This is so spot on! I forgot how he would blame me for running the day for bringing up his abuse from the day prior that never got resolved because he never wanted to talk about it or take accountability! Such mind fckery!! I could never heal from lie after lie! It broke my heart!
Thank you. Thank you. 🖤 I was ALWAYS blamed for his actions. His temper tantrums, rage fests, throwing things, holes in walls, his absolute atrocious ways he talked to me, physical thing in the past..., etc. I finally woke up when I began to heal my own issues from childhood. And the last straw was the first time it was directed at one of our children. And I'm still blamed for the breakdown of our marriage, though I tried and tried for years. Never took accountability for his actions. Ever. Even when all the evidence was everywhere. The finger was always pointed at me for the most trivial things. Towards the end, his excuses didn't even make sense anymore. He couldn't even make up a good reason why it was my fault he acted out anymore. We would be "good" for a few weeks/months, and then something would set him off and BAM- back to hell. Over and over again for years. Insanity. You are helping me get healthy for my children, and finally for myself. Walking on eggshells for so long and realizing more and more what I went through is really hard to see and come to terms with. Hardest thing I have ever gone through, and I've lived some life. Ha I so appreciate your channel.
Thank you for restating that excellent point! It's important to understand this concept if you ever hope to dispel the cognitive dissonance they cause with their unstable moods and bouts irrational anger. You are not responsible so REJECT THE PROJECTION!
It's so unfortunate that these days I take all this time I spend trying to find out whether or not it's me that's the narcissist because we just can't have a reasonable relationship and no conversations ever Go well and it's like this perpetual state
Sadly I don’t care as much as I used to whether I made him angry or not. I don’t try to and never did try to. He just is. Getting better at not trying to own or fix stuff that is not mine in this relationship. Hard, but at the/his turning point I just stop now.
The mistake empaths make is forgetting the nacasist is and has always been in survival mode because we feel their stress pain fear, we obviously tread on eggshells because it triggers our childhood trauma which the nacasist knows and exploits once an empath has done the inner work you will ignore the fear the nacasist lives in, and respond not react, that's when they no games up, 😢😮❤
Yep! Put the blame where it's supposed to go! Hold that ABUSER ACCOUNTABLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Narcissists cannot be fix. Don't get angry at them. Move on as soon as you can.
This is so spot on! I forgot how he would blame me for running the day for bringing up his abuse from the day prior that never got resolved because he never wanted to talk about it or take accountability! Such mind fckery!! I could never heal from lie after lie! It broke my heart!
Thank you. Thank you. 🖤 I was ALWAYS blamed for his actions. His temper tantrums, rage fests, throwing things, holes in walls, his absolute atrocious ways he talked to me, physical thing in the past..., etc. I finally woke up when I began to heal my own issues from childhood. And the last straw was the first time it was directed at one of our children. And I'm still blamed for the breakdown of our marriage, though I tried and tried for years. Never took accountability for his actions. Ever. Even when all the evidence was everywhere. The finger was always pointed at me for the most trivial things. Towards the end, his excuses didn't even make sense anymore. He couldn't even make up a good reason why it was my fault he acted out anymore. We would be "good" for a few weeks/months, and then something would set him off and BAM- back to hell. Over and over again for years. Insanity. You are helping me get healthy for my children, and finally for myself. Walking on eggshells for so long and realizing more and more what I went through is really hard to see and come to terms with. Hardest thing I have ever gone through, and I've lived some life. Ha I so appreciate your channel.
Silent treatment just makes the eggshells sound louder,when you walk in the room
Thank you for restating that excellent point! It's important to understand this concept if you ever hope to dispel the cognitive dissonance they cause with their unstable moods and bouts irrational anger.
You are not responsible so REJECT THE PROJECTION!
It's so unfortunate that these days I take all this time I spend trying to find out whether or not it's me that's the narcissist because we just can't have a reasonable relationship and no conversations ever Go well and it's like this perpetual state
How do you quit blaming yourself long after they are gone? ❤
Thank you baby, thank you
Thank you.
Sadly I don’t care as much as I used to whether I made him angry or not. I don’t try to and never did try to. He just is. Getting better at not trying to own or fix stuff that is not mine in this relationship. Hard, but at the/his turning point I just stop now.
How do you make a Malajusted person well-adjusted question
Narcissists have anger issues not you
The mistake empaths make is forgetting the nacasist is and has always been in survival mode because we feel their stress pain fear, we obviously tread on eggshells because it triggers our childhood trauma which the nacasist knows and exploits once an empath has done the inner work you will ignore the fear the nacasist lives in, and respond not react, that's when they no games up, 😢😮❤
Its conditioning for you to fear