Sometimes you feel the loneliest when you’re around people. When they’re in groups talking to each other or laughing with the their friends and you’re just.. there
@Brielle Brooks Wow you really wrote much. But it's ok. I'm sure now you'll be feeling a little lighter in your heart. Maybe you wanted to tell your story to somebody who listen. If you don't like the behavior of your friend because she's indulged with her other friends then just let her go. Eventually you'll get more friends who'll be with you and listen to you. Don't ever think you're alone 🤗.
Brielle Brooks it’s cool I’ll be your friend.Also it’s not even like you don’t make friends it’s just that you don’t want to change yourself to fit in and not a lot of people can do that.And also I think all of depression and anxiety Is a perspective game like something could affect a person so much but someone else will wipe off the same thing like nothing happened and I think it’s also age related so your not the only one.
I just leave or stay away from people like that. But in certain situations where I am around people ignoring me, it is truely a very bad feeling. I usually prefer being alone, though, if im choosing to be around people at the moment, id feel pretty lonely if they completely ignored me
One of the worst things is realizing that you are living most of your life in your head. The conversations, laughs, & friends you wish to have are all in your head.
sometimes i have full-length conversations with myself where i pretend that i'm being "interviewed" about my feelings or my day and on bad days these conversations can go on for an hour. it took me a while to realize that i do this because barely anyone ever asks me how i'm really feeling/doing
me too... sometimes for several hours. every now and again, I'll become awfully self aware and think to myself "nobody asked that. There's noone here". and ill just break emotionally...
All the time lol Edit: I.e. I’ve got friends I technically ‘could’ tell, but the problem is that I feel they won’t really care, or will dismiss it or will just insult me for it idk
what about the opposite? "when something bad happens to you and you wanted so badly to talk to someone but no one is there for you, or no one to speak to"
Then when you reach out, they don’t reply or even acknowledge your existence. I feel like I’m dead to most people. Then, those who I’m not invisible to either want me to change (too much) or offer advice that I need to stop looking for validation or companionship in others. Doesn’t change the fact that I’d love the connection, but then it makes me wonder if I like things as much as the idea of the things.
try to find self love i promise you it changed me I was so depressed and felt so so alone and I started to realize my worth and being okay with myself. I know it gets hard but you have been with yourself through everything. You don’t need people all the time. Just knowing you have yourself and accepting it and loving it. If you ever need anyone to talk to I’ll give you my Snapchat if you have it.
@@dulapeepbars3872 yeah i agree developing a new skill might also help uplift your confidence like i did by learning stock market trading just hook on a skill it will help
Yo I literally imagine myself to be this gifted polymath girl debuted as kpop idol at 13 and later becomes the most popular one because of my talents. Acting in lots of western movies like the avengers, and do a lot of other things like writing my own book or having my own webtoon at such young age, because well I'm gifted and a polymath. And I would make a lot of money out of em, become one of the richest in asia, and use them to help better the world. Charity and charity and mooorreee charity because it's so painful to see the world's current state. I imagine being so honest and genuine despite me being a public figure, I am so controversial to the point that people either really support me or really hate me, but the genuineness ended up changing the entire toxic Korean entertainment industry hahaha. This is an imagination that have been continuing since I was in elementary school.... I can't get tired of it. It's more like an imagination about alternate reality, but of course I do imagine a lot about the future.
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16 Honey....you’re loved beyond your imagination
Does anyone else get scared that your friends and family secretly see you as a burden or just dont like you. Like they care about you, but they dont like you.
I actually like to daydream about having my soulmate by my side, laying on grass and stargazing, dancing with them on my favourite songs, traveling together, ice skating, horse riding, going to carnival, sky diving and shopping all while achieving success and thinking about spending the rest of my life with them.
Studies show that the most successful people talk to them self’s so there’s nothing to be ashamed of talking to yourself. Coming from someone who does it too.
Hahahha I don’t talk to myself I talk to my “imaginary friends” It’s really hard to explain without sounding like a psychopath Do I still count as a successful person?
my friends, they said i’m just bringing negativity with my suicidal thoughts and vibes to the group. i got called “the toxic friend” because of that but i don’t blame them
@@Venven033 You don't deserve that. Im so sorry. You aren't toxic. And your feelings are 100% valid. Your life is so valuable and God loves you so much.❤
I am the exact same way. I have full on conversations with myself as though it is another person. Its like my conscience and I are two different people. That being said there's the other part of me that tells me I am worthless and I will always be lonely. Its a real struggle that I have. I just want to be happy. Truly happy.
@-- I also do that..... but I am actually taking an *interview* with a person who wants to write a book about my life.... I know it sounds weird.. but every time I do something, I imagine that interviewer asking me something like: "So *name* , when did you realise you have a passion for" or questions like that..... To be fair, I know it sounds weird but my life is actually pretty interesting.... I started my own business at 13 at 15 I took an IQ test (an official one) and it turns out I am smarter than 7.6 billion people..... currently I am homeschooling myself, even tho I finished everything in the first month
I agree. You can't really be your true authentic self or express your true feelings to people anymore. And it's only getting worse. Narcissism is at an all-time high.
A few years ago, I tried to end myself. My friends didn't understand, blamed me for the way they felt about the situation and abandoned me, that is the loneliest I have ever felt, to be in need of a friend and to have none. I have nightmares, I'm scared of growing older and being alone, and I don't have anyone to reach out to....
the worst feeling is when you’re so upset and you cry yourself to sleep at night, but you have no one to talk to because you’re too ashamed to tell friends or family.
My problem is that I have “friends” but they are pretty much acquaintances that I talk to because there is no one else to talk to. It’s a terrible feeling when your “friends” feel so superficial and you can’t make real/genuine connections :/
I relate. It's so unbelievably rare to meet someone who is interested in genuine deep connection, happened to me, where suddenly you remember again what life is about. It's beautiful. But people move away, things change... and then you're stuck with the average uninterested superficial 'relationships' where you still feel kind of empty when going back home.
I like Poe, but some of his letters felt like he tried to isolate people he loved. His cousin-wife, for example, was set to be helped by a relative, but Poe fought against the notion and eventually had his way and married her. His _The Raven_ is pretty cool tho The poem quoted in the original comment is Poe's _Alone_
Bro i got a small house, and i literally walk to my car some evenings just so i could be away from anyone's eyes and just site there, sometimes cry my heart out while listening to music
How can someone not feel lonely in 2020? Right after the lockdown in my country, I was so upset that I started dancing hits from the 70s and 80s I my living room. I WILL SURVIVE was the opening hit. You might be lonely, but you are not alone! Take care wherever you are 💗💗
I disagree. Not because I believe there's something worse but because I believe they're equally terrible. I was lonely surrounded by poeple and it was awfull, and I was lonely without people. It sucks either way. It's not nice to say that something is worse. Don't compare loneliness. You can be surrounded by friends and be lonely and you can have no family and friends and be lonely as well.
I am watching this crying. I feel like this all the time: I am 39, not married and no kids and my dog was my whole world!!! He just died. The amount of loneliness I feel is soul crushing. I hold his stuffed animal every night and kiss it just to feel I have something to give my love to and feel close to something
Wow, you must have been through a lot. I'd like you to know that a stranger admires your perseverance and bravery. I hope you find your path to fulfilment in life, you deserve it too. I'm sorry to hear about your dog. Hope you can make new memories someday.
I know this is super late but, same thing happened to me with my cat. I had never felt so destroyed in my life. It’s so hard to do anything and I miss him so much. and I considered him a friend. But now he’s gone. I hope that you are doing better now and know that, you deserve happiness in your life!
I do the same I talk to myself and when deeply think about what I'm doing and how I'm talking to myself I feel like I'm a weirdo and no one else does it
I thought about it. Like why am I sitting totally alone, without friends, without anyone who could care ‘bout me if there’s so many ppl who also feel it and need support...
I'm not alone in a physical way. I'm surrounded by friends, family but I still feel alone. I feel being trapped by myself around people. I refuse love and I don't know why I'm acting like this because it makes me sick.
I understand the feeling. Find one person you can connect with and let it all out. Your in this life one time make sure u enjoy it to the fullest 🙏 I'll be praying for u
I would also say to try and let it out to someone whether that's a therapist or a person you trust but I would also reccomend looking into a religion or some sort of lifestyle that can give you meaning
I understand. It will be hard but I think it's important to learn how to love, to push urself about it. Not with everyone of course but yeah. You will surely find somebody to love one day and even if u dont want to. Im not specifically talking about falling in love but friendship, family relation, etc. Love is a part of happiness, a big part.
@Thomas Light That is very true though. But if i knew what strangers around be in my daily life had been through i would properply feel the exact same way.
@@BB-bq5eg Yeah yeah, I tell people about everything that's happened to me in the past to me in the past 2 years and they're all like "Oh that sucks." And they never talk to me again.
@@alexosow That sounds hard. I think a lot of people try to avoid that irl. That's why the internet is sometimes a good place, where you can say stuff like that, even though we're complete strangers, we will care (including me :)). Hope you're ok.
@@BB-bq5eg Yeah I definitely agree with you on that, but it is kinda harder to have a lasting conversation with someone online if you don't really have anything in common
@@alexosow Ofc. But i think just sharing it and having somebody resbond and care can be very helpful for somebody, even though you don't know or will properply ever know that person. But yes, it is better with real friendships (and relationships). But a lot of people have trouble handeling other peoples problems face to face. And ofc it is very very hard for the person sharing there problems to just get the cold shoulder. I feel very sorry for you to expirience that.
Bro, I literally cried to this. The only comment ive ever cried to. For a while I’ve wanted a best friend a real one but now I don’t rlly. But thanks, and truly I wish the same to u
I talk about topics as loneliness on my channel as well: Loneliness is paradoxically the worst feeling a human being can experience but it’s also something comfortable for me personally, it’s part of me
I feel the loneliest when I'm with my friends. They were talking about their life success, while I'm stuck in rock bottom. Then I'll pretend to smile, and congratulate them. Went home, sleep under my bed with full volume music, but I don't cry... I wanna cry, but I'm too tired to even do that...
@Miguel Hernandez This loser having spiraled so many times into anxiety and panic attacks that regular contemplation of my self value and worth lead to suicidal thoughts and endless nights of crying and nightmares that feel worse than death.
@@Siratioomia I like these kind of quotes. And so do at least 164 people :) Don't give up! You're more valuable than you feel and stronger than you think. I mean you deal with these issues every single day again and again. You're a warrior.
@Miguel Hernandez Who hurt you? Hey, remember that everything will be alright. You seem very angry, and i (an internet nobody) wish you all the best. Don't give up on yourself.
