Is hoarding hereditary? A sit down Q&A with my sister Sherry🏡
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I am 72. So, I kew my great-grandmother, who came across the US in a covered wagon as a child. My grandmother lived through the depression. I knew both women. For years, I heard don't get rid of it, you never know when you are goung to need it. Result-lots of clutter. When I moved 1750 miles from them, those voices finally began to lose their hold. Watching you and your sister have helped me donate 8 large trash bags of clothes, 2 large bags of towels and blankets to a no kill shelter, and I have no clue on how many boxes. And, I am not done yet! THANK YOU to both you and your sister.
Bravo for your courage ‼
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thank you for sharing your journey!! bravo pamela!!😍❤
Our Great Grandmas weren't wrong, they were survivors! They just didn't live in the world of plenty that we do today. We can also give ourselves grace for getting in an overwhelmed situation, because people have not evolved to handle being able to acquire stuff so easily. I guess it's what we're doing now, watching these videos, evolving. God bless everyone.
Please look around and see what house or vehicle repairs are needed. Start an account to get those done. Get a new challenge to save the funds to get them done.❤
Sherry has a sweet and gentle spirit. Her natural kind heart is obvious. Carla demonstrates a genuine commitment to sisterhood compassion. You both have a relaxing vibe that is enjoyable to watch.
Love this❤😊
Awesome Woman indeed
We all need women in our.lives like these two.
"What you need will always be provided" That's the essence of this, isn't it!!! Love Sherry! Please film if she does a second pass through of her spaces!
I have enjoyed watching Sherry’s journey. I’m excited to see the decluttering of her kitchen. I have a teeny kitchen and keep only the essentials. Extra stuff I keep in the basement. Lots of counter space is wonderful❤️
Keep up the good work. You work well together!
Yes, I'd love to see the second pass too. The two sisters together are a joy to watch.
Me too on second pass through...
Don't know if your sister has always been this way, but her self awareness is refreshing. She knows what she wants and where she wants to be, she's a joy to watch. You are too☺️
Thank you ☺️
I think this series is so popular because Sherry is so likeable and relatable. And the two of you working together is enjoyable to watch. Keep producing videos together
Love, love, love this calm, insightful and fun conversation! Sherry also seems to have a natural talent to talk to us viewers!
Isn't that the truth?! They are so relaxed and accepting of each other. Love them!
Sherry is so articulate about her clutter and the emotional process of letting go. So many people need to hear her words and learn from her so they don’t end up making purchasing mistakes. So helpful. Thank you.
I totally agree! So much of what Sherry said resonated with me. From this series with Sherry, I have become aware of my own process for letting go of things. Sometimes, it has taken a couple of pass-throughs. Also, I've observed that I am less sentimental about things as I get older.
The vacation rental experience is such a good way for people to see what it’s like to live with less! My journey started when we were staging our home for sale and we packed up so much of our stuff down to bare bones to make our 1000 sq ft home seem bigger and put it in storage. We lived like that for 3 months and when we got to our new house we had about 30% of the storage so that made it so much easier on us to downsize. We love it and have continued to routinely declutter. I loved this. It’s so generous of Sherry to share this vulnerable side with us. So many great points - just do 20 min. At least it’s something. Oh and that the pain of making a mistake and regretting one of the items you declutterred is not worth the pain of NOT decluttering at all.
I love that!!
Another decluttering youtube channel utilizes small wins, like the top of a dresser, skincare and makeup because the expired and broken get tossed easily, small and not sentimental, etc. Doing those short tasks will get you on the roll to do the harder stuff
I am so amazed by Sherry and the shift in her mindset that she has now compared to what she seemed to have in your first declutter video. Her insights are spot on. I loved when she said that she would rather make mistakes along the way than not go through the process at all. Keep up the fantastic work! ❤
I need a podcast with sherry. Or an audiobook. I LOVE her voice!!!!Besides the personality, of cause 🙂
She would be a great audiobook narrator!!
Yaaas‼️‼️‼️
Gentle & compassionate!
@@TheCarlaProject And I think you'd make an excellent mentor for young women. A counselor for women of all ages! I just adore you & look up to you.( Even though I'm a bit older lol)
Little.do you.know Carla, but I said a prayer to Father God the day before I found your channel, you have no idea how.much you.mean to me. I often pray for you too 🤗
You two wise women should have started a podcast. So interesting to listen to you!
yes!!
