I'm Back Dating in South Africa - First Date Gone Wrong - it got PHYSICAL!

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  • @yearnskin
    @yearnskin 8 місяців тому +105

    Thank you for supporting proudly South African brands Julian 🇿🇦🇿🇦🌍🌍

    • @JulianAlbino
      @JulianAlbino  8 місяців тому +18

      High quality skin care products!! The glow is real!

    • @N_YouTube1
      @N_YouTube1 8 місяців тому +2

      😎

  • @ald62
    @ald62 8 місяців тому +81

    Security should have never let him upstairs without calling you first. Tell security not to let anyone upstairs without your permission, which means they have to call you first. Stay safe, now you know what women go through. ❤

    • @thothozakade2311
      @thothozakade2311 8 місяців тому +2

      I'm so sorry for the experience, I hope u don't think all South African men are like that. As a woman I get how disgusted u must have been. I love u and I again apologies

  • @edrisd.1285
    @edrisd.1285 8 місяців тому +43

    Don't assume that a nice person can be controlled. That punch probably saved you from more drama! He assumed you were easy, and only in it for sex. He thought intimidation could get you back in line. Seeing a few stars helped him see the light!

  • @Lebzin07
    @Lebzin07 8 місяців тому +23

    I’m pissed at the security at this point because what the heck!!??!! 🤬😡
    You never send anyone up to anyone’s place without calling you and asking permission - so sorry you went through that babe 😢

    • @MusehanaH
      @MusehanaH 8 місяців тому +2

      ...money talks? 🫣

  • @Mahkhumalo
    @Mahkhumalo 8 місяців тому +33

    Him screaming your name at the restaurant would’ve made me exit real quick!!

    • @mimilay3680
      @mimilay3680 8 місяців тому +1

      😂😂😂😂❤🎉😂

  • @Ejaysworld
    @Ejaysworld 8 місяців тому +29

    You are a great story teller ,I was so invested 😂,please stay safe.

  • @logicalspeaks5666
    @logicalspeaks5666 8 місяців тому +21

    The skin is skinning Julian! just beautiful!

  • @shauntalove8413
    @shauntalove8413 8 місяців тому +64

    This is why I drive to dates and they never know where I stay

    • @live.life.on.purpose
      @live.life.on.purpose 8 місяців тому +6

      This date was a hot mess lol. This is what us ladies deal with smh. You'd think in 2024 it would get better but nah lol. You get dressed nice and hope things go great but you quickly realize they view you as a piece of meat. 🤮

  • @PhoenixTheAlchemist
    @PhoenixTheAlchemist 8 місяців тому +16

    Your initial hesitance at the club was valid. Your spirit knew he was a problem. He was far too eager. M3n like that are ALWAYS a problem. Glad you laid his ass out. Please be safe and don't give your address to strangers anymore for any reason. Idgaf if they tryna send a duffel bag wit a million dollars in it lol. And tell the people at the front desk not to let anyone up to your place unless they call you first.

  • @gretaberry4983
    @gretaberry4983 8 місяців тому +19

    You handled yourself accordingly! You did what you had to do. I’m proud of you 👍🏽 ❤❤❤

  • @sasamolutsi4215
    @sasamolutsi4215 8 місяців тому +27

    JULLY JULLY PLEASE I BEG OF YOU TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF, STOP GOING OUT A LOT I DONT WANT BAD THINGS TO HAPPEN TO YOU COZ I CARE A LOT ABOUT YOU.

  • @GodsGreenEarth360
    @GodsGreenEarth360 8 місяців тому +20

    I just love Julian!!! ❤ I think you acted accordingly! Clearly dem cheeks was the agenda and I feel that if he would have got in the house it would have escalated escalated! Glad you’re safe and loving the skin! 😍

  • @robertfarrell5269
    @robertfarrell5269 8 місяців тому +14

    Julian thank you for sharing your dating experience with this guy who just kept coming at you with more and more energy and not to your liking. I got to tell you that I was laughing my ass off so hard that my my dog started screaming and laughing with me. It was so funny. it was totally unexpected. I’ve been listening to you for a long time ahead. I have never heard you share anything like that before. I guess you need to trust your instincts when it comes to dating and get the hell out of situation that the writing is on the wall . Be careful out there. I love the videos, I’ve been to Morocco, but not South Africa . I enjoy the education that you’re providing in South Africa. Take care.