Today was my high school graduation and no one showed up for me. Not even my parents. It was cripplingly painful to see friends hugging their parents and taking pictures while I had to go back to my own dark empty car and drive myself home.
Congratulations on your graduation! Graduating high school is a big deal and an accomplishment worth celebrating. Just know that a stranger out there somewhere (me) is proud of you and is cheering you on :)
Have anyone ever gotten to the point where they just hold a pillow and cry themselves to sleep all while fantasizing that the pillow ur holding is your s/o holding you and telling you everything is ok and you aren’t ugly or alone. I think I have issues because this is somewhat normal
no but i’ll imagine myself doing basic things such as having a good time with other people and being an extrovert people like, then i’ll smack myself and remind myself that that isn’t who i am, and it never will be, i’m damned to a life of utter loneliness
Yeah I've got this. I cry badly at midnight with tears rolling down my cheeks and then I look into the mirror hopelessly and wipe them myself imagining a soft warm hand gently clearing them. I desperately wait for someone to come and hug me but the reality is I don't even remember the last time someone hugged me. Ten-fifteen minutes pass by as I stare at the wall regretting everything I've done in life and not even having a single person who you can call at that moment eats you from inside. Finally I tightly press my face against the pillow, let it soak my tears and cry myself to sleep.
My parents think Im addicted to my phone because i only lay in bed and watch series or videos. In reality It is my shield where i can imagine my Life being like those shows and be Happy It really is my safe place. Any one??
The hardest thing about breaking out of loneliness, is that when an opportunity comes, you are so use to being alone that you feel like you don't deserve it. And when you do take the opportunity, you can't enjoy the moment without thinking that sooner or later, you will go back to being lonely.
Thissss...this is the reason why I couldn't celebrate after getting selected into my dream medical college.The amount of hardwork I had put into entrance exam and cut out all the friends for that time but after the results it appeared to me those friends were no more there for me.
i have the worst abandonment issues because of this. i'm distant because everyone leaves. i don't have anyone because I know i can't handle another loss.
i make up stories about me having a friend. i like to imagine what they would say to me, when i accomplish something i imagine them being proud, i imagine them giving my drawings criticism and praise, i like to hug my big toy doggo and pretend like that's my friend hugging me, i stroke my own hair when i get that sinking feeling (like someone's consoling me), i fall asleep to random videos because that makes it feel like i have someone i know and live with.
I keep myself in an imaginary world where I have many people who loves me. But the second I realise that it's just me making that up I burst out crying realising how helpless I am.
It's not only you my dear even I go through the same thoughts I imagine that there are many friends around me and I share all the funny stories and trends I wipe my tears imagining my friend is wiping then I realised it only me I keep crying till I fall asleep.
@@nicolealfonso757 it's just so annoying and frustrating that when I snap back to reality i feel hopeless. That's the main reason I don't have any social medias. Just UA-cam and WhatsApp and I'm glad. Don't know how to overcome this imagination. Hope ur doing gud too beautiful.
Honestly, it hurts me deeply whenever someone confesses loneliness on the internet, because I have experienced it and I would never wish it on any single person in the world, not even my enemy. Loneliness destroys you.
I tell myself I'm an introvert a lot and that I don't like being around people, but I think the only reason I tell myself these things is because I attempt to feel less lonely. I wish I could have friends to go out and do things with. All I long for is friends, but my anxiety and fear of judgement always keep me from being myself around people. It takes me so long to adjust and get used to people and I hate myself for it.
Don't hate yourself for it. It better to just accept it as you have been. Loneliest is something that based off perception and emotion and you can get rid of it and convince yourself it isn't a problem. It better to do this and be "happy" than to remind yourself of the problem. Don't seek for answers, forget the questions.
i relate. my friends that i've known for years. I have 3 that i'm completely comfortable around i'm glad they stuck with me when i was quiet. they also can make friends so quick and i'll hangout with their new friends but um always more quiet. I wanna say something but a part of my mind stops me from talking to them. I feel like they'll hate me if i say something wrong. I've been slowly getting out of that state of mind because i've been talking to people online. And I feel there's no judgment or if they do judge me it doesn't matter since they live in a different state or a different country. It been helping me finally talk my thoughts to people i've just been meeting. or people that i met through my friends a long time ago but never gotten close to.
i also do the exact same thing! i wish i could hug u and tell u that ure special cause nobody deserves to feel like this, i really hope ure better now ❤
I agree, for a long time I had a horrible “friend” who beat the hell out of me, because I was terrified of being lonely, but it’s so much better without him
i hate people that say this. i literally would rather have someone that literally would talk to me at least once a week rather than being completely alone. like just the thought that someone cares is comforting even if they really don’t, sometimes, ik it’s damaging in the long run but i’d literally do anything for that again
Being Asian especially Indian, mental illness is the most hardest subject to bring forth to your parents. It's all a myth according the parents, it's just inside your head. Every time, I cry about my feelings to my mom, she has the same response; drink water, pray and meditate; it'll all be gone. I'm not even religious, but I can't even say that outside, I'd be disowned.
Hey went through mental illness as well from 13 years old but now at 18 things are much better. I want to create an instagram group where strangers with similar struggles can share their thoughts so they don’t feel alone. Do you want to join ? You are not alone
Well I’m Haitian but I feel this. My mom doesn’t even know that I’m dealing with depression and anxiety and taking meds for them. If I told her, she would tell me to pray harder and go to church
fr!! nowadays everyone is too anxious to approach new people bc they’re scared of other peoples judgment. when in reality a lot of people are just as lonely and need a friend too (im the same way though lol)
@@imana8907 totally agree! i feel the exact same way as u. ive dealt w social anxiety ever since i can remember so it makes it even harder than it already would be to put myself out there unfortunately. i know idk u but i sincerely wish u the best and hope u can feel a slight sense of reassurance knowing that i am only a message away if u ever feel alone :)
Tbh I feel like lonely people don't get noticed much because we hide. Everyone around me seems to have a lot of friends. Even when I asked people if they ever felt lonely they said no. It's so hard to come across people who relate to you when it comes to lonelyness irl. I only find people who truely know that feeling online.
I treat people around me how I want to be treated. I listen, comfort, am interested, and am always careful about what I say. But I haven’t experienced someone doing the same for me. It makes me wonder weather anymore around me actually cares.
I know what you mean. Sometimes I stop talking mid sentence and no one ever even indicates that they notice. I feel like people really only care to talk about themselves for the most part. It's really hard to make friends to share with.
True true.. Also another time there was this guy who asked me at the end of the day, "why aren't you with your friends? You seem like you're lonely" and I'm like "I don't wanna be" I was so devastated back then holding my tears because of embarrassment lmaoo.
Same, whenever my colleagues ask me what I did at the weekend or on my days off, I always say I met up with friends for dinner, coffee etc when in truth I wandered round doing everything on my own. I just hope they never ask me to bring all my friends along because that will be difficult for sure!! 😅
that's happened to me all my life, in school, at home everywhere. the sad thing is I'm young. I feel ignored but I can't demand because externally I just look happy, people come to me telling me I give happy vibes so I feel like if I tell them about these things they'll just be disappointed because I was not what they expected.
i’m so lonely that when someone touches my hand by accident or a friend hugs me i think about it for weeks and crave it ,,, i’m a total introvert with really bad social anxiety and anxiety in general but i still NEED physical touch. since i have such bad anxiety and barely can go to school plus with covid, i rarely see my friends and even if i do, they aren’t touchy at all,,, i literally just need a hug 🧍♂️ edit: not y’all liking this comments this is so pathetic and embarrassing i didn’t think 200 people would relate woo hoo but i love you all,, sending a hug to my fellow touch starved loners
I'm 28. Only had 1 friend, in high school, and think about him daily. Only had 1 gf, for 6 years, but it was long distance and never made to met her, and because of my depression getting worse and worse she couldn't wait for me anymore, which I understand. Last weekend I learnt she's getting married. It hit me so hard. My family loves me, 2 people, but only because they're forced to love me, because they are my family. If they weren't they wouldn't care about me, so it's a love doesn't really matter because they don't love because of who I am, but because they're my family. So at the end of the day I feel completely lone in this world. Been like this for 10 years since I finished high school and the worst part of it all is that I know very well it's not going to be fixed anytime soon, and so in the case I ever get it fixed. So I understand all of you very well. It sucks, but life is like this. Much love to you all❤️
And love to you as well. Some of the best word I've ever heard was that it's okay to be broken. I sometimes look at my family and think that i would want almost nothing to do with them if I didn't know so much about them. If only someone was willing to try and listen to someone else then we could have more friends who are closer than family. I know my friends often feel much closer than my family. I love you, and I hope that you have someone who will talk to you at anytime. It is often at night that I feel lonely, bc I know that no one will talk with me because they are asleep
No you are wrong, your family doesn’t have to love you. There’s plenty of horror stories of abuse to prove that. Be grateful you have those two family members. Hope things work out for you
I think the only reason why I still survive is because of my illusions. I take comfort in daydreaming where I am the exact opposite of what I am now being lonely. These illusions would become overwhelming to the point that I'd space out for a while because I am too busy living in a story I am creating in my head. This is how I cope up when I experience mental breakdown. There are times that I'd go out of my bedroom smiling and hyped up because I haven't fully woke up from the daydream I just had. The worst feeling is when you come back to reality and the pillow that you were imagining as a person who loves you just became a normal pillow.
One of the top comments has a reply thread of people feeling the same way. Maybe you could talk to them. Have you ever played club penguin? You can talk to many people who'd care and listen if they heard your story. You might find people in the same area, I don't know.
Yes. Except I am not in the daydreams I dream, but I do it basically for the same reason. I use a lot of forms of escapism to the point where I become less functional.
Omg so relatable at this point I’m just living the story i created in my head where i have a imaginary best friend who comforts me everyday and whenever i try to break out of it. The atmosphere turns depressing and i break down mentally and cry a pool of tears because of how bad my life is rn. Daydreaming is how i cope with daily
@@reezyzfrenchfries3872 I am daydreaming that an interviewer asks me questions about my life, the person wants to write a book about my life..... I mean I live an interesting life but it's all literally happening in my bedroom, I finished school but I am only 15, I mean I finished this year in 1 month because I am pretty smart but I want to be seen......normal
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16 Honey....you’re loved beyond your imagination
The worst part? You want to be successful, accomplished , and famous just so that you can have friends, people that care about you and give you the affection you always craved .
But famous people will never know who is really their friend, or if the person is just using them. Just look at Britney Spears. Even her family used her.
That’s a terrible way to look at having friends. If ppl want u in their life because of those things and those things only they r not the person u want in ur life . U should try to find someone who likes u simply for who YOU are. Not for what u have or are capable of
Loneliness is why I'm constantly playing UA-cam videos and have them playing in my flat even when I'm not in the room and can't hear them. It feels like a constant, really reliable presence.
