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Grant is here to give you 5 helpful tips on making the most of your extremely solitary meals!
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Nah! I live in India
Nah! I live in North Korea
Only 2 comments?
malik Videos Nope yours made three and mine made four :)
I'm a man, and I think I'm attracted to Grant. I don't know how to feel about this.
everyone always asks how tall is grant, but no one ever asks how IS grant.
Inessa Ratevosian this is more sad than the entire video
Inessa Ratevosian this comment deserve more likes than it's going to get
I'll do you one better... WHY is Grant?
When is grant
Who is Grant?
"Why would I inflict myself on someone else?"
Oh wow.
*sad pot stirring in the background*
This was a personal attack on me
that hurt to hear
I thought everyone with depression has asked that. Why would i want to ruin someones life by adding in my own
That hit me
When you realize he wrote this himself.
Really?
Logical Overdrive the bio has a cast and crew list
Uh oh
When you realized that this isn't acting
Bruh
"make a big batch of protein", "serve with greens or starch", and "sauces = variety" are actually good mealprep advice and i always keep in mind ever since I watched this video lol
From a friend:
"jesus christ. I never expected such a personal attack from a piece of media designed to be consumed by an _audience_ "
wish i had a friend too
Pro tip:
Find that friend and give them a big hug.
Is it really from a friend?
Yeah same
i have also been there, things don't work out and all that, the food thing i'm good on lol
It’s called college humor, not college depression.
excuse me have you been in college
This one rings truer i feel
Honestly there isn't much of a difference
Same thing
Another one! Hi!
grant: "Why would i inflict myself on someone else?"
aso grant: "click here for more fun stuff!"
me: "was..was that fun?"
Melkster it hit a little to close to home to be fun lil
@@mikecharnecke3087 in a wicked way
That's the joke its called mood whiplash
I swear when Grant started the monologue I though the camera would pan over to show him talking to the herbs he grew.
In my opinion, this is definetely one of the best CH sketches, not because of the "fun" factor but because of how well Grant acts.
i dont think hes acting
That method acting, yo
“Acts”
How do u know he’s acting
HE AINT ACTING
"Why would I inflict myself on someone else?"
Okay I’m gonna go cry now bye
Aww, come on now! Now you're gonna make me cry!
If you choose a cheese burger in the supermarket it's not because it can be a little unhealthy, it's because you like it. If a person choose you as their specual someone it's not because sometimes you are to depressed to do anything with them, it's just because they love you.
Everyone has something to show that can be lovely, don't ever dought that :)
Erutan Egaro that was the sweetest fucking thing I have ever read
One of the few videos I can say I’ve cried thanks too.
Erutan Egaro thank you for that. Hope you and your family are safe and doing well.
When you come here to fill the small void you call a heart, but instead you leave with a larger hole and extensional dread.
I, too, often go places to get a void filled only to leave with that hole larger than before
"Why would I inflict myself on someone else....."
That one sentence 🤦🏽♂️
"Why would I inflict myself on someone else?"
Well then, I'm just going to curl up in a ball of realization and self reflection right now...
Silentgrace11 lol I just flat out denied it all. No denial here.
It’s so hauntingly true.
Inflict myself.... Didn't realize I always felt that way until he put it in words....
Same.
Silentgrace11 i
Sometimes, put your takeaway on a fancy plate. It makes the loneliness taste better
Kairo Not happening, that’s extra dirty plate that you have to clean
Does a fancy paper plate count?
Shwalker07 no it just increases the SAD factor
Loneliness is the best spice
I keep a Waterford crystal glass around to drink kool aid out of. It makes me feel better
Cooking for other people is one of the most stressful things I've ever experienced. At least when you cook for yourself you only have yourself to disappoint.
When you cook for other people, remind them that you know all their food allergies and an “accidental poisoning” is very hard to call a murder, so they’d better keep their “helpful critiques” to themfuckingselves
@@tde4438 I love this. Please. Never change. 🤣
This is oddly comforting in the fact that someone else feels the way I do
When you wanna share a video but you don't wanna worry all your friends and family, and above all give satisfaction to your ex.
Ha! The first thing I did after I finished watching was send it to my mother. I have depression, she has bipolar disorder, so she gets it.
....frick you for describing my delema with accuracy.
why are you still thinking about your ex?
