Thank you all for covering this story! My nephew took his own life in September of last year, he was 23 and has 2 little babies. My family is heartbroken forever and we have been trying to raise awareness about postpartum depression in men but no one will listen to us, we feel so discouraged the fact that no one wants to cover our story. Please we would like as a family to tell Lamonte’s story to help other men who silently suffer after having kids. May someone reach out to me please? Thank you!
@ServantLeila23 send it to the ceo and vp of all your local news channel and other cities too. Give a talk at your local hospital program, give talk at library, give talk at Lemans class I'm very sorry.
As a father of triplets I am going through this situation right now. They are 1 year old. I am a stay at home father and my wife is the breadwinner. I look after them. Thanks CBS news for bringing up this article ❤. God bless
Wish you well brother. My wife is pregnant. She's due in October. I'm excited & nervous. I couldn't imagine doing what you're doing. I'm sure you're a great father. Keep your head up brother..
They need to account for new fathers who are overwhelmed or just don’t want to be bothered. A man staying at home to take care of children full time will either love it or hate it. When free time to hang out with buddies or play video games is gone, some men will feel very depressed. Their time isn’t solely for them anymore. Also, the lack of an extended family, or community, will wear on both parents. This is especially true for women. We weren’t really meant to hide and raise our families isolated in a little corner.
Maybe if people got paid maternity and paternity leave, this wouldn't be as big of a problem. Here is one of the most stressful times in your life, let's cut your financial stability.
Unfortunately a lot of people would abuse this. There has to be a qualification and limits within. Just speaking for myself but I know several women who have had more than one children for financial gain (tax returns, food stamps, subsidized housing, etc) can you imagine raising a child you have not out of love but to use as a paycheck ?
The doctor got it exactly right at the end of the video. Human males experience a decrease in testosterone levels after having a child. This is an evolutionary adaptation to help ensure the survival of the baby. Higher testosterone levels typically mean more aggression, anger, and sometimes risky behaviors. These characteristics are not beneficial to raising a fragile newborn baby. A drop in testosterone levels helps to ensure that males are less aggressive and better suited to providing a safer environment for a child to grow. This, in turn, helps to ensure the survival of our species.
This is very true. When I had my son, the first 9-mo, I had suicidal ideation almost daily. I had never experience depression before. We also had a complicated pregnancy that required emergency operation on my wife; she was an absolute rockstar, but seeing her in pain and all of it resulted me having panic attacks for the first time in my life. We don't talk about how hard parenting - even when everything is going according to plan! - enough. We, men, need to open up more to each other about these kinds of issues, I'm glad he mentioned that our testosterone goes down which is probably the single most important hormonal function of our bodies, because after my son was born, mines plummeted. There's several studies on this and it makes sense why, but it also supports the idea that men can get PPD.
My husband has been extra irritable for at least the last 4 months. My baby is almost 8 months. My husband's testosterone 6 months postpartum was ~120, very low. How do I help him?
As a mom with a 2.5 month old, I sympathize with dads. There are forums for moms to say, "Im in a dark alley with this new baby," but there needs to also be a group for men to say the same things. Hugs to dads. Hang in there.
This is a true statement, I’m on my 2nd kid (a newborn ) and I went from a career job to minimum wage, during my wife’s pregnancy and I was stressing out about how I am going to provide in this economy and now the baby is going to be born so I have to work two jobs at minimum wage to provide just to provide for a family of four until I can get a decent salary to afford living expenses
The American society as well as those in other nations, is very stressful. In many less developed countries, such as some South Pacific islands, people are more relaxed. When babies are born they are welcomed by the whole clan as well as the parents, grandparents and other family members. God loves every human being; let's put our trust in God. God is Love.
Doing those surveys for the fathers is such a good idea!! Expecting our second and I want to make sure my husband is taken care of too. He carries so much on his shoulders for our family.
Fathers are constantly neglected because they’re often told in not so unspoken terms they’re the least important person in the family unit. It’s also a tough time when the babies need their mothers so much early in life and the fathers feel helpless and an immense weight to care for them
Im 29, father of 3 young babies. Energy levels just plummet, drive doesn't seem to be so high. We just put it on the back burner and help out our woman but I'm trying to prioritize sleep more and taking vitamins. Makes me feel old as hell but we gotta do what we gotta do. Huge respect to all new and Old mothers and fathers out there. Dad's, don't get in your head. We got this 💪🏼
She was probably thinking of surrogates (who are technically the birth mother, but necessarily the genetic or social mother). A trend, which unfortunately, is becoming more and more common these days. So this type of language to accommodate that reality is also going to become more common.