I am not even kidding, this is the best timing ever. I just left half way through my dance rehearsals on zoom, literally crying outside the frame. I felt so lonely and left out, and sometimes I feel like a failure. These days, I feel like life has been pushing me into a corner. I’ve been crying everyday and sometimes I feel like quitting my dance career
You're not a failure, don't say that. Keep going, I know you can do it ❤ sometimes life is an ass and the path can be rocky but I promise it'll be worth it and you'll shine 😊 stay safe and best wishes 💕
Once I felt like this during my theater clases. Everyone talked to eachother and I was the one always left out. And I quit for a year. Then I comeback beacuse my teacher wanted me in a play. And in that moment I realize that I was seen and that it was a mistake to quit for a year, but also was good for thinking what I wanted for myself and the others could not stop me from that. I hope that you feel better, maybe your heart and soul need a rest
I had posted on Facebook, "Loneliness is a feeling worst than pain itself." And one of my new co-workers commented on it and said that he would love to hang out with me sometime because he gets lonely too. We began dating and after 3 months he began abusing me, belittling me, telling me how his ex looked better than me, would talk badly to people at work about me, isolate me from my family, and would tell everyone we knew that I didn't deserve friends after I broke up with him. I am alone again but I would take that loneliness over someone making me feel alone any day.
I'm so sorry that happened to you, and I hope things are better for you now. Just know that you are worthy of love and friendships. Wishing you the best.
My thoughts. I do feel like much of that stigma is gone for stuffed animals, though. There IS still a big stigma around guys talking to anime girls for comfort, though. Most people think "pervert" and sure of course guys are attracted to pretty anime girls, but to be talking to an anime girl all the time, what does that say? It often says that people have treated you so badly that you feel like it's impossible to have a friend (mainly girls in this case) that cares about you, so you gave up talking to real girls or people. (Often making true guy friends is impossible cause of toxic masculinity and most guys not revealing their emotions, so a true friendship of compassion cannot be built).
It's only when I'm surrounded by a group of people I am truly alone. Seeing all these other people connect, that I realize just how detached I am from the people I care about.
I'm constantly jealous of people who have best friends. To have someone you know everything about, to tell them about everything going on in your life. Like I have close friends, but there isn't one person that I can think of that I'd label as a 'best friend'.
I feel so lonely that I find myself reading the comment threads of videos I like. It's about the only time I feel genuinely laughing or seeing that there are more people out there who're like me, or share my interests. I wish I could meet any one of you
@@stavrlite397 Heyyooo I’m also a fan of beluga… if you know who that is, I just saw your pfp that has his youtube banner lol and btw it’s alr to feel lonely.. remember the saying every new beginning is some beginnings’s end.. so u will end up finding someone one day. Just do not lose hope.
Is it only me or anyone's else daydreams about a world where you are the center of attention and everyone's praising you and you look perfect? You have friends and people who love you. You are capable of doing things that are hard for you to do in real life. You're a total badass and have a really loving partner. Then I come back to reality, which is hard to face and I realise how lonely and useless I really am. My imaginative world is an escape from reality. But I don't just wanna imagine it and actually try to be the person I want to be. Whenever I read a story or see a movie in which the main lead is really happy and useful and that he/she is loved by others, I want to be him/her. This sucks and getting my imagination off my mind is something really hard for me to do, but I'm trying to be in the real world as much as I can and work on myself to be a better person. ( Sorry I'm my English is bad, it isn't my first language )
Yes exactly!! I feel that same exact way!! I would even do some acting and imagine that I'm from a high born class family where I'm all that's left and I'm being interviewed on "why are you still single?" And all of a sudden I the woman I've been trying to get at is all of a sudden trying to interact with me cause of my connections... And wants the wealth but I'm to slick and start being oblivious to her.... Well I'm that's what I always imagine.
people can be happy being alone but once you think it over and realize there's no one there with you the feeling of loneliness hits and you start to slowly drown in it
Wrong, the worst loneliness is when no one is comfortable with YOU. when they don't magically gravitate to you like they do everyone else, that can be damaging to you, and give you a complex that something is wrong with you, until eventually you take your own life...that's the reality.
You know what sucks is that a lot of us laugh about not having friends but in reality it hurts seeing all these friend groups going out and having fun knowing you probably won’t be a part of anything like that soon
I'm 29 and I can remember a decade ago thinking how awesome things will be once I'm in my 30's. I'm almost there and upon reflection, i wasted my youth chasing women that didn't care about me, was homeless on and off, always money problems. Never had a real social group since high school. This life sucks
I'm so alone I listen to asmr, basically videos where people pretend to talk to you and interact with you, comfort you, etc. And I like to pretend its real because, well, its the most comfort I can get. And every night I listen to breathing sounds so it feels like someone is next to me.
To be honest society created this. You look back at previous generations of humans and society was completely different. Human history reveals a lot of how and where each iteration of society came from. Today’s society is structured based on democratic capatlism power which puts consumers at higher levels. This was the co sequence of the 1700 to 1800 transition from a colonial period. Most of today’s society is I flurnced by hard economic items and commodities. This gives rise in greed and conquest in humans. Earlier time periods didn’t have such things since currency was different and trading was just born.Each new society introduces problems which can be solved easily. There is really truly nothing fudnemntally wrong with us. It’s a fact that society is strctured in such a way that a human being responds to this in certain situations. Look up society evolution and you will know what I mean
@@awesomesauce8199 They think this generation is overly dramatic. Mental health disorders were definitely not discussed back then it was kept in the closet in the family alone. So they really don't know anything about that kind of an issue.
@@rhea3990 that’s true this generation needs to address mental health issues because it’s important to us humans. Nowadays people are influenced by social media and constant posting pics of how excellent day they had. It’s like showing off that your are better than someone else which isn’t a good thing. This leads to depression and anxiety in which society should blame itself for creating such structures.
The loneliest I ever felt was hearing my parents and my brother laughing and chatting while I was having an anxiety attack. What made it worse was when I went downstairs to have fun with them, the laughing and chatting immediately stops and i could cut the tension with a knife. It hurts.
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16 Honey....you’re loved beyond your imagination I used to have anxiety as well. God set me free, literally broke the chains off my heart
I'm a student, living alone. I just got back from taking a walk and the hardest part is passing houses knowing inside there is a family, and their happy and all together. And I have no one. I have my stuffed teddy. My heart is hurting because I have no one and I long to just get a hug from someone.
That's almost my entire extended family. My parents and siblings do not bother with me or my child. But I treasure the people in my life that do. If I didn't have them, I don't think I would be here.
I would just spend hours meladaptive daydreaming. I would be in my head and create characters, and different scenarios when I'm bored,or at times to cope with the world or deal with anxiety or depression or negative emotions or bad situations. Still do it.
you must be INFP or INFJ, I do that all the time but now I'm trying to live in reality out of my comfort zone and strive in real life, this world is a rough place
"One day, you're gonna look around and you're going to realize that everybody loves you, but nobody likes you... And that is the loneliest feeling in the world." - Bojack Horseman.
Im not too familiar with the show, but Im pretty sure Bojack used to be a celebrity. So in his case, this quote makes sense because everyone loves and adores him but no one likes him (i.e enjoys who he is or his company)
I’m just saying - and I apologize if this offends anyone - but if your friend abandons you during one of the/the most hardest time of your life, then you do not need to be friends with that person. If they’re willing to drop your friendship and not help you out when you’re struggling, they wouldn’t be there for when it counts. It’s genuinely so upsetting that y’all have friends that up and left when you were looking for support - no one deserves that. I hope y’all are in a better place now with people who are actually supportive😊💜
I hope your okay I feel like there’s no point in having friends no matter how many times they reject me I still come back because I don’t want to be the centre of attention no matter what they always leave I just act like I’m okay because I’m to sad to express anything without sounding like an attention seeker
you know what's really odd? so many people are lonely, and the only reason that lonely people can't make each other feel less lonely is because everyone is kind of really hidden under a mask, people act happy and outgoing but they know that they have no one to tell their good news to, or no one to talk to...
I guess I’m the most shameless one here. I know I’m lonely but I don’t really do anything about it. I sit in the lunch room full of me(in other world I sit by myself lol) I don’t mind being lonely and I love how I care less about how people see me... I don’t try to act that way they don’t have expectations for me.
@@provenduck1959 that's real nice, not caring a lot about how people see you, most people out there don't share their problems with others because they're afraid of what people will think about them. And at the end of the day the goal is doing whatever that makes you happy, if you're okay with being by yourself, that's great!
Have you ever heard of Enneagram? I’m type 5 so it comes in handy. You should take the enneagram test to know more about yourself. I’ve learned that the loneliest I am the greatest the benefit I got from it, but that’s just type 5 enneagram people. It’s actually really cool because people would think I’m cold and distant, which I am, but that’s how i’m built.
That’s why I want a pet, specifically a cat. But my mom won’t let me get one, even tho I keep telling her that a pet would help me combat my anxiety and loneliness
The worst thing for me is working around people that aren’t lonely. They have close knit families and friends. It makes me feel even lonelier when they tend to have stories to tell and I have none. I feel like they think I’m damaged, not completely wrong. I’ve been betrayed a lot. I’d still like to make friends but anxiety from being betrayed and just becoming plain and dull over the years doesn’t help.
All that you are worrying about dosent matter. I had these problems too but ask yourself the real questions. What do you really want? To be lonely or to fit in with others? You didnt ask for this but it happens.....why? Your perception....you have to understand that things are what you think they seem. Find out who you really are bro
people have close knit families and friends. They tell you stories. But they don't talk about their true feelings. I have a husband and a son, a job, a garden, and I have many stories to tell. But I sit and read comments at night. You know why? People may have families and friends but feel lonely.
I've never held hands with someone. I always fantasized of intertwining fingers with another person and constantly doing it with myself as I repeat "one day" in my mind.
I stopped telling my stories to others since they're just gonna say "mhm" or "sorry what were you saying again?" That makes me feel even worse than talking to myself about my stories.
I used to play music and walk around creating scenarios in my head. Different stories for different songs... I have been doing this since I was 13 and I’m 22. A few months ago I took the decision to stop listening to music all together, and I feel like I can finally breathe again
Things that help me during a emotional breakdown. 1) hugging myself and saying "its okay" 2) sleeping. ( Cause I can easily fall asleep) 3) asmr for relaxation 4) writing in messy handwriting. 5) having ice cream later to calm down. 6) saying positive words to myself even though I don't mean it at the moment but I still do so that i get into this illusion that nothing is wrong. 7) praying. 8) taking deep breaths
Nah for me ..... just saying all the wrong things an illusions is more worse for me coz deep down I'll know I'm betraying my own self and will regret later on
Writing in messy handwriting. I do this often. When I write in pretty hand writing I feel so proud of myself as if the love for myself is being let out through my neatness. But I always allow myself to have my messy writing moments.
