Why Ambition Makes You Lonely
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- Опубліковано 13 чер 2024
- If you're someone with ambition who wants more out of life then you're probably pretty lonely.
Trust me, I've been there...
Even though I had many friends in high school and throughout my life, I always felt like an outsider. And it only got worse once I got into self-improvement and started my first online business.
I was working all day by myself, not socializing and craving any form of human connection.
In this video, I go through the different stages of overcoming the 'lone wolf' syndrome and building a circle of like-minded friends that you can grow with together.
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*honestly this is a youtube treasure*
yes, agree!
True, dealing with the same problem 😅
True!
This entire channel is a treasure. Love this guy
Absolutely right
Holly shit this resonates so much
Me too
TOTALLY!
True!
True
IKR. The wavelength, amplitude and phase, they all match up.
The biggest issue I've run into is most of my friends are either only interested in going out and drinking or they are married. I sometimes wonder how heavily motivated is my drive for success by the fact that making friends seems like a harder task
You are not alone my friend, I am experiencing the same issue in my life. My biggest drawback now is that I’ve allowed myself to be consumed in getting my business operational and successful, not having much luck while yearning over my distant friends who have started a family of their own.
@@jasonconley6727 at least all of us watching this video can relate lol. We’re lonely but not alone
im the only one of my friends who went to college and now i spend all my time alone.
I recently started organizing activities (ex. escape rooms, top golf, etc) to try and make new friends, but unfortunately it's not the same. Mostly feels like its what people say yes to when all of their drinking/clubbing plans fall through
Don’t try to force having friends, learn to enjoy time alone with yourself. Then you will attract friends that you actually may enjoy.
Wow, this hit a bit different. Thank you for making this video homie.
I know the feeling too well man. its hard finding friends who get the grind
So true 😅
Whats your socials bro? 😂
Well if you ever come to Slovakia hit me up and we can have some whiskey 👌
I will 😀
What if he is abstinent?
Omg it's FL king 👑
for sure
I'll take apple juice
Can relate a lot. Finding people to bounce off ideas and be peers is challenging for sure. Networking and finding is a skill. The internet and social media was super useful once I started to actually reach out to people 🤙🏼🙏🏻 great vid
I agree! Lmk ur Instagram if you want to connect!
he doesnt
Not me: I'm Alone, but not *Lonely* - I love having my own personal space to dive into creating my dreams. I have a group of friends whenever I feel social or want some fun with others. But I never feel lonely.
Some people with certain childhood trauma can feel lonely because they perhaps had a narcissistic parent who didn't allow them to be themselves independently. They were only an extension of that parent while treated very arrogantly. Their healthy independence was never supported. Therefore they never developed "themselves" in the process. When they are alone they feel an extreme form of loneliness because there is no self present, there is only a toxic introject of a parent, which can a massive inner critique bullying the person in the mind. They only feel alive with other people who can love them or tell them something nice or that they matter. They can't do it for themselves by themselves. These people usually striking for very high achievements because that's how they can achieve the constant interest of others to avoid the toxic loneliness. A bit of psychology.
@@TomeRodrigo Or mabye humans are social creatures that require interaction.
damn you were one weids 4ss kid
I think I'm at the stage of trying to convince myself that networking doesn't have to be a waste of time😅 it does seem like the toughest things to get going are the most likely to develop exponentially, making them worthwhile.
Great video again Leon👏
Yeah that's usually how it works... whatever is worthwhile doesn't show too many results quickly. The beginning is the hardest but it is so worth it. Nothing will ever bring you more happiness, fulfillment and meaning in your life that the right relationships 🙂
damnnnn i recognise you from your fitness video
Yes & it's better if you choose the type of platform that is equipped or specialized in taking you to your particular goal.
This video is amazing, man; instead of JUST being motivational, you're actually helping people. Keep doing what your doing! 🙏🏽
Thanks I sure will!
Great videos here. The algorithm has finally understood me. I'm in the right place!
I completely resonate with this. By 33 I have 5 university degrees, and now a dentist on $150k/year. While I made lots of new friends at Uni, post-uni it’s become more lonely as I’ve had to disregard “friends” who were anchors (holding me back) rather than wind in my sails. It happens man 🤔
5 university degrees to become a dentist ?!?! your not even doctor! you fix stinky breath!
Why did you do so many degrees? And do you have lots of debt?
5 is too much
Depends on where he is from. Student debt is mostly an American thing, in many countries, there are free public universities or at least quite affordable private ones. My country (Brazil) is no standard for great universities, but I don't know personally a single person with Student Debt. It just doesn't exist. Countrywide, those who have ends up being quite easy to pay, not in any way close to what happens in the US.
