Love your format these days Paul. Mental health is made much easier if you eat homemade food, and walk a mile a day...if you can. I found the inflammatory response from processed food led to all sorts of problems that fed the poor mental health spiral.
Honestly, you saying how the world has felt broken and crazy for the past four years felt really validating - I wondered if it was just me feeling like nothing has been the same since 2020? Like, I grieve the life I was building for myself at the end of 2019, and Ive sometimes felt like the world has been in emergency/crisis mode since then - not just the pandemic, but since then there's been war, cost of living crisis, and constant political turmoil and terror. I feel like I've been running on empty since 2022, constantly burned out and struggling with anxiety since then, not able to make the videos I love and stuff. Add in things like losing my nan earlier this year, and its been...horrible. Anxiety and panic attacks are SO exhausting on their own. And sometimes I just want to cry, and mourn the feeling that life is passing me by and I can't do anything about it. And I totally relate to what you say about pulling back and feeling like you're not present as much as you want to be - I've cut back massively on social media as I was getting horrendous anxiety over my timelines constantly being bombarded 'you need to care about this' - war, genocide, climate change, social injustice, everything. I *want* to care about it all, but...its exhausting just keeping myself alive. And coping and surviving is a huge achievement in itself. Always. Also, bunnies totally do help with MH. Its a fact xD Lots of love to you both. Thank you for sharing all of this. 💖
Omg, you've hit the nail on the head by saying how the world has felt in a constant emergency/crisis mode for the past few years. And I totally get what you mean by 'I want to care about it all, but it's exhausting just keeping myself alive'. That sums it up perfectly.
Coinciding coming out of 2 back-to-back abusive relationships and The Event, leaning far too hard into working and productivity to give me a sense of worth, funnily enough bunnies really helped at this time where I was just living in fight-or-flight. Being out in nature, in fresh air, or at least mildly less polluted air, helped calm my nervous system... like I had more of a sense of the relative smallness of my problems in the grand scheme of life. Now I audio journal, which is basically a daily 20 minute rant into my phone to get it all out of my system. I really appreciate you both being open and honest about how difficult these past few years have been to you, how it has affected your mental health, and sharing how you move through it.
Thoughts are with you both. Please don't forget how much fun and joy you've brought to people over the years. Personally, I've had many days where life has beaten me and all I want to do is pop an episode of Digi on and laugh my way through the pain. Thank you both for being awesome.
I relate so hard to the "can't be social" right now. It takes so much energy to be social and happy and upbeat for your friends and even if they say "we don't want you to be happy for us!" You do it anyway because I feel like you can't help it? It's some sort of ingrained social thing we have no real control over. After my mum passed away I'd be terrified of the phone going off encase it was someone calling me to tell be bad news. When you're relaxed and trying to sleep THAT'S when the anxiety comes over you, because "Oh... I'm relaxed, I shouldn't be!" Sanja talking about the energy, is something I do! I'm a firm believer that you have to get the energy out of our system in some way or another, even if that's screaming, shouting, crying, hitting a pillow etc Maybe your way of "working" is just your way of getting it out of your system! Art, creating, making is an art form and a way of getting emotions, stress, thoughts and feelings out of your system! In making these videos, in working and keeping yourself afloat and distracting yourself is probably also helping others by being their distraction from their own problems and anxiety. On a funnier side: There's one of those "manosphere" influencers who said his cure for people with depression is to sit and every night... Think about someone coming into your home and killing all your family members, horrifically and brutally 😍 And that'll sort you right out!
You are both blessed to live in one of the most beautiful places on earth. The countryside there is awe inspiring. I live in the desert of Arizona, and it's beautiful here in its own way, but watching walking videos in England is my happy place while working from home. Probably something in our DNA that draws us to certain places. Nature is where it's at!! There is harmony in nature's diversity ❤😍
@Digitiser Haha!! That's awesome!! I can see that! I hope you both can come this way again! I would love to meet up with you two! We're in Phoenix, and we go up north to Sedona, Jerome, and Cottonwood often. Down south in Bisbee is our new favorite place, too!
Oh Harmony, the hilarious thing is that at the same time (as much as we truly love the greenery of England), driving through the desert is one of our happiest places. Sedona has been on my bucket list to visit for decades! I'd love to experience the vortexes!
@lasanja_interdimensional Awww Sanja ❤️ I'm with ya! It truly is a happy place! It's always a beautiful and cleansing experience driving through the deserts here. 🏜 You must come to Sedona! It's like another planet! The vortex's and ancient portals that exist there are very interesting! I would live there if I could! $$$. That place in the 80s was something else, too!! We used to camp there when I was a kid, and my dad would attend an annual motorcycle run where certain clubs would meet up. The eclectic mix of outlaws, cowboys, and artists was cool to watch while growing up. Instagram and TikTok have made it a really popular place to visit now. Spring and fall are the perfect times for visiting weather wise, and it can get a little crowded, but if you go off the beaten path, there are so many hidden gems to be experienced ❤️😍
the amount of comments saying how they feel the same as you folks (me included) shows how important this video is - thank you for your openness, from all of us x
Really sorry to hear you're going through such a rough patch,hope things start turning around for you, your videos always cheer me up and i appreciate your content
I can feel a lot of the stuff on this video. Really human, this one. My problems is mostly struggle with chronic illness with all the attached fun of starting new meds and dealing with withdrawal from the outgoing meds that kept me just about going for a few years. Real fun stuff. Anxiety is rough too and I hope you guys find a way to a better place mentally. At any rate, I'm glad you made this video. I really like the more serious stuff coming from you.
You guy's are the people's voice right now. I've been watching since I first saw the canary wharf video. I think you both have something viable. I kind of feel like I'm watching channel 4/5. Maybe I'm having a crystal ball moment lol. But its definitely good content. I think what you both are trying to say was it's hard to grow and fight at the same time when the body is designed to either do fight or flight. Covid was designed to do exactly what you are going through. I'm dealing with the same issues. If this is destroy and rebuild then we are all apart of the process...you already know what they do to people in the army.
Yes, it's like being pulled in two opposite directions! So maybe the trick is to use something like the aikido philosophy and sidestep, or use the force of the fight/flight to propel us into growth/the direction we want to go it? (Terrible example as I don't really know much about aikido lol)
Thankyou for your openness and honesty. The most valuable lesson I have learned in the last few years is to open up to people you trust. Im a domestic abuse survivor of an 18 year marriage, and left with PTSD symptoms and crippling anxiety. for 4 years I didn’t deal with it, and thought that talking was pointless and it wasn’t going to help. I wasn’t allowed to have friends go out or do anything and was a prisoner. Its taken a long time to rehabilitate into the big world and its a scary place, but talking and opening up has helped me beyond what i thought was possible, I’m now with the most wonderful person, I struggle daily and when im having flashbacks its not always easy to talk but i feel safe and that means the world to me. I wish you both well and all the love in the world. ❤
Mental Health Day, the day before my birthday and usually one of the most stressful and hardest to walk through days in recent years, is some sort of weird joke. Totally felt this video guys and I fully agree with Paul's methods of coping and distraction. That's exactly what I do. You're saying you are lucky, and to an EXTENT that is true. Many of us don't have a 'Sanja' to help us through, or anywhere to turn at all. But you're still hurting all the same, we're all in the same boat at those moments in life. Just a different compartment of the same horrible vehicle. Love you guys.
Love you Sanja & Paul, thank you so much for making this. Past year has been an absolute shitter after losing my nan and my dad since January. Keeping my mum calm and helping my usually STOIC(!) sister deal with her own mental health has been really hard, but has also helped keep me strong. Just know you guys are a ray of sunshine in the lives of many people who are struggling too.
@@Digitiser And right back to you guys. The one thing that keeps us grounded and drives us through the bad times, is having a great partner by our side. ❤️
Lovely stuff. It boils down to you the fact that you can only control two things in this crazy world. What you think and what you do. You can't control anything else except those two things so don't try to.
This popped up on Utube first thing this morning and I couldn’t have wished for a better start to a day. Love your distractions Sanya, I hit the canals or rivers on the bike, plenty of distractions there.
