How to make penile rehabilitation fun (for couples)
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- Опубліковано 16 лип 2024
- How do you make penile rehabilitation fun as a couple?
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RESOURCES IN THIS VIDEO:
"Eroticization as a factor influencing ED treatment effectiveness" (Kukula KC, RA Jackowich & RJ Wassersug, 2013):
www.nature.com/articles/ijir2...
Rox Baker's article: "Why men often make better lovers after prostate cancer":
www.yananow.org/Relationships...
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MEDICAL DISCLAIMER:
This video is for informational purposes only, this is not intended to substitute diagnosis, treatment or advice from your medical professionals.
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Victoria, you seem to know exactly what thoughts are in our head, as you address exact problems with advice we have not been able to get anywhere else. The videos have become our go to website. Thank you for sharing your wealth of experience, we look forward to more videos.
Hi Marie, thanks so much for your kind words of feedback we appreciate it!
Thanks, Victoria. Very well done. I guess that one of the things to remember at the beginning is that penile rehab and sex are actually not one and the same. Penile rehab needs to happen (as you've said before in your videos) for the man's own health. Sex is not really essential for penile rehab, but it certainly adds more fun to the process. I'm so glad that you have addressed the emotional side of the issue. As you quite rightly said, it can be very frustrating and I'm sure that many blokes find it crushingly painful to their sense of self.
Again, thank you so much for following up on my question! Excellent response.
Thank you for making that important distinction clear Fiona - absolutely - sex and rehab are separate, and can cross-over if the partnership wants to bring erection aids into the bedroom, but also do not need to. It's a particularly touchy subject this one (yes using my own puns shamelessly!) as each partnership operates differently and sometimes actually keeping the two separate is the best thing for a relationship to thrive, whereas for others the opposite is true, very individual indeed. I think this ones needs some follow up videos!
Victoria:
How are you doing ??? I hope well, at least better. I’m post Radiation Rx for PCA plus of course, 18 months of ADT. Obviously, left my wife and myself without our usual level of intimacy. Your encouragement and counsel has been very helpful in our journey to a new place, a very satisfying one. Without you, it wouldn’t have happened. So, please be back soon - to help others regain an important part of life. Many Thanks!!!
Riccardo
Thank you for your kind and positive message, Riccardo! I am delighted to hear you and your wife have found a new and satisfying pleasure landscape together!!
Thank you, Victoria. A big part of penile rehabilitation for us is finding new ways to bring excitement into our relationship. After 36 years of marriage, our sex life was becoming very routine and less exciting. I like what you say about finding ways to snack before the main course. Erections are certainly not as spontaneous as before my prostatectomy and require me to put in a lot more time and effort on romance, intimacy, and foreplay. It's not like the old days, when all I needed to hear were the words, "Come and get it!" However, as a result, our love is stronger than ever, and we have rediscovered the passion of our youth. And by chance, the erection fails, pleasure still awaits us both.
Thank you so much for sharing your story Gogs - that is wonderful to hear that through big changes your love has come out stronger than ever. I am so looking forward to reading more about this in your book!
@@ATouchySubject Your videos are awesome Victoria, and they will help many men and their partners. I'm not thankful for my prostate cancer, but I'm thankful for what I have learned from it. My wife and I have never been closer, and we now communicate on a much deeper level. I learned more about my wife in the time following my prostatectomy, then I did in the 36 years of our marriage. Her hopes, dreams, desires, interests, and sexual fantasies. We feel blessed, and love each other very much.Thanks again, and I'm looking forward to your feedback on my book.
Thank you, Victoria! Two comments: 1. Unfortunately, not all husbands and wives pull together and have (or build) the closeness necessary for these strategies to work. But 2. These ideas are, I believe, compatible with the teachings of the Catholic Church, which I have found is rather unsympathetic to solo penile rehabilitation. But if a married couple is working on it together, it’s a man and wife doing what God intended.
Again, thank you for continuing to work with a community that is largely ignored by the world and even the medical profession!
Thank you for your excellent comments Craig - and that is a very important point you raise that solo penile rehabilitation can be in-congruent with some peoples value/belief systems. I hope that in the future every penile rehabilitation program is co-created with the person and partnership (if the partner wants to be involved) taking into account their values and lifestyle as well as recovery goals.
Find a new religion.
Excellent video and information around reconnecting with your partner. A transition to a new experience of sexual encounters, and communication is important especially in renegotiating being intimate. And making if fun , so if both home and no adult children at home, have an "Afternoon delight", saying- "Are you up for it this arvo:) and making it playful. And the wonderful post sleep is always great:).
Great comment Alan! I hope your words inspire couples all over the world to have some 'Afternoon Delight' - and what a good strategy to get some restful oxytocin-filled nap time in too - so many health benefits at once :)
Penile rehab...is a bit difficult with urine leakage. Please discuss.
Hi Andy, we have a resource for this! Hope this helps:
ua-cam.com/video/Xl_hLKWRGGg/v-deo.html
Sorry but my wife took a lover and left the relationship as her best input to my rehab. Guess how that feels.
Hi David, we are very sorry to hear this, please know that you are not alone. You may find these resources helpful during these challenging time: 1. Support Groups: www.atouchysubject.com/blog/online-support-groups-prostate-cancer where you can hear how other men deal with your relatable feelings around sexual recovery post-surgery.
2. It can sometimes also help to hear how other men recovered/are managing life in a similar situation via podcast stories here: rshealth.com.au/how-to-listen-to-the-penis-project-podcast/
I hope this helps.
We are on the verge of breaking up because of ED, it’s not in his brain anymore. He doesn’t want to even think about any other item into the bedroom or try anything because I think we do not know anything about ED aids. We have only had penis in vagina sex, so what other things and how to use these other things you speak of? Yes, we are older. Porn is off the table.
Hi Janet, thanks for reaching out.
Firstly, rest assured that you are not alone in your experience, many partnerships face similar challenges as yourself when going through prostate cancer treatment.
I would love to direct you to a resource we have created for partners, which includes links to some support groups that you might find helpful for support and ideas: www.atouchysubject.com/blog/resources-for-partners-life-post-prostate-surgery
We hope this helps.