What's A CONFESSION You Told Your PARTNER That ENDED Your RELATIONSHIP?
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Story 2 broke my heart. 😢 This is a societal failure if you ask me. If men aren't allowed to be vulnerable without it being used against them, then we as a society are doing something terribly wrong. (٥↼_↼)
Our society insists on having women to live in "Current Year" and men to stay in the old "Man Box". I see no-one trying to patch up the divide.
Honestly men having emotions with their partners can be a catch 22. It took me years to get to where I was comfortable being vulnerable. My ex-wife used me being emotional as a weapon if we were in an argument. You quickly learned a shield that part of you.
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Seriously, women telling men to be more emotional is the biggest gaslight ever
@@AnonymousJohnAutobonlol 😆 guess what emotions are electrical energy if one has a wire that has poor conductivity it burns lmao 🤣 men who refuse to be in touch with pain and cry tend to mask it with anger and women will leave because of that so I suggest finding a real women that accepts you as a human being and wouldn't judge you over a natural process that actually let's the emotional energy pass without violence and anger
The girl in the first story didn’t need a boyfriend she needed a therapist.
OMFG. Story 2 just broke my heart. I remember the first time my husband cried because it made my heart break for him, and I felt so close to him that he trusted me to be vulnerable with me. We are each other’s safe place/person, and we can tell each other anything & don’t need to fear that we will be judged negatively for anything we have to say or about anything we have ever done.
Massive respect to you for being a great partner
Your husband is very lucky to have an angel. 💖
Story 16 the same
I don't understand women who feel less respect for a man after seeing him cry. For me, it's the opposite. Being able to process your emotions and release them properly is a requirement for emotional health, and when I see a man cry when he needs to I consider him more mature and emotionally healthy. The difference in opinion might be because I don't need someone to give me stability- I am usually my own "rock", so I am also capable of being someone else's.
If you’ve seen men use that to manipulate you, you would see it the same.
Some people talk about toxic femininity to justify their sexist views. This, this is actual toxic femininity - coming right from strict gender roles and conservative ideas
Story 16 the same
Story 16 the same
Perhaps story 2 is a cultural thing where he lives. I've been open and vulnerable with partners. Always brought us closer together.
I've never understood people that when asking their significant other to talk to them about painful things in their past, immediately get upset with the person once those stories are shared. Like, dude! You ASKED them to tell you about something awful that happened to them. You have no right to be upset with them.
They want an excuse to break up with them. Or more likely they want power over that person, they are curious but they don't actually care. It's gossip. Something to use against them.
Story 16 the same
GF told me she contracted herpes on a girls trip to Vegas. Ten years later I’m now married with to great kids. (I’m clean, she’s single)
The shower story ngl I gagged 😭
Story 1: "A full commitment's what I'm thinking of. You wouldn't get this from any other guy."
This story kind of sounded like 500 Days of Summer. She didn’t want to commit to him specifically, then met another dude and even has kids the same age as OP. It worked out for OP though, they just weren’t meant for each other.
My thoughts exactly lok
IIIIIII JUST WANNA TELL YOU HOW IM FEELIN’
@@HinataElyonTophshe is gonna give you up, she is gonna let you down, she is gonna run around and desert you!
Never gonna MAKE you cryy
A good half of them sounded like abusive relationships that _luckily_ ended.
Story 4 is fascinating. Yeah, he was gnarly for working out and not showering. I've known a lot of people that take a shower every other day but they lead pretty sedentary lifestyles. But on the flip side, OP considering 2 showers a day normal blows my mind. My skin and hair would SUFFERRRRRR. My water bill! The hours wasted!
It’s dumb not to shower when working out. It helps relax the muscles and reduce soreness the next day. Guy is shooting himself in the foot
Story 2 needs therapy and new people in his life. I feel sad for him because being vulnerable in front of women has never hurt a relationship for me, if anything it brought us closer. I ugly cried in front of a girlfriend 4 months into our relationship over my parents passing away. 13 years later we’re still together and married 🤷🏾♂️ If you find that you can’t be open around a person don’t keep them in your life.
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Right? I wish him the best but I hope he gets some therapy because his views on women are not healthy. Most women don’t think the way he thinks they do.