These unspoken truths. The struggle is absolutely real. Being a new dad is the definition of suffering in silence. Not to mention having to deal with the logistics and financial costs in a society that is largely unsupportive.
Suck it up men we are called to be strong to lead our wives and children. We don’t have time to fall victim to this depression! Get outside and workout, eat healthy, read, call a friend, go to church. This World Needs Strong Men!
Man i slipped into some darkness when my son was about 4 months and I did drink a lot. Jesus. I mean i guess I feel a little better about it after watching this.
I can relate because when I had my first daughter I was so worried about her I didn't sleep for a whole week. Nothing was wrong with her I was just overly worried.
im 34 with 3 kids , all girls . i feel more happy , mature , man-ly , and responsible . this doesnt apply to everyone . ive always loved kids and the idea of having them .
Same father of 2 girls. I love my babies and have changed for the better. I grew up with a large family and have a great support system around me. I can definitely see this happening to men that don’t have that, or are struggling financially.
The comment I was looking for. America is better off blaming the parents though. I live in a state where parental leave is completely up to the employer...a complete joke
My daughter’s father was so exhausted, he wrote his name and our babies name incorrectly on the birth certificate. It took a very long time to get it corrected. It’s still not correct. The office just fixed our babies name. 😌
It’s all about the fact we have to pay for it all I got three jobs when I found out my wife was pregnant It’s just different I wouldn’t even share all the financial stress with the wife so she could be good and comfortable.
There’s just no satisfaction with men. They want to be married but wish they didn’t…, they want to be husbands but very much misses the bachelor life…, they want to have children and be dads but don’t ever want to deal with the responsibility as parents…, they want to be the sole provider to his family but doesn’t like the fact his wife who’s the mother to his children is not earning a living as he does. No satisfaction at all.
Why does the female host keep bringing up the mother’s issues EVERY time she talks?! That defeats the purpose at the subject at hand… “New Dads & Postpartum Depression”
Dang i agree, but thats because i sitting there watching a kid poop, eat, and sleep all day. For me as a man this was the boring faze. I had all the responsibilities of a human but no iteraction cuz all they want to do is sleep, poop and sleep. Boring.
Theyre sad that other women will never look at them the same way.. They also feel way older and its hard for them to accept their young single life is done.
I was fired many times until I had a baby. I’m a millionaire now. I was determined I would never let down my baby girl and my wife. That baby changed everything. If black fathers were the same then crime and poverty in the black community would disappear
Yeah I don't know how comparable it is to women's postpartum depression but I think if anyone is experiencing depression, it should be taken seriously.
I love that the reporter shared his story about his father in the hospital room. It made the reporter appear human and relatable
This was funny to me 😂❤
Thank you all for covering this story! My nephew took his own life in September of last year, he was 23 and has 2 little babies. My family is heartbroken forever and we have been trying to raise awareness about postpartum depression in men but no one will listen to us, we feel so discouraged the fact that no one wants to cover our story.
Please we would like as a family to tell Lamonte’s story to help other men who silently suffer after having kids.
May someone reach out to me please?
Thank you!
Write a certified letter to CEO and vice president and follow up
Call station phone
Post story on various health websites
@ I have done all those things except write a letter…
Now who am I writing it to I live in Ohio?
@ thanks for the info
@ServantLeila23 send it to the ceo and vp of all your local news channel and other cities too.
Give a talk at your local hospital program, give talk at library, give talk at Lemans class
I'm very sorry.
@ServantLeila23 you can always ask me
As a father of triplets I am going through this situation right now. They are 1 year old. I am a stay at home father and my wife is the breadwinner. I look after them. Thanks CBS news for bringing up this article ❤. God bless
Man! Triplets! Lots of prayers for you! We have twins, and two is exhausting. But three?! You are a rockstar!!
That's a ton of hard work. Be kind and patient with yourself, too. I tip my hat to you. You got this.
Do you get help. This is overwhelming and possibly dangerous. Do you even sleep?