I have missed Sanja's adhd cutaways. Tbh if she wanted to do her own videos/channel of just adhd ramblings and looking at cool/weird things in bushes I'd happily support
@@BeasBotBonanza hahaha be careful what you wish for! But they only seem to work while being reigned in by Paul, so he'd have to come with me, and that means more walking for him 😅
I work in the NHS and yesterday went to an event hosted by Ripple Touch. That's RIPPLE, with an R... We were asked to write down all our roles in life, such as father, husband, teacher, worker, social media botherer etc and score each 1 to 10, with 10 being the most energy we spend on. Then doing the same for what we should spend our energies on and how to achieve it. While I'm neither a husband or father I could see I was spending all my energy on one particular role and not having enough for more important ones. We were also taught double-breathing as a means to reduce anxiety and stress. Breathe in to fill the lungs about 80% then breathe again to fill the remaining 20% and breathe out slowly through the nose. Doing so stimulates the capillaries removing CO2 and slowing your heart rate. It works frighteningly well for something that's so easy to do.
This is very well timed for me as I'm having a bad few weeks mentally. Despite things being overall positive in my life right now, the gremlins are chewing the wires in my brain right now and I'm having a hard time of it So thank you for this video x
I hate to be a pest or sound sad, but um Christmas is coming and I don’t have much to look forward to but your critique of Xmas lights and your Xmas songs have been moments of joy and hilarity. I notice these have been delisted and understand your explanation on patreon. But if you’re able to create this festive time, or set Gannon on fire for old-times-sake, I’m grateful for the joy and warm and reassurance that your videos regularly provide. Wishing you both well, you deserve it.
@@Digitiser Now that you've said this, Paul, watch us find the most depressing and dour topics ever to cover over xmas 🤣 (joking!) (At least you know we'll sprinkle in something dumb and funny no matter what the topic)
Identifying and maintaining a safe and healthy outlet is so helpful; I learned some very unhealthy coping strategies early in my life/career, and those chickens came home to roost with a vengeance. I’m still working on unlearning those and replacing them with healthier tools, and if I was to share one thing it would be that each thing I’ve tried has given me the courage to try other things if it didn’t work for me
I'm sure a few people may have said this, or will echo this, but your videos have given us a few minutes escape regularly and helped us cope through difficult times. So, thank you.
I always look at life and good/bad times in terms of seasons, don't kill yourself in winter because you can't see spring around the corner. It can't rain forever.
Thank you for sharing this and you are right , it helps to hear I am not alone in feeling rather lost. Our mother is in a care home too with dementia. I don't deal with it well. I have had i guess 10 years of things not being right . I think I was in denial first 2 years , then broke down - not that anyone noticed ( lol ) and it's been the anxiety disorder ever since. I don't cope really , I just suffer it . I hate it , I needed stoicism to deal with the loss , but it just got up and deserted me , that what I hate about it . Anyway look I love what you guys do whether it's a bit of fun or you talking seriously so thank you for coming to St Albans. I am just up the road in Hemel. ❤❤❤❤❤
I agree - I have also not been right since the events of 2020 onwards. The world has appeared to irreversibly changed for the worse, and my mental health has definitely deteriorated. I also lost a dear friend to cancer in 2021, and it took a long time to come to terms with the loss of a longtime friend, who was taken far too soon. Not sure I’ll ever get back to where I was before 2020 - but I’ve had some counselling, and I’m trying hard to map out a new future - but it’s not been easy. Keep going - I hope that better days are ahead for us all!
Firstly this video was such a comfort to me today, I just needed a little reminder that I'm not alone. Secondly something that I try to do whenever I remember (adhd gang) is keep a diary of good things that have happened, even if it's something trivial like "I tried some new crisps that were really good" it's good to have something to look back on that isn't full of negatives. Especially when we're getting to this time of year I start to get the feeling that another years over and I've done nothing it's nice to have a note of everything good that's happened whether that's completing a game I've been stuck on or meeting up with friends and having a laugh.
I agree with pretty much everything you have said in this video (with the exception of replacing energy with poo). There is no one perfect solution that fits all. You just have to try different things until you find the best option(s) I am more in the Paul head anxiety side but am in the Sanja going for a walk side (preferably with some music or a podcast). To some extent i can appreciate the blogging/writing things down, as I can sometimes be more inclined to respond to what i read rather than thoughts inside my head. Sending positive poo to everyone watching the video.
Amazingly kind of you to let others in on your struggles and still provide helpfull tips and ways you cope. Personally i struggle for a while longer but i do hear the sugar based coping and drowning oneself in writing (tho in my case it is just a way to dump bad brains out rather than anny meaningful or nuanced storytelling). The "here and now" whilst sounding like its from star wars ep 1 dose make sense, my personal itteration of the idea is to try and worry solely about things i can do a thing about at the time (not that i follow the advice, i just give it and than worry freely about things in past or future i can not influence... bad brains). Whilst i can offer but words i wish upon you better times, kinder world and less life shaking problems. May you always have sufficient respite and bring each other joy.
@@Digitiser i do realize it was said as for context, bu please do not think of having things that ease the missery of life as advantage. life sucks so Sanya, other relatives being there for you is lovely, not a priviledeged thing. rigto i wont preach at you, just glad you have ways of coping.
@@lasanja_interdimensional My kind words? your going all out and offered the best advice you could for others struggling, that needs be thanked. i just yammer on, whining, making people feel worse just by interacting with me, yet never having much in ways of coping. It is the two of you who oh i guess thanked for second time hmm. So thank thee for worrying of fellow humans, irreverent of the week it is very kind.
This channel really deserves a much higher sub count, a slice of common sense with the right level of stupid humour. We all struggle with the simplest of things sometimes, just getting out of bed this time of year takes an extra effort before beginning to deal with the day to day struggles. We all want to thrive instead of merely exist. thanks for a great thought provoking video, stay strong everyone.
Thank you. Been a long journey, but we're growing steadily since changing up our format a bit. We'll get there! Totally hear you about the challenges of getting out of bed at this time of year... I struggle even when the weather is nice!
@@Digitiser keep doing what you do, you've got each other to lean on and great content. Having good people around you to pick you up during the tough moments or having a hobby of some sort, I find always helps.
Mine is singing in the shower and going into town just for a wander about. Have a long shower and do some serious self care first thing in the morning because there’s something truly satisfying about a Les Mis medley which really resets myself. Your videos help a lot and as silly as Beanus is it helped me and my gf when she spent most of this and last year in hospital. You help a lot of people move forward. Thank you both, keep going as best you can. Edit: After Dickus? Sounds like my very good friend from Rome called Biggus…. Edit 2: My wife (we’re poly) has a TBI (traumatic brain injury) as a result of brain damage. This is in no way akin to dementia, however, the feelings, the symptoms are the same in a way. It is bloody hard and you should be so proud of yourselves for working through this and being there for her. Headway helped us a lot, and I know when a family member was also actively going through dementia, Dementia UK were really helpful too. Silliness aside, the TBI has been so hard and I have learnt to take it one moment at a time, sometimes one day, one hour, one minute. You got this.
So sorry to hear about your wife, but glad to hear you've found a way through. You're right: whittling life down to minutes, those small moments, does make a difference. Feels less overwhelming. And we're happy we've been able to bring a little bit of joy into your life. Beanus will return!
Omg a thousand times yes to singing and Les Mis!! One of life's best therapies! Sending love for you and your wife, that sounds like a tough experience for you both. And thank you for mentioning Headway and Demetia UK - I don't know why we haven't thought to look into them before now, but they could be really valuable resources. Thanks!
Les Mis is literally my medication when I’m low. I got to see it in London in February and honestly it was one of the best moments of my life! Especially the end part, sobbed like a baby! And yeah, Headway were / still are bloody amazing. :)
@@lasanja_interdimensional Do it! 8th October 2025 though. Make that your day as it’s the 40th anniversary of Les Mis. I’m planning at least five trips before 😂….or at least One Day More…(sorry not sorry)
Discussing stuff out in the open is always the best approach to dealing with things. It releases pressure. Crying is another pressure release, it's not a weakness, it makes you stronger. However, UA-cam crying videos probably don't work, so just stick with the discussion vids. On a personal level, I've had anxiety ever since I did my GCSEs in the early 90s (it helped me fail all 7 exams), it held me back in life, so I had poorly paid jobs and only recently have I managed to get to a level that I feel comfortable. I had counselling 15 years ago and it helped me to understand and cope with it. Being active helps your brain stay strong: walking, running, cycling, sports, etc helps pump oxygen through it. A better diet also helps a great deal too. Find a way to get more vitamins (I started eating corn flakes, for instance). Pretty much everything you and Sanja mentioned in the video is all good advice, and you only know it works when you put them into practise.
