16 I love that point that he made so much.. I have been watching you guys just recently but I have learned a *lot* and to actually challenge the ideas that I believed that I "believe"in and I'm not talking about gender here but in general..the whole victim thing that I will admit that I was attached to and how I wanted my world to offer me constant empathy and validation and if they didn't I will be demonizing them internally..I think a lot of us start to attach our worth to how much we have suffered and if someone isn't giving you the right reaction it will be a direct attack to your worth as a human being..I'm not saying not to have empathy for each other or not stand with ppl that were "victims" but that shouldn't be our whole existence..it is a hard pill to swallow for me but I'm glad that I'm seeing it now
Ps I have put victim in quotes just bc as I said I don't think it's something good for you to adopt as your being in the long term..not saying that you can't be wronged and such
I was a senior in high school in 83...my generation had our own psychological problems...we, girls were either in cliques or were anorexic or cutters.. gender nonconformity didn't even enter into the equation. We all had gay/lesbian friends, and for the the most part, it didn't make any difference in how we interacted. Racial issues were a non issue. We were raised to be thoroughly non biased... colorblind. In my generation that was a good thing. Thank you MLK.
Not too far in years behind you. Grew up inner city, all walks of life, well all walks of poor life. We made jokes/capped on each other. We recognized each others differences, but at the end of the day none of it ever really mattered. We were always friends the whole time that never cared one bit at all about any of it.
Can we talk about how some people don’t say that they’re trans and they go out with or sleep with men or women who aren’t trans? I would personally like to have that conversation and be informed of who I am dating.
YES! In my late teens I was considered lesbian by so many other girls because I wasn't promiscuous and throwing myself at men. So Eventually I thought maybe they were right. Now I realize I couldn't be further from the truth. I can barely stand my genitalia, I can't even begin to imagine to be intimate with another woman. I love men, I dream of men and I am straight period.
Ummm I am definitely distressed when I wake up and look in the mirror. For years I avoided mirrors. I think it really shows their immaturity that they think that is a unique experience among themselves
10:49 to touch on this part; Amala said that the bi girl dating a trans man somehow means the bi girl actually isn’t bi but straight. that is not true and idk why Amala said that really. the girl is still bisexual regardless of who she’s dating, which will be either a boy or a girl at any given time. when a bi person is in a relationship with one sex, it doesn’t make their attraction to the other sex disappear lol. and also, it actually makes a lot of sense for a bisexual person to be comfortable dating a transexual person who hasn’t had bottom surgery done. because you’re attracted to both sexes so why wouldn’t you be attracted to for example a trans guy, who’s socially transitioned and lives and looks like a guy, and also has a vagina. and the other way around. for a bi person, it completely makes sense for this to not be a type of issue for them at all. this is why the term pansexuality isn’t needed.
I think what these teens are overlooking in the topic of children transitioning is that you cannot “make sure to educate children”. Every child has a different pace that they’re growing up at. When I was working with children as a nanny I was spending time with 3 year-olds who were talking like full grown adults, who you could have a complex conversation with, but also there were 3 year-olds to whom you couldn’t explain that eating sand is bad and who’d start hysterically laughing at the word “scoop” bc it sounds like “poop”.🤷🏼♀️
As a Catholic, I feel pretty uncomfortable when someone uses Rosary as a fashion prop. My uneasiness hits the roof when a person who is openly against Catholic teachings carries the rosary necklace. It
At no point does anyone mention that your bodies are preprogrammed for testosterone or oestrogen at puberty, and the risks of long-term treatment with the other are not well understood. These are extremely powerful and shouldn't be handed out like sweeties ( candies in the US)
"Cis people dont understand me" say that to my 15 year old self who starved herself to the point of breaking her foot because of the loss of bone density from lack of nutrition. You might be in the wrong body but many biological women see themselves wrong. Its also funny they say we take being normal for granted when they have a normal body that they are taking for granted. And yes there are biological identifying people who have to take hormones or are on hormones aka many birth control or thyroid medication or taking hormones after a hysterectomy to keep your body regulated. Our experiences are not special so we need to stop acting like it is.
I really don't get how we came to this. These people clearly have psychological issues on probably every level, when did it ever came down to changing the circumstances instead of changing the mindset or treating the psychological conditions. Also I never get where the idea of pronouns and the "right to name yourself" came from? Basically nobody ever had the right to name himself, names were always given by parents directly (first/middle name) and indirectly (last name). Sometimes there were additional titles given by e.g. a King or possibilities to choose from one of your names, even nicknames are mostly given, but rarely ever a choice to decide on your own name. And even more crazy pronouns. It is something used when talking about and not to a person. Nobody ever really had the right or the possibility to chose how other people talk about you. I mean now I am allowed to still talk trash about you, but I have to use the right pronouns? Will normal people soon be able to add adjectives to their names so everyone mentioning them has to mention your adjective?
I consider this conversation smart and compassionate. I hate that this gets politicized or any hate. I feel that you are helping these kids more than most people probably are.
Yeah I'm telling kids they're not valid and experimenting with gender and sexuality and figuring out what they are is totally okay right can you know what being supportive is totally bad like oh my god parents are supporting their kids but you know what this is okay telling their kid that they don't know what they are but that's okay right like kids or figuring out what they are and you know what if they're not transgate or by they'll grow out of it you never still realize you know what no one is putting children on hormones they're putting kids on puberty blockers it does not start puberty or end puberty it blocks it if you know what at any time they can be taken off of it and puberty will start and kids take it for all types of reasons acne sports gender of affirmation so you know what children figuring out what they are if not bad and she's not helping kids she's encouraging and pushing the idea that children are old enough to know what they are and all of them a four year old knows if they're trans or not But a 13 14 15 year old is at the age will they start to question their gender or sexuality and you know what social media is normalizing it cuz you know what 10 years ago being gay you would be hate crime in the street for that and today people can be happy and proud of who they are without worrying about can I go out
37:23 I think if I grew up with this ideology then I would think that I'm non-binary too. I define myself as a cis woman, but as a teen I never saw myself in the mirror (just my face) and i felt really uncomfortable in my female body. I'm really sure it's a common feeling: not everybody had it as a teen, but many. I just don't think about it that much and don't need to define myself, because when I was a teen there wasn't something to describe this feeling. I think it's not bad that all the teens in this video have a word to define this feeling. But the problem is, that this is based on a ideology with a large and *adult* community.
I also hated looking at myself in the mirror. I also approached sexuality different, and identified as asexual for many years because I just cannot relate to this hyper sexualized world. Now, I'm pretty sure that the world is the one wrong and not me, though sometimes I'm still unsure because I'm just so different lol. But yeah, things are so confusing as a teen and puberty sucked. I didn't want to confront reality, but at least I didn't go flying the other way.
Ok I call bull. I am a biological womean, I am fine being a woman but I rarely wake-up happy and comfortable in my body. I hate everything about me and how I look regularly
"Please respect my pronouns or this is not a safe space for me" such a first world problem response.
Right. Like as if I care if it's a safe space lmao.
Ikr😭😭😭
Why y'all so worry about what other people want to be called get over it and worry about yourself the entitlement is real
@@kiedemouchette7133 No the entitlement is with the weirdos trying to get people to affirm their delirium
Safe space? Here in my country it's not a safe place anywhere, people are killed , robbed and more every single day, the news are full of that ... Imagine worrying about how people address you haha
I think how Angelina Jolie handles her child Shiloh should be applauded. She was vilified before for letting her daughter wear boy clothes before and basically express as a boy. But yeah, some girls just like boy clothes. Jolie did say if Shiloh wanted to change when she's older, there will be support. But note: OLDER. Then she grew up wanted to express more feminine, and Jolie lets her. Like expression doesn't mean you need to change yourself medically. Your a kid, you'll change into various versions.
I totally agree. See the contrast with Jazz Jennings and her narcissistic mother.
@@viquiben4919 His*
@@Honey-lv7pb right, but that poor child isn't even a boy either a girl. It's an "it" now. How sad
@@viquiben4919 he's a boy, no matter what he or his mother say about him, and no matter how much they mutilate his body, he will always be a male (with identity issues)
@@viquiben4919 it's a young man with plastic surgery
Amala mentioned Buck Angel. He made the best comment on one of those videos. He stated he is a woman living as a man. He admitted he will never be a man because he was born a woman.
