the pressure to get well...get back to work..etc to meet friends etc money worries as well as all the mental physical issues ....it can be too much to bear
This is so relevant and incredibly frustrating. I was getting back on track from the lowest place, been in therapy for awhile, working so hard to improve my life and mental health, and improve as efficiently as possible. Only to suddenly get depersonalization. My brain is breaking from the stress. And now I learned I’m going to be out of a job. I was so close to getting it together and it’s all falling apart again. So difficult to be patient when it feels like everything just collapses as it’s getting better. I wanted to finally start dating again and build my future. Now it feels like I can’t quite do that.
If all he mentioned was sleep each time, he would be right. You got to get the sleep down, The many bad decisions I made on 4 hours of sleep is endless.😮, then exercise 🏋️♂️ and eating good food. These 3 have kept my depression at bay.❤👍
Thank you. I’ve been watching most of your videos and this one is by far, the best. I’ve been told to cheer up, to leave it with God, etc. Being a Christian has made the last statement difficult because I know it takes much more than that. Major depressive disorder isn’t something I can merely “bounce back from.” Those who haven’t been where I am have no clue. Pretending they do is unacceptable. So thank you again. I didn’t intend this to be so long.
I've been depressed and in therapy for my entire adult life. I've been trying to make positive changes for 20 years. Nothing has helped. I've stuck with things for years and never had any improvement. I don't have any patience left.
@@mel3256that sounds like a bad advice but that actually helps at least a bit. Not in a sense of "do things for others even though you had plans for yourself or even though you don't want to" but it's the "focus more on others" .. like trying (im not sure yet if forcing this works long term) to be more interested in others, ask how their doing, don't compare it with yourself, just be happy for others. This helps me to be more social and to actually draw a bit energy from it while used to be really energy draining. I really have to focus on it though:D like active listening and stuff like that. And Helping others, then I at least have an argument about why I am at least a bit valuable.. unfortunately the Argument "im human so im valuable simply by being alive" doesn't count for me, it counts for others, others don't have to contribute to society in order for me to see value in them, but for myself... idk how to change that it's so deeply engrained:D
That thing you said about healthy things raising the average, but there still being swings, that's very close to how I have experienced it. I have had a tendency to go down into some dark places from time to time. But through the last decade or so I have been exercising pretty regularly. And one, I noticed that since I started doing that, the depths that I went to were not quite as deep; and two, if I take a break from the exercise for a couple of weeks to a month, I pretty quickly feel my mental health declining. So while exercise for me is not a 'fix', I do feel good doing it, and I do feel good afterward, and it does level me out quite a bit. So I can only recommend. The way I found to stick with it was to make it a social obligation with other people. That way, I'm not only going for myself, I'm also going to meet other people's expectations. That gets me out the door.
This is not really on the topic of this video, but I just wanted to say that your videos have been really helpful. The fact that you have both theoretical and personal experience and that you know how to really combine them is so good. It feels like almost every video actually gives me some new perspectives on things. I did also want to sneakily make a suggestion for a topic. The one thing I haven‘t seen you talk about a lot, but that I think is by far the most important factor for mental health recovery and just growing as a person in general, is to find and *build* a community of people that accompany you on your journey. With community I mean more than a friend group. I mean a larger space of people that you move in that gives you a safety net and that your friendships live in. A community that is unified by their struggles in live and their fight against them. Also if you make some personal mental health progress, the best way to secure that progress is to engrain it into that community. When you have such a community you will notice how your own progress is helping other people and even better how together you can turn this fight you share into a power that you really did not think was ever possible. That was a lot longer than I wanted it to be, but I‘d be really interested in your thoughts on this topic. Edit: What makes this so sad, is that I believe humans are fundamentally made for such a space, but that our modern (capitalist) society makes such communities extremely rare.
