By making these video you are trying to influence others. You are not realistic, you just try to add propaganda in the youngster. Marriage is not for everyone. In real world girls are spoiling the life of boys. I see a very good people left job because his wife is not caring the babies. You donot know what problem boys are facing in current economic scenario. I see old people like you are saying to make baby, human being is not for reproduction only. One couple should have one or zero babies because giving birth is not only responsibility of father and mother, one should think whether his child will survive in the next world where AI and ML will take all jobs and finance.
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I am turning 35 next month still not ready for marriage and terrified by my friends situations who ended up in bitter divorce and separations , I am happy with little things that God has blessed me with he's gonna take care of me 😇.
Yes, you are right. I am also a 37 years old person. I am single and I am happy in my life. I just surrender myself to God and I am sure he will take care of me.
Todays meme: itna sach nhi bolna tha. Uncle ko khud counselling ki jarurat padd jayegi 😂 😂😂. I had to add this. I don't wanted to show 'edited' here.. bt its ok. He has same reasons & examples everytime. All cliches! Aisa hai there were many working & Independent women but suffered in marriage and Money is very much imp bt still rich ppl & celebs are the best examples of lots of divorce cases tht also show there no direct connection btwn happy married life with money, carrer,independence etc..Some ppl may try to spoil marriage. They can be anyone & anyside infact they themselves too! but still it comes up for the couple & their trust & understanding.
@@shiprasharma4449 संन्यास स्वतंत्रता है। संन्यास घोषणा है इस बात की कि मैं अपने जीवन को अपने ढंग से जीऊंगा। मैं वैसे जीऊंगा जैसी मेरी अंतःप्रेरणा होगी। मैं दूसरों की मान कर न जीऊंगा। मैं दूसरों का अनुकरण करके न जीऊंगा। मेरा जीवन एक अभिनय मात्र नहीं होगा। मेरा जीवन प्रमाणिक होगा, मेरा होगाः मेरी निजता से जन्मेगा, स्वतःस्फूत होगा। और संन्यास का क्या अर्थ है? अपने ढंग से जीऊंगा ताकि परमात्मा के सामने जब जाऊं तो यह कह सकूं कि तुमने जो प्रेरणा मुझे दी थी उसके ही अनुसार जीआ हूं। झुका नहीं, समझौता नहीं किया। और जिस दिन तुम जानोगे उस दिन तुम चकित होओगे कि बवंडर, तूफान, विरोध सब तुम्हें सहारा दे गए हैं। The Great Osho
Video muze convince nahi kar paya😅. Comment padh kar pata chala mere jaise happily single log bohot hai. Muze single rehne ke liye confidence badh gaya😂
Aapki baatein hi mujhse sbse behuda lg rhi hain sir ..bht izzat se yeh baat keh rha hun.... main regret krna psnd krunga but itna dukh aur doglapan ke rishte ko na nibhaunga
You are right ye faaltu ka views badhane ko gyaan de raha maine kitno ko unmarried dekha door mat jaao padosh me hi aise kayi hai jo unmarried hai Jo Khushi she life jii rahe.
In our Vedic times nearly 25% of population chose Bhramcharya after taking Deeksha ( Sadhna to channelise sexual urges/energy to some other things). It was because everyone is not suitable to get married. That was the wisdom back then. Compulsion to get married at present time comes from the Mughal period as security of females becomes most important and the way to secure them was to get them married.
देखिये, आज शादी कोई तभी करेगा जब उसे सुख मिले। क्योकि ये कोई जिम्मेदारी नही, और ना ही कोई ठेका ले रखा है पीढ़ी बढाने का। जिनका मन कमजोर है वो करे शादी। वरना आज के समय शादी का कोई लाभ नही बल्कि हानि होने की अधिक सम्भावना है। विशेषकर आज के परिवार विरोधी कानूनो मे। अब तो यही सबसे बडा सवाल है की शादी क्यो करे? मिलेगा क्या ये जिम्मेदारिया उठा कर? मरना तो एक दिन वैसे भी सबको है। क्यो ना निश्चिंत होकर जिया जाये। बेहतर है कि अंत समय आध्यात्म का सहारा ले ले। आज ढेरो संस्थाए है जो वृद्धावस्था की व्यवस्था करती है। कोई दिक्कत नही जाती, जीवन आराम से हसी खुशी बीतता है।
I married 7 years back and have a child...but I lost my job, my parents, my childhood home, my confidence and everything....and I got abuses ,violence, depression, anxiety, migraine .......so decide very carefully
No one speaks about this enough. Women shouldn't marry unless they have savings enough to buy property and to live without income for a year or so. You can always freeze your eggs and procreate later if you want kids.
In India the women who don't earn mostly are treated as slaves, telling by how my mother was treated Now she is in clinical depression Never leave your job for marriage,or even if your husband earns much more Job gives a women confidence and security against any abuse that she may have to face from in laws or husband, also one make friends in job Which is important for mental health
For me,, if people reject you only because u don't have job, then they don't deserve to have u in their life. They r lifeless people... Atleast I don't ever include those in my life.
@@dr.shakshigupta5879 No worries at all. That's why it was said, " chal akela".. i follow the same and a very few people i take with me, only gems... 😀 Remember, when u meet 100 people , hardly 10 belongs to you & it happens everywhere.. u join any academic institution, meet 50 people in 1 year, when u leave institute, hardly 5 people will be in your contact in future.. 😊
Sir I watched ur whole episode thinking that maybe I missed something and that ur episode may force me to rethink my decision to never marry. But I think this episode was not for me. I still stick to my decision n still estatically happy with my decision. I took this decision 3 years back and not regretted ever since. I just turned 39. However m sure ur way of explaining various issues do help a lot of people. Thankful to God that people like u exist too. 🙏
@Sango Life Sutras I don't need to challenge u and I'm not. I respect u for the good work u r doing. All I'm saying is m not marrying for all the right reasons and none of the reasons that u mentioned for youngsters delaying or not marrying nowadays.
Wah sir ! 42 precisely kaise bataya apne aise konse biological changes ho jate hai 42 me...he's already 39 & happy...3 saal me uski dunia konsa upside down ho jaegi lol
My suggestion: Don't make marriage compulsory but optional. Having the opposite gender into your inner space needs much rethinking if you really are prepared for this institution. There are still many individuals who are doing great in personal and social life without marriage and even being single.
@@TheMonkNZ women are more happier coz they don't have to deal with exploitation that come with marriage; ladkon ka kya hai shadi k baad v kuch saal taak apne life ; apne entertainment mai focus krte hai
@@K9_Jerry it's because of our unrealistic demands. everyeone wants minium 2bhk flat in posh society. shiny privates school for children. parties, holidays. once you die without child your whole money unfortuntely goes for the same people who have more than 2 child.
@@sortcapsregulatory7911 if you till 16-17-18 completed 12th after that graduation if your further studies in law,ca, doctor then it takes a lot of years from study to proper stablish that profession . Have you entered job market ? How to earn- multiple sources of earning money? Any there for step by step guide you,help you? Any fruitful relationship? How to raise child? how psychology effect on child till 25-30? Have you enough money+ knowledge to have choice to raise your child or save your partner in any way? Are you street smart? You have to play that part eventually. It's 60 years plus togetherness more or less.
@@shamchandravanshi3098 bhai mere friends ki problem dekhar mujhe khushi horahi hai haa main dukhi tha 38-39 kyunki samjh dabata bahut hai lekin ignore karna unko
Marriage without financial independence is scary for both boys and girls. Marriage is not going to die. But why should a poor boy and a girl marry and how would they support their children. Sociologically you are right, but what about individual's psycholgy.
I need more clarity on this. My parents are well Seattled we have own house and property. They are government servent. I have recently started my business but it's in loss. Growth rate is slow. It's my second year of business. But I have loyal customer, the always come back. But foot fall is very low. my current age is 33 . And I live with my parents because I am the only son. I am not financially strong my my own income so I am scared of getting married. But parents want bme to do marriage, they say they will support me and help me grow. I am unable to decide whether I should get married or not.
@@englishclasses1665 ok..ballia backward area hai kafi, jada se jada 2 saal aur fir apki shadi ho jaegi apki community mai.. Isse acha hai koi ladka khoj khud hi karlo.. Aap UPPCS k taiyari kar rahi ho isliye apke parent ruke hue hai 100%
Marriage is a failed institution in current socio-economic scenario where men and women earn same and are independent. Neither of them would want to compromise, (and why should they?) Marriage cannot work without compromise, you see in past times when women were limited to household, they had to compromise because they were financially dependent on husband, however modern woman will not compromise (and why should they?) Hence marriage is a failed social experiment.
Sir I respect you but on this topic I don't agree with you sir .Ek sawal he kya insan sirf shadi aur bachche aur settle hone ke liye peda hua he kya ?? Insan ko bandhano se mukti ki jarurat he faltu ke tante palkar khud ko aur kisi aur insan k bandhan mat badao . Life sirf maje marne k liye nhi hoti he .
@@vivek8580 that's OK bro but don't you think that shadi k bad life jand si ho jati he, roz ki vohi khatpat, mathaphodi , ldai jhgda , aap kro to bhut sochsamjkar krna kyuki me bhugat chuka hu shadi ki barbadi aaj bhi nind nhi aati , goliya khani pdti he .
@@vivek8580How many ambitious women do u see around? There are only 20% of women who has India’s workforce participation. Many women leave their job after getting married or discontinue after having children while men aren’t allowed to do that. And those ambitious women look for ambitious men who earn more than them. They don’t look down. This uncle tells everyone to find a career oriented/working wife but he should know the statistics of working women population.
@@vivek8580 i di really appreciate the things you have said but one thing i need to point out that having a family and baccha ko palna is not actually low level goals but may be they are basics .....
@@pankajtanwar155 shaadi zaroori nhi h but aapke jaise kehena toh stereotype h Sir. Most of couples ki compatibility nhi hoti, acche lgne ke baad zindagi hoti h, sbko apne life se alag cheezein chahiye hota h, sbki react krne ka tarike, rehan sehan alag hota h. Duniya mein har tarike ka insan hote h, atrangi falana dimkana, wo ladka ladki dono mein hoti h. Toh aapke jaisi khayal jis ladki ki hogi, usse aapki banegi. Sath rehena lambi time tak aur shaadi, farak nhi h. Agar farak h toh bs social responsibilities aur security ki darr. Aapke kharab experience ka mtlb ye nhi shaadi kharab, partner galat chunte h bs. And also many indian girls and guys in many states or cities i have seen has a specific mindset or behaviour, jisse pati ya patni k sath bnti nhi h, toh apne dimension expand karo, search for someone outside ur boundaries, i have seen many indians marrying foreigners and staying happy. So dont restrict ur thought to one section in society
No need to marry....its just a compromise ....market is father of your child.....5-6 relationships before marriage.....then dulha and dulhan into traditional dress😂😂😂😂
I have planned to have 100 marriages and 1000 Childers. Will you please marry me and help me reach my goal. Im 24 already married 1.5 year ago and have 1 baby and 2nd pregnancy of 5 months.
Sir, you are actually trying to change the thought pattern of the new generation. Yes, we are becoming reluctant in terms of marriage, but hopefully this scenario will change, with time. Keep up the good work sir.
