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Amit ji thought process matches mine. But always afraid to say these things in public. Now he put everything openly and with lots of experience and examples. Kudos
Some girls don't want marriage..ever. Not because they want a career (I don't think women who don't want marriage are career oriented. In fact getting married means you need to earn more to contribute to family. Without marriage you just need some money to support yourself). I know women who were pressurised to get married in 20s and now their life is miserable. And there are women in their 40s who never married and still feel that marriage would have ruined their life. The truth is some women NEVER want marriage and the society should not try to convince them to get married.
Affter reading lot of comments i realized main issue is in laws and husband we can say society we treat housewife as full time maid and sex toy no respect Who else agree with me 🙋♀️🙋
Everyone will be agree on this it is far far far better to be single then merriage now a days at the age of 24 I don't want kids and in laws ruined my life currently I am 20 years old and mummy papa forcing me to get married I am middle of my graduation how can I concentrate on my academic s I live in a small town perents bring so cold ristedar with the groom to see me it's so frustrating boy side relatives say why women should study and have job what will she do with those stuff women only born to make kids I cancelled the proposal and named a a bad daughter of my perents only expects form women to sacrifice everything and blame women for everything 😑😑😑
Bach gaye agar shadi ki hoti to girl child ka abortions karvane padte job chhodni padti sab ki alag alag chai sabzi garam roti sab k khane k time alag alag.
26-30 is the best time for girls to get married. Men, 27-32. And don't be greedy about a man's salary or girl's beauty. A man earning 50k at 25 can earn 3L by 35, similarly a hot girl at 25 can become an overweight aunty by 35. Choose a good, decent person as a partner and your life will be a beautiful adventure that you experience together
@@KittyMeoow-t1z because no decent girl would want to marry at 22-25 and instead want to build their careers. And I am from iim c, all my peer married girls that were 27+ (also from top tire b schools) they earn in crs today. No body I know has married a 22 yr old. Why marry a jobless 22 yr old when high earning couples can earn in crs together and life a great life.
Please make one for boys also. Even they are waiting till 32 and then still expecting slim trim beautiful girls who look 22 and not those who look 27 28. Suddenly they are 34 and all girls have vanished.
Men can stay alone in their solitude or good company of friends but the pressure of marriage comes from women when they start getting old. But its not worthy to marry women above 30 as they come with lot of issues and past insecurities/traumas that men have to deal with.
@@PS-oy1el 20-28 ki age mein kaun bacchi hoti hai? U should marry someone that brings lot of baggage to u, heal her, so that she can dump u for someone else.
Huge comment, please read the whole thing before judging: This is actually a very good topic, sir. As a woman, I would say, us girls were taught "feminism" in a very absurd way, most of it was centred around "we have to be like boys", and most girls completely misinterpreted the message. So, a lot of modern women suddenly adopted the bad qualities that men have, like binge drinking, drugs, sleeping around, these have become a normal thing in the last decade, in the name of empowerment. Then they got into careers in IT, PR, etc, bought tons of fashion items, latest phones etc, went to parties in Goa or whatever, fool around with as many men as possible for years, probably got some STDs some of which never go away, and then when they're 28/29, they started to panic, and desperately opened profiles in these matrimony sites, trying to bag some dude and "settle" with them. That whole bunch of matrimony websites has become a cesspool of rejects, only a minority are okay enough. And then the sudden change from party hard YOLO lifestyle to being responsible for another living breathing human(s) ends up being a shock, and now both are dissatisfied in the union, all that income in dollars pounds, honeymoon in Europe/Maldives etc, isn't helping. Then women have a limited bio clock, now you gotta get treatment to somehow have a child of your own, thanks to regular cigarettes, constant consumption of outside food, and alcohol destroying the ovaries and hormones, men's low sperm count and quality because same as former, then you end up having a kid at 39/40 years of age, after lakhs spent. Lo and behold, this is the age when the lifestyle that one led in their 20s, hits them, chronic pain, no libido, diabetes, hypertension, thyroid issues, and on top of that a toddler that you have to manage, leading to worse health issues. And if you have old and aging parents with you, you're done, more stress and frustration. It's like there is no middle ground for women. Especially women who actually want something from life and not the YOLO binging types. Either you have to be a stay at home mom for your kid or you have elders who doesn't want you to work, so you become a subservient hollow shell of a person to "keep the peace", or, women are going berserk to rebel the former and ends up not marrying, or frustrated in a marriage. Women working in MNCs and who have kids, are one of the most depressed, frustrated women I've seen. Also, if a woman marries and is not employed somewhere, somehow the in laws feel threatened if she wants to start working and have an identity for herself, ab to shaadi e ho gaya, kya career kya job; women feel threatened by such people too and postpone their marriage, that hey if I work, at least I’ll have a life outside the random strangers I’m supposed to live with(if living with in laws is the case). And there are some men who are also threatened by women who are smarter in academics or life, they want someone who’s more like a human pet who they can have sex with occasionally. Add to that, many husbands happen to be completely inept morons who cannot cook, cannot clean up, doesn't do an ounce of household chores; so a woman has to mother her kid(s), mother her manchild husband, look after the house, and work? When couples have a son, they think all the work will be done by the hypothetical future bahu, and they teach the son nothing, and the son ends up being a socially inept, 30 something groom because of the maggi eating, cigarettes and daaru lifestyle he led in his hostel and PG staying days. It's insanity! Personally, I believe for those that want to raise children, its better to have a kid earlier, take a gap of few years, and then resume the career, that should be the mainstream thing, and when something is mainstream, the shaming and mocking automatically disappears. The grandparents will be strong enough to deal with a toddler and you can study and get in an institute, and by the time you're 40, one can have a full time career maybe even a PhD or MD too, plus have a teen by your side, who can at least look after themselves in the basic sense, if taught well. But do we have the maturity or wisdom to deal with such serious decisions at such an early age, after being told by parents to not talk to the opposite sex throughout your school life, because you'll fail in your exams if you talk to boys/girls? Do our parents have such maturity and emotional intelligence to upgrade themselves with new thoughts and ideas? I doubt it. Generation upon generations of mistakes happening and being carried forward. I wish I got these wisdom in school life, but even our parents didn't have much awareness back then. Better late then never I guess.
One cannot solely blame it to late marraige. So people should also have mindfulness, disciple and values in one's life and stop following the west blindly. West is in a much deeper mess when it comes social/relations/family cohision.
@@KIIXI Its hilarious and tragic to see that there are so many good things about the West that we can emulate, but a lot of the youth choose the bad stuff.
@@prasadbhadane608 I am a late 90s born, and I daresay it's a big number of our age demographic, 1992-2002 born folks, who are into uncontrolled drinking, smoking, casual physical stuff. There are people who are not into these, but they're lesser in number, and those that are coming from suburbs and villages, who got in a college in the cities, lose their control more, because it's a culture shock for them. Talking about both men and women here.
@ShohiniSengupta I live in north America or yhaan popular joke hau among men , ki jo ladkian bda bhao khaati hai while dating they end up living alone with cats at home,
My parents did exactly that. They would scare away any boys who tried to talk to us. This was in the 80s and 90s, when calls would come on the family landline phone - no smart phones, no dating apps. I would request my parents from the time I was 18, that I was keen to get married, and they would just make fun of me and laugh at me. They never bothered to find me anyone. By the time I was 26 and they started looking, they realised that they were not able to find anyone in our community who was suitable - because those who could match our education and lifestyle had very high expectations, and the others - who showed interest - they did not match up. It was just sad. Na humko choose karne diya, na parents khud dhoondh paye dhang ke bande ko. I can completely agree with you about this.
@@indianguy119 It is sad, dude. Poor match. I've been miserable. Felt trapped, and tried to leave. Still struggling. Since there are kids involved, he found it easier to bully me to stay with him saying he would ensure I couldn't get the kids in case I left him. Is a mess. If I could do it differently, I'd rather have stayed single than be trapped in such a situation. Regret every day.
Read your comments....sorry to hear about your current situation....may your situation improve somehow.....can I ask at what age did you get married ? Also, if parents found the boy, that too quite late, how they ended up finding the wrong person?
Marriage Phobia is the most crucial phenomenon in today’s youth. People are confused about careers and getting into a marriage set up is turning out to be scary . Request you to highlight this issue and your thoughts on the same sir.
@@amansharma-hg He is talking about women who is trying for competitive exams for 5 years and willing to give 5 more years. If career is paramount , why settle for marriage then? Will those women value relationship? Will those women take care of husband if he gets I'll and that woman has job assignments to fulfill? Make your perspective life balanced. He is clearly saying if u r not interested in marriage , don't do. Where is the force? But if u will say a woman who wants to marry that go & have a career first then have relation like another uncle , how is it justified ?? Also, haven't you heard of Jyoti maurya case?? Didn't his husband educated her?? Lakhs of men in India educating their wife with their resources. Broaden your horizon.
He conveyed so well. I am 38, still single because I even used to feel my father will find the right family and the guy for me. Strange how he can reflect the same what I experienced.
U can hav kid through surrogacy if u want n can afford. N if not that u can adopt as well. But I will say b finally independent n try to find man for u for marriage. There r many unmarried men of ur age. N yaar if u feel OK single ,then it's too hard but that should b ur choise. I don't think it's too late that u loose all hopes but finding right partner is difficult n u will hav to invest ur time n energy. N stay safe n happy sister❤. Life is to live n happiness is the choise that we make by taking small small steps in that direction.
I accept this is an issue Sir and thank you for raising this topic.....But I dont agree to your point ki ladki ki perfect age 24 hoti hai shaadi ke liye......I think insan ko shaadi tab karni chahiye jab woh mentally prepared ho... Unko pata hona chahiye ki shaadi ke baad ke activities kya hote hai jese khana banana, in laws ke sath rehna, sex life, job life, ghar ke kaam, etc....Half of the generation getting married today are not at all prepared or misguided about marriage.....Isiliye divorce rates zyada ho rahe hai.....24 age me ladki bahut hi zyada immature hoti hai....Same with ladka.....Immaturity se shaadi nahi chal sakti....Aur maturity tab badhti hai jab woh kamana seekhe aur zimmedariya khudpe lena seekhe....There is no perfect age for marriage....It all depends on how well prepared you are for marriage and it's activities later on....Simple as that...
I completely agree that people should marry early in life, lets say at the age of around 25 because a lot of time, the bachelor life gets wasted in thinking about opposite sex, attractions, lust, loneliness, etc. If you get married early then you can focus/channelize more of your energy in something productive.
I don't support late marriage but one of the reasons of girls want late marriage is the fear of loosing career forever after marriage... I see many cases in my locality where in laws don't support their daughter in laws's career.. They don't cooperate with her in new born care.. Please guide girls in convincing in laws and husbands to have career after marriage
This is a bad argument. A girl doesn't need to marry the family with bad in-laws. Marriage is the biggest decision of life. Boys and Girls should do their due diligence before finalizing and ensure basics are all in place before marrying. And delayed marriage is full of issues. The earlier the better
I have seen early marriages fading away and that biological clock nonsense is something I don't get because when our grandparents used to have 8-10 children they obviously reached till their 40's till they delivered their 10th and God knows how many of them were miscarriages. So late marriages are good for girls, they let you stand on your own and be conscious of what is coming. Early marriages are only beneficial to the in-laws and to the society because young & naive minds are easy to manipulate.
@@manasi92 @manasi92 1. Don't apply patterns of your parents to yourself, it is a very different world from theirs. Surely not your grandparents. Don't even apply the patterns of your friends to yourself. Each person would respond to the same problem differently and a marriage is two people in the game so even more different. 2. Both people getting into marriage should talk out some important details. They should be able to respect each other’s approach towards life on key issues (not necessarily have the same approach, sometimes having a different approach would be better), feel stability in it, should be able to answer why they are marrying (at least to themselves, “everyone does it” is not good enough any more), hopefully should be able to be a team. 3. Basically both should be mature. Physical maturity is there even at 16. Mental maturity may not be there even at 50. No one can manipulate a mentally mature person, not parents, surely not the society. 4. This will help the person decide about their own and their partner's approach to premarital sex of various kinds: paid, casual, promiscuous, short-term relationship (after 3rd-4th date), long-term relationship (doing it after an year or so) or waiting till marriage. Please note that there is no judgement here, but you PERSONALLY may be judgmental or have tolerance thresholds for each one of them. If one is deciding not to marry till 30, how long should one avoid premarital sex and why? What conditions are ok to have premarital sex? If premarital sex is a complete no-no, for whatever reasons then one needs to check its possible effects on mental and sexual health. What is your tolerance for masturbation, watching porn, attending live-shows and toys? What about being in porn, involuntary or voluntary? These are new questions which most of our parents didn’t have to deal with. Add experimental or cursory same-sex sexuality, group-sexuality to the mix and have your mind blown. 5. How much reciprocation is expected from the would-be partner towards items in point 4? You think you expect a virgin but you yourself engage in promiscuous sex, then you are simply sick. You find it ok to look at group sex porn, but can’t tolerate that your partner uses sex-toys then get a good reason to explain your choices. Consider a girl was filmed nude by her BF and pictures put online without her knowledge. Would you, as a boy, marry such a girl? What if it was “worse”, say, a video involving all kinds of active engagement from the girl? There is so much to unpack for marriages but as one delays marriages, one needs to answer questions about sex and expected reciprocation. Sex is the elephant in the room with regards to marriages. Earlier when people used to get married around 14-16, sex was dealt with automatically. By the time they were 25, almost everyone had been there, done that, had a few kids as well. Marriage was to provide morality to sex and children were automatic byproducts. During the sixties, middle class generated a new paradigm of delayed marriages (by age 24-25 for boys 22-23 for girls). Delayed sex was assumed and mostly everyone in the middle class was compliant as well. If you couldn’t control your urges till 24-25, you were not a worthy human being. Note that this delayed sex significantly. Even masturbation was a taboo, so one was simply expected to forget sexuality and focus on building careers. Then get married and have children. Today things are different. The new generation doesn’t have the same broken “moral” compass. So alt-sex needs to be addressed. Kids are running confused and engaging in activities which they regret later, or simply are incapable of regretting. Nevertheless there are consequences like divorce, broken marriages, imbalance in marriages etc etc. In this I am not even conceptualizing in-laws as they are becoming more and more irrelevant, this is happening at the level of the partners itself.