Not ice cream every day though i hope? ..A lot of people do become overweight as a result of isolation. Food shouldn't be used as comfort, It's not a solution. It can cause issues or eating disorders if we constantly use food as a mean to feel better, to fill a void. We eat to live, let's just be cautious about it. For the rest, i'm totally with you.
Sometimes you feel the loneliest when you’re around people. When they’re in groups talking to each other or laughing with the their friends and you’re just.. there
Felt that
@Brielle Brooks Wow you really wrote much. But it's ok. I'm sure now you'll be feeling a little lighter in your heart. Maybe you wanted to tell your story to somebody who listen. If you don't like the behavior of your friend because she's indulged with her other friends then just let her go. Eventually you'll get more friends who'll be with you and listen to you. Don't ever think you're alone 🤗.
Agreed
You just made me remember something ooof
Brielle Brooks it’s cool I’ll be your friend.Also it’s not even like you don’t make friends it’s just that you don’t want to change yourself to fit in and not a lot of people can do that.And also I think all of depression and anxiety Is a perspective game like something could affect a person so much but someone else will wipe off the same thing like nothing happened and I think it’s also age related so your not the only one.
honestly, the worst kind of loneliness is when you're surrounded by a big group of people and no one looks at you at all, as if you're not there
Loneliness is loneliness. There's nothing greater or lesser about it. If you feel sad, you feel sad.
💔💔
So very true.
I just leave or stay away from people like that. But in certain situations where I am around people ignoring me, it is truely a very bad feeling.
I usually prefer being alone, though, if im choosing to be around people at the moment, id feel pretty lonely if they completely ignored me
No the worse is when there is literally no one to talk to
One of the worst things is realizing that you are living most of your life in your head. The conversations, laughs, & friends you wish to have are all in your head.
Couldn't relate more
Yeha...
i tell jokes to myself bc i have no one.
@@alessiabudugan8543 it helps I guess
This hits close to home
sometimes i have full-length conversations with myself where i pretend that i'm being "interviewed" about my feelings or my day and on bad days these conversations can go on for an hour. it took me a while to realize that i do this because barely anyone ever asks me how i'm really feeling/doing
Dude same
Same
I also do this but that's just because I'm aware that I talk too much, haha
It felt kind of nice to find someone who talks just as much though
Hey, it's been a while but, how're you doing?
me too... sometimes for several hours. every now and again, I'll become awfully self aware and think to myself "nobody asked that. There's noone here". and ill just break emotionally...
You don't realize how lonely you are until something good happens to you but you don't have anyone to tell.
All the time lol
Edit: I.e. I’ve got friends I technically ‘could’ tell, but the problem is that I feel they won’t really care, or will dismiss it or will just insult me for it idk
@@ayhamshaheed7740 yo if that ain't me-
@@ayhamshaheed7740 same lol
what about the opposite? "when something bad happens to you and you wanted so badly to talk to someone but no one is there for you, or no one to speak to"
Leave it in the comment section here is ppl to tell.
People are embarrassed talking to themselves? I’ve been doing it my whole life
Same
Lol me too. I think everyone does to an extent, just not out loud.
i monologue to myself and argue with myself as if im arguing with a real person but not around people because im embarrassed
Same, i still do it now, and i kinda wanna do it forever!
I do sometimes talk out loud , I just hold my phone near me like as if I'm recording, eventhough I am not. I'm weird
One of the hardest pills I've had to swallow is acknowledging the fact that if I'm not the one initiating contact, hardly no one communicates with me.
I can relate to this, hope all is well with you.
But sometimes their are people like me who wants to talk but don’t know what to say.
Same
Then when you reach out, they don’t reply or even acknowledge your existence. I feel like I’m dead to most people. Then, those who I’m not invisible to either want me to change (too much) or offer advice that I need to stop looking for validation or companionship in others. Doesn’t change the fact that I’d love the connection, but then it makes me wonder if I like things as much as the idea of the things.
Same with me. If I were to disappear tomorrow, no one would even notice.
The hardest part of being lonely is not knowing where the loneliness is coming from. You just feel empty and you don't even know why.
Yeah same
Try reading quran. Not telling you to convert to anything. Just read
try to find self love i promise you it changed me I was so depressed and felt so so alone and I started to realize my worth and being okay with myself. I know it gets hard but you have been with yourself through everything. You don’t need people all the time. Just knowing you have yourself and accepting it and loving it. If you ever need anyone to talk to I’ll give you my Snapchat if you have it.
@@dulapeepbars3872 yeah i agree developing a new skill might also help uplift your confidence like i did by learning stock market trading just hook on a skill it will help
And you will seek Me and find Me, when you search for Me with all your heart.
Jeremiah 29:13
Has anyone else ever daydreamed or fantasized about the future, how successful you would become and how many people will like you?
Yo I literally imagine myself to be this gifted polymath girl debuted as kpop idol at 13 and later becomes the most popular one because of my talents. Acting in lots of western movies like the avengers, and do a lot of other things like writing my own book or having my own webtoon at such young age, because well I'm gifted and a polymath.
And I would make a lot of money out of em, become one of the richest in asia, and use them to help better the world. Charity and charity and mooorreee charity because it's so painful to see the world's current state.
I imagine being so honest and genuine despite me being a public figure, I am so controversial to the point that people either really support me or really hate me, but the genuineness ended up changing the entire toxic Korean entertainment industry hahaha.
This is an imagination that have been continuing since I was in elementary school.... I can't get tired of it.
It's more like an imagination about alternate reality, but of course I do imagine a lot about the future.
....Okay, WHAT WAS THAT-
Sorry for the long rambles. :((
Hell yeah everyday
@@moonhajung6742 It's completely fine, don't worry
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16
Honey....you’re loved beyond your imagination
Why is talking to yourself bad. Am I the only one who talks to himself even in a good mood?
Its not a bad thing.
I talk to myself all the time
I talk to myself even when I'm with my friends, I never thought it was weird 😂😂
Actually it is pretty helpful and I do that everyday.
Nah it's not bad
I talk to myself all the time like there's two persons inside me
No I'm not sick or crazy XD
Does anyone else get scared that your friends and family secretly see you as a burden or just dont like you. Like they care about you, but they dont like you.
yes all the time:(
The feeling where they are only trying to care about you because they have no choice.
every single time
They love us but only because they have to
That'simply anxiety, everyone has it
I actually like to daydream about having my soulmate by my side, laying on grass and stargazing, dancing with them on my favourite songs, traveling together, ice skating, horse riding, going to carnival, sky diving and shopping all while achieving success and thinking about spending the rest of my life with them.
Yeah mee to it helps me to grow through loneliness
Same 😢
Same
Facts. I thought I was the only one tbh.
same .......for fuck's sake
Studies show that the most successful people talk to them self’s so there’s nothing to be ashamed of talking to yourself. Coming from someone who does it too.
I'm genuinely curious, but what do you talk about?
VoidX For me, It’s just about things I want to do, daily tasks, plans, and just random thoughts that come up my mind that gets me thinking
Agreed
Yay! I talk with myself in my head like all the time
Hahahha I don’t talk to myself
I talk to my “imaginary friends”
It’s really hard to explain without sounding like a psychopath
Do I still count as a successful person?
Who the frick abandons their friend after telling them that they are suicidal
Fiona Juma been there. my friend group in freshman year drifted away from me after i opened up to one about being suicidal.
muncchi oh my god i’m so sorry 💔 you deserved so much better. i’m so sorry
my friends, they said i’m just bringing negativity with my suicidal thoughts and vibes to the group. i got called “the toxic friend” because of that but i don’t blame them
@@muncchi939 Aww im sorry. I hope you're feeling better now❤
@@Venven033 You don't deserve that. Im so sorry. You aren't toxic. And your feelings are 100% valid. Your life is so valuable and God loves you so much.❤
Not a single day passes where I don't talk to myself pretending there are people listening and interacting with me.
I am the exact same way. I have full on conversations with myself as though it is another person. Its like my conscience and I are two different people. That being said there's the other part of me that tells me I am worthless and I will always be lonely. Its a real struggle that I have. I just want to be happy. Truly happy.
@@ajdoman317 Yeah, I can relate and I don't know if that helps but I sincerly hope you get to experience true happiness one day. Hang in there.
@-- I also do that..... but I am actually taking an *interview* with a person who wants to write a book about my life.... I know it sounds weird.. but every time I do something, I imagine that interviewer asking me something like: "So *name* , when did you realise you have a passion for" or questions like that.....
To be fair, I know it sounds weird but my life is actually pretty interesting.... I started my own business at 13 at 15 I took an IQ test (an official one) and it turns out I am smarter than 7.6 billion people..... currently I am homeschooling myself, even tho I finished everything in the first month
Me too
We love you ❤️
Being lonely sucks, its even worse when you try to be vulnerable, and everybody leaves
Can we be friends 🥺 I will never leave u
I agree. You can't really be your true authentic self or express your true feelings to people anymore. And it's only getting worse. Narcissism is at an all-time high.
Me fr
@@nouhachan9009 slr but we can
A few years ago, I tried to end myself. My friends didn't understand, blamed me for the way they felt about the situation and abandoned me, that is the loneliest I have ever felt, to be in need of a friend and to have none. I have nightmares, I'm scared of growing older and being alone, and I don't have anyone to reach out to....
Does anyone daydream too much or re-enact different scenarios in their head? Or is it just me?🤕
Count me in when my daydream is better than my reality
nah i do the same thing
I thought I was the only one that does that
Just you. You're the only person on the planet with an imagination
All the time. Even when I am busy
the worst feeling is when you’re so upset and you cry yourself to sleep at night, but you have no one to talk to because you’re too ashamed to tell friends or family.
@Landon Rowland i had the exact same experience. i’m sorry . you’ll find someone like jenna out there
exactly but it hurts even more when you have no friends at al :,)
@@ancetade2329 i’m sorry ): do you have a snap or insta?
this is exactly how i've lived my whole high school and couple of years more
@Landon Rowland what
The real depth of loneliness is when you type about your stories in comment section but ended up erasing it.
that hits hard!
Thiss☹️
You gonna go through this !
😞
I just erased what I wrote..
It had been proven that loneliness can cause an early death. It’s insane how much we need connection.
Thought I was having a heart attack yesterday so yeah
💔 ⚰️
Black lady was speaking facts honestly, she said some really insightful things
LiL Blakxican i tHinK wE aLL SiNg
LiL Blakxican the meme 😭😂 nvm
LiL Blakxican yea 😂
She seems like a lovely person. I hope she finds a partner, assuming she wants one.
