When My Rapist Showed Up In "People You May Know"
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- Опубліковано 7 вер 2024
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I like how they chose a man to tell his story, not only women are raped.
Tasha Robinson That's because it *actually* *happened* *to* *him*.
Tasha Robinson He has been performing this piece for a while. You could find one of him performing it to an audience, if you want. It's called "People You May Know."
EiferBrennan I know.
Katy Oh that's awesome, I'll check it out :)
He didn't just tell he experienced it.
The fact that i assumed this video was about a woman that had been raped quite horribly disgusts me, thank you for putting yourself out there and letting people know that boys and men can be victims of sexual harassment as well.
It shouldn't disgust you. You assume it because most of the stories we hear are about women. Theres nothing to be ashamed of
I felt the same I don't know why but I was shocked a little when I saw a male and I know that they can be raped too it's just I've never really heard about it and this is so powerful wow
Craig Barrasso The first thought you have is what society taught you, the second is what you actually think...
Craig Barrasso i thought exactly the same thing, that this guy was speaking for a woman, I feel ashamed that that's what first came to mind.
Same here, no matter how much I am for sex equality, it upsets just everytime I see a news headline about sexual abuse, I always assume it's female
"why didnt you fight back?" "why didnt you leave?" "well you were drunk, so..." "why didnt you call the cops?" "weren't you guys dating though?" "Well he's my friend." "You just want attention." I love the victim shaming I have received. I have been raped, sexually assaulted, and molested multiple times now. starting at the age of 3. Last time I went to the police nothing happened. My biggest question is WHY.
+Lady Guymon
Ah, that's the cruelty of the world. I can't do anything, but here, have a hug. Stay strong..
Hey thanks :)
Lady Guymon Anytime. ^7^
+Lady Guymon move some anther states, city or anywhere, you can re-start your life, leave as far as you can, bless you!
I think there is darkness wherever you go, I have moved and gotten sexually assaulted in other states I lived in. This video was a bit of a trigger for me, but for the most part I have moved on with my life and I don't let it define me. Bless you Thank you for your kindness it helps a whole lot!
I’m a victim. My dad did it. Several times. I’ve been raped, abused (sexually and physically ), I’ve been almost murdered. I know how you feel. We have to stay strong.
Ella Zacharyga call the police.
Go tell the police bruh. You cant stay silent if it really did happen. You can even get pregnant by your dad.
That's horrible their are people and agencies that can help you plz don't be quite and speak out for your well being
My heart breaks for you! We are all here for you!
Sexually and physically are like the exact same thing
No survivor should ever be told "Why didn't you fight back?". Sometimes you fight back by crying, sometimes by hitting, sometimes by imagining that you're somewhere else and sometimes by just surviving, and sometimes you can't fight back, but that doesn't mean it isn't still wrong and not your fault.
Asking someone why they didn't fight back is like asking a robbery victim why they owned a car. Or why their alarm didn't go off. It's like asking a corpse why they didn't stop their murder. Why are we talking to the survivors about what they should have done? It is the world that had failed. The world failed to produce good people who don't do terrible things. Do not blame the attacked. The world has failed.
I agree with you. You have a way with words
these words are so true. you are someone who understands... thank you
So true. You explain that so well
amen
I agree with what you're saying, but those analogies don't work.
My own brother was rapped at 14. Our family was new to the area....he was a freshman at the time. He became friends with a senior that I rather not enclose his name to the public. He had gone over to his house that day. The snoot asked my brother asked "Ever had sex with girls" He replied no. He pulled down his pants and that were it all happened. My brother locked his doors. Didn't come out for days. He began to skip school. Finally he told someone(my father), my father at the time didn't believe him. He thought it was just a prank. He told mom and finally she listened. She called the cops and searched up his name. Comes to find out he had done this before. He's now in jail for raping over 12 boys. Keep in mind my brother was just a little over 100 pounds at the time. He couldn't fight back. It's sad that people don't believe in men being sexually harassed
The senior asked*
JustAUserName :P no real men are raped :/
Jesus Christ You are not a man at 14.
Jesus Christ No real people believe your statement.
Even if this is fake it's so true and touched my heart...
I hope this man never reads the comments on this video because the comments are filled with hate, ignorance, and just plain stupidity. He's sharing his experience that unfortunately many people can relate to, what's wrong with him making this video? Why do people feel the need to make fun of him for something he obviously didn't ask for? People make me fucking sick.
***** I know, right? I'll tell any women who was raped that. (sarcasm by the way)
Cammie Cole Please go throw up, no one cares
Thank you for this some one else who under stands
Daelyn Odjidja your really trying to express your opinion on UA-cam comments section?, you deserve a round of a applause
Deimantas Matukas thank you and Xgod0 to hell with you I'm sure the devil will be as happy as voldemort was when he defeated harry potter ps I'm reporting you
Males: "I got raped"
Society: "Why didnt you fight back?"
Females: "I got raped"
Society: "Well what were you wearing?"
🥺🤦🏼♀️
Ikr
It happened it will never change people say fight back why you still have to live with it no matter what that person can live and die that person can’t be changed that’s exactly why!!!!!!!!!!😭
I just want to hold him until he heals, and if that takes a lifetime I don't care. I'll wait.
respect
+billy skok Hello I was called
(holds)
Who else wants to crawl through the screen and hug him??'
+AdrianJames O'Reilly
me.
Why aren't more people supportive when they hear about these things? That's what the victims need! (I feel so insensitive wording it that way.) Please, please know... If you're a victim of any kind of assault or something akin to that...
IT. IS. NOT. YOUR. FAULT. And know that someone always, *always* loves you.
Rose Hathaway Truth.
***** That would be slightly awkward :P
+Rose Hathaway I needed this. Thank you.
***** Same for me.
+Rose Hathaway I too needed this. Thank you.
It makes me sad when people make fun of men who have suffered from sexual harassment. Society says that men who can't defend themselves are weak, which is wrong. Many people don't stop to think about what kind of situation they may have been in and instead jump to using gender stereotypes. It's disgusting.
so true also your look gorgeous.
aron Guillen hue hue hue hue hue hue
You look pretty too.
