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Reminds me of the currently popular "Men only think about one thing" memes (where in the picture below you can instantly read what men actually think about: "I'm not good enough", "I need to do better", "Others rely on me", etc.)
This is so helpful to hear. It took me 11 years to understand this in my husband! I’ve learned as a young wife to be as warm as I can towards him and intentionally make food that will fill up his soul. Home has to be a haven and it’s up to the wife to be the thermostat, her attitude makes a huge difference. A husband and wife can enjoy so much peace if they can enjoy the simple things together - but they have to choose contentment or it will dissolve into bitterness.
@@superior-fk1zf men are trying to express there emotion but still have to be tone police by the women... the irony (men can express pain but have to becareful and express the right way so as not to harm women)
Ive never nagged or have never said I was dissatisfied with what I've had or didnt have. Ive made dinner, lunch and breakfast everyday for 45 yrs. Kept the house and balanced the budget. And have always been grateful. A real man doesnt quit his family and I wont quit him. Do we argue? Oh yea, but I always let him know I'm not going anywhere. Its just how it is. Men need to know this and deserve a good meal and to know you got their back.
Well said Wendy. I'm in a toxic marriage and have been for 29 years. A wife is what her husband depends on to be there. A man will move the world for you if you love him and support him. Glad to hear you understand that.
I listened to this first thing this morning, and I had to cut it off halfway through and pray for my man and thank God for him. I'm just coming back to finish, but I thank you so much for reminding me of how much we have to be grateful for and to work towards. God bless and keep you both!
My wife just left yesterday - this couldn't be more on point. Farming has been tough for the last 6 yeare, even by farming standards. The solution everyone told me was to talk about my feelings more like a women. Which did nothing about the environment causing the issues
This is so true that I’ve been happier being a single dad not dating for 5 years than any point that I was in a relationship with their mom. It’s tough, but a hell of a lot less stressful. Thanks for my sons, we’ll see ya on the other side ladies lol
F gratitude, I just want credit. Acknowledgment of a man goes miles. We all have the one time we were noticed or recognized out of the blue by a random woman. The memory lasts forever.
Sometimes men are expected to carry the weight of the world on their shoulders, and yet are discarded by society if they buckle or break under the pressure.
This is a great interview. Women want men to bear all their feelings, not to understand men but rather to examine, disect and tell men why they are wrong. They aim to tell men how to fix themselves. To many women, the male experience is a “debateable” issue.
It's not even gratitude, really - it's the reckoning. This is why (i believe) society has become so antisocial: there is so little recognition of work, courtesy, effort that most people have simply given up. What's the point?
Many women don't want to understand, they don't really care. Any woman who says she wants an emotionally available man, wants a man who will deal with her emotions, she doesn't want to deal with his. Open up emotionally to your woman and chances are she will loose attraction
Copy that. Dated someone just like this. Her perpetual excuse was "I've been in therapy 20 years and I had a long horrible marriage " so it was a constant checklist of HER issues she wanted to "fix" but trying to fit her image of what her ideal man was vs her ex husband. Any time I even gently pushed back on the fact that I'm someone else and I'm not going to be a paint by number human was met with drama. Beautiful successful woman but I got out of that situation.
This is 100% true. We have the same situation in Russia. This is what it is, and nothing will change. Mother Nature gives 0 f*ck about the struggles of men
The stuff that I carry with me from the past and present... would make most people (women and men alike) curve into a fetal position and cry all day. The moment it occured to me was the moment I realized that I'm not the weakling I always thought I was. That I can move mountains with the strength I've gained from my darkest days. That's how a man can use his burden to his advantage in life, not by simply talking it out.
If a man got that even from an average woman she'll have his loyalty for life...simple as that. Why do women not ever understand this? It's basic stuff.
I think the reason we don’t share our burdens is because we know that no one else has experienced the exact same situation. We know that other people aren’t perfect either, so it wouldn’t make a difference in our pain.
@@DetachedK your point is flawed because women don't really have to struggle when they have a provider, the problem is men don't understand how to provide women emotionally, thats when women is not satisfied, it's not all about finance. Is the time you spent with your loves one too. While women don't understand the struggle of his job, her intentions are always wanting to spend a good time with him hence mnay marriages failed when it's only one sided. I grew up in such family I understand, married couples argue when both don't understand each other parts
We humans actually didn't suffer any pain. For any pain relief learn to serve to God. Everything thing u do. Learn to serve it to God. This is proven u can rely on it.
He's speaking to a very niche situation. I've never been in a couple like the one he's describing, where the wife gets to work only in the home, no job ever, and then doesn't show appreciation for what the man is going through providing for the household. That's not a normal enough thing to be worth making a video about.
He makes a good point, and this is probably what a therapist would tell a dude. To be fair, therapy isn't just talking about things, it's about finding practical solutions to life problems. Although a lot of guys might be able to find those solutions on their own, talking to a professional can really speed up the process...like if I want to learn guitar I can try to learn it by myself, or I can hire a guitar teacher and learn how to play it much better and faster.