@@manasi92 your grandparents doesn't eat pizza burger coca cola carbonated drinks toxic synthetic colour foods. They directly eat from their farms that's why they are healthy and don't have health complications.
It reminds me of an incident that happened 19 years ago. When I met my mother in the kitchen on my 22nd birthday, she asked me how old I am today. I replied that I'm 22. She told me that if i was a girl she would've had to get me married off by now. She added that nobody can keep girls for long at their parents houses. Later on in the day, when i slept and woke up in the afternoon my father too was discussing with my mother how old I am. She told him that im 22 and she would've had to search for a son in law had i been a female. My father replied to her that had i been a girl he wouldve got me married off once i reached the age of 20 itself!!! I was wondering if my parents being so highly educated had such stone age thoughts😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮
It's actually not just the women who are demanding big money guys...even the boy and his family wants a girl who has status, very well educated, looks like a model etc, these are the demands of most families in india. It's not like women Don't look towards marriage, they do but they are mostly fed up of the demands.
Some girls don't want marriage..ever. Not because they want a career (I don't think women who don't want marriage are career oriented. In fact getting married means you need to earn more to contribute to family. Without marriage you just need some money to support yourself). I know women who were pressurised to get married in 20s and now their life is miserable. And there are women in their 40s who never married and still feel that marriage would have ruined their life. The truth is some women NEVER want marriage and the society should not try to convince them to get married.
Bengal have deeper version of this problem. Being a Bengali mid40s man myself, and being on the other side of this story, I nowadays recommend all younger men to not marry a Bengali girl in any circumstance. For Bengali girls, I strongly recommend to have a free and independent life living with their parents and friends.
23-24 years mai duniya ka khud ka kuch pata hi kanha hota hai. Iss age mai to self discovery ki shuruat hoti hai. Jab khud ka hi nahi pata to shaadi phir aise hi hoti hai shakal dekh lo paise dekh lo community dekh lo. Sir your whole argument rests on the theory that the purpose of life is either getting a very high paying job or producing kids. True that some people do not gain wisdom with any amount of time, but pehle hi ghar grihasti mai uljhakar darwaaze kaise band kar sakte hain. I have also observed ki jab ladkiyan financially dependent hoti hain apne husband par to self confidence lose karti hain. Duniya se thoda cut off hoti hain ( not physically).i would prefer east facing plot ki jagah shaadi barabari mai ho, ladka ladki ke andar samjh ho ki dekhna kya chahiye ek life partner mai, what truly matters.
@@SanghPathVery true.....This is only possible if you don't have any emotions and you just want to get married for the sake of it...I have a friend whose cousin got married at the age of 25-26 and is living an unhappy life because her mind was set on superficial things and that was because she didn't have the understanding of what marriage really is.
Nowadays it's difficult to find a suitable boy for girls rather than boys as they are getting married at right age. Girls have become too independent n looking for a perfect life which is very rare in reality.
What make this comment special, is it comes from a girl itself. There is saying that goes like "when boy start making money, he becomes responsible, when girl start making money she becomes independent". Also with the onset of social media, girls only see the top 1% of luxury and top men, and desire the same. It takes them to hit age 30 to realise they have been living a fantasy world. Boys also need to catchup and learn cooking and cleaning and not just boss around.
@@A_Roasted_ChocolateI think what she meant was girls tend to have too high/unrealistic standards if they are doing well career/money wise. For ex. If girl worked has become say 29-30 years old but makes 1 Lakh per month her expectation will also be guy earning 1.5 lakh plus good looks body handsome wagera ( already a small percentage that fit the criteria ) and those men who fit that criteria usually go for a younger girl for marriage with lesser income than them but its cool for the man. Basically saying trying to find the perfect fit and not cashing out at the right time makes it even worse for career women. I personally know someone a women my school senior 5 yrs who went to best engineering college worked 2 years then went to IIM C got a big 6 figure salary and still hasn't married is in her mid 30s idk now she finds options less and doesn't want to settle. But the more she delay more worse it gets. She became victim of her own success.
Yeh to meri kahani hai sir....i m an eye surgeon/ retina specialist..i became something as per my wish...got married at 32 n now have a baby of a year old....n at present i m surrounded by bunches of responsibilities & carrier is d least priority for me.....mujhe 25 saal ki umar me shadi kar leni chahiye thi
Don’t give up. Work part time even it is for free to keep your skills up. When child is 3-4 years old, you go back to work. I know several female doctors who stayed home 5-10 years after marriage and went back to work. It was difficult to restart, but they did it . Doctors work till 69-65 years, don’t be disheartened
Ma'am, you are not being grateful for what all achieved inspite of late marriage... Atleast you won't regret not trying. We belittle our achievements.. not a good thing.
I am from middle class family. My age is 28 earning only 25k. Parents are saying we will do marriage after 29 or 30. My both sisters are married at 24. As 2 elder sisters marriages expenses are still pending and my dad is a driver. Its very hard to manage in this salary and there are some boys whose age is above 35 earning in lakhs and still not married.
If you want to raise income and start your own family then first thing you have to do is just leave your family’s expenses as that is. Invest in yourself, gain some skills like from udemy, whitehat etc. Because family responsibilities means you would be stuck forever. You have to take decision for minimal spending on your current family(mom, dad& sis) to start your own family(with wife to be) and career. Yes this is harsh but truth. If you will not stand by your side then no one will ever do. If you will never say no then they will never say no for your givings.
You are like a father I never had (in a good way). Bombarding with ultimate gyaan.. and at times feeling like a tight slap on the face giving ultimate realization...appreciate it.. Keep motivating 😌🙏
Sir if a girl gets married at 24, then her in laws should be as much supportive as her own parents, which is a very rare case. I have seen girls around me getting married at 23 24 but they couldn't make their career because their in-laws didn't support them. They forced them to have a baby. Now they are mothers and have lost interest in career making. So basically they have become housewives. What about them sir? There too had ambitions but now all gone to garbage. One of my bhabhi got married at 25 but is suffering from domestic violence. Also there is my cousin sister who got married at 30 but is living a happy life. Marriage demands greater sacrifice from a girl as compared to a boy. So marriage between 26 to 29 is not too late perhaps. What matters is when you are ready to get married and take responsibility.
O didi - this is a generalized opinion! Girls should be married by the time they turn 18-20. A career can wait for a woman. Men, being the prime providers, should support their woman in developing a career - if she wants! 90% girls don't want a career - they just want to be in limelight by doing a job for namesake!! So that they could throw their weight around that they once worked and are better than those who didn't work! Advice is good! Marriage should happen at the time with understanding - if a girl is ambitious, she needs to be supported. Ek courier company mein receptionist ka kaam karney waaliyan bhi aajkal CEO dhoondti fir rahi hai, that is wrong! One of my cousin committed suicide as his wife was very cruel towards him and his family. And now that b!tch of a woman, is roaming free, probably sleeping with someone else! One of my friend is undergoing fake cases of dowry and harassment, as the girl did not want to earn, work or contribute - she just wanted to sit and enjoy the life! Men sacrifice as much as women do in a marriage - it is not that only women sacrifice. Get ready for your marriage before 25, if you wish to die happy! Else keep watching social media middle age single aunties preaching advices on how to be happy in relationship!
Sir, one small issue is if girl is not working before marriage, she will be treated as a maid after marriage. In my case I was working and earning well still in laws wanted me to leave job and become a maid at home. If I would have been jobless, they would have destroyed my life more.
In this case, you have to make your partner understand this situation, you can have maid for some stuff. And yes it's tough to be in joint family for a women. Watch other videos of sirji on this.
Exactly this. For some weird reason, in laws and sometimes even the husband feel threatened by women who have a life outside the marriage, in the form of a job or business. And these same folks have the audacity, the bloody audacity to complain about lack of money and that so and so is buying this buying that, that working women are too “out of control “, ha if you had one more earning member, you would have some cash inflow too, instead of gossiping about your cousins or neighbors, now you complaining.
They have only considered one POV in this video. I.E age to give child birth after finding a decent guy. But ignored all other facts that guy also wants matured girl these days who can share his burden both personally and professionally. Girls ambition and profession. Being india a patriarchal society all the responsibilities are on girls. And trust me they have started making girls independent but has not taught their son to live with an independent girl. In India a professional education ends at the age of 24. Guys can always get married later in 28-29 but expects girl to do this at 24. I can understand the fertility age but start these things after 26 is way better than an being an immature mom. The author has said grands parents can take after the kid but ignored the fact that not all grandparents live with their son if they work in IT, Finance or corporate sector in big cities. It is possible only in case of housewife with son living with them. And in this case all the burden falls on girl. I have seen housewife also who is living in cities with her husband is struggling to raise a kid when she is young.
Yes sir you are doing a great job✌️ you were totally right on the content that parents misguide their girl child ki pehle kuc ban jao fir rishto ki line lg jaygi but aisa hai nhi.In my case i was doing preparation for govt exams then there was pressure to earn also i got into an IIT for PhD where i met my soulmate there when i was 26.but my parents wasted my 2.5year to agree on my marriage with that person.finally i got married at 29 that too against my father's will jaise taise bus wo aa gye shadi mei.now i m happily married with my husband but yes i regret the time which i wasted to convince my father.my husband is 4year younger than me which u told in your video is a rare case in india.
Now listen the harsh truth.. I had my first job CTC 4.5 and nobody wanted to marry a girl having CTC this low LOL... My friend got married at 24 and left job at 26 because she could not handle both family and job.... I have seen my peers who left the job for child could not return because there was an experience gap... Best age is after 26, start searching.. settle down when found good match. Less age means less maturity. The girl who just got out of college at 23 takes some time to learn some life necessity skills. Before that you are just studying... And now at 24 you are searching for a boy . Kaise karegi manage wo life. Shaadi ka matlab it is not that just get married. It brings responsibility.
First days nobody know anything. First day job me mujhe bhi kuch nhi aata tha but after taking responsibilities in job now I know everything about my job. That's how life is. You don't know anything first daybut with time you learn everything. If she can't handle marriage and job at 24 then forget balancing both at 34. Period. Getting married at 24 is anytime better than marrying at 34.
@@careermining8404 might be working for you. Even a 14 yrs old learn to manage her home and school if parents are having any illness. Or having some other issues at home. They will have some difficulty initially but they learn to manage. That is not a norm. That is what life has unexpectedly given and people have to learn to live with it. But just don't make someone enter early into something which we should come normally with time.
Men and their families want girls who are young, whose parents are well settled, can do proper shadi ka kharcha, give their daughter lots of gifts and preferably the only child 😢. No man wants a woman on whom her whole family depends financially, even for basic things like roti, kapda, makan. Such girls who take care of their family as the beta of the house often end up all alone only because her family couldn't afford to get her married 😢 this is also true sir.
Totally agree sir... Me being working women married a bit late but well settled having baby boy... But ur thoughts are actually correct but just stress on one more point if gir has to marry at 24 -25 full support from parents and inlaws is must ... I have seen many of my friends suffering.. Luckily my parents and husband are supportive... Being married late what I feel ia getting married bit early and having child with full family support helps everyone
Hi everyone... I passed btech at 21. Then i started doing a job .....at 24 i got married to a guy who was 28 and well settled. I still continued my job and career with his support . At 27 i had a kid....i was energetic to raise my kid...still i was continuing my job. Today i am 29 ....i had all that energey to continue in my career and excel Happy with my husband and kid....i have beautiful memories ❤ One good thing is since i married at 24 i got a very good matches...
Late means how late..?? And what is the guarantee that late marriages would last. There is no guarantee in anything but don't generalise bad things about on time (not early) marriages
@aryansingh-zc8wb you have answered yourself. It proves that by nature, every stage has its right time, and we should not challenge nature. Thank you..!!🙏
Mazedar baat yeh hai agar app 22 27 ki age main shadi karoge to pachhatawa hoga yrr aur accha mil skta tha. Lekin 28 35 ki age main shadi karoge to bekar ladka bhi accha lagega ki chalo koi mila to .😂😂. Jisko dimag ana hota hai usko 22 24 ki age main ajata hai agr nahi aya fir usko kabhi dimag nahi ata
Any marriage can turn out to be bad. Problem is people don't clear their expectations before marriage. They lie. Marriages cannot be based on lies. You married for money, good looks, social status or beauty then it won't stick. Only love can sustain any marriage. Before marriage, people give too much importance to get each other impressed but once they are together, they don't put efforts. This wrong and leading to bad marriages. So, yeah problem is not age but compatibility and expectations
Anxiety levels and insecurities of our generation is so high , no matter how much portray ourselves as cool and enjoying life , but truth is our generation is fearful of taking decisions , taking responsibilities , thats why they try to delay responsibility as much as possible and thats lead to late marriages
Absolutely Right - spot on ! I am a NRI have lived all of my life outside India - [UAE, Oman, New Zealand & Australia ] I can confirm this is the situation and state of confusion among many Desi's living outside.
I became a group A officer at age 25 but still waited another 6 years to get married. Now I regret it . having children at 33 and 35 years of age is difficult. Should have married and had children while I was in late 20s
True that, similar situation, sir is right, my 3 cousin sisters, all above 32 years are still struggling to find a match for marriage. Initially they did reject lot of boys due to some silly interests . Their parents were also high headed that time like their daughters can get any boy so why to settle for less. Har ek rishtey mein koi na koi problem dhundte rehte the. Ssly feel very sad for the girls !