Much love to you both, I've been along for the digitiser ride since... God its been a while. Put yourselves first, even in the darkest times, it always gave me solace that looking back, it doesnt matter how long it takes to get where you're going. Life is an unreal journey and sometimes even just surviving is a monolithic achievement in itself. Love and kindness to you, youll find that magic abstract creativity when it needs you. 💜
Loved the honeymonster shots with your glasses in the middle of your hair when you put your head down. 😂😂 Anyhow, that was the best, most interesting and humanising youtube video Ive seen from you, actually, no, that Ive seen. To the point Ive shared it to my wife as there is so much crossover with our experience and coping mechanisms. Thank you. I know your industry is really starting to pick up again now so godspeed to you taking your rightful places in it and happier times.
The socialising thing really hits home. I think every arrangement I've made the last few years I've cancelled. Barely even left the house the last few months. Thanks to both of you for making this. Best to you both. Although the Monty's Mum skit in the middle seemed really out of place.
It's tough isn't it? I think we're conditioned to believe that socialising is good for you, but it doesn't work for everyone at every time. We've just got to listen to what we need on any given day.
❤❤❤. Thank you always for uplifting and imforming us so comically and lovingly. A must I find is "Parts Work". Richard C. Schwartzs' books explain all! Introduction to Internal Family Systems, recommended by Gabor Mate and Rangan Chatterjee, is a great one to start with if you're not already familiar with IFS theory. 😊
Ooh, thanks for the book recommendation, I'll definitely look it up! I love Gabor Mate - I still haven't read any of his books, but have watched several interviews with him, and find his work fascinating!
You're so lucky to have each other AND to have put the work into making a working relationship! You are also very lucky to be able to get out in your car. I lost my ability to drive through bureaucratic ineptitude a couple of years ago, which has meant that I wasn't there for my parents when the SHTF! It's totally immasculated me... butl. on the other hand, it finally got the Ol'lady to start driving lessons at the young old age of 44.. We battle on, it is incredible what humans can endure, when it comes down to it. Never be afraid to ask for help... There is support in the most unexpected places. Love❤❤❤ from us..
Another excellent video I found both entertaining & genuinely comforting! Self-help material is really good content fodder. I relate to Sanja's tendency to anticipate the worst possible outcomes. It seems like the reasonable and mature thing to do, but it can lead to a lot of self-fulfilling prophecies. I think the trick is to have realistic expectations while secretly believing in the best outcome, which... takes a lot of practice.
honestley this videio kinda hepled the last few months have been rough dealing with lonliness and a few more things tahnks mr biffo and sanja for the vid
Seeing wild bunnies help my mental health. Don't knock them. 😀 The NHS is currently obsessed with journalling. I cant get into it. And CBT. I have depression long term and was a carer for my dad which got more difficult when he got arthritis aged 70 and later dementia. I mostly worked full time in an office job too so was always busy with no energy. Im good in emergencies but less so at day to day life. I don't have any great coping techniques but I would have a day trip away or a weekend away when i could. I like gardening and watching live music. I like taking photos and walking by the coast. Dementia is horrible but i knew i had done the most i could to help my dad and any sense of guilt lifted when he passed away. Visit them as often as you can. My dad never forgot me or my name. But this can vary with the type of dementia. You never regret spending too much time with an elderly parent. I did speak to an Admiral (dementia); nurse at some point but had already researched every damn thing i could think of so she thoughr i was doing well. Thanks for sharing your struggles with us viewers. We shall get through the tough times. 👍🏻
Bunnies rock! 🐇And yeah, journaling isn't for everyone. But it sounds like you have found things that work for you to help you through. Dementia effing sucks. The worst thing about the type Paul's mum has is that she doesn't really even have any moments of being herself again, not even a glimpse, so it feels like she's not herself anymore. It's so tough, my heart goes out to anyone who's gone through seeing a parent or loved one go through anything like this.
Plenty of good advice in here. I've always been an advocate for talking about how you feel, whether that be "in person" or via some form of journalling. In my teens, I kept a diary (which I ended up throwing out because I was too embarrassed by what was in there, and now regret) and since the mid-00s, I have blogged in one form or another. I have a blog for video games (one of my main hobbies and professional interests) that I update sporadically, and another that I post on daily for just... stuff. Stuff that I want to express, that doesn't necessarily have a common theme, that I just want to get out my head onto the "page". I do it publicly, because I know first-hand how helpful it can be to know others are going through or feeling the same things you are, even if the person who is experiencing the same things as you doesn't have any specific advice on how to deal with things. Even if no-one read it or replied, though, I'd still find the experience valuable just because I had acknowledged those feelings and expressed them somehow, rather than letting them fester inside. Sure, there will unfortunately always be people who think you're "moaning" or that you're "never happy" -- even if you provide evidence to the contrary -- but I'd rather be someone willing to talk about struggles openly and honestly than someone who suffers in silence.
I really relate to every single word you've both said! My mum had leukemia, then when she recovered my dad suddenly died, then my nans health deteriorated a lot and my mum got breast cancer. Then my nan was really unwell, was having lots of falls and serious infections, then she passed away. I was living in survival mode for so many years, maybe more than 10 years easily. I was getting these awful adrenaline rushes and anxiety every time I actually relaxed. I was ready for the next awful phone call, the next disaster. The only other tip I can add is audiobooks, I'm pretty sure they saved my sanity. The silence became my enemy because like Paul was saying the thoughts rushed in. So I started listening to audiobooks, even as I drift off to sleep, and writing down all my worries like Sanja was describing. Getting out in the fresh air is a major thing for me too. I'm sorry for what you're going through, my grandad had Alzheimer's and it's so difficult. The dread of visits, the guilt, the heartbreak. And exactly as you said Paul, you get through it because you've got no other choice
Can I just say I recently went to that park in St Albans? I took my own photos of that Roman frieze right where you were standing at the opening. Very nice place, though the ducks / geese / fowl in general did poo up a storm on the pavements surrounding the river. Sorry, this has nothing to do with the video, but it is an upload that is very much appreciated.
Those were some solid fart jokes. Not literally solid or they would’ve been poo and Paul would’ve been completely delighted by that as he is such a poo aficionado. Well, I said too much but good work guys you may even save a life.
informal aged care, anxiety and debt are things that go hand in hand, and i believe our society still tries to make individuals feel solely responsible for the life of a human who contributed to social security all their working life and isn't getting quality care from the state. this topic hurts for me, and ill just say that my profoundly mentally ill mother died three months ago from the cardiac stress of two years of caring for my disabled grandmother, without having ever received anything similar to help from the gvt. we got my nan into a decent (paid, private) home, but it was too late for my mother's heart. and now it's just me and dad, both autistic, dealing with the grief and debts... while depression is certainly dependant on a load of genetic and lifestyle factors, it can't be dissociated from our broken system.
I'm so sorry you've had to deal with all this. It sounds absolutely wretched. And you're right: it's probably no coincidence that this perfect storm has happened. We've also had to deal with broken system when it comes to my mum's care, and it has just added to all the stress. I really hope you manage to find your way through everything you're dealing with. Sending you much love.
Absolutely spot on about the link between the three. I'm so sorry that you and your family went through that, and are still going through the effects of what must have been some profoundly challenging years. I hope the next few years bring you healing.
Yeah, I've not been great since THE EVENT in 2020, not that I was that great before. Watching your stuff and other people on UA-cam do video essays and stuff helps though!
The thing I do to cope is watch Digitizer videos. Which I know is not helpful considering you can't do that. But one thing I do is give myself something to look forward to at the end of the day, say a movie, game, time with family.
Coping mechanism: I just try to feel glad that I'm not in Syria now, Gaza now, Lebanon now... Or a soldier in the First World War... Or any of my ancestors who didn't have central heating :) I wonder if our bronze-age granddads were anxious....
Fair point. Now, if only our unconscious minds could get that message, instead of flooding our bodies with stress hormones over the thought of the state of our future, dealing with money, or unempathinc people, etc, - not to mention having to decode and make sense of billions of bits of overstimulating data constantly flooding our input systems all day every day 😭
Guys here is the thing...abd do me a favour and listen lol! Im a bloke who watched and enjoyed most of your content from beanus through the stuff with Paul ..the digitizer stuff lets face it I even watch that Christmas light video thing u did!!! We all go through loads of shit all the time and its very much not easy You are producing videos to entertain people and we love the content you produced you are a naturally funny guy and Sanya is a perfect foil for thats keep producing the stuff but try to find the fun in what you are doing see the joy in its if its fun for you its fun for us..I also watch cheapshow and ashens three of mine and im sure loads others fave channels..try to keep positive keep on rocking ..Beanus loves beannnnsssss
I naturally tend to lean towards nihilism, in the fullness of time everything will be dust. However this is a hard way to live, so I'm intentionally trying to be more of an absurdist as a response. It's not hard as the modern world seems absurd a lot if not most of the time.