38 Y Old here, single , very much happy my own way. Society is just purely dillusion for those who are mesmorised. 1 Question only How many Girls really marry to boys ? Or wiseaversa (I think none) Most of marriages are based on Financial status, So, Just marriage is just with money 💰 not with the person. No matter How Good you are by nature, or what is your instinct. That does not matter. Matter is only Financial status both side.
शादी नामक संस्था की सच्चाई1.लोग सादी इसलिए करते है ताकि उनको यौन सुख मिलेगा ,जबकि 90% जोड़ो को योन सुख मिल ही नही पाता, क्योंकि माता पिता जो सादी कराते है ,बच्चे उनको कभी नही बता पाते है कि उनको कैसी फिगर वाली लड़की पसंद है या लड़का?के बार पत्नी पसन्द नही आती तो कइयों को पति ,अगर सादी से लोग योन सुख से संतुस्ट होते तो बाहर संबंध नही बनाते?2।लोग कहते है सादी करने से लोग सेटल हो जाते है ,जोकि की 100% गलत है सादी की बाद 90% जोडे एक दूसरे से अलग होना चाहते है,लेकिन एक एक दुसरे को दुख ना हो इसलिए मज़बूरी मैं अलग नही होते, मतलब सादी मैं फस कर आदमी ना निकल पाता है ना जुड़ पता है सिर्फ टेंशन मैं इधर उधर झूलता है,रही पैसा कमाने और सेव करने की बात है सादी के बाद बहुत अधिक खर्च होने के कारण लोग कर्ज मैं दुब जाते है और उधार की ज़िंदगी जीता है जिस के कारण डिप्रेशन ,टेंशन हाई बीपी,मोटापा ,हार्ट अटैक आदि बीमारी से ग्रसित हो जाते है।3 सादी से वंश चलता है आज के टाइम मैं ये बात भी निर्थक है ,क्योंकि भारत मे जनसख्या विस्फोट है ,सादीसुदा लोग बच्चे पैदा करके जलवायु पयार्वरण परिवर्तन खराब करने की लिए जिम्मेदार है लोग बहुत ज्यादा कार्बन उत्सर्जित करता है।4।सादी करके आदमी मानसिक और भौतिक रूप से गुलाम हो जाता है,सादी रियल मैं वास्विक जेल से भी खतरनाक जेल है।आदमी अपनी पसंद का कोई कार्य नही कर पाता, अपबे ढंग से सो नही पाता, उठ, बैठ नही सकता, खुद का अपना पैसा अपनी मर्जी से खर्च नही कर सकता,सादी के बाद एक आदमी की ज़िंदगी रिस्तेदारो,रिस्तो,सादी, विवाह ,बर्थडे मैं ही उलझ जाती है5सादी के आदमी का सवास्थ्य अच्छा होने की बजाये खराब हो जाता है6।सादी के बाद डॉक्टरों के ही चक्कर लगाने पड़ते है।सादी एक ऐसी बीमारी है जिसमे दर्द बहुत होता है लेकिन कोई चिलाता नही है ना कोई इसका कोई इलाज खोजता है।7 सादी के बाद कोर्ट कचहरी के चक्कर लगाता है और अपना जीवन बर्बाद कर लेता है।
I have planned to have 100 marriages and 1000 Childers. Will you please marry me and help me reach my goal. Im 24 already married 1.5 year ago and have 1 baby and 2nd pregnancy of 5 months.
Sir sometimes you just don’t find the right person. Many a times the person you were invested for the purpose of marrying with Break off the relationship. Life is unpredictable. And one cannot simply move on being logical and calculative at all times. Yes however, if one finds a good partner at the right age then by all means do not delay it. But life isn’t a straight road. And getting married just for the heck of it without Basic values being aligned, and a firm and through background check in case of arranged alliances isn’t fruitful at all. Baad mein jo hoga Woh to apple definitely akele jhelna hai. But be late then sorry.
@@ashitmukherjee5934 then why ready to entertain with your life. If you married someone,then it's 60years togetherness more or less. Then why for this so much hustle bustle
I agree with you. And the pain it brings of putting dedicated effort into a relationship so that it turns a long term innings of marriage can sometimes break a camels back. I also agree with Sir's point of cribbing nature of men. It can come in any form. I don't understand high earning men mentality. They want a trophy partner plus accomplished and should have the potential to be at the beck and call of the partner every single need. Forget parents they themselves are so emotionally demanding.
Yaar pls stick to this decision my dad never wanted to marry but his family force him to get married he became alcoholic plus he stopped providing us for money because of this me and my brother's mental health is ruined I started earning at 19 and later provided for my family so for every guy who doesn't want loads of financial responsibility and is not willing to marry should stay single
" your parents world is different, we stay in our minds, same ghar me dusre mental world me hum rehte hai " so so true 👌👍Thanks for this video , I really like all your videos..... aapka perspective ekdum hatke hota hai 🙏👌
I also want to add that parenting is changing rapidly with time and don't know what will happen to this generation that eats with mobile. Parents are helpless and clueless and this is changing with more tech entering households. I have empathy for new parents and will be parents.
99% of people need marriage , what the hell. Reasons of people not wanting marriage are not so simple. Leave it to the individual. Marriage as an institute is on decline and will continue for a lot longer.
Sir, aap astrologer ho...yuga change kar raha hai...marriage paradigm is changing...abhi sirf earn, pay and bacche ke liye shadi nahi chahiye...now people are looking for something higher...they want a soul connection...plus in the new age or yuga the population will be far less...the initial phase has started manifesting with the younger lot not wanting to marry...perspective of life itself is changing and the young ones don't want to be stuck in the old paradigm... Aur aap shaadi ki old paradigm Ki baat kar rahe ho? You're an astrologer. The earth is ascending...new age is dawning...isko nazar mein rakhte huye guide kyun nahi karte ho?
I have planned to have 100 marriages and 1000 Childers. Will you please marry me and help me reach my goal. Im 24 already married 1.5 year ago and have 1 baby and 2nd pregnancy of 5 months.
You are forgetting very important part that majority of the girls today have or had past lovers but because of family pressure or other didn't marry him. When they marry they settle for some nice guy for the resources but their heart is still with their ex and since they are self-sufficient they don't respect the husband and do affairs with their ex or someone they cannot have like a very good looking or rich man. Character is everything while selecting a wife all other things are pretty much useless without character.
@@happyplease4093 But if the guy cheats in a marriage and it leads to divorce, the girl doesnt have to pay alimony(the guy has to pay alimony) etc whereas if the woman cheats then still the man has to give alimony etc after divorce.
Sir ,Agar shaadi timely na karwane me maata pita hi na chhaye to? Hai aise bahut maata pita jo 40 Tak bachho ki shaadi nahi karne dete aur agar khhud se kar lo bawaal, marte dam Tak muh nahi dekhte. Samajhte hi nahi aise maata pita ki unke bachhe 42 /45 ki umar me apne chhote chhote bachho ko kaise sambhalte honge. Sir it's a true of story of someone. Not everyone is against marriage, sometimes parents are responsible.
Bahut sahi baat kahi aapne... Agar mata-pita ya bhai behen ko lag jaye ye beti/beta or bhai/behen responsible hai, ghar ki sari jimmedari uthata hai, finance to everything, thn un logo ki shadi karwane ke liye koi ichchuk nahi hota hai...
Single rehna achhi baat hai no stress no nuisance etc but when it comes to travel,outing,movies,eating out,attending grand events etc ni family, friends or relatives come to hang out n theres pure loneliness so many people change their mind and get married in late 40s so they can have a good company
He is marriage consultant runs a marriage institution that's why he putting facts for marrige and children. Otherwise see comment I am 33 yo unmarried never been in relationship by choice and Happy.
@@mattcardin1796 circumstance and parents health play role in delay. I completed my grad @ 30 I lost my father this yr and mother is schizophrenic. So currently I have lots of responsibility and want to live life freely. Marriage comes with responsibility...
@GauravRajput-jx2xy bro ye admi apni hi baat ko kaat raha hai. Ye khud hi bol raha hai ki sex ratio kharab hai . Aur khud hi bol raha hai ki sabko shadi karni chahiye 😂
Marriage is a choice, not a necessity! Everyone has their own priorities in life...we cannot impose one or two reason for not getting married on everyone as if they are the universal reasons...we should leave it to the individual to decide his/her own course of life...Sir i think aapka Survey Sample Size thoda chota reh gya! But nevertheless it is a nice talk!
Sir, the thing which you explained in the last 2 mins, that is one of the prime reasons why guys or girls are afraid of marriage or don`t get married early. because no family would like an underdog or so. Anyone does not look for extra baggage to carry. One request can you make a video about folks who want to marry late in life?
Sir, I have been following you since a few weeks now and i am glad i found ur videos. I m a 25 yr old doctor and marriage proposals are coming constantly now. I was confused and anxious about marriage and other aspects of my future. Your talks gave me a perspective for me to contemplate and decide. Ye baatein jo mere liye bilkul nayi hain kisi bade ka margdarshan zaroori hota hai jo parents se mil nahi raha. Thankyou and sending you warm regards.
Yes you can marry. But choose partner carefully. Choose someone who matches with your aspirations, goals and commitments in life. Since you are a doctor,most important is he should understand your commitment as a doctor. Also better to have in laws who would support you to pursue your career , render help n support when you have kids in future. Don't go for glamour. Looks, guy working abroad with high earnings etc. MOST IMPORTANT never come under peer pressure. Best wishes.
Very well explained ❤️for those who are not marrying because they are finding faults with the other gender. Marriage is hard, Living alone is hard. You need to choose. Not marrying is a choice, it's not because the girls are bad or the boys are bad.
I have planned to have 100 marriages and 1000 Childers. Will you please marry me and help me reach my goal. Im 24 already married 1.5 year ago and have 1 baby and 2nd pregnancy of 5 months.
Well said Sangwan Sir.I am a Doctor and used to say these things in family and friend circle .You are doing great service to the society.You deserve 1 million subscribers
Highly psychological Analysis of marriage for both girls and boys,there should be more people like you, I send your videos to lot of young and old members of society,
Sir ,I am respectfuly saying that you missed the important reasons: 1.Ladka ya ladki apni azzadi aur kuareypan ke mazey ni chod saktey isliye Aisa hora hai. 2.Shadi ke baad bandhn aur chic chic se wo khud ko door rakhna chahtey hai. 3.Naukri ki jbrdast uncertainty hai .
Whenever you do, make sure you are mature enough for it. You understand the responsibility you're taking. Social norm and increasing the population are not enough reasons.
Jin ladkon ko sachmein aisa lagta hai ki hamein to ek free ki kaamwali pakad ke lani hai, unhein to sahi mein koi nhi milni chahiye, better ki wo single hi rahein, kyunki shadi karli to faltu ki expectations rakheinge. Main bhi ladka hun, pr if there is actually a population like this, and that population feels against marriage due to lack of such kaamwalis in the market, then they better remain single, even better that they think this is the right decision now.
Right I know my cousin who's getting married with this approach he earns 30k per month with home tuitions and he gets so pissed off when girls argue with him let's see how the marriage turns out for them moreon financially independent girls are not willing to take shit from men
Free me kaum aata hai yaar, Agar, food ,medical, insurance ,vehicle, electricity bill , child ki care , home , clothes jewellery etc lena hota To kaam karna hi pata, Vo kaam husband karta hai , Badle me house hold kaam karna padta hai To free me to koi nahi karta ghar ka kaam, Ye galafwhmi dimag se nikal do
I am old enough and very happy being single. I am unmarried by choice and do not prefer having kids. I am successful and have other priorities in life. I personally know many people in India and abroad who are single and established in life, they all are in late 60s or 70s and are very happy. Regarding this video: I have seen this trend of intruding into other people’s personal lives in India only. Someone wants to marry or doesn’t want to marry is his/her personal choice and society should respect that. Anybody else’s comment on it is absolutely uncalled for.