Jaldi Saadi Karo phir divorce ho jate hi.kitne logo ko dekha ki jaldi Saadi krke paresaan ho gye hi.bacche maid BN KR rh gye hi.divorce ho gye ki bore ho gye mooh marte hi 10 jgh do do biwi rakhe hi.phir khte hi ki rahna ho raho n rhna n raho. jitna saath raho fight hi hoti rhti hi n chain hi n sukun.
मेरे नेबर है उन्होंने ने बेटी की शादी करदी थी २२ में क्युकी उनकी वाइफ nhi थी तब सब बहुत तारीफ करते थे कॉलोनी वाले की आपने बहुत अच्छा किया बिना मां की बेटी को घर पे बैठा के नही रखते अच्छा किया की जिम्मेदारी से मुक्त हो गए। ओर 28की उम्र में डाइवोर्स होगा कर उसकी 2बिटिया थी ससुराल वालो को बेटा चाइए था तो रोज husband उसे बुरी trh पिटता था अब वो अंकल अपनी बेटी को आगे की पढ़ाई करवा रहे है ताकि वो अपने पैर पे खड़ी हो जाए 😢😢
I'm 37, well settled in life.. I delayed my marriage as i wanted to buy home, car, good position in career, jewels, bank balance. .. now after achieving all my thoughts n dreams, ll marry this year.. so i don't think age should be 24..
I think late marriage is better than bad marriage. Its not just about numbers you have to know what you want in life I think when I was 26 I was too naive to understand about relationships but now when I am 30 I learnt a lot about relationships and I pretty much know what I don't want from a person so its all about perspective
I have heard this earlier from you Mr Sangwan but apart from this topic, I agree with you. Girl should marry after getting exposure of 2-3 years in market so that a girl learns value of money.
Firstly a girl should learn to take charge of her life .18-25yrs should be dedicated to career , 1) From 24-27yrs time start your partner search .2)Choose a city , state or country to settle down before you start the partner search .3) Based on your tradition, culture, qualification and Age create a profile that fits in majority of choices , tastes ,hobbies 4)food and habit choices are also mandatory like vegetarian, non-vegetarian, drinking , smoking . 5)Make sure to keep age gap not more than 5yrs between you and partner .6)Be careful when you are making career choices so that it does not create clashes in your married life and also you can look for better opportunities post marriage .
@@AeyHero In simple words a girl wants to get married to a man who will be her best friend for life , also a part of her craziness , dreams and hard times . Also equally important is both are honest and treat each other with respect . Marriage will be a beautiful journey for a life time . God bless all couples 😇🙏💐🎁
@@AeyHero 1. Sexual attraction is the line that separates platonic & romantic relationship. So a boy & a girl cannot be just friends for a lifetime & still have a chemistry. I guess she prefers her partner to embody a nature of companionship. 2. Being adventurous, curiosity, having couple goals ,finding hobbies or tasks together can create a fun-filled marriage as opposed to it being duty bound & mundane. 3. Yes, the spouse should also be on the same page. It shouldn’t seem like just one partner is trying to carry the marriage.
Perfect analysis as usual, you missed one point, some parents become greedy about the money their daughter is bringing home. So they are not keen about her marriage.
I think there should be no strict age to get married for girls or boys. We are brought up in a society where girls are taught that your life will complete when you get married. Why is that so ? Sometimes they make wrong decission in jaldi jaldi kyonki uski so called shaadi ki ummar ja rahi hai.
@@SBH3356 exactly. I think one should get married when he/she feels to marry, not because the deadline of their age is running. There are cases of burnout/depression among girls because of society pressure ki unki shaadi ki ummar guzzar rahi hai
Sirji, please don't get me wrong, but I think you are a generation behind for this advice, this I had faced in the 90s and 2000,where good education girls were leaving for US and other countries without marriage
Ek ladki shaadi kar leti at age 21..... her in laws promised her parents that they will allow her to study and make her career...but after two years Her husband is beating abusing... expecting her first baby.... What they promised...and what she is getting
@@sonujain2348 Milte hain ji... milte hain..... mere rishtedaaron me bahut se aise dekhaa hai Maine...... they got married at 30 or after 30... they settled themselves and got married.... husbands v ache mile hain... sabhi mahilayen nokri karti hain.... aur independent hain.
Bengal have deeper version of this problem. Being a Bengali mid40s man myself, and being on the other side of this story, I nowadays recommend all younger men to not marry a Bengali girl in any circumstance. For Bengali girls, I strongly recommend to have a free and independent life living with their parents and friends.
I'm 36 year lady & Single by choice. I believe late marriage is better than bad marriage. Also late marriage is better than getting divorced & marrying 2nd time, 3rd time so on. Uncle apne Zamane ki baat kar rhe hain.
It's true 24 is the best age for gls to be settle down..in Agria family no such issues but issues are in punjabi and other caste...as per my suggestion if in India everyone will do a court marriage in early age and later the couple together save money and arrange their own marriage for social declaration it will be good for parents and young couple...in the blessings money of their parents they could able to book an apartment/house for themself and whatever be the package together they will stand a happy life😊
South Indian system is better .. Parents give jewellery , property , cash , top education to girls and marry them early like 21- 25 age to same age or 1- 2 older similar educated same earning boys of own community .. This act of giving property share of daughter to her at time of education n marriage removes fear n anxiety from daughter n son-in-laws mind ... Also parents of boys in South India train them since childhood to not look at beauty but qualities of females ... Easier life n more practical than North Indians ...
Does Hyderabad, Banglore, Chennai counts in southern India. Because I have seen otherwise in those cities. Also girls leaving job after marriage is very common here. I was shocked when asked by my colleague if I'm continuing my job after marriage.
South Indians marry much later. And South Indian boys look at fairer North Indian girls just that they don't get much chance 😂😂😂 Most South Indian parents ask money from girls after they finish college and they have to immediately get a job. They aren't allowed to roam around freely, living in cramped up apartments with parents, brother. My South Indian colleague used to cry everyday since her parents weren't interested in getting her married and her dad would say the little property he has would be given to her brother. It really depends on the type of parents at the end.
In chennai, Contrary women are expected to continue job even after childbirth due to expensive households. I know Boy houses are expecting working girls for marriage.
Thank you for this topic...for me in the right time as I just turned 24 recently, and now moving twds marriage phase. Can you please make a video on : 1) ideal age difference between groom and bride 2) Ways of selecting a groom in arrange marriage (same community) suggestions through known relatives/ matrimony website etc, which is better 3) if groom is settled in different city and I am from different city, which place to get married (eg Chennai boy and me in Mumbai) 4) things to consider in Arrange marriage
I completely agree with you...exactly I don't understand why parents do not understand or even girls who are educated and sensible are understanding this big situation, ..
I think, this is only true for super achiever girls having exceptional talent in their field like famous sportswoman, actresses, passout from premier institutes. Because super achiever boy will marry from super achiever girl.
A suggestion for my fellow women who are single... when you talk to a guy before marriage/dating, ask them what channels they follow on UA-cam. And if they say that they follow Amit Sangwan, then just marry... Decision making tip hai yeh! 😀
I think girls should study upto graduation , there is no need to study post graduation until and unless you have dedicated to achieve something big , trust me even if you earn 25-30 k and you are under 25 , you will get guy who earns around 50k-1lakh , thats enough for all your needs
@@arpanmadrecha3013 i am talking practically , if you are not passionate then you should not study further , its just westage of time , most of girls wasting time in giving entrance exams for post graduation , and you know its hard crack entrance exam nowadays because of competition and in that proces their age increases , and trust me brother as your age increases you won't get good match in indian arrange marriage setup , so it is losing situation for them from both side unless and until you have decided to do love marriage
@@rijfd I think if you really passionate about UPSC exam then go for it , no matter how many attempts you have to give , but make sure you clear exam , if you not that passionate about it then I think you should look for some decent job and get married around 25 As far as job concerned I have very little idea about BA program , I am doctor in progress so if you need any medical branch related doubts I can help you with that
@@rijfd I have one friend who is preparing for upsc and he told me that it's very hard exam to crack ( don't want to discourage you) and he said very few people clear it in first attempt unless and until you are very smart student , so for average student it need 2-3 years of serious preparation so think about it clearly , you are just 23 even if you take 3 attempts to clear it your age will be 26-27 so i think you should go for that and once you clear exam then you don't have to worry about your age for marriage so have faith in yourself and go hard for exam And regarding graphic designing field , it's good field provided you have good communication and socialisation skills so act according to your personality
It takes upto 31-32 to complete medical residency, PhD, law, any tough career. It needs moving around the country, and world sometimes for postdoc, etc. Why suffer with marrying at 25 and doing long distance when you won't be compatible after your journey?
Yes I guess it's a choice. It's a hard choice especially if you are on a success track at a high level, or have goals that aren't compatible with married life. I moved 3 countries in my 20s for btech, MS, PhD etc. No guy would have been okay with that.
Everybody is different this kind of general advice is not applicable on everyone..its easy to give advice...but in practice this doesn't work. The right age for any girl or a guy to get married is when they are physically and mentally prepared to get married... otherwise it would be big mess not just for them but for the family as well
Sir absolutely intellectual and eyes opening video because 99% ko is phase ko face krna hi krna hai 😎Sir ek video india k most of brahmin and thakur parrents intercaste marriage k against Kyu hain is par bhi banaiyega sir 🙏🏻social equality iske bina aa hi nhi sakti .
Absolutely right.....sir aapne jo v bola 1000%right hai....iss topic pr khul kt discussion hona chahiye... Ye mera real experience hai jo face kr rhi hu.....papa ko pasand nhi tha aur dr v tha papa gussa na ho jaye aur ab koi mil nhi rha....thank you for like that content
6:54 बच्चा पैदा करना लडकी की लाइफ का एसिवमेंट नही है 😂😂 बहुत सारी महिलाएं शादी समय pe krleti हैं pr 7se 10 treatment krwati रहती फर्टिलिटी का आज कल इनफर्टिलिटी बहुत jada horhi hai to kya wo ldki respect ke kaabil nhi hai kis tarh ki soch hai aapki ??
This is the only point I disagree with him on... That is his support for early marriage. I am a victim od early marriage at the age of 23. The parents who get a girl married early are obviously interested more in shit like log kya kahenge, shadi apne hi caste mein honi chahiye, age, beauty, etc. They are not interested in how their daughter will adjust, what are the things she will have to face, what if they ill- treat her, what if she is deprived of basic necessities which she doesn't earn enough for at such a young age. My mother forced me to stay in my marriage despite all odds. She told me she wouldn't accept me back in the house with my little daughter. I gave up my career a year after marriage because of having a baby and then i sacrificed 6 years for her to grow up a bit, because both mother and mother in law were not interested in helping. Then, I got into a prestigious PhD programe and completed it recently. But, now I'm 38, have family responsibilities, can't take decisions to travel far to join a job, can't go aboad like my batchmates to pursue post doc. Things are so complicated. I have lived through all this alone, but still excelled. Now, my age is such that i am not eligible for most govt jobs. My mother says this is my fate. Please take a lesson from my story girls, dont believe your parents blindly, don't come under their pressure when they blackmail you. I feel so embarassed to share my story here. But if i can save girls, then I will surely talk about it. All I have now is loneliness, while living in a family in this society. I feel emotionally and financially lost and betrayed by my mother, but she doesnt even feel she made mistakes by getting me married early, never helping me to get out of it, and not helping me in my phd journey.
Im 30 unmarried unemployed the person I was with cheated me I even thought of getting married to him but after listening to your story I feel blessed my parents never pressurized me to get married. They always stood by me. Im their only child now my focus is to build my career shaadi ab krni bhi nhi mujhe
@@Msharma30 Build a career, build your life the way you want. The main point is that we should take our own decisions and if we fail, it's at least satisfying that nobody forced us. If you are forced by family, you are bound to feel embittered. Unemployment is not even an option. Financial independence gives you a lot of power. You can move mountains if you are independent and have family support. Shadi karni hai ya nahi, can be decided eventually. It's not a bad thing. Timing aur insaan sahi hona chahiye. I'm getting ready to take another leap in my profession, kyunki gaining professional success is still easier than making a perfect personal life in my experience.
Very true.I hv three cousins nearing 30 years,whose parents are now saying tumnehi dekh lena tha pahele..but it's girls mistake also...they say upfront...no marrige till I get settled!!
Really great video. I have forwarded to few of my colleagues who have similar though process. They say they will handle the consequesnces in later life, its their choice, but even not growing in career as well nor in personal life. Struggling to make 40k per month. Her parents conselling her, but she feels they are putting pressure. Already 29 age. God knows what will happen to her. Just praying everyone watch your channel and video and get some clarity in life. Our generation is most confused with the number of options and freedom we have. Freedom should come with its responsibility and maturity, without any boundary freedom spoils.
Sir, I am 24 yr old girl right now. I am kinda agreeing with your views. Although i had completely opposite views 2 yrs back. But as life is progressing, getting married early is seeming to be something right for me. Abhi ek accha rishta aya hai, I was in confusion about the whole situation, but your video has given me clarity. I was first skeptical because mujhe MBA karna hai..but mba baadme bhi hosakta hai..age waapas nahi ayegi ye baat bhi utni hee sach hai. Thankyou sir!
Mere hisab se late marriage ladki meh jyada tar employed girls k saath hoti hai.....iske main reason unka maa aur baap hai...are jab tak ladki kamakar apni salary hame derahi hai to acha hai na....ladki ki saadi baad meh dekh lenge....aise he karte karte hojate hai too late.....
21 se 26 main shaadi karne wale aaj kal 30 tak 2 baar divorce kar lete hai 🤣. I absolutely support u I'm all views but aaj kal jaldi shaadi wala system chalta nahi aaj kal.
@@manasi92 Reality is these days it's getting difficult to give birth at any age due to harmone issues, lifestyle, bad habits, men consuminf bad stuffs. I have friends married in their 20s still not able to concieve. So no worries and there r people who r giving birth in 40s these days. . Its 2023 don't fall for this trap.