I honestly wish I could be her friend. She seems like such a lovely, down-to-earth person to be around. Such chill vibes.
My problem is that I have “friends” but they are pretty much acquaintances that I talk to because there is no one else to talk to. It’s a terrible feeling when your “friends” feel so superficial and you can’t make real/genuine connections :/
Exactly. Id rather have one true friend and have a deep conection with that friend than have 5 superficial friends.
This is the most relatable comment
I relate. It's so unbelievably rare to meet someone who is interested in genuine deep connection, happened to me, where suddenly you remember again what life is about. It's beautiful. But people move away, things change... and then you're stuck with the average uninterested superficial 'relationships' where you still feel kind of empty when going back home.
Yep
This is pretty much me rn :/
“All I loved I’ve loved alone”
- Edgar Allan Poe
I like Poe, but some of his letters felt like he tried to isolate people he loved. His cousin-wife, for example, was set to be helped by a relative, but Poe fought against the notion and eventually had his way and married her.
His _The Raven_ is pretty cool tho
The poem quoted in the original comment is Poe's _Alone_
I love that poem
@@shuzennn do you know the name of it?
@@serotonin.scavenger pushing others away is something one does out of fear. not out of malice.
@@HazeLmao debatable. He was pushing someone from Virginia, not from himself.
I didn't realize just how truly lonely I was feeling till I started living in my car and realized I was too afraid to turn to anyone for help.
We are 8 billions of people and we are stile alone
I am so sorry :(
Bro i got a small house, and i literally walk to my car some evenings just so i could be away from anyone's eyes and just site there, sometimes cry my heart out while listening to music
@@sidgirase im sorry
🙏💕
Aleast, knowing there's much people like me... i feel a little bit less lonely.
How can someone not feel lonely in 2020? Right after the lockdown in my country, I was so upset that I started dancing hits from the 70s and 80s I my living room. I WILL SURVIVE was the opening hit.
You might be lonely, but you are not alone! Take care wherever you are 💗💗
@@pennyisaround6608 Thanks :D.. even though its just a bunch of words. I really do need that, thanks again.
@@MC-874 I thought it was just us 20+ trying to figure out life & the world, but recently I revised my opinion
Me too 😭😭
Me too ♡ U seem like a delightful person. I hope u have a wonderful day♡
I wish I could hug everyone who is touch-starved, this is so sad :(
ur pfp made my day
Thanks, bruh :')
aww thanks
🥺
hug mehh pls
The worst kind of lonely to feel is when you’re surrounded by people.
100%
So true... and it hurts
" modern loneliness, we're never alone but always depressed" lauv
I disagree. Not because I believe there's something worse but because I believe they're equally terrible. I was lonely surrounded by poeple and it was awfull, and I was lonely without people. It sucks either way. It's not nice to say that something is worse. Don't compare loneliness. You can be surrounded by friends and be lonely and you can have no family and friends and be lonely as well.
Facts... Yes! Yes it is! I feel like this on a daily.
I am watching this crying. I feel like this all the time: I am 39, not married and no kids and my dog was my whole world!!! He just died. The amount of loneliness I feel is soul crushing. I hold his stuffed animal every night and kiss it just to feel I have something to give my love to and feel close to something
🥺💕⚘
Sorry for your loss. I hope things get better for you. Take care.
Wow, you must have been through a lot. I'd like you to know that a stranger admires your perseverance and bravery. I hope you find your path to fulfilment in life, you deserve it too. I'm sorry to hear about your dog. Hope you can make new memories someday.
Hope you're doing better now
I know this is super late but, same thing happened to me with my cat. I had never felt so destroyed in my life. It’s so hard to do anything and I miss him so much. and I considered him a friend. But now he’s gone. I hope that you are doing better now and know that, you deserve happiness in your life!
Does anyone else have full conversations with themselves??? Or is it just me 😅
I do the same I talk to myself and when deeply think about what I'm doing and how I'm talking to myself I feel like I'm a weirdo and no one else does it
I do this too
I'm genuinely curious, but what do you talk about?
Girl, same
@@faith_12363 I've done the same too many times. Especially about the world aspect, I think about how I can change my society for the better.
Just imagine how it would be if all of these lonely people befriended each other
I have friends but despite that all of us still struggle with loneliness
I wish this had way more likes
I thought about it. Like why am I sitting totally alone, without friends, without anyone who could care ‘bout me if there’s so many ppl who also feel it and need support...
Agree.
@First just don’t think about all of that
I'm not alone in a physical way. I'm surrounded by friends, family but I still feel alone. I feel being trapped by myself around people. I refuse love and I don't know why I'm acting like this because it makes me sick.
I understand the feeling. Find one person you can connect with and let it all out. Your in this life one time make sure u enjoy it to the fullest 🙏 I'll be praying for u
Maybe see a therapist and talk to whoever you trust the most
I would also say to try and let it out to someone whether that's a therapist or a person you trust but I would also reccomend looking into a religion or some sort of lifestyle that can give you meaning
I understand. It will be hard but I think it's important to learn how to love, to push urself about it. Not with everyone of course but yeah. You will surely find somebody to love one day and even if u dont want to. Im not specifically talking about falling in love but friendship, family relation, etc. Love is a part of happiness, a big part.
this
My friends abandoned me when I was in a really dark spot. Found out the entire 4 years of our friendship in high-school was nothing but a lie
Same, I developed an eating disorder in high school and suddenly I had to face it all alone. The betrayal hurt more than anything
@@Books-and-coffee0 Oof... I hope you're doing better these days
That's not a friend . I believe there's a lot of people in this people for u .
I have friends too but they abandoned me too for so long since my friend and I separate from different school sucks.
@@mariatheresa1995 even now it's really hard to really see if the people I am around really are on my side or not
hey, let's be lonely together guys
Hello and I hope good things happen to you, whoever you, from wherever you’re reading this :)
Yesss
💛💛💛
Always
@@The-bi5ry best wishes to you as well ❤😊
I wanna hug the people who wrote these cards so bad😖
@Thomas Light That is very true though. But if i knew what strangers around be in my daily life had been through i would properply feel the exact same way.
@@BB-bq5eg Yeah yeah, I tell people about everything that's happened to me in the past to me in the past 2 years and they're all like "Oh that sucks." And they never talk to me again.
@@alexosow That sounds hard. I think a lot of people try to avoid that irl. That's why the internet is sometimes a good place, where you can say stuff like that, even though we're complete strangers, we will care (including me :)). Hope you're ok.
@@BB-bq5eg Yeah I definitely agree with you on that, but it is kinda harder to have a lasting conversation with someone online if you don't really have anything in common
@@alexosow Ofc. But i think just sharing it and having somebody resbond and care can be very helpful for somebody, even though you don't know or will properply ever know that person. But yes, it is better with real friendships (and relationships). But a lot of people have trouble handeling other peoples problems face to face. And ofc it is very very hard for the person sharing there problems to just get the cold shoulder. I feel very sorry for you to expirience that.
May all the people that suffer from being alone find a soulmate or a best friend someday.
Sometimes a soulmate can also be a bestfriend :)
Bro, I literally cried to this. The only comment ive ever cried to. For a while I’ve wanted a best friend a real one but now I don’t rlly. But thanks, and truly I wish the same to u
U made my day
That's a lot to ask for so many people. You're such a sweet person. ;~;
I hope so, I don't even have a so called friend I'm getting older and lonelier
Social isolation is a situation I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. It's a special kind of gut-wrenching, almost unbearable pain.
It is
I feel teary when I'm in college because i see all these people hanging out and having friends while I can't make a single connection with anyone
Real
Even my mom hates me
Worst kind of loneliness is being alone with everybody.
Basically feeling void that most of the people can't fulfill
Sarah Er sometimes when I’m in gatherings or school or before my ex best friends ditched me and cut me off without saying anything..
There is no worst. Being lonely with or without are both bad in their own way :(
Yup
No it's not.
I talk about topics as loneliness on my channel as well: Loneliness is paradoxically the worst feeling a human being can experience but it’s also something comfortable for me personally, it’s part of me
yeap...me too..
m more comfortable if nobody disturbing my life
m jz live th life
I relate to this. I love my solitude
Baim Ken are you a child? Cause if you are you really shouldn’t be watching this channel my dude💚
Being alone is the best for me I don’t want people around me
@@thatanxiouschild1182 😅 nope...m 3+
I get so lonely that it physically hurts
I just cry it off, it really helps.
I miss her…
@@ronkarter1685 I can’t even cry anymore. My eyeballs just don’t produce tears at this point.
It’s nice to cry and then wipe your tears away and just breathe.
Its a stabbing pain inside
@@कोस्तुभावशिष्ठ yeah like something is pressing and stinging on your chest
I feel the loneliest when I'm with my friends. They were talking about their life success, while I'm stuck in rock bottom. Then I'll pretend to smile, and congratulate them. Went home, sleep under my bed with full volume music, but I don't cry... I wanna cry, but I'm too tired to even do that...
"There’s a difference between being alone,
when no one is with you,
and being lonely, when you feel
like no one is for you."
-Anonymous
@Miguel Hernandez This loser having spiraled so many times into anxiety and panic attacks that regular contemplation of my self value and worth lead to suicidal thoughts and endless nights of crying and nightmares that feel worse than death.
@Miguel Hernandez Does it make you feel good to put other people down? Especially if they're struggling already? You should be ashamed of yourself.
@@Siratioomialife is tough and people can be harsh. i hope you have a nice day.
@@Siratioomia I like these kind of quotes. And so do at least 164 people :) Don't give up! You're more valuable than you feel and stronger than you think. I mean you deal with these issues every single day again and again. You're a warrior.
@Miguel Hernandez Who hurt you? Hey, remember that everything will be alright. You seem very angry, and i (an internet nobody) wish you all the best. Don't give up on yourself.
Today was my high school graduation and no one showed up for me. Not even my parents. It was cripplingly painful to see friends hugging their parents and taking pictures while I had to go back to my own dark empty car and drive myself home.
Congratulations on your graduation! Graduating high school is a big deal and an accomplishment worth celebrating. Just know that a stranger out there somewhere (me) is proud of you and is cheering you on :)
@@strawberryjiminie8129 thank you so much I appreciate it
❤️
Congratulations on your Graduation! Be proud of how far you have come! Wishing you the very best on what’s coming ahead ❤️
Congratulations! Ily 💗
Have anyone ever gotten to the point where they just hold a pillow and cry themselves to sleep all while fantasizing that the pillow ur holding is your s/o holding you and telling you everything is ok and you aren’t ugly or alone. I think I have issues because this is somewhat normal
no but i’ll imagine myself doing basic things such as having a good time with other people and being an extrovert people like,
then i’ll smack myself and remind myself that that isn’t who i am, and it never will be, i’m damned to a life of utter loneliness
Yeah I've got this.
