I asked my Husband if he feels honored by me and he was so honest with me. Let's just say I have some work to do, he says we can both do better. I appreciated that he was able to give examples of how I honor him and dishonor him. i come from a legacy of divorces and unhealthy marriages, my desire is to leave our children with a legacy of love in marriage, to do it Christ's way. Thanks again for this video!
This is good!! As a therapist, I often hear women say that they're not going to praise a man for doing what he should be doing anyway, and reserve praise only for when he's going above and beyond or doing exactly the things they want. Little do they know, he's more likely to do those things when the things he's already doing is acknowledged and appreciated.
I’ve never felt like I was “waiting” for a husband. I’m living my life, working on me, staying healthy, following my dreams, getting to know God more... the right guy will come. But I’m not waiting, I’m living xx
Amen sis, lol its just out of nowhere that now I'm getting videos like this? 🤔 I think God is just preparing us ( men and women) for marriage if it is now resonating with our spirits and if these types of messages are coming up with consistency ( not just on UA-cam but everywhere. ) Keep loving and living life sis and your right. The Godly man God has for you ,me and others will show up. God bless 😊
It's so true! In my marriage I can recall all these times where my wife would nitpick the little things and put me down. I wasnt moving quickly enough, I didnt clean these pots and pans well enough. I was struggling with putting a tent up when we were camping and she said to my friends "you see what I have to deal with?" She said it as a joke but joking or not it's hard to erase when you dont feel respected. Maybe I could be doing a better job, but shaming me wont get me there!
Wowww thank you for sharing this! Please continue to pray for your wife, she needs you as the covering to pray for her on her journey with Christ! The enemy can use anyone against us, but I thank GOD, you didn't bash your wife, but instead just shared how it made you feel. You're a good man!
Yes, I agree, always keep praying for her. But! But the one thing is, GOD said the man is the head of the wife...CHRIST is the head of man. Please don't get me wrong, but you need to do more than praying. Talk to her, and explain to her how this behavior is unacceptable! Back it up with the Holy Scripture, and most importantly with love&GOD inside of you. God bless 👑💜
I got mad at my ex boyfriend one day because he forgot to ask me if there was any clothes I didn't want dried and he shrunk some shirts that I've had for a long time and I can't buy at the store I got it from anymore. I was really mad and berated him and treated him like a child and said he was never gonna do the laundry again well there was a lot of toxicity in that relationship and it wasn't healthy on both sides and now we're not together and I can tell you I wish I had his laundry to do... I took things for granted and he did a lot of things to hurt me but boy I tell you I wish we could have another chance... 😞
@@alyssakalette Trust in Jesus your Creator and lover. He can, wants and if you let him will bring you through this and can bring new perspective and new path and the right relationship at the right time. Often those dessert times are the most valuables for us in terms of growth and character although we don't like them at all or they don't taste well at all. Jesus has hope for us - he has hope for you beyond any broken relationship. Trust our God he has way bigger plans for all of us you included:) 👍 Be blessed. And from personal experience I know God can give healing. 🙏
I hear honor all the time but what does that really look like while dating? I'm not an angry, hollering, person but I am opinionated and I'm always meaning well, trying to help or give advice and it seems to go the wrong direction and upset the men I've dated. Will you please go further into what the dialog looks likes between men and women while dating. Also I like to give praise and compliments but sometimes it feels forced like I'm saying good job babe like hes a child.
This is so true. When I say the words HONOR and demonstrate HONOR. I kid you not many men looked at me strange and SAID what does that mean. That's when I said enough. I became celibate and turned my heart over to Jesus. Any man that wants me has to go through Jesus.
The Way to honor a man is by first learning to honor Our Abba Daddy. This teaching is really good. I honestly just learned that Men need to be respected and that it translates into love for them. Ephesians says, "wives Respect your husbands..". How could we have missed that.. I'm so glad the Lord revealed that to me so I can put that in practice way before he brings my husband.
What disrespect means to a man can vary a bit among different individual men. But here are some general ideas: telling him what to do/how to do it/when to do it having a critical spirit and constantly putting him down with criticism acting holier-than-thou, thinking you are better than he is, more spiritual, etc. jumping in to help if he didn’t ask you for help - he probably likes to do things on his own unless he asks specifically for help asking “why?” ”Why would you do it THAT way?” (implies you think he is incompetent or stupid) putting him down in front of other people, or behind his back joking at his expense complaining about something he spent time and effort doing for you demanding he do something body language like rolling your eyes, sighing, huffing, hands on hips, fingers tapping, throwing your hands up in the air - like you think he is an idiot using an “angry mother” tone of voice scolding him verbally attacking him mothering him as if he cannot make his own decisions properly not dropping an issue - continuing to pressure him and push him and not letting something go that he doesn’t want to talk about right then expecting him to talk RIGHT NOW about some very important issue (some men need a bit of time to think before they are ready to talk or need a bit of notice before an important discussion) bringing up past sins of his that you had forgiven already comparing him to other men flirting with other men thinking that your “feeling loved” is more important than his “feeling respected” thinking that you are “always right” and he is “always wrong” yelling, throwing things, cussing, hitting (this stuff is EXTREME disrespect - please, do NOT go there!) labeling his weaknesses and sins as much worse than yours - thinking you are morally superior to him making a really small issue more important than the relationship correcting him taking over and trying to force him to do things texting/calling him constantly (that can be very smothering) interrogating him acting suspicious and spying on him assuming the worst about him caring only about your feelings and not about what is important to him and how he feels seeing him only as something to be used instead of a real person with real feelings to be loved and admired putting him before God in your heart (idolizing him) - expecting him to be responsible for your happiness instead of being responsible for your own happiness and finding all your contentment in Christ, expecting him to meet needs in your heart that only God can meet trying to change him acting like being a guy is wrong, as if men should be just like women answering for him not listening to him and REALLY stopping to hear his heart taking over his life and trying to control him trying to “help” him in his relationships with other people because you don’t think he can handle his own relationships apologizing and then saying, “BUT if you had done X…” (that negated the apology!) being a black hole of unending neediness and insecurity (expecting him to meet the deepest needs of your soul rather than Christ) acting like he is incompetent, incapable, irresponsible, etc. Written by April Cassidy, FROM peacefulsinglegirl.com/what-speaks-disrespect-to-guys/ What a revelation
So powerful!!! Men need honor and respect like we need air and water. You can only live so long without either, women, infuse life into your men, they need to be resuscitated, not stabbed in the back with gossip to people whose own house isn't in order, putting your man out there to be meat for starving wolves. Make your decision. I'm a single woman who's watched marriages die from not having what they're referring to in the dialogue in their relationship,, and I instantly got my lesson. Get yours.
