Enneagram: The High/Low Side Of Type 7
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Dr. Tom LaHue is a graduate of Florida Christian College. He holds 3 Master's Degrees including an MDiv from Liberty Univ. His Doctoral degree is from Grace College and Seminary. He is also a certified Marriage Coach. He and his wife Traci have been married since 1991. They are the proud parents of 5 children and 5 grandchildren.
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God my 7 hates sitting here watching this long im just trying so hard to finish it
I literally multitask anything with listening doodling or making pencil beats or cooking
Change the speed of playback!
I skipped ahead. Went back. Skipped ahead. Went back. Skipped ahead. 😂
@@A_ndrea LMAO! Me too! Great minds and all!
Playback speed at x1.5 👍🏼 plus cleaning the kitchen and sneaking cookies while listening.
Wanted to know a bit more about being a type 7 and the 7 in me was like "ughhh why are these videos so long".... 7 is pretty fitting for me...
My literal first thought haha
Same :0
Same hahaha
Not me as a 7 half way through “this is so long i should be doing home work or drawing or showering or cooking or cleaning or talking to me friends or- oh”
Exactly, I get that spike of motivation to things, but don't know what to do first!!
This man just called me out for 28 minutes straight
Pretty crazy to hear someone say straight facts about you for a half hour that you thought only you knew. Thank you so much for posting this!
This is my husband's, but that's how I felt when I watched mine.
@@TMSVioloncellist Same!
Omg. Yes.
FOR REALS, I thought i was just depressed and unmotivated
22 minutes in: "Oh thank God, the 5 part, my reward for fighting my ADHD for this long."
It's eerie how correct this all is. I've never understood why on the one hand I'm this hedonistic pleasure seeking person, and on the other hand I dive extremely deep into a topic, and become an expert in it. Both of these seemed so far apart to me. And then this video just NAILS it. Really got the shivers from that.
My husband is a 7 and I am a 1. On our honeymoon he suddenly became serious and had a weird personality change and I was asking myself - who did I marry? It turned out he was stressed about making our flight, and over the years when this personality change would happen we called it his "Business Mode" and I learned not to take it personally. I never realized until now that he was turning into a 1 - Mr. Get-It-Done without lightness and joy. My mind is kind of blown.
Omg I do this too 😮
Yes, as a Seven I can attest this is not a healthy way to deal with stress. The disintegration to One is complex and layered (IMO). We think being “serious” and in “business mode” is the best way to be, but that is the One talking.
I just re-read the Hudson Riso book they summarize it as, the unhealthy Seven knows they need to be more focused and disciplined but their motivation is wrong. Their motivation is the "shoulds" of the One.
😂 He just turned unto the worse version of yourself, Type 1! Looking in a “mirror” can sometimes be very hard…
I’m a 7w8 and I know this “business mode” very well. It happens for example in situations when I am not used to the task and it is very important to me to do it right. I become highly concentrated in a tunnel view, only using my prefrontal cortex for logic without any emotion or emotional insight on others… But this all happens only to fullfill the seven’s mission to make the event perfectly fun and exuting after solving the task!! 😅
The accuracy here- whenever I'm really on my game I can sit and watch multiple hour lectures about neuroscience and endocrinology no problem but when the gas tank runs out I'm "back on my bullshit" which I feel is a highly appropriate way to describe 7's
The burst of energy comment is so accurate for me. I find that I am so hard on myself through all of my procrastinating, "hedonistic" energy and then I get that "inspiration" I can do sooooo much. It is so frustrating.
7 8 Wing and wow!!!! This was spot on!!!!so me!! I finally figured out why I’m so irresponsible at times. 😭
7w9 The "Realist."
Me and you both girl. I'll have so much done if I work first and play later. I hold myself accountable but I'm not hard enough on myself 😂
I remember being in college and having this insight: I am here to lighten people up. I knew nothing about the Enneagram, and you are hard on 7s, but we deserve it.
I love your videos so much! I am in an addict in recovery. Studying the enneagram has given me such a great place to work from therapy wise. And yes!! I am also a 7 and proud of it.
The fact I’m a 7 explains so much. So many things that my mother, the 2 in my life, has told me many times that she just doesn’t understand about me.
Going on 3 years clean! Bumps on the road here and there but working everyday and your videos have become a huge part of that for me.
We are actually doing an enneagram/trama class as part of my iop program and it is amazing!