Thankfully, it's not a hereditary form of dementia. Suffice to say, I had a wobbly couple of days until I knew. It's developed in her due to repeated bouts of sepsis, which damaged her brain.
@@lasanja_interdimensional awesome,I’m in NZ & we’re not allowed fresh/live lions mane as we have a native mushroom (Pekepeke Kiore) that might be messed with by it. Lovely to hear from you too Sanja.
You're grieving - for the Mum you used to know, for those ' lockdown' months, for those ignorance-is- bliss days pre-Plandemic. Try to not be too hard on yourself. You're so right about Being in the present, ( it is a gift, after all! ) we're pretty crap at doing this....( all part of the plan ! ) But most of all it's ok to be where you're at. I know it sounds naff but positive affirmations can be a great help: ' I welcome abundance & prosperity in all forms into my life' or ' I choose....' ( just be mindfull of phrasing...so ' I need....' wouldn't be attracting auspicious energy ) ( or Poo ) Just my ha'penny's worth 💚🥰
Thank you, Melanie. 100%. It's a weird grief, because it's a kind of... stuck sort of grief, because she's still here sort of. There's no forward movement at all like there normally is, so it's like the feeling of grief is being held back. On top of that, I'm still grieving my dad and my job - which I did for 20+ years. It's a lot.
@@Digitiser I hear you Paul. Have experienced a similar set of circumstances to yours recently. How much can a person take in one go !? I applaud you both for this presentation, courageous & worthy. You're stronger than you know.
Thanks for the love Melanie! ♡ And for the reminder about affirmations! I've recently discovered a couple of ways to make them even more effective for our subconscious minds to accept too... Maybe if we ever do another video on the topic, I'll chat about them (love this stuff lol) 🥰
Share, like, subscribe or join. It all helps x ❤ keep up the good work you two and although we’re just the comment section I hope we help in some way ❤.
@@lasanja_interdimensional glad to be of service. You’ll always get the like and watch from me because the content, computers and comedy is why I come back. The sincerity on a UA-cam channel is ‘just’ a massive bonus.
@Digitiser Is it OK to recommend you as an interview guest for another comedy YT channel I am deeply fond of who do guest interviews often? They are also struggling, one of them having to start a job to pay the rent. It's famous-ish and a good fit for some of your earlier YT work, but you could certainly talk about current stuff and the TV work. They are politically not far from your positions too by the way.
Okay, haven't had time to watch this video but apparently I'm pretty out of the loop, I usually binge watch a channel and then kind of forget about it for a while... What happened to all the old videos? I can still hear that old intro in my head (damn it's good), but yeah apparently something significant happened recently ish? I also could have sworn you had way more subscribers, was the chanel hacked or did UA-cam do some classic youtube bs? Kind of a shock to only find 46 videos now.
No no. We had far fewer subscribers. We were stuck on 16,000-ish for years. Nothing significant happened other than we wanted to change what we did. The old videos are still there in a playlist, but they're unlisted so as not to confuse new and old: ua-cam.com/video/CI2pcv6xAhg/v-deo.html
@@Digitiser Ah, that's good, I'm glad you kept the old content available and 100% respect and understand the desire to change things up. I know long form content is something the UA-cam algorithm of craps on especially for small channels, but there's definitely an audience, I'll certainly be checking some of the new stuff out.
@@JunctionRunner Oh indeed! We'll never wipe away the past - we had to make it unlisted because it was just stopping the channel growing, as we were only getting recommended to Cheapshow's audience! Worry not - we might've changed our format a bit, but we'll still be doing lots of the same sort of stupid stuff too.
Nous sommes dans une bataille spirituelle l’amour vanic envoyer de l’amour Continuons ❤️❤️ Toute ma famille a’quitte ma’petite fille et moi apres’les vaccin 💔nous ne voulions pas du poison ☠️
Thank you for this
So many people silently struggling every day …
You are very welcome.
Love your format these days Paul. Mental health is made much easier if you eat homemade food, and walk a mile a day...if you can. I found the inflammatory response from processed food led to all sorts of problems that fed the poor mental health spiral.
Thank you! Really pleased you're liking the new format. And noted about the mile a day thing. Thankfully, Sanja's a fantastic cook.
Honestly, you saying how the world has felt broken and crazy for the past four years felt really validating - I wondered if it was just me feeling like nothing has been the same since 2020? Like, I grieve the life I was building for myself at the end of 2019, and Ive sometimes felt like the world has been in emergency/crisis mode since then - not just the pandemic, but since then there's been war, cost of living crisis, and constant political turmoil and terror. I feel like I've been running on empty since 2022, constantly burned out and struggling with anxiety since then, not able to make the videos I love and stuff. Add in things like losing my nan earlier this year, and its been...horrible. Anxiety and panic attacks are SO exhausting on their own. And sometimes I just want to cry, and mourn the feeling that life is passing me by and I can't do anything about it.
And I totally relate to what you say about pulling back and feeling like you're not present as much as you want to be - I've cut back massively on social media as I was getting horrendous anxiety over my timelines constantly being bombarded 'you need to care about this' - war, genocide, climate change, social injustice, everything. I *want* to care about it all, but...its exhausting just keeping myself alive. And coping and surviving is a huge achievement in itself. Always.
Also, bunnies totally do help with MH. Its a fact xD
Lots of love to you both. Thank you for sharing all of this. 💖
Thanks, AJ. You're very welcome. And yes - less brokennes... more bunnies!
Omg, you've hit the nail on the head by saying how the world has felt in a constant emergency/crisis mode for the past few years. And I totally get what you mean by 'I want to care about it all, but it's exhausting just keeping myself alive'. That sums it up perfectly.
Coinciding coming out of 2 back-to-back abusive relationships and The Event, leaning far too hard into working and productivity to give me a sense of worth, funnily enough bunnies really helped at this time where I was just living in fight-or-flight. Being out in nature, in fresh air, or at least mildly less polluted air, helped calm my nervous system... like I had more of a sense of the relative smallness of my problems in the grand scheme of life. Now I audio journal, which is basically a daily 20 minute rant into my phone to get it all out of my system. I really appreciate you both being open and honest about how difficult these past few years have been to you, how it has affected your mental health, and sharing how you move through it.
Thank you. We're really glad it helped you. We'll try to film some more bunnies!
Audio journaling is a genius idea!
Thoughts are with you both. Please don't forget how much fun and joy you've brought to people over the years. Personally, I've had many days where life has beaten me and all I want to do is pop an episode of Digi on and laugh my way through the pain. Thank you both for being awesome.
Thanks, PRG. We feel very loved and blessed.
Your a great story teller could listen to you all day
Thank you, Tommy! Much appreciated.
I relate so hard to the "can't be social" right now. It takes so much energy to be social and happy and upbeat for your friends and even if they say "we don't want you to be happy for us!" You do it anyway because I feel like you can't help it? It's some sort of ingrained social thing we have no real control over.
After my mum passed away I'd be terrified of the phone going off encase it was someone calling me to tell be bad news. When you're relaxed and trying to sleep THAT'S when the anxiety comes over you, because "Oh... I'm relaxed, I shouldn't be!"
Sanja talking about the energy, is something I do! I'm a firm believer that you have to get the energy out of our system in some way or another, even if that's screaming, shouting, crying, hitting a pillow etc
Maybe your way of "working" is just your way of getting it out of your system! Art, creating, making is an art form and a way of getting emotions, stress, thoughts and feelings out of your system!
In making these videos, in working and keeping yourself afloat and distracting yourself is probably also helping others by being their distraction from their own problems and anxiety.
On a funnier side:
There's one of those "manosphere" influencers who said his cure for people with depression is to sit and every night... Think about someone coming into your home and killing all your family members, horrifically and brutally 😍 And that'll sort you right out!
Talking of not being social... we're still hoping to come up and visit in a couple of weeks.
@@Digitiser Yesss!! 😍 Always a joy to have a visit from you and Sanja!!!
That manosphere guy is not going to help anyone get to sleep peacefully like that! 😭
You are both blessed to live in one of the most beautiful places on earth. The countryside there is awe inspiring. I live in the desert of Arizona, and it's beautiful here in its own way, but watching walking videos in England is my happy place while working from home. Probably something in our DNA that draws us to certain places. Nature is where it's at!! There is harmony in nature's diversity ❤😍
What's so funny about this is how much we love Arizona! Genuinely one of our happy places! We hope to get back there one day.