@@MyfoodsSaas You are right... Really needed to hear this. Thank you. But there's another issue attached to this where a young couple having children will be more capable of looking after them and even their parents would be in their what between 40's to 50's so even they can help to look after their own granchild as opposed to a couple who have late children who might have low energy & by then their parents would be in their 60's or 70's . This is something I get to hear a lot and kind of bothering me.
@@manasi92 This structure and timeline use to work previously, I am not denying about this fact. We use to do this bcoz we had no choice and burden to improve the country. Logically it is better to get married by 25 or 30.But our generation is different these days mental health issues of normal people are way worse then what it use to be of a soldier in a world War. People have forgotten basic etiquette, people are getting mature only after 30. There are no more join family no one to take care of kids and anything can happen if you have money. Marrying when you r ready with one stable partner and than have kid is way more better than marrying early and having 2 divorces and still living alone. Divorce is becoming ai normal these days, some r getting divorced within months. First take care of your physical health, study , earn go out see some places. Find a good partner and then get married. FYI no one looks after your child. Bolne ki baat hai bas, pehle sab saath rehte the toh paal jaate the. WFH ho chuka hai ab toh. Aur samjho divorce ho bhi jata hai koi nahi dusra dhundho
@@MyfoodsSaasYa and what is the use of even having the energy and youthfulness if you are yourself immature, stupid and naive or unhappy mentally, emotionaly and physically with your life producing kids who will acquire only toxicity because their parents are unsatisfied. That is the reason even a woman living in a joint family having everything around her craves for living in nuclear setup. So I guess there is no set of do's & don'ts on how to live life not keeping aside the fact that life is uncertain in its own way.
Very appreciable sir....ek dum mun ki baat kehdi aapne....I think society is going into ditch.....samaj Khatam hogaya hai sir....koi nahi adjust kerta.....savko crore pati wala pati chahiye.....ladkiyaan age 33 ke baad bhi full attitude me😅😅
There is biological and ethical point also behind this which I certainly know you could speak but may be due to some limits or decorum you did not talk about that. If somebody delay his her marriage too much then there is chance that they will choose unethical ways to satisfy their biological needs. I know county Laws has given freedom to people but we all know society does not appreciate relationships without marriage. Also there are severe consequences of such relationships as people often get trapped ,black mailed and sometimes even few lost their Life. Also on later stage it gets very difficult for a girl specially to get married if people come to know about her past relationships. Something which is okay in eyes of Law , may or may not be okay in eyes of Society.
My family is also same. Pehle to kisiko date krne nhi dete. Jab wo khud arrange Wale ladke late mujhe pasand nhi ati or Jo me lati hu wo unhe pasand nhi hoti. Bolte he ki tum logo ko logo ki pehchan nhi hei. Or matlab papa ka ye he ki aap kisi ladke se baat Karo to usko direct Ghar bula Lao shadi ki baat krne . Are pehle Hume ek dusre ko acche se jaan to lene do. Or samjhane se bhi nhi samajhte. M 30 now and single but i want to get married and have a family of my own. Parents ko khush krne Lage rhi to ho gyi meri shadi.
One of the problems now is a large number of parents tell their daughters that are educating them so that may stand on their feet. Good. But no one teaches their daughters that they are educating them to enable them to manage thei4 homes and life in a better way. Thanks. Rajinder Aggarwal. Sh8mla
😂😂😂..u want money, home, single son....to it is very difficult to find out groom 😂....u want look, govt job 😂...pahele khud ki daughter Ko aise banao fir wo jaise groom dhundna 😂
Im also searching for a suitable match from last 3 years and what sir has said is absolutely right...Im sory to say but the biggest hindrance between a girl and a boy getting a match of their choice is "The Girl's Father"....almost 90% of these fathers are like that...they feel they r samaj k thekedaar or something and everything will happen according to their choices and girl should not have any control over her choices....Many a times it has happened that the girl is liking my profile and Im liking her profile but when she talks to her parents its all over....most probably bcoz of caste and all...bcoz her father wants to satisfy this caste criteria at any cost....
Some girls don't want marriage..ever. Not because they want a career (I don't think women who don't want marriage are career oriented. In fact getting married means you need to earn more to contribute to family. Without marriage you just need some money to support yourself). I know women who were pressurised to get married in 20s and now their life is miserable. And there are women in their 40s who never married and still feel that marriage would have ruined their life. The truth is some women NEVER want marriage and the society should not try to convince them to get married.
Great topic. When I was young we all friends went to doctor who is father of our friends. We asked when to get married he said you should have your first baby by the time girls age is 25. And we all followed his advance I have now 25 years old son and younger is 18 years. Shadi aur bacche jaldi niptalo taki app dono can focus on your individual career.
Some girls don't want marriage..ever. Not because they want a career (I don't think women who don't want marriage are career oriented. In fact getting married means you need to earn more to contribute to family. Without marriage you just need some money to support yourself). I know women who were pressurised to get married in 20s and now their life is miserable. And there are women in their 40s who never married and still feel that marriage would have ruined their life. The truth is some women NEVER want marriage and the society should not try to convince them to get married.
@@statisticsinternalexam6053 I had seen girls in their 22-25 years they had 15 conditions and after 32-34 years no conditions just a men required. Behenji/ Bitiyaji all good boys are vanished when they are 25-28. If you are late then you will even suffer without marriage. Priorities career Vs. Family life.
One thing to be pointed out , even the guy side doesn't want to get married to girls who are not earning well or dont have job , so a girl of 21-22 in middle class , its hard to get married , since the guy also wants to have a girl with decent package job etc , especially demanding that a girl of age 24 , with a govt teaching job is in demand , Not everyone fits in that
@@AD-hp1wn yes , but both girls and boys are studying, competing in the same education system and competing times, so where its ok for the guy to take time and settle down or even prepare for govt jobs beyond 25-30 age, the standard for the girl are unreasonable, its not right to expect the girl to earn really good or have a govt job all before turning 24-25, Middle class arrange marriages mein demand yahi hai , teacher bani ke nahi , no marriage without job of the girl
I experienced it my self ..got married at 27 ..i realised if i got married before it wouod have been good for my body , now at 36 i pregnant with 2nd kid and i am not that energetic because of age . Thats harsh truth about women we have that bio clock to follow
Dear uncle you are too good. And if you have a daughter she is very lucky to have u.. Lots of blessings and luck.. Love khushali from mumbai.. Please bring some topic for single girl child no siblings and her issues.. What to expect from her future husband towards her parents well being.
Be clear in mind to look after your parents and covey this message to your future husband clearly. I hope, you will sure get a man who will support you and your family. But main point is, take responsibility of your parents yourself and expect support from man.
A woman gets only one thing out of marriage worth her time that is a child. A man does not add much to her life (same for a woman in the life of a man). So beyond childbirth, marriage is meaningless. Some women just don't want a child (they don't want motherhood that's all). They still get married in the expectation of financial security and ruin their own and their husband's lives. If you don't want a family, just stay single. Parents who force their girls to get married for financial or some kind of security are completely wrong. A woman should get married only she wants a family wholeheartedly, otherwise do yourself and others a favour and NEVER GET MARRIED. NOT AT 24, NOT AT 32 NOT AT 35 NOT AT 50. JUST NEVER GET MARRIED. AND SOCIETY WILL DO A GREAT FAVOUR IF THEY STOP PESTERING PEOPLE FOR MARRIAGE. OTHERWISE PEOPLE WHO ARE NOT SUITABLE FOR MARRIAGE WILL GET MARRIED AND MAKE THE SOCIETY MORE ROTTEN.
@@venomium4360 yaha mei age hi baat hi nhi kar rhi... Aaj Kal most of the women are educated well settled and hence they are in demand...aur ladkiya kaafi competitive hogyi Hai. Govt job wale ladko ki hi demand hai baaki toh bechaare wait hi krhe ki koi ladki miljaye shaadi ko.. Aise bahut se dekhe hai maine apne friends circle mein and bahar bhi
Ladka agar high earning hoga to hi uski shadi hogi. Ladkiyo ke upar aisa koi expectation nahi hai. Ye femenist sirf apni baat karte hai purusho ke problems nahi samajhte
@@goalsunlimited919 I would request ki pls educate yourself first.. Agar yhi Jo upar cheez boli hai maine jaha maine apne experience ya Jo aas paas k logo k experience k hisaab se maine Jo apni baat rakhi hai kya tab bhi aap apna aadmiyo wala R**di Rona karte? nahi na? Ya kisi purush ne apni baat rakhi hoti apne experience ke hisab se kya tab bhi aap aisa hi bolte... Aur haan sir Feminist ka meaning Jo aapne bola wo galat h.. People like you are misguiding... And you know misguide karta kaun hai? Jise pta hai ki saamne wale ko apni self worth pata hai..aur yaha saamne wala is woman 🙂
Your views might be a little difficult to understand but they are absolutely right. Marriage,if you really want to do ,shd be done early in life ,max by 26 yrs
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Amit ji thought process matches mine. But always afraid to say these things in public. Now he put everything openly and with lots of experience and examples. Kudos
Some girls don't want marriage..ever. Not because they want a career (I don't think women who don't want marriage are career oriented. In fact getting married means you need to earn more to contribute to family. Without marriage you just need some money to support yourself). I know women who were pressurised to get married in 20s and now their life is miserable. And there are women in their 40s who never married and still feel that marriage would have ruined their life. The truth is some women NEVER want marriage and the society should not try to convince them to get married.
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Affter reading lot of comments i realized main issue is in laws and husband we can say society we treat housewife as full time maid and sex toy no respect
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Everyone will be agree on this it is far far far better to be single then merriage now a days at the age of 24 I don't want kids and in laws ruined my life currently I am 20 years old and mummy papa forcing me to get married I am middle of my graduation how can I concentrate on my academic s I live in a small town perents bring so cold ristedar with the groom to see me it's so frustrating boy side relatives say why women should study and have job what will she do with those stuff women only born to make kids I cancelled the proposal and named a a bad daughter of my perents only expects form women to sacrifice everything and blame women for everything 😑😑😑
30-40 hazar ki naukri, akele rhte h aur dunia humare kadmo me🤣🤣🤣🤣 straight up facts
This is so true even I'm 32 with 25k salary unmarried even not even dated still parents clueless 😂
Bach gaye agar shadi ki hoti to girl child ka abortions karvane padte job chhodni padti sab ki alag alag chai sabzi garam roti sab k khane k time alag alag.
26-30 is the best time for girls to get married. Men, 27-32. And don't be greedy about a man's salary or girl's beauty. A man earning 50k at 25 can earn 3L by 35, similarly a hot girl at 25 can become an overweight aunty by 35. Choose a good, decent person as a partner and your life will be a beautiful adventure that you experience together
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U are wrong
Women -18 to 28
Men 27-40
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Any decent earning guy would it want to marry a 26-30 year old girl. Why would you when you can marry 22-25 ?
@@KittyMeoow-t1z because no decent girl would want to marry at 22-25 and instead want to build their careers. And I am from iim c, all my peer married girls that were 27+ (also from top tire b schools) they earn in crs today. No body I know has married a 22 yr old. Why marry a jobless 22 yr old when high earning couples can earn in crs together and life a great life.
Please make one for boys also. Even they are waiting till 32 and then still expecting slim trim beautiful girls who look 22 and not those who look 27 28. Suddenly they are 34 and all girls have vanished.
Whata topic it will be. Boys want models slim sexy etc
Men can stay alone in their solitude or good company of friends but the pressure of marriage comes from women when they start getting old. But its not worthy to marry women above 30 as they come with lot of issues and past insecurities/traumas that men have to deal with.
@@rohans7194 bhai uncle tu bachhi sae kar lae.
@@PS-oy1el 20-28 ki age mein kaun bacchi hoti hai? U should marry someone that brings lot of baggage to u, heal her, so that she can dump u for someone else.
@@rohans7194 Like u hav issues of not using ur brain.
Huge comment, please read the whole thing before judging:
This is actually a very good topic, sir. As a woman, I would say, us girls were taught "feminism" in a very absurd way, most of it was centred around "we have to be like boys", and most girls completely misinterpreted the message. So, a lot of modern women suddenly adopted the bad qualities that men have, like binge drinking, drugs, sleeping around, these have become a normal thing in the last decade, in the name of empowerment. Then they got into careers in IT, PR, etc, bought tons of fashion items, latest phones etc, went to parties in Goa or whatever, fool around with as many men as possible for years, probably got some STDs some of which never go away, and then when they're 28/29, they started to panic, and desperately opened profiles in these matrimony sites, trying to bag some dude and "settle" with them. That whole bunch of matrimony websites has become a cesspool of rejects, only a minority are okay enough. And then the sudden change from party hard YOLO lifestyle to being responsible for another living breathing human(s) ends up being a shock, and now both are dissatisfied in the union, all that income in dollars pounds, honeymoon in Europe/Maldives etc, isn't helping. Then women have a limited bio clock, now you gotta get treatment to somehow have a child of your own, thanks to regular cigarettes, constant consumption of outside food, and alcohol destroying the ovaries and hormones, men's low sperm count and quality because same as former, then you end up having a kid at 39/40 years of age, after lakhs spent. Lo and behold, this is the age when the lifestyle that one led in their 20s, hits them, chronic pain, no libido, diabetes, hypertension, thyroid issues, and on top of that a toddler that you have to manage, leading to worse health issues. And if you have old and aging parents with you, you're done, more stress and frustration.
It's like there is no middle ground for women. Especially women who actually want something from life and not the YOLO binging types. Either you have to be a stay at home mom for your kid or you have elders who doesn't want you to work, so you become a subservient hollow shell of a person to "keep the peace", or, women are going berserk to rebel the former and ends up not marrying, or frustrated in a marriage. Women working in MNCs and who have kids, are one of the most depressed, frustrated women I've seen. Also, if a woman marries and is not employed somewhere, somehow the in laws feel threatened if she wants to start working and have an identity for herself, ab to shaadi e ho gaya, kya career kya job; women feel threatened by such people too and postpone their marriage, that hey if I work, at least I’ll have a life outside the random strangers I’m supposed to live with(if living with in laws is the case). And there are some men who are also threatened by women who are smarter in academics or life, they want someone who’s more like a human pet who they can have sex with occasionally.