@ I‘m sorry to tell you, but you live in a world and maybe just maybe the fact that almost everyone has mental health issues should actually have some political implications. The way we feel is not just human nature and mental illness is not just genetics. Capitalism has provably eliminated 3rd places (something like a community center or a park where you regularily meet new and old people, that is not your home and not your workspace or school) almost completely. And that changes how you feel. People sitting in their rooms all day and developing depression is not just their fault. It is also not just a law of nature that some people just have a life that sucks. There are always societal reasons for someones struggle and so the fight against them has to be societal, i.e. political, to some degree. You rejecting the political aspects of mental health is frankly invalidating invalidating everyone whose mental health issues are actually grounded in reality. And the thing is, they always are. I‘m sorry for getting a bit angry, but the sentiment that mental health could ever be separated from politics is probably the one thing that makes me the angriest. That really is just a lie to keep you from actually looking up and demanding a change from the billionaire profiting from your f***ed up life. Just helping the people around you with their struggles is already political. Anyways I hope your life is not actually so bad and I wish you only the best. (Unless you own a billion dollars) Edit: you could say the politics have been inserted into Dr. Eilers‘ talks the moment that someone developed mental health issues for an unjust reason
@@li__on6403i agree with you! Thanks for laying it out so clearly. The loss of 3rd places is a massive factor in the loneliness of many people who develop depression as a consequence
Wow how is it that exactly what I need comes to me exactly when I need it. Many many thanks from an American in the Netherlands. Thank you so much for your willingness to share your insights.. full of gratitude. Committed to slow and steady wins the race because... Well it's not a race!
I like what you said, it is not a race. From my POV, it is a journey and slow and steady is the way to continue on the journey for the long haul and not burn out.
Wanted to let you know that your video on turning around negative self talk was very helpful to me. I am more consistently coaching myself better and being kinder to myself. I was awful to myself for probably 18 months and I feel like I am finally turning the corner.
Thank you for this video. I've found all of it to be true in my own journey, as well. It's why I've been in my DBT-based group therapy program (STEPPS and then Stairways) since the fall of 2019, and continue to stay in it. In the last 6 months, I've felt like I went from level ground to running downhill, and it's an amazing feeling! And absolutely, I want to keep going! Healing is addictive, once you start seeing big results. You just have to keep going, making those small, sustainable changes and being patient with the process.
I moved to a new place and started walking to to train station, 20 minute walk, 2 days a week, sometimes three. To get to appointments. I managed to do it for over half a year. I even lost weight. And I still didn't manage to keep it up. Taking the car now.
This is gold! Pick a few things and stick with them, consistently, and for a good amount of time, to see results. So simple, but a challenge to do. I'm one of those people who jump ship when something isn't working fast enough, and I end up with no real progress or worse off than I was before. I think you said in another video that people who say that they have tried everything and nothing works are those who never stick with something long enough for it to work. And, that the things that work are the simple things people have been touting for ages, i.e. sleep, good nutrition, exercise, etc. I'm finally coming around to accepting this (there are no magic bullets, and I don't have to reinvent the wheel!). My picks are mindfulness, sleep, exercise, nutrition, and keeping my living space tidy. Starting with small steps and changes that fit me first and committing to consistency over the long haul. The key is patience with yourself and the process. Spot on, Dr. Scott! Your videos are so helpful! Thank you!!
I either cant sleep most night or sleep through day.. I am already eating healthy but feeling really depressed. And its January.. Idk how ill get drivers license I get so much anxiety and am scared ill get sick again. Staying inside feels most safe to me..
Just do your best ...lots of us are in a similar situation. This morning i pretty much had to force myself to get up and get back to my regular routine after isolating all weekend. But you do a get a sense of pride when u force yourself to put yourself out there. Pulling for you ...the winter months are the toughest for me. January is cold and dark and here in February my mom and dad passed away 10 years apart in 2013 and 2023 so Feb is obviously a tough month.
I am begging you: do not give in. If you never force yourself to do anything that makes you uncomfortable, your world will be very small. I was so anxious when I got my first job, for the first week I was quietly ducking into the bathroom to throw up. But in time, you will gain confidence. I love the saying, "get comfortable with being uncomfortable." You have to tell yourself, I won't die. When I was in my early 20s, I developed a bit of agoraphobia also. I would turn red and start to hyperventilate in the supermarket. I pretty much treated myself by doing this: I wrote a list with 12 or 13 things on it. I would write them in order of where they were in the supermarket, so I could get in and out in ten mins. or so. One day, I found myself standing in the aisle reading a label, not rushing to get out. I realized: I am not panicky anymore. Make "I can do hard things" your mantra. I was also so anxious about getting my license. Remember that although it sucks to spend so much $ on it, you can flunk and take that damn test as many times as you need to! So don't worry one bit about flunking. Also: one of my goals this year is fixing my sleep schedule. I go to bed at 3 am and get up at noon, ugh!! But I know I can do this.