Hang in there king! It's a beautiful time and a difficult one. It does get easier with time as they get older.
Wish you well brother. My wife is pregnant. She's due in October. I'm excited & nervous. I couldn't imagine doing what you're doing. I'm sure you're a great father. Keep your head up brother..
They need to account for new fathers who are overwhelmed or just don’t want to be bothered. A man staying at home to take care of children full time will either love it or hate it. When free time to hang out with buddies or play video games is gone, some men will feel very depressed. Their time isn’t solely for them anymore. Also, the lack of an extended family, or community, will wear on both parents. This is especially true for women. We weren’t really meant to hide and raise our families isolated in a little corner.
Pray for all new families!
I have two little ones and love them so much but we definitely both experienced this!!
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@@762Queen 🙏🏽
Maybe if people got paid maternity and paternity leave, this wouldn't be as big of a problem. Here is one of the most stressful times in your life, let's cut your financial stability.
Unfortunately a lot of people would abuse this. There has to be a qualification and limits within. Just speaking for myself but I know several women who have had more than one children for financial gain (tax returns, food stamps, subsidized housing, etc) can you imagine raising a child you have not out of love but to use as a paycheck ?
The doctor got it exactly right at the end of the video. Human males experience a decrease in testosterone levels after having a child. This is an evolutionary adaptation to help ensure the survival of the baby. Higher testosterone levels typically mean more aggression, anger, and sometimes risky behaviors. These characteristics are not beneficial to raising a fragile newborn baby. A drop in testosterone levels helps to ensure that males are less aggressive and better suited to providing a safer environment for a child to grow. This, in turn, helps to ensure the survival of our species.
Beautiful!
This is very true. When I had my son, the first 9-mo, I had suicidal ideation almost daily. I had never experience depression before. We also had a complicated pregnancy that required emergency operation on my wife; she was an absolute rockstar, but seeing her in pain and all of it resulted me having panic attacks for the first time in my life.
We don't talk about how hard parenting - even when everything is going according to plan! - enough. We, men, need to open up more to each other about these kinds of issues,
I'm glad he mentioned that our testosterone goes down which is probably the single most important hormonal function of our bodies, because after my son was born, mines plummeted. There's several studies on this and it makes sense why, but it also supports the idea that men can get PPD.
My husband has been extra irritable for at least the last 4 months. My baby is almost 8 months. My husband's testosterone 6 months postpartum was ~120, very low. How do I help him?
I think raising children wo support from grandparents and community aunties etc means more stress for new parents!
Having children is a big thing- people talk and not realizing that when the baby is here the mind and emotions go off the charts
As a mom with a 2.5 month old, I sympathize with dads. There are forums for moms to say, "Im in a dark alley with this new baby," but there needs to also be a group for men to say the same things. Hugs to dads. Hang in there.
This is a true statement, I’m on my 2nd kid (a newborn ) and I went from a career job to minimum wage, during my wife’s pregnancy and I was stressing out about how I am going to provide in this economy and now the baby is going to be born so I have to work two jobs at minimum wage to provide just to provide for a family of four until I can get a decent salary to afford living expenses
The American society as well as those in other nations, is very stressful. In many less developed countries, such as some South Pacific islands, people are more relaxed. When babies are born they are welcomed by the whole clan as well as the parents, grandparents and other family members. God loves every human being; let's put our trust in God. God is Love.
Doing those surveys for the fathers is such a good idea!! Expecting our second and I want to make sure my husband is taken care of too. He carries so much on his shoulders for our family.
Fathers are constantly neglected because they’re often told in not so unspoken terms they’re the least important person in the family unit. It’s also a tough time when the babies need their mothers so much early in life and the fathers feel helpless and an immense weight to care for them
Im 29, father of 3 young babies. Energy levels just plummet, drive doesn't seem to be so high. We just put it on the back burner and help out our woman but I'm trying to prioritize sleep more and taking vitamins. Makes me feel old as hell but we gotta do what we gotta do. Huge respect to all new and Old mothers and fathers out there. Dad's, don't get in your head. We got this 💪🏼
Yea the guy anchor is cool. He’s a pro and relatable. Keep em around
I Believe That...
This is a good topic! We do not get enough paid maternity and paternity leave here in the US.
Becoming a parent, itself can be difficult. But, I believe all these problems are there before and becoming a parent just makes it overwhelming.