Man it's sad that some took advantage of what you said and made it a joke
Derek Cook man dude that may be taking it to far with that but they do deserve it
Jay wut Dude that's a WTF moment right there
Those police officers... How can they be so horrible?
marieke Elzer I want to become a police officer and if you can’t handle or respect the situations that your job puts forward you shouldn’t ever thought of becoming a police officer at all
sletski Yes, I am from NL
marieke Elzer every police is horrible what makes u think it's just thoes police officers
Stormitropicalpinapp Msp hmf
Stormitropicalpinapp Msp Are you actually stupid?
"I write down the names of the people that love me,"
"And I always make sure that my own name is at the top."
That's fucking beautiful.
NahzBio117 K.
💯💯💯
I want to live in a society where a boy can say "I got raped" and people do not reply with "why didn't you fight back?". And I want to live in a society in which a girl can say "I got raped" and people will not reply with "what were you wearing?"
hear hear
+Fatima Tariq It is called NeverEverLand.
Same
+Fatima Tariq Well fashion is important.
Funny yet horrible
And people say that guys can't be sexually harassed. It's terrible.
But no one says that??????
***** care to provide evidence to back that 'fact'? ** *OBJECTION!*** according the evidence I can provide! according to the evidence MEN are raped more than women in the US! (report was made in oct 10 2013) www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2449454/More-men-raped-US-women-including-prison-sexual-abuse.html
P.S: I really have got to stop playing phoenix wright attorney at law!
***** due to the fact that they
o_o oh god! that is quite a can of worms!
+Gameman Feminist stands for equality for all people. The problem is people use it the wrong way
It’s not always girls. Respect.
Blue North a male, why?
Blue North well, in here, it's not. :v
SOSMinecraft1 🙏
Blue North I have been reaped by a women
A person I trusted
Can we just talk about how freaking brave he is?!?! I mean, most people, don't even SHOW their faces when they talk about being raped, and he's a guy and most guys get called names because of getting raped, which is absolutely OUTRAGEOUS, and like an i give him a hug?!?!
Can*
+Raghda Obeidat I know. He is really really brave. I feel for him, and I just hope he's okay.
+Piggy Green so do I
I'm crying rn! I wanna hug him so badly and comfort him.
I think he is very brave
This is so powerful. I love his voice and annunciation. This poetry is great. Very powerful.
This is art.
If you enjoyed this poem, there's a video on UA-cam called,"to this day." Which is similar in how it is said and written.
Mr. J DickVinci I will check it out.
Mr. J DickVinci Oh yeah I've watched that video before, it's an amazing video.
You should also check out his poem called "A letter from cancer"
It bothers me to no end when guys aren't taken seriously in matters involving sexual assault.
It also bothers me when women aren't too.
F* it, Let me not make it a gender thing -- I hate when real victims aren't taken seriously.
+Add Diep Tai PREACH
EmilyIsNotInteresting 🙌🏿😫
Add Diep Tai I agree completely
Add Diep Tai how are they not taking it not seriously, I'm not done the video yet but I'm almost done, and it's a meaning...
Its called freezing....a third reaction a person could take when facing danger...we always hear about fight or flight but freezing occurs as well... great poem.
If you're an adult you should be capable of saying at least "stop" unless someone is threatening or doing something really shocking (like randomly attacking you on the street) tho.
There's a reason adults can consent and children can't. Part of that is a certain expectation of capability.
Scrolling through the comments, It is sick to see the people that think this is funny or this could not happen to anyone. you pick on small things when you cant even see the main point in front of you. For all of you think this is a joke, You sicken me.
funbun686 I could've taken this more seriously if it weren't some cheesy cringe-inducing poem. :/
Sofia Murillo I'm sorry but I couldn't take this seriously. I just think he should've told his story a different way
funbun686 "you pick on small things when you can't even see the main point in front of you" Please elaborate. What small things do we pick on and what is the main point? :)
funbun686 "you pick on small things when you can't even see the main point in front of you" Please elaborate. What small things do we pick on and what is the main point? :)
they said his face was annoying or he sounded annoying etc.
These comments disgust me. This video was beautiful. It must have been so hard for
him to make this.
The M4 Bruh I don't think this is really but it's some pretty nice poetry.
The M4 Bruh It was the most beautiful video I ever seen that guy had courage to make this vidoe
100% acting no one would talk like this about such a sensitive topic lmao
The M4 Bruh idiot it's a poem
The M4 Bruh don't get too worked up
Can I just wrap him in a hug?
+Sofia Martin I wanna hug him too.
+Linziek Viroshka GROUP HUG!
+Anna with like 65 other people!!!!
+Anna AGREED
Group hug it is then :)
You know guys, a man doesn't have to be gay nor does it make him gay that he was raped by another man...just saying
Also, I want to give him hug for being brave enough to speak up and share his story.
What made this video 10x more powerful was that a man was sharing his story. Most people think that guys are always the ones responsible for rapes, but in reality sometimes they're the victims as well and it's terrible.
Agreed
Omg heeeyyy I watch your videos haha, nice comment btw 😄💖
SweetTreats didn't he get raped by a guy?
silentscope22 uhh yea
It so obvious that the guy in the video is just dictating someone elses story
The man that raped me 6 years ago, I see him all the time at the grocery store with his wife and 2 kids. When he saw me, he smiled like he had never seen me, like the way a person smiles kindly at a stranger passing by. It makes me feel sick at my stomach to see that smile. He shouldn't smile, no one like that should be able to smile. I've been able to deal with what happened but every time I see him, living a 'normal' life, I go right back to that place in my life and have to start the process all over. It's hard, but it's life.
+PinkSockAsaurus117 life shouldn't be that hard , did you went to the police or tell your parents or his wife so she can keep the kids away from him
Kill me now
+TankArt Why?
***** What, are you serious? Those kids' safety could be in danger around a man like that.
***** If he's not, then the obvious answer would be to not take away his kids... ?
I wish buzzfeed had it's own tv show or network cause I would watch that all the time .
Its*
Kyle Da Panda I'm sure they are on their way because of the many skits, and stories they have videos of.