If the only person you can REALLY talk to is a therapist, that says a lot in and of itself. But I guess a mans gotta do what a womans gotta do(2024 version of man)😂
I am a 71 year old woman and have been blessed with wonderful men in my life!!! My Grandfathers, my Father, my Uncles, my brothers were a pain (lol), my Husband my Son and his pals, all wonderful!!! It is heartbreaking to see sooo many women who want desperately to be "understood" yet are incapable of understanding almost to the point of being vapid!!!! I wonder if it has anything to do with them growing up with such emphasis on their appearance, could be wrong! One thing that is extremely troubling to me if all this BS about the right to be responsible for their own body aka abortion rights! If they were responsible, they would not get pregnant in the first place, practice responsibility before the fact! Plus, the man should have 50% of the say because she sure did not get pregnant alone! The man owns 50% of that treasure! Where is the man's rights? And where are my rights in being pro life and wanting NONE of my tax dollars going to murder? Sorry for the rant...😊 but there it is!!! Grow up, ladies!!! You want to be understood then PRACTICE UNDERSTANDING! You want full responsibility for your body then BE RESPONSIBLE!!!
I'm a therapist who works with men and I have to say I disagree Dewayne on this one (and I really empathize for the pain he carries. I can just see it in his eyes). He describes his hear fear of "removing his finger from the dike the whole dam will break," but in my experience it's an enormous relief for men to let some emotions out and they are quite surprised to find out those emotions were perfectly safe the whole time, there is no dam to break, and other people are capable of "being with" them in it without anyone being reduced in any way. If it's sharable it's bearable, as we say. Anyway, Dewayne, if you're reading this, you are not alone, and those emotions are not there to torture you. They just want to communicate something and be heard. It doesn't need to be therapist to hear them, but someone should.
As a man taught his whole life the therapeutic paradigm you are speaking of, it didn't work and only long experience has taught me better ways of dealing with life's pressures. As you are a (presumably female) therapist who "works with men" I'd say there is some selectivity bias there and also you have a long-standing commitment to your approach.
Deewayne presenting on the "mainstream" channels is what America needs right now. Sure there are nuances to every man, every situation, but the fundamentals are the same, if you are Masculine based. Nature instilled these masculine traits within us men, for a F-ing reason and these cannot be removed, denied or misinterpreted. It is however, our job as men, to be aware of, to understand and to nurture these traits. Men aren't broken in this society, Society is Broken. Doing the inner work, with the help of the awareness of a balanced feminine in every male is needed, then society gets fixed. Our roles as MEN have been degraded, denied, devalued and all but disappeared. Deewayne is trying to swing the pendulum back to where Men acknowledge their OWN Ego's, their fears, their FLAWS, their expectations, their vulnerabilities, their strengths and their power. Many will not resonate with the wisdom that Deewayne is trying to convey here because those men haven't done the inner work (forgiveness, awareness, understanding, gratitude etc). Chris, your audience will gain so much from this interview if they DO THE INNER WORK. Imagine Deewayne as an Avatar in a video game. You walk into a room and there is a Wizard guiding you forward. This is Deewayne.
"to where Men acknowledge their OWN Ego's, their fears, their FLAWS, their expectations, their vulnerabilities, their strengths and their power" excellent, perfect, yes -- i think more than a lot of men realize though this is going to be recognizing the ingrained power structures and types of prejudice women are adversely affected by, though, and that part of the results of this inner work will be learning how to avoid contributing to it
I think the reason I'm ten years into a happy marriage is because I don't expect him to be like one of my girlfriends. He has a different life expertise and we work well because we each respect each other's specialties.
I think everyone feels this way. Women are dismissed and belittled routinely. I think people just don’t treat each other very well, regardless of race and gender.
I believe that a 100% Moreover, I believe therapy is a cop-out in nearly every way. Here’s an old fashioned thought - KNOW THY SELF. Communication solves a mountain of issues.
If you recommend therapy or any of the social methods women use, that already shows the misunderstanding women have of men, and we explain already soooo many times. 😔😔
@@somaticspirituality Women make up I think today 80% of therappist, not including race, religion and more. To go to a good therapists and actually have a productive session, going to any therapist is not the way, I'm not against it but the one we have in USA is not staffed to help men just from the 80% women alone, men work well with male therapist, and thats just the surface selection. If we have 999,999 Dr. Jordan than we will go.
Great advice, true words, only going to work with a "unicorn" though. Unfortunately we live in an age where it is trendy to play the victim card. Speak these words to the average gal and you are heading into a new world of trouble.
Maybe in urban areas.... Plenty of us country gals would agree with Dry Creek Wayne. We're out her! And we RESPECT our husbands - my husband and I have never had 1 fight.... we've had what I call "negotiations"....lol.... I always want his input before making a decision - because TOGETHER we come up with the BEST solutions. It's called MUTUAL RESPECT. ❤ Disrespect can definitely come from either side - and I do understand a MAN'S challenges these days - too many women wanting to dominate....or play the victim....👎🏻.... rather than LOVE & Support. SAD. In these cases, BOTH LOSE.