I can totally respect HIS request to call him him because he is honest about who/what he is.
This. This is why I love him so much
Exactly. It's the annoying attention seekers that bother people
He also says the correct thing! he is TranSEXUAL, not transGENDER. hes got the actual medical condition of gender dysphoria.
It's the same. There's no such a thing as transgender and transexual, they're still women and men. If anything, there are people who suffer from dysphoria and people who don't. Buck has (or has experienced) gender dysphoria and get praise because she 'passes' and knows she's a woman but why fueling her delusions?
@4651adri Buck is self aware and doesn't act like a raging psycho which is why I choose to respect his request. I will be civil with all people who are civil with me. Buck acknowledges that biologically she is a woman but chooses to present as a man unlike some of these people who demand you act like they have changed their sex.
In response to the 18 minute mark, my 13 year old son went through a phase where he identified as non-binary. He wanted to wear dresses. I took him to the thrift store, let him pick out what he wanted to wear. Explained to him that he was born a boy and will die a man. If you like dresses, wear dresses at home. He knows I love him no matter what he goes through. Never once did I think this wasn't a phase. I was right. This phase lasted a few months and now he laughs at "what an idiot I was". Parents, be flexible but don't break. You know the truth.
That’s similar to what my parents did, when my brother and I talked about growing up and becoming a mommy or daddy. My mom answered that boys grow up to be daddies and girls grow up to be mommies. Never once were we confused after that even when my brother and I would shove pillows under our shirts and pretend that we were pregnant
that is such a clever thing to do, i am currently 13 and i love the way you handled it
i am a 19 year old women who two years ago i thought i was non-binary because i wasn’t super feminine at the time
but i’ve came to my senses … and i love being a women!
That's good. My parents let me dress like a boy. They answered criticism with "Hey we never have to worry about her belly button showing. What about your daughter?" But even though I was more comfortable dressing as a boy and doing boy things (to a point it was pretty extreme...) And I do find makeup pretty uncomfortable. Like physically uncomfortable. I like being pretty, but it feels weird. I never showed any real signs of dysphoria. I didn't mind people calling me a girl.
There are a number of explanations for my behavior that are likely, though I'm not certain. This includes autism. It could cultural, as I grew up in the sticks with three brothers and everything was hand-me-downs. It could also have been just plain puberty rearing its ugly head.
But either way, doing things like gender-affirming therapy for a single symptom (preferring male clothing) that isn't even all that good of an indicator when it comes to people who identify as trans, is ridiculous! What are you doing? Things are diagnosed in clusters after years of research and linking patients with the same symptoms. It's not done because you feel it should be.
This is extremely helpful. I have a toddler and an infant and am terrified that one day this might happen. My family is Lutheran and this wasn’t a thing growing up. The only plan i have is to teach my children to show love and kindness to everyone. This is such a good idea. Parenting with love and logic!
when i was younger (like 7-12) i HATED when my mom would call me a lady or say to sit like a lady in church and I despised wearing dresses and skirts. if i was exposed (I’m homeschooled) to the trans idea and the possibility of switching or identifying as a boy i’m sure i would have wanted to do it. now i’m totally comfortable in my identity as a female and i wouldn’t even call myself a tom boy anymore but if i knew about that and was supported in my feelings back then i shudder to think what would have happened
Absolutely my daughter would have transitioned in a heart beat between the age of 11 to 16 she walked talk dressed like a boy..she HATED being a girl and getting her period, then all of a sudden she changed she will always be tomboyish she is a painter by trade but she is absolutely stunning she has beautiful twin girls and is happy with her male partner..she absolutely cringes when she looks at her photos of he at that age her words are what was l was thinking.....children should never be in charge of what they want at that age...l thank God she is now 29 and extremely happy whom God made her....
I've been saying the same thing I was such a tomboy when I was young I wouldn't even look at dolls and had my own garage and set of cars etc in this day and age I would of been convinced I was in the wrong body when I wasn't I'm totally female.....such a confusing time for kids
I had gender and body dysphoria as a result of trauma at a young age. I’m sooooo glad I didn’t live that today because I love being a woman, a mom, and I love my body that God gave me! It’s perfect and beautiful!
@dilfhound69 that’s an awful feeling to know that you’d lose so much support and love. I’m so so sorry 😢
@dilfhound69 it’s never too late to be honest it’s just difficult. Just do so quietly. It doesn’t have to be a big deal.
As a self proclaimed “leftist” the more videos I watch of yours the more I realize I lean more to the right.
3 months ago. Where do you fit today?
@@andersc6593 it's called the right for a reason 😊
@@feversandmirrors nah. Get absorbed in the right’s propaganda and the left will look like overly emotional angry psychos. Get absorbed in the left’s propaganda and the right look like selfish uncaring morons. It’s all the same. Make up your own mind over each topic regardless of political affiliation. People like Amala are smart and make good points but she’s also narrow minded about the information she chooses to use and is hypocritical in her reasoning often. She is great though and has steered me towards the true middle. Though she and especially the Taylor dude are total conservatives with the slightest hint of liberalism. But they are far more forgiving of the right’s stupidity than the left’s. Thanks for reading. 😊
I don't want to be called a 'cis' anything! That is not my pronoun! I am a woman. Thank you.
It's redundant. I don't need to qualify for or justify my gender. This plus "assigned at birth " are flashpoints for me. Assigned? Oh no little darling, chromosomes tattled on you. The expression of that uncooperative, pesky DNA determined that.
Exactly, "Cis" and even worse "Cis-Het", are slurs against normal people. I'm not going to let you assign me a special designation, just to fit within your fantasy world....
Yes, for a group that loses their collective mind over "misgendering" they sure like to label others without their consent. "But it's just a scientific term" etc., yet lose their minds when you refer to them by their sex etc.
Same!
Same! 🙌🏻
Did anyone else hear Amala sing there for a second?! She has a great voice!
@@JupiterHeart
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@@JupiterHeartI smell a fellow PreCure fan.
Cant drink under 21 cant smoke under 21. So that means you arent able to comprehend consequences of your actions which should in turn be illegal to transition prior to 21 or join the military or vote before 21. There needs to be 1 single age where we accept that a minor becomes legally and morally an adult.
I agree. I went through many phases I can find on the internet as a teen (though I never acted upon it like wearing boy clothes etc), and then I remember suddenly gaining sentience when I reached 20. It's like waking up after watching your comatosed self get swept away by whatever wave existed at the time. "Wow, I'm so glad I turned out NORMAL" is what I would always say.
i don’t think there should be one specific age but yes there should be an age which determines when people who grow out of their phase most often do so
@@mistuyy unfortunately that specific number is required so that laws aren't vague. The number is probably decided on the average age a person will develop into a mature adult. Not everyone gets matured at the age of 21, but the majority does.
@@teru_9921 no i meant like one age can’t act for all ages
@@teru_9921 for example one age for drinking and smoking, a separate one for driving, etc.
Let me repeat myself: when kids are adolescent they are also insecure, and they seek love. If they are not chosen as the first, they might be willing to accept second best. Especially girls who wants to be desired and popular at any cost.
When I was 25 I asked to have my womb taken because I didn't want more children and had bad issues with my monthlies and was told I was still young and may change my mind so I couldn't do it ...... and yet now if I wanted my bits chopped off and changed to male bits it would be fine ...to me that's crazy I was too young to make a decision on kids but not too young to change my gender!! Crazy how much things have changed in such a short amount of time
Of all there is so much more that goes into that than what you think first of all most people can't even get gender affirming surgery until they're over 18 cuz the most insurance companies won't pay for it until they're 18 too you need to go under a mental evaluation to make sure you are mentally saying to do this 3 you needed to be identifying with this for more than 5 years in order to get a gender affirming surgery for you need to watch a video and take a test to ensure that you understand what you were doing and you need to see several several doctors before this and you need to go to therapy so it is not as easy as you think it is
Actually I know 2 girls that want to change gender one is getting the hormones so I know it's not mater of just saying you want it done and it happens its a fairly lengthy process my point was at 25 I was told I was too young to decide if I wanted more children or not but a person is considered old enough to make a much bigger decision
Please don't assume that because I think 18 is too young that I have no clue about anything
@@kiedemouchette7133 lol you’re so wrong in this too. There were hospitals being called out because on their website they were saying they would perform mastectomies on 12 and up and hysterectomies on girls 16-17 and up as apart of their “gender affirming treatment”. They have since removed this from their websites. Again. Do some freaking research.