@Digitiser Haha!! That's awesome!! I can see that! I hope you both can come this way again! I would love to meet up with you two! We're in Phoenix, and we go up north to Sedona, Jerome, and Cottonwood often. Down south in Bisbee is our new favorite place, too!
Oh Harmony, the hilarious thing is that at the same time (as much as we truly love the greenery of England), driving through the desert is one of our happiest places. Sedona has been on my bucket list to visit for decades! I'd love to experience the vortexes!
@lasanja_interdimensional Awww Sanja ❤️ I'm with ya! It truly is a happy place! It's always a beautiful and cleansing experience driving through the deserts here. 🏜 You must come to Sedona! It's like another planet! The vortex's and ancient portals that exist there are very interesting! I would live there if I could! $$$. That place in the 80s was something else, too!! We used to camp there when I was a kid, and my dad would attend an annual motorcycle run where certain clubs would meet up. The eclectic mix of outlaws, cowboys, and artists was cool to watch while growing up. Instagram and TikTok have made it a really popular place to visit now. Spring and fall are the perfect times for visiting weather wise, and it can get a little crowded, but if you go off the beaten path, there are so many hidden gems to be experienced ❤️😍
the amount of comments saying how they feel the same as you folks (me included) shows how important this video is - thank you for your openness, from all of us x
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You're very welcome, Andrew. Feels like there's an epidemic of struggling at the minute.
Really sorry to hear you're going through such a rough patch,hope things start turning around for you, your videos always cheer me up and i appreciate your content
Thanks, Figgy. We appreciate your comment!
Thanks Figgy! 🤗
I can feel a lot of the stuff on this video. Really human, this one. My problems is mostly struggle with chronic illness with all the attached fun of starting new meds and dealing with withdrawal from the outgoing meds that kept me just about going for a few years. Real fun stuff. Anxiety is rough too and I hope you guys find a way to a better place mentally. At any rate, I'm glad you made this video. I really like the more serious stuff coming from you.
Thank you. We both really appreciate that.
I love that Sanja thinks you shout "Tee!" when you play golf.
Lololol - I only realised watching it back. I meant four! 😭
"Five!"
When your backs to the wall, there’s nothing wrong with putting those around you and yourself first ❤
Thanks, Slugger.
You guy's are the people's voice right now. I've been watching since I first saw the canary wharf video. I think you both have something viable. I kind of feel like I'm watching channel 4/5. Maybe I'm having a crystal ball moment lol. But its definitely good content.
I think what you both are trying to say was it's hard to grow and fight at the same time when the body is designed to either do fight or flight. Covid was designed to do exactly what you are going through. I'm dealing with the same issues. If this is destroy and rebuild then we are all apart of the process...you already know what they do to people in the army.
Thank you. Not sure we'd ever want to end up on the telly, unless it's through our own videos on here!
Yes, it's like being pulled in two opposite directions! So maybe the trick is to use something like the aikido philosophy and sidestep, or use the force of the fight/flight to propel us into growth/the direction we want to go it? (Terrible example as I don't really know much about aikido lol)
Thankyou for your openness and honesty.
The most valuable lesson I have learned in the last few years is to open up to people you trust.
Im a domestic abuse survivor of an 18 year marriage, and left with PTSD symptoms and crippling anxiety.
for 4 years I didn’t deal with it, and thought that talking was pointless and it wasn’t going to help.
I wasn’t allowed to have friends go out or do anything and was a prisoner. Its taken a long time to rehabilitate into the big world and its a scary place, but talking and opening up has helped me beyond what i thought was possible, I’m now with the most wonderful person, I struggle daily and when im having flashbacks its not always easy to talk but i feel safe and that means the world to me.
I wish you both well and all the love in the world. ❤
Thanks, Mattie. Sorry you have your battle scars too. It sounds awful - but I'm glad you found your person.
Been going through similar myself and not had the energy to even enjoy your videos. Glad I checked in today. Great video. Thank you.
Sorry to hear you've had some tough times too. Hope this has helped.
@@Digitiser It did indeed. Much love to you, both.
@@catonthehowlingmoonrecords9529 Same back to you.
Mental Health Day, the day before my birthday and usually one of the most stressful and hardest to walk through days in recent years, is some sort of weird joke. Totally felt this video guys and I fully agree with Paul's methods of coping and distraction. That's exactly what I do.
You're saying you are lucky, and to an EXTENT that is true. Many of us don't have a 'Sanja' to help us through, or anywhere to turn at all. But you're still hurting all the same, we're all in the same boat at those moments in life. Just a different compartment of the same horrible vehicle.
Love you guys.
Thank you, Jay. Back atcha.
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Love you Sanja & Paul, thank you so much for making this. Past year has been an absolute shitter after losing my nan and my dad since January. Keeping my mum calm and helping my usually STOIC(!) sister deal with her own mental health has been really hard, but has also helped keep me strong.
Just know you guys are a ray of sunshine in the lives of many people who are struggling too.
Ah, man. Thank you. You've been through a lot too by the sounds of it, so we're glad we can be even a little ray of sunshine for you.
That's a helluva lot to have on your plate. Your mum and sister are lucky to have you, I hope it starts easing up for you soon. Sending you big hugs.
You don't know how much me and the husband needed this today. Thanks Paul and Sanja ❤
You are very welcome. Sending you both much love.
@@Digitiser And right back to you guys. The one thing that keeps us grounded and drives us through the bad times, is having a great partner by our side. ❤️
@@felineexceptional We're very blessed.
@@felineexceptional so true 🥰
I don't think I've resonated with any video in the last 4 years as I have this one. Thanks guys!
Thanks, Karen. We're pleased it clicked with you. Means a lot to us.
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Today is National Mental Health Day in my country. Thank you for the video and take care.
You too, Nezu.
Lovely stuff. It boils down to you the fact that you can only control two things in this crazy world.
What you think and what you do.
You can't control anything else except those two things so don't try to.
Wise words.
@lasanja_interdimensional thank you 😊
Thanks, Juffer. You're so right.
The walking outdoors is great if you can, but many of us now have agoraphobia after lockdown
So watching your videos of various places has helped
Definitely helps us to film outside.
Excellent video. I did enjoy the obligatory Biffo makes an innuendo that Sanja initially doesn't pick up on then does and nopes out.
Bless her.
I was proud of myself for how quickly I got it this time!
This popped up on Utube first thing this morning and I couldn’t have wished for a better start to a day. Love your distractions Sanya, I hit the canals or rivers on the bike, plenty of distractions there.
Look at the golf-ball, in all that mint.
#mint
I have missed Sanja's adhd cutaways.
Tbh if she wanted to do her own videos/channel of just adhd ramblings and looking at cool/weird things in bushes I'd happily support
Stinging mint!
@@BeasBotBonanza hahaha be careful what you wish for! But they only seem to work while being reigned in by Paul, so he'd have to come with me, and that means more walking for him 😅
How the heck did we not notice the mint?!?
I work in the NHS and yesterday went to an event hosted by Ripple Touch. That's RIPPLE, with an R... We were asked to write down all our roles in life, such as father, husband, teacher, worker, social media botherer etc and score each 1 to 10, with 10 being the most energy we spend on. Then doing the same for what we should spend our energies on and how to achieve it. While I'm neither a husband or father I could see I was spending all my energy on one particular role and not having enough for more important ones. We were also taught double-breathing as a means to reduce anxiety and stress. Breathe in to fill the lungs about 80% then breathe again to fill the remaining 20% and breathe out slowly through the nose. Doing so stimulates the capillaries removing CO2 and slowing your heart rate. It works frighteningly well for something that's so easy to do.
Breathing like that does indeed help! Wish we'd mentioned it. Sanja taught me the techniques, and they're really useful.
That sounds like it was a really eye-opening exercise to do! (ps. love a bit of breathwork!)
This is very well timed for me as I'm having a bad few weeks mentally. Despite things being overall positive in my life right now, the gremlins are chewing the wires in my brain right now and I'm having a hard time of it
So thank you for this video x
I’m sorry you’re having a rough time, Bea. Sending you much love. x
I hate to be a pest or sound sad, but um Christmas is coming and I don’t have much to look forward to but your critique of Xmas lights and your Xmas songs have been moments of joy and hilarity. I notice these have been delisted and understand your explanation on patreon. But if you’re able to create this festive time, or set Gannon on fire for old-times-sake, I’m grateful for the joy and warm and reassurance that your videos regularly provide. Wishing you both well, you deserve it.
Don't you worry - we'll be doing plenty of feel-good Christmas stuff. Promise you'll have that to look forward to. Hang in there.