I cry badly at midnight with tears rolling down my cheeks and then I look into the mirror hopelessly and wipe them myself imagining a soft warm hand gently clearing them. I desperately wait for someone to come and hug me but the reality is I don't even remember the last time someone hugged me. Ten-fifteen minutes pass by as I stare at the wall regretting everything I've done in life and not even having a single person who you can call at that moment eats you from inside. Finally I tightly press my face against the pillow, let it soak my tears and cry myself to sleep.
@@shardulkulkarni3999 I feel you ..
It's the only way i can sleep :(
Same here
The worst feeling is not being alone, it's being forgotten by someone you could not forget
Every day...
real.
My parents think Im addicted to my phone because i only lay in bed and watch series or videos. In reality It is my shield where i can imagine my Life being like those shows and be Happy It really is my safe place.
Any one??
Mee
I told my mom im feeling down and she said; " iTs beCauSE oF thAt dAmn pHonE!"
@@tropix1679 And the answer is: no, mom. Its because of that phone that I am even alive to be able to speak to you.
I search for inspiration.
Same same
The hardest thing about breaking out of loneliness, is that when an opportunity comes, you are so use to being alone that you feel like you don't deserve it. And when you do take the opportunity, you can't enjoy the moment without thinking that sooner or later, you will go back to being lonely.
Amen to the latter part. I've always experienced dread and extreme loneliness after spending time with people and everyone goes home.
That’s part of the main reason why I push away when I do get that opportunity, even tho I really don’t want to..
Thissss...this is the reason why I couldn't celebrate after getting selected into my dream medical college.The amount of hardwork I had put into entrance exam and cut out all the friends for that time but after the results it appeared to me those friends were no more there for me.
This
i have the worst abandonment issues because of this. i'm distant because everyone leaves. i don't have anyone because I know i can't handle another loss.
i make up stories about me having a friend. i like to imagine what they would say to me, when i accomplish something i imagine them being proud, i imagine them giving my drawings criticism and praise, i like to hug my big toy doggo and pretend like that's my friend hugging me, i stroke my own hair when i get that sinking feeling (like someone's consoling me), i fall asleep to random videos because that makes it feel like i have someone i know and live with.
me too..
Me too 🙂
Same. We should form a group
I do this but with my ex who left me 3 years ago
@@shana1898 I wish it was that easy
I keep myself in an imaginary world where I have many people who loves me. But the second I realise that it's just me making that up I burst out crying realising how helpless I am.
It's not only you my dear even I go through the same thoughts I imagine that there are many friends around me and I share all the funny stories and trends I wipe my tears imagining my friend is wiping then I realised it only me I keep crying till I fall asleep.
@@nicolealfonso757 it's just so annoying and frustrating that when I snap back to reality i feel hopeless. That's the main reason I don't have any social medias. Just UA-cam and WhatsApp and I'm glad. Don't know how to overcome this imagination. Hope ur doing gud too beautiful.
@@nicolealfonso757 damn, that's fucked up, sometimes I feel that way
I'm so sorry for you. I know what you've been through.
Honestly, it hurts me deeply whenever someone confesses loneliness on the internet, because I have experienced it and I would never wish it on any single person in the world, not even my enemy. Loneliness destroys you.
Are you okay now?
@@anunayasingh3621 Thank you for asking. I've been alright for a few months now
i would love to be your friend!!!
@@fatema861 Good
Same but I would wish it on my enemies because they’re the people that put me there.
does anyone like act out scenes you make up in your head with yourself?
I thought i was the only one..
_me_
Me too
Mee BTW hi army!!!
Yes, it usually helps me sleep.
I tell myself I'm an introvert a lot and that I don't like being around people, but I think the only reason I tell myself these things is because I attempt to feel less lonely. I wish I could have friends to go out and do things with. All I long for is friends, but my anxiety and fear of judgement always keep me from being myself around people. It takes me so long to adjust and get used to people and I hate myself for it.
I have never read something more relatable than this :'(
Don't hate yourself for it. It better to just accept it as you have been. Loneliest is something that based off perception and emotion and you can get rid of it and convince yourself it isn't a problem. It better to do this and be "happy" than to remind yourself of the problem. Don't seek for answers, forget the questions.
Love u nd i feel u
Same 🥺
i relate. my friends that i've known for years. I have 3 that i'm completely comfortable around i'm glad they stuck with me when i was quiet. they also can make friends so quick and i'll hangout with their new friends but um always more quiet. I wanna say something but a part of my mind stops me from talking to them. I feel like they'll hate me if i say something wrong. I've been slowly getting out of that state of mind because i've been talking to people online. And I feel there's no judgment or if they do judge me it doesn't matter since they live in a different state or a different country. It been helping me finally talk my thoughts to people i've just been meeting. or people that i met through my friends a long time ago but never gotten close to.
Ι hold my own hand sometimes before falling asleep, or wrap my arms around me when im crying cause i long to be comforted this way by somebody else.
I do the same then I realize how depressing it really is 😭
@@graciea.22im sorry you’re in this position too, sending you a big hug
i also do the exact same thing! i wish i could hug u and tell u that ure special cause nobody deserves to feel like this, i really hope ure better now ❤
@@GiulioFedeleGiaffreda thank you means a lot, I hope you’ll receive all the wonders of the world ❤️
@AmyTheOGsending you a hug
just remember...it’s better to have nobody than to have someone who is half there, or doesn’t want to be there.
I disagree. Having had literally nobody for well over a year, and I mean literally nobody, I want someone to talk to even occasionally.
I agree, for a long time I had a horrible “friend” who beat the hell out of me, because I was terrified of being lonely, but it’s so much better without him
@@ultamememaster2122 that's totally different.
i hate people that say this. i literally would rather have someone that literally would talk to me at least once a week rather than being completely alone. like just the thought that someone cares is comforting even if they really don’t, sometimes, ik it’s damaging in the long run but i’d literally do anything for that again
j h, i feel you
Being Asian especially Indian, mental illness is the most hardest subject to bring forth to your parents. It's all a myth according the parents, it's just inside your head. Every time, I cry about my feelings to my mom, she has the same response; drink water, pray and meditate; it'll all be gone. I'm not even religious, but I can't even say that outside, I'd be disowned.
I have never felt something so much in my life
Hey went through mental illness as well from 13 years old but now at 18 things are much better. I want to create an instagram group where strangers with similar struggles can share their thoughts so they don’t feel alone. Do you want to join ? You are not alone
Well I’m Haitian but I feel this. My mom doesn’t even know that I’m dealing with depression and anxiety and taking meds for them. If I told her, she would tell me to pray harder and go to church
Idk but is it possible 4 me to join?
@aiemiiii
loneliness is such a universal experience yet somehow we all still feel alone.
So true!
fr!! nowadays everyone is too anxious to approach new people bc they’re scared of other peoples judgment. when in reality a lot of people are just as lonely and need a friend too (im the same way though lol)
@@imana8907 totally agree! i feel the exact same way as u. ive dealt w social anxiety ever since i can remember so it makes it even harder than it already would be to put myself out there unfortunately. i know idk u but i sincerely wish u the best and hope u can feel a slight sense of reassurance knowing that i am only a message away if u ever feel alone :)
Tbh I feel like lonely people don't get noticed much because we hide. Everyone around me seems to have a lot of friends. Even when I asked people if they ever felt lonely they said no. It's so hard to come across people who relate to you when it comes to lonelyness irl. I only find people who truely know that feeling online.
Probably the most beautiful comment in this comment section
I treat people around me how I want to be treated. I listen, comfort, am interested, and am always careful about what I say. But I haven’t experienced someone doing the same for me. It makes me wonder weather anymore around me actually cares.
I've felt the same my whole life.
Same
Gosh me too. This has been my exact experience. I've been there for my friends, but they've not been there for me.
U not alone
I know what you mean. Sometimes I stop talking mid sentence and no one ever even indicates that they notice. I feel like people really only care to talk about themselves for the most part. It's really hard to make friends to share with.
The pain when someone says “You have friends right?” And you answer with yes of course but knowing it isn’t true.
😂😂fuck I’ve been there, it is painful
Yess😂
Just be honest and answer no
True true..
Also another time there was this guy who asked me at the end of the day, "why aren't you with your friends? You seem like you're lonely" and I'm like "I don't wanna be"
I was so devastated back then holding my tears because of embarrassment lmaoo.
Same, whenever my colleagues ask me what I did at the weekend or on my days off, I always say I met up with friends for dinner, coffee etc when in truth I wandered round doing everything on my own. I just hope they never ask me to bring all my friends along because that will be difficult for sure!! 😅
Being ignored when I speak makes me feel lonely and worthless.
that's happened to me all my life, in school, at home everywhere. the sad thing is I'm young. I feel ignored but I can't demand because externally I just look happy, people come to me telling me I give happy vibes so I feel like if I tell them about these things they'll just be disappointed because I was not what they expected.
You’re heard
@@celestbresant586 you don't know how much this means to me. ily ^^
@@mishkasingh8643 I love you please reach out to me if you need someone to talk to I can help
@@celestbresant586 you make this world a brighter place mate , thanks for being such a kind soul
i’m so lonely that when someone touches my hand by accident or a friend hugs me i think about it for weeks and crave it ,,, i’m a total introvert with really bad social anxiety and anxiety in general but i still NEED physical touch. since i have such bad anxiety and barely can go to school plus with covid, i rarely see my friends and even if i do, they aren’t touchy at all,,, i literally just need a hug 🧍♂️
edit: not y’all liking this comments this is so pathetic and embarrassing i didn’t think 200 people would relate woo hoo but i love you all,, sending a hug to my fellow touch starved loners
Same🙃
I give you a virtual hug. Cheer up fam 💜 i purple you
I wish I could hug u right now😭💔
Sending lots of love and hugs from Nigeria ❤️❤️❤️
This though.
similar to me
I'm 28. Only had 1 friend, in high school, and think about him daily. Only had 1 gf, for 6 years, but it was long distance and never made to met her, and because of my depression getting worse and worse she couldn't wait for me anymore, which I understand. Last weekend I learnt she's getting married. It hit me so hard. My family loves me, 2 people, but only because they're forced to love me, because they are my family. If they weren't they wouldn't care about me, so it's a love doesn't really matter because they don't love because of who I am, but because they're my family. So at the end of the day I feel completely lone in this world. Been like this for 10 years since I finished high school and the worst part of it all is that I know very well it's not going to be fixed anytime soon, and so in the case I ever get it fixed. So I understand all of you very well. It sucks, but life is like this. Much love to you all❤️
Much love to you too bud 😊
And love to you as well. Some of the best word I've ever heard was that it's okay to be broken. I sometimes look at my family and think that i would want almost nothing to do with them if I didn't know so much about them. If only someone was willing to try and listen to someone else then we could have more friends who are closer than family. I know my friends often feel much closer than my family. I love you, and I hope that you have someone who will talk to you at anytime. It is often at night that I feel lonely, bc I know that no one will talk with me because they are asleep
Much love bro I feel for you
No you are wrong, your family doesn’t have to love you. There’s plenty of horror stories of abuse to prove that. Be grateful you have those two family members. Hope things work out for you
Just want to give u a hug...