You are so right. I'm from the US and it can be challenging sometimes. When you have a family and job it make things a lot harder. They make it harder. Their about money. Sad.......
Wow! Just wow. This is exactly how I feel. I was never able to discribe how I feel about me and my friends, but this is exactly how I feel. I have read all the comments and LOVEEEEE the community! I love all the like-minded, but still open-minded, people here. I really hope this community is something that can grow, so every lone wolf can click with someone eventually!
This is exactly how I feel. Thanks for making this video, fellow creator here. People around me probably think I’m crazy or a workaholic 😂
I’m always working, or learning things to fulfill my creative itch.
I checked your channel when you mentioned the word 'creative'. I'm also passionate in web design. I can say in my experience, it's lonely to be a wise, philosophical person & more if you're ambitious too & even more if you're also an artistic creative if you don't reach out to find your type of people out there. In your own case, I think (pardon me if I'm wrong), even if you found your type of people which might be a creative too, you might also have the risk of losing them if you are that rich & famous and they are not. Most creative people are already jealous folks & even more if they can't buy the tools you have 😉.
I just consulted my therapist about this because it sucks. The more I am searching and acting on self improvement, the more that I am feeling lost and alone from my peers.
I thought I was going insane because everytime I am socializing I felt like I am wearing a mask.
Its comforting to finally hear that what I am experiencing is normal.
More videos on this please 😆😆 so far ur the only youtuber that talked about this issue.
Same to me. I am also on my self-improvement journey. I stuff my mind with wisdom & I find it hard to find people in real life whom I could share what I have discovered. How I wish I could easily reach the nice people I met here in my own place.
its not you wearing the mask, its everyone wearing a mask. i sometimes see that they are all just pretending.
Only at times when you realize not everyone is as motivated as you, but it helps when you put yourself out there or happen to be doing something where there's a sense of community involved.
ill better have a wife than friends...
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@@theminizaurus9this part too
You're the first UA-camr ever that I fully relate to. Thank you for existing.
Wow, thanks! Thanks for existing too!
Bruh, Impact Theory has really kept me from going insane in previous years! I'm forever great ful to Tom Bilyeu for what he does.
Man Tom is such a good dude... This guy's stuff is music to my ears
What is Impact Theory?
Tom has changed all of us. even the rest of teachers that I listen or read their book, I have known them through impact theory
@@rorisxng It's a company that's trying to be the next disney and change lives through story telling. All his content is amazing
the moment I started to get serious about my life, my friends started decreasing.. its so lonely but I know its for the better
Going through this now 😢
This is a true gem. Thank you so much for treating this topic the way you did it here! Absolutely relatable.
man, everything you said was 100% equivalent to what I've been experiencing the last two years. It's good to know there are other people out there who feel the same way as you. It could be a lonely road but it doesn't have to. You just need to open up and you'll find dozens (if not hundreds) of people who are on the same path as you, and form some of the best relationships of your life. Thanks for the video, Leon
Thanks! Glad it helped!
I find this to be true as well.
What do you guys think about making a discord in order to gather all of us, passionate about self improvement and being something in life, by chatting, making calls and sharing opinions with each others? I will create one if you 're interested in join just respond to this comment with your nickname!
@@sterian1673 have you already created a group with others? Would be happy to join ;)!
@@lassehuitink7880 same
One of the beauties of the Internet is it helps you find your tribe. Great video!
So true! Especially for weirdos like us who are always after big goals 😝
Wow, you just described how I feel. I almost quit my dreams, because I feel like everyone is jealous instead of being supportive
"Ambition makes you lonely"
Me as an introvert with no friends: OMG, I'm so ambitious!
Introverts are underrated and extroverts are overrated. Everyone tries to convince you having more friends is what you should strive for and that simply is not true. I have found having fewer friends to keep up and maintain is actually way more enjoyable than when I had more friends and felt obligated to then have to go out with them when I really didn’t want to.
I found thinking of friends in terms of numbers whether that be a lot or a little can help but not help as much in thinking of friends in terms of how meaningful is it to you
I'm so speechless man. You're amazingly relatable. Thank you for this video.
Thanks man!!
This is what I needed! I have been a solo entrepreneur for 12 years, I'm 32 now. All I want is to be able to talk with more people who are hustling and are as ambitious as I am!