Kyle Da Panda dear god please no.
Local Forearm well I think they should
Yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeessssss
I hate when people act like men can't be raped by other men or females. It happens, some women can overpower a man. Some men can overpower another man. JUST BECAUSE IT HAPPENS DOESN'T MEAN THEY DID NOT FIGHT.
As a feminist, equality is important for me. So people need to wake up and start seeing that men can go through the same thing women go through. And it's not less painful, not less true just because they are male.
I read as a feminist then lost interest. God I hate the internet.
Jimmy Cummings Then stay off it, maybe?
Not yeah but *m e m e s*
Jimmy Cummings why? You don't understand what a feminist is do you?
NoviRose 6 You shouldnt just be a femenist, you should be a egalitarian.
Theses are the type of buzz feed videos that are good. Non political, non agenda.
You forgot to add that you're sarcastic
Alexioble you're not funny nor clever
theses?
Rush this was about feminist and it was fake
Rush well it sort of is an agenda because buzzfeed directors are required to make a viral video every week
I doubt I'm the only person who cried watching this
Sofia Marti
S O F G E E K
Kit Kat
I haven't seen the video
Kit Kat what??
Yeah I was in tears too I just wanted to reach out and comfort and help him :( ♡ It's so horrific that this happens
lili dib I cried so hard
it surprises me how much people in the comment section don't know about SLAM poetry and all they're commenting is "cringe" "cant even finish watching" "i stopped watching when he started yelling" "whats with the weird speaking." well now you know, it's called SLAM poetry. look it up, it's actually really cool
Aurora Cervantes it's not cool it's just a way feminatiz speak
not really cool but it is till cool
Agreed, but then again most people aren't paying attention to what he's saying.
What impact he's attempting to brush by. I agree with you, and the amount of people sharing their stories in the comment section. and being told we're lying? People are sharing their stories because they feel they can, especially with a poem like this. it makes them feel less lonely, and they /can/ face it.
so thank you for commenting this.
Ali The Pencil Breaker dude I know what slam poetry is I in my opinion don't like it... I feel bad for this guy but if I was him I would get the police and confront that excuse of a person and put him in prison for the rest of his life instead of talking about it on the internet.
Aurora Cervantes BECAUSE THEY DONT WRITE IT IN THE TITLE. AND I KNOW THAT THESE SLAM POEMS EXIST BUT IT DOESNT CHANGE THE FACT THAT THEY ARE ULTRACRINGE.
No means no. Everyone should know that.
Did this actually happen? I saw the guy fighting back tears.
LPSkitfit of course he did.
Oh my gosh! I feel so sorry for him!
It is irl so yeah. Irl mean in real life. Every video that says Irl is real
I never knew what that meant...thanks.
LPSkitfit Well, even if it weren't him and 'just an actor', I know you can get caught up in your emotions when you play so dramatically and just cry because you're so into what you're saying. So fighting back tears could still mean he's an actor. But apparently he isn't, so bravo for this dude!
This happened to me! A year or so after, he actually messaged me with a long apology. I never replied, all it did was make me feel raped all over again. He wanted forgiveness for himself, never considering my feelings. He was a foreign exchange student and waited until he was back home too, so he knew he could no longer be prosecuted.
Elizabeth Arndt =(
What country was he from?
Elizabeth Arndt I apologize for my comment. I'm a troll, but I went to far.
My ex boyfriend who cheated on me came up in mutual friends on Instagram. He was like "omg I'm sorry..." But you and him are worse. Poor you. I feel so sorry for you.
Elizabeth Arndt I don't know you , you're probably old enough to be my little sister, daughter or niece. Alot of us can tell you we're sorry for what you endured, never knowing if our words help your healing if my comment helps in the most little bit then I am glad. He was a coward running home and then contacting you for forgiveness it showed what lack of character he had and that he had no soul. In the end it WILL come around to him he WILL receive punishment maybe no in this life but in the after. As I said before I do not know you but it seems you are living your life as you see fit and I am sure you have a supporters in your life that help you get on with life. And that is all you can do take care
this is beautiful but scary at the same time
The part where he talks about how he's getting better is beautiful.
It's fucking gay is what it is.
Derek Cook You're filth, leave.
Yehet?
Ohorat!
the people making those comments don't realize how sexist it is. some people may ask a woman why they didn't fight back, but asking that question in general seems insensitive. fear is fear and some people are so paralyzed to be in that situation. no one thinks about their gender when they are in the moment of something like that. if anything, men must be treated equally and understood just like women. i don't think we should pity either gender because they didn't fight. but if they fight back, then i salute you. if you didn't, then i comfort you and i hope that you are doing well now from such an experience.
meme team wise words
Absolutely!
I'M NOT CRYING I PROMISE
yea I'm sobbing.
Camila Manjarres Yean me neither.... it's just raining... but only on my eyes, a real phenomenon.
THOSE NINJAS ARE CUTTING ONIONS AGAIN
Right?!
Same :'(
Can I just say telling people they should've fought back or stuck up for themselves girl or guy is so much more fuckig easier said than done.
GummyBear16 This. Rapists are not 5'5" scrawny men that you can take out with a swing. People saw how fucking ripped that guy was in the gym selfie.
***** Because it typically ends worse when people try. It's sad, but the murder rate is higher when you try to fight back.
GummyBear16 OH MY GOD SEHUN
***** That is what this video is trying to teach you. You don´t know the situation nor if he was a little boy when this happened or if he was date raped. You can´t judge him because you have no idea how he felt at the time or what happened. He is trying to show you that men can be vulnerable and that they can be abused and that society ignores it... If you disagree then you are honestly just contributing to the social stereotype that men have to be a certain way or else they are not men, and this just produced more rapists.
Maybe you're blind but his body compared to his attacker. Well imagine a roach fighting a whale. It wont work. Also the worst part of your comment is how you state he should have fought back because of his gender & then tried to relate it to the 'bystander' effect of domestic violence. You're a joke refrain from commenting. *****
His voice is so powerful
+Weeaboo Raper Do you feel accomplished when being a shithead?
+Weeaboo Raper lmao xDDDD IM DYING
+Weeaboo Raper someone close to me was molested and that name is bad.