I found Carla about 2 weeks ago and was inspired to start my declutter journey again. Over Presidents Day long weekend, I got rid of 2 large black bags and 2 regular trash bags full of clothes and almost half of my shoes. I downsized 5 years ago from 1600SF to 805SF & I did get rid of a lot of furniture & decor then, but didn’t keep going with declutterring. Thanks Carla for showing me how to get started again😊😊
That is wonderful, Susie. I need to get back to decluttering.
yayy susie!! love to hear this!!😍🥳
I just love you and your sister and the amazing relationship you have. It is clear that you are both gentle, kind and loving souls. Sherry has been so brave in her journey and I am so proud of her and how much she has learned through the process. Thank you for sharing the journey with us!
Yes! So brave to share her home and life!!💖
PLEASE, PLEASE tell your sister that WE ALL LOVE HER ( and you too)!!!! Today, I hawled off 35 items from my house. That doesn't seem like very much but that's that much stuff I DON'T have to look out or worry about. Tell your sister to keep on decluttering and making good videos. We love to watch her and YOU!!!! Your sister is a JOY with such a KIND HEARTED SPIRIT!!!😊
"Where will all this stuff go when I go?" At 72 I look at my possessions as a burden and not a gift to my children. I have asked if they want something, i.e. furniture, clothing items, Kitchen items and if they say "No, not really" then that brings me to the harsh reality that it will probably go to Goodwill, so why bother holding on to it. I gave away my mother's silver set to the daughter of a friend who wanted it. I will also be getting rid of the dining set that I don't really like and my kids don't want. Instead, I plan to have something for my later years that I truly enjoy.
This is such a great interview. Your sister has shown such growth and has such great insights into how her mindset has changed. I love watching you two together. You obviously have a fun, loving, and respectful relationship and it just makes me smile! 😊
Glad you enjoyed it!☺️
Personally I feel like clutter comes with home ownership. Because when you rent you tend to move. When you move you throw things away because you don’t want to pack it up. Once you are in a home you just keep collecting stuff
There is definitely truth to this!
One of the things that goes away, I found, when you adopt a more minimalist mindset about "stuff" is the scarcity mindset. When you figure out how little you actually need, it is very liberating.
Yes!
Yes!!! So lovely to see Sherry again, and yes to all the gems she dropped about clutter, hoarding and the importance of centering and reordering your life by being self aware, emotionally intelligent, holding yourself accountable and setting boundaries
I totally agree that when you declutter it lowers your stress level . I started with my closet because I was tired of standing and thinking what am I going to wear. Now I don’t have to think because I only hav a few outfits to choose from. Finally got my husband to clean his closet out. He had shirts that were 30 years old. He loves his closet now. In fact he stated that he needs to go through it again. Love your channel. Your positive attitude and your beautiful smile are contagious. Your sister is precious. You both have a calming voice
I wish you would talk more about going through the family home. My father is 89 and a self declared pack rat. On top of that, he has an irrational fear of someone breaking in and stealing stuff, so he hides things... and at his age forgets where he put them. So where I would just toss the 200 coffee cans he has saved because they are "useful", I can't until we have checked every single one to make sure its empty. He refuses to work with me now to declutter and tells me I can do it when he's dead, except he lives 600 miles away and I will have to spend a month away from my home in order to deal with his house. Oh, and when my mom passed 15 years ago he refused to go through her stuff. Every single thing of hers is still in that house... every personal care product, every clothing item, EVERYTHING. So sorting through their house will bring back all the pain of her death at the time I'm trying to cope with my father's death... and all while I have to spend weeks from home away from my own family and pets. I'll take any tips you've got for dealing with parents' possessions! My dad has prostrate cancer, bone lesions, COPD, thyroid issues, etc so its just a matter of time before I have to contend with this challenge. Carla, how old were you when you helped deal with your parents home? And I have 12 years between me and my only sibling and we too have discussed how we feel like we had totally different parents growing up because they had changed so much by the time I was born.