I am 31 years old but I am facing pressure at home and relatives to get married it's like pressure But I am happy being unmarried and single also I am a working girl
Getting married and having kids is a personal choice and marriage is not everything for a girl They can work on themselves, focus on studies, hobbies and work on themselves and focus on career and work
Without money no one can full fill all the major responsibilities after marriage. I'm single 45. Staying with my parents happily. And can't take other person responsibility. I'm single but not by choice. Don't marry for a Marriage certificate, it is not mandatory 😊namaste. Shadi kar lo.. Shadi kar lo 😅mai kehta hu.. Paisa de do.. Paisa de do 😅
Wonderful video. And that concept mental plane and reality of every person is different is so true. I use to say the same thing to young people around me who think they have lot of time to mature,grow up and start taking responsibility. Young people nowadays are overgrown children.Very few listen to their parents and at 25 they don’t want responsibility especially men.Many young men marry for ‘bahu’ and ‘sex’ and its only after marriage they realize how tough it is. Counselling should be done by parents.This video will open parents eyes who are wasting time of their children in name of ‘ good girl’.
My life is going great & I don't feel that getting married is going to improve or add on anything positive in my life. Also, getting married in today's era depends on luck. Women have become great, I agree, but they have also become very good at hiding their true faces. My instincts are getting better these days & I have an instinct that my life will be destroyed if I get married. But my parents are still living in an era where women were good, feminine, loyal, caring, respected others etc. All I see in today's women are they look for multiple sex relationships before getting married & later when they get married to a decent guy, then file a fake 498a case against him so that she can continue to enjoy her "sexual liberty". It's only when she reaches 30 & her beauty starts to fade away, she starts thinking about stable married life.
Everyone is not suitable to get married. When people have unresolved psychological issues of their own, they project it on their spouse and children. Bringing a life into this world just for the sake of it and saddling him/her with your emotional neglect is not ok. Brining a new life into existence without understanding life's true nature, importance and purpose is a pure ignorant and selfish act.
किसी ने बिल्कुल सही कहा है- शादी एक ऐसा लड्डू है, जिसे नहीं मिले वो ललचाये, और जो खाये वो पछताये। हर शादीशुदा व्यक्ति के अपने अलग अनुभव हैं। उसको जनरलाइज करना मुश्किल है। जो शादी के बन्धन में लम्बे समय से है, उनमें झेलते झेलते इतनी सहनशीलता आ जाती है कि शादी की वकालत करना शुरू कर देते हैं। पहले एक कारण - बुढ़ापे की चिंता से लोग शादी किया करते, लेकिन अब सामाजिक व्यवस्था ही ऐसी हो गयी है बच्चे अपने बूढ़े माँ बाप कितना ख्याल रख पाते हैं? मनुष्य जितना अपने मन के सहारे जीयेगा, शादी के बंधन टूटेंगे। समय के साथ हमारा भी बिल्कुल west वाला हाल होना तय है।
What a stupid statement. Firstly you have no respect for someone older then you. Secondly, if you don't agree then chose the right path yourself. He is giving some suggestions based on what his own observation.
From a woman's point of view.... Initial days into marriage for a woman are just horrible..... It's like ragging..... It's a different story maybe if it's just मिया- बिवी staying together but with all the adjustments in a new home with the foreign bodies like सास, ससुर, जेठ, जेठानी n all it's horrifying time for the new bride in India......So first the mindset of the boy and his people has to change drastically......then only girls might get ready for marriage... Else it's wasting a precious life ........
@@SBH3356 Agree.... But still the interference continues....and the in laws make sure that the life of the newly weds becomes a hell.... Hence I feel that the mindset of the boy and his people has to change....
You are absolutely right...i married in my twenties..and after two years of continuous mental torture I decided to leave that house ..now I am so much afraid to do it again as the mindset of in laws and other relatives are same...jese ek bachari aayegi ..dahej bhi layegi aur sewa bhi karegi ...aur apne bare me kuch bhi nhi sochegi...what a ridiculous thinking...seriously..are girl made for sewa???
@@Samikshakomal Areee ye pagal admi na bakvas krna janta hai Actually ham logo ko jab shadi krni hai tab krnge aur sabki apni apni kismat hoti hai Jab iswar ne likhi hogi tab hogi jisse honi hogi tab hogi Unko bas bakvas krne ki adat hai
Are salary issue nahi hoti... Financial stability nahi hai yeh soch issue hai...... Kuch jugad karke ,same situation & companion wali ya wala se jiyo...
Amit Ji, you are the best. I feel so productive and motivated after listening to you. Thank you for bringing the change in society and the mindset of youth 🙏🙏
Sir...my age will be 34 on this February. I had been a Broken engagement last year spetember 2022 because of some circumstance the girl stoped relationship with me. Till day I am looking for a bride from past 3 years through relatives, Matrimonial site and By myself. Koi bhi ladki na ho baat karne mein intrest show kar rahi hai..aur nahi kishi ki source mil pa Raha hai..idharr age and time Aage badhte jarahi hai. Aap keh rahe hai ladko ko 27-30yrs age mein Marriage hojana chahiye but ek Boy ko carrier, finances, Emotionally, mentally prepare hone mein time lagta hai. Sir..Aap suggestions or guidance dijiye yeh matter mein
@@pallavverma5448 After reaching a certain age you will regret your life decisions. View it as you are there to take care of your parents but after a certain time there will be no one to take care of you or even talk to you because you never had a life partner and you never became a parent. If you live in a joint family them this doesn't apply to you but if by any chance you have a nuclear family you are doomed.
@@legends5066 I'm not telling to get married, I'm telling the consequences of not getting married. BTW if you are between 18-22 then congratulations to your premature thinking coz I also used to think the same but then I critically analysed the situation of life without a partner and with a partner and trust me no will take you seriously and everyone would be reluctant to offer you a rented apartment and when the parents are no longer there then your life becomes hell even if you are committed to your work and earn a lot of money but that will never make up for the need of real family members. Think critically not emotionally. Like in the video it is said that not everyone's life becomes a hell after marriage. It is only some of the extreme cases which gets highlighted more.
Baat shi hai sir. Meri didi ki sadi ko 4 saal ho gye hai lekin aaj tk hmi log sara kharch hm log dekh rhe hai. Aor unke husband ko koe mtlb nhi hai bachha bimar padhe, koe bhi jarurat ho hmi log pura krte hai. Ekdm bekar jivan ho gya hai unka...
After watching this video, I would like to say that if you are thinking about getting married, you should first look at yourself and see what kind of person you are. The person you marry may not be the same person you thought they were, and you may regret your decision later. Marriage is not a joke. It is a responsibility that you must take seriously, not only for yourself but also for your partner. So, please think carefully before getting married, and do not marry someone just because you are attracted to them.
You are absolutely right sir..initially deny for marriage till 30s but later married then things are out of hand...I got married at the age 26 now I m well settled and having 9 years old son ...One of my friend got married at 35 because he denied for married.....conclusion is that either marriage at right time or fully committed not to marry.
It doesn't matter even if you get married later in life. There is no restrictions or boundaries or rules set by god that do this and don't do that. We have freedom to take any decision regarding this topic. Ultimately everyone is gonna die soon, it doesn't matter in the end but it also depends if that person wants to have a child after marriage or not. Someone who does not want a child shouldn't care at all about this thing.
We better focus on our own kind of happiness whether it is about getting married or not..BTW there is more to this life than getting married lol . Marriage should be a choice especially in this overly populated country
Marriage and having children should be a choice but one cannot be alone for lifetime They will feel lonely and miss being loved by their partner Mentally and physically we need someone There comes a time and age for this
Sir, when you compare risks of marriage with cigerates, drinking, accidents etc. These are all the issues created by us and we have control to go in right direction, and law supports us if something wrong happens on these. In Marriage however its not upto man, if while marrying girl lies then men don`t have any provision. Law itself is blindly supporting women. You say start 10 years girls suffer and rest 30 men. Agreed on that. But girl can opt out of kids after marriage, even if she said yes before. If boy insists, u are divorced, lost your house, your parents house, till the time you die you have to pay alimony. She can quit her job or earn more than you and you still have to pay, and your child will still hate you because the child is living with mother and has only listened bad things about man.
In my case, my mother used to tell me to marry a woman with job(even she is ready to do all household work). She's not like what you said in this video.....but i'm the one who don't want to marry any sort of woman cuz i know that my mother don't know about these "modern woman".
He hasn't taken into account the issues of men in marriage 1. He says that the number of women doing domestic voilence cases are less but he doesn't even know the number of silent threats that millions of husbands are going through from there wives and in laws to take control of husband My brother who is earning well and his wife who is housewife was threatened softly by his wife that I know everything about domestic voilence case,just because my brother pointed out that she don't keep the house in order inspite of having maids 2. He didn't covered that its not men but women who are more choosy in marriage,they will see everything educational qualifications,looks, property,job,earnings before marriage but men don't see so many things
well...I think its all about priorities & inner happiness.. kisi ki shadi priority hoti hai kisi ka career ya kisi ka kuch or..pehle ki generation ko ye ek kaam dikhta tha ki shadi krni hi hai just like any other regular work. Aj aisi soch nai hai becoz of a lot of factors like better education, lifestyle etc. Pehle ke logo ko to career k bhi 5-6 options hi dikhte the but aj bohot se log unconventional kam karke or apna passion follow karke zyada khush hain...waisa hi hisab shadi ka hai, aj ke time me log ise zabardsti krne wala kam nai dekhte or ladko se zyada ladkiya step back karti hai isse kyuki jo bhi points apne cover kiye unki wajah se ladkio ki zindgi hi zyada affect hoti hai, pehle ladkia jhel leti thi cuz they wernt financially independent but ab aisi koi majburi nahi hai. pehle k logo k lie marriage institution hota tha ab log companionship me zyada believe karte hain or wo zabardsti nai hota. (ye mere personal thoughts hain, apke points bhi apni jagah thik hain)
Bahut sahi baat kaha h, ajkal ladkiyon ka yahi perspective h.... I want peace in my life, I'll build my career and adopt two childs... Im satisfied with my decision and with my life.... No expectation from anybody...
I have planned to have 100 marriages and 1000 Childers. Will you please marry me and help me reach my goal. Im 24 already married 1.5 year ago and have 1 baby and 2nd pregnancy of 5 months.
Great video, perfectly pitched explaining the realistic ground reality. Hum kar to rahey they, par aisa na humko kisi ney samjhaya nahin. " Guru Tatva ko Dhanyawaad. "
My saas 65yrs...sasur 70 yrs.... husband 35yrs...hum dono dr..govt job...4 nanand...mujhe gharse nikal diya..beti hai 2yrs...mere husband jese logon k future k baare mein kuch video banayiye..l m completely blind.... future kya hoga...un jese husband..mamas boy type k liye video banayiye
Aap ko kon sahan krega iss Ghar mey aap ka ye hi dos h aap padi likhi h aur independent h baki aapke charo taraf gober h Dr ko dekh kar hi duniya jalti h aap to unke ghar mey hi ho chahe aap apni aur apne baap ki tankha unko de do unko kabhi khush nahi kar paoge
Very well said sir, I am mother of 20 year old . Right now I am not facing this issue personally. But when we look around in society, major issue is not about boys of Marriageable age but it's about girls. All Girls and their parents wants prince Charming with handsome salary package . Even if a boy with normal salary want to marry it's becoming very difficult to find girl. It's very difficult to change girl's parents mind set.
