I have two problems with social gatherings, I don't like the pressure to be inauthentic, and I don't like the feeling of being judged. I guess the two go hand in hand
Get over it. If social gatherings make you feel uncomfortable and you avoid them, you will forever miss out on countless opportunity for the simple reason, you have to be in it to win it. If you feel uncomfortable you are doing something right, if you feel comfortable you are taking the cowards way out.
This is how I feel with work related parties. I've been to a few, but most of the time don't go. I personally don't feel they're necessary. The loudest talkers dominate the conversation, and I really don't want to have to stand around and listen. There's other things I can be doing.
1 gathering in almost 16 years. I outlasted all the people who were there when I started and all the new ones are complete strangers to me. No interest in being amongst them
Being human has always been difficult for me. I never could relate to people very well, and tended to be more concerned about global issues rather than the people around me. Now that I'm older, I don't have to worry about getting asked questions.
Right there with you. When I was younger, I felt that everyone else understood so many things that I didn't. I finally figured out by my 40s that they really didn't really understand anything - they just believed things because everyone else did. Now, it amuses me to study people. I feel almost like Jane Goodall.
i agree (opinion on the video) simply living in a small circle with no hassle on the side.. thank you for understanding Sigma's on your video and channel 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
I’ve always felt like an outlier in gatherings and found myself weaving myself into a serving roll. Start cooking, mixing or serving drinks or cleaning. I get sought out as a guest and end up mistaken as the caterer or hired help. I’ve been invited to very high end gallery or auction house private previews, soon I would be behind the table pouring wine for guests being mistaken as the hired help giving people an education on wine.
I deeply appreciate this series. With few exceptions i can resonate with the observations presented. In fact many of my personal mysteries have been solved by watching these videos. Thank you.
As a sigma for 68 years, I can attest to this story. I have always wondered why I act this way, and as far as I can remember, I’ve worked this way and never deviated from this behavior. Finally, it makes sense everything mentioned is how I avoid problems and place myself in situations I don’t wish to be in. By doing so all my life, I am happier and have zero concerns about the general population, and at my age, I still get carded to prove I am an adult. This is what I have gained by following my true self. We are a very special breed, and by staying authentic, you will live peacefully
I guess I’m sigma. This is why I avoid hangouts and parties and rather be all by myself. I mean, I never get invited to anything, but that’s not the point….
This trait certainly runs in my family on dads side ; where most of the males are quiet and unassuming of good character. The type of men who would quite freely go out of their way to assist someone in need of help . But cross them and you will regret it - a piercing glare levelled at a trouble maker usually enough to settle unwelcome behaviour .
What is this obsession with always talking to people? I am a young black sigma male with high functioning autism who has two college degrees and who has two online businesses. My parents are west African Liberian immigrants and in my family parties are frowned upon. Also I am not the “stereotypical” black person so that makes me even more unique.
I hate social gatherings, I hate that secret santa crap in the workplace, workplace parties, weddings, christenings. but I do like big classic and vintage car shows/events and I always find like minded folk to have some good banter and share non-pc jokes with at these events, it is usually the same with steam locomotive events
Probably the most accurate short video I've seen on the sigma , as it's.aparently called personality, some articles and videos make them sound like they may be members of the X-Men cast
I used to go to happy hour with coworkers. There would be a dozen people all talking over each other loudly with the music cranked up. Somehow they all understood each other and jovial. Neurotypical behavior. I’d just shut up and enjoy the nachos and beer.
After watching this video, I now understand why I don’t like crowds ( fake people) and prefer to do things by myself. I always have to laugh at those people who try to be the “ Life of the party.” How pathetic.
I'm a Sigma and I LOVE social gatherings! IF I feel leary about the crowd or if everyone there rubs me wrong, I am gone! In fact, if they ask everyone to wear a red ball cap, I just might show up with a green one instead! If they don't welcome me, it's THEIR loss!