This really hit me hard. Since I started university and moved into my own apartment, I have been lonely. It has become better over time because now I have some friends and a girlfriend, but it still hits me sometimes. The thing is, I have such different interest than them. All the people I know, are only worried about the next weekend and partying, while I enjoy studying and trying to figure out how to make money. I enjoy investing, I work in a startup besides my studies, and I enjoy reading. The funny thing about your video is about being a lone wolf which I can relate to so much - I have a wolf tattooed on my back, exactly because of the symbolism of being able to survive alone until you meet your pack. I have never really spoken about my loneliness so thank you for letting me know, that there are people out there, who has the same feeling as me!
Great video, cheers from Denmark :)
Its help me to that u shared that , maby in your country is better than mine cuz im from iraq here ppl care less in studing and about make company but im not rly sad anymore cuz im working on my idea that will make much money
crypto bros are the worst... how has sam bankman fied worked out for you?
"Of course I couldn't just go, I had to set a goal" haha I can relate to this. Thanks for the video. I have had very similar experiences of feeling like I've been leading a double life and feeling lonely in a room of people. Loneliness has been a huge one for me too but admitting that this is how I have been feeling has actually helped me focus on the quality of my relationships and being more open and honest with myself and other people who want that.
This video feels like it was tailor-made for me. I just found out your channel through your other video on spending 50k on fake gurus and stumbled upon this one. I seriously thank you for having made this video. I'm at that stage where I have zero entrepreneurial friends around me and at times it really does feel lonely, even though I love my solitude. Your video was one of the few that really added something useful to me. Thanks a lot man, and never stop doing what you're doing. You just got a new subscriber and you can be sure I'll be here to congratulate you when you hit your 100k and then your 1 million subscribers ;) Um abraço do Rio, Deus te abençoe!
Thanks man really really appreciate your kind words! Glad it helped a little 🙂
" Life is about the experiences you have with the people you love " this is different
omg thank you you just condensed all my thoughts and emotions over the past 4 years into this one video.
"Hey guys have you heard of meditation?" - ahah, that kills me)
I've always been that guy
Lol
ah yes when i asked about spirituality to my friend and they said its all good but just dont turn into a guru
I'd want to be friends with you for sure !
@@KAMZA. your must be kidding. Girl wants to be friends with me? Nah, that should be some sort of joke
that me all my life. My line is... do you know who is watching inside? Who is actually aware of all this?..... i can then see the fear in their eyes!
It gets to a point for me personally where i would hang out with friends just to not sit in my room alone, but the moment we meet up and start to talk im already hating myself for doing so because the conversations will never get me to the next stage where i want to be, its probably the most idiotic thing ever, craving the interaction so much yet hating every moment of it
Currently at stage two. The closer i get to my drive and passion, the harder it gets for me to connect with people who are not on that same trajectory.
It's really weird, but I wouldn't trade it for anything. still, I can't wait to find great people who are as obsessed with living up to their full potential as I have become.
Relatable 🥺
What do you guys think about making a discord in order to gather all of us, passionate about self improvement and being something in life, by chatting, making calls and sharing opinions with each others? I will create one if you 're interested in join just respond to this comment with your nickname!
Oo9
@@sterian1673
No.
Damn this hits hard for me right now. Thanks for posting this man
POV: me feeling lonely and realising I don’t have friends, scrolling through UA-cam to find an explanation for it or something that can take my mind temporarily. Here we go! Thanks for the video!! It makes me feel so right and going in the right direction!! Nice to know I’m not the only one who feels the same
That is basically what I have been experiencing since Covid broke out. I was like "someone is talking about what I think about all the time". Great content bud. Keep it up.
Thanks for being so vulnerable and honest about your experiences bro, it helps a lot
Thanks Leon! This makes so much sense, I've been trying to connect with people only to find out that I'm doing it all wrong, looking for them in the wrong place, trying to open conversations they're not really interested in. So thanks for sharing this video, liked and subscribed!
I live a life of solitude, not loneliness. Solitude is choosing to be alone. Loneliness is when you don't want to be alone.
Woah, this video really popped out in my recommendations and I couldn’t relate more. I am also a young guy chasing dreams and I belive loneliness is innevitable at some point and being misunderstood seems like the most likely outcome. I am actually feeling the way you described and I’d love having friends with the same mentality as you. A community of “misunderstood” and hard-working people that find it hard to find like-minded friends is truly needed. Great video, I’d love to become part of the ecosystem haha
Totally true
You just gained a new subscriber, this video epitomizes what I’m going through right now I really appreciate it
This video really hit home for me. It's good to know I'm not the only one experiencing this loneliness when it comes to following your dreams.
I cannot believe how much I resonate with this. I felt like an idiot, different from everyone around me. I am so happy I found this channel!
Damn. This is really the best video I have seen in a while. Happy I discovered you and I hope the algorithm will make its job to promote your channel!