The point is they were wrong to tell you that you could not get a Hysterectomy when it Your body and You had a right to Your decision just like trans people have a right to decided to change Their body.
I always feel bad for ppl when its clear that they are brainwashed =/
Who's brainwashed?
@@kiedemouchette7133 most teens who are LGBT are brainwashed, they think being in the community is quirky and people should praise them for coming out (Wich they do) and they make it their whole personality...
I think I'm a bisexual teen , but even i recognize i can't really choose if I'm bisexual or not until I'm an adult-
@@kiedemouchette7133 imagine thinking that people who are straight and "cis" suck , just because that's their sexual preference. That's pretty hypocritical-
@@huh5715 I'm not saying there's anything wrong with being straight straight people have no right to comment on the LG BT community cuz it doesn't affect you
@@huh5715 First of all you don't choose to be anything you're born the Way you are second of all even if kids are doing it to be quirky there's nothing wrong with that just supporting and loving your kids is all you need to do and think about the kids who actually are who are actually struggling so why are we throwing everyone in One community into one box it's like saying all black people are Hood you can't throw everyone into one small box
I''m oppressed because I'm left-handed. I'm oppressed because I have a rare personality (INFJ) and I'm therefore always misunderstood. I'm oppressed because I'm a highly sensitive person. I'm oppressed because I have had multiple health problems and diseases since I was very young that have caused me immense physical and emotional pain. Yada...yada...yada. We all have pain, problems, and ways we are more 'oppressed' than others. Focusing on our 'oppression' and continually victimizing ourselves does nothing but sink ourselves further and further into mental pain and confusion. It also makes us self-obsessed. I feel sorry for today's youth. They've been coddled, confused, and left adrift. To the point where every slight obstacle, perceived offense, or difficulty becomes insurmountable without huge amounts of external validation or support.
Baby how long did you sit there and think about this and then right it 😂✋
@@kiedemouchette7133 after seeing your replies in every single comment that disagrees with your opinion.
I think you're just a mad and sad person who only thinks about yourself. This is a conservative channel, idk why you're even here , to pick fights ? Bruh
Yay, a fellow INFJ!
@@ninibugg6203 yay im INFJ too
👏 I relate to a lot of what you said at the start and also I agree with you we have to continue to move forward. Even if we were held back by our issues we just have to keep moving forward.
There are so many things that go wrong in cosmetic plastic surgery that cause people deformities and even cost their lives, and these gender surgeries are more extreme, less tested, and have minimal concrete results. It's sad that they're sweeping the dark side of this under the rug, almost like they want the next generation to be in turmoil
They do. The WEF has been yelling about over population. They are concerned because abortion has been cut back and they needed to find a new way... sterilize the children. Not straight out like eugenics... they are using mass psychosis and convincing all these children they are not what they were born as. So they go and get the "gender affirming" surgery which sterilizes them. Then, when they realize that they effed up there is nothing they can do to "take it back".
Yeah, also mutilating genitals like this would be seen as cruel if done to dogs 😅 so why are we doing It to humans?
Because humans can consent and dogs can’t.
@@DoWhatsRight214 If people are consenting to sacrifice themselves for dumb reasons, they deserve to be called out
Causing turmoil is the governments mission. We’re easier to control that way.
What pisses me off is that these people seem to think that they are the only people who look in the mirror and don’t feel comfortable in their body. I’ve gained tons of weight in the past years and have had a baby, so I long for the body I used to have and feel incredibly uncomfortable looking at myself in the mirror……but that’s invalidated because these idiots think their story and feelings trump everyone else.
They meant gender wise not physically. You obviously feel comfortable as a girl but you don’t like your body.
Same.
How does their idiocy invalidate your feelings? Don’t be so fragile.
Euh... I'm a transguy (I'm not gonna debate on that), but... of course we're not the only people inconfortable with their body. Duh... Yeah before transition, I did feel pretty inconfortable in my body because of gender dysphoria... but mostly because, I can't really explain it, but I always kind of forgot that I had a female body. Like when people adressed me in female, I was surprised even shocked because the moment I'm alone (and not naked) I just forget. And I've done that, like naturally assuming I'm a boy, since I'm a kid, I already did that when I was 2 years old.. maybe younger, my parents don't remember exacly when it started. Important note though: my parents totally wanted a girl, especially my dad, they even refused to think about a boyname... and where totally trilled when I ended up being a "girl"... and no my mum totally isn't into girly stuff, she herself was quite a tomboy, my sister is quite girly, the other more a sort of mix between tomboy/girly depending on the day... so she never pressured anything on me and just kind of tried to learn me that of course you can be a "tomboy" and be a woman... and definately didn't let me transition or even talked about that topic.... just I kept forgetting that a was supposed to be a woman. Yeah it's weird, and nobody can actually explain it to me, myself included. But since I medically transitionned, I did start feeling okay in my body. Doesn't mean I totally feel confortable in my body, I'm short, and that's annoying, I'm thin and I would have liked being a big stronger build... I would have liked different hair... but yeah, can't have everything can I? And that hasn't anything to do with my gender anyways... just believing the grass if always greener at the other side. And it sucks being inconfortable in your body, whatever the reason is. And I hope you'll feel better about your body at some point, it's not your apparence that makes you beautifull, just who you are (and frankly being a bit strongly build can be quite attractive too ;) as long as you're kind of healthy ^^
@@samaelletaincell6382 before you get any hate comments for you being trans I just want to say do whatever that you feel comfortable with and ignore the haters. People think that trans people are like the crazy ones on tiktok or the ones who strip for kids but there’s plenty of ones that are just living there life like everybody else. I wish a lot of the conservatives would see that instead of hating trans people in general bc of the few that make them seem bad and pedophiles.
Crazy fact; in my country kids at the age of 16 (7 with permission from parents) can go through a sex change (with surgery from 18) But if you are a woman wanting a sterilisation, you have to be 25 because it’s such an important decision…
Crazy as hell!!
Where I live (Victoria, Australia) it is illegal to "say ANYTHING which may discourage a trans person from transitioning"
(classed as "domestic violence" for some bizarre reason).
This insanely-vague law definitely INCLUDES "mis-gendering" (since that's what it was INTENDED to address), but it's so badly-worded, it could qualify just about ANYTHING as illegal.
Like, say your 12yo daughter says, out of the blue "I've discovered that I'm a man. And I've found a surgeon who'll cut off both my perfectly healthy breasts!! Isn't that just AWESOME?!?" (And it's not the norm, but they DO dual mastectomies for 12yo """trans-boys""", in SOME cases...)
If you respond by saying "Are you sure you want to do that?" that COULD get you charged and imprisoned under "domestic violence" charges, here.
It's ridiculous.
@@baconsarny-geddon8298 Oh my goodness! So far here they have almost (can’t believe it only almost) removed the license of a surgeon that performed mastectomy on children (that turned out to be schizophrenic) and removed it on a trans doctor prescribing hormones he was not authorised to prescribe. But I fear we will see what you describe if the wrong people continue to promote things.
A dear friend once told me "reality always wins" no matter how much you want that apple to be an orange, you may be able to convince yourself of that, but in reality it's still an apple! "And that's who friends are; the people who'll help you discern apples from oranges. "
The stuff y'all said about swagger vs insecurity is spot on. I'm ftm trans and don't talk about it. I just live without shoving it in people's faces. Even when they find out, they don't care. They only seem to care before I blow them away with a simple reassurance that I'm not a far left crazy that needs to be constantly affirmed while they walk on eggshells. You can literally see their jaws drop/their shoulders relax, it's insanity. Like "omg, you're not gonna rip my head off if we live in reality and acknowledge you're a biological female?!?!" Truly looney, the state of our society right now.
Also, the thing about kids transitioning is iffy. If the proper diagnostic and treatment processes were reinstated, i would say yes cause it would then require a professional diagnosis and exhaustion of all other avenues of treatment. That way has been proven in censored studies to be the best option across the board. It also takes a long time and a lot of kids would age out of that process. Also, no SRS before 18. And kids should not receive HRT before puberty. Nowadays it's "I think therefore I am" and a clinic will just hand out controlled substances like candy and now we're seeing more and more detransitioners. I just hope the pendulum swings back and these ideologically possessed professionals are sued to hell.