Yes,he didn't discussed that Girls and there parents are very choosy these days,they want good salary, property,good looks,good dressing sense,good qualifications Also after marriage girls want to take control of husband using 498A
@@sudhirchandra9790 right.. but what mn will get after fullfilling all these criteria ? In 10 years what will remain of that gal ? she will become disgusting old ldy but the mn will have huge money to enjoy.. not a good deal for mn with money
Marriage is a gambling, You may lucky or unlucky. Best of luck, Once you have child it is 25 years project at 0% profit. Burden after marriage: Home loan, personal loan, child education loan. Don't marry stay away from all responsibilities.
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I have planned to have 100 marriages and 1000 Childers. Will you please marry me and help me reach my goal. Im 24 already married 1.5 year ago and have 1 baby and 2nd pregnancy of 5 months.
जब तक कोई तयार ना उस पर दबाव नहीं डालना चाहिए क्या पता वह वो देख रहा हो जो आपको नहीं दिख रहा हो शादी तो इन्सान के अलावा कोई नहीं करता फिर भी उनका जीवन चलता है और अच्छे से चलता है क्योंकि वो खुद पर भरोसा और प्यार दोनो होता है ना कीसी और से मिलने वाले सुख से क्योंकि जीससे सुख मिलेगा उसीसे दुख
People keep changing with time...even if someone thinks they are marrying the right person, it might turn out otherwise later...one can never be sure...pls make a video on mental plane explanation. thanks.
Tim Cook Swami Vivekananda Or foreign live in their happiness life It's individual life Indian people usually focus on other life whether neighbour or family Nobody should focus on their life It's better to live alone
संन्यास स्वतंत्रता है। संन्यास घोषणा है इस बात की कि मैं अपने जीवन को अपने ढंग से जीऊंगा। मैं वैसे जीऊंगा जैसी मेरी अंतःप्रेरणा होगी। मैं दूसरों की मान कर न जीऊंगा। मैं दूसरों का अनुकरण करके न जीऊंगा। मेरा जीवन एक अभिनय मात्र नहीं होगा। मेरा जीवन प्रमाणिक होगा, मेरा होगाः मेरी निजता से जन्मेगा, स्वतःस्फूत होगा। और संन्यास का क्या अर्थ है? अपने ढंग से जीऊंगा ताकि परमात्मा के सामने जब जाऊं तो यह कह सकूं कि तुमने जो प्रेरणा मुझे दी थी उसके ही अनुसार जीआ हूं। झुका नहीं, समझौता नहीं किया। The Great Osho
Very practical video sir. But one question. I have been married for an year now and my husband is abusive. He is violent with me and recently he actually slapped me multiple times and was physically abuvie with me. Should a women tolerate this also or move out of such marriage.
It is easier said than done. My parents are like if this happens again and again than it is a problem otherwise the guy might have been in some othe zone. He was pissed, you might have taunted him. He might have gone berserk so it happened. No support from them.
When he is in good mood, in a respectful, loving at the same time firm manner, tell him this is not okay. If we want this relationship to be successful, he must refrain from such behaviour. When u do this, convey it in a manner that you are not demanding (although i accept you have all reasons to be upset), at the same time be clear about the fact that this behaviour hurts and upsets you a lot. I am in no way supporting any violence towards one's spouse, but it is a fact that some men are programmed in manner that it is okay to raise hand on their wife. Now what we can do here is, if we see a scope of him learning that it is NOT OKAY AT ALL, and he is willing to improve, then one can have patience and help him come out of his attitude. But if we see a person is abusive inherently and is never going to change his ways, there is no point suffering in such a relationship.
I have planned to have 100 marriages and 1000 Childers. Will you please marry me and help me reach my goal. Im 24 already married 1.5 year ago and have 1 baby and 2nd pregnancy of 5 months.
Still finding a good boy is easy nowadays rather than a girl..pehle ke jamane mai dekha jaata tha ki ladka kesa hai..usme koi burai to nhi..daaru to nhi Peeta galat aadat to nhi hai etc..nowadays scenario is opposite 😂 technology and laws ka misuse acche se ho raha hai
I love last 4-5 minutes of video where you mention how initially women have to take pressure & than men would play for later part of innings.
What is your suggestion for bald boys.
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By making these video you are trying to influence others. You are not realistic, you just try to add propaganda in the youngster. Marriage is not for everyone. In real world girls are spoiling the life of boys. I see a very good people left job because his wife is not caring the babies. You donot know what problem boys are facing in current economic scenario. I see old people like you are saying to make baby, human being is not for reproduction only. One couple should have one or zero babies because giving birth is not only responsibility of father and mother, one should think whether his child will survive in the next world where AI and ML will take all jobs and finance.
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Dear old generation, stop lecturing us. We know what the world is today.
Wahi to new generation k sath new problems hoti hai they don't know anything 😅
Right bro
Avoid marriage
Lolz…. True… n agreed. 🎉🎉🎉🎉
Lovely bro
I am turning 35 next month still not ready for marriage and terrified by my friends situations who ended up in bitter divorce and separations , I am happy with little things that God has blessed me with he's gonna take care of me 😇.
Yes, you are right. I am also a 37 years old person. I am single and I am happy in my life. I just surrender myself to God and I am sure he will take care of me.
Yes I will not get married as well
I am regreting after marriage.
@@PawanKumar-nx3no may i know the reason ????
@@englishclasses1665 My wife is very decent and innocent. But my mother viewpoint and thoughts are evil, which I came to know after marriage.
Log shaadi krenge to aapki dukaan chalegi. Single and happy person is not your customer 😅
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Todays meme: itna sach nhi bolna tha. Uncle ko khud counselling ki jarurat padd jayegi 😂 😂😂. I had to add this. I don't wanted to show 'edited' here.. bt its ok. He has same reasons & examples everytime. All cliches! Aisa hai there were many working & Independent women but suffered in marriage and Money is very much imp bt still rich ppl & celebs are the best examples of lots of divorce cases tht also show there no direct connection btwn happy married life with money, carrer,independence etc..Some ppl may try to spoil marriage. They can be anyone & anyside infact they themselves too! but still it comes up for the couple & their trust & understanding.
@@shiprasharma4449 संन्यास स्वतंत्रता है। संन्यास घोषणा है इस बात की कि मैं अपने जीवन को अपने ढंग से जीऊंगा। मैं वैसे जीऊंगा जैसी मेरी अंतःप्रेरणा होगी। मैं दूसरों की मान कर न जीऊंगा। मैं दूसरों का अनुकरण करके न जीऊंगा। मेरा जीवन एक अभिनय मात्र नहीं होगा। मेरा जीवन प्रमाणिक होगा, मेरा होगाः मेरी निजता से जन्मेगा, स्वतःस्फूत होगा। और संन्यास का क्या अर्थ है? अपने ढंग से जीऊंगा ताकि परमात्मा के सामने जब जाऊं तो यह कह सकूं कि तुमने जो प्रेरणा मुझे दी थी उसके ही अनुसार जीआ हूं। झुका नहीं, समझौता नहीं किया। और जिस दिन तुम जानोगे उस दिन तुम चकित होओगे कि बवंडर, तूफान, विरोध सब तुम्हें सहारा दे गए हैं। The Great Osho
trueeee
I agree with you bro
Video muze convince nahi kar paya😅.
Comment padh kar pata chala mere jaise happily single log bohot hai. Muze single rehne ke liye confidence badh gaya😂
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Same here dost.
sach me dost aaj ke time me shadi matlab bohot bada risk he
@@umakantchabukswar403 पण घरचे लोक समजत नाहीत जबरदस्ती लग्न कर लग्न कर म्हणून पाठी पडतात🙂
Aapki baatein hi mujhse sbse behuda lg rhi hain sir ..bht izzat se yeh baat keh rha hun.... main regret krna psnd krunga but itna dukh aur doglapan ke rishte ko na nibhaunga
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You are right ye faaltu ka views badhane ko gyaan de raha maine kitno ko unmarried dekha door mat jaao padosh me hi aise kayi hai jo unmarried hai Jo Khushi she life jii rahe.
Orr ye kya baat hai ki tinde ki sabji hi khani hai kuch Orr kha lenge koi jaruri hai kya whi kre jo sab kar rhe hain useless example
In our Vedic times nearly 25% of population chose Bhramcharya after taking Deeksha ( Sadhna to channelise sexual urges/energy to some other things). It was because everyone is not suitable to get married. That was the wisdom back then. Compulsion to get married at present time comes from the Mughal period as security of females becomes most important and the way to secure them was to get them married.
Yess bro 🙏
This has changed. This is not Vedic time.
Tu vedic time me chala ja...yaha is timeline me kyu jee rha hai
Government survey k hisabb se 10 crore mahila ladkigaa UNMARRIED he nakii unko shadii nahi karnii
Unkii kwaisshee purii nahi hotii
This...sahi kah rhe hai aap
देखिये, आज शादी कोई तभी करेगा जब उसे सुख मिले। क्योकि ये कोई जिम्मेदारी नही, और ना ही कोई ठेका ले रखा है पीढ़ी बढाने का। जिनका मन कमजोर है वो करे शादी। वरना आज के समय शादी का कोई लाभ नही बल्कि हानि होने की अधिक सम्भावना है। विशेषकर आज के परिवार विरोधी कानूनो मे। अब तो यही सबसे बडा सवाल है की शादी क्यो करे? मिलेगा क्या ये जिम्मेदारिया उठा कर?
मरना तो एक दिन वैसे भी सबको है। क्यो ना निश्चिंत होकर जिया जाये। बेहतर है कि अंत समय आध्यात्म का सहारा ले ले। आज ढेरो संस्थाए है जो वृद्धावस्था की व्यवस्था करती है। कोई दिक्कत नही जाती, जीवन आराम से हसी खुशी बीतता है।
GREAT THINKING
Right
apne bilkul mere ❤ ki baat bol di
Tum matt karna .... free ki advice hai 😂😂😂
@@jaibajrangbali3494 तुमसे ज्यादा समझता हूँ। 😁 क्या करना है क्या नही। ये निर्णय मैने बहुत पहले ही ले लिया है।
i am 33 and happily unmarried :)
Aisa kyun bhai
Great decision 👍
Poor decision @@abhijeetpanda2765
Are you Virgin and happy too or Virgin and Regret ?
@@Harsh_Da_Greatnon-virgin and happy.Mgtow for life.
I married 7 years back and have a child...but I lost my job, my parents, my childhood home, my confidence and everything....and I got abuses ,violence, depression, anxiety, migraine .......so decide very carefully
No one speaks about this enough. Women shouldn't marry unless they have savings enough to buy property and to live without income for a year or so. You can always freeze your eggs and procreate later if you want kids.
In India the women who don't earn mostly are treated as slaves, telling by how my mother was treated
Now she is in clinical depression
Never leave your job for marriage,or even if your husband earns much more
Job gives a women confidence and security against any abuse that she may have to face from in laws or husband, also one make friends in job Which is important for mental health
For me,, if people reject you only because u don't have job, then they don't deserve to have u in their life. They r lifeless people... Atleast I don't ever include those in my life.