@@Digitiser Will it involve setting Gannon on fire 🙈
@@Digitiser Now that you've said this, Paul, watch us find the most depressing and dour topics ever to cover over xmas 🤣 (joking!) (At least you know we'll sprinkle in something dumb and funny no matter what the topic)
Identifying and maintaining a safe and healthy outlet is so helpful; I learned some very unhealthy coping strategies early in my life/career, and those chickens came home to roost with a vengeance. I’m still working on unlearning those and replacing them with healthier tools, and if I was to share one thing it would be that each thing I’ve tried has given me the courage to try other things if it didn’t work for me
I'm sure we all lean into unhealthy strategies before we figure out better ways. Glad you kept trying, Matt.
That is fricken excellent advice, Matt! ♡
I'm sure a few people may have said this, or will echo this, but your videos have given us a few minutes escape regularly and helped us cope through difficult times. So, thank you.
Thanks, mister.
I always look at life and good/bad times in terms of seasons, don't kill yourself in winter because you can't see spring around the corner. It can't rain forever.
Great way of looking at it.
Bloody genius perspective, Jim! ♡
Thank you for sharing this and you are right , it helps to hear I am not alone in feeling rather lost. Our mother is in a care home too with dementia. I don't deal with it well. I have had i guess 10 years of things not being right . I think I was in denial first 2 years , then broke down - not that anyone noticed ( lol ) and it's been the anxiety disorder ever since. I don't cope really , I just suffer it . I hate it , I needed stoicism to deal with the loss , but it just got up and deserted me , that what I hate about it . Anyway look I love what you guys do whether it's a bit of fun or you talking seriously so thank you for coming to St Albans. I am just up the road in Hemel. ❤❤❤❤❤
So sorry to hear about your mother, Sue. It's honestly indescribable how awful it is. Also, we know Hemel and its magic roundabout all too well...
Dementia is absolutely awful. I can't even imagine how hard it must have been to deal with it for 10 years.
I agree - I have also not been right since the events of 2020 onwards. The world has appeared to irreversibly changed for the worse, and my mental health has definitely deteriorated. I also lost a dear friend to cancer in 2021, and it took a long time to come to terms with the loss of a longtime friend, who was taken far too soon. Not sure I’ll ever get back to where I was before 2020 - but I’ve had some counselling, and I’m trying hard to map out a new future - but it’s not been easy. Keep going - I hope that better days are ahead for us all!
Oh man, that sounds tough. Hang in there Simon. Sending you hugs.
Sorry to hear you've struggled, Simon. Glad you're trying to keep moving forwards. We'll keep our fingers crossed for you.
Firstly this video was such a comfort to me today, I just needed a little reminder that I'm not alone.
Secondly something that I try to do whenever I remember (adhd gang) is keep a diary of good things that have happened, even if it's something trivial like "I tried some new crisps that were really good" it's good to have something to look back on that isn't full of negatives. Especially when we're getting to this time of year I start to get the feeling that another years over and I've done nothing it's nice to have a note of everything good that's happened whether that's completing a game I've been stuck on or meeting up with friends and having a laugh.
You're definitely not alone. Glad we could be there with you today.
You'd better believe that crisps will be getting on that list! (Or in my case, Nutella - the current obsession).
I agree with pretty much everything you have said in this video (with the exception of replacing energy with poo). There is no one perfect solution that fits all. You just have to try different things until you find the best option(s) I am more in the Paul head anxiety side but am in the Sanja going for a walk side (preferably with some music or a podcast). To some extent i can appreciate the blogging/writing things down, as I can sometimes be more inclined to respond to what i read rather than thoughts inside my head.
Sending positive poo to everyone watching the video.
Thanks, Squirrel.
Postive poo to you too, Squirrel!
Amazingly kind of you to let others in on your struggles and still provide helpfull tips and ways you cope.
Personally i struggle for a while longer but i do hear the sugar based coping and drowning oneself in writing (tho in my case it is just a way to dump bad brains out rather than anny meaningful or nuanced storytelling).
The "here and now" whilst sounding like its from star wars ep 1 dose make sense, my personal itteration of the idea is to try and worry solely about things i can do a thing about at the time (not that i follow the advice, i just give it and than worry freely about things in past or future i can not influence... bad brains).
Whilst i can offer but words i wish upon you better times, kinder world and less life shaking problems. May you always have sufficient respite and bring each other joy.
Your words are nevertheless appreciated. Thank you.
Aww thank you for your kind words, and dumping out bad brains is just as valuable as nuanced storytelling if it gets you to a better-feeling place! ♡
@@Digitiser i do realize it was said as for context, bu please do not think of having things that ease the missery of life as advantage. life sucks so Sanya, other relatives being there for you is lovely, not a priviledeged thing. rigto i wont preach at you, just glad you have ways of coping.
@@lasanja_interdimensional My kind words? your going all out and offered the best advice you could for others struggling, that needs be thanked. i just yammer on, whining, making people feel worse just by interacting with me, yet never having much in ways of coping. It is the two of you who oh i guess thanked for second time hmm. So thank thee for worrying of fellow humans, irreverent of the week it is very kind.
@@nameless5413 🥰 (and I don't believe for a second that you make people feel worse)
I needed this. A heartfelt thank-you. Hope you guys are doing well all things considered
You're welcome, mister. Hope you're doing okay.
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A video in St. Albans, it’s a dream come true!
Hah!
St Albans has a very special place in our hearts
@@lasanja_interdimensional I’ll treasure these replies, haha.
Lovely to hear that St. Albans has a special place in your hearts.
This channel really deserves a much higher sub count, a slice of common sense with the right level of stupid humour. We all struggle with the simplest of things sometimes, just getting out of bed this time of year takes an extra effort before beginning to deal with the day to day struggles. We all want to thrive instead of merely exist. thanks for a great thought provoking video, stay strong everyone.
Thank you. Been a long journey, but we're growing steadily since changing up our format a bit. We'll get there! Totally hear you about the challenges of getting out of bed at this time of year... I struggle even when the weather is nice!
@@Digitiser keep doing what you do, you've got each other to lean on and great content. Having good people around you to pick you up during the tough moments or having a hobby of some sort, I find always helps.
@@Mildfury Absolutely. Thank you.
Mine is singing in the shower and going into town just for a wander about. Have a long shower and do some serious self care first thing in the morning because there’s something truly satisfying about a Les Mis medley which really resets myself. Your videos help a lot and as silly as Beanus is it helped me and my gf when she spent most of this and last year in hospital. You help a lot of people move forward. Thank you both, keep going as best you can.
Edit: After Dickus? Sounds like my very good friend from Rome called Biggus….
Edit 2: My wife (we’re poly) has a TBI (traumatic brain injury) as a result of brain damage. This is in no way akin to dementia, however, the feelings, the symptoms are the same in a way. It is bloody hard and you should be so proud of yourselves for working through this and being there for her. Headway helped us a lot, and I know when a family member was also actively going through dementia, Dementia UK were really helpful too. Silliness aside, the TBI has been so hard and I have learnt to take it one moment at a time, sometimes one day, one hour, one minute. You got this.
So sorry to hear about your wife, but glad to hear you've found a way through. You're right: whittling life down to minutes, those small moments, does make a difference. Feels less overwhelming. And we're happy we've been able to bring a little bit of joy into your life. Beanus will return!
Omg a thousand times yes to singing and Les Mis!! One of life's best therapies! Sending love for you and your wife, that sounds like a tough experience for you both. And thank you for mentioning Headway and Demetia UK - I don't know why we haven't thought to look into them before now, but they could be really valuable resources. Thanks!
Les Mis is literally my medication when I’m low. I got to see it in London in February and honestly it was one of the best moments of my life! Especially the end part, sobbed like a baby!
And yeah, Headway were / still are bloody amazing. :)
@@TimeToSlashZoom I really want to see it live one day too!
@@lasanja_interdimensional
Do it! 8th October 2025 though. Make that your day as it’s the 40th anniversary of Les Mis. I’m planning at least five trips before 😂….or at least One Day More…(sorry not sorry)
Discussing stuff out in the open is always the best approach to dealing with things. It releases pressure. Crying is another pressure release, it's not a weakness, it makes you stronger. However, UA-cam crying videos probably don't work, so just stick with the discussion vids. On a personal level, I've had anxiety ever since I did my GCSEs in the early 90s (it helped me fail all 7 exams), it held me back in life, so I had poorly paid jobs and only recently have I managed to get to a level that I feel comfortable. I had counselling 15 years ago and it helped me to understand and cope with it. Being active helps your brain stay strong: walking, running, cycling, sports, etc helps pump oxygen through it. A better diet also helps a great deal too. Find a way to get more vitamins (I started eating corn flakes, for instance). Pretty much everything you and Sanja mentioned in the video is all good advice, and you only know it works when you put them into practise.
