MRAs Views On Family and Gender Roles | Paul Elam
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I called the police when my sons mother became angry and physical with me. If the cards weren’t stacked against men I probably never would have called. Not because it wasn’t happening but rather because I understand that people sometimes can not control their emotions. Also we had a child together and for me it would have been worth us just taking a moment to ourselves to calm down. Never the less the police managed to talk me into allowing her to leave with our son because we lived at my parents house. They gave her every opportunity to and a little push to say I did something. Luckily she didn’t at the moment but when she found out that I was going for custody (which was my only option) her lawyer quickly tried painting me as an abuser in court. When that didn’t work the judge went off record and explained that we were going to agree on her having physical custody and me legal custody with visitation. I was told I was lucky, this is because I at least got to see my son two days a week. It’s been three years and even after agreeing to date my ex for a short while she will not allow more time. Also every time she violates the our order we go back to court and our schedule changes so to meet her needs, my only other option would to take less visiting time. I find the system deplorable and because so many people (particularly women) think this is ok and defends my sons mothers actions based on things that have happened to “other” women is not only bias but simply fucked up. I have no patience nor respect for people like that.
May lightning strike her down.
@@EnjoyCocaColaLight she's already much better than most women.. given so much privilege. The culprit is the messed up system, may the laws change to favour the truth than certain groups.
What country are you in, Robert? I’m curious to know the legal landscape in Australia.
I went through a very similar situation. Accept after I divorced my now ex-wife she then turned her abuse on my son. It took me seven years to prove what she was doing. Finally I was able to prove it. Now thanks to the police and Child protective services I have full custody of my son. It’s been almost 3 years since then and we are very happy. I love being a dad and my son loves life once again.
Never forget when times get dire ALWAYS " bring a friend with you" but hopefully you still let your kid live. Sorry for your loss because it's almost like death. Cheers
Seems you could have made three movies with your footage Cassie. Could listen to Paul Elam all day...
She has around 100 hours of footage, she could have made around 50 movies, or 5 full 22-episode seasons of a documentary TV series, after commercials and with additional commentary added after her switch from feminism.
Jakk Frost What an Excellent idea!
The most intelligent, insightful and honest human being on the planet! Bar none!
Me too
Mr. Paul begins with "However" and began to drop Pure Fire that ended in a Mic drop.
This is why I'll never get married or be in another relationship again. I've been through abuse from my ex fiance who punched me so hard that she bruised part of my neck, chest and shoulder and all because I pulled a prank with the water faucet (and no it wasn't unusual for her and I to playfully prank one another).
I grew up with a physically abusive father. He hit my mother and sister. Years later after they divorced, my mother and sister moved out of state. My father put me through a door. I went to live with my mom after that. It wasn't a better trade off. My mother was emotionally abusive and my step dad was psychologically abusive. I was kicked out of their house at the age of 17 and went to live with my girlfriend and her father at the time.
My girlfriends father was a great guy, and to this day I look at him as my dad. He treated me like a man. He didn't yell and didn't do any abuse, instead he taught you the errors and took the time to teach. Had it not been for him I wouldn't be the man I am today. Now his daughter is a different story, as she later became my ex fiance as mentioned earlier. Her parents divorced when she was 14. She lived with her father but was all the time seeing her mom. I think to this day that her hitting me was a knee jerk reaction and she didn't truly mean to do it as it was the only time she got that way, however I can't place why she would have cheated on me 2 times. Well actually that is kind of a lie. I did find out from her mother that she had cheated on her father and left him for another man.
I have dealt with that as well from multiple women. Being left for other men (and I'm talking like the next day they would be with them even though we were together for months). I've been turned down by women because my status was low (didn't make enough money or was slightly overweight). I've been with women who left because they said they got "bored" and almost every relationship I have been in women wanted to play games and try to manipulate me and most the time it worked. I didn't discover the error of their ways and mine until I started watching Paul a few years ago. Now I focus on myself.