I don’t constantly talk about it I do talk about it if you’re gonna be my friends and or partner as I feel like knowing I’m trans would be a thing some people might like to know even though I literally pass so I wouldn’t have to tell them if I didn’t want I just don’t like that people deliberately go out of their way after I tell them I’m trans to call me a man like you’re not doing it cause it’s what you believe you’re doing it purely to rip me apart and tear me down which you’re not doing it’s just childish.
Couldn’t agree more
Thank you. The sad part is many of these people are seeking love and affirmation from outside which is one factor that increases the depression and sadness many feel
These poor children. It's most likely a phase, like being goth or being into a certain type of music. But unlike us who were allowed to grow up without every little transient choice of ours being stuck to us as an identity, and then displayed publicly, these teens are being confined to their childish ideas such that it will be much harder, and much more painful, to grow out of this phase. And that's without taking into account hormones, puberty blockers and surgery. Truly monstrous.
right imagine if the eyeliner we did i middle school was permanent 💀
No it's not most likely a phase.. At all. The risks are suicide and puberty fucking your body up and need to spend 80k to remove male puberty and also trauma for all your life.
@@Aurora146 Look up statistics before spouting nonsense. More than 80% of children and teens DIAGNOSED with gender dysphoria, not even talking about all those who self-identify as trans or because of "gender-euphoria", grow out of it. What happens then if they have been pushed or enabled to transition, get healthy parts loped off, get put on puberty blockers which cause huge detrimental health effects such as lowered bone density, etc ? You can get your breasts or penis chopped off as an adult, you can't create new functional body parts, or cure the infertility which the drugs and procedures cause.
Btw, puberty doesn't "fuck your body up". On the contrary, it's the process of the body naturally finishing to grow, as all humans are birthed premature (compared to other animals) and have a much longer maturing process. All the changes that happen during puberty are necessary to becoming a healthy adult.
Look up John Money, the sick fuck who basically created gender ideology, and what happened to the twins he experimented on. It's not pretty.
Puberty blockers and transition before adulthood is child abuse. Consent matters, for goodness sake.
I'm 41 years old. I loved playing "boy games" outside with my brother and his friends. I loved playing with baby dolls. Skateboarding, ballet, building tree forts, helping my dad in his woodshop. What would I have been labeled?
I got "misgendered" frequently until I finally got boobs. What did any of that matter? I was a kid and understood that I lived in my own little bubble and the world owed me nothing. I can't deal with all these kids that think that the rest of society must PAY ATTENTION to them and change their own thoughts and words to protect their feelings.
not them getting jealous of people born naturally male/female LMAO
@user-yg5gr3mw7k That made me laugh, too. Like, now it’s “cis gendered” peoples fault that we have the natural hormones they don’t 🙄
12:02 I have a trans client that I’ve been able to ask these questions. Last time that they came in to do their hair, I expressed the confusion. And their response was “even being in the community, it can be confusing because pronouns and everything changes all the time. Slips ups are to be expected because of the rapid change”
This quote from Amala on the experience of being transgender is refreshing to hear. A lot of the time conservatives seem to ignore or minimize the suffering of gender dysphoria. Props to her.
"I just could not imagine. Like, I've tried to sit and like put myself in the head of of somebody who has gone through this whole process, and then it hasn't worked for them and I just I can't do it. That's something true to this conversation, you know, people who say like, "Cisgender people will never truly understand the inner turmoil that we are going through with our gender." You know what? I 100% agree. Because I sit and try to fathom what you must be going through to make a decision like that, and I can't. I literally cannot. And to get to the end of that road and find out that the surgeries didn't help must be devastating. Like it's no wonder to me why the suicide rates and the rates of mental illness are so high. Ah, that that would be devastating."
Medically transition does actually help a lot... just as a transperson you have to realise two things: transitionning will only help you with gender-dysphoria, nothing else. If you're depressive you have to work on that, you won't just miracly have no mental issues anymore. And many people once they realise they're trans think that transitionning will solve all their other problems too, and are then dissappointed. The other thing is, whatever you do, you can't ever become a biological woman/man... no matter how much that hurts, but you'll still be a transman/woman. It doesn't make you less valid, but just as a deaf person with hearing adds is still a deaf person, the same counts for a trans person, you still are a transperson. And if you forget to make peace with that, you'll definately become depressed. Then it's also quite impressive how much hate you can get. A friend of mine was actually chased out of the house by his own dad with a gun when he came out as a transguy. And I know like quite a few people that are the greatest people I know (a character literally of gold, generous, kind, brave and loyal and always ready to help out whoever needs help) and also happen to be trans and who just can't even talk with their family or former friends anymore... and that's quite challeging to handle mentally. And some people just snap after a while.
we have the left who allows non dysphoric people to speak over dysphoric trans people and push an agenda then we have the right who will make attack helicopter jokes at the expense of lives!
They can Never understand so why force their lack of understanding and opinions about a topic that does not concern you on to trans people? People with gender dysphoria you have committed or attempted suicide because they DId NOT get the re gender surgery. They are already suffering from depression from their condition so add a society of bigotry they can give up on life.
We're expecting rational, justifiable, cogent thought from children who are delusional! At the best this is entertainment. At the worst, a cry for help.
Excellent observation.
Yes, when they were listing all of the sexualities and identities they “came out” with as they were getting older told me everything I needed to know. This is 100% and a social contagion. Only differences this is between this and trends like Goth, Emo, Punk, etc. is the fact that adults are perpetuating and encouraging it.
@@foximoxi8533 Couldn't have said it better myself! The sad part is these adults who indulge in their children's delusions are living vicariously through their children in some form or another. So much that they believe children can make life altering decisions as they state in the same breathe that they've changed sexuality and genders multiple times in a year. I keep saying that the times were in is filled with so many dangerous, life changing,and deadly fads that'll give us a future filled with COUNTLESS, unprecedented individuals who have serious mental health and physical health issues.
I met a lesbian once in a D&D campaign my roommate was running who staked her entire identity on her sexuality. Her character was a lesbian and in case you had trouble remembering it, she would make my GM let her roll to seduce ever female character in his campaign because she was a lesbian, in case you weren't aware of it.
Obnoxious
the sexual counterpart to a vegetarian
Toxic femininity for sure
Man, I don’t even play D&D but I bet that was annoying.
If it would've been a male character, seducing every female because his character is a "womanizer" or whatever - would you think it's just as obnoxious/stupid?
She (he, idc) thinks that's the best decision for her now, but 10 years from now, she's prone to regret it. Even if she personally doesn't, thousands will.
20 years down the line, humanity is going to be spiritually bankrupt. And it's not just because of this gender confusion.
limit it to the first world countries...us third worlds countries have different problems lol
@@cutcookie4490 Agreed, though honestly, I've seen certain third world countries influenced by the West just through the use of social media on cell phones. Influenced by music for example, like W.A.P 🤢🤮
We're all more connected than a lot of us realize.
@@ceetruth4709 dw about that....no one here knows what w.a.p. is....they are safe...for now.....and those who know it hate it 😂
@@cutcookie4490 I'm glad! Hope it stays that way. Where are you from btw? Out of curiosity
@@ceetruth4709 southern india
One of the things that confuses me is the identity "non-binary lesbian". Like, how can you be a lesbian if you dont indenitify as a girl (even if you are one)??
This is just further proof to me that these are manifestations of poor mental health. People who are ill are expecting everyone else to react like a therapist, and they can't. Even though I've had different struggles, I understand the outbursts that can happen when you're triggered, and it was my responsibility to manage it, not others.
Honestly as a 28 year old women. I have changed careers so many times, changed my mind on a lot of things so many times. Use to say I never want kids but now at my age I’m starting to think I want kids. Like how are people so sure they want to make such a commitment?
Like how dare they be more decisive and confident in what or who they want to be when you could not do the same. The shock
@@DoWhatsRight214 lol 😂 you know how many people get misdiagnosed. Most of them turn out to have body dismorphia and Detransition. So don’t
@@DoWhatsRight214 or.. they just haven’t realized that people change over time.. and haven’t been on this planet long enough to go through those changes. This lady said career meaning she started going through changes after college.. around 24. All these people you say are “solid in their decisions” are 20 or less
Because they're teens. When we go into puberty they're literally chemical reactions in our brains because the brain connects new or reconnect you can say (not very academic I know, this is the best i can explain, pls don't scream at me) its totally normal to think as a teen i am rational when i am really not. And think we already know who we are and who exactly who we are wanna be.