Love a good cry! Glad you've found your own coping strategies.
Much love to you both, I've been along for the digitiser ride since... God its been a while. Put yourselves first, even in the darkest times, it always gave me solace that looking back, it doesnt matter how long it takes to get where you're going. Life is an unreal journey and sometimes even just surviving is a monolithic achievement in itself. Love and kindness to you, youll find that magic abstract creativity when it needs you. 💜
Thanks, Vex. We'll keep on keeping on.
Loved the honeymonster shots with your glasses in the middle of your hair when you put your head down. 😂😂
Anyhow, that was the best, most interesting and humanising youtube video Ive seen from you, actually, no, that Ive seen.
To the point Ive shared it to my wife as there is so much crossover with our experience and coping mechanisms.
Thank you. I know your industry is really starting to pick up again now so godspeed to you taking your rightful places in it and happier times.
Ah man. Thanks, David. Really touched.
I don't know why, (maybe it's the honesty that you, Paul & Sanya display, could be a shared world view too) but I feel great affection for you 2.❤
Aw, thank you.
That golf ball could have been warning from past. Really ilke your vids you two are great all the best from me
Thanks, Adam!
The socialising thing really hits home. I think every arrangement I've made the last few years I've cancelled. Barely even left the house the last few months. Thanks to both of you for making this. Best to you both. Although the Monty's Mum skit in the middle seemed really out of place.
It's tough isn't it? I think we're conditioned to believe that socialising is good for you, but it doesn't work for everyone at every time. We've just got to listen to what we need on any given day.
Hello from Northern Ireland ❤
Hello, Sharon!
I’m here too 🙂
Some genuinely useful tips I didn't know I needed, thanks for this
You're welcome.
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❤❤❤. Thank you always for uplifting and imforming us so comically and lovingly. A must I find is "Parts Work". Richard C. Schwartzs' books explain all! Introduction to Internal Family Systems, recommended by Gabor Mate and Rangan Chatterjee, is a great one to start with if you're not already familiar with IFS theory. 😊
Ooh, thanks for the book recommendation, I'll definitely look it up! I love Gabor Mate - I still haven't read any of his books, but have watched several interviews with him, and find his work fascinating!
Will definitely check that out!
You're so lucky to have each other AND to have put the work into making a working relationship!
You are also very lucky to be able to get out in your car. I lost my ability to drive through bureaucratic ineptitude a couple of years ago, which has meant that I wasn't there for my parents when the SHTF!
It's totally immasculated me... butl. on the other hand, it finally got the Ol'lady to start driving lessons at the young old age of 44..
We battle on, it is incredible what humans can endure, when it comes down to it.
Never be afraid to ask for help...
There is support in the most unexpected places.
Love❤❤❤ from us..
We're very lucky to have one another. We're best friends and never take it for granted. Thanks for YOUR support.
Why can't it be 'Mental Health Week' every week? Everywhere.
Another excellent video I found both entertaining & genuinely comforting! Self-help material is really good content fodder.
I relate to Sanja's tendency to anticipate the worst possible outcomes. It seems like the reasonable and mature thing to do, but it can lead to a lot of self-fulfilling prophecies. I think the trick is to have realistic expectations while secretly believing in the best outcome, which... takes a lot of practice.
Thanks, Noah. Wise words.
Yes! It's an artform lol!!
Really appreciated this video, thank you sincerely and all the very best you two, good thoughts always to you both
Thank you. Same to you.
honestley this videio kinda hepled the last few months have been rough dealing with lonliness and a few more things tahnks mr biffo and sanja for the vid
So sorry you've been dealing with stuff, Richard. Loneliness sucks. Pleased we could help a little.
Glad we could help even a tiny bit in some way, Rich. Hope it starts easing up for you soon.
Seeing wild bunnies help my mental health. Don't knock them. 😀 The NHS is currently obsessed with journalling. I cant get into it. And CBT.
I have depression long term and was a carer for my dad which got more difficult when he got arthritis aged 70 and later dementia. I mostly worked full time in an office job too so was always busy with no energy. Im good in emergencies but less so at day to day life.
I don't have any great coping techniques but I would have a day trip away or a weekend away when i could. I like gardening and watching live music. I like taking photos and walking by the coast. Dementia is horrible but i knew i had done the most i could to help my dad and any sense of guilt lifted when he passed away. Visit them as often as you can. My dad never forgot me or my name. But this can vary with the type of dementia. You never regret spending too much time with an elderly parent. I did speak to an Admiral (dementia); nurse at some point but had already researched every damn thing i could think of so she thoughr i was doing well. Thanks for sharing your struggles with us viewers. We shall get through the tough times. 👍🏻
#morebunnies!
Bunnies rock! 🐇And yeah, journaling isn't for everyone. But it sounds like you have found things that work for you to help you through. Dementia effing sucks. The worst thing about the type Paul's mum has is that she doesn't really even have any moments of being herself again, not even a glimpse, so it feels like she's not herself anymore. It's so tough, my heart goes out to anyone who's gone through seeing a parent or loved one go through anything like this.
The technique for dealing with panic attacks is to tell yourself that you don’t mind dying. It went away for me.
What if you do mind dying?
Plenty of good advice in here. I've always been an advocate for talking about how you feel, whether that be "in person" or via some form of journalling. In my teens, I kept a diary (which I ended up throwing out because I was too embarrassed by what was in there, and now regret) and since the mid-00s, I have blogged in one form or another.
I have a blog for video games (one of my main hobbies and professional interests) that I update sporadically, and another that I post on daily for just... stuff. Stuff that I want to express, that doesn't necessarily have a common theme, that I just want to get out my head onto the "page". I do it publicly, because I know first-hand how helpful it can be to know others are going through or feeling the same things you are, even if the person who is experiencing the same things as you doesn't have any specific advice on how to deal with things. Even if no-one read it or replied, though, I'd still find the experience valuable just because I had acknowledged those feelings and expressed them somehow, rather than letting them fester inside.
Sure, there will unfortunately always be people who think you're "moaning" or that you're "never happy" -- even if you provide evidence to the contrary -- but I'd rather be someone willing to talk about struggles openly and honestly than someone who suffers in silence.
Thanks, Pete Talking really does help, whatever form that takes.
I really relate to every single word you've both said! My mum had leukemia, then when she recovered my dad suddenly died, then my nans health deteriorated a lot and my mum got breast cancer. Then my nan was really unwell, was having lots of falls and serious infections, then she passed away. I was living in survival mode for so many years, maybe more than 10 years easily. I was getting these awful adrenaline rushes and anxiety every time I actually relaxed. I was ready for the next awful phone call, the next disaster. The only other tip I can add is audiobooks, I'm pretty sure they saved my sanity. The silence became my enemy because like Paul was saying the thoughts rushed in. So I started listening to audiobooks, even as I drift off to sleep, and writing down all my worries like Sanja was describing. Getting out in the fresh air is a major thing for me too. I'm sorry for what you're going through, my grandad had Alzheimer's and it's so difficult. The dread of visits, the guilt, the heartbreak. And exactly as you said Paul, you get through it because you've got no other choice
You've really been through it, Lisa. I hope the future is kinder to you.
@@Digitiser and to you both aswell
Can I just say I recently went to that park in St Albans? I took my own photos of that Roman frieze right where you were standing at the opening. Very nice place, though the ducks / geese / fowl in general did poo up a storm on the pavements surrounding the river. Sorry, this has nothing to do with the video, but it is an upload that is very much appreciated.
St Alban's is indeed lovely!
We were lucky to have visited after a lot of rain, so the gifts from the geese must have all been washed away 😅
It's def pronounced 'Stoic' 💚
100%.
Love this episode a lot …..❤❤❤
Thanks, you.
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Those were some solid fart jokes. Not literally solid or they would’ve been poo and Paul would’ve been completely delighted by that as he is such a poo aficionado. Well, I said too much but good work guys you may even save a life.
Just doing our bit. Thanks, mw.