Ss
+Weeaboo Raper herro
This was breathtaking.I literally held my breath through it because I was fighting back tears.
Thankyou for sharing this.
Sometimes You Tube and one very brave person shows you a moment that will change your life.
Wishing you love
elblondie69 falconer it’s fake
Alejandro Andretti Really? The message is still powerful though
Alejandro Andretti How do you know that? Oh maybe because he is a man.
Go to a mental hospital, instead of commenting on the damn internet.
elblondie69 falconer 8
This makes me so angry that nothing happens to rapists. They're terrible people and absolutely nothing happens to them and they move on in life and victims have to deal with it every single day. The guys talking in this video was absolutely beautiful tho
Guy*
none of mine got punished. because they are within 5 years of age of me... and we are under 18. it doesn't matter what happened, they don't care... because they called it experimentation... and blamed it on me
+Sierra Longname are you serious?! That's so messed up!!!! Even if they are under 18 if they did something like that they should still be guilty. I hate that kind of stuff
Some do reflect on what they did every minute and think about how they didn't respect someone's bodily autonomy. Some don't.
it honestly disgusts me to know that people think that men cannot be raped or sexually assaulted. it's also dissapointing to know that police couldn't care less if this happens. I am disgusted, dissaponted, and extremely angry that this can happen.
This is one of the most incredible things i've ever seen on youtube.
Ily guys
Yes it's so powerful. Btw ily you guys
Have you seen to this day project? It's a lot like this- a spoken poem. To this day project- Shane (koykzan). His last name is probably spelled wron but it's great
Also crickets have arthritis by him
That's so true
***** Incredible because this man is brave enough to share his story.
This is way I am a feminist. I want men and women to be treated equal in all situations.
Laura Lucid yes. Finally someone who better represents true feminists
Please don't be a feminazi, okay? Feminazis are disgusting.
Doot me up inside no no no we r feminists. Not feminazis. True feminists want equality for women and men both, not one over the other. :)
Alannah Steuer I know. I know the differences.
Doot me up inside okay just wanted to make sure lol ^_^
this happens to me everyday because for the past almost 3 years now ......he lives next door, I see him in the store, so I run home and cry and wish I could stay in my room, but I have to leave the room, I still blame myself but my boyfriend says it isn't my fault and that I did no wrong, and it will all be okay, that he will take me far away from here, and we'll be happy.
+Emily Williams thank you, I hope so. have a great day (I just saw this) really, thank you
+Samantha Monroe I'm so sorry that happened to you. Nobody deserves to be assaulted
Go to the police, send that scum bag to jail. If they don't believe you, which they might not because the legal system is fucked when it comes to sexual assault, get out of there, get away from him. He lives next door? Move, possibly with your boyfriend, or a friend, or if you can afford it a place for yourself. If you still live with your parents tell them what's going on, and I'm sure they'll move. Get therapy or go to a support group. Do what you can't, fight this guy until there's nothing left to fight.
+Selin Rhye "People will probably believe you because you're a woman"...
Was saying that really necessary?
+Skyler Pilgrim you don't have to believe it, no one else did either, and I don't know why someone would lie about that, it's pathetic, but I was serious, because I can say it here with no consequences because Nome of you can do anything about it, and actually neither can I, because "I'm young and there isn't enough evidence"
This...is what gets to people. This is what people need to see. When i watch this, i feel his pain.
Cali Seck
This must have been so hard to for him to make
Too bad he's white
I just recited this poem to the class and did an entire project on Kevin and i got the highest grade in the class.
Maddy Dunlop congratulations! :)
You just stole his work then
Maddy Dunlop you deserve it
Why you stealing other people's work
Fiery Husky they didn't steal it, he just recited the poem and did a project about Kevin.
This went pretty deep I cried
Never mind I just cried
I shouldn't have watched this. Brought back so much hurt.
Starfire Chris I am so sorry that happened
I still don't believe that people like this exist
In the world,they are just heartless.
is that a pun
I'm crying too😭
This is why we need gender equality, NOT just feminism but equality. you can argue that feminism is for equality of both genders, and yes i am informed of every feminist theory as i take college level courses on that exact subject. I'm not stupid. this is the evidence of gender inequality. Men are forced to thinking they must stay silent, that to be masculine is to be quiet. it is disgusting. Men should and do have a voice. as a society we must except men's voices, feelings and fears. they are just as real as a woman's.
+14104 x1 the problem with feminism is its not properly organised like every idea it takes many shapes. it's main 'leaders' or rather more the more well known feminists are dogmatic lunatics with bigoted ideas and do in fact believe all men are born with an original sin...a penis dun dun duuuuuhhh
feminism is equality
Mika Harris Feminism did start out as equality, but some "feminists" now use it as a way to say "Men aren't better, women are", rather than "Men and women are equal". Get it?
Feminism is about equality of the sexes
that depends on what sect of feminism you are. if you're a cultural feminist you worry about women in other countries, if you're a radical feminist you are angry at men for mistreatment and inequality of women, and so on and so forth. but most feminists tend to over look men. They have one agenda in mind and that is to help women. while they claim to believe in gender equality they only fight for and talk about womens issues.
this must have been so hard for him to make..
Destiny Alexis it's fake
leif 00 how do u know?
Howard The penguin it's categorized as comedy
No, it's not. BuzzFeed usually does comedy and that is why the whole channel is under "Comedy" They can't change it for one video.
+Mynameajeff They still haven't changed it since when they made the switch to Boldly, plus, Kevin made this separately and not for Boldly, he just presented the poem he had already written.
He sounded so angry,. I feel horrible, this almost made me cry...
FizzyPastels and your point?????????
And how is he supposed to sound.
He sounded so angry, it didn't seem like it was just for the video
You know, there's a thing called acting
Yo I was cracking up because he kept on saying “CLICK” LOOOOOOOOOOOLL
People need to know that men can be raped too. That men can cry, that men can be hurt like this.
This made me really sad. Sending some positive energies his way. Hope he gets all the happiness in the world.
Koolez 1ness sending some positive energy? Let me send you some negative energy: God you are dumb.