@@skittlemilks1614 None of think that way. But there's what they say they want, what they think they want, and then what they actually do. She didn't think she'd be a monster to him, but she was. And today I guarantee she's somewhere on the internet saying she'd never do such a thing to a man and I also guarantee you she genuinely believes she never has and never would. Delusion is a necessary ingredient to the complete lack of accountability that's endemic to the gender.
@@johnowen9349everything was going rigth with your comment until the last part bruh🙄🤣🤣
@@eddyalonsomoramorales6069 That's the scientifically proven part.
Story 4 made me laugh... How the hell does he hate showering this much
> No 1 of dating is self care!
I heard this so much.
I mean, a person can be fine without showering everyday, not saying go a week without showering but skipping a day here or there isnt going to be the worst.
However, thats like only if you havent done much. This guy went to the gym got sweaty, and didnt shower two days in a row? Yes! I agree, thats not good, and all he had to for her was simply shower before sex and it would be an easy solution to solve?
The guy is definitely an idiot.
One of those idiots who believe in that pheromones BS. That's a false assumption of attraction, but infection caused by a dirty member is very real.
@@finndemoncat9379honestly that rule goes for everything not just dating
Hydrophobia or whatever it's called.
First story triggered Rick astey. "Full comitment was what i was thinking of, she never had this from any other guuuuy."
I'm bi and can relate to story 2. Men are just as bad at this though. The times I have been told, "I'd be with a woman if I wanted to deal with this drama!" from guys for being vulnerable top women dropping me for being vulnerable.
Story 3: Personally I hold the mentality: "You deserve whatever you're willing to accept and if you aren't willing to accept someone who's also willing to accept you then you deserve to be alone." If you accept someone treating you poorly then you deserve for someone to treat you poorly, if you wont accept it, then you don't deserve it and if the only people willing to accept you are ones who will treat you poorly and you wont accept them then you deserve to be alone. Isolation isn't the death sentence it used to be and (at least for me) this mentality pushes me to have high standards for both myself and others in my life.
I've never heard of crying being the relationship ender before. When my friend was in her second relationship, she and her boyfriend got two kittens together, one for each of them. He loved the kitten he got and they were practically inseparable. Unfortunately, his cat got hit by a car which didn't kill it, but damaged its spine in such a way that it lost all feeling in its tail and was rendered incontinent. After a vet visit, my friend and her boyfriend decided to have the cat put down out of mercy. This was the first time she had ever seen him cry and she comforted him as much as she could.
What DID end their relationship, however, was they got into an argument that was so bad that she attempted to end her own life. She failed, fortunately, but lost a chunk of her memory as a result. Whether the emotions of losing his kitten were a factor or not is beyond my knowledge, but he was a narcissist who would comment snide remarks about my friend's friends, particularly me as I was her overweight best friend with "No neck", apparently. Rich coming from him as he had no chin, was bug-eyed, had a drinking problem and smelled constantly of BO
Wow, that took a turn
My god is she ok??? I'm so sorry. What an evil narcissist
I’m yet to meet a woman that I can be vulnerable with without it blowing up in my face and being used against me at a later date.
Man I'm so sorrey
Story 2 is true, for me if a woman stops respecing me for trusting her with my feelings i would just kick her out instantly, she wouldn't hsve to worry about how to tell me she want to brake up, that's a sign of immaturity, i am a human not a robot if me crying because my mom died for example is a "deal breaker" she can date ChatGPT that has no emotions. A relationship has te be mutual support to get stronger not the man having to deal with the woman's problems on top of not been able to get help for his.
Story 2 is a tale as old as time. I've had it happen to me, I've seen it happen to so many friends and relatives.
Stop the incel retoric simply You got hurt
No healthy women is going to lose respect for you for crying unless You are a crybaby
Witch includes never dealing with your emotions
You take a risk when opening up, but honestly, it’s a test. If you can’t open up to your wife, how can you raise a kid whose gonna cry?
@@Iceblade269 Never ever open up to your wife. That's the death of your marriage.
@@johnowen9349 I wouldn’t have married someone I couldn’t open up to. What happens when my grandpa dies and I statt grieving? What happens if I lose my job, a loved one, and so on?
Eventually something is going to fuck your shit up. If you can’t trust in your partner, how the hell are you supposed to teach your child how to handle these emotions?
If that keeps me single, well shit. Single life is great.
@@Iceblade269 You shouldn't marry to begin with, it's nothing but a bad deal for men. You lose grandpa that's what friends and blood family are for. Open up to them. No, you wife isn't your friend and that's the last thing you want her thinking of you as (hopefully she doesn't sleep with her friends).