@@Terminator-to3lp people may even reject you for your likes, hobbies, and also for no reason.....just works on their mood
@@dr.shakshigupta5879 No worries at all. That's why it was said, " chal akela".. i follow the same and a very few people i take with me, only gems... 😀 Remember, when u meet 100 people , hardly 10 belongs to you & it happens everywhere.. u join any academic institution, meet 50 people in 1 year, when u leave institute, hardly 5 people will be in your contact in future.. 😊
Sir I watched ur whole episode thinking that maybe I missed something and that ur episode may force me to rethink my decision to never marry. But I think this episode was not for me. I still stick to my decision n still estatically happy with my decision. I took this decision 3 years back and not regretted ever since. I just turned 39. However m sure ur way of explaining various issues do help a lot of people. Thankful to God that people like u exist too. 🙏
Wait for 42 yrs of age.
@Sango Life Sutras I don't need to challenge u and I'm not. I respect u for the good work u r doing. All I'm saying is m not marrying for all the right reasons and none of the reasons that u mentioned for youngsters delaying or not marrying nowadays.
Wah sir ! 42 precisely kaise bataya apne aise konse biological changes ho jate hai 42 me...he's already 39 & happy...3 saal me uski dunia konsa upside down ho jaegi lol
@@bansalprashant1 good decision
@@SangoLifeSutras
Bang on sir!
You regret not making this investment once you grow old.
My suggestion:
Don't make marriage compulsory but optional. Having the opposite gender into your inner space needs much rethinking if you really are prepared for this institution.
There are still many individuals who are doing great in personal and social life without marriage and even being single.
Right
@@ankita8354 Thanks for the response Ankita.
@@TheMonkNZ Thank you Monk!
@@TheMonkNZ women are more happier coz they don't have to deal with exploitation that come with marriage; ladkon ka kya hai shadi k baad v kuch saal taak apne life ; apne entertainment mai focus krte hai
I feel exactly the same !
I am 25 and worries about high inflation, climate change and AI.
So I decided not to get married.
Here I m turned 26 13 Jan ..and feel same
😂
@@K9_Jerry it's because of our unrealistic demands. everyeone wants minium 2bhk flat in posh society. shiny privates school for children. parties, holidays. once you die without child your whole money unfortuntely goes for the same people who have more than 2 child.
I wish i would married at 22-23. It is the best time.
After 30 all gone
@@sortcapsregulatory7911 if you till 16-17-18 completed 12th after that graduation if your further studies in law,ca, doctor then it takes a lot of years from study to proper stablish that profession . Have you entered job market ? How to earn- multiple sources of earning money? Any there for step by step guide you,help you? Any fruitful relationship? How to raise child? how psychology effect on child till 25-30? Have you enough money+ knowledge to have choice to raise your child or save your partner in any way? Are you street smart? You have to play that part eventually. It's 60 years plus togetherness more or less.
I'm suffering from low self-esteem that's why I'm not going to get married..
33 year old
Do inner engineering you will have confidence with clarity
Dost please constlant from some therapist , I am gone through same problem get treated from AIIMS , now all is good
Bro good to be simple
@@kamalupretidelhi brother sometimes we just need to let go
@@jaibharat9686Avoid marriage
Ye sab baate acharya Prashant j pehle bahut achhe se samjha chuke h mera drashtikon badal gaya
I'm 44 still unmarried and happily living and my friends are struggling and crying
You are a real man
@@MGTOWbrotherhood3 yup bro
@@GouravKumar-up4bg I'm thinking of making WhatsApp group for unmarried men
Bhai sahi sahi batao pakka HAPPY ho ya duniya ko happy dikhate ho lekin andar se dukhi???
@@shamchandravanshi3098 bhai mere friends ki problem dekhar mujhe khushi horahi hai haa main dukhi tha 38-39 kyunki samjh dabata bahut hai lekin ignore karna unko
Marriage without financial independence is scary for both boys and girls. Marriage is not going to die. But why should a poor boy and a girl marry and how would they support their children. Sociologically you are right, but what about individual's psycholgy.
True
I need more clarity on this. My parents are well Seattled we have own house and property. They are government servent. I have recently started my business but it's in loss. Growth rate is slow. It's my second year of business. But I have loyal customer, the always come back. But foot fall is very low. my current age is 33 . And I live with my parents because I am the only son. I am not financially strong my my own income so I am scared of getting married. But parents want bme to do marriage, they say they will support me and help me grow. I am unable to decide whether I should get married or not.
@@Ritez_ shaadi kar le bhai
best comment ever
true sir
Not eka dukka 5-6 people in my family and friends are fighting divorce cases
Mai 25 saal ki hu maine apne parents k behaviour ko dekh k shadi na krne ka decision liya h
If you are a girl then you are going to get married you have no choice.
@@Dhirajkumar-ls1ws no need
@@englishclasses1665 aap kis District se ho?
@@Dhirajkumar-ls1ws ballia
@@englishclasses1665 ok..ballia backward area hai kafi, jada se jada 2 saal aur fir apki shadi ho jaegi apki community mai.. Isse acha hai koi ladka khoj khud hi karlo.. Aap UPPCS k taiyari kar rahi ho isliye apke parent ruke hue hai 100%
Marriage is a failed institution in current socio-economic scenario where men and women earn same and are independent. Neither of them would want to compromise, (and why should they?)
Marriage cannot work without compromise, you see in past times when women were limited to household, they had to compromise because they were financially dependent on husband, however modern woman will not compromise (and why should they?)
Hence marriage is a failed social experiment.
Agree
Sir I respect you but on this topic I don't agree with you sir .Ek sawal he kya insan sirf shadi aur bachche aur settle hone ke liye peda hua he kya ?? Insan ko bandhano se mukti ki jarurat he faltu ke tante palkar khud ko aur kisi aur insan k bandhan mat badao . Life sirf maje marne k liye nhi hoti he .
@@vivek8580 that's OK bro but don't you think that shadi k bad life jand si ho jati he, roz ki vohi khatpat, mathaphodi , ldai jhgda , aap kro to bhut sochsamjkar krna kyuki me bhugat chuka hu shadi ki barbadi aaj bhi nind nhi aati , goliya khani pdti he .
@@vivek8580How many ambitious women do u see around? There are only 20% of women who has India’s workforce participation. Many women leave their job after getting married or discontinue after having children while men aren’t allowed to do that. And those ambitious women look for ambitious men who earn more than them. They don’t look down.
This uncle tells everyone to find a career oriented/working wife but he should know the statistics of working women population.
@@vivek8580 i di really appreciate the things you have said but one thing i need to point out that having a family and baccha ko palna is not actually low level goals but may be they are basics .....
I completely agree
@@pankajtanwar155 shaadi zaroori nhi h but aapke jaise kehena toh stereotype h Sir. Most of couples ki compatibility nhi hoti, acche lgne ke baad zindagi hoti h, sbko apne life se alag cheezein chahiye hota h, sbki react krne ka tarike, rehan sehan alag hota h. Duniya mein har tarike ka insan hote h, atrangi falana dimkana, wo ladka ladki dono mein hoti h. Toh aapke jaisi khayal jis ladki ki hogi, usse aapki banegi. Sath rehena lambi time tak aur shaadi, farak nhi h. Agar farak h toh bs social responsibilities aur security ki darr. Aapke kharab experience ka mtlb ye nhi shaadi kharab, partner galat chunte h bs. And also many indian girls and guys in many states or cities i have seen has a specific mindset or behaviour, jisse pati ya patni k sath bnti nhi h, toh apne dimension expand karo, search for someone outside ur boundaries, i have seen many indians marrying foreigners and staying happy. So dont restrict ur thought to one section in society
No need to marry....its just a compromise ....market is father of your child.....5-6 relationships before marriage.....then dulha and dulhan into traditional dress😂😂😂😂
situations is not same for all...atleast we should try our luck....and know what is written in destiny by god 😊
@@Warrior63960Avoid marriage
Sir, the way you get smile on your face with confidence when you say, I am the no. 1 clarity giver in the India is LAJAWAB.
I have planned to have 100 marriages and 1000 Childers. Will you please marry me and help me reach my goal. Im 24 already married 1.5 year ago and have 1 baby and 2nd pregnancy of 5 months.
muh miya mitthu he ye uncle..😂
Sir, you are actually trying to change the thought pattern of the new generation. Yes, we are becoming reluctant in terms of marriage, but hopefully this scenario will change, with time. Keep up the good work sir.
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This video has an assumption that both the man and the woman are loyal to each other which is not the case in this modern society
Sir I still choose to stay single and childfree for life 🙂
Then start seeking for money+ knowledge+ hobby (skills) +tasty food you will get true happiness
@@freedom4813 yes that's the plan
@@freedom4813 do exercise and yog also
Because you know u can not afford this challenge.
You will regret in later years for what you are enjoying now. Then it will be too late. Life cannot be filtered to enjoy only.
Every one has their own comfort zone of getting married..but selection of right parter is very crucial otherwise it will waste whole life..
That happens rarely. If you are rich, you can live in comfort
38 Y Old here, single , very much happy my own way.
Society is just purely dillusion for those who are mesmorised.
1 Question only How many Girls really marry to boys ? Or wiseaversa (I think none) Most of marriages are based on Financial status, So, Just marriage is just with money 💰 not with the person.
No matter How Good you are by nature, or what is your instinct. That does not matter.
Matter is only Financial status both side.
Bro jyada si sach bol diya😢
Isiliye apna paisa apne upper enjoy karo
Do whatever makes you happy
This is what I truly feel. Accha laaga dekh kaar ki hum sabka Aisa hi viewpoint hain.
शादी नामक संस्था की सच्चाई1.लोग सादी इसलिए करते है ताकि उनको यौन सुख मिलेगा ,जबकि 90% जोड़ो को योन सुख मिल ही नही पाता, क्योंकि माता पिता जो सादी कराते है ,बच्चे उनको कभी नही बता पाते है कि उनको कैसी फिगर वाली लड़की पसंद है या लड़का?के बार पत्नी पसन्द नही आती तो कइयों को पति ,अगर सादी से लोग योन सुख से संतुस्ट होते तो बाहर संबंध नही बनाते?2।लोग कहते है सादी करने से लोग सेटल हो जाते है ,जोकि की 100% गलत है सादी की बाद 90% जोडे एक दूसरे से अलग होना चाहते है,लेकिन एक एक दुसरे को दुख ना हो इसलिए मज़बूरी मैं अलग नही होते, मतलब सादी मैं फस कर आदमी ना निकल पाता है ना जुड़ पता है सिर्फ टेंशन मैं इधर उधर झूलता है,रही पैसा कमाने और सेव करने की बात है सादी के बाद बहुत अधिक खर्च होने के कारण लोग कर्ज मैं दुब जाते है और उधार की ज़िंदगी जीता है जिस के कारण डिप्रेशन ,टेंशन हाई बीपी,मोटापा ,हार्ट अटैक आदि बीमारी से ग्रसित हो जाते है।3 सादी से वंश चलता है आज के टाइम मैं ये बात भी निर्थक है ,क्योंकि भारत मे जनसख्या विस्फोट है ,सादीसुदा लोग बच्चे पैदा करके जलवायु पयार्वरण परिवर्तन खराब करने की लिए जिम्मेदार है लोग बहुत ज्यादा कार्बन उत्सर्जित करता है।4।सादी करके आदमी मानसिक और भौतिक रूप से गुलाम हो जाता है,सादी रियल मैं वास्विक जेल से भी खतरनाक जेल है।आदमी अपनी पसंद का कोई कार्य नही कर पाता, अपबे ढंग से सो नही पाता, उठ, बैठ नही सकता, खुद का अपना पैसा अपनी मर्जी से खर्च नही कर सकता,सादी के बाद एक आदमी की ज़िंदगी रिस्तेदारो,रिस्तो,सादी, विवाह ,बर्थडे मैं ही उलझ जाती है5सादी के आदमी का सवास्थ्य अच्छा होने की बजाये खराब हो जाता है6।सादी के बाद डॉक्टरों के ही चक्कर लगाने पड़ते है।सादी एक ऐसी बीमारी है जिसमे दर्द बहुत होता है लेकिन कोई चिलाता नही है ना कोई इसका कोई इलाज खोजता है।7 सादी के बाद कोर्ट कचहरी के चक्कर लगाता है और अपना जीवन बर्बाद कर लेता है।
I am also female 33 year old I want to stayy single while my life
Ya toh pati k sath bilkul alag raho ...nhi toh kbhi shadi mat karna .....
