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How to avoid being lonely and failing in college
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- Опубліковано 20 чер 2022
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Failed miserably didn't make many friends and failed all my classes
you are still worthy
@@moonriser464 the fck is he worthy for?? picking cotton?
Same😭
me
lol
If you be too nice people will just use you. You must be friendly but you must also set boundaries. Don’t let people walk over you.
Well said bro
Time and a place for everything
I’ll keep that in mind
Never made friends but I never failed anything. Just worked. Studied. Slept. Repeated, like for four months at a time for a few years. Almost done now. I just want my funny paper, dude.
I am not happy. He tried to molest me.@@random-pc6ih
In college I always end up alone.. :(
Now me too
@@Tojo_jzf remember, that you aren't alone bro
in my middle school i also always end up alone. Every class i sit by myself while people are with there friends talking. While they are working together im sad doing it by myself. I got made fun for it once. And everyone in my classes and all my friends have girlfriends or boyfriends while i keep being told im ugly. That makes me the most sad knowing i wont have a special someone bc i was born with a hideous face. I get made fun for not having a girlfriend alot too.
Im an outcast and a nobody thats what i always will be. I tell my online friends which is the only friends i really have (except a few irl friends) that i have a girlfriend when its a lie just to make my self feel better. My whole internet life is lie about a perfect life with a special someone. My relatives all have girlfriends or boyfriends but im by myself. I dont go out with anybody but my family. This whole summer i talked to no one but a friend for 2 minutes then never talked again.
Now I think I lost my best friends, and I stoped talking on all social media so I really have nobody now. My cousins say they would sacrifice me and said i was an accident and think im a nuisance. Im a loner outcast with no friends no girlfriend and family members who hate me. Thats sums up my life.
My fear exactly happened. I couldn’t make friends no matter how much I put myself out there. People were mean to me and it affected my grades. I had to drop out of college.
I tried to be social and nice and many people were nice back; but I was never invited to parties and when I went out, I was singled out and booted
Was your humor bad? Sometimes people think you’re not funny and that’s why. Also, maybe you were hanging out with people who were superficial and thought you didn’t fit into their idea of ppl to hang out eith
You should definitely try having more confidence and study more because maybe you’ll meet people at public libraries
@@brumhelldah917 People don't like to be disturbed while studying
It’s ok. Social interactions are 50/50. It’s you and them. It doesn’t mean you did wrong, but that they weren’t looking for a friend, or whatever reason.
Like the other comment said, it would of helped if you were in their “clique”.
Yaah ..... I've no one with me in my class... nobody does talk to me even when I'm friendly.....they really ignore and avoid me
.. it's too 😣 sad/uneasy
Most of times i sit alone on bench even if rest all benches are occupied..
PLS SUGGEST WHAT TO DO???
5 weeks in freshman year. 4.0 in HS, had a good friend group, now, failing my classes despite hours put into the assignments and studying every day and still haven’t made a single new friend. I’m gonna kms
Join a club.
That's really nice, but being too friendly, is being a people pleaset
That’s true. That’s what I was, now I’m more of a dick
I like your username. I fish in Belleville Lake a lot and the downtown is cool
@@trowwzers5057 I learn to be more selfish in a lot of way, but I think I still need to be less gentle. Thank you ^^ I get It from a movie actually
The thing with making friends in college or anywhere as you start getting older is that everyone seems to want a beneficial friendship. As in people only reqlly want to communicate with you if you seem smart and could help them in some way. Of course thats important but i feel like thats blocking any chances of really getting to know people and becoming actual friends.
Im the total opposite of this an i dont care if the other person isnt fluent in english, isnt super knowledgeable on the subject, etc, etc. I try my best to talk to literally anyone. I myself know a good amount and am pretty good at doing things independently without much help from tutors, but i guess i dont look that interesting on the outside...
Uni life rlly is lonely..