From focusing on myself I went MGTOW. Which was hard because swallowing the red pill is not easy. As it forces you to really look at the picture and ones self. While doing this I cut out almost everyone in my life except for the closest of friends. I cut out talking with most family members (haven't talked with my mother or step dad in years and my actual father since I moved away from him as a kid). I took the skills I learned in the Marines and got into the private security sector. I don't make 6 figures, and probably never will but I make more than enough to go on vacation anywhere in the world once or twice a year. I have a bought and paid for truck and motorcycle (not brand new, the truck is a 2014 and the bike is a 2012) and they both run great and look great. I have a house I'm currently paying for. It's modest, 3 bedroom single floor with about an acre sized yard. I started working out a couple years ago, and got back into shape. Now all that mixed together and I can't seem to get women to leave me alone. I have women come up to me and start conversations even when I'm mowing near the road. I find it flattering, funny and disgusting all at the same time. After all I have had to deal with from women and now when I am viewed as having a decent status I am worth talking to and getting to know? Now I'm not saying all women are bad, there are good one out there but trying to cut through walls and barriers and the other bad ones to get to them is not worth the risk. I am 30 years old, and many will say that is young and you would be right, but when do good men finally get the chance to stand up again? When they finally decide to swallow the red pill, and after that they mostly stand alone and yes by choice. This interviews says mostly why that is. It shows why I a 30 year old man would rather be alone and content with myself. Until the day comes where good men no longer have to deal with the blatant bias and scrutiny from the very chains we helped forge we will always choose to be alone and go our own way. I hope though that you Mrs. Cassie Jaye and you Mr. Paul Elam and others like you continue the fight for true equality. For you have the platform and voice to make change happen. I support you in all that you do and wish you the best Cassie and again, thank you for taking the hits to give good men a voice and your shoulder to lean on.
What a story, man. I tip my hat to you.
I wish you all the happiness in the world.
My brother tried to get equal division of care for his daughter. It was deemed that things would be better for his daughter if she spent most of her time with her mother instead of equally with her mother and her father. The court gave him four days a month. Four days. How could he possibly be a parent to her when she was spending 87% of her time with her mother? He was involved in no decisions that didn't have money involved and told that he had to pay for anything that did. He was told that he couldn't pick her up until he gave her mother money or relinquished some of the little time he was given by the court. But when she got sick he was asked to get her early. When she got lice from school, he was asked to get her early AND keep her until she didn't have lice anymore. He wanted to be a part of her life so badly that he accepted all these atrocities because it meant more time with her. Despite her not feeling well, he gladly took the time with her, cared for her and made her feel better. She would just be back to feeling normal and she'd have to go back to her mother.
Her parents were concerned about one thing and one thing only; money. They told him that they were going to make sure that he was financially responsible for his daughter for as long as they could keep him on the hook. They weren't listening when he said yes, the baby is mine. They weren't listening when he said that he wanted to be part of her life and that he would take care of whatever financial needs she may have. And they weren't listening when he said that he would do the 'right' thing and marry the mother only to have her say no. Give us money. That's all they cared about.
She's 18 now. He doesn't even see her for the four days that he's been allotted. She's old enough to decide where she goes and when but spending 87% of her time with her mother, she's basically her mother. There isn't much that he could influence in her life with four days a month. 48 days a year. He wasn't her parent. He was the cash cow. He wanted to be part of her life, to take care of her and teach her and be there for her through all the things that would happen to her. Because the system is the way it is, he suffered for almost two decades. Working to pay what he believed he owed. Not to the mother but for the benefit of his daughter. 48 days a year. On the hook for money from day one.
It's disgusting what happened to him. But he did it. He stepped up and did what was expected of him despite a judge who had never met him telling him that he was a deadbeat and that he should take responsibility for his actions. Even though that's exactly what he did. The judge had no idea what the details of the situation were and he didn't care. All he cared about was that there was a single mother and a man in front of him in court. Not a single mother and a single father. His preconceived opinion about men was clear.
My brother had no rights and the system made him into an 'uncle dad' and labelled him a deadbeat. He's far from that. In fact, he's one of the strongest people I know. And he's a really great father.
I'm surprised Cassie said it was hard for her to believe that women can abuse the legal system for advantages, surely she must have grown up seeing at least one girl starting drama to get things like boyfriends or better social power. I saw that shit all the time in highschool, women can be downright nasty, and I have no reason to believe they wouldn't do similar things in the legal system when it's so painfully obvious that they're essentially guaranteed to win their cases due to gender.
Consider for a moment the feminists argument, that men can't see their own privilege, because they benefit from it.