I love your ministry. I am a teacher as well and a parent and believe in building up! Even with my ex: I never put him down. My point of contention: Once you compliment or show affection from your mouth they get cocky and run away. They are not used to anyone honoring them - Especially divorced men who have had their ego, pride, self-esteem, and bank account trampled (men associate $ with being secure n being able to provide). Things I have honored him with my words: * You are a great son 2 your parents *Thank you for making my fav meal the other day *Your hard work and determination show your strength of character *When we are together my mood lightens *You were great with my child - they like you and I admire your effort. *I enjoy your company and how often we laugh * You are a dedicated father, even if you don't get a response from your child - you are doing the right things and planting seeds *That time you took me to xyz you made me feel like royalty. *That was sweet of you to think of me and pick up xyz. *You are strong *You are a fighter (in a good way). *You are smarter than you give yourself credit for. *You are Blessed, and God has his hand on you. *keep going you are doing great at your job. *Thanks for listening when I was sad because of xyz. *Thank you for talking out our differences and being rational with me. *You know what first drew me to you? Your loyalty n compassion for your parents; your hard work - that u were always willing to take any job and work multiple jobs to better your situation. * People like and respond to you. But again, some people have been so conditioned to only hear the negative, or to actually being broken down verbally. I know there is a child in each of us that needs nurturing no matter how great your childhood was. And I know culture DEVALUES men. I want to build mine up. However, he only seems to smile or trust me or respond when I point out a shortcoming with humor. I can be cute and flippant and funny, but I want to be life giving. Thank you again for your ministry. God Bless you & your family.
The negativity is deep rooted from our mothers!! It is a cycle that we as Ladies of God need to strip from our souls! I can see why single and married women still have difficulties. We are still on the conforming of this world
I love this video! This has been an eye opener to me. My husband and I have been married for 22 years, and I learned to honor my husband. Over the years,and through circumstances, that changed, and I found that I let my emotions get the best of me. Now, I am learning to speak differently, and to begin honoring him once again. I thank you for obeying God and speaking on issues that affect us daily. May God continue to bless your marriage and ministry.
👏👏👏 yay for changing and growing sis!!!! ❤ I love this ministry so much, and all these testimonies of real couples taking this advice!!! The enemy wants us to remain stuck in our unhealthy ways so our relationships and families are broken. I'm so glad this helpful information is here and my sisters are taking it!!! 🙌🔥
That's the universal love language for any human being. Women or men. Respect is essential. You can't say you love a woman without respecting her either.
I can tell your wife genuinely loves you by the way she looks at you as your speaking, Praise God for Gods original plan for relationships. Thank you for your videos.
100%, even though my dad wasn't at home, my mum never let me speak or even believe a bad word about my father & made a point. to never speak a bad word around me & speak of him highly!
Y'all are a blessing full of God's wisdom !!! What about a webisode on How to Honor a Godly man? Giving details of what it means to honor a godly man. Thanks for the knowledge & I pray God continues to bless your ministry & marriage abundantly!😇
Lapresha Flowers do yourself a favor and read the book " for women only" .it gives all the details about stuff women do that upset men.the book is informative and upsetting (shows how big men's ego is) but yeah all the details are in there
Wow! I truly enjoyed this short yet powerful topic. I have seen how a woman's mouth can change a man for the worst and bring about so pain. I pray many women including myself will not mistreat her (future) husband like that. Thank you for sharing. God bless!
My marriage is breaking up. A lot of the blame for that we both placed on his actions. I know that I played a part in the demise of the relationship, because I just got tired of fight for something I didn't think he wanted anymore. This was something I really needed to hear. I don't think I did this enough to his face. I would always praise him to others, but I can't think of many times that I praised him to his face. I have been praying for answers as to why things broke down after 16 years and 3 children. I now understand that this was one of the things I didn't do enough. Thank you for revelation. Your ministry has been blessing me even in the midst of going through a divorce and helping me see myself.
A few years ago when God 1st start dealing with me about marriage the 1st thing He told me was that i have to respect my husband. I'm not married yet but that has always been at the back of my mind & is what started me to look into a bible study about marriage. So this is so true.
I really enjoyed this video. My husband and I will celebrate four years in August. I do honor him, but I admit I do slip up sometimes and do not make it a continuous habit. I recently started unfollowing some public figures and leaders because I felt they weren't sharing truths from a biblical perspective. I would love for you all to elaborate on this more. one of my biggest issues is getting anxious while waiting for God to "wire him" or build him up into the man he's supposed to be. I have an amazing Husband, who is also an incredible Leader, Father and Provide. I want to keep learning.
Thank You so much we needed to here this from a Man of God perspective this right here was to the best because because men don't get ministered to at all nowadays
Bible Gateway Proverbs 14 :: The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down. He whose walk is upright fears the LORD, but he whose ways are devious despises him.
There are no conditions to loving a woman stop placing conditions to honoring a man. A woman needs to be loved unconditionally, so also, a man needs to be honored unconditionally. It is in the place of the unconditionality that you could speak life to the dishonorable in him. It is in the place of the unconditionality that you could speak life to the unlovable in her. For it is written, IT IS AN ACT OF WORSHIP "TO GOD". NOW, IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS, I REBUKE THE WICKED SPIRIT OF CONDITIONALITY IN THE STATEMENT YOU MADE IN JESUS MIGHTY NAME, AMEN.
20plusstrong I understand where Anicia is coming from though. My partner and I came together in Christ. It was a joy and a blessing for me to honor him but soon after he began to backslide. He began drinking and smoking pot again, tempting me to do the same. He was opening the door to darkness and refused any good Word. I prayed, continuing to honor him in my ways of speaking with Him but after sometime it was really hard to continue on when he refused fellowship with other Christians, refused hearing the Word, refused going to church, refused the path of God. I struggled with staying gentle and tender hearted towards him. How do you stay and continue to honor someone when they are not honorable and begin taking you down the wrong path? I guess it’s assumed in this video that the man is “at least” (though I know the whole at least thing isn’t great based on their other videos) doing his best to walk with God. Of course no one will be perfect, only the One Jesus is, but if you’re being met over and over with refusal of the Lord- it may be time to walk and save your honoring for someone true.