Paternal health is not something that is widely talked about so I’m very happy that this doctor is trying to normalize this discussion
"the mother or the person that had the child..." umm who else can "have" the child? I assume she's meaning give birth
She just had to get the woke points in. 😒
She was probably thinking of surrogates (who are technically the birth mother, but necessarily the genetic or social mother). A trend, which unfortunately, is becoming more and more common these days. So this type of language to accommodate that reality is also going to become more common.
These unspoken truths. The struggle is absolutely real. Being a new dad is the definition of suffering in silence. Not to mention having to deal with the logistics and financial costs in a society that is largely unsupportive.
Suck it up men we are called to be strong to lead our wives and children. We don’t have time to fall victim to this depression! Get outside and workout, eat healthy, read, call a friend, go to church. This World Needs Strong Men!
News guy just got a chance to talk about his Trauma from his dad.
Man i slipped into some darkness when my son was about 4 months and I did drink a lot.
Jesus.
I mean i guess I feel a little better about it after watching this.
I can relate because when I had my first daughter I was so worried about her I didn't sleep for a whole week. Nothing was wrong with her I was just overly worried.
Will they finally start believing those women who say this? Or just blame her for not being “motherly”. wtf that means.
This article is not about women, ma’am. Thanks!
im 34 with 3 kids , all girls . i feel more happy , mature , man-ly , and responsible . this doesnt apply to everyone . ive always loved kids and the idea of having them .
Same father of 2 girls. I love my babies and have changed for the better. I grew up with a large family and have a great support system around me. I can definitely see this happening to men that don’t have that, or are struggling financially.
@marcoz2470 agreed. god bless you and your family !
As a twin dad, this reality is extremely clear to me. 😢
How does this compare with countries with better parental leave policies?
The comment I was looking for. America is better off blaming the parents though. I live in a state where parental leave is completely up to the employer...a complete joke
Wow, what doctor allows anyone to smoke in a delivery room? Holy crap, that was interesting!
did he just say "NOW they're encouraging" skin-to-skin contact? what is wrong with people? (lots of degrees floating around but no common sense)
My daughter’s father was so exhausted, he wrote his name and our babies name incorrectly on the birth certificate.
It took a very long time to get it corrected. It’s still not correct. The office just fixed our babies name. 😌
Seriously these fathers need to keep themselves busy with other things and go outdoor more, no more depression guaranteed!
It’s all about the fact we have to pay for it all
I got three jobs when I found out my wife was pregnant
It’s just different
I wouldn’t even share all the financial stress with the wife so she could be good and comfortable.
There’s just no satisfaction with men. They want to be married but wish they didn’t…, they want to be husbands but very much misses the bachelor life…, they want to have children and be dads but don’t ever want to deal with the responsibility as parents…, they want to be the sole provider to his family but doesn’t like the fact his wife who’s the mother to his children is not earning a living as he does. No satisfaction at all.
Why does the female host keep bringing up the mother’s issues EVERY time she talks?! That defeats the purpose at the subject at hand… “New Dads & Postpartum Depression”
Dang i agree, but thats because i sitting there watching a kid poop, eat, and sleep all day. For me as a man this was the boring faze. I had all the responsibilities of a human but no iteraction cuz all they want to do is sleep, poop and sleep. Boring.
Theyre sad that other women will never look at them the same way.. They also feel way older and its hard for them to accept their young single life is done.
Pretty blanket and generalized statement. How do you know how other women will look at a man who is a father?
I had no idea men were people
Now that men have it maybe they will believe women who have it.
It’s because they are big babies themselves and no longer get all the attention 🙄
I was fired many times until I had a baby. I’m a millionaire now. I was determined I would never let down my baby girl and my wife. That baby changed everything. If black fathers were the same then crime and poverty in the black community would disappear
When you get a divorce, you might feel a bit small.
Absurd. Im glad im childfree.
Don’t like seeing this news anchor anymore- bye!
Oh please. Let’s not compare this to women’s postpartum depression.
Yeah I don't know how comparable it is to women's postpartum depression but I think if anyone is experiencing depression, it should be taken seriously.
Wtf is this push to consider mens "pregnancy symptoms"?? In the news lately. Theyre not the ones being pregnant. Everyday im glad to be childfree.
Thank you