It’s really hard. I’ll make sure to discuss more of this in my Q&A, which I’m filming this week.💖
@@TheCarlaProject Thanks girl! I've been loving the series with Sherry! You can tell how much more comfortable you are with helping her declutter than the other Declutter with Friends vids. You give her that look that says it all! LOL But seriously, like you said in this video you can hear it in her voice, and that just comes from knowing someone that well. My house stays tidy and I have no problem purging most things like clothes or kitchen items. I have 2 areas that are my kryptonite... craft supplies and school work/art/writing that my (almost 23 yo) son ever did, as well as all the accolades he got in school. I am blessed to have lots of closets, and 1 whole closet is dedicated to all his school work (yeah, I kinda saved EVERYTHING). My parents never saved anything of mine from childhood so I've overcompensated by saving school stuff, favorite toys, and some clothing of his. Hoping a future episode involves a crazy, sentimental mother. 😅 Can't wait for the next Q&A!!!
@@maddscientist3170 Oh that's awful!!! I am thankful that get along well with my brother and sister in law, and know they will do what they can when the time comes. I'm 53 and it seems like an overwhelming task, so I can imagine the stress it would be on you at 75. Aside from cash hidden in the house, I am confident there is nothing of significant monetary value in my parent's house, so I'm not sure I could get an estate sale company to even take the job. I wish you luck getting this resolved, and I'll say a prayer for the granddaughter. My heart goes out to your family! Hugs!
Love your channel ❤
It’s not fair to expect our children to clean out our stuff. That’s a burden when they have their own lives to manage.
❤ I can’t believe that 45mins went by so fast. Y’all are fabulous. We called our parents Mommy and Daddy too. ❤️ So lovely to hear you reminiscing and future focused in the same conversation.
I agree with your sister's sentiment of having faith that what you need will be provided...I had faith that people would only take what they needed during the pandemic so as not to take away from the needs of others. And indeed, we had enough to get by just fine without hoarding anything. Both my parents passed before the pandemic, but as they aged, they also became hoarders, with all kinds of expired food stored in the garage along with boxes and boxes of stuff they hadn't unpacked from when they moved to their home 15 years earlier. One of the reasons I adopted a more minimalist mindset was having to clean out my parents' home after they passed. I didn't wish that task on anyone, so decided to take care of my own stuff.
I had a similar situation when my parents passed. I swore I wouldn't put on them the task of cleaning out a ton of stuff.
It's lovely to see the genuine love you have for each other. Love when you both laugh
Carla,You and Sherry are so relatable and honest over the decluttering process! Listening to your conversation made me feel like I was sitting on the bed with you both as friends!! Love this channel, love the content and love this series with Sherry! Thank you both for the inspiration…and laughs!♥️♥️
Thank you so much!💖
More of Sherry she is such a sweetheart.
😂 as a girly who has multiple tools, I understand this problem of not being able to find a philips or a hammer when it’s needed. I have upgraded alot of my tools the last few years and have sent the extras to habitat to help others with their tool access.
"Do you see yourself helping others?
Sherry already is, my goodness she sounds like a counselor!
And so does Carla especially when shes doing a voice over to Declutter With Friends.
They are very special Women 🩷💗
I admire them both!
What a treat to listen to two intelligent, well spoken women. As a “shopper” I needed to hear this conversation. Thank you.
I found myself at my favorite thrift store every month during the first day of my period. I would be there for 2 or 3 hours with cramps and terrible leg pain. I finally realized that it was some weird chemical/hormonal thing in my brain driving me to impulsively and compulsively thrift shop on the worst day of the month. I later learned about Dopamine and understanding that I have ADD and a dopamine hit is what I am always after.
I think knowing where things are really helps in decluttering. If you can’t find something, you might buy another one…
So being organized really does make a lot of sense.
I really love your sister, Sherry.
Thank you, Sherry.
Thank you, Carla.
A few things that really helped me to stop over shopping for clothing was adding how much I spent one year. I had to do it for tax purposes and I had spent $10,000 in one year. I was horrified and I could have gone to Europe with my friends. I started to learn to get that dopamine rush by decluttering my closet instead of getting it by filling up my closet. I just switched what would give me the rush I craved hehe!! I’m in my 50s now so also what I liked wearing has changed a lot from when I was in my 40s and so that also helps me to both declutter long loved items and also helps me to curate what I buy. And also the main thing is I like to wear things that make me look slimmer 😂, so I tend to wear simple classic looks and black at the bottom 😂 and simple colors or designs at the top hehe!!
What a special treat to view 45 minutes of you both being open and vulnerable. My confession: I bought so much toilet paper during the pandemic that I still haven’t needed to buy any! 😌💕
It has been fun watching Sister declutter her home. Thanks for sharing this journey! My dad was career military and he always said a home should be like a ship, a place for everything and everything in its place.