@@yesyes7867 You make sense with your statement and I wholeheartedly see where you are coming from (this hits close to home for me). But, and yes there is a BUT, let's say the situation where flipped and you where the one that backslide (anyone can backslide) and went into depression, does this mean that your husband should no longer love you because you are now unlovable? Does this mean his love for you should only be conditional? The message of unconditional Love has being preached, but the message of unconditional honor (respect) has sparcely being preached, which is what many marriages lack. "Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands 'AS YOU DO TO THE LORD." Eph 5:22. This is why marriage is a very very serious thing and must not be played with. If he where your boyfriend or fiance, that is very different, and I would have being the first to tell you BREAK IT OFF NOW. But once you said 'I Do', HE OR SHE BECOMES YOUR CROSS. Your first ministry/church is your home. This falls under in sickness and in health or for better or worse. That was a Covenant you made. This must be very very hard for you, and I want you to also get help (family, therapy etc.). If necessary, temporarily seperate from him, but not divorce. On the last day, you will give account of your first church (your home). I pray that may the good Lord guide you through all this in Jesus name, Amen.
20plusstrong Thank you so very much for this. Really and truly. We spoke of marriage but sadly never made it that far. I allowed my heart to marry him which is why I stuck it out for so long but ultimately had to let go. It’s been a huge challenge. I begged for counsel with him and even left giving him space... “a separation not divorce” yet he refused me at once. I understand rejection is God’s protection. I think I was seeing this video and reading the above comment through my own eyes and experience with my boyfriend rather than husband! Thank you again so much for the clarity and positive words. May God bless you and keep you always!!!
@@yesyes7867 In that case, RUN. If necessary and possible, change environment. Start afresh, it might even require you taking some time away from Family. Ot will be hard, but your health and future depends on it. Thank you for being humble enough to share your story and susceptible to recieving the word. Be encouraged and REJOICE AND BE GLAD THAT YOU SAW THIS BEFORE YOU WERE MARRIED.
so happy u guys put this out. could u possibly do a video on secular music, and the dangers of listening to it as a christian trying tov live your life for God. @redefinedtv
Amen! This is what God has taught me about interacting with men. It always works! Honor is an issue of perspective and practice. If we practice honoring God, then we'll also be good at seeing what's honorable and our ability to honor His creations will increase, especially as we see Him reflected in us. 🙌 #GodisGood Romans 12:9-10 NLT Don’t just pretend to love others. Really love them. Hate what is wrong. Hold tightly to what is good. Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other. Philippians 4:6-9 NLT Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus. And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. Keep putting into practice all you learned and received from me-everything you heard from me and saw me doing. Then the God of peace will be with you. James 3:7-18 NLT People can tame all kinds of animals, birds, reptiles, and fish, but no one can tame the tongue. It is restless and evil, full of deadly poison. Sometimes it praises our Lord and Father, and sometimes it curses those who have been made in the image of God. And so blessing and cursing come pouring out of the same mouth. Surely, my brothers and sisters, this is not right! Does a spring of water bubble out with both fresh water and bitter water? Does a fig tree produce olives, or a grapevine produce figs? No, and you can’t draw fresh water from a salty spring. If you are wise and understand God’s ways, prove it by living an honorable life, doing good works with the humility that comes from wisdom. But if you are bitterly jealous and there is selfish ambition in your heart, don’t cover up the truth with boasting and lying. For jealousy and selfishness are not God’s kind of wisdom. Such things are earthly, unspiritual, and demonic. For wherever there is jealousy and selfish ambition, there you will find disorder and evil of every kind. But the wisdom from above is first of all pure. It is also peace loving, gentle at all times, and willing to yield to others. It is full of mercy and the fruit of good deeds. It shows no favoritism and is always sincere. And those who are peacemakers will plant seeds of peace and reap a harvest of righteousness.
Man I usually don't comment on videos, but this right here is AWESOME!!!! Thank you for sharing this info with me!!!! Definitely taking notes from all of your videos! And that video about dating or marrying an unbeliever...POWERFUL!!!
Good stuff. Women are upset when a man is distant and cold but don't see how disrespectful and how they have been dishonoring him. God give us wisdom to speak honor to our brothers, father and future husband.
I really really love how you both spoke on this subject with such tenderness. Also, I agree that men don't 'need their egos stroked' but they're created in the likeness of God who cannot resist praise. Your ministry is so needed and I'm glad that you guys post these videos where you both give wisdom and biblical responses to topics. Please be encouraged and continue! We're out here listening.
This is powerful and serves as a reminder of what we need to be mindful of as women. It's positive and allows me to look closely at myself to see if I am putting some of these things into practice. I believe its a work in progress and we must become conscious of this and make a deliberate choice to do and not just think it. Yes I need to be reminded of this and so thank you both for being obedient to the things of God. The bible tells us in Phillipians 4 verses 8-9 Whatsoever is TRUE, Whatever is RIGHT Whatever is NOBLE Whatever is PURE Whatever is LOVELY Whatever is ADMIRABLE, if anything is excellent or praiseworthy, THINK OF SUCH THINGS..... so in effect, we can learn to think of those things which honor and not bring down our men. Think of the positive things that shed light on him as a godly man and let's reinforce it regularly without excuses.............. Amen!! You are both a GREAT blessing.
Some men make it so easy for you to honour them: make you call them "King among men" out of 'nowhere'... Then with others, it is such a tall order! And will they really try harder when you praise them, vs stop trying/slack off since they have now 'arrived'?
This video was such a blessing. Literally I was praying the other morning and the Lord told me to be patient with my husband. Let’s just say this video was confirmation.
I honored my ex, built him up and spoke good and positive things to and about him. And it meant nothing. He left me for a girl that argues with him about seeing his children. Cause she must come first. I saw and spoke life to his potential and the king I knew he could be. Even though I had my own insecurities and felt a certain way about myself. I still built him up not expecting it in return. And he knocked me down. I cant say this worked for me. Maybe one day it will.