Likewise, women can't see their privilege because they are benefiting from it. Getting a free pass to lie and cheat to steal assets, is a privilege that is granted to women and quite a few, see it as a natural right. I have women family members that regularly commit crimes, because they know from experience, that society will feel sorry for them, and let them get away with it. At worst, they'll occasionally get a slap on the risk if they are caught engaging in a serious crime.
That was my reaction. No boy who grew up in a family with sister(s) and has heard the magic words, "I'm gonna tell and you're gonna be in trouble" would have a hard time believing that a female might just take advantage of a protective environment. Certainly no one who was acquainted with girls in high school would be shocked and dismayed to learn that sometimes girls don't tell the truth and they are capable of being mean.
I know, right? It's like she doesn't know women are human.
Cassie, Cassie, spend a few days down at family court, and follow a few cases. Then you may see a different side of feminism. Having been through it, it is rigged in the females favor. Just because you are given joint custody does not mean she will let you have joint custody. It took about 7 years after my wifes death for my kids to start talking to the evil monster. Then slowly they started to see maybe things were not what they seemed to be. And i was lucky.
About the question on whether or not abuse accusations are true, there's a quote I've posted before:
_“It is more important that innocence be protected than it is that guilt be punished, for guilt and crimes are so frequent in this world that they cannot all be punished. But if innocence itself is brought to the bar and condemned, perhaps to die, then the citizen will say, 'whether I do good or whether I do evil is immaterial, for innocence itself is no protection,' and if such an idea as that were to take hold in the mind of the citizen that would be the end of security whatsoever.”_ - John Adams
Paul Elam was REALLY good here. Shame he isn't like this all the time, and gets himself into hot water that holds his message back.
I wish there could be a whole television mini series with all these great conversations from the documentary and/or multiple, "The Red Pill" documentaries. I am so thankful to you, Cassie Jaye for who you are and for providing all this extra footage.
Yeah. A thought crossed my mind that The Red Pill could have been a TV Series. There is definitely enough content and real emotional life stories to keep an audience engaged for dozens of episodes. The horrific kicker of that anti-utopian TV Series would've been that it's a documentary, not fiction. It would have been kinda like Black Mirror TV Series, but real.
I can listen to Paul speak on these subjects all day, he is just so knowledgeable, eloquent and fair in his commentary! You can see how his talk is affecting Cassie in ways she had never thought of before. Fantastic video again.
guys I want to be a father and a good dad but this stuff scares me. I don’t think I could be a good dad with how the system is set up today
samuel Woodouse conceive a child with the highest status woman by any legal means possible. Don’t worry about love, or divorce. The woman owns the rights to both of those things.
My mother actually got restraining orders falsely and my father is scared to divorce her as she will take the majority of what he makes. He's been unable to live in his own house. She sells his stuff and pretends like they got robbed. But would it be worth the divorce? With our current system I doubt so.
That's so sad. I gave up most everything when we divorced... A 27 year marriage and all I asked for was half the retirement. No maintenance (altho I stayed home with all 3 kids and had no career) I left the house and did not take the house. He got a shit ton more $$ than me, once he sold the house. I left all the stuff. I took so very little from a 27 years of accumulation. He barely had to pay anything. On top of it this is after a critical illness was where I almost died.
That's so sad. I gave up most everything when we divorced... A 27 year marriage and all I asked for was half the retirement. No maintenance (altho I stayed home with all 3 kids and had no career) I left the house and did not take the house. He got a shit ton more $$ than me, once he sold the house. I left all the stuff. I took so very little from a 27 years of accumulation. He barely had to pay anything. On top of it this is after a critical illness was where I almost died.
Wow, this one was especially intense.
I have to say you were pretty consistent in your denial of female agency. Not only that they're oppressed, but also not able to do bad things/take advantage of a system.
Karen's words come to mind here, responding to Jordan Peterson: feminism denies the negative feminine.
Jay Damalley I noticed that... This is probably one of the very first interviews
She was definitely still struggling with her prior commitment to the feminist narrative. To her credit, Cassie eventually listened to MRAs. I shudder to think how this documentary would have turned out, if any other feminist had made it.
It's 'Female Hypoagency'. I don't think she came up with the term, but Karen Straughan did a good video on that subject.