:(
send this to a lonely ex and ask "you this"
Came in for a laugh and ended up with depression thanks.
This comment cured my depression
yeah honestly this just made me feel genuinely like shit... gg
StoopVital
came here to cure my depression and it only got worse. thanks!
Same
I lived alone for a year and gave up and went back to roommates and airbnb guests; much better (for me).
I'll be honest. This video actually gave me real emotional issues. I started to think of myself the same way grant does in tip 4. Still haven't gotten better
This is a lonely time, but I believe that it can get better. I hope it already has for you, but, honestly, you deserve _at least_ whatever space you have in this world, including the place that another person gives you in theirs.
@Gangari TheWanderer This can only come from someone who has been in enough relationships to be confident to find another whenever they so please. This is neither the perception, nor the reality for many singles out there.
Truth is it didnt give you those things, it just made you realise how you feel. Its a good first step for therapy!
Ah, I'm sorry. I used to hate myself a lot, but I've been working on liking myself/being kinder and gentler with myself these past few years (the way I used to talk to myself in my head was brutal and just needlessly mean. Once I changed that, a lot of things started shifting for the better). I really hope you feel better (about yourself), because I'm sure you're wonderful. I hope you get to do things you enjoy and enjoy your own company. I hope you're able to get the support you need (if/when you need it). Take care, man.
LMFAO
God I just want to hug Grant and tell him everything is going to be okay
Why would you lie to him, and by extension the rest of us?
i also wanna hug him 1:22
This hit way too close to home.
MrMighty147 too close
Exactly
i said that exact thing in my mind
It even just barged right in XDDD
MrMighty147 omg I relate so hard
Tip #6: Antidepressants totally count as a
meal
Dont forget to wash it down with captain morgan
Underated comment!
Wash it down with sorrow and whiskey.
You mean it's totally a vital mineral
"Technically a meal"
Grant: "... and I'm single"
Subscribers: **slams themselves on a table** *_meal is ready for eating_*
Grant, Katie, and Brennen are like the top three college Humor actors/writers. They’re so good at portraying pretty much all emotions
You guys are supposed to make me laugh, not ponder my sad existence. Honestly though, this may be one of the best sketches you've ever put out.
I think its funny and extremely sad at the same time. I have watched this like 5 times sinch they made it. I guess its just my fucked up sense of humour.
I still find this incredibly depressing, but I chuckled a bit at the end titles, oblivious to his suffereing. Its almost like the media is trying to cover up the sad reality.
Don't forget to cry in the Goya aisle whenever you're shopping for ingredients
No there's never anybody there...
Renan Phillips in my country the snack aisle is empty (the junk foods)
Infinite Sky oh are you from Venezuela?
Renan Phillips nah im from the philippines
Infinite Sky oh well no wonder! Are sweets even legal in the Philippines?
*I'm in this sketch and I Dont like it.*
Kelly Houseknecht you are literally a child, don’t think this applies to you
@@gezi5927 lmao
This can still apply to children because some don’t make relationships with this thought in mind, relationships like friendship, mentors, father/mother/ or parental substitution for people who don’t have strong parental figures, possibly even getting pets, etc.
"Why would I inflict myself on someone else?"
what happened to that megawatt smile
The Mushy Potato Keith is sad when he’s not with the try guys
@@hookedonchronic9421 this one one hit WAYYY to close that it destroyed my house
I just liked this so you could get 600 likes
Elijah Bailey no,It's a reference to another Collegehumor's video
I'm only laughing on the outside...
My smile is only skin deep...
If you could see me on the inside I'd be crying..
So let's all join Grant for a weep.
When you actually came for comedic advice and got feels instead
Advice:
freeze vegetables. They won't go bad in the freezer and you can just throw them in a pan when it's time to cook.
Leftovers are good. The taco filling from last night is great on nachos for breakfast.
Don't make more food than you can eat in 3 days
Get some stuff that's really fast to make for when you really don't want to cook
Eggs last a long time and there's a lot of stuff you can make with eggs.
...also can someone please check on Grant
"Why would I inflict myself on others" I've wondered for a while How I feel, that's it, right on the nose
Because of 1:30, all I can think of is grant's "8.5 inch comment" from his other video xD
I mean. He's pretty cute regardless. 😂
0 to 100 on the depression scale real quick
actually, it helped to know somebody else has the same ideas. I feel less lonely.
