Manage Your Mind to Stop Binge Eating
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- Опубліковано 26 тра 2024
- MANAGE YOUR MIND TO STOP BINGE EATING - You believe you need to simply try harder in order to stop bingeing. This is the trap people fall into again and again. Our minds are smart and can convince us of anything in the moment. The all-or-nothing thinking catches us out repeatedly, swinging us from optimism and hope into crushing despair and failure. The key to getting out of the cycle of binging is to learn how to manage our minds.
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As a well-being coach I make it a point to give all my clients time to talk it out. I do this because it has been so hard for me to find people who can just listen. After I found a coach who gave me the space to talk, my life began to change. I just needed to be heard. I needed to be able to let another person know the thoughts that were taking up space in my head.
Eating food and especially buying it makes me feel safe, for a short while. Eating and bingeing secretly is my act of rebellion, my two fingers up at the world, to say I’m taking this time for me and nobody else. Truthfully I’m scared to contemplate life as a grey area - I have no idea what this looks like and how do I know I’ll be satisfied with it. But the all or nothing mindset is exhausting, I’m uncomfortable a lot of the time and so fed up of the usual “fixes” like diets. I will check out your book and try the “I recognise I am feeling” approach you suggest. Thanks for your video!
I love that! Recording morning videos.
this is such a great video sarah! i have been watching ur videos repeatedly because they are so helpful and everytime i go back to my old thinking, i watch ur videos and podcasts again and it has been so helpful for me. it really feels so wrong to do something that is against what i believed in for so many years. the old thinking is still there but i am able to notice it now when it happens. thanks to you!
Makes so much sense x thank you!
Recording 'my happy morning version to my evening version' sounds really good idea. Last month I recorded myself after binging - crying, angry version of me - sometimes i watch it and feel sad bad awful again :/ i need some positivity.
Alr lets make a happy video 🧸🤍
I love hearing your process of doing the video and the "morning Sarah" setting up your intentions for the day and the "evening Sarah" reflecting on that day. How powerful to have a conversation with yourself where you not only hear yourself but see and look at yourself. I think it a brilliant idea. Thank you for your videos.
I feel like your videos are such an insight into exactly what I think and feel … especially the morning and evening different people … the all or nothing thinking, i have never found that before, feeling so ‘the same’ … every time I watch one of your videos … it’s like “yes, that’s exactly it!” Thank you 😊
Excellent perspective.
Thank you.
I begin connecting the dots😊
Thanks, Sarah. I love these words "peace is to be found in the grey". I agree. I have been reading many books about binge eating (including yours) and Geneen Roth and Brain over binge etc. A few days ago, in the comments section on UA-cam, someone recommended Tabitha Farrar, and I looked her up, and this set me thinking. Her views, as you will know if you've seen her videos, are quite radical. I'm super happy for her that she has recovered from Anorexia, and I find some real credibility in the biological and evolutionary approach to eating disorders. It's also remarkably freeing, her idea of just eating whatever you like forever, and that if that means we are bigger, that's fine - we are meant to be that way. Her view on BED is that it doesn't exist, and is simply anorexia, and that bingeing is due to restriction, and so bingeing is never a problem, it's just a way for your body to get the calories it needs. Hmm... maybe she's right, I thought, and of course, considered immediately going and emptying the fridge and the cupboards. But I didn't, because I didn't want to. And it was good to see your video here, as I like the idea of this 'middle way' between full-blown bingeing and total restriction. I'm definitely making efforts to not restrict, and I know you advocate that too, along with many others. But I'd be interested to see a video on what you think about bingeing being simply your body asking for food, and it's not a problem and you should happily stuff yourself with no thoughts of restriction, and this, for the rest of your life if necessary. Thanks for this video though. It kept me in the grey zone, which is actually where most of life lives anyway.
I did an Instagram post on 25th May 2020 called 8 Reasons You May Be Bingeing That Have Nothing to Do With Restriction. I believe there are many reasons for bingeing beyond restriction, so thanks for the video suggestion, I will turn that post into a video.
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist Great, thanks. I'm not on Instagram, so never saw that post.