Thanks ❤️
🙏 kosova
I definitely resonate to this.. I’ve been on and off, but still going through a “life improvement” journey where I’m trying to eat more healthy, improve my knowledge and understanding of the world and more. Sometimes the things I used to bond with my friends just doesn’t hit the same to me anymore. It sucks because sometimes I try to filter myself to fit in.
It's so crazy being on this ride. I was really here thru the start of the old channel, seen it replaced, been on this channel almost since the start and I'm excited to see where this goes next. Easily one of the most relatable person I've came across on youtube
I fully understand how important is networking and meeting new people and gaining friends but i find myself increasingly comfortable being alone most of the time which is scary but comforting at the same time.
Wow! I am amazed to find that there are other people with the same vision as me. I have been actually trying different methods for finding people virtually who have the same values with and can build a relationship with. One of my goals is to scale it, so that it is easier for people to find each other.
As always thank you for the amazing content!
Waow man, you said it so right, it's like I'm discovering some truth about myself. I truly feel everything what you said. Really, thank you ! You gave me a lot of hope.
this is unbelievably relatable and I honestly think everyone has gone through this or will at some point in their lives.
I've bookmarked you in two different browsers to make sure I can always come back. Keep doing this, you're resonating with me and so many others in a way we don't get to experience very often.
I have never related more to a UA-cam video before, I truly appreciate this content and in all honesty needed that reassurance and relation. God bless you brother ❤️
Man It’s crazy how much I related with this video, thanks for sharing.
This really cracked me up. Extremely relatable!
bro i have listened to exactly 24 seconds of this video and you have hit a spot in my heart that i can relate more than anybody and this feeling sucks man! you become so ambitious no one wants to be around to listen to your crazy huge goals and ideas and it makes you feel so lost and lonely in life!
Wow, incredible storytelling from the heart. Can totally relate to everything you explained. I also used meetup groups when coping with the loneliest and darkest period of my life. Really helped to connect with others that share the same core values.
I'm so lucky to have to discovered your channel it's like a blessing. Just when I needed it😆❤
feel you bro ❤️ get higher, there's no way. givin up on your dreams for anyone is just not worth it.
i'm so glad you brought this topic up, as i feel that way right now. it is reassuring and inspiring to hear your story, thank you for sharing it with us. hopefully all of us who feel lonely will find genuine, long-lasting relationships someday.
Really love the editing and vibe of this channel. Excited to follow and see it grow brother 👊
As I say: Whisky can never dissapoint you! Good video Leon! Love your honesty and no BS!
Leon, you're the first person I've ever heard talk about this yet it resonates with a lot of people, self included. Thank for doing this.
Thankkkkk youuuuuu sooooo muchhhh Leon hearing you definitely cheered me up that I'm not alone suffering🌸
This is exactly how I feel social wise as a current highschooler. I simply can’t find someone either the same mindset?
Exactly the same experience here! If you want to connect, lmk your Instagram, I’d love to be in touch with good people!
Yeah and it sucks when you get influenced to get off the grind by beer friends
@@juliusphua2447 same
I relate to this on another level. Damn.
100% can relate. This issue was hitting me full force when I saw your video, watching this made me feel more understood and therefore a bit better :) thank you brother. Don’t give up the good fight.
Have needed this video all my life
I can relate heavily to your experiences. Tried thr meetup app and groups etc but still struggling. So, definitely not alone on this one...
This made me want to go global on Tinder 😂😂
this is exactly how i feel Im pretty young and ive been improving by jump roping for long amounts of time a day but the more i do this the more i loose connection with my friends at school its been so distant
You're inspirational, bro. Thank you so much for all your videos!
Love it! Experiencing the exact same thing, this qs just keeps haunting me all the time but so glad I found such a precise answer... honestly I didn't expect anyone to make a vid about this qs or even have anyone else experience the same thing but when I saw your vid about how u lost your money n bounced back, u talked about making frnz n that really inspired me n motivated me to work even harder on my goals cuz I knew that I can always fix my social life n connect with like-minded people once I'm where I wanna be, and this video is the cherry on top. Thank you sooo muchhh Leon!!! I wish I could meet you or talk to you but your channel's prolly gonna blow up soon n you won't even see this comment, but thanksss a lot anyways I hope the community turns out to be amazing!!! ❤️❤️
Thanks man appreciate it a lot! Glad it helped :) Keep looking and you'll meet some like-minded people eventually, it's worth it
Finally, someone who I can relate too on the same wavelength. Subscribed and all.
Your videos just speak the whole truth. Hoping for more videos from you sir.
I relate to this so much OMG.