Idk 200?
And that smile too tho' *cringe* .
I'm there with you, bro.
I literally thought the same thing recently
“I don’t want someone who wants me, because what kind of person would want me”
That cut deeeeep
Samee💀💀
I feel you. I spent years building up a facimile of self esteem, and when I let it down even briefly all of that pent-up self loathing hit all at once. It sucks. You've just gotta know that not only are you not alone, you are wonderful, and someone out there would be lucky to have you.
Exactly, because only weirdos with Mommy issues would like someone like me. That's why I always hit on people who hate me. It doesn't work but at least I'm surrounded by sane people.
@@sunaina8441 damn. I just wish I could give you guys a hug.
@@alsikepike5686 And that's how I know something's wrong with you. :P xD
3:15 Grant is so good at capturing this moment that a lot of us in 2020 have felt
This is quite possibly the greatest sketch in the world. Does it hit close to home? Of fuckin' course it does.
Scrolling throw the comments, I don't think I've every seen so many openly lonely people in one place before. You might think that's depressing (it is), but in a weird way I find it kind of reassuring.
Since it's so rare to actually see loneliness it's easy to think its uncommon. But we're only less seen because we're lonely.
All of this. Watching this both made me feel triggered and validated me by letting me know I'm not alone..
Good for you
True :/
we are all one
We’re all alone together
Why has college humor morphed into sad adult humor
To better fit their audience.
Jordan Loux
Oof
That's what happens when you graduate :D
Nin10Jo because that's the truth
because they all graduated. They have seen the real world.
Lasagna: smells like childhood, you didn’t disappoint so many people.... Child me: ... Mom: “you’re the reason my marriage isn’t working, why I quit my job, and why I’m so unhappy and depressed all the fucking time”
I hope you're doing well buddy.
relatable lmao
Same
Y’all are making me feel guilty about having a good childhood
Please stop
I hope that you are far away from that situation. No child deserves that horrible treatment.
grant trying not to cry is how i hold my cries in
This got too real and I am no longer okay.
Now *this* is a sketch I can get behind
Marley to make up for the fact that nobody will ever have your back
Marley and that you'll never be able to get behind anyone.
that is so dirty and so sweet at the same time, awww, i'm getting all teary over here, and throwing up a little in me mouth, now it's back to tears, so beautiful
that's because he's not acting anymore, its real.
I refuse to believe that. As a straight man I can definitively state there is nobody taller, more handsome and accessible than Grant.
Everything from 1:35 onwards is the best acting ever seen on this channel.
Yeah... "acting"...
I know this is like a "haha funny" video but honestly I just wanna give Grant a hug
This was Grant's best performance ever. Comedic, dramatic and dark all in three minutes. Well done sir.
"Ordering delivery will give you someone to talk to at night for a second."
But that's the worst part!
KampKarl You Don't have to be an extrovert to wanna talk to someone.
To actually like it, yeah.
...Reliving that really brief conversation and how you should have said "goodbye" and not (as you suspect) smiled like a creep, instead being facetious by saying "tatybyes!" to a complete burly stranger. 😬
ExcelExcel they could have sex.
Grant is such a good actor i would love to see him in a professional style film
Grant's thighs are the real star of the show
One word: Bulge.
It's.... long
I think they have their own channel, but it's one of those websites I can't browse because of work's firewalll. XD
Legs for daysssss
i would date his thighs.... probably the rest of him too if he wasnt such a clutz
I am pushing 40, single and live alone. I enjoy cooking for myself because it fills up my time in the evening. why be bored while waiting to die?
Thats the spirit. Tho i enjoy cooking i enjoyed it way more when i was cooking for someone else.
What about volunteering? Then your helping someone else if you’re not hungry
is this john mayer
A part of me is starting to think that an apocalyptic change in climate is exactly the thing humanity needs. Nobody likes living, it's pathetic.
Music on my small Bluetooth speaker, singing along and cooking for myself. It is just a fulfilling feeling. I mean, just because someone is not there to ask me what to eat or what is the mood of the day, does not mean I can't care for myself.
"why would i inflict myself on someone else"
cheers mate, I'll drink to that.
Guys, really love what you’re making! Keep it up.