Keep sharing and thank you so much you are changing lives…
INFP 7-4-1 tritype here, the seven going to one becoming methodical is like an INFP grip by their inferior function Te to do all the work for them, becoming critical and harsh to others and to themselves.
I am 7w8 and I become more 5 these years.
I travelled the world, dance ballet, play piano, gun shooting, archery, flower arrangement, salsa dancing, diving.... Arggg I interested in almost everything when I was younger.
Now You make me understand why I love being alone, minimalist and introvert these years. Am I transform into 5? Or I just be 7 and have more of best in 5?Thank you!
Ps:I have partner who is 1w2.
In times of growth, 7 displays the traits of a healthy 5 :)
Holy smokes me too!! 😊
This was awesome. I've always crapped on enneagrams but I heard a brief description of a 7 that sounded arrestingly like me. This expanded version sounds exactly like who I am when I'm healthy, and where I go when I'm not. I love the call to action to stay present as well, because I'm unusually future oriented, like it seems most 7s are, and need that constant reminder.
Ohhh I see why im 7 now. I never really related to the loud energetic version of 7s and I thought i was 4 for a long time with a 3 wing because I always felt like something is "missing" like I need more and more but it didn't stem mainly from envy like a 4, but more of gluttony like you mentioned. I also do my best to ignore my negative feelings and I'm terrified of being vulnerable with people and just going below the surface. I can't believe I watched the entire video in one sitting, this was really helpful thanks!
Thanks Dr Tom. I’m a 7w6 who sometimes wonders where my joy has gone. I am learning to sit in silence and confront and sit in uncomfortable emotions. This has helped me see the joy I bring and not let it be self serving. I find that a bit of stress to bring productivity helpful. It frustrates my 1 wife to no end that I can get so much done with such little effort when I am motivated and focused.
This is perfect. You’re descriptions blow my mind! My daughter to a T! Puts it all off, but gets it done! I’m a neat freak and will be like “clean your room! Why can’t you just keep it up and then it won’t be a problem!” She’s like idc! And I need to be “in the mood” 🙄 but once she gets in the mood which is usually only because she’s having someone over, she is very quick and always astonishes me w how she does get all the things done by the skin of her teeth! She’s far from a perfectionist, good enough has always been good enough for her! Always looks for the next adventure. As the adventure is happening she’s planning the next one! Very charming, almost everyone likes her. She’s never down for long. As a 4 mom she hates how deep I wanna go w stuff. It irritates her so much!
Im a 7 who was always superficial and super extroverted. Now it is for me as you said at the end of the video. More introverted, turned inward and enjoying life every day, bringing you to my journey and wanting less, really think less is more. Does that means i am becoming a healthy 7? This is amazing, i appreciated your video!!!
Tom- you’re the BEST!!!
I just took 4 enneagram tests, with all different results. However I got 7 2x, and 8, 9 and 2 as wings or influences as the repeating numbers. Your description was interesting - I am definitely a 7 who goes into 1 to fix things, but I live in 5.... My 20s were very hedonistic and irresponsible and I was a bouncing ball of light and energy. However I have never been shallow - I LIVE for deeply understanding the world around me and practicing patience. Yes, part chaos and joy fairy, part military general, and also part therapist /researcher/ introverted intellectual. My brain loves to go so fast it has scared me into vices, and I have always been envious of the laid back people who it's easy to be around.... Because I am not them. Even my procrastination is intense.... Uf. I must figure out which wing I have.
You are amazing Dr LaHue! You get straight to the core of each type like no one else on UA-cam. Thanks for sharing your mastery.
Thanks for the encouragement.
As a 7 SP I actually named my Daugther JOY 😍🌟✔️
thx for the vids Tom ;)
Tom, your cabin + paths to neighbours analogy is BRILLIANT - thanks 😄!
Type 7 here. 11 minutes in eating candy, answering texts, tapping my foot 👀
I feel SO SEEN. Thank you Dr. LaHue!!!
What a nice way to explain how you feel. Good for you
I am a 7w6 and listening to you leaves me speechless! 100% spot on !
Wow, as a 7, this is very eye opening, Our pastor recommended we all take an Enneagram test going along with the current series . I can see where i spent couple years in the Outhouse and how my behavior and personality changed because of it. Great explanation , thanks !