You teach your children to build solid friendships and blood bonds. YOU be that person for your kids. Don't send them out there relying on an exception to female nature they are so unlikely to find that it is reasonable to say "impossible".
Stay single. Don't cohabitate. Keep women recreational use only. Save your money. When you're ready for kids, hire a good lawyer and a surrogate (in that order).
I’ve seen my partner of ten years cry a total of 3 times, once at a funeral and the other two over/related to me. It brought us closer and I love that he can be vulnerable around me. I wish he cried more often but he says he hates crying and the way it makes him feel so I don’t push it but I do support him when those rare moments of tears come up.
That second story is so true. Women say they want a guy who is ok with showing their feelings until you do. That’s when she will see you differently and will no longer respect you.
Guys, be careful of who you show your vulnerability to. Now that person can use it against you.
This is no different than me saying men are abusive. Stop the generalizing. Most women don’t think like that. Some of you need some therapy to fix your views on women. If a woman shames you for showing emotion, then simply leave her. That’s a small minority anyway.
@@skittlemilks1614 It’s not a small minority, it’s the vast majority. Also, y’all need to stop thinking therapy can fix everything. Venting’s fine and dandy for first world problems, but it ain’t gonna do shit for the serious issues. It especially sucks for guys when they have female therapists bitch about men the whole time.
@@skittlemilks1614maybe. I'm sure there are plenty of good women out there as there are plenty of good men. But there are still ab**I've ones. You're right though in a way
@@cristianrojas9684therapy will help those who want to be helped
Can't see a thing though. I do as I please, if it means crying - so be it. And if she after that stops respecting me (lmao) that just means that I didn't need her in the first place.
men aren’t allowed to be vulnerable but idk. i never have looked down on one of my partners for being vulnerable with me. when my bf has cried in the past i’m always there for him. sometimes it can be hard to see somone who doesn’t cry a lot but ur not sure what to do. i’m defending the people who make men feel unheard, i think it’s just important to remember that you can’t blame your partner for your own set backs. like not being emotionally vulnerable. one of my set backs before i met my bf is getting scared to say how i feel . my family reinforced that idea into me. i’ve had moments in my relationships where i thought he was the one making me scared but i realized it’s a serious pattern for me. we call can do better and be better
these stories are great glad youtube algorithm put it on my list
I told her that I didn't believe in a literal interpretation of the Bible. She broke up with me because I won't force my biblical beliefs on her or her kids.
What
@@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259 "A man is supposed to be the spiritual leader of a household." So me telling her that I wouldn't force my interpretation of the Bible on her family meant... something to her, idk what.
@@FriendofFantasy bro she is so weird. I'm so sorryy
I have three TBI, all recieved simultaneously. I do feel "good" emotions, but deep inside, I feel whatever good emotion I am experiencing doesn't feel whole, or possibly feels hollow in a way
Story 2 is sad but hopefully that does not happen often. My experiences have been generally on the positive side of vulnerability being accepted/supported. I hope most men feel like that. Being vulnerable early on and then seeing how supportive your partner is would be a good chance to see whether that woman is worth your time.
Wish I was you rn
My exp3rience was being asked to express my thoughts/feelings then having those completely disregarded. Won't make that mistake again.
I'm a bisexual guy and male partners are worse.
@@jackchop1576OK sorry to hear that.
@@NigraeLegionesthen don't date. It has no benefit for us if our thoughts and feelings are ignored
Most of these people in the stories just seem stupid and had other intentions behind the break up.
"Had toilet paper residue"... Yeah, that's not from toilet paper honey... F***ing yuck!
Ok the 3rd story just kept going and going…. it just really sounds like “i’m saying everything is fine but i’m not happy that I’m fat”.
I know. Get healthy if you are unhappy.
Story 2: There’s a book by Heru Pita called “Show me a Beautiful Woman”.
It touches lightly on the dynamic here OP is talking about.
The Soldier/Bitch Dichotomy.
Either men are an unmoving, unfeeling Obelisk that women want to see break down as it “scares” them, or you’re an emotional mess they can’t rely on because they finally saw (or pushed you) to cry in front of them.
It exemplifies that people (not just women) have no God Damn clue as to what they want or what they’re looking for in someone. But mostly that a good amount of people don’t want to understand why male suicide rates are staggering.