@@sonujain2348 Freedom is more important than "Samaj"
Right
@@sonujain2348to wa reh kya ho jab financially stable ho to alag raho unse
I have planned to have 100 marriages and 1000 Childers. Will you please marry me and help me reach my goal. Im 24 already married 1.5 year ago and have 1 baby and 2nd pregnancy of 5 months.
Sir smoking is injurious to health but marriage is injurious to wealth & health both 😂
😂
sahi bola
True
💯%
Bro 😂😂
Pata nhi saaala life hai ki koi task hai! Thk gya hun yr. Nhi khelna mujhe ye game😞
मुझे भी नहीं खेलना 🏳️🙏😣
Sir sometimes you just don’t find the right person. Many a times the person you were invested for the purpose of marrying with Break off the relationship. Life is unpredictable. And one cannot simply move on being logical and calculative at all times. Yes however, if one finds a good partner at the right age then by all means do not delay it. But life isn’t a straight road. And getting married just for the heck of it without Basic values being aligned, and a firm and through background check in case of arranged alliances isn’t fruitful at all. Baad mein jo hoga Woh to apple definitely akele jhelna hai. But be late then sorry.
I agree
@@ashitmukherjee5934 then why ready to entertain with your life. If you married someone,then it's 60years togetherness more or less. Then why for this so much hustle bustle
Exactly 💯 💯
@Raspberry I agree!
Sometimes he seems very robotic & ignorant of human emotionalities. Life is not just black or white, Sir.
I agree with you. And the pain it brings of putting dedicated effort into a relationship so that it turns a long term innings of marriage can sometimes break a camels back.
I also agree with Sir's point of cribbing nature of men.
It can come in any form. I don't understand high earning men mentality. They want a trophy partner plus accomplished and should have the potential to be at the beck and call of the partner every single need. Forget parents they themselves are so emotionally demanding.
Sir
I want to take spiritual path and remain unmarried
Yaar pls stick to this decision my dad never wanted to marry but his family force him to get married he became alcoholic plus he stopped providing us for money because of this me and my brother's mental health is ruined I started earning at 19 and later provided for my family so for every guy who doesn't want loads of financial responsibility and is not willing to marry should stay single
" your parents world is different, we stay in our minds, same ghar me dusre mental world me hum rehte hai " so so true 👌👍Thanks for this video , I really like all your videos..... aapka perspective ekdum hatke hota hai 🙏👌
I also want to add that parenting is changing rapidly with time and don't know what will happen to this generation that eats with mobile. Parents are helpless and clueless and this is changing with more tech entering households. I have empathy for new parents and will be parents.
I wouldn't wish to raise a kid in technology era.
99% of people need marriage , what the hell.
Reasons of people not wanting marriage are not so simple.
Leave it to the individual.
Marriage as an institute is on decline and will continue for a lot longer.
Marriage is not neccesary in life😊. He is a fool man.
True 👏
@@PREETAMPANTH-l6d so brave of you to call this professional problem solver a fool . What's your worth??
@@PREETAMPANTH-l6d He's not at all a fool. Marriage is necessary.
@@PREETAMPANTH-l6d right bro ❤❤❤❤
Now days in India marriage is burden of lifetime EMI for Men 🥺
Because girls exception r gone sky high with gender biased laws😢
इन भाई साहब का धंदा शादी होगी तो ज्यादा चलेगा
अगर दिमाग हो तो शादी मत करना guys
जमाना बदल गया है
Beta tum b shadi se paida hue ho 😂😂
@@sachindhiman8048 bete tumhe abhi birth aur death ka cycle nahi pata. Jaake pogo dekh beta
Sir, aap astrologer ho...yuga change kar raha hai...marriage paradigm is changing...abhi sirf earn, pay and bacche ke liye shadi nahi chahiye...now people are looking for something higher...they want a soul connection...plus in the new age or yuga the population will be far less...the initial phase has started manifesting with the younger lot not wanting to marry...perspective of life itself is changing and the young ones don't want to be stuck in the old paradigm...
Aur aap shaadi ki old paradigm Ki baat kar rahe ho?
You're an astrologer. The earth is ascending...new age is dawning...isko nazar mein rakhte huye guide kyun nahi karte ho?
if he supports the changes in modern society then for marriage who will buy rings and jems from him !!
I have planned to have 100 marriages and 1000 Childers. Will you please marry me and help me reach my goal. Im 24 already married 1.5 year ago and have 1 baby and 2nd pregnancy of 5 months.
I agree sir. Completed 25 years of marriage. My hubby is under pressure for now n I feel for him.
You are forgetting very important part that majority of the girls today have or had past lovers but because of family pressure or other didn't marry him. When they marry they settle for some nice guy for the resources but their heart is still with their ex and since they are self-sufficient they don't respect the husband and do affairs with their ex or someone they cannot have like a very good looking or rich man. Character is everything while selecting a wife all other things are pretty much useless without character.
*right on the point. In our relatives happend with 4 good guys ,their wives hardly stayed for few months and now demanding for Alimony*
@@snehalt.channel992Thats why girl’s past is important.
Very much agree
@@rohans7194 boys also have past....boys have multiple affairs......play boy
@@happyplease4093 But if the guy cheats in a marriage and it leads to divorce, the girl doesnt have to pay alimony(the guy has to pay alimony) etc whereas if the woman cheats then still the man has to give alimony etc after divorce.
Sir ,Agar shaadi timely na karwane me maata pita hi na chhaye to? Hai aise bahut maata pita jo 40 Tak bachho ki shaadi nahi karne dete aur agar khhud se kar lo bawaal, marte dam Tak muh nahi dekhte. Samajhte hi nahi aise maata pita ki unke bachhe 42 /45 ki umar me apne chhote chhote bachho ko kaise sambhalte honge. Sir it's a true of story of someone. Not everyone is against marriage, sometimes parents are responsible.
apka aisa situation hai kya?
Mata pita ko chodo.....aur khud se shadi kr lo........bawal hota to hone do
Apni life ki command apne haath me lo
Bahut sahi baat kahi aapne... Agar mata-pita ya bhai behen ko lag jaye ye beti/beta or bhai/behen responsible hai, ghar ki sari jimmedari uthata hai, finance to everything, thn un logo ki shadi karwane ke liye koi ichchuk nahi hota hai...
Single rehna achhi baat hai no stress no nuisance etc but when it comes to travel,outing,movies,eating out,attending grand events etc ni family, friends or relatives come to hang out n theres pure loneliness so many people change their mind and get married in late 40s so they can have a good company
My lead is single. He is roaming in world tour with his single friends.
He is marriage consultant runs a marriage institution that's why he putting facts for marrige and children.
Otherwise see comment I am 33 yo unmarried never been in relationship by choice and Happy.
How did you convince your parent
@@mattcardin1796 circumstance and parents health play role in delay. I completed my grad @ 30 I lost my father this yr and mother is schizophrenic. So currently I have lots of responsibility and want to live life freely. Marriage comes with responsibility...
How u kill fear of illness loneliness old age ...??
@@ashuvijay7031those who can't live with themselves (alone) can't live with somebody.
@GauravRajput-jx2xy bro ye admi apni hi baat ko kaat raha hai. Ye khud hi bol raha hai ki sex ratio kharab hai . Aur khud hi bol raha hai ki sabko shadi karni chahiye 😂
Marriage is a choice, not a necessity! Everyone has their own priorities in life...we cannot impose one or two reason for not getting married on everyone as if they are the universal reasons...we should leave it to the individual to decide his/her own course of life...Sir i think aapka Survey Sample Size thoda chota reh gya! But nevertheless it is a nice talk!
Sir, the thing which you explained in the last 2 mins, that is one of the prime reasons why guys or girls are afraid of marriage or don`t get married early. because no family would like an underdog or so. Anyone does not look for extra baggage to carry.
One request can you make a video about folks who want to marry late in life?
Sir, I have been following you since a few weeks now and i am glad i found ur videos. I m a 25 yr old doctor and marriage proposals are coming constantly now. I was confused and anxious about marriage and other aspects of my future. Your talks gave me a perspective for me to contemplate and decide. Ye baatein jo mere liye bilkul nayi hain kisi bade ka margdarshan zaroori hota hai jo parents se mil nahi raha. Thankyou and sending you warm regards.
Yes you can marry. But choose partner carefully. Choose someone who matches with your aspirations, goals and commitments in life. Since you are a doctor,most important is he should understand your commitment as a doctor. Also better to have in laws who would support you to pursue your career , render help n support when you have kids in future. Don't go for glamour. Looks, guy working abroad with high earnings etc. MOST IMPORTANT never come under peer pressure. Best wishes.
@@bhadwamuhammad979 yes proposals will come until and unless you are in sbi
Mat kr bhai
Kar lo,get a doctor wife
Pta nhi maa baap kya kr rhe h.......
😂 Shadi is Gambling 50 50 chance either hell or get burdened
Very well explained ❤️for those who are not marrying because they are finding faults with the other gender. Marriage is hard, Living alone is hard. You need to choose. Not marrying is a choice, it's not because the girls are bad or the boys are bad.
I have planned to have 100 marriages and 1000 Childers. Will you please marry me and help me reach my goal. Im 24 already married 1.5 year ago and have 1 baby and 2nd pregnancy of 5 months.
Well said Sangwan Sir.I am a Doctor and used to say these things in family and friend circle .You are doing great service to the society.You deserve 1 million subscribers
Highly psychological Analysis of marriage for both girls and boys,there should be more people like you,
I send your videos to lot of young and old members of society,
Sir ,I am respectfuly saying that you missed the important reasons:
1.Ladka ya ladki apni azzadi aur kuareypan ke mazey ni chod saktey isliye Aisa hora hai.
2.Shadi ke baad bandhn aur chic chic se wo khud ko door rakhna chahtey hai.
3.Naukri ki jbrdast uncertainty hai .
Whenever you do, make sure you are mature enough for it. You understand the responsibility you're taking. Social norm and increasing the population are not enough reasons.
शादी मत करना।।अकेले रहो सुखी रहो।।समाज मे रहकर कोई अच्छा काम करो।।दुनिया याद करेगी।।
सब हिन्दू शादी करना बन्द बच्चे पैदा बन्द दुनिया उनके लिये छोड़ दो!