Thank you for this word. Your messages always give me something to think about. I will work on this with my son while "I'm in the field waiting on my Boaz"
It's not just their words that teach Me. The way the Speak to each other and they way they look at each other teach Me alot of this little things that matter. Thank You for Redefined TV.
I struggle with this but feel God has helped me so much in this area. Im learning that I shouldn't put anyone in a negative light even when they do things they shouldn't.
Honestly y'all have been the stage for me for a while. Y'all have blessed me my life and my mindset on relationships in ways you may never know. Thank you @beredefined and @jflo3 for being consistent and a great testimony and team! Love y'all!
Love you two. Wish I honored my husband. I don't know what would have happened. He was an alcoholic who put everyone ahead of his wife. He knew I loved him but I lost patience with the alcohol, pot and family/ friends who supported him in his usage. My husband was agnostic. I hope he submits to the Lord.
Thank you ! I didn’t honor my ex due to abuse ! Now I know what’s needed you right the other got him now. However God will give me a second chance with a new one
This is good.... I needed to hear this because as a mom of a young man. I I definitely had to adjust and honor the fact my son is a young man. I have to treat him as such although he will be my baby though...lol So true....
This popped up on my feed on an evening when this burden was put on my heart / that my words are life giving to all that I know. Even through a scene in the movie "Table 19". Thank you, praying for this over my life!
You guys have identified my biggest weakness that I could not even find I am so grateful this is definitely something I have never done is honor a man I am absolutely going to work on this
I have been trying to figure out what "respecting a man" really meant for the longest time. I read my bible. I know what it says. But how to do it is another thing. What does honor look (actions) and sound (words) like? I don't have good role models, so I really don't know. There were no men or boys in my home growing up. I have daughters. I asked Holy Spirit to show me. And here I am watching this. Thanks for this.
yes... culture is not that general. home is where it starts. I regretted, repented, and asking forgiveness from God for following the mold created within the family that has been affecting me without even realizing how toxic and dysfunctional the standard that I learned from my parent.
I would love to hear some situations that are common that are easy to speak poison and get your view on what a godly reaction should be. I know and understand I should respect and honor my husband but don't know what that looks like so I end up going to natural mode aka poison.
This is a blessing. I pray that God will continue to work on me as I wait for the one he has for me. It's very discouraging at times because such qualities in a woman is looked at la being weak, too submissive, gullible..and you het criticism from both women and men. Culture has a big role to play in what a good relationship should look like.
This is really good. A godly woman is so powerful. We can equip our children and we can build our men. And that is our purpose. We have to understand that men and women are different and have different needs. We understand this when it comes to natural things. You feed a cat different food than you do a dog. Both are animals and both need food for proper nourishment and growth. But that proper nourishment is different for each animal. We have to get more educated about these differences in need. I have been told by male friends that I know how to talk to men and build them and make them feel manly. None of this had to do with sex at all because sex was never on the table. But I have learned about the emotional and psychological needs of a men through study and through my 25 years of marriage. Culture, as you put it, teaches woman to be strong and independent but the Bible encourages the women to be kind and supportive. It is great to see you two as a couple teaching about these matters. Marriage can work. It is God's origination and we have to bring back and emphasis God's purpose and perspective. God bless you!
This was missing from my previous marriage. 20 yrs and all she did was rip on me. I think it really affected it and led to divorce. I met my gf and she is everything i could want.
I asked my Husband if he feels honored by me and he was so honest with me. Let's just say I have some work to do, he says we can both do better. I appreciated that he was able to give examples of how I honor him and dishonor him. i come from a legacy of divorces and unhealthy marriages, my desire is to leave our children with a legacy of love in marriage, to do it Christ's way. Thanks again for this video!
Candy Zollicoffer awww, that's beautiful and I pray that God help you to honor your man .
Thank you so much Rita! I appreciate your encouragement. :)
God bless you in your union and family. God will do it for you! I believe His report and I’m praying for you. ♥️🔥
Wow.. It's good when you ask it personally to a man.. Will take note of this.. ❤️
Awesome! It was good that he was actually able to effectively communicate that... Praise God, i pray yall grow in love in every way 🙂
This is good!! As a therapist, I often hear women say that they're not going to praise a man for doing what he should be doing anyway, and reserve praise only for when he's going above and beyond or doing exactly the things they want. Little do they know, he's more likely to do those things when the things he's already doing is acknowledged and appreciated.
I’ve never felt like I was “waiting” for a husband. I’m living my life, working on me, staying healthy, following my dreams, getting to know God more... the right guy will come. But I’m not waiting, I’m living xx
Amen sis, lol its just out of nowhere that now I'm getting videos like this? 🤔 I think God is just preparing us ( men and women) for marriage if it is now resonating with our spirits and if these types of messages are coming up with consistency ( not just on UA-cam but everywhere. ) Keep loving and living life sis and your right. The Godly man God has for you ,me and others will show up. God bless 😊
PREACH I'm doing the same
I love how you affirm your husband when he’s talking with your “mms, nods, yea’s,” and the way you look at him.
I love it too, she clearly supports him fully. So beautiful to watch
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Me too!!! I love it
I was wondering if anyone else saw it. Just beautiful. Godly marriage..
THATS WHAT IM SAYING LMAOOO😭💖i love it u see the respect she has for him in her eyes
It's so true! In my marriage I can recall all these times where my wife would nitpick the little things and put me down. I wasnt moving quickly enough, I didnt clean these pots and pans well enough. I was struggling with putting a tent up when we were camping and she said to my friends "you see what I have to deal with?" She said it as a joke but joking or not it's hard to erase when you dont feel respected. Maybe I could be doing a better job, but shaming me wont get me there!
Wowww thank you for sharing this! Please continue to pray for your wife, she needs you as the covering to pray for her on her journey with Christ! The enemy can use anyone against us, but I thank GOD, you didn't bash your wife, but instead just shared how it made you feel. You're a good man!