@@DoWhatsRight214 it’s not being decisive to make rash decisions when young, it’s immature to not have the foresight to see that opinions change as we grow and we shouldn’t put permanent boundaries on things which may one day become very important to us… especially when those decisions affect an inherent driving part of human nature.
My mom didn't affirm my sexuality when I " came out." I came out as bi-sexual when I was 15. I was hell-bent that I liked girls and boys. My mom said, " I'm not going to believe you right now because you're still a kid. When you're 20 and still think the way you do, I'll believe you. She was 100% right. I'm now 20 and don't know the way I did at 15. I now think back, and I laugh because if she had affirmed my sexuality I'd be dating girls. In reality, I didn't like girls. I just felt like girls might like me since no guys liked me at the time. I don't want to imagine what would happen to these kids injecting irreversible hormones into their body.
The emphasis on gender identity with teens is just so bizarre. I dont think I ever even thought about it because it was never a suggestion. I had friends who had emotional issues and I know that if all this were suggested to them they would have latched onto it and saw it as a solution. But as adults theyre either gay or straight or bi...not trans or non binary or whatever.
Yep. It’s completely a fad. Five years from now they’ll be on to the next thing.
Trans people been around since Noah days honey it’s not a fad. It’s human nature
@@DoWhatsRight214 not really, the blurry lines between homosexuality, being transgender from a neurological misalignment (which hasn't been proven yet) or having a paraphilia throughout history has made that thing horribly difficult to be seen before in time, due to how heavy gender is sociologically, the distress of ones gender is hard to pinpoint at exact things like our modern understanding of gender and thereby 'transgender'
The fact society gives a damn what a teenage child thinks is mind numbing. The narcissism that drips from these ppl is insanity. The only thing u ever them talk about is themselves.
I'm not cis gender. I'm normal gender.
Yeah… as a teenager I got into the “fruitarian vegan” movement *cough cough* I had an eating disorder *cough cough* and I can confirm I was at my most insufferable when that was my “thing”😂😂😂
I’m so glad u shared the story about “coming out” because the EXACT SITUATION HAPPENED TO ME. I went to an art school for a bit and everyone around me had some sort of label. I didn’t understand any of it but when ur constantly seeing and hearing about it you can get influenced. I was Bi for a bout 3 days cause it was cool and trendy. This shit is influenced in kids on god
Also side note: I feel like a lot of these kids might just be gay/bi or tomboyish/tomgirlish 🤷🏽♀️ I think that’s fine, girls can dress like guys and vice versa or be gay
i’m the biggest tom boy i’ve ever met even now, all my friends are guys, all i do is lift weights/game/dirt bike but it comes down to so much more that kids just don’t understand yet! like i just an genuinely not attracted to the female anatomy.. why do we expect kids to know what that are sexually attracted to?!
It’s sad because lots of kids just want to fit in and i would’ve done the same thing if i was in your shoes.. looking back at it.. i remember being in 7th grade and coming out as bi to my friend because she said that tomboys are bi.. gosh i was naive and wanted to fit in lol
I went through many phases I can find on the internet as a teen (though I never acted upon it like wearing boy clothes etc), and then I remember suddenly gaining sentience and common sense when I reached 20. It's like waking up after watching your comatosed self get swept away by whatever wave existed at the time. "Wow, I'm so glad I turned out NORMAL" is what I would always say.
I feel like Mandy just wants to be different. It's a trend for her, in my opinion.
100%. If she really was dysphoric she would make an effort to pass as a man. She just doesn’t want to be called a lesbian because she’ll be more of a victim if she’s trans
Non-binary is so nonsensical. “I’m not a woman.” How are you not? What exactly about yourself makes you think you’re not an adult human female?
@@slacktoryrecords4193 Come on slacktory! it’s easy! she.. uhhh.. plays video games an hour a week.. like.. boys! 🙄so she must be
"I wanna have my own lil moment and meet my prince charming" GIRL 😭 not even US women find honourable, normal, sane men so you're gonna be looking forever if you're tryna find that!
Amala, thank you for using your platform to speak for women. It is not my business what people label themselves, but I resent being labeled cis. I am a woman. Period.
I wonder if Jubilee did that line of questioning ironically or coincidentally, where they asked the participants whether "children should be allowed to confirm their own transition of gender or not. An be put on hormones or puberty blockers etc."
An right after that they asked them how many times they've "came out" of the closet or whatever. An each of them basically admitted that they've came out several times with different identities and genders because they didn't know whether they were pansexual, bisexual, transgender, or something else.
Completely contradicting their stance and answer on the previous question, in children being informed and certain of transitioning.
Aside from all the other issues that inhibit an "informed decision," when dude effects are still unknown and they basically hide negative side effects that ARE known. An negative experiences of surgeries and detransitioners. People steady contradicting themselves though, just further proves how ridiculous it is allowing kids under 18 to undergo these procedures and medications.
They have to say yes to children transitioning or the cult will cancel them.
It just shows how young and naive they are because any trans adult that I’ve met who isn’t following the “trend”, who genuinely struggled their entire young life, waited until they were an adult, made the educated choice to transition, including my sister’s husband, says they would never encourage a teen to be able to transition and don’t think it should be legal because you’re just not prepared for a life altering decision like that yet. I respect them telling the truth about that not just to push an agenda.
Sex and gender are not the same. These words are not interchangeable.
Sex refers to one's biology. There are 2 sexes; male and female.
Gender refers to the characteristics typically associated with each sex. There are two genders; masculine and feminine.
In the sixties, we decided that the concept of gender was too arbitrary and restrictive, given all human beings display, to varying degrees, both masculine and feminine characteristics.
Hence, the freedom of self-expression movement was born.
Today men and women are free to express their gender in such manner as they see fit, and not in accordance with a prescribed set of characteristics.
This does not mean there is an infinite number of genders, but that there are infinite ways to express one's gender.
The decision to conflate sex and gender was/is both deliberate and political.
Language is key.
I had an 8 year old wanted to be batman. Wore a mask almost everywhere. He's no longer trying to be batman.
His older brother, who is 23 now, said he's a girl last year. Moved across the country to seats his spring. IMHO, I still don't think at 23 he's mature enough to make this decision.
He has disowned me because I will not call him by anything but the name I gave him at his birth. I'm tolerant for his journey on becoming an adult and finding himself, but my line in the sand is I refuse to call him a fake name. I see it as he's been so brainwashed. So much that he is intolerant of my choice to call him the name he has had for all of his life.
I've ever treated him any different and that includes, in my eyes, calling him by another name. I've never shown him anything but love. Thats my firstborn.
It's just so sad to me the intolerance that has been beaten into their minds.
Ya know I actually have a theory relating to this slightly. The more our overall life expectancy goes up the more the mature level rises as well.
I’m so sorry to hear that. Did he show any signs of having gender dysphoria as a child?
@@foximoxi8533 he was born with brittle bones, so never did gym, never felt like he fit in. He's barely over 5'. There was never gender dysphoria, but he never did well with the ladies. My guess is some of his outcast friends didn't either. OK. No problem. You're young. Figure yourself out. He took it to an extreme because that's the cool thing to do.
That outcast community that has developed around being outsiders centered around nonconforming genders seems all inclusive from the outside so i kind of get it. Kind of. He never felt had a community. He thinks he is now part of a community that is accepting of everyone. Our community was accepting of everyone. Not good enough. He didn't see it. He had not reached an age yet where he saw reality.
In my eyes, any community centered around gender and/or sexuality is doomed to fail. That is the one he chose. It's been a few months. He has not yet crawled back. Door is open. We'll see.
Thank you for sharing this. I hope your son will find his way back home. May God protect you.
Is the door really open if you don't let him/her find her own path and if you don't respect and accept your child with the decisions they make themself? why should your child return to a "home" in which they are not taken seriously and are not respected?
Teens don't know enough to know how much they don't know.
Trust me if your trans you would understand, it is very hard growing up when your Sex confirmed at birth doesn't match your Gender identity.
@@Yourjourneyisyours What does gender have to do with sex? bonus question what is gender?
@@joemayo1589 Sex is biological your either male or female, and the doctor tells your parents what you are. Gender identity is when you feel that you should been born the opposite sex. I am a trans man telling you this.