TheLuckySaGe Whats your problem? I am not talking to you.
TheLuckySaGe So unnecessarily rude and that too for no reason.
Koolez 1ness stupid people cause a lot of problems in this world. You...are stupid. So I have my reasons.
TheLuckySaGe alright buddy lets hear your reasons. heheh you making me laugh :P
This was so well done. Speak it.
WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!! AMEN, ur SO right this was well done, That's 4 SURE! :) I'm blown away & speechless right now! :( But, I'd like 2 'Thank U' 4 sharing this video it was SO Beautiful & Needed, u know what I mean? I LOVE 'Poetry & Spoken Word' performers! I wish, there were places I could go 2 in My city that I could Enjoy 'Spoken Word & Poetry Performers' at. But, unfortunately the closest places I got are in Miami, FL. but, I live an hour & a half from MIA, FL. :( So, My best bet is looking online so, if 'YOU' know of Any "Websites, *****, UA-cam, Google+, or Blog Pages" than PLEASE let me know about them. Thank U ShoeLaccey Mintyoreos Staecey SO Much. :) I hope u have a Lovely night/day. God bless Us ALL. See ya. Bye. :) XOXOXO P.S.=> I added 'YOU' 2 My circle &, I just thought u should know. See ya. :-D XO
+Arelis Abud OMG be quiet.
Arelis Abud Hey, what happened to my comment? It was a fair critique!
Mia H ......NO You Be Quiet!
You must see when he did it live!! Powerful!
This is honestly so heartbreaking. It's so sad that people think that just because it's a guy he is supposed to fight back in that type of situation.
Marlee1989 Or to think that he didn't. The only cases in which people don't fight back is when they are incapacitated, etc.
Marlee1989 i
tobi chatin Why are you assuming he was a little boy?
Thats why you carry a weapon with yourself
Supposedly the people you may know are people who have checked out your profile. Creepy
i am a victim and my rapists lives just across the street from where my parents house is and i see him everyday and sometimes i just stare and wonder did my 6 years old self deserved to be treated that way sometimes i just sit and think about the things i couldve done to stop it they were close to my family i just hope if the voice of the victims will ever be heard will people listen to the voices that once called helped or the once that are afraid of ruining someones life.
i see both of them everyday will i, will all of us can ever be heard
+Zoe Ordoñez ... wow, thank you for sharing that... I hope that you have found peace in your soul...
+Zoe Ordoñez that's horrible. i hope you're happy.
I am so sorry you had to go through this.
+Zoe Ordoñez I'm sorry that happened to you
The cops who said "you could have fought back" have no knowledge of phycology and biological functions when under great stress
The Random Channel Chillie Peppers
why can't they understand that then…;-;
Cops aren’t known to be very bright...
Cops understand how they behave under stress - they do it every day. When they see a healthy fit guy they assume he should be able to react similarly under stress.
This is what we should actually be taught in schools
Sorry for ruining the 420 like number count by the way, I wanna go for 669 to be honest
The Random Channel Chillie Peppers “phycology”
I feel sad that I assumed this would be a woman talking :(
Your point?
Guys can be raped too is his point
Patrick Draper Dont be, That'd be like getting sad because you assumed a man was gay when he said he liked men when he was actually pansexual. You have stereotypes hardwired into you and you cant help what you immediately assume
Patrick Draper Me too! I actually really liked the fact that they chose a man, to raise awareness and stuff.
I thought they would show more than one person talking about their story. Like hoe they usually do. I thought there would be both men and women.
In my opinion, show us the name and let the witch hunt begin
amen
Yeah dude totally
That’s not a huge miscarriage of justice
*category: comedy*
that is sick change that PLEASE :(((
That's funny on its own
Azure Soururīpā sexual assault isn't funny
I know
Your retort to that issue made it even funnier
Majidul Gwuaa .....what? none of this is funny at all. i don't understand.
Hasn't anyone heard of slam poetry? smh
ONCER FAM I have. It's stupid
I can't take people who use "smh" serious. People who use it have an iq of 90 at most
you a hater smh
ONCER FAM I've heard lots of slam poetry...this is a sad excuse for slam poetry if anything
Slam poetry is super gay and is a cancerous tactic of the feminazi party
this.
Phan Girl your name makes me awkward.
i'm fine with the ship of phan but like..
the ship name..
is my last name..
Phan rules. Though I didn't know of it till a month ago...
the phandom's everywhere holy crapu
SRSLY NOBODY NOTICING MY COMMENT
THIS CREEPS ME OUT
The Phandom will take over the world
this happened to me on instagram - i couldnt bear to look at his page, so i had a friend check it out to make sure it was him so i could block him. this hits close to home and is beautifully done. thank you for sharing a little bit of yourself with us.
I’m so sorry
I wish this never happened to anyone
So powerful. It must've been so hard so him to make this video.
it was an actor
José Bastidas it still happens
José Bastidas but this was an actual true story
@@josebastidas2883he’s not an “actor”, he wrote this piece himself.
I think I've just found a love for slam poetry.
In Islam (in Saudi Arabia) rapists get 1000 wip by the strongest.
My rapest had a 10 year time of being lost and cut out of my family, I forgave him .
And I am muslim.
Slam poetry. Yelling!! Angry. Waving my hands a lot. Specific point of view on things. Cynthia. Cyn-thi-a. Jesus died for our Cynthia’s. Jesus cried. Runaway bride. Julia Roberts. Julia rob-hurts. Cynthia. Mmmmm Cynthia, you’re dead. You are dead. Ba boop beep oo you’re dead.
HELLO I love you.
It's spoken word
Its called Spoken Word Poetry, look up Sarah Kay or Phil Kaye they're amazing!
one of my favorite poems, Kevin is an amazing man
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I lost it at "why didn't you fight back?" When it's someone you know, or in my case a family member, how can you fight back? How can a 16 year old girl fight an at the time 50 year old man who's 6"4 and weighs a good 200 lbs? I didn't fight back. I wish I had. I regret it everyday.
Cassie Marie Just like there's people who don't understand, there are people who do. It's especially hard to fight back against a family member. I hope you've forgiven yourself, stay strong.