My family is unstable. My mom got mad and I did too at 10 pm.. I started raging my dad came home late again he drank alcohol or something. Now they are arguing. Its late again. I will never forget the pain I went through. I also wont forget how most people left me in pain and picked on me. I have rage problems and depression. I cant change or idk how to. I have to stay with them for noow
I've had, so far, 3 courses of cbt and a course of transactional analysis group therapy for my chronic anxiety disorder. My 2nd counsellor asked me "why aren't you doing the things that keep you feeling better?" Because I'm depressed and riddled with anxiety and struggling with it alone. If I could fix myself, I wouldn't be here.
Your videos are making such a difference to my mental health. You really understand the issues involved and your approach is refreshing. Thank you for what you do and keep doing it.
Mine are a little different. I can’t exercise much at all due to health reasons. I try to eat right and get restful sleep. I also immerse myself in praying and studying my Bible, and attending church when able. I’m also an artist which is helpful.
You could give the same exact talk to people who try content creation. If they dont see success right away theyre out. As you know it takes time and consistency. I'm preaching to myself.
I don't know what to do i have been in my bed for about 6 years and I have tried. different kinds of medicine and nothing seems to be working I don't have the desire to do anything i don't even know when the last time I took a shower i just lay in my bed and watch movies are i search for things to try and help me get out of this i hate it im very creative and used to paint and make things but I lost the will to do anything but my brain never stops thinking of things i want to do i just can't make myself get out of bed and start doing anything i try once in awhile to get up and try to start cleaning but I get overwhelmed after just a few minutes and I get right back in my bed and im. So tired of being this way i just don't care what happens anymore im about to be 56 and I been living this way so long trying to find a fix and I just give up on everything I barely cry anymore because I just don't care what happens to me anymore and my son just says im lazy which i have never been lazy i use to clean over stuff i already cleaned and as I don't even know what it's like to be happy i don't even remember what that feels like I sleep but not for a long time without waking up because my brain won't shut up im disabled and don't get much money it's not even enough to pay all my bills so I'm always behind and my son stays here and he makes me worse because he's always putting me down every single day and I just can't deal with it anymore i need serve serious help but I don't even have the will to do anything i pay my bills over the phone i go to my drs once in awhile but I cancel them alot because i can't get out of my bed much less go outside
The insurance companies are only paying for 6-ish sessions due to the evidence based flavors of CBT. CBT may be nice but 6 to 8 sessions is barely enough to get to know and trust a therapist much less work on anything of substance.
Im in the progress and i really have to keep telling me its allright. I turned the critical voice in my head of or at least i try to.. but sometimes I really wonder if im sugarcoating it and its actually not good :D I have an alarm that says in the morning "wake up sleepy head, riiiise and shine" and its so much better than the firm "how long are you going to sleep? WAKE UP!" From my former favourite character. I tried to go back to it but nope.. the gentle one is definitly causing me to be more productive and happy throuhout the day :D
oof, hits close to home. I actually have implemented small gradual changes that have now caused me to become way healthier n lose weight . I didn't even realise how my small efforts compounded into this because i was doing things that aligned with my love for cooking n sports. it was the same for having social life. Yet, when it comes to other areas of life like career and romantic relationships, i struggle and just tune out this philosophy in favor of quick 180s. nothing sticks and i fall into the cycle of resolutions and disappointments even when i achieve things.
I'm 21, I've been struggling with depression for more than 3 years. In 2024 I started having a healthy diet (trying to slowly gain weight bcs I'm a stickman), and I've been running and practising callisthenics with a friend two times a week for about 6 months. My sleep schedule is improving a bit but I'm still struggling with that (mostly because of the fear of waking up and having to live through the next day) I'm going out with friends, I keep trying to do as much as I possibly can at my own pace, but no matter what every time the dark clouds keep coming back. No matter how hard I try to connect with others, to feel content with myself, to appreciate the little things life is giving me, it just doesn't work. I really want to know what should I do to recover from this 😭
Be patient and don't give up. I've been struggling with depression for 30 years or so and will probably never get rid of that condition for the rest of my life. But it gets better over time if you don't give up and keep going. I have my own family and kids now and they keep me alive. Most days are all right. Some are even really enjoyable. Some suck. But it's probably sustainable and worth sticking with it for a few more decades. Maybe you're luckier than me and can actually overcome it, but i guess what i'm trying to say is - you can also learn to live with it and have a somewhat normal life. You learn to appreciate the small things. I wish you the best.