That excessively friendly only works if you vibe with the people you’re talking to because majority of the people are going to smile in your face and cringe when you turn your back. Just because someone is nice to you doesn’t mean they want to be your friend it’s kind of the natural American response. Even Europeans say that Americans are too happy they act so nice it’s almost fake which tbh most of the time it is true.
Luv that advise.. Literally me..
This was the advice I followed in highschool but none of them took me as a friend so 🤷♂️🤷♂️
That's you in the video?
Or do you mean, "*figuratively" ?
That is not me in the video but i was kind of have same situation.. Just kind of.. Ok
@@nicolaobasi3750just be patient because being alone is temporary, hope you found some amazing friends ❤
I was in this situation for nearly 5 to 6 months from class 5th to 10th mainly and still suffer even after 5 months of passing my 10th boards due to the emotional and psychological impacts that phase of life had on me. But that phase made me mature before the normal age. It actually transformed me altogether as a person. I feel really bad about how disgusting my later childhood and early teenage were but in 11 and 12 class also sit alone 🥺
Let's start from the beginning. I was the topper of my class. I was famous in my school and everybody appreciated me for academic and extra curricular brilliance. I had some friends who were either my juniors or seniors. But when it came to class and classmates, my life really sucked.
The situation was like this-
I used to sit on the last bench. Alone. Nobody wanted to sit with me. I used to eat my lunch alone. They made fun of me at every chance they got. Various nicknames which were actually humiliating. I used to cry almost every day. Always frustrated badly. So angry. I was always tensed and restless. I never had bad intentions for anyone though. I just didn't know how to express my feelings. I am emotionally very sensitive. Though, I was great and confident on stage and in public where you express your thoughts rather than your feelings. I have always been bold and straight forward with my opinions and actions. I have a very loud and heavy voice. Even when I talk, sometimes it feels like I'm arguing or shouting. So, I used to have a lot of verbal fights and that still happens sometimes.
The situation I described above gives a little idea about how it was and I can literally keep on typing for hours and may be a whole week and still I won't be done writing. I remember every single moment. Well, in short, it was worse than how it seems. Literally.
Anyway, you said “crappy life”. No. It's not. Remember one thing.
You're not responsible or at fault for everything that happens to you. But you are always responsible for how much do you let yourself suffer.
In my case-
I was misunderstood.
I behaved wrong sometimes and did some mistakes. (Which I had accepted and apologized many times to everyone who was affected but nothing helped)
I didn't know how to exactly express my feelings or tell my classmates I had got good intentions. This made me even more vulnerable eventually.
I did not handle things in a right manner many times and acted childish. (I was a child anyway)
The people around me behaved immature and were judgemental and insensitive.
I had a very negative image and impression.
The above points indicate the main reasons why the situation was the way it was. There may be other reasons too. I was at fault for some things. But mostly it was because of being misunderstood and people being insensitive to my suffering.
You need to identify the reasons in your case. Just think and analyse. Talk to someone who knows about the situation and can give you a right direction.
Just talk to your classmates. Ask them why do they behave the way they do. After all, they are your classmates. Try to figure out the areas where you need to work upon yourself. But in all this, don't compromise with your self respect (know the difference between ego and self respect). Meet new people. Develop interest in new things and do what your hobbies are. If you feel you're right, let things be the way they are. Or else correct what you need to. In any case, don't let yourself suffer.
Keep your morale high. There are good people out there. There are people who will understand you. Just know that life has not yet even started properly. A lot is to come. This phase will pass and you'll see how strong it made you eventually. Until then just keep doing what you feel is right. Being alone is okay and teaches the hardest lessons. Trust me. The self confidence it gives you is tremendous.
Feel you bro 🤜🏻 hope you are doing well my g
It will help me a lot ❤ thanks
Thankyou so much bro for sharing your experience ..it will help me a lot... i hope u will do great in your life❤️
Yaah ..... I've no one with me in my class... nobody does talk to me even when I'm friendly.....they really ignore and avoid me
.. it's too 😣 sad/uneasy
Most of times i sit alone on bench whereas rest all the benches are occupied..
PLS SUGGEST WHAT TO DO???