Here's the video if anyone is curious. "the tyranny of female hypoagency" by Karen Straughan ua-cam.com/video/KBgcjtE0xrE/v-deo.html
prschuster Well lets not forget that this was not the documentary she set out to make. She was originally researching “rape culture” and fell into this whole narrative.
"It's hard for me to imagine women abusing the system just because they can." Oh Cassie, how innocent you were. As you've probably realized since this recording, women can be manipulative, maniacal, and utterly evil bitches.
People... what a bunch of bastards.
Well said.
The system is corrupt to the core.
I just cant see women abusing the system 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Love you, Cassie. You woke me up three years ago. God bless and keep fighting the good, honest fight for truthful gender perspectives and the ending of male exploitation in western societies by a gender so privileged they honestly see their privileges as oppression.
The difference is that "in a relationship" men are "expected" to provide "financially". Women can "choose" to provide financially, or to "just have the man do it. ...even in financial hard times. She can "choose" to work, or she can "tell him" to get another job. For "him" it's "not" a "choice", because if "he doesn't" provide, he's to blame for any more financial woes, but if she doesn't, she can simply pass it on to him.."no skin off her nose"..or anyone elses.
As I said "The difference...is Choice".
Who has "choices" in the relationship, and who "doesn't" ?
Who has choices "after" the relationship, and who "doesn't"?
Oh, on more thing. When Paul says "...this is how the legal game is paid..rr..rr..rrr played.."
He was right on the money in what he said first.
A man in Kenya stayed in jail for 10 years after the wife convinced her then young daughter to say yes if police asked her if her father raped her. The now grown daughter revealed that truth after the dad had been in jail for 10 years.
Regarding the discussion on false allegations to get restraining orders- Paul is correct, some women do lie to gain advantages, especially in circumstances where they are in conflict with a spouse in a divorce where there are assets and children at stake. So do men, although to a much lesser degree because the family courts, the divorce process and DV legislation is heavily biased against men.
Paul is also right that throwing a million men a year out of their homes and alienating them from their kids on an unsubstantiated allegation without investigation, evidence or due process and with the presumption of guilt and not innocence, is wrong. The fact this had to be spelled out to such an extent by Paul, explains a great deal about what is wrong with society. Cassie before she dropped the feminist label, is hardly alone in this regard. Women are regarded by many undeservedly as some infallible morally superior class. This gynocentric bias leads to the utter disbelief a woman could lie to get a restraining order on their partner, to get an advantage in divorce. This naivety in the culture has been a key blind spot in society ignoring and dismissing women's abuse of power. The Red Pill movie helps blue pill people question their core assumptions of men and women that keep them from seeing the duality of power and vulnerabilty between the sexes and the issues men face.
Thank God that I am single and I will never marry again!!
The mutual drink at the end. This was a tough discussion for you both and for me one of the ones that really showed how logical the mra really are. I truly appreciate your work cassie. Well done for remaining so open minded.
In summary:
Responsibility as a father...fine.
Responsibility without power...go to hell.
That last reaction of, "I need a damn drink...NOW." kinda sums it all up, huh, Cassie? It just leaves a freaking rock in your throat, first time going through the revelation.
I remember, the first time I watched everyone's favorite Karen video, 'Feminism and the Disposable Male', I felt like a part of me died, yet, I couldn't but admit the truth of it all. I relate that little bit.
Cheers, Cassie. Thanks for all you've done. I wish you good fortune and great success in your future and projects.
I understand that Cassie is overcoming long years of a certain mindset, but for the life of me I cannot understand the "i have hard time imagining women doing something bad". It has come up multiple times in the interviews and I'm just so floored by it. Has she never met malicious, aggressive or even just petty women?
I met many many women who cannot grasp that as well. And if you ask them if they ever met with some specific behavior they would tell you they have. But at the same time say, woman would never do that.
If we could train women to work on fishing boats and spend weeks away from their family to work, would they do it?
@Cassie Jaye, could you tell us the order you filmed these interviews. We know from your talks that you would feel the need to put a spin when you started as a self proclaimed feminist. This is for my own interest, no agenda other than maybe trying to spot when you began to soften to what you were hearing. Or. Will you consider posting some of your video diaries edited as much is probably too personal.
I think everyone can understand this from Cassie is one of the earlier interviews. However, I agree. I want to see when these interviews are conducted.