  • @dearzuko
    @dearzuko 8 місяців тому +22

    I am 3 minutes into this video and I am already hooked, we need more storytimes like these please and thank you. Also, your skin is skinning sana okay, im done

    • @elvinnybonjovi10
      @elvinnybonjovi10 8 місяців тому +6

      No, we don't need more stories like this. We shouldn't have social misfits that we parade on social media. We need people to change so we have less of these sociopaths

    • @tofineone
      @tofineone 8 місяців тому +1

      Are you kidding we do not need more of this story and drama, is your life that empty you need this to far fill your vacuousness!!

  • @tshepisodiremelo9524
    @tshepisodiremelo9524 8 місяців тому +9

    Stop being polite and deal with people accordingly. You handled that very well.

  • @tshepisodiremelo9524
    @tshepisodiremelo9524 8 місяців тому +7

    Please make sure to always inform your friends whenever you go for dates.

  • @Shirley.sThirties
    @Shirley.sThirties 8 місяців тому +5

    Firstly, your skin iiisss skinning indeed🙌🏾! Secondly, I’m so appalled at this weirdo’s behavior 😭😭😭I’m so sorry! I’m glad you’re also okay. Security should’ve never let him in😳!!!

  • @NicoleAbrahams
    @NicoleAbrahams 8 місяців тому +5

    Julian, glad you are safe. That is not a normal thing for someone to show you on a first date!!!

  • @tanyabiscardi5690
    @tanyabiscardi5690 8 місяців тому +4

    I think you did the right thing ❤. He wouldn't stop. Your doing the right thing by not seeing him again. Stay safe and many blessings ❤🙏

  • @LesegoSofficial
    @LesegoSofficial 8 місяців тому +5

    You handled that extremely well Juls. The minute it feels like fight of flight... Flight wasn't in the cards as he was already in your space and you'd already fled the restaurant .. Fight baby, Fight!

  • @fortheloveofjan
    @fortheloveofjan 8 місяців тому +3

    JuJu, bro…you did the right thing, because that guy has no CLASS! Showing that video to you and not even knowing your standards! That was straight up rude! But all things happen for a reason! And he showed his true colors on the first date… That’s good for you because you didn’t have to waste half a year or even years being with somebody that’s not meant for you. No time wasted except those hours at that restaurant. Keep reading the signs bro., because they will show. 💕💕💕

  • @chichigoodenergy1873
    @chichigoodenergy1873 8 місяців тому +5

    YOU DID THE RIGHT THING. ❤❤❤❤❤❤. NEVER DOUBT YOURSELF

  • @MusehanaH
    @MusehanaH 8 місяців тому +4

    Good to see you back in South Africa. You went quiet for a while after going back to the US. Enjoy SA and keep posting

  • @ntombifuthitshabalala3208
    @ntombifuthitshabalala3208 8 місяців тому +5

    You are such a fun story teller I really enjoyed this video, and I love how you incorporated the skin care routine ❤ enjoy SA and be safe doll

  • @carolthomas7135
    @carolthomas7135 8 місяців тому +2

    Julian, you were absolutely positively right in handling your "date from hell." The way did. Things could have gone very badly. Showing up at your door!!!! Thank God you are alright. ❤❤❤

  • @emmaingram8017
    @emmaingram8017 8 місяців тому +2

    Thank you for skin care tutorial. Your skin looks great!

  • @deboragittens3363
    @deboragittens3363 8 місяців тому +8

    You handled it accordingly, but JULIAN! neverrrrr give anyone your home address. Your home is your sanctuary, a safe haven. Just be careful and like someone said follow your instincts. It will never guide you wrong. And, don't be giving people 50 million chances. Period!