@@kimwolf3935 Your husband is a very lucky man. You are right I live in a big city I would get obliterated for voicing these kinds of opinions here. Perhaps its time for me to move. I appreciate your perspective, thank you.
When men share their problems, they often feel more frustrated, driven by a desire to find quick solutions. On the flip side, women usually feel a wave of relief after talking about their challenges, as it fosters emotional connection and support
I Love Dewayne He Is So Brilliant However Men And Women Are Both Stressed. I Think Men And Women Get Into Relationships For Many Reasons And Sometimes Those Reasons Are To Be Abusive, Neglectful, Oppressive. Misery LOVES Company. CHOOSE WISELY Ladies And Gentlemen 🌟
Great example story by Dewayne. If a man wars against the world he must have peace at home with his loving wife. The correct currency exchange between men and women is, men give strength and women give love. Strength is found in a man's life direction and the counterbalance to his strength is the love of woman. Women can't be loving in the absence of strength and men can't be strong without a woman's love. This relational mixture is romance.
I commented on the shorts version basically saying what he said after that clip haha. We need to teach boys and women that men are not women and we don’t need the same things women do. Men and boys are taught that women need to talk through their issues and sort out their emotions, so we just need to listen instead of trying to fix her problems. Most men can accept that and we do our best to provide that for them even though we don’t understand it. But women/girls are very rarely taught that what a man needs in similar situations is usually peaceful silence and space, not a therapy session.
Absolutely true. I never knew men dealt with these type of things by going slient. It doesn't mean they don't love you, they need space to work it out in their head first.
I liked the “Men are treated like defective women ...” part, but I can't get on board with "never be vulnerable with your partner". What he's describing (clear, straight-forward communication) actually is vulnerability, but he doesn't seem to connect the two, which is strange to me.
There is property, cars maintenance, and life depending things to keep going, men do the dangerous heavy work that has to be done, but it comes down to how you seem and look
Been married 36yrs to a man in law enforcement. We had 6 children that I homeschooled. I feel a piece of connective tissue was needed for me to see interviewee’s view of things. Yes, a husband(man) 100% has needs. As does his wife. Bear with me, I know this is about the man but he is not functioning in a marriage as an individual. As married ppl, men and women, they are attempting to function in the world as a unit. As a couple. And as a couple they pool their finite budget of mental/emotional/physical currency. But it’s shared and it’s still finite. If he needs peace when he gets home, the provision of that may create a deficit for the wife, unless *they* make arrangements for his need. “His” need is actually “their” need, and her need is also “their” need. They’re a unit.
I would argue that Dewayne IS describing vulnerability. He's saying to advocate for your needs in a relationship, which is inherently vulnerable because there's always a chance that your partner will not be able to provide what you are asking for. I think that real vulnerability is putting yourself out there and going after what you want in life because there is no guarantee of success. Why do you think we say that daring men have balls? Your balls are the most vulnerable part of your body. We've been conditioned by modern therapy culture to believe that vulnerability is the endless retelling of your past without making any changes.
The most dangerous man in the room never ever ever the not loudest man in the room the loudest man in the room so insecure man in the room ___ Dry creek Dewayne 👑
Do you think a big part of the problem in relationships is that women expect their man to ALSO be their best friend, exactly like their best girlfriend, as well as their husband etc and this is a role most men are completely un-equiped to deal with? And shouldn't have to deal with, I should add.
Women live in the world and comforts created and built by the hard work and sacrifices of men. Modern Women only compare themselves to the top men while walking over the average everyday men. And they also only have interest in advancements and careers that are indoors, with climate control and indoor plumbing. Women are not fighting for more roofing and plumbing jobs.
i think a lot of men are seeking this type of refuge for transparent communication about men's issues, but not everyone necessarily wants to be the first to open up, so if you try bridging that gap you might find a lot of men who are receptive to it and if you get rejected, sometimes that might mean you're finding out who your friends aren't
Many women including myself want this communication from our husbands or partners. We want them to open up to us. When both people open up and communicate in a respectful manner it makes the relationship stronger and better.
When my husband is quiet. I let him be. He tells me at nifjr his brain is constantly thinking about everything. I let him sleep and work it out, until he's ready to talk.
Thank you Chris for your efforts and content. The Bible gives us an example, there is lots. One is where David says to Solomon "Be strong, act like a man, and observe what G-d requires; walk in obedience to Him and keep His decrees and commandments, his laws and regulations as written in the law of Moses. So it will go well with you. That's what we should do so we can stand up to all that happens in the world around us and stand strong for the women and children of the world. Men can called to do what is right so we can represent G-d in this world we are not women we are different and that is how G-d made it!