DayuZ it's been a struggle, and life has been hard but I think I'm getting to that point. Thanks for the love 💕
DayuZ
She shouldn't have to forgive herself for not fighting back. It wasn't her fault but that useless trash of a human being. I'll tell on him right in front of everyone with him sitting there and attacked him. That'll get them believing it, especially if you are usually to yourself.
Cat person There are people who blame themself for not fighting back though, I blamed myself because at the time I thought I could have fought back against my uncle. I even blamed it on my female body and hated it for being so weak against the male body. Your right about it not being our fault, and that's what I'm saying that we need forgive ourselves for. We need to realize it isn't our fault and that guilt is just a side effect that victims suffer through. Fortunately you might have the courage to tell on a abuser, but in my case, it was extremely hard to tell on my uncle because I thought people might call me a liar and also everybody loved him. What's important is that we have to move past this and not let it affect our daily lives, whether it being realizing it wasn't our fault at all or having to forgive ourselves like in my case.
DayuZ I feel your pain. If you ever need someone to talk to, reach out to me. I'll listen. 💕
What? A buzzfeedyellow video that sympathises with men? Am I still on earth?
fred Smith I'm sure he's just an actor reading someone's story
Tyler Boone doesn't make him any less of a man.
Down Like FortySeven he's a guy. And even if you don't want to address the person by the proper pronouns at least say 'they' calling someone an 'it' is basically you saying they're less of a human than you.
Kallie Mazurek How dare you presume to know I identify as Human! Please refer to me as the strong independent attack helicopter I am, thnx.
Kallie Mazurek it does
Wow. Very powerful. Is this real?
Yes
That's a true story and the guy in the video is the victim
Wow and he has the courage to tell everyone. I respect that man
In front of a large audience too ^^ it was a poem on button poetry first
Janessa Hansen wow.
this is amazing poetry. so much emotion, it's so powerful.
I like your profile pic 😏😘
so is ur pfp fam
Hey you like 5sos !
Ay fam
Micheal wants another slice.
The words.. '' you should've fought back'' I heard them so many times too from the police.. Cause I was a 14 years old that looked older, tall and strong... When I grew older I did.. I faced, my brother was there too... People say '' you should let it pass, forget it, let the anger go''
That day, I did it, I let my anger out
I love how people are hating on this video, and honestly. Maybe this isn't the same person, but at some point someone did go through this.
All you can say is. "cringy" or. "It's annoying." What's annoying is the fact you're too blind to see the message he's trying to point out.
It's not annoying that they're talking about this it's annoying that they do it like this in such drama and shock and wow WOW like they're trying to draw attention like it's a reality show trying to get views
I would love to hear about his story, but I don't want to see it as a product... Maybe I just disliked the poetic thing, but I just hate it when people present their stories like this
I kinda hate it honestly, why don't they think about the persons perspective? some people even care about protagonists in a FICTIONAL book rather than this message of something that happened to a real person.
Tech Droid STUF you have no right in saying that. It was most likely EXTREMELY hard for him to make this, and you go ahead and hate on what he is trying to say? This, was sexual assault! No matter what prospective you see it in!!
Ayumi Rin You do realize they were saying they hate that people are being dicks about this guy's story, right?
They even illustrated that people care about fictional characters, but not this guy. So obviously they find that very "cringy" in itself.
actually i did the same thing. i wrote poems and short stories always expressing in some way what happened to me. it's a healing mechanism. and if you listened better you would hear him clearly say that this is his way in fighting back. he's helping himself.
I'm a male and I'm not afraid to admit that I was sexually assulted.
There are many stigma that concern this sentence. Society today helps to propagate this stigma rather than suppresing it. Male are expected to behave in a way that I personally felt too inhumane. This can't continue no longer. No matter a person's gender, religion, race or affliction, when they were sexually assulted, it signals the fall of humanity and its core value. So, don't easily put judgement on that person's misfortune as sexual assult are also on you.
***** I think the majority of people would agree that possessing the male genitalia would make you a man.
MrDamakable I agree. The way society expects to raise boys it's no wonder they often turn into monsters. If some parents deny them the right to feel and show emotions, we dehumanise a large part of the society. I believe if that one thing changed the world could really be a significantly better place. Not only for the victims of men's violence but for the men themselves as well.
***** you're everywhere, stop liking your own god damn posts and get out of here. you're saying why didn't they fight back? it's the same as asking this: if someone where to get kidnapped, why didn't they walk away?
Just a quick question, you don't happen to be gay right?
+. no. i am straight
When I watch this it makes me so sad but when I read the comments I get even sadder.
Michelle Woods same😿
I know what you mean... The Human race is disgusting
Byuntae_Baek _0461 now I'm just angry!
It's honestly terrible
The category of the video is 'comedy' if that's not disgusting I don't know what is.
Facebook search “#BEASTMODESELFIE,” then look to August 3, 2014 and you can find this guy.
Hey U didn’t find it
If you found him what’s his name?
Just me. I never said I did I said “You can.” ☺️😤😤😤
oh sorry
cozy girl rob who
2:10 Straight FIRE
ibi muhim He got bars
Stzy 9112 FR
YOU KNOW YOU KNOW KNOW KNOW KNOW!!!!! FLOCKUING FOCKING SHEEPS!!
Fuckin flames
ibi muhim ikr lemme get his mixtape
Am I the only one looking for these "hate comments" that everyone keeps talking about. Scrolling forever
Right.
Same
all I see is comments about them not the actual comments
If this happened to a young girl, the police would investigate more. This makes me sick watching this and how police and family don't exactly care as much if it was a boy who got raped... but it would be a whole different story if it was a girl.... the world is sick , confusing, DISCUSTING.....
LlamaLxce well said my man
LlamaLxce Agreed.
LlamaLxce indeed disgusting
LlamaLxce how old are you?
LlamaLxce how is a boy raped?
No means no, but so does “i don’t feel like it” “not right now” “i’m not sure” “i’m not comfortable with this” “i don’t like that” “let’s just chill”
what's sad is that this is a buzzfeed video
En_crypted *klick
This poem, is on Button Poetry, it's a UA-cam channel. in-case you didn't know.