    • @nicolasb.henry294
      @nicolasb.henry294 8 місяців тому +1

      Totally agree this advice is valid for everywhere in the World even here in Madrid no one as my address and people who come to my place are very close friends or trustworthy people. For the rest well the city is full of bars, parks for picnic or restaurants.

    • @deboragittens3363
      @deboragittens3363 8 місяців тому

      @@nicolasb.henry294 Exactly

  • @hildadavids217
    @hildadavids217 8 місяців тому +4

    Hi Julian, he got what he deserved. He has no manners. He showed his true colours. I am proud of you.

  • @Lebzin07
    @Lebzin07 8 місяців тому +5

    60K subscribers baby 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

  • @Lee0331
    @Lee0331 5 місяців тому

    Omgsh I hate this happened!! But so happy you’re safe and you took care of it!! He won’t bother you anymore!! 👏🏾👏🏾
    You look great!! Skin flawless as always! Be safe! 😘

  • @ZizoGcina
    @ZizoGcina 8 місяців тому +1

    You handled the situation immaculately 👌🏾. I'm sorry this happened to you and I'm happy you're safe. Going forward do not ignore that little voice.

  • @Nuzw9iq
    @Nuzw9iq 8 місяців тому +3

    Definitely looking forward to the update of the next date, gosh, l'm sorry you had to experience what you did in the first one. Some guys suck suck!!!

  • @ADivaForLife
    @ADivaForLife 8 місяців тому +6

    You look amazing 🤩 that skin lil bro is like butter 🧈 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

  • @joantonio6331
    @joantonio6331 8 місяців тому +1

    Bro just stay safe, I love your channel and personality. My number one rule is to never let someone I just met know where I live, I trust nobody

  • @rubanikq2
    @rubanikq2 7 місяців тому

    Julian!!!! Nice video, sorry about your experience. Hope the next date went well. Looking fwd to more videos. Take care.

  • @Fezeka-zl1cg
    @Fezeka-zl1cg 8 місяців тому +1

    😂😂😂😂😂, what an interesting story and scary as well. Thanks Thanks Thanks you are safe at the end of the day. Love the vlog ❤

  • @alinanamene4845
    @alinanamene4845 8 місяців тому +1

    I'm so sorry Friend. Wow the audacity and craziness. I'm glad you are safe.♥

  • @misstownes
    @misstownes 7 місяців тому

    I’m so happy you protected yourself! ❤ Be careful babe!

  • @LadyAndrews1
    @LadyAndrews1 8 місяців тому +2

    That situation is bot normal. He going too hard too soon. You reacted better than most.

  • @jackiej4396
    @jackiej4396 8 місяців тому +3

    Love your energy & videos! Proud of you for defending yourself, he deserved it 😂

  • @dynamict4722
    @dynamict4722 8 місяців тому +2

    That is scary😭 glad you’re safe JuJu

  • @marthaditlopo229
    @marthaditlopo229 8 місяців тому +2

    Please take care of yourself and we love you so so much ♥️🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦

  • @tracywalker244
    @tracywalker244 8 місяців тому +2

    Julian is a real man knocked him out cold! 😂

  • @nicolasb.henry294
    @nicolasb.henry294 8 місяців тому

    Stay safe Julian! Happy to see that finally you're fine.

  • @live.life.on.purpose
    @live.life.on.purpose 8 місяців тому +1

    Hope things get better for you Julian 😊

  • @womandesign6928
    @womandesign6928 8 місяців тому

    Love the way you express yourself… all the best & stay safe ❤

  • @sisiphokazi_m
    @sisiphokazi_m 8 місяців тому +7

    So you experienced a South African man!! Welcome to the clubbbb🥺

  • @Salad_Channel
    @Salad_Channel 8 місяців тому +1

    Don’t ever give that man a chance, you did absolute nothing wrong. Anyway, you’re soooo beautiful, you’re gorgeous! ❤