Great discussion, a lot of honest points. It puzzles me though how Cassie can be so blind to the viciousness of women, its like she see's women as more beneficent than men who "just aren't capable of that kind of thing" which is very naive. Women are human, just like men. In my own experience, I have seen women do things that have genuinely shocked me more often than I have seen men do such things.
Gone girl is a documentary
I have no children, so I may be missing something. So before the advent of washers, dryers, dishwashers, etc I could understand how cleaning the home is a job. But now? Stay at home moms, do what exactly after kid(s) start preschool? Kids are in school all day by the time they get home, dads home. Cleaning? Single people w/ full time jobs w/ or w/o kids still have to clean their homes regardless. When the kids 18 and moves out, dad doesn't get to retire yet. My point is I'm not seeing how a stay at home mom who's kid(s) are in school through most of it, is doing as much work as a man working 40+ hours a week for 50 years.
Excellent arguments
More good work Cassie. Many thanks.
I have never heard a man express what's wrong with the American court system, as it relates to the family structure of man, woman and child, and do it with such pose, knowledge and clarity as was just done by one Paul Elam. Stefan Molyneux comes close.
4:03 - Modern women these days want equal rights AND the traditional MAN but to be an MODERN WAMAN and they are still not happy and willing to trade up
7:30 to 9:40 Is pure gold, Mic drop material... leaving Cassie speechless. Love how Paul lays it out.
Elam for president! Jaye for CEO of Red Pill Inc!
Thank you Cassie for posting this particular excerpt. Since renouncing feminism a few years ago, I cringe at the old feminist posts shown via my facebook 'memories on this day'. It is brave to show these kind of interactions when we know we were wrong... no matter how uncomfortable they make us. Nonetheless they have the potential to red pill other women, since at the time, it was coming from that place.
no say in the upbringing of the kid .. no money ..full stop
everything else is unfair .. funny to mention that in a time where thousands upon thousands of people work as "equity ..blabla" manager
I was surprised when Cassie said it was hard for her to imagine women abusing the system just because they can.Does she not read newspapers or watch UA-cam? There are quite a few examples of women abusing the system to benefit themselves.
they say at the dinner table a well-connected family will eventually synchronize drinking, with a distinct independant leader
Men make more money because women's attraction to males is 99% financial. The notion that if women earned more they would gladly provide is preposterous. Women are not going to hitch their wagons to "loser" househusbands. I can imagine what Hanna Rosin (author of "The End of Men") would say if men collectively stepped aside to make room women as breadwinners.
These mothers don't care for the children's well-being, the just want to win, because she is the Divine mother,and mother's are always right, regardless of what she does mother's are always perfect,
I don't disagree with a lot of what Mr Elam says in this clip, but there is a simple solution to the problem of a gynocentric society: do not get married. It's a dying institution with no benefits, so why bother with it?
Dude has a point.
Chilapa of the Amazons he has alot of points . Fuck feminism
This is one of those examples where you could see Cassie's feminist side trying to think a way around anything Paul said so the facts wouldn't reveal what she didn't want to learn, but his answers were just so on the ball that she basically couldn't help but see the truth for what it was. I think it's moments exactly like this that ultimately led her to where she is at now.
Am very impressed with the braveness of Cassie Jay. Exposing herself like that takes "balls". Her Feminist Word salat is embarrassing and she sees it now. But still she exposes herself for everyone else to see. That is true greatness and true Evolution .
Is he against no fault divorce? That point wasn't clear-- he could have brought it up just to show how the breakup of the family causes social problems.
this video was intense.
wish cassie would make a video (like in her video-diarys in the movie) of what has changed for her since the release of the movie, and if she went back to feminism, became an egalitarian or whatever
I feel annoyed after watching this because Cassie asks him twice the same question and the answer to that question is so obvious to me, but he doesn't nail it. So the question is essentially:
- If women are accusing their husbands of being violent or possibly violent towards them, like they are afraid of them and such, there is gotta be a reason for it, right? And what Cassie implies there I think is that women complain about abuse cause there is abuse, it's just hard to detect or smth.