@@Yourjourneyisyours Are you born with an identity or does it develop after birth?
btw i appreciate you helping me understand this.
@@Yourjourneyisyours What factors have an influence on identity.
*This is also something else that the trans community will not touch on:* A lot of it has to do with whether or not you feel attractive as the biological sex you were born with. I know for me, when I was younger, I felt as though I was not pretty, and therefore the better alternative was being a man vs an unattractive female. Although I identify as a woman in 2022, those thoughts use to run through my head, as to how much easier it would be, to just be a man in an ugly girl's world.
The intensity of hair colour also makes me think there’s a performative element for some people.
43:23 - 45:43 Loved everything that Taylor had to say here. I wish that nurturing everyone's potential was higher on the list of life's priorities.
What was my phase? Well, at 14 I was a preppy cheerleader and at 15 I was emo asf. At 16 I was just myself and at 17 I was a jock. At 18 I became a model and at 19 I fell into the anorexia social contagion. After my organs started failing I took all of the actions necessary to become healthy and happy. Now I’m just me.
I went dorky weirdo, emo, super preppy, hippy drug abuser alcoholic procrastinating loser…. Then I got sober 5 months ago and I’m 26 and though I’m picking up the pieces left over and starting fresh, yup…. Never been better! It really is just a social/spiritual/materialistic/hyper divisive/information bombardment (and lie and propoganda campaigns) and food and medicine poisoning campaigns and financial ruining campaigns of the middle and poor class DISCONNECT! It’s called living life on earth. We all go through it and growing up we latch on to all sorts of different things until we find ourselves back at square one with the values and ways of life that have stood the test of time…
Keep in mind that you can’t ever actually decide your gender, anymore than a flower can decide what kind of flower it is. You just are what God made you. It’s not something you need to, or even can, decide. People can tell at a glance what you are unless you’ve altered yourself drastically. This generation is seriously overthinking things. What’s next… decide how tall I identify as?
It really just is watching delusional thought play out in real time and it’s kinda sad. I have some trans friends, one female to male. They had no clue why I got pat down at a club and they didn’t by the security guard… it’s because women don’t get touched by security but men do.
A beanie and a jacket doesn’t make a man.
growing up i thought that i "thought like a boy". i had a boys name. i preferred hanging out with boys. and actually hated feminine things! i hated how i was linked to "girlhood" just because i was female. i genuinely didnt like people assuming i was feminine or liked barbie. i literally thought i was trans because of this. big surprise, those are actually totally normal and natural ranges of human personality and not evidence that i was born in the wrong body. these who ideas are so sexist tbh, and no. kids do not know whats best for themselves. i literally would have transitioned as a child because i thought not liking girl stuff or not liking being called a girl bc it assumed things about me meant i was a boy. this is what it all boils down to and also gender stereotypes.
Amala: "my life is easier BECAUSE I'm black" she's so fcking based for everything she said here my jaw actually dropped.
One more thing! Haha!
“Mental health” doesn’t mean getting what you want or think you need. So much of it is just talking through things, taking the time to understand what they are feeling and also know that feelings are fleeting! Maybe it’s just anxiety.
I remember “really really” wanting to be a boy in the early 2000’s, when I was around 10. I was around my brother and boy cousins every single day and I loved doing the things they loved and being with them. I’m so glad this wasn’t even an option when I was a child. I love being a woman and I wouldn’t change that for anything.
I questioned my sexuality multiple times through childhood and into early adulthood, then my GENDER in my early twenties. My mental health was so rocky and I look back now on my younger self with a lot of sadness. But I’m very grateful and pleased to say that I’m now 28 and very happy with my body and sexuality as given or assigned to me by God/life itself!
I’m a gay man who used to actually believe 100% that a child should transition. At 22 now I do not believe that at all anymore. I think that a decision like that should not be made by someone under the age of 18. I think that a child does at times feel very incorrect in their body. I stand by that I truly cannot tell someone how they feel in their own body. But to put a child through that when they truly don’t understand the world as we see it. Knowledge is power and a child doesn’t know what this will entail and understand that these effects are permanent and comes with different side effects. Rather than shouting at the government to make it okay for your child to change their GENDER in their adolescence, why don’t the parents parent their children and make it a comfortable experience for their child to live as they are until they get of age. Let them know that you are on their side and affirm what they are claiming and help them navigate through their turmoil. One day they may change their kind as children often do or they may double down and truly mean the world of a difference to transition, but no matter what be there for them rather than trying to FORCE everyone to be okay with messing with children’s bodies. Yo but like frfr, if you don’t want grown men and women to mess with your child’s body in a sexual nature, why would transitioning your child be okay. 🤷🏿♂️
Don't make assumptions but if you don't assume I'm non-binary, male, female, or whatever then I'm going to be upset. Sorry, but it's extremely confusing with this whole identity thing. We have trans people getting upset when we "misgender" them and don't go by the fact they're dressed girly or manly and then we have non-binary upset that we assumed they are female or male. Trans-woman is mad because he wore a skirt and we should've realized he's a girl even though he has a beard (this is based off a video I saw of a tiktoker saying he's a girl because he wears pink and a skirt and eye makeup but still has a beard and looks like a man). Non-binary girl is upset when she's in a relationship with a girl because she's labelled a lesbian.
Unfortunately people like that dude with the beard wearing a skirt, just tend to pick out the feminine stereotypes and assume that a skirt and makeup is what makes a woman a woman.
@kaitlynnb8334 That’s what a lot of trans women think. If you hear the majority of them explain “why” they are female. They say it’s because they liked makeup, dressing up and playing with Barbies as kids. I’m just sitting here like “How does that make you a woman?”. As a woman myself, I hate all those things.
I'm beginning to be against the idea of "coming out". Instead of announcing and proclaiming our identities, we can just simply exist as ourselves, and then people will simply interact with us the way they will, and that's that. Some might be confused and ask about your sex or gender or whatever, and then you can decide to tell them. Most people won't give a damn. I think people who come out nowadays actually think people care. Maybe their grandma does, but society does not care.
I think the bigger issues here are:
1. The West is obsessed with the myth of the individual, and therefore is fixated on identity, and
2. Narcissism has been normalized and encouraged by social media.
Firstly, you cannot exist as an individual without the whole of humanity. Watch the show Alone to see that even people who train their whole lives to survive in the wild cannot do so by themselves, and the "winner" is simply the person who starves the slowest and/or who loses their mind the slowest. The individual literally cannot stand on it's own, which should logically mean "the individual" should not dictate the rules of society. We always have to think bigger picture- which is humanity as a whole, over time. Secondly, the hyper focus on the self, and what the self is or can be, is complete bollocks. We are constantly-changing, evolving beings. We are neither the same physical material we were when we were born, nor have we maintained the exact personality, temperament and points of view as we did when we were younger. Saying you are definitively something is only relevant the instant you say it. With the exception of things we can see in our DNA (like biological sex and ancestral lineage), identity really is more a current feeling than something solid that lasts your entire life. So it shouldn't be given too much power. Having a strict identity can also potentially stagnate healthy and necessary growth as you will trap yourself in an echo chamber of people who are also unwilling to grow.
I had a non binary person work for me whose BIGGEST concern about their work place was respecting they/them pronouns. Really can’t comprehend something like pronouns being why I apply for a job
@Princess if 20 is a child, then yes
I’ve struggled with my identity for the past couple years and I started using she/her pronouns to see how it felt. I want to go through a good amount of therapy and figuring out if this is something caused by something else or if iam actually trans. I don’t want to start any form of medical transition until I can understand myself to a better extent.
how is everything going?
As an expecting mom, I'm trying to arm myself with as much knowledge about these issues and trying to decide on the best way to handle a scenario that hasn't even happened yet. It's sad that situations like this have to be prepared for because just dealing with it if it happens isn't enough anymore
Alot is happening in the west. Never knew a day would come when I would be super extra extremely glad to be born in Nigeria because I can't even imagine living amidst all these discussions on a daily basis. Praying for America
Had heart surgery at around 10. I couldn’t and didn’t understand the side effects of the procedure and why it was necessary. If I had a say I would have voted against the surgery because I just didn’t want it. But it was necessary for my health. No 10 year old is able to understand let alone make life altering decisions.