Bakwasssssssd couple raho
@@mayurikarne5417 khud kuch ukhaad lo jewwan Mai bacche toh kutiya bhi paida karti hai 🐈🐈
जबतक एक नहीं मिलती तबतक सबकी बात तो होगी और जबतक एक नहीं मिलता तबतक सबकी बात होगी ही
यह सवाल पसंद नापसंद तबतक का है...
Sir main aapki zyadatar advice follow ni krta aadhi se jyada mujhe aapki baatein galat bhi lgti hai pr phir bhi aapko sunnna acha lgta hai
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Jin ladkon ko sachmein aisa lagta hai ki hamein to ek free ki kaamwali pakad ke lani hai, unhein to sahi mein koi nhi milni chahiye, better ki wo single hi rahein, kyunki shadi karli to faltu ki expectations rakheinge.
Main bhi ladka hun, pr if there is actually a population like this, and that population feels against marriage due to lack of such kaamwalis in the market, then they better remain single, even better that they think this is the right decision now.
Right I know my cousin who's getting married with this approach he earns 30k per month with home tuitions and he gets so pissed off when girls argue with him let's see how the marriage turns out for them moreon financially independent girls are not willing to take shit from men
@@vanshikakaushik6497 exactly
Free me kaum aata hai yaar,
Agar, food ,medical, insurance ,vehicle, electricity bill , child ki care , home , clothes jewellery etc lena hota To kaam karna hi pata,
Vo kaam husband karta hai ,
Badle me house hold kaam karna padta hai
To free me to koi nahi karta ghar ka kaam,
Ye galafwhmi dimag se nikal do
I am old enough and very happy being single. I am unmarried by choice and do not prefer having kids. I am successful and have other priorities in life. I personally know many people in India and abroad who are single and established in life, they all are in late 60s or 70s and are very happy. Regarding this video: I have seen this trend of intruding into other people’s personal lives in India only. Someone wants to marry or doesn’t want to marry is his/her personal choice and society should respect that. Anybody else’s comment on it is absolutely uncalled for.
If someone married you, your child will be ugly.. it is better to stay away.
Well said
Well said😊
I am 31 years old but I am facing pressure at home and relatives to get married it's like pressure
But I am happy being unmarried and single also I am a working girl
Getting married and having kids is a personal choice and marriage is not everything for a girl
They can work on themselves, focus on studies, hobbies and work on themselves and focus on career and work
Without money no one can full fill all the major responsibilities after marriage. I'm single 45. Staying with my parents happily. And can't take other person responsibility. I'm single but not by choice. Don't marry for a Marriage certificate, it is not mandatory 😊namaste.
Shadi kar lo.. Shadi kar lo 😅mai kehta hu.. Paisa de do.. Paisa de do 😅
Hahah😂 so good
Paise de do
Paise de do
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Wonderful video. And that concept mental plane and reality of every person is different is so true. I use to say the same thing to young people around me who think they have lot of time to mature,grow up and start taking responsibility. Young people nowadays are overgrown children.Very few listen to their parents and at 25 they don’t want responsibility especially men.Many young men marry for ‘bahu’ and ‘sex’ and its only after marriage they realize how tough it is. Counselling should be done by parents.This video will open parents eyes who are wasting time of their children in name of ‘ good girl’.
Mujhe nahi karni shaadi, na bacha chahiye. Mujhe tinde hi pasand hai.
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😂😂.. sahi
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My life is going great & I don't feel that getting married is going to improve or add on anything positive in my life. Also, getting married in today's era depends on luck. Women have become great, I agree, but they have also become very good at hiding their true faces. My instincts are getting better these days & I have an instinct that my life will be destroyed if I get married. But my parents are still living in an era where women were good, feminine, loyal, caring, respected others etc. All I see in today's women are they look for multiple sex relationships before getting married & later when they get married to a decent guy, then file a fake 498a case against him so that she can continue to enjoy her "sexual liberty". It's only when she reaches 30 & her beauty starts to fade away, she starts thinking about stable married life.
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Ispar video bnna chahiye
Everyone is not suitable to get married. When people have unresolved psychological issues of their own, they project it on their spouse and children. Bringing a life into this world just for the sake of it and saddling him/her with your emotional neglect is not ok. Brining a new life into existence without understanding life's true nature, importance and purpose is a pure ignorant and selfish act.
Still choosing to be alone not being left alone. Thanks sir 🌸btw
किसी ने बिल्कुल सही कहा है- शादी एक ऐसा लड्डू है, जिसे नहीं मिले वो ललचाये, और जो खाये वो पछताये। हर शादीशुदा व्यक्ति के अपने अलग अनुभव हैं। उसको जनरलाइज करना मुश्किल है। जो शादी के बन्धन में लम्बे समय से है, उनमें झेलते झेलते इतनी सहनशीलता आ जाती है कि शादी की वकालत करना शुरू कर देते हैं।
पहले एक कारण - बुढ़ापे की चिंता से लोग शादी किया करते, लेकिन अब सामाजिक व्यवस्था ही ऐसी हो गयी है बच्चे अपने बूढ़े माँ बाप कितना ख्याल रख पाते हैं?
मनुष्य जितना अपने मन के सहारे जीयेगा, शादी के बंधन टूटेंगे। समय के साथ हमारा भी बिल्कुल west वाला हाल होना तय है।
Iss buddhe ki baat mat suno. Marriage in 2023 is a scam. It's not like the 1970s.
Shameful comment🖕🖕🖕
What a stupid statement. Firstly you have no respect for someone older then you. Secondly, if you don't agree then chose the right path yourself. He is giving some suggestions based on what his own observation.
Kaya hua bhai teresat
@@nimishmagar5551 Mat pucho 💀.
Dhruv shukla depend on the person
अब सबको प्यार चाहिए ऐसा प्यार जिसमे इतनी सच्चाई हो कि जिसके लिए इंसान कुछ भी कर जाए बस तभी हो सकती है शादी ।।
Comment section padke aisa lag raha hai sir puri tarah fail ho gaye new generation ko marriage ke liye convince karne mai😂😂
Yes totally failed
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Most people are unhappy in their marriage. So what's the point of marriage????
From a woman's point of view....
Initial days into marriage for a woman are just horrible.....
It's like ragging.....
It's a different story maybe if it's just मिया- बिवी staying together but with all the adjustments in a new home with the foreign bodies like सास, ससुर, जेठ, जेठानी n all it's horrifying time for the new bride in India......So first the mindset of the boy and his people has to change drastically......then only girls might get ready for marriage...
Else it's wasting a precious life ........
@Jayashree Sathe foreign bodies 😂😂😂. You are correct, Yes mindset of boy and his parents has to change .
True
@@SBH3356 Agree....
But still the interference continues....and the in laws make sure that the life of the newly weds becomes a hell....
Hence I feel that the mindset of the boy and his people has to change....
You are absolutely right...i married in my twenties..and after two years of continuous mental torture I decided to leave that house ..now I am so much afraid to do it again as the mindset of in laws and other relatives are same...jese ek bachari aayegi ..dahej bhi layegi aur sewa bhi karegi ...aur apne bare me kuch bhi nhi sochegi...what a ridiculous thinking...seriously..are girl made for sewa???
@@Samikshakomal Areee ye pagal admi na bakvas krna janta hai
Actually ham logo ko jab shadi krni hai tab krnge aur sabki apni apni kismat hoti hai
Jab iswar ne likhi hogi tab hogi jisse honi hogi tab hogi
Unko bas bakvas krne ki adat hai
I m 35 years old and i m still single. The issue is salary. I hope one day I'll get marry.. Your thoughts are great👍👍
Same here bro 👍
Hope you also go to jail under maritial rape law
Are salary issue nahi hoti...
Financial stability nahi hai yeh soch issue hai......
Kuch jugad karke ,same situation & companion wali ya wala se jiyo...
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Itna desperate 😂 paise kisliye kamana hai , Saadi karne k liye 😂😂😂 Kun kisi k ATM ban Raha hai bhai .
Amit Ji, you are the best. I feel so productive and motivated after listening to you. Thank you for bringing the change in society and the mindset of youth 🙏🙏
Sir...my age will be 34 on this February. I had been a Broken engagement last year spetember 2022 because of some circumstance the girl stoped relationship with me. Till day I am looking for a bride from past 3 years through relatives, Matrimonial site and By myself.
Koi bhi ladki na ho baat karne mein intrest show kar rahi hai..aur nahi kishi ki source mil pa Raha hai..idharr age and time Aage badhte jarahi hai. Aap keh rahe hai ladko ko 27-30yrs age mein Marriage hojana chahiye but ek Boy ko carrier, finances, Emotionally, mentally prepare hone mein time lagta hai. Sir..Aap suggestions or guidance dijiye yeh matter mein
Are bhai kyun is shadi ke jhamele mein pad raha hai mat kar sab faltoo ki cheezen hai look after ur parents and health and enjoy your life
@@pallavverma5448 After reaching a certain age you will regret your life decisions. View it as you are there to take care of your parents but after a certain time there will be no one to take care of you or even talk to you because you never had a life partner and you never became a parent. If you live in a joint family them this doesn't apply to you but if by any chance you have a nuclear family you are doomed.
@@legends5066 I'm not telling to get married, I'm telling the consequences of not getting married. BTW if you are between 18-22 then congratulations to your premature thinking coz I also used to think the same but then I critically analysed the situation of life without a partner and with a partner and trust me no will take you seriously and everyone would be reluctant to offer you a rented apartment and when the parents are no longer there then your life becomes hell even if you are committed to your work and earn a lot of money but that will never make up for the need of real family members. Think critically not emotionally. Like in the video it is said that not everyone's life becomes a hell after marriage. It is only some of the extreme cases which gets highlighted more.
@@Evaisgalaxy Ooh! sad to hear that.
@@legends5066 Sorry to hear that. May god grace you with a new life ahead. What are your plans now?
Baat shi hai sir. Meri didi ki sadi ko 4 saal ho gye hai lekin aaj tk hmi log sara kharch hm log dekh rhe hai. Aor unke husband ko koe mtlb nhi hai bachha bimar padhe, koe bhi jarurat ho hmi log pura krte hai. Ekdm bekar jivan ho gya hai unka...
@Kalpana-sj7yr - AAP APNE DIDI SE KAHIYE DIVORCED LENE KE LIYE.
After watching this video, I would like to say that if you are thinking about getting married, you should first look at yourself and see what kind of person you are. The person you marry may not be the same person you thought they were, and you may regret your decision later. Marriage is not a joke. It is a responsibility that you must take seriously, not only for yourself but also for your partner. So, please think carefully before getting married, and do not marry someone just because you are attracted to them.
You are absolutely right sir..initially deny for marriage till 30s but later married then things are out of hand...I got married at the age 26 now I m well settled and having 9 years old son ...One of my friend got married at 35 because he denied for married.....conclusion is that either marriage at right time or fully committed not to marry.
It doesn't matter even if you get married later in life. There is no restrictions or boundaries or rules set by god that do this and don't do that. We have freedom to take any decision regarding this topic. Ultimately everyone is gonna die soon, it doesn't matter in the end but it also depends if that person wants to have a child after marriage or not. Someone who does not want a child shouldn't care at all about this thing.
We better focus on our own kind of happiness whether it is about getting married or not..BTW there is more to this life than getting married lol . Marriage should be a choice especially in this overly populated country
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itni population hai tabhi companies aati hai😂, agar kisi country mein population Kum hoti hai toh waha koi company interest nahi dikhati hai!