It's my grown children that want stuff but don't want it in their home! I gave them deadlines and said take it now or it's gone! They didn't believe me so I put those things in yard sales and made $$$ Now we are organizing what is left and it's refreshing being able to find stuff in it's place
GOOD FOR YOU!🙌🏻
My sister is 14 years older than me and I’ve been helping her declutter. We’ve been able to do really well together.
I'm not a big online shopper, but when I get the urge, I request stuff from the library. Same rush (for me anyway) and 0 guilt, even if I don't read/watch/listen. Also helpful: my city doesn't have late fees!
You're doing a great job, Sherry!
I definitely think clutter and hoarding is hereditary in some form. Or maybe it's learned. I'm still struggling with paper. I was raised to keep documents. It's taking so much time and energy to go through it all, and it has been very overwhelming.
This was my question too. Hereditary or learned? I really am more of a minimalist. My mom was a hoarder (after I moved out), but no one is taking my owners manuals. 😉
I think it’s a little of both!
To see this rapport between sisters is so heartwarming. And Sherry seems to possess such a genuine aura. Her honesty and self-awareness and your understanding and patience will inspire and motivate many. Thanks for sharing her declutter journey. Well done, Carla 🤗🎉
Sherry, please know I am rooting for you!😊
Hi Sherry,
Something that is really helped me is keeping a cardboard box for donations in one or two spots in the house so that if I do come across something that I’m not using, I can immediately put it in the donation box. Those items can add up quickly, even outside of a decluttering session.
The only way I keep things in order in my home is my motto is everything has an address, so I put it back where it belongs. I still need to declutter my clothes that are too small.
Love this series - my sister and I are 14 years apart and I just love your relationship and your chats - keep going😊
Thank you so much!!
My mom wasn't a horder but having been raised in the depression she couldn't let go of anything. Thankfully she wasn't much for shopping so she didn't accumulate stuff alot of advertised stuff she didn't need. However, she had impressive collections of ball point pens, plastic containers from every tub of butter or Coolwhip and every paper bag she'd ever got cuz she never knew when she might need one.
Oh yes! Saving those plastic food containers!!
Sherry, you should think about doing a pantry challenge to use up all the excess food. Only shop for what’s truly necessary & eat the stock pile. Also the vitamins you could do a similar thing & don’t buy any new until you totally run out. I could totally watch y’all everyday😊❤😊
Great idea🎉
Great idea!!
Carla, you are an inspiration! Hearing the grace and love you share for each other in this conversation has reminded me to extend the same to my grandmother. In fact, I’m spending a week with her to sort through things as she prepares for an estate sale. This is the first of many weeks I expect to spent. A typical estate sale is 2 days, and the estate sale business says hers will be at least 4 days. That gives you an idea of the sheer volume of stuff. My grandpa was a hoarder, and my grandma is a collector of all crafty things and yet their entire life they’ve consuming the stuff and sadly, never spent their time enjoying their hobbies, just managing the stuff. The next challenge is that her tendency is to try and offload the emotional value of an item onto another family member because she can’t fathom selling something that might have sentimental value. Eek!
That is such a huge undertaking! I hope you guys have a successful and ease filled estate sale!💖
I helped my neighbor clean out his hoarded home. He believed everything he owned was top of the line, of great value, and had to go to a good home. He hated to throw things away or donate them. He offloaded a good portion to supposedly grateful recipients. I had to spend a great deal of time in every sorting session trying to persuade him that in donating an item, it would, in fact, end up blessing the buyer. Hoarders can't seem to be able to see that stuff is just stuff. They can't see that it was a waste of money, that it has depreciated, that it is broken or missing parts and useless, or that it is dated and out of fashion. Material possessions are beyond sentimental to them. They are almost like pets or children and they seem to feel guilt and shame in releasing them to anything less than a good home with a recipient who knows how fortunate they are to receive it. Just a side note about hoarding. It's great progress that Sherry is recognizing the wasted money and realizing she values other intangible things above stuff. I'm working thru similar things.
@Scoobich I feel your pain! In your case, it would actually be easier to sell off everything after they have both passed. In terms of her passing things on to family... if it gets stuff out of the house, I say let her pass it on, but talk to those family members and give them permission to donate the stuff and not be burdened themselves. I think we can all benefit from your story and use it as a reminder to actually use the things we have collected for a hobby, or pass them on to someone who *will* use them!