Several things I dislike, large gathering, the back stabbing, phoney people, if you don't go to these gathering the big boss who's like a alpha man will make your work life miserable
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Youth should be completely filled with action on all one's dreams, turning them into memories. Plus you find what 'floats your boat' to pursue into retirement. Success skips all the lessons one learns during multiple failures and hopefully lives through them all. There is nothing like being flatbroken living off mac and cheese to clarify one's focus on what matters when, and how much you really need to be comfortable and productive. Alphas are necessary to run the show, they are good at it. Betas fill the ranks of production, they are good at it. Sigmas find the problem and fix it, they are good at it. All three and more are necessary, with equal respect to all. Sigmas, like the proverbial Lone Wolf, succeed on our own merits in our own way when and where we desire and need not the other two types to survive and prosper. We are experienced at repeating 'See ya, wouldn't want to be ya'.
This describes me pretty close. I didn't know there was a category for it. Just the way I am and have been. We really don't fit into the norm and that's ok. Sigmas are not fake. There are females that are very similar as well .
Let me tell you what these groups do; they gossip, cut co workers down, and if you are there and not contribute, just listen to them, they will tell others who could not make it for some reason that YOU were doing the bad mouthing so as to protect themselves from the actual guilt. That is why I DO NOT go to these functions and if they say you are not a part of the group, so be it. Do not go and be dRAGGED down by the lies they will forward the next day.
@@sageoldmann5157 Grok begs to differ. In conclusion, while a sigma male could indeed be a smart introvert, not all smart introverts fit the sigma male archetype. The sigma male concept leans more on a constructed social identity or persona, whereas introversion is more about innate personality traits concerning social interaction needs and energy. Thus, a sigma male might encompass more than just being a smart introvert; it includes specific attitudes towards societal norms and personal autonomy.
I reckon it is - the label/people are on a spectrum, like many things in life. I also have some Zeta male traits, but resonate much more with the Sigma traits talked about in these videos. Maybe our personalities are flexible and our mode can change in ways over a lifetime too eh... but I guess there is a general default way of being in all of though...
I dont agree on the "routine" part. Im a Sigma and I dont like "routine". I like "results" derived from an effortless application of lifestyle disciplines. When I choose to carry out those disciplines is irrelevant and often not part of a "routine". I think "discipline" is a better word than "routine", because Sigmas get bored with "routine".
Sad but true. And that shit is passed off as normality by small minded loud mouths. Just give me some truth, staying centred and observant brings greater rewards.
About #5, I'd rephrase it as "I'd rather waste my time by myself but by the will of someone else." Undoubtedly I fit well to most of your 10 points. Did not know I can be tagged as sigma for being as such.
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I have two problems with social gatherings, I don't like the pressure to be inauthentic, and I don't like the feeling of being judged. I guess the two go hand in hand
My sentiments exactly.
Get over it. If social gatherings make you feel uncomfortable and you avoid them, you will forever miss out on countless opportunity for the simple reason, you have to be in it to win it. If you feel uncomfortable you are doing something right, if you feel comfortable you are taking the cowards way out.
me too. the social and the gathering bits..
This is how I feel with work related parties. I've been to a few, but most of the time don't go. I personally don't feel they're necessary. The loudest talkers dominate the conversation, and I really don't want to have to stand around and listen. There's other things I can be doing.
I've been at my current job for 10 years and managed to not attend a single social event.
1 gathering in almost 16 years. I outlasted all the people who were there when I started and all the new ones are complete strangers to me. No interest in being amongst them
You are better at avoiding shallow social events than me! - Well done!!
@@gabem6863 Goes to show how inauthentic these gatherings are having outlasted the rest; you've done well to maintain your freedom!
Time is our most valuable asset, money comes and goes, time just goes! - Use it wisely.
Your own time is invaluable, spend it wisely and should always be your choice.
Being human has always been difficult for me. I never could relate to people very well, and tended to be more concerned about global issues rather than the people around me. Now that I'm older, I don't have to worry about getting asked questions.