We've all been there...that is just the way it is. Blessings.
Ok second comment but bro you’re seriously the best I have heard on explaining the 7! Thanks so much! I just want to hug you and say, “yes! It’s so true!” Don’t stop sharing with us!
Wow. My therapist is having me study..I am completely. Blown. Away.
Thank you.
I so relate to when you were talking about 7 just needing to "finish the collection, but it really just leads to more, more, more, and more...its never enough" so true
Eery how well you know me. Mind is blown this is so accurate. I could have titled my channel “A 7 does Benzo Withdrawal” I’m thinking of all my videos and how I’ve brought all these messages of the 7 to help people get through an awful time in their lives. I’ve been living more as my healthy 5 now for awhile but it is not easy. I miss my hedonistic 7. What a journey. Thank you!!
"I miss my hedonistic 7..." Thanks, 😊
I find it awesome to hear that I'm a 7 and a 4. Doesn't bother me one bit. It's nice knowing why I am the way I am and what I can do to "help" myself when I find myself going in the wrong direction. So cool !
I didn’t know that we could be two different ones. I thought I was a 7, then a friend who is well versed in the enneagram told me that he thought I was a 4, and I identified with a lot of 4 traits. But then I listed to numerous videos about 7’s and I’m back to thinking I’m a 7…..
I am also a 7 and a 4!
@@Embodied.bliss.somatics you cant be both dude
Very good explanation...your description of the type in frustration is perfect
Glad you found my channel.
Brooo 3 mins in and the tea is hot
I'm such a fidgeter. Never realized that's a 7 quality!
Absolutely, I can be still or I can listen, but I can't be still and listen.
I can’t seem to do school without messing with something with my hands!
@@twlahue!!!!!!! Me, toooo!... Is that a 7 quality, or a 7 wing 9 quality? And does 7 wing 2 exist?
@@twlahue you crack me up, probably because im also social 7w6 and relate with almost everything you say about us!
Me too!!
my brother is a 7 and i respect the way he lives his life following fun
Thank you 😊 that is so helpful I’ve been wrestling with feeling so down for so long and not really knowing why and now i feel I do thanks again
It’s like you are reading my mind with the pen cap thing and I deal with fear by reading and observing the world as a spectator.
Thank You! A spot on explanation! Good luck to all the 7s, including me! 🥳❤️
(7/8 when I'm alone, 7/6 in groups of people) I find that whenever I intentionally activate 5 strategy in times of stress (instead of defaulting to 1 subconsciously) I feel that snide stuff show up where I'm looking down my nose at everything. I end up climbing into that observer perch and then using it to indulge my artificial self-soothing of pretending I already know everything without really testing that.
The reason that impulsiveness doesn't really bite me in the butt hard enough to make me not do it is that I can pretty much solve all the problems it creates without too much effort. Even though the 1 arrow is pretty judgmental it is also very ethical and THAT is what makes me curtail the impulsiveness because the 1 will not let me lie or wriggle out of anything.
Been studying the enneagram for over 20 years and I have concluded, much like Riso and Hudson, that the wings and arrows are less descriptive of decompensation and integration than just another set of options for volitional strategy borrowing. Being in 1 is hard and yes, I do go to rigidity when my fears overwhelm me, but there are strengths in that place that I can lean into and use positively. Same for 5. It's a great place but I can fall for its downside if I'm not paying attention. Mindful awareness of our grooves allows us to CHOOSE different behaviors and as I age and ACTIVATE strategies from different types, the personality becomes less and less tight as a suit and I can take better advantage of different ways of thinking and acting in different situations.
Dessert first hahaaaa! Scary me! 7w8 but can also easily be 7w6.
Spot on!
Wow so on point for me! Glad I found you four years after you posted this!
Glad it was helpful!
Wow! My best friend, my soul mate sister is a 7. I am a 1. You are 10000% correct for both of us. I think we both were brought to tears. Thanks so so much for sharing your knowledge.
Glad to help.
Yo! I'm cracking up right now... lol I swear I'm in tears how you just called me out on all my my bs lol
Thank you so much for your videos. I am a 7 and I am learning how to sit with boredom and be still and it has been tough. I am asking God to help me and lead me to where he wants me.
Your harsh towards 7’s but it’s the TRUTH 🙌🙌🙌
Literally clicked away from the video once I saw the length 💀 too accurate
You helped me see that I am a 7! I also love that you’re a Christian too!
