An inbetweener once said..I Episode 108
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- Опубліковано 8 сер 2023
- Chukueni mic basi!!!! You guys need to start your own podcast and it shows!😂 Back with another episode going through your comments on our previous episodes and as usual, the real tea is in the comments!☕️ The fights about come we stay, your first time experiences…👀 We love that you guys engage with us and most importantly, disagreeing respectfully. If you’ve never commented before, show out on the comments todayyyy!
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I am a 23-year-old gay kingbitweener from Rwanda. My sexual orientation has always made me feel distinct. I've even engaged in risky sexual encounters with unfamiliar guys in an attempt to fit in with the norms of my social circle. I have watched every episode of TMI and whenever I'm faced with a questionable decision, I wonder, "What would Lydia and Murugi do?" Despite ongoing challenges, my connection with TMI has boosted my confidence, convincing me that I'm not flawed. I've made a commitment to engage in sexual activities only when I'm truly prepared. Through TMI, I've come to realize that my identity as a gay individual doesn't define my worth, and there's great strength in accepting myself. I hold immense gratitude for the wonderful women that you are and support you wholeheartedly. Dreaming to attend your live show in the future🥰🥰!!! Happy belated birthday to Mukeni and Aggy!!🥰
I am in a come we stay @23 and i wana scream extremely loudly that if you can do things the right way !!!!We need to stop normalizing ati he's young haezi lipa mahari tuishi tu adi ajipange..mbona uishi na yeye na haja jipanga ? Make sure as a woman you grounded before you wana even think of marriage..let no whatever situation lead you to living with a man before stabilizing!!!let's stop normalizing being selfless if he loves you he will WAIT!!He will want to see you successful before he gives you a kid!!Lets stop normalizing stupidity !!Lets be woke!!Men are selfish lets normalize BEING selfish to !!!Let no man keep you in his house if he has not done what he needs to do!!One day when you argue he will ask you who has married you!!Dont let that be you!
The best gift you can give your kids is to be selective about who you choose to have them with. I don't understand why y'all have kids with every person you date‼️
As far as my knowledge goes, If you’re not married and you’re living under the same roof. Technically doing husband and wife duties regardless of whether there’s a child or not then it’s come we stay🤷🏽♀️
The Supreme Court this year settled the issue of division of property upon dissolution of marriage. Matrimonial property is divided according to each parties contribution to its aquisition. A marriage certificate is NOT an automatic ticket to getting 50% of property. Actually if you can’t prove your contribution monetary or non- monetary you get nothing even with a marriage certificate. So keep a record of your contribution if you make it better yet have property jointly registered.
I agree on single moms getting the short end of the stick. I'm not a single mom myself but i have family and friends that are single moms and i get triggered when i hear men say I don't date single moms. I understand that they are free to choose who not to date but alot of them say it from a point of kiburi. What do you mean you don't date single moms when you don't want to use protection? What do you mean you don't date single moms na uliruka ball? What do you mean you don't date single moms na hujatuma pesa ya pampers? Plus different circumstances lead to women being single moms
As a 20 year old, I'm so thankful for TMI podcast. It has been a start adulthood gift 🎁 thanks again
Inbetweeners, come we stay is come we stay, whether you have kids or not...as long as your cohabitation is not recognized under the law, that's by all means a come we stay arrangement. Anything legal with a document to show for it is marriage.
I agree that we must stop encouraging single parenting/normalizing it. The scars that children who grow up in these households follow them into adulthood when it is time to actually be in relationships and intimacy.
Also I understand why people in traditional careers would be disgruntled. Traditional careers require years of education, hard work, and dedication to climb the career ladder and earn a respectable income. Witnessing socialites/ influencers gaining significant earnings and attention without seemingly (seemingly being the operative word) putting in the same level of effort, feels unfair or demotivating. Which is ok; because for the average person it’s fallacious to think that just wanting ease and that soft life means you’ll get it; it needs work.
On the normalizing men cheating part, it has to be said that some people women especially (emphasis on some) are okay with being in polygamous relationships/marriages. You say all men cheat like it’s a bad thing yet you have stuck with him through 50 other women. Let’s stop normalising absorbing “conventional” or “loud” standards when clearly you don’t agree. If you’re okay being one among several or many then sit tight. Men are sometimes given negative PR by women who enable their “negative” behaviours. Also, You find a man in a relationship/marriage, cheat with him and somehow think you are the miracle that will switch on his loyalty mode. 3 months later you’re shouting at the top of your lungs how men are dogs and they all cheat. Make it make sense please.
I agree with both of you about a single mom where we stop normalizing it especially if you are young. Don't get pregnant for anyone because as a single mom it has been so difficult not only financially but emotionally and anxiety about this human being I brought to this world and am responsible for it. I would encourage any young lady out there enjoy being young and do life. There will be plenty of time to be a mom. Love you guys
ever since I became an inbetweener, Wednesdays became extra special!!!💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚
I'm praying that when Lyd said "My man, my man, my man", somewhere in the world a man's heart rose for a moment because God knows she and he are for each other for life.❤️thank you both for the work you do!❤️❤️
I totally agree with @murugimunyi on normalizing single parent house holds. We are at a point where people are not even trying to have a nuclear set up because the acceptance and normalcy around single parents... It's a bit problematic. I get we are open minded and nonjudgmental but having a father and a mother as active participants in a child's life is really good for the child
The consistency from you guys is super impressive. Also I may be the only teen guy in your audience but I'm here for it
The parents raising children as single parents should tell those children that it’s not the norm. Many of our mothers are strong and independent and had to raise us on their own but they forgot to tell us it’s bcoz of circumstances ABC so growing up we saw an absent parent household and now we think a two parent household is not that important or necessary.
I've watched Tmi since I was 18 and I recently turned 20 and after all the more than 100 episodes have shaped my new chapter 🤍 in my 20 my thinking intelligence is just different.A proud inbetweener ♥️♥️
Today is my 20th birthday🎉🎉, so I am grateful to gift myself. TMI🎉 because it has helped me make some decisions in life that I see the results now...am so grateful to have you as my big sisters ❤❤❤more love to you❤❤
As a child who grew up around so many single parenthood, i never saw any problem with it, but listening to Lyd explain this,i think i will do better and i won't intentionally choose single parenthood