Thank you for appreciating the (f)artistry
informal aged care, anxiety and debt are things that go hand in hand, and i believe our society still tries to make individuals feel solely responsible for the life of a human who contributed to social security all their working life and isn't getting quality care from the state. this topic hurts for me, and ill just say that my profoundly mentally ill mother died three months ago from the cardiac stress of two years of caring for my disabled grandmother, without having ever received anything similar to help from the gvt. we got my nan into a decent (paid, private) home, but it was too late for my mother's heart. and now it's just me and dad, both autistic, dealing with the grief and debts... while depression is certainly dependant on a load of genetic and lifestyle factors, it can't be dissociated from our broken system.
I'm so sorry you've had to deal with all this. It sounds absolutely wretched. And you're right: it's probably no coincidence that this perfect storm has happened. We've also had to deal with broken system when it comes to my mum's care, and it has just added to all the stress. I really hope you manage to find your way through everything you're dealing with. Sending you much love.
Absolutely spot on about the link between the three. I'm so sorry that you and your family went through that, and are still going through the effects of what must have been some profoundly challenging years. I hope the next few years bring you healing.
This appears immediately after my therapy appointment. Fate?
WE KNEW.
*replaces tinfoil hat*
Yeah, I've not been great since THE EVENT in 2020, not that I was that great before. Watching your stuff and other people on UA-cam do video essays and stuff helps though!
Glad we could help in some way. It's been a bumpy road for sure 🤗
Thanks, Skweek. We're not going anywhere.
Take a breath. Realise you have each other.
And both have great hair!
Hah! Cheers.
Hello from where we don't give a fuck about the whole state of Michigan, we are Ohio
Hello, Ohio!
Oh ! Hi , yo.
The thing I do to cope is watch Digitizer videos. Which I know is not helpful considering you can't do that. But one thing I do is give myself something to look forward to at the end of the day, say a movie, game, time with family.
Huzzah for us!
Yay! We can get onboard with that one!
I reckon the transition from AD to CE was probably tied to growing secularism in the world, alongside CE being less explicitly Christian.
Oh I’m sure… but where was the memo??!?
Coping mechanism: I just try to feel glad that I'm not in Syria now, Gaza now, Lebanon now... Or a soldier in the First World War... Or any of my ancestors who didn't have central heating :) I wonder if our bronze-age granddads were anxious....
Fair point. Now, if only our unconscious minds could get that message, instead of flooding our bodies with stress hormones over the thought of the state of our future, dealing with money, or unempathinc people, etc, - not to mention having to decode and make sense of billions of bits of overstimulating data constantly flooding our input systems all day every day 😭
It's all relative of course. I wish it were that easy though.
1:52 i thought you was about to try an sell me Nord VPN or Man Scape for a moment then lol
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@@Digitiser lol it seemed like the beginning of a Segway, i realised it wasn't but i watch to much YT i think i sort half expect them, sorry 😁
Guys here is the thing...abd do me a favour and listen lol! Im a bloke who watched and enjoyed most of your content from beanus through the stuff with Paul ..the digitizer stuff lets face it I even watch that Christmas light video thing u did!!! We all go through loads of shit all the time and its very much not easy You are producing videos to entertain people and we love the content you produced you are a naturally funny guy and Sanya is a perfect foil for thats keep producing the stuff but try to find the fun in what you are doing see the joy in its if its fun for you its fun for us..I also watch cheapshow and ashens three of mine and im sure loads others fave channels..try to keep positive keep on rocking ..Beanus loves beannnnsssss
Ohh I missed a point those videos of yours helped to get me through a very serious anxiety and depression episode
We get it. Thanks, Michael. We’re very much enjoying making these still. Beanus will return sooner than you think!
I mean... you deserve a million points for watching even the Christmas lights video thing 😂😂😂
Not a genuine solution, but I find taking 2 Tramadol and 2 Zapain tablets every 3 hours helps me cope with my struggles 🤷🏻♂️😂
Hah! Yeah, that'll do it.
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I naturally tend to lean towards nihilism, in the fullness of time everything will be dust. However this is a hard way to live, so I'm intentionally trying to be more of an absurdist as a response. It's not hard as the modern world seems absurd a lot if not most of the time.
Absurdism rules!
No joke, the urge to fight falling into nihilism is extremely challenging!!
@@lasanja_interdimensional yup, soul destroying to live as a nihilist.
Paul, if dementia runs in your family, you might want to look into lion's mane mushrooms as they have been found to have neuro-protective effects.
Thankfully, it's not a hereditary form of dementia. Suffice to say, I had a wobbly couple of days until I knew. It's developed in her due to repeated bouts of sepsis, which damaged her brain.
We've already got a stash! It's great stuff!
@@lasanja_interdimensional awesome,I’m in NZ & we’re not allowed fresh/live lions mane as we have a native mushroom (Pekepeke Kiore) that might be messed with by it. Lovely to hear from you too Sanja.
Biffo for Blue Peter presenter.
#stickybackplastic
You're grieving - for the Mum you used to know, for those ' lockdown' months, for those ignorance-is- bliss days pre-Plandemic. Try to not be too hard on yourself. You're so right about Being in the present, ( it is a gift, after all! ) we're pretty crap at doing this....( all part of the plan ! ) But most of all it's ok to be where you're at. I know it sounds naff but positive affirmations can be a great help: ' I welcome abundance & prosperity in all forms into my life' or ' I choose....' ( just be mindfull of phrasing...so ' I need....' wouldn't be attracting auspicious energy ) ( or Poo )
Just my ha'penny's worth 💚🥰
Thank you, Melanie. 100%. It's a weird grief, because it's a kind of... stuck sort of grief, because she's still here sort of. There's no forward movement at all like there normally is, so it's like the feeling of grief is being held back. On top of that, I'm still grieving my dad and my job - which I did for 20+ years. It's a lot.
@@Digitiser I hear you Paul. Have experienced a similar set of circumstances to yours recently. How much can a person take in one go !? I applaud you both for this presentation, courageous & worthy. You're stronger than you know.
Thanks for the love Melanie! ♡ And for the reminder about affirmations! I've recently discovered a couple of ways to make them even more effective for our subconscious minds to accept too... Maybe if we ever do another video on the topic, I'll chat about them (love this stuff lol) 🥰
I have been horrible to my wife in the last few years. Coming out of drinking two bottles of wine a night I don’t know if I can ever get her back.
I hope you can find a path through, Nick.
Sanja can't have had anxiety for decades, she can only be in her early 20s.
Good shit
Cheers!
Share, like, subscribe or join. It all helps x ❤ keep up the good work you two and although we’re just the comment section I hope we help in some way ❤.
Thanks, you. And you DO help.
There is no 'just' about the comments section. The comments section makes all the difference! ♡
@@lasanja_interdimensional glad to be of service. You’ll always get the like and watch from me because the content, computers and comedy is why I come back. The sincerity on a UA-cam channel is ‘just’ a massive bonus.
@Digitiser Is it OK to recommend you as an interview guest for another comedy YT channel I am deeply fond of who do guest interviews often? They are also struggling, one of them having to start a job to pay the rent. It's famous-ish and a good fit for some of your earlier YT work, but you could certainly talk about current stuff and the TV work. They are politically not far from your positions too by the way.
Please do recommend us!
Okay, haven't had time to watch this video but apparently I'm pretty out of the loop, I usually binge watch a channel and then kind of forget about it for a while... What happened to all the old videos? I can still hear that old intro in my head (damn it's good), but yeah apparently something significant happened recently ish?
I also could have sworn you had way more subscribers, was the chanel hacked or did UA-cam do some classic youtube bs?
Kind of a shock to only find 46 videos now.
No no. We had far fewer subscribers. We were stuck on 16,000-ish for years. Nothing significant happened other than we wanted to change what we did. The old videos are still there in a playlist, but they're unlisted so as not to confuse new and old: ua-cam.com/video/CI2pcv6xAhg/v-deo.html
@@Digitiser Ah, that's good, I'm glad you kept the old content available and 100% respect and understand the desire to change things up. I know long form content is something the UA-cam algorithm of craps on especially for small channels, but there's definitely an audience, I'll certainly be checking some of the new stuff out.
@@JunctionRunner Oh indeed! We'll never wipe away the past - we had to make it unlisted because it was just stopping the channel growing, as we were only getting recommended to Cheapshow's audience! Worry not - we might've changed our format a bit, but we'll still be doing lots of the same sort of stupid stuff too.
Your Tanya has beautiful eyes.
Yes she does.
What do you both do fir a living ?
Nous sommes dans une bataille spirituelle l’amour vanic envoyer de l’amour
Continuons ❤️❤️
Toute ma famille a’quitte ma’petite fille et moi apres’les vaccin 💔nous ne voulions pas du poison ☠️
Merci, Esther.
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Video games.
Thank you.
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