Are you seeing a counselor or psychiatrist? Some people with severe depression really do need medication while they're building healthier habits. Some people never do get off the medication, but it's just like a chronic health problem. There's no shame in needing a med for your physical health; neither is there shame for needing a med for your mental health.
Congratulations on getting the healthy diet and fitness into your life. The sleep schedule progress as well. Please give it all some more time, I know 6 months may seem long, but you have years ahead of you to see improvement. Dr. Scott has videos, and a pdf download on tips for improving sleep, if you haven't already, check them out. Best of luck to you, you are making progress!
21 too here,suffering from about 4 years plus OCD. Man now i'm so much better than how i was one year ago and even worse,2-3years ago.Still have much to improve but honestly i feel safe finally,so really dont worry,i'm sure you will be okay.Take your time,listen and treat yourself as a good friend would.Keep the contact with your inner self and slowly you will be your biggest support.
I practice transcendental meditation. It helps to slowly create strength and reduce stress in the background in an ongoing way. Gradually becoming more strengthened then helps me to take in Dr. Scott's skilled encouragements into my brain. (p.s. There is a big centre in Fairfield, Iowa.)
The only worthwhile meditation is to problem solve or to connect to karra, Donna Douglas or Heather O'Rourke or even Slackjaw, of she wants to stop by.
Has anyone ever been driven insane? I try to explain but no one understands or cares. My mom was pushed to insanity after the VA butchered my stepdad and a nursing home finished him off. She had a false belief for 6 years day and night that she signed her house over to the VA hospital. There was never any justice. She went to her worthless lawyer about 10 times a month for 6 years!!! (Except the pandemic for a year but called him). Her life was miserable and so was mine. Then she died from many things but the stress and worry. Then I went insane. Felt like after a near miss car accident... that horrible fight or flight but it never went away. Then a few months later her house was destroyed. I really went insane. It’s like you’re going to pass out but don’t and it stays that way for months. Like a delirious stupor.
What if I am in a catch 22? I sleep badly because my arms get num, so I wake up every hour and have to turn. It will not get better until I lose a significant amount of weight, around 15 kilos. But I can't brink myself to excercise or eat less because I am stone dead tired all day.
For a very short period of time. It actually was never intended to be a long-term medication. It's meant to get you out of a funk and then you get off of it.
Lexapro was the very first antidepressant I tried, and it worked gloriously for around 2 years, then seemed to stop. (Nothing I've tried since then worked so well.) Looking back, I feel like I was maybe hypomanic, b/c my mood seemed "too good," but it was so great to feel that black cloud lift off of me for a while. BUT.... Lexapro is hard to go off of. I didn't have it too bad: weird feeling of 'brain zaps' for a week or so.
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the pressure to get well...get back to work..etc to meet friends etc money worries as well as all the mental physical issues ....it can be too much to bear
This is so relevant and incredibly frustrating. I was getting back on track from the lowest place, been in therapy for awhile, working so hard to improve my life and mental health, and improve as efficiently as possible. Only to suddenly get depersonalization. My brain is breaking from the stress. And now I learned I’m going to be out of a job. I was so close to getting it together and it’s all falling apart again. So difficult to be patient when it feels like everything just collapses as it’s getting better. I wanted to finally start dating again and build my future. Now it feels like I can’t quite do that.
I find that staying consistent is vital to making progress. Just one thing done per day will equal about 30 things done in a month.
As my therapist wisely said, a drop in the bucket is still a drop more than you had yesterday
If all he mentioned was sleep each time, he would be right. You got to get the sleep down, The many bad decisions I made on 4 hours of sleep is endless.😮, then exercise 🏋️♂️ and eating good food. These 3 have kept my depression at bay.❤👍
Thank you. I’ve been watching most of your videos and this one is by far, the best. I’ve been told to cheer up, to leave it with God, etc. Being a Christian has made the last statement difficult because I know it takes much more than that. Major depressive disorder isn’t something I can merely “bounce back from.” Those who haven’t been where I am have no clue. Pretending they do is unacceptable. So thank you again. I didn’t intend this to be so long.
Religion is a mental illness.
I've been depressed and in therapy for my entire adult life. I've been trying to make positive changes for 20 years. Nothing has helped. I've stuck with things for years and never had any improvement. I don't have any patience left.
I was thinking that yesterday-nothing really helps lol fuck
Please give yourself another chance;
You have the ability to help yourself.