Add to that, many husbands happen to be completely inept morons who cannot cook, cannot clean up, doesn't do an ounce of household chores; so a woman has to mother her kid(s), mother her manchild husband, look after the house, and work? When couples have a son, they think all the work will be done by the hypothetical future bahu, and they teach the son nothing, and the son ends up being a socially inept, 30 something groom because of the maggi eating, cigarettes and daaru lifestyle he led in his hostel and PG staying days. It's insanity!
Personally, I believe for those that want to raise children, its better to have a kid earlier, take a gap of few years, and then resume the career, that should be the mainstream thing, and when something is mainstream, the shaming and mocking automatically disappears. The grandparents will be strong enough to deal with a toddler and you can study and get in an institute, and by the time you're 40, one can have a full time career maybe even a PhD or MD too, plus have a teen by your side, who can at least look after themselves in the basic sense, if taught well. But do we have the maturity or wisdom to deal with such serious decisions at such an early age, after being told by parents to not talk to the opposite sex throughout your school life, because you'll fail in your exams if you talk to boys/girls? Do our parents have such maturity and emotional intelligence to upgrade themselves with new thoughts and ideas? I doubt it. Generation upon generations of mistakes happening and being carried forward.
I wish I got these wisdom in school life, but even our parents didn't have much awareness back then. Better late then never I guess.
Is this real? Or few cases? Or increasing trend? This is scary!
One cannot solely blame it to late marraige.
So people should also have mindfulness, disciple and values in one's life and stop following the west blindly.
West is in a much deeper mess when it comes social/relations/family cohision.
@@KIIXI Its hilarious and tragic to see that there are so many good things about the West that we can emulate, but a lot of the youth choose the bad stuff.
@@prasadbhadane608 I am a late 90s born, and I daresay it's a big number of our age demographic, 1992-2002 born folks, who are into uncontrolled drinking, smoking, casual physical stuff. There are people who are not into these, but they're lesser in number, and those that are coming from suburbs and villages, who got in a college in the cities, lose their control more, because it's a culture shock for them. Talking about both men and women here.
@ShohiniSengupta I live in north America or yhaan popular joke hau among men , ki jo ladkian bda bhao khaati hai while dating they end up living alone with cats at home,
My parents did exactly that. They would scare away any boys who tried to talk to us. This was in the 80s and 90s, when calls would come on the family landline phone - no smart phones, no dating apps.
I would request my parents from the time I was 18, that I was keen to get married, and they would just make fun of me and laugh at me. They never bothered to find me anyone.
By the time I was 26 and they started looking, they realised that they were not able to find anyone in our community who was suitable - because those who could match our education and lifestyle had very high expectations, and the others - who showed interest - they did not match up.
It was just sad. Na humko choose karne diya, na parents khud dhoondh paye dhang ke bande ko. I can completely agree with you about this.
If you are married, may I know how it turned out?
@@indianguy119 It is sad, dude. Poor match. I've been miserable. Felt trapped, and tried to leave. Still struggling. Since there are kids involved, he found it easier to bully me to stay with him saying he would ensure I couldn't get the kids in case I left him. Is a mess. If I could do it differently, I'd rather have stayed single than be trapped in such a situation. Regret every day.
@@batteredwife sorry to hear that. Hope you have a better life ahead
Read your comments....sorry to hear about your current situation....may your situation improve somehow.....can I ask at what age did you get married ? Also, if parents found the boy, that too quite late, how they ended up finding the wrong person?
@@iamajay3333 Thank you, appreciate your kind comment.
Marriage Phobia is the most crucial phenomenon in today’s youth. People are confused about careers and getting into a marriage set up is turning out to be scary . Request you to highlight this issue and your thoughts on the same sir.
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He is talking about women who is trying for competitive exams for 5 years and willing to give 5 more years.
If career is paramount , why settle for marriage then?
Will those women value relationship?
Will those women take care of husband if he gets I'll and that woman has job assignments to fulfill?
Make your perspective life balanced. He is clearly saying if u r not interested in marriage , don't do. Where is the force?
But if u will say a woman who wants to marry that go & have a career first then have relation like another uncle , how is it justified ??
Also, haven't you heard of Jyoti maurya case?? Didn't his husband educated her??
Lakhs of men in India educating their wife with their resources.
Broaden your horizon.
He conveyed so well. I am 38, still single because I even used to feel my father will find the right family and the guy for me. Strange how he can reflect the same what I experienced.
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What hav u thought now for future?
Me too
why did u depend on ur father for a guy?
U can hav kid through surrogacy if u want n can afford. N if not that u can adopt as well. But I will say b finally independent n try to find man for u for marriage. There r many unmarried men of ur age. N yaar if u feel OK single ,then it's too hard but that should b ur choise. I don't think it's too late that u loose all hopes but finding right partner is difficult n u will hav to invest ur time n energy. N stay safe n happy sister❤. Life is to live n happiness is the choise that we make by taking small small steps in that direction.
I accept this is an issue Sir and thank you for raising this topic.....But I dont agree to your point ki ladki ki perfect age 24 hoti hai shaadi ke liye......I think insan ko shaadi tab karni chahiye jab woh mentally prepared ho... Unko pata hona chahiye ki shaadi ke baad ke activities kya hote hai jese khana banana, in laws ke sath rehna, sex life, job life, ghar ke kaam, etc....Half of the generation getting married today are not at all prepared or misguided about marriage.....Isiliye divorce rates zyada ho rahe hai.....24 age me ladki bahut hi zyada immature hoti hai....Same with ladka.....Immaturity se shaadi nahi chal sakti....Aur maturity tab badhti hai jab woh kamana seekhe aur zimmedariya khudpe lena seekhe....There is no perfect age for marriage....It all depends on how well prepared you are for marriage and it's activities later on....Simple as that...
Itne sare comments k baad ...kisi ne meri thinking ki baat boli h.. u r absolutely correct 💯 ....
@@pratibha3828 Thanks 😊
Girl's Parents till girls age 30 like: Parampara , Patistha, Anusasn...... After 32 be like: Ja Simram Mar jee le apni zindgi hum na ho payga..
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I completely agree that people should marry early in life, lets say at the age of around 25 because a lot of time, the bachelor life gets wasted in thinking about opposite sex, attractions, lust, loneliness, etc. If you get married early then you can focus/channelize more of your energy in something productive.
Relate so much to it,😂
@@jobin2295316 but the question here is, does this really happen tho?
Sahi baat he.
True about the lust part 😂😂
u can control also those if ur alpha male
I don't support late marriage but one of the reasons of girls want late marriage is the fear of loosing career forever after marriage... I see many cases in my locality where in laws don't support their daughter in laws's career.. They don't cooperate with her in new born care.. Please guide girls in convincing in laws and husbands to have career after marriage
Very true
This is a bad argument. A girl doesn't need to marry the family with bad in-laws. Marriage is the biggest decision of life. Boys and Girls should do their due diligence before finalizing and ensure basics are all in place before marrying. And delayed marriage is full of issues. The earlier the better
I have seen early marriages fading away and that biological clock nonsense is something I don't get because when our grandparents used to have 8-10 children they obviously reached till their 40's till they delivered their 10th and God knows how many of them were miscarriages. So late marriages are good for girls, they let you stand on your own and be conscious of what is coming. Early marriages are only beneficial to the in-laws and to the society because young & naive minds are easy to manipulate.
@@manasi92 @manasi92 1. Don't apply patterns of your parents to yourself, it is a very different world from theirs. Surely not your grandparents. Don't even apply the patterns of your friends to yourself. Each person would respond to the same problem differently and a marriage is two people in the game so even more different.
2. Both people getting into marriage should talk out some important details. They should be able to respect each other’s approach towards life on key issues (not necessarily have the same approach, sometimes having a different approach would be better), feel stability in it, should be able to answer why they are marrying (at least to themselves, “everyone does it” is not good enough any more), hopefully should be able to be a team.
3. Basically both should be mature. Physical maturity is there even at 16. Mental maturity may not be there even at 50. No one can manipulate a mentally mature person, not parents, surely not the society.
4. This will help the person decide about their own and their partner's approach to premarital sex of various kinds: paid, casual, promiscuous, short-term relationship (after 3rd-4th date), long-term relationship (doing it after an year or so) or waiting till marriage. Please note that there is no judgement here, but you PERSONALLY may be judgmental or have tolerance thresholds for each one of them. If one is deciding not to marry till 30, how long should one avoid premarital sex and why? What conditions are ok to have premarital sex? If premarital sex is a complete no-no, for whatever reasons then one needs to check its possible effects on mental and sexual health. What is your tolerance for masturbation, watching porn, attending live-shows and toys? What about being in porn, involuntary or voluntary? These are new questions which most of our parents didn’t have to deal with. Add experimental or cursory same-sex sexuality, group-sexuality to the mix and have your mind blown.
5. How much reciprocation is expected from the would-be partner towards items in point 4? You think you expect a virgin but you yourself engage in promiscuous sex, then you are simply sick. You find it ok to look at group sex porn, but can’t tolerate that your partner uses sex-toys then get a good reason to explain your choices.
Consider a girl was filmed nude by her BF and pictures put online without her knowledge. Would you, as a boy, marry such a girl? What if it was “worse”, say, a video involving all kinds of active engagement from the girl?
There is so much to unpack for marriages but as one delays marriages, one needs to answer questions about sex and expected reciprocation. Sex is the elephant in the room with regards to marriages. Earlier when people used to get married around 14-16, sex was dealt with automatically. By the time they were 25, almost everyone had been there, done that, had a few kids as well. Marriage was to provide morality to sex and children were automatic byproducts.
During the sixties, middle class generated a new paradigm of delayed marriages (by age 24-25 for boys 22-23 for girls). Delayed sex was assumed and mostly everyone in the middle class was compliant as well. If you couldn’t control your urges till 24-25, you were not a worthy human being. Note that this delayed sex significantly. Even masturbation was a taboo, so one was simply expected to forget sexuality and focus on building careers. Then get married and have children.
Today things are different. The new generation doesn’t have the same broken “moral” compass. So alt-sex needs to be addressed. Kids are running confused and engaging in activities which they regret later, or simply are incapable of regretting. Nevertheless there are consequences like divorce, broken marriages, imbalance in marriages etc etc. In this I am not even conceptualizing in-laws as they are becoming more and more irrelevant, this is happening at the level of the partners itself.
@@manasi92 your grandparents doesn't eat pizza burger coca cola carbonated drinks toxic synthetic colour foods. They directly eat from their farms that's why they are healthy and don't have health complications.
It reminds me of an incident that happened 19 years ago. When I met my mother in the kitchen on my 22nd birthday, she asked me how old I am today. I replied that I'm 22. She told me that if i was a girl she would've had to get me married off by now. She added that nobody can keep girls for long at their parents houses. Later on in the day, when i slept and woke up in the afternoon my father too was discussing with my mother how old I am. She told him that im 22 and she would've had to search for a son in law had i been a female. My father replied to her that had i been a girl he wouldve got me married off once i reached the age of 20 itself!!! I was wondering if my parents being so highly educated had such stone age thoughts😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮
It's actually not just the women who are demanding big money guys...even the boy and his family wants a girl who has status, very well educated, looks like a model etc, these are the demands of most families in india. It's not like women Don't look towards marriage, they do but they are mostly fed up of the demands.
True men want woman who are into movies atleast filmy kind beauties and from rich family they just play poor girls
men want equal status. whereas women want higher status partner.
You are picturising my parents in your words. So I chose my friend as my husband at the age of 29, my parents got shock
Mere sath bhi same h. We are 26-27 !
Some girls don't want marriage..ever. Not because they want a career (I don't think women who don't want marriage are career oriented. In fact getting married means you need to earn more to contribute to family. Without marriage you just need some money to support yourself). I know women who were pressurised to get married in 20s and now their life is miserable. And there are women in their 40s who never married and still feel that marriage would have ruined their life. The truth is some women NEVER want marriage and the society should not try to convince them to get married.
Bengal have deeper version of this problem. Being a Bengali mid40s man myself, and being on the other side of this story, I nowadays recommend all younger men to not marry a Bengali girl in any circumstance. For Bengali girls, I strongly recommend to have a free and independent life living with their parents and friends.
23-24 years mai duniya ka khud ka kuch pata hi kanha hota hai. Iss age mai to self discovery ki shuruat hoti hai. Jab khud ka hi nahi pata to shaadi phir aise hi hoti hai shakal dekh lo paise dekh lo community dekh lo. Sir your whole argument rests on the theory that the purpose of life is either getting a very high paying job or producing kids. True that some people do not gain wisdom with any amount of time, but pehle hi ghar grihasti mai uljhakar darwaaze kaise band kar sakte hain. I have also observed ki jab ladkiyan financially dependent hoti hain apne husband par to self confidence lose karti hain. Duniya se thoda cut off hoti hain ( not physically).i would prefer east facing plot ki jagah shaadi barabari mai ho, ladka ladki ke andar samjh ho ki dekhna kya chahiye ek life partner mai, what truly matters.
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@@SanghPathVery true.....This is only possible if you don't have any emotions and you just want to get married for the sake of it...I have a friend whose cousin got married at the age of 25-26 and is living an unhappy life because her mind was set on superficial things and that was because she didn't have the understanding of what marriage really is.
Yadi tumhe 24 ki age me kuch nhi pata, to 70 pe bhi kuch pata nhi hoga. Better hai aise log shadi nhi kare.
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Brain develops after 25
She is not wrong
Nowadays it's difficult to find a suitable boy for girls rather than boys as they are getting married at right age.
Girls have become too independent n looking for a perfect life which is very rare in reality.
What make this comment special, is it comes from a girl itself.