Stay strong Jamey ✊🏾
Yes, I agree, always keep praying for her. But! But the one thing is, GOD said the man is the head of the wife...CHRIST is the head of man. Please don't get me wrong, but you need to do more than praying. Talk to her, and explain to her how this behavior is unacceptable! Back it up with the Holy Scripture, and most importantly with love&GOD inside of you. God bless 👑💜
I got mad at my ex boyfriend one day because he forgot to ask me if there was any clothes I didn't want dried and he shrunk some shirts that I've had for a long time and I can't buy at the store I got it from anymore. I was really mad and berated him and treated him like a child and said he was never gonna do the laundry again well there was a lot of toxicity in that relationship and it wasn't healthy on both sides and now we're not together and I can tell you I wish I had his laundry to do... I took things for granted and he did a lot of things to hurt me but boy I tell you I wish we could have another chance... 😞
@@alyssakalette Trust in Jesus your Creator and lover. He can, wants and if you let him will bring you through this and can bring new perspective and new path and the right relationship at the right time. Often those dessert times are the most valuables for us in terms of growth and character although we don't like them at all or they don't taste well at all. Jesus has hope for us - he has hope for you beyond any broken relationship. Trust our God he has way bigger plans for all of us you included:) 👍
Be blessed. And from personal experience I know God can give healing. 🙏
Amen! I love motivating my husband and he shines and just reciprocates. It's amazing! I do the same thing for my sons, wooohooo!
I hear honor all the time but what does that really look like while dating? I'm not an angry, hollering, person but I am opinionated and I'm always meaning well, trying to help or give advice and it seems to go the wrong direction and upset the men I've dated. Will you please go further into what the dialog looks likes between men and women while dating. Also I like to give praise and compliments but sometimes it feels forced like I'm saying good job babe like hes a child.
d Haislah let the appreciation of what he does last more than one day. Never say you never do that for me when he did it for you last week.
True..I learnt this long time someway somehow even though I'm as young as 20yrs🤭
I guess God taught me through observation 🙌
Thank you sister for making the world a better place through your love! God bless you!
This is so true. When I say the words HONOR and demonstrate HONOR. I kid you not many men looked at me strange and SAID what does that mean. That's when I said enough. I became celibate and turned my heart over to Jesus. Any man that wants me has to go through Jesus.
Thats me too ..i give them psalms 91...I am dwelling in the secret place of the most high....so yall need to dwell there
Finding a Christian man who's got Jesus is extremely hard to find these days....
Really good video. Something that's not discussed enough! Women should be their man's biggest cheerleader!
I totally agree with you!!
Indeed!!!
The Way to honor a man is by first learning to honor Our Abba Daddy. This teaching is really good. I honestly just learned that Men need to be respected and that it translates into love for them. Ephesians says, "wives Respect your husbands..". How could we have missed that.. I'm so glad the Lord revealed that to me so I can put that in practice way before he brings my husband.
Mr.. and Mrs. flowers keep honoring God as you do, you guys are a blessing to many thank you so much.
What disrespect means to a man can vary a bit among different individual men. But here are some general ideas:
telling him what to do/how to do it/when to do it
having a critical spirit and constantly putting him down with criticism
acting holier-than-thou, thinking you are better than he is, more spiritual, etc.
jumping in to help if he didn’t ask you for help - he probably likes to do things on his own unless he asks specifically for help
asking “why?” ”Why would you do it THAT way?” (implies you think he is incompetent or stupid)
putting him down in front of other people, or behind his back
joking at his expense
complaining about something he spent time and effort doing for you
demanding he do something
body language like rolling your eyes, sighing, huffing, hands on hips, fingers tapping, throwing your hands up in the air - like you think he is an idiot
using an “angry mother” tone of voice
scolding him
verbally attacking him
mothering him as if he cannot make his own decisions properly
not dropping an issue - continuing to pressure him and push him and not letting something go that he doesn’t want to talk about right then
expecting him to talk RIGHT NOW about some very important issue (some men need a bit of time to think before they are ready to talk or need a bit of notice before an important discussion)
bringing up past sins of his that you had forgiven already
comparing him to other men
flirting with other men
thinking that your “feeling loved” is more important than his “feeling respected”
thinking that you are “always right” and he is “always wrong”
yelling, throwing things, cussing, hitting (this stuff is EXTREME disrespect - please, do NOT go there!)
labeling his weaknesses and sins as much worse than yours - thinking you are morally superior to him
making a really small issue more important than the relationship
correcting him
taking over and trying to force him to do things
texting/calling him constantly (that can be very smothering)
interrogating him
acting suspicious and spying on him
assuming the worst about him
caring only about your feelings and not about what is important to him and how he feels
seeing him only as something to be used instead of a real person with real feelings to be loved and admired
putting him before God in your heart (idolizing him) - expecting him to be responsible for your happiness instead of being responsible for your own happiness and finding all your contentment in Christ, expecting him to meet needs in your heart that only God can meet
trying to change him
acting like being a guy is wrong, as if men should be just like women
answering for him
not listening to him and REALLY stopping to hear his heart
taking over his life and trying to control him
trying to “help” him in his relationships with other people because you don’t think he can handle his own relationships
apologizing and then saying, “BUT if you had done X…” (that negated the apology!)
being a black hole of unending neediness and insecurity (expecting him to meet the deepest needs of your soul rather than Christ)
acting like he is incompetent, incapable, irresponsible, etc.
Written by April Cassidy,
FROM peacefulsinglegirl.com/what-speaks-disrespect-to-guys/
What a revelation
Thank you redefined. That is exactly how I feel I should be treated as a man. In turn I will be the man God wants me to be to be worthy of her praise.
I would think that that would come more naturally if you only marry someone you truly admire and who impresses you for all the right reasons.
So powerful!!! Men need honor and respect like we need air and water. You can only live so long without either, women, infuse life into your men, they need to be resuscitated, not stabbed in the back with gossip to people whose own house isn't in order, putting your man out there to be meat for starving wolves.
Make your decision. I'm a single woman who's watched marriages die from not having what they're referring to in the dialogue in their relationship,, and I instantly got my lesson. Get yours.
I love your ministry. I am a teacher as well and a parent and believe in building up!
Even with my ex: I never put him down. My point of contention: Once you compliment or show affection from your mouth they get cocky and run away. They are not used to anyone honoring them - Especially divorced men who have had their ego, pride, self-esteem, and bank account trampled (men associate $ with being secure n being able to provide).
Things I have honored him with my words:
* You are a great son 2 your parents
*Thank you for making my fav meal the other day
*Your hard work and determination show your strength of character
*When we are together my mood lightens
*You were great with my child - they like you and I admire your effort.