Let’s keep it simple, we’re 2 different genders very complex that need each other ❤ men need respect and appreciation and women are naturally wired to love their heros and the the men they admire AKA PROVIDERS AND PROTECTERS.❤
BRILLIANT BRILLIANT BRILLIANT this man speaks PROFOUND wisdom. We want respect and gratitude. We want you to understand what effort it takes.. Give us that? We will lay down our life for you women. The reality we are liking ourselves and you women give us pretty much absolutely nothing but grief and ingratitude then? No fault divorce occurs where you are rewarded for your evil
"10000 thing" "burdens you dont know anything about" Okay name one. Im listening. Tell me any burden you have that women know nothing about or cant even imagine.
@catinthehat1486 I think it so. Im not just trying to be an arse asking it either. Its just all my life I have heard men say this about "fighting demons" and women "have no idea" but unless the man has been in military combat or works a job that sees a lot of trauma like police and medics then Id just like an example or two out of "10000". Even those examples I gave some wome work too
I dont expect a man to divuldge every vulnerability but i need a man who can communicate about issues that come up in our relationship. Im tired is a cop-out
Sure, but that's sort of unrelated to what he's talking about, and it confirms his rationale for why men shouldn't be vulnerable with women. You want a man who is able to communicate about issues in your relationship because that involves and concerns you. You don't want the man to talk about how depressing working a 9 to 5 is for him and how it's sucking the life out of him and so on. That doesn't concern you, and it makes you feel less sure about the emotional and financial stability of that man. Women want to have a partner who is a good listener, but they don't want to have to fulfill that same need to their man. Men learn this the hard way.
@F1986R I hear you and there's definitely a difference in how we communicate but thankful I don't fall into this predicament any longer. I listen to my partners woes and worries and nurture, love and support him and dont i deserve the same in return? I work. I worry. I want to be nurtured and supported. He sounded like he was making an excuse and if he wasn't I misunderstood. Thankfully I don't have to worry about this in my relationship any longer but I kissed a lot of frogs to get here.
@@F1986R yeah I don’t mean to be rude but that’s a ridiculous assumption. I feel as if I’m hearing people stuck in a time warp of the 50s and 60s marriages and gendered role assumptions.
There was one perfect Man. He is the Way for men to overcome sin and the flesh, along with all the lies that society places on their shoulders. The only hope for a man is the Person of the Lord Jesus Christ. I am a woman, and He is my example. But if I were a Man, it would be such a no brainer. Read the Bible from cover to cover and get to know this Person, Lord Jesus Christ. You NEVER carried a burden that He did not carry and overcome. But if you refuse to know Him and follow Him, you will be hopeless, lost and defeated.
Sure fanatic. Before him, people were lost, and after him, those who didn't worship him were lost. Despite all the evidence to the contrary. Why? Because you believe in that story and in order for you to be saved and eventually rewarded with access to heaven.
NEVER discuss your issues with your partner. Ever. They may say they want you to open up, but the second you do their perception of you changes. It's chemical.
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Reminds me of the currently popular "Men only think about one thing" memes (where in the picture below you can instantly read what men actually think about: "I'm not good enough", "I need to do better", "Others rely on me", etc.)
This is so helpful to hear. It took me 11 years to understand this in my husband! I’ve learned as a young wife to be as warm as I can towards him and intentionally make food that will fill up his soul. Home has to be a haven and it’s up to the wife to be the thermostat, her attitude makes a huge difference. A husband and wife can enjoy so much peace if they can enjoy the simple things together - but they have to choose contentment or it will dissolve into bitterness.
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“Men are treated like defective women ...”
What a profound statement.
A valid one too...
I really appreciate him but I am not agreed with this statement . It is not necessary that everyone is same.
That hit hard, and my wife started nodding at exactly that moment.
@@superior-fk1zf men are trying to express there emotion but still have to be tone police by the women... the irony (men can express pain but have to becareful and express the right way so as not to harm women)
The Red Pill men have been saying this for many years.
Ive never nagged or have never said I was dissatisfied with what I've had or didnt have. Ive made dinner, lunch and breakfast everyday for 45 yrs. Kept the house and balanced the budget. And have always been grateful. A real man doesnt quit his family and I wont quit him. Do we argue? Oh yea, but I always let him know I'm not going anywhere. Its just how it is. Men need to know this and deserve a good meal and to know you got their back.
Well said Wendy. I'm in a toxic marriage and have been for 29 years. A wife is what her husband depends on to be there. A man will move the world for you if you love him and support him. Glad to hear you understand that.
Hit the nail on the head. When a man knows she's got his back, he feels fifty stories tall. That's really all we want.
@@hurricaneaquaticsand your staying in a toxic marriage fir what reason exactly?
I listened to this first thing this morning, and I had to cut it off halfway through and pray for my man and thank God for him. I'm just coming back to finish, but I thank you so much for reminding me of how much we have to be grateful for and to work towards. God bless and keep you both!
My wife just left yesterday - this couldn't be more on point.
Farming has been tough for the last 6 yeare, even by farming standards.