There is saying that goes like "when boy start making money, he becomes responsible, when girl start making money she becomes independent". Also with the onset of social media, girls only see the top 1% of luxury and top men, and desire the same. It takes them to hit age 30 to realise they have been living a fantasy world. Boys also need to catchup and learn cooking and cleaning and not just boss around.
well said
How much of independence becomes too much? Please explain you seem more sophisticated than us youngsters.
obviously... girls who are earning 30-40k a months wants a man who earns 2L per month.... laughable
@@A_Roasted_ChocolateI think what she meant was girls tend to have too high/unrealistic standards if they are doing well career/money wise.
For ex. If girl worked has become say 29-30 years old but makes 1 Lakh per month her expectation will also be guy earning 1.5 lakh plus good looks body handsome wagera ( already a small percentage that fit the criteria ) and those men who fit that criteria usually go for a younger girl for marriage with lesser income than them but its cool for the man.
Basically saying trying to find the perfect fit and not cashing out at the right time makes it even worse for career women.
I personally know someone a women my school senior 5 yrs who went to best engineering college worked 2 years then went to IIM C got a big 6 figure salary and still hasn't married is in her mid 30s idk now she finds options less and doesn't want to settle. But the more she delay more worse it gets.
She became victim of her own success.
Anyone can have a child and call themselves "A Parent." A real parent is someone who puts that child above their own selfish needs and wants.
This is why I love this channel… straight facts, no sugar coating, no time pass. Please keep them coming, Sir!
Aapke jayse 1 bhi har family mey ho tho life mey koe problem hi na ho 🙏
Yeh to meri kahani hai sir....i m an eye surgeon/ retina specialist..i became something as per my wish...got married at 32 n now have a baby of a year old....n at present i m surrounded by bunches of responsibilities & carrier is d least priority for me.....mujhe 25 saal ki umar me shadi kar leni chahiye thi
Are you unhappy or do you regret it for your time line?
Don’t give up. Work part time even it is for free to keep your skills up. When child is 3-4 years old, you go back to work. I know several female doctors who stayed home 5-10 years after marriage and went back to work. It was difficult to restart, but they did it . Doctors work till 69-65 years, don’t be disheartened
It's ok.. U r a new mom.. It's overwhelming... U r young.. U can make a strong comeback.. All the best!
Ma'am, you are not being grateful for what all achieved inspite of late marriage... Atleast you won't regret not trying. We belittle our achievements.. not a good thing.
@@mrinmoyeemukherjee1420..yes slowly everything gets settled...I don't think these videos help a lot...they make videos only for views ....
I am from middle class family. My age is 28 earning only 25k. Parents are saying we will do marriage after 29 or 30. My both sisters are married at 24. As 2 elder sisters marriages expenses are still pending and my dad is a driver. Its very hard to manage in this salary and there are some boys whose age is above 35 earning in lakhs and still not married.
If you want to raise income and start your own family then first thing you have to do is just leave your family’s expenses as that is.
Invest in yourself, gain some skills like from udemy, whitehat etc.
Because family responsibilities means you would be stuck forever.
You have to take decision for minimal spending on your current family(mom, dad& sis) to start your own family(with wife to be) and career.
Yes this is harsh but truth.
If you will not stand by your side then no one will ever do.
If you will never say no then they will never say no for your givings.
Don't get married.
Your mistake was to spend money on your sisters. Wedding ànd got into loan trap
You are like a father I never had (in a good way). Bombarding with ultimate gyaan.. and at times feeling like a tight slap on the face giving ultimate realization...appreciate it.. Keep motivating 😌🙏
Sir if a girl gets married at 24, then her in laws should be as much supportive as her own parents, which is a very rare case. I have seen girls around me getting married at 23 24 but they couldn't make their career because their in-laws didn't support them. They forced them to have a baby. Now they are mothers and have lost interest in career making. So basically they have become housewives. What about them sir? There too had ambitions but now all gone to garbage. One of my bhabhi got married at 25 but is suffering from domestic violence. Also there is my cousin sister who got married at 30 but is living a happy life. Marriage demands greater sacrifice from a girl as compared to a boy. So marriage between 26 to 29 is not too late perhaps. What matters is when you are ready to get married and take responsibility.
O didi - this is a generalized opinion! Girls should be married by the time they turn 18-20. A career can wait for a woman. Men, being the prime providers, should support their woman in developing a career - if she wants! 90% girls don't want a career - they just want to be in limelight by doing a job for namesake!! So that they could throw their weight around that they once worked and are better than those who didn't work!
Advice is good! Marriage should happen at the time with understanding - if a girl is ambitious, she needs to be supported. Ek courier company mein receptionist ka kaam karney waaliyan bhi aajkal CEO dhoondti fir rahi hai, that is wrong!
One of my cousin committed suicide as his wife was very cruel towards him and his family. And now that b!tch of a woman, is roaming free, probably sleeping with someone else!
One of my friend is undergoing fake cases of dowry and harassment, as the girl did not want to earn, work or contribute - she just wanted to sit and enjoy the life!
Men sacrifice as much as women do in a marriage - it is not that only women sacrifice.
Get ready for your marriage before 25, if you wish to die happy! Else keep watching social media middle age single aunties preaching advices on how to be happy in relationship!
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@@prachi_olivegeneswow congrats 👏 best wishes ❤
@@deadnlovingit lmao no one asked for your frustrated rant. Fix your life first.
Sir, one small issue is if girl is not working before marriage, she will be treated as a maid after marriage. In my case I was working and earning well still in laws wanted me to leave job and become a maid at home. If I would have been jobless, they would have destroyed my life more.
I too have gone through this kind of situation.
In this case, you have to make your partner understand this situation, you can have maid for some stuff. And yes it's tough to be in joint family for a women. Watch other videos of sirji on this.
Exactly this. For some weird reason, in laws and sometimes even the husband feel threatened by women who have a life outside the marriage, in the form of a job or business. And these same folks have the audacity, the bloody audacity to complain about lack of money and that so and so is buying this buying that, that working women are too “out of control “, ha if you had one more earning member, you would have some cash inflow too, instead of gossiping about your cousins or neighbors, now you complaining.
So what is the solution and what does husband say about it??
They have only considered one POV in this video. I.E age to give child birth after finding a decent guy. But ignored all other facts that guy also wants matured girl these days who can share his burden both personally and professionally. Girls ambition and profession. Being india a patriarchal society all the responsibilities are on girls. And trust me they have started making girls independent but has not taught their son to live with an independent girl. In India a professional education ends at the age of 24. Guys can always get married later in 28-29 but expects girl to do this at 24. I can understand the fertility age but start these things after 26 is way better than an being an immature mom. The author has said grands parents can take after the kid but ignored the fact that not all grandparents live with their son if they work in IT, Finance or corporate sector in big cities. It is possible only in case of housewife with son living with them. And in this case all the burden falls on girl.
I have seen housewife also who is living in cities with her husband is struggling to raise a kid when she is young.
Yes sir you are doing a great job✌️ you were totally right on the content that parents misguide their girl child ki pehle kuc ban jao fir rishto ki line lg jaygi but aisa hai nhi.In my case i was doing preparation for govt exams then there was pressure to earn also i got into an IIT for PhD where i met my soulmate there when i was 26.but my parents wasted my 2.5year to agree on my marriage with that person.finally i got married at 29 that too against my father's will jaise taise bus wo aa gye shadi mei.now i m happily married with my husband but yes i regret the time which i wasted to convince my father.my husband is 4year younger than me which u told in your video is a rare case in india.
@@nehamayach2612This means you dropped your studies and career for marriage. It's sad......🙁
@@Samir__225 no i didnt i m pursuing my carrier as teacher and taken break from studies that's true.
What if the guy does not want children , Will the girl be ok , esp indian girls
Now listen the harsh truth.. I had my first job CTC 4.5 and nobody wanted to marry a girl having CTC this low LOL... My friend got married at 24 and left job at 26 because she could not handle both family and job.... I have seen my peers who left the job for child could not return because there was an experience gap... Best age is after 26, start searching.. settle down when found good match.
Less age means less maturity. The girl who just got out of college at 23 takes some time to learn some life necessity skills. Before that you are just studying... And now at 24 you are searching for a boy . Kaise karegi manage wo life. Shaadi ka matlab it is not that just get married. It brings responsibility.
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Yes, that's a challenge, companies should welcome experience gap.
First days nobody know anything. First day job me mujhe bhi kuch nhi aata tha but after taking responsibilities in job now I know everything about my job. That's how life is. You don't know anything first daybut with time you learn everything. If she can't handle marriage and job at 24 then forget balancing both at 34. Period. Getting married at 24 is anytime better than marrying at 34.
@@careermining8404 might be working for you. Even a 14 yrs old learn to manage her home and school if parents are having any illness. Or having some other issues at home. They will have some difficulty initially but they learn to manage. That is not a norm. That is what life has unexpectedly given and people have to learn to live with it. But just don't make someone enter early into something which we should come normally with time.
@@careermining8404 not as such, job with kids is difficult to manage if family and office support is not there.
The age 18 to 30 is usually more intense and longer than ages 6 to 18. Only parents feel that childhood is longer since they have a greater role.
Fact hai sir
Men and their families want girls who are young, whose parents are well settled, can do proper shadi ka kharcha, give their daughter lots of gifts and preferably the only child 😢. No man wants a woman on whom her whole family depends financially, even for basic things like roti, kapda, makan. Such girls who take care of their family as the beta of the house often end up all alone only because her family couldn't afford to get her married 😢 this is also true sir.
I too have a daughter, this is an eye opener
Totally agree sir... Me being working women married a bit late but well settled having baby boy... But ur thoughts are actually correct but just stress on one more point if gir has to marry at 24 -25 full support from parents and inlaws is must ... I have seen many of my friends suffering.. Luckily my parents and husband are supportive... Being married late what I feel ia getting married bit early and having child with full family support helps everyone
Hi everyone...
I passed btech at 21.
Then i started doing a job .....at 24 i got married to a guy who was 28 and well settled.
I still continued my job and career with his support .
At 27 i had a kid....i was energetic to raise my kid...still i was continuing my job.
Today i am 29 ....i had all that energey to continue in my career and excel
Happy with my husband and kid....i have beautiful memories ❤
One good thing is since i married at 24 i got a very good matches...
Girls always going for OLDER, RICHER guys....
Same old story, what new thing you are telling us.....
All girls look for sugar daddies....
late marriage is better than a bad marriage.........i've seen so many people got married in 25-26 age ...and after 3-4 years they got divorced...
Late means how late..?? And what is the guarantee that late marriages would last. There is no guarantee in anything but don't generalise bad things about on time (not early) marriages
@@shibooster biologically it's late at 35 for babies.. now tell science that don't interfere with marriage and babies 😂
@aryansingh-zc8wb you have answered yourself. It proves that by nature, every stage has its right time, and we should not challenge nature. Thank you..!!🙏
Mazedar baat yeh hai agar app 22 27 ki age main shadi karoge to pachhatawa hoga yrr aur accha mil skta tha. Lekin 28 35 ki age main shadi karoge to bekar ladka bhi accha lagega ki chalo koi mila to .😂😂. Jisko dimag ana hota hai usko 22 24 ki age main ajata hai agr nahi aya fir usko kabhi dimag nahi ata
Any marriage can turn out to be bad.
Problem is people don't clear their expectations before marriage. They lie.
Marriages cannot be based on lies.
You married for money, good looks, social status or beauty then it won't stick.
Only love can sustain any marriage. Before marriage, people give too much importance to get each other impressed but once they are together, they don't put efforts.
This wrong and leading to bad marriages.
So, yeah problem is not age but compatibility and expectations
Anxiety levels and insecurities of our generation is so high , no matter how much portray ourselves as cool and enjoying life , but truth is our generation is fearful of taking decisions , taking responsibilities , thats why they try to delay responsibility as much as possible and thats lead to late marriages
Absolutely Right - spot on ! I am a NRI have lived all of my life outside India - [UAE, Oman, New Zealand & Australia ] I can confirm this is the situation and state of confusion among many Desi's living outside.
Unmarried girls above 35 yrs of age can take benefit of cryo/ egg freezing medical procedure.
I became a group A officer at age 25 but still waited another 6 years to get married. Now I regret it . having children at 33 and 35 years of age is difficult. Should have married and had children while I was in late 20s
What if the guy does not want children , Will the girl be ok , esp indian girls
May be but few...like I don't want children....but indian men and their family wants child.....ghar ka vansh aage badhana hai and all.
True that, similar situation, sir is right, my 3 cousin sisters, all above 32 years are still struggling to find a match for marriage. Initially they did reject lot of boys due to some silly interests . Their parents were also high headed that time like their daughters can get any boy so why to settle for less. Har ek rishtey mein koi na koi problem dhundte rehte the. Ssly feel very sad for the girls !
What if the guy does not want children , Will the girl be ok , esp indian girls
Jaldi Saadi Karo phir divorce ho jate hi.kitne logo ko dekha ki jaldi Saadi krke paresaan ho gye hi.bacche maid BN KR rh gye hi.divorce ho gye ki bore ho gye mooh marte hi 10 jgh do do biwi rakhe hi.phir khte hi ki rahna ho raho n rhna n raho. jitna saath raho fight hi hoti rhti hi n chain hi n sukun.
मेरे नेबर है उन्होंने ने बेटी की शादी करदी थी २२ में क्युकी उनकी वाइफ nhi थी तब सब बहुत तारीफ करते थे कॉलोनी वाले की आपने बहुत अच्छा किया बिना मां की बेटी को घर पे बैठा के नही रखते अच्छा किया की जिम्मेदारी से मुक्त हो गए। ओर 28की उम्र में डाइवोर्स होगा कर उसकी 2बिटिया थी ससुराल वालो को बेटा चाइए था तो रोज husband उसे बुरी trh पिटता था अब वो अंकल अपनी बेटी को आगे की पढ़ाई करवा रहे है ताकि वो अपने पैर पे खड़ी हो जाए 😢😢
सही कहां
Unmarried girls above 35 yrs of age can take benefit of cryo/ egg freezing medical procedure.