Stop focusing on yourself. Get out of your head by doing things for others
@@mel3256that sounds like a bad advice but that actually helps at least a bit. Not in a sense of "do things for others even though you had plans for yourself or even though you don't want to" but it's the "focus more on others" .. like trying (im not sure yet if forcing this works long term) to be more interested in others, ask how their doing, don't compare it with yourself, just be happy for others. This helps me to be more social and to actually draw a bit energy from it while used to be really energy draining.
I really have to focus on it though:D like active listening and stuff like that.
And Helping others, then I at least have an argument about why I am at least a bit valuable.. unfortunately the Argument "im human so im valuable simply by being alive" doesn't count for me, it counts for others, others don't have to contribute to society in order for me to see value in them, but for myself... idk how to change that it's so deeply engrained:D
A Ph.d level psychologist changed my life. Anything under that didnt help me.
That thing you said about healthy things raising the average, but there still being swings, that's very close to how I have experienced it. I have had a tendency to go down into some dark places from time to time. But through the last decade or so I have been exercising pretty regularly. And one, I noticed that since I started doing that, the depths that I went to were not quite as deep; and two, if I take a break from the exercise for a couple of weeks to a month, I pretty quickly feel my mental health declining. So while exercise for me is not a 'fix', I do feel good doing it, and I do feel good afterward, and it does level me out quite a bit. So I can only recommend.
The way I found to stick with it was to make it a social obligation with other people. That way, I'm not only going for myself, I'm also going to meet other people's expectations. That gets me out the door.
This is not really on the topic of this video, but I just wanted to say that your videos have been really helpful. The fact that you have both theoretical and personal experience and that you know how to really combine them is so good. It feels like almost every video actually gives me some new perspectives on things.
I did also want to sneakily make a suggestion for a topic. The one thing I haven‘t seen you talk about a lot, but that I think is by far the most important factor for mental health recovery and just growing as a person in general, is to find and *build* a community of people that accompany you on your journey. With community I mean more than a friend group. I mean a larger space of people that you move in that gives you a safety net and that your friendships live in. A community that is unified by their struggles in live and their fight against them.
Also if you make some personal mental health progress, the best way to secure that progress is to engrain it into that community. When you have such a community you will notice how your own progress is helping other people and even better how together you can turn this fight you share into a power that you really did not think was ever possible.
That was a lot longer than I wanted it to be, but I‘d be really interested in your thoughts on this topic.
Edit: What makes this so sad, is that I believe humans are fundamentally made for such a space, but that our modern (capitalist) society makes such communities extremely rare.
Please don't insert politics into Dr. Eilers' talks.
@ I‘m sorry to tell you, but you live in a world and maybe just maybe the fact that almost everyone has mental health issues should actually have some political implications.
The way we feel is not just human nature and mental illness is not just genetics. Capitalism has provably eliminated 3rd places (something like a community center or a park where you regularily meet new and old people, that is not your home and not your workspace or school) almost completely. And that changes how you feel. People sitting in their rooms all day and developing depression is not just their fault. It is also not just a law of nature that some people just have a life that sucks. There are always societal reasons for someones struggle and so the fight against them has to be societal, i.e. political, to some degree.
You rejecting the political aspects of mental health is frankly invalidating invalidating everyone whose mental health issues are actually grounded in reality. And the thing is, they always are.
I‘m sorry for getting a bit angry, but the sentiment that mental health could ever be separated from politics is probably the one thing that makes me the angriest.
That really is just a lie to keep you from actually looking up and demanding a change from the billionaire profiting from your f***ed up life. Just helping the people around you with their struggles is already political.
Anyways I hope your life is not actually so bad and I wish you only the best. (Unless you own a billion dollars)
Edit: you could say the politics have been inserted into Dr. Eilers‘ talks the moment that someone developed mental health issues for an unjust reason
I think better social connections are crucial to mental health as well.
@@li__on6403i agree with you! Thanks for laying it out so clearly. The loss of 3rd places is a massive factor in the loneliness of many people who develop depression as a consequence
Wow how is it that exactly what I need comes to me exactly when I need it. Many many thanks from an American in the Netherlands. Thank you so much for your willingness to share your insights.. full of gratitude. Committed to slow and steady wins the race because... Well it's not a race!
I like what you said, it is not a race. From my POV, it is a journey and slow and steady is the way to continue on the journey for the long haul and not burn out.
This really hit home. The reality of the recovery process can be a powerful deterrent to seeking out help because of unrealistic expectations.