This is exactly my life rn 😂😂😂 but I'm just getting passed the *listening to podcast and motivation video* pace
I can relate. I needed this. Thanks Leon!
Beautiful value you have spoke there ☺️☺️
N really appreciate you posting this ❤️
I favorited this video so I can watch it again from time to time. This really resonated with me. Thank you, Leon.
Ah I'm so glad I came across your videos they are so relatable! I'm highly ambitious but I'm also just into being incredibly normal LOL! The whole pumped up ambitious, fist pump type stuff is definitely not for me. But I love your suggestions in this video, I'd love to connect with more like minded people, I'm yet to find my wolf pack haha!
I think I know what you mean... when people are too intense and take themselves too seriously it's no fun either
Yes! This is much needed! Thank you for your content Leon❤
Wow this is relatable. My ambitions really keep me from enjoying the life I am living right now because Im not being myself in front of people that are important to me.
Interesting video, however, I find the older I get the more i treasure time to myself and being alone. I am older than you and was in a relationship with someone for over 12 years. Although there were great times being with someone it meant you lost a bit of yourself as you took on more of their interests and friends and become less you. I see people in relationships, who have kids, and who have tons of friends and acquaintances. They are always having to do so many things they do not like doing. It is like they have lost their own identity and just become part of the people around them. I admire and find the individualist going his or her own way much more interesting and at peace than the person who is swept up in the crowd. Once i no longer had my relationship and stopped trying to hang out with the work gang and became an individualist my life became so much more interesting. I no longer care or watch or listen to the popular TV shows and music everyone else does. I find my own content like this video on UA-cam. I seek out experiences based on my own interests that are not influenced by others. Be careful what you wish for, so many young people want tons of friends and contacts. Then once they get them, they become so overburdened by them spending all their time and energy trying to maintain them.
I just moved to a new state this year. And I am starting my own content creation businesses, and I can relate to this 100%.
It’s sad, and the worst truth I’m fearing to come to, is that all of them are going to be there for their result but for the actual work, they have no idea.
Times are tuff . There is one thing we all need and it is each other. Nothing great can be done alone . I am walking proof of overcoming many many many challenges in my life. I've struggled I've starved I've froze like I said times are tough in the news darker days I prayed and wished and hope somebody would say something to me and notice that I've been in pain and noticed that I was struggling. But all I was faced with was denial and shutdowns. I have so much to offered to the 🌍 and just need that one chance. But I will create that chance from my sufferings and turn that into something beautiful to share with everyone. I stumbled across this video on UA-cam and I watched the entirety of it. There's a lot of great things this gentleman said in a lot of you should pay attention. Apply yourself and good things will happen deny yourself and nothing will happen. It starts within
Thank you for this video. I feel less alone
I would definitely be interested in attending a meetup with entrepreneurial people that want more out of life. Are you working on that right now, or do you hope that people find each other in the comments?
right here :)
Let’s all get in touch! What’s your Instagram?
I am exactly at this level right now. Feeling lonely. I feel like people around me cannot be my true friends. They should be someone like me who has willing to develop with big dreams and goals. Thanks for the video I feel different watching this video knowing there people out there who have been experiencing the situation I am in right now.
I feel the same..
I want to cry. You are so underrated
This was a great watch! Thanks Leon
Ok Leon, do you have a facebook or telegram group set up already? Would be happy to join and help grow a community of young ambitious guys.
I've been doing business online for a few years while living in europe and asia, and met a lot of cool people, but I think only two of the whisky kind :)
I organized meetups in Da Nang, Berlin and Lisbon last year
Hey! My primary focus now is just building the channel up to grow a community from there 🙂
THANKYOU! , This made me realise i am not alone
Very true. Amazingly true. Honestly true. Thanks for your time and advice. Best wishes to you and us all.
This was exactly what I needed at this time.. I really appreciate it man! Absolutely spot on!!👌🏽👌🏽
Wow, I really needed this! This is exactly how I feel and it's nice to see that I'm not alone. Great video🔥
Broooo whaaaat. The youtube algo is actually insane. This recommendation couldn't have come at a better time. One of the best, most targeted videos I've ever watched. Had been really frustrated with my content today, and didn't have anyone to talk about it with. Literally had just finished watching a Joe Rogan pod, a garyvee video, and was going through videos on entrepreneur tips and crypto investing, and boom get shown this gem. Thank you man. I hope all is well! I'll definitely be exploring the channel from here!
thanks for this man
Man.... I needed this.
Man you are essentially me. Wish you were still in Australia. Keep up the good work
Hey mate, are you located in Perth by any chance?
@@eat_ze_bugs Melbourne :)