Awesome. Glad you found my channel.
I am relieved this teaching does not conflict with Christian faith. Actually, I pray for gratitude, peace and humility. God bless
Also, watched the videos with your girls and laughed til I cried! So awesome! My wife & I (she's a 2) just had our first child. Gives me hope that I can be a good father to her. We're already having adventures! HA!
I’m a 6 with a 7 partner, trying to learn more about the 7 so I can better communicate and care for him. This was awesome, thank you. It’s easy for me to focus on the negative qualities I might bring to him, but I like that you emphasized the dynamic between the 6 and 7 that could be an awesome partnership when healthy.
some of the hardest things as a 7 myself is getting past that surface level- he was really spot on about that "I know a little about a lot- but not a lot about a little" idea. if you can help guide your partner towards getting past that surface level I bet it would help
I feel seen! But hearing all of this is such an eye opener because I thought I was just hardwired to constantly seek pleasure and not face up to my responsibilities. Looking forward to tackling life head on and not seek instant gratification all the time 🤗
Didn’t know u were a 7?! Me too. This makes me wish we still worked together! Would love to learn from u. Especially now that I’m a dad. Guess I’ll just have to settle for your UA-cam channel.
Good stuff. 👍🏽
Yes, you are definitely a 7. Love you brother.
thank you so much!,i never realize why when i upset i become so perfectionist and like literally judge everyone even myself for not passing my standards or getting too sensitive to hear bad things couldn't even stand watching news it's got to the point i start feel pains when i heard negative things,but now i start to get the puzzle up thanks to you,thank you so much.
After watching all of your videos on 7s… I still want that jet ski. lol
Ok so I feel incredibly seen you have reprimanded me for my very true (very well hidden) weakness which i thought no one would ever know about! I am a pure pleasure seeker, but also can cause destruction with this for e.g. binge eating / over spending etc. I am a really restless person and i feel impatient and youre so right about i can bring either the whole joy to the room or take the whole joy away. I don't allow the latter because i just isolate myself entirely until those moods have passed. I have bipolar and so much of this resonates with my illness too. wild times
I can't believe how spot on this is and I makes me want to reconsider actions
Now I'm wondering about stress and growth paths going far enough to cover 4 types, rather than just 3! I've definitely embodied both the 7 and the 5 since dim dark youth, at one time or another. Reluctant responsibility backstop 1 at the very bottom, 8 marshalling the energies to enact (impose?) my thoughts at the top. I suspect there might be something about high/low energy cycles and being a massive ambivert, that just slides up and down that 7-5 line all the time.
amazing insight into my type of enneagram. thank you so much
Glad it was helpful!
What a powerful message, I too am 7 with a 6 wing. I wanted to ask, I find myself swinging between a bad 1 and a healthy 5 within a matter of days. Is that normal? Of course when I “one” to execute tasks I am well aware of it but I’m not sure if it’s healthy to lean into that energy?
Thank you for sharing this information. Your analysis was spot on, as I am a 7 with the 6 wing also. I didn’t understand how we pull from other aspects of of personality in dealing with our different emotions and experiences. Our Pastor’s wife shared your site with me and I’m grateful.
This video was awesome for me. Spoke to me so clearly as a 7. God bless you, brother!
The 7 in me is twiddling my thumbs at 12 minutes in on 1.75x speed. 🙄
Thank you so much for this video. I’m a 6 husband is a 7 w8 and we’re having an argument strongly influenced by our personality types and I feel like this will help so much! The way your explain things is amazing
Ive come to find learning the Ennegram chart and the ins and outs of each type is a great tool for writing complex characters. This video really helped me better understand the workings of a 7
Thank you! I’m a 7w6 too! (Did not know until I listened to you. You read my mail, ouch) keep it coming brother! I need this!
It makes such sense that the 5 in my Tritype disintegrates into 7, and I get distracted and scattered.
HA! I can definitely relate as a 7w8.
I have a lot to say but then I'll rationalize my position as someone who works for myself. What I say can be turned against me and I'll lose clients, money, etc. Sometimes I feel like I have to have a surface personality just to stay balanced but my 8 slips out sometimes 😂😂😂
"7 under stress becomes more responsible."
Well.... I plead the fifth.
Well said!