En_crypted En_crypted it's originally a poem, I saw it on button poetry a while ago. This isn't fake, and even if it was an actor and it was "made up," this stuff happens in real life and people have to go through this.
this just made my point hold stronger cause if you don't know they make these kinds of videos for money and trendiness and not awareness, also go to www.buzzfeed.com/ and you'll know that these people dont really have the reputation to be taken seriously when making these videos
buzzfeed just got so much darker
it's a tough life for men out out there. I'm tired of us getting raped. I'm tired of inequality.
That's what she said.
kevin p st least you men don't get pregnant and have babies
Halle Caruthers True
But it's still tough...If a girl that hasn't had her period gets raped, you can't just tell her "at least you won't get pregnant"...that's an awful way to try to make someone feel better...
Halle Caruthers Are you serious? That has nothing to do with what he was saying
There's invisible onions in my room
Help
LOL
ahahah
same
da f
it means she's crying because of the story...
They always ask why WE dont fight back.
*We are already and currently are.*
Reading the comments are just so sickening. People think this is funny or a joke or not a big deal. Once something like this happens to you, or you are sexually assaulted; comment what you think then. It's not okay and it's stick with you forever, the littlest things make you think of it. It may seem like any other thing to some, but it's not. It hurts.
Kayleigh Stacconi k
i liked it
I didn't understand anything. It seemd like a bad joke seriously. "The person may know me in facebook!" Seriously... whats he talking about and why does he make it feel like a comedy skit?
maybe if you were to pay attention you would know, he is talking about the person that raped him coming up on his "people you may know" on facebook
EDIT: just spelling corrections
Yeah now i understand, had to listen good. I think he should report it to the police or sue the man. Doing poetry is ok but that criminal shouldnt be walking in the streets right now.
So good of you to make this video. As a woman I always wondered how many men have been sexually assaulted. Media and culture never talk about this but that doesn't mean it never happens. I can imagine it being hard for men to talk about it when everyone behaves as if it is uncommon. As a man you must feel super weird and ashamed (even though it's never your fault) because it might feel as if you got no one to talk to about this. I hope all those men out there who think of suicide are going to seek help. Never be ashamed. It was not your fault.
misswhyaname more men are raped then women in the u.s....but of course no one ever tells that story because society doesn't care about men.
TheLuckySaGe
I do care but even though it sounds weird we women don't expect a men to be easily raped since men are stronger then women for most of the time so that's a woman's reference point to think from. We care but we need to change the way we think and from there on we can make a change.
TheLuckySaGe Actually, The National Crime Victimization Suvrey from 2014, concluded that 38% of sexual assaults are against men, but that doesn't mean there isn't more. Many men don't tell people when they've been raped, due to the social stigma behind male victims. However, that doesn't mean no one cares about men, it just means we need to work harder, to lose that horrible stigma. All sexual assault victims, both men and women, are not treated well in America, and we need to work as a society to make things better.
***** I totally agree with you and I have to say since I'm from outside the U.S. is that I think this is a universal problem. We are all so indoctrinated with 'normal' male and female behavior. A woman seduces men and a man is a macho and an agressor. Reality is that there are all kinds of people and not every man is agressive and those are also the men that can be an easy target to rapists. These predators (whether your male or female) choose someone who is quiet or anxious since these victims will less likely talk about what happened to them. We have to take people who had this happened to them very seriously when they decide to talk about the event. I do think it's harder for men to get believed by someone they want to confide in. Whether it's police or a thrust person in their own enviroment. Never consider an assault a joke!
Maybe someone whose famous comes out about this problem and starts a (twitter hashtag) campaign or something. Hopefully men will feel less ashamed.
+misswhyaname What people don't talk about, because they don't give two shits, is that most rapes of men occur in our lovely criminal justice system - prisons - where no one, and I mean NO ONE, will help you. The guards just let it happen. It's not only a frequent or daily occurrence, it's one that people on the outside joke about and wish on prisoners. Haven't we seen enough innocent men go to prison yet? And even if they're not innocent, what on earth does raping someone have to do with selling weed? Why would we celebrate this? And it's mostly men who are gleefully joking about some prisoner being raped, like he "deserved" it.
No wonder people come out ten times worse than they were when they went in.
Buzzfeed should have a channel just for poetry.
button poetry is a great channel for poetry which I highly recommend :)
"Buzzfeed Silver"
Buzzfried - because everything good is fried *badumtss*
Buzzfeedpoetry
Cayla Lewis buzzfeed white
This is really powerful stuff, it's one of the best videos I've seen on UA-cam.
correction:
the single best
FALL OUT BOY!! And your totally right, this is amazing!!
+Age of the Fangirls (DJ Spooky Bean) amazing profile pic
I swear, FOB's everywhere
bella Dugdale yes, just like: mcr, kuroshitsuji and dan and phil
know what, especially dan and phil
Whenever he starts to speak fast I start to think that he's rapping, side from that, he's right if a man gets raped from another man people automatically assume that, that man can fight back and not get raped, that's different, some men are tougher than others, and when he said people don't run for a crying little boy (or something like that) it's true, boys/men are supposed to be thought but some aren't and many people don't see it that way, when a women gets raped, everyone and I mean EVERYONE talks about it and starts to protest and stuff but when have you ever seen a protest, a riot, an article or a man say they've been raped, it doesn't work like that... What I'm trying to say is we're all human, we all are different, some people can defend themselves and some can't. This man who was talking, he was raped by a man 3x the size of him, you really think he could've defended himself in an ally way where he can't cry for help?
This world needs to change...
THERE CAN ONLY BE ONE! BANZAI
I'm not complaining, but both sides are equally defended. The sexists are the ones who attack the other gender, which there aren't many of left.
[V] National Bee Every femimist is a sexist tho
if you think feminists are sexist then you obviously dont know what feminism is
Rosey H There are such things a radical feminist
When they say 'why didn't you fight back?'
You try we drugged to the point you can't move, stripped bare, bound to a bed and raped. You're in a locked room, no windows only a bed, him, you and a ceiling light thats off.