Also, Grant, I hope this was the sketch and not your mindset: you do have potential and you’re fulfilling it, doing this job you love and spreading powerful messages with videos like this one. If you need to talk with somebody don’t be afraid, everyone can be scared of themselves, the important thing is being able to bring ourselves up after being down, that’s where our friends help us.
Have a great day
When you're buying burgers, get two burgers, and only one thing of fries and a drink, but get two straws.
Then everyone thinks you're buying food for two, when, in fact, you were buying two people's worth of food to eat all at once, because overstuffing yourself at least makes you feel less physically empty.
I go to the chinese takeout place, order three item platter from the buffet, an order of dumplings and an order of spring rolls. I ask for two forks and six soy sauce packets. I think they are fooled.
Great advice
Can I get a couple of yikes to go with that?
One to eat now and another to eat at 2 am when its stale and congealed into a blobby mess and you want the perfect food that represents how much you hate yourself
Oof
Yeah, this hits home way too hard.
...
Absolute
This is me
Yup
Yep
I'm laughing to hide the pain of seeing myself in this video
Probably Grant’s best video. He’s at the peak of his acting, comedy, writing and style here
This is accurate to an uncomfortable point....
Yh, I was about to say
Shit just got way too real here!
Shit just got real
Youre indian thats why dont worry ill hang myself too
Shadowganster123 Not sure if you're being serious, but please don't do that.
No more liking it's perfect
I kept waiting for tip that leaning over your food while in the midst of yet another depressed bout of crying provides a great source of salt! Really gives it a good flavor of sorrow that you're already so familiar with anyway!
“Please...somebody Care?” I legitimately got emotional at that part. too reliable!
This is such a good sketch, it's heartfelt, and sad but still funny at the same time.
Tea With Tams the most depressive sketch on CH though.
Tea With Tams I disagree about it's "funnyness". I'm sharing this video on Twitter to Celebrity Chef Jamieoliver . Hopefully he will provide a serious & helpful version of this video. Grant isn't doing anything for me in this video. 😧🍗🍳🥃🍽💔👤🔫
Not funny or sad just boring
I'm alone
It's a lot of people's reality. Welp, off to the store for more Cpt Morgan
OMG this got super dark, super fast. 😳
Its grant, he understands our depression
Wait who is grant this is greatly Keith from buzzfeed
ElyssaAnderson but not funny, at all.
2real
Worst Wolf204 lol xD
Grant why are you so scarily relatable
This was extremely well done
Collegehumor gets too real
DeathnoteBB “I can’t afford a therapist, I have student loans”😩
Too real...
And it’s amazing, I love it ❤️
Tip 6: Serving sizes are only a suggestion! Just eat the entire family fun pack to numb the lonely!
Ellie Meow I, like many many people in the comments, can relate. I've recently found myself in a similar situation and here's something that might help those who want to read through:
Feeling unloved, unlovable, is a character trait associated with our culture. We are told throughout childhood that we aren't good enough or that we should be perfect. We equate love with being perfect. Any small dent in that perfect image throws us in a state of panic, guilt. We think we don't deserve our parent's or society's love anymore, because of our mistakes. Small mistakes pile up and we feel uncomfortable because of them, because we are afraid of showing anybody those mistakes. As we try to cope with this negative self-image, we spiral into bad coping mechanisms like the ones portrayed in this video, or like drinking, internet addiction, or any sort of escape from this fear. At some point, this negative self-image becomes so heavy that we push other people away. Sometimes hiding from them How messed up we are becomes more important than being in a relationship. "How could they love me if I am so messed up?". Might lead to "how messed up am I that I push people away?". We might spiral out of control.
The solution is not "to get your act together", like we tell ourselves. It puts more pressure on us to avoid repeating mistakes. And whatever progress we might make will disappear when the first little mistake arises. You will think that you're back to square 1 and that all your efforts were not enough and you will curse yourself and might get into bad coping mechanisms again.
The solution is forgiveness. Keeping yourself accountable for every little action you have made buries under a mountain of stress and guilt. And guess what, other people are just as imperfect as well! Learning to love each others weaknesses is what its about. Forgiveness shows you how that mountain is unnecessary pain you're inflicting yourself. No matter what you have done, how bad you think it is, admit it. And ask to be forgiven. From others, because they will appreciate it. But most of all you can try to forgive yourself. Forgiveness erases all the unbearable debts you're keeping track of and which slow you down, forgive all the debts to your past. You are free to live again, to try again ! And on a clean slate this time, not having to fight all previous failures. This will give you the opportunity to truly get better. Feeling better and doing better.