Right there with you. When I was younger, I felt that everyone else understood so many things that I didn't. I finally figured out by my 40s that they really didn't really understand anything - they just believed things because everyone else did. Now, it amuses me to study people. I feel almost like Jane Goodall.
I get the feeling that their all putting on with each other and so I stay away. Can't deal with the fakeness.
They are. They’re
@@mikedrouin3789 You know you're a True Sigma when you're correcting other people's grammar ;-)
I avoid all of that. I even have to do my shopping at 7 am to avoid the herd!
Everyone just calls me grumpy or miserable for not wanting to participate in the bs. I can live with that😂
i agree (opinion on the video) simply living in a small circle with no hassle on the side.. thank you for understanding Sigma's on your video and channel 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
I don't mind social gatherings that have something more to offer than simply existing.
Clint Eastwood is and always will be the ultimate Sigma male .
Yes, peace of mind. So important.
I’ve always felt like an outlier in gatherings and found myself weaving myself into a serving roll. Start cooking, mixing or serving drinks or cleaning. I get sought out as a guest and end up mistaken as the caterer or hired help. I’ve been invited to very high end gallery or auction house private previews, soon I would be behind the table pouring wine for guests being mistaken as the hired help giving people an education on wine.
If I was doing that I would be listening in on the bidders at the auction and figuring out who has a limit
Tolerating mere mortals is difficult enough. No need to venture into their world.
I deeply appreciate this series. With few exceptions i can resonate with the observations presented. In fact many of my personal mysteries have been solved by watching these videos. Thank you.
Had never heard of a sigma male up until 10mins ago and i now identify as one. thank you 🙏
As a sigma for 68 years, I can attest to this story. I have always wondered why I act this way, and as far as I can remember, I’ve worked this way and never deviated from this behavior. Finally, it makes sense everything mentioned is how I avoid problems and place myself in situations I don’t wish to be in. By doing so all my life, I am happier and have zero concerns about the general population, and at my age, I still get carded to prove I am an adult. This is what I have gained by following my true self. We are a very special breed, and by staying authentic, you will live peacefully
I guess I’m sigma. This is why I avoid hangouts and parties and rather be all by myself. I mean, I never get invited to anything, but that’s not the point….
I prefer the company of my dog.
"Keep your friends close, and your enemies closer.' (The Godfather Rule)
Basically just want to be around real people
This trait certainly runs in my family on dads side ; where most of the males are quiet and unassuming of good character. The type of men who would quite freely go out of their way to assist someone in need of help . But cross them and you will regret it - a piercing glare levelled at a trouble maker usually enough to settle unwelcome behaviour .
Any crowds that are larger than me plus 1 I hate
I like the truth quote at the start well done :)
🤔My thoughts articulated perfectly. Mann🤨 please Talk HEAVY💪🏿👁️
To talk is to lie is it not ?your the universe and words,just enjoy the silence.
What is this obsession with always talking to people? I am a young black sigma male with high functioning autism who has two college degrees and who has two online businesses. My parents are west African Liberian immigrants and in my family parties are frowned upon. Also I am not the “stereotypical” black person so that makes me even more unique.
Thank you for putting my thoughts into words.
I hate social gatherings, I hate that secret santa crap in the workplace, workplace parties, weddings, christenings. but I do like big classic and vintage car shows/events and I always find like minded folk to have some good banter and share non-pc jokes with at these events, it is usually the same with steam locomotive events
Probably the most accurate short video I've seen on the sigma , as it's.aparently called personality, some articles and videos make them sound like they may be members of the X-Men cast
I work in a corporate job. It can be a living hell for sigmas.
i never attendes parties and club night, even during college. insted i practiced my skillset, enjoyed nature or listened to the wind.
Sigma meal- Authentic food served at a table for one. Eat what you want then just leave unannounced and never go back.
All about power, F the fame.
True.
I used to go to happy hour with coworkers. There would be a dozen people all talking over each other loudly with the music cranked up. Somehow they all understood each other and jovial. Neurotypical behavior. I’d just shut up and enjoy the nachos and beer.