Story 1. "A full commitments what I'm thinking of. You wouldn't get this from any other guy."
The hygiene... Oh the uti that man is prob giving.
also we need emotional vulnerability in relationships or we start to feel resentment or hurt. if you feel like you can’t open up to your partner please don’t think the lesson is that you just shouldn’t open up, find somone who does! don’t make yourself fit into a mold too small for you you’ll need up losing parts of yourself along the way
Itd actually heartbreaking to see men cry, esp if its someone who VERY rarely shows vulnerability. Why would that disgust you?? If anything, wouldnt that mean your partner feels safe being vulnerable in your presence??
Plus, id rather have that than a wall puncher-
Story 2 just made me so depressed because (for me at least and the people I know) *it’s so untrue!!!* I would never see someone differently for crying like wtf. I would be more concerned if they didn’t cry and didn’t show their feelings because that means they don’t trust me and they don’t feel comfortable enough around me to be themselves, which would greatly bother me.
Story 4, as someone who is also not circumsized, floored me. I am extremely self-conscious of my man meat down south. I will reject sex with my s/o if I feel I am not clean enough.
First story was exactly how it was with my ex. Her & I are still close & last year outright admitted she regretted breaking it off so quick. Her cousin even said “wtf y’all were perfect & she just broke it off cause it was her first actually decent relationship?”
Story 2 is how everyone of my relationships have ended. Woman asks me to be vulnerable. I am vulnerable. Woman breaks up or uses the vulnerability against me.
Fxxx all of those women. You will find one who can accept you for who you are without using your vulnerability against you
And I can say the same for every man I have dated. I have been told he wants to help me and is a safe space, then get used for sex and dumped for being “crazy.” Meanwhile had I kept my mouth shut, those guys would’ve respected me and not dumped me
I am better off without them because they were being emotionally manipulative and immature. Which is what the women you’re referring to are also doing.
Be careful writing off an entire gender because you keep running into immature people. And look in the mirror before it’s too late.
@sgmii3060 Maybe you and abbysmith5933 should date. :P
@@abbysmith5933 Maybe you and sgmii3060 should date. :P
@@abbysmith5933are you also writing off men or no? Still I'm very sorry that happened to you. That really hurts. Thankfully women think I'm hideous so I haven't had to go through that. I hope you find someone who values you. Im so sorry. Either that or give up as I did and try and find success. That's hard enough. Anyways those men don't know the meaning of respect, they never would have respected you and even if they did, their respect means nothing
Man number 2 Hurst so much. That person's never met a truly supportive person in their life it sounds like. I can not tell you how many times iv turn to my wife and closers friends for emotional support.
Is story one just a rick roll? A full commitment was what he was thinking of and she never got that from any other guy.
last story: "if you will not die for me then SuFfEr!!!!" god, that is some grade-school level narcissism :D
The no shower guy….how the hell did this guy need to be told that not showering for days is gross and prevents someone from wanting to have sex with you? He also didn’t shower after going to the gym. That’s even worse. Surely this should be common sense?
Showering once every 2 Days is a lot more normal than those that do every Day think. I suppose if you have bad natural body oder that you'd want to do it more often. Most are just lucky enough to not need to. Going to the Gym without showering though- that's nasty. I also suspect if a partner told me the same thing- "You stink, shower more", sure I'd be a bit embarrassed but I'd do it because I want to make my partner happy... hell, back when I was 18 I shaved my whole body cept the jewels and my top head! jewl shaving is a no=no for me, a good haircut down there and keeping maintaining it isn't so bad though, which I also did for her.
What is the racing video game?
I know I see Mickey so probably something Disney related.
Story 2 infuriates me, because that is a double standard if I've ever heard of one.
Too many women just don't seem to give a duck about men's mental health.
Story 2: I use that as a litmus test, if a someone can't handle a man crying then they are a shit person.
First story. This is why you don’t do long distance relationships ever!!
Story 9 breaks my heart as a guy. I could never treat my partner that way especially when they share something with me that is as painful as that. Dude is an asshole
story 4. there is a lot to unpack there. for one. who the fuck showers twice a day? and for 2. who the fuck expects sex before showering after not showering for 2 days AND working out?