Once it's done you are knocked unconscious only to wake up in a cold dark alley, covered in bruises, in a pool of your own blood, scared, feel so much self disgust, you're crying and you're only in HIS shirt.
How could you fight back.
The constant flash backs that hit you so hard they feel like you're reliving it over and over and over again.
You cry yourself to sleep each and every night.
You try to get help but no one seems to care.
You tell your family what happened and all they can say is 'Be strong, you'll get through it'
The worst part is when you see them living a happy life like nothing happened, like what they did didn't actually happen at all.
YES IT DID!!!!
If people treated this stuff like they're supposed to it might not happen as often as it does.
What people don't realize is that it can happen to anyone no matter what race, gender or sexuality you are, it can happen to you.
And you can't prepare yourself it it does.
On I'm so sorry, that's horrible.
megan barraclough 😢😢😢😢
yeah, it's horrible. same when i was about 15. a couple of guys drugged me and had their fun. woke up the next day with nothing on and not knowing where i was. it was more than just shameful. it was terrifying to the core.
megan barraclough that sounds really really terrible. I'm sorry for that. Just know that there are people who support you, they might not be your family, it could be anyone else. Fight back, and never lose hope!!
tobi chatin so because of my autisme I'm not human? Wow thanks
rip me, I used headphones
Thank you this made me smile
People of the internet, join me in the hunt. The hunt for the wolf. The monster that fucked up this guy's life. That causes him to tell himself everyday that he loves himself because the wolf stole that part of him. People of the internet, we need to find this wolf and let his identity be known. We need to spread his information everywhere. We need people to recognize him on the street and show him the shame that monsters like him deserve. We need those 3 mutual friends to see what this wolf really is and to side with the victim. We need to ruin this monster's life. He needs justice. I mean no physical harm, just humane justice.
OEG Sweg take a screen shot of the pictures he showed with the face blurred and search it on google image search. I am sure you can find him
OEG Sweg I guess the FB posts have been made up for the video.
www.shutterstock.com/fr/pic-254062042/stock-photo-strong-and-young-body-builder-flexing-the-biceps.html?src=1wqe6LWdIUy_TIFk6n4J_g-1-38
*****
thank you. I had a look for myself and i found the same link. This story is fake, but it is real for many people. That is the point i guess.
***** Can you imagine if the guy was real, makes stock footage for a living, and its all real lol. Wouldn't that be an interesting twist!
lol but seriously that is impossible since there is stock footage of completely different people there. Great video anyways
Javanildo Channel lol, I had the same thought !
This is so good! Amazing Slam Poetry, can we get some more of this Buzzfeed?
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You can look up Button Poetry, there are many great poems by awesome poets on the channel. It's where I first discovered this one.
I play this on repeat. As a boy who has been raped and the police have done nothing and the monsters still walk around, this makes me feels not alone.
Milo Ohara am so sorry
I'm so sorry to hear that happened to you
I'm sorry to hear that, I can't say it will be easy to get through or I know how it feels. But you're a strong and loved, people care. Also I'm sorry the police aren't doing anything just know that you aren't alone
I’m sorry,I truly hope your doing better now.Im a female and I want to be a police officer.I don’t know what to say I just really think the police could have done better,I’m a stranger to you but I’ll listen to everything you have to say and I truly wish you the best on this ongoing chapter of your life .
I know this is stuck in your mind like a parasite, but the cure of your trauma is the fact that you're not alone. You have to realise that we're all by your side, we all trust you and we all love you, no matter what. This short movie made me realise how cruel the life can be. I also learned that no matter what's happening, never stop fighting back, even of none's there to help you.
NO IS A FLOCK OF SLEEPING SHEEP IN MY MOUTH! I cry everytime at that part it’s so intense and real and this is my favorite poem ever
I was Sexually Assaulted just over a week ago and have been to the police and asked the same questions. It's horrible and heart breaking that anyone should go through this pain I send my heart and love to the guy and anyone else who was hurt like this because just remember you are not alone
+Moon Cat: Stay strong.
Thank you :)
yes stay strong!!!
Thank you
i have been sexually assulted about 2 years ago i have recovered but still i wonder why i didnt fight back too ;(
"Category: Comedy"
Sounds about right.
oml just saw that
omg
jasper
It's only comedy because of your comment xD omg for such a serious topic that tag is definitely not deserved
😭😭 this video is powerful
not at all.. have you seen the comments?
Entertainment videos I'm confused what you are saying, a video can be very deep and meaningful to somebody, and not to somebody else. This video means a lot to me, and obviously this person. You don't need to crap all over their opinion by pointing out what other people have thought of this video.
Twenty Øne panicking pilots at a disco yes it defently is.
BMMJ123 really that's what you care about? go get a life. this is not some sort of joke. this is serious. so don't worry about how many times he says clique. Ok?!
I know |-/
I can't....I can't watch this. People that do things like his wolf absolutely shatter my hope in humanity. It really kills me to hear all these people whom have experienced, say that the didn't fight back. It's good news to many people who went through this to hear from the ones who suffered, but it's after those many, many odd years of imprisonment in their thoughts....and it's all because of their own 'wolfs'. To the ones who have dealt with this lasting memory, I'm sorry. ❤️ :(
•Alex Oswald• that's because it takes a long time to emotionally and mentally get over something like that for you to finally stand back up and be strong enough to talk about it. and the younger you are, the worse it is.
No means no.
Katelyn Davis lots of people don't understand that no means no.
Katelyn Davis
Well if saying no didn't stop somebody from brutally raping somebody
Then saying no isn't an effective tactic
Kim Jong Un you're are right indeed
They know that no means no.
That person you used to know They understand. They choose not to listen.
The man who sexually assulted me not only shows up in my 'People You May Know', but he has tried to re-add me after me deleting him several times. He's tried to reconnect. He won't let me escape him.
Izzi Seale Block.. Stay strong.
Izzi Seale block him?
Izzi Seale Report it to the police.
Izzi Seale similar thing happened to me a few years ago when myspace was still a thing. my mother tried to handle it and he ended up calling her a fat controlling cow. it was bad enough what he did to me and then he went and insulted my mother
+Selin Rhye wow...