- The answer to this is simple. Yes, there is always some reason why women accuse their husbands of violence or such. But the problem here is that more often than not the reason has nothing to do with violence. General reason is -- she is unhappy with her marriage. Why is she uhappy with her marriage? It can be because he hits her, or it can be one of other 100500 reasons. For example she just fell out of love, doesn't love her husband anymore. Perhaps they had 100 arguments about stuff like "he doesn't put toilet seat up", "he looks at other women", "he gets late from work", "he doesn't wash dishes", and he in turn is upset with her about another 100 things, but only one of them has the option of kicking the other one out by law. Or another scenario, she got infatuated with a garden boy next door and she lives and breaths with thoughts of that happily ever after with him, and husband is all that she has in her way. Go to police, lie to them and puff -- problem solved, husband is out of the picture, you get a divorce and the best part, you even get to have sympathy of everyone around you, blame gets put on the now ex-husband, divorce is his fault, he was abusive and violent, that's the claim -- therefore it's the truth. Which in the end comes down to this switch that was made in the judicial system from "Presumption of Innocence" to "Presumption of Guilt" in these cases. Which is just absurd, yet it's what it is. Towards the end Paul finally got on track and mentioned that basically women have an advantage of always having an option to just go to police and lie to get the upper hand, to essentially "win" in whatever conflict they are having. And they will use it.
Well spoken Paul!
Guys don’t get married no women is worth your happiness
I had an Ex Parte restraining order placed on me and was forced to not see my two young boys for 6 months straight out of the Army, took anger management, fought back highered a lawyer and now I have 50/50. And that is still morbid and bad for kids but better than nothing..
Gentlemen... I know I'm late to this party (I know, typical woman, right? Lol) but I'm so sorry that this is happening to y'all. Genuinely. This is heartbreaking. I'm a happily married woman and I love and respect my husband so much - he's my best friend in the whole world and I could never even FATHOM doing these ... things to him. We have a wonderful 6 year old son and I am trying to learn about what's going on with all of this so that I can be the best mother possible to him and prepare him adequately for what he will possibly face when he gets older. I'll probably the the one sitting on the front porch with a shotgun when he gets older, lol. Please know that your anger toward the way that you have been treated by malicious women is completely valid, and any smug, self-righteous feminists who come in these threads and talk down to you for feeling the way you feel can, well... bless her heart. I thought I was a feminist for a long time, but I'm absolutely not.
You contradict yourself, if you actually love him you would never have married him, being married you have the power to ruin his life at any time, how hypocrite.
@@CatarLleonardMontcada Dude are you joking?
Paul Elam for president 2020.
Thank you Mr Paul Elam, you touched on everything that men are going through. I have been there and still fighting to be a good father against all odds. Well done Cassington for listening and the movie, great stuff.
Unfortunately the guy on the crab boat will still lose his wife, will still lose his kids, and most of his paycheck he endangers his life to earn.
BOYCOTT MARRIAGE
Family court judges will all burn in hell in my books. At least it makes me feel a tiny bit better to think so because there is simply no punishment severe enough for the utter destruction they are causing to society. Lawyers are close second. They all admit the system is fucked but they are all getting rich thanks to it hence why they are not trying to get it straightened out.
I think that role is shifting because the whole time I stayed home with our kids for 21 years I felt guilty and like I should be working... The pressure was great and I felt guilty the whole time!!!
The end where you take a drink feels like you'r at the mad hatters tea party and he's blown your mind and your having trouble coming to terms with it.
Over the past year I began having this discussion with a friend of mine who works with domestic violence/intimate partner violence (DV/IPV) victims/survivors, funded by the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA). Slowly, the scales from her eyes began to shed. She started advocating for men among her DV/IPV coworkers and peers. She highlighted that the VAWA grant driving services in her office didn’t afford equal advocacy for men. The result of her awakening? She started experiencing pushback from women in her work setting. They became angry with her and altogether ignored her verbal contribution to open discussion.
It’s a difficult time in one’s life to realize that in order to work in some fields one has to undergo education and acquire licenses, because simply walking into an advocacy role isn’t always allowed. It’s difficult to sit through grueling classes with postmodern feminist ideology being drilled into one’s head, and to experience threats of removal from educational programs when speaking against neo-Marxist rhetoric. It’s difficult to attain the required degree only to remain subject to upwards of 3,000 required hours of clinical supervision in order to obtain licensure that is often driven by feminist supervisors. It’s difficult to remain beholden to a licensing board that enforces an ethical standard that maintains a gender-biased narrative. It’s difficult to have accumulated thousands of dollars in student loan debt only to have gone that far in one’s career and to have realized how the system is truly set against one sex/gender.