  • @goodvibesonly153
    @goodvibesonly153 8 місяців тому +22

    Hi Julian. You were not wrong, and your so-called friend who said you were. Is not your friend.
    That dude is a crazy stalker. He stalked you when he first met you and stalked you by coming to your home uninvited.
    That is not okay at all. You did right by hitting him. Keep watching your surroundings. Especially due to you blocking him, and he's still stalking you by looking you up on social media.
    He's blocked because you don't want any dealing with him, yet he persists. Something in his brain isn't right.
    Your skin looks beautiful 😍 be safe out there.
    Oh, one last thing, lol. Security shouldn't be letting anyone up without your permission.

  • @gretaberry4983
    @gretaberry4983 8 місяців тому +1

    Hey Julian ❣️looking fabulous as always 💜💜💜

  • @jessecoltrane5497
    @jessecoltrane5497 5 місяців тому

    Glad you’re safe love

  • @plastichouselady
    @plastichouselady 8 місяців тому +6

    Julian, I met you in Rwanda (I was whispering in your ear about not outing closeted people). I love watching your channel. So happy for the great life you're leading. So here's my question, how "out" are middle-aged and older African gay men?

  • @maryellis1638
    @maryellis1638 7 місяців тому

    Please be careful! Never open a door to confront crazy! Live and enjoy Your Fabulous Life!

  • @missa3276
    @missa3276 8 місяців тому +1

    Wow, skin is skinning

  • @hlumasandemangane716
    @hlumasandemangane716 8 місяців тому

    I can’t believe what you went through! I’m still on the part where you left the restaurant and I’m literally like so shocked. You need to report security!

  • @ncuti2024
    @ncuti2024 8 місяців тому

    We love you Julian!!!

  • @tsholofelosharonmbele4318
    @tsholofelosharonmbele4318 8 місяців тому

    Yessss the skin is skinning 🥰

  • @SewbyPamela
    @SewbyPamela 8 місяців тому +2

    Julian, I love your channel🥰 I think you handled that situation well. I bet he knows now you are not the one to be disrespected. In addition, starting the date inebriated is not a good look. Please stay safe🙏🏽#myretirementjourney

  • @svmclever
    @svmclever 8 місяців тому +1

    I love your videos, I've been watching them since you came to SA for the 1st time.
    Don't allow the Devil to work in your life.
    Allow God to work in your life by living how he wants you to live.

  • @Mygirllifestyle
    @Mygirllifestyle 8 місяців тому

    Nice to see you back. I missed you ❤

  • @moetieugeneramabodu428
    @moetieugeneramabodu428 8 місяців тому +20

    These short South African men are so embarrassing 😂😂

    • @moe_ramz
      @moe_ramz 8 місяців тому +4

      They’ve always been. Atleast it’s not just us who see it! 😂😂

    • @mmmotives7452
      @mmmotives7452 8 місяців тому +1

      Don't generalise papa!

  • @Polex12345
    @Polex12345 8 місяців тому +2

    Great content....be very careful and save out there.

    • @ochrechap
      @ochrechap 8 місяців тому +1

      U mean...SAFE....not SAVE!

  • @blobby.the.fat.dinosaur
    @blobby.the.fat.dinosaur 8 місяців тому +1

    15:16 That's actually crazy
    Be safe 🙏 ❤

  • @EssieinRL
    @EssieinRL 8 місяців тому +1

    Saint gets weird sometimes! It's better to part ways with groove-people at the end of the night 😂 Love the skin & storytime

  • @td0070
    @td0070 8 місяців тому

    28:50 thats growth! 😂😂😂 you handled it well!

  • @chevalierdenoir754
    @chevalierdenoir754 8 місяців тому +2

    you know today is the day for me to hear this story today. I was in someone's car today and they kept on touching me while they were talking and I hate that. He eventually playfully grabbed my hand and I didn't know how to respond I just closed off my body language and I think he got the message not to touch me again. You should not have been on that date in the first place, the only reason you were there is because you felt sorry for him. You are making me want to self-defense classes.