The solution everyone told me was to talk about my feelings more like a women. Which did nothing about the environment causing the issues
This is so true that I’ve been happier being a single dad not dating for 5 years than any point that I was in a relationship with their mom.
It’s tough, but a hell of a lot less stressful. Thanks for my sons, we’ll see ya on the other side ladies lol
Amen. I stayed that way a long time when my son was young. It was just he and I.
I can't help but wonder how your sons would feel reading this someday...
@@TheUneducatedAcademic proud of their father.
Great to see the Dry Creek cowboy on. He's a wealth of wisdom, with a voice that I could listen to for hours.
F gratitude, I just want credit. Acknowledgment of a man goes miles. We all have the one time we were noticed or recognized out of the blue by a random woman. The memory lasts forever.
Sometimes men are expected to carry the weight of the world on their shoulders, and yet are discarded by society if they buckle or break under the pressure.
_Sometimes?_
All a man really wants is peace!!!
This is a great interview. Women want men to bear all their feelings, not to understand men but rather to examine, disect and tell men why they are wrong. They aim to tell men how to fix themselves. To many women, the male experience is a “debateable” issue.
It's not even gratitude, really - it's the reckoning. This is why (i believe) society has become so antisocial: there is so little recognition of work, courtesy, effort that most people have simply given up. What's the point?
Many women don't want to understand, they don't really care. Any woman who says she wants an emotionally available man, wants a man who will deal with her emotions, she doesn't want to deal with his. Open up emotionally to your woman and chances are she will loose attraction
Copy that. Dated someone just like this. Her perpetual excuse was "I've been in therapy 20 years and I had a long horrible marriage " so it was a constant checklist of HER issues she wanted to "fix" but trying to fit her image of what her ideal man was vs her ex husband. Any time I even gently pushed back on the fact that I'm someone else and I'm not going to be a paint by number human was met with drama. Beautiful successful woman but I got out of that situation.
@@sirdanoman stay strong brother 💪
Absolutely true.
Absolutely. Most women have little interest in a man’s struggles. Only if it has the potential to impact them, do they become attentive to it.
This is 100% true. We have the same situation in Russia. This is what it is, and nothing will change.
Mother Nature gives 0 f*ck about the struggles of men
I have literally never benefitted from talking about my problems. Its always made me feel worse and made my living situation worse.
The stuff that I carry with me from the past and present... would make most people (women and men alike) curve into a fetal position and cry all day. The moment it occured to me was the moment I realized that I'm not the weakling I always thought I was. That I can move mountains with the strength I've gained from my darkest days.
That's how a man can use his burden to his advantage in life, not by simply talking it out.
We Men don’t need much. Give us reason and a goal to pursue and people (a woman) who will recognize and respect us for it.
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Now just "thank you" is labeled toxic, "Respect" is controlling, whats left for us.
If a man got that even from an average woman she'll have his loyalty for life...simple as that.
Why do women not ever understand this? It's basic stuff.
I think the reason we don’t share our burdens is because we know that no one else has experienced the exact same situation. We know that other people aren’t perfect either, so it wouldn’t make a difference in our pain.
men understand women struggles, but the issue today is women do not understand men, it's quite simple
@@DetachedK your point is flawed because women don't really have to struggle when they have a provider, the problem is men don't understand how to provide women emotionally, thats when women is not satisfied, it's not all about finance. Is the time you spent with your loves one too. While women don't understand the struggle of his job, her intentions are always wanting to spend a good time with him hence mnay marriages failed when it's only one sided. I grew up in such family I understand, married couples argue when both don't understand each other parts
We humans actually didn't suffer any pain. For any pain relief learn to serve to God. Everything thing u do. Learn to serve it to God. This is proven u can rely on it.
God is not proven. that's why you call it a faith@superior-fk1zf
Man this one is so true
He's speaking to a very niche situation. I've never been in a couple like the one he's describing, where the wife gets to work only in the home, no job ever, and then doesn't show appreciation for what the man is going through providing for the household. That's not a normal enough thing to be worth making a video about.
Yes it very 1950s .
He makes a good point, and this is probably what a therapist would tell a dude. To be fair, therapy isn't just talking about things, it's about finding practical solutions to life problems. Although a lot of guys might be able to find those solutions on their own, talking to a professional can really speed up the process...like if I want to learn guitar I can try to learn it by myself, or I can hire a guitar teacher and learn how to play it much better and faster.
If the only person you can REALLY talk to is a therapist, that says a lot in and of itself. But I guess a mans gotta do what a womans gotta do(2024 version of man)😂
"But what about the exception?" 🙄
@@derpyeh9107 What do you mean?
@@dmoneydmoney6050 I think that a lot of guys just never get taught how to productively talk about things, especially emotions.