I'm at the beginning but this insight from a book that I'm sharing with you today changed my perspective. I cried when I realised how much unnecessary weight I had put on myself and how good it felt to ask for forgiveness. It reset the timers to 0. It set me to a fresh start. Now, I still have flaws and I still need to deal with my past actions. The difference is I can improve on them now that I don't have to sustain these unrealistic expectations of perfection anymore. Giving that up allowed me, paradoxically, to get better. I feel much lighter and I feel like I can accomplish good things instead of trying to fight bad old habits.
It may not be perfect but I hope this comment will be a spark for you to forgive yourself and start feeling and doing better.
Much love on your journey.
Empty Carbs = Loner's Best Friend.
Marka Biti this comment was great! Subscribed. Please make videos!
Who needs a family when you can eat the family fun pack .
So I kinda jumped the gun a bit and stopped reading your comment after "family". Long story short, are any of you fellas good at baking? Like, "file in a cake delivered to a maximum security prison" good?
I felt genuinely bad in the end seeing the sadness in your face. Just made me want to cry.
"Would I… *inflict* myself on someone else?"
Ouch, I felt that.
Great acting, Grant
Montana cellist „acting“
Or is he
Haha yeah. *acting*
Lol guys
"acting"
Top 10 calls for help
Wonder if they know this is one of them
I mean like how should I say it to her?
Maybe I should man up and tell her how I feel about her
When should I do it
I only have a few more weeks to tell her
Should I talk to her on Monday?
I mean, she already had 2 boyfriends
She is single right now but what will make me different from the last 2?
This would be my first girlfriend but how can I make it last?
Jesus f*ck I think I should just say it on Monday
But how does she feel about me?
We're pretty good friends
That's something right?
I got about a minute and a half in before I started feeling really bad and crying.
Seriously, I started crying no joke, that went too real.real quick, it's like, oh, wow, I can't even.
I can't wait for Katie to release her 5 different tips for cooking cocaine
😡😇😉 *_Don't read my name_* 😯😬😁
because I closed down the tab so fast I actually couldnt read your name
That is great pitch
Veridian I can't wait either
Veridian Katie and cocaine jokes ftw!!!
“You hadn’t disappointed so many people”
LITTLE DID HE KNOW IVE BEEN DISAPPOINTING PEOPLE FROM TGE AGE OF 4
Damn, that also hit close to home.
That's kind of amazing, how did you manage to disappoint at age 4 already? It took me 20 years to master that field.. :(
Wouldn't you at least need to start school to be able to become a disappointment? I'm amazed and proud of you for starting early :D
Rantaro Kinnie well at least you started early.
Worse is when you are considered your state prodigy in 8th grade, and proceed to collapse miserably. No one looks at you the same, the expectations were too high. The future is over.
With the right kind of parent, you will feel like the first disappointment you put others through was your own birth and that it basically went downhill from there.
I'm disappointed by that typo
Well, this became a lot more useful this week.
I'm very disappointed I've missed this sketch until now. It def made the top 5 if not top 3 if not top 1 of my favorite CH sketches.
His monologue hit *too close to home*
elizabeth andrade I, like many many people in the comments, can relate. I've recently found myself in a similar situation and here's something that might help those who want to read through:
Feeling unloved, unlovable, is a character trait associated with our culture. We are told throughout childhood that we aren't good enough or that we should be perfect. We equate love with being perfect. Any small dent in that perfect image throws us in a state of panic, guilt. We think we don't deserve our parent's or society's love anymore, because of our mistakes. Small mistakes pile up and we feel uncomfortable because of them, because we are afraid of showing anybody those mistakes. As we try to cope with this negative self-image, we spiral into bad coping mechanisms like the ones portrayed in this video, or like drinking, internet addiction, or any sort of escape from this fear. At some point, this negative self-image becomes so heavy that we push other people away. Sometimes hiding from them How messed up we are becomes more important than being in a relationship. "How could they love me if I am so messed up?". Might lead to "how messed up am I that I push people away?". We might spiral out of control.