  • @thatonchocho5472
    @thatonchocho5472 8 місяців тому

    Even though I couldn't wait to get all the tea.. I showed the love by watching the ads.

  • @LifeWithDevanteB
    @LifeWithDevanteB 8 місяців тому +1

    The way I just felt out my chair cackling @ 15:34. It be the audacity because what!? 😂

  • @lexieb6079
    @lexieb6079 8 місяців тому

    Love the content 😊

  • @bukeaor2961
    @bukeaor2961 4 місяці тому

    You are a hot mess ! Much love and light all the way from DC ! It’s been a minute and child I’m watching your videos back to back and I gotta tell you , I’m gagging and laughing 🤣! 😂😂
    Alright watch your back nah ! Don’t get a little over yourself ! 🤣🤣🤣😂😅
    Listen you did not react ! Hands to yourself on your side ! If you grab me ! Listen when I turn around ! I don’t know, 🤷🏾‍♀️ but you will find out ! Like he did on the floor ! 🤬 so onwards and upwards I love this energy ! Okay let’s do this ! Watching your videos , so keep them coming ! Cheers 🥂

  • @shakdizzle
    @shakdizzle 7 місяців тому

    This story is crazy.Momma was/is right never go on dates with ppl you meet at clubs.Thank goodness you know how to protect yourself. Go Julian

  • @WorthyOfAbundance
    @WorthyOfAbundance 8 місяців тому

    Hi Julian, please share details of this apartment when you leave. I would like to stay in it when I come to Joburg 🙏.

  • @deonakasuccessjenkins
    @deonakasuccessjenkins 8 місяців тому

    aww...wish I could have had the opportunity to treat you to a real date, you are a beautiful soul. Please be careful out there. I think you handled the situation perfectly. Stay Blessed and continue to enjoy LIFE my friend

    • @JulianAlbino
      @JulianAlbino  8 місяців тому +1

      👀 it may not be too late ;)

  • @Miss_Kati
    @Miss_Kati 8 місяців тому +1

    😳😳😳😳, I would have left at the point of the video as well. Oh my word this story.

  • @futhixaba7884
    @futhixaba7884 8 місяців тому +6

    Julian…being available doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be picky.

    • @MusehanaH
      @MusehanaH 8 місяців тому +1

      Very good advice

  • @Sindi-j1h
    @Sindi-j1h 8 місяців тому

    Friend people can be weird please take care of yourself....I'm glad you safe though❤❤❤

  • @chrisyvonne
    @chrisyvonne 8 місяців тому +1

    You’re better than me twin 🥴 you had A LOT of patience with him and gave him a lot of grace. I would’ve left the restaurant the moment he started cutting up. As far as him showing up at your place, I would’ve put hands on him the moment I heard him pounding on the door 🙃 AND I would’ve cussed out security cus how are y’all gonna let someone come to my place without my permission???

    • @JulianAlbino
      @JulianAlbino  8 місяців тому

      😂😂😂😂😂 I still owe security a good cuss out! Because why aren’t you securing ?! lol

  • @annmuthoni8213
    @annmuthoni8213 8 місяців тому +3

    He was out of his mind 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @MargoKnox
    @MargoKnox 8 місяців тому +1

    He met Charlotte North Carolina baby. 🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I am glad your ok. I hate you had to experience that beautiful.

  • @Pookipak
    @Pookipak 8 місяців тому

    Chillleeeee 😅❤️ Glad you’re okay!

  • @Henry-cf4oo
    @Henry-cf4oo 8 місяців тому +3

    Not Ike and Tina 😂😂😂

  • @rochelleemmanuel6041
    @rochelleemmanuel6041 8 місяців тому +2

    Love and respect you, Julian ❤ don't forget to treat your neck as you do your face 😊 And I'm proud of how you handled the "creep" !!!