*I enjoy your company and how often we laugh
* You are a dedicated father, even if you don't get a response from your child - you are doing the right things and planting seeds
*That time you took me to xyz you made me feel like royalty.
*That was sweet of you to think of me and pick up xyz.
*You are strong
*You are a fighter (in a good way).
*You are smarter than you give yourself credit for.
*You are Blessed, and God has his hand on you.
*keep going you are doing great at your job.
*Thanks for listening when I was sad because of xyz.
*Thank you for talking out our differences and being rational with me.
*You know what first drew me to you? Your loyalty n compassion for your parents; your hard work - that u were always willing to take any job and work multiple jobs to better your situation.
* People like and respond to you.
But again, some people have been so conditioned to only hear the negative, or to actually being broken down verbally.
I know there is a child in each of us that needs nurturing no matter how great your childhood was. And I know culture DEVALUES men. I want to build mine up.
However, he only seems to smile or trust me or respond when I point out a shortcoming with humor. I can be cute and flippant and funny, but I want to be life giving.
Thank you again for your ministry. God Bless you & your family.
The negativity is deep rooted from our mothers!! It is a cycle that we as Ladies of God need to strip from our souls! I can see why single and married women still have difficulties. We are still on the conforming of this world
I love this video! This has been an eye opener to me. My husband and I have been married for 22 years, and I learned to honor my husband. Over the years,and through circumstances, that changed, and I found that I let my emotions get the best of me. Now, I am learning to speak differently, and to begin honoring him once again. I thank you for obeying God and speaking on issues that affect us daily. May God continue to bless your marriage and ministry.
👏👏👏 yay for changing and growing sis!!!! ❤ I love this ministry so much, and all these testimonies of real couples taking this advice!!! The enemy wants us to remain stuck in our unhealthy ways so our relationships and families are broken. I'm so glad this helpful information is here and my sisters are taking it!!! 🙌🔥
Honor is the universal love language for men. Wow! This was deep and so true. Thank you! You guys presented this message extremely well.
"King amongst men" - i got chills hearing it. Super dope
THANK YOU THANK YOU!! This is so powerful. I have been teaching women this for the last 7 years. WOW. Preach!!
That's the universal love language for any human being. Women or men.
Respect is essential.
You can't say you love a woman without respecting her either.
A woman's mouth has the capability to burn him or warm him!!!! 😲😲😲 Preach!!!
Yessssssssss! I want honey to drip from my words when God blesses me with my husband. I give him all honor right now in Jesus name! Thank you!
I can tell your wife genuinely loves you by the way she looks at you as your speaking, Praise God for Gods original plan for relationships. Thank you for your videos.
100%, even though my dad wasn't at home, my mum never let me speak or even believe a bad word about my father & made a point. to never speak a bad word around me & speak of him highly!
This is so true!! This is a game changer!!! I honor my King every chance I get, and he eats it up every single time!!! HalleluYah!!
Y'all are a blessing full of God's wisdom !!! What about a webisode on How to Honor a Godly man? Giving details of what it means to honor a godly man. Thanks for the knowledge & I pray God continues to bless your ministry & marriage abundantly!😇
Lapresha Flowers, this would be very helpful!
Lapresha Flowers do yourself a favor and read the book " for women only" .it gives all the details about stuff women do that upset men.the book is informative and upsetting (shows how big men's ego is) but yeah all the details are in there
Rosa Thank you. I’ll definitely be checking this book out.
Wow! I truly enjoyed this short yet powerful topic. I have seen how a woman's mouth can change a man for the worst and bring about so pain. I pray many women including myself will not mistreat her (future) husband like that. Thank you for sharing. God bless!
My marriage is breaking up. A lot of the blame for that we both placed on his actions. I know that I played a part in the demise of the relationship, because I just got tired of fight for something I didn't think he wanted anymore. This was something I really needed to hear. I don't think I did this enough to his face. I would always praise him to others, but I can't think of many times that I praised him to his face. I have been praying for answers as to why things broke down after 16 years and 3 children. I now understand that this was one of the things I didn't do enough. Thank you for revelation. Your ministry has been blessing me even in the midst of going through a divorce and helping me see myself.
A few years ago when God 1st start dealing with me about marriage the 1st thing He told me was that i have to respect my husband. I'm not married yet but that has always been at the back of my mind & is what started me to look into a bible study about marriage. So this is so true.
I really enjoyed this video. My husband and I will celebrate four years in August. I do honor him, but I admit I do slip up sometimes and do not make it a continuous habit. I recently started unfollowing some public figures and leaders because I felt they weren't sharing truths from a biblical perspective. I would love for you all to elaborate on this more. one of my biggest issues is getting anxious while waiting for God to "wire him" or build him up into the man he's supposed to be. I have an amazing Husband, who is also an incredible Leader, Father and Provide. I want to keep learning.
The Holy Spirit has given me a passion to build and honor my king yes!!!!!
This works GUARANTEED, tell him YOURE MY HERO and YOU SAVED ME! And ladies MEAN IT! A Person can smell phony from the next state!
Praise Jesus for the Help to keep the marriages on point through Christ Jesus..
Men cant resist PRAISE🙌👀
I think it’s easy to honor a man who honors you.
Thank You so much we needed to here this from a Man of God perspective this right here was to the best because because men don't get ministered to at all nowadays
I’ve only been married once and I honestly believe I learned so many mistakes and grew from it to learn what not to do in my next marriage.
The light in y'alls eyes are everything!! 😇
I love this. If I may add. Women need love and protection
Men need respect and the ability to lead.
"purity reveals intentions." I agree with that statement ❤️❤️ great message 👍👍
Wow this is amazing. This was so for me cuz God knows my mouth is something lol.
With her own mouth... she tears down her own house!
Bible Gateway Proverbs 14 :: The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down. He whose walk is upright fears the LORD, but he whose ways are devious despises him.
In my opinion a man has to actually be an honorable man, if he is to be honored that way. Even if you do know how to honor him.
There are no conditions to loving a woman stop placing conditions to honoring a man. A woman needs to be loved unconditionally, so also, a man needs to be honored unconditionally. It is in the place of the unconditionality that you could speak life to the dishonorable in him. It is in the place of the unconditionality that you could speak life to the unlovable in her. For it is written, IT IS AN ACT OF WORSHIP "TO GOD".