The solution is not "to get your act together", like we tell ourselves. It puts more pressure on us to avoid repeating mistakes. And whatever progress we might make will disappear when the first little mistake arises. You will think that you're back to square 1 and that all your efforts were not enough and you will curse yourself and might get into bad coping mechanisms again.
The solution is forgiveness. Keeping yourself accountable for every little action you have made buries under a mountain of stress and guilt. And guess what, other people are just as imperfect as well! Learning to love each others weaknesses is what its about. Forgiveness shows you how that mountain is unnecessary pain you're inflicting yourself. No matter what you have done, how bad you think it is, admit it. And ask to be forgiven. From others, because they will appreciate it. But most of all you can try to forgive yourself. Forgiveness erases all the unbearable debts you're keeping track of and which slow you down, forgive all the debts to your past. You are free to live again, to try again ! And on a clean slate this time, not having to fight all previous failures. This will give you the opportunity to truly get better. Feeling better and doing better.
I'm at the beginning but this insight from a book that I'm sharing with you today changed my perspective. I cried when I realised how much unnecessary weight I had put on myself and how good it felt to ask for forgiveness. It reset the timers to 0. It set me to a fresh start. Now, I still have flaws and I still need to deal with my past actions. The difference is I can improve on them now that I don't have to sustain these unrealistic expectations of perfection anymore. Giving that up allowed me, paradoxically, to get better. I feel much lighter and I feel like I can accomplish good things instead of trying to fight bad old habits.
It may not be perfect but I hope this comment will be a spark for you to forgive yourself and start feeling and doing better.
Much love on your journey.
Marka Biti
It's of no use, I feel, your effort is on people by the medium you're using to spread your message
everybody asks how tall is grant but no one asks how's grant :'(
Győri Sándor to the top!
I got 1 better...WHY Is GRANT?
Hey know how tall he is... he’s my same height
jesus christ
I'm going through a bit of a rough patch. I really like the videos you guys at College Humor make. The last tip just... broke be.
Grant, you really fucking sold that one. It might have been a joke, with the up-beat music, but it me literally to tears seeing you there. Like a reflection of myself.
bravo.
Very helpful! Thanks!
How to talk to someone you find attractive:
1. Try talking about a common topic. Weather, current events, clothing or accessories are all safe bets. Stay away from topics like politics and religion.
2. Panic because you are talking to someone and realize you just blabbed to them "It's raining and I like your mud shoes."
3. Realize that while you were panicking they actually made a response to be polite. You have no idea what this response is because you weren't paying attention.
4. Panic more.
5. While they stare at you confused make awkward sounds like an injured raccoon trying to remember which Baldwin brother was which.
5. Run away screaming.
6. Hide in a safe place like your bed, pillow fort, basement, or cave. Never emerge from this place. Do not rejoin society. Eat lots of snacks.
S Rodgers oh lord 😂😂😂 toooo damn reaaaal, that's why my only hope is internet ;u;)
😂😂😂
S Rodgers brilliant
S Rodgers Step 8. Realize you did 5 twice.
Thanks you for the wisdom
That's way too accurate to be funny. Holy shit...
Should have come with a warning.
Alucard I, like many many people in the comments, can relate. I've recently found myself in a similar situation and here's something that might help those who want to read through:
Feeling unloved, unlovable, is a character trait associated with our culture. We are told throughout childhood that we aren't good enough or that we should be perfect. We equate love with being perfect. Any small dent in that perfect image throws us in a state of panic, guilt. We think we don't deserve our parent's or society's love anymore, because of our mistakes. Small mistakes pile up and we feel uncomfortable because of them, because we are afraid of showing anybody those mistakes. As we try to cope with this negative self-image, we spiral into bad coping mechanisms like the ones portrayed in this video, or like drinking, internet addiction, or any sort of escape from this fear. At some point, this negative self-image becomes so heavy that we push other people away. Sometimes hiding from them How messed up we are becomes more important than being in a relationship. "How could they love me if I am so messed up?". Might lead to "how messed up am I that I push people away?". We might spiral out of control.
The solution is not "to get your act together", like we tell ourselves. It puts more pressure on us to avoid repeating mistakes. And whatever progress we might make will disappear when the first little mistake arises. You will think that you're back to square 1 and that all your efforts were not enough and you will curse yourself and might get into bad coping mechanisms again.