  • @NcebaDayile
    @NcebaDayile 8 місяців тому

    Mzansi is a film yhoO... glad you safe... be vigilant at all times

  • @bonniemanana8858
    @bonniemanana8858 8 місяців тому +1

    3 things. 1. We love it for Yearnskin will def check them out. 2. I need the security guard's location coz i want to put hands on him! Why the hell is he gonna let someone in just because they say they know you like ? 3. Always chose violence when it comes to your safety. Mans didnt read your signs and it sounds he was going to go All in if you didn't chose to protect yourself. Tell him Tsek! Follow your instinct Nana ❤

  • @1wnatalie
    @1wnatalie 8 місяців тому

    GREAT VIDEO

  • @fortheloveofjan
    @fortheloveofjan 8 місяців тому

    😂😂😂I like your‘Executive Decision’ 😂😂😂

  • @motivationwithlisa
    @motivationwithlisa 8 місяців тому +7

    You didn''t exaggerate the situation if he was being belligerent the way he was you did the right thing if those are your friends they won't tell you that you were wrong!! He did too much! Men in Africa try to dominate!! Keep it pushing love, he was a bad apple! ANYBODY ELSE TOUCH YOU... HANDLE THEM!😂

  • @dynamict4722
    @dynamict4722 8 місяців тому

    Julian bout that life pow pow!

  • @td0070
    @td0070 8 місяців тому +1

    15:39 omgggg im over here crying 😂😂😂😂

    • @JulianAlbino
      @JulianAlbino  8 місяців тому +1

      Best!!! I was so gagged!! 😂😂😂😂
      IMY!

    • @td0070
      @td0070 8 місяців тому

      @@JulianAlbino IMY! I’m so happy to see you out there thriving and GLOWING ✨ bishhhh ✨

  • @CaliButler
    @CaliButler 6 місяців тому

    Truth juice 😮 Your pictures that you put on the screen of your blemishes didn’t show up it was yellow 😢

  • @keepupwithsandilek
    @keepupwithsandilek 8 місяців тому

    OMG I’m so sorry you went through that chomi , but keh let’s talk about the skin 💨🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥CHILE 😭😭!!!!!

  • @sweetpeazAdVantures
    @sweetpeazAdVantures 8 місяців тому

    Love a pretty boy that can fight ❤ but, you should have left when he showed you the video. Stay safe and I love your personality. 😊

  • @bongekang
    @bongekang 8 місяців тому +1

    Julian, I am not sure about your friend hay.. Be safe out there 🙏🏽❤

  • @ADivaForLife
    @ADivaForLife 8 місяців тому

    Wasting Skin care products.. I feel you 💯 on that

  • @Mukundwa
    @Mukundwa 8 місяців тому +1

    Good you protected yourself! For South Africa please do not give any dates your address before like date 5

  • @MeccaMakeba
    @MeccaMakeba 8 місяців тому +4

    Julian please be careful in South Africa. You don't have any family out there with you and the few people that you have met you still don't know them that well. You may block me for saying this but, it appears like you are lonely. You are from the USA. Charlotte is not a hick town so, to allow a stranger to send food to your home. I think because, you are not in the US your guard is a little down because, you are in SA but, people are the same around the world.

  • @VondaRansom888
    @VondaRansom888 8 місяців тому +3

    How he found out where you was STAYING. That pop let him know you will give A fadeaway.. It was absolutely Necessary!!!! No I’m A Woman and if a man I just meeting showed me a sex video, would have left him sitting at restaurant Table Too.. He gave Creeps…..!!!!

  • @lisaw44
    @lisaw44 8 місяців тому +1

    Someone showing you sexually explicit materials without your expressed consent is assault. I’m sorry that happened to you. I’m glad you have people to help you process your emotions while you’re in SA.

  • @thandiqueenethmpungose787
    @thandiqueenethmpungose787 8 місяців тому +1

    Where have you been young man!!!

  • @MsLj-kk8ly
    @MsLj-kk8ly 8 місяців тому

    Sounds like 50 percent of my previous dates! Very rich but weird men!! But since I'm only 5ft 2 135 lbs I normally run away and hide! Happy you were able to protect yourself!!