NOW, IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS, I REBUKE THE WICKED SPIRIT OF CONDITIONALITY IN THE STATEMENT YOU MADE IN JESUS MIGHTY NAME, AMEN.
20plusstrong
I understand where Anicia is coming from though. My partner and I came together in Christ. It was a joy and a blessing for me to honor him but soon after he began to backslide. He began drinking and smoking pot again, tempting me to do the same. He was opening the door to darkness and refused any good Word. I prayed, continuing to honor him in my ways of speaking with Him but after sometime it was really hard to continue on when he refused fellowship with other Christians, refused hearing the Word, refused going to church, refused the path of God. I struggled with staying gentle and tender hearted towards him. How do you stay and continue to honor someone when they are not honorable and begin taking you down the wrong path?
I guess it’s assumed in this video that the man is “at least” (though I know the whole at least thing isn’t great based on their other videos) doing his best to walk with God. Of course no one will be perfect, only the One Jesus is, but if you’re being met over and over with refusal of the Lord- it may be time to walk and save your honoring for someone true.
@@yesyes7867 You make sense with your statement and I wholeheartedly see where you are coming from (this hits close to home for me).
But, and yes there is a BUT, let's say the situation where flipped and you where the one that backslide (anyone can backslide) and went into depression, does this mean that your husband should no longer love you because you are now unlovable? Does this mean his love for you should only be conditional? The message of unconditional Love has being preached, but the message of unconditional honor (respect) has sparcely being preached, which is what many marriages lack.
"Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands 'AS YOU DO TO THE LORD." Eph 5:22.
This is why marriage is a very very serious thing and must not be played with. If he where your boyfriend or fiance, that is very different, and I would have being the first to tell you BREAK IT OFF NOW. But once you said 'I Do', HE OR SHE BECOMES YOUR CROSS.
Your first ministry/church is your home.
This falls under in sickness and in health or for better or worse. That was a Covenant you made.
This must be very very hard for you, and I want you to also get help (family, therapy etc.). If necessary, temporarily seperate from him, but not divorce.
On the last day, you will give account of your first church (your home).
I pray that may the good Lord guide you through all this in Jesus name, Amen.
20plusstrong Thank you so very much for this. Really and truly.
We spoke of marriage but sadly never made it that far. I allowed my heart to marry him which is why I stuck it out for so long but ultimately had to let go. It’s been a huge challenge. I begged for counsel with him and even left giving him space... “a separation not divorce” yet he refused me at once.
I understand rejection is God’s protection. I think I was seeing this video and reading the above comment through my own eyes and experience with my boyfriend rather than husband!
Thank you again so much for the clarity and positive words. May God bless you and keep you always!!!
@@yesyes7867 In that case, RUN. If necessary and possible, change environment. Start afresh, it might even require you taking some time away from Family. Ot will be hard, but your health and future depends on it.
Thank you for being humble enough to share your story and susceptible to recieving the word. Be encouraged and REJOICE AND BE GLAD THAT YOU SAW THIS BEFORE YOU WERE MARRIED.
Man God is sending me to all these messages and I love it!!!
so happy u guys put this out. could u possibly do a video on secular music, and the dangers of listening to it as a christian trying tov live your life for God. @redefinedtv
Amen! This is what God has taught me about interacting with men. It always works! Honor is an issue of perspective and practice. If we practice honoring God, then we'll also be good at seeing what's honorable and our ability to honor His creations will increase, especially as we see Him reflected in us. 🙌 #GodisGood
Romans 12:9-10 NLT
Don’t just pretend to love others. Really love them. Hate what is wrong. Hold tightly to what is good. Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other.
Philippians 4:6-9 NLT
Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus. And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing.
Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. Keep putting into practice all you learned and received from me-everything you heard from me and saw me doing. Then the God of peace will be with you.
James 3:7-18 NLT
People can tame all kinds of animals, birds, reptiles, and fish, but no one can tame the tongue. It is restless and evil, full of deadly poison. Sometimes it praises our Lord and Father, and sometimes it curses those who have been made in the image of God. And so blessing and cursing come pouring out of the same mouth. Surely, my brothers and sisters, this is not right! Does a spring of water bubble out with both fresh water and bitter water? Does a fig tree produce olives, or a grapevine produce figs? No, and you can’t draw fresh water from a salty spring.
If you are wise and understand God’s ways, prove it by living an honorable life, doing good works with the humility that comes from wisdom. But if you are bitterly jealous and there is selfish ambition in your heart, don’t cover up the truth with boasting and lying. For jealousy and selfishness are not God’s kind of wisdom. Such things are earthly, unspiritual, and demonic. For wherever there is jealousy and selfish ambition, there you will find disorder and evil of every kind.
But the wisdom from above is first of all pure. It is also peace loving, gentle at all times, and willing to yield to others. It is full of mercy and the fruit of good deeds. It shows no favoritism and is always sincere. And those who are peacemakers will plant seeds of peace and reap a harvest of righteousness.
Man I usually don't comment on videos, but this right here is AWESOME!!!! Thank you for sharing this info with me!!!! Definitely taking notes from all of your videos! And that video about dating or marrying an unbeliever...POWERFUL!!!
yeah. Honor & praise turns tides for them.
Good stuff. Women are upset when a man is distant and cold but don't see how disrespectful and how they have been dishonoring him. God give us wisdom to speak honor to our brothers, father and future husband.
I really really love how you both spoke on this subject with such tenderness. Also, I agree that men don't 'need their egos stroked' but they're created in the likeness of God who cannot resist praise. Your ministry is so needed and I'm glad that you guys post these videos where you both give wisdom and biblical responses to topics. Please be encouraged and continue! We're out here listening.
This is powerful and serves as a reminder of what we need to be mindful of as women. It's positive and allows me to look closely at myself to see if I am putting some of these things into practice. I believe its a work in progress and we must become conscious of this and make a deliberate choice to do and not just think it. Yes I need to be reminded of this and so thank you both for being obedient to the things of God. The bible tells us in Phillipians 4 verses 8-9 Whatsoever is TRUE,
Whatever is RIGHT
Whatever is NOBLE
Whatever is PURE
Whatever is LOVELY
Whatever is ADMIRABLE, if anything is excellent or praiseworthy, THINK OF SUCH THINGS.....
so in effect, we can learn to think of those things which honor and not bring down our men. Think of the positive things that shed light on him as a godly man and let's reinforce it regularly without excuses.............. Amen!! You are both a GREAT blessing.