After watching this video, I now understand why I don’t like crowds ( fake people) and prefer to do things by myself. I always have to laugh at those people who try to be the “ Life of the party.” How pathetic.
Yes, I agree with the points. This sums me up quite well.
I'm a Sigma and I LOVE social gatherings! IF I feel leary about the crowd or if everyone there rubs me wrong, I am gone! In fact, if they ask everyone to wear a red ball cap, I just might show up with a green one instead! If they don't welcome me, it's THEIR loss!
I like it how you talk about me all the time.
Several things I dislike, large gathering, the back stabbing, phoney people, if you don't go to these gathering the big boss who's like a alpha man will make your work life miserable
Youth should be completely filled with action on all one's dreams, turning them into memories. Plus you find what 'floats your boat' to pursue into retirement. Success skips all the lessons one learns during multiple failures and hopefully lives through them all. There is nothing like being flatbroken living off mac and cheese to clarify one's focus on what matters when, and how much you really need to be comfortable and productive.
Alphas are necessary to run the show, they are good at it.
Betas fill the ranks of production, they are good at it.
Sigmas find the problem and fix it, they are good at it.
All three and more are necessary, with equal respect to all.
Sigmas, like the proverbial Lone Wolf, succeed on our own merits in our own way when and where we desire and need not the other two types to survive and prosper. We are experienced at repeating 'See ya, wouldn't want to be ya'.
This describes me pretty close. I didn't know there was a category for it. Just the way I am and have been. We really don't fit into the norm and that's ok. Sigmas are not fake. There are females that are very similar as well .
Spot on!!
Spot on.
Let me tell you what these groups do; they gossip, cut co workers down, and if you are there and not contribute, just listen to them, they will tell others who could not make it for some reason that YOU were doing the bad mouthing so as to protect themselves from the actual guilt. That is why I DO NOT go to these functions and if they say you are not a part of the group, so be it. Do not go and be dRAGGED down by the lies they will forward the next day.
I think much of this could apply to smart introverts who don't like wasting time.
What you just described is what a sigma is.
@@sageoldmann5157 Grok begs to differ. In conclusion, while a sigma male could indeed be a smart introvert, not all smart introverts fit the sigma male archetype. The sigma male concept leans more on a constructed social identity or persona, whereas introversion is more about innate personality traits concerning social interaction needs and energy. Thus, a sigma male might encompass more than just being a smart introvert; it includes specific attitudes towards societal norms and personal autonomy.
Interesting Documentary and I’ve just discovered this subject. I think i could be around 70% sigma. Is that possible ?
I reckon it is - the label/people are on a spectrum, like many things in life. I also have some Zeta male traits, but resonate much more with the Sigma traits talked about in these videos. Maybe our personalities are flexible and our mode can change in ways over a lifetime too eh... but I guess there is a general default way of being in all of though...
My high-functioning Autism makes me a sigma male by default.
I like this video.
I dont agree on the "routine" part. Im a Sigma and I dont like "routine". I like "results" derived from an effortless application of lifestyle disciplines. When I choose to carry out those disciplines is irrelevant and often not part of a "routine".
I think "discipline" is a better word than "routine", because Sigmas get bored with "routine".
IF I go, it's MY choice!
99% of people are fake. I don’t see the point. I have better things to do with my time.
That is me in a nutshell
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I just don't like people,because they talk shit.
Sad but true.
And that shit is passed off as normality by small minded loud mouths.
Just give me some truth, staying centred and observant brings greater rewards.
Hhhhmmmm 😊😊😊😊😊😊
#5
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About #5, I'd rephrase it as "I'd rather waste my time by myself but by the will of someone else."
Undoubtedly I fit well to most of your 10 points. Did not know I can be tagged as sigma for being as such.
everyone pretend smiles....then stabbing each other in the back....
either that....or some narcissist is fishing for information/trying to attach....
OMG, I've just realised I'm a sigma.!!! Woopi.!!!
so pretty much sigma males = introverts? basically described introverts
I really wish these Sigma videos didn't show grabs of fakes... actors.