Wanted to let you know that your video on turning around negative self talk was very helpful to me. I am more consistently coaching myself better and being kinder to myself. I was awful to myself for probably 18 months and I feel like I am finally turning the corner.
Thank you for this video. I've found all of it to be true in my own journey, as well. It's why I've been in my DBT-based group therapy program (STEPPS and then Stairways) since the fall of 2019, and continue to stay in it. In the last 6 months, I've felt like I went from level ground to running downhill, and it's an amazing feeling! And absolutely, I want to keep going! Healing is addictive, once you start seeing big results. You just have to keep going, making those small, sustainable changes and being patient with the process.
Thank You for the video, Dr. Scott!!!!!!
Thank you Dr Scott! Really needed to hear this today. 🙏
escapism
they say there is no escape
only resolving past issues by making new choices
and starting the process over again and again
I moved to a new place and started walking to to train station, 20 minute walk, 2 days a week, sometimes three. To get to appointments. I managed to do it for over half a year. I even lost weight. And I still didn't manage to keep it up. Taking the car now.
This is gold! Pick a few things and stick with them, consistently, and for a good amount of time, to see results. So simple, but a challenge to do. I'm one of those people who jump ship when something isn't working fast enough, and I end up with no real progress or worse off than I was before. I think you said in another video that people who say that they have tried everything and nothing works are those who never stick with something long enough for it to work. And, that the things that work are the simple things people have been touting for ages, i.e. sleep, good nutrition, exercise, etc. I'm finally coming around to accepting this (there are no magic bullets, and I don't have to reinvent the wheel!). My picks are mindfulness, sleep, exercise, nutrition, and keeping my living space tidy. Starting with small steps and changes that fit me first and committing to consistency over the long haul. The key is patience with yourself and the process. Spot on, Dr. Scott! Your videos are so helpful! Thank you!!
I either cant sleep most night or sleep through day.. I am already eating healthy but feeling really depressed. And its January.. Idk how ill get drivers license I get so much anxiety and am scared ill get sick again. Staying inside feels most safe to me..
Just do your best ...lots of us are in a similar situation. This morning i pretty much had to force myself to get up and get back to my regular routine after isolating all weekend. But you do a get a sense of pride when u force yourself to put yourself out there. Pulling for you ...the winter months are the toughest for me. January is cold and dark and here in February my mom and dad passed away 10 years apart in 2013 and 2023 so Feb is obviously a tough month.
I am begging you: do not give in. If you never force yourself to do anything that makes you uncomfortable, your world will be very small. I was so anxious when I got my first job, for the first week I was quietly ducking into the bathroom to throw up. But in time, you will gain confidence. I love the saying, "get comfortable with being uncomfortable." You have to tell yourself, I won't die. When I was in my early 20s, I developed a bit of agoraphobia also. I would turn red and start to hyperventilate in the supermarket. I pretty much treated myself by doing this: I wrote a list with 12 or 13 things on it. I would write them in order of where they were in the supermarket, so I could get in and out in ten mins. or so. One day, I found myself standing in the aisle reading a label, not rushing to get out. I realized: I am not panicky anymore. Make "I can do hard things" your mantra. I was also so anxious about getting my license. Remember that although it sucks to spend so much $ on it, you can flunk and take that damn test as many times as you need to! So don't worry one bit about flunking. Also: one of my goals this year is fixing my sleep schedule. I go to bed at 3 am and get up at noon, ugh!! But I know I can do this.
Suplement vitamin D 2000iu during winter Times.
Im so sorry this happened. I feel guilty for complaining now
My family is unstable. My mom got mad and I did too at 10 pm.. I started raging my dad came home late again he drank alcohol or something. Now they are arguing. Its late again. I will never forget the pain I went through. I also wont forget how most people left me in pain and picked on me. I have rage problems and depression. I cant change or idk how to. I have to stay with them for noow
These videos are so helpful. I am learning a lot, and adjusting my expectations and attitude in a helpful way.
I've had, so far, 3 courses of cbt and a course of transactional analysis group therapy for my chronic anxiety disorder. My 2nd counsellor asked me "why aren't you doing the things that keep you feeling better?"
Because I'm depressed and riddled with anxiety and struggling with it alone. If I could fix myself, I wouldn't be here.
Your videos are making such a difference to my mental health. You really understand the issues involved and your approach is refreshing. Thank you for what you do and keep doing it.