@@subodhgautam649 अरे चाचा 40 तक baache हो जाते है कोई प्रॉब्लम नहीं होती।
40 के बाद दोनों के लिए प्रॉब्लम होती है
I'm 37, well settled in life.. I delayed my marriage as i wanted to buy home, car, good position in career, jewels, bank balance. .. now after achieving all my thoughts n dreams, ll marry this year.. so i don't think age should be 24..
Bhai I got motivated because of u. I thought I am late.
Give me your contact
DO NOT get married to Indian woman. Better jump from the building, that will be fast death compared to slow death that you are going for.
18 + virgin is best
@@An0nym0us_Guy21
What u think is what u become or have in life. So I guess trust that.
I think late marriage is better than bad marriage. Its not just about numbers you have to know what you want in life I think when I was 26 I was too naive to understand about relationships but now when I am 30 I learnt a lot about relationships and I pretty much know what I don't want from a person so its all about perspective
I have heard this earlier from you Mr Sangwan but apart from this topic, I agree with you. Girl should marry after getting exposure of 2-3 years in market so that a girl learns value of money.
Firstly a girl should learn to take charge of her life .18-25yrs should be dedicated to career , 1) From 24-27yrs time start your partner search .2)Choose a city , state or country to settle down before you start the partner search .3) Based on your tradition, culture, qualification and Age create a profile that fits in majority of choices , tastes ,hobbies 4)food and habit choices are also mandatory like vegetarian, non-vegetarian, drinking , smoking . 5)Make sure to keep age gap not more than 5yrs between you and partner .6)Be careful when you are making career choices so that it does not create clashes in your married life and also you can look for better opportunities post marriage .
Ek number👏
This is better than mr Sangwan
@@AeyHero In simple words a girl wants to get married to a man who will be her best friend for life , also a part of her craziness , dreams and hard times . Also equally important is both are honest and treat each other with respect . Marriage will be a beautiful journey for a life time . God bless all couples 😇🙏💐🎁
@@AeyHero 1. Sexual attraction is the line that separates platonic & romantic relationship. So a boy & a girl cannot be just friends for a lifetime & still have a chemistry. I guess she prefers her partner to embody a nature of companionship.
2. Being adventurous, curiosity, having couple goals ,finding hobbies or tasks together can create a fun-filled marriage as opposed to it being duty bound & mundane.
3. Yes, the spouse should also be on the same page. It shouldn’t seem like just one partner is trying to carry the marriage.
Yes
24-27 or 29 is best age for marraige
Perfect analysis as usual, you missed one point, some parents become greedy about the money their daughter is bringing home. So they are not keen about her marriage.
Marriage depends on some family situations too.
I think there should be no strict age to get married for girls or boys. We are brought up in a society where girls are taught that your life will complete when you get married. Why is that so ? Sometimes they make wrong decission in jaldi jaldi kyonki uski so called shaadi ki ummar ja rahi hai.
@@SBH3356 exactly. I think one should get married when he/she feels to marry, not because the deadline of their age is running. There are cases of burnout/depression among girls because of society pressure ki unki shaadi ki ummar guzzar rahi hai
True , thAnk God somebody said this
So true but for girls it is important to stand on their own feet and have job and have earnings before marriage
@@nikitafernandes461 What if the guy does not want children , Will the girl be ok , esp indian girls
Ur views are absolutely right Sir. I have this kind of experience and am suffering a lot now.
Sirji, please don't get me wrong, but I think you are a generation behind for this advice, this I had faced in the 90s and 2000,where good education girls were leaving for US and other countries without marriage
Ek ladki shaadi kar leti at age 21..... her in laws promised her parents that they will allow her to study and make her career...but after two years Her husband is beating abusing... expecting her first baby....
What they promised...and what she is getting
@@sonujain2348 Milte hain ji... milte hain..... mere rishtedaaron me bahut se aise dekhaa hai Maine...... they got married at 30 or after 30... they settled themselves and got married.... husbands v ache mile hain... sabhi mahilayen nokri karti hain.... aur independent hain.
Bengal have deeper version of this problem. Being a Bengali mid40s man myself, and being on the other side of this story, I nowadays recommend all younger men to not marry a Bengali girl in any circumstance. For Bengali girls, I strongly recommend to have a free and independent life living with their parents and friends.
Can you explain what's problem with marrying bengali women?
I am Bengali and somehow I agree with u...
Kyu bhai
I'm 36 year lady & Single by choice. I believe late marriage is better than bad marriage. Also late marriage is better than getting divorced & marrying 2nd time, 3rd time so on.
Uncle apne Zamane ki baat kar rhe hain.
It's true 24 is the best age for gls to be settle down..in Agria family no such issues but issues are in punjabi and other caste...as per my suggestion if in India everyone will do a court marriage in early age and later the couple together save money and arrange their own marriage for social declaration it will be good for parents and young couple...in the blessings money of their parents they could able to book an apartment/house for themself and whatever be the package together they will stand a happy life😊
Kaash mujhe kisine bataya hota - i got married at the age of 30 years that too compromise. Successful in job but failed in life's most important step.
Nowadays girls feel that they wanna settledown first in career, but by the time they reach mid level career their age is 32+ years 🤔🤪
Same thing in boys also, too choosy and ultimately after 36, 38 age they end up with most disliked.
South Indian system is better .. Parents give jewellery , property , cash , top education to girls and marry them early like 21- 25 age to same age or 1- 2 older similar educated same earning boys of own community .. This act of giving property share of daughter to her at time of education n marriage removes fear n anxiety from daughter n son-in-laws mind ... Also parents of boys in South India train them since childhood to not look at beauty but qualities of females ... Easier life n more practical than North Indians ...
Does Hyderabad, Banglore, Chennai counts in southern India. Because I have seen otherwise in those cities. Also girls leaving job after marriage is very common here. I was shocked when asked by my colleague if I'm continuing my job after marriage.
South Indians marry much later. And South Indian boys look at fairer North Indian girls just that they don't get much chance 😂😂😂 Most South Indian parents ask money from girls after they finish college and they have to immediately get a job. They aren't allowed to roam around freely, living in cramped up apartments with parents, brother. My South Indian colleague used to cry everyday since her parents weren't interested in getting her married and her dad would say the little property he has would be given to her brother. It really depends on the type of parents at the end.
In chennai, Contrary women are expected to continue job even after childbirth due to expensive households. I know Boy houses are expecting working girls for marriage.
Unmarried girls above 35 yrs of age can take benefit of cryo/ egg freezing medical procedure.
Thank you for this topic...for me in the right time as I just turned 24 recently, and now moving twds marriage phase. Can you please make a video on : 1) ideal age difference between groom and bride
2) Ways of selecting a groom in arrange marriage (same community) suggestions through known relatives/ matrimony website etc, which is better
3) if groom is settled in different city and I am from different city, which place to get married (eg Chennai boy and me in Mumbai)
4) things to consider in Arrange marriage
30-38 age group men
@@keshabroy6094he mentioned in one of his videos that age gap should be 2 to 4 yr old not more than that
Don't get married
100% right girls must be serious and proactive on this issue
Greatest eye opener for girls and girl parents...thank you sango sir🙏👍😎
I completely agree with you...exactly I don't understand why parents do not understand or even girls who are educated and sensible are understanding this big situation, ..
30-33 is best 👍🏼 age for women
So that women learn about life before 30
I think, this is only true for super achiever girls having exceptional talent in their field like famous sportswoman, actresses, passout from premier institutes. Because super achiever boy will marry from super achiever girl.
@@abhideepkumar3585 wrong who told you that a super achiever man will marry a super achiever women men don't think like that bro
@@prozenz1879 exactly 💯 super achiever men wants housewife not same class girls lol 😆😂🤣😄😅😜
another clown you can't give high quality children then
@@loser3357 ok, so actors like Dave Franco, Cillian Murphy and SRK are fools and you, a nobody is right....
A suggestion for my fellow women who are single... when you talk to a guy before marriage/dating, ask them what channels they follow on UA-cam. And if they say that they follow Amit Sangwan, then just marry... Decision making tip hai yeh! 😀
Some cheap clever guys will going to copy this tip within comments to manipulate girls via this comment. I can fairly say as a boy.
😂 thank u for the idea
@@ayushgupta3447So much truth 😮 bro, they will copy and pretend good boys and when we see their true colour 😒 it's late.....
What an idea, Ma'am...Too good
ਕੀ ਕੋਈ ਪੰਜਾਬੀ ਕੁੜੀ ਇਹ ਦੇਖ ਰਹੀ ਆ...??, ਤਾਂ ਬਹੁਤ ਵਧੀਆ ਗੱਲ ਆ.... ਕਾਸ਼ ਕੋਈ ਏਦਾਂ ਦੀ ਥਿੰਕਿੰਗ ਦਾ ਸਾਥੀ ਮਿਲਜੇ.... like me...
I think girls should study upto graduation , there is no need to study post graduation until and unless you have dedicated to achieve something big , trust me even if you earn 25-30 k and you are under 25 , you will get guy who earns around 50k-1lakh , thats enough for all your needs
@@arpanmadrecha3013 i am talking practically , if you are not passionate then you should not study further , its just westage of time , most of girls wasting time in giving entrance exams for post graduation , and you know its hard crack entrance exam nowadays because of competition and in that proces their age increases , and trust me brother as your age increases you won't get good match in indian arrange marriage setup , so it is losing situation for them from both side unless and until you have decided to do love marriage
@@rijfd yup
@@rijfd I think if you really passionate about UPSC exam then go for it , no matter how many attempts you have to give , but make sure you clear exam , if you not that passionate about it then I think you should look for some decent job and get married around 25
As far as job concerned I have very little idea about BA program , I am doctor in progress so if you need any medical branch related doubts I can help you with that
@@rijfd I have one friend who is preparing for upsc and he told me that it's very hard exam to crack ( don't want to discourage you) and he said very few people clear it in first attempt unless and until you are very smart student , so for average student it need 2-3 years of serious preparation so think about it clearly , you are just 23 even if you take 3 attempts to clear it your age will be 26-27 so i think you should go for that and once you clear exam then you don't have to worry about your age for marriage so have faith in yourself and go hard for exam
And regarding graphic designing field , it's good field provided you have good communication and socialisation skills so act according to your personality
@@rijfd nice just have clarity in your mind , you will crack your exam , all the best
It takes upto 31-32 to complete medical residency, PhD, law, any tough career. It needs moving around the country, and world sometimes for postdoc, etc. Why suffer with marrying at 25 and doing long distance when you won't be compatible after your journey?
That's a choice to be made. Settling at job at 32 yrs . Biological.clock keeps ticking.
After 35 yr if you are planning a pregnancy then then there is a high risk of down syndrome and other congenital defects in baby.
Yes I guess it's a choice. It's a hard choice especially if you are on a success track at a high level, or have goals that aren't compatible with married life. I moved 3 countries in my 20s for btech, MS, PhD etc. No guy would have been okay with that.
@@wolfwarrior2558 what if they don't want child?
Freeze eggs, IVF. But you better be making good money :)
Everybody is different this kind of general advice is not applicable on everyone..its easy to give advice...but in practice this doesn't work. The right age for any girl or a guy to get married is when they are physically and mentally prepared to get married... otherwise it would be big mess not just for them but for the family as well
Sir absolutely intellectual and eyes opening video because 99% ko is phase ko face krna hi krna hai 😎Sir ek video india k most of brahmin and thakur parrents intercaste marriage k against Kyu hain is par bhi banaiyega sir 🙏🏻social equality iske bina aa hi nhi sakti .
Absolutely right.....sir aapne jo v bola 1000%right hai....iss topic pr khul kt discussion hona chahiye... Ye mera real experience hai jo face kr rhi hu.....papa ko pasand nhi tha aur dr v tha papa gussa na ho jaye aur ab koi mil nhi rha....thank you for like that content
6:54 बच्चा पैदा करना लडकी की लाइफ का एसिवमेंट नही है 😂😂 बहुत सारी महिलाएं शादी समय pe krleti हैं pr 7se 10 treatment krwati रहती फर्टिलिटी का
आज कल इनफर्टिलिटी बहुत jada horhi hai to kya wo ldki respect ke kaabil nhi hai kis tarh ki soch hai aapki ??
जो गाय दूध नहीं देती तो क्या उसे कोई रखता है?
Unmarried girls above 35 yrs of age can take benefit of cryo/ egg freezing medical procedure.
This is the only point I disagree with him on... That is his support for early marriage. I am a victim od early marriage at the age of 23. The parents who get a girl married early are obviously interested more in shit like log kya kahenge, shadi apne hi caste mein honi chahiye, age, beauty, etc. They are not interested in how their daughter will adjust, what are the things she will have to face, what if they ill- treat her, what if she is deprived of basic necessities which she doesn't earn enough for at such a young age. My mother forced me to stay in my marriage despite all odds. She told me she wouldn't accept me back in the house with my little daughter. I gave up my career a year after marriage because of having a baby and then i sacrificed 6 years for her to grow up a bit, because both mother and mother in law were not interested in helping. Then, I got into a prestigious PhD programe and completed it recently. But, now I'm 38, have family responsibilities, can't take decisions to travel far to join a job, can't go aboad like my batchmates to pursue post doc. Things are so complicated. I have lived through all this alone, but still excelled. Now, my age is such that i am not eligible for most govt jobs. My mother says this is my fate. Please take a lesson from my story girls, dont believe your parents blindly, don't come under their pressure when they blackmail you. I feel so embarassed to share my story here. But if i can save girls, then I will surely talk about it. All I have now is loneliness, while living in a family in this society. I feel emotionally and financially lost and betrayed by my mother, but she doesnt even feel she made mistakes by getting me married early, never helping me to get out of it, and not helping me in my phd journey.