I am a 71 year old woman and have been blessed with wonderful men in my life!!! My Grandfathers, my Father, my Uncles, my brothers were a pain (lol), my Husband my Son and his pals, all wonderful!!! It is heartbreaking to see sooo many women who want desperately to be "understood" yet are incapable of understanding almost to the point of being vapid!!!! I wonder if it has anything to do with them growing up with such emphasis on their appearance, could be wrong! One thing that is extremely troubling to me if all this BS about the right to be responsible for their own body aka abortion rights! If they were responsible, they would not get pregnant in the first place, practice responsibility before the fact! Plus, the man should have 50% of the say because she sure did not get pregnant alone! The man owns 50% of that treasure! Where is the man's rights? And where are my rights in being pro life and wanting NONE of my tax dollars going to murder? Sorry for the rant...😊 but there it is!!! Grow up, ladies!!! You want to be understood then PRACTICE UNDERSTANDING! You want full responsibility for your body then BE RESPONSIBLE!!!
I'm a therapist who works with men and I have to say I disagree Dewayne on this one (and I really empathize for the pain he carries. I can just see it in his eyes). He describes his hear fear of "removing his finger from the dike the whole dam will break," but in my experience it's an enormous relief for men to let some emotions out and they are quite surprised to find out those emotions were perfectly safe the whole time, there is no dam to break, and other people are capable of "being with" them in it without anyone being reduced in any way. If it's sharable it's bearable, as we say. Anyway, Dewayne, if you're reading this, you are not alone, and those emotions are not there to torture you. They just want to communicate something and be heard. It doesn't need to be therapist to hear them, but someone should.
As a man taught his whole life the therapeutic paradigm you are speaking of, it didn't work and only long experience has taught me better ways of dealing with life's pressures. As you are a (presumably female) therapist who "works with men" I'd say there is some selectivity bias there and also you have a long-standing commitment to your approach.
Deewayne presenting on the "mainstream" channels is what America needs right now. Sure there are nuances to every man, every situation, but the fundamentals are the same, if you are Masculine based. Nature instilled these masculine traits within us men, for a F-ing reason and these cannot be removed, denied or misinterpreted. It is however, our job as men, to be aware of, to understand and to nurture these traits. Men aren't broken in this society, Society is Broken. Doing the inner work, with the help of the awareness of a balanced feminine in every male is needed, then society gets fixed. Our roles as MEN have been degraded, denied, devalued and all but disappeared. Deewayne is trying to swing the pendulum back to where Men acknowledge their OWN Ego's, their fears, their FLAWS, their expectations, their vulnerabilities, their strengths and their power. Many will not resonate with the wisdom that Deewayne is trying to convey here because those men haven't done the inner work (forgiveness, awareness, understanding, gratitude etc). Chris, your audience will gain so much from this interview if they DO THE INNER WORK. Imagine Deewayne as an Avatar in a video game. You walk into a room and there is a Wizard guiding you forward. This is Deewayne.
"to where Men acknowledge their OWN Ego's, their fears, their FLAWS, their expectations, their vulnerabilities, their strengths and their power" excellent, perfect, yes -- i think more than a lot of men realize though this is going to be recognizing the ingrained power structures and types of prejudice women are adversely affected by, though, and that part of the results of this inner work will be learning how to avoid contributing to it
I think the reason I'm ten years into a happy marriage is because I don't expect him to be like one of my girlfriends. He has a different life expertise and we work well because we each respect each other's specialties.
“What is like is some peace and understanding” that cut like a knife. Thank you for this wosdom
I think everyone feels this way. Women are dismissed and belittled routinely. I think people just don’t treat each other very well, regardless of race and gender.
You've missed the entire point.... Unsurprisingly
Ever single time... 😅
Do you see the irony in your comment?
I believe that a 100%
Moreover, I believe therapy is a cop-out in nearly every way.
Here’s an old fashioned thought - KNOW THY SELF.
Communication solves a mountain of issues.
If you recommend therapy or any of the social methods women use, that already shows the misunderstanding women have of men, and we explain already soooo many times. 😔😔
therapy is one of the best ways to know thyself, for some people
@@somaticspirituality Women make up I think today 80% of therappist, not including race, religion and more. To go to a good therapists and actually have a productive session, going to any therapist is not the way, I'm not against it but the one we have in USA is not staffed to help men just from the 80% women alone, men work well with male therapist, and thats just the surface selection. If we have 999,999 Dr. Jordan than we will go.
Great advice, true words, only going to work with a "unicorn" though. Unfortunately we live in an age where it is trendy to play the victim card. Speak these words to the average gal and you are heading into a new world of trouble.
Maybe in urban areas....
Plenty of us country gals would agree with Dry Creek Wayne. We're out her! And we RESPECT our husbands - my husband and I have never had 1 fight.... we've had what I call "negotiations"....lol.... I always want his input before making a decision - because TOGETHER we come up with the BEST solutions. It's called MUTUAL RESPECT. ❤
Disrespect can definitely come from either side - and I do understand a MAN'S challenges these days - too many women wanting to dominate....or play the victim....👎🏻.... rather than LOVE & Support. SAD.