It was quite a while ago to be fair so definitely worth dusting off and turning into a video. I appreciate the suggestion ❤️
I love your approach and your content. After so many years struggling with binge eating, I feel like I've finally found someone who feels just the same as I do. Thank you for that! I would really appreciate a video / Instagram post about PERIOD x BINGE EATING and also OUR RELATIONSHIP TO ALCOHOL CONSUMPTION x BINGE EATING (my bad if you've already made something like that)! :) Regards from Brazil
Hey Paula, I’ve just tagged you in an Instagram post about alcohol and bingeing (at least I hope it’s you I’ve tagged). A video on periods/PMS and bingeing is definitely overdue. Thanks for the suggestions 🙂
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist yes, that is me ! ;) Thanks!!
I appreciate your content ✨️
Thank you, Sarah. Just to let you know that you make a difference, even if some of us fight tooth and nail against ourselves all the time. Keep moving forward, no matter how small the steps.
Thank YOU for the support! It feels lovely to be of help ❤️
Hi Sarah, I found this video really helpful. Thank you. I recently developed some sort of eating disorder and had bad stomach ulcers. After watching your videos I realized it was probably from the stress and excessive screen time I had in the pandemic and now my mind is disconnected from my body. My recent new hobby (painting) could also contribute to it, even though I really enjoy this hobby, I always reach out for snacks while working on a piece while I am in a kind of meditative zone, not sure why this happens, I am guessing maybe there are emotions involved during the process, or it could be self doubt. P.S. I am definitely an all or nothing person.
Wow, another amazing video! The idea of making a video to ourselves in the morning is fantastic! Thank you so much for these practical ideas, they are so helpful! 🥰
You are very welcome. Let me know how you get on! 😊
Thanks a lot, you are so amazing! a lot has been cleared out for me watching your very valuable videos! Could you please make us video/series of videos on practical chronological steps to the journey out of binge!
I tried to cover this over my two videos 7 Steps to Binge Eating Recovery. I’m not sure there is a chronological order that works for everyone, but removing restriction needs to come first I would say.
Here’s the link ua-cam.com/video/0iTyhDO6SGQ/v-deo.html
Great video thank you so much! You’re helping me a lot! Ugh that black and white thinking... so hard to change. I appreciate your emphasis on self- compassion. Sometimes when I pay attention to what I’m saying to myself it’s surprisingly nasty! Anyway you’re awesome and I love all your content. You’re helping so many of us 💖
One thing I meant to say, which I forgot is that we don’t need to change/get rid of it. We just need to MANAGE it, which actually does start to change it, but if we focus on trying to stop it, like bingeing, it will probably get worse. Thanks for your comment and lovely words ❤️
Hi 🙋♀️
Thanks for your help. I wanted to ask you what you think about regular eating. My therapist wants me to eat 3 times a day (at least) and ideally eat 5 times a day. I don’t want to because it did not help me in the past and I eat enough in those 2 meals per day. She is really angry at me and does not understand it? What do you think about it? I trust your advice more.
Hey Janina,
I really can’t offer advice about what would be best for you as I don’t know you or your situation. All I can say it that the traditional and evidence-based treatment for BED does involve eating 3 meals a day and often two/three snacks. Can you honestly say that if you were eating your two meals a day and not bingeing that you would not lose any weight? If you would lose weight on that it might still be a bit restrictive for recovery. Maybe. Again, I don’t know your situation, I just want to pose questions to get you thinking.
I’m more concerned that you said she was angry with you? How on earth does that help? I would be expecting her to explore your resistance with you, try to understand where you are coming from and find a way through together.
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist thanks a lot 😊
tonight was the first time i “binged” since august, which was when i started my weight loss journey. i have always been able to control myself, i have probably been in a deficit for 6-7 months, i dont know what happened tonight, i binged on “healthy foods” pb2 was the biggest one , protein powder, a protein bar, a kiwi, crackers, etc, can’t really remember everything but that was the majority, i did it while no one was home, and after i did it i felt horrible and still do, i do remember thinking to myself during the binge “ this is just a big cheat day” and that pushed me to keep going, what does this mean? i don’t want this to start a bad cycle