It’s nearly impossible, however, to then appropriately perform one’s duties when working with DV/IPV victims/survivors when the mere name of VAWA affords privilege to women, and one’s peers-who have been similarly indoctrinated-pushback against male victims/survivors. It becomes even more disturbing to discover that a significant number of DV/IPV aggressors one works with are women who are afforded privilege within the defunct system of oppression.
Simply taking a red pill isn’t enough in many cases, though it remains a necessary starting point.
Just saying...can we get Cassie to 50K? Long live the Elam and Peace out until next time.
21:25 Really. Really.
"Because they have to." That is SO true!
09:40 I thought the video froze for 5 seconds for a moment
My admiration for Cassie just grew
The man has the choice between putting food in mouths and clothes on backs, or losing his wife and losing his kids. The wife has the option of taking those kids and collecting child support.
This has to account at least for some part of the pay gap.
Eloquent, intelligent, well-reasoned, calm & insightful. Thanks Paul & Cassie.
Sounds to me women should direct their anger to Mother Nature .
Does Mother Nature run our courts and teach in our education systems?
My point was they appear to be angry or have been brainwashed into being resentful because they were born female . I’m well aware of what’s going on legally .
but I thought it was illegal to Man Spread
I can see why it was so hard to cut The Red Pill together. There's a ton of good material.
Well done Dr Elam and Cassie. I have been watching many of your you tube uploads.
I think I have been guilty of a rather complicated bias as a man and father.i have been use to corruption and progressing through it.gender relations yes are at it's lowest since the dark ages. But I feel we need to rename feminisim as cretanisim.
Thanks liker, just thinking of Joan Baez and her song . Love is just a four lettered word...
+Cassie Jaye
Love all this footage. I would like to add to Pauls answer to the first question you pose in this video. That many women look for men that has equal or higher pay/status. It might sound weird but for example the girl I'm seeing right now said flat out to me early when we started talking. That she didn't want someone with less ambition or salary than her. Now she is quite traditional and conservative compared to many others I've seen before. But I actually like that. Makes it easier as a man to know what's expected. Less bullshit. Clear objectives.
Zeleene if ur still with that gold digger, that's sad
I agree, there is nothing wrong with women having that standard IMO, as long as she 1) is up front and honest about that desire, and 2) she also fully respects the man’s right to set similar standards. For example, the man might say he only wants to marry a woman who is a 7 or above in attractiveness, or a woman who is willing to accept her role as homemaker and raiser of young children, while he provides for the family and therefore is the leader in the relationship. As long as both parties are honest about what their standards are, and both parties are willing to respect the other person’s requirements, I think that is actually much healthier than your average relationship these days, where both parties pretend like those preferences and standards don’t exist and that they will always want to stay with the person no matter what.
This chick is a total fraud. I contacted her a while back, and she acted very enthusiastic to hear from me. She said she'd get back to me, but never did. When a fair amount of time had passed I decided to get back to her. She gave me the old "I'm sending you an email to tell you I don't have the time to send you an email." Say what? A clear message designed to let me know speaking to me is of no real import to her, or if it is she doesn't want me to do know that, so she'll make this clearly contradictory, and dismissive statement to put me in my place. I decided that this person is not worth my time.
She is a fake. A fraud. Your typical anti feminist. Meaning 4th wave feminist chameleon.
Both sexes are taught to fulfill a gender role. We all have been socialized. Most custody decisions are made outside the courtroom between men and women. When cases go to court, usually their is joint custody today. Eighty percent women have custody, due to outside courtroom decisions. Men have the right to iniate divorce too.
23:44 We all needed a stiff drink after that!
Paul did all his homework lol
Just one curiosity here...I'm not an MRA, nor am I against MRAs. Many valid points are raised by them, and male disposability is one. However, I don't hear much activism by MRAs for the acceptance of stay-at-home dads, and how they should be respected as much as stay-at-home moms. Being a stay-at-home dad would take men out of those dangerous roles, so I would assume MRAs would defend stay-at-homes dads more than I have seen in my 10 years following the MRM. Am I missing something, or is there not much attention towards this?
Its astonishing how out of touch She was and couldn't believe Woman lie so much especially with Restraining Orders which are exclusively for Woman and a Man is Guilty automatically.