In these cases, BOTH LOSE.
@@kimwolf3935 Your husband is a very lucky man. You are right I live in a big city I would get obliterated for voicing these kinds of opinions here. Perhaps its time for me to move. I appreciate your perspective, thank you.
When men share their problems, they often feel more frustrated, driven by a desire to find quick solutions. On the flip side, women usually feel a wave of relief after talking about their challenges, as it fosters emotional connection and support
I Love Dewayne He Is So Brilliant However Men And Women Are Both Stressed. I Think Men And Women Get Into Relationships For Many Reasons And Sometimes Those Reasons Are To Be Abusive, Neglectful, Oppressive. Misery LOVES Company. CHOOSE WISELY Ladies And Gentlemen 🌟
Great example story by Dewayne. If a man wars against the world he must have peace at home with his loving wife. The correct currency exchange between men and women is, men give strength and women give love. Strength is found in a man's life direction and the counterbalance to his strength is the love of woman. Women can't be loving in the absence of strength and men can't be strong without a woman's love. This relational mixture is romance.
Thank you for the advice. Very wise man.
I commented on the shorts version basically saying what he said after that clip haha. We need to teach boys and women that men are not women and we don’t need the same things women do.
Men and boys are taught that women need to talk through their issues and sort out their emotions, so we just need to listen instead of trying to fix her problems. Most men can accept that and we do our best to provide that for them even though we don’t understand it. But women/girls are very rarely taught that what a man needs in similar situations is usually peaceful silence and space, not a therapy session.
Absolutely true. I never knew men dealt with these type of things by going slient. It doesn't mean they don't love you, they need space to work it out in their head first.
I’m so grateful to be single now and to not to be that burden. I never want to cause that long suffering in ANYONE.❤❤❤
Everyone should just be unconditionally nice too each other and everything else typically works out its that simple.
I liked the “Men are treated like defective women ...” part, but I can't get on board with "never be vulnerable with your partner". What he's describing (clear, straight-forward communication) actually is vulnerability, but he doesn't seem to connect the two, which is strange to me.
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There is property, cars maintenance, and life depending things to keep going, men do the dangerous heavy work that has to be done, but it comes down to how you seem and look
Been married 36yrs to a man in law enforcement. We had 6 children that I homeschooled. I feel a piece of connective tissue was needed for me to see interviewee’s view of things. Yes, a husband(man) 100% has needs. As does his wife.
Bear with me, I know this is about the man but he is not functioning in a marriage as an individual. As married ppl, men and women, they are attempting to function in the world as a unit. As a couple. And as a couple they pool their finite budget of mental/emotional/physical currency. But it’s shared and it’s still finite. If he needs peace when he gets home, the provision of that may create a deficit for the wife, unless *they* make arrangements for his need. “His” need is actually “their” need, and her need is also “their” need. They’re a unit.
Amazing match of two of my favorite guys
Very well said
I would argue that Dewayne IS describing vulnerability. He's saying to advocate for your needs in a relationship, which is inherently vulnerable because there's always a chance that your partner will not be able to provide what you are asking for. I think that real vulnerability is putting yourself out there and going after what you want in life because there is no guarantee of success. Why do you think we say that daring men have balls? Your balls are the most vulnerable part of your body.
We've been conditioned by modern therapy culture to believe that vulnerability is the endless retelling of your past without making any changes.
The most dangerous man in the room never ever ever the not loudest man in the room the loudest man in the room so insecure man in the room ___ Dry creek Dewayne 👑
100 percent
Amen
Radhe radhe ❤ amen bro
Very true
Do you think a big part of the problem in relationships is that women expect their man to ALSO be their best friend, exactly like their best girlfriend, as well as their husband etc and this is a role most men are completely un-equiped to deal with? And shouldn't have to deal with, I should add.
Here's a man that gets it.
Women live in the world and comforts created and built by the hard work and sacrifices of men. Modern Women only compare themselves to the top men while walking over the average everyday men.
And they also only have interest in advancements and careers that are indoors, with climate control and indoor plumbing. Women are not fighting for more roofing and plumbing jobs.
Careful....lol....
There are exceptions.
I'm one....
However - I definitely understand what you're saying and sympathize with many men. (Not all.)
@@kimwolf3935 Imagine you get put on an all-female work crew. What's your reaction?
@derpyeh9107 I'm "declining"....lol....
I'm self- employed TWICE.
For a reason! 🤩
@@kimwolf3935 Aight. You a real one 👍
People don't remember what you said, they remember how you made them feel.
Curious, couldn't men talk about their burdens with other men? If you have some trusted guy friends, couldn't you confide with them?
i think a lot of men are seeking this type of refuge for transparent communication about men's issues, but not everyone necessarily wants to be the first to open up, so if you try bridging that gap you might find a lot of men who are receptive to it
and if you get rejected, sometimes that might mean you're finding out who your friends aren't
respect .. a real man deserves and demands respect or its all a fallacy
99.99% of women that hear this will immediately make it about themselves and say “but what about what I feel/need”.