@@twlahue it's hard being a 7. Why can't we just be a ten? Lol
I'm a 7 and my husband is a 2. This was great! Thanks
Do you know your husband's wing ?
@@Melitta-zx4sf no, I will ask him if he knows.
Thanks
Glad to help.
Same for me!
As a 7 this is just so accurate. Thank you for your insight :)
I appreciate this SO MUCH RIGHT NOW! I'm such a 7
Thank you..your last 10 min of talk were the most precious for me..I am definitely a 7..and that's great..even though I struggle with going deeper..committing myself..nr5 here I come..thank you🤗😘💖
I have ASD and ADHD so I can relate to the fidgeting, lack of focus, rocking back and forth, etc of 7. Always need stimulation.
Excellent, I knew I was virtuoso Myers Briggs type but finding out I'm a 7, This video makes so much sense. When I'm restless I just need to be into something and I'm at my best when 5 helps me see the truth and real important things even if its slower pace and not so exciting its healthier for me. I love this video,
Pro-tip: watch on 2x speed
Wow, this is excellent and just what I needed to hear. Thank you so much!
Thank you Tom, it is really a good explanation of our type. I certainly think its good youre being honest, we 7s need to hear that and to realise our gluttony and to not let it take over. Youre really good at explaining, so good :)
Wow! I am a seven, have dived in the enneagram for a while now (lots of 5 direction, I love information, focusing and understanding in depth) but with this video I learned so much!! E.g. I remove my finger nail skin in all kinds of situations and always wondered why... now I know. Thank you so much for this video.
Incredible! Only just discovered what an this was! Thought it was a medical procedure. Ha! But bloody hell I'm a 7! I'm really into astrology ( studied it all my adult life) Your interpretations are spot on. Than you so much. Xx
Three minutes and finally we are cooking with hot grease you almost lost me. You know you gotta get to the point quickly. Good job 👌 with this wing balance ⚖️ 👍 you are helping us with that.
Thanks for watching
Your videos have been so helpful to me! This one especially!! I’m finally starting to understand why I do what I do!☺️❤️
I just listened to your darling girls talk about being raised by a 7 dad and I just wanted to say how lucky they are and the BEST part of hearing them share was not just that they KNOW how lucky they but that they really SEE YOU. They are so open. Way to go! I just found your page a few days ago, so I’m new here but am really enjoying the content and the way you share the enneagram. I’m a 8/7 (not sure which is more dominant) and my husband is a 6w5 and these have been spot on. Thanks for putting yourself out there!
Held absolutely no punches on us 7s 😂 Oh well, we need it.
I'm here hearing about how sevens have this tendency of taking responsibility at the very last minute, just when it cant be postponed anymore.... while I have just 7 hours before a deadline and I'm not even halfway.... and even so I decided to write this comment first LOL
I don’t know how I found this video except I’m a capricorn watching youtube at 2 am. I listened to the whole thing obviously, and I think I’m a solid 7 😂
Okay, I’ve decided. I’m absolutely undoubtedly a type 7, I have mostly 8 as a wing though rather than 6
Thanks for describing me!
he just said the 7 is peter pan, I literally call myself peter pan all the time!! spot on holy smokes
Thank you very much for this 🙌🏾❤️💚💛
Thank you so much for this! So helpful for me!!
The is so accurate, it’s shocking! 😅
7w8 - thank you for helping me see how that 8 responsibility can balance and help the 7's scatter and avoidance.
Type 2 here watching this to understand my 7 daughter better. Laughing at these replies from 7’s: “ugh, soo hard to watch this long video” 😂 there’s my daughter hence why I’m watching it
Me a type 7 in quarantine: am I being attacked or something...
Good video - especially the length for a 7
Not me as a 7 half way through “this is so long i should be doing home work or drawing or showering or cooking or cleaning or talking to me friends or- oh”
What should a 7 do if they find themselves in this quicksand situation? Not like a temporary type situation but like a lifestyle type situation?
That is a hard one... Been there. www.tomlahue.com/
😮💨 I feel relieved why I’m like this
So when I read, research, watch videos, and plan for my upcoming trip to Italy I am leaning into my healthy five-ness? Unlike when I went to Spain, hadn’t done a bit of research beyond knowing one museum and one church I wanted to visit, and hadn’t even booked any accommodations until the day before because I couldn’t decide where or how I wanted to break up the 12 days.
Thanks and blessings to you too.
😊