My four goals for better mental health
1. Exercise
2. Improved Sleep Pattern
3. Improved diet choices
4. Dont isolate
Sounds good! Lets gooo my dude!
Mine are a little different. I can’t exercise much at all due to health reasons. I try to eat right and get restful sleep. I also immerse myself in praying and studying my Bible, and attending church when able. I’m also an artist which is helpful.
@gailreineke7186 going to church and attending bible study is a really good idea ... it will def help with the social component we all need 👍
Same, friend. Simple and powerful.
@@johngallagher72 going to church to waste your money and be criticized and bullied by a lying preacher?
You could give the same exact talk to people who try content creation. If they dont see success right away theyre out. As you know it takes time and consistency. I'm preaching to myself.
I don't know what to do i have been in my bed for about 6 years and I have tried. different kinds of medicine and nothing seems to be working I don't have the desire to do anything i don't even know when the last time I took a shower i just lay in my bed and watch movies are i search for things to try and help me get out of this i hate it im very creative and used to paint and make things but I lost the will to do anything but my brain never stops thinking of things i want to do i just can't make myself get out of bed and start doing anything i try once in awhile to get up and try to start cleaning but I get overwhelmed after just a few minutes and I get right back in my bed and im. So tired of being this way i just don't care what happens anymore im about to be 56 and I been living this way so long trying to find a fix and I just give up on everything I barely cry anymore because I just don't care what happens to me anymore and my son just says im lazy which i have never been lazy i use to clean over stuff i already cleaned and as I don't even know what it's like to be happy i don't even remember what that feels like I sleep but not for a long time without waking up because my brain won't shut up im disabled and don't get much money it's not even enough to pay all my bills so I'm always behind and my son stays here and he makes me worse because he's always putting me down every single day and I just can't deal with it anymore i need serve serious help but I don't even have the will to do anything i pay my bills over the phone i go to my drs once in awhile but I cancel them alot because i can't get out of my bed much less go outside
Your video is very helpful, as always!👍👍
Excellent video. Very reassuring. Patience is key to good mental health. Thank you Dr. Scott!
As always, thanks, Doc! You give good advice. Babysteps for the win! 😄
The insurance companies are only paying for 6-ish sessions due to the evidence based flavors of CBT. CBT may be nice but 6 to 8 sessions is barely enough to get to know and trust a therapist much less work on anything of substance.
Im in the progress and i really have to keep telling me its allright. I turned the critical voice in my head of or at least i try to.. but sometimes I really wonder if im sugarcoating it and its actually not good :D
I have an alarm that says in the morning "wake up sleepy head, riiiise and shine" and its so much better than the firm "how long are you going to sleep? WAKE UP!" From my former favourite character. I tried to go back to it but nope.. the gentle one is definitly causing me to be more productive and happy throuhout the day :D
oof, hits close to home. I actually have implemented small gradual changes that have now caused me to become way healthier n lose weight . I didn't even realise how my small efforts compounded into this because i was doing things that aligned with my love for cooking n sports. it was the same for having social life. Yet, when it comes to other areas of life like career and romantic relationships, i struggle and just tune out this philosophy in favor of quick 180s. nothing sticks and i fall into the cycle of resolutions and disappointments even when i achieve things.
You’re a hero Dr’scott
You explain things so easy for me to understand
Thank you
i have severe apathy mdd ptsd anxiety ocd and adhd even tho im smart and capable life feels impossible at this point hope it gets better
I'm 21, I've been struggling with depression for more than 3 years.
In 2024 I started having a healthy diet (trying to slowly gain weight bcs I'm a stickman), and I've been running and practising callisthenics with a friend two times a week for about 6 months.
My sleep schedule is improving a bit but I'm still struggling with that (mostly because of the fear of waking up and having to live through the next day)
I'm going out with friends, I keep trying to do as much as I possibly can at my own pace, but no matter what every time the dark clouds keep coming back.
No matter how hard I try to connect with others, to feel content with myself, to appreciate the little things life is giving me, it just doesn't work.
I really want to know what should I do to recover from this 😭
Be patient and don't give up. I've been struggling with depression for 30 years or so and will probably never get rid of that condition for the rest of my life. But it gets better over time if you don't give up and keep going. I have my own family and kids now and they keep me alive. Most days are all right. Some are even really enjoyable. Some suck. But it's probably sustainable and worth sticking with it for a few more decades.