So u r saying u r also a women ? Or u know everything? that u predicted the negative thoughts of all women's
Many women including myself want this communication from our husbands or partners. We want them to open up to us. When both people open up and communicate in a respectful manner it makes the relationship stronger and better.
You made this about yourself, so you're actually doing the thing he said women do. @@dmarie2231
@@CoachRedmon does u know everything or u also a women ? Don't conclude like this.
When my husband is quiet. I let him be. He tells me at nifjr his brain is constantly thinking about everything. I let him sleep and work it out, until he's ready to talk.
Thank you Chris for your efforts and content.
The Bible gives us an example, there is lots. One is where David says to Solomon "Be strong, act like a man, and observe what G-d requires; walk in obedience to Him and keep His decrees and commandments, his laws and regulations as written in the law of Moses. So it will go well with you. That's what we should do so we can stand up to all that happens in the world around us and stand strong for the women and children of the world.
Men can called to do what is right so we can represent G-d in this world we are not women we are different and that is how G-d made it!
If that ain’t the damn truth!
I am soooooo glad Men are speaking up. HALLELUJAH!!!! It’s taken all this war. God is working to bring Heaven on earth.
Hear! Hear!
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Let’s keep it simple, we’re 2 different genders very complex that need each other ❤ men need respect and appreciation and women are naturally wired to love their heros and the the men they admire AKA PROVIDERS AND PROTECTERS.❤
Very wise, man, don't need to have a PhD from Harvard or Yale.
One thing women and men have to face united are the(ir) roles - or funtions - given by modern society.
He doesn’t speak for all of us
Whats your version
BRILLIANT
BRILLIANT
BRILLIANT
this man speaks PROFOUND wisdom.
We want respect and gratitude. We want you to understand what effort it takes.. Give us that?
We will lay down our life for you women.
The reality we are liking ourselves and you women give us pretty much absolutely nothing but grief and ingratitude then?
No fault divorce occurs where you are rewarded for your evil
"10000 thing" "burdens you dont know anything about"
Okay name one. Im listening. Tell me any burden you have that women know nothing about or cant even imagine.
Fair comment
@catinthehat1486 I think it so. Im not just trying to be an arse asking it either. Its just all my life I have heard men say this about "fighting demons" and women "have no idea" but unless the man has been in military combat or works a job that sees a lot of trauma like police and medics then Id just like an example or two out of "10000". Even those examples I gave some wome work too
I agree. I’ve worked domestic violence so l know exactly about challenges.
This guy is the ultimate cringelord
You sound like a Reddit dweller
Define cringe lord? Seems to be subjective and you’re projecting
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I dont expect a man to divuldge every vulnerability but i need a man who can communicate about issues that come up in our relationship. Im tired is a cop-out
Sure, but that's sort of unrelated to what he's talking about, and it confirms his rationale for why men shouldn't be vulnerable with women. You want a man who is able to communicate about issues in your relationship because that involves and concerns you. You don't want the man to talk about how depressing working a 9 to 5 is for him and how it's sucking the life out of him and so on. That doesn't concern you, and it makes you feel less sure about the emotional and financial stability of that man. Women want to have a partner who is a good listener, but they don't want to have to fulfill that same need to their man. Men learn this the hard way.
@F1986R I hear you and there's definitely a difference in how we communicate but thankful I don't fall into this predicament any longer. I listen to my partners woes and worries and nurture, love and support him and dont i deserve the same in return? I work. I worry. I want to be nurtured and supported. He sounded like he was making an excuse and if he wasn't I misunderstood. Thankfully I don't have to worry about this in my relationship any longer but I kissed a lot of frogs to get here.
@@F1986R yeah I don’t mean to be rude but that’s a ridiculous assumption. I feel as if I’m hearing people stuck in a time warp of the 50s and 60s marriages and gendered role assumptions.
So, a man wants a woman that he can talk to like he talks to his dog.
I Think He's Saying If The Woman Spoke To The Man In A Nicer Tone, That No Matter What She Said The Man Wouldn't Notice
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There was one perfect Man. He is the Way for men to overcome sin and the flesh, along with all the lies that society places on their shoulders. The only hope for a man is the Person of the Lord Jesus Christ. I am a woman, and He is my example. But if I were a Man, it would be such a no brainer. Read the Bible from cover to cover and get to know this Person, Lord Jesus Christ. You NEVER carried a burden that He did not carry and overcome. But if you refuse to know Him and follow Him, you will be hopeless, lost and defeated.
Sure fanatic. Before him, people were lost, and after him, those who didn't worship him were lost. Despite all the evidence to the contrary. Why? Because you believe in that story and in order for you to be saved and eventually rewarded with access to heaven.
No beard please.
we need to start letting these walls down
NEVER discuss your issues with your partner. Ever.
They may say they want you to open up, but the second you do their perception of you changes. It's chemical.
men
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