Loved this calm discussion about Sherry's clutter journey and all the insights she's gained. And your sister bond is so beautiful to witness. I especially loved when Sherry said No! to giving you control to change her home. 😂 And all the memories about your parents' home. I had the same parents in immigrant form. Thank you for letting us into your home, Sherry! And thank you, Carla, for doing this series.
I am so impressed by the both of you!
Heartwarming, realistic, full of humour, sincere, caring....
I could go on and on. ❤❤❤
Ditto here.
I recommend reading 'The Artist's Way' by Julia Cameron to help Sherry's creativity. It includes writing every morning and I think Sherry would like that. Also, art journaling is something I really enjoy. Love this Q&A!
I love that book! Morning pages are awesome!
Sherry you are an inspiration. So many in your position are in complete denial about how they are hurting themselves. You absolutely will succeed in your goals!
Let's see where she's at right now. Sherry has made phenomonal progress !!! It helps having a great sister like you.
Love Sherry’s comment “ What you need will be provided “ that’s such a true statement.. When we place our trust on the Lord all our needs will be provided for.. Might not look like what we expected but it will be what we need.. 😊😊
Wow, that was so deep and insightful. I think loads of people will take at least one insight away from that. If Sherry hadn't said what she did for a living I would have thought she was a counsellor because the understanding she has gained of herself is incredible and the way she articulates it is brilliant. I'm taking away that it is ok to make mistakes when decluttering, and if you let something go you wish you hadn't it is just part of the process. Love you two working together, both such lovely and fun people. My favourite bit was the conspiracy theory, your laughing together had me laughing too. xx
Yep, them darn rabbit holes.
Carla and Sherry I just love your relationship.🥰 It just makes me wish again that I had a sister or even a brother. It can be lonely being an only child but I’m very used to it at this age. Decluttering can be a difficult journey but it is that much more difficult when you have family members that don’t agree on decisions. My husband and grown son are not as near on board as I’d like. If it was up to me 90% of our belongings would be gone.😂😂😂
Maybe men feel different about stuff. They ask about buying new things like is it necessary, but once the items are there, they don't look at it and see them.😮
So Proud of you, Sherry, and all you have accomplished thus far with beginning your journey of decluttering. Everything you both shared in this Q & A is so relatable.
Your sister is so calm, cute and understanding!! And you really patiently wait for other person's decision of decluttering any item and respect their decision.
Sherry makes a good point about being sentimental about stuff. The past year, since I've retired, I've rehomed anything of value, sending items to family or friends that would appreciate them. I enjoy the sentimental items I have left and have a written plan of where they go should I pass.
What inspired me was having the experience of having to clear out my parents home after they passed, then my aunt’s home and then my brother’s home. That was so much work all those times. I decided not to do that to my sons. So I downsized and donated, trashed and gave away. I think of it as a gift to my sons and DILs. They could clear out my place one Saturday morning and would be done with it.
This was a fantastic ep Carla. You and Sherry have shown the real deal that everyone faces in decluttering a home. I can relate to everything Sherry said about why we gather things in the first place. She is very brave and you are an excellent facilitator/coach in the process. Sherry, I have no doubt you will continue on your journey and more than make up for the financial losses of the past. Carla, I can see why this is your life’s passion to help others declutter and stop the roundabout of pain that comes with clutter ❤❤❤
After going through my Moms, Dads, then Mother in laws things, I have really tried to get rid off things. I told my daughter I was going to get rid of a childhood doll. She asked me, “Why now?” I told her, it’s been sitting in a box, she or her brother would not want it. Why leave it for her to worry about when I pass?
In your defense ,the prepper channels don't talk about how time consuming is to keep an inventory and rotate all the food and and othe items, I used to have 2 yrs worth of food for 2 people and took 1 entire day to make sure the new things were in the back and make sure to cook with the older stuff etc... Now I am not in good health and I don't have the energy for it! You two inspire me so much, thanks for open your heart and home to all of us!
Great point!
Love you two. I agree about after 1st declutter. Now I am going around & have no problem deciding the things “I had to keep”. I always feel better after. I take photos of before & then after. Makes me feel good. Keep at it Ladies👏👏💐💐
I have been decluttering my home too. I think about all the money I wasted on stuff I never used or wore. I could have use that money for something else. Now that I stop shopping I have saved a lot of money.