Coz I can totally relate and feel it....
I think the only reason why I still survive is because of my illusions. I take comfort in daydreaming where I am the exact opposite of what I am now being lonely. These illusions would become overwhelming to the point that I'd space out for a while because I am too busy living in a story I am creating in my head. This is how I cope up when I experience mental breakdown. There are times that I'd go out of my bedroom smiling and hyped up because I haven't fully woke up from the daydream I just had. The worst feeling is when you come back to reality and the pillow that you were imagining as a person who loves you just became a normal pillow.
One of the top comments has a reply thread of people feeling the same way. Maybe you could talk to them. Have you ever played club penguin? You can talk to many people who'd care and listen if they heard your story. You might find people in the same area, I don't know.
Yes. Except I am not in the daydreams I dream, but I do it basically for the same reason. I use a lot of forms of escapism to the point where I become less functional.
Omg so relatable at this point I’m just living the story i created in my head where i have a imaginary best friend who comforts me everyday and whenever i try to break out of it. The atmosphere turns depressing and i break down mentally and cry a pool of tears because of how bad my life is rn. Daydreaming is how i cope with daily
@@reezyzfrenchfries3872 I am daydreaming that an interviewer asks me questions about my life, the person wants to write a book about my life..... I mean I live an interesting life but it's all literally happening in my bedroom, I finished school but I am only 15, I mean I finished this year in 1 month because I am pretty smart but I want to be seen......normal
@@heyluv3076 I'm also 15
I also talk to myself because I live alone for almost years now. And I'm glad I'm not the only one doing this
I’m not living alone but I do talk to myself all the time.
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16
Honey....you’re loved beyond your imagination
i've talked to myself my entire life lmao
I do it because I feel like im the only one who gets myself and can look out for myself
@@Unavailablea4 do you believe in God?
The worst part?
You want to be successful, accomplished , and famous just so that you can have friends, people that care about you and give you the affection you always craved .
But famous people will never know who is really their friend, or if the person is just using them. Just look at Britney Spears. Even her family used her.
Why did you say this out loud.....
@@learnandgrow2275 yo that’s sad
That’s a terrible way to look at having friends. If ppl want u in their life because of those things and those things only they r not the person u want in ur life . U should try to find someone who likes u simply for who YOU are. Not for what u have or are capable of
@@9770G you say that as if people like that exist somewhere lmao
Loneliness is why I'm constantly playing UA-cam videos and have them playing in my flat even when I'm not in the room and can't hear them. It feels like a constant, really reliable presence.
I am not even kidding, this is the best timing ever. I just left half way through my dance rehearsals on zoom, literally crying outside the frame. I felt so lonely and left out, and sometimes I feel like a failure. These days, I feel like life has been pushing me into a corner. I’ve been crying everyday and sometimes I feel like quitting my dance career
You're not a failure, don't say that. Keep going, I know you can do it ❤ sometimes life is an ass and the path can be rocky but I promise it'll be worth it and you'll shine 😊 stay safe and best wishes 💕
sucks that you're going through that. sending you hugs.
take a break and some time for yourself to do what makes you happy! it can do wonders :) I'm rooting for you and stay safe bby
Once I felt like this during my theater clases. Everyone talked to eachother and I was the one always left out. And I quit for a year. Then I comeback beacuse my teacher wanted me in a play. And in that moment I realize that I was seen and that it was a mistake to quit for a year, but also was good for thinking what I wanted for myself and the others could not stop me from that. I hope that you feel better, maybe your heart and soul need a rest
i hope you're doing okay. i hope that one day you will feel happy and welcomed again.
you'll be in my prayers.
I had posted on Facebook, "Loneliness is a feeling worst than pain itself." And one of my new co-workers commented on it and said that he would love to hang out with me sometime because he gets lonely too. We began dating and after 3 months he began abusing me, belittling me, telling me how his ex looked better than me, would talk badly to people at work about me, isolate me from my family, and would tell everyone we knew that I didn't deserve friends after I broke up with him. I am alone again but I would take that loneliness over someone making me feel alone any day.
I'm so sorry that happened to you, and I hope things are better for you now. Just know that you are worthy of love and friendships. Wishing you the best.
Oh my God....I am sorry you had to go through that...lots of love to you from me :)
I’m so sorry that this happened to you. I hope you find someone that loves and respect you for you even if it’s yourself. 🤍
Not gonna lie, I thought this was a happy one, you had me in the first half. Stay strong.
i'm so sorry that u had through that, i wish u all the best. *sends virtual hug*
The black lady really hit me... like it’s so true if you talk to stuffed animals who cares? If that brings you comfort then do it.
My teddy bear is only one who listens to me when I want to talk
Especially on her quotes at 2:25 and 2:40... she couldn't have laid it better
My thoughts. I do feel like much of that stigma is gone for stuffed animals, though. There IS still a big stigma around guys talking to anime girls for comfort, though. Most people think "pervert" and sure of course guys are attracted to pretty anime girls, but to be talking to an anime girl all the time, what does that say? It often says that people have treated you so badly that you feel like it's impossible to have a friend (mainly girls in this case) that cares about you, so you gave up talking to real girls or people. (Often making true guy friends is impossible cause of toxic masculinity and most guys not revealing their emotions, so a true friendship of compassion cannot be built).
@@kalamathivk251 relatable
Yeah
It's only when I'm surrounded by a group of people I am truly alone. Seeing all these other people connect, that I realize just how detached I am from the people I care about.
I'm constantly jealous of people who have best friends. To have someone you know everything about, to tell them about everything going on in your life. Like I have close friends, but there isn't one person that I can think of that I'd label as a 'best friend'.
I'm sorry about that
I had a best friend but they moved, and we don't talk much, besides short bursts.
I don't have anyone... My mom treats me like I'm her enemy...
I cry myself to sleep every single day..
@@yoongisgummysmile9648 don't worry sweetheart
You will get better
Everything is going to be okay soon
Just keep on fighting and never give up ❤️
same. I spend all day imagining myself talking to online friends as a way to not feel like I'm talking to myself all the time
I feel so lonely that I find myself reading the comment threads of videos I like. It's about the only time I feel genuinely laughing or seeing that there are more people out there who're like me, or share my interests. I wish I could meet any one of you
Hey I do the same since we're both lonely...
Wanna be friends?😅
@@stavrlite397
Heyyooo I’m also a fan of beluga… if you know who that is, I just saw your pfp that has his youtube banner lol and btw it’s alr to feel lonely.. remember the saying every new beginning is some beginnings’s end.. so u will end up finding someone one day. Just do not lose hope.
@@MI-ej9tt umm thanks..
Sharif leen did you ask for my IG id and then deleted your comment? Cause I think I received a notification 😅
@@stavrlite397 I did. Give me your IG
Is it only me or anyone's else daydreams about a world where you are the center of attention and everyone's praising you and you look perfect? You have friends and people who love you. You are capable of doing things that are hard for you to do in real life. You're a total badass and have a really loving partner. Then I come back to reality, which is hard to face and I realise how lonely and useless I really am. My imaginative world is an escape from reality. But I don't just wanna imagine it and actually try to be the person I want to be. Whenever I read a story or see a movie in which the main lead is really happy and useful and that he/she is loved by others, I want to be him/her. This sucks and getting my imagination off my mind is something really hard for me to do, but I'm trying to be in the real world as much as I can and work on myself to be a better person. ( Sorry I'm my English is bad, it isn't my first language )
I do that when I’m listening to music
Yes exactly!! I feel that same exact way!! I would even do some acting and imagine that I'm from a high born class family where I'm all that's left and I'm being interviewed on "why are you still single?" And all of a sudden I the woman I've been trying to get at is all of a sudden trying to interact with me cause of my connections... And wants the wealth but I'm to slick and start being oblivious to her.... Well I'm that's what I always imagine.
i always do that
I feel like I am in home
@@destblee4489 same here lol
people can be happy being alone but once you think it over and realize there's no one there with you the feeling of loneliness hits and you start to slowly drown in it
“The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself.”
― Mark Twain
America sucks China rules
@@hermeslein6614 tf?
I'm use to the loneliness because I love myself so theres that...factual quote
I am comfortable being alone. But loneliness can exist in the same room, staring at you.
Wrong, the worst loneliness is when no one is comfortable with YOU. when they don't magically gravitate to you like they do everyone else, that can be damaging to you, and give you a complex that something is wrong with you, until eventually you take your own life...that's the reality.
You know what sucks is that a lot of us laugh about not having friends but in reality it hurts seeing all these friend groups going out and having fun knowing you probably won’t be a part of anything like that soon
Yeah it sucks 😞😔
It does suck. I only have one friend and even she doesn’t want to talk to me much anymore 😔
I'm 29 and I can remember a decade ago thinking how awesome things will be once I'm in my 30's. I'm almost there and upon reflection, i wasted my youth chasing women that didn't care about me, was homeless on and off, always money problems. Never had a real social group since high school. This life sucks
yes it does suck.
@@SDS-ee9js in the same situation like yours :(
Everybody gangsta till the clothes hug you back
It was probably just a moth...
@@marshallmcluhan33 welp must be a HUGE moth then
GOLD
@@starflash7076 MOTHMAN WILL BE YOUR FRIEND WHEN NO ONE ELSE IS THERE
I don't mind. I never received any hugs :)
I'm so alone I listen to asmr, basically videos where people pretend to talk to you and interact with you, comfort you, etc. And I like to pretend its real because, well, its the most comfort I can get. And every night I listen to breathing sounds so it feels like someone is next to me.
I teared up when I read your comment because I do the exact same thing
Same
Hope things are better for you 🙏
I really wish society was a bit educated about mental health and loneliness.