Marriage and having children should be a choice but one cannot be alone for lifetime
They will feel lonely and miss being loved by their partner
Mentally and physically we need someone
There comes a time and age for this
@@nikitafernandes461 these morons don't understand this , na
@@nikitafernandes461 no one wants to marry a non virgin girl 😂😇
Sir, when you compare risks of marriage with cigerates, drinking, accidents etc. These are all the issues created by us and we have control to go in right direction, and law supports us if something wrong happens on these. In Marriage however its not upto man, if while marrying girl lies then men don`t have any provision. Law itself is blindly supporting women. You say start 10 years girls suffer and rest 30 men. Agreed on that. But girl can opt out of kids after marriage, even if she said yes before. If boy insists, u are divorced, lost your house, your parents house, till the time you die you have to pay alimony. She can quit her job or earn more than you and you still have to pay, and your child will still hate you because the child is living with mother and has only listened bad things about man.
In my case, my mother used to tell me to marry a woman with job(even she is ready to do all household work). She's not like what you said in this video.....but i'm the one who don't want to marry any sort of woman cuz i know that my mother don't know about these "modern woman".
You right bro
Best is cohabitation since women now a days earn of their own they don't need mans protection anyway in form of marriage
@@vineetthakur182 so you have not met a feminist who is in her 30s/40s.
@@vineetthakur182 4 din ki Chandni,fir Andheri Raat ☠️
He hasn't taken into account the issues of men in marriage
1. He says that the number of women doing domestic voilence cases are less but he doesn't even know the number of silent threats that millions of husbands are going through from there wives and in laws to take control of husband
My brother who is earning well and his wife who is housewife was threatened softly by his wife that I know everything about domestic voilence case,just because my brother pointed out that she don't keep the house in order inspite of having maids
2. He didn't covered that its not men but women who are more choosy in marriage,they will see everything educational qualifications,looks, property,job,earnings before marriage but men don't see so many things
well...I think its all about priorities & inner happiness.. kisi ki shadi priority hoti hai kisi ka career ya kisi ka kuch or..pehle ki generation ko ye ek kaam dikhta tha ki shadi krni hi hai just like any other regular work. Aj aisi soch nai hai becoz of a lot of factors like better education, lifestyle etc. Pehle ke logo ko to career k bhi 5-6 options hi dikhte the but aj bohot se log unconventional kam karke or apna passion follow karke zyada khush hain...waisa hi hisab shadi ka hai, aj ke time me log ise zabardsti krne wala kam nai dekhte or ladko se zyada ladkiya step back karti hai isse kyuki jo bhi points apne cover kiye unki wajah se ladkio ki zindgi hi zyada affect hoti hai, pehle ladkia jhel leti thi cuz they wernt financially independent but ab aisi koi majburi nahi hai. pehle k logo k lie marriage institution hota tha ab log companionship me zyada believe karte hain or wo zabardsti nai hota. (ye mere personal thoughts hain, apke points bhi apni jagah thik hain)
You're so good at expressing🙂
@@abc_t5 thanks :)
Bahut sahi baat kaha h, ajkal ladkiyon ka yahi perspective h.... I want peace in my life, I'll build my career and adopt two childs... Im satisfied with my decision and with my life.... No expectation from anybody...
Aaj kal ladke nhi kar rahe hai. Wo zyada pareshan hai.
I have planned to have 100 marriages and 1000 Childers. Will you please marry me and help me reach my goal. Im 24 already married 1.5 year ago and have 1 baby and 2nd pregnancy of 5 months.
Great video, perfectly pitched explaining the realistic ground reality.
Hum kar to rahey they, par aisa na humko kisi ney samjhaya nahin.
" Guru Tatva ko Dhanyawaad. "
This is nice. But what's wrong if the new gen does not want to marry and produce children? That should be ok.
जब लड़कियों की सरकारी जॉब वाला ही लड़का चाहिए तो क्या ही कर सकते है।
My saas 65yrs...sasur 70 yrs.... husband 35yrs...hum dono dr..govt job...4 nanand...mujhe gharse nikal diya..beti hai 2yrs...mere husband jese logon k future k baare mein kuch video banayiye..l m completely blind.... future kya hoga...un jese husband..mamas boy type k liye video banayiye
Mujhe Issi liye dar Lag raha hai Shadi krne se Main kbhi nahi krungi❤❤
Mama's boys are worst immature person. My father was also like that but he evolved over time.
Aap ko kon sahan krega iss Ghar mey aap ka ye hi dos h aap padi likhi h aur independent h baki aapke charo taraf gober h Dr ko dekh kar hi duniya jalti h aap to unke ghar mey hi ho chahe aap apni aur apne baap ki tankha unko de do unko kabhi khush nahi kar paoge
Very well said sir, I am mother of 20 year old . Right now I am not facing this issue personally. But when we look around in society, major issue is not about boys of Marriageable age but it's about girls. All Girls and their parents wants prince Charming with handsome salary package .
Even if a boy with normal salary want to marry it's becoming very difficult to find girl.
It's very difficult to change girl's parents mind set.
Sad but true
Yes,he didn't discussed that
Girls and there parents are very choosy these days,they want good salary, property,good looks,good dressing sense,good qualifications
Also after marriage girls want to take control of husband using 498A
True
@@sudhirchandra9790 right.. but what mn will get after fullfilling all these criteria ? In 10 years what will remain of that gal ? she will become disgusting old ldy but the mn will have huge money to enjoy.. not a good deal for mn with money
Why boys don't select a black girl
Marriage is a gambling, You may lucky or unlucky. Best of luck,
Once you have child it is 25 years project at 0% profit.
Burden after marriage: Home loan, personal loan, child education loan. Don't marry stay away from all responsibilities.
Only tension marriage life first tfoll that finicial promblems,health promblems,tension for kides😊
Bhai sahib ji bhut achchhe se smjhaya aaj ki generation ko. Nice efforts. 🙏
sir shadi ki chodo... yeh batao 6000 ki russian kaha milegi.... ek video ispe bhi banao
Bhai thailand best h … cheap h affirdable 😊
@@chetan257 what about STDs? aur self worth bhi gir jaati hai is cheez se to be very honest.
@@animeshupadhyai4057 condom + rapid testing kit aati h bhai ..
Or me medical line se hu …to pata h symptoms ..thodi research karo …
Koi option h kya … jail..mental torture… adultery..slavery… apne assets wealth gawane se accha hi h …
Koi option nahi h …
Or bhai prostitute bhi ek se ek hoti h …
Firends with benefits wali gf bana lo …
@@animeshupadhyai4057 bhai 2 condoms lagate hai std hone ke chance nahi hota
Bro, Russia ka Visa laga le
Wahaan pr bhi aasani se mil jaayegi.
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Thank you sir.....I have gave up hope of getting married.....I am 38 now.....
SHAADI TO MUJHE BHI NAHI KARNI....43 SAAL KA HOGAYA HU...AB TO AKELA REHENE KI AADAT SI HOGAI HAI ....AUR AKELA HI KHOOSH HOON
I have planned to have 100 marriages and 1000 Childers. Will you please marry me and help me reach my goal. Im 24 already married 1.5 year ago and have 1 baby and 2nd pregnancy of 5 months.
Bhai,aap saadi kyu nahi karna chahte?reply plz .
43 year ke ho chuke ho ab koi itna jaruri nahi shadi tension free freedom se raho
Ladki pati nhi, sidhe sidhe bol na
जब तक कोई तयार ना उस पर दबाव नहीं डालना चाहिए क्या पता वह वो देख रहा हो जो आपको नहीं दिख रहा हो शादी तो इन्सान के अलावा कोई नहीं करता फिर भी उनका जीवन चलता है और अच्छे से चलता है क्योंकि वो खुद पर भरोसा और प्यार दोनो होता है ना कीसी और से मिलने वाले सुख से क्योंकि जीससे सुख मिलेगा उसीसे दुख
People keep changing with time...even if someone thinks they are marrying the right person, it might turn out otherwise later...one can never be sure...pls make a video on mental plane explanation. thanks.
Fayda toh btao karni kyu haii olus point kya h leni kyu h zimedari , baby adopt kr lenge koi kiski life b bn kayegi
Tim Cook
Swami Vivekananda
Or foreign live in their happiness life
It's individual life
Indian people usually focus on other life whether neighbour or family
Nobody should focus on their life
It's better to live alone
संन्यास स्वतंत्रता है। संन्यास घोषणा है इस बात की कि मैं अपने जीवन को अपने ढंग से जीऊंगा। मैं वैसे जीऊंगा जैसी मेरी अंतःप्रेरणा होगी। मैं दूसरों की मान कर न जीऊंगा। मैं दूसरों का अनुकरण करके न जीऊंगा। मेरा जीवन एक अभिनय मात्र नहीं होगा। मेरा जीवन प्रमाणिक होगा, मेरा होगाः मेरी निजता से जन्मेगा, स्वतःस्फूत होगा। और संन्यास का क्या अर्थ है? अपने ढंग से जीऊंगा ताकि परमात्मा के सामने जब जाऊं तो यह कह सकूं कि तुमने जो प्रेरणा मुझे दी थी उसके ही अनुसार जीआ हूं। झुका नहीं, समझौता नहीं किया। The Great Osho
@@Harshhasteer bahut khoob
Very practical video sir. But one question. I have been married for an year now and my husband is abusive. He is violent with me and recently he actually slapped me multiple times and was physically abuvie with me. Should a women tolerate this also or move out of such marriage.
Pls stand up for yourself
It is easier said than done. My parents are like if this happens again and again than it is a problem otherwise the guy might have been in some othe zone. He was pissed, you might have taunted him. He might have gone berserk so it happened. No support from them.
@@jattmoosewala83yes.
@prachi Tell your husband to get a girlfriend and leave. It will solve problems from both side. The husband and you both will be happy.
When he is in good mood, in a respectful, loving at the same time firm manner, tell him this is not okay. If we want this relationship to be successful, he must refrain from such behaviour. When u do this, convey it in a manner that you are not demanding (although i accept you have all reasons to be upset), at the same time be clear about the fact that this behaviour hurts and upsets you a lot.
I am in no way supporting any violence towards one's spouse, but it is a fact that some men are programmed in manner that it is okay to raise hand on their wife.
Now what we can do here is, if we see a scope of him learning that it is NOT OKAY AT ALL, and he is willing to improve, then one can have patience and help him come out of his attitude.
But if we see a person is abusive inherently and is never going to change his ways, there is no point suffering in such a relationship.
Sir you are a very practical person. You change my thought process in a positive way. I eagerly wait for your videos.
I have planned to have 100 marriages and 1000 Childers. Will you please marry me and help me reach my goal. Im 24 already married 1.5 year ago and have 1 baby and 2nd pregnancy of 5 months.
Bhaad me gyi shadi, bhaad me gyi ladki
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Larki bhi yahi sochti hey bhiya ki sadai baadi faltu hey
Same
@@nishitarawatsituations is not same for all...atleast we should try our luck....and know what is written in destiny by god 😊
Still finding a good boy is easy nowadays rather than a girl..pehle ke jamane mai dekha jaata tha ki ladka kesa hai..usme koi burai to nhi..daaru to nhi Peeta galat aadat to nhi hai etc..nowadays scenario is opposite 😂 technology and laws ka misuse acche se ho raha hai