My girlfriend and I have chosen to pay for and watch the Red Pill documentary this weekend and I foresee it will cause fireworks when we discuss it afterwards. In the meantime I've been watching these raw footage full interviews and am overwhelmed by the interviewer's honesty throughout. It's great film-making, seeing preconceptions dissolve, watching the interviewer make decisions, on the spot, as to whether she agrees to some very challenging points. Without agreeing with either side, I think this is great work and I'm looking forward to the final edit.
Ask yourself this. When men get divorced they only get to see their children 4 days a month. Now if a women thought she was at risk of only seeing their child 4 days a month, what would they do to prevent that. I believe they would do what ever they had to do to keep their children in their lives.
I agree with 99% of what this man says, but for the love of God, you people in this comments section need to define your terms better. It's not "women" say this and "women" say that...its "feminists" say this and "feminists" say that. Totally different as I think most women (and men) don't think like a feminist does. Feminism transcends gender.
We have some similar shit being discussed in Germany once in a while, a the public debate chews the same dumb arguments, you could deduce that journalists are complete morons, like all of them. Of course this is not true. Basically it is lamented that too few men work in early child education or child daycare facilities. What never pops up is that men who earn so low never attract any female, because most will just not see him as a provider enough with such a salary, totally ignoring that such men tackle the very problem of too many females in education[please do not take this out of context].
And when such men do this, many mothers will interfere in the daycare handling of kids like insisting that the men working there are prohibited from changing their kids diapers, as if men working there are predisposed to child molestation.
As a convenient store worker I say how dare you sir! Low pay sucks but it's still fairly dangerous.
I just wonder if there's anyone out there who can refute what he's saying. I have friends who have been and are abused by their partners. It took like 5 beers for one to burst into tears because his gf had kicked him with a stiletto shoe on the face while he was driving. The other one had to lock himself in a room to run from the wife who held a knife. He could see the knife go through the slit of the door, the shining style. Others who are beaten. This I know for sure. On the other hand, I have yet to hear of a physically abused girlfriend of mine.
All the women I know spend their money on themselves and their kids but the man still has to pay the majority of bills.
You are a true voice for men. Bravo sir, keep it up 👍
You know jail time for murder is cheaper and saves more time. Only in defence of your life of course.
I would like to see Cassies reaction in 9:38 .
Preach Paul🔥
You are correct. Thank you for your work.
Red pill truth..
No Fault Divorce: Broken Society 9:30
Actually, I think teen pregnancy is down.
Not compared to the teen pregnancy rate before no fault divorce.
You're going to have to tell me the stats you're looking at cause I'm not seeing it. From what I've seen, teen pregnancy was at a peak of around 100 per every 1000 teenage girls (15 to 17) in the late 1950s and has fallen to about 20 in 2009 (In 1970 it was around 70 per 1000). You could say that the advent of no fault divorce slowed down the progress against teen pregnancy, but you'd need some pretty convincing evidence of that. It's very hard to point to one thing is society and say all A is because of B.
(Note: That I don't include 18 and 19 year old girls in the teen pregnancy stat as they are adults and fully within their rights to decide whether or not to have a child. You should note that the downward trend holds even if you do include them.)
I'm not saying you're wrong, I have to see your evidence before I decide.
@@Paul_Elam Also divorce is down since it was at its apex in the 1970s, which was also the apex of teen pregnancies.
These are how discussions are had.
First!
During WWII not only were conscripted to be a soldier you could have been conscripted to work the coal mines because the didn't want to send women down there... around 48,000 but were largely unrecognised. Many of them were not released from service until well over two years after the Second World War ended. Being of military age and without uniform caused many to be stopped by police and questioned about avoiding call-up.
The Bevin Boy programme was wound up in 1948. At that time the Bevin Boys received neither medals nor the right to return to the jobs they had held previously, unlike armed forces personnel. Bevin Boys were not fully recognised as contributors to the war effort until 1995, 50 years after VE Day, in a speech by Queen Elizabeth II.
My father was conscripted to work in the mines... Look up "Bevin Boys"
Where can I watch this movie in India?
So very many capable trailblazing women, are union iron workers, long haul truck drivers, heavy equipment operators, plumbers,masons, and electricians. Welders, and bricklayers. Why does society refuse to notice.