To be honest society created this. You look back at previous generations of humans and society was completely different. Human history reveals a lot of how and where each iteration of society came from. Today’s society is structured based on democratic capatlism power which puts consumers at higher levels. This was the co sequence of the 1700 to 1800 transition from a colonial period. Most of today’s society is I flurnced by hard economic items and commodities. This gives rise in greed and conquest in humans. Earlier time periods didn’t have such things since currency was different and trading was just born.Each new society introduces problems which can be solved easily. There is really truly nothing fudnemntally wrong with us. It’s a fact that society is strctured in such a way that a human being responds to this in certain situations. Look up society evolution and you will know what I mean
@@awesomesauce8199 They think this generation is overly dramatic. Mental health disorders were definitely not discussed back then it was kept in the closet in the family alone. So they really don't know anything about that kind of an issue.
@@rhea3990 that’s true this generation needs to address mental health issues because it’s important to us humans. Nowadays people are influenced by social media and constant posting pics of how excellent day they had. It’s like showing off that your are better than someone else which isn’t a good thing. This leads to depression and anxiety in which society should blame itself for creating such structures.
Instead of giving mental health lessons school gives us mental health problems
i always talk to an "audience" while there is no camera nearby nor rolling..
all. the. time.
Same
Same
Yes.
Same and I do it in English even though I speak Finnish xD I just hear people speaking in conferences and everything and they always speak English
The loneliest I ever felt was hearing my parents and my brother laughing and chatting while I was having an anxiety attack. What made it worse was when I went downstairs to have fun with them, the laughing and chatting immediately stops and i could cut the tension with a knife. It hurts.
Man, I feel you so much it hurts.
The feeling of being rejected, it hurts
Deal with this every day. My parents n siblings do whispering and giggling. Then they go silent when I join them.
Can someone explain to me what's the cause of anxiety attack? Cause I feel like I have an anxiety.
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16
Honey....you’re loved beyond your imagination
I used to have anxiety as well. God set me free, literally broke the chains off my heart
I'm a student, living alone. I just got back from taking a walk and the hardest part is passing houses knowing inside there is a family, and their happy and all together. And I have no one. I have my stuffed teddy. My heart is hurting because I have no one and I long to just get a hug from someone.
i can relate :(
I caught myself imagining scenarios/ acting them out from loneliness. Basically, me acting out what I want to hear...
I create scenes in my head about what I want to happen in my life
Let's be friends
same
Cheetlover 18. I do that too. Now you’re not alone anymore. Sorry
Let’s be friends yall
Something worse than being alone is being around people who make you feel lonely and worthless
hi wanna talk about it together
Stay away from them
That's almost my entire extended family. My parents and siblings do not bother with me or my child. But I treasure the people in my life that do. If I didn't have them, I don't think I would be here.
My so called friends stayed with me out of pity because I had no one, so obviously whenever I see them I just feel disgusted
true😢 I feel like that all the time in my workplace
I would just spend hours meladaptive daydreaming. I would be in my head and create characters, and different scenarios when I'm bored,or at times to cope with the world or deal with anxiety or depression or negative emotions or bad situations. Still do it.
stng royal I do that now
Same
I day dream about things that have never happened to me. Kind of brings me some comfort, imagining actually being in a relationship for example.
space._.bunnies that must be really difficult. I’m sorry you went through that. Have you got some support in your life?
you must be INFP or INFJ, I do that all the time but now I'm trying to live in reality out of my comfort zone and strive in real life, this world is a rough place
I'm a teenager and I've never had any friends. I have crippling social anxiety with everyone I see even if any connection is built. There's no hope
Same
May be we should be friends... 🫂
Can u be my friend? Please.
Theres always hope bro
Same
"One day, you're gonna look around and you're going to realize that everybody loves you, but nobody likes you... And that is the loneliest feeling in the world." - Bojack Horseman.
What
Lol most people don't love you
Dat show was great, but it also made you think.
Huh??
Im not too familiar with the show, but Im pretty sure Bojack used to be a celebrity. So in his case, this quote makes sense because everyone loves and adores him but no one likes him (i.e enjoys who he is or his company)
“My best friend unfriended and abandoned me for being suicidal.” This hits home hard. I had my whole “squad”
Same. I was left when I was at my lowest 😔
i always do this, i just hate bringing people down. i don’t know how to cope
.......suicide squad......
My ex left me and never spoke to me again after I got depressed, I’ll never forgive myself for it either.
I’m just saying - and I apologize if this offends anyone - but if your friend abandons you during one of the/the most hardest time of your life, then you do not need to be friends with that person. If they’re willing to drop your friendship and not help you out when you’re struggling, they wouldn’t be there for when it counts. It’s genuinely so upsetting that y’all have friends that up and left when you were looking for support - no one deserves that. I hope y’all are in a better place now with people who are actually supportive😊💜
the eating in the bathroom hit me different like i automatically cried
lol same
i can relate so fckin much
in middle school I used to eat in 5 mins then run to the library to avoid the anxiety of sitting alone the whole lunch period
I hope your okay I feel like there’s no point in having friends no matter how many times they reject me I still come back because I don’t want to be the centre of attention no matter what they always leave I just act like I’m okay because I’m to sad to express anything without sounding like an attention seeker
What a sad fk🤦🏻♂️🤣
The worst thing I am feeling is that i am watching this on my birthday and i am able to relate to the whole comment section and crying uncontrollably
you know what's really odd? so many people are lonely, and the only reason that lonely people can't make each other feel less lonely is because everyone is kind of really hidden under a mask, people act happy and outgoing but they know that they have no one to tell their good news to, or no one to talk to...
Same bro but sometimes you just dont wanna let them think you're depressed or suicidal for their concern
I guess I’m the most shameless one here. I know I’m lonely but I don’t really do anything about it. I sit in the lunch room full of me(in other world I sit by myself lol) I don’t mind being lonely and I love how I care less about how people see me... I don’t try to act that way they don’t have expectations for me.
@@provenduck1959 that's real nice, not caring a lot about how people see you, most people out there don't share their problems with others because they're afraid of what people will think about them. And at the end of the day the goal is doing whatever that makes you happy, if you're okay with being by yourself, that's great!
Have you ever heard of Enneagram? I’m type 5 so it comes in handy. You should take the enneagram test to know more about yourself. I’ve learned that the loneliest I am the greatest the benefit I got from it, but that’s just type 5 enneagram people. It’s actually really cool because people would think I’m cold and distant, which I am, but that’s how i’m built.
@@provenduck1959 oh I've heard about it, I'll try it out. thanks for the advice :)
I talk to my cat. She responds. It means something to me.
that's is so cute
Mine does too! He meows back! Pets are the best defense against loneliness
I talk to my dog all the time too
Pets won't leave ever
That’s why I want a pet, specifically a cat. But my mom won’t let me get one, even tho I keep telling her that a pet would help me combat my anxiety and loneliness
The worst thing for me is working around people that aren’t lonely. They have close knit families and friends. It makes me feel even lonelier when they tend to have stories to tell and I have none. I feel like they think I’m damaged, not completely wrong. I’ve been betrayed a lot. I’d still like to make friends but anxiety from being betrayed and just becoming plain and dull over the years doesn’t help.
my life has been like that too lately.... we can be friends if u want (don't go by my username its just something random and i am for real)
All that you are worrying about dosent matter. I had these problems too but ask yourself the real questions. What do you really want? To be lonely or to fit in with others? You didnt ask for this but it happens.....why? Your perception....you have to understand that things are what you think they seem. Find out who you really are bro
What is your meaning of loneliness? Physical absence?
people have close knit families and friends. They tell you stories. But they don't talk about their true feelings.
I have a husband and a son, a job, a garden, and I have many stories to tell. But I sit and read comments at night. You know why?
People may have families and friends but feel lonely.
exactly!
2:51 i relate to that very last part she said. loneliness is wanting to have those things, but can’t bc you have no control over it
I've never held hands with someone. I always fantasized of intertwining fingers with another person and constantly doing it with myself as I repeat "one day" in my mind.
omg i do same
I do the exact same thing😭it feels nice to know someone else does it to
Same here, I’m not the only one wow
Me too!😭
At least you have hope
You will realize how lonely you are when you have many stories to tell and you don't have someone to talk to.
😭 yes it's me, i am single and feel lonely
yup
Yes.
I stopped telling my stories to others since they're just gonna say "mhm" or "sorry what were you saying again?"
That makes me feel even worse than talking to myself about my stories.
Or when you want to talk to people who know you, but are overlooked and you don’t have any stories.
I sleep hugging a body pillow every night so it’s like I’m cuddling someone. I need a hug.
I'll give you a hug. I need one too.
I need one too
*Air hug* 😊
Quarantines taking a toll on me and I miss human interaction. Ill hug you friend :)
Me too bro 🥺
I used to play music and walk around creating scenarios in my head. Different stories for different songs... I have been doing this since I was 13 and I’m 22. A few months ago I took the decision to stop listening to music all together, and I feel like I can finally breathe again
Me too, same thing 🥺🥺😩
So you use to have a condition call madaltive daydreaming disorder
Me too
Damn ive done that for 10 years, didnt even know it was a problem i’m 21
This is me, except I imagine myself as a Roman emperor...
“The worst thing in this world is not being alone, it’s being around people who make you feel alone.”
True that n felt that
I am experiencing this being alone in need of help makes me miserable and that feeling that nothing will change.
@@Sunnyforest Can't relate more~ That's why I don't have any suggestions to give you, sorry!!
It hits hardest when your personality changes and your loneliness is perpetuating
*"I'm meant to be lonely."* Damn that's me everyday
Yeah most anime freaks are typically lonely
@Dylan Mattox That's just rude. Please delete your comment.
@@dylan5398 pure toxic
Me too
I would actually be very happy if I was lonely. I am sad because I have to deal with people
Things that help me during a emotional breakdown.
1) hugging myself and saying "its okay"
2) sleeping. ( Cause I can easily fall asleep)
3) asmr for relaxation
4) writing in messy handwriting.
5) having ice cream later to calm down.
6) saying positive words to myself even though I don't mean it at the moment but I still do so that i get into this illusion that nothing is wrong.
7) praying.
8) taking deep breaths
Nah for me ..... just saying all the wrong things an illusions is more worse for me coz deep down I'll know I'm betraying my own self and will regret later on
I do same point 1,2,4&5.
Needed this
Writing in messy handwriting. I do this often. When I write in pretty hand writing I feel so proud of myself as if the love for myself is being let out through my neatness. But I always allow myself to have my messy writing moments.
Not ice cream every day though i hope? ..A lot of people do become overweight as a result of isolation. Food shouldn't be used as comfort, It's not a solution. It can cause issues or eating disorders if we constantly use food as a mean to feel better, to fill a void. We eat to live, let's just be cautious about it. For the rest, i'm totally with you.
it's comforting to see videos like this because it makes me feel like I'm not the only one who has experienced rock bottom loneliness.