You have such a good relationship with each other. Your amazing to help out your sister. I like the green and gold curtains. They are beautiful.
You gave me a great idea. Now when I'm shopping I'm going to ask myself these items or $ for something like a trip. If I say trip I will put 50% of what I would have spent in a trip fund.
That's a great idea!
I must say , she had some great answers to the questions. That really shows , that she is committed and understands the benefits of decluttering and cons of shopping .
Sherry and Carla - I have been so inspired by you both - thank you for keeping it real. In other spaces I have watched the neat perfection of one day of cleaning - it first excites me but then exhausts me - your step by step focus is very helpful. What this 61 year old is thinking now is focus on what brings you the greatest joy - my garden and some creative work like sewing - clear the rest away.....a version of Swedish death cleaning goes through my head: would anyone else be interested in this thing....probably not is the usual answer! Katherine from Boston
Still watching the video but thinking about what Sherry said about how perhaps she boots up her computer at 7 am as a way to *not* go for a walk, lol. I think that's something Carla doesn't have to worry about because she has Samson, who needs to be walked on a regular basis. Maybe developing a stronger "why" in favour of walking would help Sherry.
Thank you Sherry, for letting us all follow your journey. It is down to earth, relatable, and at a speed that is probably the most realistic for a lot of people. And also you two are so wonderful and funny together.
This feels like a podcast, please make more episodes-really inspiring and made me think :)
I went overboard too.i had a years worth of toilet paper and lysol and wipes.and yup some food has expired. And lysol. Panic overwhelmed me I guess.
Most 'expired' food is still safe and good to eat. Maybe you can use it up.
I know for me, going through menopause caused my previously managed ADHD to surge to the. unmanageable point, making managing the clutter harder and more impulse buying adding to the mix, for the dopamine rush.Co-morbidities of anxiety and depression. Coming from the scarcity mindset. So many factors contribute.
Yes all of those factors blended together can create a tipping point for sure!!
Sherry, perhaps you could write about your experiences with decluttering!
She would write a great book!!
I could listen to Sherry all day. That sweet woman has words of wisdom !
I love the decluttering series with your sister. I hope to see more.
Hi from Okinawa Japan 🇯🇵. I absolutely love this channel! The thought processes, the actual declutters, and the aha moments keep me glued to my screen. I can’t wait for your next episode! Also, I love the variety of guests and different declutters. Hope you get to 100 k soon 🎉
My grandmother grew up during the depression. In her upbringing, everything had a purpose, whether to recycle or use. She could not dispose of anything..my mother followed in her footsteps..I know some of my mothers shopping was due to depression and after she passed, I honestly was astounded at the stuff with price tags stacked everywhere, and unfortunately I kept most of her stuff 😢. Honestly, I have now found myself doing the exact same thing. Everything can be used or recycled & my depression shopping from my hubby's passing last year has been out of control. I now I have shut myself off from shopping & trying to take 1 room at a time to declutter. It's overwhelming 😢
I don't think clutter is inherited in that sense. But it can be a sign of generational trauma. Not having enough. That is the case in my husband's family. His grandmother was a refugee, then they lived in the eastern block, where it was hard to get certain things and my husband still is completly panicy when we go low on something. Even if you can pick it up at the sore next door. It is hard.
It’s definitely a thing. It’s store in the genes
@@mindsjanneYes. And you get comditioned as well, of course. Also by things you watch and read.
Carla and Sherry, thank you so very much. This video was inspiring and thoughtful. It felt safe and vulnerable. Sherry demeanor showed change is difficult but not impossible. I love the laugh and authenticity of you both. Thank you. 🙏🏽❤️💯🔥
Watching your sister's decluttering process has been so eye-opening for me. I realized that many of the things I had desired to own were actually clutter. That was a liberating experience to know that enough is what's best.
I absolutely love your sister, she's honest, and very willing to share. What a joy
Sometimes society can affect our habits. Maybe costco came along and new habits were formed? An example is people's changed behavior after covid, or after they've experienced a natural disaster.
I think Costco shopping became the new thing to do once they retired because they needed something to do. But even before that, there were definitely hoarding tendencies.
@@TheCarlaProject my retired fam took up thrift shopping with the goal of fixing things. SPOILER: fail lol
So true, fear can change our habits.