The solution is forgiveness. Keeping yourself accountable for every little action you have made buries under a mountain of stress and guilt. And guess what, other people are just as imperfect as well! Learning to love each others weaknesses is what its about. Forgiveness shows you how that mountain is unnecessary pain you're inflicting yourself. No matter what you have done, how bad you think it is, admit it. And ask to be forgiven. From others, because they will appreciate it. But most of all you can try to forgive yourself. Forgiveness erases all the unbearable debts you're keeping track of and which slow you down, forgive all the debts to your past. You are free to live again, to try again ! And on a clean slate this time, not having to fight all previous failures. This will give you the opportunity to truly get better. Feeling better and doing better.
I'm at the beginning but this insight from a book that I'm sharing with you today changed my perspective. I cried when I realised how much unnecessary weight I had put on myself and how good it felt to ask for forgiveness. It reset the timers to 0. It set me to a fresh start. Now, I still have flaws and I still need to deal with my past actions. The difference is I can improve on them now that I don't have to sustain these unrealistic expectations of perfection anymore. Giving that up allowed me, paradoxically, to get better. I feel much lighter and I feel like I can accomplish good things instead of trying to fight bad old habits.
It may not be perfect but I hope this comment will be a spark for you to forgive yourself and start feeling and doing better.
Much love on your journey.
Yeah the smile slid off my face about halfway through when the words started resonating a little too closely with me.
people close to me ask why I'm not interested in any relationship:
this video sums it up perfectly, it can just be hard to put it into words sometimes...
"Why would i inflict myself on someone else?" is waaaay too relatable sometimes :D
I'm watching this while eating a bowl of Reeses Puffs and drinking a Rum & Coke. This is too accurate to be funny :/
Reese puffs are my fav!!! Can I be lonely with you? It'll look less pathetic when we order from Dominos for 5 people if there's 2 of us to answer the door. Eh, who am I kidding. The odds of us agreeing on the toppings is way too low. We'll never work.... ... ... ... Yes Dominos, you're right. I should totally add that chocolat lava cake... Only chocolate can bring me happiness at this point...
E L I love you. You are loved.
Wanted to laugh but it was way too close to home, so now I'm really bummed. Whatever.
I was thinking the same thing when I watched this
Get some help.
tip 7: the perfect plate of cookies to leave out for the emergency workers who show up to find your lifeless corpse in the bathtub.
Tip#8: Invite A Homeless Person To Dine With You So You Actually Have A Reason To Sit At A Booth...It Worked 4 Moi.
Tip#9: Always centrifuge your food first at 2000 G-Force ..
Great perfomance!
man, this shit gets truer every year
I think grant is broken ,someone turn him on and off again
Rohit Kishnani if this doesn’t work please refer to page 15 of your grant manual or call customer service at 1-800-depression
someone turn him on
please
he needs it
*off and on
That begs the question, "What turns on Grant?"
I remember being fueled by ramen. Good times.
Sebastian Elytron good... Times...?
I get the reference
See - being so poor that you can only afford ramen isn't a problem if you looove ramen! :D :D
If you intake enough of the stuff you also get honorary asian status. I'm fairly certain that's in the rules there somewhere...
back in the day i ate so much and so often ramen that i feel a little bit vomit coming up even when smelling ramen...
TheStigma - if you can still afford ramen, you’re not poor enough... 🤷♀️ ramen is expensive, in the uk at least.
I made that sound where nobody knows if you’re crying or laughing at the pain
Grant really uses his theatre degree
where's the oscar
Courtney Guthrie He’s not getting one because he wasn’t acting
Oh honey he wasn’t acting
I didn't sign the form for this feels trip
No one did, man.
LOL
I'm at 2:45 and I would really like to not have to relate to anymore of it.
This got dark real quick, I wasn't ready
I came here to laugh and instead had to confront the dark thoughts I mindlessly watch UA-cam videos to ignore...thanks Grant 😂😣
THAT MONOLOGUE WAS ON POINT, YOUR ACTING CHOPS ARE SHARP AF
Wynnie M *soliloquy
I'm rewatching all of these videos now that I'm in college and they just...hit different now
wait till after college, they hit like truck then
@@langstoncollins3570 oh I can’t wait
2:22 "Why would I inflict myself on someone else?"
Yeah... yeah...