Maybe you're luckier than me and can actually overcome it, but i guess what i'm trying to say is - you can also learn to live with it and have a somewhat normal life. You learn to appreciate the small things.
I wish you the best.
Are you seeing a counselor or psychiatrist? Some people with severe depression really do need medication while they're building healthier habits. Some people never do get off the medication, but it's just like a chronic health problem. There's no shame in needing a med for your physical health; neither is there shame for needing a med for your mental health.
@@martinkunz7155 Well-done!
Please stay well.
Congratulations on getting the healthy diet and fitness into your life. The sleep schedule progress as well. Please give it all some more time, I know 6 months may seem long, but you have years ahead of you to see improvement. Dr. Scott has videos, and a pdf download on tips for improving sleep, if you haven't already, check them out. Best of luck to you, you are making progress!
21 too here,suffering from about 4 years plus OCD. Man now i'm so much better than how i was one year ago and even worse,2-3years ago.Still have much to improve but honestly i feel safe finally,so really dont worry,i'm sure you will be okay.Take your time,listen and treat yourself as a good friend would.Keep the contact with your inner self and slowly you will be your biggest support.
I miss the pictures on your wall. They were interesting
I’m in a transition period with my studio 😂 it will look more interesting soon!
Great advice dude!
I practice transcendental meditation. It helps to slowly create strength and reduce stress in the background in an ongoing way. Gradually becoming more strengthened then helps me to take in Dr. Scott's skilled encouragements into my brain. (p.s. There is a big centre in Fairfield, Iowa.)
I started practicing meditation to get myself to sleep. It has really helped.
The only worthwhile meditation is to problem solve or to connect to karra, Donna Douglas or Heather O'Rourke or even Slackjaw, of she wants to stop by.
Has anyone ever been driven insane? I try to explain but no one understands or cares. My mom was pushed to insanity after the VA butchered my stepdad and a nursing home finished him off. She had a false belief for 6 years day and night that she signed her house over to the VA hospital. There was never any justice. She went to her worthless lawyer about 10 times a month for 6 years!!! (Except the pandemic for a year but called him). Her life was miserable and so was mine. Then she died from many things but the stress and worry. Then I went insane. Felt like after a near miss car accident... that horrible fight or flight but it never went away. Then a few months later her house was destroyed. I really went insane. It’s like you’re going to pass out but don’t and it stays that way for months. Like a delirious stupor.
I've never found anything easy or quick on the search for relief.
What if I am in a catch 22? I sleep badly because my arms get num, so I wake up every hour and have to turn. It will not get better until I lose a significant amount of weight, around 15 kilos. But I can't brink myself to excercise or eat less because I am stone dead tired all day.
I need this approach to time and expectation with regards to recovering from ptsd
Thank you Dr. Eilers
aaaaaaaaaahhhh the background is the same room at a different angle
It takes 100 days of daily practice to make a new habit. Tying the new habit to an old one is the secret how to end up with long rituals lol😂
Has lexapro helped anyone?
For a very short period of time. It actually was never intended to be a long-term medication. It's meant to get you out of a funk and then you get off of it.
Lexapro was the very first antidepressant I tried, and it worked gloriously for around 2 years, then seemed to stop. (Nothing I've tried since then worked so well.) Looking back, I feel like I was maybe hypomanic, b/c my mood seemed "too good," but it was so great to feel that black cloud lift off of me for a while. BUT.... Lexapro is hard to go off of. I didn't have it too bad: weird feeling of 'brain zaps' for a week or so.
It didn't help me. I really gave it a good try. I was on it for a year, and it was very hard to wean off of it. Best of luck to you❤
@@snu3877I had a similar experience to you. It worked great for me for several years, but it conked out and I’ve been in a pit since.
Lexapro did not help me
it might work for you..that was just my experience ♥
Everyone is different. It worked ok for me. But there are many different antidepressants out there.
@@Catlily5all are trial and error. There is no scientific explanation for why A works for one and not for another.
I needed help with serious problems and NO ONE CARES.
Few care. That's how "society" is. There are still some nice folks around though.
The only thing that matters is work.
So you think I can’t do it myself? Challenge accepted.
He didn't say that
If they self help they will self help themselves into what they know best to help themselves in. And that's disaster.
You spend half your life in abuse and struggles, it can't be fixed in a week. Unless you're rich. But the rich don't have mental illness.
Who says the rich don't? 🤷🏻♂️
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What does a fake god do?
Religion is a mental illness.