Got redirected here😫, God is Good🙏🏾
Some men make it so easy for you to honour them: make you call them "King among men" out of 'nowhere'...
Then with others, it is such a tall order!
And will they really try harder when you praise them, vs stop trying/slack off since they have now 'arrived'?
This video was such a blessing. Literally I was praying the other morning and the Lord told me to be patient with my husband. Let’s just say this video was confirmation.
“Your mouth can either warm him or burn him”.... DEEEEEEEEP! As a woman who is in a single season this was eye opening and I needed it!
OMG THIS IS REAL DEEP AND SPIRITUAL IM ACTUALLY GOING THROUGH IT AND THIS SPOKE TO ME AND LIFTED ME UP THANK YOU LORD
Amen!!! This is so good! The best way to prepare for being a wife and to see what I need to work on!
I honored my ex, built him up and spoke good and positive things to and about him. And it meant nothing. He left me for a girl that argues with him about seeing his children. Cause she must come first. I saw and spoke life to his potential and the king I knew he could be. Even though I had my own insecurities and felt a certain way about myself. I still built him up not expecting it in return. And he knocked me down. I cant say this worked for me. Maybe one day it will.
Thank you for this word. Your messages always give me something to think about. I will work on this with my son while "I'm in the field waiting on my Boaz"
It's not just their words that teach Me. The way the Speak to each other and they way they look at each other teach Me alot of this little things that matter. Thank You for Redefined TV.
Yes! Highly recommend the book Love & Respect by Dr. Emmerson Eggerichs, it really details this out for men and women 🔥
Another great video love this "the danger in moving somebody could get your catch" wow def spoke volume!
I get it bring value him. Honor him that’s so good
Woman I am dating sent me this video and I am glad she did. Enjoyed.
I struggle with this but feel God has helped me so much in this area. Im learning that I shouldn't put anyone in a negative light even when they do things they shouldn't.
Honestly y'all have been the stage for me for a while. Y'all have blessed me my life and my mindset on relationships in ways you may never know. Thank you @beredefined and @jflo3 for being consistent and a great testimony and team! Love y'all!
Love you two. Wish I honored my husband. I don't know what would have happened. He was an alcoholic who put everyone ahead of his wife. He knew I loved him but I lost patience with the alcohol, pot and family/ friends who supported him in his usage. My husband was agnostic. I hope he submits to the Lord.
Thank you ! I didn’t honor my ex due to abuse ! Now I know what’s needed you right the other got him now. However God will give me a second chance with a new one
Honor-the universal love language for men!!! I really needed to know that!
I never saw any of this however the oerson of the Holy Spirit taught me how to raise my son that way in Jesus name
This is good.... I needed to hear this because as a mom of a young man. I I definitely had to adjust and honor the fact my son is a young man. I have to treat him as such although he will be my baby though...lol So true....
@ 7:00 to 7:35 better listen.. Thanks guys!
Wow. This opened my eyes so much and gave me some guidance in the waiting. Thank you🙏🏾🤍
Yes..More videos like this!! Teach us more about men
This is so good! Kings need love too!
I was praying for the words to say to him, and this video came on my feed. I will try this. I think he's amazing, but he needs to hear it.
Hmmm soo good🔥 « a King amongst the men »
This is amazing! I think honoring men begins at a young age, honoring your father and brother. God bless!
The danger of moving is someone else can get your catch!! Love that!!
Gotta digest this one
"That's a Lie"! Too funny!
This message was convicting... whew
This popped up on my feed on an evening when this burden was put on my heart / that my words are life giving to all that I know. Even through a scene in the movie "Table 19". Thank you, praying for this over my life!
You guys have identified my biggest weakness that I could not even find I am so grateful this is definitely something I have never done is honor a man I am absolutely going to work on this
I have been trying to figure out what "respecting a man" really meant for the longest time. I read my bible. I know what it says. But how to do it is another thing. What does honor look (actions) and sound (words) like? I don't have good role models, so I really don't know. There were no men or boys in my home growing up. I have daughters. I asked Holy Spirit to show me. And here I am watching this. Thanks for this.
yes... culture is not that general. home is where it starts. I regretted, repented, and asking forgiveness from God for following the mold created within the family that has been affecting me without even realizing how toxic and dysfunctional the standard that I learned from my parent.
preach!!
Wow! Another favorite! Very insightful video! Thanks 😊
I would love to hear some situations that are common that are easy to speak poison and get your view on what a godly reaction should be. I know and understand I should respect and honor my husband but don't know what that looks like so I end up going to natural mode aka poison.
jillianquattlebaum ask your husband. I'm pretty sure he will tell you. Pray to the Lord to get better in this department
This is a blessing. I pray that God will continue to work on me as I wait for the one he has for me. It's very discouraging at times because such qualities in a woman is looked at la being weak, too submissive, gullible..and you het criticism from both women and men. Culture has a big role to play in what a good relationship should look like.
You guys are so cute, it's so obvious that you both complement each other.
Amen!
This is really good. A godly woman is so powerful. We can equip our children and we can build our men. And that is our purpose. We have to understand that men and women are different and have different needs. We understand this when it comes to natural things. You feed a cat different food than you do a dog. Both are animals and both need food for proper nourishment and growth. But that proper nourishment is different for each animal. We have to get more educated about these differences in need. I have been told by male friends that I know how to talk to men and build them and make them feel manly. None of this had to do with sex at all because sex was never on the table. But I have learned about the emotional and psychological needs of a men through study and through my 25 years of marriage. Culture, as you put it, teaches woman to be strong and independent but the Bible encourages the women to be kind and supportive. It is great to see you two as a couple teaching about these matters. Marriage can work. It is God's origination and we have to bring back and emphasis God's purpose and perspective. God bless you!
I did a video about Our language is RESPECT!!! Great video Flowers
This is so true and powerful
This was missing from my previous marriage. 20 yrs and all she did was rip on me. I think it really affected it and led to divorce. I met my gf and she is everything i could want.
This is so true. I'm learning to do this right now and I didn't know. It's amazing we feel good when we get complimented but fail to do it to them
WOW!! Speak your man into a King, build him up!!
That's a sensible topic.....