When I was 23 I had 2 children and had been married for 5 years. I did not want to risk pregnancy again due to medical issues so I asked my doctor for a tubal ligation ("tubes tied") and was told outright that I was too young to make the decision to be sterilised. In my country you can marry, work, make medical decisions and live independently etc at 16 so I had been an "adult" for 7 years as per the medical practices in my country. This is a really common practice in the west to refuse women tubal ligation before age 35. How in the heck are these kids able to make such a huge decision when I was apparently incapable of making that same decision as a fully grown adult who had already procreated TWICE?! Insanity.
I honestly find these types of discussions difficult to keep up with & it gives me a headache. I'm NOT anti-anything. I believe we are all unique individuals.
That being said, I strongly agree with what Amala is saying & I very strongly do not want to be called "cis". I am simply a woman.
The idea Amala & Taylor discuss near the end about progress & going about your life then the conversations will die out, you continuing to talk about your sexuality keeps it in the foreground & keeps you from recognizing what you can contribute/accomplish with your life. Such a valid point!
So THE PERCEPTION OTHERS HAVE of them is more important than the experience they are actually having.
They want others to SEE them in order to judge/classify/view them a certain way.
Victims is the best view
As an actual bisexual it’s really annoying how trendy bisexually became in high school and afterwards I tried to hide it for such a long time and then when it was “safe” to come out all these girls led me on and then said they couldn’t date me
PLS WHEN YOU WENT FROM LAUGHING THEN SINGING “BEST OF BOTH WORLDS” I LITERALLY DIED & KEPT REPLAYING IT 😂😂😂😂
If you accept the mental gymnastics it takes... you'll accept anything.
I love how at the same time that a child is throwing themselves off a staircase with a cape on because they believe they can fly, a child who still needs all the child proof locks on the doors, just learning how to multiply single maybe double digit numbers are supposed to understand the true outcome of cutting off their genitals
these kids hate themselves and openly talk about it to others but not look in the mirror and speak to themselves with love and thankfulness for who they are born as and that they are perfectly imperfect as human and now it’s too late if you choose to switch up, why limit yourself so much? Why let others ruin your life❤️
That reminded me of a quote from the movie Hair (1979) where Woof said "Well, I wouldn't kick Mick Jagger out of my bed, but uh, I'm not a homosexual, no."
Cisgender is a redundant word when the label trans exists. There’s women and there’s trans women, there’s men and there’s trans men, ig you could call women and men, bio women and men. But at the end of the day it’s unnecessary when the label trans exists
Bro when I was 13 years old I’d spent ten minutes just picking out an ice cream flavour
You know, what I think of in relation to this discussion and what they are essentially saying about what they want and expect in in another person ….is very similar to any relationship and what we do even in a cis gendered man and woman relationship, we say “I wish they would see me as…” or “I wish they wouldn’t” or “I want someone to just get me”. Man and woman don’t even understand each other most of the time. I couldn’t Imagine Introducing this other layer and totally discontinue a person because they don’t precede with the same view you have in life.
I hope that made sense to everyone lol
Edit: my full point is that at their age it’s really normal to only think of oneself and one’s wants. When, in a healthy relationship, it takes desiring to understand each other and not changing bc someone wants that of you, but because you’re willing to understand THEM as well. It’s a TWO way street.
22:15 I was literally 18 and thought I didn’t want kids. I had my first absolutely intentional baby at 23 years old. I obviously changed my mind AND was an adult. These hormones and surgeries are NOT the answer and should be the very last thing tried.
31:11 it is mentally exhausting to everyone else to constantly have to be on edge about other people pronouns. I went to the most liberal college in the US (voted on by the Princeton review) and it was so tiring to feel like at any second I would mess up and be socially punished. Why not just take language for what it is: semantics. They’re just words, they can only hurt you if you let them.
Lol. I remember this guys comment one time "i wont even let my child decide what they want for dinner."
Mandy literally talk and look like she was raised not by her parents, but by twitter. Never seen anyone talking like that IRL.
I would love to see them answer these questions again in a few years when they are adults.
I`m so happy to have found your chanel. I thought that the world is going mad. Most of my friend identify as queer or bi or gay or I don't know what. I have absolutly no problem with that, I saw some in theyr transition, how they relised it how they felt about it. Sometimes even I wonder where and who may I be on this scale. ( I love to be a woman, a grown woman enjoying her imperfect/perfect body, that also admires and loves the pure figuere of feminity. I see beauty in woman and I love illustrting and exploring the womans body. This all dosen't make me a bi or whatever they might call it. I feel like a woman, I am one don't think you can take that identety from me just because you see it different) But the sad part of all this is, that some of them are turning into radicals, I cant see theyr Instagram accounts anymore, because of that. I wonder if they still would see me as a friend if I question it. And not only with this transgender stuff, also with all the veganism topic or any hot topic at all, some of them are getting so radical about it, there is no room for a dicusion anymore! They are just drifting away and I felt like I'm the one not going with the rythm of society. But listening to such coherent argumentaion, from you and other people seeking an open conversation, I feel so relieved.
These people think the world revolves around them, we aren’t here to appease you, live your life, leave children who can’t make life altering decisions alone, and don’t tell people how to think.
the whole video was facts
My sister had a phase where she identified as non-binary, I didn’t take her seriously cus she was 10. She wanted to be called “mxy” as a name. She tried to get us to call her “Arson” I shut that down and laughed and told her that was stupid and Arson was not a name. She got everyone in the house to call her Mxy. She grew out of it thankfully and laughs at herself with us.
Would hate to have you as my sister
bro my sister is the same way. i said ok to everything but i called her sissy growing up and she understood it’s a habit(she was 12 now she is 14) she still goes by another name.. but doesn’t correct us if we don’t call her it. She also never brought up pronouns again but she told her therapist she doesn’t know her gender😬
@bleueri4437 why? Does reality bother you so much that you will end meaningful relationships?
That's exactly what you should do! It's embarrassing and she didn't realize how cringe it is until you pointed it out.
@@Provocateurofendtimes why would I want to be sister with someone who would bully me
Taylor’s honestly so inspiring when he gets talking about a hero’s journey and becoming great :)
Or maybe, just MAYBE, these kids need to worry about whether they are able to graduate, get a job, what they want to work as when they grow up, instead of worrying about all these identity insecurities. I just did not have the time and luxury to "come out" when I was in high school because we were focused on our what we have to become in order to survive when we grow up. I only came out after I finished college lmao.
Yup! DING DING DING. The Malthusian plutocratic globalist elite ideology and agenda is the main cause of it too. It’s all pushed and encouraged to break and control the populace to usher in the new corporate technocratic depopulated (birthing and relationship restriction) new world order. Don’t believe it yet? Maybe looking into the World Economic Forum will finally change peoples minds…. Add on top of it the regular daily struggles of society and survival…
I didn’t seek out transgenderism. Know what I went to seek out to find peace and comfort and belonging? First it was being the weirdo stunt dare devil, then it was being the emo, then the intelligent English writing preppy kid and athletics, then I came to the age where I had to grow up. Instead of stepping into the world fearful and building and succeeding, I procrastinated and escaped through following the ideology of leftism and the Hippies of the 60’s. Soon enough I’m a decade into full blown drug and alcohol abuse horrible 5 year toxic relationship with a mentally underdeveloped bipolar little girl… drugs and alcohol and leftism were my identity. And then around 2016 the world fell apart and once again I was faced with realizing I am still completely lost and took a hard turn down the wrong road for a DECADE. Still smoking pot and nicotine but besides that I am finally sober, confident and I’m doing it! I have ups and downs like everyone. I’m FAR behind where I should be…. Transgenders who make a mistake will be WAY worse off than my decade of drug abuse. Mark my words. It usually comes with drug abuse and suicide too. And pre-post op surgery suicides in the trans community are pretty much similar. Meaning surgeries and hormones do not help the suicide or drug abuse rates in the community. Actually there is a slight increase of suicide risk POST op. That says everything I need to know without knowing everything else I know about the LGBTQ+ community (well the fake part of the community I mean, the political indoctrinated mislead population of the community which is now the MAJOR majority) 5 years ago people under 30 in America were about 5% LGBTQ spectrum. The whole spectrum. The year before covid, covid and this year 2023 now claims that 25-30% of people in America under 30 are part of the rainbow community…. Really? NOPE. It’s probably the same. Maybe higher. 5-10% in reality. Meaning a good 20-25% are about to have unforeseen drastic problems. Meaning a hood 20-25% are infact being indoctrinated and physically/mentally destroyed.