You went through what I am going through right now. I can truly relate to the situations you mentioned.
Thank you so much , seriously thank you so much for all the advices you layed out for people like me to read.
I truly needed to connect with someone and then learn from what they are saying.
I am really sorry with what you went through and I really hope that you are having a better life right now.
I cant say the same for me , having a similar situation like you. Lonely , feeling left out and always be feeling like shit.
I always asked myself why I am shit, why I am not making friends , good ones.
I will definitely listen to your advice and adhere it . I will try , wait no . BE self confident , respect myself and ignore whoever toxic people I meet.
Yes you're right , sometimes being alone teaches you the hardest lessons and I did mature before the normal age.
I wish you well my friend . I will come back to this comment whenever I feel down... I am just really angry at how shit my school and social life is currently..
i hope i will have some friends who has the same interest w me and vibes w me when i go to college. I MANIFEST!!
woah , I came back in this vid and i noticed i made this comment. I STILL MANIFEST THIS! 7 months until college😭 I'm crying , I'm not ready yet. Im not mentally ready yet.
Weii love your advice man!
I was always alone every since elementary school and i didn't care i loved being alone.
Bruh this is literally happening to me rn... Thinking of quitting and taking a gap year
I did that and now I have to go back ,even the thought of going back makes my stomach churn and heart heavy
Damn guess I’ll die and try to solo college.
The biggest advice I can give to freshmen is to join a club immediately. Either Greek life or a professional related club. It’s the fastest way to make friends in college.
I had literally the same fears. All of them came into my reality 👻
“Just be really friendly” isn’t good advice cause as long as that’s not your nature other people are gonna sense that - and the “friends” you make will very likely not be long term
Unfortunately, college was weird AF for me. I had to travel far every day, so meaningful friendships didn’t happen. I was always alone, got amazing grades, focused and graduated. I didn’t make any meaningful memories. Just studied and got my degree.
What do you know? To make friends, you only have two options. You dominate or you suck up. Friendships only happen when two people are unequal.
Def not gonna be excessively friendly😒
Just put yourself out there😂😂
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Scared of college (i'm in one as of now), had bad impressions of it, am secretly a nervous wreck, can't/won't make friends because most of the people act too good/gangsta for me (and i'm glad I don't hook up with the wrong people anyway), don't have a cordial relationship with my profs, and i'm not even A-tier in academics. Lol. I'm coping, malding, and seething as I write this right now.
@trinwarn Well.... ok thanks for the advice I guess 😅😅
Though for me my HS experience was better then now hence my disapproval but ok nvm
All i can think when he said he's name is "joe mama"😅😂
Interviewer looks like hikaru Nakamura
I never had friends throughout my school years
“Come into college”
Kid named college: 💀
Hikaru nakamura
How many people here work and study while in college?
Well that was a lie
The main issue is that since I'm a Chinese but my mothers tongue is English since my Chinese is bad so apparently in my uni if u can't speak Chinese... Mostly nobody wanna interact with ya
And yes my uni is more Chinese population but it's a English university standard
Diploma I was kinda lonely but at least got some classmates to talk too
But now bachelor degree... I'm so lonely af
Junior joe
Bruh I dropped out
👍🏻
Like me🙃
How do you avoid people in College?
Korik!
Who's that girl in your profile pic?
She's really cute.
"joe mama jokes"
Joe mama
LANGUAGE!
THERE'S CHILDREN ON THE INTERNET!
lol chill
@@baoquanmai8340 so child abuse is ok, but people who call it out need to, "chill" ?
I was mostly joking, but where do we draw the line?
@@Freakazoid12345 This video has nothing to do with child abuse. How tf did u even come up with that lol??
@@baoquanmai8340 exposing strangers children to foul language?
You think it's appropriate to talk to children online in a sexual way?
@@Freakazoid12345 Jesus christ your mindset, are you from 1920s or something? Stop being a snowflake lol
When all of that should happens🥲
To make money, academic standards have been declining for past 20 years. Few student graduate ready to go to work.