The christian one is interesting because the whole speaking in tongues is meant to be an uncommon thing. Also christians are meant to be kind to everyone but its something alot of us need to work on
That girl that escaped her fundie household is really sad. Screwed her up so badly that she wanted to change everything about herself. I hope she'll find peace one day
A confession that ended a relationship? All of them. If it amounts to a confession - an admission of something you did wrong - then you're going down. "Forgiven" is temporary. It will return again and again until it's over. And after.
That's a problem with the woman not the man. I mean if you stay with someone who can't support you back you are basically alone. Not ever woman is like that. It's kinda the same as the meme not every man. But it's true. Not every woman.
16:39 - I'm confused...why on earth would their discussion of their health issues offend someone with a TBI? what am I missing
All of these are so sad. Story 8 is so sad how the entire family abandoned him.
When you abandon reality you get what you get.
@@chadb9270be thankful you never had to experience gender dysphagia. Someone who kicks someone when they've already been hurt is not a good person and no matter what you use to justify your behavior, you just want an excuse to bully those born different.
When women say they want you to be more open about your feelings they are talking about your feelings for them. They want you to you to talk them like like the lead in the romantic movie. Guess what ladies, we don’t have a team of writers, we ain’t that creative. If I tried to wisper sweet nothings in your ear, you would laugh at my lame attempt.
You are not wrong an thats because a Lot of women have a pathetic view of masculinity not because naturaly wired that way
Stop with incel bullshit instead of advicing young dudes to go for toxic women
Story 13, yeah dodged a very huge, costly, self esteem ruining bullet.
Story 2 sucks. My husband has cried in front of me and i dont think less of him. Wish he'd do it more. I know he hides it. There are women that aren’t emotional toddlers in this world.
14:23 that means she doesn’t think women are predators
Story 16: Wife is a soulless inhuman PoS and tbis is the reason those with depression dont trust people
The end of story 9 out of context is kinda suspect.
Story 11 / 13:36
Hol up
...yes?
Story 2 is sooo true. Never show emotion in front of the women. You need to cry? Walk outside and cry in your car. I had to learn this the hard way. The only woman who accepts you in your vulnerable state is your mother. Stay safe out there kings.
Story eight is insane. Never, ever get involved with fundamentalist religious families. Belief in magic is absolutely nuts. Plus, it looks like they had mental illness going on anyway. Sounds like you dodged a gigantic bullet.
Shes overweight. Shes not loosing weight while hes helping her. Hes trying to help her loose weight but eventually gets fed up and leaves. Id like to feel bad for the woman getting dumped but I've seen too many overweight people rationalize all their behavior to avoid the hard work of losing weight. If youre massively overweight a normal diet is enough to lose weight. If youre only moderately overweight youll need stricter self control and some exercise. If overweight people had great self control they wouldnt be overweight. So relationships where one person is acting as the guardrail and the other person is not making an effor to achieve their goals is infinitely stressful.
Some of these stories are just abusive relationships.
I'm just amazed girls will give sloppies.
Then again I'm married so what would i know?
😂😂😂 classic. But yeah even married women give sloppies but I’m NOT going near that region with my mouth unless my husband has showered that day. Thankfully he showers every day 99% of the time.
Story 3 OP cope hard
Yeah because I’m not a complete piece of sh-t, I’m glad when my husband trusts me enough to cry in front of me if he needs to. I would never think less of him as a man-that’s so stupid. Everyone hurts sometimes, or gets too stressed, or grieves when someone dies. They are men, not robots! They are allowed to have feelings. I’m sorry, but there should be no societal rule that says men can’t show emotion. Guess what-if he handles his business, works hard to support a family, raises his kids well, treats his woman right, and gets it done WELL in the bedroom-that’s a real man for you even if he must shed a tear from time to time in the worst times of life. Anyone who treats a man as less than if he does cry after doing all of that for them is a complete moron and she doesn’t deserve him, period. He needs to dump her pronto and find someone with a heart and soul and little freakin compassion for others.
Story 2 is some red pill bullshit.
Story 16, I have a adult 40+ that has these 1000 red flags, please somebody help relocate me and rescue me.
All these guys in this thread are wimps having feelings and all that.
If you ever cheated on your love!…. Take it to the grave!…. Never admit you cheated on her!…. Better to lie!…. Sorry!…. 🦉
Or, just a thought, don't be a disgusting, amoral human in the first place.
I told her she was a textbook narcissist. She left, proof positive lol
“I express myself and it’s used against me” EVERY FUCKING WOMAN EVER
Welcome to our world.