You are amazing. Watching you and your sister is great!
Thank you so much!
Sherry, you need to set up a fund for your _roof repair_ and _kitchen remodel._
I don’t know how to do that, …can you set up an extra bank account for those repairs??
Start putting money in there on a regular basis.
You deserve it! You have worked so hard, you really do deserve it!
It would help with future decluttering as well.
Maybe you might think “should I buy this or should I take this $20 and put it in the fund?”
Something like that.
I have a pile of clothes sitting out. On your first big clothes Declutter day, I also decluttered my clothes. And I had them all out ready for the trash. But I took half of them back into the house. I haven’t put them in my drawers, I promised myself that I will look at them one more time. But what I should really do is put them outside again and on the clothes trash day is put them out for good.
Basically, I can’t wear those clothes, so why do I keep them….??
Enjoyed the chat 😊. As an older person myself one of the red flags I noticed was after "fun" shopping when returning home & not opening the items because we actually didn't "need" any of it. I have always been the organizing type even as a kid I would organize my dad's tools or anything like Carla. My mom's sewing room ect. Still there's always more to learn, more to get rid of, & different systems to try. Hope both of your health goals are achieved this coming year :). Thanks for sharing 💕
My red flag was coming home from the thrift shop or yard sale with an item (REALLY CUTE)🤭in my hand and walking around from room to room and not seeing a place that I wanted to or had room to put it!😬 Hmmm……
Lol I know so many peoples whose homes are just pathways. Single people living alone w/ 3 bedroom houses 👀
What a sweet and insightful conversation. Sherry got the best of both worlds with a decluttering and bonding experience!
Beautiful Beautiful conversation...watching w/out watching / just listening sounds like a professional podcast❤
Your sister is so articulate in her identification of the issues of clutter, benefits of change and outcome of self improvement. Absolute honesty. Thank you both.
Couldn’t have clicked on this quicker! Absolutely love you both!
I love that you two are matching. I love the curtains. Watching you two has definitely helped me step up my decluttering. My mom is a hoarder and I know how emotional it's going to be trying to clear out her home, esp. With my brother still living there.
I was an only child. I absolutely love the relationship you both have. ~Blessings 💜🙏
Hi Carla! I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this Q&A! And I love your Sister! She is adorable!!! ❤❤❤
Sherry, I love how soft spoken and calm you are. That's something I struggle with and I hope to become more like you in that regard.
Sherry has a great sense of humor.
These videos with your sister are so interesting and fun. Your sister is soft spoken and kind . You have a beautiful relationship. The sound in your sister's bedroom is good and we hear her really well. It maybe because of the fabrics around; her closet's drapes, the bedspread. Her colors and decor is beautiful. I started decluttering too, I am like your sister. I started eating the food stores I had from COVID preparedness, I wasted a bit but I will not waste a lot because I am using it now. I am saving on groceries!
You inspired me to de clutter my life and I also want to help my sister! Thank you 🙏
Carla, start a podcast with your sister (Sherry), you both are very aware of what is needed to break through in declutterring. The reason I’m saying this is because I can see so many areas emotionally to be explored. I think your personal experiences could be helpful. I just want to hear more from both of you interacting back and forth on whatever TOPIC. You two have just scratched the surface. Do it. I’ll be listening.😄
You two are amazing together! Love watching you work.
I respect your sister’s honesty and openness.
I really enjoyed hearing you both reminisce about you parents. Thank you for letting us in. I’ve been watching you channel for so long, it’s so comforting when you post again. Sending lots of love to you and your family. It’s amazing what a video from you can do for a woman of which whom has had a LONG day. And it’s only 5:30pm 😂
In many cases the input is not the problem, but not having any training or mechanisms in place for the output is. So over the years if nothing is gotten rid of, well now you have a hoarded home. I've heard that the dopamine level is highest when you first see the item, so by the time you go to pay, the levels are way lower. Hopefully Sherry is seeing financial benefits of not buying so much now. Thanks for sharing!
I don’t purposely do any Amazon shopping (thrifter only) but when an ad comes up for a helpful gadget or bra, (my life’s quest)😖 I will pin it or put it in my cart. For all of the years that internet shopping has been around,I can count on one hand, the number of things that I have actually purchased. However,the act of pinning or putting it in my cart was strangely comforting,like it’s there if I ever change my mind so I’m good.🤭