Im 30 unmarried unemployed the person I was with cheated me I even thought of getting married to him but after listening to your story I feel blessed my parents never pressurized me to get married. They always stood by me. Im their only child now my focus is to build my career shaadi ab krni bhi nhi mujhe
@@Msharma30 Build a career, build your life the way you want. The main point is that we should take our own decisions and if we fail, it's at least satisfying that nobody forced us. If you are forced by family, you are bound to feel embittered. Unemployment is not even an option. Financial independence gives you a lot of power. You can move mountains if you are independent and have family support. Shadi karni hai ya nahi, can be decided eventually. It's not a bad thing. Timing aur insaan sahi hona chahiye. I'm getting ready to take another leap in my profession, kyunki gaining professional success is still easier than making a perfect personal life in my experience.
@@deeptirao5982 maam can i talk to you I'm 24 yr and parents want me to marry in one year
Very true.I hv three cousins nearing 30 years,whose parents are now saying tumnehi dekh lena tha pahele..but it's girls mistake also...they say upfront...no marrige till I get settled!!
Really great video. I have forwarded to few of my colleagues who have similar though process. They say they will handle the consequesnces in later life, its their choice, but even not growing in career as well nor in personal life. Struggling to make 40k per month. Her parents conselling her, but she feels they are putting pressure. Already 29 age. God knows what will happen to her. Just praying everyone watch your channel and video and get some clarity in life. Our generation is most confused with the number of options and freedom we have. Freedom should come with its responsibility and maturity, without any boundary freedom spoils.
Sir, I am 24 yr old girl right now. I am kinda agreeing with your views. Although i had completely opposite views 2 yrs back. But as life is progressing, getting married early is seeming to be something right for me. Abhi ek accha rishta aya hai, I was in confusion about the whole situation, but your video has given me clarity. I was first skeptical because mujhe MBA karna hai..but mba baadme bhi hosakta hai..age waapas nahi ayegi ye baat bhi utni hee sach hai. Thankyou sir!
What if the guy does not want children , Will the girl be ok , esp indian girls
hello maam how you choose groom for you ?? what criteria you considered like behaviour and finance wise
Mere hisab se late marriage ladki meh jyada tar employed girls k saath hoti hai.....iske main reason unka maa aur baap hai...are jab tak ladki kamakar apni salary hame derahi hai to acha hai na....ladki ki saadi baad meh dekh lenge....aise he karte karte hojate hai too late.....
इस मुद्दे को किसी apne ko शेयर करें to turant बुरा maan जाएगा... log डरते हैं सच का सामना करने से
sahi baat... andar se sabko pata hai ye sahi hai par sabko bura lagta hai..
21 se 26 main shaadi karne wale aaj kal 30 tak 2 baar divorce kar lete hai 🤣. I absolutely support u I'm all views but aaj kal jaldi shaadi wala system chalta nahi aaj kal.
Agreed.....but eventually everything boils down to "biological clock ticking".
@@manasi92 Reality is these days it's getting difficult to give birth at any age due to harmone issues, lifestyle, bad habits, men consuminf bad stuffs. I have friends married in their 20s still not able to concieve. So no worries and there r people who r giving birth in 40s these days. . Its 2023 don't fall for this trap.
@@MyfoodsSaas You are right... Really needed to hear this. Thank you. But there's another issue attached to this where a young couple having children will be more capable of looking after them and even their parents would be in their what between 40's to 50's so even they can help to look after their own granchild as opposed to a couple who have late children who might have low energy & by then their parents would be in their 60's or 70's . This is something I get to hear a lot and kind of bothering me.
@@manasi92 This structure and timeline use to work previously, I am not denying about this fact. We use to do this bcoz we had no choice and burden to improve the country. Logically it is better to get married by 25 or 30.But our generation is different these days mental health issues of normal people are way worse then what it use to be of a soldier in a world War. People have forgotten basic etiquette, people are getting mature only after 30. There are no more join family no one to take care of kids and anything can happen if you have money. Marrying when you r ready with one stable partner and than have kid is way more better than marrying early and having 2 divorces and still living alone. Divorce is becoming ai normal these days, some r getting divorced within months. First take care of your physical health, study , earn go out see some places. Find a good partner and then get married. FYI no one looks after your child. Bolne ki baat hai bas, pehle sab saath rehte the toh paal jaate the. WFH ho chuka hai ab toh. Aur samjho divorce ho bhi jata hai koi nahi dusra dhundho
@@MyfoodsSaasYa and what is the use of even having the energy and youthfulness if you are yourself immature, stupid and naive or unhappy mentally, emotionaly and physically with your life producing kids who will acquire only toxicity because their parents are unsatisfied. That is the reason even a woman living in a joint family having everything around her craves for living in nuclear setup. So I guess there is no set of do's & don'ts on how to live life not keeping aside the fact that life is uncertain in its own way.
Very appreciable sir....ek dum mun ki baat kehdi aapne....I think society is going into ditch.....samaj Khatam hogaya hai sir....koi nahi adjust kerta.....savko crore pati wala pati chahiye.....ladkiyaan age 33 ke baad bhi full attitude me😅😅
There is biological and ethical point also behind this which I certainly know you could speak but may be due to some limits or decorum you did not talk about that.
If somebody delay his her marriage too much then there is chance that they will choose unethical ways to satisfy their biological needs.
I know county Laws has given freedom to people but we all know society does not appreciate relationships without marriage.
Also there are severe consequences of such relationships as people often get trapped ,black mailed and sometimes even few lost their Life.
Also on later stage it gets very difficult for a girl specially to get married if people come to know about her past relationships.
Something which is okay in eyes of Law , may or may not be okay in eyes of Society.
Sir good explanation 👍 correct age by 24 years she should get married 👍
My family is also same. Pehle to kisiko date krne nhi dete. Jab wo khud arrange Wale ladke late mujhe pasand nhi ati or Jo me lati hu wo unhe pasand nhi hoti. Bolte he ki tum logo ko logo ki pehchan nhi hei. Or matlab papa ka ye he ki aap kisi ladke se baat Karo to usko direct Ghar bula Lao shadi ki baat krne . Are pehle Hume ek dusre ko acche se jaan to lene do. Or samjhane se bhi nhi samajhte. M 30 now and single but i want to get married and have a family of my own. Parents ko khush krne Lage rhi to ho gyi meri shadi.
Don't get more time 💖👍🏻
Excellent topic sir bahut badhiya samjhaye aapne....aap aur videos banaye ....😊😊
All make sense. Thanks for opening our eyes. You are Marvellous Amit Ji. Thanks 🙏
One of the problems now is a large number of parents tell their daughters that are educating them so that may stand on their feet. Good. But no one teaches their daughters that they are educating them to enable them to manage thei4 homes and life in a better way. Thanks. Rajinder Aggarwal. Sh8mla
Yes Sir having a daughter at 28 n finding very difficult to find her a right groom
😂😂😂..u want money, home, single son....to it is very difficult to find out groom 😂....u want look, govt job 😂...pahele khud ki daughter Ko aise banao fir wo jaise groom dhundna 😂
Hats off to the clarity you give!! Nabz jaante ho aap Indian society ki!
Im also searching for a suitable match from last 3 years and what sir has said is absolutely right...Im sory to say but the biggest hindrance between a girl and a boy getting a match of their choice is "The Girl's Father"....almost 90% of these fathers are like that...they feel they r samaj k thekedaar or something and everything will happen according to their choices and girl should not have any control over her choices....Many a times it has happened that the girl is liking my profile and Im liking her profile but when she talks to her parents its all over....most probably bcoz of caste and all...bcoz her father wants to satisfy this caste criteria at any cost....
Unmarried girls above 35 yrs of age can take benefit of cryo/ egg freezing medical procedure.
@@subodhgautam649then how girls of above 35 are having a second child?...😂...
Some girls don't want marriage..ever. Not because they want a career (I don't think women who don't want marriage are career oriented. In fact getting married means you need to earn more to contribute to family. Without marriage you just need some money to support yourself). I know women who were pressurised to get married in 20s and now their life is miserable. And there are women in their 40s who never married and still feel that marriage would have ruined their life. The truth is some women NEVER want marriage and the society should not try to convince them to get married.
Great topic. When I was young we all friends went to doctor who is father of our friends. We asked when to get married he said you should have your first baby by the time girls age is 25. And we all followed his advance I have now 25 years old son and younger is 18 years. Shadi aur bacche jaldi niptalo taki app dono can focus on your individual career.
Some girls don't want marriage..ever. Not because they want a career (I don't think women who don't want marriage are career oriented. In fact getting married means you need to earn more to contribute to family. Without marriage you just need some money to support yourself). I know women who were pressurised to get married in 20s and now their life is miserable. And there are women in their 40s who never married and still feel that marriage would have ruined their life. The truth is some women NEVER want marriage and the society should not try to convince them to get married.
U r age now
@@jaishreeramh1949 I am 58 now
@@statisticsinternalexam6053 I had seen girls in their 22-25 years they had 15 conditions and after 32-34 years no conditions just a men required. Behenji/ Bitiyaji all good boys are vanished when they are 25-28. If you are late then you will even suffer without marriage. Priorities career Vs. Family life.
@@ashokdeshmukh242625-28 normal he aajkal, bahat riste ajate he iss bich 😊
Sir,
Very original thoughts. God bless you
This papa's description is so accurate. I only wish people learn something from this.
Exactly 💯💯💯💯 ground reality in every middle class household..
One thing to be pointed out , even the guy side doesn't want to get married to girls who are not earning well or dont have job , so a girl of 21-22 in middle class , its hard to get married , since the guy also wants to have a girl with decent package job etc , especially demanding that a girl of age 24 , with a govt teaching job is in demand ,
Not everyone fits in that
@@AD-hp1wn yes , but both girls and boys are studying, competing in the same education system and competing times, so where its ok for the guy to take time and settle down or even prepare for govt jobs beyond 25-30 age, the standard for the girl are unreasonable, its not right to expect the girl to earn really good or have a govt job all before turning 24-25,
Middle class arrange marriages mein demand yahi hai , teacher bani ke nahi , no marriage without job of the girl
I experienced it my self ..got married at 27 ..i realised if i got married before it wouod have been good for my body , now at 36 i pregnant with 2nd kid and i am not that energetic because of age . Thats harsh truth about women we have that bio clock to follow
Boyfriends hote hain girls k jo Abhi settle nahi huye. Larki Shaadi nahi karti before breakup.
99.9% yahi reason hota h.
Sahi bole....100000% agree with u..avi ka time me ladka k liye sadhi ek death hai..and I don't wanna get married...but karma padega parents k liye😢😢
Uncle always cracks me up with his marvellous sense of humour. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 It’s one of the primary reasons I binge watch his content. 🤣
Dear uncle you are too good. And if you have a daughter she is very lucky to have u.. Lots of blessings and luck.. Love khushali from mumbai.. Please bring some topic for single girl child no siblings and her issues.. What to expect from her future husband towards her parents well being.
Be clear in mind to look after your parents and covey this message to your future husband clearly. I hope, you will sure get a man who will support you and your family.
But main point is, take responsibility of your parents yourself and expect support from man.
A woman gets only one thing out of marriage worth her time that is a child. A man does not add much to her life (same for a woman in the life of a man). So beyond childbirth, marriage is meaningless. Some women just don't want a child (they don't want motherhood that's all). They still get married in the expectation of financial security and ruin their own and their husband's lives. If you don't want a family, just stay single. Parents who force their girls to get married for financial or some kind of security are completely wrong. A woman should get married only she wants a family wholeheartedly, otherwise do yourself and others a favour and NEVER GET MARRIED. NOT AT 24, NOT AT 32 NOT AT 35 NOT AT 50. JUST NEVER GET MARRIED. AND SOCIETY WILL DO A GREAT FAVOUR IF THEY STOP PESTERING PEOPLE FOR MARRIAGE. OTHERWISE PEOPLE WHO ARE NOT SUITABLE FOR MARRIAGE WILL GET MARRIED AND MAKE THE SOCIETY MORE ROTTEN.
I think Aajkal ladko ki shaadi hone mei dikkat horhi hai... Not girls... Girls ki bahut demand hai sir..
@@venomium4360 yaha mei age hi baat hi nhi kar rhi... Aaj Kal most of the women are educated well settled and hence they are in demand...aur ladkiya kaafi competitive hogyi Hai. Govt job wale ladko ki hi demand hai baaki toh bechaare wait hi krhe ki koi ladki miljaye shaadi ko.. Aise bahut se dekhe hai maine apne friends circle mein and bahar bhi
Ladka agar high earning hoga to hi uski shadi hogi. Ladkiyo ke upar aisa koi expectation nahi hai. Ye femenist sirf apni baat karte hai purusho ke problems nahi samajhte
@@goalsunlimited919 feminist ka definition samjhaye pls.. I am curious now
@@kanchan8045 feminist matlab narivad karne wale. Vo hamesha mahilao ki side lete hai purush ke problems nahi samajhte
@@goalsunlimited919 I would request ki pls educate yourself first.. Agar yhi Jo upar cheez boli hai maine jaha maine apne experience ya Jo aas paas k logo k experience k hisaab se maine Jo apni baat rakhi hai kya tab bhi aap apna aadmiyo wala R**di Rona karte? nahi na? Ya kisi purush ne apni baat rakhi hoti apne experience ke hisab se kya tab bhi aap aisa hi bolte... Aur haan sir Feminist ka meaning Jo aapne bola wo galat h.. People like you are misguiding... And you know misguide karta kaun hai? Jise pta hai ki saamne wale ko apni self worth pata hai..aur yaha saamne wala is woman 🙂
hum batayenge ke chakkar me 40 saal ka ho gya main still single ab iccha bhi khatam ho gyi shaadi ki
Your views might be a little difficult to understand but they are absolutely right. Marriage,if you really want to do ,shd be done early in life ,max by 26 yrs
Mid 20s is best age for marraige I think , because people can have kids by late 20s (25-30) , which is right age to have kids
Shi bola aapne me bhi job ke chakr me saadi ko avoid krti rhi or ab saadi hui to esa lgta h isse better mil skta tha