Look into the WEF and the Malthusian ideology. Most plutocratic elites follow Thomas Malthus openly…. Among others like Marx and the fascists of Italy and Germany…. Not to mention america copying China with every censorship and freedom/rights restriction possible.
Shit is dark out there people. Stay yourselves and look inwards not outwards. The only thing we can do is build healthy happy communities and regret the coming western financial, social and political system that is about to emerge from the Ashes of imperialist American empire. Fall of rome anyone? Watch as the eastern world shoots past the west in advancement. The east will be the beacon of civilization until they are solid in world control like the USA has benn and eventually will most likely fall too. And collapse upon themselves like us. Absolute power corrupts absolutley. It may be worthwhile to move to the east, but how long will the east continue their “glow up” before they become their own enemies too?
44:16 I love that point that he made so much.. I have been watching you guys just recently but I have learned a *lot* and to actually challenge the ideas that I believed that I "believe"in and I'm not talking about gender here but in general..the whole victim thing that I will admit that I was attached to and how I wanted my world to offer me constant empathy and validation and if they didn't I will be demonizing them internally..I think a lot of us start to attach our worth to how much we have suffered and if someone isn't giving you the right reaction it will be a direct attack to your worth as a human being..I'm not saying not to have empathy for each other or not stand with ppl that were "victims" but that shouldn't be our whole existence..it is a hard pill to swallow for me but I'm glad that I'm seeing it now
Ps I have put victim in quotes just bc as I said I don't think it's something good for you to adopt as your being in the long term..not saying that you can't be wronged and such
I was a senior in high school in 83...my generation had our own psychological problems...we, girls were either in cliques or were anorexic or cutters.. gender nonconformity didn't even enter into the equation. We all had gay/lesbian friends, and for the the most part, it didn't make any difference in how we interacted. Racial issues were a non issue. We were raised to be thoroughly non biased... colorblind. In my generation that was a good thing. Thank you MLK.
Not too far in years behind you. Grew up inner city, all walks of life, well all walks of poor life. We made jokes/capped on each other. We recognized each others differences, but at the end of the day none of it ever really mattered. We were always friends the whole time that never cared one bit at all about any of it.
@@lucaskuczek we were raised poor as well, attended one wealthy school, then another poor county school...same attitude in both school systems.
Can we talk about how some people don’t say that they’re trans and they go out with or sleep with men or women who aren’t trans? I would personally like to have that conversation and be informed of who I am dating.
I remember wanting to be a Ninja Turtle as a kid.. thanks mom and dad for talking some sense into me from transitioning into a Ninja Turtle at 4.
YES! In my late teens I was considered lesbian by so many other girls because I wasn't promiscuous and throwing myself at men. So Eventually I thought maybe they were right. Now I realize I couldn't be further from the truth. I can barely stand my genitalia, I can't even begin to imagine to be intimate with another woman. I love men, I dream of men and I am straight period.
Ummm I am definitely distressed when I wake up and look in the mirror. For years I avoided mirrors. I think it really shows their immaturity that they think that is a unique experience among themselves
10:49 to touch on this part; Amala said that the bi girl dating a trans man somehow means the bi girl actually isn’t bi but straight. that is not true and idk why Amala said that really. the girl is still bisexual regardless of who she’s dating, which will be either a boy or a girl at any given time. when a bi person is in a relationship with one sex, it doesn’t make their attraction to the other sex disappear lol.
and also, it actually makes a lot of sense for a bisexual person to be comfortable dating a transexual person who hasn’t had bottom surgery done. because you’re attracted to both sexes so why wouldn’t you be attracted to for example a trans guy, who’s socially transitioned and lives and looks like a guy, and also has a vagina. and the other way around. for a bi person, it completely makes sense for this to not be a type of issue for them at all.
this is why the term pansexuality isn’t needed.
I think what these teens are overlooking in the topic of children transitioning is that you cannot “make sure to educate children”. Every child has a different pace that they’re growing up at. When I was working with children as a nanny I was spending time with 3 year-olds who were talking like full grown adults, who you could have a complex conversation with, but also there were 3 year-olds to whom you couldn’t explain that eating sand is bad and who’d start hysterically laughing at the word “scoop” bc it sounds like “poop”.🤷🏼♀️
As a Catholic, I feel pretty uncomfortable when someone uses Rosary as a fashion prop. My uneasiness hits the roof when a person who is openly against Catholic teachings carries the rosary necklace. It
I love you Amala! You're freaking awesome and you always are on point w everything you say!
At no point does anyone mention that your bodies are preprogrammed for testosterone or oestrogen at puberty, and the risks of long-term treatment with the other are not well understood. These are extremely powerful and shouldn't be handed out like sweeties ( candies in the US)
"Cis people dont understand me" say that to my 15 year old self who starved herself to the point of breaking her foot because of the loss of bone density from lack of nutrition. You might be in the wrong body but many biological women see themselves wrong. Its also funny they say we take being normal for granted when they have a normal body that they are taking for granted. And yes there are biological identifying people who have to take hormones or are on hormones aka many birth control or thyroid medication or taking hormones after a hysterectomy to keep your body regulated. Our experiences are not special so we need to stop acting like it is.
Okay boy at 54:25 am a "ciswoman" and due to health reasons had to go through a hormone theraphie so nee we dont have it easy either
I really don't get how we came to this. These people clearly have psychological issues on probably every level, when did it ever came down to changing the circumstances instead of changing the mindset or treating the psychological conditions.
Also I never get where the idea of pronouns and the "right to name yourself" came from? Basically nobody ever had the right to name himself, names were always given by parents directly (first/middle name) and indirectly (last name). Sometimes there were additional titles given by e.g. a King or possibilities to choose from one of your names, even nicknames are mostly given, but rarely ever a choice to decide on your own name. And even more crazy pronouns. It is something used when talking about and not to a person. Nobody ever really had the right or the possibility to chose how other people talk about you. I mean now I am allowed to still talk trash about you, but I have to use the right pronouns? Will normal people soon be able to add adjectives to their names so everyone mentioning them has to mention your adjective?
I consider this conversation smart and compassionate. I hate that this gets politicized or any hate. I feel that you are helping these kids more than most people probably are.
Yeah I'm telling kids they're not valid and experimenting with gender and sexuality and figuring out what they are is totally okay right can you know what being supportive is totally bad like oh my god parents are supporting their kids but you know what this is okay telling their kid that they don't know what they are but that's okay right like kids or figuring out what they are and you know what if they're not transgate or by they'll grow out of it you never still realize you know what no one is putting children on hormones they're putting kids on puberty blockers it does not start puberty or end puberty it blocks it if you know what at any time they can be taken off of it and puberty will start and kids take it for all types of reasons acne sports gender of affirmation so you know what children figuring out what they are if not bad and she's not helping kids she's encouraging and pushing the idea that children are old enough to know what they are and all of them a four year old knows if they're trans or not But a 13 14 15 year old is at the age will they start to question their gender or sexuality and you know what social media is normalizing it cuz you know what 10 years ago being gay you would be hate crime in the street for that and today people can be happy and proud of who they are without worrying about can I go out
37:23 I think if I grew up with this ideology then I would think that I'm non-binary too. I define myself as a cis woman, but as a teen I never saw myself in the mirror (just my face) and i felt really uncomfortable in my female body. I'm really sure it's a common feeling: not everybody had it as a teen, but many. I just don't think about it that much and don't need to define myself, because when I was a teen there wasn't something to describe this feeling. I think it's not bad that all the teens in this video have a word to define this feeling. But the problem is, that this is based on a ideology with a large and *adult* community.
*** im just talking about the non-binary thing, being transgender (meaning have body dismorphia) is completely different.
I also hated looking at myself in the mirror. I also approached sexuality different, and identified as asexual for many years because I just cannot relate to this hyper sexualized world. Now, I'm pretty sure that the world is the one wrong and not me, though sometimes I'm still unsure because I'm just so different lol. But yeah, things are so confusing as a teen and puberty sucked. I didn't want to confront reality, but at least I didn't go flying the other way.
Ok I call bull. I am a biological womean, I am fine being a woman but I rarely wake-up happy and comfortable in my body. I hate everything about me and how I look regularly